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Speaker 1: It is time to ask the CLO or Chief Love Officer,

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey. This is from Tracy in Pittsburgh. Tracy writes,

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Speaker 1: my boyfriend and I live together and we're having our

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Speaker 1: first child. He wants a child to have his last name,

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Speaker 1: but I don't have his last name. He said it

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Speaker 1: doesn't matter, but it does to me. Why does he

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Speaker 1: feel so strongly about that but not about marriage?

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Speaker 2: Well, here we go, people, here we go.

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Speaker 3: Let him have it.

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Speaker 2: Come on, CLO and look. And I'm not old guy

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Speaker 2: trying to act perfection. I get it. I've lived with

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Speaker 2: people before. I understand.

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Speaker 4: So please know I ain't judge it because I have

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Speaker 4: done it myself, so this ain't a judgment.

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Speaker 2: But when you do it that way and you.

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Speaker 4: Put the you put the cart in front of the horse,

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Speaker 4: it's just gonna pull different.

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Speaker 2: So now y'all have moved in together, decide to have

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Speaker 2: this family.

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Speaker 4: Now he wants the baby to have his last name,

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Speaker 4: and you don't be cause you don't have the last name. Now,

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Speaker 4: if he'll give the baby the last name, which you

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Speaker 4: are carrying for the life of the child, for your

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Speaker 4: benefit and for his benefit, but he don't want to

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Speaker 4: give you the last name. That don't make no sense.

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Speaker 4: Excuse me, but what are we doing here? And I

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Speaker 4: think you just found out you doing what he want

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Speaker 4: to do and y'all always.

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Speaker 3: Have So what can she do now?

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Speaker 4: Well, you don't have to give him the boy the

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Speaker 4: man's last name. You don't have to you. All you

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Speaker 4: gotta do is list him on the birth certificate as

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Speaker 4: the father.

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Speaker 3: As the father.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because that baby coming out of your body. I

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Speaker 4: keep telling man, y'all keep talking and stuff, but women

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Speaker 4: are the only people that can produce another human life.

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Speaker 2: Y'all need to wake up.

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Speaker 1: Man.

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Speaker 4: So and when you go to court, they're gonna side

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Speaker 4: with her. I'm just telling you, all right, she.

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Speaker 3: Wants to get married, though obviously.

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Speaker 4: She should have wanted that, folks, she moved in y'all, y'all,

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Speaker 4: not y'all tripping. You should have You should have waited

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Speaker 4: to have a baby when you were married. That's the

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Speaker 4: way it supposed to go. Yeah, Now it didn't go

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Speaker 4: that way, So now you got to figure it out.

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Speaker 4: How do you demand so just until you marry me,

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Speaker 4: the child will keep my name.

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Speaker 2: That's all to it, period, all right.

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Speaker 4: If he wanted so bad, then y'all go down there

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Speaker 4: and get married.

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Speaker 2: Right, all right?

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Speaker 1: Moving on to Melanie and Tampa, Melanie writes, one of

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Speaker 1: my husband's friends came by to get my husband's drill.

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Speaker 1: My husband was on a call, so I let his

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Speaker 1: friend in and we talked for a minute. After the

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Speaker 1: guy left, my husband called me, chatty. Was I not

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Speaker 1: supposed to talk to a guest.

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Speaker 3: In our home?

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Speaker 2: Wait a minute?

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Speaker 1: Okay? When the guy came over to borrow her husband, oh.

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Speaker 2: He didn't call. He came over to bar the drill.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he came by to drill. Her husband was on

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Speaker 1: a call, so he couldn't deal with the guy. She

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Speaker 1: let him in and they talked, and when her husband

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Speaker 1: got off the call, he was like, oh, well, aren't

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Speaker 1: you chatty?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I understand where he coming from that way,

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Speaker 4: But then, hey, dog, you should have just said, hey,

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Speaker 4: tell him I'm on a call. Tell him to come

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Speaker 4: back in about thirty minutes. That's what the man should

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Speaker 4: have did. Well, But if you leave it on her,

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Speaker 4: she standing up there just talking with the man until

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Speaker 4: you get off the phone. Now, you mad, why y'all

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Speaker 4: stay where people could just come up knock on your door?

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Speaker 4: I don't have that relationship with no neighbor.

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean, I think they knew he was coming,

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Speaker 1: but you know, sometimes you get a call and you

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Speaker 1: gotta take it.

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Speaker 2: I guess he need to get some tools. He need

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Speaker 2: to get his own drill over her phone?

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Speaker 1: Stop, har.

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Speaker 4: Why don't you quit fixing stuff to you able to

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Speaker 4: fix it? Can I borrow drill?

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Speaker 2: She does?

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Speaker 3: I don't like all that borrowing? Yeah, yeah, crazy.

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, he got upset, So she's asking was she

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Speaker 1: not supposed to talk to him? He's a guest. She

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Speaker 1: was just you know, keeping him company till her husband

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Speaker 1: got off the call. I guess, well, all right. Moving

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Speaker 1: on to Dre and Silver Lake, Dre writes, my wife

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Speaker 1: is all over me, and I need space. If I'm

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Speaker 1: in the shower, she comes in. When I'm on the couch,

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Speaker 1: she's either wedged under me or lying across my body.

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Speaker 1: I used to love this kind of clingingness, clinginess. So

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Speaker 1: why am I feeling unaffectionate all of a sudden because

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Speaker 1: you're married?

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Speaker 3: Wait?

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Speaker 4: What? Because you're married and the newness has worn all?

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Speaker 2: And did they say how long they were married?

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Speaker 4: Sure?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 1: Uh huh. She's just all over him right now. If

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Speaker 1: he's in the shower, he says he needs a space.

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Speaker 1: He's in the shower. She comes in there, she's lying.

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Speaker 4: See before you didn't have no problem with her coming

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Speaker 4: in the shower. Yeah you wanted all that. But now

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Speaker 4: that you got her, here we go.

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Speaker 2: So the shame thing it took, uh oh.

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Speaker 4: To get your baby hooked, that's gonna take the same

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Speaker 4: thing to keep her. As an old blues song about

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Speaker 4: that same thing it took to get your baby hooked,

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Speaker 4: it's gonna take the same thing to keep her. You

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Speaker 4: didn't have no problem with that early on. Now you do,

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Speaker 4: which leads to a bigger problem because the person that

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Speaker 4: you are today is not the same person that you

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Speaker 4: were when you got married.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Change is always happening, that's constant.

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Speaker 2: So now you don't like that no more.

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Speaker 3: Now he says, he needs space.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, gonna tell her that.

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Speaker 4: Now what you gotta be careful of is how much

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Speaker 4: space you gonna get.

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Speaker 3: Oh oh, you need space?

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 4: See See you can go from don't be touching all

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Speaker 4: on me too, when the last time you touch.

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Speaker 1: Me, don't touch me, don't touch me? Uh uh, you

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Speaker 1: need space.

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Speaker 2: Remember, yeah, yeah, you got to work on that dog.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, So what should he I mean, work on it?

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Speaker 3: How just change his mindset? What is he gonna do?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're gonna have to You're gonna have to keep

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Speaker 2: liking all right.

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Speaker 1: Last one Steve moving on to Irma in Memphis. Irma writes,

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Speaker 1: a mutual friend hooked me up with the man that

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Speaker 1: I'm dating. The guy said he doesn't want a commitment,

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Speaker 1: just someone to have fun with. By fun, he means sex.

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Speaker 1: I'm beyond that stage of my life unless we're in

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Speaker 1: a committed relationship. He said he loves a challenge. Is

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Speaker 1: he going to try to make me have sex?

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Speaker 4: Of course he just had. He loved a challenge, so

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Speaker 4: he coming in. This is the goal. He gonna try

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Speaker 4: to break you.

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Speaker 2: So nobody not trying trying, But here's what you should do.

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Speaker 4: You should just break this off for the challenge, get started,

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Speaker 4: because look, that's not what I'm trying to do, and

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Speaker 4: you ain't trying to be in a committee relationship.

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Speaker 2: You just want to have fun.

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Speaker 4: Then go have to just have fun somewhere else when

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Speaker 4: you're ready for something more, I'm over here.

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Speaker 2: That's what you should do.

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Speaker 3: Hopefully, she will come on.

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Speaker 1: Irma A right, Irma is her name. That's why she said,

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Speaker 1: I'm beyond that stage in my life.

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Speaker 4: I'm beyond that stage right here, seventy six and well,

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Speaker 4: I'm not gonna do it. Have somebody come in here,

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Speaker 4: try to make me act like I'm faty.

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Speaker 3: To do this.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Cross Cross.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Celo.

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