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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for telling my sister that

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Speaker 1: she could find somewhere else to stay if she can't

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Speaker 1: stand being with my daughter? What are you doing? I

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Speaker 1: twenty seven female, have a five year old foster daughter

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Speaker 1: named May. She has been with me for about eight

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Speaker 1: months now, and I love her to pieces. I'm considering

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Speaker 1: adopting her even That is the most adorable thing. Ever,

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Speaker 1: that's so cute? Adopt more, y'all? Yeah, My sister, thirty

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Speaker 1: one female, Kate, recently suffered a miscarriage and it took

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Speaker 1: a real toll on her marriage. She's getting divorced from

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Speaker 1: her husband.

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Speaker 2: And has been so yikes, that sucks.

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Speaker 1: And it's been staying with me because she can't bear

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Speaker 1: to live with him. Right now, Why did you do something?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Kate, however, has been a horrible guest

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Speaker 1: to May. Every time May ask her for something or

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Speaker 1: talks to her, Kate just bursts into tears or yells

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Speaker 1: at her. Oh, sounds like she would be a bad mom.

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Speaker 1: Miscarriage blessing in disguise? Yikes? Okay, Now, Kate is a

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Speaker 1: great sister to be. I understand that she's grieving, but

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Speaker 1: that doesn't mean she can lash out at May for

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Speaker 1: simply existing facts. I've told her off multiple times for

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Speaker 1: yelling at May, but it all came to a head

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Speaker 1: when I confronted her this morning. May had asked Kate

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Speaker 1: if she could move so she could get to the

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Speaker 1: snack cabinet. Kate snapped at her to wait for a

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Speaker 1: damn second, a little brat. I overheard from the living

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Speaker 1: room and made Kate move out of the way and

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Speaker 1: told her to apologize to me. Kate burst into tears,

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Speaker 1: saying that she couldn't take having May here as a

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Speaker 1: reminder of what she's lost. What do you mean stop,

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Speaker 1: You've lost the ability to be a good mother.

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Speaker 2: So that also means she just goes outside and she

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Speaker 2: just sees a child, and then it's just like, oh,

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Speaker 2: like everyone there, everyone in the world should delete their

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Speaker 2: children because she couldn't have one.

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Speaker 1: Dude.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I get you went through it a terrible thing,

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Speaker 2: but it sucks. You can't take it out on an

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Speaker 2: innocent child. And part of being a good mother is

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Speaker 2: being good to children. And yes, so it's like you're

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Speaker 2: kind of doing the opposite of what you should do.

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Speaker 2: I told her, she's a grown ass adult and she

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Speaker 2: should know better than the bully a child for her

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Speaker 2: own problems.

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Speaker 1: True. I told me to go to her room real quick,

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Speaker 1: and Kate and I got into a huge argument, and

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Speaker 1: I ended up telling her if she couldn't take seeing

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Speaker 1: my foster daughter, she could find somewhere else to stay. Yes, facts,

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Speaker 1: I mean that is what it is. I don't know

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Speaker 1: if there's there's not really another option.

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Speaker 2: What, No, you can't. You can't live in my home

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Speaker 2: if you're going to do that. She left to her parents'

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Speaker 2: house and told them everything. And I've been getting massages

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Speaker 2: from her all day now. Ooh so oiled.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I imagine uh op meant to say messages, yes,

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Speaker 1: but it would be great at the it just like you.

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Speaker 2: Know, I'm so tired of you. But I mean to just.

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Speaker 1: Work theseus or it's like I realized what I did wrong?

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Speaker 1: Massages on me?

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Speaker 2: There we go.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I getran massage at all of branch massage maybe

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Speaker 1: with some all of them. Oil. Uh, sister, sister, I've

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Speaker 1: been getting messages. I'm assuming I've been getting messages from

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Speaker 1: her all day now. She tells me I am a

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Speaker 1: horrible sister and said that she was grieving and asked

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Speaker 1: how I could put someone else's kid over hers, what

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Speaker 1: kid terrible? Which I think is a disgusting thing to

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Speaker 1: send to anyone personally. I think she's being insensitive to

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Speaker 1: me and my daughter's relationship. True. Yes, according to my mom,

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Speaker 1: she's been crying for hours and won't stop talking about

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Speaker 1: how I'm such a monster for not thinking about her feelings.

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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? I just don't think she

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Speaker 1: has the right to yell at my kid because she's

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Speaker 1: lost hers.

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Speaker 2: That is absolutely correct, And I think the solution here

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Speaker 2: is to tie her to the bed and let may

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Speaker 2: just boom boom boom, throw some hang, throw some punches,

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Speaker 2: get some anger. Watch out, auntie, can you catch these hands?

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Speaker 1: Also, why does it just like why doesn't the sister

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Speaker 1: adopt That's another idea, a solution. Come on, come on,

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Speaker 1: we just we just we're just hitting you with those solutions.

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Speaker 2: Good gravy.