1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:01,600 Speaker 1: Buckle up a whole long time. We got it for 2 00:00:01,680 --> 00:00:06,720 Speaker 1: you the strawberry lettuce. Yes, subject, he's got to pay 3 00:00:06,760 --> 00:00:11,680 Speaker 1: to play, Dear Stephen Shirley, I think that I have 4 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:14,680 Speaker 1: it all figured out when it comes to dating, yet 5 00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:18,920 Speaker 1: I'm still single. I have created a few dating guidelines 6 00:00:18,960 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 1: for the men I meet, and my friends don't agree 7 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:23,799 Speaker 1: with my guidelines. I think a man should be a 8 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:27,560 Speaker 1: man at all times and provide for me, so here 9 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:30,520 Speaker 1: are a few of my guidelines. I never give a 10 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:32,760 Speaker 1: key to my house to a man when I first 11 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:36,519 Speaker 1: meet him. He has to earn the key by helping 12 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:39,199 Speaker 1: me with the rent or mortgage. I make sure the 13 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:41,919 Speaker 1: man gets my mail from me, and I encourage him 14 00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:44,240 Speaker 1: to open it so he can see what my monthly 15 00:00:44,320 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 1: bills are. If he's a real man, he'll help me 16 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:50,440 Speaker 1: pay the bills. When I first meet a man, I 17 00:00:50,560 --> 00:00:53,960 Speaker 1: keep my refrigerator and pantry empty and make sure to 18 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:56,720 Speaker 1: open the fridge and cabinets around him so he can 19 00:00:56,800 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 1: see they're empty. If he's a real man, he will 20 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 1: take me to the grocery store and buy me some food, 21 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:06,280 Speaker 1: or he'll give me grocery money. I feel like a 22 00:01:06,319 --> 00:01:09,600 Speaker 1: man should buy food drinks and snacks from my house 23 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 1: regularly if he plans to keep coming over. I never 24 00:01:13,560 --> 00:01:16,200 Speaker 1: let a man drive my car unless he's helping me 25 00:01:16,280 --> 00:01:20,520 Speaker 1: pay the car note and insurance. Within thirty days of 26 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 1: dating a man, I know if he will be a 27 00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:27,679 Speaker 1: keeper based on how he's treated me. If he's managed 28 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 1: to hang in there after thirty days, then I know 29 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:34,200 Speaker 1: it's okay to give him the cookie. But once he 30 00:01:34,240 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 1: gets the cookie, he should start buying me nice things 31 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 1: like clothes and jewelry and purses, maybe even a luxury car. 32 00:01:42,480 --> 00:01:44,840 Speaker 1: It takes a lot for us women to stay looking 33 00:01:44,880 --> 00:01:47,360 Speaker 1: good for men, so the man should pay for the 34 00:01:47,440 --> 00:01:50,200 Speaker 1: privilege of being with a beautiful woman. I don't see 35 00:01:50,200 --> 00:01:53,200 Speaker 1: a problem with placing these expectations on a man. Do 36 00:01:53,280 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 1: you agree? I need your honest advice? Wow, the thirty 37 00:01:58,560 --> 00:02:02,720 Speaker 1: day rules, Steve, she beat you by sixty sixty days 38 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 1: and I just have to tell you that life doesn't 39 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:09,840 Speaker 1: work like this. I'm sorry these guidelines. You don't even 40 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:13,120 Speaker 1: know these guys you're talking about. You don't give a 41 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:15,240 Speaker 1: key to your house to a man that you just 42 00:02:15,360 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 1: met met? Well, I hope not. Who does that? Yeah? 43 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:23,840 Speaker 1: Who does that? Uh? You know? No, one is signing 44 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:26,560 Speaker 1: up for this in the first thirty days. They're just 45 00:02:26,600 --> 00:02:29,760 Speaker 1: not gonna do it. It's too much, too many rules 46 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:32,720 Speaker 1: you're controlling. You're pretty unbelievable with all this stuff you 47 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:35,280 Speaker 1: wrote in this letter. You're talking about if he's a 48 00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:37,680 Speaker 1: real man, he'll do this, or if he's a real man, 49 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:40,960 Speaker 1: you think he should do that. Well, listen, when a 50 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:44,079 Speaker 1: real man comes along and he's all in and all 51 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:46,079 Speaker 1: of that, he's going to take care of you. He's 52 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:48,560 Speaker 1: going to take care of all that or a lot 53 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:50,919 Speaker 1: of this that's on your list. Okay, you don't even 54 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:53,799 Speaker 1: have to worry about that when a real man comes along, 55 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:57,080 Speaker 1: because guess what he's going to want to He's not 56 00:02:57,120 --> 00:02:59,520 Speaker 1: going to need you to prod him, you know, to 57 00:02:59,600 --> 00:03:01,560 Speaker 1: do with he needs to do. He's not gonna do 58 00:03:01,639 --> 00:03:04,640 Speaker 1: that because your happiness is going to be his priority. 59 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:06,480 Speaker 1: He's going to want to take care of you and 60 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:09,480 Speaker 1: make you happy. We're talking about a relationship here with 61 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:12,520 Speaker 1: humans and emotions and things like that. This is not 62 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 1: some business deal, some business arrangement. So I think you 63 00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:18,880 Speaker 1: need to back up with all these guidelines and all 64 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:21,880 Speaker 1: this kind of stuff because it's not going to work 65 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 1: if he's a real man to use your words. Okay, Steve, alright, 66 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:35,240 Speaker 1: this is your letter, Steve, you like these kinds of letters. 67 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 1: I don't even know where to start. This is so crazy. 68 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 1: I damn gonna comment on every single line in here. Yeah, 69 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:49,600 Speaker 1: this is crazy. All right, let's start right here. He's 70 00:03:49,600 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 1: got to pay to play, okay, right, really tripping on 71 00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 1: that we all inadvertently paid to play. You know, we 72 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:03,640 Speaker 1: understand the why and dying process. You know, we know 73 00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 1: we gotta take you somewhere, show you out. You know 74 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:10,520 Speaker 1: we we we ain't mad at that then, Stephen Sherley 75 00:04:10,600 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 1: line number one. I think I got it all figured 76 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:20,000 Speaker 1: out when it comes to dat. Yeah, I'm still single. Hello, 77 00:04:21,160 --> 00:04:25,920 Speaker 1: you don't have a damn thing. Okay, See, you're crazy 78 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:29,040 Speaker 1: right here. I've created a few dating guylines from me 79 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:31,400 Speaker 1: that I meet my friends. Don't agree with my guyline. 80 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 1: I think man should be a man at all times. Hell, 81 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:41,200 Speaker 1: we do too, and provide for me. Hold on. Part 82 00:04:41,200 --> 00:04:43,960 Speaker 1: of our way of showing love is to protect, profess, 83 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:50,280 Speaker 1: and provide. But that's after we love you. We don't 84 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:55,200 Speaker 1: owe you nothing till in I never give a keep 85 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:57,880 Speaker 1: a man to my house when I first meet him. Dull, 86 00:04:59,640 --> 00:05:07,560 Speaker 1: this is dumb. Surely don't do it. Monica don't know. Carlin, 87 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:11,799 Speaker 1: don't do it. But Mama didn't do it. Marger don't know. Sheridan, 88 00:05:11,880 --> 00:05:14,200 Speaker 1: don't do it. Brandy don't know it, carl It don't 89 00:05:14,240 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 1: know it. Lord don't know. Come on, hell, you ain't 90 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:27,239 Speaker 1: saying nothing. He has to earn the key by helping 91 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:29,800 Speaker 1: with the rind them, or I make sure that they 92 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:32,159 Speaker 1: hear the stupid part. I make sure the man gets 93 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:34,919 Speaker 1: my mail for me, and I don't carriage him to 94 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:37,840 Speaker 1: open it so he can see what my monthly bills are. 95 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:40,719 Speaker 1: If he's a real man, here, help me pay the bills. 96 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:46,039 Speaker 1: What ain't nobody gonna be open? The ball is meal 97 00:05:46,160 --> 00:05:49,040 Speaker 1: looking at all this oldness. We ain't in love with 98 00:05:49,200 --> 00:05:51,560 Speaker 1: you when he slept with you. We ain't got no 99 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:53,200 Speaker 1: key to know how. I don't give it. Damn, watch 100 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:56,880 Speaker 1: who you own right now? This ain't my bit open 101 00:05:56,960 --> 00:06:00,800 Speaker 1: my mail for me for what you know what I 102 00:06:00,839 --> 00:06:04,480 Speaker 1: mean need? I got over my I didn't go over 103 00:06:04,520 --> 00:06:08,920 Speaker 1: here to go over your bills. Then I keep my 104 00:06:08,960 --> 00:06:12,320 Speaker 1: writing here here here we go. When I first meet 105 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:15,880 Speaker 1: a man, I keep my refrigerator and pantry empty, and 106 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 1: make sure to open the fridge and cabinets around him 107 00:06:18,800 --> 00:06:21,360 Speaker 1: so he can see their empty. If he's a real man, 108 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:23,160 Speaker 1: he'd take me to the grocery store and buy me 109 00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:26,400 Speaker 1: some food. If you was a real woman, you'd have 110 00:06:26,640 --> 00:06:32,520 Speaker 1: food in your damn refrigerator. Come on, what woman don't 111 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:36,520 Speaker 1: have groceries in the pantry or if you're a real woman, 112 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 1: you will have food in your refrigerator, and so you 113 00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:43,080 Speaker 1: can offer somebody something when they come to your house. 114 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:48,039 Speaker 1: It's called hospitality. You ain't got a none of that, 115 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:51,160 Speaker 1: so you just gold digging the whole time. I'm gonna 116 00:06:51,160 --> 00:06:53,600 Speaker 1: give your Keith, but you need to help pay this 117 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:56,000 Speaker 1: mortgage and rent. I want you told my mail, but 118 00:06:56,040 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 1: you need to take care of the bills. Now guess what, 119 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:00,560 Speaker 1: and a damn thing in the pantry and the refrigerator. 120 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:03,560 Speaker 1: You need to be a real man. Your asser is crazy. 121 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:08,120 Speaker 1: That's what's wrong. We'll be back talking about this crazy 122 00:07:08,320 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 1: nothing as part two of your response to the latter. 123 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:17,840 Speaker 1: It is the subject keeps got to pay to play. 124 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:21,760 Speaker 1: He gotta pay to play. This woman got all these 125 00:07:21,760 --> 00:07:24,800 Speaker 1: guidelines for this man. The most interesting line in this 126 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:27,160 Speaker 1: I think I got it all figured out when it 127 00:07:27,160 --> 00:07:34,480 Speaker 1: comes to Dayton. Yet I'm still single. Hello, how wrong 128 00:07:34,560 --> 00:07:40,240 Speaker 1: have you been? Okay, so now let's go. She gave 129 00:07:40,280 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 1: all this stuff. She never give a key to a 130 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:45,520 Speaker 1: man to a house when I first meet him. Okay. 131 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:49,000 Speaker 1: She makes sure the man opened up her mail so 132 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:50,600 Speaker 1: he can see what he olds, so he can offer 133 00:07:50,640 --> 00:07:53,240 Speaker 1: to pay when a man come over. She don't have 134 00:07:53,320 --> 00:07:55,880 Speaker 1: nothing in refrigerating, nothing in the patrick, so he would 135 00:07:55,920 --> 00:07:59,280 Speaker 1: want to take a grocery shop. I'm sitting up in here. 136 00:07:59,280 --> 00:08:01,360 Speaker 1: I don't came on with this ignorant health of house 137 00:08:01,840 --> 00:08:03,880 Speaker 1: we set up in here. We ain't got no damn 138 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:07,840 Speaker 1: job Mannai's and I can't even make a damn sandwich 139 00:08:07,840 --> 00:08:11,560 Speaker 1: over this hell. I come over here, I can't ask 140 00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: for a salt and pepper. I bought a subway sandwich 141 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 1: over here, I can't eat it cause this health ain't 142 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:25,520 Speaker 1: got napkins, salt or pemple. Lady, that's why you single? 143 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 1: Right there there, she said, Oh, I feel like a 144 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 1: man should buy food, drinks and snacks from my house regularly. 145 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:38,560 Speaker 1: If he plans don't keep coming over, they don't keep 146 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:41,840 Speaker 1: coming over because you ain't got no need over there. 147 00:08:45,679 --> 00:08:49,680 Speaker 1: But you don't have no man, So which one of 148 00:08:49,679 --> 00:08:52,320 Speaker 1: these mans? You? What? Only man? You keep turning in 149 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 1: the keepers, then you ain't gotten there one over? If 150 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:58,959 Speaker 1: he was managed hanging after third days. I know it's 151 00:08:58,960 --> 00:09:01,800 Speaker 1: okay to give him the can you stupid, But once 152 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:04,400 Speaker 1: he gets to two cookie, he should start buying me 153 00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:09,000 Speaker 1: nice things like clothes, jewelry in person. You didn't already 154 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 1: gave him to cooking. Look, I can't keep buying only 155 00:09:15,559 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 1: damn grossing, filling up this pantro, pay damn bills, paying 156 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 1: your mortgage and your rip. Now I gotta buy you 157 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:26,920 Speaker 1: person shoot because she gave me some damn cookie. What 158 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:35,959 Speaker 1: are you nuts? What do your cookie do? Do you 159 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:39,880 Speaker 1: know what your cookie got to do to get persons 160 00:09:39,960 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 1: and shooting causing rip? Patrick luxury and yet now everybody 161 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:54,640 Speaker 1: you ain't got nobody. M hmmm, two things is wrong? 162 00:09:55,360 --> 00:09:59,800 Speaker 1: You're crazy and you're cookie What you think? That's too 163 00:09:59,840 --> 00:10:02,040 Speaker 1: da Some things we can just surmize in this letter. Right, 164 00:10:02,880 --> 00:10:06,199 Speaker 1: you're crazy and your cookie ain't what you're thinking. Well, 165 00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:09,160 Speaker 1: her friends don't agree with her guidelines right there, So 166 00:10:09,240 --> 00:10:15,640 Speaker 1: it's not like you don't have a luxury car cookie 167 00:10:18,200 --> 00:10:26,840 Speaker 1: for you. We gotta go. We have to go. 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