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Speaker 1: First date of follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Carly is on the phone today for our first day

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Robbie.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 2: see if he'll tell us why he's Ghostinger and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Carly, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Robbie.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, it's been on like a two weeks, you know

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Speaker 3: what I mean, Like, it's been about well, I guess,

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Speaker 3: not a two weeks. It's been like.

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Speaker 1: Almost a week, I guess.

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Speaker 4: Okay, okay, so long enough that you feel like you're

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Speaker 4: being ghosted.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like two weeks. But I just thought about it

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Speaker 3: and it's yeah, it's more.

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Speaker 5: Like a week.

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Speaker 3: Did you reach out to him though, Yeah, Like I totally,

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Speaker 3: I mean I texted him. I mean so, I like,

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Speaker 3: I'll tell you guys the whole story. So basically I

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Speaker 3: met he was super cute. I meant this guy Robie

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Speaker 3: on Tinder, and like, I just kind of feel like

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Speaker 3: we went into it with sort of like a like

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Speaker 3: are friends with benefits sort of situation, you know, like

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Speaker 3: we've been like been really wordy and stuff and just

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Speaker 3: messaging a bunch. And we went on a date and

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Speaker 3: minted it like a just like a random local bar

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Speaker 3: it drinking game naturally, And yeah, I was like he

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Speaker 3: was just really flirty, you know what I mean. I

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Speaker 3: was wearing darts. He was leaning over me like it

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Speaker 3: was hot, you know, yeah, exactly, Like I just I

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Speaker 3: haven't heard from him since that day, and I honestly

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Speaker 3: think he goes to me because we both got drunk,

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Speaker 3: but like he got really kind of drunk, like almost

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Speaker 3: floppy drunk, you know what I mean. And I helped

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Speaker 3: him get into the uber after the night because there's

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Speaker 3: nowhere was drying. But I don't care, you know, he

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Speaker 4: Was a date.

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Speaker 3: We didn't hook up or anything, but I just I

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Speaker 3: didn't want to think, like be embarrassed from the night

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Speaker 3: because it looks really cool.

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Speaker 1: Guy. Did you say that to him? Like the next day,

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Speaker 1: we're like, hey, man, you're wasted, but I don't care.

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Speaker 3: Well, I've been trying to but he won't get back

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Speaker 3: to me, Like he literally goes to me. We communicated

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Speaker 3: energy and like you know, I texted him to see

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Speaker 3: I was feeling. After that night, nothing like no response whatsoever.

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Speaker 1: And like again two.

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Speaker 3: Days later, I even tried calling him and like you know,

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Speaker 3: on makeup and like was going to think something see

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Speaker 3: I was doing, and then I left the message. But no,

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Speaker 3: so nothing. I just I just really really wanted to

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Speaker 3: get back in touch with them, and a lot of them. No,

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Speaker 3: he doesn't need to go to me, because like it's

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Speaker 3: totally cool, We're good, we should we should go on

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Speaker 4: E, would you disappeared to like if you like think

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's been a lot of those nights actually, And no,

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't disappear. I would feel like I would want

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Speaker 2: be like, well, I'll just joke about it and see

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Speaker 2: if they're cool with it. But there are times where

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Speaker 2: I have like not wanted to call somebody because I'm.

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Speaker 1: Like, what did I did it? Did I make a

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Speaker 4: Better not to face it, Yeah, Carly, is he funny?

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Speaker 4: Do you think he would have been able to handle

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Speaker 3: I mean I think so. I only met him like

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Speaker 3: I think he would, honestly.

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Speaker 2: Okay, anything else you can think of that might be

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Speaker 3: No, I honestly know. I mean, that's the only thing

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Speaker 4: I'm just curious about how you know that you guys

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Speaker 4: because then that would kind of hint towards like that

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I mean I sort of mentioned I had like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, well we'll see if we can figure it out.

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Speaker 2: We'll play a song and then come back and call

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Speaker 2: him and see if hotels, why he is ghosting you,

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Speaker 2: and maybe get you another date?

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Speaker 1: Okay, awesome, thank you guys.

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Speaker 2: All right, pleas don't come back and get your first

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Speaker 2: day follow up the next right in the little of

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Speaker 2: today's first day follow up, And if you're just joining us,

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Speaker 2: Carly is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 2: a guy named Robbie. So we're about to call him

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Speaker 2: and see if you tell us why he's ghostinger and

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Speaker 2: maybe get her another date. But first, Carly, why don't

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Speaker 2: you catch us up on your situation.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so I met this guy and Tinder. His name

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Speaker 3: is Robbie. We really hit it off. We went to

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Speaker 3: It was super flirty. He got a little drunk and

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Speaker 3: I put him a new bir at the end of

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Speaker 3: some date with him, but I think he's probably embarrassed

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Speaker 3: because of our first date. But there's you know, it

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Speaker 3: was just a great first day. I thought it wasn't

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Speaker 4: So yeah, even though it ended with him as a

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Speaker 1: You know, I was sort of the vibe, well, are

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Speaker 1: you ready? You ready for us to call him. Yes, okay,

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Speaker 1: thank you. Here we go.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I speak to Robbie. Please, Hey, Robbie, how are you?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jebel. I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Robbie, Hi, the whole show's here. I'm Nina. Hi,

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Speaker 1: I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 5: Hi.

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Speaker 1: What's going on?

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 1: Not much? It sounds like you listen to the show.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, double time, double time?

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Speaker 1: Sweet? Okay? Cool? Well have you ever heard of first

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Speaker 1: date follow up before? Uh?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Cool?

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Speaker 2: How do you feel about being on one? I?

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I guess I'm gonna let's wing it. Yeah, that's the

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Speaker 2: If you go out with somebody and you end up

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Speaker 2: ghosting them, they can email us to get you on

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Speaker 2: the phone and ask why you're ghosting. And we got

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Speaker 2: an email about you from somebody.

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Speaker 5: Okay, again, where it's going? Well, I went on a

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Speaker 5: daily uh chick Carly a couple of nights ago.

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Speaker 1: Well, guess what he's wondering.

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Speaker 5: Why I haven't returned?

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Speaker 1: He called, I can see why she wants to go

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Speaker 1: with you again? Exactly where it was?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't I don't usually do that, but it

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Speaker 5: I didn't feel like it was weird because, I mean,

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Speaker 5: she didn't look anything like her.

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Speaker 5: That was my biggest thing. It's like, you know, our

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Speaker 5: dark haired, dark makeup. I mean she was telling me,

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Speaker 5: you know, uh, Robbie, Margot, Margot Robbie.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, she was.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she was telling me Margot Robbie.

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Speaker 5: And I show up and it's it's card asking, you know,

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Speaker 5: and it was just I don't know, it was just

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Speaker 5: I mean, look, I'm not gonna I feel embarrassed about

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Speaker 5: even saying anything about her way because I like Kurby Girl.

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Speaker 5: But she had at least ten pounds on the pictures.

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Speaker 1: She had on her profile. Okay, so she just didn't

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Speaker 5: No, It's like she was like all those pictures on

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Speaker 5: I feel like she lied to me, you know, and uh,

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Speaker 5: you know, I got so hammered. You know, I didn't

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, I'm sorry, but are you serious? Are you

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Speaker 1: Robbie. That's Carly. She's actually on the phone and surprised.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Hi Carly. Yeah, like hi, Robbie. Noticed, like in

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Speaker 3: your lifetime, women change their hair color all the time.

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Speaker 6: Like I just went said, change their profile pictures too,

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Speaker 6: don't they. Yeah, nobody's changed their profile pictures on Tinder?

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Speaker 6: Like seriously, that that is what are you talking about?

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Speaker 5: That ain't mean and I was.

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Speaker 3: Now I have dark hair. Yeah, it was a you know,

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Speaker 3: it's a vasy flitch sort of deal. No, I mean

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Speaker 3: we were going to hang out and how co up?

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Speaker 3: Like what is your problem?

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Speaker 5: Feel like, you know, its just I feel like, you know,

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Speaker 5: I don't even know it is your name even really Carly?

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Speaker 3: You know, I mean yeah, I feel like I was dupe.

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Speaker 3: That's so absurd. Wait we were going to hook up? Wow? Wow,

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Speaker 3: He's like, yeah, well I'm not anymore. Obviously you're not bad.

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Speaker 3: I mean you're cute and everything.

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Speaker 5: I mean, we can still hook up.

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Speaker 3: That seriously, screw you. No, how dare you? I'm not

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Speaker 3: what is wrong with you?

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Speaker 1: Seriously, Robbie. I was kind of about to because you know,

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Speaker 1: I mean, okay, your profile, Robbie's gotten really creepy.

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Speaker 4: But for the role of I think that your profile

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Speaker 4: pictures should be at least within the last like the year.

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Speaker 1: No, thank you.

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Speaker 3: I just I don't see why I'm at Honestly, I

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Speaker 3: don't if it's within a year and it's literally just

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Speaker 3: like Bland of Dark, I mean, it really is not

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Speaker 3: a big deal. And that shouldn't have You shouldn't have

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Speaker 3: ghosted me over darn here, dude.

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Speaker 1: I mean that's here too. That is also true if

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Speaker 1: it was all within the same year.

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Speaker 3: You know, Robbie, you're like a bona fide You're actually

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Speaker 3: big bro. I'm glad that I got my answer, and

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Speaker 3: I'm glad that I figured out why you were ghosting me.

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Speaker 1: It's because you stuck. You actually really stuck. I still

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Speaker 1: have to ask, Robbie, would you like to go on

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Speaker 1: another day with Carly? We'll pay for it?

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Speaker 5: Well, you know, oh no, not not really, And I

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Speaker 5: mean I would Carly. But I mean I'm gonna be honest.

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Speaker 5: I think he is kind of cute.

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Speaker 1: Is I have dark hair? Robbie, Okayly, I can see

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Speaker 1: the pictures. Nina, will you go with Robbie. We'll pay

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Speaker 1: for her. I'm good, but thanks? So who what? Well, Carly,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry or happy that no second date for you?

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Speaker 3: Well, thanks guys for okay, I mean, I'm sir. I

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Speaker 3: appreciate it. Robbie, seriously, I hope you do some soul searching.

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Speaker 4: Dude.

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Speaker 3: I hope you do some serious soul searching. Have a

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Speaker 3: good life.

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Speaker 1: I hope you change your proof of pictures. Jules first

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Speaker 1: date Ball