WEBVTT - Double Your Fun with Nikki and Brie Garcia

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<v Speaker 1>Wind down with Janet Kramer, an I'm Heeart radio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey girl, Hey hi girl, Hey hey girl.

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<v Speaker 3>How you doing girl?

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<v Speaker 2>Tell me how you're really doing well.

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<v Speaker 3>It's interesting because I feel like it's a day by day.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like a minute by minute, hour by hour, day

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<v Speaker 3>by day.

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<v Speaker 2>You feel that thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Yesterday, I loaded three children to go to a postop

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<v Speaker 3>appointment for the babies orald Tie release and the guru

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<v Speaker 3>here in Nashville is an hour away from my home,

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<v Speaker 3>and so I loaded all three and I made the

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<v Speaker 3>voyage Oregon trail style and I got there five minutes early. Success,

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<v Speaker 3>And the appointment was.

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<v Speaker 2>Actually for today. So I passed everybody. No, no, they

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't let you.

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<v Speaker 3>They the person that was supposed to the person that

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<v Speaker 3>could have seen me actually had a family emergency, was

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<v Speaker 3>not there.

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<v Speaker 1>No.

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<v Speaker 3>So an hour hour back we go and that's that.

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<v Speaker 3>And so we've moved it. But just to reiterate your

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<v Speaker 3>hour by hour, I consider myself to be an a type.

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<v Speaker 3>So these third baby moments are super sobering. This is

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<v Speaker 3>interesting because I'm listening to this piece and then also

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<v Speaker 3>last week you had something happen I'm sure I did

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<v Speaker 3>with your podcast. Oh yeah, my podcast I have. I

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<v Speaker 3>took a time out and went to a studio and

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<v Speaker 3>did two full episodes and I sent them over to

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<v Speaker 3>the producer who does mine. She's amazing and she was like, hey, girl,

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<v Speaker 3>so there's no audio on these. I can see that

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<v Speaker 3>there's forty minutes or forty five minutes of content, but

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<v Speaker 3>there's no audio. Devastation, So I feel like, what is

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<v Speaker 3>the universe telling you right now? Because you've got I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know, tell me. I always am like, okay, what's

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<v Speaker 3>the I know, I will say this. I decided, tell

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<v Speaker 3>me if this feels like fair closure for the lost episodes,

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<v Speaker 3>because I really mourned it, and in fact, Easton, your producer,

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<v Speaker 3>was like, I reached out to him because I thought

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<v Speaker 3>he's a guru, so if there's anyone that can go

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<v Speaker 3>in and find and he could not. I decided that

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<v Speaker 3>those were two conversations I needed to have with God.

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<v Speaker 3>And I told you even in one of them, I

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<v Speaker 3>felt so plugged in that it felt so special that

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<v Speaker 3>there was no way I could recreate it. And I thought, well,

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<v Speaker 3>maybe it was just supposed to be those conversations were

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<v Speaker 3>Those conversations were just me and God. So that's where

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<v Speaker 3>I've landed with that, and probably a really good lesson

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<v Speaker 3>on making sure that I'm recording the.

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<v Speaker 2>Right way, which I used to do radio.

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<v Speaker 3>So I sometimes like think I'm doing okay, yeah, and

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not. But well, I'm always just like, what is it?

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<v Speaker 3>Is it writing us to slow down? Is it? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>I thought the drive yesterday was, you know, about a

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<v Speaker 3>little over two hours round trip, and I thought, why why?

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<v Speaker 3>But we went in a non traffic time. We saw

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<v Speaker 3>the big beautiful city my kids called Nashville the big

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<v Speaker 3>beautiful city. The water was twinkly, and I thought, maybe

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<v Speaker 3>we're just supposed to be reminded. I'm trying grammer. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>really stretching by the way I always go with when

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<v Speaker 3>I'm on an airplane and even I mean, we had

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<v Speaker 3>one of these days when I was like twenty oh.

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<v Speaker 2>We were coming back from Utah.

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<v Speaker 3>We were eleven hours delayed, and we got to the

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<v Speaker 3>airport at four in the morning for an early flight,

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<v Speaker 3>and instead of going to the oh, this is so frustrating,

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm so angry and I just want to go home. Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>all of those things, but I'm like, whether it's that

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<v Speaker 3>or traffic or a re route. I go, this is

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<v Speaker 3>just God's way, because maybe something would have happened God

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<v Speaker 3>Sea Tour. Yes, well God's Sea Tour where it's like, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>I've changed my frame going that plane might not have

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<v Speaker 3>just worked for us, right, and I'm thankful that we

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<v Speaker 3>are going to wait to the right one. Well and

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<v Speaker 3>even today so like I wouldn't have been able to

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<v Speaker 3>make to day's appointment, which is why why did I

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<v Speaker 3>even schedule it on a Wednesday. I don't know, but

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<v Speaker 3>it was I thought, Okay, well, maybe it's that I'm

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<v Speaker 3>not supposed to be on the road today, and now

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<v Speaker 3>that sweet woman at the office doesn't want to make

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<v Speaker 3>me do the drive twice, so she's coming.

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<v Speaker 2>To us this week.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, which I thought, maybe we're being protected, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>like you just gotta go everything for a reason. The

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<v Speaker 3>woman at the front desk, though, oh no, I had

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<v Speaker 3>a moment and then I even had to find the

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<v Speaker 3>grace because I wanted to cry, like I didn't say

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<v Speaker 3>to her, I just drove over an hour. I didn't

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<v Speaker 3>say like is there anyone here? That I just was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>got it. And meanwhile, Love and Legend are like making

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<v Speaker 3>themselves at home reading a magazine already, like they moved

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<v Speaker 3>right in and I'm and so and then they're like confused,

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<v Speaker 3>why are we leaving? And she just was not super cozym.

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<v Speaker 3>But then I got in the car and I was driving,

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<v Speaker 3>and I wanted to cry. I couldn't even call Preston

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<v Speaker 3>because I thought if I if I do call him,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just gonna cry, and then the kids are gonna

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<v Speaker 3>want you know, it's not worth it. So I I

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<v Speaker 3>did have a moment where I thought, you know, what

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<v Speaker 3>her day was, probably.

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<v Speaker 2>Really maybe she was going through something.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, like she's now dealing with the cancelations of the

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<v Speaker 3>family emergency and she doesn't you know, And I just

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<v Speaker 3>just grace right, like we're all in it. Yes, and

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<v Speaker 3>every day is a little different, especially when you have

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<v Speaker 3>a third and it's a newborn. Yeah, it's you can't

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<v Speaker 3>get a pattern. No, well, that's Alan had asked me some.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it was last night. I was the night before.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean just he's really dealing with like some gas

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<v Speaker 3>and fussiness and so the baby, yes, the baby noting which,

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<v Speaker 3>by the way, I have a really funny story with

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<v Speaker 3>my ex because he came to pick up the kids

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<v Speaker 3>the other the other day, and I said, he so,

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<v Speaker 3>we're really going to have to keep an eye on him,

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<v Speaker 3>because you know, he's just having like some crying fits

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<v Speaker 3>and just being like really you know, sensitive, And he's

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<v Speaker 3>like Alan.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, oh, Jayce, Mike is really all in on Alan.

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<v Speaker 3>Really. I was like, no, Jayce, He's like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 3>thought you were talking about because I guess I was

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<v Speaker 3>just talking about Alan. So he's like, so, I think

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<v Speaker 3>a couple of days ago he texted me, He's like,

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<v Speaker 3>how's Alan's crying fits?

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<v Speaker 2>Alan feeling less gassy? Good for Allan?

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<v Speaker 3>But anyways, so he had asked me. So obviously, with

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<v Speaker 3>a newborn in two and a half weeks or whatever,

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<v Speaker 3>it's just a couple hours you get to sleep. And

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<v Speaker 3>Alan has been incredible, like he's taken the most middle

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<v Speaker 3>of the night feeds just to let me sleep and recover.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm like, all right, babe, I'm now past like

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<v Speaker 3>two weeks sea section, like I got I got this.

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<v Speaker 2>And he's like no, no, I'm like sleep.

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<v Speaker 3>He's a like a dream, so supportive, so sweet, but

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<v Speaker 3>also this it's a yes, they're sleeping, but you're also awake.

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<v Speaker 3>You hear the crying and so it's very sleepless. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>and even if he didn't wake up, by the way,

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<v Speaker 3>even if the baby didn't wake up, you would still

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<v Speaker 3>be waking up, right. And so I just was out

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<v Speaker 3>of it yesterday and just tired, and you when things

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<v Speaker 3>just start to pile up in the two list and

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<v Speaker 3>getting back to work, and I got an audition and

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like okay, like trying to like study lines, and

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<v Speaker 3>you know, Alan was like, so, how you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like emotionally, mentally.

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<v Speaker 3>Physically, like we got to today last last minute hour,

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<v Speaker 3>which one you said ten thirty or currently something expected

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<v Speaker 3>that response back and you kind of looked at me like,

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<v Speaker 3>oh god, what did I walk myself into? But yeah, no,

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<v Speaker 3>that's just where I'm kind of at is just like

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<v Speaker 3>the minute, because today I'm good, but also I feel

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<v Speaker 3>like I could cry at the drop of a hat.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh same today. Let's not yesterday, yesterday, same day before.

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<v Speaker 1>No.

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<v Speaker 3>So when I was doing my postpartum check, when I

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<v Speaker 3>went for my two week check up, I really had

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<v Speaker 3>to take the question seriously because I'm like, well, sometimes

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<v Speaker 3>yesterday the other day before that. No, you know, I

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<v Speaker 3>remember asking them like, do you want me to fill

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<v Speaker 3>this out like based on like the last several days

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<v Speaker 3>overall feeling or just the last hour, because I do

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<v Speaker 3>feel really like hopeful most of the time, but then

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<v Speaker 3>there's time where I'm like, ooh, this is the depression piece,

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<v Speaker 3>like sneaky. Yeah, I've dealt with the depression piece a

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<v Speaker 3>lot this time around, but it looks different, I think

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<v Speaker 3>because I know a lot more and I know myself.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm more in tune with myself, but the depression piece

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<v Speaker 3>is extra sneaky this time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm trying really hard to like this podcast helps me.

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<v Speaker 3>My podcast, like even just getting going somewhere, getting dressed,

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<v Speaker 3>even though I don't want to, like I have to.

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<v Speaker 3>It almost feels like a foggy depression it is, and

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<v Speaker 3>where it's like it clears and then it comes back.

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<v Speaker 3>That's kind of how I've was trying to describe it

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<v Speaker 3>to my therapist. And I think what women, especially like

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<v Speaker 3>you and I, what we usually use as tools to

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<v Speaker 3>like get us motivated or like we both like to exercise. Well,

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<v Speaker 3>and that's that was the piece I was It's hard. Well,

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<v Speaker 3>what I said to when I went for my two

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<v Speaker 3>week I'm like, all right, doc, Like when can I

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<v Speaker 3>get back to working out because I went for a

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<v Speaker 3>few walks around the neighborhood.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel great.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm still sore in my ribs and obviously over my scar.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, isn't normal to have that stabbing pain where?

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<v Speaker 3>And she's like, oh yeah, She's like, that's where you know.

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<v Speaker 3>I tied you up. And she goes and unfortunately, she's like,

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<v Speaker 3>I can't clear you to you know. She's like, most

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<v Speaker 3>people can start working out at six weeks. She's like,

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<v Speaker 3>but she's like, your abs on the left side were

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<v Speaker 3>so detached. She's like, I tried to fix Them's like,

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<v Speaker 3>but that's not my area of expertise. And she's like,

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<v Speaker 3>you cannot work out until you see a public floor therapist.

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<v Speaker 3>And she's like, because you'll get a hernia. And I'm

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<v Speaker 3>just like, wait a minute, So wait what, like so

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<v Speaker 3>I can't can I do squats or because it's just

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<v Speaker 3>something because I want to feel not just I want

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<v Speaker 3>to get back in shape. That's fine, but I like

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<v Speaker 3>to for what it does for my endorphins and just

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<v Speaker 3>my overall energy and to feel like myself and to

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<v Speaker 3>get back to myself again. I don't care that I've

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<v Speaker 3>got you know, the it's most part and body.

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<v Speaker 2>It's fine.

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<v Speaker 3>I just want to feel like I am actively doing

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<v Speaker 3>something for my brain and endorphins and doing something. And

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<v Speaker 3>she's just like no, like until you talk to someone.

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<v Speaker 3>And I reached out to a pet pelvic person and

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<v Speaker 3>was like, hey, so she wants me to do core

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<v Speaker 3>and scar stuff and like, well, we usually wait till

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<v Speaker 3>eight weeks, and I was like, nope, can we start

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<v Speaker 3>now please? Because I for my mental fog depression, I

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<v Speaker 3>need this. That's where I've been stuck. And I had

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<v Speaker 3>the baby in such a hot time that I couldn't

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<v Speaker 3>even go take walks, and then she sprained my tailbone

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<v Speaker 3>and delivery. So I'm just being like, I'm like, what

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<v Speaker 3>lesson am I supposed to learn in this waiting?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 3>So much waiting and what I would normally, I'm like, gosh,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not even like dependent on wine this time, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I'm actually like I want to go move my

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<v Speaker 3>body and that's how I feel best and I can't

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<v Speaker 3>do that, so I'm just right here. Yeah, Alan had

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<v Speaker 3>said the other day, you know, do I want some wine?

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<v Speaker 3>I was like no, I'm just I'm too tired. I

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<v Speaker 3>had my first glass of red wine though on our

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<v Speaker 3>on our year anniversary, and I got like a splitting

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<v Speaker 3>headache just because I wasn't used to it. I mean

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<v Speaker 3>I only had a half of a glass and it

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<v Speaker 3>was just like boom. But since then, normally I would

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<v Speaker 3>maybe go back into the routine of having a glass,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, every other day or whatever. And now I'm

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<v Speaker 3>just like, no, I'm good. It doesn't even taste the same,

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<v Speaker 3>which is weird. I tried to have an alcohol Yeah, weird. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sure I'll I will, I'll like get I go

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<v Speaker 3>back on the road again. But I don't think i'll

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<v Speaker 3>do go back to what I used to do. No,

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<v Speaker 3>because the more I listened to podcast like Doctor Raymond

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<v Speaker 3>and yeah, I also just think there's this is not

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<v Speaker 3>it's weird. Yeah, I think it's getting are we getting mature?

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's just I don't I think I needed

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<v Speaker 3>wine when I went through my divorce. I drank myself

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<v Speaker 3>through miscarriage. Yeah, and now I'm like, I don't need

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<v Speaker 3>it every day. I don't need to. And again I still,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, have my wine business that we're trying to

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<v Speaker 3>reboot and with an new company, and that's you know

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<v Speaker 3>again I love wine. I will always love wine, but

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<v Speaker 3>I don't need it every night anymore. It's not something

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<v Speaker 3>that I think it's served the purpose for when I

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<v Speaker 3>needed it, and now I'm like, I want to enjoy

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<v Speaker 3>it occasionally. Yeah, Like we had a date night last night.

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<v Speaker 3>I had a little sip and thought I didn't even

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<v Speaker 3>finish the glass, and I was like this, actually just

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<v Speaker 3>it's like good with a meal, and I'm good.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I just would always rather pick sleep.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, And that's why I also think, Yeah, we're in

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<v Speaker 3>that state where it's like I'd like some tea please, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I would love Oh, a warm detox to you would

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<v Speaker 3>be awesome. But I am excited about today's podcast because

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<v Speaker 3>so we've got Nicki and Brie Garcia coming on.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know about them? This is a guilty little

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<v Speaker 2>pleasure I had.

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<v Speaker 3>Which one the w ww WWE when I almost could

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<v Speaker 3>see you doing that?

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<v Speaker 2>Liking it or doing it. It's two different things. Oh

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<v Speaker 2>actually yeah, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>I could see in the cute little expandex thanks Cramer.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah I didn't see that coming.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I think you and then just like raw, that's

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<v Speaker 3>on brand. I followed them back at w w E

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<v Speaker 3>when they did the show and they were the Bella Twins.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the Bella Twins. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And then I also kind of followed along with Nikki

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<v Speaker 3>because she was with John Cena. Uh and now she's

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<v Speaker 3>married to Artam and I loved them on Dancing with Stars,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I just think that's so cute. Yeah, so loved

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<v Speaker 3>them and they have they have a kid together, and

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<v Speaker 3>then Bree, I mean I just think they're They're beautiful,

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<v Speaker 3>and they have a new show called twin Love, and

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<v Speaker 3>we're just gonna talk all things twin and I'm fascinated

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<v Speaker 3>with twins. So this is all just too fun for me. Okay, fabulous,

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<v Speaker 3>So let's get them on. Do you want to sit here?

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<v Speaker 2>Kind of okay? Yeah? Got awkward? Hey girls, Hey, hey girls?

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<v Speaker 3>Nay so pretty just stunning yes names Oh, I mean

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<v Speaker 3>like I can't it's not even real life, but it is.

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<v Speaker 3>I am a confession about how long I have known

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<v Speaker 3>of you, because it's not like me to like reality

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<v Speaker 3>TV at all. Did a short because I did a

0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:29.200
<v Speaker 3>reality show short stint on road Rules ruined me forever.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah right, we all feel it. But I did follow

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<v Speaker 3>you when you were part of the WWE show because

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<v Speaker 3>I felt like in our world, it was the first

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<v Speaker 3>time there was a show about being strong and less

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<v Speaker 3>about being skinny little women that were just up to

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<v Speaker 3>something like it was more about being powerful and empowered.

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<v Speaker 3>And for some reason, you two split eggs sucked me

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<v Speaker 3>right in. I love it so Total Divas Divas was

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<v Speaker 3>my jam.

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<v Speaker 4>I like that, that's you know, I had to say,

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<v Speaker 4>That's what I loved so much about Diva Total Divas

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<v Speaker 4>was that it was like the first three you had

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<v Speaker 4>badass women like showing what they can do inside and

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<v Speaker 4>outside of the ring, Like how as women we can

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<v Speaker 4>balance this male dominated industry, but go home and have

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<v Speaker 4>to take care of shit too. And that's why I

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<v Speaker 4>like when we got into When Bri and I left

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<v Speaker 4>after season nine, we were like, you're losing what made

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<v Speaker 4>this special because then I feel like after it goes

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<v Speaker 4>on for so many seasons, everyone's just.

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<v Speaker 5>Like they want more drama. You need to be more

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<v Speaker 5>cat you guys and Brien I were like, we're out

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<v Speaker 5>for this, Like.

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<v Speaker 4>We're here to like create empower women and empower and

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<v Speaker 4>break barriers.

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<v Speaker 5>And you want to know a funny backstory.

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<v Speaker 1>When we were filming the pilot, I mean, this was

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<v Speaker 1>over ten years ago, all of us girls were like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, is the world really going to care

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<v Speaker 1>about female wrestlers, Like for some reason, we had this

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<v Speaker 1>feeling like no one would care. So it was amazing

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<v Speaker 1>to see the support, Like people loved seeing what female

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<v Speaker 1>wrestlers r up to and what we were doing was badass.

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<v Speaker 5>It might us all feel good.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, I know you're new to me, but like if

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<v Speaker 3>you could know my character, this is the most opposite thing. Oh,

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<v Speaker 3>from any time we ever have like a housewife on

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<v Speaker 3>or I mean just anybody from bachelor to bachelor, she's just.

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<v Speaker 2>Like she's always like I don't have any question.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, but I was so all in for

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<v Speaker 3>your empowerment and your badass noess and just like you

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<v Speaker 3>were just strong and sturdy in business savvy, and I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, yes, and I love twins because we also

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<v Speaker 3>grew up in the air of Hulkogan. Though maybe maybe

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<v Speaker 3>it teed it up, but it was really like unexpected.

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<v Speaker 3>It became more than I thought it would be, and

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<v Speaker 3>then I found myself like really tuning in and then

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<v Speaker 3>I just wanted to follow along your lives because I

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<v Speaker 3>thought you were just special humans.

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<v Speaker 5>So oh that means a lot. Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 5>You have no idea.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm forty one, I have no business following along with

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<v Speaker 3>WWE stars and I was like, I'm all.

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<v Speaker 2>In, what are those twins? What are those twins doing?

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<v Speaker 1>Well?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so now you guys have twin Love. So how

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<v Speaker 3>fun has that been?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>You guys are just the twins right, Yeah, it's actually

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<v Speaker 1>been really incredible. I mean, for myself, this is the

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<v Speaker 1>first big show I've hosted. Nikki you know, she's hosted Barmageddon,

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<v Speaker 1>so she got her feet wet in the hosting world.

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<v Speaker 1>But for me, like, I feel lucky that I get

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<v Speaker 1>to do these big gigs with my twin, like my sidekick.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think the greater part about Twin Love was

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<v Speaker 1>I got to see all these other twins be a

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<v Speaker 1>breed and Nicki. It was so wild to me to

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<v Speaker 1>meet them because I was like, oh my gosh, you're

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<v Speaker 1>the sassier one, you're the sweeter one, Like you're the nicky,

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<v Speaker 1>you're the breed. Yeah, and so but it was, gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>what it was a fun journey.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, it was, it was really neat.

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<v Speaker 4>I am a huge Love Island fan, like especially Love

0:17:59.160 --> 0:18:02.960
<v Speaker 4>Island UK, so having the producers and the creators come

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<v Speaker 4>to us from ITV and Love Island and be like, look,

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<v Speaker 4>we have the show and we're interested in you to hosting.

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<v Speaker 5>I was already like, okay, I'm in. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 5>just you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>So to get to be hands on and come in

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<v Speaker 1>every day and be like what happened in the night,

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<v Speaker 1>like who looked up?

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<v Speaker 5>But like to have that world.

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<v Speaker 4>But then also the science part of like twins and

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<v Speaker 4>identical twins, especially in that bond and how we act

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<v Speaker 4>and if you split us up, like are we going

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<v Speaker 4>to see the same things? Because having these two identical

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<v Speaker 4>houses with identical cast, it was just it took it

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<v Speaker 4>to a whole nother level. I was just like, I'm

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<v Speaker 4>already obsessed with this kind of dating show, and this

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<v Speaker 4>was just a step up.

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<v Speaker 5>You realize twins are freaks. Yeah, we're in like a

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<v Speaker 5>good way, in a good way, like we belong in

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<v Speaker 5>the circus, like in a good way.

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<v Speaker 3>And you did put yourself in a ring at one point,

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<v Speaker 3>so that makes a little more sense. So for people

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<v Speaker 3>that don't know the premise of the show, it's a

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<v Speaker 3>dating show and it's twins and twins, is that the idea.

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<v Speaker 5>It's a dating reality dating show experiment.

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<v Speaker 1>And so we have ten identical twins and when they

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<v Speaker 1>come to Nicky and I, we split them up into

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<v Speaker 1>two separate houses. So one twin goes into Nicky's house,

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<v Speaker 1>the other twin goes into a breeze house.

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<v Speaker 5>And I'll say Niki got the feisty ones. I got

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<v Speaker 5>the very sweet leathers.

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<v Speaker 1>And what's incredible is that, you know, the one thing

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<v Speaker 1>with twins is that we always go through life, as

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<v Speaker 1>you have seen through our careers, just doing everything together.

0:19:29.560 --> 0:19:32.560
<v Speaker 1>You're born with the soulmate, you do everything. And we

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<v Speaker 1>wanted these twins not only to find love, but personal

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<v Speaker 1>growth on your own. And I think that's really scary

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<v Speaker 1>for twins to be what we call a singular for

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<v Speaker 1>a moment, and so we split them up, which was

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<v Speaker 1>very devastating.

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<v Speaker 5>So when you see the show, you're going to see.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of tears in the beginning because we had

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<v Speaker 1>to split these twins up. But then what's so cool

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<v Speaker 1>is from there you'll start to see this individuality with

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<v Speaker 1>the twins that you're like, see, you just need to

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<v Speaker 1>be away from the twin for a little bit, find

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<v Speaker 1>some love, find yourself and you see their journeys really

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<v Speaker 1>blossom and it's so incredible.

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<v Speaker 3>So for you too, is there something like what's the

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<v Speaker 3>thing that you each bring to each other that is

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<v Speaker 3>good for you? But then what's also like, okay, like

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<v Speaker 3>Bree when you do this like this, is this is

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<v Speaker 3>not good for me? Or like what's the thing that's

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<v Speaker 3>like the kind of the positive and the negative of

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<v Speaker 3>having that close relationship and then the effect of your

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<v Speaker 3>own different personalities coming in with that closeness.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I guess for me it would be I'll start

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<v Speaker 1>with the negative, so I end with the positive. Yes, yeah, no,

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<v Speaker 1>But I think you know, with twins, we feel each

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<v Speaker 1>other so much. So if I wake up and it's

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<v Speaker 1>all sunshine and birds and then I see her and

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<v Speaker 1>it's a dark cloud, it's like I feel all sudden

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<v Speaker 1>that energy. So I could start in a really great

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<v Speaker 1>mood and all sudden I could shift and it's weird

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm feeling whatever she's going through. So sometimes I

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<v Speaker 1>think that can be a negative for twins, is how

0:21:01.840 --> 0:21:03.840
<v Speaker 1>much we feel each other and we can take on

0:21:03.960 --> 0:21:07.919
<v Speaker 1>negative energy and vice versa, and then a positive is

0:21:09.000 --> 0:21:11.960
<v Speaker 1>Nikki gives me a lot of strength and whatever it is,

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<v Speaker 1>you know that I'm doing.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm so lucky to have that.

0:21:14.480 --> 0:21:17.080
<v Speaker 1>I feel like there's so many times I've been in

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<v Speaker 1>scary situations where I want to puke.

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<v Speaker 5>And be like, no, I can't do that. Whether I'm

0:21:21.240 --> 0:21:23.840
<v Speaker 5>going out to wrestle at WrestleMania, whether.

0:21:24.080 --> 0:21:26.760
<v Speaker 1>Yesterday we're doing Jimmy fallon the show, whatever it may be,

0:21:27.280 --> 0:21:30.000
<v Speaker 1>She's right there to give me just this pep talk

0:21:30.119 --> 0:21:33.640
<v Speaker 1>and strength, and I feel so like I feel more

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<v Speaker 1>confident and braver like having her right, I mean, and

0:21:37.359 --> 0:21:41.119
<v Speaker 1>I you know, for me, it's like I just I

0:21:41.160 --> 0:21:44.399
<v Speaker 1>truly feel lucky to be a twin because even as

0:21:44.520 --> 0:21:47.359
<v Speaker 1>we grow as entrepreneurs, to have someone that like I

0:21:47.440 --> 0:21:50.119
<v Speaker 1>trust by my side, then I know, no matter what,

0:21:50.320 --> 0:21:52.480
<v Speaker 1>has my back has been such a blessing.

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<v Speaker 4>And I know I understand that not everyone gets that.

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<v Speaker 4>So to me, it's such a positive. And you know

0:21:58.560 --> 0:22:01.960
<v Speaker 4>the negative is Breeze Jet and she's judging.

0:22:01.720 --> 0:22:04.520
<v Speaker 1>My relationship and she's judging the things that I do,

0:22:04.640 --> 0:22:05.600
<v Speaker 1>and I'm always.

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<v Speaker 5>Like, stop judging me. Well, let's be what are you okay?

0:22:09.560 --> 0:22:11.760
<v Speaker 3>What are you judging her on? Like in the relationship

0:22:11.800 --> 0:22:12.320
<v Speaker 3>piece of it.

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<v Speaker 1>So I feel like I get a front row to

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<v Speaker 1>life over here, her life. Yeah, so I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I have very valid opinions because I'm seeing it where

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<v Speaker 1>you're living. So like for me, it's like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, so I guess when it comes to relationship.

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<v Speaker 5>But see what I'm trying to change is instead of judge,

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<v Speaker 5>let's be understanding.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you think it comes from a place of being

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<v Speaker 3>protective though, Brie, unless Yeah, Like it may look judgy,

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<v Speaker 3>but it's probably you protecting and.

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<v Speaker 2>You've seen it happen.

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<v Speaker 3>And probably if she was staying with this guy that

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<v Speaker 3>you know, probably wasn't the best guy for her and

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<v Speaker 3>he wasn't committing to her, I'm just making this up.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. This might be more about us than

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<v Speaker 2>it is about you.

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<v Speaker 3>And also but I also think that she can relate

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<v Speaker 3>to that. And so you're kind of like you're seeing

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<v Speaker 3>your sister go through this and go, Okay, this isn't

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<v Speaker 3>your guy, Like wake up when everyone like everyone can

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<v Speaker 3>see it but the one person that's there and it's

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<v Speaker 3>probably really frustrating for you. And you again, I have

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<v Speaker 3>this front, you know, way more than all of us

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<v Speaker 3>had with the relationships. You're like, come on, and then

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<v Speaker 3>you're like back off.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, definitely, and I think too. I didn't want

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<v Speaker 1>her to waste your time. And even with like being

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<v Speaker 1>judging a relationship now.

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<v Speaker 5>It's more like I'm on both their sides.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just like, you guys need more communication or like

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<v Speaker 1>better communication, or sometimes I can be like, well, she.

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<v Speaker 3>Might not understand is Russian, right, Honestly, that's what I try.

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<v Speaker 1>A cultural difference, you know, and I but I'm also like,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe be a little nicer or and you know, like

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<v Speaker 1>I do, I'm very vocal with what I'm saying, but

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like, hell, well it's not therapy time for Nicole.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I'll just say this, like, so, I'm I'm engaged

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<v Speaker 3>to a Scottish man. So sometimes there is a very

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<v Speaker 3>cultural difference with certain things and how maybe we say

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<v Speaker 3>things and verse how they say things.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, no, no, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Was just being funny and like sarcastic or he was

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<v Speaker 3>in like how they say things are very blunt, and

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, oh, so it's just like understanding and then communicating.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>When I heard that, I made up that you were

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<v Speaker 3>maybe angry and he's like, no, not at all. And

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, oh, Okay, that's just how you delivered it.

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<v Speaker 3>Then you just delivered angry.

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<v Speaker 4>And Artam learned English from like the dance community.

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<v Speaker 5>He didn't learn English like being in school. So there

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<v Speaker 5>are some words that he was learned like aren't correct.

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<v Speaker 5>Like when he gets mad, he's like I'm very touch

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<v Speaker 5>ja right now.

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<v Speaker 2>No, No, he'll.

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<v Speaker 4>Say things and it took our therapist a few years

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<v Speaker 4>ago and be like, wait, do you know what that means?

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<v Speaker 5>And he's like this and she's like, no, that's the

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<v Speaker 5>wrong word.

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<v Speaker 1>So we realized like some of our arguments were coming

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<v Speaker 1>from like you would say something, I'd be like.

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<v Speaker 5>What, but he thought it wasn't tomato or tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 1>I went. But I have to say I feel bad

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<v Speaker 1>for our husbands at times because twin culture is.

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<v Speaker 4>Like might be harder than oh yeah, there are third

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<v Speaker 4>wheels for yeah, this is husband wife and they're the

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<v Speaker 4>third wheels.

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<v Speaker 5>So I kind of I feel bad. And that's what

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<v Speaker 5>we're trying to teach our twins on the show. Don't

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<v Speaker 5>make the mistakes we did.

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<v Speaker 1>Well.

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<v Speaker 4>We're like, you know, you might be therapy your whole life,

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<v Speaker 4>which is okay, but let's like also learn to put

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<v Speaker 4>our spouses first, or partners or whoever.

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<v Speaker 5>They may be in you know, so who we share

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<v Speaker 5>the bed with at night, let's put them first.

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<v Speaker 2>Once in a while, once in a while.

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<v Speaker 3>I have speaking of like sharing the bed with the

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<v Speaker 3>twins stuff. I mean, did you guys ever have someone

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<v Speaker 3>that you both liked or got an argument around that,

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<v Speaker 3>or if you just always pick different people?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Thank god, I know because we actually met someone who

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<v Speaker 1>slept with twins, so at different times she dated the

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<v Speaker 1>twins and I had to ask, I'm like, did you

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<v Speaker 1>sleep with both of them? She was like I did,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, was one better in bet?

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<v Speaker 5>And one was? So I was like, god, it's so wild.

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<v Speaker 5>Part of me kind of wishes we can go back

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<v Speaker 5>to our.

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<v Speaker 1>Twenties and maybe if slept with the same person and

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<v Speaker 1>like gotten like kind of yeah, we are at an

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<v Speaker 1>age so disgusting.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like Bree think she might win, and that's

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<v Speaker 3>why this might be a fun social experiment.

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<v Speaker 5>We know she but we always had reference takes the

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<v Speaker 5>same dick in us that's discussing.

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<v Speaker 2>I this is why I'm upset.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but like the d C, I'm living my best

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<v Speaker 3>life over here because I have you both.

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<v Speaker 2>This is a heaven.

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<v Speaker 5>So we were on was It Entertainment Tonight?

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<v Speaker 4>And I thought if I spelled out dick, it would

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<v Speaker 4>be okay.

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<v Speaker 5>So when Marien interveners, it's like, you know, d I

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<v Speaker 5>c K and he.

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<v Speaker 1>Goes, that's stone, Um, you can't, and I'm like, oh sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought if I spelled it, so.

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<v Speaker 2>Then pe ni s because that is a technical.

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<v Speaker 5>What we say. Oh girl, you're so weird. Though I

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<v Speaker 5>would never want to ever twenties.

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<v Speaker 1>And we did.

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<v Speaker 5>We always had dropper and taste. Oh yeah, that helped.

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<v Speaker 5>We never got to you know, you spit on me.

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<v Speaker 4>We never got in a situation where like you're in

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<v Speaker 4>the same person. No, but we laugh because we always

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<v Speaker 4>had very different types. And now we look at our husbands.

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<v Speaker 1>And we're like, they both have beards, they're soft spoken,

0:27:33.200 --> 0:27:37.080
<v Speaker 1>they love the outdoors, they're super very super sweet into

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<v Speaker 1>their health.

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<v Speaker 4>We're like, whoa, we like kind of married the same guy,

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<v Speaker 4>but different. One's a ballroom dancer, whe's a wrestler, and

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<v Speaker 4>it's like wild.

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<v Speaker 3>So do the guys get along super well then? Because

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<v Speaker 3>I'd imagine if we're gonna if anyone's going to be

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<v Speaker 3>in love with the twin, then they kind of have

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<v Speaker 3>to all be in love with each other.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yes they are.

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<v Speaker 1>They get along great, and I feel like they were

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<v Speaker 1>late a lot now in like they probably never have thought,

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<v Speaker 1>but because of us, they can actually be like, so,

0:28:04.359 --> 0:28:06.720
<v Speaker 1>oh good, Nikki's like that because Bree's like that too,

0:28:06.800 --> 0:28:09.040
<v Speaker 1>and then yeah, they'll share the.

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<v Speaker 2>Like a built in support group.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to ask, because I obviously you guys are

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<v Speaker 3>in you know, you have your podcast, you do a

0:28:17.720 --> 0:28:19.760
<v Speaker 3>lot of stuff, and you're on TV, and so there's

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<v Speaker 3>gonna be a lot of negative people on there, and

0:28:23.160 --> 0:28:26.520
<v Speaker 3>I always love to get especially from two very empowering

0:28:26.600 --> 0:28:27.240
<v Speaker 3>strong women.

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<v Speaker 2>Is there. How do you deal with any online hate.

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<v Speaker 3>Or the trolls or the bullies, Because as much as

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<v Speaker 3>you I try to be like yeah, I'm fine or whatever, it's.

0:28:36.800 --> 0:28:37.480
<v Speaker 2>Still a piece.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, oh, I just I don't like it, you know,

0:28:40.280 --> 0:28:43.640
<v Speaker 3>It's it's a I have sometimes PTSD of sharing certain

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<v Speaker 3>things on here because I don't want to become a headline.

0:28:45.400 --> 0:28:46.880
<v Speaker 3>And then the people are gonna be like, oh, she's

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<v Speaker 3>just she's a wrecker, she's a train, you know, she's

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<v Speaker 3>just repeating and rinsing, and I'm just like, but that's

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<v Speaker 3>not what I meant. So it's like I I get

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<v Speaker 3>scared to share because of the other piece of that world.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm just curious how you guys deal with that

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<v Speaker 3>as strong women.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, when we fill you on that, I mean I

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<v Speaker 4>literally feel bad for my team. They're probably like all like, oh,

0:29:08.520 --> 0:29:12.120
<v Speaker 4>this is Nikki, because I will wake them up on

0:29:12.160 --> 0:29:14.680
<v Speaker 4>Tuesday nights to edit stuff out because I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 4>just don't want to be a headline again, like because

0:29:17.480 --> 0:29:22.200
<v Speaker 4>as just like you always misunderstood, everything is click bait

0:29:22.480 --> 0:29:25.800
<v Speaker 4>and it's not even a story, and we just dealt

0:29:25.800 --> 0:29:27.960
<v Speaker 4>with the situation. Recently, a few days ago, they put

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<v Speaker 4>us as a headline with Greece Witherspoon yesterday.

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<v Speaker 5>Well nobody was supposed.

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<v Speaker 4>To day before, but it happened a magazine literally restricted

0:29:36.520 --> 0:29:38.800
<v Speaker 4>us to comment on it because they knew they were lying.

0:29:39.600 --> 0:29:43.400
<v Speaker 4>So I was like, they put it as if we

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<v Speaker 4>went to Reese with our book memoir and like wanted

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<v Speaker 4>her to put it in her book club or make

0:29:49.800 --> 0:29:53.360
<v Speaker 4>it a series, and she said no, this whole thing,

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<v Speaker 4>which was like beyond the light.

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<v Speaker 1>And then said took down three women because they made Recently,

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<v Speaker 1>she just empowered.

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<v Speaker 5>She does an empower woman like she.

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<v Speaker 1>Says she does, which is oh my gosh, no she does,

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<v Speaker 1>like yeah, and then it took down like us and.

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<v Speaker 4>Like people were dragging us like, oh, should a delist

0:30:09.680 --> 0:30:11.720
<v Speaker 4>should have this or that, which like so proud of

0:30:11.720 --> 0:30:13.800
<v Speaker 4>be one. I get to live life without makeup and

0:30:13.800 --> 0:30:15.240
<v Speaker 4>then go do cool shit on TV.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah you don't know why that's like a negative. Yeah,

0:30:19.080 --> 0:30:19.560
<v Speaker 5>we were like.

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<v Speaker 3>Glad to be on the list. I don't care if

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<v Speaker 3>you mark me as a Z list like cool I

0:30:22.800 --> 0:30:23.760
<v Speaker 3>made something.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah sure, where I was like they literally took remaking

0:30:28.120 --> 0:30:32.240
<v Speaker 1>a joke like so on a podcast of like Bree's

0:30:32.280 --> 0:30:34.760
<v Speaker 1>obsessed with Reese Whetherspoon in her book club. So Bree's like,

0:30:34.920 --> 0:30:38.440
<v Speaker 1>I DM the book Club about her book. I mean

0:30:38.480 --> 0:30:40.600
<v Speaker 1>I didn't hear back, but I'm so obsessed with them,

0:30:40.600 --> 0:30:43.880
<v Speaker 1>And so literally one thing of saying that she DM

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<v Speaker 1>them I the book turn into this gigantic lie and

0:30:47.920 --> 0:30:49.520
<v Speaker 1>we didn't even know about it till our mom sent

0:30:49.600 --> 0:30:51.520
<v Speaker 1>it to us, Like I didn't know that you guys

0:30:51.560 --> 0:30:53.200
<v Speaker 1>talked to Reese Withetherspoon and all this, and we go,

0:30:53.280 --> 0:30:53.600
<v Speaker 1>what are.

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<v Speaker 5>You talking about? Never talked to her?

0:30:55.600 --> 0:30:58.640
<v Speaker 4>And then the fact that they restricted even our wine

0:30:58.680 --> 0:31:01.640
<v Speaker 4>ig because of course I'm like a type, and we'll

0:31:01.640 --> 0:31:05.040
<v Speaker 4>get into like how we handle of like I will go,

0:31:05.400 --> 0:31:09.360
<v Speaker 4>I'll say things to people and now she dms a lot.

0:31:09.360 --> 0:31:14.360
<v Speaker 4>I'll DM people and she like like. So then I

0:31:14.400 --> 0:31:15.880
<v Speaker 4>realized they restricted all of our.

0:31:15.800 --> 0:31:18.560
<v Speaker 5>Stuff because they didn't want us telling people was a lie,

0:31:18.600 --> 0:31:22.200
<v Speaker 5>and I go, how is this legal? Like I'm so shocked,

0:31:22.600 --> 0:31:25.480
<v Speaker 5>and people don't even read things. They just read that highlight.

0:31:26.080 --> 0:31:28.200
<v Speaker 4>So I literally wake my team up at times because

0:31:28.240 --> 0:31:29.880
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, I can't be a headline no more. I

0:31:29.920 --> 0:31:32.000
<v Speaker 4>can't deal with my mental health, can't deal this week,

0:31:32.400 --> 0:31:35.240
<v Speaker 4>So let's just take stuff out because I'm we're misunderstood.

0:31:35.800 --> 0:31:38.280
<v Speaker 4>But for me, I am one of the most hated

0:31:38.320 --> 0:31:40.600
<v Speaker 4>people on the internet, in the wrestling industry, just in

0:31:40.640 --> 0:31:45.440
<v Speaker 4>that world. And what's said is like that world can

0:31:45.680 --> 0:31:48.959
<v Speaker 4>It's like they believe perception is reality. So whatever you

0:31:49.040 --> 0:31:52.720
<v Speaker 4>are in that ring of the world, and however the

0:31:52.760 --> 0:31:55.120
<v Speaker 4>company wants to perceive you that makes you a good

0:31:55.200 --> 0:31:59.680
<v Speaker 4>heal or babyface. The people in that community just will

0:31:59.680 --> 0:32:03.560
<v Speaker 4>really believe it. And then especially when you're strong women

0:32:04.080 --> 0:32:07.360
<v Speaker 4>breaking barriers, you're just going to get the brunt of

0:32:07.400 --> 0:32:11.360
<v Speaker 4>hate because people don't like change and people want to

0:32:11.440 --> 0:32:13.480
<v Speaker 4>keep it where you're like men are in control and

0:32:13.480 --> 0:32:14.440
<v Speaker 4>they're powerful, Like.

0:32:14.400 --> 0:32:16.520
<v Speaker 5>Why do women want to be equal? Who cares?

0:32:17.320 --> 0:32:20.040
<v Speaker 4>So it was hard on me for a very long time,

0:32:20.120 --> 0:32:23.000
<v Speaker 4>and then I realized, like, you know what it's it's

0:32:23.040 --> 0:32:25.880
<v Speaker 4>my truth, it's what I believe in. So I'm just

0:32:25.920 --> 0:32:28.400
<v Speaker 4>going to either call people out or I'm going to

0:32:28.440 --> 0:32:31.400
<v Speaker 4>be like kill people with kindness. And then also know,

0:32:31.480 --> 0:32:34.040
<v Speaker 4>like I know who I am as a person, Like

0:32:34.080 --> 0:32:37.320
<v Speaker 4>I know I'm a really good person, and I always

0:32:37.400 --> 0:32:40.480
<v Speaker 4>try to come at things with grace and like even

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<v Speaker 4>if I get misunderstood, and can I admit like in

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<v Speaker 4>the past, like do you have your times of like

0:32:44.760 --> 0:32:46.960
<v Speaker 4>feeling different emotions? Of course, but I'm always just this

0:32:47.000 --> 0:32:49.440
<v Speaker 4>is who I am. I mean being never said it's perfect.

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<v Speaker 4>So I feel like that's helped me with the hate

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<v Speaker 4>online and then calling people out like I literally will

0:32:54.760 --> 0:32:57.560
<v Speaker 4>damn people and I'll go, hey, so I just noticed

0:32:57.600 --> 0:33:00.800
<v Speaker 4>you wrote this comment. So I just want to know

0:33:00.960 --> 0:33:03.600
<v Speaker 4>did you read the article or did you just read

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<v Speaker 4>the clickbait and not understand that this isn't truthful and

0:33:07.000 --> 0:33:09.400
<v Speaker 4>then you just tore me down. Did that make you

0:33:09.440 --> 0:33:11.800
<v Speaker 4>feel good because you didn't make me feel good. So

0:33:11.840 --> 0:33:14.160
<v Speaker 4>I just wanted to know. And people will always write

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<v Speaker 4>back like I'm so sorry. I never thought you would

0:33:16.320 --> 0:33:19.200
<v Speaker 4>see this. I don't know why I wrote that every

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<v Speaker 4>almost every time. Yeah, like some other people, I've gotten

0:33:23.120 --> 0:33:27.240
<v Speaker 4>into some back and forth with and I'm like, perfectly

0:33:27.320 --> 0:33:30.120
<v Speaker 4>okay that. But I just started to be like, like

0:33:30.200 --> 0:33:32.800
<v Speaker 4>even when people say stuff about like artam with Dancy,

0:33:33.120 --> 0:33:35.479
<v Speaker 4>like I'll be like, I'm so excuse me, this is

0:33:35.480 --> 0:33:39.480
<v Speaker 4>his wife and FYI, and I'm just like now.

0:33:39.400 --> 0:33:39.959
<v Speaker 5>Like you know what.

0:33:40.320 --> 0:33:42.200
<v Speaker 1>And I don't do it all the time because then

0:33:42.240 --> 0:33:44.280
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to create. Like if you write something negative,

0:33:44.360 --> 0:33:47.000
<v Speaker 1>Nikki will write back. I was make sure back to positive.

0:33:47.560 --> 0:33:49.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm more fact checking.

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<v Speaker 5>Like checking, right, So, like, let me tell you about this.

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<v Speaker 5>You're very incursed.

0:33:54.800 --> 0:33:57.400
<v Speaker 1>You just commented on a lie and then you just

0:33:57.440 --> 0:33:58.880
<v Speaker 1>tore a woman down for no reason.

0:33:59.120 --> 0:34:01.880
<v Speaker 5>And I just read your bio and you love Jesus.

0:34:01.840 --> 0:34:06.200
<v Speaker 3>Oh always always, you know Philippians in the bio quote

0:34:06.480 --> 0:34:08.120
<v Speaker 3>you always.

0:34:07.440 --> 0:34:08.360
<v Speaker 5>Come and write at you.

0:34:08.760 --> 0:34:11.680
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, do you write that in your bio because

0:34:11.719 --> 0:34:13.520
<v Speaker 4>you're the biggest hater in the world.

0:34:13.760 --> 0:34:14.160
<v Speaker 5>I don't know.

0:34:14.239 --> 0:34:29.279
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I had one of the greatest gifts that was

0:34:29.320 --> 0:34:32.200
<v Speaker 3>given to me about like a little over a month ago.

0:34:32.280 --> 0:34:36.880
<v Speaker 3>I responded to someone that has just always hated and

0:34:37.160 --> 0:34:39.719
<v Speaker 3>just makes it a point, and I almost feel bad

0:34:39.719 --> 0:34:41.560
<v Speaker 3>for this person, so like, you spend all day just

0:34:42.080 --> 0:34:44.440
<v Speaker 3>stalking my Instagram and then writing terrible things about me,

0:34:44.800 --> 0:34:47.759
<v Speaker 3>So that's that makes me feel sad for them that

0:34:47.760 --> 0:34:50.400
<v Speaker 3>that's what they do with her day. But when I

0:34:50.440 --> 0:34:52.920
<v Speaker 3>actually started and I was very nice in the conversation,

0:34:53.040 --> 0:34:55.520
<v Speaker 3>and I was like, I really just want to understand,

0:34:55.640 --> 0:34:58.120
<v Speaker 3>like where the hatred comes from, and like why and

0:34:58.480 --> 0:35:00.360
<v Speaker 3>also like why would you think because they I was

0:35:00.360 --> 0:35:02.520
<v Speaker 3>wearing a fake belly. I'm like, I actually cannot wait

0:35:02.600 --> 0:35:04.400
<v Speaker 3>to not be pregnant anymore. And now that you know,

0:35:04.440 --> 0:35:07.440
<v Speaker 3>I'm not anymore, but you know, and I had the

0:35:07.480 --> 0:35:10.320
<v Speaker 3>baby and all the things. But when they actually started

0:35:10.360 --> 0:35:13.160
<v Speaker 3>responding the craziness that they were saying and all the

0:35:13.200 --> 0:35:15.560
<v Speaker 3>things like you did this, I'm like no, Actually, then

0:35:15.600 --> 0:35:17.600
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, oh my god, why am I defending crazy

0:35:17.840 --> 0:35:20.239
<v Speaker 3>because it's not even that's not the truth. And I

0:35:20.280 --> 0:35:23.400
<v Speaker 3>go wow, I was like, actually, thank you for this conversation,

0:35:23.480 --> 0:35:26.359
<v Speaker 3>because that is you are so far off base from

0:35:26.400 --> 0:35:28.719
<v Speaker 3>actually what the truth is that this actually brought me

0:35:29.120 --> 0:35:31.840
<v Speaker 3>lovely closure. And I don't care what you write anymore

0:35:31.840 --> 0:35:34.080
<v Speaker 3>because it's I know my truth, just like you said.

0:35:34.520 --> 0:35:36.640
<v Speaker 3>And I'm like, this is now funny to me, So

0:35:36.719 --> 0:35:39.440
<v Speaker 3>thank you and have a lovely day. The irony is

0:35:39.480 --> 0:35:41.279
<v Speaker 3>in the Bible. It says if you argue with the fool,

0:35:41.280 --> 0:35:43.439
<v Speaker 3>who's the fool? So maybe we just start all making

0:35:43.480 --> 0:35:44.480
<v Speaker 3>that our bio.

0:35:45.120 --> 0:35:48.719
<v Speaker 4>I love that really good And.

0:35:49.640 --> 0:35:52.120
<v Speaker 2>For you, Britt, you're probably like, that's the opposite of you.

0:35:52.120 --> 0:35:52.839
<v Speaker 2>You will not do that.

0:35:53.000 --> 0:35:54.920
<v Speaker 3>Bree's like doing yoga in the backyard and she's like,

0:35:54.920 --> 0:35:55.800
<v Speaker 3>I can't be bothered.

0:35:56.120 --> 0:35:58.880
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, brew and I are so different when it comes

0:35:58.920 --> 0:36:00.920
<v Speaker 5>to it. But Rez, yeah, very unbothered.

0:36:01.080 --> 0:36:01.640
<v Speaker 2>I don't.

0:36:01.680 --> 0:36:05.280
<v Speaker 1>I don't get bothered. I almost find it like, okay,

0:36:05.440 --> 0:36:10.080
<v Speaker 1>like funny. And I think only because I sometimes I'm

0:36:10.120 --> 0:36:12.520
<v Speaker 1>like they might be ten they might.

0:36:14.680 --> 0:36:19.280
<v Speaker 4>Which is very very true in the rest industry. Ilseaid,

0:36:19.280 --> 0:36:21.640
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, wait, is this a high schooler that I'm

0:36:21.640 --> 0:36:24.360
<v Speaker 4>literally like you talking about love?

0:36:24.560 --> 0:36:25.880
<v Speaker 5>Have they had sex?

0:36:26.040 --> 0:36:26.160
<v Speaker 3>Like?

0:36:26.520 --> 0:36:27.440
<v Speaker 5>What am I doing?

0:36:27.880 --> 0:36:29.640
<v Speaker 1>So I think about that And I did one time

0:36:29.719 --> 0:36:33.120
<v Speaker 1>read this quote that all the like the likes you

0:36:33.160 --> 0:36:34.840
<v Speaker 1>get if all those people are in a room and

0:36:34.880 --> 0:36:36.880
<v Speaker 1>telling you, oh my gosh, I liked your post, and

0:36:36.960 --> 0:36:37.880
<v Speaker 1>be very overwhelming.

0:36:38.000 --> 0:36:38.839
<v Speaker 5>So whether you have.

0:36:38.840 --> 0:36:40.319
<v Speaker 1>Ten people who would be in the room with you,

0:36:40.440 --> 0:36:43.279
<v Speaker 1>a thousand and a million whatever, So I kind of

0:36:43.320 --> 0:36:46.839
<v Speaker 1>look more that I get more love than hate, yes,

0:36:47.000 --> 0:36:50.359
<v Speaker 1>and it's overwhelming, actually, you know, even if I get

0:36:50.880 --> 0:36:52.880
<v Speaker 1>in a beautiful way, in a very beautiful way. So

0:36:52.960 --> 0:36:55.840
<v Speaker 1>I kind of don't let I don't read the comments,

0:36:55.840 --> 0:36:59.480
<v Speaker 1>and like yesterday did bother me because when it was

0:36:59.520 --> 0:37:01.640
<v Speaker 1>the recept it's actually the first time I got bothered

0:37:01.680 --> 0:37:04.520
<v Speaker 1>in a very long time, and only because it tore

0:37:04.560 --> 0:37:07.560
<v Speaker 1>down three women instead build them up. And like all

0:37:07.560 --> 0:37:10.120
<v Speaker 1>of us say, we get a little anxiety when we speak.

0:37:10.239 --> 0:37:12.160
<v Speaker 1>Is that where the world wants everyone to be when

0:37:12.160 --> 0:37:14.640
<v Speaker 1>we speak, we have anxiety that we don't want to

0:37:14.680 --> 0:37:16.120
<v Speaker 1>actually fully be who we are.

0:37:16.000 --> 0:37:17.440
<v Speaker 5>And say what we feel.

0:37:17.880 --> 0:37:19.960
<v Speaker 1>And that's what I feel like with social media, people

0:37:20.040 --> 0:37:22.160
<v Speaker 1>have to be careful with comments because you're going to

0:37:22.239 --> 0:37:25.520
<v Speaker 1>get celebrities, you're gonna get authors and science, all these

0:37:25.520 --> 0:37:27.760
<v Speaker 1>people not wanting to talk because.

0:37:27.560 --> 0:37:29.480
<v Speaker 5>You judge them. Well, that's not a good place.

0:37:29.640 --> 0:37:32.879
<v Speaker 1>What I think is unfair too, though, is that we're

0:37:32.920 --> 0:37:35.880
<v Speaker 1>in the day and age that anyone can write anything

0:37:35.920 --> 0:37:39.640
<v Speaker 1>about you and in tracture for someone's truth and right.

0:37:39.800 --> 0:37:44.440
<v Speaker 1>But like there it's like, literally, Joe Schmoe can go

0:37:44.520 --> 0:37:47.160
<v Speaker 1>be like, so let me tell you about Gregarcia and

0:37:47.520 --> 0:37:49.920
<v Speaker 1>make up a whole lie, but you'll have like a

0:37:49.920 --> 0:37:51.880
<v Speaker 1>group of people be like, I can't believe she did that,

0:37:51.920 --> 0:37:52.440
<v Speaker 1>but it could be.

0:37:52.360 --> 0:37:54.680
<v Speaker 5>A full lie. And I'm like, there has to be

0:37:54.800 --> 0:37:58.800
<v Speaker 5>something that can change in that. But to what Brice said,

0:37:58.960 --> 0:37:59.359
<v Speaker 5>what she.

0:37:59.400 --> 0:38:02.520
<v Speaker 4>Has helped me with is I have focused so much

0:38:02.560 --> 0:38:04.760
<v Speaker 4>more on the love because that's the people who deserve

0:38:04.840 --> 0:38:07.839
<v Speaker 4>my focus, and it has helped me so much. And

0:38:07.960 --> 0:38:12.240
<v Speaker 4>being in this whole new chapter of our lives, from

0:38:12.360 --> 0:38:16.319
<v Speaker 4>our e fans to whether it's podcast, it's wine, I

0:38:16.320 --> 0:38:18.800
<v Speaker 4>feel like we have this whole new world of amazing

0:38:18.920 --> 0:38:21.799
<v Speaker 4>people dancing with the stars, and I'm like, they're so

0:38:21.920 --> 0:38:24.919
<v Speaker 4>positive and loving and like, even when the mom world

0:38:24.960 --> 0:38:25.839
<v Speaker 4>can be a little like.

0:38:26.080 --> 0:38:30.600
<v Speaker 5>Judgy overall, that's so lucky. I know I'm not the

0:38:30.680 --> 0:38:31.520
<v Speaker 5>perfect mom.

0:38:32.000 --> 0:38:35.279
<v Speaker 3>I'll just say this with with the moms too. On

0:38:35.360 --> 0:38:37.960
<v Speaker 3>the judging thing there, I had I had my baby

0:38:38.200 --> 0:38:40.839
<v Speaker 3>who's uh, he's sick. Two and a half weeks now,

0:38:41.120 --> 0:38:44.480
<v Speaker 3>I had him in a carrier and I he was

0:38:44.520 --> 0:38:47.080
<v Speaker 3>a little low in the carrier and at the moment,

0:38:47.120 --> 0:38:48.799
<v Speaker 3>you know, he was super gassy, and I had to

0:38:48.840 --> 0:38:52.200
<v Speaker 3>do some post about I don't can't remember or the

0:38:52.239 --> 0:38:55.040
<v Speaker 3>movie or whatever, and so I put him in and yes,

0:38:55.120 --> 0:38:56.919
<v Speaker 3>he was supposed to probably be a little bit higher,

0:38:56.960 --> 0:38:58.800
<v Speaker 3>but to be honest with you, my my my boobs

0:38:58.840 --> 0:39:00.880
<v Speaker 3>were engorged from the mill that I was like, so

0:39:00.960 --> 0:39:03.279
<v Speaker 3>I just moved him down a little bit. And I

0:39:03.320 --> 0:39:06.640
<v Speaker 3>was like the mom haters that came out to say,

0:39:07.200 --> 0:39:09.880
<v Speaker 3>how you know low he was, But there was the

0:39:09.960 --> 0:39:12.200
<v Speaker 3>other side of the moms going, hey girl, like love

0:39:12.239 --> 0:39:13.920
<v Speaker 3>you so much and also just want to say like,

0:39:14.239 --> 0:39:16.719
<v Speaker 3>just fyi. And I was like, oh, like I appreciated,

0:39:18.239 --> 0:39:20.600
<v Speaker 3>how do I say this? I know how to take

0:39:20.600 --> 0:39:22.040
<v Speaker 3>care of my kids. At the same time, I don't

0:39:22.040 --> 0:39:24.359
<v Speaker 3>really love getting people telling me what I'm doing wrong

0:39:24.400 --> 0:39:28.400
<v Speaker 3>about something. But it's how you it's the kindness in

0:39:28.960 --> 0:39:31.400
<v Speaker 3>the going hey girl, just fyi.

0:39:31.560 --> 0:39:32.799
<v Speaker 2>It's babies a little low.

0:39:32.800 --> 0:39:34.440
<v Speaker 3>It needs to be up higher instead of like you

0:39:34.480 --> 0:39:36.200
<v Speaker 3>suck as a mom, your baby's too low, You're going

0:39:36.239 --> 0:39:38.520
<v Speaker 3>to suffocate it. And I'm like you know, there's there's

0:39:38.600 --> 0:39:40.359
<v Speaker 3>the two comments. It's like if you can just lean

0:39:40.400 --> 0:39:44.080
<v Speaker 3>towards being kind and not judging the fact that and

0:39:44.120 --> 0:39:46.520
<v Speaker 3>that I'm bottle feeding and formula feeding and all the things,

0:39:46.560 --> 0:39:48.799
<v Speaker 3>like I don't I don't need formula feeders here, so

0:39:48.880 --> 0:39:50.240
<v Speaker 3>I really don't need the judge.

0:39:50.320 --> 0:39:53.239
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, WHOA totally And like my mom and Nana will

0:39:53.239 --> 0:39:57.000
<v Speaker 1>always say, like, you guys have too much information.

0:39:57.280 --> 0:39:59.600
<v Speaker 5>In the past, as moms, we just had to figure

0:39:59.600 --> 0:39:59.879
<v Speaker 5>it out.

0:40:00.040 --> 0:40:03.360
<v Speaker 4>Didn't have monitors, we didn't have the internet like we

0:40:03.400 --> 0:40:07.640
<v Speaker 4>didn't We just had to whatever our intuition was, that's

0:40:07.680 --> 0:40:08.399
<v Speaker 4>what we went with.

0:40:08.960 --> 0:40:10.160
<v Speaker 5>And now it's like they.

0:40:10.120 --> 0:40:13.080
<v Speaker 1>Catch a little like a photo still of like a

0:40:13.160 --> 0:40:16.279
<v Speaker 1>moment with you and your child, and they assume all

0:40:16.320 --> 0:40:16.680
<v Speaker 1>these things.

0:40:16.719 --> 0:40:19.160
<v Speaker 3>It's like, your baby's a sleeping the sleeper. I can't

0:40:19.160 --> 0:40:20.600
<v Speaker 3>be asleep in that. Your baby's doing that. It can't

0:40:20.600 --> 0:40:22.359
<v Speaker 3>be in that, And I'm just like, can't go sleep.

0:40:22.400 --> 0:40:23.400
<v Speaker 2>What are you doing? You're gonna say, I.

0:40:24.360 --> 0:40:26.839
<v Speaker 5>Won't even post I posted one photo one time.

0:40:26.880 --> 0:40:30.239
<v Speaker 4>I've had it in his car seat and no, never, no,

0:40:30.320 --> 0:40:30.799
<v Speaker 4>don't do that.

0:40:30.800 --> 0:40:31.839
<v Speaker 2>The thing's not gonna be high enough.

0:40:31.840 --> 0:40:33.640
<v Speaker 3>It's not tight, right, between the shoulder blades as a

0:40:33.640 --> 0:40:35.400
<v Speaker 3>psa right between the shoulder blades.

0:40:35.719 --> 0:40:36.080
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

0:40:36.280 --> 0:40:39.319
<v Speaker 4>Oh, and then someone like he loves my it's the

0:40:39.360 --> 0:40:39.920
<v Speaker 4>cutest thing.

0:40:40.040 --> 0:40:41.960
<v Speaker 5>He loves to bake Matteo.

0:40:41.719 --> 0:40:44.279
<v Speaker 1>And like, I'll do some aims, I'll throw up ig

0:40:44.520 --> 0:40:47.759
<v Speaker 1>stories or go on live of him cooking, and he

0:40:47.840 --> 0:40:51.200
<v Speaker 1>does like he loves butter, and at times he's sticks

0:40:51.239 --> 0:40:53.799
<v Speaker 1>finger in butter and he eats it, and that's my guy.

0:40:54.440 --> 0:40:57.040
<v Speaker 3>No, right, what's the difference between a little pretzel rod?

0:40:57.080 --> 0:40:58.759
<v Speaker 3>You know, I mean we dipped pretzel rods. Why can't

0:40:58.760 --> 0:40:59.560
<v Speaker 3>you dip your finger in it?

0:41:00.280 --> 0:41:03.279
<v Speaker 1>People are yeah, they're like, oh my gosh, she lets

0:41:03.320 --> 0:41:06.239
<v Speaker 1>me eat butter, and like, yeah, that's all I feed

0:41:06.280 --> 0:41:10.200
<v Speaker 1>my son. But then they're like, but candies, okay, yeah,

0:41:10.280 --> 0:41:12.239
<v Speaker 1>you know. I just I always when people would ask

0:41:12.280 --> 0:41:14.120
<v Speaker 1>me like mom and advice, I'm like, the best advice

0:41:14.160 --> 0:41:15.719
<v Speaker 1>I can get you is not to listen to any

0:41:15.880 --> 0:41:17.600
<v Speaker 1>because at the end of the day, you and your

0:41:17.600 --> 0:41:20.640
<v Speaker 1>baby speak your own language. When your baby needs something,

0:41:20.719 --> 0:41:25.200
<v Speaker 1>your body tells you. And no, there's no encyclopedia can

0:41:25.239 --> 0:41:28.960
<v Speaker 1>write that like now, which is such a no blogger nothing.

0:41:29.640 --> 0:41:33.120
<v Speaker 1>And it used to drive me crazy, like when people

0:41:33.160 --> 0:41:35.920
<v Speaker 1>would give hardcore opinions because I'm like, well, my child's

0:41:35.960 --> 0:41:37.440
<v Speaker 1>different than yours and the needs.

0:41:37.200 --> 0:41:39.560
<v Speaker 5>Are different, and my needs are different.

0:41:39.239 --> 0:41:42.560
<v Speaker 1>Like I might handle postpartum different than you do, and yeah,

0:41:42.600 --> 0:41:43.279
<v Speaker 1>so yeah, it's.

0:41:43.200 --> 0:41:45.879
<v Speaker 5>A it's a wild it's wild West on social media.

0:41:46.120 --> 0:41:48.120
<v Speaker 3>Well, that's why it goes back to that point. Just

0:41:48.160 --> 0:41:50.319
<v Speaker 3>the other day, I was filming something and I was like, oh,

0:41:50.320 --> 0:41:51.840
<v Speaker 3>I can't post that because they're going to say that

0:41:51.880 --> 0:41:53.960
<v Speaker 3>he's like asleep in the mommerer or something. And I'm like,

0:41:53.960 --> 0:41:55.680
<v Speaker 3>it goes back to feeling like we have to kind

0:41:55.680 --> 0:41:57.360
<v Speaker 3>of censor because we're just going to get judged.

0:41:57.400 --> 0:41:58.520
<v Speaker 2>And I don't like that.

0:41:58.600 --> 0:42:01.480
<v Speaker 3>I hate that us sleep in a jumparrou and I

0:42:01.520 --> 0:42:03.360
<v Speaker 3>did post it, so I can't wait to open this

0:42:03.440 --> 0:42:04.280
<v Speaker 3>up to the ship storm.

0:42:04.880 --> 0:42:07.200
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, it was cute.

0:42:07.239 --> 0:42:09.840
<v Speaker 3>It was five seconds. I documented it, but because she

0:42:09.880 --> 0:42:12.480
<v Speaker 3>fell asleep in the jumperoo, I am hated.

0:42:13.000 --> 0:42:15.360
<v Speaker 1>Well, you know, I bore yourself a glass of wine

0:42:15.400 --> 0:42:17.239
<v Speaker 1>and then open that up and you know.

0:42:17.280 --> 0:42:19.440
<v Speaker 3>And listen to your podcast, which tell us about your

0:42:19.480 --> 0:42:22.560
<v Speaker 3>podcast for those that have not heard or listened.

0:42:22.960 --> 0:42:25.319
<v Speaker 1>So pretty much it's like happy hour with Nikki and I.

0:42:25.440 --> 0:42:27.719
<v Speaker 1>I mean we really We talk about everything in life,

0:42:27.840 --> 0:42:32.560
<v Speaker 1>whether it's motherhood, marriage, relationships, stuff that's going on in

0:42:32.600 --> 0:42:35.759
<v Speaker 1>the world, and sometimes what we're feeling. Her and I

0:42:35.800 --> 0:42:38.319
<v Speaker 1>can be very spiritual and we have a lot of

0:42:38.320 --> 0:42:41.120
<v Speaker 1>mindful moments that will share in our podcast where it's

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<v Speaker 1>like whoa like, I made a big mistake, but I

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<v Speaker 1>learned from it and this is how we're open books.

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<v Speaker 5>So yeah, we don't Her and I don't care like

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<v Speaker 5>showing everyone.

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<v Speaker 1>The good, the bad, the ugly totally and it's neat

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<v Speaker 1>because we just re signed with Serious XM.

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<v Speaker 5>Great starting yeah next.

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<v Speaker 4>Week we will be dropping two episodes a week, so

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<v Speaker 4>going yeah twice week, which.

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<v Speaker 2>Is grat squirrels. That's great.

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<v Speaker 3>What has been the biggest lesson that was the hardest

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<v Speaker 3>one to learn for both of you, either in marriage

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<v Speaker 3>or in just life in general.

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<v Speaker 5>I think for me.

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<v Speaker 4>Is with in my relationship to keep things like more

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<v Speaker 4>for us, So especially in a reality star or someone

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<v Speaker 4>in the limelight, that knowing that you need to keep

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<v Speaker 4>some things between you two for you too, and that

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<v Speaker 4>it keeps a healthy relationship that giving too much can

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<v Speaker 4>almost affect it.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, Well, I will say that, I mean that I

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<v Speaker 3>second that because my past co host was my now

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<v Speaker 3>well now ex husband. But I think that was a

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<v Speaker 3>piece of our demise is because we shared so much

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<v Speaker 3>and we were trying to do it in a way

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<v Speaker 3>to help and to encourage and you know, to fight

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<v Speaker 3>for relationships and all that. But I look back now

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<v Speaker 3>and go ooh, I don't think that was the best choice.

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<v Speaker 3>And so when I started dating my now fiance, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>he's like, hey, I know that you're very open and

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<v Speaker 3>you share a lot of things. And I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 3>I just want before you even finish that I will

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<v Speaker 3>never get on this podcast and say, up, talk about

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<v Speaker 3>a fight or this or that, because I think it again,

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<v Speaker 3>it becomes a headline. Then people start to get into

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<v Speaker 3>the relationship, and I was like, I want to make

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<v Speaker 3>this so keep this so sacred and not overshare in

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<v Speaker 3>that department of my life. I think it's critical too

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<v Speaker 3>for just anybody in their marriage, Like you don't even

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<v Speaker 3>have to be in the public eye to be careful

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<v Speaker 3>about what you share, even with friends, and that you're

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<v Speaker 3>sharing with friends that are for your marriage, praying for

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<v Speaker 3>your marriage. Because I fell into a trap a few

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<v Speaker 3>years ago where I was like kind of venting you know,

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<v Speaker 3>like women were just like chatting, and then I kind

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<v Speaker 3>of thought, well, this is getting a little ugly, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>like I'm this was me just sharing, like ha ha ha,

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<v Speaker 3>let's all be in the same he doesn't grab the

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<v Speaker 3>dice and when I want him to moment, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>and instead it started to get like a little toxic

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<v Speaker 3>and ugly. So I think that's a really good, like

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<v Speaker 3>overall rule, just marriage is sacred and who you're sharing

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<v Speaker 3>that with and going to people that actually will like

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<v Speaker 3>lift and pray and love over your marriage.

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<v Speaker 5>I love that person. Agree. So true. It really is

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<v Speaker 5>so true.

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<v Speaker 1>And I have to say for myself, I kind of

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<v Speaker 1>just realize in life, I can't take it too serious

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<v Speaker 1>and really prioritize it, which family's always first. I read

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<v Speaker 1>this quote where it was like this woman passed away

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<v Speaker 1>at work and the woman who was sitting next to

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<v Speaker 1>her had hr came in, they collected her things, they

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<v Speaker 1>cleaned off her desk, and then they're like, Okay, we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna start interviewing because maybe we can get someone in

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<v Speaker 1>here in a couple of days. And she was like,

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<v Speaker 1>whoa to work. You might not mean anything, but no,

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<v Speaker 1>you're replaceable. You're replaceable at work, but your family you're not.

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<v Speaker 1>And she was thinking about how the family's suffering from

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<v Speaker 1>this loss and they'll remember that woman forever. That was

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<v Speaker 1>their mother, that was their wife. But like, oh, you're

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<v Speaker 1>just replaceable at work, whatever it is you're doing, whether

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<v Speaker 1>you're in entertainment, corporate.

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<v Speaker 5>And I was like, damn, so really like for.

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<v Speaker 1>Me family, because I was a workaholic for a while

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, wow, I'm giving energy to the

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<v Speaker 1>wrong places.

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<v Speaker 5>And I really adjusted that in.

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<v Speaker 1>The pandemic and so and I feel like that's been

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<v Speaker 1>the greatest reward me doing that.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that. Well.

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<v Speaker 3>I love you girls, And anytime you're in Nashville, please

0:46:15.520 --> 0:46:19.000
<v Speaker 3>come have a glass with us. Yes, that would be

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<v Speaker 3>really fun. Yeah, it's so fun. So anytime DM, I

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<v Speaker 3>read my d ms too, so make you just m okay,

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<v Speaker 3>yes please. And everyone watched twin Love right now. It's

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<v Speaker 3>on Amazon freebe but yes Prime and freebee. Okay, you

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<v Speaker 3>girls are awesome. We'll see you soon. Thank you for

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<v Speaker 3>coming on. I love Bree coming in with all the

0:46:46.840 --> 0:46:47.600
<v Speaker 3>quotes and stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>This is a fun day for me. You're just like

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<v Speaker 2>grinning from your to ear.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, It's weird because I'm not usually all in

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<v Speaker 3>on the reality TV but they were. They're just fun

0:46:56.360 --> 0:46:58.880
<v Speaker 3>to me. They're real. I do love how different they

0:46:58.880 --> 0:47:01.520
<v Speaker 3>are too well. They hold each other accountable, so it's

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<v Speaker 3>like they can't get away with anything because there's always

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<v Speaker 3>another one fact checking. And that's what I always enjoyed

0:47:06.719 --> 0:47:08.840
<v Speaker 3>about them as characters in the show, and then to

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<v Speaker 3>watch their lives. It's just fun. And I'm twin fascinated.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm so you know, I always wanted to have twins.

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<v Speaker 3>I create every pregnancy for them to be a twin,

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<v Speaker 3>to split the egg, really every single one. A I

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<v Speaker 3>wanted a bogo. I wanted to only have to get one.

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<v Speaker 3>I just wanted to do it one. I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 3>had to process it, Migraine. Yeah, and I have always been.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe it's because I just feel like they get this

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<v Speaker 3>instant best friend soulmate that I think it's so special

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<v Speaker 3>And I've always just been fascinated.

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<v Speaker 2>Which you wanted to marry and Mary Kate Nashley. I

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<v Speaker 2>maybe it started with Full House. I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 2>love it.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyways, that was a good one. I like them, I

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<v Speaker 3>love you going to be friends with them, Yeah, let's

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<v Speaker 3>be a friend. I won't be geeky. I promise see

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<v Speaker 3>you next week.

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<v Speaker 5>I s