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Speaker 2: Teddy is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Maya. So in
Speaker 2: a few minutes we're gonna call her see if she
Speaker 2: tells us why she's ghosting him, and maybe get him
Speaker 2: another date. But first, Teddy, how long has it been
Speaker 2: since you heard from her?
Speaker 3: I've spent about a week.
Speaker 4: How many times have you tried to reach out to her?
Speaker 3: Maybe three times? Like what's every couple days? Two or
Speaker 3: three days, just you know, saying what's up? How's it going.
Speaker 5: We were talking before and after we went out that
Speaker 5: it just kind of stopped.
Speaker 4: She didn't respond to any of those.
Speaker 3: I know, not not at all.
Speaker 1: Well, let's talk about the date and see if we
Speaker 1: can see went wrong? What and see what went wrong?
Speaker 5: We went to a really nice place we went to
Speaker 5: I don't know if you've ever been there, but really cool.
Speaker 5: If they have a rooftop dining area. So she suggested,
Speaker 5: you know that we sit outside because it was a
Speaker 5: really really nice day.
Speaker 3: It was cool.
Speaker 5: We had a really great conversation and she's got her
Speaker 5: head on her shoulders, you know.
Speaker 3: In the right way.
Speaker 5: You know how a lot of people they focus too
Speaker 5: much on like social media and stuff, you know what
Speaker 5: I mean, they say about everything, like their job, and
Speaker 5: that's I'm not I'm not trying to meet anybody like that,
Speaker 5: you know. But she really loves her job. She's got
Speaker 5: a really good job. She works, and she's got goals,
Speaker 5: which is always a good thing, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3: Ye like like a five year plan.
Speaker 5: That's you know, that's that's important, and that's something that
Speaker 5: I was I really thought we hit it.
Speaker 3: Off on on that level.
Speaker 5: And uh, you know, the food is great and the
Speaker 5: hobby answer is great.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 5: So I really can't really think off the top of
Speaker 5: my head of why after such a nice date that,
Speaker 5: you know, I just she just stopped communicating with me,
Speaker 5: Like I can't say that we stopped communicating.
Speaker 3: I'm so you know, trying to reach out, you.
Speaker 2: Know, but there's nothing on the other end. Well, was
Speaker 2: there anything awkward that happened on the date at all
Speaker 2: that you can think of?
Speaker 5: I don't know if it's anything I did. I mean,
Speaker 5: I'm thinking maybe she didn't like the restaurant even though
Speaker 5: it was great. You know, but I picked it. That
Speaker 5: might have been something. I will admit. The service wasn't
Speaker 5: the best. You know, we wanted to sit outside like
Speaker 5: that she suggested it, but then they sat as were
Speaker 5: the suns like directly in our faces, you know, so I.
Speaker 3: Had to ask them to move us.
Speaker 5: And maybe like because the service wasn't so great, I
Speaker 5: think maybe like the way, you know, I can be
Speaker 5: a little assertive when I you know, when when the
Speaker 5: situation calls for it.
Speaker 3: And maybe that's part of the reason.
Speaker 5: Why A feel like the second time that I had
Speaker 5: to ask to be moved to get somebody's attention, that
Speaker 5: might be it, you know. Other than that, we talked
Speaker 5: for a while. We watched you know, the sun go down.
Speaker 5: It was really really cool, you know. And again we
Speaker 5: had a lot in common, and you know, we had
Speaker 5: you know, we had we talked about goals. That was
Speaker 5: always really good.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: So like after you were being assertive, she didn't seem
Speaker 1: to change her on my quote unquote assertive.
Speaker 4: She didn't change her demeanor. Do you feel like she
Speaker 4: kind of was.
Speaker 6: Like, what are you doing?
Speaker 5: Brow No, I mean in the moment, I can't I
Speaker 5: don't remember any disagreement I'm going to say.
Speaker 1: No, you sound really really nice. So I'm having a
Speaker 1: hard time picturing that, Like what did that sound like?
Speaker 1: Do you mind like pretending for a second?
Speaker 3: Well, no, because it's like, you know, excuse me.
Speaker 5: You know, I don't know if you remember the old
Speaker 5: US Bunny cartoon.
Speaker 3: Where he's trying to see an other animal's attention. He's like, hey,
Speaker 3: all the animals are just running. He's trying to figure
Speaker 3: out what's going on, you know, And then finally I
Speaker 3: was like, hey, excuse me for a second, you know.
Speaker 5: Okay, I didn't like raise my voice or anything, but
Speaker 5: I definitely had to like get up and go talk
Speaker 5: to somebody.
Speaker 1: Yeah, very very tame. That's what I was trying to
Speaker 1: figure out. Like, it wasn't an excuse.
Speaker 3: No, I'm not going to do that. That's inappropriate.
Speaker 4: Did you guys kiss or anything?
Speaker 3: No? No, I didn't hug. I don't really make any
Speaker 3: moves in that direction. It was a nice little hug
Speaker 3: at the end.
Speaker 6: Okay, okay, not like a side hug.
Speaker 3: No, it wasn't.
Speaker 5: No, I wasn't like a side hug, but it was
Speaker 5: very brief, like oh, thank you very much, A little
Speaker 5: pack of the cheek.
Speaker 3: That was it?
Speaker 2: Well, plus song come back and then call her see
Speaker 2: if she to tell us why she's ghosting you and
Speaker 2: maybe get you another date.
Speaker 6: Okay, okay, great, all right, well plus song come back,
Speaker 6: you get your first date. Follow up next. Right in
Speaker 6: the middle of the first day follow up.
Speaker 2: If you're just joining us, Teddy is on the phone
Speaker 2: and he's getting ghosted by Maya. So we're about to
Speaker 2: call her steps tell us why she's ghosting him, and
Speaker 2: maybe get him another date. But first, Teddy, why don't
Speaker 2: you refresh everybody's memory on your date with Maya?
Speaker 3: No, we met online, We talked for a while.
Speaker 5: We went on a really nice date at dinner and
Speaker 5: talk for a while, and.
Speaker 3: I thought everything was going great. And I haven't been
Speaker 3: able to get.
Speaker 6: A tutter since you ready for us to call her?
Speaker 3: Please?
Speaker 6: Yeah, okay, here we go, I may I speak to Maya. Please.
Speaker 6: This is hey Maya. How are you? My name is
Speaker 6: Jewbell and this is a radio show. It's called the
Speaker 6: Jebel Show.
Speaker 4: Hi, Maya, the whole show's here. My name's Nina Hi,
Speaker 4: and I'm Victoria.
Speaker 7: Hi cool.
Speaker 6: How are you?
Speaker 7: I'm good?
Speaker 8: Are you?
Speaker 2: I'm wonderful? Thank you for asking. Well, we're calling you
Speaker 2: today because we do a segment on the show. It's
Speaker 2: called the first Date follow Up. What that is is
Speaker 2: if you go out on a date with somebody and
Speaker 2: then you ghost them, that person can email us to
Speaker 2: call you and ask why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 7: Okay, that makes me nervous.
Speaker 4: Are you ghasting somebody?
Speaker 7: I guess like kin and I feel like I know
Speaker 7: this is maybe about guess Teddy.
Speaker 6: You're correct.
Speaker 2: Congratulations, you got it right. You don't get any price
Speaker 2: for that, but yes it's Teddy. Would you mind telling
Speaker 2: us why you're ghosting him?
Speaker 8: Uh? Well, so we So I met him online and
Speaker 8: I had when I was when I was online.
Speaker 7: And I was like going to the apps or whatever.
Speaker 8: A friend of mine was with me, a girlfriend, and
Speaker 8: she noticed him actually, and she was like, oh, I
Speaker 8: know exactly who that is, and she was telling me
Speaker 8: all about him. She like mentioned that he was kind
Speaker 8: of a tool and that like, I don't know, like
Speaker 8: dating him is kind of just so bad.
Speaker 7: Dating him is kind of like getting a like a
Speaker 7: loan at a bank.
Speaker 8: And so for some reason that really meant that I
Speaker 8: was kind of intrigued and I was like I want
Speaker 8: to see if this guy is really like that.
Speaker 7: Maybe he's totally not and it'll be great. So I
Speaker 7: ended up we.
Speaker 8: Ended up going on the date, and I just like
Speaker 8: the whole time he was complaining about things and like
Speaker 8: making kind of like a fuss about things, Like we
Speaker 8: were sitting outside and the sun was like on our
Speaker 8: table and he like made us move, and I just
Speaker 8: I didn't really mindn't really like totally care. And it
Speaker 8: was like super busy in our restaurant too, because like
Speaker 8: this was kind of like uncomfortable. And then when we
Speaker 8: started talking, he only asked me about my career and
Speaker 8: like how my lifestyle is and stuff like that, and
Speaker 8: I just felt like I was like, don't you actually
Speaker 8: want to get to know me? Like it kind of
Speaker 8: felt like he had already like made up his mind,
Speaker 8: like he's like I could date her and let me
Speaker 8: just see how it fits into my life that what's exactly?
Speaker 7: She like, Okay.
Speaker 8: I just felt like I had like no say in it,
Speaker 8: and I was like, Okay, this is kind of strange.
Speaker 4: Don't we want somebody that wants to date us?
Speaker 8: Know? Of course, of course, I think it was just
Speaker 8: that he didn't really ask me about any of my hobbies.
Speaker 7: He didn't ask me about like anything that I like.
Speaker 7: He was just like, what's your job? Like do you
Speaker 7: make enough money to like support yourself? Like what what
Speaker 7: do you do?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 7: You know what I mean? Like it was very like
Speaker 7: I just feel like I was in a job interview
Speaker 7: or something.
Speaker 4: Those are kind of weird questions, especially on a first date.
Speaker 1: There's ways to get those answers without asking that question.
Speaker 1: By the way, you'd like to learn.
Speaker 2: But well, guess what maya Well, it's not as easy
Speaker 2: as you think because Teddy's actually on the phone and
Speaker 2: has been listening this whole time while to talk.
Speaker 5: I don't really know how much I want to have
Speaker 5: this conversation.
Speaker 3: Now. That's that's super messed up.
Speaker 5: You know that, you know, you and your friends are
Speaker 5: making fun of me, And that's that's really what's wrong
Speaker 5: with these apps. Instead of trying to get to know
Speaker 5: someone or or share a you know, like anything proper,
Speaker 5: it's just, oh, let me go see what this person
Speaker 5: is like really about with a you know, with a
Speaker 5: with an agenda that you don't even like articulate.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 7: There wasn't like a vet or anything. I was just
Speaker 7: genuinely curious.
Speaker 5: You're genuinely curious, and you could have just asked that
Speaker 5: before we went out, all of the questions that saying
Speaker 5: that we were talking about, you could have asked me
Speaker 5: about me before we went out.
Speaker 3: You could have actually just said, hey, I spoke to my.
Speaker 5: Friend, do you know whatever whoever your friend was, and
Speaker 5: we you know, we could have had this conversation and
Speaker 5: just avoided all that whole thing.
Speaker 3: It's just a little on the ridiculous side, you know,
Speaker 3: And that's that's that's a problem.
Speaker 8: The only thing that you would have just acted probably
Speaker 8: like like a different way, and then I would have
Speaker 8: not actually known who the real you is.
Speaker 7: Like I just think that that's a silly thing.
Speaker 8: I just I went on the date, I like tried
Speaker 8: to get to know you a little bit, and you
Speaker 8: did not care about anything I had to say.
Speaker 7: You just cared about like the way I like was
Speaker 7: in my life, like how I fit into your life.
Speaker 7: And I just think that that's a silly reason.
Speaker 3: I don't know about other people online.
Speaker 5: I'm definitely me twenty four hours a day, seven days
Speaker 5: a week. So if you would have asked me, we
Speaker 5: could have you know, we could have avoided that. All
Speaker 5: you had to do was ask me about my experience
Speaker 5: with your friend. And if I could have remembered your friend,
Speaker 5: I would have told you exactly.
Speaker 3: What you know, what I felt.
Speaker 5: But when I meet with somebody, when I meet anyone,
Speaker 5: you know, I'm very straightforward about you know, what's important
Speaker 5: to me. And I think that we know, what we
Speaker 5: talked about was really cool, and I thought we had actually,
Speaker 5: you know.
Speaker 3: Thought we had a cool vibe. Now I don't know
Speaker 3: how it was. You know how much that was you
Speaker 3: you you.
Speaker 7: Know, I mean it was all me. I just I
Speaker 7: just expected.
Speaker 8: I mean I could have actually been a little bit
Speaker 8: more fun and stuff. But you didn't ask me anything
Speaker 8: about me as a person, So you got what she
Speaker 8: asked for. I mean you asked me. It felt like
Speaker 8: I was in a job interview, Like I just don't
Speaker 8: get it.
Speaker 5: Well when you when you say job interview, if you're
Speaker 5: going to, you know, meet someone and you want to
Speaker 5: know if you're compatible, you would ask questions. And for me,
Speaker 5: I'm a person who does a lot of I'm very
Speaker 5: serious about.
Speaker 3: Work and goals and meeting my goals.
Speaker 5: So I just wanted to make sure that I was
Speaker 5: you know, on the same page as somebody who had,
Speaker 5: you know, goals.
Speaker 3: I mean, do you even have any type of goals?
Speaker 3: Or was that all just stuff that you were saying?
Speaker 7: Of course I have some It's like a silly, silly
Speaker 7: thing to say, you know.
Speaker 8: I just I just expected you to give a little
Speaker 8: bit more of a crap about like who I am
Speaker 8: as a person, and all those other things that you're
Speaker 8: asking of me would have came naturally, they would have
Speaker 8: come out. You could have like just been a little
Speaker 8: bit more like, I don't know, like swab about it
Speaker 8: or something. Because it did not go well, well, tell
Speaker 8: me one thing that I said about myself on the date.
Speaker 7: Tell me because if if it was good, then you
Speaker 7: should know this, right.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's not the point I'm trying to do.
Speaker 7: All right now.
Speaker 2: You know, Hey, Maya, would you like another date with Teddy?
Speaker 6: We'll pay for it.
Speaker 7: No, thank you, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: I don't want to go out with you again. I
Speaker 3: get I get it. You know, they just just have
Speaker 3: fun on your apps.
Speaker 5: Maybe you can meet somebody that you're not going to
Speaker 5: be playing games with from the beginning.
Speaker 7: Okay, Teddy, Well, you have fun playing games with yourself.
Speaker 7: She was first date.
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