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Speaker 1: Misspelling with Tori spelling an iHeartRadio podcast. You guys, huge,

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Speaker 1: huge milestone in this household. Today is my daughter's birthday.

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Speaker 1: It's Stella's birthday. Happy birthday, baby, sorry O.

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Speaker 2: Happy birthday, Sa.

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Speaker 1: And something really big happened. If I say it out loud,

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Speaker 1: it's true, Stella. I'm gonna close my eyes because it's

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Speaker 1: hard for this mom's say it. Stella got her driver's license.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, amazing. Oh.

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Speaker 1: I have mixed emotions. I think it's okay to say

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Speaker 1: that as a mom. I am so proud of this

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Speaker 2: But oh gosh.

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Speaker 1: So I have five kids. As you guys know, Stella

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Speaker 1: is my oldest daughter. I remember being pregnant with her

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Speaker 1: and we had a fung shwe guy. David was his name.

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Speaker 1: I was pregnant with her. I had Liam. Liam was

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Speaker 1: my firstborn. They are fifteen months apart, and we were

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Speaker 1: filming our show, our reality show, Tori and Dean and

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Speaker 1: we our first home we had just bought, and we

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Speaker 1: brought him on to do this fung shwe and he

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Speaker 1: was like, you're carrying a daughter. I was like, okay, David,

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Speaker 1: did you google me?

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Speaker 2: You know?

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Speaker 1: Everyone knows this because we found out with our first two.

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Speaker 1: We found out and then you know, a boy and

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Speaker 1: a girl. We kind of had the surprise with Hattie, Finn,

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Speaker 1: Finn were total surprises. But he was like, you're carrying

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Speaker 1: a daughter and I was like yes, and he was like,

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Speaker 1: oh boy, and I was like what no pun intended,

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Speaker 1: Oh boy, no, David, it's a girl. But he turned

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Speaker 1: to Dean and he was like, oh Dad, you're gonna

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Speaker 1: have your hands full. And I was like tell me,

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Speaker 1: and he's like, she is going to be the one.

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Speaker 1: She is gonna challenge you guys, you're gonna always butt heads.

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Speaker 1: But she's going to be strong, she's gonna be independent.

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Speaker 1: She is going to be her own human. And it's

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Speaker 1: interesting because I call her Buggy lady bug, and I

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Speaker 1: think we all come up with names for our kiddos

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Speaker 1: when they're born. Just something comes to us, Like Liam,

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Speaker 1: who's eighteen now, I still call monkey and he allows

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Speaker 1: me to grateful and it came out of nowhere. Like

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Speaker 1: he was like always in his little jumping thing and

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Speaker 2: Jump jump, jump jump, and I was like always like

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Speaker 2: a little monkey.

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Speaker 1: Jump dump jump, So monkey was it, and I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Lady Bug when she came out, she was I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I was just like Ladybug.

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Speaker 1: And to this day she has everything Ladybugs. She's she's

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Speaker 1: still She just made a memory box with her best

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Speaker 2: Memory box, Oh my god, it's starting.

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Speaker 1: What was the thing that girls' parents used to make

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Speaker 2: They would guys know what I'm talking about. It was

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Speaker 2: almost like a chest, like a hope chest.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it was that, and then it had other names

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Speaker 1: And yeah, so she started making her memory box and

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Speaker 1: she good things. You know, I have everything and anything,

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Speaker 1: and was very much I would say he's totally like

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Speaker 2: Like his first word was dad, like daddad.

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Speaker 1: But he always was like a daddy's boy. Now he's

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Speaker 1: Hopefully she won't listen to this. She was also the

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Speaker 1: type like Liam was like the zen baby. In fact,

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Speaker 1: And it's so interesting because she with Liam, we we

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Speaker 1: we threw you a good egg, so you'll.

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Speaker 2: Keep pro creating and have more.

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Speaker 1: Because Liam, like we were like Dan and I were like,

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Speaker 1: We don't want to be like, oh, we're all baby

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Speaker 2: Your baby's two and.

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Speaker 1: A half months and I was like, well, working parents,

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Speaker 2: And the baby's new. No, I don't know. We did it.

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Speaker 1: And I just member being on a plane and it

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Speaker 1: But we got on the plane with our newborn and

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Speaker 1: Okay, pushed the button for the flight attendant and they

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Speaker 1: Moved to the second floor of this fancy ass plane.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, The ironic thing is Liam went to sleep and slept.

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Speaker 1: Like people were praising us, like, oh my gosh, we

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Speaker 2: What was that Snakes on a Plane? God, I love

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Speaker 1: Like he's so well behaved and we're like, thank you.

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Speaker 1: and then there's this woman and she's like militant and

432
00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:56,359
Speaker 1: by the book, and you know it throws people off

433
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:57,720
Speaker 1: young drivers.

434
00:26:57,960 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 2: And he's like yeah, he's like.

435
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:02,480
Speaker 1: So, oh, I felt happy for you when I saw

436
00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:05,040
Speaker 1: your daughter got this man because he's like nice, he

437
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 1: looks you in the eye. He makes everyone feel comfortable.

438
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 1: And he's like, my niece got the woman and she

439
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:13,440
Speaker 1: was just like looked down and look me in the eye.

440
00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 1: And she goes passenger exit car we're going and he's like,

441
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:20,480
Speaker 1: oh god, he's like so and I said, oh my gosh,

442
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:24,080
Speaker 1: well I hope your niece gets it. And he's like yeah,

443
00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 1: He's like, I hope your daughter gets it. I'm like

444
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 1: so we sat there and consoled each other for ten minutes.

445
00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:34,480
Speaker 1: I was literally like I took video and still was

446
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 1: like stop taking video before She's like I don't have

447
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 1: makeup on, and I'm like, you love great baby, And

448
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:42,240
Speaker 1: then I'm you know, of course, my whole thing I

449
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 1: did last week. I'm no, no makeup makes us feel comfortable.

450
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:49,639
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I'm not posting this, baby. I just

451
00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 1: spit on my zoom screen.

452
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:51,920
Speaker 2: Sorry I got excited.

453
00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:55,639
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not posting this baby. I'm like, this

454
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 1: is just like memory stake, so like I have the

455
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:01,160
Speaker 1: video of like them driving off and.

456
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 2: I'm like there she goes.

457
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:07,439
Speaker 1: Anyway, ten minutes later, I'm sitting there literally like my

458
00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 1: stomach is in naught, and I'm already preparing the speech

459
00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 1: like it's okay. A lot of people fail the first time,

460
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:18,440
Speaker 1: and you know, you wait, I think two weeks and

461
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:22,280
Speaker 1: is this no big deal? It's just a blip, you know,

462
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 1: on the radar. Anyway, they pull back in and she

463
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:30,119
Speaker 1: gets out of the car and I'm just like smiling,

464
00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:33,320
Speaker 1: like what's happening, and she gives me the thumbs.

465
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 2: Up and I was like yes, and she goes, I

466
00:28:35,640 --> 00:28:37,880
Speaker 2: got it. I'm like, oh my god, you got it.

467
00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:42,480
Speaker 2: I felt like we we got it. Oh my god.

468
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 1: I literally and you know, you guys, I talk about

469
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:49,680
Speaker 1: feelings and like that I have none, which is a lie.

470
00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 1: That's a story I've told myself. It's getting old now.

471
00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:54,880
Speaker 2: I just start bawling.

472
00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 1: And I was like crying so hard. And I'm not

473
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:01,560
Speaker 1: a cryer at all, like grew up thinking like crying

474
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:03,720
Speaker 1: so sign a weakness. And it was just like, oh

475
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:08,480
Speaker 1: my gosh, this feeling of just like so much happiness,

476
00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:13,040
Speaker 1: and you know, I said I'm like, oh my god,

477
00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:17,840
Speaker 1: you have your license. I literally I go, what do

478
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:19,880
Speaker 1: you want? Like, do you want me uber home?

479
00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 2: You could just drive? And she's like no, no, no, no,

480
00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:25,320
Speaker 2: it's kind of far. Let's go together.

481
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:29,160
Speaker 1: So I'm like okay, okay, And so she drove and

482
00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:34,440
Speaker 1: here I am mom sitting in the passenger seat, and

483
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 1: we went to sushi, our favorite sushi restaurant shout out

484
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 1: Shabu yah and had sushi and a mother daughter date,

485
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 1: which is long overdue, you know, because as a mom

486
00:29:47,880 --> 00:29:50,960
Speaker 1: of five, sometimes it's hard to not travel as a

487
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 1: unit and we do everything together. But because of that,

488
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:57,280
Speaker 1: you know, I feel bad that some of the kids

489
00:29:57,280 --> 00:30:00,280
Speaker 1: don't get one on one with me as much as

490
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:03,120
Speaker 1: I would like them too. It's just I don't have

491
00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:06,120
Speaker 1: that luxury right now of being able to do that.

492
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:11,120
Speaker 1: But everyone's in school, and I was able to go

493
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:14,000
Speaker 1: to lunch with her and it was a great lunch.

494
00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:17,560
Speaker 1: And then afterwards she was like, Okay, can I borrow

495
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:21,280
Speaker 1: the car? I'm going to go and pick up my friends.

496
00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:24,280
Speaker 1: And I was like, okay, baby, yeah, of course, and

497
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:28,720
Speaker 1: she took the car and that was it. That was it,

498
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:33,560
Speaker 1: and I had so many emotions because in that moment,

499
00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:36,760
Speaker 1: I like everything changed.

500
00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:47,480
Speaker 2: As proud as I was, it was really like.

501
00:30:47,680 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 1: This huge disconnect and it was really like part of

502
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:58,960
Speaker 1: me was being ripped out and just let like hand

503
00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:01,640
Speaker 1: it over into the world. And I know, it's not

504
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 1: like she's moved out. It's not like she's going to college.

505
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:07,280
Speaker 1: And she definitely she's the one that's like, you know,

506
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:10,240
Speaker 1: I want to go to college. Luckily she wants to

507
00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 1: stay in California, but she wants an apartment. And I'm like,

508
00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 1: the college she wants to go to. I'm like, well,

509
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:18,160
Speaker 1: you could drive home, you know, and she's like I could,

510
00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 1: but I think I want an apartment. I'm like, okay, yeah,

511
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 1: But she's so independent. I knew this day was coming,

512
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 1: but I really she came home last night and I

513
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 1: just all of a sudden, like she wasn't little Buggy anymore.

514
00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:41,360
Speaker 1: And for the first time, I was like, gosh, I

515
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 1: had that feeling that my baby, not that she was gone,

516
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 1: but like, but she was gone.

517
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 2: Does that make sense?

518
00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:54,360
Speaker 1: And I looked at her different, and I looked at

519
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:57,480
Speaker 1: her and I was like, she's this woman, this independent woman,

520
00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 1: and it's not like my job is done. But like

521
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 1: I always, We've been best friends forever, but like this

522
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:09,800
Speaker 1: to me was this defining, cut the cord moment where

523
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 1: I viewed her differently. And they always say, like, I

524
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:16,560
Speaker 1: don't know, all of us moms out there have a

525
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 1: different photograph in our head of our babies at a

526
00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:24,800
Speaker 1: certain age, like for Stella, it's like Buggy at like

527
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:28,880
Speaker 1: age three, and I see it, and I can see

528
00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 1: it right now. But then I look at her and

529
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:35,720
Speaker 1: I was just like, Okay, she's she's my equal.

530
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:39,280
Speaker 2: Now. I don't even feel worthy to say that. She's

531
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:41,200
Speaker 2: like far evolved.

532
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 1: Beyond me, and I was no longer looking down at

533
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 1: my baby. I was looking up at this woman that

534
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:53,160
Speaker 1: this woman that has taught me so much that I

535
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:56,840
Speaker 1: feel like I I never give myself credit, but I

536
00:32:56,880 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 1: feel like I did a really good job raised her,

537
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 1: instilling really good morals and lead with kindness and.

538
00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:10,320
Speaker 2: Be a really good human. But I didn't know how

539
00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 2: to instill in her to be the independent human that

540
00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 2: she is because I didn't know how to be that person.

541
00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:20,080
Speaker 2: No part she figured out on her own. So it's

542
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 2: just hard because I don't know. I feel like.

543
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 1: It's that's it, Like she's she's off and you know. Sorry,

544
00:33:35,440 --> 00:33:39,800
Speaker 1: And I'm saying it like it's a death, but there

545
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 1: is a part. And I don't know if all moms

546
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 1: out there that have children when they hit a certain

547
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,320
Speaker 1: age or they leave the nest or they move out.

548
00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:53,000
Speaker 2: That you it's like a grieving process.

549
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:58,000
Speaker 1: And I'm feeling that grieving process, which I'm beating myself

550
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 1: up about because I'm like, oh my God, be so

551
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:02,520
Speaker 1: proud of her, and.

552
00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:05,440
Speaker 2: I would never tell her this. Yeah, I'm telling the

553
00:34:05,480 --> 00:34:05,920
Speaker 2: world this.

554
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 1: Oh boy, I have a very dysfunctional life style anyway,

555
00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:17,319
Speaker 1: but I'm grieving that baby that's no longer there, and

556
00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 1: she'll always be my baby and I call her baby

557
00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:23,440
Speaker 1: and she'll be my baby forever. But I'm looking at

558
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 1: her in a very different way now that I never knew.

559
00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:33,760
Speaker 1: I'd look at her with new eyes and so much respect.

560
00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 1: This is supposed to be a funny story. I'm funny

561
00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:45,640
Speaker 1: toy anyway, wiping my tears, but you guys are happy

562
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:49,280
Speaker 1: tears like they're happy. But I think it's okay to say,

563
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 1: I don't know. Mom's out there, Please let us know

564
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:57,239
Speaker 1: what you think of this, because this is kind of

565
00:34:57,280 --> 00:35:02,720
Speaker 1: my first baby that's like really independent, hit a milestone.

566
00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:06,320
Speaker 1: Tell me if you felt like a grieving process, because

567
00:35:08,200 --> 00:35:10,480
Speaker 1: I'm feeling that right now and I don't want to

568
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:14,040
Speaker 1: hide my feelings, like that's how I feel, So let

569
00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 1: me know that I'm all alone here. If this is normal?

570
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 2: Normal? What's normal? Anyway?

571
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:32,520
Speaker 1: She's seventeen, she has her license. Everything just happened at once.

572
00:35:33,120 --> 00:35:39,640
Speaker 1: She's talking to a boy. Oh my god, Oh what's next.

573
00:35:40,200 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 1: She can do anything. She could be present, she really

574
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:52,080
Speaker 1: could anyway. Now now she's like, mom, let's talk cars.

575
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:55,520
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh boy, here we go. But she's so good.

576
00:35:55,640 --> 00:36:00,080
Speaker 1: She's like, we only have one car, and she's like,

577
00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:04,480
Speaker 1: if we can invest in a second car, I can

578
00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:07,800
Speaker 1: start to help you when you're working to do.

579
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:11,680
Speaker 2: Pickups, it'll be easier. And I was like, smart girl,

580
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:12,919
Speaker 2: smart girl. Yep.

581
00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:17,360
Speaker 1: So she's saying that if we invest in a second car,

582
00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 1: she can do this. But anyway, her dream car is

583
00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:27,360
Speaker 1: a Bronco, and little known fact, I've always wanted a Bronco,

584
00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:31,160
Speaker 1: like a vintage one, which she weren't vintage vintage cars.

585
00:36:31,239 --> 00:36:33,719
Speaker 1: I used to have a collection, of course I did,

586
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:39,360
Speaker 1: but I couldn't fit those in storage. So but yeah,

587
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:42,880
Speaker 1: I've always been a car collector like vintage cars, loved

588
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 1: empty cars, and Stella shares that passion with me, so

589
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:48,440
Speaker 1: we always talk pickup trucks.

590
00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:50,239
Speaker 2: And I'm like, oh my god, I you know, I

591
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:52,480
Speaker 2: used to have a fifty four Chevy bel Air. I

592
00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 2: had a fifty fifty five. No, I had a fifty

593
00:36:57,200 --> 00:36:59,960
Speaker 2: four Chevy pickup I had.

594
00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 1: I think I had a fifty six Chevy bel Air.

595
00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:07,439
Speaker 2: Oh God. Anyway, I'm always like, oh baby, so.

596
00:37:09,040 --> 00:37:12,319
Speaker 1: My car that I had, which was this fifty four

597
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:18,120
Speaker 1: Chevy pickup which Stella loves vintage pickups, and this like

598
00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:20,160
Speaker 1: this turquoise kind of color.

599
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:25,239
Speaker 2: I actually I showed her pictures and she's like, oh

600
00:37:25,320 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 2: my gosh, that would be my.

601
00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:30,279
Speaker 1: One of my dream cars. I actually was like, how

602
00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:32,800
Speaker 1: do I find this car? Like I want to reach

603
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:36,279
Speaker 1: out to this person. And then I remembered in my

604
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:40,160
Speaker 1: you know, one hundred and eighty five thousand emails that

605
00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:45,080
Speaker 1: I've never cleaned up this whole other story that at

606
00:37:45,080 --> 00:37:50,360
Speaker 1: some point the owner of it had emailed me and said,

607
00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 1: I don't know if this is true, but we saw

608
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:54,279
Speaker 1: your name as one of the past owners was on

609
00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:56,480
Speaker 1: the Vin slip or whatever.

610
00:37:57,640 --> 00:37:58,880
Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, oh my gosh.

611
00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:01,879
Speaker 1: And now she's like, my son has it and they

612
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:05,319
Speaker 1: live in the Midwest, I think, and it's in all

613
00:38:05,400 --> 00:38:08,640
Speaker 1: kinds of car shows and everything. Very it's like very famous,

614
00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 1: this this Chevy pickup. But about a year ago one

615
00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 1: time I was thinking ahead. I reached out and I said,

616
00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:24,200
Speaker 1: would you ever consider selling it back to us? Because

617
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 1: my daughter, this is before.

618
00:38:25,760 --> 00:38:28,560
Speaker 2: She was like fifteen. I was like, no, sixteen.

619
00:38:28,560 --> 00:38:31,520
Speaker 1: I was like, she's in the process or got her permit,

620
00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:34,759
Speaker 1: she's going to get her license, and this would be

621
00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 1: so special if we could make this her first car

622
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:43,279
Speaker 1: because it meant so much to me. It was a

623
00:38:43,320 --> 00:38:47,320
Speaker 1: big part of my you know, my twenties, my formative years,

624
00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 1: and you know when I just started you know, nine

625
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 1: or two one zero and done it like it was

626
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:55,040
Speaker 1: one of the first cars that I bought on my own,

627
00:38:55,120 --> 00:39:00,680
Speaker 1: and like, I don't know, and they were really nice

628
00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:03,160
Speaker 1: and said, we'll keep in touch. But I guess the

629
00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:05,839
Speaker 1: car's doing so well in car shows they're like, we're

630
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:10,600
Speaker 1: not selling this car, but yeah, so I'm hopefully going

631
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:12,440
Speaker 1: to be able to get back back one day so

632
00:39:12,480 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 1: I can get it to sell it anyway, So she

633
00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:18,400
Speaker 1: wants a Bronco and that was always one of my

634
00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:21,560
Speaker 1: dream cars. But like a vintage Bronco, like from the eighties,

635
00:39:21,640 --> 00:39:25,880
Speaker 1: like and anyway, I talk to everybody and they're like,

636
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:28,680
Speaker 1: her first car, you really don't want to get like

637
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:32,239
Speaker 1: a vintage car because you know the repair and if

638
00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:34,880
Speaker 1: something happens and it breaks down, it's not so easy

639
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 1: and getting it fixed and it's just not as it's

640
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:42,719
Speaker 1: not as safe. It's like a second car. So anyway,

641
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:46,680
Speaker 1: so now I'm stuck having to try to find a

642
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,960
Speaker 1: newish Bronco, like I used Bronco but like you know,

643
00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:55,399
Speaker 1: two thousand and like twenty one, twenty two, So if

644
00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:58,960
Speaker 1: you know anyone who knows anyone, then might be willing

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Speaker 1: to sell a bra we're looking. And then I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: because Ruthanna has a Bronco, right, but.

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Speaker 2: She doesn't want yours. You can't have mine?

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Speaker 1: No, But she I was like, oh, you know, like

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Speaker 1: ruth Ane's time and she's like, no, not the sport.

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Speaker 2: I need the four I need. This girl can talk

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Speaker 2: me into anything.

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Speaker 1: She's like, it's better to transport more children if I

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Speaker 1: can get the four door. It's easier to get bow

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Speaker 1: in and out if it's you know, booster and all

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Speaker 1: that and groceries.

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Speaker 2: Smart girl.

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Speaker 1: She has an answer for everything, and like even if

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Speaker 1: you know the right thing, she'll talk you around and

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Speaker 1: you're like, oh, she's right.

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Speaker 2: I don't even know what just happened. Chip off the.

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Speaker 1: Old block anyway. So yeah, so our next step is

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Speaker 1: getting the car. So we're looking and she's so funny.

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Speaker 1: She's like been doing all this research. She's like Facebook,

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Speaker 1: Marketplace and like all this, and like, yeah, we can

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Speaker 1: just put an offer in and get the car. I'm like, no, no,

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Speaker 1: I think we're supposed to go look and ask questions

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Speaker 1: and I'm supposed to like check the dungeine, check the oil.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, oh god, how many miles you know?

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Speaker 1: And she's just like, no, it looks great, let's buy it.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, slow your role.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, so that's the next thing we're doing. Oh

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Speaker 1: it's my baby's birthday, so wish Stella a happy birthday

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Speaker 1: on Instagram and don't tell her we had this conversation.

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Speaker 2: Because we're like, moment's so embarrasing, just kidding, Happy birthday

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Speaker 2: to her. And she has her license and my god,

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Speaker 2: life just moves so fast. God, you blink and they're grown.

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Speaker 1: It's true Happy Birthday, Buggy,