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Speaker 1: First Date is follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Jenna is on the phone today for our first Day

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Luca.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get

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Speaker 2: her another date. But first, Jenna, how long has it

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Speaker 2: been since you heard from Luca?

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Speaker 3: Uh? It has been a week. I haven't heard anything

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Speaker 3: in a week.

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Speaker 4: Okay, it's usually the spot where everybody starts to panic

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Speaker 4: a little bit. How many times did you reach out

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Speaker 4: to him in that time?

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Speaker 5: Probably like once.

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Speaker 3: A day, you know. I just usually sent him photos.

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Speaker 5: Of my dog because.

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Speaker 3: He that's how we met. Our dog totally hit it off,

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Speaker 3: and at first I was getting like a little bit

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Speaker 3: of feedback and now just nothing.

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Speaker 6: Okay, Well let's talk about the date then.

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Speaker 3: Well we met us a dog park, well actually our

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Speaker 3: dogs met first. His golden doodle literally tackled my pug

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Speaker 3: beans and it felt meant to be.

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Speaker 5: And we ended up.

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Speaker 3: Grabbing coffee after and I got a lavender oat milk

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Speaker 3: latte obviously, and the he got like black drip coffee,

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Speaker 3: so I are like, okay, edgy.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. And then so we sat on this cute patio

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Speaker 5: outside and we just talked for like two hours about astrology,

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Speaker 5: about oat milk conspiracies, about his tattoo that he swears

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Speaker 5: is the moon but it totally is.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, he has tattoos he says isn't the moon,

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Speaker 2: but it is.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he was trying to say it was like some

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Speaker 3: other I don't even like, some other edgy kind of

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Speaker 3: niche thing, but I was like, that's literally a moon.

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Speaker 6: So it's like when.

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Speaker 4: People are like that's an artistoke and you're like, no,

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Speaker 4: the tattoo on my neck he is a lotus flower,

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Speaker 4: so yeah, okay.

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Speaker 3: And at one point he literally watched me parallel park

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Speaker 3: and he didn't even he didn't even judge. So I

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Speaker 3: feel like that's intimacy.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I mean anyway, okay, think you feel comfortable?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, it felt so comfortable and so natural.

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Speaker 6: Well, then what could have gone wrong?

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Speaker 3: I truly don't know.

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Speaker 5: At one point, he wiped oat milk foam off of my.

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Speaker 3: Nose with his finger and he licked it.

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Speaker 5: It just made me feel like he was really into me,

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Speaker 5: Like I don't know how else to interpret that, Like,

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Speaker 5: it feels like he's he's into me. He was into it.

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Speaker 6: I lick it off your nose?

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Speaker 3: No, he wiped it off his finger and then licked

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Speaker 3: it off of his finger, which still I'm like, I

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Speaker 3: would think that too.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure, I'd be a little weird now if

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Speaker 2: you liked it straight off them.

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Speaker 3: And yeah, he said at one point of the day,

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Speaker 3: he said, you're really calling to be around, Like that's

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Speaker 3: not the friend zone, Like that's future wife in a

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Speaker 2: Okay, so what do you think the thing is? Well,

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Speaker 2: why do you think you're getting ghosted?

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 5: Okay, so when he when he wipes the oat milk

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Speaker 5: off of my nose, I leaned in to kiss his nose.

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Speaker 3: I justs he licks the phone off off my nose

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Speaker 3: or with his finger. I just thought it was only

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Speaker 3: right to balance it with like a romantic like little

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Speaker 3: nose peck. In the moment, it felt really romantic. But

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Speaker 3: but the way he reacted was was shocked.

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Speaker 6: Really, so how did he do?

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Speaker 3: We laughed about it?

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Speaker 5: What about how silly it was? I thought I was embarrassed,

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Speaker 5: but I thought we were back on track.

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Speaker 3: But maybe he's still thinking about it.

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Speaker 5: I hope not.

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Speaker 6: I'm thinking about it. Okay, any think maybe it was

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Speaker 6: the nose kiss that did it.

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Speaker 5: That's the only thing I can think of, because other

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Speaker 5: than that, we really vibed.

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Speaker 3: We really did.

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Speaker 7: She used tongue on.

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Speaker 6: No, no French kiss.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that goes too far. I feel better about that then. Okay,

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Speaker 2: all right, we'll see if we can figure it out

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Speaker 2: for you. We'll play a song come back, and then

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Speaker 2: call him and see if he'll tell us why he's

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Speaker 2: ghosting you and maybe get you a second date. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: all right, we'll get your first day follow up next.

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of your first date follow up

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Speaker 2: and if you're just joining us, Jenna is on the

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Speaker 2: phone and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Lucas.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call him and see if he'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her

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Speaker 2: a second date if she still wants one. But before

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Speaker 2: we do that, Jenna, why don't you break down your

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Speaker 2: date for us again?

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Speaker 6: Real quick?

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Speaker 5: Well, our dog's got to meet cute in the park.

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Speaker 3: We headed off the absolutely Vibe, so we went to

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Speaker 3: get coffee and talked for like two hours about everything

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Speaker 3: under this un really and he the craziest part is

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Speaker 3: that he like, I had oat milt foam on my

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Speaker 3: licked it. And I think I'm getting ghosted. So I'm

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Speaker 3: just confused.

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Speaker 4: Because that would be like, I'm into you moment. I'm

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Speaker 4: not licking foam off in my finger.

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Speaker 3: I don't like you exactly.

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Speaker 2: And you think you might be getting ghosted because at

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Speaker 2: the end of the day, you kissed his nose to

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Speaker 2: balance the nose action.

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Speaker 3: At the there was one awkward moment. I was trying

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Speaker 3: to roll with the whole like kissing the nose thing,

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Speaker 3: and so I kissed his nose and it was awkward,

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Speaker 3: but we.

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Speaker 5: Laughed it off, led it.

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Speaker 3: Off, and so I'm hoping it I'm hoping it's not that.

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Speaker 4: But that's the only thing I can what bass his

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Speaker 4: nose action like that's flaws A not a lot of

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Speaker 4: days dates first dates have nose action.

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Speaker 6: All right?

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Speaker 2: You ready for us to call him? Yes, Okay, here

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Speaker 2: we go. Hell, hi, man, I speak to Luca. Please

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Speaker 2: this Hey, Luca, how are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Luca, I'm Nina.

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Speaker 6: Hi, I'm and my name is Jebel. How are you.

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Speaker 6: What's up?

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Speaker 7: I'm alright, So the three guys.

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Speaker 6: Yeah you listened to the show ever?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I.

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Speaker 1: Listened to you guys before. I mean, it's just kind

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Speaker 1: of weird that you guys are calling me.

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Speaker 3: Sure.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well we're calling you today because we got an

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Speaker 2: email about you from somebody.

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Speaker 7: Okay, a good email or like a bed like what

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Speaker 7: kind of email.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a great email. Actually, but we do a

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Speaker 2: segment called the first ad follow Up. That's where if

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Speaker 2: you go out on a date with somebody and then

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Speaker 2: you end up ghosting them, that person can email us

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Speaker 2: to get you on the phone and ask why you're

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Speaker 2: ghosting them. Okay, so we got an email about you

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Speaker 2: from somebody that you're ghosting.

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Speaker 7: Okay, do you know that would be I mean, I

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Speaker 7: got a guess, I got a guess.

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Speaker 6: Take a guess.

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Speaker 7: I mean, is Jenna the lavender Latte girl?

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Speaker 6: Yes, j.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, tell us why you're ghosting her?

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Speaker 8: I mean, she was just she was just kind of weird,

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Speaker 8: you know, like I mean, I mean the unique sign,

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Speaker 8: you know, but like she brought a crystal to the

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Speaker 1: She proceeded to give me like a twelve minute speech

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Speaker 1: about how she and her dog.

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Speaker 7: Are twin soles. Oh you know, like.

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Speaker 1: She asked me if I ever felt emotionally manipulated by

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Speaker 1: her coffee.

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Speaker 2: Order, you know, like mostly manipulated by her coffee order.

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Speaker 7: What does that mean?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that was a conversation starter.

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Speaker 7: You Yeah, yeah, great, Yeah that mindsighted but that's nice.

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Speaker 3: What's up? Generally? I was just being authentic, but you

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Speaker 3: literally said that you wanted someone grounded and real. So

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Speaker 3: I showed a reel you.

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Speaker 1: You asked the beresta if the oak milk had been

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Speaker 3: Lot because mercury was acting weird.

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Speaker 5: Energy matters.

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Speaker 1: I mean you also tried to stage the table, you know,

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Speaker 1: like it was palaesento.

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Speaker 5: I was protecting our connection.

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Speaker 3: I just slightly lightly burned it.

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Speaker 1: Listen, you're super interesting, You're funny. But did you notice

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Speaker 1: that I barely said two words about myself?

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Speaker 3: What? No, Well, we had like a great slow Listen.

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Speaker 1: You had a monologue, right, I know about your dog's dreams,

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Speaker 1: your third eye chakra.

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Speaker 7: You're playing abandonment issues. What about me? Did you even

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Speaker 7: know that I'm an engineer?

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Speaker 5: Oh, you're an engineer.

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Speaker 3: That's cool, that's dope.

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Speaker 6: So I guess that's didn't know. You didn't know that.

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Speaker 3: No, I didn't.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, that's that's because we never got to meet.

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Speaker 1: In the conversation, it was just, I mean, you don't

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Speaker 1: know that I moved here where I moved from, or

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Speaker 1: that I just simply don't believe in the chakras and

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Speaker 3: You just moved here from where.

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Speaker 6: I don't think that's the point, Jenna.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'm sorry for.

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Speaker 5: Being in tune with myself.

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Speaker 9: I'm not trying to knock it all right, Like, you know,

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Speaker 9: I just felt you weren't really open to who I am.

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Speaker 9: You know, you were interviewing me for a vibe check,

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Speaker 9: like you wonder to see if we are vibes match.

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Speaker 7: And that's it.

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Speaker 3: I thought that we clicked.

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Speaker 7: I mean, you're not. You're not boring, all right, I'll

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Speaker 7: give you.

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Speaker 3: Well, Okay, what if we try again, and maybe we

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Speaker 3: do something quieter, like a walk with the dogs and

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Speaker 3: no talking about past lives. Would you like.

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Speaker 6: Another day with Jenna will pay for it.

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Speaker 9: Listen, Jenna, I think you're a lot of things, but

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Speaker 9: just maybe not my thing.

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Speaker 7: Okay, like you're cool, but I don't think so.

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Speaker 3: Just admit it. You vibed more with my dog than me.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, your dog is chill like I love the dog.

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Speaker 3: That's because he's spiritually grounded, unlike some people.

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Speaker 7: Can I can I go on a second date with

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Speaker 4: Is that cool?

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Speaker 3: I mean no, we're inseparable. He gets separation anxiety. I

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Speaker 3: couldn't just give you.

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Speaker 6: I think he was joking.

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Speaker 5: But oh okay, well then I mean, yeah, sure, okay.

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Speaker 3: Joble's first day follow up