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Speaker 1: Hey, it's Kelly Henderson. Thanks for checking out the Bobby

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Speaker 1: Bone Show podcast. I wanted to share an episode of

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Speaker 1: my podcast, Velvet's Edge with Kelly Henderson. My greatest fulfilment

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Speaker 1: in life comes from connecting with people. Of works as

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Speaker 1: a stylist and a hair and makeup artist in the

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Speaker 1: country music industry for over fourteen years. So my business

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Speaker 1: is beauty, and this podcast allows me to take a

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Speaker 1: deeper look at not only external beauty, but also beauty

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Speaker 1: on a greater scale, the beauty in life and inside

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Speaker 1: each of us. No matter what your story, I like

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Speaker 1: conversations that will stretch and challenge me. Some interviews will

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Speaker 1: include hard conversations like infertility, racism, narcissism, and spirituality on

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Speaker 1: many different levels, while others in the casual series may

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Speaker 1: include uncomfortable yet laughable topics about sex and dating. Obviously,

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Speaker 1: because I am in Nashville and work in the country

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Speaker 1: music industry, you will also find conversations with some of

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Speaker 1: country music's biggest stars such as Jason al Dean and

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Speaker 1: Dirk Spentley and their wives. Ultimately, I am a curious

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Speaker 1: person who loves learning about why we do what we

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Speaker 1: In this episode, you will hear my conversation with country

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Speaker 1: music couple Alison and Jay DeMarcus. You've probably heard Jay's

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Speaker 1: name from being one third of the group Rascal Flats,

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Speaker 1: and Alison can regularly be seen as a host on

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Speaker 1: CMT and spent many years as the reigning Miss Tennessee.

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Speaker 1: The couple has a new reality show on Netflix called

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Speaker 1: DeMarcus Family Rules, and let me tell you, guys, even

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Speaker 1: after knowing this family for many years, I was laughing

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Speaker 1: out loud watching this season. We obviously talked a lot

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Speaker 1: We also talked about how they met and got together

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Speaker 1: that I quite expected. The couple shares how therapy has

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Speaker 1: probably saved their marriage, why they won't be having any

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Speaker 1: more kids, and the tricky dynamic that road life brings

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Speaker 1: to families. I hope you guys will continue to join

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Speaker 1: me in exploring both the velvet and the edge in life.

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Speaker 1: You can subscribe on iHeartRadio, Apple Podcast, or wherever you

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Speaker 1: get your podcast just search Velvet's Edge. Here's the episode now. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so obviously I want to talk to you guys a

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Speaker 1: lot about the show DeMarcus Family Rules. I mean, it's

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Speaker 1: new on Netflix. It's so funny. We were just talking

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Speaker 1: But these are so fun for me because I feel

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Speaker 1: like I'd have known you guys for years, and so

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Speaker 1: I started doing all this research and I found all

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Speaker 1: these random facts that I didn't know. So it's really

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Speaker 1: fun to actually get to research you guys. Thank Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So let's talk about a couple of those because obviously,

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Speaker 1: so Jay, everyone knows you as the bassist of Rascal Flats,

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Speaker 1: but before you had Rascal Flats, you were in two

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Speaker 1: contemporary Christian bands. So tell us a little bit about

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Speaker 1: making that transition. Was it really hard to jump from

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Speaker 1: you know, I did, you know what it was? I

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Speaker 1: so Gary is your second cousin. I had no idea. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the coolest thing that you've experienced being a part of

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Speaker 1: the Vanderbilt Children's Hospital. In twenty ten, when they unveiled

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Speaker 1: having to do interviews and podcasts? Yeah, I get that.

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Speaker 1: Red Carpet CMC Insider. You were also missed Tennessee. Wait

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Speaker 1: She doesn't I'm not trying to live out my dreams

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Speaker 1: that was driving. Well, what did you learn from that

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00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:34,400
Speaker 1: experience though, Allison? Just because obviously, Okay, you're just talking

428
00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:37,280
Speaker 1: about this breakup taking forever and it was unraveling for

429
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:39,480
Speaker 1: a long time, and then when you met Jay, it

430
00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:42,480
Speaker 1: seems like it kind of just worked. What did you

431
00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:45,400
Speaker 1: What would you take away from like a dating perspective,

432
00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:57,239
Speaker 1: I feel like come true, where that was exactly what

433
00:23:57,240 --> 00:23:59,760
Speaker 1: I was about to saying. Well, I do think that

434
00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 1: you know who you know, and I think that you

435
00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:04,359
Speaker 1: have to listen to yourself when you are having doubts

436
00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:06,760
Speaker 1: in a relationship even though you're you feel like you're

437
00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:10,879
Speaker 1: supposed to be moving forward with something. Because I feel like,

438
00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:13,080
Speaker 1: in hindsight, even though I didn't really realize it in

439
00:24:13,119 --> 00:24:16,400
Speaker 1: the moment, it's like if you're praying for a sign

440
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 1: if something is wrong that you need to know. You

441
00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:21,760
Speaker 1: feel like you've got to be smacked in the face

442
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:24,959
Speaker 1: with it, versus like when you are in the right

443
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:27,960
Speaker 1: relationship and you're like, I just want I want this

444
00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:32,479
Speaker 1: relationship to be blessed. So that took me hindsight to

445
00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:37,520
Speaker 1: figure that out and get there. But there's another part

446
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:40,359
Speaker 1: of that story. So she did go and break up

447
00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:44,679
Speaker 1: with the fellow. Okay, came back, you know, and I'm

448
00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:46,840
Speaker 1: kind of like, well, this is my chance. She broke

449
00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:49,120
Speaker 1: up with him. She digs me, now we can start

450
00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:52,199
Speaker 1: hanging out, and then she lays this on me, I

451
00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:54,159
Speaker 1: need you to leave me alone. I've got to figure

452
00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 1: my life out. I mean, you've got to have some

453
00:24:56,560 --> 00:25:00,320
Speaker 1: space killing Yeah, like run back down the eye. Even

454
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:02,280
Speaker 1: know Jake felt like it was love at first sight. Well,

455
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:07,440
Speaker 1: the end of that story is at lasted four days

456
00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:11,480
Speaker 1: some time. You took those four days and you really

457
00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:18,320
Speaker 1: found yourself. Yes, really went on a self awareness journey there.

458
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:23,920
Speaker 1: Nobody knew on site was actually opened back into right.

459
00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 1: This is just for me. So I hear that though

460
00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:35,240
Speaker 1: that you when it's right, it's just easy, yes, and

461
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:37,280
Speaker 1: it's just gonna work. And you can't really fight it off,

462
00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:40,960
Speaker 1: which it sounds like, oh, that's what happened in this scenario. Yeah,

463
00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:45,800
Speaker 1: and you know, dating sucks and it's you know, marriage

464
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 1: is hard. Yeah, it's not. Just because it's right doesn't

465
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:53,480
Speaker 1: mean it's easy. Yeah, but we found a way to

466
00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:57,040
Speaker 1: make it work. And we've gotten pregnant both times we've

467
00:25:57,080 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 1: had sex, and it's been Wow, it's just been awesome, lucky. Yeah,

468
00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 1: every day's a holiday every days, just like those those

469
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:11,439
Speaker 1: girls who always post one Instagram. You know, it just

470
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 1: gets better with every year. You're like, look like how

471
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 1: many times have y'all actually file for a divorce but

472
00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:19,760
Speaker 1: then didn't go through. It's like, I mean, I just

473
00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 1: wish people would be more honest about it because it

474
00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:26,160
Speaker 1: is hard. Any relationships hard, they all take. Yeah, whether

475
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 1: it's with your parents, you're sibling, your spouse, your kids.

476
00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:36,000
Speaker 1: I mean, relationships are hard. Your band match, yeah, because

477
00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:38,360
Speaker 1: they're they're as married to each other as we all

478
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:42,639
Speaker 1: are with our spouses. So absolutely, but all of the

479
00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 1: relationships are hard. So I always think it's crazy when

480
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:48,600
Speaker 1: people act like at Sunshine and Roses, you know, I mean,

481
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 1: Jane honest about it, because anything's hard. If it's worth it.

482
00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:56,159
Speaker 1: It's gonna be hard. Yeah, And I mean that's one

483
00:26:56,160 --> 00:26:57,800
Speaker 1: of the things I really like about this show for

484
00:26:57,880 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 1: you guys. This is a good transition into Marcus Family

485
00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:03,080
Speaker 1: Rules because the show starts with you guys doing a

486
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:06,439
Speaker 1: therapy session, which, first of all, I could not figure

487
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:09,200
Speaker 1: out at first why Jay was talking in that voice,

488
00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:13,239
Speaker 1: was like, what is he doing? What's happening? But he

489
00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:16,640
Speaker 1: was the therapist was having you guys role play each other. Yeah,

490
00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:21,399
Speaker 1: so can you. So I'm very a big advocate for therapy.

491
00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:23,640
Speaker 1: I think everyone should do it. It's just like it's

492
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:25,399
Speaker 1: not like it doesn't mean you're so messed up that

493
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:26,919
Speaker 1: you have to go get help. It just means like

494
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:29,399
Speaker 1: we all need to learn how to communicate better, how

495
00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:31,840
Speaker 1: to be better in our relationships. Like, it's just so helpful.

496
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 1: So has it been very helpful for you guys in

497
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:37,159
Speaker 1: your relationship or communication wise? Like, talk me through a

498
00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 1: little bit of that. We started seeing a marriage coach

499
00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 1: about our second year into marriage. Okay, not because not

500
00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:48,720
Speaker 1: because we had these huge problems, but we quickly realize

501
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:51,920
Speaker 1: that left to our own devices, we weren't great communicators

502
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:58,639
Speaker 1: with each other. Yeah, Allison is well she doesn't talk.

503
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:04,400
Speaker 1: So I am real in touch with my emotions and

504
00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 1: I love to communicate. I love to know what somebody's

505
00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 1: feeling thinking. Lay it all on me so I can

506
00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:11,840
Speaker 1: sort through it and do what you need me to

507
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:15,520
Speaker 1: do and let me fix whatever I'm doing wrong. And

508
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:19,480
Speaker 1: getting information from her is like trying to get gold

509
00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:21,920
Speaker 1: out of Fort Knox. Wait, is this for real? This

510
00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:25,159
Speaker 1: is y'all dynamic, This is really for real. That's the

511
00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 1: opposite of what most people say. Yes, that's exactly right.

512
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 1: We've been told by our counselor several times that I'm

513
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 1: the typical female and the chos to dude. Okay, and

514
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:43,720
Speaker 1: that's not emasculating at all, I'm sure. However, you know,

515
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 1: she wants to blame it on the fact that I'm

516
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 1: an artist and I'm in touch with my emotions and

517
00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:50,560
Speaker 1: where my heart on must leave, and I just chalk

518
00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:53,360
Speaker 1: it up to being a human being with actual feelings

519
00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:59,960
Speaker 1: and thoughts. That is an exceptual communicator because he sits

520
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:02,880
Speaker 1: down and write songs about his feelings and emotions, whether

521
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:08,080
Speaker 1: they're his originally or organically, or the other songwriter in

522
00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:09,960
Speaker 1: the rooms or not. I mean, it's one of those

523
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 1: things where he's used to verbalizing his feelings and I

524
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:17,240
Speaker 1: has not, and I am the typical mail where it's like, oh,

525
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:21,239
Speaker 1: we'll figure it out. Yeah, and I'm loyal, I'm in it,

526
00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:23,000
Speaker 1: but like I just I don't have to sit around

527
00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:25,720
Speaker 1: to talk about it and that drives Jay crazy. But

528
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 1: if we will both overly emoting, we would never get

529
00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:32,640
Speaker 1: out of the house. We hold each other crime every night.

530
00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:37,880
Speaker 1: So so it works because you don't have somebody I

531
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 1: have to have the balance, right, Yeah, I mean I

532
00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:42,440
Speaker 1: think that's what it is. Well, I think the key

533
00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:49,320
Speaker 1: word there's balance the under side. So what the marriage

534
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:52,040
Speaker 1: Coach has done for us has helped us, you know,

535
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:54,800
Speaker 1: force us to talk and to communicate and to be

536
00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 1: in a room and give us a skill set that

537
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:02,120
Speaker 1: helps us when we're dealing with something that that's difficult.

538
00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, it's wonderful. It has done wonders for

539
00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:09,640
Speaker 1: us because I'm not sure, this is honest, I'm not

540
00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:11,120
Speaker 1: sure we would have made it if we didn't have

541
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:12,960
Speaker 1: a little bit of help along the way, because I

542
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:16,480
Speaker 1: don't know how to resolve conflict and still love each other,

543
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:21,200
Speaker 1: especially when you're coming from two totally different perspectives. You're

544
00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 1: never actually going to agree on some things, and so

545
00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:28,480
Speaker 1: you got to figure out how to agree to disagree

546
00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:31,960
Speaker 1: and love your way through it too without bitterness and

547
00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:34,000
Speaker 1: being able to let go of the past. That's something

548
00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:36,320
Speaker 1: that we both had to work on was we can't

549
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:39,080
Speaker 1: still fight about stuff that happened five years ago, Okay,

550
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 1: like yeah, and then like we can't keep bringing that

551
00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:46,320
Speaker 1: up every time there's another conflict, Like, let's heal those wounds,

552
00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 1: but so we can move on. We also had to

553
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:53,840
Speaker 1: cure Allison of um apologizing like this, Well, I'm sorry

554
00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:59,040
Speaker 1: you feel that way in the show, I dis that's

555
00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 1: that's that's alive communication. Yeah, like the coach will go Alison,

556
00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 1: can you apologize today? Yes? I am sorry that he's

557
00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:12,920
Speaker 1: an asshole. Your statement, so I was using them. I

558
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 1: mean it's a little bit of a twist on that,

559
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 1: but I was like walking my own paths to do

560
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 1: I feel like you're stupid. Well, I appreciate you guys

561
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:32,680
Speaker 1: being open about it, just because I think it is

562
00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 1: just exactly like what y'all are saying. We're two totally

563
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 1: different people can be in a relationship, and we all

564
00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 1: just see things from our own perspective. So if you

565
00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 1: don't have a third party that's not emotionally attached kind

566
00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:47,320
Speaker 1: of talking through what that can look like from a

567
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:49,840
Speaker 1: different angle. I just don't know how we get it. Like,

568
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,200
Speaker 1: I've had this in other relationships too, and it's just

569
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:56,680
Speaker 1: been so helpful to have someone else kind of interject with, well,

570
00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 1: this is actually what they mean, because it's just not

571
00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:02,760
Speaker 1: so emotionally old. That's exactly right. And you know what's

572
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 1: amazing about that to me because people can talk to

573
00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:08,080
Speaker 1: me now about their marriages and I can analyze it

574
00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 1: so quickly and easily now and know exactly what they

575
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:13,760
Speaker 1: mean when they say this on both sides of the coin,

576
00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 1: but have no ability to do it in my own relationship. God,

577
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 1: why is that? I feel that too. I'm serious. I

578
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:24,959
Speaker 1: can go, well, here's what he's saying, and here's what

579
00:32:26,280 --> 00:32:28,320
Speaker 1: she says this, and then I go back and sit

580
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:30,000
Speaker 1: in the chair in front of our coach and I go,

581
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:32,440
Speaker 1: I don't know a thing about what I'm doing. Yes,

582
00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:36,560
Speaker 1: it's just so different when you're in it. Yeah it is,

583
00:32:36,680 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 1: and it's good you do. You just have to have

584
00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:41,760
Speaker 1: that outside perspective because everybody has their moments where you

585
00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:45,040
Speaker 1: put a wall up about something for some reason, and

586
00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 1: you've got to have somebody that's not the other person

587
00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:50,680
Speaker 1: say okay, like you've got to you've got to move

588
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:52,480
Speaker 1: past this. You've got we've got to work through this.

589
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:54,960
Speaker 1: How are we going to work through this? Right? Take

590
00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 1: the egos out and just work on it together. That's right,

591
00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:03,800
Speaker 1: And that's hard for her, just for me, because I

592
00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 1: love to be right about this. I'm sure. I'm sure.

593
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:10,080
Speaker 1: So what does it look like now that you guys

594
00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:14,600
Speaker 1: are filming a reality TV show together? How's that going?

595
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 1: You know? Um, it's it was really fun, to be honest.

596
00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:25,640
Speaker 1: I've had some reservations about it obviously, like what, well,

597
00:33:25,760 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 1: just putting our kids down there and exposing them to

598
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 1: any kind of you know, people are idiots and they're

599
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:35,320
Speaker 1: so brave behind keyboards nowadays, and it was a lot

600
00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:37,320
Speaker 1: for us to think about before we made the decision

601
00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 1: to finally do it. But I did discover that having

602
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:43,240
Speaker 1: something to do with my family, and I've lived most

603
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 1: of my adult life on the road with Gary and Joaning,

604
00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 1: so being a creative environment with my family and my

605
00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:53,239
Speaker 1: wife and my kids was so much fun to do

606
00:33:53,320 --> 00:33:58,880
Speaker 1: something different, if that makes sense. Yeah, it liberating and

607
00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:02,640
Speaker 1: I and we had a great time and I love

608
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 1: the memories that we made because now they will live

609
00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:08,239
Speaker 1: forever on Netflix. Even if we don't get a second season, right,

610
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:10,160
Speaker 1: I'll still be able to go back and watch my

611
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:13,319
Speaker 1: kids and remember the fun that we had filming that

612
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:16,440
Speaker 1: show together. Alison, how has it been for you? Was

613
00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:18,920
Speaker 1: it a big adjustment or were you kind of just

614
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:24,040
Speaker 1: ready for it? Were you excited about it? Um? I

615
00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:28,560
Speaker 1: was more excited long before it started, like when we

616
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 1: were talking about it, and then when it came down

617
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:33,319
Speaker 1: to it, I got really nervous. Yeah, And I think

618
00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:35,960
Speaker 1: it's just like that maternal instinct that kicks in with

619
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:39,840
Speaker 1: your kids. But I knew they were funny and I

620
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:44,640
Speaker 1: knew that they would enjoy the process because they've been

621
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:47,080
Speaker 1: on Christley knows Bill several times and they had tons

622
00:34:47,080 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 1: of fun. And I mean, our son is Jay's child

623
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 1: through and we have that as a question. Do people

624
00:34:54,680 --> 00:34:59,680
Speaker 1: tell you that all the time, Yes, he's a wonderful kid. Well,

625
00:34:59,719 --> 00:35:02,799
Speaker 1: he's hilarious. I mean they both are. Actually they're both

626
00:35:02,920 --> 00:35:05,439
Speaker 1: very funny. But when I'm watching Dylan, I'm like, it's

627
00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:09,600
Speaker 1: a small version of Jay. It's crazy, it's really difficult

628
00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:14,840
Speaker 1: to parent him. So that part of me was really

629
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:20,000
Speaker 1: really nervous, and I had the additional load of my

630
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:23,280
Speaker 1: mom who was nervous and my sister who was trepidacious.

631
00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 1: And they are not typically did on camera ever in

632
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:29,440
Speaker 1: their lives. While they've done great things with their lives,

633
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:32,479
Speaker 1: it hasn't necessarily been in front of other people. So

634
00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:36,279
Speaker 1: that dynamic was there, and our other friends and so

635
00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:40,440
Speaker 1: that was a lot to kind of maneuver on the outset,

636
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:44,200
Speaker 1: but was really fun because we were all able to

637
00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 1: be together, and pre COVID we were all running in

638
00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:49,720
Speaker 1: a million different directions and so you just get short

639
00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:53,080
Speaker 1: moments of that, whereas we were able to actually be

640
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:55,360
Speaker 1: together and it was really fun and little do we

641
00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:59,759
Speaker 1: know then a few months later we would always be together. Yeah,

642
00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:03,120
Speaker 1: I didn't get away from each other. I think everybody

643
00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:06,720
Speaker 1: who was single and a friend of mine was longing

644
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:10,759
Speaker 1: for other people during quarantine and the spring especially, and

645
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:13,800
Speaker 1: then everybody who was married was like, get me giving

646
00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:18,279
Speaker 1: out of here. Yeah, it's a totally interesting dynamic to

647
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 1: be stuck in a house with everyone. It totally is.

648
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 1: But I was telling you guys before, I feel like

649
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:27,319
Speaker 1: your family is made for reality TV, which actually did

650
00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:29,840
Speaker 1: really mean as a compliment, But it's you all have

651
00:36:30,080 --> 00:36:32,839
Speaker 1: this timing with each other, is it? Is it like

652
00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:35,080
Speaker 1: that all the time or y'all are just feeding off

653
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:39,200
Speaker 1: of each other with the one liners. That's life for

654
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:43,680
Speaker 1: Jay and I feel like we the good and the

655
00:36:43,719 --> 00:36:46,479
Speaker 1: bad about us is that we diffuse conflict with humor,

656
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 1: both of us. Two. Yeah, and so that's just how

657
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:52,439
Speaker 1: we talk, I mean, our kids. That's how we roll.

658
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 1: That's how you roll. Um, you know, It's just I

659
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:00,720
Speaker 1: don't know. I've always tried to find the human learned everything,

660
00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:03,319
Speaker 1: and it's a little annoying sometimes, I'm sure to people

661
00:37:03,360 --> 00:37:06,400
Speaker 1: around it. You know, a lot of people just know

662
00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:09,040
Speaker 1: me from playing based on stage, but I'm actually a

663
00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:13,719
Speaker 1: funny motherfucker. So I'm glad for people to be able

664
00:37:13,719 --> 00:37:16,440
Speaker 1: to finally see what I've known my whole part, for

665
00:37:16,560 --> 00:37:20,880
Speaker 1: people to get to really experience you, I feel, his

666
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:29,480
Speaker 1: whole life. Well anyway, Yeah, the kids are even I mean,

667
00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:33,080
Speaker 1: they're so funny in their little interviews. I just die

668
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:36,200
Speaker 1: laughing because they have the same kind of comedic timing

669
00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:38,480
Speaker 1: as y'all do. And how old are they ten and

670
00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:42,319
Speaker 1: seven or something? Madan. That was her birthday, so she

671
00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:46,800
Speaker 1: turned nine. She's nine, okay, and then Dylan was seven.

672
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:49,800
Speaker 1: He just now turned eight. Oh gosh. So what's funny

673
00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:52,439
Speaker 1: is I've read all these comments on Facebook and Instagram blog.

674
00:37:52,840 --> 00:37:55,359
Speaker 1: It's obviously scripted. They're telling the kids what to say,

675
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:58,840
Speaker 1: and I'm like, you don't have a clue. Yeah, you

676
00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:02,680
Speaker 1: can't tell kids what to say or let alone expect

677
00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:04,800
Speaker 1: them to have any kind of sense of timing unless

678
00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:08,160
Speaker 1: it's naturally there. So that's what I always try to

679
00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:10,640
Speaker 1: explain to people about reality TV. It's like you set

680
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:12,640
Speaker 1: up this scenario like, oh, we're going to go to

681
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 1: dinner with so and so, but everything that's said is

682
00:38:15,040 --> 00:38:18,080
Speaker 1: actually really happening, Like that's the timing of all that.

683
00:38:18,120 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 1: I think that's why I appreciate watching you guys so much,

684
00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:23,400
Speaker 1: because I was laughing out loud multiple times and I

685
00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:25,839
Speaker 1: was like, wow, Like, how could I just play off

686
00:38:25,840 --> 00:38:28,319
Speaker 1: each other like this? It's actually a lot harder than

687
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:32,239
Speaker 1: people would think it is. I think that that's the

688
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 1: key to is that we've been trying to tell everybody, no,

689
00:38:36,520 --> 00:38:39,919
Speaker 1: we really aren't doing anything scripted. Of course, we talk

690
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:42,040
Speaker 1: about what we're going to do in the scene right,

691
00:38:42,160 --> 00:38:46,600
Speaker 1: otherwise it would not be compelling television. So we're trying

692
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 1: to make something interesting. But you've got to be funny

693
00:38:49,480 --> 00:38:51,799
Speaker 1: and you've got to keep the scene moving along, and

694
00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:55,359
Speaker 1: it's hard work to do. Yeah, it's definitely different than

695
00:38:55,360 --> 00:39:00,160
Speaker 1: what I think people think. Also, though you had you

696
00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:03,160
Speaker 1: guys have all these characters in your life, like you

697
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:07,239
Speaker 1: have Amy, your sister Alison, your mom Chris, and then

698
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 1: also Amy is married to James Otto, which was something

699
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 1: I didn't know. And then Mickey and Paid like, are

700
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:18,040
Speaker 1: these people are they actually just being themselves because they're

701
00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:22,120
Speaker 1: all hilarious. Nicky is the only person I know that

702
00:39:22,440 --> 00:39:26,880
Speaker 1: can string Jay's name out into seven syllables. We met

703
00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 1: him fifteen years ago. We were at a dinner party

704
00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:33,680
Speaker 1: and we were just sitting there around the table and

705
00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:37,080
Speaker 1: like the first book, an ampatizer came, then a salad came,

706
00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:40,000
Speaker 1: and then by the time the entree came, Jay like

707
00:39:40,080 --> 00:39:41,680
Speaker 1: threw a sport down. He goes, I need to go

708
00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:45,160
Speaker 1: meet whoever is cooking this food right now. So we

709
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:48,400
Speaker 1: like grabbed our drinks, win in the kitchen, met Mickey

710
00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:50,520
Speaker 1: and did not leave the kitchen the rest of the time.

711
00:39:50,600 --> 00:39:52,719
Speaker 1: We just hung out with him and started laughing because

712
00:39:52,719 --> 00:39:59,319
Speaker 1: he's hilarious and he's from Clarksville originally, and he is hysterical,

713
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 1: and like he's really a part of our family. I

714
00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:05,879
Speaker 1: mean he's he cooks meals for us, you know, just

715
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:09,040
Speaker 1: randomly all the time, and then like all of our

716
00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:12,439
Speaker 1: major things like Christmas and helps me with Thankgiving and

717
00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:14,799
Speaker 1: all of our kids parties, and you know, he's just

718
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:17,879
Speaker 1: really he's truly a part of our lives. Yeah, he

719
00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:20,640
Speaker 1: was very entertaining to be page as well. She's a

720
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:26,239
Speaker 1: little firecracker. She is a total firecracker. And she is

721
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:28,839
Speaker 1: clearly from West Tennessee, close to where I'm from. And

722
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 1: so she and I work on paglets together. And I

723
00:40:31,719 --> 00:40:36,359
Speaker 1: became friends with Chris through pageants, but you know, just

724
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 1: like with her, I mean, my relationship extends much further

725
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:42,759
Speaker 1: than those few events, even though we work on those

726
00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:45,880
Speaker 1: things together. Yeah, they're truly friends and we don't just

727
00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:50,560
Speaker 1: always talk about that. So so he is truly a

728
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 1: part of my family. I mean, my mom feels like

729
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:56,200
Speaker 1: she's his second mother, and so he's got a great

730
00:40:56,200 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 1: relationship with my mom and a good relationship with my Amy.

731
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:04,160
Speaker 1: So he's a good like bridge between all of us too,

732
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:06,239
Speaker 1: which is I mean, those are truly their roles in

733
00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:09,399
Speaker 1: our lives. You know, Jay, how do you feel about

734
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:17,239
Speaker 1: Alison's family being around so much? Next question? You know,

735
00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:21,160
Speaker 1: I've gotten used to it. It's luckily I don't mind

736
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:24,759
Speaker 1: being around him. Yeah, I was very dear friends with

737
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:27,759
Speaker 1: her father, Robert. We were we were really good pals, Like,

738
00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:29,480
Speaker 1: we played a lot of golf together and hung out

739
00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:32,000
Speaker 1: and had a lot of things in common. So I

740
00:41:32,040 --> 00:41:34,760
Speaker 1: really enjoyed being around her folks. And her sister Amy

741
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:38,080
Speaker 1: is precious. And James Otto and I have been friends

742
00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:41,320
Speaker 1: for years, well, you as friends before you got with Alison.

743
00:41:42,040 --> 00:41:45,879
Speaker 1: I met him and an industry event before we ended

744
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,600
Speaker 1: up together. But you know, it's since we both do

745
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:51,359
Speaker 1: the same thing, it's kind of nice to to have

746
00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 1: that in the family, to have somebody to relate to.

747
00:41:53,760 --> 00:41:57,400
Speaker 1: But they're they're sweet, sweet people, so it doesn't bother me. Now.

748
00:41:57,440 --> 00:41:59,319
Speaker 1: If I if there were people I didn't like to

749
00:41:59,320 --> 00:42:02,879
Speaker 1: be around and whole nother, Kelly, I don't. I mean,

750
00:42:03,040 --> 00:42:06,400
Speaker 1: like most girls from the South, like you marry somebody

751
00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:09,919
Speaker 1: who will fit into your family family, like I could

752
00:42:09,920 --> 00:42:13,800
Speaker 1: have never married someone who then took me out of

753
00:42:13,920 --> 00:42:17,200
Speaker 1: my family and displaced me and we had our own

754
00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 1: life and didn't interble with my family all the time.

755
00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:22,319
Speaker 1: That was just it's just a huge part of it.

756
00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:24,480
Speaker 1: That was a part of the deal. And you know,

757
00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:27,240
Speaker 1: that just kind of was a thing. And Jay naturally

758
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 1: fit in with my family and they my mom will

759
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:32,239
Speaker 1: take up for Jay when we're upset about something and

760
00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:34,799
Speaker 1: each other. My mom will take this side, and it's

761
00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:41,120
Speaker 1: really actually upsetting because and so that's really upsetting. And

762
00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:43,759
Speaker 1: my sister, even if she didn't something wrong, she'll she'll

763
00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:46,359
Speaker 1: at least like put up the facade that she supports me.

764
00:42:48,640 --> 00:42:50,960
Speaker 1: But my mom was just like totally throw in the town,

765
00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:53,919
Speaker 1: be like, yeah, he is so crucious. Do not don't

766
00:42:53,960 --> 00:42:57,719
Speaker 1: get I'm like, well, I am your daughter. You have

767
00:42:57,760 --> 00:42:59,759
Speaker 1: about to take up for me. Well. It is a

768
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:02,040
Speaker 1: little hard though, because they know you so well. It's

769
00:43:02,040 --> 00:43:04,359
Speaker 1: like it's like all the people that know you so

770
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:06,719
Speaker 1: well and have lived with you your entire life, so

771
00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:09,520
Speaker 1: of course they all know every in and out of

772
00:43:09,680 --> 00:43:14,720
Speaker 1: how you operate. Good. So it's um so I guess

773
00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:17,919
Speaker 1: to answer the question totally though, jay'son just he knew

774
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:19,719
Speaker 1: what was going to happen, you know. I mean, you

775
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:23,280
Speaker 1: knew the drill before we married, and luckily he's okay

776
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:25,839
Speaker 1: with it, even though I mean, everybody has their moment

777
00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:29,399
Speaker 1: where you want to run screaming from extended family. That's

778
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 1: why don't last that long? Hasn't a good idea. You

779
00:43:35,200 --> 00:43:37,279
Speaker 1: just wait till season two. We're going to delve into

780
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:44,239
Speaker 1: my family in Ohio. Oh oh, cannot wait. Well, I

781
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:47,720
Speaker 1: love that you guys address um the road life because

782
00:43:47,719 --> 00:43:50,120
Speaker 1: I do feel like, you know, I'm kind of behind

783
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:52,359
Speaker 1: the scenes too, So I see this dynamics so much,

784
00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:56,320
Speaker 1: and I don't think that if you fully understand that life,

785
00:43:56,840 --> 00:43:59,280
Speaker 1: I think it gets glamorized a lot and people focus

786
00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:01,600
Speaker 1: on the really fun parts of it. And obviously that's

787
00:44:01,640 --> 00:44:05,200
Speaker 1: a huge part of it. But you openly talk about

788
00:44:05,239 --> 00:44:07,799
Speaker 1: the dynamic of like Alice and You're at home kind

789
00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:10,360
Speaker 1: of running the show, and then Jay comes back in.

790
00:44:10,680 --> 00:44:13,640
Speaker 1: You say he expects a welcome wagon, and Jay, you

791
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:15,759
Speaker 1: also talk about it from your perspective of like you

792
00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:17,200
Speaker 1: almost feel like you have to get to know your

793
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 1: family again. So I want to talk about that dynamic.

794
00:44:21,040 --> 00:44:25,359
Speaker 1: How have you guys found some balance in that? Well,

795
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:29,759
Speaker 1: we haven't Okay, good answer. Truth, Okay, I like it.

796
00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 1: It is hard. I mean a couple that one person

797
00:44:34,719 --> 00:44:37,359
Speaker 1: or both people travel, you've got to figure each other

798
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:39,560
Speaker 1: out when you get back. You know, it looks so

799
00:44:39,600 --> 00:44:43,279
Speaker 1: glamorous on Instagram because you know, Jay's on stage with

800
00:44:43,360 --> 00:44:46,720
Speaker 1: the lights and the you know, fan blowing right, and

801
00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:49,160
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, you make me sound like Selene.

802
00:44:49,840 --> 00:45:00,480
Speaker 1: I was going to say, Beyonce, you're all exactly singing.

803
00:45:00,480 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 1: But he's got you know, if they're only showing the

804
00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:07,320
Speaker 1: like fabulous moments when they're really sitting in a parking

805
00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:14,040
Speaker 1: lot until eight pm in a like random venue, still

806
00:45:14,080 --> 00:45:16,759
Speaker 1: watching the golf channel, you know, you know, you know,

807
00:45:17,160 --> 00:45:21,040
Speaker 1: I know, I think when Alison said I expect a

808
00:45:21,080 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 1: welcome wagon, that's a little oversteading. I just expect people

809
00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 1: to be home maybe when I get down the road,

810
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 1: instead of out running errands and random things. Um, that

811
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 1: has been a little bit of an issue. And Jay

812
00:45:35,600 --> 00:45:38,719
Speaker 1: does not come home to an empty house. Well, Kelly, yeah,

813
00:45:38,920 --> 00:45:42,200
Speaker 1: home after you've been out, you know, busting your tail

814
00:45:42,239 --> 00:45:44,399
Speaker 1: and working hard for your family and away from them,

815
00:45:44,440 --> 00:45:46,879
Speaker 1: the hundreds of miles away, and you come home, it's

816
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:54,800
Speaker 1: like I'm home. Hello there, Hello, anybody around here? Never mind,

817
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:58,680
Speaker 1: I'll just go down here and be with myself again,

818
00:45:58,760 --> 00:46:05,120
Speaker 1: like I've been on the bus for the past four games. Yeah,

819
00:46:05,440 --> 00:46:08,080
Speaker 1: that's hard because Jayson grown up. I mean he's been

820
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 1: on the road since he was what seventeen years old

821
00:46:11,360 --> 00:46:15,560
Speaker 1: and around people constantly, and there's always somebody around. There's

822
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:18,960
Speaker 1: always somebody willing to like hang out, watch a football

823
00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 1: game with you, go, you know, have a drink with you,

824
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:25,360
Speaker 1: whatever it is. But I mean that's not real life.

825
00:46:26,000 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 1: I mean we're busy, and so it's really hard because

826
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:31,799
Speaker 1: he goes from like that really social environment. So I

827
00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:34,359
Speaker 1: think that's hard to all of a sudden come into

828
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:37,879
Speaker 1: the stone cold house that's like empty because we're at

829
00:46:38,000 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 1: three soccer games. Or you'd want to hope that your

830
00:46:42,200 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 1: wife was waiting for you to come back home because

831
00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:47,520
Speaker 1: she had missed you so much. So we could also

832
00:46:47,640 --> 00:46:51,279
Speaker 1: view it like that as well of view, or we

833
00:46:51,280 --> 00:46:53,960
Speaker 1: could do it as what a wonderful involved mother she

834
00:46:54,160 --> 00:46:56,240
Speaker 1: is who wants to be with her children, who support

835
00:46:56,280 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 1: them during their extracurriculus. Right. I was just gonna say

836
00:47:00,600 --> 00:47:04,640
Speaker 1: this sounds like a topic for therapy guys, But don't

837
00:47:04,960 --> 00:47:09,880
Speaker 1: we have just sected this one. So I don't think

838
00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:12,719
Speaker 1: there's a revolution, but we we've worked through it at

839
00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:17,920
Speaker 1: least where there's a good way to come to Thank

840
00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:23,520
Speaker 1: you so much. I'm not coming back until well. I

841
00:47:23,640 --> 00:47:26,480
Speaker 1: do appreciate you guys getting honest about that though, because

842
00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:29,440
Speaker 1: I just think that it's easy to look, especially at

843
00:47:29,440 --> 00:47:32,279
Speaker 1: a very successful music career, and that's just all the

844
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:35,800
Speaker 1: smoke and glitter and all the stuff we were talking about,

845
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:37,880
Speaker 1: and you don't really see the ins and outs of

846
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:40,719
Speaker 1: what it takes to make a family work in that dynamics.

847
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:44,120
Speaker 1: So it's been it's really cool pictures for Instagram they're

848
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:48,680
Speaker 1: taking with the you know, extra effects and everything else,

849
00:47:48,719 --> 00:47:53,200
Speaker 1: so it's always glamorized. Well, have you guys resolved the

850
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:58,640
Speaker 1: issue of having another child? We're not okay, so that one.

851
00:47:58,800 --> 00:48:04,280
Speaker 1: That one's out. She shut that down pretty immediately. Yeah,

852
00:48:07,200 --> 00:48:10,640
Speaker 1: but I mean I'm old, Kelly. I mean, I know

853
00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:14,960
Speaker 1: what my limits are. Yeah. And and plus Kelly, we'd

854
00:48:15,000 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 1: have to get naked. She won't do that. Yeah, she

855
00:48:17,239 --> 00:48:19,399
Speaker 1: didn't seen that into it. Two times. I mean, that's

856
00:48:19,480 --> 00:48:23,160
Speaker 1: tough for a marriage. I mean, and also I've just

857
00:48:23,200 --> 00:48:27,880
Speaker 1: been sitting around eating during quarantine. So ah, yeah, you

858
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:29,880
Speaker 1: would think like, oh gosh, I'll be home, so all

859
00:48:29,920 --> 00:48:32,759
Speaker 1: I'll do is like be really healthy, meal prev and

860
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:37,239
Speaker 1: like work out, and actually did none of that. Yeah,

861
00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 1: So getting pregnant it's not the top of your list,

862
00:48:39,440 --> 00:48:42,719
Speaker 1: It's really not. Well. You mentioned some fertility struggles with

863
00:48:42,760 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 1: that too, which I've also had my bout with that.

864
00:48:45,360 --> 00:48:47,880
Speaker 1: So was that a really big part of your decision

865
00:48:47,880 --> 00:48:50,520
Speaker 1: making process? Was just like the struggle of what that

866
00:48:50,800 --> 00:48:52,759
Speaker 1: the toll it takes on your body. I guess people

867
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:56,120
Speaker 1: don't really know that either. Yeah, if they haven't gone

868
00:48:56,160 --> 00:49:01,520
Speaker 1: through it, then they don't understand the extreme highs and lows. Yeah,

869
00:49:01,560 --> 00:49:05,280
Speaker 1: I'm sure have experienced and the difficulty and the disappointment.

870
00:49:05,440 --> 00:49:07,439
Speaker 1: And you know what happened with us. So as soon

871
00:49:07,480 --> 00:49:10,959
Speaker 1: as Alison got to her breaking point, she came in said,

872
00:49:11,040 --> 00:49:12,880
Speaker 1: I can't do this anymore. I'm not going to take

873
00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:15,160
Speaker 1: these fertility drugs. Yeah, we're not going to go back

874
00:49:15,160 --> 00:49:18,160
Speaker 1: to the in vitro classes. And as soon as we

875
00:49:18,440 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 1: quit all that, she was pregnant a month later. See.

876
00:49:21,600 --> 00:49:25,480
Speaker 1: I always wonder how much distress play into what's happening

877
00:49:25,480 --> 00:49:27,759
Speaker 1: in our bodies. With all that I feel like you're

878
00:49:27,800 --> 00:49:31,279
Speaker 1: failing a test every time. Yet, Yes, and it's a

879
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:33,319
Speaker 1: lot of pressure to put on you. And it's also

880
00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:36,120
Speaker 1: a lot of pressure to put on a gas page. Yeah,

881
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:40,920
Speaker 1: some cold room to come out with a sample, some

882
00:49:41,440 --> 00:49:45,319
Speaker 1: random woman across the desk, Right, that's so difficult. We're

883
00:49:45,400 --> 00:49:49,160
Speaker 1: so sorry. For sure, I'm just staying without David Corn.

884
00:49:49,239 --> 00:49:52,680
Speaker 1: It's hard. Yeah, it's definitely not the way that anybody

885
00:49:52,680 --> 00:49:56,319
Speaker 1: imagines it going, for sure. Let's definitely feel so bad

886
00:49:56,360 --> 00:50:00,600
Speaker 1: for the guys. We're getting jacked up and that down,

887
00:50:01,040 --> 00:50:02,879
Speaker 1: and then you know, they all make you gain weight,

888
00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:05,120
Speaker 1: so then you're like, oh, I can't fit in any

889
00:50:05,160 --> 00:50:08,279
Speaker 1: of my flood right, and you feel terrible and you

890
00:50:08,320 --> 00:50:10,359
Speaker 1: do you feel like why is this not happening? Are

891
00:50:10,360 --> 00:50:13,120
Speaker 1: we not supposed to have kids? Yeah, you know, you

892
00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:16,360
Speaker 1: go through all those emotions. It's really hard, and it

893
00:50:16,520 --> 00:50:20,960
Speaker 1: isn't everywhere you look too. I don't know how you felt,

894
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:24,360
Speaker 1: but I always felt like everybody I ever met was

895
00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 1: getting pregnant. To get pregnant, I was invited to more

896
00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:30,600
Speaker 1: baby showers and I've ever been invited to my whole

897
00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:33,840
Speaker 1: life during that time. And you were genuinely the world

898
00:50:33,880 --> 00:50:37,120
Speaker 1: for your friends because nobody wants your friend or your

899
00:50:37,239 --> 00:50:39,600
Speaker 1: family member to go through the hell you're going through.

900
00:50:40,280 --> 00:50:43,600
Speaker 1: But at the same time, it's like a good Greek like,

901
00:50:43,800 --> 00:50:47,040
Speaker 1: how are people getting knocked up behind the football stadium

902
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:49,359
Speaker 1: on a Friday night? And I mean we're like want

903
00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:52,000
Speaker 1: to bring a child into a loving, stable home, like

904
00:50:52,120 --> 00:50:58,600
Speaker 1: what is happening? Or quasi stable? Who knows? No? I

905
00:50:58,680 --> 00:51:00,759
Speaker 1: thought those exact I just I mean I still do,

906
00:51:00,920 --> 00:51:04,080
Speaker 1: because it's like it seems something that seems so easy

907
00:51:04,160 --> 00:51:06,680
Speaker 1: for other people when you're having such a hard time

908
00:51:06,680 --> 00:51:09,319
Speaker 1: with it, as happy as you want to be for them.

909
00:51:09,360 --> 00:51:11,759
Speaker 1: I think it's just such a mixed emotions deal, Like

910
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:15,200
Speaker 1: it's it's really difficult as a human being to not

911
00:51:15,480 --> 00:51:18,359
Speaker 1: take your own experiences into account when you're just like

912
00:51:18,600 --> 00:51:21,920
Speaker 1: supporting your friends. I think it's really difficult. Yeah, it is,

913
00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:24,640
Speaker 1: even though you are genuinely happy for them. Yeah, still

914
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:27,840
Speaker 1: hard because you are You're right, you're we're all human,

915
00:51:27,960 --> 00:51:30,920
Speaker 1: and of course we're disappointed about our situation that you're

916
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:35,000
Speaker 1: having for somebody else. Yeah. Yeah, Well I appreciated you

917
00:51:35,000 --> 00:51:36,919
Speaker 1: guys just getting honest about a lot of those hard

918
00:51:36,920 --> 00:51:39,879
Speaker 1: topics and also making it entertaining in the meantime. So

919
00:51:39,920 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 1: you guys know, we'll check out the show. It's called

920
00:51:42,239 --> 00:51:46,320
Speaker 1: DeMarcus Family Rules. It's out on Netflix. Now. The last question,

921
00:51:46,360 --> 00:51:48,600
Speaker 1: I mean, this might be the most important question that

922
00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:53,840
Speaker 1: I've asked today, But Alison, what is in a spray tan? Oh?

923
00:51:54,120 --> 00:51:57,560
Speaker 1: I'm the drink up years ago it's diet Sunkist and vodka.

924
00:51:57,800 --> 00:52:00,560
Speaker 1: And somebody asked me what the rest if he was,

925
00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:02,279
Speaker 1: I was like, well, it depends on if you've got

926
00:52:02,280 --> 00:52:04,080
Speaker 1: to be up at six thirty the next morning or

927
00:52:04,160 --> 00:52:09,040
Speaker 1: nine thirty you poured that much vodka suncass to it

928
00:52:09,120 --> 00:52:13,280
Speaker 1: and then call it a day. And my friend Jason

929
00:52:13,320 --> 00:52:15,680
Speaker 1: Owen years ago, he started calling it a spray can

930
00:52:15,719 --> 00:52:18,200
Speaker 1: because it's orange, of course, and so we always laughed.

931
00:52:18,200 --> 00:52:20,880
Speaker 1: Now I do carry diet sun Kiss cans in my

932
00:52:21,000 --> 00:52:23,839
Speaker 1: handbag when we go to a restaurant. Oh wow. If

933
00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:29,080
Speaker 1: I go to friends houses, always very glassy. I just

934
00:52:29,320 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 1: I could not tell. I mean, the color is a

935
00:52:31,600 --> 00:52:34,240
Speaker 1: bright orange and you drink it out of a wine glass.

936
00:52:34,280 --> 00:52:37,120
Speaker 1: It looks like I mean, just that one time. I mean,

937
00:52:37,280 --> 00:52:39,879
Speaker 1: I don't drink it out of anything mug. It could

938
00:52:39,880 --> 00:52:45,080
Speaker 1: be a shot glass. Class it with a K right here,

939
00:52:45,280 --> 00:52:50,120
Speaker 1: says the sun kiss. Okay, I'm gonna have to look

940
00:52:50,120 --> 00:52:55,120
Speaker 1: into this cocktail. Um, jay, what is your drink of choice? Oh?

941
00:52:55,320 --> 00:52:59,399
Speaker 1: I thank you? Seen me drink my drink. Ye, that's

942
00:52:59,680 --> 00:53:05,399
Speaker 1: a great goose. Okay, yes, no fruit, no fruit, keep

943
00:53:05,400 --> 00:53:08,799
Speaker 1: it clean. You know. I so wish we were at

944
00:53:08,840 --> 00:53:12,080
Speaker 1: the hotel right now, out there at the bar and

945
00:53:12,120 --> 00:53:19,960
Speaker 1: we could all sit together and have a drink. I mean,

946
00:53:20,000 --> 00:53:25,480
Speaker 1: I think it's so for granted. Oh yeah, I mean

947
00:53:25,760 --> 00:53:27,920
Speaker 1: just the simple things, you know, going to work in

948
00:53:27,920 --> 00:53:31,960
Speaker 1: another city sounds so amazing right now. I can't wait. Though. Yeah,

949
00:53:32,000 --> 00:53:33,200
Speaker 1: we were in the middle of it. It was like,

950
00:53:33,239 --> 00:53:35,640
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I have to pack my suitcase. Oh yeah,

951
00:53:35,680 --> 00:53:38,440
Speaker 1: I'm and drudge back to the airport. It seems like

952
00:53:38,480 --> 00:53:40,480
Speaker 1: the worst thing because I was so tired all the

953
00:53:40,520 --> 00:53:43,319
Speaker 1: time and missing my people back home. And now I'm like,

954
00:53:43,440 --> 00:53:47,919
Speaker 1: take me, let's go. I feel so silly now because

955
00:53:47,920 --> 00:53:49,920
Speaker 1: I remember sitting out there going we was gonna be

956
00:53:49,960 --> 00:53:58,360
Speaker 1: over there to eight thirty. Yes, this is one hundred

957
00:53:58,360 --> 00:54:02,279
Speaker 1: percent giving me a lot of perspective. Makes you really grateful? Yeah,

958
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:04,200
Speaker 1: it does. I mean even when I drop my kids

959
00:54:04,200 --> 00:54:06,480
Speaker 1: off at school, I'm like, oh, thank you, Jesus. I

960
00:54:06,480 --> 00:54:08,440
Speaker 1: mean this may not last forever. They may send them

961
00:54:08,440 --> 00:54:13,080
Speaker 1: all home, but they're going to day. Yes, exactly, teacher,

962
00:54:13,239 --> 00:54:16,719
Speaker 1: because I'm about ready to. I mean, if we had

963
00:54:16,719 --> 00:54:19,600
Speaker 1: to homeschool anymore, I've been. I was homes going with

964
00:54:19,600 --> 00:54:22,080
Speaker 1: my boyfriend's kids. Last was that. I guess you call

965
00:54:22,120 --> 00:54:24,600
Speaker 1: it semester. I don't know that we would have survived

966
00:54:24,640 --> 00:54:28,080
Speaker 1: as humans. Like, it was not good for anybody. It's not.

967
00:54:28,160 --> 00:54:30,680
Speaker 1: And the kids seem to be around people. I mean, obviously,

968
00:54:30,719 --> 00:54:32,520
Speaker 1: I think people need to be safe, but I mean

969
00:54:32,600 --> 00:54:35,279
Speaker 1: they need that outlet. They need the socialization because I

970
00:54:35,280 --> 00:54:39,480
Speaker 1: already worry about their that generation being so dependent upon

971
00:54:39,640 --> 00:54:44,319
Speaker 1: technology and their devices. So when that's the only way

972
00:54:44,360 --> 00:54:47,400
Speaker 1: that they can communicate with friends is through FaceTime and texting,

973
00:54:47,480 --> 00:54:54,040
Speaker 1: it's like, I mean, this is not good to Jay

974
00:54:54,080 --> 00:54:55,920
Speaker 1: wants to know if I feel that way about myself

975
00:54:55,960 --> 00:55:00,480
Speaker 1: and worry about mysel No, I'm not, because I was like, no,

976
00:55:00,640 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 1: sending out SOS messages at FaceTime, drinking with my friends.

977
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:08,520
Speaker 1: You're finding ways to interact. I mean I literally heard

978
00:55:08,560 --> 00:55:10,120
Speaker 1: a friend of mine say she was doing a virtual

979
00:55:10,160 --> 00:55:13,120
Speaker 1: happy hour, like in March this year, and I was like,

980
00:55:13,280 --> 00:55:16,120
Speaker 1: kind of so stupid. Literally the next week, I'm like,

981
00:55:16,280 --> 00:55:19,400
Speaker 1: who wants to go virtual with me? I'm ready for

982
00:55:19,440 --> 00:55:22,440
Speaker 1: happy hour? Hey, whatever it takes to survive. We were

983
00:55:22,480 --> 00:55:25,360
Speaker 1: doing it almost every day there for a minute, I know,

984
00:55:25,560 --> 00:55:27,720
Speaker 1: so were we. I mean I would like have friends

985
00:55:27,719 --> 00:55:30,720
Speaker 1: who were like literally crouching the closet with a glass

986
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:33,480
Speaker 1: of wine at facetiming with everybody. The only the only

987
00:55:33,480 --> 00:55:36,360
Speaker 1: thing that scared me, Kelly was I started drinking earlier

988
00:55:36,400 --> 00:55:39,320
Speaker 1: and earlier. We did too, a happy hour kept getting

989
00:55:39,320 --> 00:55:41,640
Speaker 1: earlier and earlier. I was like, oh wait, it's lunchtime. Wait,

990
00:55:41,680 --> 00:55:44,799
Speaker 1: this is bad. Yeah. I was like, can I'll start

991
00:55:44,880 --> 00:55:48,080
Speaker 1: drinking it? And I was like, oh bloody Mary. Next

992
00:55:48,600 --> 00:55:51,719
Speaker 1: I feel like it's okay, but you can't curls over

993
00:55:51,800 --> 00:55:54,160
Speaker 1: the soda for like three or four Oh god, it's

994
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:57,160
Speaker 1: so too Transitioning back into real life for that reason

995
00:55:57,280 --> 00:55:59,080
Speaker 1: was a little bit tricky there for a while, but

996
00:55:59,320 --> 00:56:04,520
Speaker 1: you would. It's still a little touch and go. I'm

997
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:09,719
Speaker 1: you need to get back out of the road. We're business. Yeah,

998
00:56:09,840 --> 00:56:12,239
Speaker 1: amen to that. Um, So we have the show. What

999
00:56:12,320 --> 00:56:14,520
Speaker 1: else can we look out for from you guys in

1000
00:56:14,560 --> 00:56:16,399
Speaker 1: the next couple of months or just the next year.

1001
00:56:18,200 --> 00:56:23,279
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, Well, what does the Rascal Flats have coming up?

1002
00:56:23,800 --> 00:56:26,040
Speaker 1: We don't have much of anything coming up. We got

1003
00:56:26,040 --> 00:56:29,040
Speaker 1: nominated today for Vocal Group of Year, which was nice. Congrats,

1004
00:56:29,280 --> 00:56:32,319
Speaker 1: that's awesome for the Cmas. Yeah, it's been thirty seven

1005
00:56:32,400 --> 00:56:35,040
Speaker 1: years since we've been nominated, so it was great. So wow,

1006
00:56:35,440 --> 00:56:41,839
Speaker 1: that how many years? I don't think that's right. I'm

1007
00:56:41,880 --> 00:56:45,319
Speaker 1: totally going uh uh, And so you work. We're working

1008
00:56:45,320 --> 00:56:48,160
Speaker 1: on some things right now in the studio. Then um,

1009
00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:51,000
Speaker 1: we're gonna We're gonna put out later on this year

1010
00:56:51,040 --> 00:56:54,200
Speaker 1: that I'm excited about. But as far as touring goes,

1011
00:56:54,280 --> 00:56:56,440
Speaker 1: it's kind of up in the air. No one in

1012
00:56:56,440 --> 00:56:59,960
Speaker 1: the world that's gonna look like. So hopefully we'll be

1013
00:57:00,040 --> 00:57:02,640
Speaker 1: shooting season two of DeMarcus Family Rules here in a

1014
00:57:02,680 --> 00:57:05,799
Speaker 1: few months. That would be exciting. Alison, what are you

1015
00:57:05,840 --> 00:57:11,360
Speaker 1: working on? I am working on keeping my children in school, Amen,

1016
00:57:12,120 --> 00:57:16,120
Speaker 1: working on this Volunteer America the first national pageant that

1017
00:57:16,160 --> 00:57:19,880
Speaker 1: will be September first through fourth in twenty twenty one,

1018
00:57:20,320 --> 00:57:27,760
Speaker 1: and we'll go away. Yes, you got a year. I

1019
00:57:27,840 --> 00:57:31,000
Speaker 1: feel good about your chances. Okay, thank you. I mean

1020
00:57:31,040 --> 00:57:33,320
Speaker 1: I do some days and then other days I'm like, oh,

1021
00:57:34,760 --> 00:57:38,000
Speaker 1: cycle you catch you know, yeah, okay, everybody's positive today.

1022
00:57:38,040 --> 00:57:43,720
Speaker 1: Oh everybody's um anyway. So you know, we're just trying

1023
00:57:43,760 --> 00:57:45,920
Speaker 1: to make it and we have no social life, and

1024
00:57:46,640 --> 00:57:48,800
Speaker 1: it's really kind of sad. I know, I'm ready for

1025
00:57:48,800 --> 00:57:52,240
Speaker 1: that to come back to me too. I think we

1026
00:57:52,320 --> 00:57:55,400
Speaker 1: all definitely though took it for granted, and now it's like, oh,

1027
00:57:55,480 --> 00:57:57,800
Speaker 1: I would love to go to an event or to

1028
00:57:57,880 --> 00:58:02,439
Speaker 1: a dinner with people, whereas before I'd be like, oh, yeah,

1029
00:58:04,000 --> 00:58:07,000
Speaker 1: I'll go anywhere I find reasons to put on mascara.

1030
00:58:07,360 --> 00:58:11,480
Speaker 1: Exactly exactly. Well, JaMarcus Family Rules, as we said, is

1031
00:58:11,480 --> 00:58:14,040
Speaker 1: out now on Netflix. Alison and Jay, thank you guys

1032
00:58:14,080 --> 00:58:15,800
Speaker 1: so much for doing this. It was so fun to

1033
00:58:15,800 --> 00:58:17,760
Speaker 1: talk to you and I'm so happy to learn all

1034
00:58:17,800 --> 00:58:20,000
Speaker 1: these fun facts about you guys. It was really very

1035
00:58:20,040 --> 00:58:25,760
Speaker 1: insightful for me. Thank you so much. All right, thank

1036
00:58:25,800 --> 00:58:27,720
Speaker 1: you guys, Thank you guys for listening.