Speaker 1: Wind down with Janet Kramer, an I'm Heeart radio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hey girl, Hey hi girl, Hey hey girl.
Speaker 3: How you doing girl?
Speaker 2: Tell me how you're really doing well.
Speaker 3: It's interesting because I feel like it's a day by day.
Speaker 3: It's like a minute by minute, hour by hour, day
Speaker 3: by day.
Speaker 2: You feel that thing.
Speaker 3: Yesterday, I loaded three children to go to a postop
Speaker 3: appointment for the babies orald Tie release and the guru
Speaker 3: here in Nashville is an hour away from my home,
Speaker 3: and so I loaded all three and I made the
Speaker 3: voyage Oregon trail style and I got there five minutes early. Success,
Speaker 3: And the appointment was.
Speaker 2: Actually for today. So I passed everybody. No, no, they
Speaker 2: wouldn't let you.
Speaker 3: They the person that was supposed to the person that
Speaker 3: could have seen me actually had a family emergency, was
Speaker 3: not there.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 3: So an hour hour back we go and that's that.
Speaker 3: And so we've moved it. But just to reiterate your
Speaker 3: hour by hour, I consider myself to be an a type.
Speaker 3: So these third baby moments are super sobering. This is
Speaker 3: interesting because I'm listening to this piece and then also
Speaker 3: last week you had something happen I'm sure I did
Speaker 3: with your podcast. Oh yeah, my podcast I have. I
Speaker 3: took a time out and went to a studio and
Speaker 3: did two full episodes and I sent them over to
Speaker 3: the producer who does mine. She's amazing and she was like, hey, girl,
Speaker 3: so there's no audio on these. I can see that
Speaker 3: there's forty minutes or forty five minutes of content, but
Speaker 3: there's no audio. Devastation, So I feel like, what is
Speaker 3: the universe telling you right now? Because you've got I
Speaker 3: don't know, tell me. I always am like, okay, what's
Speaker 3: the I know, I will say this. I decided, tell
Speaker 3: me if this feels like fair closure for the lost episodes,
Speaker 3: because I really mourned it, and in fact, Easton, your producer,
Speaker 3: was like, I reached out to him because I thought
Speaker 3: he's a guru, so if there's anyone that can go
Speaker 3: in and find and he could not. I decided that
Speaker 3: those were two conversations I needed to have with God.
Speaker 3: And I told you even in one of them, I
Speaker 3: felt so plugged in that it felt so special that
Speaker 3: there was no way I could recreate it. And I thought, well,
Speaker 3: maybe it was just supposed to be those conversations were
Speaker 3: Those conversations were just me and God. So that's where
Speaker 3: I've landed with that, and probably a really good lesson
Speaker 3: on making sure that I'm recording the.
Speaker 2: Right way, which I used to do radio.
Speaker 3: So I sometimes like think I'm doing okay, yeah, and
Speaker 3: I'm not. But well, I'm always just like, what is it?
Speaker 3: Is it writing us to slow down? Is it? Yeah?
Speaker 3: I thought the drive yesterday was, you know, about a
Speaker 3: little over two hours round trip, and I thought, why why?
Speaker 3: But we went in a non traffic time. We saw
Speaker 3: the big beautiful city my kids called Nashville the big
Speaker 3: beautiful city. The water was twinkly, and I thought, maybe
Speaker 3: we're just supposed to be reminded. I'm trying grammer. I'm
Speaker 3: really stretching by the way I always go with when
Speaker 3: I'm on an airplane and even I mean, we had
Speaker 3: one of these days when I was like twenty oh.
Speaker 2: We were coming back from Utah.
Speaker 3: We were eleven hours delayed, and we got to the
Speaker 3: airport at four in the morning for an early flight,
Speaker 3: and instead of going to the oh, this is so frustrating,
Speaker 3: and I'm so angry and I just want to go home. Yes,
Speaker 3: all of those things, but I'm like, whether it's that
Speaker 3: or traffic or a re route. I go, this is
Speaker 3: just God's way, because maybe something would have happened God
Speaker 3: Sea Tour. Yes, well God's Sea Tour where it's like, okay,
Speaker 3: I've changed my frame going that plane might not have
Speaker 3: just worked for us, right, and I'm thankful that we
Speaker 3: are going to wait to the right one. Well and
Speaker 3: even today so like I wouldn't have been able to
Speaker 3: make to day's appointment, which is why why did I
Speaker 3: even schedule it on a Wednesday. I don't know, but
Speaker 3: it was I thought, Okay, well, maybe it's that I'm
Speaker 3: not supposed to be on the road today, and now
Speaker 3: that sweet woman at the office doesn't want to make
Speaker 3: me do the drive twice, so she's coming.
Speaker 2: To us this week.
Speaker 3: Wow, which I thought, maybe we're being protected, you know,
Speaker 3: like you just gotta go everything for a reason. The
Speaker 3: woman at the front desk, though, oh no, I had
Speaker 3: a moment and then I even had to find the
Speaker 3: grace because I wanted to cry, like I didn't say
Speaker 3: to her, I just drove over an hour. I didn't
Speaker 3: say like is there anyone here? That I just was like, okay,
Speaker 3: got it. And meanwhile, Love and Legend are like making
Speaker 3: themselves at home reading a magazine already, like they moved
Speaker 3: right in and I'm and so and then they're like confused,
Speaker 3: why are we leaving? And she just was not super cozym.
Speaker 3: But then I got in the car and I was driving,
Speaker 3: and I wanted to cry. I couldn't even call Preston
Speaker 3: because I thought if I if I do call him,
Speaker 3: I'm just gonna cry, and then the kids are gonna
Speaker 3: want you know, it's not worth it. So I I
Speaker 3: did have a moment where I thought, you know, what
Speaker 3: her day was, probably.
Speaker 2: Really maybe she was going through something.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like she's now dealing with the cancelations of the
Speaker 3: family emergency and she doesn't you know, And I just
Speaker 3: just grace right, like we're all in it. Yes, and
Speaker 3: every day is a little different, especially when you have
Speaker 3: a third and it's a newborn. Yeah, it's you can't
Speaker 3: get a pattern. No, well, that's Alan had asked me some.
Speaker 3: I think it was last night. I was the night before.
Speaker 3: I mean just he's really dealing with like some gas
Speaker 3: and fussiness and so the baby, yes, the baby noting which,
Speaker 3: by the way, I have a really funny story with
Speaker 3: my ex because he came to pick up the kids
Speaker 3: the other the other day, and I said, he so,
Speaker 3: we're really going to have to keep an eye on him,
Speaker 3: because you know, he's just having like some crying fits
Speaker 3: and just being like really you know, sensitive, And he's
Speaker 3: like Alan.
Speaker 2: Like, oh, Jayce, Mike is really all in on Alan.
Speaker 3: Really. I was like, no, Jayce, He's like, oh, I
Speaker 3: thought you were talking about because I guess I was
Speaker 3: just talking about Alan. So he's like, so, I think
Speaker 3: a couple of days ago he texted me, He's like,
Speaker 3: how's Alan's crying fits?
Speaker 2: Alan feeling less gassy? Good for Allan?
Speaker 3: But anyways, so he had asked me. So obviously, with
Speaker 3: a newborn in two and a half weeks or whatever,
Speaker 3: it's just a couple hours you get to sleep. And
Speaker 3: Alan has been incredible, like he's taken the most middle
Speaker 3: of the night feeds just to let me sleep and recover.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, all right, babe, I'm now past like
Speaker 3: two weeks sea section, like I got I got this.
Speaker 2: And he's like no, no, I'm like sleep.
Speaker 3: He's a like a dream, so supportive, so sweet, but
Speaker 3: also this it's a yes, they're sleeping, but you're also awake.
Speaker 3: You hear the crying and so it's very sleepless. Oh yeah,
Speaker 3: and even if he didn't wake up, by the way,
Speaker 3: even if the baby didn't wake up, you would still
Speaker 3: be waking up, right. And so I just was out
Speaker 3: of it yesterday and just tired, and you when things
Speaker 3: just start to pile up in the two list and
Speaker 3: getting back to work, and I got an audition and
Speaker 3: I'm like okay, like trying to like study lines, and
Speaker 3: you know, Alan was like, so, how you doing?
Speaker 2: And I was like emotionally, mentally.
Speaker 3: Physically, like we got to today last last minute hour,
Speaker 3: which one you said ten thirty or currently something expected
Speaker 3: that response back and you kind of looked at me like,
Speaker 3: oh god, what did I walk myself into? But yeah, no,
Speaker 3: that's just where I'm kind of at is just like
Speaker 3: the minute, because today I'm good, but also I feel
Speaker 3: like I could cry at the drop of a hat.
Speaker 3: Oh same today. Let's not yesterday, yesterday, same day before.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 3: So when I was doing my postpartum check, when I
Speaker 3: went for my two week check up, I really had
Speaker 3: to take the question seriously because I'm like, well, sometimes
Speaker 3: yesterday the other day before that. No, you know, I
Speaker 3: remember asking them like, do you want me to fill
Speaker 3: this out like based on like the last several days
Speaker 3: overall feeling or just the last hour, because I do
Speaker 3: feel really like hopeful most of the time, but then
Speaker 3: there's time where I'm like, ooh, this is the depression piece,
Speaker 3: like sneaky. Yeah, I've dealt with the depression piece a
Speaker 3: lot this time around, but it looks different, I think
Speaker 3: because I know a lot more and I know myself.
Speaker 3: I'm more in tune with myself, but the depression piece
Speaker 3: is extra sneaky this time.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: And I'm trying really hard to like this podcast helps me.
Speaker 3: My podcast, like even just getting going somewhere, getting dressed,
Speaker 3: even though I don't want to, like I have to.
Speaker 3: It almost feels like a foggy depression it is, and
Speaker 3: where it's like it clears and then it comes back.
Speaker 3: That's kind of how I've was trying to describe it
Speaker 3: to my therapist. And I think what women, especially like
Speaker 3: you and I, what we usually use as tools to
Speaker 3: like get us motivated or like we both like to exercise. Well,
Speaker 3: and that's that was the piece I was It's hard. Well,
Speaker 3: what I said to when I went for my two
Speaker 3: week I'm like, all right, doc, Like when can I
Speaker 3: get back to working out because I went for a
Speaker 3: few walks around the neighborhood.
Speaker 2: I feel great.
Speaker 3: I'm still sore in my ribs and obviously over my scar.
Speaker 3: I'm like, isn't normal to have that stabbing pain where?
Speaker 3: And she's like, oh yeah, She's like, that's where you know.
Speaker 3: I tied you up. And she goes and unfortunately, she's like,
Speaker 3: I can't clear you to you know. She's like, most
Speaker 3: people can start working out at six weeks. She's like,
Speaker 3: but she's like, your abs on the left side were
Speaker 3: so detached. She's like, I tried to fix Them's like,
Speaker 3: but that's not my area of expertise. And she's like,
Speaker 3: you cannot work out until you see a public floor therapist.
Speaker 3: And she's like, because you'll get a hernia. And I'm
Speaker 3: just like, wait a minute, So wait what, like so
Speaker 3: I can't can I do squats or because it's just
Speaker 3: something because I want to feel not just I want
Speaker 3: to get back in shape. That's fine, but I like
Speaker 3: to for what it does for my endorphins and just
Speaker 3: my overall energy and to feel like myself and to
Speaker 3: get back to myself again. I don't care that I've
Speaker 3: got you know, the it's most part and body.
Speaker 2: It's fine.
Speaker 3: I just want to feel like I am actively doing
Speaker 3: something for my brain and endorphins and doing something. And
Speaker 3: she's just like no, like until you talk to someone.
Speaker 3: And I reached out to a pet pelvic person and
Speaker 3: was like, hey, so she wants me to do core
Speaker 3: and scar stuff and like, well, we usually wait till
Speaker 3: eight weeks, and I was like, nope, can we start
Speaker 3: now please? Because I for my mental fog depression, I
Speaker 3: need this. That's where I've been stuck. And I had
Speaker 3: the baby in such a hot time that I couldn't
Speaker 3: even go take walks, and then she sprained my tailbone
Speaker 3: and delivery. So I'm just being like, I'm like, what
Speaker 3: lesson am I supposed to learn in this waiting?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 3: So much waiting and what I would normally, I'm like, gosh,
Speaker 3: I'm not even like dependent on wine this time, you know,
Speaker 3: Like I'm actually like I want to go move my
Speaker 3: body and that's how I feel best and I can't
Speaker 3: do that, so I'm just right here. Yeah, Alan had
Speaker 3: said the other day, you know, do I want some wine?
Speaker 3: I was like no, I'm just I'm too tired. I
Speaker 3: had my first glass of red wine though on our
Speaker 3: on our year anniversary, and I got like a splitting
Speaker 3: headache just because I wasn't used to it. I mean
Speaker 3: I only had a half of a glass and it
Speaker 3: was just like boom. But since then, normally I would
Speaker 3: maybe go back into the routine of having a glass,
Speaker 3: you know, every other day or whatever. And now I'm
Speaker 3: just like, no, I'm good. It doesn't even taste the same,
Speaker 3: which is weird. I tried to have an alcohol Yeah, weird. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm sure I'll I will, I'll like get I go
Speaker 3: back on the road again. But I don't think i'll
Speaker 3: do go back to what I used to do. No,
Speaker 3: because the more I listened to podcast like Doctor Raymond
Speaker 3: and yeah, I also just think there's this is not
Speaker 3: it's weird. Yeah, I think it's getting are we getting mature?
Speaker 3: I think it's just I don't I think I needed
Speaker 3: wine when I went through my divorce. I drank myself
Speaker 3: through miscarriage. Yeah, and now I'm like, I don't need
Speaker 3: it every day. I don't need to. And again I still,
Speaker 3: you know, have my wine business that we're trying to
Speaker 3: reboot and with an new company, and that's you know
Speaker 3: again I love wine. I will always love wine, but
Speaker 3: I don't need it every night anymore. It's not something
Speaker 3: that I think it's served the purpose for when I
Speaker 3: needed it, and now I'm like, I want to enjoy
Speaker 3: it occasionally. Yeah, Like we had a date night last night.
Speaker 3: I had a little sip and thought I didn't even
Speaker 3: finish the glass, and I was like this, actually just
Speaker 3: it's like good with a meal, and I'm good.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I just would always rather pick sleep.
Speaker 3: Right, And that's why I also think, Yeah, we're in
Speaker 3: that state where it's like I'd like some tea please, Yeah,
Speaker 3: I would love Oh, a warm detox to you would
Speaker 3: be awesome. But I am excited about today's podcast because
Speaker 3: so we've got Nicki and Brie Garcia coming on.
Speaker 2: Do you know about them? This is a guilty little
Speaker 2: pleasure I had.
Speaker 3: Which one the w ww WWE when I almost could
Speaker 3: see you doing that?
Speaker 2: Liking it or doing it. It's two different things. Oh
Speaker 2: actually yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I could see in the cute little expandex thanks Cramer.
Speaker 2: Yeah I didn't see that coming.
Speaker 3: No, I think you and then just like raw, that's
Speaker 3: on brand. I followed them back at w w E
Speaker 3: when they did the show and they were the Bella Twins.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the Bella Twins. Yeah.
Speaker 3: And then I also kind of followed along with Nikki
Speaker 3: because she was with John Cena. Uh and now she's
Speaker 3: married to Artam and I loved them on Dancing with Stars,
Speaker 3: Like I just think that's so cute. Yeah, so loved
Speaker 3: them and they have they have a kid together, and
Speaker 3: then Bree, I mean I just think they're They're beautiful,
Speaker 3: and they have a new show called twin Love, and
Speaker 3: we're just gonna talk all things twin and I'm fascinated
Speaker 3: with twins. So this is all just too fun for me. Okay, fabulous,
Speaker 3: So let's get them on. Do you want to sit here?
Speaker 2: Kind of okay? Yeah? Got awkward? Hey girls, Hey, hey girls?
Speaker 3: Nay so pretty just stunning yes names Oh, I mean
Speaker 3: like I can't it's not even real life, but it is.
Speaker 3: I am a confession about how long I have known
Speaker 3: of you, because it's not like me to like reality
Speaker 3: TV at all. Did a short because I did a
Speaker 3: reality show short stint on road Rules ruined me forever.
Speaker 3: Yeah right, we all feel it. But I did follow
Speaker 3: you when you were part of the WWE show because
Speaker 3: I felt like in our world, it was the first
Speaker 3: time there was a show about being strong and less
Speaker 3: about being skinny little women that were just up to
Speaker 3: something like it was more about being powerful and empowered.
Speaker 3: And for some reason, you two split eggs sucked me
Speaker 3: right in. I love it so Total Divas Divas was
Speaker 3: my jam.
Speaker 4: I like that, that's you know, I had to say,
Speaker 4: That's what I loved so much about Diva Total Divas
Speaker 4: was that it was like the first three you had
Speaker 4: badass women like showing what they can do inside and
Speaker 4: outside of the ring, Like how as women we can
Speaker 4: balance this male dominated industry, but go home and have
Speaker 4: to take care of shit too. And that's why I
Speaker 4: like when we got into When Bri and I left
Speaker 4: after season nine, we were like, you're losing what made
Speaker 4: this special because then I feel like after it goes
Speaker 4: on for so many seasons, everyone's just.
Speaker 5: Like they want more drama. You need to be more
Speaker 5: cat you guys and Brien I were like, we're out
Speaker 5: for this, Like.
Speaker 4: We're here to like create empower women and empower and
Speaker 4: break barriers.
Speaker 5: And you want to know a funny backstory.
Speaker 1: When we were filming the pilot, I mean, this was
Speaker 1: over ten years ago, all of us girls were like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, is the world really going to care
Speaker 1: about female wrestlers, Like for some reason, we had this
Speaker 1: feeling like no one would care. So it was amazing
Speaker 1: to see the support, Like people loved seeing what female
Speaker 1: wrestlers r up to and what we were doing was badass.
Speaker 5: It might us all feel good.
Speaker 3: Like, I know you're new to me, but like if
Speaker 3: you could know my character, this is the most opposite thing. Oh,
Speaker 3: from any time we ever have like a housewife on
Speaker 3: or I mean just anybody from bachelor to bachelor, she's just.
Speaker 2: Like she's always like I don't have any question.
Speaker 3: I don't know, but I was so all in for
Speaker 3: your empowerment and your badass noess and just like you
Speaker 3: were just strong and sturdy in business savvy, and I
Speaker 3: was like, yes, and I love twins because we also
Speaker 3: grew up in the air of Hulkogan. Though maybe maybe
Speaker 3: it teed it up, but it was really like unexpected.
Speaker 3: It became more than I thought it would be, and
Speaker 3: then I found myself like really tuning in and then
Speaker 3: I just wanted to follow along your lives because I
Speaker 3: thought you were just special humans.
Speaker 5: So oh that means a lot. Thank you so much.
Speaker 5: You have no idea.
Speaker 3: I'm forty one, I have no business following along with
Speaker 3: WWE stars and I was like, I'm all.
Speaker 2: In, what are those twins? What are those twins doing?
Speaker 1: Well?
Speaker 3: Okay, so now you guys have twin Love. So how
Speaker 3: fun has that been?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 1: You guys are just the twins right, Yeah, it's actually
Speaker 1: been really incredible. I mean, for myself, this is the
Speaker 1: first big show I've hosted. Nikki you know, she's hosted Barmageddon,
Speaker 1: so she got her feet wet in the hosting world.
Speaker 1: But for me, like, I feel lucky that I get
Speaker 1: to do these big gigs with my twin, like my sidekick.
Speaker 1: But I think the greater part about Twin Love was
Speaker 1: I got to see all these other twins be a
Speaker 1: breed and Nicki. It was so wild to me to
Speaker 1: meet them because I was like, oh my gosh, you're
Speaker 1: the sassier one, you're the sweeter one, Like you're the nicky,
Speaker 1: you're the breed. Yeah, and so but it was, gosh,
Speaker 1: what it was a fun journey.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it was, it was really neat.
Speaker 4: I am a huge Love Island fan, like especially Love
Speaker 4: Island UK, so having the producers and the creators come
Speaker 4: to us from ITV and Love Island and be like, look,
Speaker 4: we have the show and we're interested in you to hosting.
Speaker 5: I was already like, okay, I'm in. I mean, I
Speaker 5: just you guys.
Speaker 1: So to get to be hands on and come in
Speaker 1: every day and be like what happened in the night,
Speaker 1: like who looked up?
Speaker 5: But like to have that world.
Speaker 4: But then also the science part of like twins and
Speaker 4: identical twins, especially in that bond and how we act
Speaker 4: and if you split us up, like are we going
Speaker 4: to see the same things? Because having these two identical
Speaker 4: houses with identical cast, it was just it took it
Speaker 4: to a whole nother level. I was just like, I'm
Speaker 4: already obsessed with this kind of dating show, and this
Speaker 4: was just a step up.
Speaker 5: You realize twins are freaks. Yeah, we're in like a
Speaker 5: good way, in a good way, like we belong in
Speaker 5: the circus, like in a good way.
Speaker 3: And you did put yourself in a ring at one point,
Speaker 3: so that makes a little more sense. So for people
Speaker 3: that don't know the premise of the show, it's a
Speaker 3: dating show and it's twins and twins, is that the idea.
Speaker 5: It's a dating reality dating show experiment.
Speaker 1: And so we have ten identical twins and when they
Speaker 1: come to Nicky and I, we split them up into
Speaker 1: two separate houses. So one twin goes into Nicky's house,
Speaker 1: the other twin goes into a breeze house.
Speaker 5: And I'll say Niki got the feisty ones. I got
Speaker 5: the very sweet leathers.
Speaker 1: And what's incredible is that, you know, the one thing
Speaker 1: with twins is that we always go through life, as
Speaker 1: you have seen through our careers, just doing everything together.
Speaker 1: You're born with the soulmate, you do everything. And we
Speaker 1: wanted these twins not only to find love, but personal
Speaker 1: growth on your own. And I think that's really scary
Speaker 1: for twins to be what we call a singular for
Speaker 1: a moment, and so we split them up, which was
Speaker 1: very devastating.
Speaker 5: So when you see the show, you're going to see.
Speaker 1: A lot of tears in the beginning because we had
Speaker 1: to split these twins up. But then what's so cool
Speaker 1: is from there you'll start to see this individuality with
Speaker 1: the twins that you're like, see, you just need to
Speaker 1: be away from the twin for a little bit, find
Speaker 1: some love, find yourself and you see their journeys really
Speaker 1: blossom and it's so incredible.
Speaker 3: So for you too, is there something like what's the
Speaker 3: thing that you each bring to each other that is
Speaker 3: good for you? But then what's also like, okay, like
Speaker 3: Bree when you do this like this, is this is
Speaker 3: not good for me? Or like what's the thing that's
Speaker 3: like the kind of the positive and the negative of
Speaker 3: having that close relationship and then the effect of your
Speaker 3: own different personalities coming in with that closeness.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess for me it would be I'll start
Speaker 1: with the negative, so I end with the positive. Yes, yeah, no,
Speaker 1: But I think you know, with twins, we feel each
Speaker 1: other so much. So if I wake up and it's
Speaker 1: all sunshine and birds and then I see her and
Speaker 1: it's a dark cloud, it's like I feel all sudden
Speaker 1: that energy. So I could start in a really great
Speaker 1: mood and all sudden I could shift and it's weird
Speaker 1: because I'm feeling whatever she's going through. So sometimes I
Speaker 1: think that can be a negative for twins, is how
Speaker 1: much we feel each other and we can take on
Speaker 1: negative energy and vice versa, and then a positive is
Speaker 1: Nikki gives me a lot of strength and whatever it is,
Speaker 1: you know that I'm doing.
Speaker 5: I'm so lucky to have that.
Speaker 1: I feel like there's so many times I've been in
Speaker 1: scary situations where I want to puke.
Speaker 5: And be like, no, I can't do that. Whether I'm
Speaker 5: going out to wrestle at WrestleMania, whether.
Speaker 1: Yesterday we're doing Jimmy fallon the show, whatever it may be,
Speaker 1: She's right there to give me just this pep talk
Speaker 1: and strength, and I feel so like I feel more
Speaker 1: confident and braver like having her right, I mean, and
Speaker 1: I you know, for me, it's like I just I
Speaker 1: truly feel lucky to be a twin because even as
Speaker 1: we grow as entrepreneurs, to have someone that like I
Speaker 1: trust by my side, then I know, no matter what,
Speaker 1: has my back has been such a blessing.
Speaker 4: And I know I understand that not everyone gets that.
Speaker 4: So to me, it's such a positive. And you know
Speaker 4: the negative is Breeze Jet and she's judging.
Speaker 1: My relationship and she's judging the things that I do,
Speaker 1: and I'm always.
Speaker 5: Like, stop judging me. Well, let's be what are you okay?
Speaker 3: What are you judging her on? Like in the relationship
Speaker 3: piece of it.
Speaker 1: So I feel like I get a front row to
Speaker 1: life over here, her life. Yeah, so I feel like
Speaker 1: I have very valid opinions because I'm seeing it where
Speaker 1: you're living. So like for me, it's like, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm like, so I guess when it comes to relationship.
Speaker 5: But see what I'm trying to change is instead of judge,
Speaker 5: let's be understanding.
Speaker 3: Do you think it comes from a place of being
Speaker 3: protective though, Brie, unless Yeah, Like it may look judgy,
Speaker 3: but it's probably you protecting and.
Speaker 2: You've seen it happen.
Speaker 3: And probably if she was staying with this guy that
Speaker 3: you know, probably wasn't the best guy for her and
Speaker 3: he wasn't committing to her, I'm just making this up.
Speaker 2: I don't know. This might be more about us than
Speaker 2: it is about you.
Speaker 3: And also but I also think that she can relate
Speaker 3: to that. And so you're kind of like you're seeing
Speaker 3: your sister go through this and go, Okay, this isn't
Speaker 3: your guy, Like wake up when everyone like everyone can
Speaker 3: see it but the one person that's there and it's
Speaker 3: probably really frustrating for you. And you again, I have
Speaker 3: this front, you know, way more than all of us
Speaker 3: had with the relationships. You're like, come on, and then
Speaker 3: you're like back off.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, definitely, and I think too. I didn't want
Speaker 1: her to waste your time. And even with like being
Speaker 1: judging a relationship now.
Speaker 5: It's more like I'm on both their sides.
Speaker 1: I'm just like, you guys need more communication or like
Speaker 1: better communication, or sometimes I can be like, well, she.
Speaker 3: Might not understand is Russian, right, Honestly, that's what I try.
Speaker 1: A cultural difference, you know, and I but I'm also like,
Speaker 1: maybe be a little nicer or and you know, like
Speaker 1: I do, I'm very vocal with what I'm saying, but
Speaker 1: I feel like, hell, well it's not therapy time for Nicole.
Speaker 3: No, I'll just say this, like, so, I'm I'm engaged
Speaker 3: to a Scottish man. So sometimes there is a very
Speaker 3: cultural difference with certain things and how maybe we say
Speaker 3: things and verse how they say things.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, no, no, I.
Speaker 3: Was just being funny and like sarcastic or he was
Speaker 3: in like how they say things are very blunt, and
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, so it's just like understanding and then communicating.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 3: When I heard that, I made up that you were
Speaker 3: maybe angry and he's like, no, not at all. And
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, Okay, that's just how you delivered it.
Speaker 3: Then you just delivered angry.
Speaker 4: And Artam learned English from like the dance community.
Speaker 5: He didn't learn English like being in school. So there
Speaker 5: are some words that he was learned like aren't correct.
Speaker 5: Like when he gets mad, he's like I'm very touch
Speaker 5: ja right now.
Speaker 2: No, No, he'll.
Speaker 4: Say things and it took our therapist a few years
Speaker 4: ago and be like, wait, do you know what that means?
Speaker 5: And he's like this and she's like, no, that's the
Speaker 5: wrong word.
Speaker 1: So we realized like some of our arguments were coming
Speaker 1: from like you would say something, I'd be like.
Speaker 5: What, but he thought it wasn't tomato or tomorrow.
Speaker 1: I went. But I have to say I feel bad
Speaker 1: for our husbands at times because twin culture is.
Speaker 4: Like might be harder than oh yeah, there are third
Speaker 4: wheels for yeah, this is husband wife and they're the
Speaker 4: third wheels.
Speaker 5: So I kind of I feel bad. And that's what
Speaker 5: we're trying to teach our twins on the show. Don't
Speaker 5: make the mistakes we did.
Speaker 1: Well.
Speaker 4: We're like, you know, you might be therapy your whole life,
Speaker 4: which is okay, but let's like also learn to put
Speaker 4: our spouses first, or partners or whoever.
Speaker 5: They may be in you know, so who we share
Speaker 5: the bed with at night, let's put them first.
Speaker 2: Once in a while, once in a while.
Speaker 3: I have speaking of like sharing the bed with the
Speaker 3: twins stuff. I mean, did you guys ever have someone
Speaker 3: that you both liked or got an argument around that,
Speaker 3: or if you just always pick different people?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Thank god, I know because we actually met someone who
Speaker 1: slept with twins, so at different times she dated the
Speaker 1: twins and I had to ask, I'm like, did you
Speaker 1: sleep with both of them? She was like I did,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, was one better in bet?
Speaker 5: And one was? So I was like, god, it's so wild.
Speaker 5: Part of me kind of wishes we can go back
Speaker 5: to our.
Speaker 1: Twenties and maybe if slept with the same person and
Speaker 1: like gotten like kind of yeah, we are at an
Speaker 1: age so disgusting.
Speaker 3: I feel like Bree think she might win, and that's
Speaker 3: why this might be a fun social experiment.
Speaker 5: We know she but we always had reference takes the
Speaker 5: same dick in us that's discussing.
Speaker 2: I this is why I'm upset.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but like the d C, I'm living my best
Speaker 3: life over here because I have you both.
Speaker 2: This is a heaven.
Speaker 5: So we were on was It Entertainment Tonight?
Speaker 4: And I thought if I spelled out dick, it would
Speaker 4: be okay.
Speaker 5: So when Marien interveners, it's like, you know, d I
Speaker 5: c K and he.
Speaker 1: Goes, that's stone, Um, you can't, and I'm like, oh sorry,
Speaker 1: I thought if I spelled it, so.
Speaker 2: Then pe ni s because that is a technical.
Speaker 5: What we say. Oh girl, you're so weird. Though I
Speaker 5: would never want to ever twenties.
Speaker 1: And we did.
Speaker 5: We always had dropper and taste. Oh yeah, that helped.
Speaker 5: We never got to you know, you spit on me.
Speaker 4: We never got in a situation where like you're in
Speaker 4: the same person. No, but we laugh because we always
Speaker 4: had very different types. And now we look at our husbands.
Speaker 1: And we're like, they both have beards, they're soft spoken,
Speaker 1: they love the outdoors, they're super very super sweet into
Speaker 1: their health.
Speaker 4: We're like, whoa, we like kind of married the same guy,
Speaker 4: but different. One's a ballroom dancer, whe's a wrestler, and
Speaker 4: it's like wild.
Speaker 3: So do the guys get along super well then? Because
Speaker 3: I'd imagine if we're gonna if anyone's going to be
Speaker 3: in love with the twin, then they kind of have
Speaker 3: to all be in love with each other.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yes they are.
Speaker 1: They get along great, and I feel like they were
Speaker 1: late a lot now in like they probably never have thought,
Speaker 1: but because of us, they can actually be like, so,
Speaker 1: oh good, Nikki's like that because Bree's like that too,
Speaker 1: and then yeah, they'll share the.
Speaker 2: Like a built in support group.
Speaker 3: I want to ask, because I obviously you guys are
Speaker 3: in you know, you have your podcast, you do a
Speaker 3: lot of stuff, and you're on TV, and so there's
Speaker 3: gonna be a lot of negative people on there, and
Speaker 3: I always love to get especially from two very empowering
Speaker 3: strong women.
Speaker 2: Is there. How do you deal with any online hate.
Speaker 3: Or the trolls or the bullies, Because as much as
Speaker 3: you I try to be like yeah, I'm fine or whatever, it's.
Speaker 2: Still a piece.
Speaker 3: It's like, oh, I just I don't like it, you know,
Speaker 3: It's it's a I have sometimes PTSD of sharing certain
Speaker 3: things on here because I don't want to become a headline.
Speaker 3: And then the people are gonna be like, oh, she's
Speaker 3: just she's a wrecker, she's a train, you know, she's
Speaker 3: just repeating and rinsing, and I'm just like, but that's
Speaker 3: not what I meant. So it's like I I get
Speaker 3: scared to share because of the other piece of that world.
Speaker 3: So I'm just curious how you guys deal with that
Speaker 3: as strong women.
Speaker 4: Well, when we fill you on that, I mean I
Speaker 4: literally feel bad for my team. They're probably like all like, oh,
Speaker 4: this is Nikki, because I will wake them up on
Speaker 4: Tuesday nights to edit stuff out because I'm like, I
Speaker 4: just don't want to be a headline again, like because
Speaker 4: as just like you always misunderstood, everything is click bait
Speaker 4: and it's not even a story, and we just dealt
Speaker 4: with the situation. Recently, a few days ago, they put
Speaker 4: us as a headline with Greece Witherspoon yesterday.
Speaker 5: Well nobody was supposed.
Speaker 4: To day before, but it happened a magazine literally restricted
Speaker 4: us to comment on it because they knew they were lying.
Speaker 4: So I was like, they put it as if we
Speaker 4: went to Reese with our book memoir and like wanted
Speaker 4: her to put it in her book club or make
Speaker 4: it a series, and she said no, this whole thing,
Speaker 4: which was like beyond the light.
Speaker 1: And then said took down three women because they made Recently,
Speaker 1: she just empowered.
Speaker 5: She does an empower woman like she.
Speaker 1: Says she does, which is oh my gosh, no she does,
Speaker 1: like yeah, and then it took down like us and.
Speaker 4: Like people were dragging us like, oh, should a delist
Speaker 4: should have this or that, which like so proud of
Speaker 4: be one. I get to live life without makeup and
Speaker 4: then go do cool shit on TV.
Speaker 5: Yeah you don't know why that's like a negative. Yeah,
Speaker 5: we were like.
Speaker 3: Glad to be on the list. I don't care if
Speaker 3: you mark me as a Z list like cool I
Speaker 3: made something.
Speaker 1: Yeah sure, where I was like they literally took remaking
Speaker 1: a joke like so on a podcast of like Bree's
Speaker 1: obsessed with Reese Whetherspoon in her book club. So Bree's like,
Speaker 1: I DM the book Club about her book. I mean
Speaker 1: I didn't hear back, but I'm so obsessed with them,
Speaker 1: And so literally one thing of saying that she DM
Speaker 1: them I the book turn into this gigantic lie and
Speaker 1: we didn't even know about it till our mom sent
Speaker 1: it to us, Like I didn't know that you guys
Speaker 1: talked to Reese Withetherspoon and all this, and we go,
Speaker 1: what are.
Speaker 5: You talking about? Never talked to her?
Speaker 4: And then the fact that they restricted even our wine
Speaker 4: ig because of course I'm like a type, and we'll
Speaker 4: get into like how we handle of like I will go,
Speaker 4: I'll say things to people and now she dms a lot.
Speaker 4: I'll DM people and she like like. So then I
Speaker 4: realized they restricted all of our.
Speaker 5: Stuff because they didn't want us telling people was a lie,
Speaker 5: and I go, how is this legal? Like I'm so shocked,
Speaker 5: and people don't even read things. They just read that highlight.
Speaker 4: So I literally wake my team up at times because
Speaker 4: I'm like, I can't be a headline no more. I
Speaker 4: can't deal with my mental health, can't deal this week,
Speaker 4: So let's just take stuff out because I'm we're misunderstood.
Speaker 4: But for me, I am one of the most hated
Speaker 4: people on the internet, in the wrestling industry, just in
Speaker 4: that world. And what's said is like that world can
Speaker 4: It's like they believe perception is reality. So whatever you
Speaker 4: are in that ring of the world, and however the
Speaker 4: company wants to perceive you that makes you a good
Speaker 4: heal or babyface. The people in that community just will
Speaker 4: really believe it. And then especially when you're strong women
Speaker 4: breaking barriers, you're just going to get the brunt of
Speaker 4: hate because people don't like change and people want to
Speaker 4: keep it where you're like men are in control and
Speaker 4: they're powerful, Like.
Speaker 5: Why do women want to be equal? Who cares?
Speaker 4: So it was hard on me for a very long time,
Speaker 4: and then I realized, like, you know what it's it's
Speaker 4: my truth, it's what I believe in. So I'm just
Speaker 4: going to either call people out or I'm going to
Speaker 4: be like kill people with kindness. And then also know,
Speaker 4: like I know who I am as a person, Like
Speaker 4: I know I'm a really good person, and I always
Speaker 4: try to come at things with grace and like even
Speaker 4: if I get misunderstood, and can I admit like in
Speaker 4: the past, like do you have your times of like
Speaker 4: feeling different emotions? Of course, but I'm always just this
Speaker 4: is who I am. I mean being never said it's perfect.
Speaker 4: So I feel like that's helped me with the hate
Speaker 4: online and then calling people out like I literally will
Speaker 4: damn people and I'll go, hey, so I just noticed
Speaker 4: you wrote this comment. So I just want to know
Speaker 4: did you read the article or did you just read
Speaker 4: the clickbait and not understand that this isn't truthful and
Speaker 4: then you just tore me down. Did that make you
Speaker 4: feel good because you didn't make me feel good. So
Speaker 4: I just wanted to know. And people will always write
Speaker 4: back like I'm so sorry. I never thought you would
Speaker 4: see this. I don't know why I wrote that every
Speaker 4: almost every time. Yeah, like some other people, I've gotten
Speaker 4: into some back and forth with and I'm like, perfectly
Speaker 4: okay that. But I just started to be like, like
Speaker 4: even when people say stuff about like artam with Dancy,
Speaker 4: like I'll be like, I'm so excuse me, this is
Speaker 4: his wife and FYI, and I'm just like now.
Speaker 5: Like you know what.
Speaker 1: And I don't do it all the time because then
Speaker 1: I don't want to create. Like if you write something negative,
Speaker 1: Nikki will write back. I was make sure back to positive.
Speaker 1: I'm more fact checking.
Speaker 5: Like checking, right, So, like, let me tell you about this.
Speaker 5: You're very incursed.
Speaker 1: You just commented on a lie and then you just
Speaker 1: tore a woman down for no reason.
Speaker 5: And I just read your bio and you love Jesus.
Speaker 3: Oh always always, you know Philippians in the bio quote
Speaker 3: you always.
Speaker 5: Come and write at you.
Speaker 4: I'm like, do you write that in your bio because
Speaker 4: you're the biggest hater in the world.
Speaker 5: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I had one of the greatest gifts that was
Speaker 3: given to me about like a little over a month ago.
Speaker 3: I responded to someone that has just always hated and
Speaker 3: just makes it a point, and I almost feel bad
Speaker 3: for this person, so like, you spend all day just
Speaker 3: stalking my Instagram and then writing terrible things about me,
Speaker 3: So that's that makes me feel sad for them that
Speaker 3: that's what they do with her day. But when I
Speaker 3: actually started and I was very nice in the conversation,
Speaker 3: and I was like, I really just want to understand,
Speaker 3: like where the hatred comes from, and like why and
Speaker 3: also like why would you think because they I was
Speaker 3: wearing a fake belly. I'm like, I actually cannot wait
Speaker 3: to not be pregnant anymore. And now that you know,
Speaker 3: I'm not anymore, but you know, and I had the
Speaker 3: baby and all the things. But when they actually started
Speaker 3: responding the craziness that they were saying and all the
Speaker 3: things like you did this, I'm like no, Actually, then
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my god, why am I defending crazy
Speaker 3: because it's not even that's not the truth. And I
Speaker 3: go wow, I was like, actually, thank you for this conversation,
Speaker 3: because that is you are so far off base from
Speaker 3: actually what the truth is that this actually brought me
Speaker 3: lovely closure. And I don't care what you write anymore
Speaker 3: because it's I know my truth, just like you said.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, this is now funny to me, So
Speaker 3: thank you and have a lovely day. The irony is
Speaker 3: in the Bible. It says if you argue with the fool,
Speaker 3: who's the fool? So maybe we just start all making
Speaker 3: that our bio.
Speaker 4: I love that really good And.
Speaker 2: For you, Britt, you're probably like, that's the opposite of you.
Speaker 2: You will not do that.
Speaker 3: Bree's like doing yoga in the backyard and she's like,
Speaker 3: I can't be bothered.
Speaker 5: Yeah, brew and I are so different when it comes
Speaker 5: to it. But Rez, yeah, very unbothered.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't get bothered. I almost find it like, okay,
Speaker 1: like funny. And I think only because I sometimes I'm
Speaker 1: like they might be ten they might.
Speaker 4: Which is very very true in the rest industry. Ilseaid,
Speaker 4: I'm like, wait, is this a high schooler that I'm
Speaker 4: literally like you talking about love?
Speaker 5: Have they had sex?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 5: What am I doing?
Speaker 1: So I think about that And I did one time
Speaker 1: read this quote that all the like the likes you
Speaker 1: get if all those people are in a room and
Speaker 1: telling you, oh my gosh, I liked your post, and
Speaker 1: be very overwhelming.
Speaker 5: So whether you have.
Speaker 1: Ten people who would be in the room with you,
Speaker 1: a thousand and a million whatever, So I kind of
Speaker 1: look more that I get more love than hate, yes,
Speaker 1: and it's overwhelming, actually, you know, even if I get
Speaker 1: in a beautiful way, in a very beautiful way. So
Speaker 1: I kind of don't let I don't read the comments,
Speaker 1: and like yesterday did bother me because when it was
Speaker 1: the recept it's actually the first time I got bothered
Speaker 1: in a very long time, and only because it tore
Speaker 1: down three women instead build them up. And like all
Speaker 1: of us say, we get a little anxiety when we speak.
Speaker 1: Is that where the world wants everyone to be when
Speaker 1: we speak, we have anxiety that we don't want to
Speaker 1: actually fully be who we are.
Speaker 5: And say what we feel.
Speaker 1: And that's what I feel like with social media, people
Speaker 1: have to be careful with comments because you're going to
Speaker 1: get celebrities, you're gonna get authors and science, all these
Speaker 1: people not wanting to talk because.
Speaker 5: You judge them. Well, that's not a good place.
Speaker 1: What I think is unfair too, though, is that we're
Speaker 1: in the day and age that anyone can write anything
Speaker 1: about you and in tracture for someone's truth and right.
Speaker 1: But like there it's like, literally, Joe Schmoe can go
Speaker 1: be like, so let me tell you about Gregarcia and
Speaker 1: make up a whole lie, but you'll have like a
Speaker 1: group of people be like, I can't believe she did that,
Speaker 1: but it could be.
Speaker 5: A full lie. And I'm like, there has to be
Speaker 5: something that can change in that. But to what Brice said,
Speaker 5: what she.
Speaker 4: Has helped me with is I have focused so much
Speaker 4: more on the love because that's the people who deserve
Speaker 4: my focus, and it has helped me so much. And
Speaker 4: being in this whole new chapter of our lives, from
Speaker 4: our e fans to whether it's podcast, it's wine, I
Speaker 4: feel like we have this whole new world of amazing
Speaker 4: people dancing with the stars, and I'm like, they're so
Speaker 4: positive and loving and like, even when the mom world
Speaker 4: can be a little like.
Speaker 5: Judgy overall, that's so lucky. I know I'm not the
Speaker 5: perfect mom.
Speaker 3: I'll just say this with with the moms too. On
Speaker 3: the judging thing there, I had I had my baby
Speaker 3: who's uh, he's sick. Two and a half weeks now,
Speaker 3: I had him in a carrier and I he was
Speaker 3: a little low in the carrier and at the moment,
Speaker 3: you know, he was super gassy, and I had to
Speaker 3: do some post about I don't can't remember or the
Speaker 3: movie or whatever, and so I put him in and yes,
Speaker 3: he was supposed to probably be a little bit higher,
Speaker 3: but to be honest with you, my my my boobs
Speaker 3: were engorged from the mill that I was like, so
Speaker 3: I just moved him down a little bit. And I
Speaker 3: was like the mom haters that came out to say,
Speaker 3: how you know low he was, But there was the
Speaker 3: other side of the moms going, hey girl, like love
Speaker 3: you so much and also just want to say like,
Speaker 3: just fyi. And I was like, oh, like I appreciated,
Speaker 3: how do I say this? I know how to take
Speaker 3: care of my kids. At the same time, I don't
Speaker 3: really love getting people telling me what I'm doing wrong
Speaker 3: about something. But it's how you it's the kindness in
Speaker 3: the going hey girl, just fyi.
Speaker 2: It's babies a little low.
Speaker 3: It needs to be up higher instead of like you
Speaker 3: suck as a mom, your baby's too low, You're going
Speaker 3: to suffocate it. And I'm like you know, there's there's
Speaker 3: the two comments. It's like if you can just lean
Speaker 3: towards being kind and not judging the fact that and
Speaker 3: that I'm bottle feeding and formula feeding and all the things,
Speaker 3: like I don't I don't need formula feeders here, so
Speaker 3: I really don't need the judge.
Speaker 1: Yeah, WHOA totally And like my mom and Nana will
Speaker 1: always say, like, you guys have too much information.
Speaker 5: In the past, as moms, we just had to figure
Speaker 5: it out.
Speaker 4: Didn't have monitors, we didn't have the internet like we
Speaker 4: didn't We just had to whatever our intuition was, that's
Speaker 4: what we went with.
Speaker 5: And now it's like they.
Speaker 1: Catch a little like a photo still of like a
Speaker 1: moment with you and your child, and they assume all
Speaker 1: these things.
Speaker 3: It's like, your baby's a sleeping the sleeper. I can't
Speaker 3: be asleep in that. Your baby's doing that. It can't
Speaker 3: be in that, And I'm just like, can't go sleep.
Speaker 2: What are you doing? You're gonna say, I.
Speaker 5: Won't even post I posted one photo one time.
Speaker 4: I've had it in his car seat and no, never, no,
Speaker 4: don't do that.
Speaker 2: The thing's not gonna be high enough.
Speaker 3: It's not tight, right, between the shoulder blades as a
Speaker 3: psa right between the shoulder blades.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Oh, and then someone like he loves my it's the
Speaker 4: cutest thing.
Speaker 5: He loves to bake Matteo.
Speaker 1: And like, I'll do some aims, I'll throw up ig
Speaker 1: stories or go on live of him cooking, and he
Speaker 1: does like he loves butter, and at times he's sticks
Speaker 1: finger in butter and he eats it, and that's my guy.
Speaker 3: No, right, what's the difference between a little pretzel rod?
Speaker 3: You know, I mean we dipped pretzel rods. Why can't
Speaker 3: you dip your finger in it?
Speaker 1: People are yeah, they're like, oh my gosh, she lets
Speaker 1: me eat butter, and like, yeah, that's all I feed
Speaker 1: my son. But then they're like, but candies, okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know. I just I always when people would ask
Speaker 1: me like mom and advice, I'm like, the best advice
Speaker 1: I can get you is not to listen to any
Speaker 1: because at the end of the day, you and your
Speaker 1: baby speak your own language. When your baby needs something,
Speaker 1: your body tells you. And no, there's no encyclopedia can
Speaker 1: write that like now, which is such a no blogger nothing.
Speaker 1: And it used to drive me crazy, like when people
Speaker 1: would give hardcore opinions because I'm like, well, my child's
Speaker 1: different than yours and the needs.
Speaker 5: Are different, and my needs are different.
Speaker 1: Like I might handle postpartum different than you do, and yeah,
Speaker 1: so yeah, it's.
Speaker 5: A it's a wild it's wild West on social media.
Speaker 3: Well, that's why it goes back to that point. Just
Speaker 3: the other day, I was filming something and I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: I can't post that because they're going to say that
Speaker 3: he's like asleep in the mommerer or something. And I'm like,
Speaker 3: it goes back to feeling like we have to kind
Speaker 3: of censor because we're just going to get judged.
Speaker 2: And I don't like that.
Speaker 3: I hate that us sleep in a jumparrou and I
Speaker 3: did post it, so I can't wait to open this
Speaker 3: up to the ship storm.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it was cute.
Speaker 3: It was five seconds. I documented it, but because she
Speaker 3: fell asleep in the jumperoo, I am hated.
Speaker 1: Well, you know, I bore yourself a glass of wine
Speaker 1: and then open that up and you know.
Speaker 3: And listen to your podcast, which tell us about your
Speaker 3: podcast for those that have not heard or listened.
Speaker 1: So pretty much it's like happy hour with Nikki and I.
Speaker 1: I mean we really We talk about everything in life,
Speaker 1: whether it's motherhood, marriage, relationships, stuff that's going on in
Speaker 1: the world, and sometimes what we're feeling. Her and I
Speaker 1: can be very spiritual and we have a lot of
Speaker 1: mindful moments that will share in our podcast where it's
Speaker 1: like whoa like, I made a big mistake, but I
Speaker 1: learned from it and this is how we're open books.
Speaker 5: So yeah, we don't Her and I don't care like
Speaker 5: showing everyone.
Speaker 1: The good, the bad, the ugly totally and it's neat
Speaker 1: because we just re signed with Serious XM.
Speaker 5: Great starting yeah next.
Speaker 4: Week we will be dropping two episodes a week, so
Speaker 4: going yeah twice week, which.
Speaker 2: Is grat squirrels. That's great.
Speaker 3: What has been the biggest lesson that was the hardest
Speaker 3: one to learn for both of you, either in marriage
Speaker 3: or in just life in general.
Speaker 5: I think for me.
Speaker 4: Is with in my relationship to keep things like more
Speaker 4: for us, So especially in a reality star or someone
Speaker 4: in the limelight, that knowing that you need to keep
Speaker 4: some things between you two for you too, and that
Speaker 4: it keeps a healthy relationship that giving too much can
Speaker 4: almost affect it.
Speaker 3: Right, Well, I will say that, I mean that I
Speaker 3: second that because my past co host was my now
Speaker 3: well now ex husband. But I think that was a
Speaker 3: piece of our demise is because we shared so much
Speaker 3: and we were trying to do it in a way
Speaker 3: to help and to encourage and you know, to fight
Speaker 3: for relationships and all that. But I look back now
Speaker 3: and go ooh, I don't think that was the best choice.
Speaker 3: And so when I started dating my now fiance, you know,
Speaker 3: he's like, hey, I know that you're very open and
Speaker 3: you share a lot of things. And I was like, well,
Speaker 3: I just want before you even finish that I will
Speaker 3: never get on this podcast and say, up, talk about
Speaker 3: a fight or this or that, because I think it again,
Speaker 3: it becomes a headline. Then people start to get into
Speaker 3: the relationship, and I was like, I want to make
Speaker 3: this so keep this so sacred and not overshare in
Speaker 3: that department of my life. I think it's critical too
Speaker 3: for just anybody in their marriage, Like you don't even
Speaker 3: have to be in the public eye to be careful
Speaker 3: about what you share, even with friends, and that you're
Speaker 3: sharing with friends that are for your marriage, praying for
Speaker 3: your marriage. Because I fell into a trap a few
Speaker 3: years ago where I was like kind of venting you know,
Speaker 3: like women were just like chatting, and then I kind
Speaker 3: of thought, well, this is getting a little ugly, you know,
Speaker 3: like I'm this was me just sharing, like ha ha ha,
Speaker 3: let's all be in the same he doesn't grab the
Speaker 3: dice and when I want him to moment, you know,
Speaker 3: and instead it started to get like a little toxic
Speaker 3: and ugly. So I think that's a really good, like
Speaker 3: overall rule, just marriage is sacred and who you're sharing
Speaker 3: that with and going to people that actually will like
Speaker 3: lift and pray and love over your marriage.
Speaker 5: I love that person. Agree. So true. It really is
Speaker 5: so true.
Speaker 1: And I have to say for myself, I kind of
Speaker 1: just realize in life, I can't take it too serious
Speaker 1: and really prioritize it, which family's always first. I read
Speaker 1: this quote where it was like this woman passed away
Speaker 1: at work and the woman who was sitting next to
Speaker 1: her had hr came in, they collected her things, they
Speaker 1: cleaned off her desk, and then they're like, Okay, we're
Speaker 1: gonna start interviewing because maybe we can get someone in
Speaker 1: here in a couple of days. And she was like,
Speaker 1: whoa to work. You might not mean anything, but no,
Speaker 1: you're replaceable. You're replaceable at work, but your family you're not.
Speaker 1: And she was thinking about how the family's suffering from
Speaker 1: this loss and they'll remember that woman forever. That was
Speaker 1: their mother, that was their wife. But like, oh, you're
Speaker 1: just replaceable at work, whatever it is you're doing, whether
Speaker 1: you're in entertainment, corporate.
Speaker 5: And I was like, damn, so really like for.
Speaker 1: Me family, because I was a workaholic for a while
Speaker 1: and I was like, wow, I'm giving energy to the
Speaker 1: wrong places.
Speaker 5: And I really adjusted that in.
Speaker 1: The pandemic and so and I feel like that's been
Speaker 1: the greatest reward me doing that.
Speaker 2: I love that. Well.
Speaker 3: I love you girls, And anytime you're in Nashville, please
Speaker 3: come have a glass with us. Yes, that would be
Speaker 3: really fun. Yeah, it's so fun. So anytime DM, I
Speaker 3: read my d ms too, so make you just m okay,
Speaker 3: yes please. And everyone watched twin Love right now. It's
Speaker 3: on Amazon freebe but yes Prime and freebee. Okay, you
Speaker 3: girls are awesome. We'll see you soon. Thank you for
Speaker 3: coming on. I love Bree coming in with all the
Speaker 3: quotes and stuff.
Speaker 2: This is a fun day for me. You're just like
Speaker 2: grinning from your to ear.
Speaker 3: I know, It's weird because I'm not usually all in
Speaker 3: on the reality TV but they were. They're just fun
Speaker 3: to me. They're real. I do love how different they
Speaker 3: are too well. They hold each other accountable, so it's
Speaker 3: like they can't get away with anything because there's always
Speaker 3: another one fact checking. And that's what I always enjoyed
Speaker 3: about them as characters in the show, and then to
Speaker 3: watch their lives. It's just fun. And I'm twin fascinated.
Speaker 3: I'm so you know, I always wanted to have twins.
Speaker 3: I create every pregnancy for them to be a twin,
Speaker 3: to split the egg, really every single one. A I
Speaker 3: wanted a bogo. I wanted to only have to get one.
Speaker 3: I just wanted to do it one. I'm like, I
Speaker 3: had to process it, Migraine. Yeah, and I have always been.
Speaker 3: Maybe it's because I just feel like they get this
Speaker 3: instant best friend soulmate that I think it's so special
Speaker 3: And I've always just been fascinated.
Speaker 2: Which you wanted to marry and Mary Kate Nashley. I
Speaker 2: maybe it started with Full House. I don't know. I
Speaker 2: love it.
Speaker 3: Anyways, that was a good one. I like them, I
Speaker 3: love you going to be friends with them, Yeah, let's
Speaker 3: be a friend. I won't be geeky. I promise see
Speaker 3: you next week.
Speaker 5: I s