1 00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:04,640 Speaker 1: Best Bits of the Week with Morgan Listener Q and A. 2 00:00:05,800 --> 00:00:08,640 Speaker 2: We're here to answer some listener co questions. 3 00:00:08,720 --> 00:00:10,960 Speaker 1: Amy is joining me this weekend. Amy, thanks for being here. 4 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:11,639 Speaker 3: Hi. Hi. 5 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:13,720 Speaker 2: Make sure you guys check out Part one. We talked 6 00:00:13,760 --> 00:00:15,480 Speaker 2: all about the boyfriends. I know there was a lot 7 00:00:15,480 --> 00:00:18,279 Speaker 2: of questions about that, so we just dedicated some time 8 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:20,800 Speaker 2: in Part one to that and some kids stuff and 9 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:24,480 Speaker 2: Amy perimenopause, as I'm am I saying that correctly. 10 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:28,120 Speaker 3: Amy's is that my nickname? Amy perimenopause? I think I 11 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:34,800 Speaker 3: forgot that, postures, but Amy's yeah, perimantalpozzle, perimantal pozzle, Amy's 12 00:00:35,320 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 3: perimenopauseal life, all those things. 13 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:39,040 Speaker 1: Those are all in Part one. 14 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:41,680 Speaker 2: We got some shout outs to start Love you ladies 15 00:00:41,760 --> 00:00:46,959 Speaker 2: from Caitlin and Sony from MD which I believe is Maryland. 16 00:00:47,320 --> 00:00:48,879 Speaker 2: I don't know normally check them up when they went 17 00:00:48,880 --> 00:00:50,320 Speaker 2: abbreviations because it hurts my brain. 18 00:00:50,479 --> 00:00:51,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's right. Okay. 19 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:54,240 Speaker 2: He bought his wife the desk cup holder that you 20 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:56,520 Speaker 2: bought all of us from Mother's Day and she loved it. 21 00:00:57,520 --> 00:00:58,240 Speaker 1: That's fun. 22 00:00:58,440 --> 00:00:59,480 Speaker 3: The desk cup holder. 23 00:00:59,600 --> 00:01:01,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, you bought us off from the studio. 24 00:01:01,160 --> 00:01:03,080 Speaker 3: Okay, I don't know what I thought you just said. 25 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:06,600 Speaker 3: It sounds like you said the desk cup. But then 26 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:07,840 Speaker 3: I put two and two together. 27 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:10,400 Speaker 1: And then no question. 28 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 2: Just obsessed with your iHeart outfit, No moss, just perfectly you, 29 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:15,120 Speaker 2: Michelle and Texas. 30 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:20,960 Speaker 1: My I for my fart, my iHeart outfit. 31 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:26,280 Speaker 3: Thank you, thank you, thank you. I also was excited 32 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:28,360 Speaker 3: about it. I bought that in Charleston when I was 33 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 3: I went with Alex. We went on our little trip. Yeah, 34 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 3: we found that. So the first the only clothing that 35 00:01:34,680 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 3: I got was the first store we went to and 36 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 3: I put it on and I was like, I think 37 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 3: I need to buy this for iHeart. 38 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:41,319 Speaker 1: Like now, Oh, I loved it. I thought it was 39 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:41,759 Speaker 1: so cute. 40 00:01:41,800 --> 00:01:44,040 Speaker 2: I didn't think moss either, So I don't know where 41 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 2: that came from. All right, Shilah from California wants to moths. 42 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 1: There's some moths. 43 00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 3: Because I think I said something about I. 44 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:53,480 Speaker 1: Know, like the guys gave you a hard time for it. 45 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:55,280 Speaker 2: I'm saying, I don't know why they even thought that, 46 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 2: because I thought it looked great. 47 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 3: Okay, I thought you were saying moss ms are like 48 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:01,760 Speaker 3: a right not working because I thought you said moss 49 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 3: and I'm like, I don't understand moss either, but the 50 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:06,720 Speaker 3: moths I do get because when you have moths, they 51 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:07,920 Speaker 3: eat holes in your clothes. 52 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:09,920 Speaker 2: Well, two things, I'm not very good at pronouncing the 53 00:02:09,960 --> 00:02:13,200 Speaker 2: thh and things and second my brain is not functioning correctly, 54 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:15,280 Speaker 2: and so yeah, they get it. 55 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 3: Uh, the I had holes in my outfit. So they 56 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:19,119 Speaker 3: were like, you need mothballs. 57 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:21,440 Speaker 1: Mothballs, No you do not. 58 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:24,520 Speaker 2: I have looked a great all right, Shaylae from California, 59 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 2: I wants to know your best tip to surviving divorce. 60 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:33,680 Speaker 1: Oh, well, loaded question to start us here? 61 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:37,640 Speaker 3: For me. You know, Ben and I had a theme 62 00:02:37,760 --> 00:02:41,239 Speaker 3: during our divorce and it was to be thoughtful and 63 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:47,320 Speaker 3: kind and that's it was not easy, but it was 64 00:02:47,440 --> 00:02:52,600 Speaker 3: easier because we both were committed to that. However, if 65 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 3: you are divorcing someone who is not that way and 66 00:02:55,600 --> 00:02:59,120 Speaker 3: is going to be the opposite of that, I would 67 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:04,720 Speaker 3: still advise you to maintain that you show up as 68 00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:08,520 Speaker 3: thoughtful and kind. I saw Megan Patrick post something on 69 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 3: Instagram earlier this week. She did like a Monday motivation 70 00:03:12,919 --> 00:03:17,519 Speaker 3: and uh, it was a longer video, but I'll try 71 00:03:17,520 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 3: to summarize sort of what she was saying, and I 72 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:22,519 Speaker 3: guess at times when we're in the thick of a moment, 73 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 3: or we're in a rut, or we're in a like 74 00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:29,520 Speaker 3: a low season, she was just reminding us it's easy 75 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:31,320 Speaker 3: to show up as your best self when things are 76 00:03:31,360 --> 00:03:35,080 Speaker 3: going well. Uh, And she's like, when you show up 77 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:37,480 Speaker 3: as your best self when things are not going well, 78 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 3: that's character. 79 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:41,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I thought she said a. 80 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 3: Lot more things around it that are that were good 81 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:47,600 Speaker 3: to hear of when you're going through lows, how you 82 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 3: know you'll come out on the other side and you 83 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 3: should look at how you're going to grow from it, 84 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 3: and you know the strength you're going to build. But 85 00:03:56,760 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 3: I really like that, and I think that when you're 86 00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:00,680 Speaker 3: going through a divorce that is one of the of lows. 87 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:03,160 Speaker 3: That is definitely a hard time. It's one of the 88 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:07,520 Speaker 3: most difficult things that I've ever done. And I would 89 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:10,920 Speaker 3: just remind you to try your hardest, because in some 90 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:15,120 Speaker 3: moments it's very very difficult, but just to show up 91 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:17,960 Speaker 3: as your best self because then you don't look back 92 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 3: with regret of like I can't believe I behave that way, 93 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 3: or I can't believe I said that. And you may 94 00:04:21,880 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 3: have those moments, and if you do, you have the 95 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:27,520 Speaker 3: opportunity to go and acknowledge your what you said and 96 00:04:27,520 --> 00:04:33,000 Speaker 3: your behavior and ask for forgiveness or least apologize. And 97 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:38,839 Speaker 3: you don't have grace because because again, you may have 98 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:41,480 Speaker 3: those moments. But I just like that overall sentiment of 99 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 3: showing up as your best self even in the hard times. 100 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:47,240 Speaker 3: So I think that's what Ben and I were trying 101 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 3: to do. That was our goal because we didn't want 102 00:04:49,120 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 3: to look back and regret how we treated each other 103 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:55,200 Speaker 3: and so thoughtful and kind, thoughtful and kind and no 104 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:58,680 Speaker 3: when to bail, no when to bail, abort, abort conversation, 105 00:04:58,839 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 3: abort mission, like if you are you know, that's something 106 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:04,080 Speaker 3: Ben and I had to learn how to do too, 107 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 3: and we would work on it together, like brending this conversation. 108 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:10,000 Speaker 3: We'll pick it up later because I cannot talk to 109 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 3: you anymore right now. I'm not going to say stuff 110 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:13,680 Speaker 3: I don't want to say. But you don't have a 111 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:17,040 Speaker 3: healthy relationship. You might just need to be like I need, 112 00:05:17,200 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 3: I need to go. We'll talk about this later. So 113 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:22,400 Speaker 3: that way, So there's my advice. Thoughtful and kind and 114 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:24,600 Speaker 3: know when to know when to walk away. 115 00:05:24,960 --> 00:05:27,560 Speaker 2: Those are great pieces of advice, So Shilah, I. 116 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:29,479 Speaker 3: Hope those I'm sorry that you're going through. 117 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:30,559 Speaker 1: That sucks. It sucks. 118 00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:33,560 Speaker 2: It definitely does dating advice after a long marriage. 119 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 1: What advice does she have to get back out there? 120 00:05:35,720 --> 00:05:37,920 Speaker 1: Because you're back out there you have a boyfriend. 121 00:05:39,040 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 3: Uh, it may take some time, like you just got 122 00:05:41,640 --> 00:05:44,240 Speaker 3: to rip the band aid off and go on some 123 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:48,040 Speaker 3: first dates, like I did not want to do that 124 00:05:48,200 --> 00:05:50,440 Speaker 3: at all, And now what you can learn what you like, 125 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:52,479 Speaker 3: what you don't like, and you may learn that you 126 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:54,680 Speaker 3: don't like going on a lot of first dates, which 127 00:05:54,680 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 3: is okay, but now you have that information. 128 00:05:56,720 --> 00:05:57,920 Speaker 1: I remember I had to do. 129 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:00,719 Speaker 2: I remember this very very vividly because we were talking 130 00:06:00,760 --> 00:06:03,480 Speaker 2: about this at the very beginning and you were I 131 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:05,720 Speaker 2: was like, just get on, hinge, just start going on dates. 132 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 2: It'll be good for you. I know it feels weird. 133 00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:10,440 Speaker 2: And you fought that back pretty hard. You did not 134 00:06:10,480 --> 00:06:12,680 Speaker 2: want to do that, and well, and what. 135 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:14,839 Speaker 3: Was helpful too, is you reminded me it doesn't a 136 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:17,599 Speaker 3: date doesn't have to be this three hour dinner date. 137 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 1: You can book a. 138 00:06:20,120 --> 00:06:24,080 Speaker 3: One hour we're meeting for coffee or a cocktail or 139 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:29,160 Speaker 3: something and have an out like, say I've got from 140 00:06:29,400 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 3: five to six because you know I have to go 141 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:34,000 Speaker 3: meet friends at six, or my kid has a game 142 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 3: or something, have an out like and literally have something 143 00:06:37,200 --> 00:06:39,680 Speaker 3: else to go do you don't want to enter into it, 144 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:42,599 Speaker 3: like you don't need to lie, like, just build it 145 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:44,960 Speaker 3: around something you already have going on. And that's another thing. 146 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:47,520 Speaker 3: I hated getting ready for dates, so I would always 147 00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:49,240 Speaker 3: build it around something else I had going on. So 148 00:06:49,240 --> 00:06:50,919 Speaker 3: that way, and I have to get ready twice. Like 149 00:06:50,960 --> 00:06:54,680 Speaker 3: one time I had a work dinner downtown, and so 150 00:06:54,760 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 3: I decided to meet someone at like four thirty because 151 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 3: the work dinner was at five forty five. And so 152 00:07:01,279 --> 00:07:02,640 Speaker 3: I was like, hey, I have from four thirty to 153 00:07:02,680 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 3: five thirty. We could meet for a drink at this 154 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:09,440 Speaker 3: hotel of like a rooftop thing, and so I went 155 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 3: there four thirty, met them five thirty, I'm out, yep. 156 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 3: And so it was good and I didn't have to 157 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 3: get dressed twice. 158 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 1: So that is my tip. 159 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 2: That is what you call two kill birds with one 160 00:07:20,280 --> 00:07:22,120 Speaker 2: stone on why can. 161 00:07:22,040 --> 00:07:23,080 Speaker 1: I not remember things? 162 00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:26,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's killing two birds once, so. 163 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:26,840 Speaker 1: You knew where I was going with it. 164 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:31,840 Speaker 2: So frustrating, but yes, good I'm glad and you did great. 165 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:33,240 Speaker 1: You got there and I got there. 166 00:07:34,160 --> 00:07:36,960 Speaker 2: You think is awesome, and you would have never found 167 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:38,240 Speaker 2: that if you didn't get back out there and start 168 00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 2: dating again. 169 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:42,000 Speaker 3: Exactly, this is hope and you're allowed to change your mind. 170 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:43,040 Speaker 1: That is true. 171 00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 3: I like that because I went into dating my boyfriend 172 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:47,480 Speaker 3: thinking that I was in this like adult dating phase 173 00:07:47,520 --> 00:07:49,920 Speaker 3: and I was going to date multiple people and so 174 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:52,960 Speaker 3: like the first week of a dating he said, He's like, 175 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:54,960 Speaker 3: I've dated and I'm not looking for that. I'm looking 176 00:07:55,000 --> 00:07:57,440 Speaker 3: for to settle down with someone, So I'm not going 177 00:07:57,480 --> 00:07:59,080 Speaker 3: to be dating other people while I get to know you. 178 00:07:59,120 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 3: And I'm like, well, just so you know, I'm going 179 00:08:00,560 --> 00:08:05,000 Speaker 3: to be dating other people. And that lasted like a week. 180 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:08,080 Speaker 3: I'm like, this is exhausting and I wasn't even dating 181 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:08,560 Speaker 3: that many. 182 00:08:08,360 --> 00:08:08,960 Speaker 1: People as too. 183 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:12,240 Speaker 2: No, you definitely have to. Here's the thing. There is 184 00:08:12,280 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 2: advice of all kinds out there about dating, regardless of 185 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 2: being single forever having been married. You have to tailor 186 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 2: it for yourself, and a lot of what Amy and 187 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:23,160 Speaker 2: I feel like we talked about the very beginning. I said, 188 00:08:23,200 --> 00:08:25,560 Speaker 2: you have to find your comfort level, what makes sense 189 00:08:25,600 --> 00:08:28,000 Speaker 2: for you and what you feel good about doing is 190 00:08:28,040 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 2: going to make the dating process smoother no matter what 191 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:31,080 Speaker 2: phase you're in. 192 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:32,440 Speaker 3: And I will say, if you're coming out of a 193 00:08:32,440 --> 00:08:36,880 Speaker 3: long relationship, like just make sure that you're in a 194 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:39,720 Speaker 3: place where you're feeling really happy with yourself and content. 195 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:44,080 Speaker 3: That I think was very helpful for me, and also 196 00:08:45,160 --> 00:08:51,920 Speaker 3: not taking any of my baggage from that relationship into 197 00:08:52,000 --> 00:08:54,079 Speaker 3: my next. That took a minute to get used to. 198 00:08:54,120 --> 00:08:56,680 Speaker 3: Like my nervous system. I was used to some chaos, 199 00:08:56,720 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 3: and I was like, if you had chaos in your 200 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:03,880 Speaker 3: last relationship, you might find if you find someone that 201 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:07,120 Speaker 3: isn't giving you that it might seem kind of boring, 202 00:09:08,559 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 3: and it just pay attention to that. Oh wait, maybe 203 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:14,440 Speaker 3: this guy's not boring. Maybe this is just foreign to 204 00:09:14,520 --> 00:09:17,040 Speaker 3: my nervous system. So give your nervous system a second 205 00:09:17,080 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 3: to acclimate, and then you're like, oh wait, this isn't 206 00:09:20,920 --> 00:09:21,560 Speaker 3: boring at all. 207 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 1: This is actually good. 208 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:25,040 Speaker 3: Because then you might dismiss a guy that actually could 209 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:28,200 Speaker 3: be really good for you just because and it wasn't. 210 00:09:28,320 --> 00:09:31,040 Speaker 3: I mean, beIN contributed to the chaos, but so did I. 211 00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:34,480 Speaker 3: So I was used to it. So as both of us, 212 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:36,160 Speaker 3: I'm not trying to like pin it on Ben like 213 00:09:36,160 --> 00:09:39,240 Speaker 3: he was complete chaos. But there's certain dynamics of our 214 00:09:39,280 --> 00:09:43,840 Speaker 3: relationship we had allowed to become very chaotic, and that 215 00:09:43,840 --> 00:09:46,680 Speaker 3: that was what I was, That's what was familiar. So 216 00:09:46,720 --> 00:09:49,160 Speaker 3: when I encountered something not like that, I was like, 217 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:53,400 Speaker 3: what this is lame, But it was more subconscious, like 218 00:09:53,440 --> 00:09:55,560 Speaker 3: I had to do some digging to figure out that's 219 00:09:55,559 --> 00:09:56,840 Speaker 3: what was actually happening. 220 00:09:57,000 --> 00:09:59,600 Speaker 2: Safety becomes the thing that you're more afraid of than 221 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:01,600 Speaker 2: the chaos, and that's a weird thing that you. 222 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:02,559 Speaker 1: Have to reverse. 223 00:10:02,600 --> 00:10:05,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, unlearn, Will you have your. 224 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:07,640 Speaker 1: Boyfriend on your podcast? Which we did talk about a 225 00:10:07,640 --> 00:10:09,040 Speaker 1: little bit, but I just want. 226 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:12,040 Speaker 3: To We did, and I think my initial response was no, 227 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:14,520 Speaker 3: And as we were talking, I was sort of having 228 00:10:14,559 --> 00:10:18,360 Speaker 3: some thoughts like I don't want to say no. I 229 00:10:18,400 --> 00:10:21,600 Speaker 3: know he wouldn't right now, but I do think with 230 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:25,040 Speaker 3: the story of losing his wife, he is very passionate 231 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 3: about colon cancer awareness, and I would think that, I 232 00:10:29,440 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 3: don't know, maybe next year. He does have a walk 233 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:34,920 Speaker 3: in Nashville every year that he puts on. It started 234 00:10:34,960 --> 00:10:36,760 Speaker 3: with his wife when she was sick. They did the 235 00:10:36,800 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 3: first one here with the Colon Cancer Coalition and I 236 00:10:42,920 --> 00:10:45,440 Speaker 3: could see him potentially coming on to talk about that 237 00:10:46,480 --> 00:10:50,680 Speaker 3: for awareness and then talking about some other things. But 238 00:10:50,720 --> 00:10:53,560 Speaker 3: that's the only thing I could see him coming on for. 239 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:57,040 Speaker 3: And that's okay, right, Like that's where because I said 240 00:10:57,080 --> 00:10:58,840 Speaker 3: no because he's not into that, But then I could 241 00:10:59,240 --> 00:11:02,160 Speaker 3: I could see him being like, you know what, I 242 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:04,679 Speaker 3: would like to come and join you just so because 243 00:11:04,679 --> 00:11:09,000 Speaker 3: if one person decides to go get a kolonosky or 244 00:11:09,000 --> 00:11:13,959 Speaker 3: get tested because of something they heard us say, he 245 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:16,280 Speaker 3: would be like, Okay, yeah, that's worth coming on to 246 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:16,760 Speaker 3: talk about. 247 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:19,040 Speaker 2: H Yeah, I do think that would be a cool 248 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:22,200 Speaker 2: episode for you guys to have, especially for just awareness 249 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:23,320 Speaker 2: and draw want I think, yeah. 250 00:11:23,240 --> 00:11:26,360 Speaker 3: Especially just because his wife, like he knows the story 251 00:11:26,360 --> 00:11:30,960 Speaker 3: better than anybody because he he walked alongside her with it. 252 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:34,600 Speaker 3: But it's just the how young she was and how 253 00:11:35,280 --> 00:11:37,440 Speaker 3: they just did not think it was colon cancer. That's 254 00:11:37,440 --> 00:11:39,640 Speaker 3: why they put it off for so long, and she 255 00:11:39,760 --> 00:11:44,360 Speaker 3: was just told it was heymorrhoids, and sure enough it 256 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 3: was not. And it's that's something. Colon cancer if you 257 00:11:46,640 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 3: can have the early detection is everything. It'll save your 258 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:53,280 Speaker 3: life and in her case, they just went too long. 259 00:11:54,559 --> 00:11:57,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, I would love to hear that podcast episode saday, 260 00:11:57,320 --> 00:11:58,240 Speaker 2: I'll be rooting for that. 261 00:11:58,600 --> 00:12:00,360 Speaker 1: We're going to take a quick break. I'll be right 262 00:12:00,440 --> 00:12:01,280 Speaker 1: back with some. 263 00:12:01,160 --> 00:12:08,080 Speaker 2: More listener questions. What is your favorite go to summer cocktail? 264 00:12:08,200 --> 00:12:10,120 Speaker 2: Love you both renee from Iowa. 265 00:12:11,200 --> 00:12:19,360 Speaker 3: My go to favorite summer cocktail. I haven't been drinking 266 00:12:19,400 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 3: that much lately, but I guess I like a light 267 00:12:26,880 --> 00:12:27,560 Speaker 3: something light. 268 00:12:28,600 --> 00:12:29,280 Speaker 2: I like to think of. 269 00:12:29,320 --> 00:12:30,959 Speaker 1: When you just said light. As I went to. 270 00:12:32,480 --> 00:12:37,080 Speaker 2: Who is your favorite day, she says April twenty fifth, 271 00:12:37,080 --> 00:12:37,600 Speaker 2: because all. 272 00:12:37,520 --> 00:12:40,560 Speaker 1: You need is a line jacket. That's immediately where my 273 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:41,000 Speaker 1: mind was. 274 00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:44,800 Speaker 3: That's her, miss congeniality, good Cloe. 275 00:12:45,000 --> 00:12:45,959 Speaker 1: Sorry, please continue. 276 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:48,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, no, a lot of people post that on April 277 00:12:48,480 --> 00:12:50,679 Speaker 3: twenty fifth if it's their birthday, which that's just so 278 00:12:50,760 --> 00:12:55,800 Speaker 3: Shearer's birthday too. I mean, I just like something like 279 00:12:55,880 --> 00:13:00,360 Speaker 3: a like a Tito's vodka with some lime and maybe 280 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:03,240 Speaker 3: a splash of cranberry or something in a cute cup. 281 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:05,120 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, those are yummy. 282 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:07,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like you haven't done any cranberry drinks since 283 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:10,920 Speaker 2: college though, just the cranberry was ruined for me in college. 284 00:13:11,040 --> 00:13:12,680 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I was. 285 00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:14,200 Speaker 2: Young and I didn't know a lot of drinks. And 286 00:13:14,240 --> 00:13:17,160 Speaker 2: so you always ordered a cranberry vodka and I just 287 00:13:17,840 --> 00:13:18,640 Speaker 2: it ruined it for you. 288 00:13:18,760 --> 00:13:19,960 Speaker 1: That would be a lot. Yeah. 289 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:22,800 Speaker 2: So most of the time all I love going to 290 00:13:22,840 --> 00:13:24,600 Speaker 2: a cocktail bar where they don't have a menu and 291 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:26,080 Speaker 2: you just tell them what you like, because they'll make 292 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:28,800 Speaker 2: me a vodka with berry and it's very refreshing because 293 00:13:28,800 --> 00:13:31,319 Speaker 2: those are my kind of two favorite ingredients is a 294 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:34,520 Speaker 2: Teeto's and berries of any kind. 295 00:13:34,559 --> 00:13:35,359 Speaker 3: Not cran. 296 00:13:37,040 --> 00:13:40,360 Speaker 2: Listen these places, they do like the blueberry and raspberry 297 00:13:40,400 --> 00:13:43,520 Speaker 2: and BlackBerry, those kind of berries, strawberry. I'll do all 298 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:45,960 Speaker 2: the other berries if you mix s cranberry cool, but 299 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:46,280 Speaker 2: you know. 300 00:13:46,320 --> 00:13:48,320 Speaker 1: Not be the only thing. This can't be the main star. 301 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:48,800 Speaker 3: Yeah. 302 00:13:48,880 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 2: Probably also because I was drinking really trash vodka with 303 00:13:51,720 --> 00:13:55,600 Speaker 2: like crambish and spray. Yeah, horrible things, but those are 304 00:13:55,600 --> 00:13:56,320 Speaker 2: always really good. 305 00:13:56,320 --> 00:13:57,760 Speaker 1: And then if I'm on a boat. 306 00:13:57,960 --> 00:14:01,120 Speaker 2: My favorite and it's, oh my gosh, it's so fun 307 00:14:01,160 --> 00:14:04,079 Speaker 2: to get this is always the summer shandies. Those were 308 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:06,320 Speaker 2: really popular for a really long time. There would beer, 309 00:14:06,679 --> 00:14:08,360 Speaker 2: but they have berry flavored two of those. 310 00:14:08,400 --> 00:14:10,000 Speaker 1: I'm just a berry girl. Yeah. 311 00:14:10,200 --> 00:14:13,240 Speaker 3: On my Instagram, we talked about this on the last thing. 312 00:14:13,320 --> 00:14:16,600 Speaker 3: My hard launch post. Yeah, if you go back, it's 313 00:14:16,640 --> 00:14:18,600 Speaker 3: the picture I posted to me at my boyfriend and 314 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:21,680 Speaker 3: you swipe. I posted a drink that we got in 315 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:25,160 Speaker 3: Charleston called the Parakeet and it was so good, and 316 00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:30,440 Speaker 3: my boyfriend emailed the hotel and said, I would love 317 00:14:30,840 --> 00:14:32,960 Speaker 3: the recipe for parakeet or how do we make it? 318 00:14:32,960 --> 00:14:35,200 Speaker 3: Because it's so good, And they emailed them back and 319 00:14:35,240 --> 00:14:42,160 Speaker 3: they're like, hey, here's the whole breakdown, and it's a 320 00:14:41,840 --> 00:14:47,760 Speaker 3: it's a blanco tequila, bay leaf, peppercorn, lime, and I 321 00:14:47,840 --> 00:14:50,080 Speaker 3: don't know a bunch of ingredients that I'm not totally 322 00:14:50,120 --> 00:14:53,560 Speaker 3: sure about. So this would be something if you're having 323 00:14:54,000 --> 00:14:56,520 Speaker 3: a party or you know, you might actually really like this, 324 00:14:56,560 --> 00:14:58,320 Speaker 3: which I will say is one of the best drinks 325 00:14:58,320 --> 00:15:00,000 Speaker 3: that I've ever had. He ordered it and I ordered 326 00:15:00,120 --> 00:15:03,040 Speaker 3: something different, and I was jealous of his order, and 327 00:15:03,680 --> 00:15:06,880 Speaker 3: you know, we made a little who knows if we'll 328 00:15:06,920 --> 00:15:09,160 Speaker 3: actually get married, but you know, when you're dating somebody 329 00:15:09,160 --> 00:15:10,400 Speaker 3: who kind of talk about it and we're like, oh 330 00:15:10,400 --> 00:15:13,440 Speaker 3: my gosh, like if we would serve this the parakeet, 331 00:15:13,480 --> 00:15:17,840 Speaker 3: we would have the parakeet on like our wedding menu. 332 00:15:18,000 --> 00:15:19,400 Speaker 1: You little drink menus. 333 00:15:20,600 --> 00:15:22,920 Speaker 3: I'm not saying I know, but it's also I mean, also, 334 00:15:22,960 --> 00:15:24,560 Speaker 3: we've been dating for eight months. 335 00:15:25,120 --> 00:15:26,000 Speaker 1: Has it been that long? 336 00:15:26,760 --> 00:15:27,400 Speaker 3: Yeah? 337 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:30,320 Speaker 1: Wow, m hm, that feels crazy. 338 00:15:30,880 --> 00:15:31,080 Speaker 2: Yeah. 339 00:15:31,120 --> 00:15:33,520 Speaker 3: At this point in my last relationship, I was already 340 00:15:33,520 --> 00:15:36,880 Speaker 3: married because I married Ben within six months. 341 00:15:37,800 --> 00:15:39,520 Speaker 1: You know, we are taking about you fast. 342 00:15:39,520 --> 00:15:40,640 Speaker 3: We are taking it slow people. 343 00:15:40,800 --> 00:15:41,000 Speaker 1: Oh. 344 00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:43,360 Speaker 3: And also in that same post, next to the after 345 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:46,520 Speaker 3: the parakeet cocktail recipe, I have the best salad ever recipe. 346 00:15:46,520 --> 00:15:48,280 Speaker 3: And this was a restaurant we went to in Charleston, 347 00:15:48,320 --> 00:15:49,800 Speaker 3: which I just got a DM from a listener that's 348 00:15:49,800 --> 00:15:51,200 Speaker 3: going to Charleston in a couple of weeks, and she 349 00:15:51,240 --> 00:15:53,240 Speaker 3: was asking me what restaurants to go to, and this 350 00:15:53,400 --> 00:15:57,280 Speaker 3: is Lowland Restaurant and the server just told us what 351 00:15:57,480 --> 00:16:01,120 Speaker 3: was in the salad. I don't know the measurements, but 352 00:16:01,320 --> 00:16:05,479 Speaker 3: it's celery, mint dates, walnuts, white cheddar, and a sherry vinigarette. 353 00:16:05,920 --> 00:16:10,480 Speaker 3: So I don't know, play around with the measurements there. 354 00:16:10,600 --> 00:16:12,520 Speaker 3: I still haven't made this, but I but I want 355 00:16:12,520 --> 00:16:16,360 Speaker 3: to all those ingredients mixed together. I would have never 356 00:16:16,480 --> 00:16:20,040 Speaker 3: ordered this salad ever, and because I mean, I'm just 357 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:22,280 Speaker 3: like a celery salad. 358 00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 2: Uh. 359 00:16:23,160 --> 00:16:25,800 Speaker 3: But the our server said no, people come here for this, 360 00:16:26,240 --> 00:16:30,160 Speaker 3: and I said, like, just for this, and she said yes, 361 00:16:30,240 --> 00:16:32,200 Speaker 3: and I said, okay, then sign me up and we 362 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:35,320 Speaker 3: got it and I I took a picture of it 363 00:16:35,440 --> 00:16:37,800 Speaker 3: and like then asked the server. So those two recipes, 364 00:16:37,800 --> 00:16:39,960 Speaker 3: they're on my Instagram radio Amy. If you want to 365 00:16:39,960 --> 00:16:41,840 Speaker 3: go to that post and you'll see the parcete cocktail 366 00:16:42,080 --> 00:16:43,120 Speaker 3: and the best salad ever. 367 00:16:43,160 --> 00:16:45,000 Speaker 2: Well, get both of all the ingredients when you go 368 00:16:45,040 --> 00:16:45,920 Speaker 2: to the store for these things. 369 00:16:45,920 --> 00:16:48,240 Speaker 3: But the cocktail, these are ingredients like I don't know, 370 00:16:48,320 --> 00:16:50,320 Speaker 3: like you probably have to go to like a liquor store. 371 00:16:50,800 --> 00:16:52,760 Speaker 3: This is not stuff that I'm used to seeing. Like 372 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:58,920 Speaker 3: even the when they emailed him, yeah, they said, we 373 00:16:59,040 --> 00:17:01,680 Speaker 3: included the recipe here below, as well as a couple 374 00:17:01,680 --> 00:17:04,880 Speaker 3: of links to the less common liqueurs used in the recipes. 375 00:17:04,960 --> 00:17:08,520 Speaker 3: So there might be stuff you have to order, but ah, 376 00:17:08,640 --> 00:17:12,399 Speaker 3: I'm telling you, wherever those are big words, be a 377 00:17:12,400 --> 00:17:13,400 Speaker 3: good summer cocktail. 378 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:14,040 Speaker 1: The parakeet. 379 00:17:14,359 --> 00:17:17,719 Speaker 2: The parakeet along with the sherry vinegar salad, celery salad, 380 00:17:17,760 --> 00:17:18,760 Speaker 2: and the celery salad. 381 00:17:18,760 --> 00:17:20,760 Speaker 3: But those are two different locations. The parakeet was from 382 00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:24,680 Speaker 3: the Citrus Club and the celery salad was from Lowland 383 00:17:25,200 --> 00:17:27,920 Speaker 3: and then yeah, if you don't want to get complicated 384 00:17:27,960 --> 00:17:31,159 Speaker 3: at all, then just have my Teeto's soda lime and 385 00:17:31,200 --> 00:17:32,480 Speaker 3: cranberry with. 386 00:17:32,560 --> 00:17:33,440 Speaker 1: A little splash. 387 00:17:33,680 --> 00:17:35,320 Speaker 2: If you come to Nashville and you want to go 388 00:17:35,359 --> 00:17:37,240 Speaker 2: to a cocktail place where you don't have to think 389 00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:39,560 Speaker 2: and you can just order at a Boy, it's a 390 00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:42,200 Speaker 2: really cool cocktail lown Sheer in Nashville over in East 391 00:17:42,320 --> 00:17:45,639 Speaker 2: and they make really bomb drinks. I never had a 392 00:17:45,640 --> 00:17:48,080 Speaker 2: bad drink there. And they don't have a menu, which 393 00:17:48,119 --> 00:17:48,680 Speaker 2: is pretty cool. 394 00:17:48,840 --> 00:17:49,960 Speaker 3: Attaboy doesn't have a menu. 395 00:17:50,040 --> 00:17:51,480 Speaker 2: No, you just go and tell them what you like 396 00:17:51,600 --> 00:17:52,520 Speaker 2: and then they make it for you. 397 00:17:53,160 --> 00:17:55,960 Speaker 3: It's a pressure of the bartenders. 398 00:17:55,359 --> 00:17:56,560 Speaker 1: I know, but they're so good. 399 00:17:56,760 --> 00:17:59,399 Speaker 2: They're so good. Are y'all both really bad drivers? Or 400 00:17:59,400 --> 00:18:00,520 Speaker 2: do the guys react? 401 00:18:00,600 --> 00:18:01,240 Speaker 3: They overreact? 402 00:18:01,280 --> 00:18:04,600 Speaker 2: Taking from Alabama, that last one was from Renee and 403 00:18:05,119 --> 00:18:05,760 Speaker 2: I don't know if I've. 404 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:07,200 Speaker 1: Said all the names, but yeah, this one's from Nicky 405 00:18:07,320 --> 00:18:08,600 Speaker 1: in Alabama. 406 00:18:08,840 --> 00:18:12,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, they overreact, right, Yeah, I mean, listen, is there 407 00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:15,240 Speaker 2: moments where I could do better paying attention because a 408 00:18:15,280 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 2: lot of happening in my life. Of course, I'm not 409 00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:19,840 Speaker 2: gonna say I'm perfect, but I'm not a bad driver. 410 00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:21,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I don't feel like you are either. I 411 00:18:21,480 --> 00:18:22,639 Speaker 1: would ride in a car. 412 00:18:22,520 --> 00:18:23,359 Speaker 3: With you, thank you. 413 00:18:24,320 --> 00:18:24,520 Speaker 1: Yeah. 414 00:18:24,680 --> 00:18:31,119 Speaker 3: I know they exaggerate everything everything, well not everything everything. No, 415 00:18:31,960 --> 00:18:34,360 Speaker 3: I mean we all can yeah kind of what we do. 416 00:18:34,480 --> 00:18:38,760 Speaker 3: But there's whatever. I'm I'm a good driver. 417 00:18:39,119 --> 00:18:42,880 Speaker 2: Yeah. Also, I've seen Lunchbox going fast in the parking garage. 418 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:45,719 Speaker 2: We've heard stories of Eddie having road rage. So like, 419 00:18:46,160 --> 00:18:48,760 Speaker 2: why do is it pimpit on us? Why does it 420 00:18:48,800 --> 00:18:49,400 Speaker 2: on hind point? 421 00:18:49,440 --> 00:18:50,480 Speaker 1: I try to pitpoint. 422 00:18:50,520 --> 00:18:54,600 Speaker 2: I think I don't know, Amy, my brain is not working. 423 00:18:54,920 --> 00:18:55,359 Speaker 1: I don't know. 424 00:18:55,440 --> 00:18:56,480 Speaker 3: They just pick on us. 425 00:18:56,480 --> 00:19:01,800 Speaker 2: So yeah, yeah, so no, Nikki, they over react, all right, Amy. 426 00:19:01,920 --> 00:19:04,520 Speaker 1: Improv class update from Ali. 427 00:19:04,960 --> 00:19:09,080 Speaker 3: Well I'm done that the course is over. It only 428 00:19:09,200 --> 00:19:12,520 Speaker 3: lasts eight weeks. But I had to miss more classes 429 00:19:12,560 --> 00:19:15,280 Speaker 3: than I thought, so I didn't get a graduation certificate. 430 00:19:16,840 --> 00:19:19,040 Speaker 1: Well, mom, he's gonna graduate from improv. 431 00:19:19,640 --> 00:19:23,119 Speaker 3: Yeah, and that was just because we had to do 432 00:19:23,160 --> 00:19:27,240 Speaker 3: some traveling and so that part's sad, but I loved it. 433 00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:29,840 Speaker 3: I just wished the classes weren't three hours long. 434 00:19:30,160 --> 00:19:31,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, can you go for like half a hour? 435 00:19:32,080 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 3: Most places? I look, it's like every class is three hours. 436 00:19:38,240 --> 00:19:41,000 Speaker 3: But I will continue just practicing stuff on my own 437 00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:43,840 Speaker 3: or doing little improv exercises with myself. 438 00:19:44,440 --> 00:19:46,359 Speaker 2: You can make the kids start participating with me. 439 00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:49,760 Speaker 3: The activities with them. 440 00:19:49,840 --> 00:19:53,240 Speaker 1: So yeah, it's fun. You can tell you maybe you make. 441 00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:57,439 Speaker 2: An improv version of pictionary and then you can have 442 00:19:57,520 --> 00:19:59,360 Speaker 2: game night and it's improv we can. 443 00:19:59,560 --> 00:20:02,840 Speaker 3: Yes, there are ways to incorporate it into my everyday life. 444 00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:05,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, so that is a tough part. 445 00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:08,840 Speaker 2: I've been thinking of joining a volleyball sand volleyball league 446 00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:12,600 Speaker 2: and also a softball league, and honestly, I would love to. 447 00:20:12,760 --> 00:20:14,800 Speaker 2: I would love to play sports again. But then I 448 00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:17,080 Speaker 2: think about my life and that at least once a 449 00:20:17,080 --> 00:20:19,200 Speaker 2: week I would have to dedicate two hours to doing 450 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:21,080 Speaker 2: this and if I not, I'd have to find a 451 00:20:21,080 --> 00:20:24,200 Speaker 2: sub is a whole thing like and then I think 452 00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:27,240 Speaker 2: about Lunchbox and every week he plays soccer and he's 453 00:20:27,280 --> 00:20:29,160 Speaker 2: done this for years and it's just. 454 00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:31,920 Speaker 1: A I just think about how I fit. 455 00:20:31,760 --> 00:20:34,359 Speaker 2: That into my life of busyness that I have going on, 456 00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:36,120 Speaker 2: and like that where that fits on the top of howl? 457 00:20:36,280 --> 00:20:37,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean you just have to look at like 458 00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:38,960 Speaker 3: how much is it going to drain you or how 459 00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:40,359 Speaker 3: much is it going to fill up your tank because 460 00:20:40,359 --> 00:20:42,239 Speaker 3: if like that two hours is life giving to you, 461 00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:43,840 Speaker 3: then you should totally do it, I know. 462 00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:46,119 Speaker 2: And that's the thing as an adult that you have 463 00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:49,400 Speaker 2: to figure out, right, all right, last question here, favorite 464 00:20:49,440 --> 00:20:50,840 Speaker 2: self tanner from Kate. 465 00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:58,200 Speaker 3: Oh, there's a few good ones, but I like loving tan. Okay, 466 00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:00,640 Speaker 3: that is a good one. 467 00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:02,640 Speaker 1: I've been trying to find two things. I've been trying 468 00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:03,800 Speaker 1: to find clean versions of. 469 00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:06,280 Speaker 3: I don't know if it's clean I'm trying to find. 470 00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:09,600 Speaker 3: I gave up on the clean tanner. I've decided. Also, 471 00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:12,199 Speaker 3: I'm trying to do like ten minutes out in the 472 00:21:12,240 --> 00:21:17,240 Speaker 3: sun a day to build my skin, to get my 473 00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:19,840 Speaker 3: skin ready for summer vacation because we're going to go 474 00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:24,000 Speaker 3: on a trip in July. And normally I just sit 475 00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:28,440 Speaker 3: under an umbrella because I will get red. And I decided, 476 00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:34,080 Speaker 3: if I just go out ten minutes no sunscreen I want. 477 00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:36,159 Speaker 3: I always am lathered up in sunscreen. But this is 478 00:21:36,280 --> 00:21:38,600 Speaker 3: just so that my body can absorb vitamin D. So 479 00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:41,439 Speaker 3: that's why I'm doing no longer than ten minutes, and 480 00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:44,440 Speaker 3: then my skin can get used to seeing the sun 481 00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:46,120 Speaker 3: because it's so not used to seeing the sun. 482 00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:46,720 Speaker 1: When it sees the. 483 00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:48,320 Speaker 3: Sun, Like I'm pretty convinced right now. That's why I 484 00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:50,560 Speaker 3: have little bumps on my arm is my ten minutes 485 00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:52,080 Speaker 3: because my skin's like what are you doing? 486 00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:52,400 Speaker 2: Right? 487 00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:53,119 Speaker 1: This is weird. 488 00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:56,760 Speaker 3: But I'm trying it out, trying it out, just like 489 00:21:56,880 --> 00:22:03,639 Speaker 3: build things up because I'm like, Okay, I'm staying out 490 00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:05,440 Speaker 3: of the sun because I don't want to get skin cancer. 491 00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:07,480 Speaker 3: But I'm putting all these chemicals on my body and 492 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:12,560 Speaker 3: who knows what I'm absorbing in you know that way. 493 00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:15,880 Speaker 3: So it's like there's no wind, pick your poison, you know, 494 00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:18,719 Speaker 3: and I'd rather go with the god given one. So 495 00:22:18,880 --> 00:22:21,359 Speaker 3: I'm trying to get a little more sun for a 496 00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:24,119 Speaker 3: little more natural color. I mean, but Morgan, look I've 497 00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:26,240 Speaker 3: been doing it, and look how pasty white my legs are. 498 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:29,000 Speaker 3: And that is ten minutes a day for the last week. 499 00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:32,960 Speaker 2: I feel you trust me. I am like Robert Pattinson 500 00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:34,960 Speaker 2: a trial life. You put me outside ice sparkle, But 501 00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:35,400 Speaker 2: I keep. 502 00:22:35,359 --> 00:22:38,560 Speaker 3: Waiting like when it why is not? Why don't we 503 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:39,600 Speaker 3: feel confident? Pale? 504 00:22:39,760 --> 00:22:41,320 Speaker 1: Like what what changed? 505 00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:41,440 Speaker 2: Like? 506 00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:44,520 Speaker 3: Who who said we need to be tan? 507 00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:46,320 Speaker 1: But I like it. 508 00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:49,639 Speaker 3: I feel like sometimes a spray tan will or a 509 00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:52,920 Speaker 3: self tan at home, it will. It changes my entire mood, 510 00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:54,840 Speaker 3: Like you know those memes that you see people do 511 00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:56,560 Speaker 3: where it's like, oh, I thought I was depressed and 512 00:22:56,560 --> 00:22:59,200 Speaker 3: then I got a spray tan. The whole world open. 513 00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:01,280 Speaker 1: But I feel so much more confident and it's tan. 514 00:23:01,359 --> 00:23:03,720 Speaker 2: And to your point, it's because something about being pale 515 00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:06,359 Speaker 2: has been put in my brain is bad. 516 00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:10,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, but we need to undo that because look how 517 00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:15,399 Speaker 3: beautiful like Nicole Kidman, she has like this beautiful pale 518 00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:17,840 Speaker 3: porcelain skin and we're not like. 519 00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:19,560 Speaker 2: Oh, you know, where I think some of mine comes 520 00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:21,560 Speaker 2: from has always been the if you can't tone it, 521 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:23,399 Speaker 2: tan it, because they are all right, like if you do 522 00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:24,680 Speaker 2: tan something, you do feel better. 523 00:23:25,119 --> 00:23:27,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I think that having the color like 524 00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:30,000 Speaker 3: you do, you just feel better. Like even on my face, 525 00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:31,960 Speaker 3: like if I get a spray tan, it's like, oh 526 00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:34,960 Speaker 3: I don't I wear less makeup, It's like, oh I'm tan. 527 00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:39,240 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, what show was that Dallas? That girl on 528 00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:41,200 Speaker 3: that show? It was a rally show and they lived 529 00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:42,879 Speaker 3: in Dallas. And she's the one that said it. 530 00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:43,440 Speaker 1: I can't remember. 531 00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:46,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, she'd say if you can't when maybe somebody else 532 00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:48,359 Speaker 3: said it first. But that's the first person I remember 533 00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:51,080 Speaker 3: saying it, and yeah, she was you can't tone it 534 00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:54,040 Speaker 3: tant Courtney. Her name is Courtney. 535 00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:55,800 Speaker 2: Okay, do you know what show I'm talking about? Oh, 536 00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,119 Speaker 2: I don't think I've heard of the show. It was 537 00:23:58,160 --> 00:23:59,400 Speaker 2: a Dallas reality show. 538 00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:01,480 Speaker 3: Yeah. 539 00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:04,000 Speaker 2: Was it on MTV or Bravo. 540 00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:06,520 Speaker 3: Probably Bravo if I had to guess. 541 00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:08,880 Speaker 1: Like Real Housewives of Dallas or something, is there a Dallas. 542 00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:12,199 Speaker 3: Housewives something like that? But I mean I think there was. 543 00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:13,639 Speaker 3: I don't know if I ever watched that one. I 544 00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:15,320 Speaker 3: feel like this is just like a different group of friends. 545 00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:17,440 Speaker 2: Okay, wait, you finished time on your favorite self shanner 546 00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:18,240 Speaker 2: o court me. 547 00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:21,359 Speaker 3: If you can't tone it, tan it because it'll it'll 548 00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:24,200 Speaker 3: come up. So Loving Tan I like, I like Tanceuticals. 549 00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:26,679 Speaker 3: That's like a pink bottle. The Loving Tan is a 550 00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:27,520 Speaker 3: silver bottle. 551 00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:30,720 Speaker 1: I got some weird things probably up over here. Keep going. 552 00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:36,760 Speaker 3: I like, Oh, there's like Coco. Let me see the 553 00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:38,560 Speaker 3: Coco Coco. 554 00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:41,000 Speaker 1: Well over here, google Coco and Eve. 555 00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:45,000 Speaker 3: Cocoa and Eve is a tanning brand that I like. Like, honestly, 556 00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:47,200 Speaker 3: I would just go see what is on sale or 557 00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:49,600 Speaker 3: what is a better price point for you? But those 558 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:51,760 Speaker 3: are three that come to mind right now that I 559 00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:55,119 Speaker 3: literally have in my closet. Oh, santro Pe in my 560 00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:57,720 Speaker 3: closet like I have my self tanning closet. I have 561 00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:04,679 Speaker 3: santo pe, loving tan, cocoa and Eve. And what's the 562 00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:10,440 Speaker 3: other one? I said, tan suticles. Also there's another one 563 00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:13,919 Speaker 3: that Miley Cyrus invested in and I ordered it, but 564 00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:17,399 Speaker 3: I haven't like loved the at home some. If you 565 00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:21,320 Speaker 3: get a spray tan from a company, they carry this one, 566 00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:23,280 Speaker 3: and that's a good one to get if they want 567 00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:23,520 Speaker 3: to do it. 568 00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:25,640 Speaker 1: Do you see what is it called dultceake Low, Yes, 569 00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:26,320 Speaker 1: Diltja glow. 570 00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:30,040 Speaker 3: I have bought the Dulce glow that they sell where 571 00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:32,119 Speaker 3: you can do an at home tan, and I haven't 572 00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:35,920 Speaker 3: loved it as much. But it's supposed to your your 573 00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:38,320 Speaker 3: skin gets really dry when you self tan, and whatever 574 00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:41,080 Speaker 3: is in that there's something in it like a hyaluronic 575 00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:43,320 Speaker 3: acid or something that helps you not get as dry. 576 00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:46,359 Speaker 3: But okay, because it's another thing too, like I feel 577 00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:48,639 Speaker 3: like all the self tanner I'm doing, I'm aging my 578 00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:50,520 Speaker 3: skin and I'm scared of going out into the sun 579 00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:53,800 Speaker 3: and I'm aging it there. So which one? What do 580 00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:54,160 Speaker 3: we want. 581 00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:58,160 Speaker 2: I know, and to my understanding, more natural the better. 582 00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:01,560 Speaker 1: But I don't know. You know, we're learning over here. 583 00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:04,040 Speaker 3: Easy for all the all of tan people to say. 584 00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:04,480 Speaker 1: I trust me. 585 00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:06,800 Speaker 2: I know. I told you I sparkle like a vampire. 586 00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:09,760 Speaker 2: I totally understand the pain and I'm here in it 587 00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:11,480 Speaker 2: with you. This is why we're talking about self tanner. 588 00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:14,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, but you should be good with any of those 589 00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:15,119 Speaker 3: that I just said. 590 00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:19,080 Speaker 2: And if you can't done it apparently, and I still 591 00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:20,200 Speaker 2: don't know where it came from. 592 00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:21,960 Speaker 1: I did a lot of googling, and I found a 593 00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:24,719 Speaker 1: lot of parties. I said, Okay, court Courte, I can 594 00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:26,320 Speaker 1: you know what we can't blame. 595 00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:29,359 Speaker 2: What we can do is blame Coke Oshanelle for the 596 00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:32,480 Speaker 2: tan because she is the one who has roots in 597 00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:35,800 Speaker 2: the early twentieth century when Coco Shanell famously popularized the 598 00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:37,119 Speaker 2: tan in the West. 599 00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:40,040 Speaker 1: So there is that, So shout out Coco. 600 00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:43,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I remember the that being the origin story. Okay, 601 00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:48,480 Speaker 3: So the reality showed Dallas. What's called Dallas features the 602 00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:50,960 Speaker 3: quote if you can't tone it, tan it, and it's 603 00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:53,639 Speaker 3: associated with Courtney. In the tanning industry, the quote is 604 00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:56,040 Speaker 3: often used to express the preference for tanning as a 605 00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:59,679 Speaker 3: way to enhance one's appearance. In twenty eleven, Courtney, who 606 00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:02,360 Speaker 3: was part of the Rally Show, also expressed a humorous 607 00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:06,120 Speaker 3: take on tanning taxes, the quote, if you can't tone 608 00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:09,880 Speaker 3: it tan it's what well, what are the taxes out 609 00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:11,560 Speaker 3: on that part? But okay, there you have it. The 610 00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:14,320 Speaker 3: show was called Dallas. 611 00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:17,240 Speaker 1: I definitely never heard about, but this is funny. 612 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:20,359 Speaker 2: All right. Well, I mean, thanks for joining me and 613 00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:24,160 Speaker 2: we'll see everybody later. 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