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Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if

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Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, work, parenting, sex and more.

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Speaker 1: You never know that could be yours right right, Ladies

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Speaker 1: and Gentleman's time for the Strawberry Letter with my good

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Speaker 1: friend Shirley Strawberry. Thank you, my good friend, Junior. Subject

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Speaker 1: I'm a rule breaker, Dear Stephen, Shirley, I'm a fifty

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Speaker 1: seven year old married woman and I'm at my wits

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Speaker 1: end with my husband. He's ex military and wants me

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Speaker 1: to do everything his way. We have been married for

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Speaker 1: twenty two years, but since he's retired, his full time

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Speaker 1: job is controlling me and the kids. I have always

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Speaker 1: been the brains and the breadwinner of our family, and

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Speaker 1: I think that bothers him now that he has nothing

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Speaker 1: to do daily. He calls me a rule breaker, but Honey,

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Speaker 1: I make the rules. It's hard for me to take

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Speaker 1: him seriously when he's shouting commands and he doesn't pay

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Speaker 1: any bills in the house. He contributes money but he's

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Speaker 1: never paid the house note, electricity bill, or even the

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Speaker 1: cable bill. I even pay his cell phone bill, so

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Speaker 1: he needs to tread lightly with me. I was at

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Speaker 1: work the other day and my husband called yelling because

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Speaker 1: the cable went out. I told him to call the

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Speaker 1: cable company and my co worker could hear me yelling.

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Speaker 1: My co worker came to my office and closed my

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Speaker 1: door and asked me what was wrong. I unleashed all

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Speaker 1: suggested it would go to his house for lunch so

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Speaker 1: he could give me a massage to help relieve my tensions.

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Speaker 1: He's a massage therapist on the side by the way.

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Speaker 1: I told him I needed a massage and sex. He

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Speaker 1: was shocked but said he was all for it, and

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Speaker 1: we rushed out of the office. This man was magical

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Speaker 1: in the bedroom, and I left his house smelling like

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Speaker 1: lavender oil and Creed cologne the whole time we were sexing.

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Speaker 1: He called me a rule breaker and said he was

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Speaker 1: going to punish me. I love being a rule breaker

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Speaker 1: now and I can't wait to get punished again. I

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Speaker 1: know right from wrong, But am I not justified in

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Speaker 1: doing this since I'm being mistreated at home. Well, this

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Speaker 1: letter took a turn hump. I didn't see that one coming.

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Speaker 1: But the question is, Wifie, what are you doing? What

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Speaker 1: are you doing? You say you know right from wrong,

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Speaker 1: but then you ask us if you're not justified, if

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Speaker 1: you're justified in cheating with your coworker. No, you're not justified,

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Speaker 1: and affair is not fixing the problem. You know, two

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Speaker 1: wrongs don't make a right. You already know that people

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Speaker 1: have affairs because it makes them feel a certain kind

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Speaker 1: of way. And honestly, I don't understand your marriage. I

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Speaker 1: really don't. I don't understand how you put up with

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Speaker 1: your controlling husband. He needs to find himself something to

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Speaker 1: do so he can readjust to you know, just regular life,

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Speaker 1: civilian life. And excuse me, but what do you mean

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Speaker 1: he doesn't pay any bills, he doesn't pay his cell

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Speaker 1: phone bill. The more what do you mean? He just

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Speaker 1: can't be at the house yelling orders while he sits

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Speaker 1: on his behind. No, where is the plan for the

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Speaker 1: next phase of his life? I mean, have you let

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Speaker 1: him know he's no longer in the military. Is he

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Speaker 1: clear on that you're his wife? This is not boot camp?

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Speaker 1: Does he know all that? And you know you said

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Speaker 1: got to be smart enough to know that having an

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Speaker 1: affair with your coworker is not the answer. That's just

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Speaker 1: a selfish, temporary fix on your part. The reality is

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Speaker 1: you're putting off dealing with the problems in your marriage.

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Speaker 1: You and your husband don't get along. He's unhappy and

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Speaker 1: again needs to find something to do with himself. You're miserable,

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Speaker 1: you've resorted to cheating. I just say, face it, both

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Speaker 1: of you guys are crazy right now with this. You're

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Speaker 1: heading for divorce. You both are if you don't stop

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Speaker 1: Oh and by the way, please thank your husband for

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Speaker 1: his service, Steve Boy, thank your husband's military. Yeah, go

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Speaker 1: on in jokes. I he don't need thank you. He

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Speaker 1: knew what the hero is. Gonna give a damn about

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Speaker 1: the military right now. Fifty seven year old married woman. Oh,

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Speaker 1: she's at a witch end exual military husband and he

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Speaker 1: been mad for twenty two years, but ever since he retired,

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Speaker 1: he's been controlling of you and the kids. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: and I think it bothers him now because he ain't

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Speaker 1: got nothing to do daily. Well, now, he'd labeled you

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Speaker 1: as a rule breaker, but honey, I make the rule. Now.

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Speaker 1: This is the woman that then wrote a letter supposed

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Speaker 1: to be in distressed but just to let you know

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Speaker 1: I really ain't in distressed. Tell my I'm a rude breaker. Honey,

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Speaker 1: I make the rule. So let's see how you do it. Now.

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Speaker 1: It's harder this lady to take a man seriously because

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Speaker 1: she say he already shot in all these commands and

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Speaker 1: he don't pay any bills at the house. He contributes money,

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Speaker 1: but he's never paid the house, no electric bill, even

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Speaker 1: it needs to tread lightly with me. Well what do

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Speaker 1: he do? Right? Damn? I mean, how you get to

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Speaker 1: be the man in the hospital twenty two years and

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Speaker 1: you don't do none of this? M Now, I do

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Speaker 1: all of this, but I can't come in the house

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Speaker 1: and shout no commands. Okay, Oh I wish you want to. Oh,

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Speaker 1: shut up, You're like, I say, cut their hair dry off,

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Speaker 1: sucking hill. Yeah, So when we come back, I'll just

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Speaker 1: explain to you. What's wrong? All right, Steve? All right,

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Speaker 1: Part two of your responses coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter, subject I'm a

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Speaker 1: rule breaker. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening to Steven Show. All right, Steve, come on,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is I'm a

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Speaker 1: rule breaker. Lady Merritt pitch some old woman Marria to

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Speaker 1: his military man, getting on the nerves because all he

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Speaker 1: do a shout commands. He's retired now he bossed her

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Speaker 1: and the kids. She doesn't understand why he's so bossy,

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Speaker 1: and he calls her a rule breaker, but she says

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Speaker 1: she made the rules because she can't take him serious

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Speaker 1: because he contributes money to the house, but he's never

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Speaker 1: paid the house, no unless you bill, even the cable bill,

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Speaker 1: and she pays his cell phone bill. So he needs

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Speaker 1: to tread lightly with me. We left me with the

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Speaker 1: question of asking, well, what do he do? Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: don't understand what does he do? And then you was

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Speaker 1: he was yelling caused the cable went out. You're talking

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Speaker 1: about the other bill? He don't pay right, but here

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Speaker 1: at the house watching TV, so the cable get cut off.

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Speaker 1: He called you at work yelling because the cable went out. Boy, sir,

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Speaker 1: I don't know where you're getting the golf from this.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't even made a call because then I would

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Speaker 1: have had to say, I'm sitting up here watching TV.

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Speaker 1: Why you were working in this damn cable gonna go

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Speaker 1: out and you didn't pay the bill? Yeah, I can't

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Speaker 1: even fix my mouth. So then you told him to

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Speaker 1: call a cable company. And then your co worker heard

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Speaker 1: you talking. So co worker happens to be a man,

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Speaker 1: came in your office closed you're don't ask you what

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Speaker 1: was wrong. I unleashed all of my pin of frustration.

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Speaker 1: I told him everything. Here was a letter. All of

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Speaker 1: go to his house for lunch so he could give

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Speaker 1: me a massage to help relieve my attention. He's a

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Speaker 1: massage therapist on the side. No he ain't, No, he ain't. Well,

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Speaker 1: he told you that I do massage therapy on the side. Boy,

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Speaker 1: what but you did all that talking. Let's go to

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Speaker 1: my house at lunch and I'll give you a massage

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Speaker 1: to help believe my attention. He's a massage therapist on

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Speaker 1: the side. By the way, lady, shut up. I told

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Speaker 1: No he wasn't. He wasn't shot. He was he was

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Speaker 1: over joy but it wasn't shocked. He was taking you

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Speaker 1: to try to sex you anyway. Anyway, what the hell

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Speaker 1: is is I'm taking you home for lunch for a

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Speaker 1: free massage. If you're a massage therapist on the side,

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Speaker 1: ain't at your business you're going to give her a

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Speaker 1: free massage at work? Fire y'all having lunch. But then

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Speaker 1: said he was shocked. No he wasn't. He was over joy.

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Speaker 1: He said he was all in. Oh really, now now

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Speaker 1: We rushed out the office. This man was magical in

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Speaker 1: you know, Gil, we was just here tangled up, and

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Speaker 1: I was leaving the oil all over me. And I

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Speaker 1: ain't even care about the massage no more. A different

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Speaker 1: letter was weight. His weight was on me, and I

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Speaker 1: was that is not in the letter that's in there.

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Speaker 1: When she said listen to me, this man was magical.

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Speaker 1: You got this is what was magical me. That's what

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Speaker 1: it is. That's how you leave this house, Smeller like

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Speaker 1: leving oil and creed alone. The whole time we were section.

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Speaker 1: He called me a rude breaking, said he was gonna

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Speaker 1: a rude breaking, said, you're gonna punish me. I love

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Speaker 1: being a rule breaker. Now now I can't wait to

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Speaker 1: get punished again. I know wrong for I know I'm

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Speaker 1: I know right from wrong, but I might not justified

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Speaker 1: a rude breaker. Girl, You're a rule breaker, a file breaker,

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Speaker 1: a marriage, faith breaker, a home wrecker. You a lot

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Speaker 1: are you justified if that's what you want to use

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Speaker 1: as justification. Of course you are, but it don't stop

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Speaker 1: the wrong. So now what you want me all Shelley

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Speaker 1: just said. But I know one thing though, Going to

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Speaker 1: work gonna be different from now that right. I don't

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Speaker 1: know what you do for a living. You didn't mention

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Speaker 1: where you working, but focus. It's not gonna be your

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Speaker 1: at Magic Mike Maggy. Mike had that on and on.

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Speaker 1: He was crawling towards the bed on his elbow. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he had a knife in his teeth. Came up from

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Speaker 1: the end of the bed. You ain't know what was happening,

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Speaker 1: but the knife was really a feather girl. All right?

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