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Speaker 1: Welcome back everyone to Bachelor Happy Hour. We are here

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Speaker 1: with Rachel Lindsay Part two. Let's get into it that

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Speaker 1: did you even have time to process or be sad

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Speaker 1: or did you immediately go into anger? Because I would

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Speaker 1: have been angry having to read that in the tabloids.

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Speaker 1: Over in person conversation, I write about.

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Speaker 2: Finding out about the spousal support, like I didn't even

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Speaker 2: that's insane.

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Speaker 3: As much as you can.

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Speaker 1: Tell us, yeah, I know, I've wont buy her book.

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Speaker 1: We're going to be reading the book.

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Speaker 4: And the book isn't like just a it's like it

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Speaker 4: takes you through a journey, like it's the Essays Ago,

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Speaker 4: so it takes you through.

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Speaker 5: Like the journey of it.

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Speaker 4: But I write about trying to describe what that moment

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Speaker 4: felt like. So I don't want to give too much

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Speaker 4: about that, but yeah, I mean it's you're it's so

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Speaker 4: much because it all comes crashing crashing in. Like I

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Speaker 4: woke up that morning thinking, okay, like I probably have

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Speaker 4: to start looking if we're an attorney and you know,

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Speaker 4: like our what's our living situation going to be like?

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Speaker 4: And I need to go ahead and tell my family

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Speaker 4: and that kind of thing. But not that so it

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Speaker 4: all crashed in on me, and then it was just

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Speaker 4: like go fight or flight, Like what am I going

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Speaker 4: to do?

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Speaker 1: Now?

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Speaker 4: Everything is rushed when I thought we were just kind

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Speaker 4: of kind of ease into this. But what I say

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Speaker 4: is this all could have been very private. We could

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Speaker 4: have handled it like in mediation. We could have done

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Speaker 4: the Jason Momoa Lisa Bonet thing where it's like we're

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Speaker 4: working on it, we file, and then the next day

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Speaker 4: it's over because we've already worked the whole thing out,

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Speaker 4: no drama.

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Speaker 5: But I feel like because it was public, I.

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Speaker 4: Am meant to talk about it to help somebody who

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Speaker 4: is either struggling to decide where to go in their relationship,

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Speaker 4: whether they're married, whether it's a long term partnership. It's

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Speaker 4: public for a reason, and so the more I have

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Speaker 4: talked about it, I get a lot of people who

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Speaker 4: say thank you for talking about it in this way,

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Speaker 4: because I think there's a lot of shame still in

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Speaker 4: twenty twenty six when you talk about divorce, especially when

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Speaker 4: you're younger and there's certain things that you still want,

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Speaker 4: like a family. I've never dated on apps, it gets

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Speaker 4: like a whole new world. Now I'm dating post being

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Speaker 4: on TV. I've never dated. When I dated, before I

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Speaker 4: was an attorney, I lived in a much more private life.

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Speaker 4: So there's just so much that I want to talk

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Speaker 4: about that I couldn't find that kind of information out there.

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Speaker 4: And then I want to talk about getting through it,

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Speaker 4: and I feel like I could help somebody else. This

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Speaker 4: is writing to help somebody else.

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Speaker 5: Get through it.

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Speaker 4: Maybe you don't know how to date again, or be

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Speaker 4: intimate again, or get through the shame or the embarrassment

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Speaker 4: of it, or you know, like pick up the pieces,

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Speaker 4: like where do you start? This is my story, but

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Speaker 4: maybe it'll help somebody else get through it.

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Speaker 5: But it's crazy.

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Speaker 4: There's so much I haven't even talked about, and I think,

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Speaker 4: you know, I do. I see negative things, which I mean,

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Speaker 4: of course there's going to be negatve there's a positive side.

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Speaker 5: There's got to be a negative side.

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Speaker 4: I learned that early, very on, once I stepped into

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Speaker 4: Bachelor Nation.

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Speaker 5: You have to be able to accept both. But there

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Speaker 5: are a lot of.

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Speaker 4: People who think, oh, you know, she was she's pretends

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Speaker 4: to be or she was pretending to be so real

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Speaker 4: about it, and she was presenting this relationship to the world,

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Speaker 4: but behind the scenes. Obviously that's not what it is,

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Speaker 4: And to that I would say, it's like, well, what

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Speaker 4: did you expect. Every time I got on the microphone,

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Speaker 4: I was supposed to say, oh, I had a rough day.

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Speaker 4: Brian and I were fighting today. We were arguing today.

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Speaker 4: It's really tough. And let me tell you exactly what

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Speaker 4: we were arguing over. We were working on it, so

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Speaker 4: you know that it was a work and we were trying.

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Speaker 4: We tried. You know, we were in therapy. We're trying

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Speaker 4: to work on it. I'm not going to talk about

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Speaker 4: the fact that, hey, we're in therapy and we're trying

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Speaker 4: to work on our relationship. I don't think inviting people

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Speaker 4: in in that way would have you know, we're trying

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Speaker 4: to save it would have helped it at that at

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Speaker 4: that time. So I wasn't being fake. It's just I'm

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Speaker 4: living my life. But I'm not giving you every single

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Speaker 4: detail about it. I wasn't lying. I know I did

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Speaker 4: the Nick Vile interview that was like a couple of

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Speaker 4: weeks before. At that time, I did not know we

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Speaker 4: were about to get a divorce. I knew we were

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Speaker 4: having issues, but everything I said was true. We did

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Speaker 4: want to have kids, I still wanted to have kids

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Speaker 4: because I wasn't planning on Hey, and I'm about to

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Speaker 4: go file for this force.

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Speaker 5: So it was real.

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Speaker 4: It's just I don't think people knew, or maybe I

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Speaker 4: wasn't being honest with myself about how bad it was.

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Speaker 4: In the moment, I was also going through a huge loss.

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Speaker 4: I just lost my grandmother. It was very very close

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Speaker 4: with my grandmother, Like a few days was either the

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Speaker 4: funerals a few days.

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Speaker 5: Before I did that interview with Nick, or a few

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Speaker 5: days after. So it's just a lot going on, But

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Speaker 5: nothing was fake.

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Speaker 4: I mean maybe if I was like, yeah, we're good,

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Speaker 4: maybe we weren't good, but we were working on it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it feels like almost what he did was like

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Speaker 1: on purpose to humiliate you.

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Speaker 2: I think I said, yeah, I just I when Rachel

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Speaker 2: says that, I think of what was he did? Like

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Speaker 2: an interview with like a divorce like I don't even

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Speaker 2: know coach that was actually.

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Speaker 1: The woman real that he said he was like his

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Speaker 1: mental health filed.

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Speaker 4: He said things on that interview that I had never

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Speaker 4: even personally talked about that were.

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Speaker 1: What did he say?

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Speaker 4: He talked about fertility and it wasn't even the truth

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Speaker 4: of what he was saying. And I've never other than

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Speaker 4: saying I wanted to have kids, I've never talked about that,

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Speaker 4: like I've never nobody knows that, like the story with that,

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Speaker 4: and I just was like, that's it, that's that's low.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. Yeah, Like I was like wow.

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Speaker 4: And just even the timing of all of that, it

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Speaker 5: Like, oh, it's going to be part thing.

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Speaker 4: It was a week after he was just awarded temporary support,

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Speaker 4: so it's like you just got you know, and all

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Speaker 4: this is public. It's like, you just got awarded like

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Speaker 4: thirteen thousand dollars a month. Why are you now putting

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Speaker 4: out this video? It's just all of it was. I

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Speaker 4: kept thinking, I can't be surprised about anything else that

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Speaker 4: was like my gosh, like everything it would.

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Speaker 5: Just shock me. For that whole twenty twenty four.

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Speaker 4: It's like stuff just kept happening, and I was just

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Speaker 4: kept saying, who is this person?

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Speaker 5: Who is this person?

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Speaker 4: Like people were like what did she do to him

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Speaker 4: for him to be acting yes? And I can only

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Speaker 4: fall on he was harboring all these feelings about me

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Speaker 4: that I had absolutely no idea, because what else could

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Speaker 4: motivate you to act in such a way.

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Speaker 1: I think it's it's so crazy too because when everyone

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Speaker 1: and found out about the spousal like support, I think

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Speaker 1: you immediately got criticism because they were like, you're a lawyer,

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Speaker 1: How did you not see this coming? Didn't he ask

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Speaker 1: you not to have the prenup?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so I.

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Speaker 3: Think did. I don't think I knew that.

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Speaker 4: There's a lot that gets lost in the prenup conversation.

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Speaker 4: So at the time that we were gonna get married,

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Speaker 4: as twenty nineteen, we were way more on equal footing.

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Speaker 5: I didn't have the success that I had.

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Speaker 4: I hadn't even I didn't even started the Bachelor podcast

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Speaker 4: Happy Hour at the time. It was like, right the

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Speaker 4: wedding was right around the time we started that. So

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Speaker 4: I was still freelancing a lot. I was investing in myself,

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Speaker 4: so I would pay for a lot if I was

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Speaker 4: doing a TV parents, I usually had paid for my

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Speaker 4: stopped practicing law at that moment. That year, in twenty nineteen,

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Speaker 4: we were on equal footing. He owned a condo in Miami.

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Speaker 4: He was older, so he had built up, you know,

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Speaker 4: more of a savings than I had. So when I said, hey,

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Speaker 4: I think we should get a prenup, and he explained

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Speaker 4: his reason why, it's and I'm again, I'll write about this.

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Speaker 5: It's easy to say you would say you would.

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Speaker 4: It would be a deal breaker for you when you

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Speaker 4: don't have that person, when you're at that crossroads you're

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Speaker 4: planning your wedding. It's against some of the things about.

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Speaker 5: The societal pressure, some of the some other.

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Speaker 4: Things surrounding it that I was like, I don't want

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Speaker 4: because you never think that that the person is capable

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Speaker 4: of doing what happened to me. Never in my wildest

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Speaker 4: success that I had. And if I did get that,

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Speaker 4: I thought we would both have it. I could never

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Speaker 4: have projected that our careers would would be so different,

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Speaker 4: that the disparity would be so great between us. I

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Speaker 4: don't think he saw it that way at the time.

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Speaker 5: Either.

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Speaker 4: We believed in each other. I believed in him, he

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Speaker 4: believed in me, And so yeah, I said, I think

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Speaker 4: we should get it. He said, no, I didn't want

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Speaker 4: that to be the reason. So I I just was like, okay, fine, fine,

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Speaker 4: we won't get a prenup. And you talk to people more,

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Speaker 4: more people than you think don't get prenups. More most

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Speaker 4: lawyers that I know don't have a prenuph. I think

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Speaker 4: it's just an easier thing to say. I think it's

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Speaker 4: way more common, Thank goodness. I think everybody should get one.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, like I get I don't even get mad

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Speaker 4: when people say it. I did it initially, and I'm

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Speaker 4: just kind of like, you know what, Fine, Yeah, I'm dumb.

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Speaker 4: I didn't get an attorney. I met a guy on

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Speaker 4: reality TV. I'm not get an attorney get a prenup.

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Speaker 4: I met a guy on reality TV. Yes, I'm an attorney.

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Speaker 4: It's just that shoudn't even matter it's on reality TV.

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Speaker 4: I should have got a prenup.

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Speaker 5: I get it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I mean that could be the title of my book.

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Speaker 4: I'm dmbe I didn't get a prenup. Like, I accept it.

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Speaker 4: I just I just accept it. Now people want to

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Speaker 4: say that, like that's so old. Say something else now

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Speaker 4: at this point, like it happened that we're divorced, it's settled.

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Speaker 5: I've paid them off.

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Speaker 1: It's someone here.

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Speaker 5: It sucks, so thank you.

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Speaker 4: But it's like, it is what it is, it happened,

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Speaker 4: learned for me. Please don't be me. That's what I

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Speaker 4: say at the end of the day. But yeah, there's

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Speaker 4: there's a lot that went around that, and I just

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Speaker 4: think that it's it's easy. I think if I was

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Speaker 4: But you protect yourself and as you're bringing other people

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it didn't work out. We just crew different ways.

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Speaker 5: Would I have wanted to give half of what I had?

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Speaker 4: Even still to this day, it's like, really, how did

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Speaker 4: I do not like Miami. I moved to support him.

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Speaker 4: I moved to supports. Nobody talks about that. But a

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Speaker 4: That was another thing reason I was okay with signing

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Speaker 4: So it's just what happened was while he got rewarded

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Speaker 5: That's part of the reason.

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Speaker 1: I mean, we've talked about this before. I just cannot

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Speaker 4: Know, I was really angry about it in the beginning,

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Speaker 5: I can make it back.

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Speaker 4: So it's like you didn't you didn't, you didn't take

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Speaker 2: You really are such like I mean, I know it's

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we appreciate it.

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Speaker 1: You have a barrier, you break through it and then

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Speaker 4: I I gotta get you.

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Speaker 5: I got it. I thank you for saying that.

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Speaker 4: That's so sweet, And I also want because and this

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Speaker 5: Yeah, maybe I'm still learning.

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Speaker 4: That's how this divorce is. I want you to know

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Speaker 5: I've never felt that. I hope to never feel that again.

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Speaker 4: I was unrecognizable to myself and then I would have

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Speaker 5: So thank you.

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Speaker 4: I'm so glad that that's the way you see me now.

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Speaker 5: This in an interview. I want to explain that.

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Speaker 5: You too, can you can get them And it's going.

443
00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:10,359
Speaker 2: To be so helpful for like, yeah, I mean women,

444
00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:14,159
Speaker 2: but like everybody, Like there's like you said, it's a

445
00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:18,920
Speaker 2: lot more common than I think people know, or just again,

446
00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:23,199
Speaker 2: it's not really an open conversation and this is just

447
00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:25,720
Speaker 2: going to be helpful for so many people, so I hope.

448
00:21:25,760 --> 00:21:27,040
Speaker 5: So, yeah, I have to.

449
00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:32,040
Speaker 1: Tell you you're the only bachelor biography memoir that I've read,

450
00:21:32,040 --> 00:21:35,080
Speaker 1: and I rented missed Me with that at my library.

451
00:21:35,640 --> 00:21:39,840
Speaker 1: I remember renting it, and I love especially for this

452
00:21:39,880 --> 00:21:42,280
Speaker 1: book because I feel like there's so many things people

453
00:21:42,320 --> 00:21:45,200
Speaker 1: talk about you online, and you kind of let people

454
00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:47,320
Speaker 1: like run with the narrative. And I love that you

455
00:21:47,560 --> 00:21:49,560
Speaker 1: just get good finally take this book and be like,

456
00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:52,240
Speaker 1: here's like what happened and if you want it, read

457
00:21:52,280 --> 00:21:56,160
Speaker 1: it and buy it and pre sale and I'm so excited.

458
00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:57,520
Speaker 1: Are you done? You still?

459
00:21:58,000 --> 00:21:59,320
Speaker 5: We are working on it.

460
00:21:59,359 --> 00:22:03,280
Speaker 4: I have written it, written quite a bit, but I'm

461
00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:05,919
Speaker 4: not done by any means. It's funny like I'll have

462
00:22:05,960 --> 00:22:10,080
Speaker 4: these conversations and then I think of something else. Oh wait,

463
00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 4: something you were gonna say, not the book, not miss

464
00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:13,960
Speaker 4: me with Oh gosh.

465
00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 1: That's people just like run with the narrative.

466
00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:16,199
Speaker 5: Thank you.

467
00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:18,159
Speaker 1: Just kind of like I feel like a lot of

468
00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:21,120
Speaker 1: times I never see you clapping back or talking about

469
00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:22,120
Speaker 1: what actually happened.

470
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:24,960
Speaker 4: I like, I'll give a little like bread crumbs. I

471
00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 4: used to when I came off the Bachelor Bachelorette. I

472
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:28,760
Speaker 4: used to clap back at people all the time, by

473
00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:30,960
Speaker 4: the way, like I'd be on I would say stuff

474
00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:33,919
Speaker 4: and then I was like I have to stop. I

475
00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:36,160
Speaker 4: have to like this is Rachel. They don't they don't

476
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:36,399
Speaker 4: know you.

477
00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:39,399
Speaker 5: The people that know you, gee, that's it.

478
00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,440
Speaker 3: I used to I'll get there. I'll get there.

479
00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:44,040
Speaker 5: I used to.

480
00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:46,960
Speaker 4: But I have to give credit to my lawyer, shout

481
00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:51,560
Speaker 4: out to Laura Wasser, because she was kind of I

482
00:22:51,640 --> 00:22:55,800
Speaker 4: wanted to fight back in the divorce with the media,

483
00:22:55,920 --> 00:22:58,000
Speaker 4: Like I kind of was like, I have a microphone,

484
00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:01,159
Speaker 4: you know, I've worked in it. I know how to

485
00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:04,840
Speaker 4: use the media to get the narrative out there that

486
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:08,760
Speaker 4: I want. And she was just like, don't do it,

487
00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:11,560
Speaker 4: don't do it. It's and I'm so glad. I think

488
00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:13,919
Speaker 4: the divorce would have gone on longer. I think that

489
00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:16,720
Speaker 4: I would have become obsessed with that. I think I

490
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:19,199
Speaker 4: would have lost myself in it. It was just just

491
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:21,600
Speaker 4: been so much messier. And it was like, let people

492
00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:22,399
Speaker 4: just talk.

493
00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:23,720
Speaker 1: Let him talk.

494
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:27,480
Speaker 5: That's the game that he's playing, play the long game.

495
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:28,720
Speaker 5: Let it in.

496
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:32,760
Speaker 4: And I got myself together. Remember I said I was

497
00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:33,520
Speaker 4: a shell of myself.

498
00:23:33,560 --> 00:23:33,920
Speaker 5: I wasn't.

499
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:36,320
Speaker 4: So if I would have been doing that, it would

500
00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:40,360
Speaker 4: have come from such a bad place. Now I've done

501
00:23:40,400 --> 00:23:42,919
Speaker 4: the work, so I can write from a place of

502
00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:46,160
Speaker 4: healing or you know, because I'm still healing, I will

503
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:48,200
Speaker 4: I'll never say that I'm you know, I'm not fully

504
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:51,000
Speaker 4: healed right now, but I can write from such a

505
00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:54,199
Speaker 4: healthier place. And I'm so glad that she gave me

506
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:58,200
Speaker 4: that advice and told me not to do that. And yeah,

507
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:00,439
Speaker 4: and so it's like now I can say it. I

508
00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:02,560
Speaker 4: could say it all at once, you know, we could

509
00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 4: be done. I could tell my story, my narrative and

510
00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 4: get that said. Like, I never leaked anything to the media.

511
00:24:08,920 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 4: I might have said something on my podcast and it

512
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:14,680
Speaker 4: got picked up, but I never played that game anything.

513
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:15,640
Speaker 3: I didn't do that.

514
00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:18,679
Speaker 2: It was really good you you held it down. But

515
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:23,359
Speaker 2: speaking of letting people talk before we leave, we obviously

516
00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:26,760
Speaker 2: are so curious to know what is your future in

517
00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:28,800
Speaker 2: this franchise, what does that look like?

518
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:29,960
Speaker 3: Can you answer that?

519
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:34,200
Speaker 4: I mean, as bachelorettes, you can always keep me near

520
00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:38,679
Speaker 4: and dear. I love the bachelorettes. You know, it's like

521
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:42,080
Speaker 4: there's such a bond there. Sometimes, you know, we have

522
00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:43,720
Speaker 4: a group chat. Sometimes we talk all the time.

523
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:46,040
Speaker 5: We don't talk. We go months.

524
00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 4: One of these days, trist is going to be successful

525
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 4: in planning that bachelorette trip.

526
00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:54,240
Speaker 1: True, you could do nothing without Trist.

527
00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 4: So great, so great, and when we all get together,

528
00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:59,920
Speaker 4: there's just so much love. So you know, by heart

529
00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:02,840
Speaker 4: is with the bachelorettes the future of the franchise.

530
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:03,480
Speaker 5: Who knows?

531
00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 4: Did I think five years ago that I would be

532
00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:10,480
Speaker 4: sitting back on Bachelor Happy Hour with two bachelorettes talking

533
00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:13,960
Speaker 4: about the franchise from something we filmed that I was

534
00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:14,479
Speaker 4: a part of.

535
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:18,760
Speaker 5: No, so who knows? Who knows? Who knows?

536
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 4: I mean, I will be on anything ANYTIMEE sued. I'm

537
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:24,919
Speaker 4: not planning on popping back on anybody's season except for

538
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 4: what we already did as bachelorettes. But yeah, you know,

539
00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 4: you never know.

540
00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:31,119
Speaker 5: You'll talk five more.

541
00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:32,879
Speaker 1: Years, never know, you never know.

542
00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 5: I can't now.

543
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,720
Speaker 4: Look I'm here now. I thought no, but you know

544
00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:39,160
Speaker 4: it's not letting you've changed.

545
00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:42,159
Speaker 6: Yeah, I have to tell a story.

546
00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:45,479
Speaker 1: One year ago, me and Rachel were at dinner and

547
00:25:45,520 --> 00:25:48,400
Speaker 1: this is for Megan's for Meganize, And this is when

548
00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:50,800
Speaker 1: I was in my Hinge era and I was swiping

549
00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:53,879
Speaker 1: on Hinge and I found Brian on Hinge and I

550
00:25:53,960 --> 00:26:00,080
Speaker 1: reported him for domestic terrorism. I'm that man's probably still

551
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:03,359
Speaker 1: on the app to this day that I need people

552
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:06,200
Speaker 1: to know that I'm out here doing the work.

553
00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:12,560
Speaker 4: I love that level of pettiness that.

554
00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:17,920
Speaker 1: You have a Hinge and right after as he.

555
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 4: Should, as he should, I mean, listen, I should not

556
00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:23,800
Speaker 4: know and you were doing the work on yourself.

557
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:26,160
Speaker 1: He's on hinge it how to have been early? Whin's

558
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 1: Megan's birthday?

559
00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:28,440
Speaker 5: Megan's in June?

560
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:29,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, or summer.

561
00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:35,360
Speaker 4: I feel like they say when a woman has done,

562
00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:37,680
Speaker 4: she's been done for a while. That's so true, and

563
00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:40,760
Speaker 4: even working on it, like you know it's over, but

564
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:43,000
Speaker 4: you're still just like I want to say that I

565
00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:46,719
Speaker 4: tried every single thing I could before it's ending, but

566
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:50,960
Speaker 4: like you know, you know it's done. But I feel

567
00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:54,679
Speaker 4: like I put myself out there. But I haven't been

568
00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:57,800
Speaker 4: on a dating app, but I on dating apps before

569
00:26:57,840 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 4: we got together, so it's not shocking that you know,

570
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:02,679
Speaker 4: he was on the app after Like that's that's his

571
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 4: form of dating, so it doesn't shock me.

572
00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:06,359
Speaker 5: Should good for him, but for.

573
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:09,640
Speaker 4: Me, I feel like it didn't take me as long

574
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:12,920
Speaker 4: as I thought to just go out there and have fun,

575
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:15,200
Speaker 4: Like situations just kind of presented.

576
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:15,520
Speaker 5: Themselves to me.

577
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:17,520
Speaker 1: Well, of course, I mean, and.

578
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:20,440
Speaker 4: I but I was a shell of myself, Like it's

579
00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:23,679
Speaker 4: all right about it. But the way you feel after

580
00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 4: something like that, the way you feel after something like that,

581
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:30,320
Speaker 4: it's just you know, I yeah, yeah, Like I have

582
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:32,720
Speaker 4: another friend going through a divorce right now, and I

583
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:34,760
Speaker 4: feel like I've become her coach.

584
00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:36,280
Speaker 5: She's like, well, how do you feel about this?

585
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:38,600
Speaker 4: I'm like, gosh, I gotta write this because there's so

586
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:43,280
Speaker 4: many people who have questions about the little things. But yeah, no,

587
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:49,640
Speaker 4: I that's so hilarious. I love that so much too. Yeah,

588
00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:54,000
Speaker 4: I'm totally dating again, and it's it's you know, for

589
00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:55,000
Speaker 4: him again.

590
00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:56,080
Speaker 5: I good luck.

591
00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:58,880
Speaker 4: I mean, everybody gloves everybody, but I do. I think

592
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:01,520
Speaker 4: people are easier on men. So I don't think I mean,

593
00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:04,240
Speaker 4: I don't think it'll be hard for him by any means.

594
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:05,400
Speaker 1: I think it should be.

595
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:06,359
Speaker 5: I don't think it'll be.

596
00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:10,399
Speaker 4: It maybe, but it you know, I maybe he's better,

597
00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:14,080
Speaker 4: who knows, who knows, I know my experience with him.

598
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:15,399
Speaker 4: Look at me being nice.

599
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:23,359
Speaker 1: I know, Rachel, if I know nice, Maybe I'm paying.

600
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm just still not over I'm so angry, you know.

601
00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:30,639
Speaker 4: Maybe he's different, Like that's my experience with him. I

602
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 4: just I would I would hope that he's not out

603
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:35,920
Speaker 4: here raising terror, like like it's not the same with me.

604
00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:37,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I like this.

605
00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 5: I think it's I couldn't written book last year. Last year,

606
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 5: it would have been a burn book, like.

607
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 4: He is, yeah, no, no, no, no.

608
00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 5: But that's that.

609
00:28:50,520 --> 00:29:00,560
Speaker 6: I love that story and truly, I I'm excited.

610
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:03,040
Speaker 1: Are you going to share anything in the book about

611
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 1: how your dating life has been?

612
00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 3: Oh?

613
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:09,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know it's yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'll probably

614
00:29:10,080 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 4: I'll talk about like some of the dates because like

615
00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:16,480
Speaker 4: my big one of my biggest fears about dating. And

616
00:29:16,680 --> 00:29:19,360
Speaker 4: I mean, Charity, you're not in this conversation.

617
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 1: But this is.

618
00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 5: I do you fear that someone?

619
00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 4: Because I went on this one day and the guy

620
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:30,760
Speaker 4: did not know I was the bachelorette, which is great,

621
00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:33,240
Speaker 4: but it naturally is going to come out because I

622
00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:36,239
Speaker 4: have to say I'm divorced, and then it's then it

623
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 4: becomes well how did you meet your ex husband?

624
00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:40,920
Speaker 5: And then you have to talk about it. And so

625
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 5: immediately when I.

626
00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 4: Said it, he was like, oh that's right, Like I

627
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:48,440
Speaker 4: remember when everybody was talking about it. Then they want

628
00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 4: to ask questions about your experience. So it's like, are

629
00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 4: you getting to know me because you like me and

630
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 4: you want Mike, you want to get to know me

631
00:29:57,040 --> 00:29:59,320
Speaker 4: because that's part of my story, or are you just

632
00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:02,760
Speaker 4: so curious about what it's like to be on reality TV.

633
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:06,960
Speaker 4: And that's the scariest thing about dating post Bachelorette.

634
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:09,160
Speaker 5: Are you in it for me? Are you just in

635
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:11,959
Speaker 5: it to my story? Are you curious? So you've probably

636
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 5: had I have the.

637
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 1: Same exact story. I was seeing a guy and I

638
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:19,240
Speaker 1: met him through someone and he somehow didn't have social media,

639
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:23,280
Speaker 1: and I kept it from him for so long, but

640
00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:25,479
Speaker 1: it got to the point that he'd be like, Oh,

641
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:27,400
Speaker 1: how do you know this friend? And it would be

642
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:29,560
Speaker 1: like my friend Genevieve who was on my season, And

643
00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, eventually I do have to tell him.

644
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:34,880
Speaker 1: And right after I told him, man, and then you

645
00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 1: go back and forth and you're like, I don't want

646
00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:39,240
Speaker 1: to lead with this because this isn't who I am,

647
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:41,840
Speaker 1: but it's such a big part of me, and it's

648
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:44,320
Speaker 1: so hard to find someone and Charity knows that I'm

649
00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:47,600
Speaker 1: going through this that is supportive and can understand me,

650
00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 1: because it feels like sometimes if they have not been

651
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 1: through it, they can't understand.

652
00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 4: Right right, you become now the reality TV star and

653
00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:01,200
Speaker 4: they probably have had all these pre conceive notions about

654
00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:04,320
Speaker 4: or assumptions about what a reality TV star is.

655
00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:05,440
Speaker 5: And so they start to look at you through a

656
00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 5: different lens.

657
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:09,440
Speaker 4: It's almost good to just get it out at the beginning,

658
00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 4: but I it's.

659
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 5: That's the scariest part about it.

660
00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 1: I don't want to leave with it because then also

661
00:31:15,160 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 1: what kind of a person are you? If you're like, oh, yeah,

662
00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:19,640
Speaker 1: you want to like be with me because of that.

663
00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:23,959
Speaker 4: Or you get the you look familiar, Oh that is

664
00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:25,120
Speaker 4: where do I know you from?

665
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm like you tell me.

666
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 4: And then you're like me, you try to say everything,

667
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:33,320
Speaker 4: but you're like, I'm like I just have one of

668
00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:33,840
Speaker 4: those faces.

669
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 5: And they're like no, no.

670
00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:39,600
Speaker 1: No, I saw you on ESPN like no, yeah, I was.

671
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 5: There, Like they keep pressing right, just give it up,

672
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 5: like oh well I have a podcast.

673
00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:48,920
Speaker 4: No no, And then I'll try to say like, oh,

674
00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:49,920
Speaker 4: are you from Texas.

675
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 5: That's not it.

676
00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 1: I don't know if I told that, but she saw

677
00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:55,600
Speaker 1: you on billboards most likely I get.

678
00:31:55,720 --> 00:31:58,120
Speaker 4: It's like oh, and then they're like that's it. When

679
00:31:58,160 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 4: you finally have to say it, and.

680
00:31:59,440 --> 00:32:03,240
Speaker 5: It's like oh, here we go, here we go.

681
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, are you with someone now or are you still

682
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 1: like dating around?

683
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 5: No, I'm dating someone. Yeah, yeah, I love this.

684
00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 1: I know, I know, but we are obviously so happy

685
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:19,160
Speaker 1: and so excited for you. This is such like a

686
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:22,320
Speaker 1: new chapter for you, and no one is more supportive

687
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 1: than me and Charity.

688
00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 2: We're just happy this book club and we will be

689
00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:28,680
Speaker 2: to a book club.

690
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:31,560
Speaker 1: No, I want I should you just hear Rachel wants

691
00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:32,560
Speaker 1: to do a book with us.

692
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:36,680
Speaker 4: Should we do like a bachelorette reading time?

693
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:40,400
Speaker 1: It's just I'm already saying I'm putting in the group

694
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:41,320
Speaker 1: chatwards my phone.

695
00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:43,960
Speaker 5: No, actually know, I gotta finish.

696
00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:46,600
Speaker 1: Everyone hit pre order as soon as this goes on sale.

697
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, I gotta finish this. That's yeah, I feel tired

698
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 5: to go.

699
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:54,040
Speaker 3: We'll make it happen. Don't you worry?

700
00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 1: You have no idea what's about to happen?

701
00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:01,960
Speaker 5: I know, guod thing people are like, didn't you sign it?

702
00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:06,760
Speaker 5: Didn't you have an NDA in your settlement? On purpose?

703
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:08,280
Speaker 5: That purpose?

704
00:33:08,320 --> 00:33:08,680
Speaker 1: That was?

705
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:09,720
Speaker 3: That's a smart thing.

706
00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:13,040
Speaker 1: That you can take your money, not your voice, not

707
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 1: my story, not my story.

708
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 5: That's like a thing.

709
00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 4: It's it's temporary, right, money goes especially at La.

710
00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 1: Good luck and he's still here in La.

711
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:27,600
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, it's crazy.

712
00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:32,440
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I cannot I cannot still wrapping my head.

713
00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:35,640
Speaker 2: I know, we like we could not be more happy

714
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 2: that you decided to come back on the podcast you started.

715
00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 3: We're not we're literally not going, but it's crazy.

716
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:46,960
Speaker 4: It's your podcast here, and like it's so I'm so

717
00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 4: excited for you guys. I said this at the beginning,

718
00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:53,800
Speaker 4: but this is how it started for me seven years ago.

719
00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:57,960
Speaker 4: That's your happy hour. I really feel like I curated

720
00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:02,560
Speaker 4: my voice, my opinion. Everybody who works here is so supportive,

721
00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:05,720
Speaker 4: you know, like you learn to say things that because like,

722
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:08,960
Speaker 4: let's just dispel this myth. Everyone's like, oh, it's corporate. There,

723
00:34:09,040 --> 00:34:10,319
Speaker 4: you're saying what you're supposed to say.

724
00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:11,000
Speaker 5: No, you're not.

725
00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:13,000
Speaker 4: You might have to interview somebody you don't want to

726
00:34:13,239 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 4: want to, but these are your opinions. And I'm like

727
00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:19,759
Speaker 4: just so excited to see where this takes you.

728
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:20,960
Speaker 5: It really does like it.

729
00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:24,040
Speaker 4: I never could have imagined starting here would lead me

730
00:34:24,239 --> 00:34:28,400
Speaker 4: to do so many other things, but yeah, you guys.

731
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 5: Are gonna be crash.

732
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:32,439
Speaker 1: No literally, and Charity weren't even born into Bachelor Nation yet,

733
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:35,319
Speaker 1: and hopefully we can carry your legacy a little. You

734
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 1: already are you always have just done so much for

735
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:40,080
Speaker 1: this and hopefully you can give us. I'm gonna call you.

736
00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:41,839
Speaker 1: We have to start interviewing the men.

737
00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:48,640
Speaker 5: Because okay, okay, I'm gonna take something back.

738
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:54,000
Speaker 4: So I am watching this season and I you know,

739
00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:57,200
Speaker 4: I'm on the Ringer Network and they have a Bachelor podcast.

740
00:34:57,480 --> 00:35:00,359
Speaker 4: So well, this is news, you guys. This is I'll

741
00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:03,240
Speaker 4: give you this breaking news. I'm totally going to recap

742
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:07,520
Speaker 4: with them on the show, which means the best news

743
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:09,200
Speaker 4: I've heard all this, which means.

744
00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:11,520
Speaker 5: I'll be watching and I'll be up to date.

745
00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:14,799
Speaker 4: So I would come back on your show and talk

746
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:16,160
Speaker 4: about the season because.

747
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:21,399
Speaker 1: I'll be watching. Can you guys hear this? I would

748
00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 1: do that.

749
00:35:23,800 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 4: For this season, for this season because I'm already doing it.

750
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:31,239
Speaker 4: It's like why, how why would I not come back

751
00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:35,120
Speaker 4: and like do a show with you guys watching, Because

752
00:35:35,120 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 4: now I have seen the man.

753
00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:39,799
Speaker 5: I'm mad. I need to person you. Oh yeah, you

754
00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 5: need to come in person. Yeah yeah, make it make

755
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:47,759
Speaker 5: it for like mental yeah are I'm not going to

756
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:51,040
Speaker 5: the recording. I'm not gonna go. I'm not gonna go.

757
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:54,480
Speaker 1: I'm pushing the film, pushing my boundaries. I said she's coming.

758
00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:58,880
Speaker 5: Please, I'm not gonna go do that she gives.

759
00:35:58,680 --> 00:35:59,160
Speaker 1: Us an inch.

760
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:02,719
Speaker 4: We're like and then you but I will record with you.

761
00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:05,960
Speaker 5: Guys, I've already regarded We've.

762
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:10,120
Speaker 1: Got some iconic interviews with men of the Bacherette, and

763
00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:12,719
Speaker 1: I feel like we have so much to look up

764
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:15,080
Speaker 1: to in that way, Like your interview with Jed is

765
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:16,160
Speaker 1: obviously iconic.

766
00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 5: It was one of the first. If was it it

767
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 5: was I think it was the first.

768
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:19,840
Speaker 1: Was it?

769
00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:22,560
Speaker 4: If it wasn't, it was right, It was like top

770
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:24,000
Speaker 4: it was like one of the first three.

771
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:27,200
Speaker 1: And I talked about this before you came in that

772
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:29,000
Speaker 1: he came in so happy, so.

773
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:36,400
Speaker 4: Let's beget because I just knew no one else was

774
00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 4: gonna go. Like I had so many questions, and I

775
00:36:40,520 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 4: think that that was like if I'm gonna if I

776
00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:44,800
Speaker 4: would give any advice, It's like say the things that

777
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:47,759
Speaker 4: people are too afraid to say, ask the questions that

778
00:36:47,760 --> 00:36:50,040
Speaker 4: people are too afraid to ask or they can't ask.

779
00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 5: And that was me.

780
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:52,840
Speaker 4: It's like I have so many questions, shed like and

781
00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:55,520
Speaker 4: I don't know you, like I'm not reading for you,

782
00:36:55,760 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 4: like I'm teeing Bachelorette, so like like you had to

783
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:02,440
Speaker 4: know coming in, like I am here to support Hannah

784
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:03,800
Speaker 4: in all things.

785
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:08,040
Speaker 5: So yeah, like I think bring that energy.

786
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:10,400
Speaker 4: I mean like you're nice too, because I was like

787
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:19,120
Speaker 4: that with Brendan because like my girl, I was.

788
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:23,200
Speaker 5: Like, Okay, here we go. No no, no, no, no

789
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 5: no no.

790
00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:25,799
Speaker 4: He had not been on I was. I was not

791
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:29,799
Speaker 4: recording that when he was on. I was so bothered

792
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:32,759
Speaker 4: by him when he was on Paradise. I don't think

793
00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:38,799
Speaker 4: I was doing I can't because I was yeah.

794
00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:43,279
Speaker 5: Yeah, I can't remember what year was that. I think

795
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:44,640
Speaker 5: I think it was after.

796
00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:46,719
Speaker 4: I feel like I wasn't podcasting for Bachelor Happy Hour,

797
00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:49,880
Speaker 4: but whatever, I couldn't have been because I was so upset.

798
00:37:50,360 --> 00:37:55,040
Speaker 4: I went on I went on Bachelor what is the

799
00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:57,440
Speaker 4: ringer one called Bachelor Party. I went on Bachelor Party

800
00:37:57,800 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 4: to give my opinions.

801
00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:00,759
Speaker 5: So I so, but I did.

802
00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:03,960
Speaker 4: I wasn't nice to Noah when he came on. I

803
00:38:04,040 --> 00:38:07,480
Speaker 4: wasn't nice to there. I wasn't nice to Brenton. I

804
00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:09,440
Speaker 4: feel like when he came on, I wasn't.

805
00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:10,560
Speaker 5: But you know it came.

806
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember that, but we love no No So

807
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 1: I was totally nice and then so be nice but

808
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:21,080
Speaker 1: like asked them the hard question.

809
00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:23,560
Speaker 3: But sick, don't be afraid. Okay, good to know.

810
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:28,759
Speaker 1: Because we've it's kind of been easy because we've had

811
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:30,759
Speaker 1: people on who I feel like we've had a little

812
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:33,799
Speaker 1: bit of relationship and we're able to like talk, But

813
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:36,880
Speaker 1: when we got to you gotta separate it the hard question.

814
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:38,520
Speaker 5: I actually think that might be easier.

815
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 2: It's like when you don't like I mean, it is

816
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:43,000
Speaker 2: easier just from like for banter purposes for people you know,

817
00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:45,919
Speaker 2: but like interviewing, it's like I kind of what Rachel said.

818
00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:47,359
Speaker 3: It's like I don't know you. I don't like there's

819
00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:48,200
Speaker 3: no loyalty here.

820
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:50,360
Speaker 2: It's like I don't have to sit here in tiptoe

821
00:38:50,440 --> 00:38:51,960
Speaker 2: around what's appropriate to ask.

822
00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:54,320
Speaker 5: Don't get over it. Like I would say things and.

823
00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:58,560
Speaker 4: Like I don't think Pilot Pete likes me, but I

824
00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 4: you know, like you'd say, I'd say things and you know,

825
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:03,319
Speaker 4: and then i'd see them and I'd be like, hey,

826
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:03,799
Speaker 4: what's up.

827
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:07,680
Speaker 1: Did anyone say you said this about me? Yeah?

828
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:11,279
Speaker 4: And I'd be like, put your problem, like you know,

829
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:12,960
Speaker 4: I would just be still nice, like I have a

830
00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 4: job to do whatever, it's fine, Like it's you know,

831
00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:18,839
Speaker 4: I'm too week good job. But I was gonna say

832
00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:23,640
Speaker 4: something about the the thinking that not ticking the knife

833
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:24,000
Speaker 4: in But.

834
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 1: Oh, I forgot.

835
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:28,000
Speaker 4: I was going to give you advice about about something

836
00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:32,920
Speaker 4: about about.

837
00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:35,200
Speaker 5: Not about people not liking you. Oh, I can't remember.

838
00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 7: Confront in person about what we said, not that it

839
00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:41,960
Speaker 7: was something along the lines I was gonna say, oh

840
00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:45,360
Speaker 7: oh oh, yes, came to me, thank you y vance.

841
00:39:45,920 --> 00:39:49,080
Speaker 5: So I yeah, I recently.

842
00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:53,560
Speaker 4: Is in the book I've been recent with ADHD explains

843
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 4: a lot so and I'm I'm testing out doses and

844
00:39:58,200 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 4: every time I like it's too low.

845
00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:00,560
Speaker 5: He's happening.

846
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:03,319
Speaker 4: I have to go through it, like I have to

847
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 4: keep having the avoyments with a psychiatrist because he's like,

848
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 4: it's like it's not working. So I Lisa G. Shout

849
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:16,880
Speaker 4: out to Lisa G. She's in was in the Telepictures Family.

850
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:20,400
Speaker 4: She's a trailblazer, she's a legend. She told me when

851
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:22,480
Speaker 4: I worked at Extra, and this is what I'll tell you.

852
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:25,920
Speaker 4: She said, two things should always come out.

853
00:40:25,760 --> 00:40:26,719
Speaker 5: Of your interviews.

854
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:31,640
Speaker 4: You either need to break make news right like break

855
00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:33,719
Speaker 4: some news, which you guys did. I just said that

856
00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:37,920
Speaker 4: I was gonna be on Bachelor Party recapping. And two

857
00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 4: she said make a moment like create a moment because

858
00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 4: it's very.

859
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:44,200
Speaker 5: Hard to break news.

860
00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:47,080
Speaker 4: It's very hard to get somebody to tell you something exclusively.

861
00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:50,000
Speaker 4: So make a moment. That moment might be in your question,

862
00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:53,399
Speaker 4: that moment might be in your reaction to something. That

863
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:56,880
Speaker 4: moment might be something you reveal in within the interview.

864
00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:58,359
Speaker 5: But that's that.

865
00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:01,360
Speaker 4: I will give you what she gave me the legend

866
00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:04,200
Speaker 4: for a reason, and I took that into every interview.

867
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:06,600
Speaker 5: So make a moment or make news.

868
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:09,120
Speaker 1: And you do it may be in reporting somebody for

869
00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:10,719
Speaker 1: domestic terrorism, and.

870
00:41:11,120 --> 00:41:14,239
Speaker 3: That is such a Literally I came to dinner.

871
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:16,239
Speaker 1: I was like, Rachel, I have to tell you something.

872
00:41:16,320 --> 00:41:17,840
Speaker 1: She didn't even know I did it. It was like

873
00:41:17,840 --> 00:41:22,400
Speaker 1: probably a couple of weeks before I forgot. I was like,

874
00:41:22,440 --> 00:41:23,960
Speaker 1: I have to tell you that I forgot.

875
00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:25,839
Speaker 6: She's like, what you could do that?

876
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:28,160
Speaker 1: Well? I reported him and I wrote it in the

877
00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 1: little No.

878
00:41:29,280 --> 00:41:32,880
Speaker 2: You can report anything because and will with pleasure.

879
00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 1: You're already doing it.

880
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:38,440
Speaker 4: You're already doing it, saying you every every episode will

881
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:40,680
Speaker 4: be great if you can do one of those are

882
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:41,759
Speaker 4: both well.

883
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:43,759
Speaker 2: I have so much to learn, but hopefully can we

884
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:46,440
Speaker 2: have a whole season and years ahead of us.

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Speaker 5: Absolutely, onward and thank you.

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Speaker 3: Guys so much. Rachel think, Yeah, I'm like, I'm counting

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Speaker 3: down the days.

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Speaker 4: For you to come back like truly and to make

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Speaker 4: it a good one.

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Speaker 5: I'm staying still March, so fingers crossed.

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Speaker 1: So can you tell us? Oh wait, side note, we

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Speaker 1: want to do an episode in Carry's apartment because I

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Speaker 1: know you got his very first interview effort. Because Rachel

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Speaker 1: is his favorite, we cat it be known. Would you

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Speaker 1: come if we did an interview in Carry's apartment? Say no,

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Speaker 1: you know, we just talked about dresses.

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Speaker 5: I have a key.

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Speaker 1: We can carry this apartments.

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Speaker 5: Maybe I just might, or you.

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Speaker 1: Can in the kitchen and we can look at you

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Speaker 1: come through.

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Speaker 3: Maybe Okay, Bachelor happy hour at Carrie. He's like the

903
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Speaker 3: true bachelor happy hour.

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Speaker 1: That will be a happy hour a little.

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Speaker 3: That's a little moment.

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Speaker 5: I'd be down for that. Okay, I'd be down.

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Speaker 4: That's legend to legendary to not do to and you.

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Speaker 1: Did the first one. He said he would never be

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Speaker 1: on a podcast, and you got him. So we need

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Speaker 1: you there. I will be there.

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Speaker 5: I can't say no to my care beer.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh my gosh, I don't even want this to end.

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Speaker 1: I feel like we can't thank you enough. You are

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Speaker 1: just such a legend. I think, beyond what you know,

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Speaker 1: every Bachelorette has so much to learn from you, but

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Speaker 1: even just what you've done after, I think, yeah, we

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Speaker 1: just can't hype you up enough. You are so incredible.

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Speaker 1: So I know the viewers think the same. Thank you

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Speaker 1: so much for being thank you.

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Speaker 5: Thank you, guys so sweet.

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Speaker 4: I have such a hard time taking a compliment, so

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Speaker 4: I'm just gonna say thank you. I'm not going to

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Speaker 4: be self deprecating because that's today, but thank you, thank you.

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Speaker 2: You deserve it all, and you've paved the way for

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Speaker 2: so many of us. Just legendary, truly, and it will

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Speaker 2: live one it will and I hope you know that.

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Speaker 5: Thanks so guys, Yes.

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Speaker 1: Well, we hope everyone enjoyed this as much as we did.

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Speaker 1: And we can't wait to have Rachel back. So thank

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Speaker 1: you again, Oh.

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Speaker 3: My god, yes, yay, and thank you to all of

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Speaker 3: our listeners. Be sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 2: We have more exclusive interviews coming your way for this

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Speaker 2: upcoming season of the Bachelorette, But until next time, We'll

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Speaker 2: see you guys soon.

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Speaker 1: Hi,