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Speaker 1: we got it for you. Here. It is the Strawberry

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Speaker 1: letter Thank you. Subject. I want to sleep with my pastor,

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I am a forty four year old

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Speaker 1: woman and I've been attending a church in my city

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Speaker 1: for about seven months now. It's a small church and

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Speaker 1: I love the members and I am truly blessed weekly

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Speaker 1: by the beautiful sermons the pastor preaches. The pastor is

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Speaker 1: my age, single and fine. After I began attending the church,

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Speaker 1: the pastor and I became friends on social media, which

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Speaker 1: wasn't unusual because he's big on promoting the church through

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Speaker 1: social media, and like I said, he's single. We started

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Speaker 1: wanted to share. Our messages were never inappropriate. He sent

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Speaker 1: comment on the daily scripture he posted online. He'd respond

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Speaker 1: I couldn't wait for our church to resume normal services

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Speaker 1: so I could see him while he's giving us the word.

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Speaker 1: All I can think about is giving him the business.

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Speaker 1: I want desperately to sleep with my pastor, but he's

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Speaker 1: different now when I see him, he's become very distant

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Speaker 1: So I haven't tried to text him because I don't

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Speaker 1: want to get my feelings hurt. My mom told me

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Speaker 1: that God revealed to him that I had indecent thoughts

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Speaker 1: just turn my feelings off, so I'm thinking about leaving

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Speaker 1: his church. What if he's feeling the same way about

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Speaker 1: me and he can't express it, what should I do? Well,

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Speaker 1: you say he's single, right, you said that in the letter.

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Speaker 1: You said he's single and fine, and of course he's

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Speaker 1: a man and he's a man of the cloth. But

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Speaker 1: he's also a man. So if he was interested in

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Speaker 1: I'm sure he would have no problem asking you out

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Speaker 1: has never been inappropriate with you, you said, his responses

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Speaker 1: said all of that. Clearly you're no longer there for

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Speaker 1: you can think about is fornicating with your pastor. Keep

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Speaker 1: you know, and have impure thoughts and all that. But

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Speaker 1: they have a fine pastor. Because you're you're talking about

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Speaker 1: sleep with him too. What I'm saying is, please stop

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Speaker 1: trying to tempt your pastor. Just go to church, get

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Speaker 1: alone for now, Steve. Yeah, let's gon't get into this

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Speaker 1: let's go. You fought it four years old, been in

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Speaker 1: the beautiful sermons that your pastor preachers him. I just

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Speaker 1: made a note of that on my paper. Oh okay,

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Speaker 1: the pastor is my age, single and fine. The pastor's

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Speaker 1: time told you you was fine. Hello, holding Steve. We'll

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Speaker 1: have part two of your response of Steve Harvey's response

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letter for today. The subject is I want to

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Speaker 1: come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject I

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Speaker 1: blessed by the beautiful sermons that the pastor preachers. Once again,

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, the pastor is my age, single and fine, keyword.

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Speaker 1: church and you all wasn't unusual, But y'all been friends

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Speaker 1: That's three times we started interacting by liking each other's

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Speaker 1: He didn't kept it clean. He sent group texts about

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Speaker 1: He didn't And I tell him a comment on the scripture.

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Speaker 1: He posted that you don't give a damn about these scriptures.

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Speaker 1: Stop bringing these scriptures up. Appreciate beautiful simmons. Stop. I

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Speaker 1: that's so nice, So happy you could be there. I

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Speaker 1: want nothing more than to please my membership. Oh Lord Jesus,

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Speaker 1: he said that to me. He ain't said nothing. Here

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Speaker 1: I couldn't wait for our church to resume normal services

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Speaker 1: So I'm thinking about leaving his church. I bet he

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Speaker 1: the same way about me? He'd have told you. See,

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Speaker 1: this week? I don't think so. You have trumped up

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Speaker 1: this whole imaginary relationship. He up there giving the word

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Speaker 1: thinking about disrobe in the pastor and just giving him

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Speaker 1: the business. But he ain't looking at you doing the sermons.

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