WEBVTT - With A Boy (w/ Krystal Franklin) 0:00:00.960 --> 0:00:04.840 Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You are tuned into 0:00:04.840 --> 0:00:07.200 the Vitamin D with Dawn Day podcast and I am 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:09.960 your host, Dawn Day, here to get you excited about 0:00:09.960 --> 0:00:11.920 your life so that you can live life on purpose 0:00:11.960 --> 0:00:14.080 and for a purpose. And this is your first time 0:00:14.160 --> 0:00:17.640 tuning in and welcome Vitamin D. It's upon off my name. 0:00:17.960 --> 0:00:19.920 My name is Dawn and you get Vitamin D from 0:00:19.960 --> 0:00:22.160 the sun. So I'm here to shed light into your life. 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:25.960 And I do this with inspirational insights and conversations with 0:00:26.000 --> 0:00:29.080 celebrities and everyday people like you and me, Because if 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:31.040 you want to be better and you want to do better, 0:00:31.560 --> 0:00:33.800 then you're going to have to be able to see better. 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:36.800 So join me on this journey of living our best 0:00:36.840 --> 0:00:40.720 lives and understanding and realizing how you are your greatest 0:00:40.720 --> 0:00:44.640 stassat Are you single? Are you dating or in a relationship? 0:00:45.080 --> 0:00:49.800 What's your status? They say, dating is that stage of 0:00:49.800 --> 0:00:52.960 where you're collecting data about who you're talking to. You know, 0:00:55.040 --> 0:00:58.680 it's an interesting stage, right meeting someone sitting up there 0:00:58.800 --> 0:01:01.720 trying to figure out their likes dislikes, assessing whether or 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:03.720 not you can see yourself in a relationship with them, 0:01:03.800 --> 0:01:05.399 or you just want to see yourself in the sheets 0:01:05.400 --> 0:01:07.800 with them, or perhaps see that they're just going to 0:01:07.840 --> 0:01:11.280 be a friend, but after the day they use this 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:14.720 like the relationship part. And depending on where you're located 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:17.920 across the world, dating perhaps could be a little bit interesting. 0:01:18.680 --> 0:01:22.600 Like if you're a woman seeking a man, are you 0:01:22.640 --> 0:01:26.560 okay with asking somebody out? And men that are seeking women? 0:01:26.560 --> 0:01:29.039 Are you okay with a female asking you out? And 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:31.039 what does it go for the same sex couples, Like 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:34.440 how are you meeting each other? How are you interacting? 0:01:35.000 --> 0:01:37.880 Are you using dating sites? Are you opposed to dating science? 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:42.039 What's up? It's a conversation that goes on and on, 0:01:42.160 --> 0:01:46.240 because I feel like dating doesn't always are only contributor 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:50.560 romantic relationships, but just any type of relationship, And it's 0:01:50.600 --> 0:01:53.160 a space where you have to take time. And I 0:01:53.200 --> 0:01:55.920 think it also and I think I feel like vulnerability 0:01:56.080 --> 0:01:59.360 is so key when establishing a relationship. You gotta be 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:04.080 open and dealing with past traumas because nothing's worse than 0:02:04.120 --> 0:02:07.400 past traumas coming up in a relationship you can't even 0:02:07.480 --> 0:02:11.600 see what's in front of you. And then thinking about 0:02:11.639 --> 0:02:15.160 relationships overall, are you ready to be in a relationship 0:02:17.320 --> 0:02:22.639 what has datum been like for you, m hm. Has 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:27.160 your experience been well? And if you are single and 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:30.760 currently dating, how long have you been single for? And 0:02:30.800 --> 0:02:34.880 if you're dating pursuing a relationship, what's your longest relationship 0:02:35.320 --> 0:02:37.200 and how long should you be dating before you get 0:02:37.240 --> 0:02:41.640 into a relationship. Dating has been an interesting process for me, 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:44.880 and I can say myself, I probably haven't been the 0:02:44.880 --> 0:02:47.840 best of dating because I'm working on my level of 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:52.600 vulnerability um and I think it's a requirement of any 0:02:52.639 --> 0:02:56.639 type of relationship, opening you up and sharing who you are, 0:02:57.080 --> 0:02:59.440 because if you can't share a piece of yourself, then 0:02:59.440 --> 0:03:01.440 what are you doing on trying to connect with someone else? 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:11.239 Get right right with me? I get excited about all right? Okay, 0:03:11.480 --> 0:03:14.880 so I'm excited about this episode. I have this beautiful 0:03:14.919 --> 0:03:17.880 young lady in the studio with me. Her name is 0:03:18.000 --> 0:03:25.560 Crystal Frankly jern Mark. Can I get some applause? Welcome 0:03:25.600 --> 0:03:27.359 to Vitamin D with down day. Come on, give me 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:29.880 somebody d dande. Hey, I'm sharing like all the time. 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:31.840 Thank you so much for having me, thank you, thank you, 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:36.200 thank you for making time. Of course, no, I like you, 0:03:36.400 --> 0:03:39.160 and when I like somebody, I like you. So I mean, 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:41.440 I like, I like you online, so our first time eating, 0:03:41.680 --> 0:03:43.320 you know, because we gotta be were like I like 0:03:43.400 --> 0:03:45.839 you online, I would want to I hope, I would 0:03:45.880 --> 0:03:47.920 always hope that people that I meet online are just 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:49.120 like they are in real life, and that is not 0:03:49.120 --> 0:03:53.360 always the truth. So yeah, but I feel I felt good. 0:03:53.400 --> 0:03:55.240 I feel good about this. I feel good about you, 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:57.640 so of course, whatever you need. I think the first 0:03:57.640 --> 0:04:01.680 time I saw you, I met Daniel young Um invited 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:04.720 me out to the Black Accents brunch and I saw you. 0:04:04.760 --> 0:04:06.120 I didn't know you, but I saw you. You just 0:04:06.160 --> 0:04:08.360 see somebody was like a kay, and then I guess, 0:04:08.520 --> 0:04:10.240 I mean, I would say it went viral for a minute. 0:04:10.200 --> 0:04:12.320 It was a photo you Lita and Daniel and I 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:15.240 don't know the other young lady mar Hey, mar girl, 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:17.320 and you know T and I worked back into New 0:04:17.360 --> 0:04:21.480 York together and idea yeah yeah, me and Danny the 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:26.560 other danielle okay y yeah yeah yeah. So and then 0:04:26.600 --> 0:04:29.200 I ran into you at French She's workout and that's 0:04:29.200 --> 0:04:32.159 when it was like, okay, we're doing can I curse 0:04:32.839 --> 0:04:35.880 when I damn thing? But trying to beat you because 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:39.839 it was a boy. Listen, she came in. There is 0:04:39.880 --> 0:04:42.920 this girl. First of all, the class had to start 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:46.520 about forty five minutes ye arrived, but she came in 0:04:46.720 --> 0:04:49.080 her her God is like study with the glasses on 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:51.960 everything to look for a boy that was there. That's 0:04:52.000 --> 0:04:54.159 literally and I'm glad we're gonna talk about this with 0:04:54.160 --> 0:04:56.200 the boy in a lot of good story. But okay, 0:04:56.200 --> 0:04:58.360 we're talking, We're talking, But I need you to tell 0:04:58.400 --> 0:05:01.680 people who you are. Yeah, that's such a loaded question. Um. 0:05:01.800 --> 0:05:07.400 I'm Crystal, Crystal Franklin from Dallas, Texas Cowboys Cowboys Nation, 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:11.160 proud graduate of Graham Blink State University in Graham, Louisiana. 0:05:12.720 --> 0:05:15.799 I professionally am the senior Producer of Digital at Warner 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:19.480 Brothers for the Real. Personally, I'm a childer guy, Janis 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:23.240 and Charles's daughter. I'm a cancer. I love hot cheets 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:29.760 and Dr Pepper, Larifa, a lot of tequila done. I mean, 0:05:29.800 --> 0:05:31.120 you know there's I mean, I don't know how to 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:34.280 really answer that. I think I'm just I'm just I'm 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:36.800 a lot of I'm a lot of color. I'm very 0:05:36.800 --> 0:05:39.120 colorful and I can feeling. I think that's what attracted 0:05:39.160 --> 0:05:40.839 me to to hit you up on because I was like, 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:44.000 who is this girl? I was telling Jeremiah. I said, 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:47.640 there's so much life in her and I was like, 0:05:47.680 --> 0:05:49.440 I didn't even know what the real story was. But 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:52.240 I came across with this with the Boys series and 0:05:52.279 --> 0:05:55.599 I was like, she's so open, she's so candid. All right, So, 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:59.360 uh what really got me tingling up in here? Because 0:05:59.360 --> 0:06:01.200 you know this episod as of right now? You know 0:06:01.279 --> 0:06:05.320 Valentine's stager. Um, you're with a boy series with the 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:09.960 boy hashtag with a boy. It's so fun, it's like 0:06:10.000 --> 0:06:13.240 your dating series. Let me say, because I don't even know, 0:06:14.920 --> 0:06:17.760 you know, it started out real fun and simple. I 0:06:17.960 --> 0:06:20.240 came again. People have to remember, I am a producer 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:23.160 by nature. I tell stories for a living. I've been 0:06:23.200 --> 0:06:26.240 doing that my entire life, literally, even writing books and 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:29.520 things since I was small. Um, so I naturally like 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:32.840 to tell stories. So I remember it was November, girl, 0:06:32.839 --> 0:06:37.480 you on these days? It was November November, Yes, honey, 0:06:37.520 --> 0:06:40.159 I had reconnected with an old friend. We met when 0:06:40.600 --> 0:06:42.640 he was in d C for pressing. I worked at 0:06:42.640 --> 0:06:45.159 TV Ones. Of course they would come by, um the show, 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:48.120 the studio and we did interviews whatever whatever. So we 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:50.520 reconnected when I moved here because he lived here and 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:54.000 I just got my apartment November. You know, I was 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:55.640 still trying to get together and you know, making me 0:06:55.680 --> 0:06:57.960 cute or whatever. But it was a pandemic, and so 0:06:58.080 --> 0:06:59.760 you can't go nowhere. It came do nothing. This is 0:06:59.800 --> 0:07:02.880 the early pandemic. No now now pandemic like a little different, 0:07:03.080 --> 0:07:05.719 but this is early pandemic. And so he was like, 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:08.359 you live here, now, let's let's hang out. And I'm like, well, 0:07:08.360 --> 0:07:10.560 where are we gonna hang out? It everything is closed, 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:13.880 and so he was like, well, my place in your place, 0:07:13.880 --> 0:07:15.640 it doesn't matter. And so I was like, okay, cool. 0:07:15.640 --> 0:07:19.160 So I challenged myself to find really really fun cool 0:07:19.240 --> 0:07:22.520 things to do it in the house. So we started 0:07:22.560 --> 0:07:25.040 hanging out. Maybe I think it was like once a week, 0:07:25.080 --> 0:07:27.120 every Thursday. Then he came twice a week, so we 0:07:27.160 --> 0:07:30.440 were coloring. We you know, I ordered games from Amazon, 0:07:30.560 --> 0:07:34.760 so we was jingering, jinging, playing Jinger Checkers, Giant Oh 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:37.880 no bacon cookies. And so the second, maybe the second 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:40.240 or third time we hung out, we were making popcorn 0:07:40.280 --> 0:07:42.440 on the stove. First of all, making popcorn on the stove, 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:44.760 it's so sexy, right, that's all on the on the stove. 0:07:44.800 --> 0:07:47.760 It's different. It's a different situation. Then you're just putting 0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:51.600 it chucoling all with some damn pop. I'm telling you, 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:55.280 I'm telling you, I'm not even watching the story right now, 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:57.800 and I feel like I'm sexy. It's different. You know 0:07:58.200 --> 0:08:00.880 that that bag and then pushed a button on the Microway, 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:03.560 ain't that. Ain't you be with some on that stove 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:06.560 butter oil in there and you swirl it around, put 0:08:06.560 --> 0:08:09.040 them little popcorn season that thing swell around. He don't 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:17.240 don't get popped. That set it up. Love that Love 0:08:17.280 --> 0:08:21.240 that go ahead, Jeremiah. Yes. And so I literally was 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:23.400 on the stove, We're making a popcorn and I was 0:08:23.480 --> 0:08:27.360 like this should be something. I was like, I gotta 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:29.400 I have to chronicle this, and he was like, chronicle it. 0:08:29.440 --> 0:08:32.240 I was like, I wanna you know again, I don't 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:34.600 be walking around putting the phone in people's faces. It's 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:37.000 when I knew him, we were old friends, and I 0:08:37.040 --> 0:08:40.040 was like, I want to capture this and he was like, okay, cool. 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:41.839 And I was like, I don't know what I want 0:08:41.840 --> 0:08:44.120 to call it, but it has to be something. And 0:08:44.400 --> 0:08:46.400 literally five minutes that I was like with a boy. 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:48.200 I was like, you're you're with a boy, and he 0:08:48.280 --> 0:08:50.520 was like, I like that. And so from then on 0:08:50.559 --> 0:08:53.760 that was November. Any time that I was hanging out 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:55.800 with a guy on a consistent basis, I was just 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:57.280 kind of do some look cute stuff in my phone, 0:08:57.280 --> 0:08:59.120 capture a little moment, put the phone down, and it 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:01.520 became a thing. I posted about it. I posted about 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:04.160 it one time on Instagram and the next thing I know, 0:09:04.240 --> 0:09:06.360 people were like, we need more with the boy, and 0:09:06.400 --> 0:09:08.320 I was like, oh no, this is y'all for real, 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:11.120 Like I was just jokingly saying it on Instagram. And 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:14.400 so now two years later, almost two years later, it 0:09:14.480 --> 0:09:17.120 has become like you said, I've just kind of captured 0:09:17.200 --> 0:09:20.040 my dating life online and I you know, it's all 0:09:20.080 --> 0:09:22.880 hashtag under with a boy, and uh, it's fun, it's 0:09:22.920 --> 0:09:25.920 cute as easy, it ain't nothing serious, and when it 0:09:26.040 --> 0:09:28.920 is serious that's cool too. But um, the whole idea 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:30.520 was just to be honest. I had never dated in 0:09:30.559 --> 0:09:33.200 my life. Don ever. I was gonna ask you that, 0:09:33.280 --> 0:09:35.959 you know, because people talk about I was a relationship 0:09:36.000 --> 0:09:41.760 girl back to back didn't matter if I was no 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:43.920 back to back. I was like, oh you you we 0:09:43.920 --> 0:09:45.559 were done, I'm done with you. Cool, let me go 0:09:45.600 --> 0:09:48.480 find other nicolon under and just you know, move on 0:09:48.520 --> 0:09:51.120 emotionally like that not healthy at all? How do you 0:09:51.440 --> 0:09:55.480 how do you charge your feelings like that? How did you? Girl? Mentalized? 0:09:55.640 --> 0:09:57.839 I wasn't dealing I wasn't dealing with my hurt. I 0:09:57.840 --> 0:10:00.959 didn't give myself permission to feel anything anything. It was 0:10:01.000 --> 0:10:03.800 just like, Okay, you're done, I'm over you. Does that hurt? Because? Like, 0:10:04.000 --> 0:10:07.200 hell yeah, because I feel like why? Probably because I 0:10:07.240 --> 0:10:09.600 think dating, you know, requires you to be a level 0:10:09.640 --> 0:10:13.480 of vulnerability, which is something like in my career, completely vulnerable. 0:10:13.520 --> 0:10:19.080 I will risk everything dating emotions, that part and areas 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:22.240 I'm vinge upon the artists of my life. I am 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:24.320 when I love I said, you love hard? I do 0:10:24.480 --> 0:10:28.880 when he gets friendships? Then how you'll say, okay, now, 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:31.160 I'm not saying that you're the same crystal that was 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:33.200 able to jump from the next place when you said 0:10:33.200 --> 0:10:37.800 you've always loved hard and always okay. So, but when 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:40.719 I was done and you heard mew, can you cut 0:10:40.800 --> 0:10:43.200 your love off? How was that possible? It was easy? 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:45.000 I don't know, Jill, And when it probably wouldn't he 0:10:45.080 --> 0:10:47.720 love like I mean it was in my twenties, and 0:10:48.040 --> 0:10:51.400 those experiences weren't really love. It was just infatuation. It 0:10:51.480 --> 0:10:53.319 was lust, and so I had to quickly learn the 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:55.680 difference between that. So when you learn the difference between it, 0:10:55.679 --> 0:10:57.800 it's like, okay, even if I'm not over you by 0:10:57.840 --> 0:10:59.480 and for me, you know that my men said like, 0:10:59.480 --> 0:11:01.920 ain't no new COUCHI like new COUCHI I don't know. 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:04.480 I could say a P word, but it's like that's 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:07.480 how it was. I was like, all right, bye, And 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:10.000 it was horrible and it was unhealthy and it was 0:11:10.240 --> 0:11:13.679 not the best route to go at all. Don't recommend it, 0:11:14.040 --> 0:11:15.600 but you're know what happen when you have daddy issues, 0:11:15.600 --> 0:11:18.760 Honey a longer, get a longer to get through some 0:11:18.800 --> 0:11:21.240 things and learn some things. So you started dating that 0:11:21.400 --> 0:11:22.920 Like when I first moved out to other I came 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:30.520 out here and um September wow. Yeah. So and everybody 0:11:30.600 --> 0:11:32.920 kept saying like, oh, dating is gonna be awful day. 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:36.800 That's all I heard. I started an experience that I 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:40.640 didn't experience that because I never bought into it. Never body, 0:11:40.679 --> 0:11:43.280 where do you remain your So literally I go outside, 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:45.160 people asked up like you don't go outside like I do. 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:50.440 Under and again I understand people are moving how and yes, 0:11:50.559 --> 0:11:53.880 yes people are. They want people to be safe, and 0:11:54.040 --> 0:11:56.000 you move how you want to move. Some people don't 0:11:56.040 --> 0:11:58.559 feel comfortable being in spaces with a lot of people. 0:11:59.040 --> 0:12:02.200 I'm not that person. I vaccinated and boosted and before 0:12:02.240 --> 0:12:03.800 I let out the blood of Lord Jesus Christ on 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:05.760 my side. So it's like, look, if he gonna kill 0:12:05.840 --> 0:12:07.400 me from the pandemic, he gonna take me out. This 0:12:07.480 --> 0:12:10.480 is I'm okay with din like this. If he said 0:12:10.480 --> 0:12:11.920 no, no no more and we gotta, we gotta let you 0:12:11.960 --> 0:12:14.120 go because of the COVID. I did what I did 0:12:14.160 --> 0:12:15.920 when I was here. I had a good time, you 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:19.880 know what I mean. So I go outside. I am 0:12:19.920 --> 0:12:22.600 also open, I think so much so women. So many 0:12:22.600 --> 0:12:28.200 women are closed minded. I send men a drink. Also, 0:12:28.400 --> 0:12:31.720 there are no traditional like general like smack, you're coming 0:12:31.800 --> 0:12:33.640 up to get it? Tiice like, hey, what's up? Let's 0:12:33.679 --> 0:12:36.719 really let me. I walk up and of course you 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:38.160 know from a couple of you know, a couple of 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:41.520 feet away. First I'm looking, do you have a ring? Gun? Bam? Okay, 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:45.800 no ring? Cool? That looks good, okay, face mouth, eyes, lips, teeth, Okay, 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:50.319 probably it depends on what. If it's he's from the back. 0:12:51.120 --> 0:12:53.920 I noticed arms that little that that if he if 0:12:53.920 --> 0:12:56.840 he has a nice muscular back, I like like I 0:12:56.880 --> 0:12:59.640 like legs. I love legs. But if I'm noticing him 0:12:59.679 --> 0:13:04.079 from the runtch, it's always the face, always eyes. It's 0:13:04.080 --> 0:13:07.000 probably eyes and eyes and mouth because I'm looking like oh, 0:13:07.120 --> 0:13:09.720 because I'm it's all gonna be right here. But then 0:13:09.760 --> 0:13:11.319 I listen to me, look at this finger, you know, 0:13:11.360 --> 0:13:14.040 because chat they'd be walking around here, married, engaged and 0:13:14.120 --> 0:13:18.800 have fourteen boys. Right, So I look at all that, 0:13:18.840 --> 0:13:21.680 I'm like, okay, okay, cool. And if there's a mutual attraction, 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:24.600 and how you know if they're checking because they realize 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:26.880 they look. But I realized with myself because people were like, oh, 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:29.560 don somebody was checking for you. And women, I don't 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:32.520 think we give off. We don't give the green signal. 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:35.839 Not we look mean and probably we're not trying to 0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:39.120 be not trying. That's why I say you come in. 0:13:39.760 --> 0:13:42.400 I s make sure I smell extra good wherever I go. 0:13:42.480 --> 0:13:44.000 It could just be to the grocery, still, to the 0:13:44.000 --> 0:13:46.360 gas station. I always spill listening. You never know where 0:13:46.360 --> 0:13:48.600 you're gonna be somebody, And even if it's not my man, 0:13:48.640 --> 0:13:50.760 it could be my new home girl, it could be 0:13:50.800 --> 0:13:53.240 a potential business opportunity. Oh my god, he's still amazing. 0:13:53.280 --> 0:14:00.000 What's that? Yes, so that's another thing that you smell good. 0:14:00.080 --> 0:14:03.760 I make sure that I look my best. Push it up, 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:05.880 hold it down, poke it out, whatever I got. I mean, 0:14:05.880 --> 0:14:07.560 I want to look now every time, no matter if 0:14:07.559 --> 0:14:10.320 you're going to the store now, no, no, not the store, 0:14:10.320 --> 0:14:12.400 I'd probably be looking like a little a little hood right, 0:14:12.520 --> 0:14:14.079 not a hood a little boy because I had throw 0:14:14.120 --> 0:14:17.480 a cap on in the hoodie. But when you naturally cute, 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:21.960 you know, so it just but I really always make 0:14:22.000 --> 0:14:24.560 sure that whenever I leave my house, I look good. 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:27.000 I smell good, and I got something to say. And 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:28.920 I always got something to say, just because I like 0:14:29.000 --> 0:14:31.120 to talk. But um, yeah, So if he's sitting at 0:14:31.120 --> 0:14:32.760 the bar and he's you know, he looks over. We 0:14:32.800 --> 0:14:35.080 catch each other's eyes and if you know, hey, how 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:38.080 you doing die? You know, get not that big goofy 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:39.920 smell I just gave you. But you know I give 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:42.960 a little eye you know, do a little no work 0:14:42.960 --> 0:14:44.960 your eyes down is bad. You have to give because 0:14:45.000 --> 0:14:47.760 they do that to us. But so why not you know, 0:14:47.880 --> 0:14:50.440 let him know that you're interested as well. And if 0:14:50.480 --> 0:14:55.200 he's not moving, then I just kind of no, no, 0:14:55.280 --> 0:15:01.120 I I oh, I send a drink so whatever he's drinking, 0:15:01.880 --> 0:15:03.400 and just said, hey, can you send him another one 0:15:03.400 --> 0:15:05.880 for me? And I'll take care of that. So you 0:15:05.920 --> 0:15:08.400 don't think he should be comment, I don't think it's so. 0:15:08.520 --> 0:15:11.600 I don't think we should do anything. I think. I mean, 0:15:11.760 --> 0:15:14.320 of course that you should do now hold on now, 0:15:14.480 --> 0:15:17.280 but I just mean when it comes to traditional like, 0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:19.720 I don't believe in any of that. I don't believe 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:22.200 in any of those rules that society has made us 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:27.600 believe that. I absolutely not now hold on. As progressive 0:15:27.640 --> 0:15:31.200 as I am, I don't believe in that. I mean, 0:15:31.240 --> 0:15:33.360 if you see something that you like, you're gonna put 0:15:33.360 --> 0:15:35.680 a ring on it? No, No, I'm gonna say, sir, 0:15:35.760 --> 0:15:38.120 I see something I like, put a ring on me. Okay, 0:15:38.120 --> 0:15:41.480 I'm just I just put a ring on me. No, 0:15:41.600 --> 0:15:43.640 So I send a drink. And I've done that before 0:15:43.680 --> 0:15:46.320 and it's so liberating and it's so freeing. It's and 0:15:46.360 --> 0:15:49.200 it's sexy. It's like it's so you're Okay with rejection, 0:15:49.480 --> 0:15:51.880 do you get reject it? I know that songs. That's 0:15:51.920 --> 0:15:57.040 a ridiculous question, but do you Damn, I've never been rejected. 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:02.680 I'm sorry, I don't really know what they no. No. 0:16:03.000 --> 0:16:04.240 And then there are times that I send drinks and 0:16:04.280 --> 0:16:05.600 it's not romantic. It's just like, call that's a fly, 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:07.880 it's black man over there. I sent a drink and 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:10.480 go get in my car and drive home. Yeah, it's 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:12.400 just I just like to I just I do. I 0:16:12.440 --> 0:16:15.960 honestly believe that men, especially black men, don't get celebrated 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:19.160 nearly enough. You know, we talked ship. It's easy to 0:16:19.200 --> 0:16:21.960 talk shit, or it's easy to you know, celebrate them 0:16:21.960 --> 0:16:23.480 when they got a new job, a new house, a 0:16:23.480 --> 0:16:26.360 new car, promotion. What about just because it's Tuesday, Just 0:16:26.440 --> 0:16:29.080 because just because it's Tuesday here, black man, you you're 0:16:29.120 --> 0:16:31.720 fine man, And just send him a drink or just 0:16:31.720 --> 0:16:33.320 walk past something like that's a beautiful sun. I love 0:16:33.320 --> 0:16:35.680 that that suit fits you. Just keep walking like I don't. 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:38.440 Everything is not a romantic exchange. Sometimes it's just me 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:41.480 just celebrating you. And so I believe in all of that. 0:16:41.680 --> 0:16:44.440 So what is dating that? What is Yeah? And how 0:16:44.480 --> 0:16:46.560 do you know, if you're dating someone, you know, I'm 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:48.760 very clear. I'm very clear. So I don't bring every 0:16:48.760 --> 0:16:53.920 everybody's not with the boy. And nowadays man, so guinnyhead. 0:16:54.240 --> 0:16:56.800 I love that nowadays, Like when I meet guys that 0:16:56.840 --> 0:16:58.840 follow me on Instagram, they're like, oh can I can 0:16:58.880 --> 0:17:01.200 I be with the boy, And I'll be like WHOA 0:17:01.800 --> 0:17:05.000 Like people are invested in to find men that are 0:17:05.119 --> 0:17:07.639 truly like I like that. I I want to be 0:17:07.680 --> 0:17:09.000 a part of it. I'd be like, well, hold on, 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:14.679 I'm dating looks very for me. For Crystal, have to 0:17:14.680 --> 0:17:19.720 preface this because yes, dating for me is I meet 0:17:19.760 --> 0:17:24.600 a guy and there's mutual interest, mutual attraction. We've exchanged 0:17:24.600 --> 0:17:26.879 phone numbers, we've hung out. I don't even put a 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:28.720 number on it because I don't Again, I don't believe, 0:17:28.760 --> 0:17:32.120 and I'll like quantifying everything. We hung out at least 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:33.760 three too. I guess maybe I'll do put a number 0:17:33.760 --> 0:17:36.040 on it. Um. But we hang out a couple of 0:17:36.080 --> 0:17:39.240 times and we're talking every day. The the intention is 0:17:39.280 --> 0:17:40.919 to hang out more and see each other and do 0:17:40.960 --> 0:17:44.320 whatever else we want to do together. Then, yeah, we're dating, 0:17:45.080 --> 0:17:46.960 doesn't mean that you're my man. It doesn't mean that 0:17:47.000 --> 0:17:48.840 you can't date other people. It doesn't mean that I 0:17:48.920 --> 0:17:51.879 can't date a like, which is difference. We're dating and 0:17:51.960 --> 0:17:55.000 my friend and us dating well with friends, there's a 0:17:55.240 --> 0:17:59.080 there's a romantic and sexual disconnected. I'm not sexually or 0:17:59.200 --> 0:18:03.520 romantically attracted to my homeboys. That's a difference. That's the 0:18:03.600 --> 0:18:06.520 only thing that makes us romantic or not. Like I'm 0:18:06.560 --> 0:18:08.280 you know what I mean, like, I'm not. I don't. 0:18:08.320 --> 0:18:10.240 I'm not there with my male friends with the with 0:18:10.280 --> 0:18:11.920 the niggas I like, and the niggas don't want to 0:18:11.920 --> 0:18:14.320 get booty with. That's that's that's why they're over here 0:18:14.359 --> 0:18:16.560 in this category. If you want to go over there. 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:19.119 And then we got to cut everything yourself. So we 0:18:19.480 --> 0:18:25.439 dated more than one persons. That's the whole premise of 0:18:25.440 --> 0:18:29.080 with the boys to stage. They say dating is collecting data, right, 0:18:29.160 --> 0:18:31.640 That's sure. We're collecting data in whatever ways we want 0:18:31.640 --> 0:18:34.960 to collect data. So that means that if I want 0:18:34.960 --> 0:18:36.800 to hang out with thirteen guys, come let me be realistic, 0:18:36.800 --> 0:18:39.159 because I do be being sarcastic because he would be like, 0:18:39.200 --> 0:18:40.680 So that means you're having sex with all of about me? 0:18:40.760 --> 0:18:43.280 Like ye all forty five of them, because one, if 0:18:43.320 --> 0:18:46.320 I was, who cares? If I was, who cares too? 0:18:46.560 --> 0:18:49.840 It's not I'm not, But if I was, why does 0:18:49.880 --> 0:18:53.479 it even matter. We should approach it like, whatever she's doing, 0:18:53.560 --> 0:18:55.320 let's hope that they're doing it safely and you leave 0:18:55.320 --> 0:18:57.400 it at that, whether if it's going out for cow fee, 0:18:57.400 --> 0:18:59.719 because that could be a dangerous situation because it's crazy. 0:19:00.000 --> 0:19:02.080 Women are crazy. People are crazy now days, you know 0:19:02.119 --> 0:19:03.200 what I mean. So it doesn't always have to be 0:19:03.240 --> 0:19:06.480 a sexual situation. But um, yeah, for me, it's dating 0:19:06.480 --> 0:19:09.520 most people at one time. I mean, and I'm very honest. 0:19:09.560 --> 0:19:11.520 Do you take women as well? Or just no? And 0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:13.520 there's so many there are so many women are like 0:19:13.560 --> 0:19:15.000 can we do with a girl? And I'd be like, 0:19:15.359 --> 0:19:21.440 are y'all serious? Like literally no, Like Penis, I could, 0:19:21.480 --> 0:19:23.920 I could. I could emotionally, I could be a lesbian 0:19:24.640 --> 0:19:29.399 for sure. Difference, Well, I know what I'm saying. Well, 0:19:29.400 --> 0:19:31.120 what I'm just saying it is women, we're emotionally. There's 0:19:31.160 --> 0:19:33.160 a lot of things, but you can you can purchase 0:19:33.400 --> 0:19:38.399 parts from the bot honey, the way that I like me. 0:19:38.560 --> 0:19:40.840 I just wanted to be clear. You said that I 0:19:40.880 --> 0:19:43.640 love me. I'm saying, how I think for me, one 0:19:43.640 --> 0:19:46.560 of the most important things is next with somebody, right, 0:19:46.880 --> 0:19:48.760 I want to be my party, got to connect to 0:19:49.760 --> 0:19:51.479 And that's why I have to be clear, because I said, well, 0:19:51.520 --> 0:19:53.520 you can go to the store and you get some 0:19:53.560 --> 0:19:59.000 other parts to the party. Yes, that pulse, that vein 0:19:59.240 --> 0:20:01.800 that comes to okay, yeah, okay, So what your lot 0:20:01.800 --> 0:20:06.000