Speaker 1: Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You are tuned into
Speaker 1: the Vitamin D with Dawn Day podcast and I am
Speaker 1: your host, Dawn Day, here to get you excited about
Speaker 1: your life so that you can live life on purpose
Speaker 1: and for a purpose. And this is your first time
Speaker 1: tuning in and welcome Vitamin D. It's upon off our name.
Speaker 1: My name is Dawn, and you get Vitamin D from
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Speaker 1: And I do this with inspirational insights and conversations with
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Speaker 1: you want to be better and you want to do better,
Speaker 1: then you're going to have to be able to see better.
Speaker 1: So join me on this journey of living our best
Speaker 1: lives and understanding and realizing how you are your greatest
Speaker 1: assad Can I ask you something, Why is it that
Speaker 1: we understand the value of an original of something. That's
Speaker 1: where we can't understand the value within ourselves? What's up
Speaker 1: with that? Like, there's value of just being you, doing
Speaker 1: you exactly how you are. Yeah, we go throughout life
Speaker 1: caring and valuing the opinions of others. In fact, so
Speaker 1: much so we're willing to change out of your parents,
Speaker 1: change what we say, we value. We even put on
Speaker 1: masks to fit into a room, rather than just showing
Speaker 1: up as and who we are. Perhaps we feel as
Speaker 1: though we have some ex securities right because we aren't perfect,
Speaker 1: perhaps coming from a broken home, not having the financial money,
Speaker 1: perhaps dealing with a mental illness, not coming in this
Speaker 1: cookie cutter box. We have this tendency to hide. But
Speaker 1: I want to challenge you to step forth. You know
Speaker 1: what they say, what allows a diamond to shine are
Speaker 1: the multitudes of cuts that have been placed within it.
Speaker 1: Are you ready to shine? Now? We also know that
Speaker 1: pressure or makes diamonds. So that's all the trials and
Speaker 1: tribulations that you've experienced in your life. I have led
Speaker 1: you right here, and I challenge you to show up
Speaker 1: as you. I think of my life and how I
Speaker 1: have made it a point to make room for Dawn
Speaker 1: to be this aggressive, this loud, rumbunctious, this human, this
Speaker 1: person to show up is mean because I realize I'm
Speaker 1: more valuable being me than anyone else, and I hope
Speaker 1: you do too. Get right with me. I get excited
Speaker 1: about that. I don't even know how I want to start.
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm gonna start Hello, gone days here Um.
Speaker 1: I was inspired by something by the statement of boss
Speaker 1: the funk up. I know, I know coming and hide listen.
Speaker 1: You know. It really came to me because you know,
Speaker 1: I'm getting my fitness on and I must say that
Speaker 1: I am getting foined foin oh um. And I wanted
Speaker 1: to feel for two point five seconds because Latif has
Speaker 1: changed this race. I wanted to feel some type of way.
Speaker 1: And I had to recall back on some things that
Speaker 1: I have experienced and that I have been thinking about
Speaker 1: as an entrepreneur. Um about knowing and stating your value
Speaker 1: and making sure that you walk authentically in that and
Speaker 1: realizing that you dictate your value and other people don't.
Speaker 1: And here is the thing you don't take now your
Speaker 1: value and your worth based on someone else. Heck, they
Speaker 1: need to boss the funk up. Or if it's you
Speaker 1: that's looking at something, perhaps need to boss the funk
Speaker 1: up now. I really had to think about this because
Speaker 1: as I am doing my thing as entrepreneur, I picked
Speaker 1: up this book Why shouldn't had already? And I said
Speaker 1: in the studio it's in my text hold On actually
Speaker 1: sent it to my mentor Skip Dillard last Night. Um.
Speaker 1: The title of the book is entitled The entitled the
Speaker 1: book is entitled. The title of the book is Breaking
Speaker 1: the Time Barrier Now to unlock your true earning potential.
Speaker 1: This book is by Mike mc dermott and Donald Colper.
Speaker 1: Check it out you'll thank me later anyway. But it
Speaker 1: talks about establishing your value. And one thing I've just
Speaker 1: been realizing as I read this book established and how
Speaker 1: I want to show up, is that you don't negotiate
Speaker 1: someone's costs or their prices. It's down't write damn near disrespectful.
Speaker 1: And I think as Americans or perhaps even like traveling.
Speaker 1: I don't know about you, but I've been one to
Speaker 1: go ahead and hackle the price. You know, I'd be like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, how about this? And that not realize how
Speaker 1: disrespectful that is. Because when you go on the store,
Speaker 1: whatever store is, do you don't go up there with
Speaker 1: the price tag, listen on that item and say, hey,
Speaker 1: can I get it for a discount price only if
Speaker 1: there's something defective, right, But you don't come initially and
Speaker 1: they're asking for them to discount the price. If you
Speaker 1: can't apport afford it, you leave it where it's sad,
Speaker 1: and it's something to be said for somebody to stand
Speaker 1: in their power authority of what they said they're worth.
Speaker 1: Because I don't know about you, but if you're confident
Speaker 1: and knowing what you're worth, I don't want to buy
Speaker 1: into that. And I was thinking about that because I
Speaker 1: feel that sometimes we do that in relationships, right, because
Speaker 1: I say, how you do anything is how you'll do everything,
Speaker 1: not realizing that the detriment is actually happening and affecting ourselves.
Speaker 1: You know how somebody may not speak your love language,
Speaker 1: may be slight weight, disrespectful. You're giving a discount of
Speaker 1: parts or what you feel that you desire. Why is that? Huh?
Speaker 1: And then for the other person, you want to stand
Speaker 1: up shock while you're not getting the value that you
Speaker 1: want because you've already discounted what it is that you're
Speaker 1: looking at. Furthermore, when you ask people, you negotiate someone's price,
Speaker 1: why would they be more apt to want to do
Speaker 1: the best? Now I'm a firm believer is that whatever
Speaker 1: you do, you put a hundred and ten percent. But
Speaker 1: it's almost like when you negotiate with somebody, it's saying
Speaker 1: that I don't think you're worth or I don't think
Speaker 1: you say or I don't think you are who you
Speaker 1: say that you are. And we know that confidence isn't knowing, right,
Speaker 1: Why would we want to do some business or do
Speaker 1: anything with someone who doesn't know who they are, who
Speaker 1: doesn't know what they're worth. So I had to think
Speaker 1: about that. And when we talk about even intimate relationships, right,
Speaker 1: if you're going after seeking a specific can I say
Speaker 1: type kind someone that may live a certain lifestyle, enjoy
Speaker 1: certain things. And when I say lifestyle, it doesn't necessarily
Speaker 1: always mean something financial, right, but just a way of
Speaker 1: living their life. And if you know that that's not
Speaker 1: the mark that you can meet, you don't pull somebody down.
Speaker 1: You feel like you see how you can meet them
Speaker 1: where they are and then elevate from there. Right. And
Speaker 1: I just want to make sure that we understand the
Speaker 1: importance of boss the funk up because it can only
Speaker 1: be detrimental to both parties. You feel me, I want
Speaker 1: to challenge you for that because that's what we call growth.
Speaker 1: When we when we decide not to boss up, when
Speaker 1: we decide to negotiate our value, that limits our growth,
Speaker 1: It diminishes our potential, It tarnishes our shine, because what
Speaker 1: you're saying is that whatever this worth that you have, declare,
Speaker 1: whatever somebody deem your value, you've allowed their blanketed view
Speaker 1: of you to stand true. But like Eminem said, I
Speaker 1: am what I say I am. If I wasn't, then
Speaker 1: why would I say I am? So what do you
Speaker 1: say that you are? How do you choose to show up?
Speaker 1: How do you want to choose to show up? How
Speaker 1: do you want this to impact your relationships? So I
Speaker 1: say all this the same as I'm thinking about this,
Speaker 1: I said, Uh, it's time to up level in every aspect.
Speaker 1: And that's why you have to understand that you can't
Speaker 1: expect somebody else to devalue their word so that you
Speaker 1: can afford them, Nor should you devalue yourself so somebody
Speaker 1: can afford you. That's not helpful to the supply chain.
Speaker 1: Boss up, so the next person boss up, and any bossup.
Speaker 1: In fact, I think even then Mr Harvey said something
Speaker 1: like that. He said, you know, people have this idea.
Speaker 1: They want to dream, they want a big house, they
Speaker 1: want to mans. You know, whatever your thing is that
Speaker 1: me cost money. It ain't all such things. I don't
Speaker 1: want to dream that big because you know I ain't
Speaker 1: gonna never be able to afford an art. Oh that's
Speaker 1: not in my price range. I can't even look at it.
Speaker 1: Figure out how you gonna get it. Why do the
Speaker 1: limiting yourself and saying what you can't do? Why don't
Speaker 1: you figure out how you can't get your resources are
Speaker 1: so that you can get it? Because remember God promised
Speaker 1: you exceedingly and beyond. He didn't say, oh, you're gonna
Speaker 1: be content and even less. Should I digress? I know
Speaker 1: I took on myself. I hadn't put a rhyme in there,
Speaker 1: and a man and something came over a spirit. But
Speaker 1: you feel what I'm saying. I think that's I think
Speaker 1: that's really important. It's time for us not only get
Speaker 1: our money up, our emotions up, emotional intelligence up, our
Speaker 1: communication up, our spirits up, our energy up, like all
Speaker 1: of that. You know, I was thinking, Um, I have
Speaker 1: a friend, I love him to die. I would call
Speaker 1: him out. Was wanna I love him to death? I
Speaker 1: was just kicking it with him, and I was thinking
Speaker 1: about something. You know, I'm already I'm always turned out
Speaker 1: like hello, I probably calmed down now is that I've
Speaker 1: gotten older, and especially if you catch me in the morning,
Speaker 1: that's like my ProMED hole, I'm tumed up and we
Speaker 1: were kicking it and because of the excitement hadn't seen
Speaker 1: him in a while. It's just a great friend. You know,
Speaker 1: I got fifty things going on, my my power, and
Speaker 1: you know, he couldn't make it comments like oh my gosh, no,
Speaker 1: you're so dramatic, Oh my gosh, just too much. Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, you're a lot. And you know he's an
Speaker 1: actor too, but he's kind of like really chilling, mellow,
Speaker 1: and you know, at first I saw him, I've told
Speaker 1: him before. I was like, you know, I make sure
Speaker 1: I know, like, okay, that doesn't really feel good and
Speaker 1: you don't realize and I want you to pay attention
Speaker 1: to that because even in this as an example of Boston,
Speaker 1: the funk up right, And it was at one point
Speaker 1: he had made the comment again He's like, wow, you're
Speaker 1: just a lot, and I was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: it's time for me to go. And I didn't think
Speaker 1: about it till later, like one my energy and my
Speaker 1: spirit didn't feel good. It doesn't mean that he's a
Speaker 1: bad person. You just gotta know how you gotta take
Speaker 1: people in doses or and you gotta catch him based
Speaker 1: on your temperment of self. And I felt my spirit,
Speaker 1: it felt I didn't feel good. That's what I would say.
Speaker 1: It wouldn't say it was hurt or pain. Just didn't
Speaker 1: feel good. So maybe paint in a different way. And
Speaker 1: we came over me. And what I realized is that
Speaker 1: he kept saying, Oh my God's doing, You're a lot doing,
Speaker 1: You're too much, And it's like, Juanna, maybe you're not enough. Hey,
Speaker 1: everybody's first play Kelly and your tuned into Invitamin D
Speaker 1: podcast Vitamin D with My Girl down Day Dad is.
Speaker 1: And I think often times we need to realize that
Speaker 1: in situations because half the time we're diminishing ourselves to
Speaker 1: fit in a certain box for someone else. We are
Speaker 1: devaluing ourselfs so somebody else that can hold us who
Speaker 1: do not even have the capacity to put us in
Speaker 1: their hands. So that goes the same thing with latif
Speaker 1: for anyone else. Once you declare your value, once you
Speaker 1: decide what's your worth and how you want to show up,
Speaker 1: don't let nobody else dictate how you walk, how you talk,
Speaker 1: how you move, how you think you are you for
Speaker 1: a reason as long as you are not negatively affecting
Speaker 1: somebody else, Do not limit your shun Now, going back
Speaker 1: to to Swanna, you say, Okay, doing you being dramatic?
Speaker 1: Just hypothetically right? Because I always try to look at
Speaker 1: different things. I'm a firm believer of how you do
Speaker 1: anything and how it's how you'll do everything. It was
Speaker 1: not only you kept saying that what I felt like
Speaker 1: I was being criticized. What I felt that I was
Speaker 1: being ridiculed. What I felt is I couldn't show up
Speaker 1: authentically as Dawn. I am the same doing all the time.
Speaker 1: Can you imagine somebody trying to show up or somebody
Speaker 1: showing up as they are, and somebody constantly ridiculed, Why
Speaker 1: are you doing it like this? Doing like this? Did it?
Speaker 1: I know? If I can be transparent with you, just
Speaker 1: don't make me feel good. But it just reminded me.
Speaker 1: I remember, but my mother had said that to me.
Speaker 1: We were coming out of the the Call American brank right
Speaker 1: off for eight mile. I wonder if that Call America
Speaker 1: is still over there anyway, and I had said something, Mama,
Speaker 1: looks we should said done. You are just so critical,
Speaker 1: you criticize, and maybe that looks at like nitpicking, and
Speaker 1: maybe that looks like people who are control fake freaks.
Speaker 1: You don't kind of have to have a hand on everything,
Speaker 1: how to see everything is doing, rather than just letting
Speaker 1: things breathe, letting things operate and move the way they
Speaker 1: need to move. And then that way you can decide
Speaker 1: if you want to show up and whether or not
Speaker 1: you want to entertain it. But ask me this, or
Speaker 1: I should say, tell me this. What does it serve
Speaker 1: for you to keep pointing out the obvious about how
Speaker 1: something operates and how something moves if you have no
Speaker 1: intention of being involved in it so that it can change,
Speaker 1: nor that is it directly affecting you on a daily
Speaker 1: basis for it the need to change. Huh. I'm just saying,
Speaker 1: I just want to put it out there. So if
Speaker 1: somebody is asking you, were telling you that you're too much,
Speaker 1: perhaps they're not right for you in that moment at
Speaker 1: that time. Perhaps there needs to be some communication. But
Speaker 1: that's an example for the other party. Boss the funk
Speaker 1: up and meet me who I am? Right? If somebody
Speaker 1: isn't providing the communication that you need, you don't just
Speaker 1: ignore it and say Okay, Well, I'm not gonna say
Speaker 1: anything this time, I'm just gonna let that ride. Now,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna need you to boss the funk up and
Speaker 1: say something. You know. I just had a friend I
Speaker 1: was on the UH I was talking to the other
Speaker 1: day and she's going on a group trip and it's
Speaker 1: like two couples or whatever, and um, you know how
Speaker 1: you had that patty social media drama. So it was
Speaker 1: something that she was putting a picture up, you know,
Speaker 1: talking about no filter, no filter, like exploring or highlighting
Speaker 1: her natural beauty. So one of the other girls in
Speaker 1: the trip, for some reason, probably thought because you know,
Speaker 1: if you don't care, you anykay, the old girl was
Speaker 1: talking about her. So she's giving I'm giving filters, filters,
Speaker 1: filters down, and my friend is like, don't We're about
Speaker 1: to go on this trip, and I feel like she
Speaker 1: think there's to be if I said, well, girl, why
Speaker 1: don't you say something? Ask her if there's nothing there.
Speaker 1: Get this straight now, because what you don't want to
Speaker 1: do is go on the other side of the world
Speaker 1: and there's some drama that they don't even need to
Speaker 1: be no drama. Boss the funk up. Don't devalue yourself
Speaker 1: and say, oh, I'm not gonna say anything because whatever
Speaker 1: that discontents you feel, whatever that that thing that makes
Speaker 1: you feel uncomfortable, know your worth and know that you
Speaker 1: deserve to say something because it doesn't feel good. And
Speaker 1: anytime you are feeling uncomfortable in a place where it
Speaker 1: is debilitating, I'm gonna have to put on you to
Speaker 1: say something and do something. So I told I said, girl,
Speaker 1: you better say something, Boss the funk Up. When it
Speaker 1: comes down to you, whether it fealize, if you want
Speaker 1: to stay in a certain job position because you got
Speaker 1: dreams and aspirations for more, You're gonna devalue yourself and
Speaker 1: smother yourself by staying there for what, for whom? And
Speaker 1: why do you understand that we are special offers here
Speaker 1: for a limited time, Boss the funk Up, do the
Speaker 1: research that you need to do, looking and explore what
Speaker 1: kind of company you want to work for. Perhaps maybe
Speaker 1: you are your own company and you need to develop it,
Speaker 1: and it's gonna be uncomfortable. You're gonna have to figure
Speaker 1: it out, Boss the funk Up. I even had to
Speaker 1: tell myself to Boss the funk Up. You know, I'm
Speaker 1: in a whole transition moment. I didn't said it. I
Speaker 1: said it, and I don't said again. It takes me
Speaker 1: about two damn hours to get up here. Now I
Speaker 1: could have easily said, oh my gosh, right now, my
Speaker 1: transportation is limited. I cannot get to the studio. But
Speaker 1: I am reminded, Dawn, boss the funk up. You're gonna
Speaker 1: have to figure out how are you gonna get there?
Speaker 1: What You're just gonna stop, what You're gonna just devalue
Speaker 1: this dream that has been placed on your heart, something
Speaker 1: that you have been working for since you were a
Speaker 1: young girl. Don't play with me. So if you see
Speaker 1: something that you like, know you're worth, but also recognize
Speaker 1: it's worth and boss the funk up so that you
Speaker 1: can't afford it, Boss the funk up, so that you
Speaker 1: can have the life that you want. Boss the funk up,
Speaker 1: because you are worth it. Yeah, I'm talking to you.
Speaker 1: There is no reason why you shouldn't be living exceedingly
Speaker 1: and beyond. There's no reason why you shouldn't be living
Speaker 1: a life of abundance, far more than what you could
Speaker 1: ever imagine, unless that's the choice and the value of
Speaker 1: the life that you seek. But I know I got
Speaker 1: greater this for me. I know greater is for me. So,
Speaker 1: just like I've done since the time I have entered
Speaker 1: this world, I'm gonna continue to grow. I'm gonna continue
Speaker 1: to get uncomfortable. I'm gonna continue to get my money yup,
Speaker 1: my fitness up, my finances up, my emotional intelligence up.
Speaker 1: I'm going to continue to elevate. I'm going to continue
Speaker 1: to be the life because I choose to boss the
Speaker 1: funk up. So you're gonna join me on? All let's go,
Speaker 1: Come on. I think that you're worth it and anything
Speaker 1: that you have a connection to should show the same
Speaker 1: worth as you are more because remember we're not looking
Speaker 1: back to go behind, we're looking forward further or forward
Speaker 1: to go over yonder. Yeah, yonder. So that's what I
Speaker 1: got on this check in. Ball's the funk up? And
Speaker 1: know your worst? Yah yeah? Um? Also, uh, I want
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