WEBVTT - Listener Q&A With Morgan and Amy 0:00:01.040 --> 0:00:04.640 Best Bits of the Week with Morgan Listener Q and A. 0:00:05.800 --> 0:00:08.640 We're here to answer some listener co questions. 0:00:08.720 --> 0:00:10.960 Amy is joining me this weekend. Amy, thanks for being here. 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:11.639 Hi. Hi. 0:00:11.880 --> 0:00:13.720 Make sure you guys check out Part one. We talked 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:15.480 all about the boyfriends. I know there was a lot 0:00:15.480 --> 0:00:18.279 of questions about that, so we just dedicated some time 0:00:18.280 --> 0:00:20.800 in Part one to that and some kids stuff and 0:00:21.320 --> 0:00:24.480 Amy perimenopause, as I'm am I saying that correctly. 0:00:24.120 --> 0:00:28.120 Amy's is that my nickname? Amy perimenopause? I think I 0:00:28.200 --> 0:00:34.800 forgot that, postures, but Amy's yeah, perimantalpozzle, perimantal pozzle, Amy's 0:00:35.320 --> 0:00:38.000 perimenopauseal life, all those things. 0:00:38.000 --> 0:00:39.040 Those are all in Part one. 0:00:39.200 --> 0:00:41.680 We got some shout outs to start Love you ladies 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:46.959 from Caitlin and Sony from MD which I believe is Maryland. 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:48.879 I don't know normally check them up when they went 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:50.320 abbreviations because it hurts my brain. 0:00:50.479 --> 0:00:51.760 Yeah, that's right. Okay. 0:00:52.080 --> 0:00:54.240 He bought his wife the desk cup holder that you 0:00:54.240 --> 0:00:56.520 bought all of us from Mother's Day and she loved it. 0:00:57.520 --> 0:00:58.240 That's fun. 0:00:58.440 --> 0:00:59.480 The desk cup holder. 0:00:59.600 --> 0:01:01.120 Yeah, you bought us off from the studio. 0:01:01.160 --> 0:01:03.080 Okay, I don't know what I thought you just said. 0:01:03.120 --> 0:01:06.600 It sounds like you said the desk cup. But then 0:01:06.680 --> 0:01:07.840 I put two and two together. 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:10.400 And then no question. 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:13.959 Just obsessed with your iHeart outfit, No moss, just perfectly you, 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:15.120 Michelle and Texas. 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:20.960 My I for my fart, my iHeart outfit. 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:26.280 Thank you, thank you, thank you. I also was excited 0:01:26.319 --> 0:01:28.360 about it. I bought that in Charleston when I was 0:01:28.440 --> 0:01:30.800 I went with Alex. We went on our little trip. Yeah, 0:01:30.840 --> 0:01:34.600 we found that. So the first the only clothing that 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:37.000 I got was the first store we went to and 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:38.000 I put it on and I was like, I think 0:01:38.040 --> 0:01:39.160 I need to buy this for iHeart. 0:01:39.200 --> 0:01:41.319 Like now, Oh, I loved it. I thought it was 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:41.759 so cute. 0:01:41.800 --> 0:01:44.040 I didn't think moss either, So I don't know where 0:01:44.080 --> 0:01:47.440 that came from. All right, Shilah from California wants to moths. 0:01:47.560 --> 0:01:48.400 There's some moths. 0:01:48.600 --> 0:01:51.800 Because I think I said something about I. 0:01:51.720 --> 0:01:53.480 Know, like the guys gave you a hard time for it. 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:55.280 I'm saying, I don't know why they even thought that, 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:56.480 because I thought it looked great. 0:01:56.520 --> 0:01:59.560 Okay, I thought you were saying moss ms are like 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:01.760 a right not working because I thought you said moss 0:02:01.800 --> 0:02:03.960 and I'm like, I don't understand moss either, but the 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:06.720 moths I do get because when you have moths, they 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:07.920 eat holes in your clothes. 0:02:08.000 --> 0:02:09.920 Well, two things, I'm not very good at pronouncing the 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:13.200 thh and things and second my brain is not functioning correctly, 0:02:13.320 --> 0:02:15.280 and so yeah, they get it. 0:02:15.400 --> 0:02:17.840 Uh, the I had holes in my outfit. So they 0:02:17.840 --> 0:02:19.119 were like, you need mothballs. 0:02:19.720 --> 0:02:21.440 Mothballs, No you do not. 0:02:21.600 --> 0:02:24.520 I have looked a great all right, Shaylae from California, 0:02:24.520 --> 0:02:27.040 I wants to know your best tip to surviving divorce. 0:02:27.760 --> 0:02:33.680 Oh, well, loaded question to start us here? 0:02:34.000 --> 0:02:37.640 For me. You know, Ben and I had a theme 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:41.239 during our divorce and it was to be thoughtful and 0:02:41.320 --> 0:02:47.320 kind and that's it was not easy, but it was 0:02:47.440 --> 0:02:52.600 easier because we both were committed to that. However, if 0:02:52.600 --> 0:02:55.480 you are divorcing someone who is not that way and 0:02:55.600 --> 0:02:59.120 is going to be the opposite of that, I would 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:04.720 still advise you to maintain that you show up as 0:03:04.760 --> 0:03:08.520 thoughtful and kind. I saw Megan Patrick post something on 0:03:08.600 --> 0:03:12.040 Instagram earlier this week. She did like a Monday motivation 0:03:12.919 --> 0:03:17.519 and uh, it was a longer video, but I'll try 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:19.600 to summarize sort of what she was saying, and I 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:22.519 guess at times when we're in the thick of a moment, 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:25.440 or we're in a rut, or we're in a like 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:29.520 a low season, she was just reminding us it's easy 0:03:29.560 --> 0:03:31.320 to show up as your best self when things are 0:03:31.360 --> 0:03:35.080 going well. Uh, And she's like, when you show up 0:03:35.120 --> 0:03:37.480 as your best self when things are not going well, 0:03:37.520 --> 0:03:38.160 that's character. 0:03:38.920 --> 0:03:41.440 Yeah, And I thought she said a. 0:03:41.360 --> 0:03:44.720 Lot more things around it that are that were good 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:47.600 to hear of when you're going through lows, how you 0:03:47.600 --> 0:03:49.320 know you'll come out on the other side and you 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:51.200 should look at how you're going to grow from it, 0:03:51.360 --> 0:03:56.640 and you know the strength you're going to build. But 0:03:56.760 --> 0:03:58.520 I really like that, and I think that when you're 0:03:58.560 --> 0:04:00.680 going through a divorce that is one of the of lows. 0:04:00.720 --> 0:04:03.160 That is definitely a hard time. It's one of the 0:04:03.200 --> 0:04:07.520 most difficult things that I've ever done. And I would 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:10.920 just remind you to try your hardest, because in some 0:04:10.960 --> 0:04:15.120 moments it's very very difficult, but just to show up 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:17.960 as your best self because then you don't look back 0:04:18.000 --> 0:04:19.960 with regret of like I can't believe I behave that way, 0:04:20.040 --> 0:04:21.880 or I can't believe I said that. And you may 0:04:21.880 --> 0:04:24.400 have those moments, and if you do, you have the 0:04:24.440 --> 0:04:27.520 opportunity to go and acknowledge your what you said and 0:04:27.520 --> 0:04:33.000 your behavior and ask for forgiveness or least apologize. And 0:04:35.680 --> 0:04:38.839 you don't have grace because because again, you may have 0:04:38.880 --> 0:04:41.480 those moments. But I just like that overall sentiment of 0:04:43.200 --> 0:04:45.520 showing up as your best self even in the hard times. 0:04:45.600 --> 0:04:47.240 So I think that's what Ben and I were trying 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:49.080 to do. That was our goal because we didn't want 0:04:49.120 --> 0:04:51.960 to look back and regret how we treated each other 0:04:52.160 --> 0:04:55.200 and so thoughtful and kind, thoughtful and kind and no 0:04:55.240 --> 0:04:58.680 when to bail, no when to bail, abort, abort conversation, 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:02.560 abort mission, like if you are you know, that's something 0:05:02.560 --> 0:05:04.080 Ben and I had to learn how to do too, 0:05:04.520 --> 0:05:07.960 and we would work on it together, like brending this conversation. 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:10.000 We'll pick it up later because I cannot talk to 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:11.760 you anymore right now. I'm not going to say stuff 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:13.680 I don't want to say. But you don't have a 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:17.040 healthy relationship. You might just need to be like I need, 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:19.120 I need to go. We'll talk about this later. So 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:22.400 that way, So there's my advice. Thoughtful and kind and 0:05:22.440 --> 0:05:24.600 know when to know when to walk away. 0:05:24.960 --> 0:05:27.560 Those are great pieces of advice, So Shilah, I. 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:29.479 Hope those I'm sorry that you're going through. 0:05:29.480 --> 0:05:30.559 That sucks. It sucks. 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:33.560 It definitely does dating advice after a long marriage. 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:35.640 What advice does she have to get back out there? 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:37.920 Because you're back out there you have a boyfriend. 0:05:39.040 --> 0:05:41.640 Uh, it may take some time, like you just got 0:05:41.640 --> 0:05:44.240 to rip the band aid off and go on some 0:05:44.279 --> 0:05:48.040 first dates, like I did not want to do that 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:50.440 at all, And now what you can learn what you like, 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:52.479 what you don't like, and you may learn that you 0:05:52.480 --> 0:05:54.680 don't like going on a lot of first dates, which 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:56.320 is okay, but now you have that information. 0:05:56.720 --> 0:05:57.920 I remember I had to do. 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:00.719 I remember this very very vividly because we were talking 0:06:00.760 --> 0:06:03.480 about this at the very beginning and you were I 0:06:03.520 --> 0:06:05.720 was like, just get on, hinge, just start going on dates. 0:06:05.720 --> 0:06:07.400 It'll be good for you. I know it feels weird. 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:10.440 And you fought that back pretty hard. You did not 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:12.680 want to do that, and well, and what. 0:06:12.560 --> 0:06:14.839 Was helpful too, is you reminded me it doesn't a 0:06:14.920 --> 0:06:17.599 date doesn't have to be this three hour dinner date. 0:06:18.200 --> 0:06:20.640 You can book a. 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:24.080 One hour we're meeting for coffee or a cocktail or 0:06:24.120 --> 0:06:29.160 something and have an out like, say I've got from 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:31.520 five to six because you know I have to go 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:34.000 meet friends at six, or my kid has a game 0:06:34.160 --> 0:06:37.200 or something, have an out like and literally have something 0:06:37.200 --> 0:06:39.680 else to go do you don't want to enter into it, 0:06:39.839 --> 0:06:42.599 like you don't need to lie, like, just build it 0:06:42.680 --> 0:06:44.960 around something you already have going on. And that's another thing. 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:47.520 I hated getting ready for dates, so I would always 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:49.240 build it around something else I had going on. So 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:50.919 that way, and I have to get ready twice. Like 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:54.680 one time I had a work dinner downtown, and so 0:06:54.760 --> 0:06:58.760 I decided to meet someone at like four thirty because 0:06:58.800 --> 0:07:01.200 the work dinner was at five forty five. And so 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:02.640 I was like, hey, I have from four thirty to 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:06.080 five thirty. We could meet for a drink at this 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:09.440 hotel of like a rooftop thing, and so I went 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:12.600 there four thirty, met them five thirty, I'm out, yep. 0:07:12.960 --> 0:07:14.560 And so it was good and I didn't have to 0:07:14.560 --> 0:07:16.400 get dressed twice. 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:17.720 So that is my tip. 0:07:17.800 --> 0:07:20.200 That is what you call two kill birds with one 0:07:20.280 --> 0:07:22.120 stone on why can. 0:07:22.040 --> 0:07:23.080 I not remember things? 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:26.120 Yeah, that's killing two birds once, so. 0:07:25.440 --> 0:07:26.840 You knew where I was going with it. 0:07:27.720 --> 0:07:31.840 So frustrating, but yes, good I'm glad and you did great. 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:33.240 You got there and I got there. 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:36.960 You think is awesome, and you would have never found 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:38.240 that if you didn't get back out there and start 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:38.800 dating again. 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:42.000 Exactly, this is hope and you're allowed to change your mind. 0:07:42.400 --> 0:07:43.040 That is true. 0:07:43.120 --> 0:07:45.400 I like that because I went into dating my boyfriend 0:07:45.480 --> 0:07:47.480 thinking that I was in this like adult dating phase 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:49.920 and I was going to date multiple people and so 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:52.960 like the first week of a dating he said, He's like, 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:54.960 I've dated and I'm not looking for that. I'm looking 0:07:55.000 --> 0:07:57.440 for to settle down with someone, So I'm not going 0:07:57.480 --> 0:07:59.080 to be dating other people while I get to know you. 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:00.480 And I'm like, well, just so you know, I'm going 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:05.000 to be dating other people. And that lasted like a week. 0:08:05.040 --> 0:08:08.080 I'm like, this is exhausting and I wasn't even dating 0:08:08.080 --> 0:08:08.560 that many. 0:08:08.360 --> 0:08:08.960 People as too. 0:08:09.400 --> 0:08:12.240 No, you definitely have to. Here's the thing. There is 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:15.520 advice of all kinds out there about dating, regardless of 0:08:15.920 --> 0:08:19.360 being single forever having been married. You have to tailor 0:08:19.400 --> 0:08:21.320 it for yourself, and a lot of what Amy and 0:08:21.320 --> 0:08:23.160 I feel like we talked about the very beginning. I said, 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:25.560 you have to find your comfort level, what makes sense 0:08:25.600 --> 0:08:28.000 for you and what you feel good about doing is 0:08:28.040 --> 0:08:30.520 going to make the dating process smoother no matter what 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:31.080 phase you're in. 0:08:31.160 --> 0:08:32.440 And I will say, if you're coming out of a 0:08:32.440 --> 0:08:36.880 long relationship, like just make sure that you're in a 0:08:36.880 --> 0:08:39.720 place where you're feeling really happy with yourself and content. 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:44.080 That I think was very helpful for me, and also 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:51.920 not taking any of my baggage from that relationship into 0:08:52.000 --> 0:08:54.079 my next. That took a minute to get used to. 0:08:54.120 --> 0:08:56.680 Like my nervous system. I was used to some chaos, 0:08:56.720 --> 0:08:59.880 and I was like, if you had chaos in your 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:03.880 last relationship, you might find if you find someone that 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:07.120 isn't giving you that it might seem kind of boring, 0:09:08.559 --> 0:09:11.720 and it just pay attention to that. Oh wait, maybe 0:09:11.720 --> 0:09:14.440 this guy's not boring. Maybe this is just foreign to 0:09:14.520 --> 0:09:17.040 my nervous system. So give your nervous system a second 0:09:17.080 --> 0:09:20.920 to acclimate, and then you're like, oh wait, this isn't 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:21.560 boring at all. 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:22.840 This is actually good. 0:09:22.640 --> 0:09:25.040 Because then you might dismiss a guy that actually could 0:09:25.080 --> 0:09:28.200 be really good for you just because and it wasn't. 0:09:28.320 --> 0:09:31.040 I mean, beIN contributed to the chaos, but so did I. 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:34.480 So I was used to it. So as both of us, 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:36.160 I'm not trying to like pin it on Ben like 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:39.240 he was complete chaos. But there's certain dynamics of our 0:09:39.280 --> 0:09:43.840 relationship we had allowed to become very chaotic, and that 0:09:43.840 --> 0:09:46.680 that was what I was, That's what was familiar. So 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:49.160 when I encountered something not like that, I was like, 0:09:49.200 --> 0:09:53.400 what this is lame, But it was more subconscious, like 0:09:53.440 --> 0:09:55.560 I had to do some digging to figure out that's 0:09:55.559 --> 0:09:56.840 what was actually happening. 0:09:57.000 --> 0:09:59.600 Safety becomes the thing that you're more afraid of than 0:09:59.640 --> 0:10:01.600 the chaos, and that's a weird thing that you. 0:10:01.559 --> 0:10:02.559 Have to reverse. 0:10:02.600 --> 0:10:05.080 Yeah, unlearn, Will you have your. 0:10:05.000 --> 0:10:07.640 Boyfriend on your podcast? Which we did talk about a 0:10:07.640 --> 0:10:09.040 little bit, but I just want. 0:10:08.840 --> 0:10:12.040 To We did, and I think my initial response was no, 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:14.520 And as we were talking, I was sort of having 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:18.360 some thoughts like I don't want to say no. I 0:10:18.400 --> 0:10:21.600 know he wouldn't right now, but I do think with 0:10:21.720 --> 0:10:25.040 the story of losing his wife, he is very passionate 0:10:25.200 --> 0:10:29.400 about colon cancer awareness, and I would think that, I 0:10:29.440 --> 0:10:31.520 don't know, maybe next year. He does have a walk 0:10:31.679 --> 0:10:34.920 in Nashville every year that he puts on. It started 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:36.760 with his wife when she was sick. They did the 0:10:36.800 --> 0:10:42.920 first one here with the Colon Cancer Coalition and I 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:45.440 could see him potentially coming on to talk about that 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:50.680 for awareness and then talking about some other things. But 0:10:50.720 --> 0:10:53.560 that's the only thing I could see him coming on for. 0:10:53.960 --> 0:10:57.040 And that's okay, right, Like that's where because I said 0:10:57.080 --> 0:10:58.840 no because he's not into that, But then I could 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:02.160 I could see him being like, you know what, I 0:11:02.200 --> 0:11:04.679 would like to come and join you just so because 0:11:04.679 --> 0:11:09.000 if one person decides to go get a kolonosky or 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:13.959 get tested because of something they heard us say, he 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:16.280 would be like, Okay, yeah, that's worth coming on to 0:11:16.320 --> 0:11:16.760 talk about. 0:11:17.120 --> 0:11:19.040 H Yeah, I do think that would be a cool 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:22.200 episode for you guys to have, especially for just awareness 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:23.320 and draw want I think, yeah. 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:26.360 Especially just because his wife, like he knows the story 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:30.960 better than anybody because he he walked alongside her with it. 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:34.600 But it's just the how young she was and how 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:37.440 they just did not think it was colon cancer. That's 0:11:37.440 --> 0:11:39.640 why they put it off for so long, and she 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:44.360 was just told it was heymorrhoids, and sure enough it 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:46.600 was not. And it's that's something. Colon cancer if you 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:51.000 can have the early detection is everything. It'll save your 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:53.280 life and in her case, they just went too long. 0:11:54.559 --> 0:11:57.160 Yeah, I would love to hear that podcast episode saday, 0:11:57.320 --> 0:11:58.240 I'll be rooting for that. 0:11:58.600 --> 0:12:00.360 We're going to take a quick break. I'll be right 0:12:00.440 --> 0:12:01.280 back with some. 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:08.080 More listener questions. What is your favorite go to summer cocktail? 0:12:08.200 --> 0:12:10.120 Love you both renee from Iowa. 0:12:11.200 --> 0:12:19.360 My go to favorite summer cocktail. I haven't been drinking 0:12:19.400 --> 0:12:26.360 that much lately, but I guess I like a light 0:12:26.880 --> 0:12:27.560 something light. 0:12:28.600 --> 0:12:29.280 I like to think of. 0:12:29.320 --> 0:12:30.959 When you just said light. As I went to. 0:12:32.480 --> 0:12:37.080 Who is your favorite day, she says April twenty fifth, 0:12:37.080 --> 0:12:37.600 because all. 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:40.560 You need is a line jacket. That's immediately where my 0:12:40.559 --> 0:12:41.000 mind was. 0:12:41.080 --> 0:12:44.800 That's her, miss congeniality, good Cloe. 0:12:45.000 --> 0:12:45.959 Sorry, please continue. 0:12:46.120 --> 0:12:48.400 Yeah, no, a lot of people post that on April 0:12:48.480 --> 0:12:50.679 twenty fifth if it's their birthday, which that's just so 0:12:50.760 --> 0:12:55.800 Shearer's birthday too. I mean, I just like something like 0:12:55.880 --> 0:13:00.360 a like a Tito's vodka with some lime and maybe 0:13:00.400 --> 0:13:03.240 a splash of cranberry or something in a cute cup. 0:13:04.000 --> 0:13:05.120 Oh yeah, those are yummy. 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:07.680 Yeah, it's like you haven't done any cranberry drinks since 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:10.920 college though, just the cranberry was ruined for me in college. 0:13:11.040 --> 0:13:12.680 Oh yeah, I was. 0:13:12.720 --> 0:13:14.200 Young and I didn't know a lot of drinks. And 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:17.160 so you always ordered a cranberry vodka and I just 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:18.640 it ruined it for you. 0:13:18.760 --> 0:13:19.960 That would be a lot. Yeah. 0:13:20.000 --> 0:13:22.800 So most of the time all I love going to 0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:24.600 a cocktail bar where they don't have a menu and 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:26.080 you just tell them what you like, because they'll make 0:13:26.120 --> 0:13:28.800 me a vodka with berry and it's very refreshing because 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:31.319 those are my kind of two favorite ingredients is a 0:13:31.440 --> 0:13:34.520 Teeto's and berries of any kind. 0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:35.359 Not cran. 0:13:37.040 --> 0:13:40.360 Listen these places, they do like the blueberry and raspberry 0:13:40.400 --> 0:13:43.520 and BlackBerry, those kind of berries, strawberry. I'll do all 0:13:43.520 --> 0:13:45.960 the other berries if you mix s cranberry cool, but 0:13:46.000 --> 0:13:46.280 you know. 0:13:46.320 --> 0:13:48.320 Not be the only thing. This can't be the main star. 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:48.800 Yeah. 0:13:48.880 --> 0:13:51.280 Probably also because I was drinking really trash vodka with 0:13:51.720 --> 0:13:55.600 like crambish and spray. Yeah, horrible things, but those are 0:13:55.600 --> 0:13:56.320 always really good. 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:57.760 And then if I'm on a boat. 0:13:57.960 --> 0:14:01.120 My favorite and it's, oh my gosh, it's so fun 0:14:01.160 --> 0:14:04.079 to get this is always the summer shandies. Those were 0:14:04.080 --> 0:14:06.320 really popular for a really long time. There would beer, 0:14:06.679 --> 0:14:08.360 but they have berry flavored two of those. 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:10.000 I'm just a berry girl. Yeah. 0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:13.240 On my Instagram, we talked about this on the last thing. 0:14:13.320 --> 0:14:16.600 My hard launch post. Yeah, if you go back, it's 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:18.600 the picture I posted to me at my boyfriend and 0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:21.680 you swipe. I posted a drink that we got in 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:25.160 Charleston called the Parakeet and it was so good, and 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:30.440 my boyfriend emailed the hotel and said, I would love 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:32.960 the recipe for parakeet or how do we make it? 0:14:32.960 --> 0:14:35.200 Because it's so good, And they emailed them back and 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:42.160 they're like, hey, here's the whole breakdown, and it's a 0:14:41.840 --> 0:14:47.760 it's a blanco tequila, bay leaf, peppercorn, lime, and I 0:14:47.840 --> 0:14:50.080 don't know a bunch of ingredients that I'm not totally 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:53.560 sure about. So this would be something if you're having 0:14:54.000 --> 0:14:56.520 a party or you know, you might actually really like this, 0:14:56.560 --> 0:14:58.320 which I will say is one of the best drinks 0:14:58.320 --> 0:15:00.000 that I've ever had. He ordered it and I ordered 0:15:00.120 --> 0:15:03.040 something different, and I was jealous of his order, and 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:06.880 you know, we made a little who knows if we'll 0:15:06.920 --> 0:15:09.160 actually get married, but you know, when you're dating somebody 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:10.400 who kind of talk about it and we're like, oh 0:15:10.400 --> 0:15:13.440 my gosh, like if we would serve this the parakeet, 0:15:13.480 --> 0:15:17.840 we would have the parakeet on like our wedding menu. 0:15:18.000 --> 0:15:19.400 You little drink menus. 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:22.920 I'm not saying I know, but it's also I mean, also, 0:15:22.960 --> 0:15:24.560 we've been dating for eight months. 0:15:25.120 --> 0:15:26.000 Has it been that long? 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:27.400 Yeah? 0:15:27.440 --> 0:15:30.320 Wow, m hm, that feels crazy. 0:15:30.880 --> 0:15:31.080 Yeah. 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:33.520 At this point in my last relationship, I was already 0:15:33.520 --> 0:15:36.880 married because I married Ben within six months. 0:15:37.800 --> 0:15:39.520 You know, we are taking about you fast. 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:40.640 We are taking it slow people. 0:15:40.800 --> 0:15:41.000 Oh. 0:15:41.040 --> 0:15:43.360 And also in that same post, next to the after 0:15:43.400 --> 0:15:46.520 the parakeet cocktail recipe, I have the best salad ever recipe. 0:15:46.520 --> 0:15:48.280 And this was a restaurant we went to in Charleston, 0:15:48.320 --> 0:15:49.800 which I just got a DM from a listener that's 0:15:49.800 --> 0:15:51.200 going to Charleston in a couple of weeks, and she 0:15:51.240 --> 0:15:53.240 was asking me what restaurants to go to, and this 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:57.280 is Lowland Restaurant and the server just told us what 0:15:57.480 --> 0:16:01.120 was in the salad. I don't know the measurements, but 0:16:01.320 --> 0:16:05.479 it's celery, mint dates, walnuts, white cheddar, and a sherry vinigarette. 0:16:05.920 --> 0:16:10.480 So I don't know, play around with the measurements there. 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:12.520 I still haven't made this, but I but I want 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:16.360 to all those ingredients mixed together. I would have never 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:20.040 ordered this salad ever, and because I mean, I'm just 0:16:20.120 --> 0:16:22.280 like a celery salad. 0:16:22.760 --> 0:16:22.840 Uh. 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:25.800 But the our server said no, people come here for this, 0:16:26.240 --> 0:16:30.160 and I said, like, just for this, and she said yes, 0:16:30.240 --> 0:16:32.200 and I said, okay, then sign me up and we 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:35.320 got it and I I took a picture of it 0:16:35.440 --> 0:16:37.800 and like then asked the server. So those two recipes, 0:16:37.800 --> 0:16:39.960 they're on my Instagram radio Amy. If you want to 0:16:39.960 --> 0:16:41.840 go to that post and you'll see the parcete cocktail 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:43.120 and the best salad ever. 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:45.000 Well, get both of all the ingredients when you go 0:16:45.040 --> 0:16:45.920 to the store for these things. 0:16:45.920 --> 0:16:48.240 But the cocktail, these are ingredients like I don't know, 0:16:48.320 --> 0:16:50.320 like you probably have to go to like a liquor store. 0:16:50.800 --> 0:16:52.760 This is not stuff that I'm used to seeing. Like 0:16:52.840 --> 0:16:58.920 even the when they emailed him, yeah, they said, we 0:16:59.040 --> 0:17:01.680 included the recipe here below, as well as a couple 0:17:01.680 --> 0:17:04.880 of links to the less common liqueurs used in the recipes. 0:17:04.960 --> 0:17:08.520 So there might be stuff you have to order, but ah, 0:17:08.640 --> 0:17:12.399 I'm telling you, wherever those are big words, be a 0:17:12.400 --> 0:17:13.400 good summer cocktail. 0:17:13.400 --> 0:17:14.040 The parakeet. 0:17:14.359 --> 0:17:17.719 The parakeet along with the sherry vinegar salad, celery salad, 0:17:17.760 --> 0:17:18.760 and the celery salad. 0:17:18.760 --> 0:17:20.760 But those are two different locations. The parakeet was from 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:24.680 the Citrus Club and the celery salad was from Lowland 0:17:25.200 --> 0:17:27.920 and then yeah, if you don't want to get complicated 0:17:27.960 --> 0:17:31.159 at all, then just have my Teeto's soda lime and 0:17:31.200 --> 0:17:32.480 cranberry with. 0:17:32.560 --> 0:17:33.440 A little splash. 0:17:33.680 --> 0:17:35.320 If you come to Nashville and you want to go 0:17:35.359 --> 0:17:37.240 to a cocktail place where you don't have to think 0:17:37.280 --> 0:17:39.560 and you can just order at a Boy, it's a 0:17:39.600 --> 0:17:42.200 really cool cocktail lown Sheer in Nashville over in East 0:17:42.320 --> 0:17:45.639 and they make really bomb drinks. I never had a 0:17:45.640 --> 0:17:48.080 bad drink there. And they don't have a menu, which 0:17:48.119 --> 0:17:48.680 is pretty cool. 0:17:48.840 --> 0:17:49.960 Attaboy doesn't have a menu. 0:17:50.040 --> 0:17:51.480 No, you just go and tell them what you like 0:17:51.600 --> 0:17:52.520 and then they make it for you. 0:17:53.160 --> 0:17:55.960 It's a pressure of the bartenders. 0:17:55.359 --> 0:17:56.560 I know, but they're so good. 0:17:56.760 --> 0:17:59.399 They're so good. Are y'all both really bad drivers? Or 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:00.520 do the guys react? 0:18:00.600 --> 0:18:01.240