1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,159 Speaker 1: Welcome to can't fully reckless the production of iHeart Radio 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:16,480 Speaker 1: and the Black Effects, and just like that, welcome back 3 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:20,080 Speaker 1: to you on another carefully reckless episode with your girl Jess. Hilarious. 4 00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:22,400 Speaker 1: So y'all know fix the message what I do? And 5 00:00:22,480 --> 00:00:25,160 Speaker 1: I still have not gotten my intro. So y'all ain't 6 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:29,400 Speaker 1: spam Charlemagne's comments enough. Y'all need to spam our Heart. 7 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: Y'all need to spam the Black Effect. Y'all need to 8 00:00:32,159 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 1: spam breakfast Club dj Envy because if dj Envy he 9 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:38,559 Speaker 1: pay attentions to his comments, if y'all go down there, 10 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:42,320 Speaker 1: he gonna send it to Charlemagne, and Charlomagne gonna see. 11 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:45,400 Speaker 1: So make sure y'all even spam my goddamn comments, Jess. 12 00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:48,080 Speaker 1: We need to just fix my mess intro because it 13 00:00:48,159 --> 00:00:55,760 Speaker 1: conna be something like, way are you gonna fix my 14 00:00:55,920 --> 00:01:00,560 Speaker 1: mess today? They could be sorry like that. No it's 15 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:04,040 Speaker 1: not over here looking like bitch. No, it could be 16 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:05,480 Speaker 1: saying I need a jingle jam. 17 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 2: You know who I can call up? I can call 18 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:09,759 Speaker 2: Nick Cannon. He can't make no rap songs. We can 19 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:11,480 Speaker 2: make a jingle. That's what all right? 20 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:13,760 Speaker 1: He is the jingle King. I ain't we can do that. 21 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:15,919 Speaker 1: I can get that all right, all right, that's fine. 22 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:17,679 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna have to reach out to my buddy 23 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 1: Nick Cannon and see if he can write me a 24 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:23,040 Speaker 1: jingle or just seeing a Valentine. Somebody gotta write me 25 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 1: a jingle or pretty V. I think, oh, I can 26 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:30,160 Speaker 1: get all of them on there, pretty V. No, it's 27 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 1: it's given Nickelodeon all that, ain't it? 28 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 2: No mine? All right? All right, so just fix my mask. 29 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:37,119 Speaker 2: That's We're just gonna have to do it like that, 30 00:01:37,680 --> 00:01:40,080 Speaker 2: all right. This is a story, it's written. 31 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:42,840 Speaker 1: We ain't got no voice memos this week again because 32 00:01:42,959 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 1: people people's boyfriends and girlfriends is catching on to there. 33 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 1: It's it's like, bitch you over here talking about our 34 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 1: business and just like I don't know your voice, bitch 35 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:55,160 Speaker 1: y'all forget y'allselves in trouble chap. I'm sorry, I can't 36 00:01:55,160 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: say once he gets you hitting that choke hold. So 37 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:01,400 Speaker 1: but hopefully ain't none of you all getting choked behind 38 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: sending in voice notes. So, hey, go to the first 39 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 1: story about to dive right in. Hey, Jess, So the 40 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:09,440 Speaker 1: story I'm about to tell you I might sound like 41 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:11,240 Speaker 1: a bad person, but trust me, I'm not. 42 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 2: Lol. 43 00:02:12,760 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 1: So I was recently messing with this guy and he 44 00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 1: literally was a complete bum. 45 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 2: Oh my god. Oh no, a complete dream. Oh my god. 46 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:24,360 Speaker 1: He was literally a complete dream. But he started to 47 00:02:24,400 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 1: become very clingy. Oh my god, girl, I've been in 48 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:31,120 Speaker 1: many a situations like that. Me personally, I love clingy, 49 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: but sometimes he made me feel like I couldn't breathe 50 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:37,480 Speaker 1: or had any personal space. That's what clingy is. So 51 00:02:37,680 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 1: she's definitely describing that it was never intrusive, but very overwhelming. 52 00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:45,519 Speaker 1: As time went by, I would tell him how I 53 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:48,239 Speaker 1: feel about it, and things will change, but it would 54 00:02:48,280 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 1: eventually go back to the same thing shortly after I 55 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:55,280 Speaker 1: told him that I needed space. Okay, he totally respected it, 56 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:58,639 Speaker 1: which I loved, but it also caused us to. 57 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:01,080 Speaker 2: Fall back from each other a lot. Oh wow. 58 00:03:01,520 --> 00:03:03,680 Speaker 1: And it may sound fucked up, but I really didn't 59 00:03:03,720 --> 00:03:08,080 Speaker 1: feel bothered by it, Okay, right, So no, So then 60 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 1: it's not that that was just you showing your truest feelings. 61 00:03:11,520 --> 00:03:14,480 Speaker 1: You were just being very, very honest, and it's okay. 62 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:18,560 Speaker 1: We always make the mistake of thinking and thinking that 63 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:21,160 Speaker 1: we're hurting somebody's feelings by just telling them the truth. No, 64 00:03:21,280 --> 00:03:24,760 Speaker 1: the truth is like it's supposed to hurt. Sometimes the 65 00:03:24,800 --> 00:03:27,280 Speaker 1: truth doesn't always have to be a happy thing. It 66 00:03:27,280 --> 00:03:31,200 Speaker 1: can be very uncomfortable and it's okay. It's how you felt, 67 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:35,320 Speaker 1: So don't feel like that girl. Continuing now, girl, you 68 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:37,280 Speaker 1: know us females have our needs sometimes. 69 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:39,360 Speaker 2: Lol. I think you know where I'm going with this one. 70 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:40,160 Speaker 2: I think I do SCOO. 71 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:42,560 Speaker 1: So I was drunk one day and I went to 72 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:45,040 Speaker 1: a little brunch with my girls and got to lit 73 00:03:45,280 --> 00:03:47,920 Speaker 1: and decided to go over my excess house right after. 74 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:50,280 Speaker 2: And you know what we did, and we did the 75 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:52,080 Speaker 2: do oh yeah? 76 00:03:52,240 --> 00:03:53,800 Speaker 1: Is this girl from Baltimore all time? And we did 77 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 1: the do She spelled deep do d e w like 78 00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:59,720 Speaker 1: mountain dew. Yes, you're from the way she's around away. 79 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:02,760 Speaker 1: That's all it was, though, nothing more and nothing less. 80 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 1: But shortly after that I left, I took a video 81 00:04:06,080 --> 00:04:08,360 Speaker 1: and posted it on my story, not knowing that there 82 00:04:08,440 --> 00:04:10,360 Speaker 1: was a huge ass hickey on my neck. 83 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:11,120 Speaker 2: Mmm. 84 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 1: Child. The guy who I broke it off with called 85 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: my phone about thirty minutes later and we were just talking. 86 00:04:18,200 --> 00:04:22,360 Speaker 1: Next thing, you know, I'm blocked. And I didn't even 87 00:04:22,400 --> 00:04:25,080 Speaker 1: realize that there was a hickey on my neck. Girl, 88 00:04:25,120 --> 00:04:27,039 Speaker 1: When I tell you, this man is hurt, he is 89 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:29,279 Speaker 1: so hurt, and I just don't know how I should 90 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 1: go about this situation. 91 00:04:31,040 --> 00:04:34,440 Speaker 2: What should I do? Hashtag help? Oh my gosh. 92 00:04:34,520 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: Okay, So the guy that you broke it off with 93 00:04:38,279 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 1: saw a huge ass hickey on your neck from your ex. 94 00:04:42,680 --> 00:04:45,039 Speaker 1: Let me ask you this because I feel like while 95 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 1: you put a lot of meat on the bone, you 96 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:50,880 Speaker 1: still left some meat off. Did he know about your ex? 97 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:53,440 Speaker 1: Did you tell him about your ex? And how recent 98 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:55,599 Speaker 1: is this ex? How much of an X is this 99 00:04:55,920 --> 00:04:59,680 Speaker 1: X shit? Because if he's doing shit like getting called 100 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:02,880 Speaker 1: when you need a little bit of Dyno dingy, then 101 00:05:03,560 --> 00:05:06,840 Speaker 1: y'all ain't over each Other's what that tells me. It 102 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:09,200 Speaker 1: also tells me that you may have been calling the 103 00:05:09,279 --> 00:05:13,880 Speaker 1: ex before he dropped off some Dino dingy. You never 104 00:05:13,920 --> 00:05:16,160 Speaker 1: really lost contact with him. Now you could have taken 105 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:19,360 Speaker 1: a break from your ex. And we do this thing 106 00:05:19,640 --> 00:05:23,720 Speaker 1: called getting over someone with someone else. We do that 107 00:05:23,720 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 1: that's human, that's actually on both sides. That's not a 108 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:29,279 Speaker 1: woman thing, it's not a man thing. That is like 109 00:05:29,440 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 1: a person thing, a human thing. Sometimes we may use 110 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 1: one person to get over another person, not realizing that 111 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:42,120 Speaker 1: we're never going to really be over this person or 112 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:47,160 Speaker 1: we're not over them yet, and we actually fuck up 113 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:51,159 Speaker 1: the new person who actually develops real feelings for us. 114 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:54,320 Speaker 1: And not to say that it doesn't go the other way, 115 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:58,680 Speaker 1: because you could have had genuine feelings for this new 116 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:02,120 Speaker 1: guy too, But you didn't close the door on your 117 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:03,240 Speaker 1: ex like you didn't. 118 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:03,880 Speaker 2: You didn't. 119 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: It's like you tried to move on before you were 120 00:06:06,360 --> 00:06:09,520 Speaker 1: ready to move on. Now, you didn't say that y'all 121 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:11,400 Speaker 1: were together or anything. You said that y'all were just 122 00:06:11,440 --> 00:06:13,839 Speaker 1: talking and all of that. But if he's questioning you 123 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:17,599 Speaker 1: about hickeys from a previous situation or just hickeys period, 124 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 1: then y'all got a little bit somewhat serious because if 125 00:06:20,480 --> 00:06:25,120 Speaker 1: he can have the audacity, then he then y'all was 126 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:25,839 Speaker 1: on that term. 127 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:27,240 Speaker 2: So I need to know. 128 00:06:27,640 --> 00:06:30,039 Speaker 1: Did you get into a relationship with the new dude? 129 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:32,960 Speaker 1: Like where did you ever tell me he was your boyfriend? 130 00:06:33,600 --> 00:06:37,040 Speaker 1: Did he ever tell you you were his girlfriend? And 131 00:06:37,520 --> 00:06:40,719 Speaker 1: did you ever agree to those terms, whether it was slight, 132 00:06:40,839 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 1: whether you did against your will or not, the decision 133 00:06:44,640 --> 00:06:46,160 Speaker 1: that you made if it was. 134 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:48,640 Speaker 2: Yes, you were his girlfriend, y'all worked together. 135 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:53,600 Speaker 1: And then using somebody to get over somebody bites you 136 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:55,840 Speaker 1: in the ass when you got to break it off 137 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 1: with the new person and go back and fuck with 138 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:03,719 Speaker 1: the old person. Especially if you told the new person 139 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:06,640 Speaker 1: that you were over or trying to get over, or 140 00:07:06,680 --> 00:07:09,320 Speaker 1: you were just getting out of something. If you even 141 00:07:09,400 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 1: gave them that little bit, then that clears up a 142 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:13,920 Speaker 1: little bit because he can't say he never knew about 143 00:07:13,920 --> 00:07:16,760 Speaker 1: this person. He can't say that because some guys will 144 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:19,560 Speaker 1: try to play stupid like, oh damn, I thought this 145 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:19,760 Speaker 1: was the. 146 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:21,720 Speaker 2: Nigga I ain't have to worry about. Uh. 147 00:07:21,760 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 1: Well, no, you chose to believe that you didn't have 148 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:26,320 Speaker 1: to worry about him. You ignored everything I said in 149 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:29,119 Speaker 1: the beginning because you thought that a lot of people 150 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:31,120 Speaker 1: have any minds that they can try to take you 151 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 1: away from somebody too. But I'll let you know about 152 00:07:33,720 --> 00:07:35,440 Speaker 1: this person. I'll let you know I was fresh out 153 00:07:35,440 --> 00:07:37,520 Speaker 1: of a relationship. I'll let you know that I might 154 00:07:37,560 --> 00:07:41,680 Speaker 1: not be fully over this nigga. You know, this is 155 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:43,559 Speaker 1: the meat that you kind of left off the bone. 156 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:45,960 Speaker 1: And that's okay, because I want an update, Oh I 157 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:50,880 Speaker 1: want an update. And also, do you think your ex 158 00:07:51,040 --> 00:07:53,960 Speaker 1: left that hickey on your neck, that big ass hickey 159 00:07:54,080 --> 00:07:58,160 Speaker 1: on your neck on purpose? And did you let your 160 00:07:58,200 --> 00:08:00,600 Speaker 1: ex know about the new nigga that you would dealing with, 161 00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 1: Because you have to be honest to both people. It 162 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:06,720 Speaker 1: doesn't matter why you broke up with the AX, it 163 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:08,400 Speaker 1: doesn't matter if you're trying to move on, you have 164 00:08:08,480 --> 00:08:12,520 Speaker 1: to leave that line of open honesty still because you 165 00:08:12,520 --> 00:08:13,760 Speaker 1: don't know if you're gonna go back. 166 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:15,760 Speaker 2: You don't know if you're gonna fully move forward. 167 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:19,920 Speaker 1: So you have to keep everybody aligned with how you're 168 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:22,840 Speaker 1: feeling at all times. And that's just to cover your ass, 169 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:25,920 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Because the truth can be twisted, 170 00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:29,040 Speaker 1: but not if it comes from the horse's mouth. And 171 00:08:29,160 --> 00:08:31,920 Speaker 1: whenever you're feeling something, whenever your feelings changed, you. 172 00:08:31,920 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 2: Gotta communicate that. 173 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:35,679 Speaker 1: Like if you even felt like you was going to 174 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:37,560 Speaker 1: go back to the AX, you should have let new 175 00:08:37,640 --> 00:08:40,520 Speaker 1: YO know, Like, look, I'm not over them, I. 176 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:42,160 Speaker 2: Still think about them, you know what I'm saying. 177 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:44,800 Speaker 1: Because even all right, so my parents are divorced, right 178 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 1: and it's only their second year being divorced, they both 179 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:52,440 Speaker 1: are still very honest about their feelings toward each other, 180 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:57,439 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Now, that's a different comparison 181 00:08:57,520 --> 00:09:00,440 Speaker 1: because they've been together thirty plus years and they just 182 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:03,720 Speaker 1: broke it off. However, the honesty is still the same. 183 00:09:04,240 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 1: You know, you're not gonna jump in a new relationship, 184 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 1: especially if you ain't gonna close this door. If you 185 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 1: being you just was married thirty something years and to 186 00:09:12,040 --> 00:09:14,520 Speaker 1: one person who you only know that person, it's gonna 187 00:09:14,559 --> 00:09:16,000 Speaker 1: kind of be hard for you to jump out there 188 00:09:16,040 --> 00:09:18,880 Speaker 1: and give somebody else new You're all. 189 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 2: Somebody knew you're all. You know what I'm saying. 190 00:09:21,559 --> 00:09:26,600 Speaker 1: So, ladies, just be careful when when moving from a 191 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:32,280 Speaker 1: relationship that was extensive and then dating new people, you're 192 00:09:32,400 --> 00:09:35,559 Speaker 1: kind of vulnerable and this new person will come along 193 00:09:35,559 --> 00:09:37,320 Speaker 1: and sweep you off your feet, or at least that's 194 00:09:37,360 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 1: how it'll feel, you know, because she said she likes 195 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:46,120 Speaker 1: clingy until it's the wrong motherfucker being clingy, you know 196 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:48,520 Speaker 1: what I mean. Clingy is cool until it's the wrong 197 00:09:48,640 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 1: motherfucker that's clinging to you, because then you got to 198 00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:53,480 Speaker 1: how to You gotta try to figure out how to 199 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:57,360 Speaker 1: unclean that person. And if he's already a clingy person anyway, 200 00:09:57,400 --> 00:09:59,280 Speaker 1: if that's already his personality. 201 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:01,199 Speaker 2: It's gonna to be hard to switch up. 202 00:10:01,960 --> 00:10:04,840 Speaker 1: And if you're not a big fan of a clanky person, 203 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:07,200 Speaker 1: because what it sounds like is you do is you 204 00:10:07,280 --> 00:10:09,920 Speaker 1: do like clingy, You just like it from a certain person. 205 00:10:09,960 --> 00:10:12,560 Speaker 1: You like it as long as you're into the person. 206 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:15,120 Speaker 1: Nobody wants a clingy person to be honest with you 207 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:20,400 Speaker 1: unless both of you guys are okay with that. Like 208 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:24,000 Speaker 1: I'm clingy to my guy, I'm cleany with my boyfriend 209 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:29,240 Speaker 1: as he is clingy with me. Now, clingy is different. 210 00:10:29,280 --> 00:10:31,559 Speaker 1: We both have jobs that allows us to be gone 211 00:10:32,320 --> 00:10:35,319 Speaker 1: it will. It demands our time. So me and my 212 00:10:35,400 --> 00:10:37,920 Speaker 1: man gotta be clingy because we're not with each other 213 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:38,480 Speaker 1: every day. 214 00:10:38,520 --> 00:10:39,560 Speaker 2: He's a truck driver. 215 00:10:39,840 --> 00:10:42,720 Speaker 1: He has his own company, so he makes his own 216 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:45,840 Speaker 1: schedule and he fills that motherfucker up. I am my 217 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 1: own business. I am a stand up comedian. I'm an entertainer. 218 00:10:50,400 --> 00:10:54,520 Speaker 1: My job demands my time where I have to be 219 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:56,959 Speaker 1: in this place, in that place, different cities, different states, 220 00:10:57,360 --> 00:11:00,240 Speaker 1: every week, sometimes three times week. 221 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 2: I travel Listen. 222 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:05,440 Speaker 1: Just two weeks ago, I was me and my sister 223 00:11:05,600 --> 00:11:09,120 Speaker 1: was in three cities in twelve hours, three different states, 224 00:11:09,120 --> 00:11:09,960 Speaker 1: in twelve hours. 225 00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:12,040 Speaker 2: Crazy, you know what I mean. 226 00:11:12,120 --> 00:11:14,800 Speaker 1: So that's that's the type of job I have, you know, 227 00:11:14,960 --> 00:11:19,800 Speaker 1: So my time is demanded and accounted for, whether I 228 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:21,679 Speaker 1: like it or not. All I do is just say yes, 229 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:24,840 Speaker 1: I'm willing to do this on this date. So clangy. 230 00:11:24,920 --> 00:11:28,080 Speaker 2: It works for certain people. Certain people it does not. Also, 231 00:11:28,200 --> 00:11:30,840 Speaker 2: how old are you? That depends as well. Are you? 232 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 1: If you're younger, clingy is gonna be what you keep 233 00:11:33,679 --> 00:11:37,120 Speaker 1: running into, you know, because y'all y'all millennials, and well, 234 00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:39,439 Speaker 1: I'm a millennial. You may be gen Z, you may 235 00:11:39,440 --> 00:11:41,360 Speaker 1: be gen X. I don't know what's after that shit. 236 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 1: I don't got to ask my sister. I gotta get 237 00:11:43,240 --> 00:11:45,280 Speaker 1: the time capsules down for y'all asses. 238 00:11:45,720 --> 00:11:50,400 Speaker 2: But and then, what do you want? What do you want? 239 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:52,480 Speaker 1: Do you want a relationship? Do you not want to 240 00:11:52,520 --> 00:11:53,520 Speaker 1: be committed right now? 241 00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:56,479 Speaker 2: Like? What are you? How long was your last relationship 242 00:11:56,520 --> 00:11:57,160 Speaker 2: with your ex? 243 00:11:57,280 --> 00:11:59,959 Speaker 1: I need to know these things because I want to 244 00:12:00,160 --> 00:12:04,200 Speaker 1: be able to properly assess you because while it's easy 245 00:12:04,240 --> 00:12:07,240 Speaker 1: to say you should be with the new guy, don't 246 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:09,320 Speaker 1: let the new guy down, you know, because he didn't 247 00:12:09,360 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 1: he didn't do what the ex did and if in 248 00:12:11,679 --> 00:12:13,560 Speaker 1: your ex is the X for a reason, you should 249 00:12:13,559 --> 00:12:15,440 Speaker 1: just go be with the new guy. That's easy to 250 00:12:15,480 --> 00:12:20,960 Speaker 1: say that, but obviously you're stuck. Obviously you're stuck in 251 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:23,320 Speaker 1: a situation, or it was a situation. At one point, 252 00:12:23,360 --> 00:12:26,839 Speaker 1: you felt like you didn't want the ex and that 253 00:12:26,960 --> 00:12:29,760 Speaker 1: you wanted the new guy, but you didn't fully allow 254 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:30,959 Speaker 1: yourself to get over the. 255 00:12:30,960 --> 00:12:33,120 Speaker 2: Ex, so you started missing him. 256 00:12:33,160 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 1: And then you start critiquing what the new guy did, 257 00:12:36,320 --> 00:12:41,120 Speaker 1: and you started indirectly comparing them, subconsciously comparing them. Oh, well, 258 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:43,200 Speaker 1: he don't got with this new guy guy. I mean, 259 00:12:43,240 --> 00:12:45,400 Speaker 1: I liked the new guy, but he's annoying, and I 260 00:12:45,400 --> 00:12:47,840 Speaker 1: can just go back and did with We talk ourselves 261 00:12:47,920 --> 00:12:50,720 Speaker 1: into back into the ex's arms because that's where we 262 00:12:50,720 --> 00:12:51,719 Speaker 1: were most comfortable. 263 00:12:52,000 --> 00:12:55,120 Speaker 2: But comfortable ain't always good. You don't want to. 264 00:12:55,120 --> 00:12:58,040 Speaker 1: Get too comfortable somewhere because then you fall back into 265 00:12:58,080 --> 00:13:01,200 Speaker 1: old ways. I don't think think you need to be 266 00:13:01,240 --> 00:13:03,520 Speaker 1: worried about and see, I don't know because I don't 267 00:13:03,559 --> 00:13:04,679 Speaker 1: know how old you are, so you wanna have to 268 00:13:04,760 --> 00:13:06,680 Speaker 1: update me. I need to know how old you are, 269 00:13:06,720 --> 00:13:08,480 Speaker 1: because if you're a young girl, you do not need 270 00:13:08,520 --> 00:13:12,360 Speaker 1: to be worried about being caught in between two guys. 271 00:13:13,080 --> 00:13:15,760 Speaker 1: They need to be working on themselves before they get 272 00:13:15,760 --> 00:13:18,320 Speaker 1: caught up with a sexy red or a sukiyana. And 273 00:13:18,400 --> 00:13:20,920 Speaker 1: I don't believe you are either of the two, okay, 274 00:13:21,880 --> 00:13:23,400 Speaker 1: I don't you know, or a glu rilla. 275 00:13:23,600 --> 00:13:27,080 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. We have these these beautiful black. 276 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 1: Girls that are leading us some I don't know the 277 00:13:29,600 --> 00:13:31,280 Speaker 1: hell where, but they're leading. 278 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:31,880 Speaker 2: Okay. 279 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:35,599 Speaker 1: So while you seem very wholesome, I need you to 280 00:13:35,640 --> 00:13:37,240 Speaker 1: put some more meat up on that bone and get 281 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:38,880 Speaker 1: back to me, all right, and we're gonna move on 282 00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:41,400 Speaker 1: from that. If you love me, you'll listen to this 283 00:13:41,440 --> 00:13:43,400 Speaker 1: commercial and then we'll be right back. 284 00:13:44,720 --> 00:13:45,479 Speaker 2: And continuing. 285 00:13:46,240 --> 00:13:49,360 Speaker 1: Okay, Jess, I need help with my mess. So I've 286 00:13:49,400 --> 00:13:52,520 Speaker 1: been having these feelings that my man is cheating on me. 287 00:13:52,640 --> 00:13:53,800 Speaker 2: Oh well, girl, you probably right. 288 00:13:54,360 --> 00:13:57,640 Speaker 1: He's been acting distant and less communicative. He's usually an 289 00:13:57,720 --> 00:14:01,120 Speaker 1: affectionate person and always that's how he feels about me, 290 00:14:01,360 --> 00:14:05,280 Speaker 1: you know, for reassurance. Our past few days, our conversation 291 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:08,440 Speaker 1: started to get more and more dry. What about the 292 00:14:08,440 --> 00:14:12,360 Speaker 1: pussy girl? Oh sorry, y'all, this is her story, not mine. 293 00:14:12,720 --> 00:14:15,319 Speaker 1: And he would always hold my hand. There was none 294 00:14:15,360 --> 00:14:18,840 Speaker 1: of that. Oh wow. So last night I decided to 295 00:14:18,840 --> 00:14:21,720 Speaker 1: go through that phone. I know, that's right, I know 296 00:14:21,880 --> 00:14:24,400 Speaker 1: the dumbest thing I could ever do. No, it's not, 297 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:27,200 Speaker 1: it's not if you've been feeling it, girl, wait till 298 00:14:27,240 --> 00:14:27,800 Speaker 1: you go to sleep. 299 00:14:27,840 --> 00:14:29,320 Speaker 2: But I need to know this. 300 00:14:30,120 --> 00:14:32,400 Speaker 1: Did you take the phone and go in the kitchen, 301 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:34,760 Speaker 1: because some bitches make the mistake of trying to go 302 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:37,080 Speaker 1: through the niggaphone while he laying right there asleep, like 303 00:14:37,120 --> 00:14:39,360 Speaker 1: if he move in Budge, he can't just take his 304 00:14:39,400 --> 00:14:41,800 Speaker 1: goddamn phone back. And then he changed the password. Now 305 00:14:41,840 --> 00:14:44,000 Speaker 1: you beg at square one looking stupid because you're trying 306 00:14:44,040 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 1: to figure out the phone private. I know, take the 307 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:48,600 Speaker 1: phone and go in the garage. That's what it is, 308 00:14:48,640 --> 00:14:50,240 Speaker 1: all right. So she went through his phone last night. 309 00:14:50,240 --> 00:14:53,280 Speaker 1: I'm about to continue. I found everything I was looking for. 310 00:14:53,520 --> 00:14:55,680 Speaker 2: Oh my god. Saying that's why you needed to know? 311 00:14:55,880 --> 00:14:56,280 Speaker 2: All right? 312 00:14:56,520 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 1: It made me question am I doing everything right? And 313 00:14:59,080 --> 00:15:02,080 Speaker 1: what am I doing wrong? I was so hurt, at 314 00:15:02,080 --> 00:15:04,480 Speaker 1: a loss for words. He had been talking to this 315 00:15:04,520 --> 00:15:07,000 Speaker 1: girl from his job. Oh my god, ain't got the 316 00:15:07,000 --> 00:15:09,480 Speaker 1: worst fucking ones. When the bitch got to work, with 317 00:15:09,600 --> 00:15:14,160 Speaker 1: your nigga, and let me go ahead taking her out, 318 00:15:14,480 --> 00:15:19,680 Speaker 1: calling her beautiful and even sending our flowers. I haven't 319 00:15:19,680 --> 00:15:22,840 Speaker 1: gotten flowers from him in four years, oh my god, 320 00:15:23,320 --> 00:15:24,520 Speaker 1: and we've been together five. 321 00:15:24,720 --> 00:15:27,680 Speaker 2: That's your fucking fault. I didn't handle all this well. 322 00:15:28,120 --> 00:15:30,160 Speaker 1: After I was done looking at the dumb shit, I 323 00:15:30,200 --> 00:15:33,320 Speaker 1: woke his dumb ass up. I know it's right and 324 00:15:33,400 --> 00:15:35,760 Speaker 1: hit him in his face with the phone and immediately 325 00:15:35,800 --> 00:15:37,560 Speaker 1: started spansing out and fucking. 326 00:15:37,240 --> 00:15:37,920 Speaker 2: All his shit up. 327 00:15:38,320 --> 00:15:42,480 Speaker 1: Oh my god, that escalated very quickly. Jesus, what the 328 00:15:42,480 --> 00:15:44,320 Speaker 1: fuck you've been listening to the glorilla bitch? 329 00:15:45,000 --> 00:15:48,400 Speaker 2: Why you doing this? All right? Let me continue. 330 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:51,960 Speaker 1: All he did was deny and couldn't even own up 331 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:54,280 Speaker 1: to it. Well after you punched him in his face 332 00:15:54,320 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 1: with a fucking phone. I wouldn't be able to admit 333 00:15:56,360 --> 00:16:00,200 Speaker 1: much either, which hurt me even more that he couldn't it, 334 00:16:00,640 --> 00:16:02,600 Speaker 1: because that means he would have kept doing it. 335 00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:03,560 Speaker 2: Well. 336 00:16:03,560 --> 00:16:05,880 Speaker 1: I don't think nobody gonna want to see Willie lumplump 337 00:16:05,920 --> 00:16:08,080 Speaker 1: after after you got done with him and shit and 338 00:16:08,080 --> 00:16:09,760 Speaker 1: he got wait for his face to clear up to 339 00:16:09,760 --> 00:16:11,480 Speaker 1: get back on any of these dat naps. 340 00:16:11,520 --> 00:16:13,520 Speaker 2: Bitch. I wouldn't even want to go into work. 341 00:16:13,560 --> 00:16:16,960 Speaker 1: I know the Vinch day he fucking with at work, Like, ill, exactly, 342 00:16:17,120 --> 00:16:20,520 Speaker 1: I got a bitch, honey, I've never had my heartbroken before, 343 00:16:21,080 --> 00:16:23,880 Speaker 1: and all I can say is, girl, this shit hurts. 344 00:16:23,880 --> 00:16:27,480 Speaker 1: Oh you're a first time Okay, you're you were a 345 00:16:27,600 --> 00:16:28,800 Speaker 1: vergin to the heartbreak. 346 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:30,720 Speaker 2: That's why you handled it so physically. 347 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:35,280 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, so I'm going to stop you right here. 348 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:38,880 Speaker 1: You was never supposed to put your hands on the man. 349 00:16:39,080 --> 00:16:41,160 Speaker 1: I know it's a lot of y'all listening to this, like, no, 350 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:43,240 Speaker 1: she did what the fuck she was supposed to do? 351 00:16:43,520 --> 00:16:46,280 Speaker 1: Bitch like no, no, gra gra keep it a stuck 352 00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:48,680 Speaker 1: like all right, yeah, I get it. You want to 353 00:16:48,720 --> 00:16:52,040 Speaker 1: be ratchet and rye Ryan and like Lorilla just said, 354 00:16:52,160 --> 00:16:54,520 Speaker 1: she puts she put it out there. Then listen, in 355 00:16:54,560 --> 00:16:57,960 Speaker 1: your twenties, turn it the fuck up. If you delusional, 356 00:16:58,240 --> 00:17:00,680 Speaker 1: turn it the fuck up. You gotta get all your 357 00:17:00,760 --> 00:17:04,440 Speaker 1: toxicity out in your twenties. You gotta live your toxic 358 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:07,399 Speaker 1: through your twenties. So I'm gonna just go ahead and 359 00:17:07,480 --> 00:17:10,760 Speaker 1: say that you are in your twenties because this is 360 00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:11,560 Speaker 1: being pushed. 361 00:17:12,200 --> 00:17:14,439 Speaker 2: So I'm gonna try to unpush it. 362 00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:16,880 Speaker 1: You should have never put your hands on that man, 363 00:17:16,960 --> 00:17:20,760 Speaker 1: because what if that nigga puts your ass behind bars? 364 00:17:21,200 --> 00:17:23,720 Speaker 1: For not only did you hit them, you hit them 365 00:17:23,720 --> 00:17:25,520 Speaker 1: with an object that could have killed him. 366 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:26,520 Speaker 2: You hit them with the phone. 367 00:17:27,200 --> 00:17:30,400 Speaker 1: You know that's a piece of metal. This is glass 368 00:17:30,400 --> 00:17:32,679 Speaker 1: and metal that these phones are made out of. You 369 00:17:32,720 --> 00:17:36,760 Speaker 1: could be sitting behind bars all for this clown ass 370 00:17:36,880 --> 00:17:39,480 Speaker 1: nigga who wanted to cheat on you at work. 371 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:42,200 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, that ain't worth it. 372 00:17:42,440 --> 00:17:44,679 Speaker 1: But since you ain't in jail, which I hope you not, 373 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:47,840 Speaker 1: all right, good, make this the last time because I know, 374 00:17:47,960 --> 00:17:49,720 Speaker 1: I know you wanted to boom boom boom. 375 00:17:49,800 --> 00:17:51,840 Speaker 2: I would even say hit them for me boom, But. 376 00:17:52,760 --> 00:17:55,520 Speaker 1: That's not what we want to do, okay, because you 377 00:17:55,520 --> 00:17:57,560 Speaker 1: could have took the bigger l than he did just 378 00:17:57,600 --> 00:17:58,679 Speaker 1: by putting your hands on him. 379 00:17:58,720 --> 00:17:59,680 Speaker 2: You understand what I'm saying. 380 00:18:00,320 --> 00:18:02,200 Speaker 1: Hold up, Hold up, I know this shit getting good, 381 00:18:02,200 --> 00:18:04,520 Speaker 1: But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. 382 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:08,800 Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen. What you do is 383 00:18:08,840 --> 00:18:11,879 Speaker 1: you leave isz you leave them, you walk the fuck away. 384 00:18:12,160 --> 00:18:14,200 Speaker 1: Y'all been together for quite a few years. You know 385 00:18:14,240 --> 00:18:17,760 Speaker 1: what I mean and he han't gotten you flowers in 386 00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:21,360 Speaker 1: four of those years. It seems like that's something that 387 00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:25,800 Speaker 1: you allowed. Now if you've never voiced voice it, like, yo, 388 00:18:25,880 --> 00:18:28,560 Speaker 1: what's up with this? Like you don't let years pass? 389 00:18:29,280 --> 00:18:31,920 Speaker 1: If everything happened great in the first year and all 390 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:35,520 Speaker 1: of that shit great, when it starts stop happening, that's 391 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:38,560 Speaker 1: when you got to say something. When you see that 392 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:41,760 Speaker 1: the compliments go from every day. So once a week 393 00:18:41,840 --> 00:18:45,040 Speaker 1: you start, you start saying something. When you see he 394 00:18:45,080 --> 00:18:47,959 Speaker 1: don't hold your hand no more, you start saying something. 395 00:18:48,560 --> 00:18:50,960 Speaker 1: You understand what I'm saying, because that don't necessarily mean 396 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:51,800 Speaker 1: it's someone else. 397 00:18:52,560 --> 00:18:55,680 Speaker 2: That just means that he's bored now, and it could 398 00:18:55,680 --> 00:18:56,560 Speaker 2: mean a number of things. 399 00:18:56,640 --> 00:19:00,480 Speaker 1: That doesn't necessarily always mean that there's someone else he 400 00:19:00,520 --> 00:19:01,480 Speaker 1: could be getting bored. 401 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:05,280 Speaker 2: He could possibly think that you fell off with some shit. 402 00:19:06,119 --> 00:19:09,080 Speaker 2: You know. Have you sat down and talked to him 403 00:19:09,200 --> 00:19:09,720 Speaker 2: about this? 404 00:19:09,960 --> 00:19:13,200 Speaker 1: Even before y'all got at this stop right here where 405 00:19:13,240 --> 00:19:15,520 Speaker 1: you see he fucking with somebody from his job. Have 406 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:19,120 Speaker 1: y'all had a conversation about y'all falling out of love 407 00:19:19,200 --> 00:19:21,600 Speaker 1: with each other? Has he ever said, you know, has 408 00:19:21,640 --> 00:19:25,400 Speaker 1: he ever complained about anything? Were you taking heed to this, 409 00:19:25,600 --> 00:19:27,320 Speaker 1: like is he getting bored in the bedroom? 410 00:19:27,400 --> 00:19:27,639 Speaker 2: Like it? 411 00:19:27,960 --> 00:19:31,840 Speaker 1: You know, communication has to be on that level where 412 00:19:31,880 --> 00:19:35,840 Speaker 1: y'all are willing to sometimes have uncomfortable conversations because that 413 00:19:35,880 --> 00:19:38,439 Speaker 1: could lead to a spike in your marriage or in 414 00:19:38,480 --> 00:19:41,480 Speaker 1: your relationship. That could lead to better things, or it 415 00:19:41,480 --> 00:19:44,600 Speaker 1: can lead to worse things. But for better or for worse, 416 00:19:45,160 --> 00:19:50,399 Speaker 1: honesty and communication definitely applies seriously because that's how you 417 00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:54,040 Speaker 1: know whether you want to leave a situation or you 418 00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:56,320 Speaker 1: want to work to keep it. You know you want 419 00:19:56,320 --> 00:19:58,760 Speaker 1: to work at it. That's how y'all realize the worth 420 00:19:58,920 --> 00:20:02,760 Speaker 1: in the relationship at all, to see, you know, regardless 421 00:20:02,800 --> 00:20:04,399 Speaker 1: or not, you know, if we can. 422 00:20:04,280 --> 00:20:04,920 Speaker 2: Make this work. 423 00:20:05,040 --> 00:20:07,320 Speaker 1: We ain't gonna go cheat on each other because if 424 00:20:07,359 --> 00:20:08,960 Speaker 1: I feel like I really want to step out, we 425 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:12,040 Speaker 1: don't belong together, we can't be together. It has to 426 00:20:12,080 --> 00:20:14,879 Speaker 1: be like some type of maturity, some type of communication 427 00:20:14,960 --> 00:20:17,520 Speaker 1: level where y'all can come together and say that, look, yo, 428 00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:20,400 Speaker 1: before I cheat on you, before I make a selfish 429 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:23,119 Speaker 1: decision to not give you a choice to leave me 430 00:20:23,280 --> 00:20:25,840 Speaker 1: or to fix whatever I feel like you ain't you're 431 00:20:25,960 --> 00:20:29,879 Speaker 1: lacking or if I'm lacking, before I go down that 432 00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:35,480 Speaker 1: road of betraying you and defying you. You know, I 433 00:20:35,520 --> 00:20:37,359 Speaker 1: think we should give it a try, or I just 434 00:20:37,400 --> 00:20:39,159 Speaker 1: want to break up with you because I don't want. 435 00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:41,040 Speaker 2: To have to cheat on you. You know what I'm saying. 436 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:45,360 Speaker 1: People are not there yet, a lot of people ain't 437 00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:47,240 Speaker 1: mature enough to make those decisions. 438 00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:50,040 Speaker 2: But this is where we can start. 439 00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:53,919 Speaker 1: If people start being honest like that, I think we 440 00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:55,520 Speaker 1: would have a lot less cheating. 441 00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:59,360 Speaker 2: Seriously, sometimes people cheat because they like it. 442 00:20:59,359 --> 00:21:02,159 Speaker 1: It's fun. It's fun doing something you ain't supposed to 443 00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:04,920 Speaker 1: be doing. You know, It's fun until it ain't fun 444 00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:07,160 Speaker 1: no more, you know what I mean. So I think 445 00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:10,080 Speaker 1: that shit could have been avoided this whole fight because 446 00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:13,280 Speaker 1: now he probably don't even want to fucking deal with you, 447 00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:16,360 Speaker 1: you know, because you don't turn the physical, which does 448 00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:20,600 Speaker 1: not justify him cheating, but you don't probably put your 449 00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:22,000 Speaker 1: hands on this nigga before. 450 00:21:22,119 --> 00:21:24,560 Speaker 2: Some type of way. I don't know, girl, I don't know. 451 00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:28,320 Speaker 1: You're not telling me, because if he getting abused at home, yeah, 452 00:21:28,359 --> 00:21:32,240 Speaker 1: I would be shacking up with Bernardette from the job too, 453 00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:35,280 Speaker 1: you know, and it is she older, because if she older, 454 00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:37,360 Speaker 1: he probably felt like he can save it. She can 455 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:40,840 Speaker 1: save his ass from you. Shit girl, you can't be 456 00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:42,760 Speaker 1: going mighty jo Young on these niggas. 457 00:21:42,800 --> 00:21:44,240 Speaker 2: Man, you can't. You can't. 458 00:21:44,720 --> 00:21:47,640 Speaker 1: And as bad as I feel for you, because I've 459 00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:50,280 Speaker 1: had my heart broken by going through a phone too, 460 00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:52,359 Speaker 1: you know you went through it for a reason because 461 00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:55,840 Speaker 1: you felt you felt something. So your confirmation should lead 462 00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:58,760 Speaker 1: you where you need to be, not with him. This 463 00:21:58,880 --> 00:22:00,680 Speaker 1: is somebody he works with. If you're never going to 464 00:22:00,720 --> 00:22:02,359 Speaker 1: be able to trust him again, Let's just go ahead. 465 00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:05,160 Speaker 1: Let's just say this right now, because you already said 466 00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:06,960 Speaker 1: you felt like if you never would have went through 467 00:22:06,960 --> 00:22:10,080 Speaker 1: the phone, he would have kept going. And that's usually 468 00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:12,639 Speaker 1: how it goes. You keep going until you caught, and 469 00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:16,080 Speaker 1: then you're only sorry because you're caught, not because you 470 00:22:16,119 --> 00:22:18,680 Speaker 1: love this person so much. Now, because while you're having 471 00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:20,720 Speaker 1: your fun, you're not thinking about this person at all. 472 00:22:21,240 --> 00:22:24,120 Speaker 1: You know, or you could be, but you ain't thinking 473 00:22:24,119 --> 00:22:25,840 Speaker 1: about them enough to get the fuck up and stop 474 00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:28,640 Speaker 1: doing what you're doing, you know, behind their back. So 475 00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:33,919 Speaker 1: I definitely am not justifying his actions. I think you 476 00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:37,320 Speaker 1: just need to leave, you know, before you become a 477 00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:39,679 Speaker 1: little too physical and you lay yourself in jail or 478 00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:43,360 Speaker 1: the nigga hits you back a little harder, harder than 479 00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:46,480 Speaker 1: you hit because you know he's still a man, you 480 00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:48,600 Speaker 1: know what I mean. So just check back in with 481 00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:51,680 Speaker 1: me and just the side the side on what you want. 482 00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:53,320 Speaker 1: I feel like you should move on. You could do 483 00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:57,400 Speaker 1: better than this, And yeah, that's when shit get toxic. 484 00:22:57,720 --> 00:22:59,880 Speaker 1: You don't want to be in a toxic, fucking really 485 00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:02,480 Speaker 1: relationship if you don't have to be in one, you 486 00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:04,640 Speaker 1: know what I mean, You'll never be able to trust 487 00:23:04,720 --> 00:23:06,240 Speaker 1: him again. He's still gonna fuck with the girl in 488 00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:08,480 Speaker 1: the job because she ain't doing what you're doing. She 489 00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:11,200 Speaker 1: ain't beating his ass up, she ain't going through his phone. 490 00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:13,399 Speaker 1: And also he should be mad enough to walk the 491 00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:17,520 Speaker 1: fuck away, but it's probably something keeping him there. Convenience. 492 00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:20,720 Speaker 1: You take care of him, you got you know, good 493 00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:23,840 Speaker 1: puss Puss. He also loves his girlfriend of five years, 494 00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:26,600 Speaker 1: you know, but it needs to be a spark there. 495 00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:29,800 Speaker 1: Something is missing on y'all. And to concern for the 496 00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:32,560 Speaker 1: words and y'all growing apart, So grow apart. 497 00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:34,159 Speaker 2: And stay apart. I love you. 498 00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:37,040 Speaker 1: This is the end of yet another episode where Jessice 499 00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:38,600 Speaker 1: fix a mess because that's what I do and that's 500 00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:40,080 Speaker 1: what I do best, and then my. 501 00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:42,160 Speaker 2: Deepest pan voice catch me next week. 502 00:23:42,480 --> 00:24:56,720 Speaker 1: Peace Can't Fully Reckless is a production of iHeart Radio 503 00:24:57,000 --> 00:25:00,000 Speaker 1: and The Black Effect. For more podcasts from iHeart Radio, 504 00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:04,240 Speaker 1: visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen 505 00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:05,119 Speaker 1: to your favorite shows.