WEBVTT - Ep. 29 "Masculine Energy vs. Feminine Energy 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:07.000 We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion to 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:13.040 talk back. Hey, welcome to a new episode of We 0:00:13.400 --> 0:00:17.080 Talk Back as your girl a j holiday. Hey, and 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:21.640 it's tim Am. I love you, and hey everybody, what's up. 0:00:21.880 --> 0:00:24.840 My name is Misha and I am a business owner. 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:32.120 I am retired veteran from the Air Force. Thank you, 0:00:32.159 --> 0:00:35.479 thank you for your support. I'm a wife of a 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:38.840 three years, a mom of two. Um full town batty, 0:00:38.920 --> 0:00:42.000 part town government contract there, all right, I know that's 0:00:42.000 --> 0:00:44.159 the right period. We need to talk, girl. What you 0:00:44.200 --> 0:00:47.919 doing the type of government contract? And we're business? Maybe 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:51.839 I pushed papers this administration. That's it, Okay, we need 0:00:51.880 --> 0:00:56.600 to talk. Thank you. I have a commercial furniture installation company. 0:00:56.840 --> 0:01:00.600 We definitely need to talk. Look at the networker happen? Yeah, 0:01:01.240 --> 0:01:05.840 excellent it. So last week I did an episode of 0:01:05.920 --> 0:01:07.840 Brilliant Idiots. I went to New York. It was a 0:01:07.840 --> 0:01:11.399 good time. Y'all check it out. But I got so 0:01:11.480 --> 0:01:14.120 many dick pics in my d M. What's wrong with me? 0:01:14.560 --> 0:01:17.840 You were stick though? Yeah, but that don't mean I 0:01:17.880 --> 0:01:20.640 mean no, no, no, that's not appropriate. But still you 0:01:20.720 --> 0:01:26.440 were stickt it girl. I still haven't showed my husband. 0:01:26.520 --> 0:01:30.800 Yet I'm like, wait, I mean, you know, I ain't 0:01:30.920 --> 0:01:37.280 like it, like it, but dog women do not like 0:01:37.440 --> 0:01:40.640 unsolicited cock shots. Stop that ship, y'all. Nigg is a 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:44.399 hell aware though. I'm just always thinking like what you what? What? 0:01:44.400 --> 0:01:46.399 What do you think the response is going to be like, 0:01:46.440 --> 0:01:48.880 oh my god, I can't wait to see that. I 0:01:48.880 --> 0:01:50.640 don't want to be I want to show you something, 0:01:50.680 --> 0:01:54.160 but I don't want to be inappropriate. And then it 0:01:54.280 --> 0:02:00.400 was a dick, Oh my god, they're inappropriate. I was 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:04.720 eating my bacon. It was breakfast. I got the side 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:07.080 of dick with my baker. I did not ask for that. 0:02:07.880 --> 0:02:11.519 What don't you like? Yes? And I'm trying to understand 0:02:11.600 --> 0:02:14.680 why the fund do y'all think that sexual harassment only 0:02:14.680 --> 0:02:17.400 happens on the job site, Like I could literally call 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:19.600 the police and file a claim against your ass because 0:02:19.600 --> 0:02:25.000 you're sexually harassing me via Instagram? The fuck do you 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:30.600 think about sexual harassment when you get yeah, that's sexual harassment. 0:02:30.840 --> 0:02:33.480 I was trying to have breakfast. I don't want that 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:37.079 disturbing my soul. Were they big though? What do you 0:02:37.120 --> 0:02:44.720 look like? That was? That was? It was kind of 0:02:44.760 --> 0:02:49.399 pretty eating with big Dick's blood to show you right right, 0:02:49.480 --> 0:02:53.440 maybe the first ones to pull it out. Maybe he 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:55.560 had the cock shots on the man girl. Maybe you 0:02:55.680 --> 0:02:57.720 just having ready, like let me send me a cot 0:02:58.080 --> 0:03:01.720 just have a nice one ready, ready in the camera, ready, 0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:05.040 and I'd be like, nah, send me a new one. 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:09.120 What happened on Earth this week? What happened Earth is 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:14.720 good him? It is well, we know the mob cancel culture. 0:03:15.280 --> 0:03:17.280 They're trying to cancel a baby. The baby. Now for 0:03:17.360 --> 0:03:22.919 the comments that he made last week while performing what 0:03:23.000 --> 0:03:27.680 was the festival? It was Rolling Loud, Yeah, the Rolling 0:03:27.720 --> 0:03:30.800 Loud Festival. My take on it. I guess everybody should 0:03:30.800 --> 0:03:33.200 have seen what he said, right y'all saw the videos 0:03:33.200 --> 0:03:35.640 and all that ship. My favorite part was when somebody 0:03:35.640 --> 0:03:44.400 throw that fucking shoe bitch. I don't know who did 0:03:44.480 --> 0:03:48.480 it better, him or George Bush, but I feel like 0:03:48.520 --> 0:03:51.560 the baby is a street dude, but he just like 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:55.480 a college guy to like college could be trying him, 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:58.800 you know, street but still educated. I don't think he 0:03:58.840 --> 0:04:02.240 went to college. And what he said was not educated 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:05.120 because it was just unnecessary, like it had nothing to 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:07.120 do with anything. And I think what people are mad 0:04:07.160 --> 0:04:10.640 about is because you know, prior to talking about gay. 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:13.440 He started talking about HIV. Shout out to anybody who 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:16.360 in here who don't have HIV. You got a million 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:21.000 people at a at a big, big as festival, and 0:04:21.600 --> 0:04:24.400 exactly what's the percentage of you know, they say one 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:26.240 out of every such and such like there's gonna be 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:28.720 at least I'll say eight percent ten percent of the 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:35.720 people at that type of event that us and that size. Hey, 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:40.920 I don't know what it was in Miami. Okay, girl, girl, 0:04:41.600 --> 0:04:43.720 I'm pretty sure. All I know is like when I 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:46.160 heard it, I was actually sucking digging the parking lot 0:04:46.200 --> 0:04:55.360 and I was like hanging up my face. What I 0:04:55.400 --> 0:05:01.800 wasn't I just wanted to wasn't listening. I was sowhere 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:17.880 like this mid choke. I was offended. Okay, I'm all right. 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:21.200 So so here's why people I've said, and some may 0:05:21.240 --> 0:05:24.280 say that, uh t, I kind of add a little 0:05:24.279 --> 0:05:27.680 bit of more. Yeah, but he really didn't. He was 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:30.080 just stating this thing. The thing is is that baby 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:33.479 doesn't have the the baby excuse me, doesn't have the 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:36.560 intellect even get himself out of this ship. Really, what 0:05:36.640 --> 0:05:38.200 you need to be doing and shutting the funk up 0:05:38.560 --> 0:05:43.280 and stop responding stop trying to troll the trolls. Like usually, 0:05:43.320 --> 0:05:46.560 cancel culture only last about three weeks. So if he 0:05:46.600 --> 0:05:49.720 would just lay low, he wouldn't be losing all of 0:05:49.800 --> 0:05:53.120 his um endorsements or whatever he has now and he 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:55.719 new shows he was supposed to do he's being canceled 0:05:55.760 --> 0:05:59.440 for because of Yes, now you know you can't talk 0:05:59.680 --> 0:06:03.720 about l g B t Q plus community. You can 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:07.680 say nigga, you can say holes, bitch whatever. Cracker ed 0:06:07.760 --> 0:06:13.039 it back in blood shooting your mama, you can say 0:06:13.080 --> 0:06:15.400 all that ship, but we already know you can't talk 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:17.880 about that community. And there's a second community I definitely 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:20.120 don't want to talk to you about because yeah, they're 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:24.880 probably run this ship. Don't say nothing that's gonna get 0:06:24.920 --> 0:06:26.800 us called in the office. A god. That's why I'm 0:06:26.839 --> 0:06:30.719 just looking at can you please turn your bag? And 0:06:30.800 --> 0:06:34.839 then you work for the government. I just got my 0:06:34.920 --> 0:06:38.800 security clearance three approved, so I'm like, hey, the next 0:06:38.839 --> 0:06:40.359 time you go to get approve, they're gonna be like, 0:06:40.360 --> 0:06:43.000 did you do a podcast with these two ratchets on? 0:06:44.480 --> 0:06:47.080 We're talking back, I don't know, was sucking dick in 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:49.080 the parking lot. We just need your badge and are 0:06:49.080 --> 0:06:54.279 you sure. Wait what I feel like what baby said 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:57.920 was a failed attempt to celebrate hetero sexuality. You know, 0:06:58.360 --> 0:07:01.640 I really don't feel like he eights gave people. I mean, 0:07:02.080 --> 0:07:04.600 maybe I'm wrong, but I just feel like what he 0:07:04.640 --> 0:07:07.760 should have said is, men, if you got your dicks 0:07:07.839 --> 0:07:10.240 up by a bad bitch in the parking lot, makes 0:07:10.240 --> 0:07:15.560 a noise or something, right, instead of saying, celebrate, you know, 0:07:15.640 --> 0:07:18.920 celebrating in a way that excluded people, don't exclude anybody. 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:20.960 That's the problem. And look, and he was hating on 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:23.160 bitches who might have just had a bad day and 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:28.360 came up there. Yeah, it's hot outside, it's a festival. 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:30.760 I know it was a lot of stink coochies out there. 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:34.200 Let me spend y'all so much and then let me perform, 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:39.520 and then also exactly and then inher is my thing. Men, 0:07:39.560 --> 0:07:41.720 If y'all don't know, y'all be the cause of stink pussy, 0:07:41.760 --> 0:07:46.920 I'm sorry me personally exactly Personally, I don't like sperming 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:49.520 my vagina like I like the act of it, like 0:07:49.560 --> 0:07:52.560 the intimacy of it all. But I want you all 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:54.360 to come in the cup, set that shirt on the 0:07:54.360 --> 0:07:56.360 side of the bed and come back in two days 0:07:56.360 --> 0:08:01.240 and see what it smelled like. Oh man, good, wait wait, 0:08:01.280 --> 0:08:03.400 wouldn't it be a snellow? Would it be like residue? 0:08:03.440 --> 0:08:08.880 Would it be like it's gonna be? Yeah, come in 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:11.320 that cup because you listen, give your girl a day 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:13.800 offer to you if she started like pH get a 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:18.520 little give her some days off without sucking filling the pie. Goddamn, 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:22.080 don't pussy shame her. You've made her couchie steak. Now 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:28.000 you're talking about like that your soldiers came and marched 0:08:28.080 --> 0:08:32.600 up in this Wellfucker that my ship felled like a 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:39.560 war zone. You gotta get honey pie, alad water, water 0:08:40.760 --> 0:08:47.040 BV yogurt up that motherfucker. Hey, I got a couchie. 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:51.480 Let me Let me give y'all a coochie hack for today. So, 0:08:52.120 --> 0:08:54.160 if you are a type of person who have like 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:56.719 yeast infections, I don't want to say often, because it's 0:08:56.720 --> 0:08:58.880 not natural for you to always be having YaST affection. 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:01.720 But if you find yourself with east affection, a natural 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:05.920 remedy for east affection this off topic. You take a 0:09:05.920 --> 0:09:08.480 clove of garlic, you stick a needle through it, and 0:09:08.520 --> 0:09:10.520 you take the string off the end of your tampon 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:13.599 and wrap it around and then you take the You 0:09:13.640 --> 0:09:15.079 don't stick the need on your couch. You take the 0:09:15.120 --> 0:09:17.480 needle out, but you want to have the thread. The 0:09:17.559 --> 0:09:21.360 string go through the clover garlic, and you stick the 0:09:21.360 --> 0:09:24.640 garlic into the tampon applicator and you shoot it up 0:09:24.640 --> 0:09:26.920 in your couchie. Do it at night, because as soon 0:09:26.960 --> 0:09:29.120 as that garlic gets in your in your pussy, like 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:31.600 your mouth, you're gonna start tasting the garlic in your mouth. 0:09:32.160 --> 0:09:34.680 But the next morning, no east affection. This is a 0:09:34.840 --> 0:09:49.680 natural cure. Vampires, you're gonna kill. Oh my gosh, hold on, 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:57.040 tam let's pay some bills. Let's get into today's topics. 0:09:57.080 --> 0:09:59.360 So we finished with the baby bit. You ask, but Ji, 0:09:59.480 --> 0:10:02.959 I wish you best get your life shut out seven 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:04.960 or four. I funk with the baby. You know, I'm 0:10:04.960 --> 0:10:08.400 just disappointed in his choices. I hate cancel culture because 0:10:08.760 --> 0:10:11.240 nobody's perfect, and I don't want to be canceled because 0:10:11.240 --> 0:10:16.160 of a mistake. I hate your opinion, like your opinion 0:10:16.320 --> 0:10:19.760 is okay, what do you say what your opinion is? 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:22.520 Because but okay, we don't all have to agree. You 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:24.280 don't have to agree. But and that's okay, and that's 0:10:24.320 --> 0:10:26.600 what freedom of speech is about. But you also have 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:29.720 to be prepared to suffer the consequences of your your words. 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:36.520 Be responsible. Yeah. So, um, with Maisha being a married mother, 0:10:37.200 --> 0:10:40.040 she's been married for eighteen years. Yeah, who talks aback, 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:43.440 we thought it would be a great idea that had 0:10:43.559 --> 0:10:47.520 this particular conversation with her because we are wives. Um. 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:49.880 Of course we've all been in committed relationships at some 0:10:49.920 --> 0:10:53.160 point in our lives, but we haven't been actually married yet, right, 0:10:53.559 --> 0:11:00.920 So I've been married to the gang, that's it. Oh. 0:11:00.960 --> 0:11:04.640 When I was doing my hair over the weekend, she 0:11:04.800 --> 0:11:09.640 was sharing with me about feminine energy and masculine energy 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:14.640 and how she her change in her approach in that 0:11:14.800 --> 0:11:18.360 realm helped her relationship and I was like, well, damn, 0:11:18.440 --> 0:11:20.600 that's you know interesting. I would love to hear more 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:22.080 about it. Would you like to come and talk with 0:11:22.120 --> 0:11:25.480 our listeners about how that help your relationship and drop 0:11:25.559 --> 0:11:27.719 some jewels because maybe that can help some of us, 0:11:27.920 --> 0:11:32.600 you know with ours, you know for me personally, Um, 0:11:32.640 --> 0:11:36.280 I'm like from the mindfulness community, so like I believe 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:38.719 you believe in something, you can achieve it. If that 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:42.079 sounds cliche, but It's true. You create your own path, 0:11:42.800 --> 0:11:46.439 and so in my higher self, I always see myself 0:11:46.480 --> 0:11:49.840 being like you know, tops here and so in that, 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:51.920 you know, one of my roles is to be a wife. 0:11:52.160 --> 0:11:54.240 And it's like, okay, how can I do this better? 0:11:54.960 --> 0:11:56.640 You know? And like I said, I've been married for 0:11:56.679 --> 0:11:59.400 a very long time. We got married when I was 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:01.960 a kid old, you know. To be at the age 0:12:02.000 --> 0:12:04.520 that I'm at now and to have you know, the 0:12:04.600 --> 0:12:06.880 understanding and awareness that I have now that I didn't 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:10.360 have when I was twenty one, you know, it's like 0:12:10.880 --> 0:12:14.679 giving that credit. And so part of that is seminine energy. 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:16.960 And you know, like I said, personally speaking from my 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:23.880 own relationship, it has been huge to that revelation because, um, 0:12:24.080 --> 0:12:26.400 my husband and I you know, he brought it to 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:28.960 my attention. He like, you know, I don't. It's like 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:30.920 a again with a nigga, Like you talk to me 0:12:31.040 --> 0:12:34.720 like a dude. And I'm very feminine. You know. Anybody 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:36.880 who knows me knows that I am a girly girl. 0:12:37.760 --> 0:12:39.720 And so I'm like, I don't want to be again. 0:12:41.640 --> 0:12:43.760 You know, I know, you don't be married to a man. 0:12:43.920 --> 0:12:46.800 So it wasn't just that easy either, guys. It wasn't 0:12:46.840 --> 0:12:51.440 just that simple conversation, but ultimately that's what was the 0:12:51.480 --> 0:12:53.800 gist of it. Him bringing it to my awareness and 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:57.120 being able to communicate what he actually saw was an 0:12:57.120 --> 0:13:00.760 issue with me. For me also being able to give 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:03.319 some aware this to and give credit to it, to say, oh, yeah, 0:13:03.360 --> 0:13:06.400 I could just do better in this area. Mhm. And 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:09.600 so what did that consist of, Like, how did you 0:13:09.640 --> 0:13:15.280 feel like you align energy? Well? Um, for me, it 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:19.079 goes back and um, I know I get this from 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:23.280 my mom, Like I'm to me. My perspective how I 0:13:23.280 --> 0:13:25.080 have view myself in the world is that I'm a 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:28.600 very nice, very feminine woman. You know. Sometimes I guess 0:13:28.600 --> 0:13:31.079 it could be taken as flirtations, but really it's not. 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:33.640 You know, if I sing my words to everybody like hi, 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:36.840 how are you? How is everybody? You know, I don't 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:39.920 give no pushback. I worked in customer service for a 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:42.240 lot of years and you know, and it's it is 0:13:42.280 --> 0:13:44.920 a stereotype, but it can be true too. You know, 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:48.239 it's the angry black woman or we have an attitude 0:13:48.320 --> 0:13:50.680 or whatever, and it's like those are the things we 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:53.840 kind of fight against because it makes us uncomfortable to 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:56.480 see us, to see us in the mirror. But it's 0:13:56.520 --> 0:13:59.320 also things that are true, Like some of the prettiest 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:01.760 women have some the worst attitude. I don't want to 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:04.040 deal with him, you know, and I'm one of them. 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:08.480 I'm not admitted from that um. But how I deal 0:14:08.559 --> 0:14:10.320 with it, how I dealt with Like I said, it's 0:14:10.400 --> 0:14:14.800 very new, but it really is just listening, you know, 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:18.960 and not um matching his energy because he is a 0:14:18.960 --> 0:14:22.120 man and he, like I was telling Sammy this weekend, 0:14:22.240 --> 0:14:24.560 you know, men are aggressive. Not to say he's going 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:26.400 to knock my head off in that kind of way, 0:14:26.640 --> 0:14:30.560 but you know, he's more aggressive than our female energy 0:14:30.600 --> 0:14:33.480 would be. And so it kind of goes back to 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:37.800 that story with your grandma being super nice to you know, 0:14:37.880 --> 0:14:40.640 to granddaddy and he cuts the howd and you know, 0:14:40.760 --> 0:14:43.240 got kids all over town and he's just like horrible. 0:14:43.280 --> 0:14:47.440 But Grandma Steel, you know, don't talk back. Grandma Steel 0:14:47.480 --> 0:14:51.840 washed his underwear, Grandma Steel cook his food. And that 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:57.880 was my grandma. Grandma would but she didn't stay with 0:14:57.960 --> 0:15:01.040 him no matter what. They stayed gather through it all. 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:05.760 But she did my granddaddy up. And and this is 0:15:05.760 --> 0:15:08.240 a part where I think it will get controversial because 0:15:08.600 --> 0:15:11.440 then this is my opinion. You know, I'm not the standard, 0:15:12.120 --> 0:15:15.920 but I feel like and us operated in our roles 0:15:15.960 --> 0:15:21.800 of who we were whatever. Genday, we identify with identified 0:15:21.800 --> 0:15:25.120 with being a female, so you know, operate in that role, 0:15:25.120 --> 0:15:27.760 and my husband is a male, he operates in that role. 0:15:28.440 --> 0:15:32.240 That really is harmony. You know, it's like trying to 0:15:33.760 --> 0:15:37.200 um soothe the beasts, you know, instead of he ra 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:41.200 ra and then I'm rah ray. It's like, are we 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:44.760 really trying to win, you know, individually or are we 0:15:44.840 --> 0:15:49.040 trying to win for the relationship. So it's like, honestly, 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:52.600 it's like being a bigger person. It's saying, okay, okay, okay, bro, 0:15:52.680 --> 0:15:55.920 you're mad right now, I'm not mad you're mad. But 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:59.440 it's also denying your triggers, you know, things that people 0:15:59.480 --> 0:16:02.080 say that could just get you turned up. And it's 0:16:02.120 --> 0:16:05.520 like really being selfless in that moment and just listening 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:08.240 and then taking a minute to respond and then just 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:10.400 seeing how that works. And I would say that has 0:16:10.440 --> 0:16:13.960 worked for me. It has worked for me. Like you know, 0:16:14.000 --> 0:16:16.040 even on the way back from talking to you, I 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:20.200 was met with a girl and so he was talking 0:16:20.240 --> 0:16:23.000 to me and talking to me about talking about the show, 0:16:23.120 --> 0:16:25.960 and you know, you invited me on and so you know, 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.360 he was excited about it. But then it went up 0:16:28.400 --> 0:16:30.800 to something personal between he and I, and I just 0:16:31.560 --> 0:16:34.080 I just had to sit there and listen. And then 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:38.160 afterwards he was like, thank you so much for just 0:16:38.240 --> 0:16:41.560 let me get it out. And it was like, you know, 0:16:41.640 --> 0:16:43.520 like I had to deal with some uncomfortable stuff. So 0:16:43.560 --> 0:16:46.280 the feelings did come later, but I appreciated that moment 0:16:46.320 --> 0:16:48.800 when it could have just turned up to ten because 0:16:48.840 --> 0:16:51.680 he was telling me how he felt versus me saying, yeah, 0:16:51.880 --> 0:16:55.160 that's how you feel. But um, what you did this 0:16:55.280 --> 0:16:57.960 to me too, you know, not really making a conversation 0:16:58.040 --> 0:17:01.040 more about me, but giving form to me in the 0:17:01.040 --> 0:17:05.760 black community, Um, this whole masculine feminine energy thing. A 0:17:05.800 --> 0:17:08.800 lot of times black women and black men we are 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:11.840 acting out of trauma responses to how we grew up 0:17:12.080 --> 0:17:15.600 and things we experienced as children. May maybe us, you know, 0:17:15.680 --> 0:17:18.040 growing up in a home with a mother which we 0:17:18.080 --> 0:17:20.240 would call a strong woman, right because she was able 0:17:20.240 --> 0:17:21.840 to raise the children that she made with a man 0:17:21.880 --> 0:17:24.120 who decided not to be there. But is that really 0:17:24.119 --> 0:17:26.600 a strong woman is just a woman you know, and 0:17:26.840 --> 0:17:29.719 a lot of women aren't even single parents. They're uh 0:17:30.760 --> 0:17:33.960 they are. Um, you have a you have a man. 0:17:34.080 --> 0:17:36.960 Maybe you guys aren't together, but you're not necessarily a 0:17:36.960 --> 0:17:42.240 single mom. You're just a mom that single. But um, 0:17:42.400 --> 0:17:48.920 I don't associate masculinity with aggression. To me, like, masculinity 0:17:49.000 --> 0:17:52.679 is more so like an active person, like somebody who's assertive. 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:55.679 And I think a man who knows who he is 0:17:55.880 --> 0:17:59.679 would have could appreciate a woman that's assertive, and you know, 0:17:59.760 --> 0:18:03.160 and and and when when a man is assertive, it's 0:18:03.200 --> 0:18:06.360 like boss energy, right. When a woman is assertive, it's 0:18:06.359 --> 0:18:11.040 the other b it's bitch energy, right. So that's why 0:18:11.080 --> 0:18:13.680 it kids kind of messy because I feel like when 0:18:13.720 --> 0:18:16.040 somebody reaches their higher self, it's going to be a 0:18:16.040 --> 0:18:19.440 person who has that masculine and feminine energy. And that's 0:18:19.440 --> 0:18:23.760 why children need that masculine and feminine Like I feel 0:18:23.760 --> 0:18:26.920 like women should be masculine and should have that feminine 0:18:27.000 --> 0:18:29.800 energy at the same time. And I wanted to read 0:18:29.800 --> 0:18:33.800 the definition of masculine energy, right, this is off should 0:18:33.840 --> 0:18:38.480 be masculine. We don't say masculine as in strong. We'll 0:18:38.480 --> 0:18:41.360 talk about yes. So let me this is why I'm 0:18:41.359 --> 0:18:46.000 about to read the definition of masculine energy right. Masculine 0:18:46.119 --> 0:18:50.320 energy is active and assertive. It knows where it's going 0:18:50.560 --> 0:18:54.760 and it takes action to get there. Masculinity does not receive, 0:18:54.880 --> 0:19:00.320 but rather it goes forth. Masculine energy influences it's environ men, 0:19:00.840 --> 0:19:04.560 not the other way around. Masculine energy is very clear 0:19:04.680 --> 0:19:07.360 and its intentions. So you have a lot of men 0:19:07.440 --> 0:19:11.320 like that won't They're not clearing their intentions. They don't 0:19:11.320 --> 0:19:14.920 know where they're going, you know what I'm saying. They 0:19:15.000 --> 0:19:19.800 aren't assertive, So would we associate them with feminine energy? 0:19:19.960 --> 0:19:22.920 I would say this, So that's not feminine energy because 0:19:22.920 --> 0:19:25.680 we know it's where we're going. If you said something 0:19:25.720 --> 0:19:29.639 that was like huge, and that's that's healing and therapy. 0:19:29.960 --> 0:19:32.720 That's not to say that we all gated rights. You 0:19:32.760 --> 0:19:37.240 know that we don't all bring years of trauma that 0:19:37.280 --> 0:19:41.200 we all have experienced related people, you know, from coming 0:19:41.200 --> 0:19:44.480 from broken homes, from homes with just single moms, like 0:19:44.600 --> 0:19:48.120 moms having to have that duality of male and female 0:19:48.320 --> 0:19:51.760 really really mostly male because like I grew up with 0:19:51.760 --> 0:19:54.840 a single parent for a short while. My mom was 0:19:54.880 --> 0:19:58.360 always angry, you know, like it's like do this, do 0:19:58.440 --> 0:20:00.399 that that. It was never no love of it was 0:20:00.440 --> 0:20:03.520 never feminine shown, it wasn't it wasn't that. Now, I 0:20:03.960 --> 0:20:07.640 think we can have masculine energy where were doing when 0:20:07.680 --> 0:20:10.960 we're handling business in the corporate center or whatever. But 0:20:11.040 --> 0:20:14.280 when it comes to our relationships, like we can we 0:20:14.359 --> 0:20:19.240 can be more softer to our significant others. But I 0:20:19.320 --> 0:20:22.520 just I just hate like associating masculinity with men and 0:20:22.720 --> 0:20:26.520 associating feminine energy with women because it's it's it's a 0:20:26.640 --> 0:20:28.639 it's an aura, and I believe that both of them 0:20:28.680 --> 0:20:31.520 are necessary for a person to reach their higher self. 0:20:32.119 --> 0:20:34.280 That's why, that's why I was telling Tam like Prince, 0:20:34.800 --> 0:20:38.240 eventually he stopped going by any names or any titles. 0:20:38.240 --> 0:20:42.240 He was just the symbol because he mastered his feminine energy. 0:20:42.320 --> 0:20:44.119 You can even look at Michael Jackson and how he 0:20:44.480 --> 0:20:48.000 Michael Jackson actually had a deep voice, but he spoke light. 0:20:48.480 --> 0:20:51.280 You know, he spoke light, and he kind of was 0:20:51.400 --> 0:20:55.879 childlike because even with a man who's masculine, he turns 0:20:55.920 --> 0:20:59.679 on that feminine energy for his children. So you know, 0:20:59.760 --> 0:21:02.040 some of them, some of them are just mean people. 0:21:02.040 --> 0:21:03.440 They're gonna be mean to you. They're gonna be meaning 0:21:03.440 --> 0:21:05.720 to the kids. But you have some men who could 0:21:05.720 --> 0:21:10.280 be naturally aggressive all day long, but something sparks that feminine. 0:21:10.359 --> 0:21:13.640 If we want to associate feminine with soft, A man 0:21:13.760 --> 0:21:16.119 can also have that feminine energy when it comes to 0:21:16.240 --> 0:21:19.199 something he really, really really loves to drink. Could be 0:21:19.200 --> 0:21:22.199 his child or his wife. So I really don't associate 0:21:22.280 --> 0:21:25.480 like the maskine. This is like a thing right now 0:21:25.560 --> 0:21:28.080 in the Black community, I think, and I think a 0:21:28.080 --> 0:21:30.800 lot of it has targeted towards Black women. But I 0:21:31.280 --> 0:21:34.879 definitely seeing myself where I can listen more right, but 0:21:35.119 --> 0:21:40.560 men can also listen more so is listening associated with femininity? 0:21:40.800 --> 0:21:43.280 I think, what what was happening right now? Like I said, 0:21:43.280 --> 0:21:45.920 for me personally, and then this is my opinion on 0:21:46.000 --> 0:21:50.040 what I see being portrayed in the community and on society. 0:21:50.320 --> 0:21:54.440 Is that for years, for years, whether you guys, I 0:21:54.480 --> 0:21:58.159 can't remember or agree or not, but we've always heard 0:21:58.240 --> 0:22:01.359 the rhetorate of a no good nigga like anna ship, 0:22:02.160 --> 0:22:05.760 you know, like I'm fine one okay, Now you need 0:22:05.880 --> 0:22:07.719 know when I say when I say to be king, 0:22:10.000 --> 0:22:16.920 you know, okay, And that's the big period. People all right, 0:22:17.680 --> 0:22:21.480 People aren't But it's like the world caters to a 0:22:21.560 --> 0:22:25.520 woman what it really does. And so it's like we 0:22:25.640 --> 0:22:28.840 take on all these myriads of like roles like we're 0:22:28.840 --> 0:22:31.800 a mom, we're your wife, we're a counselor we're a friend, 0:22:32.040 --> 0:22:34.919 we're a cousin with your sister, were your dick sucker 0:22:34.960 --> 0:22:38.520 in the park? You know we are. We wear a 0:22:38.520 --> 0:22:41.040 lot of heads and where I feel like men have 0:22:41.160 --> 0:22:44.479 more of a past to do whatever. That's how we 0:22:44.520 --> 0:22:47.680 portrayed them, not saying that's true, but because we wear 0:22:47.800 --> 0:22:50.560 my hats, we're like, oh, if you know I do 0:22:50.640 --> 0:22:53.000 all this, so you need to respect me everything I won't. 0:22:53.000 --> 0:22:54.840 I need to get it. And if you ain't doing that, 0:22:55.000 --> 0:22:57.280 then it's like you fall into the stereotype of being 0:22:58.440 --> 0:23:01.359 nothing else news and it's not. It's saying like, if 0:23:01.400 --> 0:23:05.280 the relationship is not working, how feminine energy can work 0:23:05.440 --> 0:23:08.639 is to examine. Okay, we no way, we know, we 0:23:08.680 --> 0:23:13.000 already know what bird did. We know? Okay, we're sorry, 0:23:13.080 --> 0:23:16.560 but how can you be better? Our relationship can go 0:23:16.640 --> 0:23:18.920 wrong in so different ways, but it's only two people 0:23:18.960 --> 0:23:21.840 in it. So it's like, don't look at what he's 0:23:21.880 --> 0:23:24.199 done and even all his trauma, what brings what he 0:23:24.240 --> 0:23:27.560 brings to the table for yourself singularly, how can I 0:23:27.600 --> 0:23:31.440 be better as a feminine woman in relationships because even 0:23:31.480 --> 0:23:33.280 like on your job, if you have to deal with 0:23:33.560 --> 0:23:36.040 a guy, me personally, I used to have the worst 0:23:36.480 --> 0:23:39.119 relationships that work because hell no, you're not going to 0:23:39.160 --> 0:23:43.160 tell me what to do, like I know, period, Yes, 0:23:43.240 --> 0:23:45.680 my drop my boss all day and I used to 0:23:45.760 --> 0:23:49.840