WEBVTT - | Ep 55 | Shady Girl Summer 0:00:00.720 --> 0:00:04.360 Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect 0:00:04.400 --> 0:00:17.119 Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Welcome to another episode 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:21.120 of Reasonably Shity. I am Gazelle Bryant. What's up, my people, 0:00:21.160 --> 0:00:23.160 This is Robin Dixon. Thank you so much for being 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:25.600 here with us and lending us your ears, I know, 0:00:25.880 --> 0:00:28.840 for another episode. Yes, I love it. I love like 0:00:29.000 --> 0:00:31.159 the fact that we can like just chit chat and 0:00:31.200 --> 0:00:33.960 talk to the people and then and they're not talking back, interrupting, 0:00:33.960 --> 0:00:35.599 they're not talking about But the only part I hate 0:00:35.680 --> 0:00:37.600 is like we're chit chatting and then we might say 0:00:37.840 --> 0:00:41.000 one thing wrong and someone takes a little clipt on 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:43.960 Internet and then we're like, you know, people who we 0:00:43.960 --> 0:00:45.680 weren't chit chatting to have a problem with where we 0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:47.760 said yes. But then we're trending, and that's all that 0:00:47.800 --> 0:00:51.000 really matters, I know, I know, Like because we never 0:00:51.040 --> 0:00:54.680 actually talked on the podcast about the whole your comment 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:58.880 about um, Tamera and Teddy's podcast. Oh no, we did 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:02.440 two teas in a pie and and and that ship. 0:01:02.560 --> 0:01:06.119 All the Little Housewives blogs picked that up and oh 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:11.040 my gosh, and it gave them, um some gave them 0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:14.720 attention which they didn't have so you're welcome to tease, 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:19.720 and you're welcome people like they're people like they gossip 0:01:19.720 --> 0:01:22.800 about housewives and and and let's let's just say this 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:26.920 the differences. Yes, they're able to talk about what happened 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:29.280 on their shows because they're no longer on it, whereas 0:01:29.280 --> 0:01:31.040 we can't do that. And to be quite honest, I 0:01:31.040 --> 0:01:33.040 don't even want to do that right exactly, like we 0:01:33.120 --> 0:01:35.120 see enough of each other on these shows, and y'all 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:38.880 see enough of us, you know, Okay, so per usual 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:41.480 while our shady moment of the week, and I'm like 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:43.120 kind of hot about my shady moment. I know I 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:46.120 was hot last week with my whole airplane tobacco. But 0:01:46.240 --> 0:01:55.920 I'm hot, okay. So I you know, all of my 0:01:55.960 --> 0:01:59.040 girls I've said, are working. They have a job, they 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:02.520 get a paycheck. I have like joint accounts with the 0:02:02.560 --> 0:02:05.280 girls with the twins. Grace Hays her a little own 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:08.560 because I got her off my little stuff. Um, and 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:12.040 so because they were getting their little paychecks direct deposit, 0:02:12.120 --> 0:02:14.200 I wanted to set the twins up, so I need 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:16.679 to take them to the bank where they work is 0:02:16.720 --> 0:02:19.280 around the corner from my house. So I was like, um, guys. 0:02:19.360 --> 0:02:21.600 I'm just gonna like pick y'all up and take you 0:02:21.639 --> 0:02:23.919 all to the bank. And Grace was like, oh no, no, no, no, mommy, 0:02:23.919 --> 0:02:26.480 don't come to the job. We'll meet you at the bank. 0:02:27.360 --> 0:02:30.840 So anytime a kid says no, no, don't come, zoom 0:02:30.880 --> 0:02:35.880 zoom come. Oh it's the cute boys. So so you know, 0:02:35.919 --> 0:02:38.239 when you first pull into where the school is where 0:02:38.240 --> 0:02:40.840 they work, the parking lot is right there. That's the 0:02:40.840 --> 0:02:42.240 first thing you see is the parking lot. So I 0:02:42.240 --> 0:02:44.680 was like, I'll meet you on the parking lot. So 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:48.000 they have to clean up after their kids, pack their 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:50.480 backpacks and walk to the car, which is like they 0:02:50.480 --> 0:02:53.080 have to walk over hill to get to the car. 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:58.360 So what are their friends? Was outside and saw what 0:02:58.440 --> 0:03:01.160 I saw when I pulled up, which was two boys 0:03:01.960 --> 0:03:07.840 on top of Grace's car waiting for Grace, literally literally 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:10.359 laying on top there. One was laying on top of 0:03:10.360 --> 0:03:15.040 the food and one was actually standing on the tires 0:03:15.080 --> 0:03:16.960 in the back and kind of like laying on the 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:19.720 back of the car. I was undone, Oh my god. 0:03:19.800 --> 0:03:22.520 So I pull up and I see this bullshit, and 0:03:22.840 --> 0:03:26.000 somebody tells the little Gucci car on the little guccy 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:29.440 car and then they're kind of like exactly and they're 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:32.200 taking like selfies right, but they're like waiting for the girls. 0:03:33.400 --> 0:03:36.360 So somebody texted them and said, uh, you're two boys 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:38.280 and I'm gonna remain no. They don't know that I'm 0:03:38.280 --> 0:03:40.680 their girl's mother. The two boys are laying on the car. 0:03:40.920 --> 0:03:42.760 So they were like two boys laying on the car. 0:03:43.200 --> 0:03:47.400 Mom's on her way. Holy shit, they start. I see 0:03:47.400 --> 0:03:49.880 them running from over the hill to try to get 0:03:49.960 --> 0:03:53.840 to me before I lose my mom and kirst these 0:03:53.880 --> 0:03:56.320 boys out, why are you laying on my kids car? 0:03:56.600 --> 0:04:00.480 First of all, y'all are real scraffee. Second of all, like, okay, 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:04.480 so they're the lifeguards at the at the at the camp, 0:04:05.120 --> 0:04:07.280 so they're actually they have six packs. I mean, it's 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:09.280 just like if you take your shirts off, they're cute, 0:04:09.520 --> 0:04:14.280 but y'all need haircuts and y'all need clean clothes. Okay, 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:17.600 So here go Angel, because she's a slick one. She 0:04:17.680 --> 0:04:19.600 gets over the hills, she sees the car and I'm 0:04:19.640 --> 0:04:22.080 like right in front of these boys laying on my 0:04:22.160 --> 0:04:26.320 daughter's car. And she started screaming, Hi Momhi Mom. So 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:28.080 the boys like look up and they look at me. 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:35.400 They're like, oh ship. So they proceed to like get 0:04:35.440 --> 0:04:39.239 themselves together. But but the one that likes grace like waited. 0:04:40.040 --> 0:04:42.599 The other one knew better and started like walking away 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:45.360 because they want that. Apparently they have like some special 0:04:45.400 --> 0:04:48.159 handshake that they've learned together that they need to do, 0:04:48.920 --> 0:04:52.560 like a fist pumping around the back and a tuttie roll. 0:04:52.600 --> 0:04:55.400 I don't know what this is anyway, long story short, 0:04:55.480 --> 0:04:57.960 everything in me said, do not cuss these boys out yourself. 0:04:58.000 --> 0:04:59.560 Just don't cuss them out because I didn't want to 0:04:59.560 --> 0:05:01.960 embarrass my kids. Oh my gosh. So I stayed in 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:05.760 the car. Angela door jumped in my car and they 0:05:05.760 --> 0:05:08.680 were like, drive off, my drive off, drive off. I'm 0:05:08.680 --> 0:05:11.120 not I'm not in a rush or race. I ain't 0:05:11.160 --> 0:05:16.320 going nowhere. So the shadiness of this all is boys, 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:19.920 please act like you don't know who my kids are. 0:05:20.640 --> 0:05:23.880 I just want my children to be boy free forever. Okay, 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:26.760 So my question is I feel like that's not the 0:05:26.760 --> 0:05:29.520 first time they've done that. That's how I feel. That's 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:32.719 how they wait for them every every day and lay 0:05:32.720 --> 0:05:35.120 on the car. Yes, So I said, does this happen 0:05:35.160 --> 0:05:36.320 every day? And they were like, no, this is the 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:40.200 first time. Y'all line, y'all lie. And then I said, 0:05:40.680 --> 0:05:43.000 I was like, look, if they want to wait for you, cool, 0:05:43.040 --> 0:05:45.000 they can stand next to the car, then laying all 0:05:45.040 --> 0:05:47.720 over the car. This is not their car, and then 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:50.000 standing on the tires that can hurt the tires, bust 0:05:50.000 --> 0:05:51.560 the tires. And I'm not buying you all new ones. 0:05:52.200 --> 0:05:56.080 So I was literally thinking to myself, did this ever? 0:05:56.200 --> 0:05:58.159 Did I ever? Was a boy ever waiting by my 0:05:58.240 --> 0:06:01.000 car for me? And I want to say nor so 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:03.000 and it was it was a boy ever sprawled out 0:06:03.040 --> 0:06:07.080 on top of my car. No. So yeah, I feel 0:06:07.120 --> 0:06:11.200 like I just want every boy who is seventeen, eighteen 0:06:11.279 --> 0:06:13.719 or nineteen. These two boys are eighteen. By the way, 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:17.800 Grace is seventeen. Was that like a problem or is 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:21.440 that how are they Grace is seventeen? These boys are eighteen. No, 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:23.440 that's not a problem. I mean, like, legally is that? 0:06:23.480 --> 0:06:25.640 Am I legally? Because if I could bring the law 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:28.440 into this, legally, I'm gonna bring the law into this. 0:06:28.400 --> 0:06:31.320 It's so insane that that's legally a problem. Though. Okay, 0:06:31.360 --> 0:06:33.960 so then the next day, this is the side note. 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:37.680 The shadiness is the boys guys. But a side note, um, 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:40.719 the boys were like, so they asked, Grace, so what 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:44.120 your mom say about us? Grace is like me, So 0:06:44.160 --> 0:06:46.040 she was like, my mom said you need a haircut. 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:48.840 My mom said you need have on clean clothes. So 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:54.240 guess what. The boys win't got a haircut. That is funny, 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:57.120 and I think about, Oh my gosh, I like if 0:06:57.160 --> 0:07:02.560 that was like if one had daughters. Yes, he pulled up. Yeah, 0:07:03.800 --> 0:07:06.360 but I told the girls never again in life will 0:07:06.400 --> 0:07:09.040 I not say something. It took everything in me not 0:07:09.080 --> 0:07:12.280 to say because the new job, it's a new situation 0:07:12.280 --> 0:07:13.760 for them, and I didn't want to embarrass them. And 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:16.520 a lot of people don't know who they are, but 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:19.440 you want to be embarrassing them. The boys would be embarrassed. 0:07:19.960 --> 0:07:24.840 Well yes, but then the girls would have internalized and 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:28.720 like and cursed people out. Yeah, they deserved it. I'm 0:07:28.800 --> 0:07:31.440 surprised you didn't say anything, and so you're saying this, 0:07:31.480 --> 0:07:34.160 it's so funny. We should have talked about this um 0:07:34.320 --> 0:07:36.640 last week. And I'm gonna get to my recently stay 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:40.920 the moment, but I want to talk about this topic. Okay, okay, 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:44.320 this reminds me of and it's not the same thing, 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:48.240 but it's similar on the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Yes, 0:07:48.920 --> 0:07:55.840 when Erica Jane told Garcels fourteen year old son to 0:07:55.920 --> 0:07:58.920 get the out of here when he was helping clean 0:07:59.000 --> 0:08:03.200 up at his mom's and his mom's birthday party, picking 0:08:03.280 --> 0:08:06.360 up flowers, and you know, she goes to him, well, 0:08:06.600 --> 0:08:08.200 what are you doing here? Get out of here, get 0:08:08.200 --> 0:08:09.720 the out of here, get them and she said it 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:12.800 like several times. Yes, So when I watched that, and 0:08:12.800 --> 0:08:14.600 then and then you know, the little the boy goes 0:08:14.680 --> 0:08:16.920 to his mom says, oh my god, I just got violated, 0:08:16.960 --> 0:08:21.360 she told And when can I tell you? I have 0:08:21.600 --> 0:08:25.680 so much I don't. It's the word respect or admiration 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:29.640 for Garcel for the way she handled that, because I know, 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:36.360 I know, how would that moment if somebody told me 0:08:36.920 --> 0:08:40.839 that a grown woman told my son, my fourteen year 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:44.360 old son, Corey to get the out of here, I 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:47.720 would have lost it. I that whole place would have 0:08:47.720 --> 0:08:50.520 been toward up. I mean I probably would have been 0:08:52.440 --> 0:08:54.680 you don't talk to my kids like that, like it 0:08:54.679 --> 0:08:56.959 would I mean all types of I would have gone 0:08:57.120 --> 0:08:59.520 off on her. I would have I would have lost 0:08:59.559 --> 0:09:04.120 my mind in so I'm just like, like I look 0:09:04.160 --> 0:09:06.960 at herself, I'm like, wow, I'm that's impressive that she 0:09:07.040 --> 0:09:09.880 held her composure, and I think so kind of like 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:13.320 you should have gone off with her as Yeah, well 0:09:13.559 --> 0:09:15.520 there's that, but I think Garcella, you have to keep 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:18.360 in mind, let's put this all in perspective earlier, well, no, 0:09:18.600 --> 0:09:23.559 earlier in the party. Okay, Erica is beyond drunk. She's 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:27.720 totally wasted. So she's drunk. She has hit on Garcella's 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:32.120 older son. She has asked to have a threesome with 0:09:32.360 --> 0:09:35.880 Garcella's older son, which is horrible because everybody knows he's 0:09:35.880 --> 0:09:37.360 in a relationship, and it's like, come on, this is 0:09:37.360 --> 0:09:41.720 not even cute or funny. You look real creepy, Erica. Um, 0:09:41.840 --> 0:09:44.640 and then the younger son you tell him get the out, 0:09:44.760 --> 0:09:48.560 Like what So maybe, okay, maybe she knew herself was 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:51.840 like over her, Yes, but I guess she knew she 0:09:51.920 --> 0:09:54.319 was drunk, right, So so if Garcella knows, like, okay, 0:09:54.320 --> 0:09:56.240 she's really drunk, she already sees how she's acting, so 0:09:56.320 --> 0:10:00.680 maybe she's like, okay, she's not in full control of 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:02.640 of what she's doing, what she's saying, So maybe that's 0:10:02.640 --> 0:10:04.920 why Garsela was like easing her, but she walked over 0:10:04.920 --> 0:10:08.199 and it was like, Erica, you told what's his name? 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:11.360 I don't know the kid's name? You told Jack? Yeah? 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:14.840 Like what I would have been like, first of all, 0:10:14.840 --> 0:10:16.520 why am I leaving the party? You still here and 0:10:16.559 --> 0:10:19.520 you're disrespecting my kids? Bitch, get out my party right? 0:10:19.840 --> 0:10:22.560 Leave right? And I don't care how you getting home. 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:24.880 I just, oh, my gosh, I know I would have 0:10:24.920 --> 0:10:28.520 lost it, like that wouldn't have gone to Yeah, that 0:10:28.520 --> 0:10:31.280 wouldn't gone okay. So when that just made me think 0:10:31.320 --> 0:10:33.920 like if if I if I had daughters and I 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:38.600 pulled up and boys are like laying on her car, Yeah, 0:10:38.600 --> 0:10:40.840 what would I do? I know what wanted with you? 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:43.120 But it was so many emotions that went through my 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:46.400 body and I was like, let me age, just not 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:49.400 embarrass them, let me And they got there fast they were. 0:10:49.840 --> 0:10:52.240 When I saw them running towards me, I was like, okay, 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:54.560 now did they admit that's why they were running? Did 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:56.439 you ask them? Like? Oh, they told me. They told 0:10:56.480 --> 0:10:58.360 me that they text messages that said that I was 0:10:58.520 --> 0:10:59.840 laying on the car and they knew I was coming, 0:10:59.840 --> 0:11:02.160 so they were like, oh, hell no, we gotta get 0:11:02.160 --> 0:11:07.080 there quick. So what it was all happening fast? But yes, 0:11:07.200 --> 0:11:09.280 I don't believe that's the first time that these boys 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:13.640 do this and do it again, and I will be 0:11:13.679 --> 0:11:25.160 doing pop ups. Okay the end. Alright, So my recently 0:11:25.200 --> 0:11:32.000 shady moment um, it's more of just like a complaint. Okay, Okay, 0:11:32.040 --> 0:11:34.960 I like complaints. I'm not coming here for that. So 0:11:35.679 --> 0:11:41.480 I really hate rude people on emails, meaning you send 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:46.559 me an email, you don't greet me, and you don't 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:49.600 that would be me. Okay, that's you. I would get 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:52.120 on you. But I'm just all right, I want to 0:11:52.120 --> 0:11:53.720 read this email. So I want to read this email. 0:11:53.800 --> 0:11:56.640 I got this email today. It's like, so many things 0:11:56.679 --> 0:11:59.760 wrong with this email, and this is to my business, 0:11:59.800 --> 0:12:04.280 so embellished my e commerce business sell hats, t shirts, hoodies, 0:12:04.320 --> 0:12:07.360 all that, right. So the email says my order is 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:11.240 the subject. The body of the email goes my order 0:12:11.320 --> 0:12:14.720 was returned because my apartment number was left off. I 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:17.400 would like to read shipped to me order number two 0:12:17.400 --> 0:12:24.080 seven seven three. Okay, no, no please, first of all no, no, 0:12:24.120 --> 0:12:27.920 first of all, hello, no hello. I would have written 0:12:27.960 --> 0:12:31.360 what she wrote for the record, that's rudest ship. It's 0:12:31.400 --> 0:12:35.240 so rude. I hate it. First of all, no hello, okay, 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:39.200 no please, because first of all, you left your apartment 0:12:39.280 --> 0:12:42.120 number off. This is not my fault that your apartment 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:45.840 number was left off. And your package is being sent 0:12:45.920 --> 0:12:49.200 back to me, and now you're asking me to your 0:12:49.960 --> 0:12:52.320 you're asking me to read ship it to you at 0:12:52.360 --> 0:12:59.000 my cost. But it's your fault. Okay. But y'all not friends, 0:12:59.040 --> 0:13:00.680 So why why you got to get a hello? You're 0:13:00.679 --> 0:13:05.480 my friends? What y'all aren't friends? This is basic english? 0:13:05.600 --> 0:13:09.040 One oh one. See, I'm business. I'm straight to the point. Yeah, 0:13:09.120 --> 0:13:12.480 you and and and we're on like email change together. Yes, 0:13:12.640 --> 0:13:15.839 I'm horrible and like, so the so one person, they'll 0:13:15.880 --> 0:13:18.600 send an email, they'll send it to both of us, right, 0:13:19.120 --> 0:13:22.079 and so you know the emails say hi, Jazell and 0:13:22.200 --> 0:13:25.520 Robin you know this this, blah blah blah that that 0:13:25.520 --> 0:13:31.120 blah blah blah, thank you blah blah blah. Gela's response okay, 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:35.839 and I'm like, oh, hell no, I'm not letting her 0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:40.320 represent me like that. So then I will reply back 0:13:40.960 --> 0:13:43.880 hello blah blah blah, Yes, thank you for your email. 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:47.840 Robin always cleans it up. I appreciate the information. Talk 0:13:47.920 --> 0:13:49.800 to you soon. And you know what, every time I 0:13:49.840 --> 0:13:52.680 see that Robin does that, I'm like a thank God 0:13:52.720 --> 0:13:55.559 for Robin. But b this is too much nicety. No, 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:59.040 it's not. It's it's unnecessary niceties. Not it makes a 0:13:59.120 --> 0:14:03.559 difference for to people when you're asking for something when 0:14:03.760 --> 0:14:06.480 when you're like, do you think, yes, I'm gonna send 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:09.440 this woman's package back to her? Right? Okay, but I 0:14:09.559 --> 0:14:12.400 just like, this is just rude. This is just rude. 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:14.320 It's rude. One on one. I didn't know. You don't 0:14:14.360 --> 0:14:16.760 teach people that they don't You don't learn this in school. 0:14:17.240 --> 0:14:20.480 When you write an email, you you you put a greeting, 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:23.920 to write a sentence, you say thank you, Like, where 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:28.080 are the manners? Please? Thank you? I don't get it. Okay, 0:14:28.120 --> 0:14:31.080 this is the but but in this woman's defense, I 0:14:31.120 --> 0:14:34.080 feel like niceties Robin is giving me a dirty look writer. 0:14:34.720 --> 0:14:38.120 I feel like niceties are really for like people who 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:43.240 you know, A that are your friends. You're so you're 0:14:43.280 --> 0:14:46.000 the type. I'm just straight to the point, you're rude 0:14:46.000 --> 0:14:48.680 to service people. No, I'm just saying you have did 0:14:48.720 --> 0:14:51.160 you think niceties are only reserved for people you know. 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:54.440 Then that means you're just you're rude to anyone that 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:58.880 I like in person niceties. This is email, this is 0:14:59.000 --> 0:15:02.040 very in person and no, no, I'm sorry, I don't 0:15:02.120 --> 0:15:04.640 do better. I don't care who I'm talking to. I 0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:10.320 don't care if it's customer service at Saxford Avenue, I'm saying, hello, 0:15:11.200 --> 0:15:16.080 my you know my order was misplaced whatever, you know, 0:15:16.400 --> 0:15:19.080 can you please help me? Thank you? Well, I can't 0:15:19.120 --> 0:15:21.240 say that, but because of you, Robin, I'm trying to 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:23.440 do better because I see how nice you are to 0:15:23.480 --> 0:15:25.720 the world, and I'm like, damn, I'm not even I 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:30.160 I just give two words at most, and I want 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:34.000 to do better as a person. All right, yes, so 0:15:34.000 --> 0:15:38.880 so sometimes just because how my brain works, I if 0:15:38.880 --> 0:15:41.120 there's a question asked in the email, I have to 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:42.800 answer it. I have to answer the question, and then 0:15:42.840 --> 0:15:47.280 I'll go back and put in the niceties. I'm saying, right, 0:15:47.320 --> 0:15:49.240 you'll answer it, and then you'll go and then you'll 0:15:49.320 --> 0:15:53.120 edit it. Yes before I press in, Yes, please do that. Please. 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:55.640 It's just it's not that I'm rude. It's just that 0:15:55.680 --> 0:15:58.280 I'm trying to get to the next thing. I understand, okay, 0:15:58.520 --> 0:16:00.920 but I just I don't know. I just think nice, 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:06.480 like being you know, respectful, having manners. Um, it goes 0:16:06.520 --> 0:16:09.360 a long way. And did I tell y'all, I'm gonna 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:12.240 tell you. I might tell you every episode Corey in 0:16:12.280 --> 0:16:14.560 his yearbook to tell you this, he was named most 0:16:14.640 --> 0:16:21.280 respectful because you because his mama, his mother, don't play that. 0:16:21.440 --> 0:16:23.960 His mama don't play okay, And it's like, I'm so 0:16:24.000 --> 0:16:26.080 proud of that. And then this also goes for this 0:16:26.120 --> 0:16:28.600 doesn't just go for emails. This goes for text messages too. 0:16:29.280 --> 0:16:34.360 So like it now, I'm not I'm not. First of all, 0:16:34.360 --> 0:16:36.440 I don't like group text. We've already talked about talked 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:39.760 about that. That's fine, but I feel like and so on. 0:16:39.760 --> 0:16:42.480 On text messages, especially if it's not someone that I 0:16:42.840 --> 0:16:47.680 like text every day, you better say hi. Don't just 0:16:47.920 --> 0:16:51.240 don't just text me and be like what was the 0:16:51.320 --> 0:16:54.960 name of that recipe book? Again? No, you better be 0:16:55.040 --> 0:17:00.200 like hey girl. Okay. So for the record, I even 0:17:00.240 --> 0:17:04.000 worse on text messages. Okay, my Texas is like one word. 0:17:04.240 --> 0:17:06.280 It might even be a letter. Oh my god, I 0:17:06.359 --> 0:17:10.920 can not stand the letter K. And I I don't 0:17:10.960 --> 0:17:15.800 ok I don't do K. Grace does kk okay, so okay, 0:17:15.840 --> 0:17:19.720 I might do Carl give me dirty looks okay, okay, 0:17:19.760 --> 0:17:22.720 but okay, so Rob and I are on a million 0:17:22.760 --> 0:17:27.959 text change together, a million. So again I'll respond with 0:17:27.960 --> 0:17:30.160 one word and Robin comes in, Oh my gosh, thank 0:17:30.200 --> 0:17:32.840 you so much. Yes, that was so nice and blah 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:35.640 blah blah. And the answer is, what why are we doing? 0:17:36.800 --> 0:17:39.240 I don't do all that, but you do? You do? 0:17:39.280 --> 0:17:42.480 You give three sentences? I give one word? Yeah, like 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:46.080 you're I mean, I don't know. Okay, I'm gonna do better. 0:17:46.080 --> 0:17:48.240 I'm gonna do better. I'm gonna do better. Everybody. Okay, 0:17:48.359 --> 0:17:52.360 we're moving on. So that's so people, if you're listening, like, say, 0:17:52.400 --> 0:17:56.239 how give me a greeting, give me a please and 0:17:56.280 --> 0:18:00.879 thank you and give me a salutation. Stop. This is 0:18:00.920 --> 0:18:03.719 just rude and and it's and I think and I'm 0:18:03.720 --> 0:18:08.880 still doing and I think it's because you know, our 0:18:08.920 --> 0:18:12.400 society has gone more digital with texting, texting and all that. 0:18:12.680 --> 0:18:15.520 Think about before we were texting, like now everyone's texting 0:18:15.520 --> 0:18:18.840 in shorthand and whatever, like everything is so short and quick. 0:18:18.880 --> 0:18:21.040 But it wasn't like that before. I know, we were 0:18:21.080 --> 0:18:25.080 all like very much. Um courteous. We're more courteous, yes, 0:18:25.119 --> 0:18:27.880 and we gave Yeah. I just okay. Never, we're moving on. Okay, 0:18:27.880 --> 0:18:29.840 because I want to talk about Scarlett jo handsOn. Okay, 0:18:29.840 --> 0:18:33.720 because this girl said she she put out a tweet 0:18:34.800 --> 0:18:38.360 she said, if you ever locked yourself in a bathroom, cried, 0:18:39.000 --> 0:18:42.840 washed your face, and came back like nothing happened, you 0:18:42.960 --> 0:18:49.480 are strong. Okay. So after she put that tweet out there, 0:18:51.440 --> 0:18:55.880 the people spoken, okay. So in other words, she's saying, 0:18:55.920 --> 0:18:58.240 if you had a party and you can't and you can't, 0:18:58.280 --> 0:19:03.720 you know you can't get past it, your strength is 0:19:03.760 --> 0:19:08.880 equal to you wiping your face and you're coming back. Okay. 0:19:08.880 --> 0:19:13.480 So the people said that I get what she's saying. 0:19:13.520 --> 0:19:17.720 But what do people say? The people said, she doesn't 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:20.840 have social media of any kind, because clearly she would 0:19:20.920 --> 0:19:24.440 know that this is not what you should be doing. Okay. 0:19:24.480 --> 0:19:26.359 Somebody said, I lost count on how many times I 0:19:26.400 --> 0:19:29.919 did this. This was when I appreciate it. No, you 0:19:30.000 --> 0:19:32.880 are weak because you have the fear of what other 0:19:32.960 --> 0:19:36.280 people think about you. And when I read it, that's 0:19:36.320 --> 0:19:38.800 what I thought. You went into the bathroom and cried 0:19:38.920 --> 0:19:42.159 because you're concerned about what's going on. Out here in 0:19:42.200 --> 0:19:44.200 this party and you're mad about what's going on here 0:19:44.880 --> 0:19:47.440 at a party. Well, that's you know, that's the impression 0:19:47.440 --> 0:19:49.879 I she in my mind, she she painted a picture, 0:19:50.320 --> 0:19:51.840 and the picture was she was at the dinner party 0:19:51.840 --> 0:19:54.280 and cocked up party or something, and somebody had said 0:19:54.320 --> 0:19:56.159 something to her sideways or something that she didn't like, 0:19:56.560 --> 0:19:59.360 and so she went to the bathroom and had tears 0:19:59.480 --> 0:20:02.040 and then she her facing came out, and she was 0:20:02.080 --> 0:20:04.080 strong because she was able to wipe her face and 0:20:04.119 --> 0:20:07.560 no one knew she cried. I'm like, girl, Bob, get 0:20:07.600 --> 0:20:13.320 some problems. I mean, okay. So I feel like I 0:20:13.400 --> 0:20:15.720 understand where she was going with it. I think she 0:20:15.840 --> 0:20:19.080 was just setting a visual. But I think she's just 0:20:19.119 --> 0:20:21.760 saying to anyone regardless, like Okay, if you're going through 0:20:21.800 --> 0:20:27.160 something like, it's okay, step away, you know whatever, get 0:20:27.200 --> 0:20:29.760 your emotions out your whether it's your tears or your 0:20:29.800 --> 0:20:33.760 frustration and your anger, and and come back. I don't know, 0:20:33.840 --> 0:20:36.480 I just I don't. I don't think it. But it 0:20:36.560 --> 0:20:40.480 is that an indication of strength or are you weak 0:20:40.520 --> 0:20:42.720 because you had to go to the bathroom and cry? 0:20:42.840 --> 0:20:44.359 How about suck it up? But a cup in the 0:20:44.400 --> 0:20:46.760 moment and just keep it moving. But I think it's 0:20:47.000 --> 0:20:50.239 but not everyone is strong, not everyone, Not everyone can 0:20:50.280 --> 0:20:53.200 be strong in the moment. Some people can't deal with 0:20:53.920 --> 0:20:58.800 um stress or controversy or you know, tension in the 0:20:58.880 --> 0:21:02.440 moment in a in a you know, a strong way. 0:21:02.680 --> 0:21:06.760 You know, some people do react differently. So if you 0:21:06.800 --> 0:21:09.719 are that person, it's like, okay, react, have your moment, 0:21:10.240 --> 0:21:15.040 but collect yourself and come back so clearly like you, yes, 0:21:15.119 --> 0:21:18.600 nothing phases you, right, right, right, But nobody's gonna like 0:21:18.720 --> 0:21:20.679 is anyone ever gonna sit and make you cry? Like 0:21:20.680 --> 0:21:23.840 are you right? You've never cried at a party? Robbing? 0:21:24.600 --> 0:21:28.360 I mean no, But so I look at it. It's 0:21:28.359 --> 0:21:31.640 not about crying. It's about your emotions. I have gotten 0:21:31.680 --> 0:21:34.080 to a point where I've wanted my where my head 0:21:34.119 --> 0:21:36.240 is about to explode, you know what I'm saying, Like 0:21:36.560 --> 0:21:38.560 where I want to cut someone out and go off 0:21:38.600 --> 0:21:40.600 and I'm losing it. I'm mad and I'm angry. But 0:21:40.640 --> 0:21:44.280 that makes the party good. That's what I want to 0:21:44.280 --> 0:21:47.440 say at the party. But but that's also that can 0:21:47.440 --> 0:21:51.399 be also considered weak by not composing yourself. Right, So 0:21:51.480 --> 0:21:53.160 I look at it not just cry like I think 0:21:53.200 --> 0:21:55.919 it's just whatever it is. If something gets to you, 0:21:56.240 --> 0:21:59.320 if your emotions get the best of you, to step 0:21:59.359 --> 0:22:02.200 away and let your emotions keep, you know, like, get 0:22:02.200 --> 0:22:04.920 it out, cry, get your scream out, get your anger out, 0:22:04.920 --> 0:22:07.919 punched the wall, whatever, and then get your composure and 0:22:07.920 --> 0:22:11.120 come back. That's I thought she was talking about when 0:22:11.119 --> 0:22:14.240 you're raising babies and ship, because that's what I wanted 0:22:14.280 --> 0:22:18.840 to do when my kids were infants. Cry yes, go run, go, 0:22:19.040 --> 0:22:21.639 walk into a go to the bathroom like myself in 0:22:21.640 --> 0:22:26.200 the bathroom and scream until my lungs got sore. That's 0:22:26.240 --> 0:22:29.000