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Speaker 1: So there's a billionaire who has a pickup line that

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Speaker 1: he wants everybody to know about, and.

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Speaker 2: I want to know if this would work.

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Speaker 1: What I really want to know is is what what

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Speaker 1: would work in twenty twenty five? As it retains to

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Speaker 1: I guess this could be online, but you know, I

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Speaker 1: suppose you could DM this to somebody, but you know,

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Speaker 1: maybe in person. But this guy's name is Bill Ackman.

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Speaker 1: He's a hedge fund guy. Now I don't know how

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Speaker 1: I get all the money. Maybe it was from hedge funds.

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Speaker 1: But his pickup line that he claims works is or

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Speaker 1: did work. I'm not sure if the guy's married. He's

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Speaker 1: a older guy.

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Speaker 2: May I meet you? May?

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Speaker 3: May I meet you?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 2: Thank you?

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Speaker 1: So he got mocked online after sharing dating advice for

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Speaker 1: a young man on social media. He's always fifty.

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Speaker 3: Nine, you know, yeah's giving.

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Speaker 2: I thought he was older, actually, but he's fifty nine.

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Speaker 1: And he suggested using the pickup line may I Meet

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Speaker 1: you before starting a conversation with women, saying that you

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Speaker 1: almost never got to know when he was younger.

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Speaker 2: So this was a post on X I guess.

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Speaker 1: It's been viewed twenty six million times and prompted thousands

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Speaker 1: of comments and mocking memes. People called him out of

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Speaker 1: touch and joked to trying the line and getting to

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Speaker 1: we'll get the police called on them.

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Speaker 2: One person said that women only said.

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Speaker 1: Yes to him because he's a billionaire financier, but he

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Speaker 1: replied that he didn't have money back when he was

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Speaker 1: using that line. May I meet you? Now?

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Speaker 2: What is Shames mad about?

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Speaker 1: James says, uh, I'm to stop throwing shade at you.

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Speaker 5: I mean apparently, I don't know. Yeah, I'm not sure

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Speaker 5: there was no shade. Yeah, I know, I know. I'm

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Speaker 5: just I'm confused anyway, So I was confused. Yeah, man,

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Speaker 5: what does stop? Right?

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Speaker 1: She knows he can say, like throw some shade. I'll

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Speaker 1: throw some shade. Not not our James. This is a text.

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Speaker 6: No, I know, this was not our boss, James.

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Speaker 1: Our boss James did not ask me. She actually like

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Speaker 1: he would like more shade and more drama if anything. James, Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: may I meet you?

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Speaker 2: May I meet you? Absolutely not only in the dark.

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Speaker 6: I guess I think that sounds like one of those

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Speaker 6: like African prince princess. You know I'm talking about, like,

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Speaker 6: man I meet you.

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Speaker 2: Like said send you money, like that's what it's giving.

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Speaker 1: Oh he's talking about bellahemine, by the way, the cavities.

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Speaker 1: She has five cavities.

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Speaker 7: She told us that, well she had six, but she

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Speaker 7: gets to take two out with her wisdom teeth.

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Speaker 1: I thought all of them had cavity. I thought you'd

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Speaker 1: have all of the all had cavit. I thought she

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Speaker 1: had ten total or something. Was it two of the

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Speaker 2: So there were eight?

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Speaker 8: Wow?

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Speaker 2: Or six? Anyway? Man meet you? A man meet you? No, No,

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Speaker 2: you can I meet me. I don't like that at all.

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Speaker 1: And he'd meet anyone and I literally the bars on

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Speaker 2: I would feel like you're trying to, like, you know,

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Speaker 1: If you said, if I got a thing a DM

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Speaker 2: Or lived in a different country. That's what I would

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Speaker 1: Because that's just not the way people talk and it's

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Speaker 7: Someone asked if I was spoken for the other day

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Speaker 7: in my DMS, and I was like, wow, I haven't

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Speaker 7: heard that since the forties.

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Speaker 3: Not gonna like it.

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Speaker 2: You spoken for?

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Speaker 9: Right?

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 2: Do you have a dowry? Yeah? Well do you? I'd

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Speaker 2: like to know what your dad's willing to pay you?

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Speaker 10: Well?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, trade me out to get you to get you

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Speaker 2: May I meet you? M Yeah?

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Speaker 1: But what here's the better question though, eight five, five, five,

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Speaker 1: nine one o three five you can call and text

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Speaker 1: the same number.

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Speaker 2: What what would work?

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 1: What do you want to hear from men approaching you?

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Speaker 1: Is that because you have a boyfriend, because you just

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Speaker 1: don't want people that you don't want to talk from

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Speaker 1: men to talk to you at all? But like, here's

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Speaker 1: the thing, period, I know you're kidding, kind of you're not.

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Speaker 1: You have a boyfriend, so you're probably not kidding, But like,

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Speaker 1: all I should think, all, I just wear.

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Speaker 7: A sweatsuit that says I have a boyfriend in the

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Speaker 1: You know, well no, And I guess this person couldn't

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Speaker 1: like haven't you seen her outfit today?

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Speaker 2: And every day?

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Speaker 1: But I you know, you hear a lot, whether it's

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Speaker 1: the wild. The problem is out of you know, you

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Speaker 1: all you also hear a lot of people saying they

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Speaker 1: make fun of the guys who approach them in the wild,

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Speaker 1: And so you can't have it both ways. Or you

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Speaker 1: get on some app and you make fun of guys,

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Speaker 1: or you trash guys that that.

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Speaker 2: You know did there.

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Speaker 1: And I'm not talking about the guys who said like

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Speaker 1: disgusting things or very clever things like I'm going to

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Speaker 1: that is well highly inappropriate. That is that is that

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Speaker 3: Sometimes I take a step back and I go, you know,

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Speaker 3: I'm not even mad.

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Speaker 2: Like I got it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm I'm like, I'm not I'm not going to

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Speaker 2: But like I also, okay, you know, yeah, every.

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Speaker 1: Now and again, I think you could you could say

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Speaker 1: times out of ten that's not going to work. Nine

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Speaker 1: times out of ten you're gonna wind up getting made

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Speaker 1: fun of. But so that's my thing is do you

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Speaker 1: want to be approached and if you do, what's.

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Speaker 2: Actually going to work? Now?

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Speaker 1: Of course you want them to be respectful and and

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Speaker 1: not you know, be gross and and whatever, But like,

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Speaker 1: the key to this is you want to be approached.

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Speaker 1: If I'm guessing, you want to be approached by the

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Speaker 1: we as men don't know whether where the guy you

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Speaker 1: want to be approached by or not, so we don't

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Speaker 2: Of fear of all these other things.

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Speaker 1: So I guess if that's the case, if you want

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Speaker 1: have to get to a place where we can kindly

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Speaker 2: By the way.

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Speaker 1: Once you're kindly brushed off, you need to step off y,

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Speaker 1: you need to you need to leave. You need to

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Speaker 1: you need to leave so she doesn't want to meet you,

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Speaker 1: bro and then and then you need to leave.

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Speaker 2: You need to not respond.

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Speaker 1: If it's in a DM, you don't need to have

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Speaker 1: some smart comeback because you were rejected. You don't have

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Speaker 1: to project, you don't have to say something I don't

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Speaker 1: want you anyway, which is what everybody. There's so much

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Speaker 1: of this stuff. That's my favorite that people do. It's

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Speaker 1: any want to go out with me? No, Well, you

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Speaker 1: know you think you're hot stuff. Dude, you asked me

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Speaker 1: a question, I gave you an answer. Now you need

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Speaker 1: isn't all on women. This is on men too, because

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Speaker 7: I'm a fan of the like for both of both

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Speaker 7: parties involved. The like, don't make it feel like you're

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Speaker 7: hitting on me situations, so like, come up, talk about

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Speaker 7: something different, make a joke, point something out at the bar.

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Speaker 3: Then feel my energy.

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Speaker 7: If I'm engaging, or if I'm like, oh, my friend's

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Speaker 7: situation either not embarrassed or you proceed hitting on me

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Speaker 7: like I don't make me feel like you're hitting on me.

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Speaker 3: Don't be like, hello, ma'am.

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Speaker 7: You know I'd like to dance with you, you know,

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Speaker 3: Is it crowded?

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Speaker 11: You know?

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Speaker 2: Do I have a drink?

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Speaker 3: YadA YadA?

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Speaker 7: Okay, And so no one gets embarrassed either way, because

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Speaker 7: then you could feel if I'm like, I got to

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Speaker 2: That's true, that's true.

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Speaker 1: Take a hint, like, you know, is it conversation flowing

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Speaker 2: If you're forcing it, walk away, Yep, it's.

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Speaker 3: Over, and then you're not embarrassed, and neither are mine.

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Speaker 2: Kiki, how you know? Well?

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Speaker 3: What why are you your eye?

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Speaker 1: You're technically single but engaged because you're not married, but

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Speaker 1: when you were actually actually single? Yes, how did you

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Speaker 1: want to see what I'm talking about? That's why I

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Speaker 1: rolled my eyes. I don't even know the rules anymore.

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Speaker 1: But how did you want to be approached?

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Speaker 3: So I want you to approach me?

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Speaker 12: And then just if I call the police on you,

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Speaker 12: den means I don't want you, and then if I don't.

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Speaker 2: That's a good sign. That's in my experience, that's been

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Speaker 2: a good sign.

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Speaker 12: If I don't call the police, we good, you know,

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Speaker 12: like keep talking rash because I am one of those

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Speaker 12: women who I would hype me in up, like you

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Speaker 12: gotta approach women. Man, You gotta go out there in

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Speaker 12: a while, you gotta shoot your shot. Man, And then

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Speaker 12: the moment you shoot your shot at me, if you're

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Speaker 12: not the man I want, I'm like, please get him.

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Speaker 1: So this is kind of what I'm talking about, right

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Speaker 1: because like as a guy, like I don't know, I

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Speaker 1: don't know, Like you know, it's like I don't want

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Speaker 1: wants to talk to, and then I talked to her,

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Speaker 1: then that's what she wanted and that goes well. But

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Speaker 1: if I'm not and then a lot of different things

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Speaker 3: That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Okay now, Now, honestly, if he now this is a

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Speaker 1: Okay, but nine times out of ten, that's not gonna work, right, Like,

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Speaker 1: So this is a perfect example of it worked for you, guys,

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Speaker 1: Like it worked for her, it did work for you,

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Speaker 1: I guess, yeah, you're good for you, Stephanie.

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Speaker 2: All right, have a good day legs.

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Speaker 1: Hey Destiny, yeah, destiny. What happened? This is a pickup line?

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Speaker 12: Oh?

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Speaker 11: It worked enough for a first date?

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Speaker 8: I don't know if you know the game Trivia Crack.

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Speaker 2: That's cute, okay, but only one day.

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Speaker 8: It didn't get I mean, it didn't get any farther,

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Speaker 1: So now the first time I'm getting any vibe from

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Speaker 1: And so that if I don't get a second date,

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Speaker 3: You got one thousand dollars.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Amanda, good morning, welcome to the program. How are you,

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Speaker 1: Amanda doing great? So this is a situation with your

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Speaker 1: Thank you.

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Speaker 11: I'm in Fort Myers.

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Speaker 1: further south will help. We can get West b TV.

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Speaker 1: Would my moving there to be fine? Just look for

450
00:18:04,480 --> 00:18:07,120
Speaker 1: the south of It's great, okay, So no tell me more.

451
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Speaker 11: I will say I listened every day on iHeartRadio app

452
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Speaker 11: every single morning. That's good.

453
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Speaker 2: That's no, We're very happy.

454
00:18:14,600 --> 00:18:16,760
Speaker 1: So all right, So you wanted you want to sort

455
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Speaker 1: of shift your career in a way that that that

456
00:18:20,560 --> 00:18:24,640
Speaker 1: sort of met the challenges that you've met, but help

457
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Speaker 1: other people because it's kind of in the same realm.

458
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Speaker 1: But you need more education to do it. So you

459
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Speaker 1: went and got this training.

460
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Speaker 4: Yeah, so, actually you need to work in diabetes care

461
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Speaker 4: and get over one thousand hours continuing education. So and

462
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Speaker 4: I didn't have those hours because I wasn't working in

463
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Speaker 4: diabetes care and hadn't.

464
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Speaker 11: Been in paiment care for a while.

465
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Speaker 4: So I found a position that was a diabetes educator

466
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Speaker 4: position where they would help me get the certification and

467
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Speaker 4: sit for my exam and get those hours.

468
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Speaker 11: And it just so happened to be in Florida.

469
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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, so there's actually training. It's a big deal.

470
00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:04,760
Speaker 1: It affects you. It's it's kind of immersed with your

471
00:19:04,800 --> 00:19:06,160
Speaker 1: life and all that. So this is this is good,

472
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Speaker 1: So you do the training.

473
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Speaker 4: Yeah, So I sold my house in a couple of days,

474
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Speaker 4: moved down to Florida. In a month, my boyfriend came

475
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Speaker 4: with we've got dogs.

476
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Speaker 11: We moved down.

477
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Speaker 4: Here, and so he knew, you know, we moved our

478
00:19:18,040 --> 00:19:20,640
Speaker 4: whole life for me to get this certification and work.

479
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Speaker 11: In this field. So I, you know, I've been working

480
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Speaker 11: and studying. We need to study. The exam is very intense.

481
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Speaker 4: So I was studying for months, making sacrifices to do that,

482
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Speaker 4: and you know, exam day come. He happened to be

483
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Speaker 4: on a boy's trip during that time. It was on

484
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Speaker 4: a Friday, and I didn't hear from him.

485
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Speaker 11: All day.

486
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Speaker 4: I didn't get a hey, good luck today, or how'd

487
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Speaker 4: your exam go? He didn't even answer my phone call

488
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Speaker 4: when I called him after I passed my exam. So

489
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Speaker 4: that was very hard for me because he is, you know,

490
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Speaker 4: my partner and my biggest support, and.

491
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Speaker 1: This isn't something where like he maybe didn't understand the

492
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Speaker 1: significance of it, right, Like, I don't know. Maybe I

493
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Speaker 1: could be with somebody who has something going on at

494
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Speaker 1: work and I don't realize exactly what a big deal

495
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Speaker 1: it is or how hard it is, or I mean,

496
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Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of of a devil's advocate position here.

497
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Speaker 2: But I don't know.

498
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Speaker 1: Maybe you in one employee of the month and he

499
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Speaker 1: doesn't realize how competitive that is or something, And so

500
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Speaker 1: I don't know, he didn't make a big deal of

501
00:20:24,280 --> 00:20:25,800
Speaker 1: it because where he works is not a big deal.

502
00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:28,800
Speaker 1: I don't know, but this is something that is fundamental

503
00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:30,919
Speaker 1: to who you are because you're affected by it.

504
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Speaker 2: As a diabetic.

505
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Speaker 1: You moved both of your lives to a new state

506
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Speaker 1: in order for you to pursue this. Obviously, passing this

507
00:20:39,800 --> 00:20:41,720
Speaker 1: exam was a big deal to you because I assume

508
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Speaker 1: you can't do the job if you don't pass the exam, right, yeah, exact,

509
00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:48,040
Speaker 1: So then that would have been a big I mean,

510
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Speaker 1: if anything, I would think the guy selfishly would want

511
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Speaker 1: to know if you passed the exam because we just

512
00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:54,600
Speaker 1: moved for you to do this. If you don't pass

513
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Speaker 1: the examit and you can't do it, then what did

514
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Speaker 1: we do? So if nothing else, I would think for

515
00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:00,720
Speaker 1: his own personal interest, he would be asking you these questions.

516
00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:03,520
Speaker 1: But he should be asking because he cares about you.

517
00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:06,080
Speaker 1: He didn't ask you sod that ever come up? Were

518
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Speaker 1: you like in passing later like a few weeks later, like,

519
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Speaker 1: oh remember that thing we moved here for, like I

520
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Speaker 1: can do it?

521
00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:13,520
Speaker 2: Jack asked?

522
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Speaker 11: Right right? Yeah.

523
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Speaker 4: So actually he finally texted me later that day and

524
00:21:19,320 --> 00:21:21,600
Speaker 4: was like, hey, what's up. And I was like, did

525
00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:26,520
Speaker 4: you forget what today was? And he rent was due

526
00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:29,040
Speaker 4: that day, so he's like, I paid you rent earlier

527
00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:35,600
Speaker 4: and he literally totally forgot what day it was. And yeah,

528
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Speaker 4: when he came home Sunday, then we had to talk

529
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Speaker 4: about it.

530
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Speaker 11: But he didn't even feel bad about it. So that's

531
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Speaker 11: it's all of that.

532
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Speaker 2: You know, this is not a minor thing like this isuance.

533
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Speaker 1: I you know, I forgot about the anniversary of the

534
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Speaker 1: anniversary of the anniversary or something. I mean this is

535
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Speaker 1: this was a major fundamental thing in your life, and

536
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Speaker 1: he just forgot about it. And then when when you

537
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Speaker 1: asked about it, when you told him, hey, that hurt

538
00:21:56,760 --> 00:21:58,960
Speaker 1: my feelings, he was kind of like, are you seeing

539
00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:00,639
Speaker 1: this kind of apathy in other ways?

540
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Speaker 2: Or is it just with this? I mean, like, is

541
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Speaker 2: he is? Is he less thoughtful than he was?

542
00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:09,000
Speaker 1: And look, I realize people when they first meet and

543
00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:12,199
Speaker 1: then years in, it's not the same level of intensity, sadly,

544
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Speaker 1: but like, is he vastly, wildly less less thoughtful than

545
00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:18,240
Speaker 1: he was three years ago?

546
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Speaker 11: Yes? Yes, much less thoughtful? And this year has been

547
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Speaker 11: challenging with our move.

548
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Speaker 1: Yeah, is there any resentment? I feel like he's harboring

549
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Speaker 1: any Like is he unhappy? Again, not to not acknowledge

550
00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:35,640
Speaker 1: your accomplishment, but like, is he just is he unhappy

551
00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:38,600
Speaker 1: to be there? Because like, is he realizing he didn't

552
00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:39,520
Speaker 1: want to do this? Now?

553
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Speaker 11: I don't think so.

554
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Speaker 4: He actually I never wanted to move to Florida, So

555
00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:49,240
Speaker 4: he actually was someone who wanted to move somewhere warm.

556
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Speaker 4: So you know, we've have that talk and he seems

557
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Speaker 4: really happy here.

558
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:55,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's got to go. He's got to go. We're

559
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Speaker 1: done with him.

560
00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:57,080
Speaker 2: But I don't like it.

561
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Speaker 1: I don't like it. I don't like it. You're telling

562
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Speaker 1: me this is a trend. He's becoming less and less awful.

563
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:03,360
Speaker 1: And we're not talking about like he used to buy

564
00:23:03,359 --> 00:23:06,000
Speaker 1: me flowers once a month and now he doesn't. We're

565
00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:07,600
Speaker 1: talking you know, or he used to take me to

566
00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:11,959
Speaker 1: dinner more, or we're talking about you guys, move your

567
00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:14,919
Speaker 1: lives together. This is something that affects you. This is

568
00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:16,919
Speaker 1: something that you want to change in your life to

569
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:19,800
Speaker 1: help other people. This is something you had to work towards.

570
00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:22,120
Speaker 1: This is something that was probably very difficult to achieve.

571
00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:25,440
Speaker 1: You achieved it, and he didn't acknowledge it. He forgot

572
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Speaker 1: about it, and then when you told him it hurt

573
00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:30,960
Speaker 1: your feelings, then he wasn't like, oh my god, I

574
00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:33,480
Speaker 1: was so wrapped up in my trip and I don't

575
00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:36,119
Speaker 1: know we were traveling, and like, I, you know, I

576
00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:37,879
Speaker 1: just can't believe I was in a different mode. I

577
00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 1: cannot believe I forgot about this. I'm so sorry. Let's

578
00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:43,199
Speaker 1: let me make it up to you, like, because maybe

579
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:46,479
Speaker 1: then you could say like, yeah, that sucks, but I

580
00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:49,560
Speaker 1: get it. I get how people get distracted and whatever.

581
00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:52,439
Speaker 2: No, that's the thing for me is that when you

582
00:23:52,440 --> 00:23:55,200
Speaker 2: asked him about it, that he didn't he didn't.

583
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Speaker 1: Sort of like even then, he didn't lament, like even then,

584
00:23:57,680 --> 00:24:01,640
Speaker 1: he wasn't like for a fact, you know, Oh my god,

585
00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:02,439
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry.

586
00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:03,600
Speaker 2: I don't like it.

587
00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 1: He's got to go. Sorry, man, he's got to go.

588
00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:07,000
Speaker 1: It's gonna be it's gonna be nice. So you're gonna

589
00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:09,439
Speaker 1: get your own place, and you got this, got this

590
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:12,760
Speaker 1: big job and promotion, new city, a whole new crop

591
00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:13,879
Speaker 1: of man, you're gonna love it.

592
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:17,960
Speaker 2: I mean, is there any other? Is there any other?

593
00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:18,560
Speaker 2: Take here?

594
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:22,520
Speaker 12: No, I'm big on celebrating accomplishments. You know, you work

595
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:24,840
Speaker 12: hard for something, your partner should be there to support

596
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:27,240
Speaker 12: you in those times. And he's you know, you brought

597
00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:29,000
Speaker 12: it to his attention and he still didn't try to

598
00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:29,520
Speaker 12: fix it.

599
00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:32,320
Speaker 3: And that's showing you that he's just not the one.

600
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Speaker 12: I am my opinion, because if you're not gonna celebrate

601
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Speaker 12: my wins a whill, if.

602
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Speaker 1: It's a one time thing and he's and he's apologetic

603
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:42,320
Speaker 1: and truly has remorse, then I think that that's that

604
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:45,680
Speaker 1: can happen, but it sounds like it's becoming a theme

605
00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:50,120
Speaker 1: and there was no remorse eight five five three five.

606
00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 1: I want to take some phone calls on this, Amanda.

607
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:54,320
Speaker 1: We're gonna talk about you now behind your back. But

608
00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:56,880
Speaker 1: thanks for listening on the iHeartRadio app and and good

609
00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 1: luck and let us know what you decide.

610
00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:00,840
Speaker 11: Thank you right so much?

611
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:02,760
Speaker 3: Come visit and party.

612
00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, no kidding.

613
00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:05,560
Speaker 1: What do you guys say, have a room in the

614
00:25:05,560 --> 00:25:08,159
Speaker 1: house now it sounds like right true, what's for us?

615
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:10,239
Speaker 2: What do you guys? I mean, I don't know if

616
00:25:10,359 --> 00:25:11,560
Speaker 2: it is there another side to this.

617
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,359
Speaker 6: No, so my husband, you guys know my husband, Hobby.

618
00:25:14,359 --> 00:25:16,920
Speaker 6: He does not show out of emotion for certain things

619
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:18,800
Speaker 6: that may can tell him the biggest best news in

620
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:19,920
Speaker 6: the world, and he's just like.

621
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:21,199
Speaker 2: That's really cool.

622
00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:23,960
Speaker 6: Like it's very like there's no celebration. There's no like

623
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:27,119
Speaker 6: you know, popping bodels and like celebrating with Convetti. However,

624
00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:28,560
Speaker 6: if I went to him and was like, hey, like

625
00:25:28,640 --> 00:25:30,880
Speaker 6: that bothered me, Like you didn't really seem to acknowledge

626
00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:33,200
Speaker 6: this big accomplishment that I've worked so hard for even

627
00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:35,520
Speaker 6: before you came in the picture, and I've accomplished this

628
00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:39,000
Speaker 6: and you really didn't celebrate me. He would apologize, He

629
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:41,200
Speaker 6: would take accountability. He would say, all right, I'll do better.

630
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:42,600
Speaker 6: You know, I'm sorry about that, you know, because he

631
00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:45,920
Speaker 6: doesn't realize, for example, our industry what certain things mean, right,

632
00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:48,680
Speaker 6: or like what certain accomplishments mean to me even personally.

633
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:51,560
Speaker 6: I don't blame him a fireman, right, like he's running

634
00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:54,159
Speaker 6: into fires. Like I wouldn't understand their accomplishments either. But

635
00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:56,320
Speaker 6: it's about accountability. It's about just being like, hey, you're

636
00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:59,040
Speaker 6: my girl, right like near my husband or my wife.

637
00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:01,640
Speaker 6: Like we're going to celebrate each other forever. Like Kiki said,

638
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:02,320
Speaker 6: I'm big on that.

639
00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, and maybe not everything, maybe he doesn't celebrate everything

640
00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:09,000
Speaker 1: you ever did, but like this is just so fundamental too.

641
00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:10,879
Speaker 2: It is right.

642
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:13,399
Speaker 1: They move their entire lives for this, Like if she

643
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:17,600
Speaker 1: hadn't succeeded in this, then that sort of changes, you know,

644
00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:18,960
Speaker 1: the entire direction of things.

645
00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:20,879
Speaker 3: It's given he a secret hater, you know.

646
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 12: Yeah, sometimes you can be in relationships and friendships with

647
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:27,400
Speaker 12: people who secretly despise you. Were you know, secretly jealous

648
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:29,920
Speaker 12: of the accomplishments that she's been able to do. So

649
00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:32,680
Speaker 12: if he's being weird like this this early, like, get

650
00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:33,200
Speaker 12: rid of him.

651
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:33,480
Speaker 13: Girl?

652
00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:36,040
Speaker 2: Yeah is it Rana? Is that how you say your name?

653
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 11: Yeah?

654
00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:38,920
Speaker 2: Hi, good morning. What do you think there?

655
00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 8: Go?

656
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:43,960
Speaker 13: I say, go, I'm a dietician and those exams are

657
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:47,840
Speaker 13: hard and some places will even pay you more for

658
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:51,080
Speaker 13: taking those exams, and you could get a higher salary

659
00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:53,439
Speaker 13: for it. I just she should be that should be

660
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:56,520
Speaker 13: on his mind, Like my girlfriend's gonna get more money

661
00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:59,879
Speaker 13: now because she passed us exam. I mean, it's just

662
00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:01,880
Speaker 13: his heart and it could have someone go through all

663
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:04,840
Speaker 13: of that and then not get anything. I get any

664
00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 13: congratulations or a gift or anything.

665
00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:07,960
Speaker 2: Yeah.

666
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:10,639
Speaker 13: When I took my exam, my husband waited outside for me.

667
00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:14,840
Speaker 13: Oh yeah, because I was either going to cry or

668
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 13: I was going to pass. Yeah, Like I need someone.

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Speaker 11: There, and she needed someone there for her. I think

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Speaker 11: she needs to go.

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Speaker 7: And it's tied to a diagnosis, like it's a health

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Speaker 7: issue for her, so it's even more important and deep.

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Speaker 3: So I agree.

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Speaker 11: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's giving that he's about himself and maybe not

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Speaker 1: about her at all. So I don't like it. Thank

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Speaker 1: you so much, have a good day. Thank yeah, a

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Speaker 1: bunch of techs. She needs to leave. They aren't married.

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Speaker 1: He wasn't apologetic. Red Flag Freedom, Danitas in Freedom and

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Speaker 1: someone else said, yeah, if you feel bad about it later,

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Speaker 1: or even if you wanted to support her achievements, you

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Speaker 1: could have done something celebratory, like by her flowers, or

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Speaker 1: take her out to eat to celebrate or something. He

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Speaker 1: had no thoughts about celebrating her achievement. She should go. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think she should go, and I think we.

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Speaker 2: All agree on that. I think, wow, we're all alive

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Speaker 2: for one Yes,