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Speaker 1: My dad is boning my bullies. Mom, I refuse to

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Speaker 1: become friends with my bully, and now they're calling me homophobic,

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Speaker 1: am id a hole.

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Speaker 2: You know, I think what we need to do here

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Speaker 2: is the reverse, right, So he's got to get his mom.

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Speaker 2: That makes it worse. I was gonna say, get his

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Speaker 2: mom to get with the dad, but that doesn't help

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Speaker 2: at all. That makes it doubly is worse.

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Speaker 1: I think op needs to bone the bullies dad.

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Speaker 2: Ooh that a power move. That is that is a

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Speaker 2: great power power.

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Speaker 1: Move for a power bottom. To do a power move

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Speaker 1: for a power bottom. That's what we need. That is right.

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Speaker 1: So bit of a loaded title, I'll have me oh

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Speaker 1: serve and souble loads, I'm sure. But to give some context,

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Speaker 1: I twenty two male, have an older sister, Sky, twenty

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Speaker 1: six female. When I was in high school, our mother

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Speaker 1: forty eight female, cheated on our dad, forty eight male,

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Speaker 1: and left us to be with her boyfriend. Yikes, maybe

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Speaker 1: you should have been better kids. Come on, when our

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Speaker 1: dad moved on, he found out dating frieda forty one female,

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Speaker 1: the mother of Phil, twenty two male. My bully who

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Speaker 1: never did anything but make fun of me. And if

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Speaker 1: you know, you know, words can really effing hurts. I mean, OPI,

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Speaker 1: have you ever heard of sticks and stones? I begged

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Speaker 1: him not to be with her, I really really begged

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Speaker 1: him not to, but you didn't listen. The worst part

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Speaker 1: was having to go with him to their house. My

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Speaker 1: sister is the only one who realized how distraught I was.

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Speaker 1: Kind of sucks going to your bullys. I mean, at

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Speaker 1: least your dad is dicking down his mom.

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Speaker 2: That's true. I feel like OPI should take that.

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Speaker 1: And bully my dad is boning your mom. I mean,

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Speaker 1: come on, like they're dad, you know there's something there.

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Speaker 1: Come on, we're we're giving you free material of mine.

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Speaker 1: You know, I think OPI just needs the bully. The

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Speaker 1: bully right back, always with fire, always works, makes the

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Speaker 1: whole world see how much of a dig the bullyes being.

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Speaker 2: That's right.

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Speaker 1: You know, I had to go, and so so I

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Speaker 1: mother is still in the picture. My dad took that

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Speaker 1: moving on. I only stayed with my mother until Sky

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Speaker 1: got her own apartment, and I moved in with her

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Speaker 1: as soon as I could Sky is the sister right right.

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Speaker 1: She never cut off contact with her dad, which is

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Speaker 1: fair because she was a lot closer to him than

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Speaker 1: I was, and she never pushed me to go with

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Speaker 1: him or to her mother like high school. Life only

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Speaker 1: got worse after I left my dad. And university has

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Speaker 1: been such a gosh darn godsend since everybody here is

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Speaker 1: nice and stuff, which is so true. I feel like

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Speaker 1: clown down, the clown down to clap some cheeks with

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Speaker 1: your bullies mom, with your boy's mom.

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Speaker 2: No, your bully's mom.

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Speaker 1: Oh, your bully's mom. That's that's key, you know, yeah,

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Speaker 1: super key. Yeah. I think your dad and you should

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Speaker 2: That's what I was saying. Like she obviously she likes

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Speaker 1: Likes go for the older model when you could go

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Speaker 1: for the new.

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Speaker 2: I'm talking V two baby, the new and improved version.

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Speaker 2: So that's all I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: My graduation is coming up in April, and I sent

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Speaker 1: early invites to my dad and to my mother. Just

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Speaker 1: finished applying, but not to the family as they have now,

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Speaker 1: so just the ogs. Mother accepted, but Dad called, demanding

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Speaker 2: Wait, excuse me, I'm lost. There's some information we need.

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Speaker 1: To think I'm imagining the bullies.

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Speaker 2: That would be the only explanation that makes sense.

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Speaker 1: That caught me off guard. But I didn't back down. Oh,

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Speaker 1: be standing ground. Yesterday I talked to my sister about it,

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Speaker 1: I'm homophobic. Maybe share a little bit sounds pretty homophobic.

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Speaker 2: They say that, Oh, I don't care what I believe Sam, Sam,

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Speaker 2: How can he be homophobic? His bully's gay?

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Speaker 1: I think I think he could be extra homophobic.

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Speaker 2: I had to make them more homophobic.

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Speaker 1: She got really sad and told me she'd never stop

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Speaker 1: on it really bad. And I never should have said

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Speaker 1: know my tone was really mean, which that's good that

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Speaker 1: you have that. Yeah, you know that perspective, good self awareness.

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Speaker 1: I really feel like a major a hole and I

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Speaker 1: never should have hurt her by saying those things. Hence

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Speaker 1: why I'm on Reddit instead of studying for finals. Reddits

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Speaker 1: the best therapist around. Yeah. Edit, since people were wondering this, Yes,

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Speaker 1: my dad knows I was bullied by Phil, but doesn't

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Speaker 1: think it was real bullying. And my sister has a

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Speaker 1: going to try to force her to choose between us.

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Speaker 1: So again, what do you think is op the a hole?

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Speaker 2: Well, I'm very curious to hear what everyone thinks on

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Speaker 2: this situation. What you would do if you were in

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Speaker 2: op shoes. I feel like it's super lame of the

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Speaker 2: family to like use the homophobic card to try to, like,

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Speaker 2: you know, get him over. It's so stupid.

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Speaker 1: Bro to like you could just not like people, you know.

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Speaker 1: I think it's it's less homophobic to just hate everyone exactly.

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Speaker 2: There we go.

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Speaker 1: Equal opportunities, equal opportunity to be hated.

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Speaker 2: That's right. So that's super lame. I mean, I guess

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Speaker 2: Ope could come out and be like, hey, I'm I

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Speaker 2: feel like it would help Opie and all arenas if

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Speaker 2: he's like, hey, I'm like, definitely not homophobic. This person

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Speaker 2: growing up. So that's like, just make that stand your

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Speaker 2: ground there. I feel like, yeah, why not.

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Speaker 1: Just give more context, like, no, I'm not being home

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Speaker 1: a fuck. This guy is a deck and this is

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Speaker 1: some of the things you said to me, like like

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Speaker 1: polar seats if you can.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there we go. I like that polar seats would

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Speaker 2: definitely be a good move. But ultimately, so the question is,

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Speaker 2: is Opie the a hole for not reconciling and inviting

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Speaker 2: the additional family members?

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 2: No? I think you know, like OPI, this is this

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Speaker 2: is Opie's college graduation. Yeah, so you know I wouldn't

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Speaker 2: want to. I you know, I'd never graduated from college.

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Speaker 2: I'm just a I'm just a freaking bums college drop

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Speaker 2: sleeping in, sleeping in trash cans like Oscar the Grouch.

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Speaker 2: But if I had a college graduation, I would only

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Speaker 2: want people that like I'm excited to see to be there,

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Speaker 2: Like I wouldn't want someone to like I wouldn't mind

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Speaker 2: my high school bully being there, just like, hey, I

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Speaker 2: bet you didn't even have a four point zero or

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Speaker 2: I don't know what is it? What does a bully

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Speaker 2: say when you graduate? Like, good luck getting a job

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Speaker 2: making a living with your useless degree?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what's your degree? Underwater basket weaving? Gross? Have fun

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Speaker 1: being homeless on the streets.

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Speaker 2: I heard your professor said you were ugly. I agree,

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Speaker 2: whatever whatever he's got, whatever amo he's got. But yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think that Opie's not the ahole. Op should be

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Speaker 2: able to invite who he wants, but still at the

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Speaker 2: same time, stay your ground, share some receipts on like

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Speaker 2: why you don't want to.

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Speaker 1: Be given the context? I feel like op He's not

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Speaker 1: giving any context to the dad, Like like you're saying, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm bullied, but like, say what specifically this dude said

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Speaker 2: And also like to me, I'm like, whenever you're in

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Speaker 2: an innocent position, you want to defend yourself, right, Like,

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Speaker 2: why would you have no desire to defend yourself, especially

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Speaker 2: people are like try trying to make it out like

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Speaker 2: you're homophobic just because you don't want to hang around

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Speaker 2: with your childhood bully, Like it makes no sense.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would, I would, really, I would really send

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Speaker 1: those receipts. But we'd love to know what you guys think.

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Speaker 1: We love hearing from our commenters, especially our public subscribers.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we do. So I'm gonna read some comments

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Speaker 2: right now. This one comes from the video my CEO

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Speaker 2: is my dad's a fair baby now he's trying to

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Speaker 2: Mainly stories are crazy, Yeah they are.

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Speaker 1: Eduardo, heck yeah, only the craziest for you, Eduardo.

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Speaker 2: Who next is from Jorge Nonez shame and then Tatiana

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Speaker 2: Who you want to shame? Who you don't want to shame,

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Speaker 2: we just might read it as soon. My husband wants

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Speaker 2: an open marriage, so I agreed. Now he's jealous, But

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Speaker 2: I am never going back to a one wiener life?

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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 1: And where's not about one weiener lives? You know? You

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Speaker 1: the grocery store and you order hot dogs, yep, how

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Speaker 1: many do they come with? Minimum packs of sex? Minimum

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Speaker 1: packs of sex? And so I'm like, I'm thinking, like,

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Speaker 1: why is it life like shopping for wieners at a

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Speaker 2: Sam, Why have a snack when you can have a

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Speaker 2: whole barbecue? You'd have a whole meal, a whole ass

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Speaker 2: meal and with a share it around with a few people,

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Speaker 2: if you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: That's sauce.

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Speaker 2: One wiener is a snack, but six is a party.

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Speaker 1: That it is? Quote me John from the Book of

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Speaker 1: John John three twelve.

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Speaker 2: One wiener is a snack. Six is a party. All right, Well,

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Speaker 2: let's see how many wieners we got here. I waited

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Speaker 2: until I was fifty to get married because I wanted

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Speaker 2: to be a grown adult person making grown adult decisions

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Speaker 2: within my relationship.

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Speaker 1: Yes, because you can't do that before fifty.

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Speaker 2: That's right. Yeah, everyone believed.

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Speaker 1: You own adults unless you are fifty.

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Speaker 2: You're an idiot. Baby. My husband is eleven years younger

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Speaker 2: than me, a little cradle robber over here. And he

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Speaker 2: decided that the hormonal changes I was going through during

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Speaker 2: pre menopause didn't not meet with his uh satisfaction levels.

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Speaker 1: What does that mean? What are the hormonal changes that

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Speaker 1: are going on? Like, she's like, not as down to

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Speaker 2: I'm guessing not as much, because I'm guessing.

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Speaker 1: You're more uncomfortable and more like you know, you know,

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Speaker 2: It could be I don't know. So yeah, I think

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Speaker 2: his next part answers that. And he suggested that we

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Speaker 2: go to a lifestyle party.

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Speaker 1: Hm, so I think party? Yeah? Swing style, thanks you

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Speaker 1: shwing me? Or right round baby, right round.

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Speaker 2: You swing my dong, right round, right round in your

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Speaker 2: song for you.

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Speaker 1: Phenomenal, phenomenal and.

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Speaker 2: When we get to the party, I have the attention

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Speaker 2: of everyone in the room, male and female.

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Speaker 1: A lot. I am just walked in fresh out the oven,

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Speaker 2: Oh goodness, this men of these hot flashes have got me.

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Speaker 2: Given the hots to you, everyone who's flashing me. There

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Speaker 2: we go, teamwork on that one. My husband, however, has

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Speaker 2: not received the attention from the other females that he

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Speaker 2: was expecting. Ooh dang. In addition to his own securities

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Speaker 2: about his body, he came to have insecurities about what

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Speaker 2: other men provided for me that he did.

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Speaker 1: Not that long dick, Oh goodness.

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Speaker 2: That extra large barbecue weiener, that extra foot low with

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Speaker 2: extra mao oh yeah, oh goodness.

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Speaker 1: Scott.

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Speaker 2: His stance was that he didn't want to have his

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Speaker 2: wife out having a good time and bringing the sparkle

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Speaker 2: for other men that he doesn't get for himself at home.

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Speaker 1: What's the sparkle?

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Speaker 2: I guess that's that, you know. Uh, you know, she's

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Speaker 2: out here with all these new young cats, you know,

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Speaker 2: and she's given him the giving him the work. Meanwhile

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Speaker 2: he's he's back home throwing it down and like yeah home,

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Speaker 2: you know, she's barely picking it up exactly exactly. My

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Speaker 2: response was that me spending time with my connection was

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Speaker 2: to me the equivalent of self care and going to

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Speaker 2: the salon to get my nails done.

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Speaker 1: That's one way of looking at it.

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Speaker 2: That's what Opie has really embraced her husband's offer.

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Speaker 1: Here my goodness, you know, and I just gotta I

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Speaker 1: gotta get my nails done three times a day. You know,

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Speaker 1: God forbid I break a nail or a hangnail get shipped.

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Speaker 1: We gotta redo it three, four, five times a day.

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Speaker 1: You know, maybe maybe one person works on one hand,

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Speaker 1: another person works on another hand, you know, a couple

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Speaker 1: at the same time. Yeah, you gotta have every opening

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Speaker 1: filled up. Sam, you got ten fingers, got ten fingers,

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Speaker 1: you know what, Let's make it easy one person to

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Speaker 1: reach her finger. And you know, if if you have specialization,

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Speaker 1: then they're going to kill it in that one area.

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Speaker 1: You know, they're to destroy.

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Speaker 2: Some people do squigglys, some people do just straight plane.

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Speaker 2: You know, they got something from someone for everything, for everything. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: my husband rarely goes to salon with me to get

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Speaker 2: my nails done, but he benefits from me keeping myself beautiful.

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Speaker 2: He resented that analogy. You don't say shocker, Sam.

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Speaker 1: It's always a rough one where one that one partner

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Speaker 1: presents the idea of an open relationship and then ends

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Speaker 1: up realizing that they're not the win. They're not the

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Speaker 1: thought they would be.

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Speaker 2: Going back. A few months after we decided to open

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Speaker 2: the marriage up to other connections, my husband began policing

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Speaker 2: my communications and what activity could take place on a date,

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Speaker 2: and there was an understanding that our connections would be

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Speaker 2: a waitance is in a sense. However, he broke the

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Speaker 2: rules by going on a dating app, going out of town,

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Speaker 2: having dinner with this woman, and then staying out till

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Speaker 2: one am to do it with this woman without telling

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Speaker 2: me beforehand. That's an interesting only only people you know?

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Speaker 1: That's a I feel interesting with people you know is

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Speaker 1: almost like worse, worse or any more difficult.

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Speaker 2: This is the first time we've had it, you know,

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Speaker 2: usually we have it that way, but this is the

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Speaker 2: first time it's been with you know, only people you know.

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Speaker 2: Interesting choice. My solution was to show him how hurt

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Speaker 2: I was considering how I allowed him to develop the

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Speaker 2: path of my connections, but he didn't offer me the

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Speaker 2: same courtesy. Yeah, I'll let you bang all my people,

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Speaker 2: but you didn't let me bang yours like.

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Speaker 1: I like how Oh he's calling it connections?

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Speaker 2: This is this is the like romantic entanglement?

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Speaker 1: Is that what LinkedIn's for?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Let me send you a talk about connections.

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Speaker 2: Oh God. The reason I am unsatisf with my husband

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Speaker 2: now is because he has shown characteristic flaws that have

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Speaker 2: burdened me, weighed me down, and is keeping me the

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Speaker 2: prisoner inside this marriage.

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Speaker 1: And he got a lip thick yeah.

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Speaker 2: And his clock is floppy. Prior to his exploration, I

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Speaker 2: was perfectly content in my monogamous marriage. I told him

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Speaker 2: about Pandora's box and how you can never undo every

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Speaker 2: evil that was released when you opened that lid. Yet

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Speaker 2: his ego requires that I belonged to him. To be honest,

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Speaker 2: I didn't think my husband even thought I was pretty

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Speaker 2: until he saw that other men were attracted to me,

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Speaker 2: both inside and out. Wow. Wow, analogy's left and right

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Speaker 2: in this story, ladies and gentleman. He feels threatened and

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Speaker 2: now I'm in prison.

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Speaker 1: Wow? Really, prison? This doesn't seem like the best relationship.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go out on a limb here. It really doesn't,

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Speaker 1: so I would actually love to hear you. Know, we've

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Speaker 1: love to hear anyone who has dabbles in the realm

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Speaker 1: of open relationship discussed or.

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Speaker 2: Not by choice or not. Please share your stories below.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, like the open relationships are where we've

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Speaker 1: asked this question before about open relationships and Dusk one

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Speaker 1: nine four says I've been with my boyfriend since I

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Speaker 1: was fourteen. We were each other's first for pretty much everything.

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Speaker 1: While that's a very intimate and precious thing to share,

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Speaker 1: we know that later down the line we might ask

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Speaker 1: had each other. That hasn't happened yet. Our sex life

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Speaker 1: is great. We only have eyes for each other, but

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Speaker 1: we discussed it. We'd be open to sleeping with a

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Speaker 1: set number of other people, basically so we can grow

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Speaker 1: old without any regrets. But again, this only has been

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Speaker 1: going with that plan. So I mean that's how one

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Speaker 1: an open relationship. I mean, we love hearing from you.

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Speaker 1: Tell us about your open relationship stories.

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Speaker 2: Love you,