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Speaker 2: Yes, because more of the marrier.

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Speaker 1: Oh, this comes from me and my thoughts sixty six

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Speaker 1: And they say, would I be the a hole to

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Speaker 1: say no to a second baby shower with my husband's family? Hi,

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Speaker 1: I'm twenty eight and I'm currently twenty five weeks pregnant.

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Speaker 1: Both my family and my husband's family have talked about

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Speaker 1: a baby shower. His family told me, who puts the

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Speaker 1: and everything. So my mom went ahead and just put

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Speaker 1: a deposit down posit just and we picked the middle

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Speaker 1: of June because I'll be thirty two ish weeks pregnant.

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Speaker 1: I've already been really sick and in pain throughout my

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Speaker 1: whole pregnancy, so I didn't want to have to host

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Speaker 1: people like that. My mother in law and grandmother in

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Speaker 1: law got really angry over the date because the whole

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Speaker 1: week before they had a family reunion planned a whole

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Speaker 1: week before to do it. Like not that they planned

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Speaker 1: a family reunion a week before for that date they had,

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Speaker 1: and that family union to happen a week before this event? What? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: exactly you.

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Speaker 2: Can't just the week before have a family reunion, Like,

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Speaker 2: how many people are involved? Is this an immediate family reuni.

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Speaker 1: Well, you could have a family reunion in the week before. No,

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Speaker 1: it's fine the week before.

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Speaker 2: Oh I thought they planned it the week before.

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Speaker 1: You like, like, they are having the family union a

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Speaker 1: week before this event, So what does there's no overlap?

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Speaker 1: It doesn't matter. Yeah, okay, So what's the issue? I

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Speaker 1: don't know, doesn't make sense. I knew that and thought

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Speaker 1: it'll be enough time. All they had to do was

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Speaker 1: come and eat. Well, they are saying they won't go

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Speaker 1: to the baby shower, and his mom went on a

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Speaker 1: whole rant about however, since I got pregnant, I haven't

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Speaker 1: considered her feelings or listened to her at all. My

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Speaker 1: of her attitude, her lives, her putting him on antipsychotics

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Speaker 1: when he was eight. He said he was done with

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Speaker 1: them and their drama. This morning, my grandmother in law

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Speaker 1: text me and ask if I could have two baby showers,

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Speaker 1: one being in July around the time I'll be thirty

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Speaker 1: seven ish weeks. Would I be the a hole if

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Speaker 1: I say no? I would like advice on how to

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Speaker 1: handle this. My husband just tells me to do what

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Speaker 1: I want and he will be beside me no matter what.

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Speaker 1: W husband, there isn't at it. But but but Riley,

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Speaker 1: what do we think is opda hole for saying no.

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Speaker 2: One person just wants another baby shower? Right? Yeah, and

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Speaker 2: how about you just go get lunch or a nice

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Speaker 2: dinner with them and give them a gift exactly, They

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Speaker 2: don't need a It sounds like they want to party

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Speaker 2: thrown for them for the baby shower.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's your baby and your shower, so act

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like they're like, oh, I'm gonna be a godmother.

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Speaker 2: Let me get a shout out real quick. Yeah, get

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Speaker 2: party for me.

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Speaker 1: No no, no, no, no, no.

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Speaker 3: And I can't believe they're mad about it being like

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Speaker 3: it's like a week away.

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Speaker 1: And I don't understand what it depends.

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Speaker 2: On how far away they are. If they live long distance,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know if it like maybe it's like

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because like back home, they'll be like a baby

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Speaker 2: shower and then like a birthday next week. I'm like, hey,

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I can only make its one. Then I

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Speaker 1: So which is more important baby shower, birthday?

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Speaker 2: Ooh, depends on a family member, low key, because if

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Speaker 2: it's a cousin that's like it's our fourth kid, then

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Speaker 1: We go, here we go, here we go. All right,

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Speaker 2: Oh, then I'm going to the baby shower.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, here's only one baby shower.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Now, if it was it was one younger brother's

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Speaker 2: twenty first birthday and the and a cousin that's having

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Speaker 1: But let's get into this at So, his family is

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Speaker 1: My husband is very embarrassed of his family right now

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Speaker 1: update in some relevant comments, So I think that's okay.

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Speaker 1: Like do the baby showers for you and your baby,

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Speaker 1: so like, do what feels good for you, don't.

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Speaker 2: You gotta get the vibe. If you throw another one,

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Speaker 2: What's saying Gmail? I want to say grandmother in law.

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Speaker 2: Hate it when they use like these freaking acronyms.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, also let us know if it's grandmother in law.

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Speaker 3: I think that's right, but I'm not sure so relevant

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Speaker 1: The PIP says, you are under zero obligation to go

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Speaker 1: to a second baby shower. You were having one already

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Speaker 1: Being pregnant is hard enough without dealing with this craft,

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Speaker 1: not the a hole. Screw them, Opie responds, thank you.

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Speaker 1: I'm very much a pushover, which is why they kept

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Speaker 1: It's the update that we will dive right in. Thank you,

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Speaker 1: Alfred replies and judgments. It has really helped with my people.

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Speaker 1: Please your tendencies. My husband's mother is definitely not coming

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Speaker 1: to the shower of her own choice. Good. She called

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Speaker 2: So like, it's like he told greg mother in law

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Speaker 1: My grandmother in law texted my mother yelling at her,

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Speaker 1: the congrats on my baby boy. It's my first baby

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Speaker 1: I'm I am appalled that both the mother in law

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, they're just both crazy.

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Speaker 1: They're both crazy runs in the family. At least didn't

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Speaker 2: That is true.

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Speaker 1: That is true. Sounds like op got a good one

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Speaker 2: Ended that whole bloodline because the husband almost didn't have kids. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: crazy gene. Yeah, oh big yikes, bigykes. But just you

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Speaker 1: So I want to know what y' all think of

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Speaker 1: like that happens, and that's I think a normal thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah? So, Opie, I don't think you said anything. I mean,

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Speaker 2: Do you just have a recording of the restaurant? No audio?

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Speaker 2: I just want to see your facial expression.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, can you can you? Uh? Can you actually record

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: What your voice sounded like in responding to your dad?

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Speaker 2: Be honest and truthful?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Or sorry? What your voice sounded like in responding

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Speaker 2: Could you get your current boyfriend to reenact out with him?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Also, did you have a conversation with your boyfriend

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Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah, this is two years ago.

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Speaker 2: Are you guys still together? Have you had another conversation

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Speaker 1: This is two years ago. I need to know people

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Speaker 1: I want to know, Yeah, are you still together? We

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Speaker 2: I need answers now.

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Speaker 1: We need updates. Oh, so you know what you need

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Speaker 1: an update? You're a freaking subscribe button. If you haven't

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Speaker 2: For What time is it for a colin?

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Speaker 1: We've done one of these in a while, we.

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Speaker 2: Haven't done one of these. So the colin is brother

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Speaker 2: had a girlfriend, caught her cheating, ending up ended up

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Speaker 1: Let's hear it.

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Speaker 5: Your call has been forwarded to voice.

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Speaker 1: We text them.

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Speaker 5: Your call has been forwarded to voice.

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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam from Okay OPI show. Who am

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Speaker 2: Adri Adri?

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Speaker 5: Yes?

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Speaker 1: Hello, how's it going?

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Speaker 5: Did you very.

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Speaker 1: Well with Riley? Right now? Recil a little episode? I

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Speaker 1: saw your text. Brother had a girlfriend, caught her cheating,

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Speaker 1: ended up in a threesome with their parents. Uh, it's

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Speaker 1: like the two minute breakdown of how this is having.

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Speaker 2: Oh also you have five minutes?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, Riley, Riley's being aggressive with the time today.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, let us know.

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Speaker 5: Okay. So basically, he had an older best friend, which

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Speaker 5: is his ex girlfriend's dad, and he was dating the

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Speaker 5: girlfriend cheating and not technically related. It's kind of funny

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Speaker 5: that happened that right after that, but he was down

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Speaker 5: and his best friend was like, you know what, you

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Speaker 5: which was his the girlfriend's mom. And then it just tapped.

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Speaker 1: What why why why?

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Speaker 4: Wait?

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Speaker 1: Why did you agree? And it's like this is just

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Speaker 5: Yeah. It was just a random spur of the moment.

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Speaker 5: And the wife was like, all, I guess she had

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Speaker 1: Wait, okay, okay, so did he ask you this question? Were? Okay?

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Speaker 1: Wait wait wait? So so to be clear, to be clear,

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Speaker 1: do you want to have a threesome because we've always

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Speaker 1: thought you were kind of hot, And then your brother

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Speaker 1: was like, heck, yeah, down and he's telling you this story? Yes,

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Speaker 1: what did your brother said? It was fun? He said

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Speaker 1: it was fun.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, he actually enjoyed it.

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Speaker 1: But how did it blow Like? How did it blow up?

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Speaker 1: Because you said it blowed up because of this? Right?

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Speaker 5: Well, somehow it came out and I'm not quite sure,

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Speaker 5: but he did tell the ex later on. I think

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Speaker 5: he said this. I'm not quite sure and I can't

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Speaker 5: really ask him. He did say the mom was better

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Speaker 5: than the girlfriend, and I'm not sure if he actually

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Speaker 5: told the girlfriend that or not.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I mean.

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Speaker 1: She has more experience on her I guess, Oh my yeah,

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Speaker 1: oh my god.

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Speaker 2: Where do you know where he was whenever he was

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Speaker 2: approached with this information.

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Speaker 5: Well, he was driving and the couple was in the back.

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Speaker 5: They kind of started it back there and then they

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Speaker 5: finished up at one of their houses.

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Speaker 1: Why why was he driving them?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, William, she's best friends with the dad. Oh, it

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Speaker 5: was like he was hanging out with his best friend

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Speaker 5: when his ex wife.

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Speaker 1: Basically, that is the messiest story I have heard in

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Speaker 1: a while. How's your brother do it now?

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Speaker 4: Uh?

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Speaker 5: He actually passed away in March. Oh no, and I

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Speaker 5: found you guys around shortly after that, and it's been

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Speaker 5: helping me a lot.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm so sorry. Well, I'm I'm glad.

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Speaker 5: I have a lot of messy stories with him of

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Speaker 5: all super probably hear more.

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Speaker 1: Well, I guess one way to keep his memory alive

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Speaker 1: through the crazy experiences that he's been having.

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Speaker 5: Definitely.

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Speaker 1: Wow. Well, thank you so much for sharing your story.

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Speaker 1: And uh, I'm glad we could all remember your brother together.

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Speaker 5: All Right, you're welcome.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thanks for watching. We appreciate you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you want some You're welcome.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, watching tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: Okay, what's your handle?

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Speaker 5: My handle is a pH trash queen, a.

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Speaker 1: pH trash queen.

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Speaker 2: You better comment tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, we're gonna be looking out for that handle.

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Speaker 5: Definitely, I'll be in.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for calling in by you guys tomorrow. Bye. Like

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Speaker 1: somehow messy and heartfelt at the same time.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, like oh oh like my brother. Oh dude,

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Speaker 2: that's so said. I was not expecting the last war.

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Speaker 2: That was not oh hearts in the chat for trash bandom.

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Speaker 1: That's trash banda trash trash something.

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Speaker 2: Something we'll figure we'll remember tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: Editor put that thing in there. Trash.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be honest, weirdly wholesome, literally wholesome. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But also if you want to submit your own story,

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Speaker 1: calls at four four zero five year eight six five

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Speaker 1: six seven. But if you love us, make sure to subscribe,

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Speaker 1: and we love you and see you tomorrow. This is

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Speaker 1: an episode from Deep within the Archives.

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Speaker 3: Time for okop rewash anyone the ahole for sleeping in

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Speaker 3: a stranger's door. But when I was visiting my friend

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Speaker 3: at college, I am pro getting that D or given

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Speaker 3: that D.

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Speaker 4: But we will see.

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Speaker 1: Wait, what is that the intro? No?

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Speaker 4: No, no, the last part was me. That would have

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Speaker 4: been quite a tale though.

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Speaker 1: And also shout out ope they submitted this in our

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Speaker 1: subreddit r slash okop show.

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Speaker 3: Give them the shadowt what's their handle? That's right, it

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Speaker 3: is purple soup.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a purple simple soup. Also, if anyone listening

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Speaker 1: wants tomit their own crazy story, go to our slash

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Speaker 1: okop show and we'll read it in the point fives

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Speaker 1: on the podcast.

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Speaker 4: That's right, throw it in.

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Speaker 3: Maybe I twenty female, was invited to visit my childhood

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Speaker 3: best friend also twenty females college to celebrate her birthday.

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Speaker 4: Was call her Molly.

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Speaker 3: I didn't see them only for two years because I

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Speaker 3: had moved an hour and half away. But prior to

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Speaker 3: all this, we were best friends since fourth grade. I

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Speaker 3: was invited to come party with her and her friends

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Speaker 3: on that day after her birthday, so let's be clear birthday.

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Speaker 3: Oh but this wasn't her actual birthday, which she did

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Speaker 3: celebrate with her friends.

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Speaker 4: This is kind of like a after party.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, just a little caveat, Like, if someone's

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Speaker 1: throwing a birthday party for themselves, just treat it like

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Speaker 1: their actual birthday.

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Speaker 4: That's a good point. People have multiple birthdays.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, it's like also, if I can't celebrate with

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Speaker 3: my friends on my real birthday, I'm still entitled to

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Speaker 3: a birthday.

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Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, it's still birthday vibes. Still birthday vibes.

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Speaker 3: I had never been to a college party prior to

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Speaker 3: that because I do online school due to COVID, and

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Speaker 3: Molly knew this, okay. She said that her and her

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Speaker 3: friends were going to Habachi restaurant before partying Delicious, and

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Speaker 3: I told her I wouldn't be able to make that,

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Speaker 3: but I would come together with them afterwards. She told

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Speaker 3: me they would wait an hour after eating for me

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Speaker 3: to get there so that way they could show me

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Speaker 3: where on campus I would be parking. I tried to

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Speaker 3: talk her out of this because I didn't want her

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Speaker 3: to make her friends wait that long, but she reassured

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Speaker 3: me that they always talked for a while afterwards, so.

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Speaker 4: I'm guessing it wouldn't be a big deal.

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Speaker 3: One thing I made clear was since I live an

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Speaker 3: hour and a half away, if there was any risk

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Speaker 3: of my car getting towed, I couldn't come. She promised

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Speaker 3: that I could park on campus without any issues. So

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Speaker 3: I called Molly and told her I was ten minutes

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Speaker 3: away from the restaurant, and she told me to hurry

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Speaker 3: up and that her friends were getting impatient.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 3: She called me when I'm five minutes away and told

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Speaker 3: me that the address had changed because they got tired

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Speaker 3: of waiting. What happened to an hour of chit chat.

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Speaker 3: I thought the friends were good to chill. I pull

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Speaker 3: up to the new address and it's a dentist. Okay, twist.

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Speaker 3: I call her and then she realizes she sent me

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Speaker 3: to the wrong dentist. No, I clarify that from the

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Speaker 3: dentist's office, I'm going to be following her to a

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Speaker 3: friend's place on campus. She says there's no possibility of

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Speaker 3: parking on campus, so I'll either need to park at

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Speaker 3: the dentist all night or drive an hour and a

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Speaker 3: half back home. Despite my best judgment, parked at the dentists.

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Speaker 4: Oh no.

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Speaker 3: When I meet up with their friends, they were all

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Speaker 3: very passive, aggressive and mad at me. It was clear

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Speaker 3: that Molly never informed them that I told her I

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Speaker 3: couldn't make it in time for habachi. A few of

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Speaker 3: them even mentioned that they had waited a long time

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Speaker 3: for me. I didn't want to cause drama, so I

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Speaker 3: just let this go now. We went to go partying

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Speaker 3: around one am, when.

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Speaker 1: I was a late start to the party.

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Speaker 4: Late start, and I.

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Speaker 3: Guess OPI hasn't eating because they said I started to

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Speaker 3: feel starving. I haven't eaten yet, my goodness. I beg

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Speaker 3: Molly to go back to her dorm so that way

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Speaker 3: I can eat. She makes fun of me and refuses.

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Speaker 1: Damn.

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Speaker 3: A random girl overhears this and offers to make me

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Speaker 3: some mac and cheese at her dorm that's right across

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Speaker 3: from the party.

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Speaker 4: Wow, that's great.

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Speaker 1: Nice.

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Speaker 3: I agree and assume that Mollie is following us when

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Speaker 3: we get back to her balcony. I see that Mollie

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Speaker 3: is on the balcony across from us.

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Speaker 4: She screams, I'm going back to the party. Text me

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Speaker 4: when you're done eating.

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Speaker 1: Okay, no big deal.

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Speaker 3: Two hours go by and Mollie isn't answering her phone

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Speaker 3: no matter how much I call. Over those two hours.

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Speaker 3: It's now three in the morning. I feel terrible for

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Speaker 3: the girl who took me in as her roommate is

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Speaker 3: trying to sleep. Oh god, that is such an awkward,

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Speaker 3: awkward situation to be in. Mollie is actively declining my calls.

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Speaker 3: She would even pick up for a second and then

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Speaker 3: act like I was cutting out.

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, Allie's a terrible friend.

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Speaker 3: Actually, finally she stays on the phone long enough for

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Speaker 3: the girl I'm with to cuss her out. I didn't

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Speaker 3: know anyone on campus, and I didn't know my way around,

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Speaker 3: and I was blackout drunk. Molly hangs up and sends

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Speaker 3: her location without saying anything. My god, So the location

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Speaker 3: sense was a fifteen minute walk because it's a big campus.

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Speaker 3: We live in New England. It's freezing outside. Me and

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Speaker 3: this girl finally get to the location and it's not

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Speaker 3: her dorm.

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Speaker 4: What.

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Speaker 3: We call her and tell her that we're there, and

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Speaker 3: she says she's coming down. Ten minutes go by, she's

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Speaker 3: not down. She comes down holding a guy's hand in

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Speaker 3: his sweatshirt after the girl called her and cussed her

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Speaker 3: out again. This was my breaking point. I asked the

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Speaker 3: girl if I could just spend the night at her dorm,

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Speaker 3: and she agrees. Mollie proceeds to start yelling at the

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Speaker 3: girl to not let me stay with her and break

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Speaker 3: a long friendship. Probably it's drunk too, they are, but like,

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Speaker 3: give me thisak so bad.

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Speaker 4: This is also like peak college shit. You don't even

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Speaker 4: care about me. We were friends.

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Speaker 3: I go back to Molly's dorm and uh with the

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Speaker 3: girl to grab my stuff. She starts crying and screaming.

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Speaker 3: There you go to the point where her roommates are

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Speaker 3: begging her to stop. I leave and wait in the

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Speaker 3: lobby while the girls grab the rest of my things.

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Speaker 3: The guy that Molly was with legit asks me if

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Speaker 3: I can get his sweatshirt back from her and says

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Speaker 3: this was his first time meeting her. Like even the

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Speaker 3: duchie took it up with his like, hey, I don't

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Speaker 3: know he could you just like like give my stuff.

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Speaker 3: Like the girl and I leave to her door, but

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Speaker 3: Molly follows as screaming. She's saying crazy things like if

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Speaker 3: you leave, we're done for good. At this point, it's

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Speaker 3: four am. Mollie is a hurricane of destruction, like I mean,

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Speaker 3: just like Katrina level, like category a million. In the morning,

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Speaker 3: the girl tried to drive me to my car and

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Speaker 3: we didn't know where it was because Molly had giving

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Speaker 3: me the address over the phone. Oh my god, Molly

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Speaker 3: wouldn't answer my text or calls to tell me where

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Speaker 3: my car was. We had to drive around a three

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Speaker 3: different dentist office in the area before we found it.

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Speaker 3: The kicker was the girl told me that I could

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Speaker 3: have parked on campus if Mollie had just written an

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Speaker 3: email to administration to let them know and and it's

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Speaker 3: something she could have done.

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Speaker 1: The day of Molly, Wow, Mollie's a bad friend.

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Speaker 4: The next day I asked Molly finance my birthday. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: The next day I asked Molly if we could talk.

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Speaker 3: I went off on her overtext about how she had

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Speaker 3: a sex addiction and that I watched her ruin every

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Speaker 3: good relationship in her life, kind of seems like.

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Speaker 1: Coming out strong, coming out strong.

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Speaker 3: Low key kind of deserves that. I also did some

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Speaker 3: not nice name calling, but I was so angry and

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Speaker 3: hurt that I could have been arrested, killed, or stranded.

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Speaker 3: She was not apologetic at all, saying that's not what happened,

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Speaker 3: and if I felt that way, it's a good thing.

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00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:55,600
Speaker 3: We're not friends anymore. Then she blocked me, which I

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Speaker 3: was happy about, even though I wanted to have the

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Speaker 3: last word. I know I'm not the a whole for

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Speaker 3: leaving Molly, But am I the a hole for getting

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Speaker 3: the stranger involved and making her take me around instead

671
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Speaker 3: of just sucking it up and waiting until the morning

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Speaker 3: to leave.

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Speaker 1: I think something that is apparent is if a stranger

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Speaker 1: can extend you more kindness than Molly, then you probably

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Speaker 1: have picked the wrong friends.

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Speaker 4: I think it's just the circumstance, Like you didn't.

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Speaker 3: You had no intention of like crashing and taking up

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Speaker 3: you know, all this all this time from this from

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Speaker 3: this girl, but you just ended up going with getting

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Speaker 3: some mac and cheese because your own friend wouldn't help

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Speaker 3: you eat. Yeah, So big yikes, dude, big yikes.

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Speaker 1: But thank you for your story. Thank you if anyone

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Speaker 1: listening wants to smit their own story, go to our

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Speaker 1: slash Okop show and spit your stories there.

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Speaker 4: Let's baby