Speaker 1: Misspelling with Tori spelling an iHeartRadio podcast. You guys, huge,
Speaker 1: huge milestone in this household. Today is my daughter's birthday.
Speaker 1: It's Stella's birthday. Happy birthday, baby, sorry O.
Speaker 2: Happy birthday, Sa.
Speaker 1: And something really big happened. If I say it out loud,
Speaker 1: it's true, Stella. I'm gonna close my eyes because it's
Speaker 1: hard for this mom's say it. Stella got her driver's license.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, amazing. Oh.
Speaker 1: I have mixed emotions. I think it's okay to say
Speaker 1: that as a mom. I am so proud of this
Speaker 1: human I can't even express words.
Speaker 2: But oh gosh.
Speaker 1: So I have five kids. As you guys know, Stella
Speaker 1: is my oldest daughter. I remember being pregnant with her
Speaker 1: and we had a fung shwe guy. David was his name.
Speaker 1: I was pregnant with her. I had Liam. Liam was
Speaker 1: my firstborn. They are fifteen months apart, and we were
Speaker 1: filming our show, our reality show, Tori and Dean and
Speaker 1: we our first home we had just bought, and we
Speaker 1: brought him on to do this fung shwe and he
Speaker 1: was like, you're carrying a daughter. I was like, okay, David,
Speaker 1: did you google me?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 1: Everyone knows this because we found out with our first two.
Speaker 1: We found out and then you know, a boy and
Speaker 1: a girl. We kind of had the surprise with Hattie, Finn,
Speaker 1: and and bo I did find out, but Hattie and
Speaker 1: Finn were total surprises. But he was like, you're carrying
Speaker 1: a daughter and I was like yes, and he was like,
Speaker 1: oh boy, and I was like what no pun intended,
Speaker 1: Oh boy, no, David, it's a girl. But he turned
Speaker 1: to Dean and he was like, oh Dad, you're gonna
Speaker 1: have your hands full. And I was like tell me,
Speaker 1: and he's like, she is going to be the one.
Speaker 1: She is gonna challenge you guys, you're gonna always butt heads.
Speaker 1: But she's going to be strong, she's gonna be independent.
Speaker 1: She is going to be her own human. And it's
Speaker 1: interesting because I call her Buggy lady bug, and I
Speaker 1: think we all come up with names for our kiddos
Speaker 1: when they're born. Just something comes to us, Like Liam,
Speaker 1: who's eighteen now, I still call monkey and he allows
Speaker 1: me to grateful and it came out of nowhere. Like
Speaker 1: he was like always in his little jumping thing and
Speaker 1: he'd be like.
Speaker 2: Jump jump, jump jump, and I was like always like
Speaker 2: a little monkey.
Speaker 1: Jump dump jump, So monkey was it, and I don't know.
Speaker 1: Lady Bug when she came out, she was I don't know.
Speaker 2: I was just like Ladybug.
Speaker 1: And to this day she has everything Ladybugs. She's she's
Speaker 1: still She just made a memory box with her best
Speaker 1: friend Cora, and she was like, look, mom, first of all.
Speaker 2: Memory box, Oh my god, it's starting.
Speaker 1: What was the thing that girls' parents used to make
Speaker 1: for their for their kids, and this is archaic when
Speaker 1: they would go on to get married, they would have
Speaker 1: this box.
Speaker 2: They would guys know what I'm talking about. It was
Speaker 2: almost like a chest, like a hope chest.
Speaker 1: Yes, it was that, and then it had other names
Speaker 1: and it was kind of like when you got married,
Speaker 1: the parents would give this to you and your.
Speaker 2: Husband at the time because this is going way back,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 1: And yeah, so she started making her memory box and
Speaker 1: she good things. You know, I have everything and anything,
Speaker 1: as you guys know first and storage, but now in boxes,
Speaker 1: so I don't know where anything is. So good things
Speaker 1: she's planning, but she had lady Bugs in there.
Speaker 2: So yeah, lady Bug.
Speaker 1: Was her thing, and then it turned into Buggy and
Speaker 1: then you know, it takes all different forms when you
Speaker 1: have a nickname, and like in my phone, she's under Bugita,
Speaker 1: like my Bugita. I don't know, but that's my Buggy
Speaker 1: and was very much I would say he's totally like
Speaker 1: my kid now, but he was my first and he
Speaker 1: definitely gravitated towards Dean. And you know, as a mom,
Speaker 1: a first time mom, I was like, oh, like I
Speaker 1: would sometimes walk into his room, you know, when he
Speaker 1: was a baby, like two or something, to put him down,
Speaker 1: and he would cry and be like no, dad, And I'm.
Speaker 2: Like his first word was dad, like daddad.
Speaker 1: And as a first time mom and Dean had had
Speaker 1: a son from has a son from his first marriage,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, my.
Speaker 2: Heart is crushed.
Speaker 1: But he always was like a daddy's boy. Now he's
Speaker 1: a mama's boy. But yeah, So when Buggy was born, though,
Speaker 1: oh my goodness, you know they always say daddy's little girl. Now,
Speaker 1: she was all mama like from jump. And she was
Speaker 1: also the type that, oh my god, she's gonna hate me.
Speaker 1: Hopefully she won't listen to this. She was also the
Speaker 1: type like Liam was like the zen baby. In fact,
Speaker 1: he came out with sleeping. He came out sleeping and
Speaker 1: they had to you know, do the thing when they
Speaker 1: spank their butt and like get them going, and they're like, okay,
Speaker 1: he's fine, he's fine.
Speaker 2: Stella came out screaming.
Speaker 1: I have a picture of her as they like brought
Speaker 1: her up to me and she's just like ah, screaming.
Speaker 1: And it's so interesting because she with Liam, we we
Speaker 1: had a good night. I think maybe firstborn's this is
Speaker 1: always the case, Like it's like the universe being like, here,
Speaker 1: we threw you a good egg, so you'll.
Speaker 2: Keep pro creating and have more.
Speaker 1: Because Liam, like we were like Dan and I were like,
Speaker 1: we're not going to change being.
Speaker 2: Who we are.
Speaker 1: We don't want to be like, oh, we're all baby
Speaker 1: and we're going to stop our lives. We hope that
Speaker 1: we can incorporate the baby into our lives so we
Speaker 1: can still you know, have a life. And you know,
Speaker 1: we were kind of still in the honeymoon period. We
Speaker 1: got pregnant with Liam. I think six months after we
Speaker 1: were together, so nine months. I might be screwing this up,
Speaker 1: but anyway, Liam was the type of baby that we
Speaker 1: could bring him in his carrier first of all, when
Speaker 1: he was two and a half months old. We had
Speaker 1: a job opportunity with Tory and Dean to go to
Speaker 1: London and film there and do some shows. And everyone
Speaker 1: was like, I'm sure you don't want to do this.
Speaker 2: Your baby's two and.
Speaker 1: A half months and I was like, well, working parents,
Speaker 1: you know, you got to strike while the iron's hot.
Speaker 2: And the baby's new. No, I don't know. We did it.
Speaker 1: And I just member being on a plane and it
Speaker 1: was what eleven hours and oh my.
Speaker 2: God, what was his name?
Speaker 1: Uh? Colombo, Peter Fox, I'm pretty sure it was him.
Speaker 1: But we got on the plane with our newborn and
Speaker 1: it was one of those fancy planes like you know
Speaker 1: that had like two levels and like a bar on
Speaker 1: top of you know I'm talking about. I don't know
Speaker 1: if that exists anymore. Nah, but he literally saw us
Speaker 1: walk in with a newborn, and I'll never forget. We
Speaker 1: walk on and we had our baby nurse with us. Patsy,
Speaker 1: who everyone knows is like a second mother to me
Speaker 1: and a grandma to Grandma, a second grandma to my kids.
Speaker 1: We walked on and we remember that he was like
Speaker 1: he literally looked at us.
Speaker 2: I guess with one eye. I didn't know he had
Speaker 2: only one eye.
Speaker 1: Okay, pushed the button for the flight attendant and they
Speaker 1: came and he's like, can I be moved because he
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I don't want to do this flight
Speaker 1: with a baby, a newborn, So anyway, I'm sure, lovely man.
Speaker 1: It was nothing against us. He wanted some peace and
Speaker 1: quiet and he thought, oh, here comes a newborn and
Speaker 1: they're sitting right near me.
Speaker 2: So he got.
Speaker 1: Moved to the second floor of this fancy ass plane.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: Anyway, The ironic thing is Liam went to sleep and slept.
Speaker 2: The entire flight.
Speaker 1: Like people were praising us, like, oh my gosh, we
Speaker 1: didn't even know there was a baby on a plane.
Speaker 2: What was that Snakes on a Plane? God, I love
Speaker 2: that movie.
Speaker 1: Anyway, we didn't know there was a baby on the plane.
Speaker 1: Like he's so well behaved and we're like, thank you.
Speaker 1: And anyway, we went to Europe and met Gordon Ramsay
Speaker 1: for the first time, worked with him and he was like,
Speaker 1: I got to set you up and one of his
Speaker 1: restaurants and it was like literally ten o'clock at night
Speaker 1: was the Rezo. I'm like, oh man, well, we took Liam.
Speaker 1: He went to sleep. We had his little like carrier
Speaker 1: covered him up and he slept through dinner. And it
Speaker 1: was always like that, Like I remember being at Hamburger
Speaker 1: Mary's and this is a very famous gay bar in
Speaker 1: West Hollywood and Tory and Dean we had one of
Speaker 1: our rap parties there and obviously we brought Liam and
Speaker 1: just had him in there, and yeah, it's like, what
Speaker 1: was that movie? Reese Witherspoon was like, oh, look at you.
Speaker 2: You have a baby in a bar. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Anyhow, I always think about that and I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that was me. So my personality, new mom, and I
Speaker 1: have a baby in a gay bar. Hello, welcome to
Speaker 1: my world. So on brand.
Speaker 2: And he was totally quiet.
Speaker 1: Anyway, I'm telling the story because we were like, we
Speaker 1: didn't adjust our lives around the baby because we brought
Speaker 1: him everywhere and he was super great and super quiet and.
Speaker 2: Just such an easy, easy baby.
Speaker 1: Patsy, our baby nurse, had taken care of hundreds of babies,
Speaker 1: and she was like she still says to this day,
Speaker 1: Liam the best baby, easiest baby I ever had. And
Speaker 1: then came sorry, I'm getting back to topic.
Speaker 2: So Stella.
Speaker 1: We were like, oh, Stella's here, and we're gonna lead
Speaker 1: our lives and first time we went out to dinner,
Speaker 1: and I remember we were in westwo Is at Carmines
Speaker 1: and it was it was early. It wasn't like ten
Speaker 1: o'clock again. It was like, you know, six seven o'clock.
Speaker 1: And we have Liam and he's easy, and me and
Speaker 1: Dean and we have Stella and we got in there
Speaker 1: and she was just like.
Speaker 2: Screaming.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, you know, rocking her walking around the
Speaker 1: restaurant and we had to leave. We could not eat dinner.
Speaker 1: And Dean's like, we're not going out again, like we're
Speaker 1: staying home. And I think we stayed home for like
Speaker 1: six months. Like what I'm saying is she was not
Speaker 1: an easy baby. She cried, she pouted. You like couldn't
Speaker 1: even like sleep train, Like what was that?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: You couldn't do that? You had to carry her around.
Speaker 1: You were like dead ass tired. And I'm like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I don't know. If she had been my first,
Speaker 1: I might have been like, well, I might have been
Speaker 1: one done. Like she was not an easy baby, but
Speaker 1: we bonded so hardcore, like she literally never left me,
Speaker 1: and it was like she just wanted to be with me.
Speaker 1: And I just remember thinking I was so I was
Speaker 1: so grateful I had a boy to start with, because
Speaker 1: I felt like, and this is public knowledge, and I
Speaker 1: love an adore my mom and respect her. But we
Speaker 1: had had, you know, a complicated relationship over the years,
Speaker 1: and it put in my brain that mothers and daughters
Speaker 1: have kind of a complicated thing. So when I found
Speaker 1: out I was pregnant with a boy, first, I was like, okay, great,
Speaker 1: even though I'm such a girly girl, I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: a boy. Yeah, maybe I'm just meant to have boys.
Speaker 1: And when I found out I was pregnant with Stella,
Speaker 1: I was really nervous because I didn't know what was
Speaker 1: gonna happen. And I just remember, I don't know where
Speaker 1: this comes from, but I at the time was very
Speaker 1: nervous with touch and hugs, and it was out of
Speaker 1: even though I'm self professed hugger, like I love hugging people,
Speaker 1: but it's like when people would hug me, I'd be
Speaker 1: like uncomfortable in my brain, like how long do I
Speaker 1: hug for?
Speaker 2: Like what do I do?
Speaker 1: Like, you know, it was a thing, and I just
Speaker 1: remember when I had a girl. And I've written about
Speaker 1: this in my books, so it's out there, but I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, you know, when she was little, I
Speaker 1: just you know, she always wanted to hold me and
Speaker 1: hug me, and I'm like, I would hug her and
Speaker 1: she'd be holding onto me so hard, and I had
Speaker 1: the moments where I was like, this is uncomfortable, and
Speaker 1: then I told myself, you know what, I'm going to
Speaker 1: push past that, and so I would just hold her
Speaker 1: even harder and hugger even deeper until I pushed past
Speaker 1: my comfort zone and just we melded together. And anyway,
Speaker 1: she's I love all five of my kids. I have
Speaker 1: no favorites, but I'm just kidding. Any parent that says
Speaker 1: they don't have a favorite is a liar. But no,
Speaker 1: I love them all in different ways. They're so unique,
Speaker 1: and having five you really get to see the unique
Speaker 1: humans they start with and become. But Stella we had
Speaker 1: that bond that she kind of oh gosh, Liam made
Speaker 1: me a mother literally for the first time, but Stella
Speaker 1: made me a mom, a mom that really I feel
Speaker 1: like she healed on some level some childhood trauma that
Speaker 1: was just in my own head. It wasn't even a
Speaker 1: real thing anyway. We always had that really really special bond.
Speaker 1: But Buggy was always the type. You know, she cried
Speaker 1: a lot, she screamed, She was not easy and was oblivious,
Speaker 1: oblivious to everything. You know, when you're teaching your kids, Okay,
Speaker 1: we're going to cross the street now, you know, look
Speaker 1: both ways. You teach them, you know, Liam on point.
Speaker 1: And it's like Stella had her head in the clouds always.
Speaker 1: And I was always like, gosh, I'm super worried about
Speaker 1: Buggy in the future because we've told her a million
Speaker 1: times look.
Speaker 2: Both ways, and she'd just be like la la la
Speaker 2: la la. We literally would be like, oh, Buggy, la
Speaker 2: la la la la.
Speaker 1: Anyway, cut into the future, here's Buggy and Buggy is
Speaker 1: what David the fun Shue guy said. She's definitely a Gemini.
Speaker 1: She has the kindest heart, but she will argue a
Speaker 1: point to the point where you're like, I'm not even
Speaker 1: sure what we're talking about. I always tell her, like, God,
Speaker 1: you'd be a great lawyer because you'll have a conversation
Speaker 1: and if she sees it one way, she will just go,
Speaker 1: go go. And he also said, like she's gonna not
Speaker 1: only stand up for herself, but for other people. I
Speaker 1: remember what I'm saying like she could be in politics,
Speaker 1: this girl. And I was like wow, and she was
Speaker 1: just like my little buggy and so oblivious and so sweet.
Speaker 2: I always got this like she'd.
Speaker 1: Come home from school in preschool and be like, no
Speaker 1: one likes me, no one wants to play with me,
Speaker 1: recurring this one on and on into school.
Speaker 2: She had anxiety.
Speaker 1: She went through a lot of bullying at one point
Speaker 1: that we've talked about and overcame it. But you know,
Speaker 1: I would to the teacher, I'd be like, mama Bear,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, my kid says, she's not included. She's
Speaker 1: you know, you know, if they're playing a game, like
Speaker 1: you know, she is just left out and that's not okay.
Speaker 1: And they were like, we don't know the child you're
Speaker 1: talking about. Like she every kid likes her, she plays
Speaker 1: with everyone. And I was always like, what is going on?
Speaker 1: And I think it was in her own mind. She
Speaker 1: wasn't at the time, she wouldn't put herself forward. Well
Speaker 1: cut to this is the most independent human I have
Speaker 1: ever met. She is everything along Swaig guy said, which
Speaker 1: is wild. But I'm so proud of her. I always joke,
Speaker 1: I'm like, Stella, you.
Speaker 2: Got out she's like, got out.
Speaker 1: From what I'm like, I don't know, like me, like
Speaker 1: I led my I went through my whole life. I'm
Speaker 1: fifty two now and I'm just finally learning who I
Speaker 1: am and discovering and trying to elevate and get out
Speaker 1: of my own head, my own I led a life
Speaker 1: so full of fear that it really like it's kind
Speaker 1: of wild. And I vicariously live through Stella because I'm
Speaker 1: watching her not become me, and I guess that's a
Speaker 1: hard thing to say, but I'm really proud of it.
Speaker 2: And while we're so alike.
Speaker 1: People meet us and I were like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: you guys are the same human like, same humor. You
Speaker 1: guys talklike like we finish sentences like it's crazy. And
Speaker 1: everyone says, don't be best friends with your kid, Well,
Speaker 1: that kid's my best friend, not ashamed like and she
Speaker 1: would say the same, but she's so not me, and
Speaker 1: I'm so proud of that. And you know, emotionally, I'm
Speaker 1: proud that I babied her and I was there for
Speaker 1: her and all about feelings because I felt like in
Speaker 1: my home growing up, we didn't talk. It was a
Speaker 1: different time, like you know, my parents were awesome and
Speaker 1: I had a great childhood, but feelings wasn't something we
Speaker 1: all talked about, and so.
Speaker 2: I made sure that that was different.
Speaker 1: And you know, Dean came from a family that didn't
Speaker 1: really talk about feelings, so emotionally again, I felt like, I.
Speaker 2: You know, you don't get a manual. We know that.
Speaker 1: But I healed myself through being something different that I
Speaker 1: wanted for her that I wish I had had for myself,
Speaker 1: if that makes sense. So I always talked about emotions
Speaker 1: to the point where I was like, probably too much
Speaker 1: like open and one, like talk to me, what's going on. No,
Speaker 1: I'm proud of that. Anyway, this human is like next level.
Speaker 1: She she went through bullying, she came out on the
Speaker 1: other side. She's like getting straight a's in school. The
Speaker 1: world is her oyster. So I'm so corny, but literally
Speaker 1: like this is the one. This is the one that's
Speaker 1: gonna leave home and never come back. And you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, they always come back. It'll be really
Speaker 1: hard for me, but I'm so happy that she leads
Speaker 1: her life differently. Like we go out and I'm a
Speaker 1: people pleaser, right and I'm trying to be a reformed
Speaker 1: people pleaser. I'm working on it, you know. Brian calls
Speaker 1: me Tory two point zero, except the other day he
Speaker 1: was like, hurry it up, You're like one point five, now,
Speaker 1: come on, get there, and I'm like, yeah, I'm on it.
Speaker 2: I'm on the road.
Speaker 1: But Stella like, we would go somewhere. And I always
Speaker 1: want everyone to like me. It's like my theme in life,
Speaker 1: you know, because of who my dad was, and nine
Speaker 1: O two one zero. I go to a fault like
Speaker 1: I you know, I'm not just nice to people like
Speaker 1: I go it's like too much almost, and that to
Speaker 1: me thinks I just want to please everybody.
Speaker 2: So Stella, she cuts to the chase, like, we'll.
Speaker 1: Go somewhere and if someone like isn't seven eleven, sorry
Speaker 1: Rando seven eleven, I'm like the guy wasn't very nice
Speaker 1: and he kind of wasn't being fair, and I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: it's okay, everything's fine, and she was like, no, mom,
Speaker 1: it's not fine, and.
Speaker 2: She's like.
Speaker 1: That wasn't okay the way you talk to us, And
Speaker 1: I'm just like, oh, cringing, this is like a year ago.
Speaker 2: Oh And I'm like.
Speaker 1: What do you mean, Oh my god, he's going to
Speaker 1: recognize me and be like, oh my god, her and
Speaker 1: her daughter weren't nice. And she's like, mom, it's great
Speaker 1: that you want to be nice. You are nice. You're
Speaker 1: kind to a fault, but it's okay when there's injustice,
Speaker 1: it's okay to speak up for yourself. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my god. At the time, she was like fifteen.
Speaker 1: My god, she's seventeen day, so two years ago I
Speaker 1: was just like whoa. So I'm like learning from my kid. Anyway,
Speaker 1: she got her driver's license, and she's like a planner,
Speaker 1: she is on it. So got her driver's license. She
Speaker 1: was I want to say nervous, but not nervous. I
Speaker 1: was more nervous than she was. And we went there and.
Speaker 2: She had all her paperwork.
Speaker 1: Of course me, I'm like super organized and this is
Speaker 1: I need to work on this. But I'm like, uh,
Speaker 1: do you have everything? And she's like yep, yep, got it,
Speaker 1: got it. She made the appointment everything. I hate the phone.
Speaker 1: I'm like terrified to like call the doctor's office and
Speaker 1: make an appointment. Stella's like I'll do it, and she's like, hi,
Speaker 1: I'm calling, and it's like, oh my god. She's just
Speaker 1: in some ways the opposite. She's she's the human I
Speaker 1: hope to become one day. But anyway, she had all
Speaker 1: the paperwork. We get there and you know, there's that
Speaker 1: moment when they're like, okay, mom, you can go, and
Speaker 1: we're going in and before that, we're going over everything
Speaker 1: and oh my god, there's this thing called smog.
Speaker 2: What's it called? She told me.
Speaker 1: Smog. It stands for all the things you're supposed to do?
Speaker 1: Do you guys know what I'm talking about, like signal,
Speaker 1: all the things you're supposed to the checklist. We did
Speaker 1: all the checklist. I'm so I'm so like old school.
Speaker 1: I'm like, do you want to practice parallel parking? She's like, Mom,
Speaker 1: they don't do that anymore. You just have to literally
Speaker 1: back up in a straight line and not hit the curb.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, okay, I did learn you to be
Speaker 1: eighteen inches from the curb.
Speaker 2: That's protocol.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but uh yeah, in my day, like and I
Speaker 1: got my license, everything's different now, right. I got my
Speaker 1: license the day I turned sixteen, I was like, I
Speaker 1: want my license. And the kids now, the kids, like
Speaker 1: my eighteen year old, you know, he's starting Driver's ed.
Speaker 1: But he's cool just to uber, you know, be dropped off.
Speaker 1: Like it's a different mentality. Now there's so much availability.
Speaker 1: I always called myself, I'm like, I'm an uber driver,
Speaker 1: but like Stella. So she did start a little bit late,
Speaker 1: but she got it all done. So even though she's seventeen,
Speaker 1: she did just get her license. But anyway, all the
Speaker 1: checklists did everything, and then they're like, okay, mom, you
Speaker 1: can go. Wait, it's gonna be about ten minutes. I
Speaker 1: didn't want to put my like panic on her, so
Speaker 1: I was like manifest and she's like, I hope I
Speaker 1: get it. I'm like, already got it.
Speaker 2: You got it, This already.
Speaker 1: Happened, it's done, you have your license. And then of
Speaker 1: course like left her with this nice man. So I
Speaker 1: go sit on the bench like outside of the DMV
Speaker 1: and talked this lovely man and he was like this
Speaker 1: older man, and.
Speaker 2: He said, oh, she's so lucky. She got the guy.
Speaker 2: She got the.
Speaker 1: Instructor, teacher or whoever gives you the license after they
Speaker 1: grade you. I don't know, he said, because there's two there.
Speaker 1: There's this man and he's super nice and super kind,
Speaker 1: and then there's this woman and she's like militant and
Speaker 1: by the book, and you know it throws people off
Speaker 1: young drivers.
Speaker 2: And he's like yeah, he's like.
Speaker 1: So, oh, I felt happy for you when I saw
Speaker 1: your daughter got this man because he's like nice, he
Speaker 1: looks you in the eye. He makes everyone feel comfortable.
Speaker 1: And he's like, my niece got the woman and she
Speaker 1: was just like looked down and look me in the eye.
Speaker 1: And she goes passenger exit car we're going and he's like,
Speaker 1: oh god, he's like so and I said, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: well I hope your niece gets it. And he's like yeah,
Speaker 1: He's like, I hope your daughter gets it. I'm like
Speaker 1: so we sat there and consoled each other for ten minutes.
Speaker 1: I was literally like I took video and still was
Speaker 1: like stop taking video before She's like I don't have
Speaker 1: makeup on, and I'm like, you love great baby, And
Speaker 1: then I'm you know, of course, my whole thing I
Speaker 1: did last week. I'm no, no makeup makes us feel comfortable.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I'm not posting this, baby. I just
Speaker 1: spit on my zoom screen.
Speaker 2: Sorry I got excited.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not posting this baby. I'm like, this
Speaker 1: is just like memory stake, so like I have the
Speaker 1: video of like them driving off and.
Speaker 2: I'm like there she goes.
Speaker 1: Anyway, ten minutes later, I'm sitting there literally like my
Speaker 1: stomach is in naught, and I'm already preparing the speech
Speaker 1: like it's okay. A lot of people fail the first time,
Speaker 1: and you know, you wait, I think two weeks and
Speaker 1: is this no big deal? It's just a blip, you know,
Speaker 1: on the radar. Anyway, they pull back in and she
Speaker 1: gets out of the car and I'm just like smiling,
Speaker 1: like what's happening, and she gives me the thumbs.
Speaker 2: Up and I was like yes, and she goes, I
Speaker 2: got it. I'm like, oh my god, you got it.
Speaker 2: I felt like we we got it. Oh my god.
Speaker 1: I literally and you know, you guys, I talk about
Speaker 1: feelings and like that I have none, which is a lie.
Speaker 1: That's a story I've told myself. It's getting old now.
Speaker 2: I just start bawling.
Speaker 1: And I was like crying so hard. And I'm not
Speaker 1: a cryer at all, like grew up thinking like crying
Speaker 1: so sign a weakness. And it was just like, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, this feeling of just like so much happiness,
Speaker 1: and you know, I said I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: you have your license. I literally I go, what do
Speaker 1: you want? Like, do you want me uber home?
Speaker 2: You could just drive? And she's like no, no, no, no,
Speaker 2: it's kind of far. Let's go together.
Speaker 1: So I'm like okay, okay, And so she drove and
Speaker 1: here I am mom sitting in the passenger seat, and
Speaker 1: we went to sushi, our favorite sushi restaurant shout out
Speaker 1: Shabu yah and had sushi and a mother daughter date,
Speaker 1: which is long overdue, you know, because as a mom
Speaker 1: of five, sometimes it's hard to not travel as a
Speaker 1: unit and we do everything together. But because of that,
Speaker 1: you know, I feel bad that some of the kids
Speaker 1: don't get one on one with me as much as
Speaker 1: I would like them too. It's just I don't have
Speaker 1: that luxury right now of being able to do that.
Speaker 1: But everyone's in school, and I was able to go
Speaker 1: to lunch with her and it was a great lunch.
Speaker 1: And then afterwards she was like, Okay, can I borrow
Speaker 1: the car? I'm going to go and pick up my friends.
Speaker 1: And I was like, okay, baby, yeah, of course, and
Speaker 1: she took the car and that was it. That was it,
Speaker 1: and I had so many emotions because in that moment,
Speaker 1: I like everything changed.
Speaker 2: As proud as I was, it was really like.
Speaker 1: This huge disconnect and it was really like part of
Speaker 1: me was being ripped out and just let like hand
Speaker 1: it over into the world. And I know, it's not
Speaker 1: like she's moved out. It's not like she's going to college.
Speaker 1: And she definitely she's the one that's like, you know,
Speaker 1: I want to go to college. Luckily she wants to
Speaker 1: stay in California, but she wants an apartment. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: the college she wants to go to. I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: you could drive home, you know, and she's like I could,
Speaker 1: but I think I want an apartment. I'm like, okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: But she's so independent. I knew this day was coming,
Speaker 1: but I really she came home last night and I
Speaker 1: just all of a sudden, like she wasn't little Buggy anymore.
Speaker 1: And for the first time, I was like, gosh, I
Speaker 1: had that feeling that my baby, not that she was gone,
Speaker 1: but like, but she was gone.
Speaker 2: Does that make sense?
Speaker 1: And I looked at her different, and I looked at
Speaker 1: her and I was like, she's this woman, this independent woman,
Speaker 1: and it's not like my job is done. But like
Speaker 1: I always, We've been best friends forever, but like this
Speaker 1: to me was this defining, cut the cord moment where
Speaker 1: I viewed her differently. And they always say, like, I
Speaker 1: don't know, all of us moms out there have a
Speaker 1: different photograph in our head of our babies at a
Speaker 1: certain age, like for Stella, it's like Buggy at like
Speaker 1: age three, and I see it, and I can see
Speaker 1: it right now. But then I look at her and
Speaker 1: I was just like, Okay, she's she's my equal.
Speaker 2: Now. I don't even feel worthy to say that. She's
Speaker 2: like far evolved.
Speaker 1: Beyond me, and I was no longer looking down at
Speaker 1: my baby. I was looking up at this woman that
Speaker 1: this woman that has taught me so much that I
Speaker 1: feel like I I never give myself credit, but I
Speaker 1: feel like I did a really good job raised her,
Speaker 1: instilling really good morals and lead with kindness and.
Speaker 2: Be a really good human. But I didn't know how
Speaker 2: to instill in her to be the independent human that
Speaker 2: she is because I didn't know how to be that person.
Speaker 2: No part she figured out on her own. So it's
Speaker 2: just hard because I don't know. I feel like.
Speaker 1: It's that's it, Like she's she's off and you know. Sorry,
Speaker 1: And I'm saying it like it's a death, but there
Speaker 1: is a part. And I don't know if all moms
Speaker 1: out there that have children when they hit a certain
Speaker 1: age or they leave the nest or they move out.
Speaker 2: That you it's like a grieving process.
Speaker 1: And I'm feeling that grieving process, which I'm beating myself
Speaker 1: up about because I'm like, oh my God, be so
Speaker 1: proud of her, and.
Speaker 2: I would never tell her this. Yeah, I'm telling the
Speaker 2: world this.
Speaker 1: Oh boy, I have a very dysfunctional life style anyway,
Speaker 1: but I'm grieving that baby that's no longer there, and
Speaker 1: she'll always be my baby and I call her baby
Speaker 1: and she'll be my baby forever. But I'm looking at
Speaker 1: her in a very different way now that I never knew.
Speaker 1: I'd look at her with new eyes and so much respect.
Speaker 1: This is supposed to be a funny story. I'm funny
Speaker 1: toy anyway, wiping my tears, but you guys are happy
Speaker 1: tears like they're happy. But I think it's okay to say,
Speaker 1: I don't know. Mom's out there, Please let us know
Speaker 1: what you think of this, because this is kind of
Speaker 1: my first baby that's like really independent, hit a milestone.
Speaker 1: Tell me if you felt like a grieving process, because
Speaker 1: I'm feeling that right now and I don't want to
Speaker 1: hide my feelings, like that's how I feel, So let
Speaker 1: me know that I'm all alone here. If this is normal?
Speaker 2: Normal? What's normal? Anyway?
Speaker 1: She's seventeen, she has her license. Everything just happened at once.
Speaker 1: She's talking to a boy. Oh my god, Oh what's next.
Speaker 1: She can do anything. She could be present, she really
Speaker 1: could anyway. Now now she's like, mom, let's talk cars.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh boy, here we go. But she's so good.
Speaker 1: She's like, we only have one car, and she's like,
Speaker 1: if we can invest in a second car, I can
Speaker 1: start to help you when you're working to do.
Speaker 2: Pickups, it'll be easier. And I was like, smart girl,
Speaker 2: smart girl. Yep.
Speaker 1: So she's saying that if we invest in a second car,
Speaker 1: she can do this. But anyway, her dream car is
Speaker 1: a Bronco, and little known fact, I've always wanted a Bronco,
Speaker 1: like a vintage one, which she weren't vintage vintage cars.
Speaker 1: I used to have a collection, of course I did,
Speaker 1: but I couldn't fit those in storage. So but yeah,
Speaker 1: I've always been a car collector like vintage cars, loved
Speaker 1: empty cars, and Stella shares that passion with me, so
Speaker 1: we always talk pickup trucks.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, oh my god, I you know, I
Speaker 2: used to have a fifty four Chevy bel Air. I
Speaker 2: had a fifty fifty five. No, I had a fifty
Speaker 2: four Chevy pickup I had.
Speaker 1: I think I had a fifty six Chevy bel Air.
Speaker 2: Oh God. Anyway, I'm always like, oh baby, so.
Speaker 1: My car that I had, which was this fifty four
Speaker 1: Chevy pickup which Stella loves vintage pickups, and this like
Speaker 1: this turquoise kind of color.
Speaker 2: I actually I showed her pictures and she's like, oh
Speaker 2: my gosh, that would be my.
Speaker 1: One of my dream cars. I actually was like, how
Speaker 1: do I find this car? Like I want to reach
Speaker 1: out to this person. And then I remembered in my
Speaker 1: you know, one hundred and eighty five thousand emails that
Speaker 1: I've never cleaned up this whole other story that at
Speaker 1: some point the owner of it had emailed me and said,
Speaker 1: I don't know if this is true, but we saw
Speaker 1: your name as one of the past owners was on
Speaker 1: the Vin slip or whatever.
Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: And now she's like, my son has it and they
Speaker 1: live in the Midwest, I think, and it's in all
Speaker 1: kinds of car shows and everything. Very it's like very famous,
Speaker 1: this this Chevy pickup. But about a year ago one
Speaker 1: time I was thinking ahead. I reached out and I said,
Speaker 1: would you ever consider selling it back to us? Because
Speaker 1: my daughter, this is before.
Speaker 2: She was like fifteen. I was like, no, sixteen.
Speaker 1: I was like, she's in the process or got her permit,
Speaker 1: she's going to get her license, and this would be
Speaker 1: so special if we could make this her first car
Speaker 1: because it meant so much to me. It was a
Speaker 1: big part of my you know, my twenties, my formative years,
Speaker 1: and you know when I just started you know, nine
Speaker 1: or two one zero and done it like it was
Speaker 1: one of the first cars that I bought on my own,
Speaker 1: and like, I don't know, and they were really nice
Speaker 1: and said, we'll keep in touch. But I guess the
Speaker 1: car's doing so well in car shows they're like, we're
Speaker 1: not selling this car, but yeah, so I'm hopefully going
Speaker 1: to be able to get back back one day so
Speaker 1: I can get it to sell it anyway, So she
Speaker 1: wants a Bronco and that was always one of my
Speaker 1: dream cars. But like a vintage Bronco, like from the eighties,
Speaker 1: like and anyway, I talk to everybody and they're like,
Speaker 1: her first car, you really don't want to get like
Speaker 1: a vintage car because you know the repair and if
Speaker 1: something happens and it breaks down, it's not so easy
Speaker 1: and getting it fixed and it's just not as it's
Speaker 1: not as safe. It's like a second car. So anyway,
Speaker 1: so now I'm stuck having to try to find a
Speaker 1: newish Bronco, like I used Bronco but like you know,
Speaker 1: two thousand and like twenty one, twenty two, So if
Speaker 1: you know anyone who knows anyone, then might be willing
Speaker 1: to sell a bra we're looking. And then I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: because Ruthanna has a Bronco, right, but.
Speaker 2: She doesn't want yours. You can't have mine?
Speaker 1: No, But she I was like, oh, you know, like
Speaker 1: ruth Ane's time and she's like, no, not the sport.
Speaker 2: I need the four I need. This girl can talk
Speaker 2: me into anything.
Speaker 1: She's like, it's better to transport more children if I
Speaker 1: can get the four door. It's easier to get bow
Speaker 1: in and out if it's you know, booster and all
Speaker 1: that and groceries.
Speaker 2: Smart girl.
Speaker 1: She has an answer for everything, and like even if
Speaker 1: you know the right thing, she'll talk you around and
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, she's right.
Speaker 2: I don't even know what just happened. Chip off the.
Speaker 1: Old block anyway. So yeah, so our next step is
Speaker 1: getting the car. So we're looking and she's so funny.
Speaker 1: She's like been doing all this research. She's like Facebook,
Speaker 1: Marketplace and like all this, and like, yeah, we can
Speaker 1: just put an offer in and get the car. I'm like, no, no,
Speaker 1: I think we're supposed to go look and ask questions
Speaker 1: and I'm supposed to like check the dungeine, check the oil.
Speaker 1: I don't know, oh god, how many miles you know?
Speaker 1: And she's just like, no, it looks great, let's buy it.
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, slow your role.
Speaker 1: But yeah, so that's the next thing we're doing. Oh
Speaker 1: it's my baby's birthday, so wish Stella a happy birthday
Speaker 1: on Instagram and don't tell her we had this conversation.
Speaker 2: Because we're like, moment's so embarrasing, just kidding, Happy birthday
Speaker 2: to her. And she has her license and my god,
Speaker 2: life just moves so fast. God, you blink and they're grown.
Speaker 1: It's true Happy Birthday, Buggy,