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Speaker 1: Wind down with Janet Kramer, an I'm Heeart radio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hey girl, Hey hi girl, Hey hey girl.

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Speaker 3: How you doing girl?

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Speaker 2: Tell me how you're really doing well.

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Speaker 3: It's interesting because I feel like it's a day by day.

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Speaker 3: It's like a minute by minute, hour by hour, day

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Speaker 3: by day.

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Speaker 2: You feel that thing.

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Speaker 3: Yesterday, I loaded three children to go to a postop

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Speaker 3: appointment for the babies orald Tie release and the guru

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Speaker 3: here in Nashville is an hour away from my home,

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Speaker 3: and so I loaded all three and I made the

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Speaker 3: voyage Oregon trail style and I got there five minutes early. Success,

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Speaker 3: And the appointment was.

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Speaker 2: Actually for today. So I passed everybody. No, no, they

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Speaker 2: wouldn't let you.

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Speaker 3: They the person that was supposed to the person that

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Speaker 3: could have seen me actually had a family emergency, was

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Speaker 3: not there.

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Speaker 1: No.

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Speaker 3: So an hour hour back we go and that's that.

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Speaker 3: And so we've moved it. But just to reiterate your

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Speaker 3: hour by hour, I consider myself to be an a type.

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Speaker 3: So these third baby moments are super sobering. This is

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Speaker 3: interesting because I'm listening to this piece and then also

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Speaker 3: last week you had something happen I'm sure I did

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Speaker 3: with your podcast. Oh yeah, my podcast I have. I

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Speaker 3: took a time out and went to a studio and

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Speaker 3: did two full episodes and I sent them over to

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Speaker 3: the producer who does mine. She's amazing and she was like, hey, girl,

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Speaker 3: so there's no audio on these. I can see that

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Speaker 3: there's forty minutes or forty five minutes of content, but

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Speaker 3: there's no audio. Devastation, So I feel like, what is

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Speaker 3: the universe telling you right now? Because you've got I

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Speaker 3: don't know, tell me. I always am like, okay, what's

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Speaker 3: the I know, I will say this. I decided, tell

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Speaker 3: me if this feels like fair closure for the lost episodes,

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Speaker 3: because I really mourned it, and in fact, Easton, your producer,

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Speaker 3: was like, I reached out to him because I thought

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Speaker 3: he's a guru, so if there's anyone that can go

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Speaker 3: in and find and he could not. I decided that

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Speaker 3: those were two conversations I needed to have with God.

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Speaker 3: And I told you even in one of them, I

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Speaker 3: felt so plugged in that it felt so special that

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Speaker 3: there was no way I could recreate it. And I thought, well,

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Speaker 3: maybe it was just supposed to be those conversations were

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Speaker 3: Those conversations were just me and God. So that's where

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Speaker 3: I've landed with that, and probably a really good lesson

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Speaker 3: on making sure that I'm recording the.

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Speaker 2: Right way, which I used to do radio.

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Speaker 3: So I sometimes like think I'm doing okay, yeah, and

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Speaker 3: I'm not. But well, I'm always just like, what is it?

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Speaker 3: Is it writing us to slow down? Is it? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I thought the drive yesterday was, you know, about a

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Speaker 3: But we went in a non traffic time. We saw

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Speaker 3: the big beautiful city my kids called Nashville the big

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Speaker 3: we're just supposed to be reminded. I'm trying grammer. I'm

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Speaker 3: really stretching by the way I always go with when

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Speaker 3: I'm on an airplane and even I mean, we had

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Speaker 3: one of these days when I was like twenty oh.

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Speaker 2: We were coming back from Utah.

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Speaker 3: We were eleven hours delayed, and we got to the

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Speaker 3: and instead of going to the oh, this is so frustrating,

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Speaker 3: and I'm so angry and I just want to go home. Yes,

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Speaker 3: all of those things, but I'm like, whether it's that

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Speaker 3: just God's way, because maybe something would have happened God

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Speaker 3: Sea Tour. Yes, well God's Sea Tour where it's like, okay,

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Speaker 3: I've changed my frame going that plane might not have

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Speaker 3: just worked for us, right, and I'm thankful that we

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Speaker 3: are going to wait to the right one. Well and

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Speaker 3: even today so like I wouldn't have been able to

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Speaker 3: make to day's appointment, which is why why did I

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Speaker 2: To us this week.

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Speaker 3: Wow, which I thought, maybe we're being protected, you know,

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Speaker 3: say like is there anyone here? That I just was like, okay,

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Speaker 3: But then I got in the car and I was driving,

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Speaker 3: want you know, it's not worth it. So I I

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Speaker 3: did have a moment where I thought, you know, what

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Speaker 2: Really maybe she was going through something.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like she's now dealing with the cancelations of the

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Speaker 3: family emergency and she doesn't you know, And I just

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Speaker 3: just grace right, like we're all in it. Yes, and

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Speaker 3: every day is a little different, especially when you have

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Speaker 3: a third and it's a newborn. Yeah, it's you can't

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Speaker 3: get a pattern. No, well, that's Alan had asked me some.

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Speaker 3: I think it was last night. I was the night before.

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Speaker 3: I mean just he's really dealing with like some gas

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Speaker 3: and fussiness and so the baby, yes, the baby noting which,

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Speaker 3: my ex because he came to pick up the kids

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Speaker 3: the other the other day, and I said, he so,

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Speaker 3: we're really going to have to keep an eye on him,

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Speaker 3: because you know, he's just having like some crying fits

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Speaker 2: Like, oh, Jayce, Mike is really all in on Alan.

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Speaker 3: Really. I was like, no, Jayce, He's like, oh, I

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Speaker 3: a couple of days ago he texted me, He's like,

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Speaker 3: But anyways, so he had asked me. So obviously, with

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Speaker 3: Alan has been incredible, like he's taken the most middle

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Speaker 3: also this it's a yes, they're sleeping, but you're also awake.

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Speaker 3: you know, Alan was like, so, how you doing?

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Speaker 3: Oh same today. Let's not yesterday, yesterday, same day before.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: And I'm trying really hard to like this podcast helps me.

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Speaker 3: It almost feels like a foggy depression it is, and

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Speaker 3: That's kind of how I've was trying to describe it

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Speaker 3: And she's like, oh yeah, She's like, that's where you know.

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Speaker 3: And she's like, because you'll get a hernia. And I'm

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Speaker 3: I just want to feel like I am actively doing

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Speaker 3: something for my brain and endorphins and doing something. And

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Speaker 3: she's just like no, like until you talk to someone.

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Speaker 3: And I reached out to a pet pelvic person and

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Speaker 3: was like, hey, so she wants me to do core

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Speaker 1: scary situations where I want to puke.

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00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:21,240
Speaker 5: And be like, no, I can't do that. Whether I'm

436
00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:23,840
Speaker 5: going out to wrestle at WrestleMania, whether.

437
00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:26,760
Speaker 1: Yesterday we're doing Jimmy fallon the show, whatever it may be,

438
00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:30,000
Speaker 1: She's right there to give me just this pep talk

439
00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:33,640
Speaker 1: and strength, and I feel so like I feel more

440
00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:37,320
Speaker 1: confident and braver like having her right, I mean, and

441
00:21:37,359 --> 00:21:41,119
Speaker 1: I you know, for me, it's like I just I

442
00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:44,399
Speaker 1: truly feel lucky to be a twin because even as

443
00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:47,359
Speaker 1: we grow as entrepreneurs, to have someone that like I

444
00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:50,119
Speaker 1: trust by my side, then I know, no matter what,

445
00:21:50,320 --> 00:21:52,480
Speaker 1: has my back has been such a blessing.

446
00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:55,600
Speaker 4: And I know I understand that not everyone gets that.

447
00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:58,520
Speaker 4: So to me, it's such a positive. And you know

448
00:21:58,560 --> 00:22:01,960
Speaker 4: the negative is Breeze Jet and she's judging.

449
00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:04,520
Speaker 1: My relationship and she's judging the things that I do,

450
00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:05,600
Speaker 1: and I'm always.

451
00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:09,560
Speaker 5: Like, stop judging me. Well, let's be what are you okay?

452
00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:11,760
Speaker 3: What are you judging her on? Like in the relationship

453
00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:12,320
Speaker 3: piece of it.

454
00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:15,399
Speaker 1: So I feel like I get a front row to

455
00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:19,320
Speaker 1: life over here, her life. Yeah, so I feel like

456
00:22:19,520 --> 00:22:22,440
Speaker 1: I have very valid opinions because I'm seeing it where

457
00:22:22,440 --> 00:22:25,240
Speaker 1: you're living. So like for me, it's like, you know,

458
00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:29,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, so I guess when it comes to relationship.

459
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:32,640
Speaker 5: But see what I'm trying to change is instead of judge,

460
00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:34,400
Speaker 5: let's be understanding.

461
00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:36,880
Speaker 3: Do you think it comes from a place of being

462
00:22:36,960 --> 00:22:41,040
Speaker 3: protective though, Brie, unless Yeah, Like it may look judgy,

463
00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:43,400
Speaker 3: but it's probably you protecting and.

464
00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:44,280
Speaker 2: You've seen it happen.

465
00:22:44,560 --> 00:22:46,520
Speaker 3: And probably if she was staying with this guy that

466
00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:49,200
Speaker 3: you know, probably wasn't the best guy for her and

467
00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:51,199
Speaker 3: he wasn't committing to her, I'm just making this up.

468
00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:53,119
Speaker 2: I don't know. This might be more about us than

469
00:22:53,119 --> 00:22:53,720
Speaker 2: it is about you.

470
00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:57,120
Speaker 3: And also but I also think that she can relate

471
00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:59,320
Speaker 3: to that. And so you're kind of like you're seeing

472
00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:02,359
Speaker 3: your sister go through this and go, Okay, this isn't

473
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:05,520
Speaker 3: your guy, Like wake up when everyone like everyone can

474
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:07,480
Speaker 3: see it but the one person that's there and it's

475
00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:10,080
Speaker 3: probably really frustrating for you. And you again, I have

476
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:13,240
Speaker 3: this front, you know, way more than all of us

477
00:23:13,280 --> 00:23:16,399
Speaker 3: had with the relationships. You're like, come on, and then

478
00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:17,720
Speaker 3: you're like back off.

479
00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:22,320
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, definitely, and I think too. I didn't want

480
00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:25,040
Speaker 1: her to waste your time. And even with like being

481
00:23:25,160 --> 00:23:27,280
Speaker 1: judging a relationship now.

482
00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:29,679
Speaker 5: It's more like I'm on both their sides.

483
00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:32,119
Speaker 1: I'm just like, you guys need more communication or like

484
00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:35,920
Speaker 1: better communication, or sometimes I can be like, well, she.

485
00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:39,920
Speaker 3: Might not understand is Russian, right, Honestly, that's what I try.

486
00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:45,320
Speaker 1: A cultural difference, you know, and I but I'm also like,

487
00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:48,199
Speaker 1: maybe be a little nicer or and you know, like

488
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:50,679
Speaker 1: I do, I'm very vocal with what I'm saying, but

489
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:53,719
Speaker 1: I feel like, hell, well it's not therapy time for Nicole.

490
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:58,240
Speaker 3: No, I'll just say this, like, so, I'm I'm engaged

491
00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:01,200
Speaker 3: to a Scottish man. So sometimes there is a very

492
00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 3: cultural difference with certain things and how maybe we say

493
00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:06,680
Speaker 3: things and verse how they say things.

494
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:07,520
Speaker 2: And I'm like, no, no, I.

495
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:10,280
Speaker 3: Was just being funny and like sarcastic or he was

496
00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:12,600
Speaker 3: in like how they say things are very blunt, and

497
00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:16,800
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, so it's just like understanding and then communicating.

498
00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 2: Okay.

499
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,919
Speaker 3: When I heard that, I made up that you were

500
00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:21,440
Speaker 3: maybe angry and he's like, no, not at all. And

501
00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:23,399
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, Okay, that's just how you delivered it.

502
00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,560
Speaker 3: Then you just delivered angry.

503
00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:30,920
Speaker 4: And Artam learned English from like the dance community.

504
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:34,200
Speaker 5: He didn't learn English like being in school. So there

505
00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:38,240
Speaker 5: are some words that he was learned like aren't correct.

506
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:39,920
Speaker 5: Like when he gets mad, he's like I'm very touch

507
00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 5: ja right now.

508
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:45,440
Speaker 2: No, No, he'll.

509
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 4: Say things and it took our therapist a few years

510
00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:50,520
Speaker 4: ago and be like, wait, do you know what that means?

511
00:24:50,560 --> 00:24:52,600
Speaker 5: And he's like this and she's like, no, that's the

512
00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:53,200
Speaker 5: wrong word.

513
00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 1: So we realized like some of our arguments were coming

514
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:57,040
Speaker 1: from like you would say something, I'd be like.

515
00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 5: What, but he thought it wasn't tomato or tomorrow.

516
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 1: I went. But I have to say I feel bad

517
00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:07,960
Speaker 1: for our husbands at times because twin culture is.

518
00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:10,000
Speaker 4: Like might be harder than oh yeah, there are third

519
00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:13,119
Speaker 4: wheels for yeah, this is husband wife and they're the

520
00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:13,800
Speaker 4: third wheels.

521
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:16,359
Speaker 5: So I kind of I feel bad. And that's what

522
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:19,400
Speaker 5: we're trying to teach our twins on the show. Don't

523
00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:20,440
Speaker 5: make the mistakes we did.

524
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:20,680
Speaker 1: Well.

525
00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 4: We're like, you know, you might be therapy your whole life,

526
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:24,920
Speaker 4: which is okay, but let's like also learn to put

527
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 4: our spouses first, or partners or whoever.

528
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 5: They may be in you know, so who we share

529
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:34,040
Speaker 5: the bed with at night, let's put them first.

530
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:35,800
Speaker 2: Once in a while, once in a while.

531
00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:39,240
Speaker 3: I have speaking of like sharing the bed with the

532
00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:42,119
Speaker 3: twins stuff. I mean, did you guys ever have someone

533
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:45,439
Speaker 3: that you both liked or got an argument around that,

534
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:48,520
Speaker 3: or if you just always pick different people?

535
00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 5: Yeah?

536
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:53,880
Speaker 1: Thank god, I know because we actually met someone who

537
00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:59,159
Speaker 1: slept with twins, so at different times she dated the

538
00:25:59,240 --> 00:26:01,320
Speaker 1: twins and I had to ask, I'm like, did you

539
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 1: sleep with both of them? She was like I did,

540
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:05,639
Speaker 1: and I'm like, was one better in bet?

541
00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:08,760
Speaker 5: And one was? So I was like, god, it's so wild.

542
00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:10,680
Speaker 5: Part of me kind of wishes we can go back

543
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 5: to our.

544
00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:13,720
Speaker 1: Twenties and maybe if slept with the same person and

545
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:17,800
Speaker 1: like gotten like kind of yeah, we are at an

546
00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 1: age so disgusting.

547
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:22,840
Speaker 3: I feel like Bree think she might win, and that's

548
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:24,480
Speaker 3: why this might be a fun social experiment.

549
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:32,399
Speaker 5: We know she but we always had reference takes the

550
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:35,159
Speaker 5: same dick in us that's discussing.

551
00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 2: I this is why I'm upset.

552
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, but like the d C, I'm living my best

553
00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:42,720
Speaker 3: life over here because I have you both.

554
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 2: This is a heaven.

555
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 5: So we were on was It Entertainment Tonight?

556
00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 4: And I thought if I spelled out dick, it would

557
00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 4: be okay.

558
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:54,440
Speaker 5: So when Marien interveners, it's like, you know, d I

559
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:55,240
Speaker 5: c K and he.

560
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:59,040
Speaker 1: Goes, that's stone, Um, you can't, and I'm like, oh sorry,

561
00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 1: I thought if I spelled it, so.

562
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:04,400
Speaker 2: Then pe ni s because that is a technical.

563
00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:10,440
Speaker 5: What we say. Oh girl, you're so weird. Though I

564
00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 5: would never want to ever twenties.

565
00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 1: And we did.

566
00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 5: We always had dropper and taste. Oh yeah, that helped.

567
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 5: We never got to you know, you spit on me.

568
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,280
Speaker 4: We never got in a situation where like you're in

569
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:26,440
Speaker 4: the same person. No, but we laugh because we always

570
00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:29,760
Speaker 4: had very different types. And now we look at our husbands.

571
00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:32,880
Speaker 1: And we're like, they both have beards, they're soft spoken,

572
00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:37,080
Speaker 1: they love the outdoors, they're super very super sweet into

573
00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:38,040
Speaker 1: their health.

574
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:40,320
Speaker 4: We're like, whoa, we like kind of married the same guy,

575
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:43,240
Speaker 4: but different. One's a ballroom dancer, whe's a wrestler, and

576
00:27:43,280 --> 00:27:45,200
Speaker 4: it's like wild.

577
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 3: So do the guys get along super well then? Because

578
00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 3: I'd imagine if we're gonna if anyone's going to be

579
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 3: in love with the twin, then they kind of have

580
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:52,000
Speaker 3: to all be in love with each other.

581
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, yes they are.

582
00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:57,440
Speaker 1: They get along great, and I feel like they were

583
00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:00,480
Speaker 1: late a lot now in like they probably never have thought,

584
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:03,800
Speaker 1: but because of us, they can actually be like, so,

585
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:06,720
Speaker 1: oh good, Nikki's like that because Bree's like that too,

586
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 1: and then yeah, they'll share the.

587
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:10,480
Speaker 2: Like a built in support group.

588
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:15,080
Speaker 3: I want to ask, because I obviously you guys are

589
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:17,720
Speaker 3: in you know, you have your podcast, you do a

590
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 3: lot of stuff, and you're on TV, and so there's

591
00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:23,159
Speaker 3: gonna be a lot of negative people on there, and

592
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:26,520
Speaker 3: I always love to get especially from two very empowering

593
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 3: strong women.

594
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:31,119
Speaker 2: Is there. How do you deal with any online hate.

595
00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 3: Or the trolls or the bullies, Because as much as

596
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:36,960
Speaker 3: you I try to be like yeah, I'm fine or whatever, it's.

597
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 2: Still a piece.

598
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:40,240
Speaker 3: It's like, oh, I just I don't like it, you know,

599
00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:43,640
Speaker 3: It's it's a I have sometimes PTSD of sharing certain

600
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 3: things on here because I don't want to become a headline.

601
00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:46,880
Speaker 3: And then the people are gonna be like, oh, she's

602
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:49,320
Speaker 3: just she's a wrecker, she's a train, you know, she's

603
00:28:49,440 --> 00:28:51,640
Speaker 3: just repeating and rinsing, and I'm just like, but that's

604
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 3: not what I meant. So it's like I I get

605
00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:58,960
Speaker 3: scared to share because of the other piece of that world.

606
00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:00,480
Speaker 3: So I'm just curious how you guys deal with that

607
00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 3: as strong women.

608
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:04,160
Speaker 4: Well, when we fill you on that, I mean I

609
00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:08,360
Speaker 4: literally feel bad for my team. They're probably like all like, oh,

610
00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:12,120
Speaker 4: this is Nikki, because I will wake them up on

611
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:14,680
Speaker 4: Tuesday nights to edit stuff out because I'm like, I

612
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:17,000
Speaker 4: just don't want to be a headline again, like because

613
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 4: as just like you always misunderstood, everything is click bait

614
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:25,800
Speaker 4: and it's not even a story, and we just dealt

615
00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:27,960
Speaker 4: with the situation. Recently, a few days ago, they put

616
00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 4: us as a headline with Greece Witherspoon yesterday.

617
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:32,120
Speaker 5: Well nobody was supposed.

618
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:36,440
Speaker 4: To day before, but it happened a magazine literally restricted

619
00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 4: us to comment on it because they knew they were lying.

620
00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 4: So I was like, they put it as if we

621
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 4: went to Reese with our book memoir and like wanted

622
00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 4: her to put it in her book club or make

623
00:29:49,800 --> 00:29:53,360
Speaker 4: it a series, and she said no, this whole thing,

624
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 4: which was like beyond the light.

625
00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 1: And then said took down three women because they made Recently,

626
00:29:58,520 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 1: she just empowered.

627
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:01,400
Speaker 5: She does an empower woman like she.

628
00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 1: Says she does, which is oh my gosh, no she does,

629
00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 1: like yeah, and then it took down like us and.

630
00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:09,560
Speaker 4: Like people were dragging us like, oh, should a delist

631
00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:11,720
Speaker 4: should have this or that, which like so proud of

632
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:13,800
Speaker 4: be one. I get to live life without makeup and

633
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 4: then go do cool shit on TV.

634
00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:18,400
Speaker 5: Yeah you don't know why that's like a negative. Yeah,

635
00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 5: we were like.

636
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:20,959
Speaker 3: Glad to be on the list. I don't care if

637
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:22,760
Speaker 3: you mark me as a Z list like cool I

638
00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 3: made something.

639
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:27,800
Speaker 1: Yeah sure, where I was like they literally took remaking

640
00:30:28,120 --> 00:30:32,240
Speaker 1: a joke like so on a podcast of like Bree's

641
00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:34,760
Speaker 1: obsessed with Reese Whetherspoon in her book club. So Bree's like,

642
00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:38,440
Speaker 1: I DM the book Club about her book. I mean

643
00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 1: I didn't hear back, but I'm so obsessed with them,

644
00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:43,880
Speaker 1: And so literally one thing of saying that she DM

645
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:47,880
Speaker 1: them I the book turn into this gigantic lie and

646
00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 1: we didn't even know about it till our mom sent

647
00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:51,520
Speaker 1: it to us, Like I didn't know that you guys

648
00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:53,200
Speaker 1: talked to Reese Withetherspoon and all this, and we go,

649
00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 1: what are.

650
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:54,960
Speaker 5: You talking about? Never talked to her?

651
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:58,640
Speaker 4: And then the fact that they restricted even our wine

652
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:01,640
Speaker 4: ig because of course I'm like a type, and we'll

653
00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:05,040
Speaker 4: get into like how we handle of like I will go,

654
00:31:05,400 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 4: I'll say things to people and now she dms a lot.

655
00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:14,360
Speaker 4: I'll DM people and she like like. So then I

656
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:15,880
Speaker 4: realized they restricted all of our.

657
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:18,560
Speaker 5: Stuff because they didn't want us telling people was a lie,

658
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:22,200
Speaker 5: and I go, how is this legal? Like I'm so shocked,

659
00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:25,480
Speaker 5: and people don't even read things. They just read that highlight.

660
00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 4: So I literally wake my team up at times because

661
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:29,880
Speaker 4: I'm like, I can't be a headline no more. I

662
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:32,000
Speaker 4: can't deal with my mental health, can't deal this week,

663
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 4: So let's just take stuff out because I'm we're misunderstood.

664
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:38,280
Speaker 4: But for me, I am one of the most hated

665
00:31:38,320 --> 00:31:40,600
Speaker 4: people on the internet, in the wrestling industry, just in

666
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:45,440
Speaker 4: that world. And what's said is like that world can

667
00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:48,959
Speaker 4: It's like they believe perception is reality. So whatever you

668
00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:52,720
Speaker 4: are in that ring of the world, and however the

669
00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:55,120
Speaker 4: company wants to perceive you that makes you a good

670
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 4: heal or babyface. The people in that community just will

671
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:03,560
Speaker 4: really believe it. And then especially when you're strong women

672
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 4: breaking barriers, you're just going to get the brunt of

673
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 4: hate because people don't like change and people want to

674
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:13,480
Speaker 4: keep it where you're like men are in control and

675
00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:14,440
Speaker 4: they're powerful, Like.

676
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 5: Why do women want to be equal? Who cares?

677
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:20,040
Speaker 4: So it was hard on me for a very long time,

678
00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:23,000
Speaker 4: and then I realized, like, you know what it's it's

679
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 4: my truth, it's what I believe in. So I'm just

680
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 4: going to either call people out or I'm going to

681
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:31,400
Speaker 4: be like kill people with kindness. And then also know,

682
00:32:31,480 --> 00:32:34,040
Speaker 4: like I know who I am as a person, Like

683
00:32:34,080 --> 00:32:37,320
Speaker 4: I know I'm a really good person, and I always

684
00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:40,480
Speaker 4: try to come at things with grace and like even

685
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:42,960
Speaker 4: if I get misunderstood, and can I admit like in

686
00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:44,720
Speaker 4: the past, like do you have your times of like

687
00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:46,960
Speaker 4: feeling different emotions? Of course, but I'm always just this

688
00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:49,440
Speaker 4: is who I am. I mean being never said it's perfect.

689
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 4: So I feel like that's helped me with the hate

690
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:54,720
Speaker 4: online and then calling people out like I literally will

691
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:57,560
Speaker 4: damn people and I'll go, hey, so I just noticed

692
00:32:57,600 --> 00:33:00,800
Speaker 4: you wrote this comment. So I just want to know

693
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 4: did you read the article or did you just read

694
00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:06,960
Speaker 4: the clickbait and not understand that this isn't truthful and

695
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 4: then you just tore me down. Did that make you

696
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:11,800
Speaker 4: feel good because you didn't make me feel good. So

697
00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 4: I just wanted to know. And people will always write

698
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:16,280
Speaker 4: back like I'm so sorry. I never thought you would

699
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:19,200
Speaker 4: see this. I don't know why I wrote that every

700
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:23,080
Speaker 4: almost every time. Yeah, like some other people, I've gotten

701
00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:27,240
Speaker 4: into some back and forth with and I'm like, perfectly

702
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:30,120
Speaker 4: okay that. But I just started to be like, like

703
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:32,800
Speaker 4: even when people say stuff about like artam with Dancy,

704
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:35,479
Speaker 4: like I'll be like, I'm so excuse me, this is

705
00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 4: his wife and FYI, and I'm just like now.

706
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:39,959
Speaker 5: Like you know what.

707
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:42,200
Speaker 1: And I don't do it all the time because then

708
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 1: I don't want to create. Like if you write something negative,

709
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 1: Nikki will write back. I was make sure back to positive.

710
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:49,320
Speaker 1: I'm more fact checking.

711
00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 5: Like checking, right, So, like, let me tell you about this.

712
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:54,280
Speaker 5: You're very incursed.

713
00:33:54,800 --> 00:33:57,400
Speaker 1: You just commented on a lie and then you just

714
00:33:57,440 --> 00:33:58,880
Speaker 1: tore a woman down for no reason.

715
00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 5: And I just read your bio and you love Jesus.

716
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 3: Oh always always, you know Philippians in the bio quote

717
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,120
Speaker 3: you always.

718
00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:08,360
Speaker 5: Come and write at you.

719
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 4: I'm like, do you write that in your bio because

720
00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:13,520
Speaker 4: you're the biggest hater in the world.

721
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 5: I don't know.

722
00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:29,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, I had one of the greatest gifts that was

723
00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:32,200
Speaker 3: given to me about like a little over a month ago.

724
00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:36,880
Speaker 3: I responded to someone that has just always hated and

725
00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:39,719
Speaker 3: just makes it a point, and I almost feel bad

726
00:34:39,719 --> 00:34:41,560
Speaker 3: for this person, so like, you spend all day just

727
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 3: stalking my Instagram and then writing terrible things about me,

728
00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:47,759
Speaker 3: So that's that makes me feel sad for them that

729
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:50,400
Speaker 3: that's what they do with her day. But when I

730
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 3: actually started and I was very nice in the conversation,

731
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:55,520
Speaker 3: and I was like, I really just want to understand,

732
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 3: like where the hatred comes from, and like why and

733
00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:00,360
Speaker 3: also like why would you think because they I was

734
00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:02,520
Speaker 3: wearing a fake belly. I'm like, I actually cannot wait

735
00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:04,400
Speaker 3: to not be pregnant anymore. And now that you know,

736
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:07,440
Speaker 3: I'm not anymore, but you know, and I had the

737
00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:10,320
Speaker 3: baby and all the things. But when they actually started

738
00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:13,160
Speaker 3: responding the craziness that they were saying and all the

739
00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 3: things like you did this, I'm like no, Actually, then

740
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:17,600
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my god, why am I defending crazy

741
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:20,239
Speaker 3: because it's not even that's not the truth. And I

742
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:23,400
Speaker 3: go wow, I was like, actually, thank you for this conversation,

743
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:26,359
Speaker 3: because that is you are so far off base from

744
00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:28,719
Speaker 3: actually what the truth is that this actually brought me

745
00:35:29,120 --> 00:35:31,840
Speaker 3: lovely closure. And I don't care what you write anymore

746
00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 3: because it's I know my truth, just like you said.

747
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:36,640
Speaker 3: And I'm like, this is now funny to me, So

748
00:35:36,719 --> 00:35:39,440
Speaker 3: thank you and have a lovely day. The irony is

749
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:41,279
Speaker 3: in the Bible. It says if you argue with the fool,

750
00:35:41,280 --> 00:35:43,439
Speaker 3: who's the fool? So maybe we just start all making

751
00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 3: that our bio.

752
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:48,719
Speaker 4: I love that really good And.

753
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:52,120
Speaker 2: For you, Britt, you're probably like, that's the opposite of you.

754
00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:52,839
Speaker 2: You will not do that.

755
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:54,920
Speaker 3: Bree's like doing yoga in the backyard and she's like,

756
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:55,800
Speaker 3: I can't be bothered.

757
00:35:56,120 --> 00:35:58,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, brew and I are so different when it comes

758
00:35:58,920 --> 00:36:00,920
Speaker 5: to it. But Rez, yeah, very unbothered.

759
00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 2: I don't.

760
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:05,280
Speaker 1: I don't get bothered. I almost find it like, okay,

761
00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:10,080
Speaker 1: like funny. And I think only because I sometimes I'm

762
00:36:10,120 --> 00:36:12,520
Speaker 1: like they might be ten they might.

763
00:36:14,680 --> 00:36:19,280
Speaker 4: Which is very very true in the rest industry. Ilseaid,

764
00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 4: I'm like, wait, is this a high schooler that I'm

765
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:24,360
Speaker 4: literally like you talking about love?

766
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:25,880
Speaker 5: Have they had sex?

767
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 3: Like?

768
00:36:26,520 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 5: What am I doing?

769
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:29,640
Speaker 1: So I think about that And I did one time

770
00:36:29,719 --> 00:36:33,120
Speaker 1: read this quote that all the like the likes you

771
00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:34,840
Speaker 1: get if all those people are in a room and

772
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:36,880
Speaker 1: telling you, oh my gosh, I liked your post, and

773
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:37,880
Speaker 1: be very overwhelming.

774
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:38,839
Speaker 5: So whether you have.

775
00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:40,319
Speaker 1: Ten people who would be in the room with you,

776
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,279
Speaker 1: a thousand and a million whatever, So I kind of

777
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:46,839
Speaker 1: look more that I get more love than hate, yes,

778
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:50,359
Speaker 1: and it's overwhelming, actually, you know, even if I get

779
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 1: in a beautiful way, in a very beautiful way. So

780
00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:55,840
Speaker 1: I kind of don't let I don't read the comments,

781
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:59,480
Speaker 1: and like yesterday did bother me because when it was

782
00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 1: the recept it's actually the first time I got bothered

783
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 1: in a very long time, and only because it tore

784
00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:07,560
Speaker 1: down three women instead build them up. And like all

785
00:37:07,560 --> 00:37:10,120
Speaker 1: of us say, we get a little anxiety when we speak.

786
00:37:10,239 --> 00:37:12,160
Speaker 1: Is that where the world wants everyone to be when

787
00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:14,640
Speaker 1: we speak, we have anxiety that we don't want to

788
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:16,120
Speaker 1: actually fully be who we are.

789
00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 5: And say what we feel.

790
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 1: And that's what I feel like with social media, people

791
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:22,160
Speaker 1: have to be careful with comments because you're going to

792
00:37:22,239 --> 00:37:25,520
Speaker 1: get celebrities, you're gonna get authors and science, all these

793
00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:27,760
Speaker 1: people not wanting to talk because.

794
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:29,480
Speaker 5: You judge them. Well, that's not a good place.

795
00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:32,879
Speaker 1: What I think is unfair too, though, is that we're

796
00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:35,880
Speaker 1: in the day and age that anyone can write anything

797
00:37:35,920 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 1: about you and in tracture for someone's truth and right.

798
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:44,440
Speaker 1: But like there it's like, literally, Joe Schmoe can go

799
00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:47,160
Speaker 1: be like, so let me tell you about Gregarcia and

800
00:37:47,520 --> 00:37:49,920
Speaker 1: make up a whole lie, but you'll have like a

801
00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:51,880
Speaker 1: group of people be like, I can't believe she did that,

802
00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:52,440
Speaker 1: but it could be.

803
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:54,680
Speaker 5: A full lie. And I'm like, there has to be

804
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:58,800
Speaker 5: something that can change in that. But to what Brice said,

805
00:37:58,960 --> 00:37:59,359
Speaker 5: what she.

806
00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:02,520
Speaker 4: Has helped me with is I have focused so much

807
00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:04,760
Speaker 4: more on the love because that's the people who deserve

808
00:38:04,840 --> 00:38:07,839
Speaker 4: my focus, and it has helped me so much. And

809
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:12,240
Speaker 4: being in this whole new chapter of our lives, from

810
00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:16,319
Speaker 4: our e fans to whether it's podcast, it's wine, I

811
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:18,800
Speaker 4: feel like we have this whole new world of amazing

812
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:21,799
Speaker 4: people dancing with the stars, and I'm like, they're so

813
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:24,919
Speaker 4: positive and loving and like, even when the mom world

814
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:25,839
Speaker 4: can be a little like.

815
00:38:26,080 --> 00:38:30,600
Speaker 5: Judgy overall, that's so lucky. I know I'm not the

816
00:38:30,680 --> 00:38:31,520
Speaker 5: perfect mom.

817
00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:35,279
Speaker 3: I'll just say this with with the moms too. On

818
00:38:35,360 --> 00:38:37,960
Speaker 3: the judging thing there, I had I had my baby

819
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:40,839
Speaker 3: who's uh, he's sick. Two and a half weeks now,

820
00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:44,480
Speaker 3: I had him in a carrier and I he was

821
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:47,080
Speaker 3: a little low in the carrier and at the moment,

822
00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:48,799
Speaker 3: you know, he was super gassy, and I had to

823
00:38:48,840 --> 00:38:52,200
Speaker 3: do some post about I don't can't remember or the

824
00:38:52,239 --> 00:38:55,040
Speaker 3: movie or whatever, and so I put him in and yes,

825
00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:56,919
Speaker 3: he was supposed to probably be a little bit higher,

826
00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:58,800
Speaker 3: but to be honest with you, my my my boobs

827
00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:00,880
Speaker 3: were engorged from the mill that I was like, so

828
00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 3: I just moved him down a little bit. And I

829
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:06,640
Speaker 3: was like the mom haters that came out to say,

830
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:09,880
Speaker 3: how you know low he was, But there was the

831
00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:12,200
Speaker 3: other side of the moms going, hey girl, like love

832
00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:13,920
Speaker 3: you so much and also just want to say like,

833
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:16,719
Speaker 3: just fyi. And I was like, oh, like I appreciated,

834
00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 3: how do I say this? I know how to take

835
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:22,040
Speaker 3: care of my kids. At the same time, I don't

836
00:39:22,040 --> 00:39:24,359
Speaker 3: really love getting people telling me what I'm doing wrong

837
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 3: about something. But it's how you it's the kindness in

838
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:31,400
Speaker 3: the going hey girl, just fyi.

839
00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:32,799
Speaker 2: It's babies a little low.

840
00:39:32,800 --> 00:39:34,440
Speaker 3: It needs to be up higher instead of like you

841
00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:36,200
Speaker 3: suck as a mom, your baby's too low, You're going

842
00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 3: to suffocate it. And I'm like you know, there's there's

843
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:40,359
Speaker 3: the two comments. It's like if you can just lean

844
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:44,080
Speaker 3: towards being kind and not judging the fact that and

845
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:46,520
Speaker 3: that I'm bottle feeding and formula feeding and all the things,

846
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:48,799
Speaker 3: like I don't I don't need formula feeders here, so

847
00:39:48,880 --> 00:39:50,240
Speaker 3: I really don't need the judge.

848
00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:53,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, WHOA totally And like my mom and Nana will

849
00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:57,000
Speaker 1: always say, like, you guys have too much information.

850
00:39:57,280 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 5: In the past, as moms, we just had to figure

851
00:39:59,600 --> 00:39:59,879
Speaker 5: it out.

852
00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:03,360
Speaker 4: Didn't have monitors, we didn't have the internet like we

853
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:07,640
Speaker 4: didn't We just had to whatever our intuition was, that's

854
00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:08,399
Speaker 4: what we went with.

855
00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:10,160
Speaker 5: And now it's like they.

856
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 1: Catch a little like a photo still of like a

857
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:16,279
Speaker 1: moment with you and your child, and they assume all

858
00:40:16,320 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 1: these things.

859
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:19,160
Speaker 3: It's like, your baby's a sleeping the sleeper. I can't

860
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 3: be asleep in that. Your baby's doing that. It can't

861
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:22,359
Speaker 3: be in that, And I'm just like, can't go sleep.

862
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:23,400
Speaker 2: What are you doing? You're gonna say, I.

863
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:26,839
Speaker 5: Won't even post I posted one photo one time.

864
00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:30,239
Speaker 4: I've had it in his car seat and no, never, no,

865
00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:30,799
Speaker 4: don't do that.

866
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:31,839
Speaker 2: The thing's not gonna be high enough.

867
00:40:31,840 --> 00:40:33,640
Speaker 3: It's not tight, right, between the shoulder blades as a

868
00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:35,400
Speaker 3: psa right between the shoulder blades.

869
00:40:35,719 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 5: Yeah.

870
00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:39,319
Speaker 4: Oh, and then someone like he loves my it's the

871
00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:39,920
Speaker 4: cutest thing.

872
00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 5: He loves to bake Matteo.

873
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:44,279
Speaker 1: And like, I'll do some aims, I'll throw up ig

874
00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:47,759
Speaker 1: stories or go on live of him cooking, and he

875
00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:51,200
Speaker 1: does like he loves butter, and at times he's sticks

876
00:40:51,239 --> 00:40:53,799
Speaker 1: finger in butter and he eats it, and that's my guy.

877
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:57,040
Speaker 3: No, right, what's the difference between a little pretzel rod?

878
00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:58,759
Speaker 3: You know, I mean we dipped pretzel rods. Why can't

879
00:40:58,760 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 3: you dip your finger in it?

880
00:41:00,280 --> 00:41:03,279
Speaker 1: People are yeah, they're like, oh my gosh, she lets

881
00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:06,239
Speaker 1: me eat butter, and like, yeah, that's all I feed

882
00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:10,200
Speaker 1: my son. But then they're like, but candies, okay, yeah,

883
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:12,239
Speaker 1: you know. I just I always when people would ask

884
00:41:12,280 --> 00:41:14,120
Speaker 1: me like mom and advice, I'm like, the best advice

885
00:41:14,160 --> 00:41:15,719
Speaker 1: I can get you is not to listen to any

886
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 1: because at the end of the day, you and your

887
00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:20,640
Speaker 1: baby speak your own language. When your baby needs something,

888
00:41:20,719 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 1: your body tells you. And no, there's no encyclopedia can

889
00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 1: write that like now, which is such a no blogger nothing.

890
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 1: And it used to drive me crazy, like when people

891
00:41:33,160 --> 00:41:35,920
Speaker 1: would give hardcore opinions because I'm like, well, my child's

892
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:37,440
Speaker 1: different than yours and the needs.

893
00:41:37,200 --> 00:41:39,560
Speaker 5: Are different, and my needs are different.

894
00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:42,560
Speaker 1: Like I might handle postpartum different than you do, and yeah,

895
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 1: so yeah, it's.

896
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Speaker 5: A it's a wild it's wild West on social media.

897
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Speaker 3: Well, that's why it goes back to that point. Just

898
00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:50,319
Speaker 3: the other day, I was filming something and I was like, oh,

899
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:51,840
Speaker 3: I can't post that because they're going to say that

900
00:41:51,880 --> 00:41:53,960
Speaker 3: he's like asleep in the mommerer or something. And I'm like,

901
00:41:53,960 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 3: it goes back to feeling like we have to kind

902
00:41:55,680 --> 00:41:57,360
Speaker 3: of censor because we're just going to get judged.

903
00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 2: And I don't like that.

904
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:01,480
Speaker 3: I hate that us sleep in a jumparrou and I

905
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:03,360
Speaker 3: did post it, so I can't wait to open this

906
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:04,280
Speaker 3: up to the ship storm.

907
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:07,200
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it was cute.

908
00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:09,840
Speaker 3: It was five seconds. I documented it, but because she

909
00:42:09,880 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 3: fell asleep in the jumperoo, I am hated.

910
00:42:13,000 --> 00:42:15,360
Speaker 1: Well, you know, I bore yourself a glass of wine

911
00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:17,239
Speaker 1: and then open that up and you know.

912
00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:19,440
Speaker 3: And listen to your podcast, which tell us about your

913
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:22,560
Speaker 3: podcast for those that have not heard or listened.

914
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Speaker 1: So pretty much it's like happy hour with Nikki and I.

915
00:42:25,440 --> 00:42:27,719
Speaker 1: I mean we really We talk about everything in life,

916
00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:32,560
Speaker 1: whether it's motherhood, marriage, relationships, stuff that's going on in

917
00:42:32,600 --> 00:42:35,759
Speaker 1: the world, and sometimes what we're feeling. Her and I

918
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:38,319
Speaker 1: can be very spiritual and we have a lot of

919
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:41,120
Speaker 1: mindful moments that will share in our podcast where it's

920
00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:43,440
Speaker 1: like whoa like, I made a big mistake, but I

921
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:46,200
Speaker 1: learned from it and this is how we're open books.

922
00:42:46,239 --> 00:42:48,719
Speaker 5: So yeah, we don't Her and I don't care like

923
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:49,920
Speaker 5: showing everyone.

924
00:42:49,760 --> 00:42:51,879
Speaker 1: The good, the bad, the ugly totally and it's neat

925
00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:54,040
Speaker 1: because we just re signed with Serious XM.

926
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Speaker 5: Great starting yeah next.

927
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Speaker 4: Week we will be dropping two episodes a week, so

928
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Speaker 4: going yeah twice week, which.

929
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Speaker 2: Is grat squirrels. That's great.

930
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Speaker 3: What has been the biggest lesson that was the hardest

931
00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:09,000
Speaker 3: one to learn for both of you, either in marriage

932
00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:10,480
Speaker 3: or in just life in general.

933
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:13,319
Speaker 5: I think for me.

934
00:43:15,280 --> 00:43:20,479
Speaker 4: Is with in my relationship to keep things like more

935
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:23,760
Speaker 4: for us, So especially in a reality star or someone

936
00:43:23,800 --> 00:43:26,959
Speaker 4: in the limelight, that knowing that you need to keep

937
00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:30,200
Speaker 4: some things between you two for you too, and that

938
00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:34,320
Speaker 4: it keeps a healthy relationship that giving too much can

939
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:35,799
Speaker 4: almost affect it.

940
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Speaker 3: Right, Well, I will say that, I mean that I

941
00:43:38,280 --> 00:43:42,520
Speaker 3: second that because my past co host was my now

942
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:44,880
Speaker 3: well now ex husband. But I think that was a

943
00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:47,200
Speaker 3: piece of our demise is because we shared so much

944
00:43:47,239 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 3: and we were trying to do it in a way

945
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:51,799
Speaker 3: to help and to encourage and you know, to fight

946
00:43:51,840 --> 00:43:54,399
Speaker 3: for relationships and all that. But I look back now

947
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 3: and go ooh, I don't think that was the best choice.

948
00:43:56,640 --> 00:43:59,400
Speaker 3: And so when I started dating my now fiance, you know,

949
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:01,839
Speaker 3: he's like, hey, I know that you're very open and

950
00:44:02,640 --> 00:44:04,239
Speaker 3: you share a lot of things. And I was like, well,

951
00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:06,640
Speaker 3: I just want before you even finish that I will

952
00:44:06,800 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 3: never get on this podcast and say, up, talk about

953
00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:12,600
Speaker 3: a fight or this or that, because I think it again,

954
00:44:12,680 --> 00:44:15,239
Speaker 3: it becomes a headline. Then people start to get into

955
00:44:15,280 --> 00:44:17,839
Speaker 3: the relationship, and I was like, I want to make

956
00:44:17,920 --> 00:44:22,759
Speaker 3: this so keep this so sacred and not overshare in

957
00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:25,680
Speaker 3: that department of my life. I think it's critical too

958
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:28,560
Speaker 3: for just anybody in their marriage, Like you don't even

959
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 3: have to be in the public eye to be careful

960
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:33,480
Speaker 3: about what you share, even with friends, and that you're

961
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:36,160
Speaker 3: sharing with friends that are for your marriage, praying for

962
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 3: your marriage. Because I fell into a trap a few

963
00:44:39,239 --> 00:44:41,040
Speaker 3: years ago where I was like kind of venting you know,

964
00:44:41,080 --> 00:44:43,400
Speaker 3: like women were just like chatting, and then I kind

965
00:44:43,400 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 3: of thought, well, this is getting a little ugly, you know,

966
00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:48,840
Speaker 3: like I'm this was me just sharing, like ha ha ha,

967
00:44:49,120 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 3: let's all be in the same he doesn't grab the

968
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:52,680
Speaker 3: dice and when I want him to moment, you know,

969
00:44:53,040 --> 00:44:55,000
Speaker 3: and instead it started to get like a little toxic

970
00:44:55,040 --> 00:44:56,759
Speaker 3: and ugly. So I think that's a really good, like

971
00:44:56,880 --> 00:45:00,840
Speaker 3: overall rule, just marriage is sacred and who you're sharing

972
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 3: that with and going to people that actually will like

973
00:45:03,280 --> 00:45:05,320
Speaker 3: lift and pray and love over your marriage.

974
00:45:05,880 --> 00:45:08,840
Speaker 5: I love that person. Agree. So true. It really is

975
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:09,839
Speaker 5: so true.

976
00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:12,560
Speaker 1: And I have to say for myself, I kind of

977
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:15,760
Speaker 1: just realize in life, I can't take it too serious

978
00:45:15,840 --> 00:45:19,080
Speaker 1: and really prioritize it, which family's always first. I read

979
00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:22,399
Speaker 1: this quote where it was like this woman passed away

980
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:24,400
Speaker 1: at work and the woman who was sitting next to

981
00:45:24,480 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 1: her had hr came in, they collected her things, they

982
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 1: cleaned off her desk, and then they're like, Okay, we're

983
00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:32,759
Speaker 1: gonna start interviewing because maybe we can get someone in

984
00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:34,360
Speaker 1: here in a couple of days. And she was like,

985
00:45:34,480 --> 00:45:37,840
Speaker 1: whoa to work. You might not mean anything, but no,

986
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:41,319
Speaker 1: you're replaceable. You're replaceable at work, but your family you're not.

987
00:45:41,680 --> 00:45:44,359
Speaker 1: And she was thinking about how the family's suffering from

988
00:45:44,360 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 1: this loss and they'll remember that woman forever. That was

989
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:50,120
Speaker 1: their mother, that was their wife. But like, oh, you're

990
00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:53,080
Speaker 1: just replaceable at work, whatever it is you're doing, whether

991
00:45:53,080 --> 00:45:54,760
Speaker 1: you're in entertainment, corporate.

992
00:45:55,280 --> 00:45:57,560
Speaker 5: And I was like, damn, so really like for.

993
00:45:57,600 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 1: Me family, because I was a workaholic for a while

994
00:46:00,560 --> 00:46:03,279
Speaker 1: and I was like, wow, I'm giving energy to the

995
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:04,239
Speaker 1: wrong places.

996
00:46:04,480 --> 00:46:05,960
Speaker 5: And I really adjusted that in.

997
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:08,879
Speaker 1: The pandemic and so and I feel like that's been

998
00:46:08,920 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 1: the greatest reward me doing that.

999
00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:12,759
Speaker 2: I love that. Well.

1000
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:15,480
Speaker 3: I love you girls, And anytime you're in Nashville, please

1001
00:46:15,520 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 3: come have a glass with us. Yes, that would be

1002
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:22,799
Speaker 3: really fun. Yeah, it's so fun. So anytime DM, I

1003
00:46:22,880 --> 00:46:30,160
Speaker 3: read my d ms too, so make you just m okay,

1004
00:46:30,239 --> 00:46:33,520
Speaker 3: yes please. And everyone watched twin Love right now. It's

1005
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 3: on Amazon freebe but yes Prime and freebee. Okay, you

1006
00:46:39,000 --> 00:46:40,759
Speaker 3: girls are awesome. We'll see you soon. Thank you for

1007
00:46:40,800 --> 00:46:46,160
Speaker 3: coming on. I love Bree coming in with all the

1008
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 3: quotes and stuff.

1009
00:46:47,719 --> 00:46:49,719
Speaker 2: This is a fun day for me. You're just like

1010
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:51,120
Speaker 2: grinning from your to ear.

1011
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:53,960
Speaker 3: I know, It's weird because I'm not usually all in

1012
00:46:54,000 --> 00:46:56,319
Speaker 3: on the reality TV but they were. They're just fun

1013
00:46:56,360 --> 00:46:58,880
Speaker 3: to me. They're real. I do love how different they

1014
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:01,520
Speaker 3: are too well. They hold each other accountable, so it's

1015
00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:03,880
Speaker 3: like they can't get away with anything because there's always

1016
00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:06,719
Speaker 3: another one fact checking. And that's what I always enjoyed

1017
00:47:06,719 --> 00:47:08,840
Speaker 3: about them as characters in the show, and then to

1018
00:47:08,880 --> 00:47:12,480
Speaker 3: watch their lives. It's just fun. And I'm twin fascinated.

1019
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 3: I'm so you know, I always wanted to have twins.

1020
00:47:16,520 --> 00:47:19,160
Speaker 3: I create every pregnancy for them to be a twin,

1021
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:22,680
Speaker 3: to split the egg, really every single one. A I

1022
00:47:22,719 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 3: wanted a bogo. I wanted to only have to get one.

1023
00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:27,360
Speaker 3: I just wanted to do it one. I'm like, I

1024
00:47:27,360 --> 00:47:30,919
Speaker 3: had to process it, Migraine. Yeah, and I have always been.

1025
00:47:32,000 --> 00:47:34,799
Speaker 3: Maybe it's because I just feel like they get this

1026
00:47:35,040 --> 00:47:39,480
Speaker 3: instant best friend soulmate that I think it's so special

1027
00:47:39,760 --> 00:47:42,240
Speaker 3: And I've always just been fascinated.

1028
00:47:42,239 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 2: Which you wanted to marry and Mary Kate Nashley. I

1029
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:49,000
Speaker 2: maybe it started with Full House. I don't know. I

1030
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:49,359
Speaker 2: love it.

1031
00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:53,319
Speaker 3: Anyways, that was a good one. I like them, I

1032
00:47:53,360 --> 00:47:55,759
Speaker 3: love you going to be friends with them, Yeah, let's

1033
00:47:55,760 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 3: be a friend. I won't be geeky. I promise see

1034
00:47:59,200 --> 00:47:59,760
Speaker 3: you next week.

1035
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Speaker 5: I s