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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocates Law dot com.

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Speaker 2: Mark is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Sasha.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call her and see

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Speaker 2: els why she's ghosting him and maybe get him another day.

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Speaker 2: But first, Mark, how long has it been since you

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Speaker 2: heard from Sasha.

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Speaker 3: It's been about a couple of weeks.

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Speaker 4: Now, Okay. Have you been reaching out to her during

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Speaker 4: that time?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I've called a couple of times, I've

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Speaker 5: texted and been no reply, And that's why I'm calling you,

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Speaker 5: guys design and see if we can figure out what's

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Speaker 5: going on.

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Speaker 4: Well, why don't you tell us about how you met

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Speaker 4: her and then the date and stuff.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so we met on Hinge and I just immediately

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Speaker 5: found her to be so beautiful and classy. I mean

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Speaker 5: one of her photos she's even wearing pearls.

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Speaker 3: And I thought that was We started chatting and she

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Speaker 3: told me how she.

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Speaker 5: Always wanted to go to Paris, so I thought, for

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Speaker 5: a date, we could go to this Parisian cafe and

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Speaker 5: get coffee and croissants, which I thought was perfect.

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Speaker 4: That's cool. Did you wear a beret?

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Speaker 1: No, Yeah, that's definitely why. I'm just kidding. That's a

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Speaker 1: cute idea, though, Yeah, thought I thought so too. I

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Speaker 1: thought so too.

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Speaker 5: So we you know, we had our croissants and our

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Speaker 5: coffee and we're talking laughing, and you know.

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Speaker 3: She shared so much of her life stories with me.

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Speaker 5: I just felt like she really wanted me to know her,

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Speaker 5: which you know, was just so sweet.

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Speaker 3: And we were supposed to go in the bike ride,

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Speaker 3: but then.

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Speaker 5: Her roommate reached out that she needed to be taken

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Speaker 5: care of. So I was okay with that because I

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Speaker 5: love that she's good to her friends. But after that,

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Speaker 5: I never really heard from her again.

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Speaker 1: So what did she say to you, or like, what

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Speaker 1: was the interaction like after her roommate called, or like

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Speaker 1: as you guys were going your separate ways.

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Speaker 3: Well, you know, we were supposed to go on this

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Speaker 3: bike ride and she kind of.

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Speaker 5: Had a dodge out, so I gave her a hug,

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Speaker 5: and you know, she's had she had a great time,

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Speaker 5: and that was basically it. I said, you know, i'll

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Speaker 5: call you later, and when I called, I got no answer.

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Speaker 5: I texted a couple of times of the course of

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Speaker 5: the last few days and no.

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Speaker 4: Response is her Okay, I hope so not the freak job.

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Speaker 2: But you don't think it was one of those things

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Speaker 2: where someone says, Hey, i'll text you on the sly

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Speaker 2: and then you call me and then I'll say I

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Speaker 2: have to go if you're on a day you don't like.

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Speaker 4: Do you think that could have been a thing.

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Speaker 3: I don't think. I don't think I didn't get that vibe.

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Speaker 5: I mean, she was opening up so much to me

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Speaker 5: about like her life and her family and her friends.

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Speaker 3: It just felt like she was she.

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Speaker 5: Was having a really great time. I mean, the only

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Speaker 5: thing I can think of is like, I mean, there's

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Speaker 5: a bunch of people checking me out in the cafe,

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Speaker 5: which you know, sometimes I am a little awkward, but

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Speaker 5: I do kind of look like overal life Superman at times.

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Speaker 3: So I was getting a lot of.

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Speaker 4: But I always wanted to, Okay, you look like a

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Speaker 4: real life Superman. What is that? Are you like? Ripped?

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Speaker 5: I got this Clark Kent kind of swirl to my hair,

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Speaker 5: and okay, I've been compared a lot to it, but

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Speaker 5: my eyes were on her. I don't know, I don't

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Speaker 5: But yeah, I don't think anything was wrong with the findite.

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Speaker 5: I just genuinely thought she had to go help her.

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Speaker 4: Did you tell her that you look like Superman at

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Speaker 4: any point, because that also could have been Yeah.

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Speaker 3: No, no, I.

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Speaker 4: Did not lucky you.

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Speaker 2: You're on a date with Superman, I know, all right,

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Speaker 2: and you didn't get kiss or anything right at the

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Speaker 5: No, I was gonna, you know, I was gonna try

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Speaker 5: and go for it, but there's a bunch of people

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Speaker 5: outside the shop of the Parisian coffee shop, and I

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Speaker 5: just felt like.

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Speaker 3: A warm hug was the right move.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, well we'll figure it out where you

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Speaker 2: will play a song, come back, and then call her

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Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you

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Speaker 2: and maybe get you another date.

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Speaker 3: Okay, thank you, I appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: Plas don't come back, get your first day follow up. Next,

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Speaker 2: we're just joining us for today's first date follow up.

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Speaker 2: Mark is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Sasha.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: another date. But before we do that mark, Why don't

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Speaker 2: you catch us up on your situation.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, well, I met this beautiful girl named Sasha. We

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Speaker 5: went on hings, went on this great date to Parisian cafe,

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Speaker 5: had a great time, and now I haven't heard from her, and.

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Speaker 3: I want to know why.

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Speaker 1: Well, and you do think it's because you look like

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Speaker 1: Superman maybe and you were getting checked out a lot.

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Speaker 3: Right, I'm just worried. I'm just worried that she was

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Speaker 3: aware of that people were looking at me, that's all.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if that that can.

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Speaker 1: Be kind of bombering, Like if you were somebody that's

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Speaker 1: super hot that everybody's staring at you do feel like, oh,

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Speaker 1: touching me?

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Speaker 4: You know? I get that. Well, we're ready for us

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Speaker 4: to call her.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yes see, here we go.

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Speaker 4: Hello, Hi, I'm asking to Sasha. Please Sasha.

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Speaker 3: Hi?

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Speaker 4: How are your name? Is Jubil?

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Speaker 2: I'm calling from a radio show. It's called the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 6: Hi.

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Speaker 4: I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, I'm Victoria. Oh

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Speaker 4: Hi do you listen to the show ever?

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Speaker 3: Sometimes?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: You guys agreed, this is so crazy.

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Speaker 4: You know why we're calling you.

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Speaker 3: I have a suspicion and I'm very much about it.

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Speaker 3: That's suspicion being true.

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Speaker 4: What do you think it is? What's your suspicion?

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Speaker 3: Is it the second date?

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Speaker 4: Follow the first date? Follow up?

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Speaker 2: Yes, you are ghosting somebody you know who knows.

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Speaker 6: I have a sneaking suspicion that it's.

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Speaker 4: Mark, and you're correct. She hasn't answered all.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, well, because I don't really ghost that often, but

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Speaker 6: this was a unique experience.

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Speaker 2: Really, okay, would you mind telling us why you're ghosting him?

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Speaker 6: He was just so gross.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry. That was like the playton the most easiest

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Speaker 3: way to say it.

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Speaker 6: He just he was burping the throughout the entire date,

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Speaker 6: and like the first time was just kind of because

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Speaker 6: it was loud and he didn't say excuse me or

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Speaker 3: It was it was just so.

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Speaker 6: Uncomfortable, just thoroughly grossed out.

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Speaker 1: Was it just really loud or was it kind of

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Speaker 3: The thing.

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Speaker 6: I get that burping is natural, but there are ways

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Speaker 6: cover your mouth, you can say excuse me.

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Speaker 3: But like, since none of that was happening.

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Speaker 6: But the burping and itself kept happening over and over,

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Speaker 4: Really I mean that, I mean I wouldn't love that either.

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Speaker 2: Like in the place you were at, he was just

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Speaker 6: It was just it was so frequent and so loud,

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Speaker 3: He belches, like it was kind of ripple. Like that's

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Speaker 3: what I felt like.

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Speaker 6: Maybe it wasn't that bad, but like that's what kind

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Speaker 2: Like I was just, oh, I can't even okay, Well

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Speaker 2: you didn't tell us that.

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Speaker 4: No, it sounded like a very pleasant day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe you forgot, or maybe you haven't heard enough

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Speaker 2: the phone listening and wants to.

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Speaker 3: Mark, Oh, yeah, I saw.

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Speaker 5: Am Sorry, I don't I honestly don't know what you're

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Speaker 3: I mean, I worked a couple of times because I've

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Speaker 3: been dealing with some like speculated acid reflex. Oh I'm

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Speaker 3: sorry to hear that. Then why didn't we go to coffee? Like?

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Speaker 3: That's not going to help the situation any you know, well,

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Speaker 3: because I wanted to take you to a Parisian cafe.

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Speaker 3: I mean, is the real reason that because I look

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Speaker 4: What?

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Speaker 5: Sorry?

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Speaker 3: Sorry, that's not nice. I'm sorry. No, No, that's not

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Speaker 6: Yes, you are an objectively attractive man.

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Speaker 3: But if you're.

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Speaker 6: Wondering about the why people were looking at you, it

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Speaker 3: Are you sure that people weren't just looking at me

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Speaker 3: because of how I look?

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Speaker 6: Oh? No, I'm sorry. I like it was not attractive.

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Speaker 6: They were not looking at you because you were attractive.

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Speaker 6: They were looking at you because they were disgusted.

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 1: I can't even help but ask, like, Burt, are you okay?

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Speaker 1: Because to be burping that much, I don't know if

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Speaker 1: that's normal.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I've been on a different medication to try and

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Speaker 5: deal with my reflux. It's it's just been a struggle

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Speaker 5: bus But I'm doing much better.

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Speaker 3: Thanks.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 5: You know, like Sasha, you say you want to go

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Speaker 5: to France, but you really probably shouldn't go to France

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Speaker 5: because in other countries it's actually considered polite to burp.

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Speaker 4: Is it's a compliment of the show.

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Speaker 6: Well, even if that's true here in the stage, I

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Speaker 6: like it when if someone burbs that they at least

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Speaker 6: those lines. Maybe I'm reaching for the stars here, but

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Speaker 6: that is something that I am looking for.

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Speaker 3: Respect you, they excuse me. I usually say excuse me,

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Speaker 3: but I just I was. You were telling these beautiful stories.

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Speaker 3: I didn't want to interrupt you. I was trying to

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Speaker 3: respect you.

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Speaker 4: Sasha, would you like to go on another date with Mark?

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Speaker 4: Will pay for it?

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Speaker 5: You know what, I didn't know that she was still

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Speaker 5: closed minded, So I honestly don't know that.

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Speaker 3: This is going to work out. Closed minded? What do

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Speaker 3: you What do you mean? I mean, if you can't.

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Speaker 5: Just be present and accept the person for how they are,

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Speaker 5: I mean, burping happens.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I get that, it's just how you handle it that,

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Speaker 6: you know, really changes things, and how you handle it

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Speaker 6: was just not it for me.

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Speaker 5: That's fine, I mean, if somebody don't accept me and

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Speaker 5: accept me for my purse.

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Speaker 2: Too, well, sorry no second date mark, but it sounds

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Speaker 2: like you're fine with that.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think it's for the best. Juble's first date follow

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Speaker 3: up