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Speaker 1: on on these so today guys like we, I just

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Speaker 1: this and that. But first of all, this has been

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Speaker 1: sit down. And this is me and Lex, this is

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00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:52,680
Speaker 1: our both of our mutual friend. But that's crazy. I

426
00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:54,239
Speaker 1: didn't know about it. Yeah, Like she was like, they

427
00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:55,639
Speaker 1: just told me that I needed to stand up, and

428
00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:57,639
Speaker 1: I'm like what. For a while, she was like you

429
00:20:57,720 --> 00:20:59,600
Speaker 1: know why, Like they wanted somebody else to sit down

430
00:20:59,600 --> 00:21:02,280
Speaker 1: and I was only dark skinned girl. Wow, it doesn't

431
00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:04,080
Speaker 1: matter how bad or beauty if you are in La,

432
00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:06,840
Speaker 1: it's all color yep, it is.

433
00:21:06,920 --> 00:21:07,639
Speaker 2: It's all.

434
00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:09,560
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter. I don't care if you got the

435
00:21:09,560 --> 00:21:13,200
Speaker 1: fattest ass, smallest waist, dark chocolate, beautiful skin.

436
00:21:13,960 --> 00:21:15,840
Speaker 2: And it's like, you know, I lighten them, you not

437
00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:16,399
Speaker 2: lighten it.

438
00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:20,320
Speaker 1: And they also care about body shaped body types as well,

439
00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:22,240
Speaker 1: body types as well. I think I was talking to

440
00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:25,359
Speaker 1: somebody a few weeks ago, a guy, and I was

441
00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:29,320
Speaker 1: telling him like, yeah, at one point, I was thinking

442
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:32,160
Speaker 1: about moving to LA and he told me. He said,

443
00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:35,040
Speaker 1: you bad as fuck. You find as fuck. He was like,

444
00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:38,000
Speaker 1: but we both know you too thick and you too brown.

445
00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:40,160
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, to make it in LA. Let me tell

446
00:21:40,160 --> 00:21:43,639
Speaker 1: you something when I'm right now. But that's crazy, Okay.

447
00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:46,280
Speaker 1: I weigh one hundred and ninety pounds right now, I'm

448
00:21:46,280 --> 00:21:50,080
Speaker 1: thinkings fuck. Like one time I went to LA. I

449
00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:52,840
Speaker 1: weighed one hundred and fifty five pounds. I was pretty

450
00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:56,560
Speaker 1: thin for my body. Handed me. I'm five eight five nine.

451
00:21:56,640 --> 00:21:58,840
Speaker 1: I weighed one fifty five. I was like, when I

452
00:21:58,880 --> 00:22:01,159
Speaker 1: post this picture of how my body used to be,

453
00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:03,920
Speaker 1: people like, damn, he was skinny. I went to LA.

454
00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:07,679
Speaker 1: Everybody was like, oh girl, you think it's fun now?

455
00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:10,040
Speaker 1: I weigh one fifty five in Atlanta, they'd be like, oh,

456
00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:13,119
Speaker 1: she's so skinny. Yeah, she little. But when I went

457
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:16,040
Speaker 1: to La, I ran into I was walking in I

458
00:22:16,080 --> 00:22:17,639
Speaker 1: think it was like Hollywood bully Ball. I don't know

459
00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:19,520
Speaker 1: where I was, yeah, but I had ran into a

460
00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:22,520
Speaker 1: rapper and he was like, oh, girl, where are you from.

461
00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:25,200
Speaker 1: You think I'm like this is I'm like, this is

462
00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:28,640
Speaker 1: thick for LA standards. Yes, And it was, like I said,

463
00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:30,600
Speaker 1: it was just so shocking to me that that was

464
00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:32,240
Speaker 1: the first thing that God said to me when I

465
00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:34,000
Speaker 1: told him I was thinking about moving to I had

466
00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:36,400
Speaker 1: at one point before I moved to Atlanta. He was like, yeah,

467
00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:38,600
Speaker 1: we both know that you too brown and you too thick,

468
00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:41,760
Speaker 1: and you too short to make it in LA. But

469
00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:44,000
Speaker 1: I guess it just comes. That's why I just say,

470
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,359
Speaker 1: for like the women out there, because like we're about

471
00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:48,480
Speaker 1: to get on to another topic of industry. Man, but

472
00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:51,800
Speaker 1: that's one thing you need to consider. You all be

473
00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:54,960
Speaker 1: chasing after these men, but do they really want you?

474
00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:57,639
Speaker 1: And would they be ready to be public with you?

475
00:22:58,200 --> 00:23:00,639
Speaker 1: Because it's one thing for somebody to fuck you behind

476
00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:03,480
Speaker 1: closed doors, but then once it's time to be taken

477
00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:05,359
Speaker 1: to go to these events and stuff, they want to

478
00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 1: take somebody like you cool to fuck right, and you

479
00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,040
Speaker 1: cool to talk with and lay down in the bed

480
00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:11,880
Speaker 1: and we gonna drink and we're gonna cook and we're

481
00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:14,080
Speaker 1: gonna maybe go out to dinner and were gonna, yeah,

482
00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:17,600
Speaker 1: go out to dinner all that events where like E

483
00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:20,800
Speaker 1: News gonna be there and MTV and BT and v

484
00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:25,399
Speaker 1: H one. Uh, it's not happening. Happening. It's so easy

485
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:27,879
Speaker 1: for these rappers to be with a random ass bitch

486
00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:29,639
Speaker 1: that we ain't never even seen or heard of it.

487
00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:32,040
Speaker 1: She'd be like saying, how many times do you see

488
00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:35,360
Speaker 1: a man really photographed with like a dark skin girl? Like, oh,

489
00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 1: who is that who he messing with? Never? Never? Never?

490
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:44,080
Speaker 1: And I just feel like it's really it's it's it's sad,

491
00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:48,640
Speaker 1: it's hard, it's disheartening. And that's why I said I

492
00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:50,840
Speaker 1: I personally, I don't like industry guys. I don't want

493
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:53,280
Speaker 1: to be friends with them. I don't want to deal

494
00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:57,400
Speaker 1: with them just because they're very very very very very

495
00:23:57,480 --> 00:24:00,280
Speaker 1: very shallow. Yeah. Because let me tell you something, when

496
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:04,240
Speaker 1: I walk by, like, I like to be appreciated. Okay,

497
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 1: you need to be holding me and you got to

498
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:08,760
Speaker 1: be showing me off. So it's like, when I deal

499
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:11,200
Speaker 1: with guys that are usually like, you know, I'll say,

500
00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 1: like I won't say I hate to use the word regular,

501
00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 1: but you know, like regular guys, they treat me like

502
00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:19,359
Speaker 1: I deserve to be treated. They want to bring me

503
00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 1: around because they know, man, this girl is beautiful. You

504
00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:28,680
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. But it's like, and that goes

505
00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:33,800
Speaker 1: into the next topic of dating people who be feeling

506
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:38,159
Speaker 1: themselves to me. Not only do they want the baddest

507
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:42,880
Speaker 1: bitch stroke they ego is now me. Andre's situations are

508
00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:46,439
Speaker 1: totally opposite. Now I undated somebody who is super popping,

509
00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 1: and then I undated a has been. Let me tell

510
00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:53,359
Speaker 1: y'all something. If you want to date an industry person

511
00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 1: and they may have old money and they may be successful,

512
00:24:56,920 --> 00:25:00,480
Speaker 1: dating somebody who is a has been is the artist

513
00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:05,479
Speaker 1: thing ever because you have to constantly they're insecure one

514
00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:09,440
Speaker 1: because they say, like, say his name is Damien, Okay,

515
00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:13,200
Speaker 1: Damien used to be the number one rapper in the game.

516
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:15,639
Speaker 2: Damien used to be the number one actor.

517
00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 1: Damien used to be everywhere. Yeah, and everybody has their

518
00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:22,320
Speaker 1: time and the industry, yeah you've seen it. Your your

519
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:25,520
Speaker 1: longevity in the industry is very rare. Yeah, there's a

520
00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:28,520
Speaker 1: handful of people who have had longevity, who have had

521
00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:33,720
Speaker 1: ten plus years and like jay Z Taylor sweating like

522
00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:35,760
Speaker 1: that ship is rare. I won't even use Taylor swift

523
00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:39,359
Speaker 1: because because you want like Kanye like, that's very rare.

524
00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:42,120
Speaker 1: But I'm not. I'm saying for black people. Oh okay, yeah,

525
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:43,840
Speaker 1: that's why I said I won't even use Taylor swiping

526
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:46,359
Speaker 1: for black people, it's very rare, you know what I'm saying.

527
00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:49,440
Speaker 2: So, dating somebody.

528
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:52,119
Speaker 1: Like a Damien, so when you day Damien, he's not

529
00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 1: as popping no more. Yeah, And so if you try

530
00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:58,040
Speaker 1: to tell like Damien is trying to revive his career

531
00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:00,919
Speaker 1: and you're dating Damien, right, and you're and you're younger

532
00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:03,080
Speaker 1: than Damien, so you're trying to be like, oh, this

533
00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:05,359
Speaker 1: is what people like, this is what. Don't tell me

534
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:07,000
Speaker 1: what to do. I'm Damien.

535
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:09,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, you need to understand what.

536
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:12,120
Speaker 1: I know I can teach you. You need to take

537
00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:14,919
Speaker 1: notes from me, right. And it's not only that, but

538
00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:17,720
Speaker 1: they're controlling. They're gonna try to mind fuck you unless

539
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:20,879
Speaker 1: you know you can't get better than me because I'm Damien.

540
00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 2: This is the top of the line that it's gonna

541
00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:22,880
Speaker 2: get for you.

542
00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:25,320
Speaker 1: You know why, because you're dark skinned and nobody want

543
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:28,959
Speaker 1: to fuck with you and you're you're not anybody. So

544
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:32,480
Speaker 1: you need to appreciate Damien being with you. Right, Damien

545
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:35,000
Speaker 1: don't want to bring you nowhere. Damien don't want to

546
00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:36,640
Speaker 1: do shit for you. Damen don't want to do shit

547
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:38,760
Speaker 1: for you because Damien money not how Damien money used

548
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:41,040
Speaker 1: to be. Right, So not only that, but you need

549
00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 1: to appreciate me and love me. But not realizing, Hey,

550
00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:48,920
Speaker 1: you know what, maybe let me tell you why Damiens

551
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:51,520
Speaker 1: aren't smart because they don't ever want to sit back.

552
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:54,840
Speaker 1: You know, maybe this girl is a star. Maybe maybe

553
00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:56,879
Speaker 1: I should support her. Maybe I should support her and

554
00:26:56,880 --> 00:26:58,439
Speaker 1: maybe take the backseat.

555
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:01,000
Speaker 2: And you don't even realize.

556
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:04,359
Speaker 1: Now this is not a good example because she is

557
00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 1: a white woman. She's white to me, even though people

558
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:08,640
Speaker 1: like to say she's a woman of color, but she's

559
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:11,320
Speaker 1: not to me. But Kim Kardashian, Kanye took a back

560
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:14,280
Speaker 1: seat to Kim for a while. Kanye he went on

561
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:18,119
Speaker 1: the Kim went on The Kardashian Show, cleaned out Kim's.

562
00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:20,520
Speaker 2: Closet, and revamped her whole wardrobe.

563
00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 1: Now Kim is a fashion icon icon now black her

564
00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 1: getting with Kanye. No, black women are the standard period

565
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 1: make up, hair, everything, everything, fashion everything. So imagine if

566
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:41,040
Speaker 1: a black man with money would take a creative black

567
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:46,800
Speaker 1: woman and invest in her the imagine what but not

568
00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:48,800
Speaker 1: if it was just one man. Imagine if it was

569
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:53,560
Speaker 1: like three hundred of y'all doing that for all y'all's went.

570
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:56,000
Speaker 1: Imagine how we could take over because we can be

571
00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:59,240
Speaker 1: Black people need to be a team. We do. But

572
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:01,400
Speaker 1: they saw were worried about oh, I want to look

573
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:04,359
Speaker 1: like him and Kanye, Oh, I want to look like

574
00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:06,920
Speaker 1: my teammate. He got him a white girl and they

575
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:09,760
Speaker 1: got some light skinned kids with beautiful curly hair. Black

576
00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:11,720
Speaker 1: people have beautiful hair. You just don't know what to

577
00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:13,520
Speaker 1: do with it. You just got to take your time

578
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:15,159
Speaker 1: and know what to do with it. And see, I

579
00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:18,640
Speaker 1: was dating the industry person. Like like lets said, our

580
00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:21,160
Speaker 1: situations are a little bit different. I was dating somebody

581
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:24,480
Speaker 1: who was on the come up when I started fucking

582
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:28,280
Speaker 1: with him. And in the beginning he was so cool

583
00:28:28,560 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 1: and he was so humble. But I literally was fucking

584
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:34,400
Speaker 1: with him and watched his career blossom right in front

585
00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 1: of my eyes, watched him be watched him going from

586
00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 1: somebody that people didn't even know who the fuck he was,

587
00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 1: so now he a household named him near everybody knows who,

588
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 1: everybody knows, who is everybody. So at first he was

589
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 1: real humble, and I watched him start to become the

590
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 1: type of person that was. He went from oh did

591
00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 1: you see that? That was amazing? Right? Like that was dope,

592
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 1: right to being like, yeah, I know that shit was dope,

593
00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:01,000
Speaker 1: and are you dumb? You didn't see that hotter? Fuck?

594
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:04,520
Speaker 1: You didn't see that everybody watching me? Right? And that

595
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:07,560
Speaker 1: shit was just crazy. Because it's like niggas really start

596
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 1: feeling they silf right.

597
00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:11,640
Speaker 2: And feeling themselves to the point to where and it's

598
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 2: hard to date.

599
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:14,680
Speaker 1: That's why I always say this and no disrespect, but

600
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 1: that's why we wanted to talk about this because I

601
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:20,040
Speaker 1: feel like so many women that I meet all the

602
00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:24,480
Speaker 1: time that don't necessarily get hollered at by industry niggas

603
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:26,680
Speaker 1: or industry niggas don't try to fuck with them, but

604
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:29,360
Speaker 1: they want that and they'll be like, welldam how did

605
00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:31,040
Speaker 1: you get that person or how did you even get

606
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:32,760
Speaker 1: in that circle to start fucking him. I want to

607
00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 1: dave me a nigga like that. You don't know, it's

608
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:39,560
Speaker 1: not what it's cracked up to be. Y'all. Don't be realizing.

609
00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 1: Shit look glamorous as fuck on social media, on Instagram.

610
00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:47,480
Speaker 1: In the blog, she'd be looking glamories. But you don't

611
00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:50,320
Speaker 1: know what the women like that deal with these type

612
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,840
Speaker 1: of niggas, what we be having to deal with sometimes

613
00:29:52,880 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: behind closed doors. Not only do you have to deal

614
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 1: with their ego and the colorism, but you also have

615
00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:03,640
Speaker 1: to deal with the mental abuse. Let's get into that.

616
00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:05,880
Speaker 1: So we're gonna also get into the mental abuse. So

617
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:09,400
Speaker 1: now let me let me put another disclaimer. I'm not

618
00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:12,640
Speaker 1: saying all industry men are like right like I said,

619
00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 1: because we haven't dated all we have them, But we're

620
00:30:15,480 --> 00:30:18,360
Speaker 1: just talking about from our experience, and I will say

621
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:21,960
Speaker 1: every man that I have met, they want to be

622
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:22,800
Speaker 1: in control.

623
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:27,920
Speaker 2: I'm damian and your licks, I'm above you.

624
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 1: You need to do what I do. Now, I'll talk

625
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 1: about a situation to where like this man was so

626
00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:39,000
Speaker 1: mentally abusive, and I'm being honest right now, I'm being transparent.

627
00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:42,160
Speaker 1: I've been in a physically abusive relationship before. And I've

628
00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 1: been in a few actually mental abusive rights. And I'm

629
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:51,960
Speaker 1: not comparing to me personally. Now everybody's situation is different,

630
00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:54,280
Speaker 1: but I'll say for me personally, the mental abuse was

631
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:56,960
Speaker 1: way worse because I feel like scars heal, but that

632
00:30:57,080 --> 00:31:00,920
Speaker 1: mental I think that's probably why I felt the need

633
00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 1: to do things to alter my body and to you know,

634
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 1: I didn't feel like I was good enough.

635
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:08,000
Speaker 2: At one point, I was like, do I really want

636
00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:09,280
Speaker 2: to do wine down Wednesday?

637
00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:13,320
Speaker 1: Because the person person told you was too loud, I'm

638
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:16,520
Speaker 1: too obnoxious. I need to be quiet. You're not being

639
00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:21,200
Speaker 1: class when we talk about I'm not classy. Nobody wants

640
00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:23,680
Speaker 1: to Nobody wants to hear me. People want to see me.

641
00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:26,400
Speaker 1: Straight up told me that nobody wants to hear you.

642
00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 1: Look at you. A woman needs to be seen, not heard.

643
00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 2: Right, So it's just like.

644
00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:36,239
Speaker 1: And going back to like Kanye, and this is what

645
00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:37,800
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people were. I don't know

646
00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:40,440
Speaker 1: if y'all remember this, but like when him and Ambrose

647
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 1: were dating, nobody heard nothing from amber Rose. When she

648
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:46,000
Speaker 1: started dating Wiz Whiz let her be herself and she

649
00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 1: talked about that she had and that's when she really

650
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:52,480
Speaker 1: blossomed into who she was. And that's another thing you

651
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:54,640
Speaker 1: have to deal with a lot of these men. They

652
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 1: don't want to share the spotlight, not at all. They

653
00:31:57,360 --> 00:32:00,240
Speaker 1: don't want they bitch to shine. They don't want they're

654
00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 1: scared of their woman becoming bigger than them. Now you

655
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 1: do me, tru mean, that's like, please, I want my

656
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:09,160
Speaker 1: woman to be bigger than me. Right, I got twenty million.

657
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:12,320
Speaker 1: I want you to be worth fifty. Right. But that's rare.

658
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:15,840
Speaker 1: That's so rare because these niggas' egos be huge, like industreaming,

659
00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:19,360
Speaker 1: and their egos be crazy. And I mean, like going

660
00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:21,240
Speaker 1: back to what you were just saying about, like you've

661
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:25,640
Speaker 1: been in physical, physically abusive relationships and mentally abusive relationships.

662
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:28,960
Speaker 1: I have never been. I had never been in either.

663
00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:32,400
Speaker 1: I was fortunate enough to always kind of, you know,

664
00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:35,959
Speaker 1: come across decent guys, I guess you could say. But

665
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:38,960
Speaker 1: the last situation I was in was the first time

666
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:42,040
Speaker 1: in my life that I was in a very emotionally

667
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 1: and mentally abusive situation. And I one hundred percent agree

668
00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:48,760
Speaker 1: with you with what you just said as far as

669
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:51,320
Speaker 1: like I, like I said, I don't have anything to

670
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 1: compare it to because I can't say, oh, physical abuse

671
00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:57,040
Speaker 1: isn't worse, because I've never been physically abused. But I

672
00:32:57,080 --> 00:33:00,480
Speaker 1: do agree with what you said about mentally abusive and

673
00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:06,400
Speaker 1: emotionally abusive relationships. Those scuards take longer than he because

674
00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:09,240
Speaker 1: niggas really will get in your head and having you

675
00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:11,720
Speaker 1: questioning your worth and not thinking that you're and thinking

676
00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 1: that you're not good enough. Cause, like me, anybody around

677
00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 1: me one thing that people anybody that's around me all

678
00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:19,760
Speaker 1: the time. People always tell me they love my comfidy,

679
00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:22,680
Speaker 1: like I have confidence out of this world. And I've

680
00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:24,640
Speaker 1: even had friends tell me in the past that like

681
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:26,959
Speaker 1: they wish that they had the level of like I

682
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:30,200
Speaker 1: inspire them to be more comfiany. So I've always kind

683
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:31,840
Speaker 1: of been that type of person. But once I got

684
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:34,240
Speaker 1: in the situation that I was just that I recently

685
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:37,600
Speaker 1: just got out of, I started questioning myself and that

686
00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 1: was something I had never did friends. And look, we're

687
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:44,520
Speaker 1: not gonna cry. We're gonna try not to cry, y'all.

688
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:49,560
Speaker 1: But hold on, y'all. Oh, no, Lex please, I'm sorry, y'all.

689
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:59,560
Speaker 1: But because I've been in some situation to me, I

690
00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 1: do feel like, I'm a strong person, and sometimes I

691
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 1: feel like the things that I've been through, I wouldn't

692
00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:09,239
Speaker 1: wish it on my worst enemy. Right. So it's like,

693
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:11,880
Speaker 1: you know, being a friend, sometimes you do have to

694
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:13,920
Speaker 1: keep your mouth shut and let your friends go what

695
00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:17,640
Speaker 1: they go through. Right. But let me tell ya something.

696
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:20,040
Speaker 1: I look up to Dress as far as her confidence

697
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:23,880
Speaker 1: and how you know, strong she is and this and that.

698
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:27,480
Speaker 1: But I knew I had to speak up and say

699
00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 1: something because she came home one day and some shit

700
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:37,920
Speaker 1: was going down, and she looked at me in my

701
00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:41,600
Speaker 1: face and she was like, what's wrong with me? Am

702
00:34:41,600 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 1: I not good enough? Yeah? And I was like, that

703
00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:50,600
Speaker 1: shit broke me down, because I don't think men sometimes

704
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:55,320
Speaker 1: understand what they do just so they can feel powerful, right,

705
00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:58,320
Speaker 1: And to break to try to break a person down

706
00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:02,600
Speaker 1: mentally just so you can control what they're doing is

707
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:06,480
Speaker 1: the worst thing you can do. I agree, And whether

708
00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:09,279
Speaker 1: you know you're doing it or not, it doesn't make

709
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:12,359
Speaker 1: it okay. If you're a fucked up person, you need

710
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:16,200
Speaker 1: to heal yourself instead of fucking up sucking up other

711
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:21,840
Speaker 1: people's Because I've always been a very I'm a happy person,

712
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:25,800
Speaker 1: Like honestly, generally, I'm always happy, I'm always in a

713
00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:28,200
Speaker 1: good mood. I go through things just like anybody else,

714
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:32,120
Speaker 1: but the way that I choose to approach life, I

715
00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:35,000
Speaker 1: choose to always try to look at the positive. And

716
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:37,799
Speaker 1: in that situation, I feel like I started being a

717
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 1: negative person. And well, I'll say, is I don't feel

718
00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:44,800
Speaker 1: like you were being negative, but you were just second

719
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 1: guessing yourself. And for me, I've known you for like

720
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 1: going on three years, four years now, so it was

721
00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 1: like for you to look at me in my face

722
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:56,600
Speaker 1: and be like, Lex, what's wrong with me? I'm like, bro,

723
00:35:56,880 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 1: what the fuck is this nigga doing? What her? What

724
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:03,880
Speaker 1: is she allowing the man to do to her? And

725
00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:07,759
Speaker 1: it was just like, so before was this before? After?

726
00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:10,040
Speaker 2: Did the restaurant thing happened before? Or after this happened?

727
00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:13,359
Speaker 1: Oh, this is before the restaurant happened before. So let

728
00:36:13,360 --> 00:36:15,319
Speaker 1: me tell y'all story real quick. He's gonna be real quick.

729
00:36:15,360 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 1: So me Andrea had went out to eat, mind you,

730
00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:20,560
Speaker 1: Me Andrea were going out to eat. My boyfriend at

731
00:36:20,560 --> 00:36:22,719
Speaker 1: the time was like, oh, I want to link up

732
00:36:22,719 --> 00:36:24,359
Speaker 1: with y'all. I want to link up with y'all. Right,

733
00:36:24,719 --> 00:36:26,560
Speaker 1: we went to the restaurant. We me and him weren't

734
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:28,720
Speaker 1: getting along at the time. We were arguing about something

735
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 1: and y'all arguing it was right for they broke. So,

736
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 1: long story short, this was really like the icing on

737
00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:37,800
Speaker 1: the cake. So we went to this restaurant. Hell of

738
00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:41,160
Speaker 1: people in there. He's he's known in Atlanta. Yeah, people

739
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:43,480
Speaker 1: know who he is. So we went to the restaurant.

740
00:36:44,200 --> 00:36:46,440
Speaker 1: Long story short, we get into it. He's calling me

741
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:49,040
Speaker 1: a bitch, telling me I ain't ship, and I'm sitting

742
00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:51,800
Speaker 1: there green and not only just doing he's screaming on

743
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:54,959
Speaker 1: the top of you a fucking bitch, Yeah, you ain't ship.

744
00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:57,520
Speaker 2: And then I got up and I excused myself.

745
00:36:57,600 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, walk the fuck out, you fucking bitch. Yeah, walk

746
00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:04,200
Speaker 1: the fuck out. And like I said, y'all, I'm sitting there.

747
00:37:04,480 --> 00:37:07,319
Speaker 1: There's any table with them. While this is mind you,

748
00:37:07,400 --> 00:37:10,640
Speaker 1: I see people and I don't. I'm happy that I

749
00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:13,520
Speaker 1: think the footage didn't get released because nobody cared who

750
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:16,320
Speaker 1: it was. But people are definitely recording on their phone

751
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:21,360
Speaker 1: for sure. But it was just like I don't, Like

752
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:26,920
Speaker 1: I said, these men's egos are out of this fucking world.

753
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:29,080
Speaker 2: Now, let me tell you something. If I would have been.

754
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:35,120
Speaker 1: A white woman, a lighter skinned woman. Do I think

755
00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:37,880
Speaker 1: he would have done that? Absolutely? Absolutely not, because I

756
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:40,160
Speaker 1: feel like they're more conscious. They feel like a black

757
00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:42,240
Speaker 1: man yellow and a white woman in public, you can't

758
00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 1: do that, Yeah, but a black man yellow. So nobody

759
00:37:45,480 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 1: said nothing to me. There were the valet men came

760
00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:49,840
Speaker 1: and checked up on me when you walked out the restaurant,

761
00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:53,920
Speaker 1: the owner of the restaurant, the bartenders, nobody said. Nobody

762
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 1: walked on me and said ma'am, are you okay? And

763
00:37:56,280 --> 00:37:58,799
Speaker 1: mind y'all. When Linx got up and walked out of

764
00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:01,239
Speaker 1: the restaurant, I was pere sitting at the table with

765
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:03,319
Speaker 1: him and I was telling him, I say, you out

766
00:38:03,320 --> 00:38:04,880
Speaker 1: of line for talking to hood like that, like they

767
00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:07,080
Speaker 1: were so disrespectable. You did not have to handle the

768
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:10,120
Speaker 1: situation like this. And he was like, I'm sorry, Drea,

769
00:38:10,640 --> 00:38:12,279
Speaker 1: I didn't mean for it to come off that way.

770
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 1: But she just gets on my fucking nerves because she

771
00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:17,279
Speaker 1: don't listen. But she don't listen. But I'm saying that

772
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:19,080
Speaker 1: to say. Me and him sat there and had a

773
00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 1: whole conversation after Lex walked out the rad show and

774
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:25,480
Speaker 1: we didn't I wasn't sitting there the long obviously because

775
00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:27,560
Speaker 1: I needed to go check on Lex. But we sat

776
00:38:27,560 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 1: there and had a whole maybe two three minute conversation,

777
00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:35,680
Speaker 1: and nobody, no, no, nothing, Yeah, nobody walked up to

778
00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:38,040
Speaker 1: the table in general just to say, like our c

779
00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:43,120
Speaker 1: and everything okay, because this is a black not even

780
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:46,240
Speaker 1: a black man, just a man talking to a woman.

781
00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:48,759
Speaker 1: So and this is the point I'm getting at, is like,

782
00:38:48,840 --> 00:38:51,160
Speaker 1: if he talked to me like that in public. I've

783
00:38:51,239 --> 00:38:53,359
Speaker 1: never really talked to Drea about the things that went

784
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:55,200
Speaker 1: on behind closed, the words between me and him. But

785
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:57,799
Speaker 1: it's like, I just say, if he did that in

786
00:38:57,840 --> 00:39:01,200
Speaker 1: public in front of you, how shit got behind closing?

787
00:39:01,239 --> 00:39:03,480
Speaker 1: And that's what I was about to say. Now that

788
00:39:03,600 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 1: you're not in the situation anymore and we kind of

789
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:08,680
Speaker 1: talk more about it, I feel like when you be

790
00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:11,280
Speaker 1: telling me stuff that was going on, it's just crazy

791
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:13,880
Speaker 1: to me because I didn't know, Like I had no

792
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:16,080
Speaker 1: idea because you never told me that this person used

793
00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:18,320
Speaker 1: to talk like I know, y'all used to get into arguments.

794
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:21,920
Speaker 1: Like I said, that's normal in a relationship, you're not

795
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:24,480
Speaker 1: going to agree all the time. But I didn't know

796
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:26,520
Speaker 1: that he was speaking to you in such like a

797
00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:30,560
Speaker 1: derogatory manner all the time. It was just shocking to

798
00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:33,640
Speaker 1: me because I didn't even see him to be that person.

799
00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 1: Because it's like, let me tell you something about these industry.

800
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:46,200
Speaker 1: They will come at you charming, charmy brog. You was

801
00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 1: dating charmed me and I wasn't even dating because she

802
00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:52,880
Speaker 1: actually convinced me, and that was me. I was like, no,

803
00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:54,759
Speaker 1: you need to like you know what I'm saying. So

804
00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 1: it's like they come off so charming, but it's like

805
00:39:57,520 --> 00:39:59,800
Speaker 1: once they get you and they know they got you,

806
00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 1: they feel like, because of who I am, you're not

807
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:04,920
Speaker 1: gonna leave me. And I'll say this for my last situation,

808
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:08,479
Speaker 1: I left. You know that I left same we would

809
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:10,600
Speaker 1: still be together right now if it was up to him.

810
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 1: But you have to That's why I tweeted this the

811
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 1: other day. If you know you're worth, you're confident in that,

812
00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:19,920
Speaker 1: and you're patient in that. I'm single right now, I

813
00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:22,680
Speaker 1: don't have nobody are really really fucked with tough right now.

814
00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:24,879
Speaker 1: But I'm okay with that because i know my work

815
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:27,440
Speaker 1: and I'm confident in that, and I'm gonna be patient

816
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 1: on the man that God is gonna send for me.

817
00:40:30,239 --> 00:40:31,799
Speaker 1: When I was with him, I'm like, you know what,

818
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:35,120
Speaker 1: He's right, this is it this. I need to understand

819
00:40:35,120 --> 00:40:36,680
Speaker 1: that this is the man that God sent for me

820
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 1: and I need to act accordingly. But that's what they do.

821
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:41,880
Speaker 1: That's what they want you to believe. They want you

822
00:40:41,960 --> 00:40:44,520
Speaker 1: to believe. Hey, I'm a celebrity, so this is the

823
00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:47,640
Speaker 1: end all be all for you. You ain't gonna get nobody.

824
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:50,000
Speaker 1: But let me take that's something. Celebrities are people, and

825
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 1: that don't mean shit because you can have and they

826
00:40:52,000 --> 00:40:54,920
Speaker 1: have more work. They actually be having worse demons and

827
00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:57,640
Speaker 1: worse ship that they better average person. So let me

828
00:40:57,680 --> 00:41:00,560
Speaker 1: take something. If I had to choose a celebrity man

829
00:41:01,080 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 1: or a regular man, I'm choosing a regular man every time. Yeah,

830
00:41:04,640 --> 00:41:08,960
Speaker 1: every time, because I'll say this, like the regular guy, well,

831
00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:11,440
Speaker 1: I would say he's regular because he's kind of no

832
00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:14,720
Speaker 1: like in his city, but he's not like a super popping,

833
00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:17,160
Speaker 1: popping nigga. Yeah what I'm saying. But he doesn't have

834
00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:19,080
Speaker 1: that ego. And I'll say, like, that's probably like the

835
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:20,880
Speaker 1: best person I've ever deal with, dealt with in my

836
00:41:21,040 --> 00:41:24,360
Speaker 1: entire life because it's no ego. There it's like he

837
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:29,279
Speaker 1: knows me, he knows Wan down Wednesday, it's not and

838
00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 1: he doesn't care. He likes that. He'd be like, damn,

839
00:41:31,760 --> 00:41:34,480
Speaker 1: I've seen that picture. You' supposed to be like looking good,

840
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:37,160
Speaker 1: and it's like me and him, don't fucking around right now.

841
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:39,439
Speaker 1: But that's like my nigga, you know what I'm saying,

842
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:41,359
Speaker 1: Like that's my homie. But it's like I feel like

843
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:44,120
Speaker 1: you're not. You're never gonna get that with the industry

844
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 1: do because not only that, but they don't trust. They

845
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 1: feel like everybody's trying to use them.

846
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 2: So not only that they be trying to test you

847
00:41:52,320 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 2: see where.

848
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:55,719
Speaker 1: Your head at. Who has time for that? And then

849
00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 1: also with industry men too, because let's be real, most

850
00:41:58,520 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 1: of them, I mean, they have money, so they tried

851
00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:04,720
Speaker 1: to control you with their money. Now they will because

852
00:42:04,719 --> 00:42:08,280
Speaker 1: I mean I was getting controlled financially for a while,

853
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:11,879
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And when you really love

854
00:42:12,000 --> 00:42:15,920
Speaker 1: somebody and you really care about them, in your mind,

855
00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:19,239
Speaker 1: you're not realizing, Oh, you're thinking, oh, he's doing this

856
00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:21,399
Speaker 1: for me because he cares about me, because he wants

857
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 1: to make sure that I'm okay. But it's not about you.

858
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:28,759
Speaker 1: It's about him being able to control you and being

859
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:32,760
Speaker 1: able to be in charge of the so once he says, hey,

860
00:42:33,160 --> 00:42:35,040
Speaker 1: if you do this shit, I'm gonna cut you off.

861
00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:39,040
Speaker 1: That's controlling you or even him just or even just

862
00:42:39,080 --> 00:42:41,040
Speaker 1: for example, me getting into it with him, and you

863
00:42:41,080 --> 00:42:43,439
Speaker 1: know the we used to get into it. Sometimes we'll

864
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:45,160
Speaker 1: get into it. I wouldn't talk to him for like

865
00:42:45,200 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 1: a week or two, and here he comes calling me, Hey,

866
00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:55,360
Speaker 1: come downstairs, I'm downstairs. I go downstairs. Well, he'll have

867
00:42:55,520 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 1: in a car five thousand dollars, give me some money.

868
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 1: And it was just be like you doing that because.

869
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:06,200
Speaker 2: You want because you're gonna forgive me, because.

870
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:08,560
Speaker 1: You know I'm right. You know I'm gonna forgive you.

871
00:43:08,560 --> 00:43:10,439
Speaker 1: You Never would really be like I'm sorry. It would

872
00:43:10,440 --> 00:43:11,919
Speaker 1: be like I mean, would be like, I love girl.

873
00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:13,400
Speaker 1: You know I love you. You know I'll fuck with

874
00:43:13,440 --> 00:43:15,279
Speaker 1: you and then just give me some money. But never

875
00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 1: will really take take responsibility for what he did. And

876
00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:23,480
Speaker 1: imagine the girls that getting deeper with these men, that

877
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:26,560
Speaker 1: have children with these men. So y'all have to realize

878
00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:28,520
Speaker 1: a lot of these women are getting abused to the

879
00:43:28,600 --> 00:43:31,080
Speaker 1: point to where if you don't do what I say,

880
00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:33,480
Speaker 1: I'm gonna cut you off. And half of these women

881
00:43:34,239 --> 00:43:38,719
Speaker 1: haven't worked for never They either never worked. And let

882
00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 1: me tay something. If you have been out of the

883
00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:42,960
Speaker 1: job for us, especially now over a year.

884
00:43:43,160 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 2: Good luck finding a good job, right, not gonna have you.

885
00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:49,000
Speaker 1: So if I haven't worked for a year and a

886
00:43:49,080 --> 00:43:51,360
Speaker 1: man is threatened that has been supporting me, it's threatened

887
00:43:51,400 --> 00:43:54,959
Speaker 1: to cut me off, you're gonna buy by his rules

888
00:43:54,960 --> 00:43:57,239
Speaker 1: because what else am I gonna do because I can't

889
00:43:57,239 --> 00:43:59,279
Speaker 1: go get a job. That's why I always say what

890
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:01,200
Speaker 1: I say. Like course, I feel like you're supposed to

891
00:44:01,239 --> 00:44:02,880
Speaker 1: have a man that does for you. You're supposed to

892
00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:04,799
Speaker 1: have a man that wants to support you and pay

893
00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:07,000
Speaker 1: this and pay that. But let me tell y'all something, ladies,

894
00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:13,280
Speaker 1: always not only have your own but be smart start

895
00:44:13,960 --> 00:44:16,120
Speaker 1: do something like I don't have my own business right now,

896
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:18,640
Speaker 1: but we're we're working on that. We're doing that. Like

897
00:44:19,040 --> 00:44:20,440
Speaker 1: I know my goals. I know at the end of

898
00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 1: the day, I'm going to be a millionaire. I know that,

899
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:26,560
Speaker 1: and I speak that into existence every day because at

900
00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 1: the end of the day, whoever I end up with

901
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 1: and I deal with, I want to be with him

902
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 1: for him, and I want him to be with me

903
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 1: for me. It ain't like I need him or he

904
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:36,960
Speaker 1: needs me. It's just gonna be a love, you know

905
00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:39,960
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. And these men not only they need

906
00:44:40,120 --> 00:44:43,400
Speaker 1: do they need love, but they need you to need them.

907
00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:46,360
Speaker 1: They like to feel me. And with guys like that,

908
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:49,560
Speaker 1: everything is always about them. It's like you're always supporting them,

909
00:44:49,600 --> 00:44:53,640
Speaker 1: you always gotta be there, but it's it's never about

910
00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 1: never about that. Y'all probably thinks that that sound glamorous

911
00:44:57,480 --> 00:44:59,360
Speaker 1: because I know, and I'm not trying to be funny

912
00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:01,560
Speaker 1: or cocky when I say this, but I know that

913
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:03,800
Speaker 1: it's women out there who might be listening to the

914
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:06,800
Speaker 1: show who you've never got five thousand dollars from somebody

915
00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:08,960
Speaker 1: at one time, so you probably like, well, bitch, that

916
00:45:09,040 --> 00:45:12,520
Speaker 1: sounded like a dream, but it's like, but no, at

917
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:14,759
Speaker 1: what cost? Though, At the cost of my sanity and

918
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:18,400
Speaker 1: my peace. Whenever you're getting anything from somebody, you pays,

919
00:45:18,920 --> 00:45:20,719
Speaker 1: you paying a price some type of way. And I

920
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:23,799
Speaker 1: was paying a price emotionally because this nigga used to

921
00:45:24,320 --> 00:45:26,840
Speaker 1: drain the fuck out of me, and Lex used to

922
00:45:26,880 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 1: see firsthand all the times I was and it's like yeah,

923
00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:33,520
Speaker 1: I'm good financially, like I don't have to worry about

924
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:37,680
Speaker 1: my bills and things like that. But this person is

925
00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:42,240
Speaker 1: emotionally abusive and then would never allow me to really

926
00:45:42,440 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 1: not fuck with him. And when I and I know

927
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:46,680
Speaker 1: y'all probably like, how can somebody tell you that you

928
00:45:46,840 --> 00:45:50,080
Speaker 1: can't fuck with him? But emotional abuse when you pop

929
00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 1: up at somebody house and they got you blocks and

930
00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:55,279
Speaker 1: you calling them from another number and you like, oh,

931
00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:58,840
Speaker 1: I'm downstairs. You're not allowing me to knock uck with you.

932
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:00,759
Speaker 1: And they know where you live, they know how to

933
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:02,520
Speaker 1: get to your apartment, like, and so it's like they

934
00:46:02,520 --> 00:46:06,279
Speaker 1: can just pop up anytime. So having company over forget that,

935
00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:10,120
Speaker 1: never can have coopan that's not right besides me, like,

936
00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:11,640
Speaker 1: that's not gonna happen.

937
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:16,080
Speaker 2: So I just feel like all that glitters.

938
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:20,040
Speaker 1: That ain't go period, like and I mean that from

939
00:46:20,040 --> 00:46:23,960
Speaker 1: the bottom of my heart. Like I said, I'm twenty

940
00:46:24,040 --> 00:46:27,080
Speaker 1: nine right now. I used to work in one of

941
00:46:27,120 --> 00:46:29,160
Speaker 1: the most popping strip clubs in Houston. I tell y'all

942
00:46:29,160 --> 00:46:32,080
Speaker 1: that all the time, I've been around a lot of industry.

943
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:34,440
Speaker 1: Now I'm not saying I fucked all of them, but

944
00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:37,760
Speaker 1: I've been on a few days every time. It's never.

945
00:46:37,920 --> 00:46:40,239
Speaker 1: It's never what these men are, never what y'all think

946
00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:44,160
Speaker 1: they are. They not. They're either fucked up mentally, That's

947
00:46:44,160 --> 00:46:45,719
Speaker 1: just what it is. They're fuck up mentally because either

948
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:49,719
Speaker 1: they see color, or they're trying to control you, or

949
00:46:50,360 --> 00:46:52,520
Speaker 1: they want you to stroke their egos so much, and

950
00:46:52,560 --> 00:46:54,720
Speaker 1: it's never about you, Like this last guy I dated,

951
00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:56,960
Speaker 1: y'all know what I'm trying to do. We won't wind

952
00:46:57,000 --> 00:46:58,880
Speaker 1: down Wednesday to be popping. I want my mom to

953
00:46:58,920 --> 00:47:01,200
Speaker 1: be popping. I'll eventually to get into other ventures that

954
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:05,000
Speaker 1: I'm working. Right, this man has more than enough power

955
00:47:05,040 --> 00:47:08,920
Speaker 1: to help me get there. But if you're manipulative and

956
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:11,440
Speaker 1: you're low key jealous because so you're dealing with somebody

957
00:47:11,480 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 1: who's thirteen years younger than he has potential to do,

958
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 1: you don't want to see nobody outshine you. If you're

959
00:47:18,280 --> 00:47:20,520
Speaker 1: used to being a star, you know what I'm saying, Like,

960
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:23,400
Speaker 1: if you feel like you're the Beyonce, why would you

961
00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 1: want Michelle to shan So it's like that's how that's

962
00:47:27,680 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 1: how it is dating these men. So I'm not saying

963
00:47:30,000 --> 00:47:31,359
Speaker 1: like I said, I'm not saying all of that We're

964
00:47:31,400 --> 00:47:34,759
Speaker 1: not trying to turn off from dating industry guys. We're

965
00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:38,080
Speaker 1: just telling you all about chasing them. Yeah, y'all just

966
00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:41,080
Speaker 1: ip chasing it and glamorizing the lifestyle because it's not

967
00:47:41,480 --> 00:47:44,880
Speaker 1: what you really it is. When you really really fucking

968
00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:46,760
Speaker 1: with these niggas. And I'm not talking about just fucking

969
00:47:46,760 --> 00:47:50,799
Speaker 1: a nigga, but I'm talking about with them in a

970
00:47:50,880 --> 00:47:53,200
Speaker 1: relationship and you around them all the time, and you

971
00:47:53,360 --> 00:47:55,279
Speaker 1: going out of town with them, and you're doing all

972
00:47:55,280 --> 00:47:56,960
Speaker 1: of this stuff with them. It's just not what you

973
00:47:57,080 --> 00:47:59,880
Speaker 1: think it is because people really be dealing with some

974
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:02,319
Speaker 1: deep shit. And like I said, you know, me and

975
00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:05,360
Speaker 1: Lyck try to keep our personal lives very private, but

976
00:48:05,480 --> 00:48:08,040
Speaker 1: now as we're doing wide Down Wednesday, I feel like

977
00:48:08,080 --> 00:48:11,239
Speaker 1: it's important for us to be transparent with y'all and

978
00:48:11,320 --> 00:48:13,840
Speaker 1: keep it real withall I feel because in the past,

979
00:48:13,880 --> 00:48:18,960
Speaker 1: I would have never talked to people about these my friends,

980
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:20,200
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But I feel like the

981
00:48:20,239 --> 00:48:21,959
Speaker 1: reason I do feel like we needed to talk about

982
00:48:21,960 --> 00:48:24,160
Speaker 1: this because I have so many women like that want

983
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:26,839
Speaker 1: these types about that, but like they see the things

984
00:48:26,840 --> 00:48:28,879
Speaker 1: that we say and at this DA, no, don't get

985
00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:31,600
Speaker 1: it twisted. We do talk with guys that are, you know,

986
00:48:31,719 --> 00:48:34,480
Speaker 1: well off and take care of themselves, but at the

987
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:36,239
Speaker 1: same time, we're not chasing me.

988
00:48:36,880 --> 00:48:37,640
Speaker 2: Unfortunately.

989
00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:40,759
Speaker 1: We like kind of rocking circles and we be around people.

990
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:42,719
Speaker 1: We be around we just be in situation before. We

991
00:48:42,800 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 1: be around these people all the time. So it's like

992
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:47,160
Speaker 1: when you around and you're an attractive person, they're gonna

993
00:48:47,200 --> 00:48:50,040
Speaker 1: try to write. So it's like, unfortunately, nine times out

994
00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:52,000
Speaker 1: of ten, the niggas that talk to me or trying

995
00:48:52,040 --> 00:48:56,239
Speaker 1: to holler at me our industry dudes. But like most

996
00:48:56,280 --> 00:48:59,440
Speaker 1: of the time, like I take the regular guys seriously

997
00:48:59,600 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 1: or you know what I'm I'm a little different from

998
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 1: Lis in that aspect. When industry dudes try to talk

999
00:49:06,000 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 1: to me, I always usually would you know, be like okay, cool,

1000
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:12,560
Speaker 1: and I'll see where it's gonna go. But my last

1001
00:49:12,560 --> 00:49:14,600
Speaker 1: situation was I would say the first time I was

1002
00:49:14,640 --> 00:49:18,879
Speaker 1: kind of in a real situation with an industry guy.

1003
00:49:19,200 --> 00:49:20,840
Speaker 1: In the past, it was more so like oh we

1004
00:49:20,880 --> 00:49:23,920
Speaker 1: would text and we might hang out once or twice

1005
00:49:24,360 --> 00:49:26,560
Speaker 1: and that would really be it. With this last situation,

1006
00:49:26,680 --> 00:49:29,480
Speaker 1: I was dating this person for a while. Yeah, it

1007
00:49:29,560 --> 00:49:33,080
Speaker 1: was it was like almost a year, so yeah, So

1008
00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:35,240
Speaker 1: I like I was saying, because I had another situation

1009
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:37,239
Speaker 1: and you know about this with the one of y'all

1010
00:49:37,280 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 1: favorite rappers, and this nigga completely violated my privacy on

1011
00:49:42,200 --> 00:49:46,520
Speaker 1: some weird sheet like we was chilling, and he asked

1012
00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:48,440
Speaker 1: me because he seed my phone so he could look

1013
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 1: at my Instagram because at the time his Instagram was deactivated,

1014
00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:56,120
Speaker 1: and instead of just looking at my Instagram, starts going

1015
00:49:56,160 --> 00:49:59,880
Speaker 1: through my photos and going through my text messages and

1016
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:02,400
Speaker 1: didn't have the audacity of questioning me about something I

1017
00:50:02,400 --> 00:50:05,960
Speaker 1: had screenshoted in my phone that he had seen. But

1018
00:50:06,880 --> 00:50:10,640
Speaker 1: all of my friends, we talked to each other about

1019
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 1: our personal lives and our personal relationships all the time.

1020
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 1: Me and Lex even make jokes about she. So if

1021
00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:17,520
Speaker 1: anybody was to get a hold of me and her

1022
00:50:17,600 --> 00:50:20,279
Speaker 1: phone and some of my other friends, you gonna see

1023
00:50:20,320 --> 00:50:23,640
Speaker 1: hell of screenshots of conversations that I've had with other

1024
00:50:23,680 --> 00:50:26,680
Speaker 1: people that I hit selecks. But that's the only reason

1025
00:50:26,719 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 1: why I be having screenshots in my phone is to

1026
00:50:29,040 --> 00:50:31,160
Speaker 1: send it to my friends and talk about it. I

1027
00:50:31,200 --> 00:50:34,280
Speaker 1: ain't no cloud chasing. Ask if we were cloud chasing,

1028
00:50:35,080 --> 00:50:37,880
Speaker 1: I could have been blasted a lot of shit. A

1029
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:40,839
Speaker 1: long time ago girl. So the fact that he went

1030
00:50:40,880 --> 00:50:42,920
Speaker 1: through my phone and tried to accuse me of well,

1031
00:50:42,960 --> 00:50:44,759
Speaker 1: why did you have the screenshot in your phone? It's

1032
00:50:44,800 --> 00:50:47,640
Speaker 1: cool I deleted it already, but I didn't even have

1033
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:49,120
Speaker 1: it in my phone. I'm not trying to send it

1034
00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:51,280
Speaker 1: to no blogs or nothing like that. I was talking

1035
00:50:51,280 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 1: to my friend about it, but he just was so

1036
00:50:53,960 --> 00:50:56,600
Speaker 1: like and niggas like that they be so paranaled because

1037
00:50:56,640 --> 00:50:58,719
Speaker 1: you do have a lot of you out there, you

1038
00:50:58,760 --> 00:51:01,000
Speaker 1: do have to be careful. It was that defense.

1039
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:02,319
Speaker 2: I will say that because.

1040
00:51:02,040 --> 00:51:04,120
Speaker 1: You they got you don't have any pictures of rappers.

1041
00:51:04,160 --> 00:51:06,520
Speaker 1: We donet seem sleeping. But yeah, I feel like, but

1042
00:51:06,560 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 1: that's because y'all need to be careful. But it's like,

1043
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:10,280
Speaker 1: at the same time, you could feel a person's vibe

1044
00:51:10,360 --> 00:51:13,000
Speaker 1: right like I don't know, I just feel like and

1045
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:15,799
Speaker 1: me and that person we have really got into it

1046
00:51:15,840 --> 00:51:18,160
Speaker 1: over this situation, and I just stopped talking, Like we

1047
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:20,640
Speaker 1: stopped talking because of that because I just feel like,

1048
00:51:20,680 --> 00:51:23,200
Speaker 1: what the fuck is my nikka? Like, you not gonna

1049
00:51:23,239 --> 00:51:26,840
Speaker 1: believe me, you know what I mean. I'm not trying

1050
00:51:26,840 --> 00:51:29,400
Speaker 1: to out you at I don't think these people realize

1051
00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:31,799
Speaker 1: this if anything, if you're dealing with a smart girl,

1052
00:51:31,920 --> 00:51:35,240
Speaker 1: and if you were smarter, you would realize that people

1053
00:51:35,400 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 1: would benefit from you if we had an actual relationship

1054
00:51:40,040 --> 00:51:43,080
Speaker 1: and a friendship. And I feel like every relationship should

1055
00:51:43,080 --> 00:51:47,000
Speaker 1: be beneficial first of all, whether it's like mentally beneficial

1056
00:51:47,080 --> 00:51:49,840
Speaker 1: or you're benefiting me from like oh, you can connect

1057
00:51:49,840 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 1: me to this person or I can connect you to this.

1058
00:51:51,880 --> 00:51:55,040
Speaker 1: Every relationship should be beneficial, period, whether it's like I'm

1059
00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:59,479
Speaker 1: your confidant, whatever is. Everything should be beneficial. But I'm

1060
00:51:59,520 --> 00:52:01,600
Speaker 1: not going last thing I want to do. I have

1061
00:52:01,719 --> 00:52:04,120
Speaker 1: my own reputation and my own brand that I'm trying

1062
00:52:04,160 --> 00:52:06,279
Speaker 1: to do. Right. The last thing I want to do

1063
00:52:06,760 --> 00:52:10,160
Speaker 1: is snap a picture of fucking Damien and post it

1064
00:52:10,200 --> 00:52:13,200
Speaker 1: on my Instagram. That's who I'm fucking with. Yeah, like

1065
00:52:13,320 --> 00:52:16,440
Speaker 1: me and LyX, don't you know, of all people my

1066
00:52:16,600 --> 00:52:19,920
Speaker 1: ex situation. He used to be under my picture all

1067
00:52:19,960 --> 00:52:22,239
Speaker 1: the time. He used to be comment on my ship,

1068
00:52:22,360 --> 00:52:25,719
Speaker 1: letting me be like, oh, oh my baby, oh look

1069
00:52:25,719 --> 00:52:28,480
Speaker 1: at my girl. And it's just like I'm not into that,

1070
00:52:28,719 --> 00:52:30,879
Speaker 1: Like we can keep saying. But at the same time,

1071
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:35,400
Speaker 1: what's It's a big difference between hiding me and you know,

1072
00:52:35,560 --> 00:52:38,480
Speaker 1: not wanting to take me to the mill. Yeah, like

1073
00:52:38,600 --> 00:52:41,479
Speaker 1: these niggas, it's like, I don't know because like even

1074
00:52:41,520 --> 00:52:44,160
Speaker 1: with my last situation, the dude that I was fucking with,

1075
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:45,520
Speaker 1: he used to ask me did I want to wear

1076
00:52:45,560 --> 00:52:48,520
Speaker 1: his chained? And she did? I want to? I mean,

1077
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:50,560
Speaker 1: but but honestly he used to be like, do you

1078
00:52:50,600 --> 00:52:52,239
Speaker 1: want to wear my chain? And stuff like that. But

1079
00:52:52,320 --> 00:52:54,040
Speaker 1: I just kind of used to be like no, because

1080
00:52:54,040 --> 00:52:56,319
Speaker 1: if I do that and everybody don't know who I'm

1081
00:52:56,320 --> 00:52:58,880
Speaker 1: fucking with, everybody gonna come out the wood words and

1082
00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:01,960
Speaker 1: with story it's all type of sheet. So it's just

1083
00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:03,640
Speaker 1: kind of like it don't be worth it. Like I

1084
00:53:03,719 --> 00:53:06,560
Speaker 1: like to build, I like to keep my relationships private

1085
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:08,880
Speaker 1: and building private. And then once we get to a

1086
00:53:08,920 --> 00:53:11,319
Speaker 1: point where we comfortable with each other and we both

1087
00:53:11,400 --> 00:53:13,200
Speaker 1: ready to let the world know that we fucking with

1088
00:53:13,239 --> 00:53:15,279
Speaker 1: each other, then cool and it's but I'm never gonna

1089
00:53:15,320 --> 00:53:18,640
Speaker 1: try to out out when yo business and like like

1090
00:53:18,719 --> 00:53:20,480
Speaker 1: you just said, once we get to that point to

1091
00:53:20,480 --> 00:53:22,640
Speaker 1: where okay, now it's time for we come out, and

1092
00:53:22,680 --> 00:53:24,160
Speaker 1: that's why I said, that's when it goes back to

1093
00:53:24,160 --> 00:53:26,239
Speaker 1: the colorism because I feel like once we raise it

1094
00:53:26,280 --> 00:53:29,800
Speaker 1: to that point with both of my situations, it's like, Okay,

1095
00:53:29,880 --> 00:53:35,319
Speaker 1: now we can, but it's like you don't have me. No, oh,

1096
00:53:35,360 --> 00:53:37,400
Speaker 1: now I'm asking for too much, you know what I'm saying.

1097
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:41,399
Speaker 1: But that's how But that's why I just want to say, like, so,

1098
00:53:41,680 --> 00:53:44,040
Speaker 1: for anybody listening to this conversation, if anybody that's in

1099
00:53:44,120 --> 00:53:46,120
Speaker 1: the industry or anybody, you don't even have to be

1100
00:53:46,400 --> 00:53:50,600
Speaker 1: super super popping anybody. For the men, especially everything that

1101
00:53:50,640 --> 00:53:52,960
Speaker 1: we talked about, how do y'all feel about that? Do

1102
00:53:53,080 --> 00:53:55,800
Speaker 1: y'all feel like y'all are And I feel like, honestly,

1103
00:53:55,800 --> 00:53:57,520
Speaker 1: I'm not being funny because people like, oh, this is

1104
00:53:57,600 --> 00:53:59,359
Speaker 1: really a safe space because like I said, we've been

1105
00:53:59,400 --> 00:54:03,160
Speaker 1: transparent about our mental and our physical abuses right things

1106
00:54:03,160 --> 00:54:06,120
Speaker 1: that we day, So honestly, like men, anybody in the industry,

1107
00:54:06,360 --> 00:54:09,279
Speaker 1: any men that are listening right now, how do y'all

1108
00:54:09,320 --> 00:54:12,600
Speaker 1: feel about the colorism issue? Like that's not important thing? Right?

1109
00:54:13,120 --> 00:54:15,000
Speaker 1: And then how do y'all feel as far as the

1110
00:54:15,040 --> 00:54:18,640
Speaker 1: mental abuse? Do y'all feel like y'all are usually controlling?

1111
00:54:18,960 --> 00:54:24,160
Speaker 1: And the women who are listening who have dated industry,

1112
00:54:24,719 --> 00:54:26,719
Speaker 1: and for any dark skinned women that have dated men

1113
00:54:26,760 --> 00:54:28,560
Speaker 1: in the industry. Do you feel like he was making

1114
00:54:28,560 --> 00:54:34,399
Speaker 1: an effort to bring you out and show you all, yeah,

1115
00:54:34,520 --> 00:54:35,880
Speaker 1: or he was just trying to fuck with you on

1116
00:54:35,920 --> 00:54:38,200
Speaker 1: the loan. So I just feel like we had to

1117
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:40,640
Speaker 1: get that off our chests because it's just something. It's

1118
00:54:40,719 --> 00:54:43,399
Speaker 1: just to me at this point, it's getting on a hand,

1119
00:54:43,600 --> 00:54:45,919
Speaker 1: it is and I feel like also like with both

1120
00:54:45,920 --> 00:54:48,719
Speaker 1: of us kind of just recently in the past year

1121
00:54:48,840 --> 00:54:52,719
Speaker 1: getting out of those situations, and it took a toll

1122
00:54:52,800 --> 00:54:57,239
Speaker 1: on both of us. I feel like emotional. So it's

1123
00:54:57,280 --> 00:54:59,000
Speaker 1: just something that we want to talk to you all about,

1124
00:54:59,000 --> 00:55:00,440
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And I I said, it's

1125
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:05,239
Speaker 1: disheartening sometimes to me because I do have like two

1126
00:55:05,320 --> 00:55:09,160
Speaker 1: hundred and fifteen thousand whatever followers on Instagram, so I

1127
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:10,719
Speaker 1: get a lot of com up. I feel like a

1128
00:55:10,719 --> 00:55:13,799
Speaker 1: lot of girls look up younger girls look up to

1129
00:55:13,960 --> 00:55:18,520
Speaker 1: Instagram girls right, and girls will say things like, oh,

1130
00:55:18,560 --> 00:55:21,400
Speaker 1: I love you, I'll look up to you, and and

1131
00:55:21,760 --> 00:55:23,880
Speaker 1: I want to day the industry do like I actually

1132
00:55:23,880 --> 00:55:25,520
Speaker 1: have had girls tell me.

1133
00:55:25,640 --> 00:55:27,319
Speaker 2: Oh, people tell me that all the time.

1134
00:55:27,360 --> 00:55:29,160
Speaker 1: They be like, and I don't even have as many

1135
00:55:29,160 --> 00:55:30,960
Speaker 1: falls as you, but be like, ooh, I know you

1136
00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:33,360
Speaker 1: about to pop up with a rapper, right, I know you,

1137
00:55:33,719 --> 00:55:37,200
Speaker 1: And it's like that should not be your goal. It's

1138
00:55:37,239 --> 00:55:40,440
Speaker 1: like that was never necessarily me or Lexus goal. We

1139
00:55:40,560 --> 00:55:42,880
Speaker 1: just end up being in these songs and end up

1140
00:55:42,960 --> 00:55:45,919
Speaker 1: dating certain type of guys. But I'm never out here

1141
00:55:45,960 --> 00:55:48,120
Speaker 1: like ooh, let me get you know, like let me

1142
00:55:48,200 --> 00:55:51,200
Speaker 1: go after this meeting, right, Like, no, and that shouldn't

1143
00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:53,719
Speaker 1: be oh, like I say, your goal because these a

1144
00:55:53,719 --> 00:55:56,880
Speaker 1: lot of these men are trash and love. And with

1145
00:55:57,040 --> 00:55:59,319
Speaker 1: that being said, let me take a moment to shout

1146
00:55:59,360 --> 00:56:04,280
Speaker 1: out like, you know, oh the Dwayne Wade's Dayton Gabriel Union, Yeah, Lebron,

1147
00:56:05,719 --> 00:56:07,880
Speaker 1: the jay Z's even like even though he's not like

1148
00:56:07,920 --> 00:56:11,400
Speaker 1: the wallet, like he appreciates dark skin and black women, Like,

1149
00:56:11,680 --> 00:56:13,360
Speaker 1: there are the good men out there. But what I

1150
00:56:13,520 --> 00:56:15,319
Speaker 1: was saying, like I said, if you pick out ten

1151
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:18,160
Speaker 1: black men, uh, it's gonna be like one or two

1152
00:56:18,200 --> 00:56:22,839
Speaker 1: of them that are really really especially industry especially industry men,

1153
00:56:23,200 --> 00:56:25,719
Speaker 1: but even for the regular guys, Like that's what it's

1154
00:56:25,719 --> 00:56:28,280
Speaker 1: not about to say these regular niggas gonna be appreciating easily.

1155
00:56:28,400 --> 00:56:31,240
Speaker 1: Yeah they don't. But like I said, but for any

1156
00:56:31,280 --> 00:56:33,960
Speaker 1: black man, industry or not seriously from the bottom of

1157
00:56:33,960 --> 00:56:35,880
Speaker 1: my heart. I love black men me too.

1158
00:56:36,120 --> 00:56:38,920
Speaker 2: So shout out seriously from the bottom of my heart.

1159
00:56:39,239 --> 00:56:41,560
Speaker 1: And I have the man the black men out there

1160
00:56:41,560 --> 00:56:44,680
Speaker 1: that appreciate Black women for who they are.

1161
00:56:44,480 --> 00:56:45,600
Speaker 2: And love us.

1162
00:56:46,040 --> 00:56:49,600
Speaker 1: We appreciate. If anybody don't appreciate y'all, I tell y'all,

1163
00:56:49,640 --> 00:56:52,520
Speaker 1: I mean that shit, especially coming from somebody who only

1164
00:56:52,600 --> 00:56:55,200
Speaker 1: used today a certain type of men. Then I experience

1165
00:56:55,320 --> 00:56:57,520
Speaker 1: being loved from because I can say I've honestly been

1166
00:56:57,560 --> 00:57:00,400
Speaker 1: in real, real love one time. So being love from

1167
00:57:00,440 --> 00:57:04,279
Speaker 1: a black man is an experience that's like no fucking other.

1168
00:57:04,440 --> 00:57:06,480
Speaker 1: And I had and I grew up in a two

1169
00:57:06,520 --> 00:57:09,560
Speaker 1: parent household, and my dad was an amazing father. So

1170
00:57:09,600 --> 00:57:13,279
Speaker 1: I feel like that's what really shaped me loving black

1171
00:57:13,360 --> 00:57:15,600
Speaker 1: men and caring about black men and holding them to

1172
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:17,680
Speaker 1: a certain standard the way that I do. Because my

1173
00:57:17,760 --> 00:57:20,360
Speaker 1: dad was an amazing father. I just wish that I

1174
00:57:20,400 --> 00:57:22,240
Speaker 1: could find a nigga they treat me like my dad,

1175
00:57:23,480 --> 00:57:26,640
Speaker 1: to be honest. So we're gonna wrap this conversation up.

1176
00:57:27,120 --> 00:57:31,160
Speaker 1: This is like really like a venting. It was therapeutic.

1177
00:57:31,800 --> 00:57:33,600
Speaker 2: So honestly, let us know what y'all think.

1178
00:57:33,760 --> 00:57:36,160
Speaker 1: And ladies who want today, industry men out there, let

1179
00:57:36,280 --> 00:57:39,080
Speaker 1: us know how you feel about what we say, about

1180
00:57:39,080 --> 00:57:42,320
Speaker 1: what we said, And anybody who's dated industry men out

1181
00:57:42,320 --> 00:57:45,160
Speaker 1: there as a light skinned woman or as a chocolate woman,

1182
00:57:45,240 --> 00:57:47,800
Speaker 1: let us know your experience. And men, let us know

1183
00:57:47,840 --> 00:57:50,120
Speaker 1: what y'all experience as well, and let us know why

1184
00:57:50,160 --> 00:57:53,480
Speaker 1: do you feel like men choose lighter skinned women over

1185
00:57:53,560 --> 00:57:54,280
Speaker 1: dark skinned women?

1186
00:57:54,440 --> 00:57:57,640
Speaker 2: Right, because y'all, one thing I don't want y'all to do.

1187
00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:04,200
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, industry man, we loved, and because colorism

1188
00:58:04,280 --> 00:58:06,400
Speaker 1: is very real, we all know that. So that's not

1189
00:58:06,440 --> 00:58:08,280
Speaker 1: what we're here to argue about. We're here to argue.

1190
00:58:08,080 --> 00:58:12,120
Speaker 2: About is why wolism is still a thing.

1191
00:58:12,480 --> 00:58:15,800
Speaker 1: Right. So honestly, it's Monday, so we don't see y'all

1192
00:58:15,800 --> 00:58:21,160
Speaker 1: really soon Tuesday, and then boom why on Wednesday for real?

1193
00:58:21,320 --> 00:58:23,800
Speaker 1: So thank y'all for tuning in. It's your girl lex

1194
00:58:23,880 --> 00:58:25,560
Speaker 1: Pe and it's your girls right in the call, and

1195
00:58:25,600 --> 00:58:27,520
Speaker 1: we'll see y'all Wednesday. Bye, y'all,