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Speaker 1: My wife might be cheating on me. I want to divorce,

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Speaker 1: but it will destroy our lives. Part three, Here we

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Speaker 1: go TLDR. Op receives confirmation through DNA tests that all

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Speaker 1: the kids are his. He continues to navigate the fallout

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Speaker 1: Op also prepares for his son's upcoming birthday and plans

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Speaker 2: And uh, we're guessing we might. We're going to find

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Speaker 3: In this one, we're.

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Speaker 1: Guessing if good old Judge Judy is gonna get involved

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Speaker 1: here or whatever, the Asian Judge Judy, Judge Judy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but now we're we've caught up on part one

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Speaker 2: and part two.

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Speaker 1: Here comes big old Part three. Let's go. Let's go,

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Speaker 1: Hi everyone. I said i'd update after talking to my

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Speaker 1: maybe I didn't, which one was it. This will be

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Speaker 1: a long post, so feel free to skip it. Well,

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Speaker 1: we're not going to do that.

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Speaker 1: If no one reads it. That's okay, we know that's

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Speaker 1: not happening. Incorrect, because I'm feeling worse than I ever

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Speaker 1: the way, this comes from user outrageous spread eighty seven

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Speaker 1: oh six on the r slash okay storytime subreddit. So

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Speaker 1: on Thursday, my wife called to ask if she could

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Speaker 2: Yeah, again it the children have been poisoned against her?

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Speaker 1: If it?

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Speaker 2: If what Opie's writing is accurate, it almost seemed like

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Speaker 1: Yesterday Friday, my younger son turned seven. My older son

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Speaker 1: Did you meet this person? Dumping everything you got to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It just sounds like there's something going on there. It

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Speaker 1: About ten months later we left for Asia. Oh wow,

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Speaker 5: You're gonna get with Sarah and most like I think

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Speaker 1: Yeah do they?

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Speaker 1: Sarah? Whoever was the assistant? Who's the assistant? Melody? I'm sorry,

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Speaker 1: I know this might be a temporary feeling, and I

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Speaker 1: But the truth is I'm tired. I feel completely empty.

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Speaker 1: They expect me to suffer in silence, never expressing what's

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Speaker 1: Do what's best for your kids. Take care of your wife.

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Speaker 1: Why does she hurts yourself? Do this, don't do that.

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Speaker 1: Forgive her, go to marriage counseling. Don't forgive her, destroy her.

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Speaker 1: Forgive her for the kid's sake, and you'll love her

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Speaker 1: Do we think he's gonna soften up? Does he see

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Speaker 1: So it's like, Okay, she's just like I'm completely empty,

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Speaker 2: Is twenty seven twenty eight thousand words, asking so what

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Speaker 2: do I do here?

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