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Speaker 1: After time passed, we became a couple, and I allowed

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Speaker 1: So let this man go. Uh, don't keep stringing him

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Speaker 1: Let this man go and let him do the same. Jay.

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Speaker 1: Hey oh, do oh, do oh, dude, I'm talking a

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Speaker 1: Time back in and I had I had him my way.

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Speaker 1: Shut up, fool, you had no exocting. I did have

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Speaker 1: with part two of the Strawberry Letter from Sugar Daddy

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Speaker 1: to husband. You're listening to the Steven Show. Okay, don't forget.

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Speaker 1: back to this crazy Strawberry letter. Subject from Sugar Daddy

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Speaker 1: If you do have relationship issues, make sure you email

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Speaker 1: She's forty five years old. She's been in a relationship

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Speaker 1: So when they first met, well yeah, yeah, yeah, when

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Speaker 1: I know this? You know I know this isn't about you.

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Speaker 1: There you go, Jake, You're yeah, you're off the hook. Bruce.

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Speaker 1: Wayne keepsaying he wasn't Batman either, teach oy to mislead us. Yeah,

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