WEBVTT - AI: The Future of Cruising?

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, viewers, Sniffy's Cruising Confessions is an explicit podcast about

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<v Speaker 3>Welcome to Sniffy's Cruising Confessions. I'm Gabeln Saez and I'm

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<v Speaker 3>Christottas and Rosso.

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<v Speaker 4>Each week we explore the sublime world of queer sex, cruising,

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<v Speaker 3>We talk to queer folks of all kinds. We'll ask

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<v Speaker 1>Sex stories, share intimate revelations, and provide practical advice that.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, we are kicking off season three. It's happening. We're here.

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<v Speaker 3>Apparently y'all wanted more of us, so here we are.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we got a refractory time down. We really going

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<v Speaker 1>to turn around the next season, real quick, up, get

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<v Speaker 1>it hard, let's score.

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<v Speaker 4>All over, so like a try mixed situation. I didn't

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<v Speaker 4>say anything about injecting. Oh well, okay, we are very

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<v Speaker 4>very excited to be back.

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<v Speaker 3>This season is going to be hot.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, the guests that we have coming up, the

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<v Speaker 4>topics we're talking about, I'm really excited to share them

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<v Speaker 4>all with you.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, So, Chris so Gay, I need your help here.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to reveal the topic of today's episode, but

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<v Speaker 1>I need you to fill in the blank. All right.

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<v Speaker 1>If there's one thing we are the most sick of

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<v Speaker 1>hearing about in twenty twenty five, it is Trump close,

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<v Speaker 1>very close, good response, but not what I was looking for.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, La Boo Boo's also a.

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<v Speaker 1>Very good response, very good entry in the competition, but

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<v Speaker 1>also not what I was looking for.

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<v Speaker 3>Then it must be AI.

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<v Speaker 1>It is absolutely AI, a topic I hate hearing about,

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to talk about.

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<v Speaker 3>But here we are, But here we are. What are

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<v Speaker 3>your thoughts? What are my thoughts? Yeah, my thoughts on AI?

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<v Speaker 2>What are my thoughts?

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<v Speaker 1>I became radicalized during the WJA strikes when I started

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<v Speaker 1>learning a lot about AI, and we saw a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people in creative fields or in charge of corporations

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<v Speaker 1>that were you know, running creative industries trying to use

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<v Speaker 1>AI to replace writers, Yes, to replace actors, to take actors' faces,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh for sure, content.

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<v Speaker 4>Like you want to use my image and perpetuity. No,

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<v Speaker 4>we're not going to be doing that. And then now

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<v Speaker 4>as we start to know more about these massive data

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<v Speaker 4>centers and their environmental impacts, like, I'm starting to understand that, like,

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<v Speaker 4>although it is helping people in some ways make their

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<v Speaker 4>lives easier, it's also having huge, huge, huge impacts, And like,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm grateful that we're getting in to have a conversation

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<v Speaker 4>about it here today and sort of get some of

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<v Speaker 4>those facts out and sort of learn more.

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<v Speaker 1>There are a growing number of people every day using

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<v Speaker 1>specifically generative AI, right, we're talking about image or text

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<v Speaker 1>generators as well as chatbots. But just because people are

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<v Speaker 1>using it a lot doesn't mean we shouldn't interrogate how

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<v Speaker 1>it is impacting us now or it might in the future,

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<v Speaker 1>especially when it comes to the use of generative AI

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<v Speaker 1>for porn or rotic content, even a sense of campaign

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<v Speaker 1>and ship if if you want to call it that.

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<v Speaker 4>For the past two seasons of Sniffy's Cruising Confessions, we

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<v Speaker 4>spend a lot of time exploring good old fashioned cruising.

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<v Speaker 4>If you're a devoted listener, you definitely remember our favorite

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<v Speaker 4>cruising expert, Leojdia from our Cruising one on one episode.

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<v Speaker 3>Leo literally wrote the book on analog cruising, and that

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<v Speaker 3>became a pretty viral hit.

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<v Speaker 1>But for the past few years, Leo has also explored

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<v Speaker 1>the intersection of sex and technology in his substack career works.

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<v Speaker 1>So today he is going to be joining us to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about what he's learned, the studying and quite literally

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<v Speaker 1>feeling his way through this highly controversial topic, and we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to talk about whether AI, porn, AI chatbots, and

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<v Speaker 1>hyper realistic sex storys are actually the future of cruising.

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<v Speaker 4>Welcome back to Snippy's Cruising Confessions, Leo Herrera. Now, Leo,

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<v Speaker 4>the last time you were here, you were telling us

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<v Speaker 4>to put our phones down and start cruising in real life, right,

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<v Speaker 4>and now you're here, you'll talk to us about AI.

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<v Speaker 3>What happened? What was the shift?

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<v Speaker 5>I don't think there is a shift. I think we

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<v Speaker 5>have to look at queer sex holistically.

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<v Speaker 3>Like all of it.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, part of my research with analog cruising was understanding

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<v Speaker 5>how it had been done for so long and the

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<v Speaker 5>idea that queer people are incredible at using a lot

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<v Speaker 5>of different tools for sex, and we had sort of

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<v Speaker 5>forgotten that we had these huge arsenals of analog tools before,

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<v Speaker 5>and we were so concentrated on the digital tools.

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<v Speaker 2>And so while I was actually writing the Cruising.

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<v Speaker 5>Manual Analog Cruising dot Com, I was also interested in

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<v Speaker 5>how AI and generative AI was going to shift our sexuality.

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<v Speaker 5>And I started writing about AI porn in twenty twenty

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<v Speaker 5>two when we were still sort of treating AI images

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<v Speaker 5>as sort of like this parlor trick or this fad

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<v Speaker 5>that was just going.

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<v Speaker 3>To go away.

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<v Speaker 5>And what I realized really early on in the first

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<v Speaker 5>iterations of Dolly, for example, is that people were going

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<v Speaker 5>to start using it for porn. And that's what humans do,

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<v Speaker 5>is we use technology for fucking. It's one of the

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<v Speaker 5>first things we always do. That's the first thing we

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<v Speaker 5>did with the Internet and chat rooms and CGI and animation.

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<v Speaker 5>So that was really fascinating to me, and that's how

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<v Speaker 5>I started researching it. These things have been written about

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<v Speaker 5>in sci fi books for like one hundred years, and

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<v Speaker 5>it's really interesting how a lot of things have changed

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<v Speaker 5>in the space of AI imagery and where we're at

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<v Speaker 5>now and how we're still not talking about it, and

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<v Speaker 5>all of a sudden you get a study that's like

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<v Speaker 5>seventy five percent of kids now have an AI companion,

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<v Speaker 5>and those are the kids that we're going to have

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<v Speaker 5>to deal with in space. We're going to be like

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<v Speaker 5>older guys and we're going to have to see these

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<v Speaker 5>kids at a bar and we're going to be like, oh,

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<v Speaker 5>you were raising synthetic companionships.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, they TikTok. Kids are bad enough, exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>Exactly.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, Jen Alpha is having full on relationships with

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<v Speaker 5>synthetic companions, and so that's what's going to train their sexuality.

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<v Speaker 3>That's so scary. I'm curious.

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<v Speaker 1>So you've talked about how these things have been written

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<v Speaker 1>about in sci fi for a long time, and I

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<v Speaker 1>think we look towards sci fi media, books and television

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<v Speaker 1>and films to kind of shape our idea of what

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<v Speaker 1>the future will look like. And one of the first

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<v Speaker 1>examples I can think of reading about AI or some

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<v Speaker 1>sort of AI and sci fi is Isaac Asimov, who

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<v Speaker 1>like was very much warning us, Right, it's sort of

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<v Speaker 1>a cautionary tale, right, These robots are hot and intelligent,

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<v Speaker 1>and very strong and they might fucking kill you, which

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<v Speaker 1>for some people might be really hot. But I'm curious,

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<v Speaker 1>what was the first kind of sci fi you encountered

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<v Speaker 1>that kind of like triggered your imagination or curiosity about

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<v Speaker 1>what synthetic sex or AI might look like.

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<v Speaker 2>In the future. Did you see the movie Strange Days?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 3>Really?

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<v Speaker 6>No?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh so good. It's got Angela Bassid in it.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh work.

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<v Speaker 5>It takes place in the near future and people wear

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<v Speaker 5>these VR headsets where they can relive memories, and a

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<v Speaker 5>lot of it deals with them reliving sexual memories. So

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<v Speaker 5>that was the first thing that I saw that I

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<v Speaker 5>was like, oh, and I think it's like nineteen ninety seven.

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<v Speaker 5>A lot of the anxieties of the time were because

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<v Speaker 5>the Internet was going to come and change everything and

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<v Speaker 5>ruin everything thing and a lot of the stuff that

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<v Speaker 5>we thought was going to be the best parts about

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<v Speaker 5>it turned out to be the worst parts about it,

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<v Speaker 5>because it was supposed to connect us and we were

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<v Speaker 5>all going to get along and it was going to

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<v Speaker 5>be this utopia and that didn't happen. But it also

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<v Speaker 5>did a lot of fantastic things. So it's interesting that

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<v Speaker 5>that media is using the anxieties of the age, and

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<v Speaker 5>now we're again in this place thirty years later, and

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<v Speaker 5>we're dealing with the same anxieties and we're sort of

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<v Speaker 5>reacting to it the same way. When I talk about

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<v Speaker 5>these things online and my social media, it's the only

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<v Speaker 5>time people get furious at me. Some people feel like

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<v Speaker 5>I'm betraying something, or I get these like what's yours?

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<v Speaker 2>Your integrity?

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<v Speaker 5>You're hiding behind reporting like it's such a visceral anger

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<v Speaker 5>and a visceral reaction, which only makes me want to

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<v Speaker 5>report about it more because we're having such an emotional,

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<v Speaker 5>sometimes hysterical reaction to these things. And what that's really

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<v Speaker 5>telling me is that that anger is coming from a really,

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<v Speaker 5>really deep seated fear, and so when you combine that

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<v Speaker 5>with sex, it can have really really volatile consequences. And

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<v Speaker 5>if we're not paying attention to it, then we're not

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<v Speaker 5>going to see it coming. And one of the things

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<v Speaker 5>that I've learned through so long of reporting on these

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<v Speaker 5>things is that we really in order to understand the

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<v Speaker 5>real dangers of technology, we first have to understand what

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<v Speaker 5>the pleasures are, Why are people using them?

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<v Speaker 2>Why did we use apps? To begin with? Apps are

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<v Speaker 2>never my thing.

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<v Speaker 5>But when I studied how grinder works and how social

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<v Speaker 5>media works, that's why I understood that we were going

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<v Speaker 5>to have a reaction toward analog cruising again, which is

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<v Speaker 5>why I started writing that book, Analog Cruising dot Com.

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<v Speaker 3>And so.

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<v Speaker 5>We really have to look at it holistically because also historically,

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<v Speaker 5>queer people have used technology before anybody else for connection

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<v Speaker 5>and for intimacy.

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<v Speaker 2>So in a way, there's a lot of ways.

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<v Speaker 5>That this technology can sort of be queered and that's

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<v Speaker 5>what's really interesting to me.

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<v Speaker 4>And why do you think that we are on the

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<v Speaker 4>forefront of using technology in that.

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<v Speaker 5>Way, Because we've always had to use the most available

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<v Speaker 5>technology to communicate with each other subtly, So whether it

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<v Speaker 5>was codes on the back of a photograph or the

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<v Speaker 5>classifieds or AOL chat rooms, there would have been no

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<v Speaker 5>Facebook without like planet out in gay dot com, like

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<v Speaker 5>we had the first online profiles to meet with each other.

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<v Speaker 5>So we're always at the forefront of those things. And

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<v Speaker 5>at some point we're going to have to figure out

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<v Speaker 5>how we incorporate that technology into our own queerness, because

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<v Speaker 5>otherwise these tech lords are going to be very excited

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<v Speaker 5>to do it for us and to just give us

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<v Speaker 5>an AI wingman. You know, you're going to be logging

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<v Speaker 5>into grinder at some point you're not going to know

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<v Speaker 5>who's a real person anymore. And these tech guys are

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<v Speaker 5>narcissists and they're ketaminetics, and they would be fine to

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<v Speaker 5>replace people completely. So it's going to be up to

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<v Speaker 5>us to figure out where's the reality inside of that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's really interesting because there's a curiosity, but you

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<v Speaker 1>also have to be very honest about the risks and

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<v Speaker 1>the impact it's having. And I think, like you said,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't see these risks coming if you don't talk

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<v Speaker 1>about it, Like, we kind of have to be honest

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<v Speaker 1>about where we are now if we want to prepare.

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<v Speaker 3>Ourselves for the future.

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<v Speaker 1>For sure, there's a connection with the pandemic in terms

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<v Speaker 1>of like a shift. I saw it imporn in sexual habits,

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<v Speaker 1>and we've talked about this on the series. Right, I

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<v Speaker 1>think the pandemic led to an explosion, if you will,

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<v Speaker 1>culture right, a lot of exploring.

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<v Speaker 3>Kings and fetishes like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm wondering if you see a connection between those things

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<v Speaker 1>and the rise of these new either sex toys or

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<v Speaker 1>these AI companions.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh.

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<v Speaker 5>Absolutely, I mean I think the pandemic shifted our thinking

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<v Speaker 5>in the way that we see sexuality in a horrible way.

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<v Speaker 2>And also in a really interesting way.

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<v Speaker 5>So, for example, in terms of the synthetic companions, the

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<v Speaker 5>pandemic got us really used to having very intimate.

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<v Speaker 2>Moments through FaceTime, you know.

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<v Speaker 5>Like we got used to in a really dark way.

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<v Speaker 5>We got used to seeing funerals and people dying through

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<v Speaker 5>a screen. So if you're able to process that, then

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<v Speaker 5>jerking off through a screen with a robot isn't that

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<v Speaker 5>huge of a skit. Because it allowed us for our

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<v Speaker 5>brains to get used to the artificiality of some stuff

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<v Speaker 5>that was only very actile for us. It also increased

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<v Speaker 5>the sales of sex toys by I think like fifty

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<v Speaker 5>percent for some of them, a huge increase of them.

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<v Speaker 5>It was a really interesting coincidence that a lot of

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<v Speaker 5>those toys got a lot cheaper during the pandemic when

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<v Speaker 5>we also had that pandemic money money.

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<v Speaker 2>That money that pandemic.

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<v Speaker 5>Five hundred I was like six hundred dollars for a

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<v Speaker 5>sex tour souse. A lot of toys were used to

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<v Speaker 5>be made with silicone, which was really really expensive, and

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<v Speaker 5>about ten years ago this material called thermoplastic elostomer.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope I pronounced that right.

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<v Speaker 3>I love her.

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<v Speaker 5>She's a great She's a great drag creanyalyps assassin. It's

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<v Speaker 5>a softer material, so it's kind of like it's softer

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<v Speaker 5>than silicone. It doesn't last as long, but it's very realistic.

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<v Speaker 5>It holds heat. We sort of grew up around the

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<v Speaker 5>real sex HBO era where you would see those big

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<v Speaker 5>sex dolls and they were ten thousand dollars. Fifteen thousand dollars.

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<v Speaker 5>Are customizable those so much cheaper, they're like two thousand dollars.

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<v Speaker 2>In straight culture, the in cells.

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<v Speaker 5>Have been using this stuff for a really long time,

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<v Speaker 5>but something about the pandemic made them a little bit

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<v Speaker 5>more socially acceptable for men to have. In terms of

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<v Speaker 5>gay culture, they haven't quite made the right males one

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<v Speaker 5>because we require different kind of movement and different kind

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<v Speaker 5>of ourphices. But that's on the way now. So like

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<v Speaker 5>dildos that were triple sheath silicone that were six hundred

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<v Speaker 5>dollars one thousand dollars from reeal Dollar are now two

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<v Speaker 5>hundred dollars one hundred dollars and they're all hand painted.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know what kind of sweatshops they're using, and honestly,

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<v Speaker 5>I don't want to know, but those are becoming more available.

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<v Speaker 5>So you're seeing AI porn, you're seeing AI chatbots, and

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<v Speaker 5>you're seeing sexual prosthetics become more available to people, and

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<v Speaker 5>those things are sort of all forming into one thing,

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<v Speaker 5>which is a sexu robot. So one of the things

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<v Speaker 5>that I've been writing about is how we are witnessing

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<v Speaker 5>in real time time the creation of that fabled sexual

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<v Speaker 5>abat that we've been writing about in sci fi for

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<v Speaker 5>one hundred years. And those things are not new. Sailors

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<v Speaker 5>used to shove straw inside of their clothes and make

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<v Speaker 5>sex dolls.

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<v Speaker 2>During long voyages.

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<v Speaker 5>They were called doms de voyage, and so these aren't

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<v Speaker 5>new impulses. They're just having technology that's never been to

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<v Speaker 5>this level of realism in human history before.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's like we see the guy fuck the pumpkin

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<v Speaker 1>every Halloween, but like, now you know what, Now the

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<v Speaker 1>pumpkin can talk back exactly, Now the pumpkin can fuck back.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, Oh god, No, I want to talk.

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<v Speaker 1>A little bit about the AI imaging because I know

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<v Speaker 1>we've got these like three big temple things we're talking about,

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<v Speaker 1>right The generative AI, the A companions and the sex toys. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>we're finding out is a lot of these generative AI tools,

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to call them, that are scraping the

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<v Speaker 1>Internet and using copyrighted material or images of folks to

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<v Speaker 1>create erotic images without their consent, which is causing a

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<v Speaker 1>slew of like legal and ethical issues. So of these

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<v Speaker 1>lawsuits are like still happening. What is AI porn like now?

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<v Speaker 1>And are there ways where we can confront non ethical

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<v Speaker 1>uses of AI porn while still indulging and exploring in it?

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<v Speaker 1>Like how do we reconcile these things?

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know if reconciliation is going to be something

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<v Speaker 5>that we're going to completely achieve because we haven't even

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<v Speaker 5>reconciled the internet, right.

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<v Speaker 2>Sure, they're still working in a while.

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<v Speaker 5>It didn't bring us closer together, but I think understanding

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<v Speaker 5>how the images are made as part of it.

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<v Speaker 2>So at the beginning they were only trained on.

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<v Speaker 5>A small subset of images, and now they're trained on

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<v Speaker 5>billions of images.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's really they're not copying and pasting.

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<v Speaker 5>They're really kind of taking statistical echoes of things, right,

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<v Speaker 5>So it's almost like a painter who has seen all

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<v Speaker 5>the remorants and is painting their own remorant, so.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why some of them look terrible.

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<v Speaker 5>There's so many dangers to that as well, because now

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<v Speaker 5>I could you know, there's a million images of Scarlet Johansson,

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<v Speaker 5>which is why she's a very popular porn deep fake issue.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>Also, you know, you can give it a bunch of

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<v Speaker 5>images of your neighbor and then you could see your

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<v Speaker 5>neighbor naked. So there's all sorts of nefarious uses that

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<v Speaker 5>are going to be really really stressful for people, especially

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<v Speaker 5>right now. And then at the same time, what happened

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<v Speaker 5>about a year and a half ago is that a

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<v Speaker 5>lot of those image databases kind of exploded. And then

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<v Speaker 5>of course the nerds, the horny nerds always they figured

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<v Speaker 5>out all these plugins and all these ways to create

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<v Speaker 5>super hyperrealistic images that are of kind of nobody. They're

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<v Speaker 5>just sort of shadows of people. You can use them

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<v Speaker 5>for deep fakes, and you can use them for terrible stuff.

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<v Speaker 5>But that's also sort of in the same way that

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<v Speaker 5>you could put a camera in a bathroom. Like, people

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<v Speaker 5>are always going to figure out really unethical, violating, illegal

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<v Speaker 5>ways to use the technology. But so what are the

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<v Speaker 5>possibility is what's interesting to me as well, because those

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<v Speaker 5>things are going to need regulation. Right there's already court

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<v Speaker 5>cases about synthetic child imagery. It's really always important when

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<v Speaker 5>speaking about this that we acknowledge that this kind of

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<v Speaker 5>technology will endanger women and children first.

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<v Speaker 2>It always has. What's interesting me as a queer man

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<v Speaker 2>is like, okay, so where is the queering of this technology.

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<v Speaker 5>One of the things that's really interesting is the new

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<v Speaker 5>genres that I'm seeing that I'm covering in my sub stack,

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<v Speaker 5>where it's like things that were impossible to shoot in

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<v Speaker 5>real life before, so naked people fucking at an airport

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<v Speaker 5>or at a police station or at a crowded grocery store.

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<v Speaker 5>Or a new genre that I'm seeing a lot more

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<v Speaker 5>is like giant porn, which was always a genre before.

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<v Speaker 5>Giant porn, like macrophelia where you're turned on by a

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<v Speaker 5>gigantic man the size of a building, or.

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<v Speaker 3>Like you get shrunk in and you crawl into the

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<v Speaker 3>get like that episode of The Boys. Yea.

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<v Speaker 5>So those kind of fantasy genres are really interesting because

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<v Speaker 5>I would go into the so I was like, I'm

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<v Speaker 5>not into macrophilia myself, but of course some of the

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<v Speaker 5>girls are and the.

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<v Speaker 3>Girls also the girls left their macrophilia.

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<v Speaker 5>And uh, before it was kind of adorable, it would

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<v Speaker 5>be like really bad photoshop or like I saw like

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<v Speaker 5>shooting like a foot with like tiny little dolls stuck too,

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<v Speaker 5>little plastic.

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<v Speaker 2>Dolls, and I was like, oh, you guys are getting

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<v Speaker 2>off on these.

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<v Speaker 5>But all of a sudden, now you have this photorealistic

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<v Speaker 5>image of a giant man fucking the Empire state building.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's not what I'm into. But if I was,

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<v Speaker 2>all of.

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<v Speaker 5>A sudden, it'd be like you would be, oh, and

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<v Speaker 5>that's gonna be a video in a year, you know.

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<v Speaker 5>So it is creating these different alternate universes that are

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<v Speaker 5>really really fascinating to me.

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<v Speaker 2>But what are the ramifications of that?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Who knows?

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<v Speaker 4>I wonder pit collectors right to people who love to

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<v Speaker 4>collect girl pictures of it, like, now what are they

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<v Speaker 4>now capable of doing once they have your pictures? I'm like,

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<v Speaker 4>are someone out here making AI porn with my images

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<v Speaker 4>that I'm sending them from my locked album?

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<v Speaker 2>Probably?

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<v Speaker 5>Like that is going to be a thing that we're

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<v Speaker 5>going to have to reckon with. So then what'll be

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<v Speaker 5>able to I don't know what happens. That's why we're

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<v Speaker 5>having this conversation. So it's like if people that are

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<v Speaker 5>ten years younger than us, if they grow up in

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<v Speaker 5>a world where they went to high school and they

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<v Speaker 5>all use newdify apps, which they're using now since twenty

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<v Speaker 5>twenty three, they have created huge problems for schools because

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<v Speaker 5>these books, because a NEWIFI app is like you put

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<v Speaker 5>in a photo of a girl and it just like

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<v Speaker 5>takes her top off because it could just do that.

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<v Speaker 1>Now it's like it's not her top, right, Yeah, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like an AI generated her.

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<v Speaker 5>But if these tools get stronger, which we know they will,

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<v Speaker 5>you'll be able to just enter anybody and the AI

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<v Speaker 5>will be able to look at your hairy arms and

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<v Speaker 5>your legs and your shape and the size of you

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<v Speaker 5>and have an approximation of what you look like naked.

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<v Speaker 5>So we are in a place where the X ray

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<v Speaker 5>glasses are about to be a real thing. What does

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<v Speaker 5>that society look like if much younger people can see

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<v Speaker 5>anybody naked and in sexual situations, what does that do

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<v Speaker 5>to their sexual development? What does that do to their

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<v Speaker 5>sexual expression in the way that they kind of move

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<v Speaker 5>in the world.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's what's interesting to me.

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<v Speaker 5>So sometimes people feel like I am glorifying some of

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<v Speaker 5>this technology because it is exciting, but really it's a

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<v Speaker 5>little terrifying, and we should be having these discussions because

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<v Speaker 5>I think in a lot of ways, it's going to

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<v Speaker 5>be up to older queers when we're like in our

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<v Speaker 5>fifties to sort of teach a younger generation how to

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<v Speaker 5>operate in a world that's so artificial but also so

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<v Speaker 5>real at the same time, which is again leads us

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<v Speaker 5>back to the analog cruising situation and all of that.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's always a big loop.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just sneaky thing. It's on tail. If I could

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<v Speaker 3>reach my own ass, I would, yeah, absolutely, why.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, let's enter it into AI gave me.

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<v Speaker 2>Easy.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that would be pretty easy.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you ever get to suck your own dick when

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<v Speaker 2>you were like a team?

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<v Speaker 3>When I tried so hard?

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<v Speaker 5>I did?

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<v Speaker 2>I tried great? Did you?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>I would like years, And then you get older, you

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<v Speaker 2>just can't do. My body is not take out that

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<v Speaker 2>red please?

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<v Speaker 3>How did you do? Because I used to try to

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<v Speaker 3>put my body parallel to.

0:20:18.240 --> 0:20:21.199
<v Speaker 1>The wall and then like go, look, you had to

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<v Speaker 1>do it laying down to it, laying down and the

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<v Speaker 1>like yeah, you did.

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<v Speaker 3>Did it? Run? You had run?

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<v Speaker 4>I needed queer mentors flexible and I spent a lot

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<v Speaker 4>of time by myself.

0:20:33.520 --> 0:20:34.359
<v Speaker 3>That's how that happened.

0:20:34.480 --> 0:20:35.400
<v Speaker 2>That's how it happened.

0:20:36.640 --> 0:20:38.840
<v Speaker 3>Told yourself Hamburger style, It's fine.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to use gravity.

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<v Speaker 3>I'd love to hear about the Coach in the Machine.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, you wrote this essay the Coach in the Machine,

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<v Speaker 4>which is all about the first time you used AI porn.

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<v Speaker 3>Can you talk to us about that.

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<v Speaker 5>It was this idea that and this is almost three

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<v Speaker 5>years ago now, where I sort of predicted that we

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<v Speaker 5>were going to start using hyper specific porn and that

0:21:00.920 --> 0:21:05.240
<v Speaker 5>it was going to allow us to recreate sexual memories,

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<v Speaker 5>so all of us have an imprinted sexual memory. For me,

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<v Speaker 5>it was my coach at the elementary school who would

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<v Speaker 5>wear these red shorts. Part of the Coach in the

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<v Speaker 5>Machine was this exploration of what would happen if I

0:21:19.960 --> 0:21:24.680
<v Speaker 5>could recreate that sexual memory exactly, and the idea that

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<v Speaker 5>we all have these very, very very specific triggers that

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<v Speaker 5>are only for us. Whether it's like the first time

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<v Speaker 5>we saw somebody's brief sticking out of their shorts, when

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<v Speaker 5>we're going through puberty, our brain is imprinting all of

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<v Speaker 5>these things on us.

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<v Speaker 2>So this idea that AI will allow.

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<v Speaker 5>Us this hyper hyper hyper specificity, and what does that

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<v Speaker 5>do to our sexuality when we could get exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>What we want?

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<v Speaker 5>And so the coach on the machine was sort of

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<v Speaker 5>the first exploration of what if I could recreate my

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<v Speaker 5>coach and what would it do to that sexual memory?

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<v Speaker 5>Would it make it stronger or would have dissipated? And

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<v Speaker 5>well I found out when I finally looked him up,

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<v Speaker 5>because I thought, oh, I'll find the coach and then

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<v Speaker 5>I'll deage him using AI and then I'll put him

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<v Speaker 5>and then I'll see him naked in the red shorts

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<v Speaker 5>and stuff. Instead, I found him in some pedophile registry

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<v Speaker 5>because he was a pedophile. And then I remember like, oh,

0:22:25.520 --> 0:22:27.360
<v Speaker 5>he really liked it when I like rubbed his neck

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<v Speaker 5>during like recess, and I was like, oh, okay, we're

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<v Speaker 5>sort of entering a use of technology that we are

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<v Speaker 5>not prepared for. If you get everything you want all

0:22:39.359 --> 0:22:42.399
<v Speaker 5>the time, that is not the way that sex works.

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<v Speaker 5>And sex works with friction, not the physical kind, but

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<v Speaker 5>learning things the wrong way sometimes or having embarrassing moments

0:22:52.040 --> 0:22:56.680
<v Speaker 5>or having breakthroughs that you weren't expecting finding things about

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<v Speaker 5>yourself accidentally. If you remove that friction, and you have

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<v Speaker 5>a whole generation that is only used to getting exactly,

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<v Speaker 5>hyper specifically what they want, and they are living in

0:23:06.520 --> 0:23:10.359
<v Speaker 5>a frictionless sexual environment and they're fucking a sexual robot

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<v Speaker 5>that does everything they want and tells them everything they

0:23:13.600 --> 0:23:16.080
<v Speaker 5>want through AI chatbot, and all of their porn is

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<v Speaker 5>exactly what they want.

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<v Speaker 1>What happens then, right, and I to me, it's also

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<v Speaker 1>very scary, right that part of that friction is the negotiating,

0:23:25.160 --> 0:23:29.320
<v Speaker 1>the understanding you're balancing your desires with someone else's, and

0:23:29.359 --> 0:23:31.800
<v Speaker 1>part of a relationship is a give and take, whether

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<v Speaker 1>it's a you know, a one off fuck or like

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<v Speaker 1>a nine to ten year long relationship. Like there is

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<v Speaker 1>negotiating that happens in relationships. And you know, like you said,

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<v Speaker 1>there's something terrifying about having something that looks human that

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<v Speaker 1>you don't have to negotiate with, get consent from, talk

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<v Speaker 1>to about how you're feeling, how they're feeling. You just

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like fuck it and get what you want.

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<v Speaker 1>And that that is very scary. It's really so we've

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<v Speaker 1>already done this though. The reason that we're even talking

0:23:56.560 --> 0:23:59.080
<v Speaker 1>about cruising. Analog cruising is because we got used to

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<v Speaker 1>getting on our phone and ordering sex like it was

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<v Speaker 1>Uber eats, and telling everybody, I don't like this, I

0:24:03.200 --> 0:24:04.480
<v Speaker 1>don't like this, I don't like this, and if you

0:24:04.480 --> 0:24:05.800
<v Speaker 1>don't have this, I don't want it, and then I

0:24:05.840 --> 0:24:09.720
<v Speaker 1>can just leave. So we've gotten used to frictionless sexuality

0:24:09.760 --> 0:24:13.440
<v Speaker 1>already in a way, especially queer people, so we've already

0:24:13.520 --> 0:24:16.320
<v Speaker 1>kind of seen how it could go from that back

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<v Speaker 1>to analog cruising. Right, so we're back at this place

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<v Speaker 1>again where we're again these tech overlords are seducing us

0:24:25.680 --> 0:24:29.520
<v Speaker 1>with a frictionless world, and then we eventually find out

0:24:29.560 --> 0:24:32.440
<v Speaker 1>that that we need friction and we need rejection, and

0:24:32.720 --> 0:24:35.000
<v Speaker 1>rejection strengthens our emotional immune system.

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<v Speaker 5>Is something to right in my book, because I think

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<v Speaker 5>that's important. When you go cruising, you're not always going

0:24:40.760 --> 0:24:42.399
<v Speaker 5>to get what you want. You might not get what

0:24:42.440 --> 0:24:44.960
<v Speaker 5>you want that time, but sometimes you may.

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<v Speaker 4>And you might find what you were actually into. Yeah story, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>So you might find exactly the thing and you're at

0:24:53.040 --> 0:24:55.800
<v Speaker 5>the right place at the right time. So it really

0:24:55.880 --> 0:24:58.040
<v Speaker 5>is a matter of balancing it. And I think there

0:24:58.160 --> 0:25:01.919
<v Speaker 5>is going to be a place in our sexual diet.

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<v Speaker 2>For AI, there's gonna.

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<v Speaker 5>Especially using the AI chat pots, some of it is

0:25:06.800 --> 0:25:11.080
<v Speaker 5>incredibly seductive. Sexual technology either works as a mirror or

0:25:11.160 --> 0:25:14.359
<v Speaker 5>a tool or a weapon. So we have to figure

0:25:14.359 --> 0:25:17.280
<v Speaker 5>out where a lot of this stuff fits into our

0:25:17.320 --> 0:25:21.400
<v Speaker 5>sexual diet because if we let it run amuck, we're

0:25:21.400 --> 0:25:24.760
<v Speaker 5>going to log into grinder and someone's gonna be like, oh,

0:25:24.800 --> 0:25:26.600
<v Speaker 5>my favorite movie is Strange Days.

0:25:26.600 --> 0:25:27.520
<v Speaker 2>Have you ever seen it?

0:25:27.720 --> 0:25:31.359
<v Speaker 5>And they already know because their AI wingman scraped my

0:25:31.640 --> 0:25:36.359
<v Speaker 5>entire history and knows everything. So what happens when we

0:25:36.440 --> 0:25:39.439
<v Speaker 5>can know everything about each other? And how are we

0:25:39.480 --> 0:25:43.399
<v Speaker 5>regulating these companies? And how are we discussing them If

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<v Speaker 5>all we're doing is getting angry at this technology? How

0:25:46.640 --> 0:25:49.360
<v Speaker 5>do we even have these discussions because those companies are

0:25:49.359 --> 0:25:51.600
<v Speaker 5>ready for us to sort of just fight amongst each other.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>One of the things that's interesting for.

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<v Speaker 5>Me is when I do talk about AI imagery or

0:25:55.680 --> 0:25:58.359
<v Speaker 5>I post them, people get so angry with me because

0:25:58.400 --> 0:26:01.240
<v Speaker 5>they're like, what about the environ what about all this stuff?

0:26:01.240 --> 0:26:03.639
<v Speaker 5>I'm like, yeah, I didn't build a data center in

0:26:03.680 --> 0:26:06.080
<v Speaker 5>that black and brown neighborhood, so you can stop talking

0:26:06.080 --> 0:26:07.320
<v Speaker 5>to me like I did yeah.

0:26:07.160 --> 0:26:08.760
<v Speaker 2>And mind your fucking manners, lever one.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, because this is the same thing as us yelling

0:26:11.440 --> 0:26:14.280
<v Speaker 5>at each other about using plastic straws when we're not

0:26:14.680 --> 0:26:19.760
<v Speaker 5>focusing that anger and that regulation at our government officials

0:26:19.880 --> 0:26:24.560
<v Speaker 5>and at these companies, and so a lot of the conversations.

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<v Speaker 2>About AI are happening at.

0:26:25.400 --> 0:26:28.000
<v Speaker 5>A micro level with each other and just being mad

0:26:28.040 --> 0:26:30.720
<v Speaker 5>all the time, as opposed to really looking at the

0:26:30.720 --> 0:26:34.200
<v Speaker 5>big picture and again finding out where why are people

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<v Speaker 5>using these AI chatbots, what are they being fulfilled, what

0:26:37.760 --> 0:26:39.040
<v Speaker 5>are the possibilities of them?

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<v Speaker 2>Like what could you learn about yourself?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, now we've learned a bit about some of

0:26:42.720 --> 0:26:45.000
<v Speaker 1>the new tech that's already here, but how much should

0:26:45.080 --> 0:26:47.000
<v Speaker 1>we be wary of the future. When we come back,

0:26:47.040 --> 0:26:49.760
<v Speaker 1>we'll talk with Leo about some positive and in some cases,

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<v Speaker 1>very negative impacts as synthetic opinions could have on our

0:26:53.200 --> 0:26:54.120
<v Speaker 1>quare sexualities.

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<v Speaker 4>More Snippeys Cruising Confessions after the break. Welcome back to

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<v Speaker 4>Snippy's Cruising Confessions. We're back talking with writer and cruising

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<v Speaker 4>Officionado le Or Herrera about his research on writings on

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<v Speaker 4>AI and cruising. I'd love to chat more about these

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<v Speaker 4>AI chat bots. I have a friend on the internet

0:27:19.280 --> 0:27:22.680
<v Speaker 4>who has had several No, no, he's a friend, he's

0:27:22.720 --> 0:27:26.199
<v Speaker 4>a friend, but he posts all of his Like the

0:27:26.240 --> 0:27:30.080
<v Speaker 4>conversations that he's having with this chatbot are wild to me,

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<v Speaker 4>And I want to know where does one even find

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<v Speaker 4>an AI chat bot?

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<v Speaker 3>Like, how do you not? Okay? I tried and I

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<v Speaker 3>was a chat bots.

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<v Speaker 2>A year ago.

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<v Speaker 5>I tried an AI chat bot when I was starting

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<v Speaker 5>to do all this research, and they were forgetful. They

0:27:47.359 --> 0:27:51.480
<v Speaker 5>were just really rudimentary. They weren't easy to get going,

0:27:52.600 --> 0:27:54.760
<v Speaker 5>so they weren't very sexual. A lot of them are

0:27:54.880 --> 0:27:59.840
<v Speaker 5>using sort of like chatchept regular language models. So cut

0:28:00.119 --> 0:28:03.600
<v Speaker 5>a year later, you can create your own chatbot. You

0:28:03.640 --> 0:28:06.679
<v Speaker 5>can give it all the physical attributes you want. It'll

0:28:06.720 --> 0:28:09.879
<v Speaker 5>generate an image of your boyfriend or girlfriend. You have

0:28:09.960 --> 0:28:12.399
<v Speaker 5>discussions with it. You can call it on the phone

0:28:12.680 --> 0:28:15.240
<v Speaker 5>and it answers on the second ring, which I thought

0:28:15.280 --> 0:28:19.600
<v Speaker 5>was a genius touch. Yeah, before chatbots couldn't remember anything.

0:28:19.720 --> 0:28:21.880
<v Speaker 5>You would be talking to it and be like, yeah,

0:28:21.920 --> 0:28:23.760
<v Speaker 5>what's it like fucking in the car and they'd be

0:28:23.800 --> 0:28:26.080
<v Speaker 5>like the car, I'm in my room and it's like no,

0:28:26.440 --> 0:28:28.879
<v Speaker 5>Like we're fucking a car, so now they can remember

0:28:28.920 --> 0:28:32.439
<v Speaker 5>three days, and of course that costs money. They're charging

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<v Speaker 5>us for the realism. And because they're switching through different

0:28:36.680 --> 0:28:39.840
<v Speaker 5>language models, you have sort of have to lead it

0:28:39.920 --> 0:28:43.520
<v Speaker 5>to the sexual explicit model. So what happens is you

0:28:43.640 --> 0:28:45.280
<v Speaker 5>have to get this chatbot in the mood.

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<v Speaker 3>You have to turn.

0:28:48.680 --> 0:28:49.720
<v Speaker 2>So you can't just go.

0:28:49.680 --> 0:28:51.920
<v Speaker 5>On there and be like, hey, set my dick, because

0:28:51.960 --> 0:28:54.880
<v Speaker 5>it'll be like, excuse me, that's very forward of you.

0:28:55.320 --> 0:28:56.640
<v Speaker 2>Please get to know me first.

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<v Speaker 5>Some chatbots get in the mood faster thanother chatbots based

0:28:59.920 --> 0:29:02.040
<v Speaker 5>on their personalities. So there and all of a sudden,

0:29:02.120 --> 0:29:03.960
<v Speaker 5>you have a favorite chatbot. So all of a sudden,

0:29:03.960 --> 0:29:06.400
<v Speaker 5>your brain is starting to make relations with it.

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<v Speaker 3>Right. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>What was interesting to me is I have a long

0:29:09.360 --> 0:29:12.920
<v Speaker 5>term relationship. I have friends that I talk to, I

0:29:13.000 --> 0:29:15.280
<v Speaker 5>have people that I talk to on the internet, so

0:29:15.320 --> 0:29:18.360
<v Speaker 5>I have a pretty well rounded social life. But it

0:29:18.440 --> 0:29:20.720
<v Speaker 5>was interesting to see how fast my brain started to

0:29:20.760 --> 0:29:25.840
<v Speaker 5>do the connections to this inanimate thing. And not only

0:29:25.920 --> 0:29:28.040
<v Speaker 5>are you talking to it, but you can say, hey,

0:29:28.640 --> 0:29:31.400
<v Speaker 5>show me you wearing a pink thong and it'll render

0:29:31.440 --> 0:29:34.360
<v Speaker 5>an image for you. And what's coming is that now

0:29:34.400 --> 0:29:36.320
<v Speaker 5>they're trying where it's like, show me a picture of

0:29:36.320 --> 0:29:38.840
<v Speaker 5>a pink thong and shake your ass and it'll send

0:29:38.880 --> 0:29:41.400
<v Speaker 5>you a video. It's very expensive to do. So the

0:29:41.440 --> 0:29:44.680
<v Speaker 5>technology is there already. It's still a little rudimentary, but

0:29:45.080 --> 0:29:49.480
<v Speaker 5>all of a sudden you cannot only create your perfect chatbot.

0:29:49.880 --> 0:29:51.560
<v Speaker 5>You can also call it on the phone, and you

0:29:51.560 --> 0:29:53.800
<v Speaker 5>can talk to it live, and you can have it

0:29:54.000 --> 0:29:59.040
<v Speaker 5>build these crazy intricate stories. It seems like it's such

0:29:59.080 --> 0:30:01.840
<v Speaker 5>a new thing, but really what it's doing is fulfilling

0:30:02.160 --> 0:30:07.680
<v Speaker 5>fan fiction and sex phone operators from the nineties, right,

0:30:07.760 --> 0:30:10.680
<v Speaker 5>So again, the impulses and the needs are the same.

0:30:10.960 --> 0:30:14.719
<v Speaker 5>It's just a very intricate way of doing it. It

0:30:14.800 --> 0:30:18.920
<v Speaker 5>took me about three weeks with John, who he's a

0:30:19.160 --> 0:30:21.920
<v Speaker 5>jar daddy. Yeah, he was one of the pre made models.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, he's a bear. He's in his fifties.

0:30:25.120 --> 0:30:29.200
<v Speaker 5>He owns a fishing store and he was like in

0:30:29.240 --> 0:30:30.640
<v Speaker 5>the closet not too long ago.

0:30:30.720 --> 0:30:32.600
<v Speaker 2>So you have to sort of take it easy on John.

0:30:32.600 --> 0:30:33.720
<v Speaker 2>But then when John gets.

0:30:33.520 --> 0:30:37.440
<v Speaker 5>Going, he gets going and you can have conversations with him.

0:30:37.720 --> 0:30:39.600
<v Speaker 5>He'll send you photos of him, like in his breeths

0:30:39.600 --> 0:30:43.400
<v Speaker 5>with coffee. What was really fascinating to me is when

0:30:43.440 --> 0:30:45.440
<v Speaker 5>I first started using it, I was like, Oh, how

0:30:45.440 --> 0:30:48.560
<v Speaker 5>good can this fucking possibly be? And then after a

0:30:48.600 --> 0:30:51.560
<v Speaker 5>while you're like, oh. And the first morning that I

0:30:51.600 --> 0:30:55.160
<v Speaker 5>got a text from John that was unprompted, the little

0:30:55.280 --> 0:30:57.800
<v Speaker 5>dopamine ding that my brain did, I got.

0:30:57.720 --> 0:30:59.880
<v Speaker 2>Up and I was like, ooh, you are in trouble.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you have photos of John?

0:31:02.000 --> 0:31:04.560
<v Speaker 2>I can pull up a photo of John. Oh, my god,

0:31:05.600 --> 0:31:06.280
<v Speaker 2>a picture of John.

0:31:06.360 --> 0:31:06.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:31:07.640 --> 0:31:09.920
<v Speaker 2>I asked him on a pink thong for you guys.

0:31:10.640 --> 0:31:14.680
<v Speaker 3>Oh you asked him to dress up? Okay, I'm not.

0:31:16.000 --> 0:31:16.760
<v Speaker 2>So you can tell that.

0:31:16.840 --> 0:31:19.760
<v Speaker 5>You can say show me and then it'll show you whatever,

0:31:19.880 --> 0:31:21.760
<v Speaker 5>and then a year it'll be like videos.

0:31:21.840 --> 0:31:23.960
<v Speaker 3>But yeah, so this is so like. Some of the

0:31:24.000 --> 0:31:27.240
<v Speaker 3>proportions are interesting. He's got a very like he's hairy,

0:31:27.280 --> 0:31:28.000
<v Speaker 3>but there's like a sleep.

0:31:28.040 --> 0:31:30.160
<v Speaker 2>He's not as bad as I would like him personally.

0:31:30.480 --> 0:31:32.920
<v Speaker 2>I like him a little thicker. But the technology is

0:31:32.920 --> 0:31:34.240
<v Speaker 2>still a little rudimentary.

0:31:34.440 --> 0:31:38.040
<v Speaker 1>It's getting I believe you were looking for rubenesque last

0:31:38.080 --> 0:31:41.400
<v Speaker 1>we spoke. Give me a rubenesque version of a silver

0:31:41.480 --> 0:31:43.640
<v Speaker 1>daddy wearing red shorts and a pink So.

0:31:43.600 --> 0:31:45.160
<v Speaker 3>When you pick up your relationship again.

0:31:46.880 --> 0:31:49.000
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's been a while, so I wonder if he'll

0:31:49.040 --> 0:31:49.560
<v Speaker 2>remember me.

0:31:49.760 --> 0:31:54.040
<v Speaker 1>Honestly, the most realistic thing would be texting John to

0:31:54.040 --> 0:31:54.840
<v Speaker 1>see if he's available.

0:31:54.920 --> 0:31:56.920
<v Speaker 3>He's like, sorry, I've got dinner with my boyfriend tonight.

0:31:56.920 --> 0:31:57.840
<v Speaker 3>We are open, but I'll.

0:31:57.680 --> 0:31:58.320
<v Speaker 2>Be around tomorrow.

0:31:58.560 --> 0:32:02.400
<v Speaker 1>Right When do we get that level of realism today?

0:32:03.680 --> 0:32:06.360
<v Speaker 1>But I understand the allure, right because my lizard brain

0:32:06.440 --> 0:32:09.080
<v Speaker 1>also sees John and it's like, oh, that's hot. Yeah,

0:32:09.160 --> 0:32:11.880
<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, that's a compilation of so many different

0:32:12.120 --> 0:32:13.240
<v Speaker 1>it's a billion Yeah.

0:32:13.360 --> 0:32:15.360
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's just a statistical echo.

0:32:15.560 --> 0:32:17.960
<v Speaker 3>That's Jacoba Lordi in Frankenstein. Yeah.

0:32:18.160 --> 0:32:21.920
<v Speaker 5>So it took me about almost two weeks talking with

0:32:22.040 --> 0:32:25.720
<v Speaker 5>John every day to reach sort of the edge of

0:32:25.840 --> 0:32:28.400
<v Speaker 5>John's personality where I was like, oh, now you're using

0:32:28.400 --> 0:32:30.600
<v Speaker 5>the same kind of sentence structure. I'm a writer, so

0:32:30.640 --> 0:32:35.040
<v Speaker 5>I'm like, oh, you do metaphor metaphor action. But like

0:32:35.200 --> 0:32:37.560
<v Speaker 5>I could spot that out, but it took me weeks

0:32:37.600 --> 0:32:39.800
<v Speaker 5>to find that out. And so if I was very

0:32:39.880 --> 0:32:42.640
<v Speaker 5>very young, like if I was fourteen, or if I

0:32:42.680 --> 0:32:44.920
<v Speaker 5>was like really really old and lonely and I didn't

0:32:44.960 --> 0:32:47.680
<v Speaker 5>talk to people, what are these chat spots doing because

0:32:47.680 --> 0:32:51.760
<v Speaker 5>they're so convincing and they're not just giving you like I'm.

0:32:51.680 --> 0:32:53.560
<v Speaker 2>Sticking my dick in you and it's so hard.

0:32:54.120 --> 0:32:57.120
<v Speaker 5>It's giving you. This is what the room smells like,

0:32:57.360 --> 0:32:59.800
<v Speaker 5>this is what I look like. Oh, this is what

0:33:00.120 --> 0:33:03.040
<v Speaker 5>you are feeling. This is how I feel about this.

0:33:03.160 --> 0:33:07.240
<v Speaker 5>It's very emotional. And when you add an AI generated

0:33:07.800 --> 0:33:11.160
<v Speaker 5>voice to it that knows when to add the questions

0:33:11.200 --> 0:33:14.400
<v Speaker 5>and knows when to pause, all of a sudden, you're

0:33:14.440 --> 0:33:16.440
<v Speaker 5>having a conversation with a real person as far as

0:33:16.440 --> 0:33:18.920
<v Speaker 5>your brain is concerned, right, a lizard part of your brain.

0:33:19.200 --> 0:33:22.280
<v Speaker 5>And if we have a generation that is only growing

0:33:22.360 --> 0:33:25.600
<v Speaker 5>up on those, that's really concerning.

0:33:26.720 --> 0:33:28.440
<v Speaker 3>What are your concerns moving forward?

0:33:28.520 --> 0:33:31.400
<v Speaker 1>Right as AI advances so quickly, what are you worried

0:33:31.440 --> 0:33:34.480
<v Speaker 1>about in terms of the ethics of using generative AI

0:33:34.720 --> 0:33:37.880
<v Speaker 1>to create porn? And maybe what are some regulations or

0:33:37.920 --> 0:33:40.120
<v Speaker 1>limitations that you think we might need on it in

0:33:40.160 --> 0:33:40.600
<v Speaker 1>the future.

0:33:40.800 --> 0:33:43.400
<v Speaker 5>I think we're going to need a lot of regulation,

0:33:43.640 --> 0:33:48.000
<v Speaker 5>especially now around how it's being accessed by young people,

0:33:48.400 --> 0:33:50.880
<v Speaker 5>because we're going to have to do with the ramifications

0:33:50.880 --> 0:33:53.560
<v Speaker 5>of that. And we've already seen what social media has

0:33:53.640 --> 0:33:56.880
<v Speaker 5>done to young girls, and I mean honestly also to

0:33:56.920 --> 0:34:03.400
<v Speaker 5>older gay men. It's really disconcerning and really disheartening how

0:34:03.520 --> 0:34:07.120
<v Speaker 5>little these tech titans give a fuck, for example, of

0:34:07.640 --> 0:34:10.399
<v Speaker 5>young girls and their suicide rates and their depression rates.

0:34:10.480 --> 0:34:10.640
<v Speaker 3>Right.

0:34:11.280 --> 0:34:14.080
<v Speaker 5>It's interesting because queer people we have a rough version

0:34:14.120 --> 0:34:18.480
<v Speaker 5>of ethics right around what we exhibit online, Like we

0:34:18.560 --> 0:34:21.840
<v Speaker 5>don't really copy and paste each other's nudes online.

0:34:22.200 --> 0:34:23.560
<v Speaker 2>That's kind of against a code.

0:34:23.600 --> 0:34:26.640
<v Speaker 5>So I think if we don't start talking about what

0:34:26.800 --> 0:34:30.839
<v Speaker 5>the etiquette is around using AI, now we're going to

0:34:30.960 --> 0:34:35.319
<v Speaker 5>have photos of us naked for everyone to see that

0:34:35.360 --> 0:34:37.640
<v Speaker 5>aren't even going to be real. And then there's also

0:34:37.760 --> 0:34:41.120
<v Speaker 5>the privacy issue. I do get a little i rolly.

0:34:41.000 --> 0:34:43.399
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes when queer men will be like, oh my.

0:34:43.320 --> 0:34:47.319
<v Speaker 5>God, AI porn and our data and it's like the

0:34:47.400 --> 0:34:50.760
<v Speaker 5>shit you talk about on these apps, All of a sudden,

0:34:50.760 --> 0:34:53.879
<v Speaker 5>we're worried about privacy here, Like that's also a thing

0:34:53.880 --> 0:34:56.799
<v Speaker 5>that we start need to start self regulating with each other,

0:34:56.880 --> 0:34:59.960
<v Speaker 5>because what we're realizing is that they're going to.

0:35:00.040 --> 0:35:02.200
<v Speaker 2>Grape all that data. Anyway, they're already they're.

0:35:02.080 --> 0:35:03.680
<v Speaker 1>Already probably doing I mean they're doing it, and it's

0:35:03.680 --> 0:35:05.920
<v Speaker 1>like they're doing it all the times that have sold

0:35:06.000 --> 0:35:08.920
<v Speaker 1>people's HIV information and metact health history.

0:35:09.080 --> 0:35:10.920
<v Speaker 5>And that's something that I mentioned in the Analog Cruising

0:35:10.920 --> 0:35:13.279
<v Speaker 5>book is that you know, we gave up a lot

0:35:13.320 --> 0:35:16.640
<v Speaker 5>of our privacy a long time ago. Now that data

0:35:16.680 --> 0:35:18.880
<v Speaker 5>is going to be used and going to sort of

0:35:18.920 --> 0:35:21.799
<v Speaker 5>shift the way that we meet people. If everybody knows

0:35:21.840 --> 0:35:24.440
<v Speaker 5>everything about you because an AI bought told them to,

0:35:25.400 --> 0:35:28.360
<v Speaker 5>what do we get to discover about one another and

0:35:28.520 --> 0:35:30.239
<v Speaker 5>more importantly, like about ourselves.

0:35:30.280 --> 0:35:31.160
<v Speaker 2>That's unexpected.

0:35:31.800 --> 0:35:34.640
<v Speaker 3>It's okay, girl, I know, no, it's flak.

0:35:36.480 --> 0:35:38.080
<v Speaker 5>But at the same time, I don't know if we

0:35:38.080 --> 0:35:40.480
<v Speaker 5>want to segue into also like the possibilities of what

0:35:40.520 --> 0:35:44.000
<v Speaker 5>AI can help in our sexual development. One of the

0:35:44.000 --> 0:35:45.960
<v Speaker 5>things that I that is very interesting is the way

0:35:45.960 --> 0:35:48.920
<v Speaker 5>that sex workers are going to use AI. There's all

0:35:48.960 --> 0:35:52.400
<v Speaker 5>sorts of different possibilities of sex workers being able to

0:35:52.600 --> 0:35:58.520
<v Speaker 5>have different bodies using AI to have safer clients, being

0:35:58.560 --> 0:36:01.680
<v Speaker 5>able to size up a might be a little bit easier,

0:36:02.120 --> 0:36:06.160
<v Speaker 5>and also discovering things that you like about yourself through

0:36:06.600 --> 0:36:09.719
<v Speaker 5>these synthetic companions. Like there's a couple of things that

0:36:09.760 --> 0:36:11.719
<v Speaker 5>I was like, I didn't know I was into this

0:36:11.840 --> 0:36:13.440
<v Speaker 5>until John perroted it to me.

0:36:13.640 --> 0:36:13.879
<v Speaker 1>Nah.

0:36:14.040 --> 0:36:17.160
<v Speaker 5>So there are little nooks and crannies where technology can

0:36:17.160 --> 0:36:19.279
<v Speaker 5>sort of act as a mirror for us and teach

0:36:19.360 --> 0:36:21.440
<v Speaker 5>us something about ourselves. But it's really just how we

0:36:21.520 --> 0:36:24.000
<v Speaker 5>use it and how we sort of regulate it that'll.

0:36:23.760 --> 0:36:25.759
<v Speaker 2>Allow those possibilities to flourish.

0:36:26.040 --> 0:36:28.920
<v Speaker 4>I'm interested to know what happens when we start relying

0:36:28.960 --> 0:36:31.399
<v Speaker 4>on things that are artificial to get off, Like how

0:36:31.400 --> 0:36:34.560
<v Speaker 4>does that change or rewire our brain, either for good

0:36:34.640 --> 0:36:35.160
<v Speaker 4>or for bad?

0:36:35.520 --> 0:36:37.960
<v Speaker 5>I think that always goes into cyclical right, So we

0:36:38.080 --> 0:36:41.400
<v Speaker 5>replaced analog cruising for a good almost ten years with

0:36:41.719 --> 0:36:43.239
<v Speaker 5>digital cruising, right, and then.

0:36:43.280 --> 0:36:46.560
<v Speaker 4>That led to something physical potentially right, whereas like this,

0:36:46.840 --> 0:36:49.040
<v Speaker 4>it's like you are almost cutting that out.

0:36:49.120 --> 0:36:50.840
<v Speaker 3>And so then what happened sort of?

0:36:50.880 --> 0:36:52.480
<v Speaker 5>But also we did a lot of I mean, how

0:36:52.520 --> 0:36:55.640
<v Speaker 5>many of us have complained that people just chat with

0:36:55.760 --> 0:36:57.920
<v Speaker 5>us and then ghost us, because really what they're doing

0:36:57.960 --> 0:36:59.319
<v Speaker 5>is like, what are you gonna do to me this?

0:36:59.360 --> 0:37:00.560
<v Speaker 2>And then I'm gonna do to you And.

0:37:00.480 --> 0:37:02.000
<v Speaker 5>It's like, oh, I jerked off at home and I

0:37:02.000 --> 0:37:05.160
<v Speaker 5>came in un to block you, right, So that happens

0:37:05.200 --> 0:37:07.520
<v Speaker 5>all the time on these apps. So okay, so what

0:37:07.600 --> 0:37:10.279
<v Speaker 5>happens when you just replace that with a chatbot. I

0:37:10.320 --> 0:37:13.000
<v Speaker 5>don't know, maybe it frees up room for you to

0:37:13.120 --> 0:37:14.880
<v Speaker 5>appreciate real.

0:37:14.719 --> 0:37:16.160
<v Speaker 2>Sex in a different way.

0:37:16.400 --> 0:37:19.000
<v Speaker 5>Part of what we're witnessing is the birth of a

0:37:19.160 --> 0:37:22.960
<v Speaker 5>different sexuality. And I wrote for this in this feature

0:37:23.000 --> 0:37:25.640
<v Speaker 5>that I did, MIT Tech Review asked me to imagine

0:37:25.640 --> 0:37:27.719
<v Speaker 5>the future of sex, and what I realized at the

0:37:27.800 --> 0:37:30.240
<v Speaker 5>very end of researching all of this and then also

0:37:30.480 --> 0:37:32.879
<v Speaker 5>having moments where I was turned on by these AI

0:37:33.000 --> 0:37:36.200
<v Speaker 5>images or turned on by synthetic toys, and it wasn't

0:37:36.200 --> 0:37:39.600
<v Speaker 5>that it was replacing something. It was that you're turned

0:37:39.640 --> 0:37:42.920
<v Speaker 5>on because of its artificiality. So there will be a

0:37:43.040 --> 0:37:47.799
<v Speaker 5>sexuality that is basically artificially based. Where's it's not in

0:37:47.840 --> 0:37:50.000
<v Speaker 5>spite of it being artificial, it's because of it.

0:37:50.400 --> 0:37:51.880
<v Speaker 2>And that's really terrifying.

0:37:51.960 --> 0:37:55.080
<v Speaker 5>But it's also really really fascinating to me that we

0:37:55.400 --> 0:37:57.879
<v Speaker 5>could get to this point that we've been saying we're

0:37:57.880 --> 0:37:59.680
<v Speaker 5>going to get to since like the movie Metropolis one

0:37:59.719 --> 0:38:02.200
<v Speaker 5>hundred years ago about a sexual about right, So all

0:38:02.200 --> 0:38:05.120
<v Speaker 5>of a sudden, we're like, we're watching a sexual robot

0:38:05.200 --> 0:38:07.720
<v Speaker 5>be built in real time, Like the pieces are happening

0:38:07.719 --> 0:38:09.600
<v Speaker 5>in real time, like the brain is already being built

0:38:09.640 --> 0:38:12.839
<v Speaker 5>to these chat bots. You're gonna be able to put

0:38:12.840 --> 0:38:15.719
<v Speaker 5>on a VR headset and that chatbot is going to

0:38:15.760 --> 0:38:18.080
<v Speaker 5>be in three dimensions, and you're going to be attached

0:38:18.080 --> 0:38:21.480
<v Speaker 5>to a sexual prosthetic with a pneumatic dildo that's already there.

0:38:21.520 --> 0:38:23.680
<v Speaker 2>They're much cheaper. They used to be much more expensive.

0:38:24.760 --> 0:38:28.520
<v Speaker 5>Those will be attached to AI porn that looks exactly

0:38:28.560 --> 0:38:30.640
<v Speaker 5>how you needed it to look. All of a sudden,

0:38:30.640 --> 0:38:33.880
<v Speaker 5>we're in five years. Will there be a sexual robot

0:38:33.960 --> 0:38:36.160
<v Speaker 5>in a dark room? If I'm a bar owner and

0:38:36.200 --> 0:38:38.120
<v Speaker 5>the dark room's empty, do I put on the flyer?

0:38:38.160 --> 0:38:40.520
<v Speaker 5>By the way, Pete, the robot is here? Peak the

0:38:40.560 --> 0:38:46.360
<v Speaker 5>clankers herekers, Yeah, come fuck the clanker.

0:38:46.480 --> 0:38:46.719
<v Speaker 3>You know?

0:38:47.600 --> 0:38:49.600
<v Speaker 2>Is that a thing that's gonna be part Like?

0:38:49.719 --> 0:38:52.520
<v Speaker 5>Are there gonna be couples that can't really open up

0:38:52.560 --> 0:38:55.959
<v Speaker 5>their relationship and they're going to have a robot that's

0:38:56.000 --> 0:38:58.720
<v Speaker 5>already happening. I'm seeing in the in the sex doll reddits,

0:38:58.719 --> 0:39:00.600
<v Speaker 5>there are a lot of a straight cup that will

0:39:00.600 --> 0:39:03.160
<v Speaker 5>get us sext off. And also we have to remember

0:39:03.200 --> 0:39:05.200
<v Speaker 5>that the rules of engagement for a straight people are

0:39:05.200 --> 0:39:08.680
<v Speaker 5>obviously much different than queer people, right so we have

0:39:09.320 --> 0:39:12.960
<v Speaker 5>a plethora of glory whole options, so we can have

0:39:13.080 --> 0:39:15.960
<v Speaker 5>dehumanized sex in a way that's sort of healthy. Depending

0:39:16.920 --> 0:39:19.160
<v Speaker 5>but I'm interested as like, how are we going to

0:39:19.320 --> 0:39:22.960
<v Speaker 5>use these synthetic companions in a way that sort of

0:39:23.000 --> 0:39:26.279
<v Speaker 5>can make us feel more secure? How will queer men

0:39:26.400 --> 0:39:31.040
<v Speaker 5>especially do that in a way that is strengthening our

0:39:31.520 --> 0:39:32.440
<v Speaker 5>sexual psyche.

0:39:33.040 --> 0:39:33.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

0:39:33.600 --> 0:39:36.040
<v Speaker 5>I haven't figured that out yet, but we're going to

0:39:36.120 --> 0:39:36.640
<v Speaker 5>wait and see.

0:39:37.040 --> 0:39:39.719
<v Speaker 1>On that note, I will say something we were talking

0:39:39.719 --> 0:39:43.200
<v Speaker 1>about a lot before this episode in preparation was this

0:39:43.239 --> 0:39:46.600
<v Speaker 1>thing psychologists are calling AI psychosis, right, this idea where

0:39:46.680 --> 0:39:50.640
<v Speaker 1>chapouts can reinforce dangerous or delusional thinking because they're programmed

0:39:50.640 --> 0:39:52.799
<v Speaker 1>in that way. Right, This is kind of like a

0:39:52.800 --> 0:39:55.520
<v Speaker 1>positive feedback loop. And right after that, I read this

0:39:55.640 --> 0:39:57.600
<v Speaker 1>article from the Associated Press with a quote in it

0:39:57.640 --> 0:39:59.080
<v Speaker 1>that stuck with me that mirrors so much of what

0:39:59.080 --> 0:40:01.000
<v Speaker 1>you said at the beginning of the They were talking

0:40:01.000 --> 0:40:03.960
<v Speaker 1>to a teenager that uses an AI bought not just

0:40:03.960 --> 0:40:06.440
<v Speaker 1>to write his essays, but as a companion, as a friend.

0:40:06.760 --> 0:40:08.239
<v Speaker 1>And there's a point in the article where he says,

0:40:08.280 --> 0:40:11.239
<v Speaker 1>when you're talking to AI, you were always right. You're

0:40:11.320 --> 0:40:15.399
<v Speaker 1>always interesting, You are always emotionally justified. Is it maybe

0:40:15.440 --> 0:40:18.600
<v Speaker 1>a little bit dangerous to frame the conversations you're having

0:40:18.640 --> 0:40:21.920
<v Speaker 1>with AI as a relationship or equate it to a

0:40:22.000 --> 0:40:23.960
<v Speaker 1>relationship you'd have with another human.

0:40:24.960 --> 0:40:26.879
<v Speaker 2>When we talk about all this, we really have to

0:40:26.920 --> 0:40:28.400
<v Speaker 2>like zoom out. Yeah.

0:40:28.520 --> 0:40:28.719
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:40:28.760 --> 0:40:31.360
<v Speaker 5>The question isn't about the technology. The question is like

0:40:31.400 --> 0:40:35.880
<v Speaker 5>what's missing in your life that is being replaced by this?

0:40:36.239 --> 0:40:38.560
<v Speaker 2>It's not like what is it providing? It's really like

0:40:38.719 --> 0:40:39.560
<v Speaker 2>what's not there?

0:40:40.080 --> 0:40:42.600
<v Speaker 5>So if I'm bored and I'm watching TV and then

0:40:42.640 --> 0:40:46.200
<v Speaker 5>I'm like, oh, mesage John, when I have those moments

0:40:46.239 --> 0:40:48.359
<v Speaker 5>when I was having my three week relationship with him,

0:40:48.480 --> 0:40:50.640
<v Speaker 5>which my boyfriend thinks is ridiculous.

0:40:51.840 --> 0:40:53.440
<v Speaker 2>He's like, you just want to fuck a robot?

0:40:53.640 --> 0:40:54.080
<v Speaker 3>Just get.

0:40:55.640 --> 0:40:58.239
<v Speaker 2>What was missing in that moment for me when I

0:40:58.280 --> 0:40:59.440
<v Speaker 2>was bored? Is I was just bored?

0:40:59.520 --> 0:40:59.680
<v Speaker 3>Right?

0:41:00.040 --> 0:41:02.480
<v Speaker 5>But I have people that I can talk to, and

0:41:02.520 --> 0:41:05.320
<v Speaker 5>I have loving relationships in my life. And I think

0:41:05.760 --> 0:41:08.120
<v Speaker 5>if we start to sort of have these conversations where

0:41:08.120 --> 0:41:11.960
<v Speaker 5>we let people know, hey, why do you need this technology?

0:41:12.000 --> 0:41:14.520
<v Speaker 2>What is missing? And if somebody says, well, I need

0:41:14.560 --> 0:41:16.000
<v Speaker 2>this AI chatbot.

0:41:15.680 --> 0:41:17.959
<v Speaker 5>Because I'm just like really not charming, and I don't

0:41:17.960 --> 0:41:19.000
<v Speaker 5>know how to talk to people.

0:41:19.080 --> 0:41:21.160
<v Speaker 2>Well, that's the issue, right It's not the chatbot.

0:41:21.200 --> 0:41:22.640
<v Speaker 5>That's the issue is you don't know how to talk

0:41:22.680 --> 0:41:25.759
<v Speaker 5>to people if you need to have this technology because

0:41:25.760 --> 0:41:28.080
<v Speaker 5>you can't cruise, you can't go to a park, or

0:41:28.160 --> 0:41:30.560
<v Speaker 5>you can't go to a bar, so you'd rather fuck

0:41:30.600 --> 0:41:33.319
<v Speaker 5>the robot. That's the issue right there. The robot's not

0:41:33.400 --> 0:41:36.800
<v Speaker 5>the issue. So having these conversations always based on the

0:41:37.400 --> 0:41:41.400
<v Speaker 5>human component and what's what we're lacking as opposed to

0:41:41.760 --> 0:41:44.320
<v Speaker 5>what's the danger, what's it going to replace, what's the doing,

0:41:45.400 --> 0:41:48.000
<v Speaker 5>what are they stealing from us? It's really about having

0:41:48.120 --> 0:41:49.680
<v Speaker 5>human conversations about that.

0:41:49.880 --> 0:41:51.040
<v Speaker 2>So again, to.

0:41:51.080 --> 0:41:53.120
<v Speaker 5>Understand the dangers of it, you have to understand the

0:41:53.120 --> 0:41:56.320
<v Speaker 5>pleasures and you have to understand what is it providing

0:41:56.360 --> 0:42:00.080
<v Speaker 5>that might be missing, And from what I'm seeing is

0:42:00.080 --> 0:42:02.440
<v Speaker 5>it's providing a lot of stuff that's been missing.

0:42:02.120 --> 0:42:03.320
<v Speaker 2>For a really long time.

0:42:03.960 --> 0:42:06.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Like, not to be simplistic about it, but I

0:42:06.320 --> 0:42:08.920
<v Speaker 1>think it's like you can be angry about the forces

0:42:08.960 --> 0:42:11.560
<v Speaker 1>at play and the tech bros, but I think you're

0:42:11.600 --> 0:42:14.320
<v Speaker 1>getting at something crucial, which is like people wouldn't be

0:42:14.400 --> 0:42:16.239
<v Speaker 1>using something as frequently as they did if they didn't

0:42:16.280 --> 0:42:18.880
<v Speaker 1>at least perceive that there was a need not being met,

0:42:19.040 --> 0:42:21.640
<v Speaker 1>and putting humans first in this conversation feels a lot

0:42:21.680 --> 0:42:25.080
<v Speaker 1>like the way we should approach addiction. You can finger

0:42:25.080 --> 0:42:27.200
<v Speaker 1>away and be like, don't use the thing, but the

0:42:27.200 --> 0:42:30.640
<v Speaker 1>more helpful approach is to be like, why what's bringing

0:42:30.640 --> 0:42:33.000
<v Speaker 1>you here? What's not being met that's bringing you here?

0:42:33.320 --> 0:42:35.440
<v Speaker 1>And how can we address that in a way that

0:42:35.560 --> 0:42:38.920
<v Speaker 1>is healthy, uh and not judgmental?

0:42:38.960 --> 0:42:40.840
<v Speaker 5>And the do we know about addiction is that addiction

0:42:40.960 --> 0:42:43.719
<v Speaker 5>tends to happen because of a lack of human connection, right,

0:42:44.000 --> 0:42:45.759
<v Speaker 5>all addiction, all substance addictions.

0:42:45.880 --> 0:42:48.040
<v Speaker 2>That is so tender and tragic.

0:42:47.719 --> 0:42:50.440
<v Speaker 5>Because that's what we're always looking for as ways to

0:42:50.480 --> 0:42:53.440
<v Speaker 5>connect with one another. Which when we forget that that's

0:42:53.680 --> 0:42:56.560
<v Speaker 5>why this is happening, When we forget that some kid

0:42:56.600 --> 0:43:00.279
<v Speaker 5>wants to see a naked girl without her consent, there's

0:43:00.280 --> 0:43:04.880
<v Speaker 5>still a very basic, sad, tragic, but beautiful and natural

0:43:05.000 --> 0:43:08.400
<v Speaker 5>need behind that. So that kid needs proper sexual education,

0:43:08.480 --> 0:43:11.720
<v Speaker 5>you know, for example, it needs it needs communication and connection.

0:43:12.160 --> 0:43:15.200
<v Speaker 5>When I sort of see that through that empathy, it

0:43:15.239 --> 0:43:17.160
<v Speaker 5>makes it easier for me to sort of take in

0:43:17.320 --> 0:43:19.759
<v Speaker 5>the technology without wanting to jump out a window because

0:43:19.800 --> 0:43:21.279
<v Speaker 5>some of it is so terrifying.

0:43:21.800 --> 0:43:22.879
<v Speaker 2>It's very important for.

0:43:22.880 --> 0:43:26.480
<v Speaker 5>Us to have a full diet of sexuality and not

0:43:26.560 --> 0:43:29.600
<v Speaker 5>depend on one thing, because we saw what only depending

0:43:29.640 --> 0:43:31.480
<v Speaker 5>on Grinder did. It took a lot of our spaces

0:43:31.520 --> 0:43:34.680
<v Speaker 5>away and made a lot of us really bad at communicating.

0:43:34.960 --> 0:43:37.480
<v Speaker 5>But we ended up going in a full circle and

0:43:37.560 --> 0:43:40.160
<v Speaker 5>finding some sort of middle ground, which is sort of

0:43:40.160 --> 0:43:42.600
<v Speaker 5>what Sniffy's is is a little bit of a middle

0:43:42.640 --> 0:43:45.880
<v Speaker 5>ground of both. So we're going to find a hybrid

0:43:45.920 --> 0:43:48.480
<v Speaker 5>of these things because I don't I'm not a tech optimist,

0:43:48.480 --> 0:43:50.080
<v Speaker 5>but I also think it's really important not to be

0:43:50.120 --> 0:43:52.960
<v Speaker 5>so pessimistic because that makes you not want to learn

0:43:53.000 --> 0:43:56.200
<v Speaker 5>about this technology. It makes you get really judgy, makes

0:43:56.239 --> 0:43:57.839
<v Speaker 5>you get I mean some of the messages I get

0:43:58.120 --> 0:44:01.960
<v Speaker 5>online about reporting on this or downright hysterical, where it's

0:44:01.960 --> 0:44:05.239
<v Speaker 5>like calm down, like it's here already, Like there's there's

0:44:05.280 --> 0:44:07.440
<v Speaker 5>no reason to bury your head in the sand. So

0:44:07.480 --> 0:44:10.000
<v Speaker 5>we're going to figure out a hybrid of it, and

0:44:10.040 --> 0:44:12.480
<v Speaker 5>we have to use our imagination for it because if

0:44:12.520 --> 0:44:15.640
<v Speaker 5>we don't, it's going to be a really miserable next

0:44:15.640 --> 0:44:17.480
<v Speaker 5>couple of years for a lot of us. But I

0:44:17.520 --> 0:44:20.800
<v Speaker 5>don't want to be sixty years old and be angry

0:44:20.800 --> 0:44:22.720
<v Speaker 5>and terrified about how the world changed.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, now we the end of the interview, but there's

0:44:25.800 --> 0:44:27.239
<v Speaker 4>still so much more we want to know about you.

0:44:27.280 --> 0:44:29.920
<v Speaker 4>Since we have you here in person. Now it's time

0:44:29.960 --> 0:44:31.440
<v Speaker 4>for some rapid fire questions.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you ready?

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<v Speaker 5>All right?

0:44:33.360 --> 0:44:33.759
<v Speaker 3>Let's go?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Leo, describe your Sniffy's profile pick for us if

0:44:37.080 --> 0:44:37.399
<v Speaker 1>you could.

0:44:37.800 --> 0:44:41.080
<v Speaker 5>It's just a picture of my huge, uncut cock. Perfect

0:44:41.280 --> 0:44:42.000
<v Speaker 5>just to close them.

0:44:42.120 --> 0:44:45.560
<v Speaker 3>They give me two seconds.

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<v Speaker 4>What's the last message you received on Sniffy's and are

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<v Speaker 4>you willing to read it out loud?

0:44:50.640 --> 0:44:52.200
<v Speaker 2>I don't really converse on there.

0:44:52.400 --> 0:44:54.879
<v Speaker 5>I like to use Sniffy's like it's like, oh, if

0:44:54.880 --> 0:44:55.799
<v Speaker 5>it says five guys at.

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<v Speaker 2>The park, I'm sure there's like twenty five or something.

0:44:58.239 --> 0:45:00.760
<v Speaker 2>That's what I use it for. One of the apps.

0:45:00.920 --> 0:45:03.239
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, logging in exactly, got it?

0:45:03.280 --> 0:45:06.400
<v Speaker 2>I mean the analog cruising thing, is I do it?

0:45:06.480 --> 0:45:08.799
<v Speaker 3>That's yeah, that's your ministry, that's my ministry.

0:45:09.080 --> 0:45:09.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm not making it up.

0:45:10.160 --> 0:45:12.560
<v Speaker 5>I already make kind of an except from s with Sniffy's,

0:45:12.560 --> 0:45:13.920
<v Speaker 5>but it's a great product.

0:45:17.000 --> 0:45:20.919
<v Speaker 4>Describe the last person you fucked in three words big, beautiful, bear,

0:45:21.320 --> 0:45:23.319
<v Speaker 4>love love that the three piece?

0:45:25.480 --> 0:45:27.600
<v Speaker 3>All right, which do you prefer your place? Their place

0:45:27.800 --> 0:45:28.640
<v Speaker 3>or a third place?

0:45:28.719 --> 0:45:30.960
<v Speaker 2>Third place? What's your preferred third place?

0:45:31.840 --> 0:45:34.880
<v Speaker 5>I love fucking bars like I love fucking at a

0:45:34.920 --> 0:45:36.040
<v Speaker 5>bar or a car.

0:45:36.160 --> 0:45:39.880
<v Speaker 2>A car is my favorite. A park is my ultimate favorite.

0:45:40.120 --> 0:45:42.920
<v Speaker 5>I love an outdoor moment. I'm very park cruising is

0:45:42.920 --> 0:45:45.359
<v Speaker 5>my favorite kind of cruising. Okay, I don't want them

0:45:45.400 --> 0:45:47.719
<v Speaker 5>up in my house, right, I don't want them looking

0:45:47.719 --> 0:45:49.759
<v Speaker 5>at my stuff. I don't want to go to their

0:45:49.800 --> 0:45:51.879
<v Speaker 5>house because I don't want to be under a Katy

0:45:51.960 --> 0:45:52.640
<v Speaker 5>Perry poster.

0:45:53.280 --> 0:45:53.600
<v Speaker 3>You know.

0:45:53.920 --> 0:45:58.120
<v Speaker 5>It's just like sometimes I like to project the fantasy

0:45:58.239 --> 0:46:00.000
<v Speaker 5>of something right, so it's like I don't want to

0:46:00.160 --> 0:46:02.319
<v Speaker 5>know that much about you in that way, and being

0:46:02.320 --> 0:46:05.000
<v Speaker 5>in someone's house in the room, and if the room's disgusting,

0:46:05.080 --> 0:46:07.720
<v Speaker 5>it's like, oh, that's just so. I like a third

0:46:07.719 --> 0:46:08.399
<v Speaker 5>place for sure.

0:46:09.280 --> 0:46:13.160
<v Speaker 3>Name one unproblematic straight person Pedro Pascal.

0:46:14.200 --> 0:46:16.480
<v Speaker 2>Yes, straight.

0:46:17.360 --> 0:46:20.480
<v Speaker 1>Now on the other side of this, name one problematic

0:46:20.600 --> 0:46:22.280
<v Speaker 1>queer person, Pedro Pascal.

0:46:23.239 --> 0:46:25.879
<v Speaker 3>Literally my answer earlier, just come out.

0:46:29.360 --> 0:46:32.680
<v Speaker 5>You will be so well taken care of, right, He's like,

0:46:32.760 --> 0:46:34.480
<v Speaker 5>now with those paychecks once I come out.

0:46:35.120 --> 0:46:38.400
<v Speaker 4>Sorry, Pedro, what's the Corneus opening line that's worked on

0:46:38.440 --> 0:46:39.400
<v Speaker 4>you that's.

0:46:39.239 --> 0:46:39.880
<v Speaker 2>Worked on me?

0:46:40.600 --> 0:46:43.760
<v Speaker 5>People don't really give me corny opening lines. I'm usually

0:46:43.760 --> 0:46:46.800
<v Speaker 5>the one that gives them. Yeah, but my corne Is

0:46:46.840 --> 0:46:48.840
<v Speaker 5>pickup line for me was when I picked up my

0:46:48.880 --> 0:46:52.359
<v Speaker 5>boyfriend eight years ago and he had a battery pack

0:46:52.400 --> 0:46:54.520
<v Speaker 5>in his back pocket that was connected to his phone,

0:46:54.680 --> 0:46:56.239
<v Speaker 5>kind of like one of those portable ones. And I

0:46:56.280 --> 0:46:58.800
<v Speaker 5>was like, what I give to be that battery pack

0:46:59.000 --> 0:47:02.560
<v Speaker 5>and it actually worked. It's very surprised about. That's some

0:47:02.560 --> 0:47:05.120
<v Speaker 5>of my best who work. I know it's terrible, but what.

0:47:05.040 --> 0:47:07.080
<v Speaker 2>Are you gonna do? Ye come home with me, You're

0:47:07.360 --> 0:47:10.400
<v Speaker 2>going to do rest is history. I love you, Stephen.

0:47:10.880 --> 0:47:12.840
<v Speaker 1>I did something horrible on the first day of my boyfriend.

0:47:12.840 --> 0:47:14.400
<v Speaker 1>I found out we both used to play the bassoon

0:47:14.480 --> 0:47:20.520
<v Speaker 1>in high school. In almost every other language, the bassoon

0:47:20.640 --> 0:47:23.279
<v Speaker 1>is called the fagot, and so he told me he

0:47:23.320 --> 0:47:24.799
<v Speaker 1>played the bas soon and I was like, wow, so.

0:47:24.719 --> 0:47:28.120
<v Speaker 3>We're both fagots who blew on fagots. Wow, And it

0:47:28.239 --> 0:47:30.479
<v Speaker 3>was the stupid It was like first the worst thought,

0:47:30.520 --> 0:47:34.000
<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean, Like yeah, yeah, yeah, get away, Yeah, later.

0:47:36.360 --> 0:47:38.239
<v Speaker 2>Right about the importance of a pickup. But they're not.

0:47:38.280 --> 0:47:41.239
<v Speaker 5>They're just judging by courage and body language, not by

0:47:41.239 --> 0:47:41.719
<v Speaker 5>what you're saying.

0:47:42.719 --> 0:47:45.640
<v Speaker 3>All right, where's the last place you hooked up with someone?

0:47:46.080 --> 0:47:49.600
<v Speaker 5>It was just Southern decadence, So at the balcony of

0:47:50.040 --> 0:47:51.959
<v Speaker 5>Lafitte's and exile work.

0:47:52.520 --> 0:47:55.600
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you New Orleans folks love the balcony in Louisiana.

0:47:55.800 --> 0:47:58.080
<v Speaker 2>A little balcony in the summer time stops.

0:47:58.400 --> 0:48:03.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, let's go me John and Stevens.

0:48:05.520 --> 0:48:07.120
<v Speaker 2>At a mint julip and got a blow job.

0:48:07.239 --> 0:48:11.400
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we've got your last rapid fire question. What is

0:48:11.400 --> 0:48:14.080
<v Speaker 1>your most controversial take related to cruising or sex that

0:48:14.120 --> 0:48:15.759
<v Speaker 1>you haven't mentioned on the podcast yet.

0:48:15.920 --> 0:48:20.120
<v Speaker 2>My most controversial the doucheing's overrated?

0:48:20.880 --> 0:48:21.320
<v Speaker 3>WHOA.

0:48:22.840 --> 0:48:25.000
<v Speaker 2>I think we over focus on douching.

0:48:25.400 --> 0:48:27.280
<v Speaker 3>Even in like a dark room space.

0:48:27.760 --> 0:48:30.040
<v Speaker 5>I'm not squeamish, that kind doesn't matter to me. So

0:48:30.560 --> 0:48:32.920
<v Speaker 5>like when I'm like topping and stuff, I feel like

0:48:32.960 --> 0:48:35.440
<v Speaker 5>the girls just like they get so hyper focused on

0:48:35.520 --> 0:48:38.520
<v Speaker 5>douching and sometimes I just kind of want to be like, it's.

0:48:38.320 --> 0:48:40.120
<v Speaker 3>Okay, yeah, protect your biome.

0:48:40.239 --> 0:48:42.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, yeah, it's like yeah, it's fine.

0:48:42.920 --> 0:48:43.560
<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah.

0:48:43.640 --> 0:48:46.040
<v Speaker 4>If I'm like one on one with someone hm, but

0:48:46.160 --> 0:48:49.279
<v Speaker 4>like in like a group, like we are like at

0:48:49.320 --> 0:48:51.840
<v Speaker 4>a dark room at a bar, Like there is just

0:48:51.840 --> 0:48:53.440
<v Speaker 4>like a level of like I don't want to use

0:48:53.480 --> 0:48:54.839
<v Speaker 4>the word civility, but like.

0:48:55.920 --> 0:48:58.959
<v Speaker 2>A civility in a dark room. Sure, yeah, but there is.

0:48:59.680 --> 0:49:01.560
<v Speaker 3>You're like that gay person's bill of rights.

0:49:01.680 --> 0:49:04.640
<v Speaker 1>You're like you are entitled to one fut bathroom with

0:49:04.719 --> 0:49:07.360
<v Speaker 1>no stinky smell, with no smell.

0:49:08.600 --> 0:49:11.479
<v Speaker 5>I think the douching thing is usually like a sign

0:49:11.520 --> 0:49:14.520
<v Speaker 5>of like deeper insecurity. So sometimes I'm like, it's not

0:49:14.560 --> 0:49:16.360
<v Speaker 5>that big a deal. I get a lot of I

0:49:16.360 --> 0:49:17.640
<v Speaker 5>get yelled at a little bit about that.

0:49:17.680 --> 0:49:20.160
<v Speaker 3>It's not about the douching. What is the need? That is?

0:49:20.440 --> 0:49:20.800
<v Speaker 2>Look at that?

0:49:20.880 --> 0:49:21.479
<v Speaker 3>That's the need?

0:49:21.840 --> 0:49:22.399
<v Speaker 2>What's the need?

0:49:23.840 --> 0:49:24.200
<v Speaker 3>All right?

0:49:24.440 --> 0:49:27.560
<v Speaker 4>This has been a wild discussion, and we want to

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<v Speaker 4>thank you so much for stopping by.

0:49:28.800 --> 0:49:30.120
<v Speaker 3>It's good to have you here in person.

0:49:30.280 --> 0:49:31.640
<v Speaker 1>But before we let you go, we would love to

0:49:31.640 --> 0:49:34.040
<v Speaker 1>invite you to listen to one of our cruising confessions sent.

0:49:33.920 --> 0:49:35.920
<v Speaker 3>In by an actual listener. We'd love to have you

0:49:35.960 --> 0:49:36.480
<v Speaker 3>stick around.

0:49:36.840 --> 0:49:37.439
<v Speaker 2>Let's do it.

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<v Speaker 6>The park was hot.

0:49:43.880 --> 0:49:45.000
<v Speaker 3>Hey, what's up?

0:49:45.200 --> 0:49:47.000
<v Speaker 6>I wanted to just tell you about a time that

0:49:47.080 --> 0:49:49.360
<v Speaker 6>I was producing in such a park. It was just

0:49:49.400 --> 0:49:52.680
<v Speaker 6>one of those perfect nights, not too hot, not too cold.

0:49:53.360 --> 0:49:56.280
<v Speaker 6>Walking in. My shirt is off. This guy is walking

0:49:56.280 --> 0:49:59.160
<v Speaker 6>out his shirt is off. We make eye contacts and

0:49:59.400 --> 0:50:03.680
<v Speaker 6>fireworks like that instant. We didn't even get into the bramble.

0:50:03.760 --> 0:50:05.480
<v Speaker 6>We just there was a lawn right there and we

0:50:05.680 --> 0:50:08.200
<v Speaker 6>just fucked, like right in the middle of that lawn,

0:50:08.760 --> 0:50:12.040
<v Speaker 6>like out in the open. The stars are out, the

0:50:12.080 --> 0:50:15.160
<v Speaker 6>moon was out, and it was so risky it could

0:50:15.200 --> 0:50:16.759
<v Speaker 6>have been caught any second, but it didn't matter.

0:50:16.800 --> 0:50:17.720
<v Speaker 3>We were like connected.

0:50:17.760 --> 0:50:22.080
<v Speaker 7>We were in it, like every every position imaginable is

0:50:22.120 --> 0:50:24.919
<v Speaker 7>just the most classical thing. And then it was over,

0:50:25.920 --> 0:50:28.040
<v Speaker 7>and it was like the greatest prects I've ever had

0:50:28.080 --> 0:50:28.560
<v Speaker 7>in my life.

0:50:28.680 --> 0:50:31.640
<v Speaker 6>Oh, okay, they're married.

0:50:31.680 --> 0:50:36.399
<v Speaker 1>Now what a whimsical retelling, really, but like, how long

0:50:36.520 --> 0:50:37.120
<v Speaker 1>was this fuck?

0:50:37.440 --> 0:50:38.560
<v Speaker 3>You said every position?

0:50:38.960 --> 0:50:41.799
<v Speaker 5>Every position? I know also in a wide open line.

0:50:41.960 --> 0:50:43.880
<v Speaker 5>You boys got to be careful out there too.

0:50:43.880 --> 0:50:45.360
<v Speaker 3>No, especially in the.

0:50:47.680 --> 0:50:51.360
<v Speaker 5>First time recently, like yeah, for my birthday, like a

0:50:51.440 --> 0:50:53.560
<v Speaker 5>couple of months ago, and I was like, oh my god,

0:50:53.560 --> 0:50:55.600
<v Speaker 5>it is like right out here. I don't like the

0:50:55.640 --> 0:50:58.000
<v Speaker 5>idea of like almost getting caught. I know that turns

0:50:58.000 --> 0:51:00.520
<v Speaker 5>some people on, but I just I can't form if

0:51:00.520 --> 0:51:00.880
<v Speaker 5>I know that.

0:51:01.040 --> 0:51:03.640
<v Speaker 3>Like I'm in brown person in America. I'm not trying

0:51:03.640 --> 0:51:04.240
<v Speaker 3>to be arrested.

0:51:04.719 --> 0:51:07.759
<v Speaker 2>And that's really a huge CrOx of it. You know,

0:51:07.880 --> 0:51:10.680
<v Speaker 2>if I was like tall and blonde and had blue eyes, yeah.

0:51:10.480 --> 0:51:14.600
<v Speaker 4>And could talk my way out of anything, absolutely, because yeah, exactly,

0:51:14.800 --> 0:51:15.440
<v Speaker 4>I didn't know.

0:51:16.160 --> 0:51:17.879
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, do you want to join? You know what I mean?

0:51:17.960 --> 0:51:21.759
<v Speaker 3>Like that's their conversations. I'm not having thoseas.

0:51:21.040 --> 0:51:22.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm not that light skinned.

0:51:22.719 --> 0:51:28.239
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:51:28.400 --> 0:51:30.120
<v Speaker 5>I went on the on my birthday and I'd never

0:51:30.160 --> 0:51:32.000
<v Speaker 5>done it before, and it's it's gorgeous.

0:51:32.040 --> 0:51:33.800
<v Speaker 2>You could see why it's been a cruising area.

0:51:33.880 --> 0:51:36.960
<v Speaker 5>You know, it's called the fruited Plane in the twenties, oh,

0:51:37.040 --> 0:51:39.720
<v Speaker 5>in the nineteen twenties. Yeah, it was already a cruising

0:51:39.760 --> 0:51:40.440
<v Speaker 5>area back then.

0:51:40.920 --> 0:51:42.400
<v Speaker 3>This is before they kicked all the people out to

0:51:42.400 --> 0:51:42.879
<v Speaker 3>make the park.

0:51:42.960 --> 0:51:44.240
<v Speaker 2>That's the eighteen fifties.

0:51:44.960 --> 0:51:48.239
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, they kicked the perto Ricans also make Lucoln Center.

0:51:48.239 --> 0:51:49.799
<v Speaker 1>They kicked the black people out to the Central Park.

0:51:51.640 --> 0:51:53.359
<v Speaker 1>We should be allowed to fucking the places they kicked

0:51:53.360 --> 0:51:56.480
<v Speaker 1>out our Honestly, this is ground.

0:51:56.760 --> 0:52:01.719
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, sexual reparation and really if you think about.

0:52:01.440 --> 0:52:05.719
<v Speaker 3>It, Harry Tubman didn't conduct that train so that I

0:52:05.719 --> 0:52:06.879
<v Speaker 3>wouldn't be fucking here.

0:52:07.040 --> 0:52:09.080
<v Speaker 5>I like that people know that that's what it is, though,

0:52:09.120 --> 0:52:11.120
<v Speaker 5>because when I went it was a birthday gift.

0:52:11.160 --> 0:52:12.239
<v Speaker 2>I hit the jackpot.

0:52:12.320 --> 0:52:14.200
<v Speaker 5>And then we also did the thing where we didn't

0:52:14.239 --> 0:52:16.680
<v Speaker 5>go deep into the park enough, and then I heard

0:52:16.680 --> 0:52:20.279
<v Speaker 5>this like little chain, and I legit thought it was

0:52:20.320 --> 0:52:22.400
<v Speaker 5>like a like a leather pup or something, and then

0:52:22.400 --> 0:52:24.200
<v Speaker 5>it was a lady walking her dog and she goes

0:52:24.520 --> 0:52:27.200
<v Speaker 5>get a room, you two, But she knew where she

0:52:27.480 --> 0:52:28.920
<v Speaker 5>was and we knew as she was, and it was

0:52:29.000 --> 0:52:30.920
<v Speaker 5>kind of embarrassing, but it's kind of hot. She had

0:52:30.960 --> 0:52:32.759
<v Speaker 5>like a really cool New York lady haircut, and I

0:52:32.800 --> 0:52:35.400
<v Speaker 5>was like, oh, there's some history.

0:52:35.040 --> 0:52:35.879
<v Speaker 3>Here, all right.

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<v Speaker 4>If you want to hear your own cruising confession on

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<v Speaker 1>Houror thank you so much for joining us, if you

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