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Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion to

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Speaker 1: talk back. Hey, welcome to a new episode of We

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Speaker 1: Talk Back as your girl a j holiday. Hey, and

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Speaker 1: it's tim Am. I love you, and hey everybody, what's up.

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Speaker 1: My name is Misha and I am a business owner.

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Speaker 1: I am retired veteran from the Air Force. Thank you,

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Speaker 1: thank you for your support. I'm a wife of a

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Speaker 1: three years, a mom of two. Um full town batty,

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Speaker 1: part town government contract there, all right, I know that's

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Speaker 1: the right period. We need to talk, girl. What you

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Speaker 1: doing the type of government contract? And we're business? Maybe

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Speaker 1: I pushed papers this administration. That's it, Okay, we need

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Speaker 1: to talk. Thank you. I have a commercial furniture installation company.

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Speaker 1: We definitely need to talk. Look at the networker happen? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: excellent it. So last week I did an episode of

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Speaker 1: Brilliant Idiots. I went to New York. It was a

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Speaker 1: good time. Y'all check it out. But I got so

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Speaker 1: many dick pics in my d M. What's wrong with me?

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Speaker 1: You were stick though? Yeah, but that don't mean I

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Speaker 1: mean no, no, no, that's not appropriate. But still you

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Speaker 1: were stickt it girl. I still haven't showed my husband.

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Speaker 1: Yet I'm like, wait, I mean, you know, I ain't

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Speaker 1: like it, like it, but dog women do not like

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Speaker 1: unsolicited cock shots. Stop that ship, y'all. Nigg is a

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Speaker 1: hell aware though. I'm just always thinking like what you what? What?

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Speaker 1: What do you think the response is going to be like,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, I can't wait to see that. I

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Speaker 1: don't want to be I want to show you something,

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Speaker 1: but I don't want to be inappropriate. And then it

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Speaker 1: was a dick, Oh my god, they're inappropriate. I was

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Speaker 1: eating my bacon. It was breakfast. I got the side

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Speaker 1: of dick with my baker. I did not ask for that.

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Speaker 1: What don't you like? Yes? And I'm trying to understand

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Speaker 1: why the fund do y'all think that sexual harassment only

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Speaker 1: happens on the job site, Like I could literally call

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Speaker 1: the police and file a claim against your ass because

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Speaker 1: you're sexually harassing me via Instagram? The fuck do you

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Speaker 1: think about sexual harassment when you get yeah, that's sexual harassment.

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Speaker 1: I was trying to have breakfast. I don't want that

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Speaker 1: disturbing my soul. Were they big though? What do you

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Speaker 1: look like? That was? That was? It was kind of

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Speaker 1: pretty eating with big Dick's blood to show you right right,

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Speaker 1: maybe the first ones to pull it out. Maybe he

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Speaker 1: had the cock shots on the man girl. Maybe you

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Speaker 1: just having ready, like let me send me a cot

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Speaker 1: just have a nice one ready, ready in the camera, ready,

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Speaker 1: and I'd be like, nah, send me a new one.

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Speaker 1: What happened on Earth this week? What happened Earth is

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Speaker 1: good him? It is well, we know the mob cancel culture.

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Speaker 1: They're trying to cancel a baby. The baby. Now for

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Speaker 1: the comments that he made last week while performing what

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Speaker 1: was the festival? It was Rolling Loud, Yeah, the Rolling

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Speaker 1: Loud Festival. My take on it. I guess everybody should

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Speaker 1: have seen what he said, right y'all saw the videos

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Speaker 1: and all that ship. My favorite part was when somebody

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Speaker 1: throw that fucking shoe bitch. I don't know who did

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Speaker 1: it better, him or George Bush, but I feel like

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Speaker 1: the baby is a street dude, but he just like

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Speaker 1: a college guy to like college could be trying him,

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Speaker 1: you know, street but still educated. I don't think he

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Speaker 1: went to college. And what he said was not educated

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Speaker 1: because it was just unnecessary, like it had nothing to

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Speaker 1: about is because you know, prior to talking about gay.

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Speaker 1: He started talking about HIV. Shout out to anybody who

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Speaker 1: in here who don't have HIV. You got a million

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Speaker 1: people at a at a big, big as festival, and

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Speaker 1: exactly what's the percentage of you know, they say one

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Speaker 1: at least I'll say eight percent ten percent of the

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Speaker 1: people at that type of event that us and that size. Hey,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what it was in Miami. Okay, girl, girl,

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure. All I know is like when I

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Speaker 1: like this mid choke. I was offended. Okay, I'm all right.

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Speaker 1: So so here's why people I've said, and some may

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Speaker 1: just stating this thing. The thing is is that baby

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Speaker 1: doesn't have the the baby excuse me, doesn't have the

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Speaker 1: intellect even get himself out of this ship. Really, what

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Speaker 1: you need to be doing and shutting the funk up

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Speaker 1: and stop responding stop trying to troll the trolls. Like usually,

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Speaker 1: cancel culture only last about three weeks. So if he

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Speaker 1: would just lay low, he wouldn't be losing all of

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Speaker 1: his um endorsements or whatever he has now and he

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Speaker 1: new shows he was supposed to do he's being canceled

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Speaker 1: for because of Yes, now you know you can't talk

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Speaker 1: about l g B t Q plus community. You can

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Speaker 1: say nigga, you can say holes, bitch whatever. Cracker ed

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Speaker 1: it back in blood shooting your mama, you can say

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Speaker 1: all that ship, but we already know you can't talk

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Speaker 1: about that community. And there's a second community I definitely

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Speaker 1: don't want to talk to you about because yeah, they're

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Speaker 1: probably run this ship. Don't say nothing that's gonna get

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Speaker 1: us called in the office. A god. That's why I'm

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Speaker 1: just looking at can you please turn your bag? And

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Speaker 1: then you work for the government. I just got my

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Speaker 1: security clearance three approved, so I'm like, hey, the next

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Speaker 1: time you go to get approve, they're gonna be like,

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Speaker 1: did you do a podcast with these two ratchets on?

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Speaker 1: We're talking back, I don't know, was sucking dick in

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Speaker 1: the parking lot. We just need your badge and are

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Speaker 1: you sure. Wait what I feel like what baby said

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Speaker 1: was a failed attempt to celebrate hetero sexuality. You know,

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Speaker 1: I really don't feel like he eights gave people. I mean,

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Speaker 1: a noise or something, right, instead of saying, celebrate, you know,

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Speaker 1: celebrating in a way that excluded people, don't exclude anybody.

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Speaker 1: That's the problem. And look, and he was hating on

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Speaker 1: bitches who might have just had a bad day and

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Speaker 1: I know it was a lot of stink coochies out there.

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Speaker 1: Let me spend y'all so much and then let me perform,

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Speaker 1: and then also exactly and then inher is my thing. Men,

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Speaker 1: If y'all don't know, y'all be the cause of stink pussy,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry me personally exactly Personally, I don't like sperming

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Speaker 1: the intimacy of it all. But I want you all

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Speaker 1: don't pussy shame her. You've made her couchie steak. Now

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Speaker 1: you're talking about like that your soldiers came and marched

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Speaker 1: not natural for you to always be having YaST affection.

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Speaker 1: But if you find yourself with east affection, a natural

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Speaker 1: remedy for east affection this off topic. You take a

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Speaker 1: But the next morning, no east affection. This is a

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Speaker 1: So we finished with the baby bit. You ask, but Ji,

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Speaker 1: just disappointed in his choices. I hate cancel culture because

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Speaker 1: nobody's perfect, and I don't want to be canceled because

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Speaker 1: of a mistake. I hate your opinion, like your opinion

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Speaker 1: is okay, what do you say what your opinion is?

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Speaker 1: Because but okay, we don't all have to agree. You

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Speaker 1: And so I'm like, I don't want to be again.

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Speaker 1: So it wasn't just that easy either, guys. It wasn't

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Speaker 1: like sellular level, we get it. But it's it's always

424
00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:03,879
Speaker 1: like be strong, be independent, you know, bring yourself to

425
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:07,520
Speaker 1: the table. You're Linney Littney of degrees and all this stuff.

426
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:10,720
Speaker 1: But it's like a man really don't care about all that.

427
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 1: Men let me tell you see, oh boy, this is

428
00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:18,200
Speaker 1: all the bullshit that's going on the black community right now.

429
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:23,880
Speaker 1: Black American men don't care about it. That African mama

430
00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:25,920
Speaker 1: care about your background and who your family is and

431
00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:29,800
Speaker 1: what type of education you have. That Asian mama mama,

432
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 1: not son. I understand that, but I'm saying the families

433
00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:37,119
Speaker 1: other people in an African family, that son he cares

434
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:38,800
Speaker 1: about those things because he has to take you home

435
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:41,120
Speaker 1: to his parents. You see what I'm saying. It's only

436
00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:43,520
Speaker 1: in a black community where you have men saying that

437
00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:45,639
Speaker 1: they don't care about our degrees and all that stuff.

438
00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:48,320
Speaker 1: That's because they're not acquiring them at the rate that

439
00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:50,919
Speaker 1: that black women are, so they're they're using that to

440
00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 1: make it like a bad thing on our end. Like

441
00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:55,879
Speaker 1: I don't feel like women are leading with degrees and

442
00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:57,440
Speaker 1: I don't need a nig in all this ship because

443
00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,800
Speaker 1: I feel like if you're a woman, if you're if

444
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 1: you're a woman and you have never experienced a good man,

445
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:05,720
Speaker 1: chances are you ain't ship because there's a lot of

446
00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:08,359
Speaker 1: good men out here. You probably passed them up, you know,

447
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:11,360
Speaker 1: for the nigga you gotta chase. That's what we do.

448
00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:13,920
Speaker 1: You pass some the niggas that want you for the

449
00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:20,200
Speaker 1: nigga you want. So try like nigga like you, it

450
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:25,439
Speaker 1: would be so hard. Like so let's go back to

451
00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:28,560
Speaker 1: trauma responses. So in the black community, we all we

452
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:30,800
Speaker 1: have black mama's daddy not in the home. So your

453
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:32,760
Speaker 1: mom best thing is and even with her what I

454
00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:35,640
Speaker 1: heard saying, right, you see how she had to struggle

455
00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:37,679
Speaker 1: and things like that. So in your mind is like,

456
00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:39,800
Speaker 1: let me get this because this nigga could leave whenever

457
00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 1: he feels like it. Let me make sure I'm straight,

458
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:43,920
Speaker 1: because he can leave whenever he feels like And that's

459
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:46,560
Speaker 1: what they kind of instilled in us. Even even if

460
00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:48,960
Speaker 1: you have a mom that didn't actually say that you

461
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:52,000
Speaker 1: saw what happened to her. So because that that now

462
00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:54,320
Speaker 1: trauma responses for you to make sure you got your

463
00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 1: ship in the cut, just in case he decides to

464
00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:00,679
Speaker 1: leave you, or just in case you running a man

465
00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:02,720
Speaker 1: that's not willing to take care of you. What you

466
00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 1: bring to the table and all this bullshit. Nobody's asking

467
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:08,639
Speaker 1: any other women, any other ethnicities what they bring to

468
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 1: the table. It's only black men in America asking a

469
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:15,240
Speaker 1: back black women what we bring to the table, like

470
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:16,920
Speaker 1: you know. So then black women are like, I bring

471
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,879
Speaker 1: the whole table, like you know, the attitude, the money,

472
00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:22,280
Speaker 1: the degree, all this ship. And the man's like, I

473
00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:24,520
Speaker 1: don't care nothing about that. You got basic bum ass

474
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:26,960
Speaker 1: niggas who's saying they don't care about it. Nigga, you need,

475
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:29,119
Speaker 1: you need helping your child support, So you do care

476
00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:32,880
Speaker 1: about how much I make? And I think because I think,

477
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:35,199
Speaker 1: And it's like, and this is another thing too, that

478
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:38,040
Speaker 1: I always not always, but I have said this before,

479
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 1: but realizing it against you. It's accepting what people say

480
00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 1: for what it is. You know, if you say it

481
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 1: might be. But like let's say me and you're right,

482
00:27:48,359 --> 00:27:51,359
Speaker 1: we're in a relationship, but we're friends and you're like,

483
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:53,680
Speaker 1: you know my share when you did this and made

484
00:27:53,680 --> 00:27:56,880
Speaker 1: me feel some kind of way. If you care about me,

485
00:27:57,280 --> 00:27:59,760
Speaker 1: you will accept what I say instead of saying, okay,

486
00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:02,399
Speaker 1: yeah that's true, but it's some bis because that is

487
00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:06,439
Speaker 1: hurtful too. And I also feel like that's not us

488
00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:09,760
Speaker 1: being soft and loving and caring and don't mean we're

489
00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 1: weak because we've got nothing to prove to nobody. You know,

490
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:17,080
Speaker 1: I'm not fighting anybody. I'm gonna shoot you, period. This

491
00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:19,960
Speaker 1: is what it is. I'm not fighting. No, I'm not

492
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:24,160
Speaker 1: gonna do that, you know. But but I'm just saying

493
00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:27,880
Speaker 1: I don't want to shoot people. I don't. But I'm

494
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:30,239
Speaker 1: just saying when it when it comes to like like

495
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:33,720
Speaker 1: why would you gauge being tough right just to say,

496
00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:35,840
Speaker 1: oh I can whoop you or I can like cut

497
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 1: you out better. You know what I'm saying, Like it's

498
00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 1: a tough factors, Like if I don't act like this

499
00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:45,440
Speaker 1: with him, I'm weak or you know, I ain't strong enough.

500
00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 1: Or if he don't act like this, he ain't he

501
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:49,760
Speaker 1: ain't strong. So now you've got niggas I hate killing

502
00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 1: at each other because how tough can you be? You know?

503
00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 1: And they only can want to be tough to get us.

504
00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:57,720
Speaker 1: So it's like I was telling to him, it's like

505
00:28:57,800 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 1: dating a pretty nigga, you know, like we were so tough.

506
00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:04,400
Speaker 1: We really are, and it's okay to acknowledge that we

507
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:08,320
Speaker 1: are very tough, but it's also okay to examine, like

508
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:10,600
Speaker 1: do we have to be I don't know we have

509
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:13,200
Speaker 1: to be. I don't want to be tough, but these

510
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:17,120
Speaker 1: niggas will run over you sometimes if you don't. So

511
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:18,840
Speaker 1: you just have to know who you're with. That's why

512
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 1: partner selection is so important. You know what I'm saying.

513
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 1: You don't want to be that submissive push over to

514
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 1: just like this guy who the world doesn't respect, and

515
00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 1: then he he gets to come home to you and

516
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:32,560
Speaker 1: just control you because you're the only constant thing that

517
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:35,480
Speaker 1: he can control. So she gotta be real, real careful.

518
00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:38,200
Speaker 1: So it just has to be balanced, because women are

519
00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:41,800
Speaker 1: You can set yourself up for some botion mhm, and

520
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 1: lots of healing and lots of grace too, Like we

521
00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:50,000
Speaker 1: definitely have been traumatized and taught some things that we

522
00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:53,520
Speaker 1: can honestly say instant it wasn't really bad, but it

523
00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:56,480
Speaker 1: was an all the way productive for relationships either, Like

524
00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:58,680
Speaker 1: we were taught how to be single and how to

525
00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:03,160
Speaker 1: like date basically and that. And the thing is is

526
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 1: that women give men access to sex, right, the men

527
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:09,320
Speaker 1: give us access to relationships and marriage because we already

528
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:11,560
Speaker 1: know that before you get that pussy up, you running

529
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:13,880
Speaker 1: all ship. As soon as you get that pussy up,

530
00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 1: now you're chasing him, and like what you what we're doing?

531
00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:20,240
Speaker 1: Like all this you had all that control beforehand. That's

532
00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:22,800
Speaker 1: why you put them expectations on the table first for

533
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:26,760
Speaker 1: busting that pussy over for real exactly. And you gotta

534
00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 1: have those conversations, man, because that's your treasure, like it

535
00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:33,880
Speaker 1: really is. And the reality is and and yeah, I

536
00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:36,160
Speaker 1: might you know, this might go crazy. I hope it don't.

537
00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 1: But you got women like who are older who have

538
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:42,640
Speaker 1: had kids, and you can tell they've had sex because

539
00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 1: they have children. But thene it's like, you know, it's

540
00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:49,240
Speaker 1: okay to put it on the pedestal. It's okay to

541
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:51,200
Speaker 1: still put on the pedestal, but it's like, what are

542
00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 1: you also bringing to the relationship because I can smam

543
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 1: shiny like everybody got everybody got a penis. So it's

544
00:30:57,120 --> 00:31:00,160
Speaker 1: like what makes you set apart? And it's like and

545
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:02,240
Speaker 1: and this's what me and Tom got into this weekend.

546
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 1: I ain't know do I can't speak for me. But

547
00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:08,160
Speaker 1: when when you know everything's saying everything going to get

548
00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:10,760
Speaker 1: in the relationship, you're selling the honeymoon phase. And then

549
00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:14,720
Speaker 1: something happened, you get triggered, you know, you don't answer

550
00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:18,240
Speaker 1: or whatever, and then you start losing your ship. You understand,

551
00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:21,600
Speaker 1: and then it's like, now you have turned turned into

552
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:23,640
Speaker 1: another person. You're not. Now you're strong, you're trying to

553
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:26,680
Speaker 1: put a defense mechanism up and you and that's the

554
00:31:26,840 --> 00:31:29,400
Speaker 1: that's what you're speaking too earlier about healing, like healing

555
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 1: those traumas so you can give somebody your best self

556
00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:35,040
Speaker 1: and stay in that honeymoon phase, because that's how all

557
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 1: a person gets when they like cheat or you know,

558
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:41,000
Speaker 1: find somebody else's that newness. Oh she's nice to me.

559
00:31:41,360 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 1: You know, she don't fuss at me when I don't

560
00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:45,479
Speaker 1: do this. And you know, as soon as the one

561
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:49,640
Speaker 1: he started checking that crazy, he'll go to thirstback he

562
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 1: coming home. Is like, being in love is just a

563
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 1: state of mind. It's nothing more, nothing less. It's a

564
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:58,280
Speaker 1: state of mind, fall in and out. So when you're

565
00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:02,120
Speaker 1: with some my state of insanity. Girl, when you wear somebody,

566
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:05,720
Speaker 1: y'all have to do things every single day to continuously

567
00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:08,280
Speaker 1: fall in love with each other every day because if

568
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:11,120
Speaker 1: you're not falling in love, you're falling out of love,

569
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:15,360
Speaker 1: you know, so you'll arguing and all this bullshit. Is like,

570
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:18,280
Speaker 1: you know, I love no more. It's easy to fall

571
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 1: out of love. Maybe I'm just in a dark place

572
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:25,240
Speaker 1: because I don't believe in being in love forever with nobody.

573
00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 1: That's what. That's what I'm saying. It's easy to fall

574
00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 1: out of love. So you have to make sure you're

575
00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:32,240
Speaker 1: the two people really really want to be together. Every

576
00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 1: day has to be loving, Like, yeah, y'all gonna have

577
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 1: like bumps in the road, but this has to be

578
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 1: the person that you're willing to put up with bullshit

579
00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:41,560
Speaker 1: from forever. That's just it. Because everybody is different and

580
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 1: everybody come with their ship, right, Yeah, that that has

581
00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:48,320
Speaker 1: to be the person that you are willing to deal with.

582
00:32:48,400 --> 00:32:53,360
Speaker 1: They bullshit for ever and when you know, yeah and

583
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:56,840
Speaker 1: we no longer, relationship is over. I find it hard

584
00:32:56,840 --> 00:33:01,120
Speaker 1: to pick one that well because you're probably not getting

585
00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 1: everything you need and that one person you know, but

586
00:33:03,920 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 1: you're not gonna get everything you need and nobody. But

587
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:08,880
Speaker 1: if you know that, then what are we What are

588
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:10,920
Speaker 1: you saying if you know that you can't get everything

589
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 1: from you need out of one person, So get to

590
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:17,400
Speaker 1: if that's what you choose to do and you're being

591
00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:20,480
Speaker 1: honest with people, Yeah, get too, should get three money man,

592
00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 1: dick man ship lanmore man. I don't know nigga who

593
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:32,800
Speaker 1: can fixtion in the house? Who listened to my feelings? Look,

594
00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:37,120
Speaker 1: Tammy is uh dwelling and her masculine energy if we

595
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:40,840
Speaker 1: want to associate if we want to associate masculine energy

596
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:46,800
Speaker 1: with with promiscuity. Bitch, I didn't say I was fucking

597
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:49,360
Speaker 1: all of them. I heard a ladieship. I had a

598
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 1: lady on Instagram. I'm sure y'are not saying this lady.

599
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 1: She was snapping, she was gone all the way off,

600
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:58,760
Speaker 1: but she was like y'all bitches won't oh y'all. Man

601
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 1: to be single, I mean, just be with y'all. But

602
00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 1: what if he come home and sake. He wanted to

603
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,719
Speaker 1: have sakes from the standalia and he wanted to do

604
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:08,719
Speaker 1: this right, you got tim so I found like she

605
00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:12,279
Speaker 1: was promoting Poligaby. You know, they're yeah, probably you know,

606
00:34:12,400 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 1: do whatever works for you. But that's like you said,

607
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 1: aj is having that conversation and you know what you

608
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:21,560
Speaker 1: want and what you can handle, you know, Like I

609
00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:23,759
Speaker 1: saw a video like that, and she's basically like, do

610
00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:25,680
Speaker 1: you have time to be all the things that all

611
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:28,239
Speaker 1: the other women was? Could you be the one woman

612
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 1: who provides all that ship? But why why? And a

613
00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 1: man doesn't require a man. When a man doesn't like

614
00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:40,239
Speaker 1: thirst for pussy like that, that's when he's reaching out

615
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:43,800
Speaker 1: itself when sex isn't driving him anymore. Like ice Cube

616
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:46,160
Speaker 1: said him and his wife they have been married for

617
00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:49,000
Speaker 1: twenty five plus years, right, and he said he's not

618
00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:52,759
Speaker 1: overly sexual, Like he's not overly like like men who

619
00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:54,719
Speaker 1: just go out to get some new pussy all the time,

620
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 1: like it just takes a while for them to get

621
00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:58,960
Speaker 1: to the place where they can turn down some pussy.

622
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:03,479
Speaker 1: Is also a man hasn't arrived, but he but yeah,

623
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:05,799
Speaker 1: but he's saying that's how he's been able to keep

624
00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:08,560
Speaker 1: his marriages because he wasn't not here chasing other bitches,

625
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like, it's just like that

626
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:14,319
Speaker 1: speaks to something else too, though, like something that can

627
00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:17,760
Speaker 1: be handled in therapy, honestly, because what are you looking

628
00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 1: for even with women? What are you looking for when

629
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:22,399
Speaker 1: you're just going out there just having sex with all

630
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:26,040
Speaker 1: open through women, are you trying to like they're boosting

631
00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:27,799
Speaker 1: their ego up? That's all it is. But once you

632
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:30,400
Speaker 1: once you relinquished some of that ego, because ego, a

633
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 1: healthy ego is a good thing, right, But once you

634
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 1: relinquish some of that ego, you could turn down pussy

635
00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:38,040
Speaker 1: and like you can really get to the bag. All

636
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:40,839
Speaker 1: types of things can just start happening. Like, man, once

637
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:42,920
Speaker 1: you start making your wife happier to the person you with,

638
00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:46,320
Speaker 1: like your fucking life just elevates. I've seen it happen

639
00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:49,040
Speaker 1: when they can start doing their wife, right, I've seen

640
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:53,680
Speaker 1: it happen. I agree. I'm here to tell the story.

641
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 1: And then you know another thing is like I cannot

642
00:35:57,080 --> 00:36:01,440
Speaker 1: stand like the strong Black woman title, I think black

643
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:03,840
Speaker 1: women are the only people who have that self proclaimed

644
00:36:03,880 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 1: strong black woman. I had seen this video one time

645
00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 1: on YouTube and a lot of people was pissed about that.

646
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:13,280
Speaker 1: It was an Indian. No, it was an Indian Indian

647
00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:16,279
Speaker 1: man and he was saying, how black women we like

648
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:18,840
Speaker 1: the only women that have children for a bunch of

649
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:22,080
Speaker 1: different men then struggle to take care of their children.

650
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 1: And then when they are able to take care of

651
00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:27,840
Speaker 1: the children, then they are self proclaimed strong woman because

652
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:31,400
Speaker 1: you struggled with children. Like that should really had me

653
00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:34,080
Speaker 1: feeling away. But at the same way, like that shoud

654
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:38,799
Speaker 1: is really real because other other groups of people just

655
00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:41,400
Speaker 1: don't be out here like people be having a lot

656
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:44,160
Speaker 1: of people just it just depends, right, So people do

657
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:46,719
Speaker 1: be out here fucking having kids just like Black people do, right,

658
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 1: but the family structure structure is a little bit different.

659
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:52,920
Speaker 1: Like the family is gonna come together to take care

660
00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:55,440
Speaker 1: to kids. Child could go off and go to school

661
00:36:55,480 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 1: just and a third or whatever it may be. But

662
00:36:59,280 --> 00:37:02,000
Speaker 1: you're just a woman, and you know what, a super

663
00:37:02,040 --> 00:37:07,680
Speaker 1: strong black woman. That's what we are. There's a lot

664
00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 1: of weak bitches out here, you hear me, There's a

665
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:12,480
Speaker 1: lot of bitches, But Black women are the strongest creatures

666
00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:19,719
Speaker 1: on earth. I believe it. We mothered this entire earth. Okay,

667
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:27,360
Speaker 1: this whole earth came from us. Just let die, no bitch,

668
00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:33,360
Speaker 1: I do not. I just feel like, man, it's the cycle.

669
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 1: It is a vicious cycle for us. And I think

670
00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:40,760
Speaker 1: if we could get that aspect right, we could really

671
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:44,000
Speaker 1: really win as black and black women and black man

672
00:37:45,160 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 1: because like, like, okay, we brought up China this weekend, right,

673
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:52,560
Speaker 1: Tammy and Tammy talking about the suicide rates of women

674
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 1: because the Chinese women are more submissive, they aligned in

675
00:37:56,800 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 1: their families energy more. I was like, yeah, and they

676
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 1: also commit suicide more than anybody else too. But look

677
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:05,560
Speaker 1: at their country though, look how much wealth they have.

678
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:09,759
Speaker 1: Like people stick together and listen. I'm not saying that

679
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 1: you should stay in a relationship that's not healthy. But

680
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:16,200
Speaker 1: Black people will leave. We're leavers, will not stay that

681
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:22,600
Speaker 1: bread get their head and I'm definitely a lever and

682
00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 1: take a while though, but I'm deaf. I will leave

683
00:38:25,840 --> 00:38:28,239
Speaker 1: right but you know that. So because you know that,

684
00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:31,400
Speaker 1: then you will. But it's like finding the ways to

685
00:38:31,480 --> 00:38:33,520
Speaker 1: work it out and decide I'm gonna stay with you.

686
00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:37,839
Speaker 1: I'm gonna stake this out through thinking thing like that's

687
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:39,880
Speaker 1: the thing. I never leave these niggas be leaving me,

688
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:43,280
Speaker 1: but they come back once they find out the grass greener.

689
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:47,240
Speaker 1: They always try to come back, and then they can't

690
00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:51,360
Speaker 1: because they'd be damaged. Man, it's a lot of damage.

691
00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:55,560
Speaker 1: I think I've never dumped the nigger. I've never dumped.

692
00:38:55,800 --> 00:38:58,040
Speaker 1: I've stayed through the bullshit, and then I always get

693
00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:00,760
Speaker 1: dumped and then they come back like I made a mistake.

694
00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:05,120
Speaker 1: You sure the funk did? Because after that, I won't

695
00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:07,480
Speaker 1: come back. I'll fight for you. And I'd be like,

696
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:13,000
Speaker 1: all right, if you sure you did, I'd be dramatical. Mother,

697
00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:18,720
Speaker 1: I'd be so dramatic. I mean, poll you haul truck.

698
00:39:18,760 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 1: I packed that bitch by my fucking self. Dramatic, bitch,

699
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 1: I'm out. You gotta be a stayer like okay, So

700
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:28,719
Speaker 1: have you ever seen this video? And it's really profound

701
00:39:28,760 --> 00:39:30,920
Speaker 1: to like kids and it was just white guy. I

702
00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 1: think he might have been a pastor or something, but

703
00:39:33,560 --> 00:39:37,319
Speaker 1: he had a whole diverse soccer fieller kids, right, it was,

704
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:39,359
Speaker 1: but it was predominant. It was more white kids there

705
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:42,759
Speaker 1: and it was um some black kids as well. So

706
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:45,439
Speaker 1: the concept was they stid on one single line all

707
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 1: at like to say, the gold line, and he was like,

708
00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:51,520
Speaker 1: step forward type of things. So step forward, if you

709
00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:55,160
Speaker 1: have a cell phone, you know, okay, step forward, if

710
00:39:55,560 --> 00:40:00,399
Speaker 1: both your parents are together, step forward. Everything that really

711
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:03,520
Speaker 1: applies to a more the white community. And so you've

712
00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 1: got these kids. They took the fund the line. They're

713
00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:07,480
Speaker 1: laughing it, you know, they ha ha ha. And then

714
00:40:07,520 --> 00:40:09,760
Speaker 1: you look back this black kids still let the goal line.

715
00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 1: Who hasn't left, And it's like, we will get together

716
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:17,319
Speaker 1: and procreate, we'll have sex, and we'll have children, which

717
00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:20,160
Speaker 1: is really the outcome of six And then we're leaving

718
00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:22,440
Speaker 1: these kids on the goal line because we can't get

719
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 1: it right, because we are traumatized, we can't communicate, we're fighting.

720
00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 1: You know, nobody wants to admit to their own wrong

721
00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:32,399
Speaker 1: and see awareness, set their own stuff. And we're leaving

722
00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:34,760
Speaker 1: our kids at the goal line, guys. And that's really

723
00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:38,799
Speaker 1: the biggest issue. So people talk about all the time,

724
00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:40,800
Speaker 1: like how can we fix the things in the black community,

725
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:43,120
Speaker 1: And I do believe that one of the big fixes

726
00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:47,200
Speaker 1: is black family and marriage. Like two people too, healthy

727
00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:51,839
Speaker 1: healed people get together and produce healthy, healed children or

728
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:53,840
Speaker 1: just children that don't even have to heal. So people

729
00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:57,160
Speaker 1: always talk about like generational curses. Nah, it has to

730
00:40:57,160 --> 00:41:00,480
Speaker 1: be generational blessings going forward in the black The only

731
00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:03,319
Speaker 1: way that starts and starts with the man and the

732
00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:07,120
Speaker 1: woman healed people creating children, because we all know there's

733
00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:10,360
Speaker 1: black people and there's then there's niggas, right, and niggas

734
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 1: pro create way quicker than black people. Listen, I disagree

735
00:41:18,840 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 1: because a black person and so that's a hybrid. All right,

736
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:27,040
Speaker 1: we could be high because you know, I like her.

737
00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:29,279
Speaker 1: Niggas who made it. I like hybrids, you know what

738
00:41:29,280 --> 00:41:30,960
Speaker 1: I'm saying. But you know what I'm saying, like people

739
00:41:30,960 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 1: who got the time to make kids like black people,

740
00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:35,839
Speaker 1: we at least try to set stuff up a little bit.

741
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:39,279
Speaker 1: You know what, have we ever seen at work that's

742
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:42,439
Speaker 1: like ideals that is not even real to us? But

743
00:41:42,800 --> 00:41:45,879
Speaker 1: you can do everything. Man still end a single mom,

744
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:48,399
Speaker 1: But you can be a mom that's single. You don't

745
00:41:48,400 --> 00:41:49,920
Speaker 1: have to be a single mom. You can pick a

746
00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:54,080
Speaker 1: man that you know, we'll raise your children, whether y'all

747
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:57,279
Speaker 1: are together or not. Cept that's where partners selection comes in.

748
00:41:57,560 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 1: You want to get pregnant by the nigga who already

749
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:03,280
Speaker 1: got to kids that he isn't taking. That's your responsibility.

750
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:05,919
Speaker 1: You mismanaged your pussy. That is not that man's fault.

751
00:42:05,960 --> 00:42:09,320
Speaker 1: It's your fault. That's true. And sometimes we run then off.

752
00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:16,800
Speaker 1: We run them off, man, And that's it's a hard right.

753
00:42:17,080 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 1: You just gotta be just you gotta get your life together.

754
00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:23,600
Speaker 1: We have to its us. It's us taking it for

755
00:42:23,680 --> 00:42:26,640
Speaker 1: the team. Man. And I have two daughters and leave

756
00:42:26,719 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 1: them with my kids, they pop off and they'd be

757
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:30,960
Speaker 1: like like me and then it turning like my mama,

758
00:42:31,080 --> 00:42:34,399
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh no. So black women, we could

759
00:42:34,440 --> 00:42:37,560
Speaker 1: try to be a little bit more feminine, but feminine

760
00:42:37,640 --> 00:42:42,200
Speaker 1: to me, not push over. It's not. But you you

761
00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:47,799
Speaker 1: could be you can still just miss somebody femininely. And

762
00:42:47,840 --> 00:42:50,160
Speaker 1: if you and if you and if you say you can't,

763
00:42:50,239 --> 00:42:53,279
Speaker 1: that's now you're making a choice to not because you're

764
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:56,520
Speaker 1: not being your feelings right. And then also if you

765
00:42:56,600 --> 00:42:59,359
Speaker 1: have to argue, you don't have to argue. You could

766
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:03,759
Speaker 1: just improve of your arguments. Right. But so with this,

767
00:43:03,800 --> 00:43:06,319
Speaker 1: all right, let's talk about women in hip hop. So

768
00:43:06,440 --> 00:43:10,840
Speaker 1: a lot of this rap music is masculine, innerne mast

769
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 1: and we got girls like A J sent me this

770
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:16,120
Speaker 1: video over the weekend and it was girls like your

771
00:43:16,200 --> 00:43:19,239
Speaker 1: niggas ain't no but some little holes to buzzed over.

772
00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:23,680
Speaker 1: Get the debrisa my ass for folks, My ass wide

773
00:43:23,680 --> 00:43:27,880
Speaker 1: open and eat the Debriata for phone. About that nigga

774
00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:30,560
Speaker 1: three five and he shirked me up right quick. Come on, yeah,

775
00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 1: we talked about y'all like that too. Y'all giving up

776
00:43:33,560 --> 00:43:37,160
Speaker 1: sloping topy four three five? Come on, man, y'all niggs,

777
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:39,000
Speaker 1: I always want to talk sheet about but y'all needs

778
00:43:39,000 --> 00:43:41,800
Speaker 1: out here. Eat a fossils as all. You're easy and

779
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:44,439
Speaker 1: for the funk, my little bit niggas out he eat

780
00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:48,000
Speaker 1: as sucking man. Put a little extra twitterdolls on it,

781
00:43:48,200 --> 00:43:51,040
Speaker 1: a little sprinkle, nigga, open your head cheeks and licked

782
00:43:51,080 --> 00:43:57,640
Speaker 1: the debris. That motherfucker was I was. I was splashing

783
00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:02,280
Speaker 1: my pearls. I'm like, ain't a minute are we buying

784
00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 1: these niggas ship to eat our ass out now? They

785
00:44:06,600 --> 00:44:08,480
Speaker 1: asking what we bring to the table, like we're some

786
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:11,919
Speaker 1: grown as men. Nigger asked to eat if you're trying

787
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:16,320
Speaker 1: to eat. But it was just like very masculine energy,

788
00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:19,040
Speaker 1: like I buy you a little three five. It was

789
00:44:19,080 --> 00:44:20,920
Speaker 1: not even talking to a man who act like that.

790
00:44:20,960 --> 00:44:23,719
Speaker 1: So is that masculine energy or just ignorant energy? A

791
00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 1: little boy? If I could say that, I was like,

792
00:44:29,200 --> 00:44:33,680
Speaker 1: oh my goodness, I never talked to nobody that seek.

793
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:37,640
Speaker 1: I mean, what are you talking to me like that?

794
00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:40,080
Speaker 1: I would be feeling like I need to turn the

795
00:44:40,160 --> 00:44:42,240
Speaker 1: neck on and the dress that comes to my ankles.

796
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:49,439
Speaker 1: She said that was a hard out of a lot

797
00:44:49,480 --> 00:44:53,240
Speaker 1: of the energy. But I think it's a trauma response. Honestly,

798
00:44:54,400 --> 00:44:57,000
Speaker 1: we've been having years and years, in decades and decades

799
00:44:57,000 --> 00:44:59,239
Speaker 1: and centuries of just being played right. Because at one

800
00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 1: point women ran of ship the lightest men want to

801
00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:05,520
Speaker 1: take it. There were women rulers, right, and we we

802
00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:08,800
Speaker 1: talked about this before about being submissive, Like being submissive

803
00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:10,319
Speaker 1: does not mean go sit in the corner and do

804
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:12,640
Speaker 1: what this man says, because the Bible also says, if

805
00:45:12,680 --> 00:45:15,040
Speaker 1: we want to be biblical, a man is supposed to

806
00:45:15,040 --> 00:45:18,240
Speaker 1: consult with his wife. So y'all supposed to come counsel

807
00:45:18,600 --> 00:45:21,319
Speaker 1: with us, like we're the counselor for real, for real,

808
00:45:21,320 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 1: And if you think about like the medieval times and

809
00:45:23,600 --> 00:45:27,200
Speaker 1: the women really was running ship in the background, talking

810
00:45:27,200 --> 00:45:29,399
Speaker 1: with their man, letting them know how to do war,

811
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:32,319
Speaker 1: letting them know how to handle whoever else. And then

812
00:45:32,320 --> 00:45:34,319
Speaker 1: they go out and they act like they came up

813
00:45:34,360 --> 00:45:37,160
Speaker 1: with the idea, like it was just an epiphany and

814
00:45:37,160 --> 00:45:40,960
Speaker 1: we just lit them, you know so, And that's a

815
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:44,479
Speaker 1: beautiful exchange. Though, that's a beautiful exchange because then return

816
00:45:44,560 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 1: be to get a kingdom. Period. Exactly. We are the

817
00:45:48,560 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna say only. I hate using the word

818
00:45:50,560 --> 00:45:52,319
Speaker 1: only because it's somebody out there that they did some

819
00:45:52,320 --> 00:45:56,200
Speaker 1: same stuff we don't did. But predominantly we are the

820
00:45:56,239 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 1: ones that fight against each other. You got black men

821
00:45:58,600 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 1: saying they down the down date women, but their MoMA's black.

822
00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:04,120
Speaker 1: You know we gottem has been set up for us

823
00:46:04,120 --> 00:46:07,000
Speaker 1: to be this way, you know that. But take it

824
00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:09,640
Speaker 1: all the way back to Willie Lynch. We can take

825
00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:12,439
Speaker 1: when they would take the black man and tie one

826
00:46:12,520 --> 00:46:15,840
Speaker 1: side of his arms to a horse and tie his

827
00:46:15,920 --> 00:46:18,160
Speaker 1: legs to another horse and then beat both horses. So

828
00:46:18,200 --> 00:46:20,440
Speaker 1: they try to run away and rip that man in

829
00:46:20,520 --> 00:46:23,839
Speaker 1: half in front of his woman. So how she gonna be,

830
00:46:23,880 --> 00:46:26,279
Speaker 1: She's gonna be like, I gotta be strong because you

831
00:46:26,320 --> 00:46:29,439
Speaker 1: can go any time, any time. He can be taken

832
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:31,319
Speaker 1: away from me, and that ship has been in our

833
00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:34,600
Speaker 1: mind ever since, and it's just like a parent. We

834
00:46:34,640 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 1: need a paradigm shift for all of this to change.

835
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:39,760
Speaker 1: The paradigm shift is the therapy. So a lot of people,

836
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:41,399
Speaker 1: you know, you see people say a little funny shit

837
00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:46,400
Speaker 1: about you know what. Charlemagne pushes the Mental Health UM movement.

838
00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:49,440
Speaker 1: That's what the community needs. I really feel like that

839
00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:52,800
Speaker 1: is his purpose to push more black men to therapy,

840
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:57,520
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, because we need to be together. Yeah,

841
00:46:57,560 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 1: we need to heal, That's what I'm trying to say.

842
00:46:59,640 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 1: We need to heal separately and then we need to

843
00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:06,400
Speaker 1: heal together. But conversations like this too are very profound

844
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:09,440
Speaker 1: and healing because if you even if you don't agree,

845
00:47:09,480 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 1: you can at least you can, Yeah, you plant the seed,

846
00:47:14,080 --> 00:47:16,719
Speaker 1: because I mean, let's be honest, we can all go

847
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:19,600
Speaker 1: to therapy. But if we don't take accountability for our

848
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:22,719
Speaker 1: own actions, and we always constantly looking at somebody like,

849
00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:25,600
Speaker 1: well you did this, and that's why I did that.

850
00:47:25,640 --> 00:47:28,200
Speaker 1: Even if we go back to the programming and the

851
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:31,920
Speaker 1: systematic racism that's but set against as we can blame

852
00:47:31,960 --> 00:47:35,240
Speaker 1: people all day, we have a lot of people to blame. Okay,

853
00:47:35,239 --> 00:47:37,400
Speaker 1: we know the problem. We know the problem. We've been

854
00:47:37,400 --> 00:47:39,440
Speaker 1: talked to problem for four hundred plus years. We know

855
00:47:39,480 --> 00:47:43,440
Speaker 1: the problem. What is the solution, right, The solution is

856
00:47:43,480 --> 00:47:46,880
Speaker 1: stopped being full of ship. The solution is stopped forfeitting

857
00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 1: the game. Let's just let's just to pretend us as

858
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:51,960
Speaker 1: a football game. Right, if you are refusing to understand

859
00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:55,000
Speaker 1: your opponent and who you playing against, you're essentially forfeit

860
00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:56,760
Speaker 1: in the game. You've got a lot of black people

861
00:47:57,080 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 1: that's just sitting back forefeitt in the game because the

862
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:01,960
Speaker 1: white man and and this one did dad man nigga?

863
00:48:02,600 --> 00:48:04,759
Speaker 1: Come on? And that's really what black women are saying.

864
00:48:04,800 --> 00:48:07,279
Speaker 1: But on the other flip side of that, right, we

865
00:48:07,360 --> 00:48:10,640
Speaker 1: also know that empowering black women is also a form

866
00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:14,640
Speaker 1: of white supremacy, because who's gonna who's gonna help our men?

867
00:48:14,920 --> 00:48:16,799
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Like you even see like

868
00:48:16,800 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: a high school and ship like that, Like girl, little

869
00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:20,120
Speaker 1: girls always have a car, and then they got some

870
00:48:20,200 --> 00:48:22,240
Speaker 1: nigga who got a car, come from a broken family

871
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:24,960
Speaker 1: in the passenger seat. Right, So we empower the women,

872
00:48:25,520 --> 00:48:27,880
Speaker 1: and then we don't empower the little boys, and then

873
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:30,399
Speaker 1: we call them bumbass niggas when they get older because

874
00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:33,279
Speaker 1: they work the warehouse warehouse job their whole fucking life,

875
00:48:33,520 --> 00:48:35,359
Speaker 1: while you told him to go get a job because

876
00:48:35,360 --> 00:48:37,160
Speaker 1: now you don't made a baby ticket your family. But

877
00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 1: then you got the little girl family who allows her

878
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:41,560
Speaker 1: to then go to college while they help her with

879
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:44,320
Speaker 1: her child. So it's like it's kind of the balance

880
00:48:44,440 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 1: is all that fuck up? We gotta take care of

881
00:48:46,680 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 1: our little boys, have to take care our little girls,

882
00:48:48,680 --> 00:48:51,919
Speaker 1: and and fuck these grown people. It starts with the children. Yeah,

883
00:48:52,080 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 1: it's over. It's over for y'all. Girl. We need worry

884
00:48:56,640 --> 00:49:00,400
Speaker 1: about the kid, but we do, man. And at a

885
00:49:00,480 --> 00:49:02,840
Speaker 1: point in time where we can start saying that we

886
00:49:02,920 --> 00:49:06,719
Speaker 1: have to look at our children because we are the examples.

887
00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:09,319
Speaker 1: We aren't the examples like they're gonna do. They're gonna

888
00:49:09,360 --> 00:49:12,480
Speaker 1: emulate what they see. Yeah, because children are being raised

889
00:49:12,520 --> 00:49:16,360
Speaker 1: by the unraised. They're just being raised by people were raised.

890
00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:18,879
Speaker 1: We have no idea. I tell my kids all the time,

891
00:49:19,480 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 1: this is my first time with a ten year old.

892
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:23,880
Speaker 1: I never had a ten year old before. I don't know.

893
00:49:24,040 --> 00:49:26,160
Speaker 1: So you can tell your mom if I'm messing it up.

894
00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 1: For you like, I provide them my platform. My kids

895
00:49:29,239 --> 00:49:33,880
Speaker 1: speak very freely and we do that. That's another thing

896
00:49:33,560 --> 00:49:36,319
Speaker 1: say and not as I do. Our generation kind of

897
00:49:36,400 --> 00:49:38,800
Speaker 1: changing that. Our generation changed that a little bit. And

898
00:49:38,840 --> 00:49:40,400
Speaker 1: my mom I talked to her about how I withou

899
00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:42,319
Speaker 1: raise my kids and things. I don't have kids yet,

900
00:49:42,719 --> 00:49:44,680
Speaker 1: but I know there are some things I'll take from

901
00:49:44,760 --> 00:49:46,520
Speaker 1: how I was raised. But there are a lot of

902
00:49:46,600 --> 00:49:49,400
Speaker 1: things I'm not taking. What meant, I don't believe. I

903
00:49:49,400 --> 00:49:52,680
Speaker 1: don't believe in hitting little people. Little people have half

904
00:49:52,719 --> 00:49:55,600
Speaker 1: the life experiences of your big grown ass. If I

905
00:49:55,640 --> 00:49:57,919
Speaker 1: can't smack my nigga when he's sucking up, why would

906
00:49:57,920 --> 00:50:00,480
Speaker 1: I put my hand on this kid? You said something

907
00:50:00,520 --> 00:50:02,280
Speaker 1: they don't know, and you're gonna have to repeat yourself

908
00:50:02,320 --> 00:50:04,320
Speaker 1: a thousand times the same way you gotta repeat yourself

909
00:50:04,320 --> 00:50:07,640
Speaker 1: a thousand times to a big grown as man. So

910
00:50:07,680 --> 00:50:14,000
Speaker 1: there's a lot of things. M hmm. Maybe gonna get

911
00:50:14,000 --> 00:50:16,680
Speaker 1: a little pop pop every now. Yeah, pop pop is school.

912
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:21,000
Speaker 1: But there's such a thing as a bully parenting bully. No, No,

913
00:50:21,040 --> 00:50:24,600
Speaker 1: I'm not doing and I don't want to kill my kid. Yeah,

914
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:27,440
Speaker 1: and the touba for you were trying to murder somebody,

915
00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:33,319
Speaker 1: you don't want to pop pop is necessary because my

916
00:50:33,400 --> 00:50:35,640
Speaker 1: bad she had tried to hell out of me, Like

917
00:50:35,840 --> 00:50:38,920
Speaker 1: don't just the reason why I don't want to like

918
00:50:38,920 --> 00:50:40,960
Speaker 1: like take pop pop all the way out is because

919
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:43,279
Speaker 1: I don't want to raise a little motherfucker's like mo

920
00:50:43,800 --> 00:50:47,360
Speaker 1: ship my fucking door mom. I don't think that's what happened.

921
00:50:47,640 --> 00:50:49,960
Speaker 1: I think if you're in goal is to make a

922
00:50:50,080 --> 00:50:52,520
Speaker 1: child cry. If that's really what you want to do,

923
00:50:52,520 --> 00:50:54,399
Speaker 1: you want to make them cry because oftentimes we beat

924
00:50:54,440 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 1: the assy ain't gonna have no change behavior. Try telling

925
00:50:57,160 --> 00:50:59,239
Speaker 1: your child, you know what, just really really calm and

926
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:04,040
Speaker 1: you're feminine. G I'm really disappointed in you, period and

927
00:51:04,160 --> 00:51:09,759
Speaker 1: dropped the mic walk off? But how many time? Let

928
00:51:09,760 --> 00:51:12,120
Speaker 1: me tell you my daddy. My daddy beat me one

929
00:51:12,160 --> 00:51:14,040
Speaker 1: time in life, and he beat my sisters so he

930
00:51:14,040 --> 00:51:16,360
Speaker 1: wouldn't have to beat me by myself. But I was

931
00:51:16,440 --> 00:51:19,160
Speaker 1: so afraid of disappointing my daddy and he never yelled

932
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:23,000
Speaker 1: at me, but not one time when I was younger.

933
00:51:23,040 --> 00:51:25,520
Speaker 1: But as a teenager, like I remember, I still let

934
00:51:25,600 --> 00:51:27,800
Speaker 1: nigger car and I went to my boyfriend's house and

935
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:29,920
Speaker 1: I sud run oversleep. I had to be the school

936
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:32,800
Speaker 1: and that nigger had to be the work. And I

937
00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:35,480
Speaker 1: came home, he was like, give me my keys, I

938
00:51:35,480 --> 00:51:37,640
Speaker 1: should beat your ass. I couldn't believe it. I was

939
00:51:37,680 --> 00:51:42,320
Speaker 1: like six seventeen. I was like, oh my god, he's

940
00:51:42,360 --> 00:51:44,480
Speaker 1: been beating your ass already. You would have been home

941
00:51:44,640 --> 00:51:47,920
Speaker 1: before six o'clock in the morning, that's what. And look

942
00:51:47,960 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 1: I was. I still was going right. But them asked

943
00:51:50,120 --> 00:51:54,200
Speaker 1: what I made me remember. It was I don't think

944
00:51:54,280 --> 00:51:58,960
Speaker 1: you gotta because my daddy will suck me up. That

945
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:03,279
Speaker 1: I was, but I was so scared. Nigga said I

946
00:52:03,320 --> 00:52:05,960
Speaker 1: should beat your ass. I couldn't believe it, Like, who me,

947
00:52:06,560 --> 00:52:10,719
Speaker 1: You're gonna me? Daddy mean your little girl? Imau you

948
00:52:10,800 --> 00:52:16,840
Speaker 1: up y'all late for school. I lay for where I

949
00:52:16,840 --> 00:52:21,440
Speaker 1: couldn't believe it, but I just closed my eyes and

950
00:52:21,480 --> 00:52:25,200
Speaker 1: I saw it all over again. If he would have

951
00:52:25,239 --> 00:52:28,719
Speaker 1: been tagging that but all them sixteen years and living,

952
00:52:28,760 --> 00:52:30,640
Speaker 1: you wouldn't even thought twice to go out the house.

953
00:52:30,640 --> 00:52:32,799
Speaker 1: He would have been right, there, don't be the main ones,

954
00:52:32,880 --> 00:52:34,680
Speaker 1: the ones that we have no leadway be the main

955
00:52:34,719 --> 00:52:36,719
Speaker 1: ones doing all the whole ship. What you talking about?

956
00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:45,440
Speaker 1: And I ain't doing it tomorrow? I can't. I can't

957
00:52:45,480 --> 00:52:50,760
Speaker 1: be that to them. Yeah, so this conversation today was great.

958
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:54,680
Speaker 1: So we're gonna try to practice staying in our feminine

959
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:57,840
Speaker 1: energy a little bit more. And I do like to

960
00:52:57,880 --> 00:53:01,040
Speaker 1: tell people I'm a grown ass man. Sometimes I don't

961
00:53:01,040 --> 00:53:09,640
Speaker 1: really mean it. Just be beautiful always. Submission guys, for

962
00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:13,880
Speaker 1: dumb bitch advice today. Okay, let's hear it all right,

963
00:53:13,880 --> 00:53:16,479
Speaker 1: hold on, so let's let's um, actually, let's take a break.

964
00:53:16,480 --> 00:53:18,600
Speaker 1: We're gonna get into our dumb bitch story, but let's

965
00:53:18,600 --> 00:53:22,439
Speaker 1: take a break and pay these mother fucking bills dumb

966
00:53:22,440 --> 00:53:26,759
Speaker 1: bitch stories because we've all been a dumb bitch at

967
00:53:26,800 --> 00:53:31,520
Speaker 1: least once or twice. Alright, So here's our dumb bitch

968
00:53:31,760 --> 00:53:36,080
Speaker 1: advice for today. She was she needs some advice from us, guys,

969
00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:39,480
Speaker 1: So here's what she sent. Uh. So, I've been in

970
00:53:39,520 --> 00:53:42,279
Speaker 1: a relationship for about seven months now. The man that

971
00:53:42,320 --> 00:53:45,080
Speaker 1: I'm with is a good guy. He's laid back, home body,

972
00:53:45,600 --> 00:53:48,640
Speaker 1: he has his head on straight, good job, supportive, hold

973
00:53:48,680 --> 00:53:51,880
Speaker 1: our house down, et cetera. This man literally drives to

974
00:53:51,920 --> 00:53:53,960
Speaker 1: me on his lunch break to bring me lunch instead

975
00:53:53,960 --> 00:53:56,280
Speaker 1: of enjoying it for himself. And I get a different

976
00:53:56,280 --> 00:53:58,960
Speaker 1: color roses every week. He's made it a routine at

977
00:53:58,960 --> 00:54:03,560
Speaker 1: this point. Pretty much what I want I get. One day,

978
00:54:03,760 --> 00:54:05,960
Speaker 1: during my nap, I said I wanted a funnel cake

979
00:54:06,239 --> 00:54:08,680
Speaker 1: talking in my sleep. He drove forty minutes, and when

980
00:54:08,680 --> 00:54:10,560
Speaker 1: I woke up, I had a funnel cake waiting on me.

981
00:54:10,840 --> 00:54:14,480
Speaker 1: It's literally the little things. However, there's a few things

982
00:54:14,520 --> 00:54:17,800
Speaker 1: about him that that completely turns me off. First off,

983
00:54:17,960 --> 00:54:19,960
Speaker 1: when we first met, he knew a lot about me

984
00:54:20,160 --> 00:54:22,439
Speaker 1: that he shouldn't have known. To this day, I still

985
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:25,120
Speaker 1: don't know where he got his info. When he gets

986
00:54:25,160 --> 00:54:28,440
Speaker 1: upset about things, he doesn't communicate. He literally he literally

987
00:54:28,480 --> 00:54:31,760
Speaker 1: just stops talking period until he goes until he goes smoke,

988
00:54:32,280 --> 00:54:35,359
Speaker 1: then acts as though nothing has ever happened. He even

989
00:54:35,360 --> 00:54:37,520
Speaker 1: goes to me for four days one time to avoid

990
00:54:37,520 --> 00:54:41,160
Speaker 1: talking and texting. When I tell him we can't have sex,

991
00:54:41,280 --> 00:54:43,960
Speaker 1: or honestly, if I tell him no to anything or

992
00:54:44,000 --> 00:54:47,800
Speaker 1: to stop a certain behavior, he's goofy. He literally holds it,

993
00:54:47,880 --> 00:54:51,160
Speaker 1: folds his arm, stops one time, and pounds like a

994
00:54:51,200 --> 00:54:55,040
Speaker 1: two year old in time out. Yesterday, we had a disagreement.

995
00:54:55,120 --> 00:54:57,160
Speaker 1: I tried to express how I felt, and he laughed

996
00:54:57,160 --> 00:55:00,760
Speaker 1: in my face and walked away. Lastly, he's the best looking,

997
00:55:01,120 --> 00:55:04,239
Speaker 1: though I don't let his looks sway my decision. We

998
00:55:04,280 --> 00:55:07,040
Speaker 1: can't do missionaries in sex because I laugh at the

999
00:55:07,080 --> 00:55:12,760
Speaker 1: faces he makes. We got together two weeks after my divorce.

1000
00:55:13,280 --> 00:55:15,800
Speaker 1: I originally planned to work on myself and be alone

1001
00:55:15,880 --> 00:55:18,200
Speaker 1: for a while, but got into a relationship with him

1002
00:55:18,239 --> 00:55:21,640
Speaker 1: because I kept hearing why not, why not? He's a

1003
00:55:21,640 --> 00:55:24,879
Speaker 1: good man. Hold onto him before you lose him. You're

1004
00:55:24,920 --> 00:55:27,239
Speaker 1: not gonna find someone else like him, and I like

1005
00:55:27,360 --> 00:55:30,200
Speaker 1: the feeling I got from his affection after getting away

1006
00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:33,080
Speaker 1: from an asshole like my ex husband and finding him

1007
00:55:33,120 --> 00:55:36,080
Speaker 1: about a month into us talking and him asking three times,

1008
00:55:36,320 --> 00:55:38,759
Speaker 1: I said why not. Now, I'm feeling like this was

1009
00:55:38,800 --> 00:55:40,960
Speaker 1: a mistake. I don't know what to do today. I

1010
00:55:40,960 --> 00:55:42,759
Speaker 1: told him I need my space to think and get

1011
00:55:42,800 --> 00:55:45,360
Speaker 1: clarity on what it is that I truly want. And

1012
00:55:45,360 --> 00:55:48,160
Speaker 1: I'm in a dilemma where I really have doubts about

1013
00:55:48,239 --> 00:55:51,040
Speaker 1: this relationship but feel kind of stuck because I don't

1014
00:55:51,040 --> 00:55:53,879
Speaker 1: want to give up a good man. I truly don't

1015
00:55:53,880 --> 00:55:56,240
Speaker 1: know what to do right now. What are your thoughts?

1016
00:55:56,440 --> 00:55:59,960
Speaker 1: I love your show, Give me some advice. God damn

1017
00:56:01,440 --> 00:56:03,960
Speaker 1: all right, so the nigga ugly. I remember that part

1018
00:56:03,960 --> 00:56:06,720
Speaker 1: because I was kind of at the end. He's very

1019
00:56:06,840 --> 00:56:14,120
Speaker 1: um um thoughtful. He's very thoughtful. Um. He sucks at communication,

1020
00:56:14,920 --> 00:56:19,759
Speaker 1: he avoids communication. He then laughs at you when you

1021
00:56:20,000 --> 00:56:26,240
Speaker 1: tell him that's kind of abusive. Um to me that

1022
00:56:27,360 --> 00:56:32,759
Speaker 1: the way he communicates would definitely outweigh the thoughtfulness. I

1023
00:56:32,760 --> 00:56:35,239
Speaker 1: would not be able to deal with somebody when I

1024
00:56:35,320 --> 00:56:37,719
Speaker 1: bring up something that about them that bothers me, like

1025
00:56:37,760 --> 00:56:41,640
Speaker 1: we were talking about Misha, and you laugh or dismiss

1026
00:56:41,680 --> 00:56:46,799
Speaker 1: what I'm saying or say I'm sensitive. That's some narcissistic behavior, right,

1027
00:56:47,280 --> 00:56:50,839
Speaker 1: Or he could have avoidance issues because he's had trauma too.

1028
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:54,480
Speaker 1: And like you know, she said she was with divorced

1029
00:56:54,520 --> 00:56:59,960
Speaker 1: with two kids, no divorce for two months before they met. Okay,

1030
00:57:00,000 --> 00:57:02,160
Speaker 1: it wasn't some children in there at the beginning, that

1031
00:57:02,239 --> 00:57:05,040
Speaker 1: he didn't take hand of kids. Well, you know, I

1032
00:57:05,120 --> 00:57:08,719
Speaker 1: mean I don't really have any. I don't think I

1033
00:57:08,800 --> 00:57:11,560
Speaker 1: have any on top of my hand, any good advice

1034
00:57:12,440 --> 00:57:16,040
Speaker 1: because I feel like that said a whole lot about

1035
00:57:16,080 --> 00:57:19,720
Speaker 1: both of them. You know, like if you you win

1036
00:57:19,840 --> 00:57:22,439
Speaker 1: somebody that you don't not attracted to, I really don't

1037
00:57:22,480 --> 00:57:25,280
Speaker 1: see how far that's gonna go. Let's just be honest,

1038
00:57:25,520 --> 00:57:29,160
Speaker 1: like if you only gotta get funk from the backs

1039
00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:34,680
Speaker 1: and listen, if you don't got listen, I really don't

1040
00:57:34,720 --> 00:57:36,800
Speaker 1: care about looks, but I care about looks right now

1041
00:57:36,840 --> 00:57:38,720
Speaker 1: because I don't got no kids. If I was like

1042
00:57:39,200 --> 00:57:41,920
Speaker 1: out here like single mama looking for a man and

1043
00:57:41,960 --> 00:57:43,680
Speaker 1: already got kids, like, I wouldn't be giving a funk

1044
00:57:44,200 --> 00:57:46,040
Speaker 1: looks like, but I'm not about to having no little

1045
00:57:46,040 --> 00:57:51,120
Speaker 1: goonies running around here. I just feel like, you got you?

1046
00:57:51,800 --> 00:57:54,240
Speaker 1: Are you? Like you said she just got divorced or

1047
00:57:54,320 --> 00:57:56,959
Speaker 1: whatever she wanted to work on her Still, I feel

1048
00:57:56,960 --> 00:58:00,040
Speaker 1: like that's where the conversation stops for me, because it

1049
00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:04,320
Speaker 1: like leave him alone and honestly and work on yourself,

1050
00:58:04,440 --> 00:58:08,560
Speaker 1: because if you're in a relationship, let's be honest. Beauty face, Okay,

1051
00:58:08,680 --> 00:58:11,160
Speaker 1: the older you get, you might not be looked like

1052
00:58:11,200 --> 00:58:13,800
Speaker 1: that same twenty year only know how all these people are,

1053
00:58:13,920 --> 00:58:17,120
Speaker 1: but beauty phasing. If you can't love somebody like if

1054
00:58:17,160 --> 00:58:18,840
Speaker 1: he got shot in the face, you're definitely gonna hall

1055
00:58:18,920 --> 00:58:22,360
Speaker 1: that on him because he already on attractive. So if

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00:58:22,480 --> 00:58:24,560
Speaker 1: you know, I would say you should just cut your

1057
00:58:24,600 --> 00:58:27,280
Speaker 1: losses right now while it's still early. She said, he

1058
00:58:27,360 --> 00:58:32,640
Speaker 1: already shot in the face. That's what she said, And

1059
00:58:32,720 --> 00:58:35,120
Speaker 1: it matters to her because if it didn't matter, she

1060
00:58:35,160 --> 00:58:38,000
Speaker 1: wasn't address you. So it makes matter to you, So

1061
00:58:39,000 --> 00:58:42,560
Speaker 1: don't settle, says. You know, he might be a nice

1062
00:58:42,560 --> 00:58:45,000
Speaker 1: guy and keep him as a good friend. Baby, you'll

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00:58:45,000 --> 00:58:46,600
Speaker 1: see him with one of your friends and they can

1064
00:58:46,640 --> 00:58:49,760
Speaker 1: live their best life together. Or maybe in the future, y'all,

1065
00:58:49,760 --> 00:58:51,960
Speaker 1: can you know, come back together once both of y'all

1066
00:58:51,960 --> 00:58:54,520
Speaker 1: work on yourselves. But the most important thing is is

1067
00:58:54,560 --> 00:58:56,000
Speaker 1: to do what you said out to do. And this

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00:58:56,600 --> 00:59:00,600
Speaker 1: hell yourself from that last marriage, because one month out,

1069
00:59:01,840 --> 00:59:04,360
Speaker 1: how are you even ready to start with somebody new

1070
00:59:04,440 --> 00:59:07,080
Speaker 1: after one month after a divorce, you know? And then

1071
00:59:07,120 --> 00:59:09,280
Speaker 1: I fear if he asked her to marry her, like

1072
00:59:09,320 --> 00:59:11,160
Speaker 1: if he said, well you married me, I fear that

1073
00:59:11,280 --> 00:59:13,520
Speaker 1: what happens next because then that's a whole bunch of

1074
00:59:13,560 --> 00:59:18,920
Speaker 1: more because you might feel relationship yeah, or you know,

1075
00:59:19,280 --> 00:59:23,520
Speaker 1: can you say no so I will just leave? And

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00:59:23,960 --> 00:59:25,520
Speaker 1: you know, I know, I said we need to stay,

1077
00:59:25,560 --> 00:59:30,000
Speaker 1: but it's out there too, yeah, because you're already so

1078
00:59:30,080 --> 00:59:32,080
Speaker 1: when we are, when you're all head dating even if

1079
00:59:32,080 --> 00:59:36,640
Speaker 1: you're a long term relationship, it's okay to leave, is okay? Right?

1080
00:59:36,680 --> 00:59:39,240
Speaker 1: And at at that point you're doing a disservice to

1081
00:59:39,320 --> 00:59:43,600
Speaker 1: yourself and him, you know. But sometimes you gotta get

1082
00:59:43,600 --> 00:59:45,720
Speaker 1: in and out of relationships to really find what it

1083
00:59:45,760 --> 00:59:48,640
Speaker 1: is that you with, what your likes and dislikes are.

1084
00:59:48,760 --> 00:59:52,760
Speaker 1: But you definitely need to know thyself before you talk

1085
00:59:52,800 --> 00:59:55,640
Speaker 1: with anybody else, because he already said. And it's hard

1086
00:59:55,680 --> 00:59:57,800
Speaker 1: too because she's been a wife, i'm sure for a while,

1087
00:59:57,960 --> 01:00:03,400
Speaker 1: so she's used to having that companionship constantly. So it's

1088
01:00:03,440 --> 01:00:05,880
Speaker 1: like it's okay to nasis. So she said her ex

1089
01:00:05,960 --> 01:00:09,560
Speaker 1: husband was an asshole. It sounds like this guy kind

1090
01:00:09,560 --> 01:00:13,120
Speaker 1: of is displaying some asshole behavior and he could very

1091
01:00:13,200 --> 01:00:15,320
Speaker 1: well be loved bumming you when he does go and

1092
01:00:15,320 --> 01:00:17,920
Speaker 1: get those things that you like, you know what I'm saying.

1093
01:00:18,000 --> 01:00:21,000
Speaker 1: Like that sometimes can be a little form of manipulation,

1094
01:00:21,400 --> 01:00:25,400
Speaker 1: so you can overlook the things that he falls short.

1095
01:00:26,120 --> 01:00:28,560
Speaker 1: But but I will say this too though, sorry a

1096
01:00:28,680 --> 01:00:32,440
Speaker 1: j to interrupt you, but visualize with me for a second.

1097
01:00:33,200 --> 01:00:36,120
Speaker 1: If this man is not attractive, you think he might

1098
01:00:36,200 --> 01:00:39,400
Speaker 1: know that too, right, And if y'all don't have missionary

1099
01:00:39,480 --> 01:00:41,560
Speaker 1: he's aware of that too. So that's two things that

1100
01:00:41,600 --> 01:00:45,240
Speaker 1: says that he's not that he might be like a five, right,

1101
01:00:45,280 --> 01:00:47,680
Speaker 1: and maybe she's like a seven or eight. So he's

1102
01:00:47,680 --> 01:00:51,240
Speaker 1: gonna try to keep her because he has just leveled up.

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01:00:51,440 --> 01:00:56,560
Speaker 1: You know, he supposed to have her anyway rights because

1104
01:00:56,600 --> 01:01:03,120
Speaker 1: she laughing. God, you need to that's horrible. Managine getting

1105
01:01:03,160 --> 01:01:15,840
Speaker 1: funk and be like, I'm sorry, keep going, boy, I'll

1106
01:01:15,880 --> 01:01:19,720
Speaker 1: just think about missing and Seeley in that moment. Man, girl,

1107
01:01:19,880 --> 01:01:23,080
Speaker 1: I love a nice looking face. Nigger, I cannot do it.

1108
01:01:23,280 --> 01:01:26,760
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Let me let me get the nice looking man. Please,

1109
01:01:26,840 --> 01:01:28,200
Speaker 1: I can't do it. I gotta be able to look

1110
01:01:28,240 --> 01:01:30,920
Speaker 1: at you in the face. Dog, I like, I mean,

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01:01:31,000 --> 01:01:33,400
Speaker 1: I don't mind a little ugly. You could be one ugly.

1112
01:01:33,440 --> 01:01:35,320
Speaker 1: You can't be like ugly ugly, like, you can't be

1113
01:01:35,600 --> 01:01:43,760
Speaker 1: too ugly. One ugly it's okayone's like so one ugly

1114
01:01:43,920 --> 01:01:47,200
Speaker 1: is like where you have cute features but they just

1115
01:01:47,280 --> 01:01:49,720
Speaker 1: ain't going together on your face. You can be ugly

1116
01:01:49,760 --> 01:01:54,760
Speaker 1: with pearly white nice teeth, yes that I'm making cute, yes,

1117
01:01:54,920 --> 01:01:58,520
Speaker 1: and a bit dimple's bitch. Oh yeah, you can be

1118
01:01:59,040 --> 01:02:01,360
Speaker 1: ugly with some dimple be pretty teeth and then be like,

1119
01:02:01,400 --> 01:02:03,280
Speaker 1: oh he could hear me if he turned to this,

1120
01:02:05,160 --> 01:02:12,200
Speaker 1: can you be ugly and rich? What you mean? I

1121
01:02:12,200 --> 01:02:17,080
Speaker 1: don't know what you're talking? Make you cute? And look

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01:02:17,120 --> 01:02:18,800
Speaker 1: I didn't met. I didn't met a nigger who was

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01:02:18,840 --> 01:02:22,120
Speaker 1: like richest hell but too ugly to date for me.

1124
01:02:23,000 --> 01:02:24,640
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't care how nice and how

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01:02:24,720 --> 01:02:26,880
Speaker 1: much money he got. He is hideous. I can't do it.

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01:02:28,320 --> 01:02:30,520
Speaker 1: Don't add acne. On top of that, he was like

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01:02:30,800 --> 01:02:35,840
Speaker 1: he looked his face looked like this, y'all, I'm sick

1128
01:02:35,840 --> 01:02:41,000
Speaker 1: of you. I'm not sick. And my friend told me

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01:02:41,040 --> 01:02:44,240
Speaker 1: he was ugly because she's like, he's so nice though,

1130
01:02:44,280 --> 01:02:46,040
Speaker 1: and he'll treats you so good, but I ain't gonna lie.

1131
01:02:46,040 --> 01:02:48,840
Speaker 1: He kind of ugly. I'm like, I like kind of ugly.

1132
01:02:48,920 --> 01:02:50,480
Speaker 1: And then when I met him, I was like, bit,

1133
01:02:50,640 --> 01:02:55,920
Speaker 1: you said kind of ugly. Look he looks so he

1134
01:02:56,040 --> 01:02:58,920
Speaker 1: was a thousand they're not a millionaire. No, he was

1135
01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:03,200
Speaker 1: a millionaire. Just yeah, very's like, uh, he did like

1136
01:03:03,280 --> 01:03:08,560
Speaker 1: commercial real estate shoot, and he was wealthy, but he

1137
01:03:08,680 --> 01:03:14,520
Speaker 1: was just baby m okay. So to our listener, I

1138
01:03:14,560 --> 01:03:16,600
Speaker 1: don't know, baby, get the funk about it there. Just

1139
01:03:16,640 --> 01:03:19,480
Speaker 1: try try again next lay. Just take the time off

1140
01:03:19,520 --> 01:03:21,280
Speaker 1: that you know you need it in the first place,

1141
01:03:21,280 --> 01:03:24,320
Speaker 1: because maybe you were just that vulnerable that you're dealing

1142
01:03:24,360 --> 01:03:27,000
Speaker 1: with these things and just that little piece he's giving

1143
01:03:27,040 --> 01:03:29,040
Speaker 1: you is a little bit. It's enough right now, but

1144
01:03:29,080 --> 01:03:31,320
Speaker 1: if you were actually healed from your previous relationship, it

1145
01:03:31,320 --> 01:03:34,000
Speaker 1: wouldn't be enough, wouldn't be right, and it managed to you,

1146
01:03:34,080 --> 01:03:37,200
Speaker 1: so you'll be honest with yourself. So I really enjoyed

1147
01:03:37,200 --> 01:03:40,200
Speaker 1: this episode, y'all. Thank you guys for having me. Yeah,

1148
01:03:40,720 --> 01:03:46,760
Speaker 1: we do appreciate it. Well. So if you need somebody

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1152
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1153
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Speaker 1: And also if you just want to be my friend,

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Speaker 1: you can follow me on Instagram at belove patres on

1155
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Speaker 1: the score. Alright, girl, Look, since she she mentioned some

1156
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Speaker 1: credit and financial literacy and all that ship, I know

1157
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Speaker 1: you'll haven't seen me posting about these stock options, y'all.

1158
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Speaker 1: Niggas is playing y'all lacking, Like I saw some posts

1159
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Speaker 1: you to teach me we are there. You got get

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Speaker 1: guys more visuals soon. But anyway, we're getting the funk

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Speaker 1: up out of here. Thanks for having me again, guys,

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Speaker 1: beautiful black queens. Thank you bye, guys. Than