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Speaker 1: My boyfriend brag about all the girls dming him after

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Speaker 1: he started dating me, but he won't block him.

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Speaker 2: Why would he?

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Speaker 1: Well, hello, everyone had a situation recently with my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: of one year in five months. Hopefully that's not his age.

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Speaker 1: We've only had small fights that were resolved quickly within

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Speaker 1: the same day. This fight, of course, is different. By

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Speaker 1: the way. This comes from Important Support ninety four on

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Speaker 1: the our slash relationship if I separate it. So, we

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Speaker 1: were on a trip together and during our long car ride,

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Speaker 1: he brought up the topic of exes.

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Speaker 3: Lovely topic.

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Speaker 2: Lovely topic, Sam's favorite. I've never brought up my extras.

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Speaker 1: Ever, he enjoys discussing his exes and we'll bring them

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Speaker 1: up casually. Example example, I bought a certain food trip

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Speaker 1: and he said, oh, my ex bought me this once.

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Speaker 2: I would never do that.

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Speaker 1: He would never do that exact same thing in a

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Speaker 1: million years. And I actually dislike hearing about them so often.

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Speaker 1: But I've never revealed. I've never revealed that because I

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Speaker 1: didn't want to seem insecure insert clown emoji. During our discussion,

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Speaker 1: he said, four girls have thrown a fit since they

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Speaker 1: found out about you, and he appeared smug while saying

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Speaker 1: that's whack. I would not do that. That he actually

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Speaker 1: wouldn't that I can attest to everything else I cannot.

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Speaker 1: I was curious as four seemed like a lot. All

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Speaker 1: were girls he had a romantic slash hookup history with.

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Speaker 1: He explained, two blocked him after he posted the first

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Speaker 1: pick of me to a snapchat, not after he told

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Speaker 1: them that he's in a relationship, mind you, and the

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Speaker 1: other two seemingly reached out to him with intentions to

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Speaker 1: get him back. One girl was shut down and the other, oh,

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Speaker 1: the other we'll call X is the one that I've

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Speaker 1: heard about before.

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Speaker 2: Hmmm.

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Speaker 3: I did have nine people unfollow me whenever I've posted

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Speaker 3: a picture of anjie fun fact.

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Speaker 2: There you go. All nine of them may or may

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Speaker 2: not have been at this house, may or may not

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Speaker 2: have been at once to you to pick up all

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Speaker 2: the contact clues.

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Speaker 1: Uh in a second now. The ex and boyfriend dated

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Speaker 1: for just three months three years ago. This was followed

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Speaker 1: up by an on again, off again period where between

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Speaker 1: them until he fully broke up with her shortly before

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Speaker 1: he asked me out. Their relationship consisted of her being

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Speaker 1: very flaky and distant and breaking up with him often,

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Speaker 1: but still getting super upset if he saw another girl.

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Speaker 1: Despite the toxicity, he said their relationship was the most

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Speaker 1: significant to him out of all of his exes. He

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Speaker 1: once abandoned a date to go pick her up instead

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Speaker 1: when she asked, what this is his X. Yes, so

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Speaker 1: he's on the date. This is two different girls. He's

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Speaker 1: on a date with with girl A, and his ex

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Speaker 1: was like, hey, come to me. He's like, all right,

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Speaker 1: see you later, girl A. I'm gonna go back to

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Speaker 1: my ex.

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Speaker 2: This is like a first date. Maybe we don't know.

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Speaker 2: I'm trying his hardest to justify it in his.

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Speaker 3: Okay, first date with a girl, your exit you up

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Speaker 3: and says, hey, will you give me a ride?

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Speaker 2: Is she like like dying she's in Silver Lake? Is

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Speaker 2: she dying in Silver Lake?

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Speaker 3: She's just uncomfortable and she has no one else to

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Speaker 3: pick her up.

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Speaker 2: She's uncomfortable, like someone's like cold, he's cold.

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Speaker 3: It's just cold.

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Speaker 2: No, she's just cold. But if she's like.

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Speaker 1: If there's any danger present?

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Speaker 2: If if no, she's just.

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Speaker 3: Cold and she just wants to ride because no one

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Speaker 3: else will pick up.

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Speaker 2: And is she out like all alone?

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Speaker 3: Uh, she's wanting to leave a group of friends at

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Speaker 3: the bar.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, but if she was out all alone and

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Speaker 2: all her friends had left.

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Speaker 1: And she's cold, if there's any sort of.

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Speaker 2: Like an uber doesn't exist, like if she's in danger anyway, yeah,

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Speaker 2: and couldn't get out of it, I would, Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I would. You would ditch the date if it was

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Speaker 2: a first date.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's this, hey, buy me a sweater and drive

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Speaker 2: If if it was a if it was a first date,

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Speaker 2: and I would just be like, dude, if if a

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Speaker 2: woman was in trouble, you're saying I shouldn't, Sam is there? Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: one hundred A woman that broke your heart, that's okay,

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Speaker 2: you know I can forgive.

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Speaker 1: He wants abandoned a date to go pick her up

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Speaker 1: the X when she asked later finding out that she

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Speaker 1: needed a ride after being stood up by a guy.

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Speaker 1: So he just like she's just like, hey, come pick

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Speaker 1: being so she was alone and cold. I mean unless

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Speaker 2: If there's any any danger on any major like red

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Speaker 2: flags or anything, yeah, yeah. If it was like hey,

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Speaker 2: I'm uncomfortable, like yes, because of what blah then yeah boom.

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Speaker 1: So once boyfriend and I started dating, X, contacted him

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Speaker 1: every few months, usually small talk like how are you

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Speaker 1: or random pictures innocent sometimes of her, and he would reciprocate.

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Speaker 1: He posted me on snap and she viewed it. He

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Speaker 1: told me about a convo where she implied that she

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Speaker 1: wanted him to be her date to a friend's wedding.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't bothered by the interacting and never fell jealous.

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Speaker 1: I would just say, oh, that's weird when he would

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Speaker 1: tell me stuff that he saw as sketchy.

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Speaker 2: Weird, she's inviting a data as a wedding, you're a

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Speaker 2: no relationship.

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Speaker 1: But anyways, back when me and my boyfriend were talking

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Speaker 1: in the car about the four girl four girls throwing

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Speaker 1: a fit over him being with me now, he described

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Speaker 1: a snapchat on convo he had with his ex a

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Speaker 1: week ago. He said she apologized for her past behavior

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Speaker 1: and that she's jealous of me, misses him, and will

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Speaker 1: always have a soft spot for him.

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Speaker 2: If you say that, then it's obviously not going to

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Speaker 2: be friends, and so you have to go known contact.

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Speaker 1: Well, he has to bring something hard for her soft spot.

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Speaker 1: What are we doing here? Boyfriend said. He replied with,

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Speaker 1: and I quote for what it's worth. I feel the same,

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Speaker 1: but I have to move on. Yoinks I don't.

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Speaker 2: Know that he'll always have a soft spot for her.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he says he feels the same.

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Speaker 2: I mean he I guess he's like kind of setting

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Speaker 1: I think you can say, like, hey, you're awesome and

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Speaker 1: I totally respect you and totally want your happiness.

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Speaker 2: Could you say, and I'll always you know, there's always

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Speaker 2: going to be a part of me that cares about you.

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Speaker 2: Maybe do you say? Can you say that?

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Speaker 1: I think even that is great gray area? I think

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Speaker 1: I think when you're doing these messages, I think you

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Speaker 1: completely drive away from any gray areas. I think I

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Speaker 1: think it's getting too much at this point, way too much.

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Speaker 1: I was already slightly put off by his visible ego

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Speaker 1: trip when he was talking about the four girls, but

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Speaker 1: that statement made me very upset. Why tell her that

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Speaker 1: you still have those feelings an ouch? Why do you

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Speaker 1: still have those feelings when we've been dating for so

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Speaker 1: long a year and five months. I got pretty quiet,

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Speaker 2: Wait really quick, really quick. It could just be like like,

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Speaker 2: it doesn't It doesn't necessarily mean he's he still has

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Speaker 2: those feelings. It's just like, oh, there's like always going

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Speaker 2: to be a part of me that I here's for you.

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Speaker 1: I think that he I think his word it's gray

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Speaker 1: could be like, hey, you know, I always care for you,

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Speaker 1: I do want the best for you and still like

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Speaker 1: see you as a as a friend or like love

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Speaker 1: be interpreted as literally saying like oh I have a

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Speaker 1: soft spot for you, I miss you. Know that kind

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Speaker 1: of stuff was which I am reading this as if

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Speaker 1: it could be interpreted as that, I wouldn't send it.

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Speaker 1: I think you say exactly what you mean and be

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because she's because what because what she's saying is

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Speaker 2: she's saying like I want you, I want to be

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Speaker 2: back together with you, and he's like saying yes, but

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Speaker 2: I gotta move on. Yes, Yeah, I think I think

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Speaker 2: I think you can say like, like the best version

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Speaker 2: of that would be like, hey, there's always going to

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Speaker 2: be part of me that cares for you as a friend,

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Speaker 2: you drop you as a friend, Yeah, but I you know, I'll.

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Speaker 1: Be honest even that, I think you could just I

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Speaker 1: think you just have to be so so careful with

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Speaker 2: I think if you say as a friend, that's fine.

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Speaker 1: I think I think you could say like, I'm uh yeah,

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Speaker 1: as a friend, I want the best fruit. You are

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Speaker 2: But then you set the boundary. Then you're like about, hey,

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Speaker 2: I'm in a relationship. If you're you know, if you

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Speaker 2: have these feelings for me, we really can't hang out.

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Speaker 1: And I think too, especially with a person like this,

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Speaker 1: if if she gets any whiff that there is like

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Speaker 1: you can still be nice while setting a very firm

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Speaker 1: I don't think OP should say anything like negative no,

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Speaker 2: And I think that I think you need to cut

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Speaker 2: off for sure. Yeah, any like in person meet up

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Speaker 1: Definitely are you no contact as of right now?

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Speaker 2: I'm not like block, yeah, but I'm like hey, I

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Speaker 2: really can't be talking to you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, or like hey, come to my house after timpum.

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Speaker 2: I would not say that.

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Speaker 1: I said his and his exis conversation bothered me and

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Speaker 1: asked if they still talked after it. He ended up

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Speaker 1: pulling out his phone to show their snapchat chat page,

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Speaker 1: screen contained all when the screen contained all of his

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Speaker 1: snap conversations, So he's showing her their specific convo, but

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Speaker 1: then pulling it away when it's like the full list

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Speaker 1: of all of his messages like his inbox base.

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Speaker 2: Which is probably him talking to other ladies.

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Speaker 1: I asked my boyfriend why was he hiding the screen,

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Speaker 1: and he said because his group chats have weird names.

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Speaker 1: Days later he said it was because she sent him

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Speaker 1: a pet picture, and he replied with his own, but

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Speaker 1: and didn't want me to see the open photo symbol

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Speaker 1: on their chats.

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Speaker 3: Were showing them the Weiener dog and there we go.

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Speaker 1: He looked amused at the situation. When he opened his

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Speaker 1: chat with his ex, he kept it tilted away and

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Speaker 1: I looked at first before finally he showed me a

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Speaker 1: short saved small talk in convo from one year ago.

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Speaker 1: He only showed it to me for a mere second

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Speaker 1: For me, that's entirely different meetings. But he was mad

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Speaker 2: But dude, this is so sketchy. Yes, this is so sketchy.

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Speaker 1: Great question? They are shooto Papa.

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Speaker 1: Oh true? But that changed to my uh to X

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Speaker 1: This all happened on their vacation.

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Speaker 1: Ways, Hey, I know a place we're going to six

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Speaker 1: red flags? Oh? Got them? I told boyfriend I needed

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Speaker 1: I'm blocking you. I showed my boyfriend and he said

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Speaker 1: then he said, you can send it, but I will

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Speaker 3: This is like, can you get back with your ex?

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Speaker 1: Dude?

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Speaker 2: Honestly, if it was so great you feel the soft

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Speaker 1: I asked, really, and then hitsend.

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Speaker 2: Dude, this is some like like mafioso like face off

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Speaker 2: I'll do it. I'll do it.

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Speaker 1: saying that she didn't deserve that. Boyfriend said he was

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Speaker 1: saying I hope your girlfriend made you feel better. I

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Speaker 2: I think he's just trying to save her was left

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Speaker 1: Guys. I think, ope, he should run away from this relationship,

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Speaker 1: but don't run away from us, because you can join

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Speaker 1: She's blocked now, but I still feel sketched out by

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Speaker 2: Dude, I mean, he's just big.

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Speaker 1: Sketchy, get heatedly sketch you. Dude.

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Speaker 1: Really, where are we?

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Speaker 2: Really?

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Speaker 1: Where are we? But I feel like I'd be a

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Speaker 1: But he denies ever telling her that possibly I misunderstood

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Speaker 2: You don't resolve it, you break up. This is a

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Speaker 1: You give this ex the amazing man who has always

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Speaker 2: I'm sure the reason that you broke up will not

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Speaker 1: That's not how that works.

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Speaker 2: You get him in completely different ways, exact exactly musical,

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Speaker 2: So I seventeen female. I have been dating my boyfriend, Mike,

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Speaker 2: is what the ages, the ages? They're young. They're young's

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Speaker 2: We met through mutual friends about eight months ago and

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Strange Gene eight two

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Speaker 2: doing nothing. That being said, I've always been taught not

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Speaker 2: Mike's family doesn't have as much. He's mentioned how they

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Speaker 2: illegal to you, Sam, Well, no, that doesn't need to

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Speaker 2: be said. YouTubers these days, I know, I know exactly

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Speaker 2: I guess if which you will never have to because

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Speaker 2: being spoiled or out of touch, which is why I

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00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:38,640
Speaker 2: didn't bring up my family situation. I don't want him

439
00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:41,640
Speaker 2: to see me differently or feel awkward about the differences

440
00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:44,639
Speaker 2: between us. I don't care what his financial situation is.

441
00:21:45,240 --> 00:21:48,879
Speaker 2: I love him anyway. He's seen my house and know

442
00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:51,600
Speaker 2: my parents run a business, but he doesn't know about

443
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 2: all my parents' assets, which make a lot more money

444
00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:58,199
Speaker 2: and is what keeps us comfortable. So he doesn't know

445
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:00,840
Speaker 2: how much we really have. But I mean, does anyone

446
00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:03,200
Speaker 2: know how much another person's family really has? I don't

447
00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:07,240
Speaker 2: think so well. Recently, Mike and I had dinner with

448
00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 2: my family along with their cousins. We all sat down

449
00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:13,399
Speaker 2: and talked about traveling in general, and one of my

450
00:22:13,440 --> 00:22:17,760
Speaker 2: cousins mentioned a vacation home. My parents had vacation home.

451
00:22:18,200 --> 00:22:21,720
Speaker 2: So I think that the richness is showing, might be

452
00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:24,680
Speaker 2: getting might yeah, might be showing, might be showing.

453
00:22:24,760 --> 00:22:26,639
Speaker 3: At the first paragraph, they were like, we just had

454
00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:28,680
Speaker 3: normal cars, everything's normal.

455
00:22:28,680 --> 00:22:31,040
Speaker 2: But then you talk about the vacation homes. She was

456
00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:33,600
Speaker 2: talking about the cabin we had in the mountains. Our

457
00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:37,080
Speaker 2: family loves camping and hiking, so we vacationed there sometimes

458
00:22:37,720 --> 00:22:41,800
Speaker 2: and Mike went quiet, but all I could tell was

459
00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:43,960
Speaker 2: that something was up. Later, when we were alone, he

460
00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:46,680
Speaker 2: asked why I never told him that my family had

461
00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:49,040
Speaker 2: so much money. I tried to explain that it wasn't

462
00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:51,080
Speaker 2: something I thought was important and I didn't want him

463
00:22:51,080 --> 00:22:53,159
Speaker 2: to feel weird about it. Besides, he knew I was

464
00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:56,640
Speaker 2: more well off than him, he just didn't know the extent.

465
00:22:57,119 --> 00:23:00,840
Speaker 2: He just didn't know the extent. So the girls were rich,

466
00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:04,760
Speaker 2: Mike has no idea. That's when he got a bit

467
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:08,560
Speaker 2: upset and said that that caught him off guard. He

468
00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:10,600
Speaker 2: mentioned how I could have been helping him out with

469
00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:13,560
Speaker 2: some of the things he's been struggling with financially, like

470
00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:16,280
Speaker 2: gas money, or when his car needed repairs a few

471
00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 2: months ago, or when his butthole needed to be waxed.

472
00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:21,080
Speaker 2: He said that he was not asking for handouts, but

473
00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:23,159
Speaker 2: he said it feels like I was hiding something from

474
00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:26,240
Speaker 2: him when I could have made things easier. I told

475
00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:28,600
Speaker 2: him I didn't want to make things awkward between us

476
00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:31,480
Speaker 2: by offering money, and I didn't think it was my

477
00:23:31,560 --> 00:23:33,520
Speaker 2: place to get involved with his finances, which I think

478
00:23:33,560 --> 00:23:36,000
Speaker 2: is true, But now he says it feels like I

479
00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:38,159
Speaker 2: wasn't being honest and that maybe I don't trust him

480
00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:40,800
Speaker 2: enough to share that part of my life. Over the

481
00:23:40,800 --> 00:23:43,320
Speaker 2: next few weeks, Mike started getting a little invasive. He

482
00:23:43,359 --> 00:23:46,879
Speaker 2: looked up my house on Zillow and was shocked at

483
00:23:46,960 --> 00:23:50,800
Speaker 2: the value okay watching Mike showed me his screen and

484
00:23:50,960 --> 00:23:53,800
Speaker 2: was upset that he didn't know how rich we were.

485
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:57,240
Speaker 2: He also started looking up my family members and social

486
00:23:57,280 --> 00:23:59,800
Speaker 2: media sites to see what they do and how rich

487
00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:04,240
Speaker 2: they are cousins, uncles, aunts. I got really mad and

488
00:24:04,280 --> 00:24:06,719
Speaker 2: told him I didn't appreciate him digging through my family

489
00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:09,960
Speaker 2: life and my finances are none of his business. I

490
00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:13,199
Speaker 2: asked him to stop being weird. Then Mike responded he

491
00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:17,159
Speaker 2: was just trying to fully understand what my lifestyle is like.

492
00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:20,639
Speaker 2: But I think he's going completely off the rails. I

493
00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:22,440
Speaker 2: didn't mean for it to turn into such a big deal.

494
00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:24,959
Speaker 2: I was just trying to avoid him feeling uncomfortable or

495
00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:27,480
Speaker 2: like he was a less than me. I also believe

496
00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 2: my family finances are irrelevant, but now I'm wondering if

497
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:32,720
Speaker 2: I should have been more open from the start. So

498
00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:35,280
Speaker 2: am I the a hole? There is an update. There's

499
00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:40,000
Speaker 2: a lot more, but John really quick So basically TLDR

500
00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:44,119
Speaker 2: is Op's a little rich, not ridiculously rich, but a

501
00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:47,120
Speaker 2: little rich. We're talking vacation homes, traveling a bunch of times,

502
00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:51,560
Speaker 2: and Mike, her boyfriend, is like poor. And Mike suddenly

503
00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:55,479
Speaker 2: found out that Op was a little rich because he

504
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:58,679
Speaker 2: heard about their vacation home and then started doing investigating

505
00:24:58,680 --> 00:25:02,400
Speaker 2: and saw that their house was pretty expensive and then

506
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:07,640
Speaker 2: started researching everything. So the question is, is opda hole

507
00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:09,840
Speaker 2: for not disclosing that she's a richie rich?

508
00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:11,440
Speaker 1: Not at all?

509
00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:14,159
Speaker 3: I feel like, oh, they're also teenagers.

510
00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:15,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're sixteen and seventies.

511
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 1: That makes this so much more hilarious. Okay, yeah, it's

512
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:25,440
Speaker 1: the whole thing.

513
00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:30,640
Speaker 2: There's teenagers just getting this kidding holdly slightly.

514
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:32,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's the guy.

515
00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:36,320
Speaker 2: So Opia's the girl. The guys being insecure. They've been

516
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:37,360
Speaker 2: dating for like eight months.

517
00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:39,800
Speaker 1: I think, I mean, I think what this is like

518
00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:42,440
Speaker 1: to get real and deep. I think this is more

519
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:47,840
Speaker 1: a product of like maybe maybe like his his insecurity

520
00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 1: or I don't know if that's the right word, but like,

521
00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 1: you know, this is his way of kind of like

522
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:58,639
Speaker 1: processing all that. And I'm doing a terrible job of

523
00:25:58,680 --> 00:26:02,680
Speaker 1: explaining this, but I could see like an adult relationship,

524
00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,680
Speaker 1: like yeah, you get a sense of it, and finances

525
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 1: I think are discussed like as you get It's kind

526
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:10,159
Speaker 1: of like a gradual process like oh, hey, like do

527
00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:12,200
Speaker 1: we want to split things? And like once we live together,

528
00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:16,240
Speaker 1: do we split that? Like the uh yeah, I think

529
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:19,080
Speaker 1: he's doing too much. I think he's yeah, just being

530
00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:19,479
Speaker 1: super ex.

531
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:23,080
Speaker 2: He's literally acting like a sixteen year old, which he

532
00:26:23,160 --> 00:26:27,600
Speaker 2: literally is. So yeah, that's I think that's all that's

533
00:26:27,640 --> 00:26:30,720
Speaker 2: happening here. I don't know that it's like super Bad

534
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:34,640
Speaker 2: or like there's anything like deeper, more evil beneath the surface. No.

535
00:26:34,720 --> 00:26:36,680
Speaker 2: I mean I think he's just insecure. I don't think

536
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:40,520
Speaker 2: she did anything wrong. I think it's just something they're

537
00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:44,680
Speaker 2: gonna have to work out. Just grow up, yeah, grow up? Yeah. Oh.

538
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:47,640
Speaker 2: Update three days later. So when I made the original post,

539
00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:49,560
Speaker 2: it was a few days after our argument. I wasn't

540
00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:51,960
Speaker 2: going to post an update, but lots of people wanted one,

541
00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:56,399
Speaker 2: and stuff actually happened, So here we go. Yesterday I

542
00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 2: called Mike and asked if we could meet up for

543
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:02,440
Speaker 2: donuts and coffee to discuss what to do next. Their

544
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:06,040
Speaker 2: donuts was not written. I just said donuts for some

545
00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:09,119
Speaker 2: reason happens. He agreed. As we talked, I explained, my

546
00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:13,159
Speaker 2: families finances are private, yep, and it was not my

547
00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 2: business to tell other people. The money isn't even technically mine,

548
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 2: it's my parents. This is why I didn't tell him.

549
00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 2: Mike didn't take this well. He asked me how I

550
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:24,480
Speaker 2: could just watch him struggle for months and not do anything.

551
00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 2: How I pretended to feel bad for him when I

552
00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:31,000
Speaker 2: didn't even understand how bad his life was. I responded

553
00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:33,200
Speaker 2: that I did feel bad, and I have been supportive.

554
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:35,639
Speaker 2: I tried to get him a job at my parents'

555
00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:38,719
Speaker 2: grocery store, but he didn't like it, so he refused.

556
00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:42,919
Speaker 2: I always give rides to him since gas was expensive.

557
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:48,919
Speaker 2: I offer gas money whenever he did drive, but he

558
00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:51,960
Speaker 2: always refused since he wanted to pay for me. Even

559
00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:54,119
Speaker 2: just emotionally, I was trying to be as supportive as

560
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:57,800
Speaker 2: I could while he was stressed, which I feel like

561
00:27:57,880 --> 00:27:58,200
Speaker 2: is good.

562
00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, that sounds like she's doing a good job.

563
00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 2: I acknowledge that I don't understand how hard his life

564
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 2: is because I've never lived it, but I've done my

565
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:12,760
Speaker 2: best to be supportive emotionally. Mike just dismissed all of

566
00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:15,000
Speaker 2: that and said that wasn't the point. He said that

567
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 2: for him, the money wasn't the issue, it was the trust.

568
00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:21,160
Speaker 2: He felt that I had kept something significant from him,

569
00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:23,960
Speaker 2: and he's wondering what else I was hiding. He said

570
00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:26,399
Speaker 2: he wasn't asking for handouts, but knowing I had the

571
00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:29,440
Speaker 2: means to help him but chose not to made him

572
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 2: feel unsupported, Mike explained. Mike explained, he felt like there

573
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 2: was a huge gap between us now and he will

574
00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:37,399
Speaker 2: never be equal to me. He told me there was

575
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:40,040
Speaker 2: no reason for me to hide such a big secret

576
00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:45,000
Speaker 2: from him. Again, what she said repeatedly is I never

577
00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:48,600
Speaker 2: thought this was important, so that's why I didn't tell you. Yeah,

578
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:50,400
Speaker 2: and also it's not my money.

579
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:53,680
Speaker 1: Hey, Sam, I have something really big that I've been

580
00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 1: keeping from you. What my grandfather? His name was Thomas.

581
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry I never thought to tell you.

582
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:07,920
Speaker 2: What else are you hiding for me? I don't think.

583
00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:11,960
Speaker 2: I don't think this is gonna work anymore. My grandma, no,

584
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:17,680
Speaker 2: don't say it her name, no, Robbie. When will the

585
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:20,240
Speaker 2: lies stop? I don't know when will the lie stop?

586
00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 2: The lies? Biomissions? No, I think he's I think man's

587
00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:26,120
Speaker 2: covering it up.

588
00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 1: Yeah. Also, I changed my previous statement where he was

589
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 1: just like like just being like a curious teenager or whatever.

590
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:35,240
Speaker 2: I think he's doing it vindictively. Now he has I

591
00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:39,400
Speaker 2: think nefarious. Yeah, yeah, I think something's going I think

592
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:43,479
Speaker 2: he's like like trying to go backwards and like rewrite history.

593
00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 2: But so at this point I got angry. I corrected him,

594
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:51,360
Speaker 2: saying he was asking for handouts. I mentioned our previous

595
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:54,360
Speaker 2: conversation of how he said that I could have helped

596
00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:57,440
Speaker 2: with his car and gas. I explained the money he's

597
00:29:57,440 --> 00:30:01,640
Speaker 2: so desperately wanted wasn't even mine, it was my famili's.

598
00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:03,800
Speaker 2: I told him that he wasn't entitled to the money

599
00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:08,640
Speaker 2: my parents spent over two decades earning. Agreed I couldn't

600
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:11,240
Speaker 2: just bail him out of whatever problems he has with money.

601
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:14,080
Speaker 2: I went back to how I did support him, just

602
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:17,640
Speaker 2: not financially. I'm ashamed to admit that I did kind

603
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:20,800
Speaker 2: of lose my coal and almost started yelling. After that,

604
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:23,240
Speaker 2: I calmed down and explained that I would never shame

605
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:26,440
Speaker 2: him for his struggles. My family never has either. They

606
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 2: love him. We don't care about how much money someone

607
00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:31,760
Speaker 2: has We talked for some more, but I eventually told

608
00:30:31,800 --> 00:30:35,800
Speaker 2: him I wanted to break up. Ooh, you fumble the bag, bro,

609
00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 2: you fumble the bag. It wasn't because he was upset

610
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 2: I hit my wealth, but it was for digging into

611
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 2: my family member's lives. I told him that it was

612
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:47,400
Speaker 2: extremely invasive and I couldn't forgive that, and I couldn't

613
00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:50,160
Speaker 2: feel comfortable around someone who would do that. It was

614
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 2: a breach of trust for me. Mike also told me

615
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:54,440
Speaker 2: he wanted to break up since he didn't feel comfortable

616
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:59,280
Speaker 2: in a relationship where the financial gap is so big. Yeah, sure,

617
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:01,560
Speaker 2: he says, she wants to break up, and or yeah,

618
00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:03,200
Speaker 2: I want to break up to I want to break

619
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 2: up too, always going to say the first we had

620
00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 2: into the conversation. Part of ways, the good thing is

621
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 2: he goes to a different school, so I won't be

622
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 2: seeing him around. Part of me feels sad since I

623
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 2: do love him. It was my first relationship and I

624
00:31:16,080 --> 00:31:18,360
Speaker 2: wanted it to work. But I also feel relieved because

625
00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 2: I wasn't sure if I could take whatever Mike would

626
00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:23,880
Speaker 2: do if I stayed. I really didn't like him stooping

627
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:26,320
Speaker 2: in my family's lives. I'm wondering if I made a

628
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 2: mistake ending the relationship now and it really sucks. Was

629
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:31,640
Speaker 2: I too harsh? I'm not even sure. I don't think

630
00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:34,480
Speaker 2: I'll be dating anytime soon. I'm not too eager too

631
00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:36,720
Speaker 2: now there are uh is a little bit more, but

632
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,280
Speaker 2: really quick to answer that question, do you think OP

633
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:44,040
Speaker 2: was too harsh? No? Yeah, I agree, I think not

634
00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 2: at all. And just to be clear, I don't hate Mike.

635
00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 2: I do think he probably just never saw money like

636
00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:50,719
Speaker 2: ours and that he was shocked in general. And I

637
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:53,040
Speaker 2: get that he is sixteen and I'm sure he will

638
00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 2: grow out of this mentality. I hope he does have

639
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:57,840
Speaker 2: a better life, but I can't continue with him. I

640
00:31:57,840 --> 00:31:59,720
Speaker 2: don't like that he tried to dig in my family

641
00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:03,280
Speaker 2: men lives DILDR. We talked and decided to break up.

642
00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:05,720
Speaker 2: I couldn't forgive him and digging through my family's lives

643
00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 2: like that, and I wasn't comfortable to be with someone

644
00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 2: like that. Mike broke up with me since he felt

645
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,600
Speaker 2: our financial gap was too big to handle. It was

646
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:16,400
Speaker 2: mutually agreed to break up. I also wanted to clarify

647
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:18,640
Speaker 2: a couple of last things. A lot of people were

648
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,320
Speaker 2: asking about the car. Mike's car is old and used.

649
00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 2: It wasn't gifted to him by his uncle since he

650
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 2: since he doesn't use it anymore. It was about eight

651
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 2: years old. Mike didn't buy the car too. Mike doesn't

652
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:32,040
Speaker 2: know the true value of my parents' money. That's why

653
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Speaker 2: he was digging around. It seems like people on Reddit

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Speaker 2: thought I was perceived middle class are poor. I never was.

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Speaker 2: Mike and others knew I lived a life that was

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Speaker 2: well off. I just never talked about money, that's all.

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Speaker 2: Mike does not know about my parents' other assets. He

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Speaker 2: started thinking we had more money than he thought because

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Speaker 2: he found out about the vacation home. That's why he

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Speaker 2: tried digging through my family's information. He still doesn't even

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Speaker 2: know close to anything. My parents keep their assets secret,

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Speaker 2: even I don't know them. People don't start digging into

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Speaker 2: your life until you give them a reason too, and

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Speaker 2: then op makes an edit. Okay, so apparently eight years

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Speaker 2: is not that old for a car, all right, Richie

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Speaker 2: rich Sorry, I don't know how cars work, but it's

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Speaker 2: been heavily used anyway, and there are some relevant comments

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Speaker 2: to close us out.

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Speaker 3: My cars ten years old.

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Speaker 1: My car is twelve years old.

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Speaker 2: My car before this car was.

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Speaker 3: Nope, your car now like got him mister Richie rich

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Speaker 3: over here?

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Speaker 1: Whoa mister electric vehicle? It does it?

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Speaker 2: I don't have to get gas ever. It's great. All

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Speaker 2: it is great. It is great. There are some relevant comments,

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Speaker 2: but I don't know if they're that relevant. But what

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Speaker 2: are your relevant comments?

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Speaker 1: Oh, we have the most relevant comments.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that you know they're young. He was

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Speaker 2: doing a lot. He's insecure, but also he's sixteen.

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Speaker 1: He's sixteen.

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Speaker 2: I think I think, like OPI said, and mature on

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Speaker 2: her part. I think this is a mindset he can

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Speaker 2: grow up and a like kind of like emotional reaction

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Speaker 2: he grout of. Dude, I was I was probably not

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Speaker 2: the best boyfriend at at seventeen.

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Speaker 1: You know, Oh I was.

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Speaker 2: I was. I was terrible. I was so insecure.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like naive, you don't know what to do.

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Speaker 2: I was needy. I was like I was dependent. I

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Speaker 2: thought that I could only be successful as with a girlfriend,

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Speaker 2: like all these things that I think you learned to

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Speaker 2: grow out of as you just age.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, everyone is is weird.

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Speaker 2: Yeah everything everyone is secure or and everyone is insecure,

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Speaker 2: especially when they're young. And if you're not, dude, shout

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Speaker 2: out to your parents. That's crazy. Yeah, and just like

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Speaker 2: an idiot. Yeah, everyone's I think I was an idiot.

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Speaker 2: John was a secure idiot.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I kind of was, though not even gonna lie.

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Speaker 2: That actually goes that that aligns with everything I know

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Speaker 2: about suit wearing high school John.

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Speaker 1: Yes,