WEBVTT - Stop Calling Things Hard & Other Things That Might Be Helpful To Know 0:00:02.440 --> 0:00:03.120 Good. 0:00:03.160 --> 0:00:04.680 All right, break it down. 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:08.720 If you ever have feelings that you just won't Amy 0:00:08.840 --> 0:00:13.240 and Cat gotcha covin locking No, brother, Ladies and folks, 0:00:13.560 --> 0:00:15.560 do you just follow an the spirit where it's all 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:19.239 the phone over real stuff to the chill stuff and 0:00:19.400 --> 0:00:23.000 the m but Swayne. Sometimes the best thing you can 0:00:23.079 --> 0:00:27.840 do it just stop you feel things. This is feeling 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:29.400 things with Amy and Kat. 0:00:29.480 --> 0:00:32.279 Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm 0:00:32.360 --> 0:00:35.920 Cat and my feeling of the day is fun. I guess, 0:00:36.479 --> 0:00:38.479 I don't know fun for sure. For sure falls into 0:00:38.440 --> 0:00:40.640 the fun category, but it sure feels fun when I 0:00:40.680 --> 0:00:44.400 get it right. So when you check out, when you're 0:00:44.440 --> 0:00:47.440 online shopping and you don't want to give your email 0:00:47.479 --> 0:00:50.200 and your phone number to get the ten percent discount code, 0:00:50.479 --> 0:00:52.000 do you play the game of trying to figure out 0:00:52.000 --> 0:00:55.680 what their code is? Like typing in welcome, welcome, ten, welcome, fifteen, 0:00:55.760 --> 0:00:58.840 welcome twenty, which normally you can guess the percentage off 0:00:58.880 --> 0:01:00.680 of it would be ten, fifteen or two twenty based 0:01:00.680 --> 0:01:03.680 on what they say in the pop up screen to 0:01:03.720 --> 0:01:05.680 get you to get the percentage off. It'll be like 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:08.679 want ten percent off, want fifteen percent off, and that 0:01:08.720 --> 0:01:12.080 will help me with the Hello ten, Hello fifteen, Hello twenty, 0:01:12.360 --> 0:01:16.280 Save ten, Save fifteen, Save twenty free ship. 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:19.600 I've never played that game. I have other tricks, but 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:22.640 this is very smart. Why haven't I played this game. 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:26.240 In the depending on the season spring ten, spring twenty, 0:01:26.280 --> 0:01:30.360 summer ten summer twenty summer fifteen, fall ten, fall twenty winter. 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:33.680 So have you been doing this lately? Yes? 0:01:33.760 --> 0:01:36.600 And I got for two days in a row getting 0:01:36.640 --> 0:01:40.560 things welcome ten worked for two different sites, and I 0:01:40.600 --> 0:01:42.119 was like, this is fun. 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:44.040 And they cause. 0:01:45.600 --> 0:01:47.640 If they don't want people to do that, they got 0:01:47.680 --> 0:01:49.480 to get more creative with their code. 0:01:49.600 --> 0:01:51.760 Some people have because you'll go and they'll email you 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:54.160 the code. It's like ADSF one two four or five 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:58.240 y dash niner copy. You have to like paste it 0:01:58.280 --> 0:02:01.440 in there like those those are the ones they really 0:02:01.480 --> 0:02:03.080 don't want figuring out the code. 0:02:03.840 --> 0:02:06.240 Well, they really want your email and your phone number. Yes. 0:02:07.320 --> 0:02:10.680 I usually will just google if I'm like, what's a 0:02:10.720 --> 0:02:12.720 discount code for this place? 0:02:12.760 --> 0:02:15.160 And sometimes it'll work. Sometimes there won't be one. But 0:02:15.240 --> 0:02:18.520 I used to have have you heard of honey? 0:02:18.680 --> 0:02:20.720 Yes, I've used honey. Okay, I did it too. 0:02:20.880 --> 0:02:21.600 It used to be. 0:02:21.639 --> 0:02:23.640 Like what do you call it like it was like 0:02:23.639 --> 0:02:26.880 a plugin that I had on my Safari. 0:02:27.040 --> 0:02:30.280 Yeah, it lived in and it so it would it 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:33.760 would automatically go generate things for you. 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:34.720 Which is really cool. 0:02:34.720 --> 0:02:36.000 I feel like it saved me a lot of money, 0:02:36.200 --> 0:02:38.919 but I didn't download it out my new computer because 0:02:39.880 --> 0:02:43.320 it felt a little bit unsafe, Like, who knows I 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:45.920 could have gotten a couple viruses from that in this 0:02:46.080 --> 0:02:48.880 now my computer we use for work, so we can't 0:02:48.919 --> 0:02:51.560 be doing that. I don't even know if that's still 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:51.880 a thing. 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:53.920 Good question, because I haven't used it in a little 0:02:53.919 --> 0:02:55.399 bit and I don't know how it got off of mine, 0:02:55.440 --> 0:02:57.799 but I did, maybe because I got a new computer too. 0:02:57.960 --> 0:03:00.960 I can't or I like your yours is more fun. 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:01.640 It's like a game. 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:04.480 That's why my feeling is fun because it worked twice 0:03:04.480 --> 0:03:08.440 for me, and just letting people know if you don't 0:03:08.440 --> 0:03:10.640 want to give your email and phone number, I mean 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:12.280 you may have to if you can't figure it out. 0:03:12.440 --> 0:03:15.760 But it's so fun when it works and you're like, oh, 0:03:15.800 --> 0:03:17.760 like the disk that just pops up and if you 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:22.399 shop revolve a code that always tends to always work 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:26.600 for them is tulip what? Yeah, you get ten percent offers. 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:26.880 So random. 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:31.960 Yeah, tula okay, tulip ten. That's why I'm feeling fun. 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:34.800 Okay, I like it. I'm feeling a lot of things. Okay, 0:03:35.360 --> 0:03:38.800 I have a lot to talk about. Where should we start? Oh, 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:40.160 this is easy, We'll get this out of the way. 0:03:40.160 --> 0:03:41.360 I feel very proud of myself. 0:03:41.400 --> 0:03:43.120 I feel like you'll be very proud of me for 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:45.280 doing this, you know how, Like I like to do 0:03:45.320 --> 0:03:47.240 things with myself and I like to just be like, oh, 0:03:47.280 --> 0:03:50.120 I can do that myself and not hire a professional. 0:03:50.400 --> 0:03:52.600 Yeah, so I'm learning. 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:57.000 And I hired somebody to come do landscaping at my house, 0:03:57.400 --> 0:04:00.760 just the front, but I was going to do it 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:03.120 myself and then got very overwhelmed and was like, I'll 0:04:03.120 --> 0:04:05.600 probably spend one thousand dollars on plants and then kill 0:04:05.640 --> 0:04:07.320 them all because what do I know about plants? 0:04:07.680 --> 0:04:08.760 So I felt like that was very. 0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:11.000 Adult of me. Good y'all going to call somebody to 0:04:11.000 --> 0:04:13.720 do it for me. It's feeling proud of myself. Now 0:04:13.760 --> 0:04:17.040 I have a PSA. I feel like everybody needs to 0:04:17.080 --> 0:04:20.160 know this. Who enjoys going to the movies and this 0:04:20.200 --> 0:04:23.080 is my feeling attached to this is disturbed have you 0:04:23.120 --> 0:04:24.200 heard of the movie The Drama? 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:25.960 Yes? Have you heard about this movie? 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:26.359 Yes? 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:29.080 Okay, I didn't know much about. 0:04:28.839 --> 0:04:30.680 This movie, and you just went to see it. 0:04:31.720 --> 0:04:32.839 I escaped this. 0:04:32.800 --> 0:04:35.640 By the skin of what is it, the skin of 0:04:35.680 --> 0:04:36.200 my teeth? 0:04:36.440 --> 0:04:37.839 Yeah, so you didn't see it. 0:04:37.920 --> 0:04:40.400 My friend asked me to go yesterday, and I was 0:04:40.640 --> 0:04:43.360 bored out of my mind because Patrick had on the 0:04:43.400 --> 0:04:47.520 Masters for six hours, and so I didn't really want 0:04:47.520 --> 0:04:48.840 to go see this movie, but I wanted to get 0:04:48.839 --> 0:04:51.000 out of the house, so I was gonna go, but 0:04:51.080 --> 0:04:53.360 then the drive was too far. They were going in 0:04:53.520 --> 0:04:56.880 Nashville and I was in Franklin. She texted me after 0:04:56.960 --> 0:04:59.320 and she said, thank god you didn't go see this movie. 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:02.920 It was the weirdest movie I've ever seen, and it 0:05:03.000 --> 0:05:05.960 got like rave reviews from a lot of people. So 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:08.760 the whole I'm not going to give anything away at all, 0:05:08.800 --> 0:05:10.600 but the whole point of the movie is there's this 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:14.040 big secret you find out and that is like the 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:15.640 pipeline to the rest of the movie. 0:05:15.960 --> 0:05:18.839 Well, I think it falls under dark comedy. 0:05:18.880 --> 0:05:20.800 It is a dark comedy. Yeah, it's very dark. 0:05:21.040 --> 0:05:23.200 Yeah, very If I were you and I was going 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:25.760 to go see this movie, I would look up what 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:30.240 that secret is before I paid twenty twenty five dollars 0:05:30.279 --> 0:05:31.279 to go see this movie. 0:05:32.279 --> 0:05:36.599 I think what it's about, it's like not some I 0:05:36.640 --> 0:05:38.960 get that it's dark comedy, but I don't feel like 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:39.920 we ever it. 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:41.680 Was in the news, so I feel like even before 0:05:41.720 --> 0:05:43.479 the movie came out, it was a big news story 0:05:43.480 --> 0:05:46.200 of oh why didn't see that? Is so? I mean, 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:48.720 I talked to it in case someone's wanting to see it. 0:05:48.760 --> 0:05:52.800 I guess we shouldn't spoil the big secret, but it's well, 0:05:53.120 --> 0:05:54.479 very positive topic. 0:05:54.600 --> 0:05:56.720 Yeah, and I'm saying, if you're going to go see it, 0:05:56.800 --> 0:05:59.839 spoil the secret because you might not want to watch this. 0:06:00.800 --> 0:06:03.160 My friend was saying, like you, it was hot, it 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:05.799 was awkward to laugh at any of the stuff because 0:06:05.800 --> 0:06:09.440 it's not something that's it's not funny, and the thing 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:12.880 that it's about is affecting so many people, even if 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:15.120 you're not directly affected by it, Like it's a big 0:06:15.160 --> 0:06:17.599 issue in our specifically our country. 0:06:17.680 --> 0:06:19.160 Yeah, I think that's why it was such a big 0:06:19.200 --> 0:06:20.680 news story before the movie came out. 0:06:20.720 --> 0:06:23.000 I cannot believe they made a movie about it, Like, 0:06:23.080 --> 0:06:24.520 I'm disturbed. 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:24.920 Of the about this. 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:28.559 They were saying she didn't go through with it. It didn't 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:29.400 actually happening. 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:31.080 But do you know why. 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:33.160 Well no, I don't know that part. 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:35.440 But okay, it's not like it's not because she had 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:36.080 a change of heart. 0:06:36.640 --> 0:06:38.880 Okay, so you were disturbed by. 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:41.080 That, yes, And I just wanted to let anybody know 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:43.719 because I would be so well, I think I don't 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:45.000 know that I would be able to sit through. 0:06:44.880 --> 0:06:45.280 All of that. 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:48.520 But I movies are expensive to go see, and I 0:06:48.600 --> 0:06:50.080 just don't want anybody to waste their money. 0:06:50.200 --> 0:06:53.720 Okay. So there's that that felt good to get off 0:06:53.720 --> 0:06:54.120 my chest. 0:06:55.520 --> 0:06:58.119 And then I love that you're like recommending for people 0:06:58.160 --> 0:06:59.960 to not go see a movie that you haven't seen. 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:04.080 But some other people enjoyed it. 0:07:04.400 --> 0:07:05.520 Some people liked it. 0:07:05.600 --> 0:07:07.799 I think you have to have a very specific type 0:07:07.800 --> 0:07:10.200 of humor to be able to enjoy that. Yeah, and 0:07:10.600 --> 0:07:13.800 you need to not have been affected by this specific thing. 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:18.680 Okay, Next feeling, Next feeling. So this is third feeling. 0:07:19.440 --> 0:07:20.960 I told you I have a lot of feelings. 0:07:21.360 --> 0:07:25.560 I think this feeling is like I feel seen or 0:07:25.680 --> 0:07:30.400 I feel relief, I feel validated. And this is a 0:07:30.400 --> 0:07:33.600 little pregnancy update. I'm out of breath talking and that 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:38.280 I'm blaming on pregnancy. In the first trimester of pregnancy, 0:07:39.360 --> 0:07:42.400 a lot of times, one you're hiding, you're not telling people, 0:07:42.440 --> 0:07:45.640 and so you're trying to like dress like you don't 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:50.559 look pregnant. And then through the first trimester, you don't 0:07:50.600 --> 0:07:54.160 necessarily have like a baby bump, Like you might look bloated, 0:07:54.280 --> 0:07:56.680 you might have gained weight, but there's not like you know, 0:07:57.160 --> 0:07:59.720 when there's a baby bump, it's like cute and whatever. 0:08:00.360 --> 0:08:02.200 I think it's a hard season to be in that 0:08:02.360 --> 0:08:06.200 whole space. It's just body image wise, it's difficult. I 0:08:06.280 --> 0:08:10.000 have been inundated on social media with all of these 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:12.360 and part of this is my fault. All of these 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:18.679 videos of like really adorable people dressing their pregnant body 0:08:18.760 --> 0:08:23.120 through different stages, and I've internally been struggling. 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:25.560 Of like how are these people doing this? 0:08:26.080 --> 0:08:30.360 Like they look so cute or they're fifteen weeks pregnant 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:33.200 and they literally look smaller than I did before I 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:36.280 got pregnant. Like just a lot of negative thoughts coming up, 0:08:36.320 --> 0:08:39.400 and I through this process, I tried to just you know, 0:08:40.000 --> 0:08:42.959 use my tools, like I say, talk my way through it, 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:47.360 remind myself, like everybody's body is different. You're creating the life. 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:48.600 Blah blah, blah, blah. 0:08:48.400 --> 0:08:50.840 Blah, a lot of beings. I'm thinking if I texted 0:08:50.880 --> 0:08:52.839 you the other day because you love when you use 0:08:52.840 --> 0:08:54.680 your tools, and you love when I use my tools, 0:08:54.679 --> 0:08:56.120 and I text you the other day and I was 0:08:56.160 --> 0:08:59.280 annoyed about my self tanner or something. I'm like, uh, 0:08:59.400 --> 0:09:02.760 and I just feels so white. And then I use 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:05.640 my tools and replied back. I was like, and well 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:10.480 I am so this is fine. I am white. And 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:11.520 then you were like, good for you. 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:14.960 Yeah, night's when we can use our tools. 0:09:15.000 --> 0:09:17.280 Yes, it is what it is like. Yeah, I love 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:22.400 my and you are white, translucent, pale skin. That's me. 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:26.200 But sometimes that's like it Sometimes talk like that, like 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:31.280 this overly body positive talk feels almost like gas lighting 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:34.200 it kind of. It sometimes felt like I wasn't allowing 0:09:34.240 --> 0:09:37.440 myself to really like this sucks, like my body is 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:39.720 changing at a pace I have no control over. 0:09:40.320 --> 0:09:41.679 I don't like it. 0:09:41.720 --> 0:09:44.640 But it feels like you can't say that because I'm 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:46.400 pregnant and I should be grateful and we should be 0:09:46.440 --> 0:09:48.920 grateful for our bodies that allow ourselves to be pregnant 0:09:48.920 --> 0:09:51.839 and blah blah blah blah, tools, whole tools. But so 0:09:51.880 --> 0:09:54.240 it feels like there wasn't this like in but nobody was. 0:09:54.360 --> 0:09:57.040 I wasn't around anybody or I didn't see anybody who 0:09:57.080 --> 0:09:58.520 was talking about that. So it's just kind of a 0:09:58.520 --> 0:10:01.720 conversation I was having, like with my self or Patrick 0:10:01.840 --> 0:10:05.120 or whatever. Patrick's response is he's very kind, but he's 0:10:05.160 --> 0:10:07.120 just like, you're pregnant, and I'm like, I. 0:10:07.080 --> 0:10:12.719 Know, but I don't look pregnant. I look and then I. 0:10:12.679 --> 0:10:15.400 Feel like God just sent me a little gift because 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:16.800 I don't listen to this podcast. 0:10:16.800 --> 0:10:18.000 But have you heard of The Squeeze? 0:10:18.200 --> 0:10:19.440 Yeah, the Latner's. 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:22.280 Yeah, they're both named Taylor. Yeah, it's kind of cute, 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:25.319 and that's kind of weird. I guess that could never 0:10:25.320 --> 0:10:27.439 happen to you because what man is named Amy? 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:32.080 Yeah? You because there's no man named Katherine there or not. 0:10:32.720 --> 0:10:34.880 But yeah, if you have a unisex name. 0:10:35.000 --> 0:10:36.880 Like, would that and would that turn you off if 0:10:36.920 --> 0:10:39.160 you were like dating somebody the same name as you? 0:10:39.200 --> 0:10:39.280 No? 0:10:39.600 --> 0:10:43.000 Okay, anyway, I have never I can't say I've ever 0:10:43.040 --> 0:10:45.199 listened to one of their episodes, but and their stuff 0:10:45.200 --> 0:10:48.760 doesn't really pop up on my paget often, but a 0:10:48.840 --> 0:10:52.079 video of her of Taylor the girl Taylor popped up. 0:10:52.240 --> 0:10:55.720 I guess she's pregnant, and she was like, nobody talks 0:10:55.760 --> 0:10:58.559 about this, and I was like ooh. And she talked 0:10:58.559 --> 0:11:01.880 about how during her first time she was like she 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:03.720 was really sick, and she was like, the only thing 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:06.640 I could eat is carbs, So obviously that's all I'm eating, 0:11:06.679 --> 0:11:07.800 and I can't exercise. 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:09.160 I'm gaining a lot of weight. 0:11:09.840 --> 0:11:12.719 And all I saw around me were and I'm paraphrasing, 0:11:12.720 --> 0:11:15.160 and she might have said something a little different. All 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:17.280 I saw around me were these like tiny people that 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:19.880 literally didn't gain any weight in their first trimester, and 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:22.760 they look so cute and they loved dressing their pregnant body. 0:11:22.800 --> 0:11:25.240 And she was like, and I was having the worst time, 0:11:25.720 --> 0:11:27.760 and I was just I mean, I think she was 0:11:27.800 --> 0:11:30.040 talking about like how she was having breakdowns about it, 0:11:30.080 --> 0:11:32.720 and how she said I hated my body, hated looking 0:11:32.760 --> 0:11:34.560 at it, I hated feeling it, I hated whatever. 0:11:35.760 --> 0:11:37.920 And I was so grateful for that because. 0:11:37.679 --> 0:11:41.600 It almost was like seeing somebody else say that was like, well, 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:44.520 I can feel that too, Like this is for anybody, 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:46.200 whether you're pregnant or not, going through that. 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:49.280 I feel like with body image stuff, we get in 0:11:49.360 --> 0:11:52.000 this space where we feel like we have to just 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:55.120 be grateful for our health or our. 0:11:55.000 --> 0:11:58.360 Pregnant body or the ability to walk or you know 0:11:58.400 --> 0:12:01.840 what I mean, like you're girling, yeah, versus like can 0:12:01.840 --> 0:12:04.640 we be realistic and we can be grateful? Like I 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:07.400 am grateful I'm pregnant. Obviously it was a hard journey. 0:12:07.760 --> 0:12:12.000 Wouldn't trade it. And this part sucks, especially when I'm 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:14.280 surrounded by what it looks like and I know it's 0:12:14.320 --> 0:12:17.640 just social media people that are not having the same 0:12:17.679 --> 0:12:19.600 experience of me as me, and it feels like, well, 0:12:19.600 --> 0:12:23.200 what am I doing wrong? Because my body looks like 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:27.440 this and you look adorable. But also I will say 0:12:27.440 --> 0:12:29.480 with that, and this is to myself and other people, 0:12:30.160 --> 0:12:32.400 I've never and I think she said something like this too. 0:12:33.000 --> 0:12:35.360 I've never looked at a pregnant person and been like ew. 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:39.360 And so I'm sure people that are that would see 0:12:39.360 --> 0:12:42.040 my pregnant body wouldn't be like, oh, what have you 0:12:42.120 --> 0:12:45.520 been doing? They're probably just like, she's a pregnant person. 0:12:45.640 --> 0:12:49.480 But we see ourselves so differently. So I feel like 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:52.000 I said validated because I feel like I was gaslighting 0:12:52.000 --> 0:12:53.360 myself and it was making it worse. 0:12:53.720 --> 0:12:55.360 And now I can just be like, this. 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:57.600 Part sucks and I can't wait until I have my 0:12:57.679 --> 0:13:00.559 belly that pops out and then I'll feel about maybe. 0:13:00.600 --> 0:13:04.040 I hope you will. It's hard, you will. 0:13:04.240 --> 0:13:07.840 It's just hard when you are like you do not 0:13:07.960 --> 0:13:09.800 have any control over what happens. 0:13:10.080 --> 0:13:10.760 You can do all. 0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:14.040 That's the other thing people are like on TikTok, if 0:13:14.040 --> 0:13:15.440 you eat this is what I eat in a day 0:13:15.480 --> 0:13:17.240 as a pregnant person, blah blah blah blah blah, and 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:18.960 I'm like, I feel like I don't eat that differently 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:23.120 than that, and I'm moving my bodies much as I can, 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:27.160 and I've been steady climbing the scale. I don't know 0:13:27.160 --> 0:13:29.760 that because I refuse to weigh myself, but by the 0:13:30.000 --> 0:13:31.000 feel of my pants. 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:32.280 That's a bigger tool scale. 0:13:33.200 --> 0:13:34.959 Yeah, So this is just. 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:38.520 This is your first pregnancy, so this is uncharted territory 0:13:38.559 --> 0:13:41.640 for you too. So you're experiencing something for the first time. 0:13:41.720 --> 0:13:47.120 I would imagine when navigating something for the second time, 0:13:47.360 --> 0:13:51.360 you would know more what to expect from your body. Right, 0:13:51.400 --> 0:13:54.520 this is like everybody's different obviously. 0:13:54.200 --> 0:13:58.079 Yeah, and this is coming from somebody who like I 0:13:58.080 --> 0:14:01.600 specialize in body image work, like I've done this work 0:14:02.120 --> 0:14:05.040 professionally and for myself for years. I feel like I 0:14:05.040 --> 0:14:07.120 have a pretty good grasp on it. But even I'm 0:14:07.160 --> 0:14:10.720 struggling with some stuff and need to, like you know, 0:14:10.800 --> 0:14:13.520 go back into my toolbox and need to hear that 0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:17.840 validation from other people. So if you're not in that space, 0:14:17.920 --> 0:14:20.480 then it definitely would be normal for you to struggle 0:14:20.480 --> 0:14:20.720 with this. 0:14:21.320 --> 0:14:21.520 Well. 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:23.760 I love that you shared that because you got the 0:14:23.840 --> 0:14:25.200 validation from Taylor. 0:14:25.760 --> 0:14:26.680 Yeah, and. 0:14:28.240 --> 0:14:31.080 She's our friend Taylor, and someone listening to you right 0:14:31.120 --> 0:14:34.000 now he'd be like, Oh, I'm so glad Kat who 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:37.960 is and this is her job, this is what she 0:14:38.560 --> 0:14:41.960 does for a living, helping others through this is also 0:14:43.320 --> 0:14:45.440 having her experience with it. 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:51.680 And living in this world is tough, like body image wise, 0:14:51.720 --> 0:14:54.320 like living in our society and our culture, in our world, 0:14:54.400 --> 0:14:55.200 it just is tough. 0:14:55.240 --> 0:14:57.720 It just is. No matter how much work you put 0:14:57.760 --> 0:14:59.040 in it. You're climbing. 0:14:59.040 --> 0:15:02.600 We're climbing it up battle we will be forever. Because 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:05.520 there's as much work as you put into all of that, 0:15:05.920 --> 0:15:09.160 you have five times that coming from the other side 0:15:09.200 --> 0:15:14.480 telling you that that work is wrong, So anybody struggling 0:15:14.480 --> 0:15:16.240 with that, I am too. 0:15:17.240 --> 0:15:19.680 This isn't directly related to what you're saying, but it 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:22.880 does have to do with things being hard or new. 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:28.960 I saw a perspective shift being talked about and just 0:15:29.280 --> 0:15:31.960 sort of fitting here to say, if you're experiencing anything 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:34.280 new for the first time and you're finding it hard 0:15:34.400 --> 0:15:37.520 or difficult, and maybe you were thinking something's too hard 0:15:37.600 --> 0:15:41.360 to do or you could never do that, a perspective 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:46.760 shift could be instead of easy versus hard, familiar versus unfamiliar. 0:15:47.680 --> 0:15:49.560 This is very unfamiliar for me. 0:15:50.040 --> 0:15:52.640 Yeah, yeah, well I don't know that it totally applies to, 0:15:52.720 --> 0:15:57.520 like being pregnant, but and thinking of maybe people wanting 0:15:57.560 --> 0:16:00.200 to try something new, because I mean, I think it's 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:02.800 fair to say this is hard, not only the unfamiliar, 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:06.640 but it's hard. But just and how us talking about 0:16:06.640 --> 0:16:08.840 things being EASi or hard unfamiliar made me think of 0:16:08.880 --> 0:16:11.200 this perspective shift that I saw that might be helpful 0:16:11.200 --> 0:16:15.400 for anybody just going through anything. It's like a little 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:19.000 brain hack of how you're looking at something, because then 0:16:19.040 --> 0:16:21.520 when you see that something's hard, you might not want 0:16:21.560 --> 0:16:25.000 to do it. Yeah, but if it's just unfamiliar. It's like, oh, well, 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:26.680 I just need to get familiar with that. 0:16:26.800 --> 0:16:30.400 Like putting together a piece of furniture. This is unfamiliar. 0:16:30.440 --> 0:16:32.880 I've never done this before. Versa's like, this is too 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:33.640 hard and complicated. 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:34.040 I can't. 0:16:34.680 --> 0:16:37.240 Yeah, but I am glad you hired a landscape or 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:37.920 that does seem hard. 0:16:38.920 --> 0:16:42.240 I'm familiar with both unfamiliar and art. And art also, 0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:44.720 like I said, I would have wasted a lot of 0:16:44.720 --> 0:16:46.120 money if I tried to do it myself. 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:49.120 Gardening is though, or getting your hands in the soil 0:16:49.160 --> 0:16:53.920 and like digging in the dirt is very good for 0:16:54.040 --> 0:16:57.560 the brain. That I am also just reminded of. I 0:16:57.560 --> 0:16:59.040 don't have the study in front of me, but I 0:16:59.080 --> 0:17:01.360 read it last week. No, it was something that I 0:17:01.360 --> 0:17:04.280 came across last week where I was talking something. It 0:17:04.520 --> 0:17:06.680 was an article about Alzheimer's And I'll see if what 0:17:06.720 --> 0:17:08.240 we're talking about it, Shannon can look it up. But 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:12.800 how using your hands and gardening and getting in the 0:17:12.800 --> 0:17:27.199 dirt is good for the brain. Using your hands and 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:30.119 gardening and getting in the dirt is good for the brain. 0:17:30.400 --> 0:17:33.679 It's neuroscience. I can't explain it. It's unfamiliar. 0:17:34.960 --> 0:17:37.840 I wonder why that would be, like, why with the 0:17:37.880 --> 0:17:40.480 dirt specifically, or is it the activity you're doing in 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:40.879 the dirt? 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:43.439 Okay, well, okay, this is so far what Shannon has 0:17:43.440 --> 0:17:45.760 pulled up. Multiple studies indicate that digging and dirt and 0:17:45.800 --> 0:17:49.560 gardening provides significant psychological and cognitive benefits by interacting with 0:17:49.600 --> 0:17:54.920 specific soil microbes and increasing critical brain growth proteins. Yeah, 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:59.400 I don't know if that's exactly what I saw. Research 0:17:59.440 --> 0:18:02.560 from Universe of Colorado Boulder shoutout, that's where my niece goes. 0:18:03.119 --> 0:18:07.960 It shows that this microbe activates serotonin producing neurons in 0:18:08.000 --> 0:18:11.359 the brain, functioning as a natural mood stabilizer, similar to 0:18:11.400 --> 0:18:12.959 some antidepressant medications. 0:18:13.240 --> 0:18:16.280 So dirt has similar qualities as antidepressant. 0:18:16.400 --> 0:18:19.600 That's sort of what a University of Colorado Boulder is saying. 0:18:19.600 --> 0:18:23.440 But my I know that mine was a Alzheimer's related article. 0:18:24.040 --> 0:18:26.720 Well, shoot, maybe I should have done it myself. 0:18:26.880 --> 0:18:29.160 Okay, I think we maybe now have it. We now 0:18:29.200 --> 0:18:30.760 have it a sixteen. 0:18:30.480 --> 0:18:35.520 Year long longitudinal I did not know that wordudin. 0:18:35.960 --> 0:18:37.840 That word scared me. Do you know that because of 0:18:37.920 --> 0:18:39.400 your therapy background? 0:18:39.840 --> 0:18:42.440 No, but I do know that you like, we've talked 0:18:42.480 --> 0:18:44.520 about how like we'll skip words if we don't know them. 0:18:44.520 --> 0:18:46.840 And I knew you want to. 0:18:46.160 --> 0:18:49.760 Skip a word. I don't know that I've ever seen 0:18:49.960 --> 0:18:54.800 that word in my life. Thank you for help. No longitudinal, 0:18:57.480 --> 0:18:59.800