Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous as Lala Kent, Welcome back to Get them
Speaker 1: All a podcast. We are here ready to bump gums
Speaker 1: evergreen style, because Mama is ready to give hearts and
Speaker 1: I may that's coming, Baby is coming. So today's episode
Speaker 1: is going to be about sobriety because we had an
Speaker 1: overwhelming amount of people right in with their sobriety stories
Speaker 1: and their journeys experiences to the bonus episode that we
Speaker 1: did on sobriety, So I just felt the need to
Speaker 1: talk about it again. And me and my pregnancy brain
Speaker 1: put this shirt on that is so comfortable and is
Speaker 1: covered in.
Speaker 2: Alcoholic Shout out Kent, whose shirt is that?
Speaker 1: But it is my dad's shirt, and it reminds me
Speaker 1: of him and in honor of him, because I got
Speaker 1: sober six months to the day after my dad's passing.
Speaker 1: So let's try to ignore the alcoholic beverages and focus
Speaker 1: more on the.
Speaker 3: Fact that you've said it before. You're you're good. You're
Speaker 3: the first person to pour somebody else to drink.
Speaker 2: Enorm me.
Speaker 1: If there have been people around me where I'm sensing,
Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm not diagnosing, because alcoholism is a self diagnosed.
Speaker 2: Diagnosed disease.
Speaker 1: But there are moments where I'm like, I'm sensing that
Speaker 1: this could be a problem. So I'm not going to
Speaker 1: promote drinking with this person. I will offer them all
Speaker 1: of the sparkling.
Speaker 2: Beverages alcohol free, right. Yeah.
Speaker 1: But people who are like super normal and they just
Speaker 1: want to get lit because they are celebrating something, Oh honey.
Speaker 4: You'll pour? Do you overpour? Sometimes? Like do you have
Speaker 4: the people?
Speaker 2: Do you?
Speaker 3: I remember the last time that drink when I don't drink,
Speaker 3: since I haven't been drinking. When I'm with people that
Speaker 3: do drink, I'm the first person to be like, hey,
Speaker 3: let me pour that for you.
Speaker 4: Really?
Speaker 5: Hell yeah, because like the pouring of it is kind
Speaker 5: of like it's kind of like.
Speaker 6: Taking it, you know, like like you're like it's like
Speaker 6: you get the placebo effect of like you pour the
Speaker 6: shot totally see you take it, You're like, we're fucked.
Speaker 5: So yeah, I love I love pouring the drinks.
Speaker 3: I may not be the best one to be pouring
Speaker 3: them for everybody, right, getting.
Speaker 2: Everybody turned, But not everyone is like that.
Speaker 1: I have many friends in sobriety who they can't go
Speaker 1: out to bars, they can't be around drinking because it
Speaker 1: triggers them. So again, I always say that, uh sobriety
Speaker 1: is not one size fits all. Everybody's journey and experience
Speaker 1: is going to be different. Everybody works the program differently
Speaker 1: if you are in the program, which is why it
Speaker 1: kind of takes a minute to find your sponsor, you know,
Speaker 1: because it's like we're all working the program, but there's
Speaker 1: not a play by play on how it's not math.
Speaker 2: Two plus two is not always four.
Speaker 1: So you and I may be able to pour people drinks,
Speaker 1: but not everybody is able to do that.
Speaker 4: So you don't drink?
Speaker 7: Or is it just like, are you like sober from
Speaker 7: alcohol or are you like I'll do it sometimes.
Speaker 5: I'm liquor free. Okay, I'm thinking and.
Speaker 2: Dude, alcohol free.
Speaker 5: Yeah, liquor liquor free.
Speaker 4: So you still drink beer?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 5: He doesn't, Yeah, just liquor free. Do you drink beer? No?
Speaker 5: Isn't liquor is.
Speaker 2: Vodka to ke? Yeah? Hard alcohol is liquor.
Speaker 5: And then beer is not like I thought liquor was
Speaker 5: in beer.
Speaker 2: You should never be able to drink because you don't
Speaker 2: even know what it is.
Speaker 7: I don't like beer and wine And people say liquor
Speaker 7: free they're like, oh, I'll.
Speaker 4: Drink beer and wine.
Speaker 3: So when Landing was doing his cooking video, he was like,
Speaker 3: do you want to help me do this? I was
Speaker 3: like no, do you want me to open your high noon?
Speaker 3: And he was like yes, And I said, I got
Speaker 3: you on that one, so I can do that because
Speaker 3: there it is. It's like the placebo effect of me
Speaker 3: just like handing it to him.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but you already don't drink.
Speaker 2: You're dry.
Speaker 5: I am dry.
Speaker 3: I am all liquor, beer, wines and spilcohol free. Alcohol free,
Speaker 3: but I am, and so is Lisa.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Alcohol free marijuana is marijuana, non free marijuana.
Speaker 5: Over doing that now.
Speaker 4: Enthusiast that I could be happier.
Speaker 2: I don't feel like you overdo the weed.
Speaker 4: I don't feel like you do either. Actually I wouldn't know.
Speaker 5: I guess here's the thing.
Speaker 3: Even if I smoke, I know I have to do something.
Speaker 3: So it's like my relationship with weed is good. I'm smoking,
Speaker 3: but I know I have to get something done. Most
Speaker 3: people will smoke and then do nothing, right, So the
Speaker 3: relationship I.
Speaker 5: Have with marijuana is a good one.
Speaker 3: It's like I smoke and now I'm productive, and there's
Speaker 3: I don't know why.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I get in that month.
Speaker 4: Do you only smoke a certain time of day?
Speaker 7: Because I remember an ex boyfriend of mine years and
Speaker 7: years ago had to start smoking only at night.
Speaker 2: No to go to bed.
Speaker 5: No, he just he it was like a reward for him, Yes.
Speaker 4: A productive day.
Speaker 7: And he started realizing like he thought he was productive
Speaker 7: when he smoked, but he wasn't. Actually it would just
Speaker 7: be a lot of thoughts and ideas. But he's like,
Speaker 7: I'm not actually getting stuff done.
Speaker 4: So he would smoke at.
Speaker 7: Night and it was like a reward. Yeah, like before
Speaker 7: bed and stuff. Yeah, do you do that or are
Speaker 7: you like you can do it whenever?
Speaker 3: No, I smoke, and then I say I need to
Speaker 3: do something because I smoke.
Speaker 4: That's really good.
Speaker 1: So that's my re I feel like you smoke like
Speaker 1: the pen And then when it's nighttime and it's like
Speaker 1: dusk dusk.
Speaker 2: He and land and go out and spark the doobies.
Speaker 7: Really, yeah, do you and watch a movie when I smoke?
Speaker 7: Those are my favorite. I love a joint or blunt
Speaker 7: hits a little hard, but a joint is so like nice,
Speaker 7: not like a face or a spliff.
Speaker 4: Really, yeah, that's what he said really, Oh yeah, I
Speaker 4: always loved the feeling of like rolling this, this.
Speaker 7: Is a sobriety I and I'm like, I love.
Speaker 4: A good margarita too.
Speaker 1: Don't worry, No, don't worry about it. I mean we're
Speaker 1: a well rounded podcast.
Speaker 7: Okay, I have a question for you, La, do you
Speaker 7: because I find it interesting you wrote about your sobriety,
Speaker 7: like why you Got Sober in your book.
Speaker 4: I do feel like you talk about it a lot
Speaker 4: and mention it a lot.
Speaker 7: However, it's always the number one people or thing when
Speaker 7: we ask whether or not on Amazon Live or whether
Speaker 7: or not on in the stories Instagram, what do you
Speaker 7: want us to talk about? They're like, Lala, we want
Speaker 7: to hear Lala's sobriety journey. Do you Does that get
Speaker 7: you frustrated because you're like, I literally talk about it
Speaker 7: all the time.
Speaker 4: I've told it many times.
Speaker 7: Or are you like, okay, yeah, I'll tell it again,
Speaker 7: Like how do you feel when that happens?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: I feel because there's as I stay in this game
Speaker 1: longer and longer, more people find out who I am,
Speaker 1: or more people start watching the show or come in
Speaker 1: contact with my Instagram, so there's always new people who
Speaker 1: maybe haven't heard it, don't know that I have a book.
Speaker 1: It's similar to like, it's not about the pasta. We've
Speaker 1: explained this that five hundred times, that happened years ago,
Speaker 1: and I'm still having to talk about it. Right, sobriety
Speaker 1: is not something that I'll ever get sick of because
Speaker 1: you're always gonna have people who also are familiar with you,
Speaker 1: sobriety doesn't necessarily affect them right now, or they're not
Speaker 1: into it, and then all of a sudden they want
Speaker 1: to get sober and they're looking for your story because
Speaker 1: they heard that I'm sober right.
Speaker 2: So, No, I don't get sick of it the posta question.
Speaker 2: I get sick of the positive question when I'm done.
Speaker 7: We did, Yes, do you mind us asking a couple
Speaker 7: questions on your sobriety before we get into other stories
Speaker 7: or would you rather get straight into other stories?
Speaker 2: No, I'm let's ask questions.
Speaker 7: I know one of the most asked questions, and we've
Speaker 7: touched on it, but they all always will be like,
Speaker 7: what was Lalla's rock bottom moment? Was there a moment
Speaker 7: where you're like, that's it, I'm done, I'm sober.
Speaker 4: You did have it? In your book. I remember reading
Speaker 4: about it.
Speaker 7: Yeah, did you feel like the plane and the coloring
Speaker 7: on the face like that was the next morning you
Speaker 7: were like, that's.
Speaker 3: It because also there's a story that you told me,
Speaker 3: and I don't know if it was in that same
Speaker 3: rock bottom moment, but you were in Vegas. Yeah, at
Speaker 3: dinner and you tripped upstairs. No, that was the same trip,
Speaker 3: same trip that was in Florida. Yeah, okay, Disney World
Speaker 3: there it is.
Speaker 1: No, there were there were many moments that I would
Speaker 1: say to myself that I needed to reel it in over,
Speaker 1: you know, the course of a few years before I
Speaker 1: got sober in twenty eighteen, where it was like I'm
Speaker 1: not going to get drunk tonight, and then I would
Speaker 1: end up drunk again, and then it was like I'm
Speaker 1: only going to drink beer and wine. And keep in
Speaker 1: mind in the Big Book they talk about this, it's
Speaker 1: like literally what I experienced. You try to limit your right.
Speaker 1: So I was like only beer and wine. And then
Speaker 1: it was like I can have a cocktail, but let's
Speaker 1: only have two. And then the cocktails turned into like
Speaker 1: in big glasses that really equaled maybe six, right, And
Speaker 1: then I did AA for a while where I was
Speaker 1: still smoking weed, and then I felt like I was
Speaker 1: making a mockery of the program.
Speaker 2: Finally I had just given up. I was like, I
Speaker 2: like to drink, and everyone's gonna have to just get
Speaker 2: over it.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: So I would say that my rock bottom moment did
Speaker 1: happen six months after my dad died, because that's when
Speaker 1: I really leaned into drinking.
Speaker 2: Drinking for me used to just.
Speaker 1: Be fun and like we'd go out on the weekends
Speaker 1: and it would make me loose back in Utide, go
Speaker 1: out maybe twice a month, you know, and I get
Speaker 1: a little lit. But it wasn't It wasn't an everyday thing.
Speaker 1: Once I moved to LA and then once I met
Speaker 1: my ex, it was really bad, okay, And I don't
Speaker 1: want to place blame on that situation. I'm just using
Speaker 1: that as the time marker of when it got bad.
Speaker 5: He made it easy.
Speaker 3: Your life was easy for you to drink every day,
Speaker 3: the responsibilities lowered. I feel like when you met him,
Speaker 3: it's not like he made you drink or things like that.
Speaker 3: Your life became easy. You were on a TV show,
Speaker 3: Things were taken care of. Your life became easier to
Speaker 3: just have fun, on Tuesday Wednesday.
Speaker 5: That's how I I.
Speaker 2: Just feel like in La, there's something happening all the time.
Speaker 5: It's crazy that Friday and Saturday is a slow night
Speaker 5: in La. Yeah, you know, it's like it's crazy.
Speaker 1: We were like Tuesday through Thursday was when we were
Speaker 1: like having the best time ever. And then Friday and
Speaker 1: Saturday is when I'd go into sir because my friends
Speaker 1: had to work, so like i'd drink, but those weren't
Speaker 1: the party nights.
Speaker 2: Tuesday through Thursday, it was like, let's fucking go.
Speaker 7: You're also, you know, not like it's the elephant in
Speaker 7: the room, but you're filming a TV show. I don't
Speaker 7: think I could film a reality TV show which thrives
Speaker 7: off of drama, thrives off of interactions that are a
Speaker 7: little more wild, and not drink because I'd be like,
Speaker 7: I'm doing my job. I'm gonna make a TV I'm
Speaker 7: gonna get loose lit say some shit. I might not
Speaker 7: I might filter myself because cameras are around.
Speaker 3: So that probably back to the point of your friend
Speaker 3: who moved who had to have drinks to make friends.
Speaker 3: It's like how you've felt the need to drink to
Speaker 3: make TV. Yeah, fall into that hole.
Speaker 1: Yeah, of course, and everyone else is drinking and you
Speaker 1: are absolutely terrified being in this new environment.
Speaker 2: And then it became my norm.
Speaker 1: It was like I would be on movie sets and
Speaker 1: be drinking before scenes.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: It was like we were full blown, like off to
Speaker 1: the races of alcoholism.
Speaker 2: Right. So when I went on.
Speaker 1: At that trip to Mexico season seven, and I hadn't
Speaker 1: been drinking, but then I started sneaking drinks in the
Speaker 1: middle of the season, got wasted in Mexico. After that trip,
Speaker 1: I came home and was like, I'm never picking up
Speaker 1: alcohol again. At Jackson Brittany's engagement party, you see me
Speaker 1: talking to Stossy saying it doesn't mix. I'm gonna be sober.
Speaker 1: It did not last, okay. I was still spiraling, And
Speaker 1: then it got to the point where I just caved
Speaker 1: into the fact that I liked to drink and at
Speaker 1: some point it would go away. Mm, Like literally, I
Speaker 1: didn't give a fuck. I was like, I'm not ever
Speaker 1: gonna question this again. Like, one day I'll get pregnant
Speaker 1: and be a mom and that's when I'll stop drinking,
Speaker 1: because who would drink pregnant? Well, you'd be surprised. Addiction
Speaker 1: is a wild thing, right, So I'm in that zone.
Speaker 1: My ex says, I want us to go meet with
Speaker 1: a psychiatrist. You know, he's sensing that I need to
Speaker 1: talk to somebody. I meet with this woman. As I'm
Speaker 1: talking to her, she dismisses my ex and says, like,
Speaker 1: I would like to talk to Lalla by herself. We
Speaker 1: venture into my drinking habits. She tells me to take
Speaker 1: this number down, and I felt like she was pushing
Speaker 1: me to get help. So as I'm writing it down,
Speaker 1: I was like, are you giving this to me because
Speaker 1: you're asking me to be sober, because.
Speaker 2: That's not fucking happening.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll get sober when I get pregnant, bitch, not
Speaker 1: a few good years, right, And she was like, I'm
Speaker 1: not asking you to do anything. I'm asking you to
Speaker 1: put this number in your phone. If you use it, great,
Speaker 1: if you don't, great. We go to Florida on the
Speaker 1: family vacation to Disney Worlds. I am beyond wasted and
Speaker 1: not like the fun, like let's get a little buzzed,
Speaker 1: you know how. You see like parents that are with
Speaker 1: the kids and they're like, there's no driving involved because
Speaker 1: you're literally staying on the park and it's like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's fun. That person like works really hard, Like I'm
Speaker 1: just going to take a load off. My kids are
Speaker 1: gonna ride rides. Yes, it was not like that.
Speaker 5: I will say it was fun during the mornings.
Speaker 4: You were there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, everyone was there. Yeah, my exes, whole family, my
Speaker 1: whole family. Okay, Brannan and Cheryl. Did anyone else drink
Speaker 1: with you or was it a weird like.
Speaker 2: I mean, I think no one was keeping up with me,
Speaker 2: that's for sure.
Speaker 3: But that's the thing is like she was funduring the
Speaker 3: morning and the afternoon, but that's where you would hit
Speaker 3: that one point of you over drink and then.
Speaker 5: Afternoons and dinners became nightmares, me.
Speaker 2: Falling down the stairs, I mean, mabing someone to walk
Speaker 2: me to.
Speaker 3: The bathroom, like the fun that we would have in
Speaker 3: the morning because you just had started right and then
Speaker 3: the other drinking.
Speaker 1: Is just talking about this is taking me to such
Speaker 1: a dark place that I'm having to remind myself like
Speaker 1: we don't live in that.
Speaker 2: No, exactly.
Speaker 4: And I also want to get to year one.
Speaker 7: When you hit your one and half, you felt like
Speaker 7: I want to get to that but I know a
Speaker 7: lot of people ask about rock bottom and we can.
Speaker 2: We can see.
Speaker 1: But this is why I tell people, I think it's
Speaker 1: important to talk about your rock bottom moment and in
Speaker 1: some way relive it, because it does take you back
Speaker 1: to a place where you're like, well, I'm never going
Speaker 1: there again, Like I don't want to go there. This
Speaker 1: is why we go to meetings because it's a constant
Speaker 1: I don't want to say rehashing, but it takes you
Speaker 1: to where you can remember your lowest place. And then
Speaker 1: when the speaker is sharing, they're taking you to their
Speaker 1: lowest place and you're relating, and then all of this
Speaker 1: sudden the moment that they get sober and the whole
Speaker 1: room feels like they're not suffocating anymore, and you feel
Speaker 1: inspired and you go out and you're back to loving sobriety.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So we go through Disneyland, me being wasted the entire time.
Speaker 1: We're leaving to go back to la We chartered a jet.
Speaker 1: We easton, got a bottle of Hennessy in the gift
Speaker 1: shop and I was fixated on where it was at
Speaker 1: all times.
Speaker 2: I got two roadies to take.
Speaker 3: The one thing that I will say, I was like yeah,
Speaker 3: I want to get some Hennessy for the plane.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I d.
Speaker 5: I poured one little drink.
Speaker 3: Of cocaine Hennessy and I'm just sipping it, chatting.
Speaker 2: I drink the whole thing was gone. And then.
Speaker 4: Were you concerned or were you like no, you know, everyone.
Speaker 2: Was concerned after this trip.
Speaker 5: After this trip, I was concerned.
Speaker 2: But remember my family didn't live in l A.
Speaker 5: Like, I had never seen her like this.
Speaker 1: I think there would have been an intervention. Okay, there
Speaker 1: were moments that my mom would talk to Easton. I
Speaker 1: did at moments drink and drive and that's.
Speaker 5: Where and that's where I almost got it.
Speaker 3: But that's where my mother would fly out when she
Speaker 3: would call us and we could tell she was drunk,
Speaker 3: and she was like, I'm getting away from x Y
Speaker 3: and Z, whether that be the person she was with
Speaker 3: or the eggs like the fight, but it wasn't always
Speaker 3: it was x Y and Z. Whatever the story was.
Speaker 3: She was trying to get away, but we knew she
Speaker 3: was drunk, but she was driving. And those are the
Speaker 3: times where my mother was like, yeah, like I'm flying out.
Speaker 3: So that's why she would go out and things like
Speaker 3: that is because of those reasons of that, but that's
Speaker 3: when we were scared, We were nervous.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was reckless. My life had become unmanageable.
Speaker 1: And on that plane ride when I was drinking, it
Speaker 1: was I was letting the kids because they were getting antsy.
Speaker 1: I was letting them draw with markers on my legs,
Speaker 1: letting them put makeup on my face. And then you know,
Speaker 1: we get home and funds over were back to reality
Speaker 1: and I couldn't get any drunker, and it was I
Speaker 1: was depressed.
Speaker 2: I had hit that you know, where you want.
Speaker 1: To drive your car off of a cliff because you're
Speaker 1: just in such a dark place, which is what alcohol
Speaker 1: does to a lot of people. And that's why I
Speaker 1: would continue to drink the next day because I didn't
Speaker 1: want to deal with that level of depression, right, So
Speaker 1: the cycle just continued. But I remember waking up the
Speaker 1: next morning. Easton was gone, my mom was gone, his
Speaker 1: girlfriend that he brought out was gone, and I was
Speaker 1: I had scrubbed my legs the night before because I
Speaker 1: didn't want to remember the darkness. But it didn't matter
Speaker 1: if I did that or not, because all of the
Speaker 1: marker was gone off my legs. But I woke up
Speaker 1: still and said, like admitted to myself, you're an alcoholic.
Speaker 1: You're calling the number that the woman gave you. I
Speaker 1: called my partner at the time and said, I need
Speaker 1: to talk to you at your office.
Speaker 2: Went to his office.
Speaker 1: I told him I'm an alcoholic and I'm reaching out
Speaker 1: today to get help. I had a meeting that day
Speaker 1: about something, and it was just like a very freeing
Speaker 1: moment in my life.
Speaker 2: For the first time. The elephant had like lifted off
Speaker 2: of my chest when I first entered the AA meetings,
Speaker 2: because you know, I was going and meeting with my
Speaker 2: sober coach. She was like a caseworker, Ashley.
Speaker 1: She would call me every day and I would meet
Speaker 1: with her every Thursday, and she was trying to link
Speaker 1: me up with She knew I was in a delicate
Speaker 1: position right I was also on a television show. She
Speaker 1: just wanted to handle it with care of I wasn't
Speaker 1: Kim Kardashian getting sober, but she just wanted to make
Speaker 1: sure I was protected.
Speaker 2: And so we found my sponsor. I started going to meetings.
Speaker 1: I did the whole thing, and for the first thirty
Speaker 1: days I went to this meeting and I had so
Speaker 1: much guilt because listening to Sorry, I gotta breathe, no breathe.
Speaker 5: Take a couple of them.
Speaker 1: Listening to the stories that people were it was like
Speaker 1: so many of them got into cars drunk and something
Speaker 1: horrible happened. And then here I am getting into cars drunk,
Speaker 1: acting fucking reckless for years on end and just nothing happened.
Speaker 1: Like what made me so special that my rock bottom
Speaker 1: was thirty five thousand feet in the air on a
Speaker 1: private jet. Yeah, but this person had to have his
Speaker 1: whole life change, you know, you struggle with the guilt
Speaker 1: of I just don't understand that, like why does life
Speaker 1: work that way?
Speaker 2: Like someone make it make sense.
Speaker 1: But then after I got through thirty days, this woman
Speaker 1: came up to me and she was like, you have
Speaker 1: like a bright light to you now, like you came
Speaker 1: in so defeated, and I hope me telling you this
Speaker 1: makes you come back over and over and over again,
Speaker 1: because some people fall off after thirty days.
Speaker 2: That's the hardest point to reach.
Speaker 4: Is it every day just so I know?
Speaker 7: Or is it just like thirty days, like maybe a
Speaker 7: couple days here, a couple of days there.
Speaker 1: Like meetings, Yes, No, I did ninety meetings in ninety days.
Speaker 7: Wowulation amazing whatever.
Speaker 2: I walked in and I was like, show me the way.
Speaker 1: There's no version of me. Tell me what to do,
Speaker 1: what to do, I'll eat dog shit. That'll get me
Speaker 1: fucking sober. Like, I don't care.
Speaker 2: I want what you have. What do I do?
Speaker 7: Okay, So we go back you did after the thirty days?
Speaker 7: She said, there's a bright light now. Is that the
Speaker 7: pink cloud you were talking about or no?
Speaker 2: I think she just saw it in my eyes.
Speaker 1: There was clarity, you know, like I look back on
Speaker 1: pictures like I'm like, you.
Speaker 2: Look like shit.
Speaker 1: How did you possibly walk out into the world and
Speaker 1: feel confident? Your eyes are bloodshot, your puffy is shit,
Speaker 1: your your coloring is off. You look not good, bitch,
Speaker 1: and you're going out into the world thinking that you're
Speaker 1: hitting right.
Speaker 2: That's what alcohol does see you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, you guys don't have your summer bots.
Speaker 4: You body shame people the false confidence.
Speaker 1: Right now, I can go out and have confrontation with people,
Speaker 1: but at least I can own it and be like, yeah,
Speaker 1: well there was not a proud moment. But I have
Speaker 1: no one to blame but myself. I was you know,
Speaker 1: I can't blame it on alcohol. I remember everything that happened,
Speaker 1: and although that sounds like a shitty thing, we're like,
Speaker 1: I can't blame something, right, it actually feels very good.
Speaker 4: I was gonna say it probably feels freeing.
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, because to me, it's like embarrassing when I
Speaker 7: have to blame alcohol.
Speaker 4: I feel like, ugh, how gross? How grow up? I
Speaker 4: was drunk. Okay, you're thirty two, get.
Speaker 2: It together, get it.
Speaker 1: It's not cute in high school where like you leave
Speaker 1: your friends at the high school party like the rivalry
Speaker 1: team's house or whatever.
Speaker 2: You're like, I was just wasted, Sierra, Sierra, so drunk.
Speaker 2: You know, it's like not cute.
Speaker 7: Yes, okay, so happy now because you get to a year,
Speaker 7: You get to a year of sobriety are you? And
Speaker 7: there might have been a moment before a year, who
Speaker 7: knows six months where you're like, holy shit, I can't
Speaker 7: believe I made it.
Speaker 4: Do you get to a year.
Speaker 7: And you're like easy, breezy, like it's not even a
Speaker 7: big deal. How are you feeling when you get to
Speaker 7: a year, your year anniversary?
Speaker 1: You know, it was weird because I remember just randomly
Speaker 1: getting on Instagram on my five month sobriety and treating
Speaker 1: it like it was no big deal.
Speaker 2: Like, by the way, I'm.
Speaker 1: A friend of Bill W's now and then like the
Speaker 1: internet blew up was like La La Kent has a
Speaker 1: drinking problem and has been sober for five months, which
Speaker 1: is such a random number, right, And I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is like a kind of a big deal, right
Speaker 1: to be like someone who admits to having a drinking
Speaker 1: problem and now you're sober.
Speaker 2: So when I hit a year, it was fucking wild.
Speaker 1: When they gave me my one year chip, I was like,
Speaker 1: this is the greatest prize of my life.
Speaker 5: Every year. She's yes, wait for that second third. It's
Speaker 5: like the Lord of the Rings.
Speaker 1: You wanted Easton and my mom got me the diamond
Speaker 1: five for my five year. I still haven't gotten my
Speaker 1: five year chip.
Speaker 5: You have to go get that. I finally Jewelers for
Speaker 5: the five.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's the only thing I have that represents my
Speaker 1: five years.
Speaker 5: We love I see it a lot.
Speaker 4: You have to go get it in person. They won't
Speaker 4: mail it to you or anything.
Speaker 2: No, it's just it's special to get it in person.
Speaker 2: But now I'm you know, we're just.
Speaker 5: This year.
Speaker 1: But that's when my sponsor told me that she not
Speaker 1: my sponsor, my sober coach. I'm sorry because I was
Speaker 1: still seeing her along with my sponsor in AA meetings,
Speaker 1: but she told.
Speaker 2: Me you're my little unicorn.
Speaker 1: Why because she said it's a rare thing to have
Speaker 1: someone come in and want it so badly and not
Speaker 1: ever in the course of a year talk about wanting
Speaker 1: to drink less.
Speaker 2: Work through that because I didn't. You didn't.
Speaker 4: No, you were not tempted you.
Speaker 5: Nope, it of your rock bottom.
Speaker 3: You thought of that often, because I really I think
Speaker 3: you thinking or anybody thinking of where they were at
Speaker 3: rock bottom is a very good thing to think about.
Speaker 5: I know you hated talking.
Speaker 3: About it and thinking about it, but what did that
Speaker 3: do just for you to not drink for the next
Speaker 3: three months?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Is that what it was?
Speaker 3: I sitting your rock bottom puts you in a place
Speaker 3: again of I don't even care to talk about it
Speaker 3: because I just revisited.
Speaker 4: Or was it people counting on you?
Speaker 7: I remember seeing a clip Was it because you actually
Speaker 7: made a public statement? I remember seeing a clip on
Speaker 7: like watch What Happens Live or something, and You're like,
Speaker 7: I'm never drinking again. Was it that that you're like, well,
Speaker 7: I can't, like, what was it you think that?
Speaker 1: I just think for the first time, I was like
Speaker 1: so happy and clear, and I liked the way that
Speaker 1: I looked. I liked the way that I felt. It
Speaker 1: just was a good I never had to worry about,
Speaker 1: like getting in my car, like I'm always gonna get
Speaker 1: in my car sober, and if something bad happens, God forbid.
Speaker 2: At least I wasn't.
Speaker 5: Fucked up, you know, But I do feelings.
Speaker 1: Like that made me just want to keep staying sober,
Speaker 1: and that feeling has not ended since the day I
Speaker 1: got sober.
Speaker 5: Yeah, And for me, I.
Speaker 3: Do, I have a feeling And maybe it's subconscious on
Speaker 3: you of I think the jet and having all of
Speaker 3: them writing on you and all of that. You revisiting
Speaker 3: that moment is what will keep you sober throughout. I
Speaker 3: think so too, Even though you don't want to revisit it,
Speaker 3: revisiting it is the thing that will give you longevity
Speaker 3: and what you're doing, I think so too. And to everybody, like,
Speaker 3: that's the other thing that I'm trying to say, like
Speaker 3: for you, for everybody, if you have to revisit that
Speaker 3: thing and get disgusted, however, you have to do it
Speaker 3: with friends, family, however you do it, revisiting it for
Speaker 3: me because you've brought up those points so many times.
Speaker 3: I feel like that is what has kept you sober
Speaker 3: as well and not even wanting a drink, right, And
Speaker 3: that's just coming from me.
Speaker 7: Yeah, and what like a simple statement, but like that's
Speaker 7: probably so freeing that you said, like I could get
Speaker 7: in my car anytime I want. That's like, oh yeah,
Speaker 7: people like you could get in your car anytime you
Speaker 7: want and know you're not going to be fucked up.
Speaker 7: That is so simple but so powerful. That's like you're
Speaker 7: not trapped anywhere. You literally can leave any time you need,
Speaker 7: which probably.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, and I don't ever want because I was
Speaker 1: on a pretty high dose of anti anxiety and antidepressants.
Speaker 1: And I don't say to people like, once you get sober,
Speaker 1: you don't need meds anymore.
Speaker 2: That's not what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Like, I'm not a doctor, listen to your doctor for
Speaker 1: me personally, After I got sober, I no longer needed
Speaker 1: medication for my anxiety or depression and have not been
Speaker 1: on medication and since I got sober.
Speaker 5: Wow, But that's where I can battle you.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, about But that's why I say.
Speaker 1: That's why I say, don't listen to me, because this
Speaker 1: is just my own person.
Speaker 5: Just as much as the next person. I promise.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's meaning let me back. You're not a sober person.
Speaker 3: I smoke weed. You're right, so you're right. Maybe the
Speaker 3: weed would kick it.
Speaker 5: I don't know, and I don't know where you could
Speaker 5: battle me.
Speaker 1: I'm fully sober.
Speaker 3: But also the only other thing is you've been in
Speaker 3: this world for like a decade of.
Speaker 5: Just getting.
Speaker 1: They all say that the comments section won't affect that until.
Speaker 3: Until you're in that thing, and you're like, you know what,
Speaker 3: I'm a little just stay home for a couple of years.
Speaker 5: But no, you're right. You're right.
Speaker 2: I'm not sober, so I can't not change anything.
Speaker 5: It may not, but i'm not.
Speaker 7: But we all have different it's all relative. We all
Speaker 7: have different brains, chemicality, your doctor.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't listen to me. I'm just coming from
Speaker 1: personal experiences, right.
Speaker 4: Thank you for sharing that with us, law.
Speaker 7: Is there anything else you want to say about your
Speaker 7: sobriety story for now in your journey?
Speaker 4: I know we have other stories to share, but I.
Speaker 1: Think the biggest thing is that my sobriety has made
Speaker 1: it so that I can be the person that the
Speaker 1: daughter my mom deserves, the sister that Easton deserves.
Speaker 2: And there are.
Speaker 1: Moments where I'm a hot head and I don't want
Speaker 1: to listen, and I always think that my feelings are facts.
Speaker 1: The difference is is once I retreat after battle, I
Speaker 1: can understand where the other person is coming.
Speaker 5: From, back to where we go for the jugular.
Speaker 2: Right, That's just in my nature.
Speaker 5: Yes, is what we all do. I do it now too.
Speaker 1: We all do it, yes many and my family not
Speaker 1: the world this Yeah, and it's allowed me to be
Speaker 1: the parent that Ocean deserves. Yeah, because I would not
Speaker 1: be this kind of mom if I was not sober.
Speaker 7: That's really sweet and great. Yeah, thank you for sharing that,
Speaker 7: And I'm really glad. I don't even know if we've
Speaker 7: done a full on like just you know.
Speaker 3: Guests talking about I love you, I love your way more.
Speaker 4: Do you want to get into some shared stories?
Speaker 2: I know?
Speaker 7: Okay, So we did a few longer ones the last
Speaker 7: time or whenever the Sober Bonus episode aired. So I'll
Speaker 7: do like a few of the short ones that people
Speaker 7: wrote in so this person, I'll start with us. My
Speaker 7: husband just entered a thirty day program for alcoholism.
Speaker 4: Any words of advice.
Speaker 1: Ooh, I would suggest going to number one.
Speaker 2: That's incredible, congratulations.
Speaker 1: I think alan On is extremely beneficial to people who
Speaker 1: have been on the receiving end of an addict because
Speaker 1: as much as it is a disease and the person
Speaker 1: is not who they are truly when they're under the influence,
Speaker 1: you know, we have deeply affected people, and I think
Speaker 1: that that could be beneficial. And also I would say
Speaker 1: sticking to one day at a time is like the
Speaker 1: most important thing, Like do not look at the bigger picture.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you have to take it one second at a time.
Speaker 1: And when you can just get through that one second,
Speaker 1: one minute at a time, it's like a freaking win.
Speaker 1: So that would be my biggest piece of advice.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 7: I think one day at a time, one second at
Speaker 7: a time, for me, helps with so much too, not
Speaker 7: even sobriety, like just for like, if I'm feeling for me,
Speaker 7: if I'm feeling wildly overwhelmed and I have a list
Speaker 7: of fifty things to do, I go one item at
Speaker 7: a time, right list them out what's most important, and literally,
Speaker 7: just if I look at the entire list, I like
Speaker 7: almost feel frozen.
Speaker 4: Right, but one item at a time. I don't know,
Speaker 4: but that is I.
Speaker 1: Also think if I had a partner who was entering
Speaker 1: a thirty day program, once they got out, you have
Speaker 1: to create a very safe space for them and see
Speaker 1: what they need. If they say I don't feel comfortable,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't keep alcohol in the house. People bring alcohol
Speaker 1: to my house and leave it and it's there for
Speaker 1: them when they return.
Speaker 2: But again, everybody's different.
Speaker 1: So just like making your person feel safe enough to say, like, hey,
Speaker 1: this is how I'm going to best practice my sobriety
Speaker 1: and continue on this road.
Speaker 2: Please no alcohol in the house. Please.
Speaker 1: I can't go here and listen to listen to them,
Speaker 1: and you know, I'm sure it could get difficult. Your
Speaker 1: life is going to change tremendously because normies think about it.
Speaker 1: Everywhere you go there's really a bar or someone's offering
Speaker 1: you a beverage.
Speaker 2: So life is going to change.
Speaker 1: But you have to like incubate that person because this
Speaker 1: is like life or death for an addict.
Speaker 7: Yeah, this person said, I literally hit rock bottom and
Speaker 7: almost ruined my marriage. I've been sober for one year
Speaker 7: and could not be happier. You've been such an inspiration, Lalla.
Speaker 2: I love that human in one year is so special?
Speaker 4: Huge.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Can I tell you for everybody though, well, thank you.
Speaker 3: That's what I want you to know that, thank you
Speaker 3: for sharing for all of them, because what you share
Speaker 3: has helped a lot of people.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 5: Thank you for being strong and doing.
Speaker 2: It one year.
Speaker 1: Thank you for that was really sweet tea with the
Speaker 1: one year. So, after my relationship ended and I basically
Speaker 1: ran away from the house, I took as much as
Speaker 1: I could, but I didn't empty out my chores, and
Speaker 1: so I had called someone who was still in the
Speaker 1: house and I said, please go back in there. You
Speaker 1: you have to empty my bedside table. My one year
Speaker 1: sobriety chip is in there. She called us back, remember,
Speaker 1: and she was like, I don't know how to tell
Speaker 1: you this, but all of your things are gone and
Speaker 1: there's like another chick stuff in there. And I was
Speaker 1: totally fine with everything except for where is my one
Speaker 1: year chip? Like that I must get and do you
Speaker 1: remember she delivered it to us. Yeah, she found it
Speaker 1: in some garbage bag that all my shit was in
Speaker 1: and I was like, I don't care about anything else
Speaker 1: in the bag, just the chip.
Speaker 7: This person said, well, you brought this up. I got pregnant,
Speaker 7: so maybe it just works for some people. They get
Speaker 7: pregnant and then they never drink again.
Speaker 5: I have another question on top of this and being
Speaker 5: sober and that, I want to know on the vape
Speaker 5: with this, do you think you'll ever go back to
Speaker 5: smoking the vape after not being pregnant one day?
Speaker 4: Guys, I think about it every.
Speaker 5: Day, didn't I know? I in front of her and
Speaker 5: I need to stop.
Speaker 1: I don't think about it ever until it's in front
Speaker 1: of me going into someone's mouth Easton.
Speaker 7: But yours is weed vape, so it's different, right, he says,
Speaker 7: double puffet.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 4: No, I don't see them as much anymore because.
Speaker 2: Probably because you were hanging out with me every day.
Speaker 5: You had him in your purse. I remember, Laura, let
Speaker 5: you go. Do you have my vape? And I'd have
Speaker 5: to text you do you have one? Yeah? I have
Speaker 5: two extra in my bag.
Speaker 7: Always a backup, always a backup, always a backup.
Speaker 4: If I was didn't have a backup, oh my god.
Speaker 5: No.
Speaker 1: But that's what's wild is people asking me, how have
Speaker 1: you been doing with the vape since being pregnant.
Speaker 5: I'm like, good, I think I am very good.
Speaker 1: The moment I went through with the I U I
Speaker 1: the vape was in the trash.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I guess that's the point some people.
Speaker 3: If I were you and I was pregnant once that
Speaker 3: kid shot out mbilical cord.
Speaker 2: But I can't talk about it.
Speaker 4: That's going to be my present for her. It's a
Speaker 4: basket of vape.
Speaker 1: You can never get me to drink again, but vaping
Speaker 1: I need to go to. Like, I think there is
Speaker 1: a bow text to me. This was a while ago,
Speaker 1: probably a year ago. Vape, vape, vapes and no, there
Speaker 1: is a lot like doing smoking cigarettes vape.
Speaker 4: There's a lot of vape groups that are like vape
Speaker 4: help groups. Christian dads who vape, Oh, I've.
Speaker 5: Been in the car before.
Speaker 2: Really is that a thing?
Speaker 7: Christian dads who vape, dads who are addicted to the vape,
Speaker 7: who are Christian, who want to get off it.
Speaker 2: Everyone, It truly is the heart.
Speaker 3: I see somebody hitting it in their car and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 3: I have one, and then I hit mine.
Speaker 1: When you okay, I have to tell you something about
Speaker 1: this guy at my AA meeting.
Speaker 5: This was a while I have to get back to
Speaker 5: her question. Now. I do feel bad that I which one.
Speaker 1: We will We will get back to it. But I
Speaker 1: was smoking my vabe and he was like, you know,
Speaker 1: those are really bad for you. And I was like,
Speaker 1: I know, but I figure like if I could stop
Speaker 1: drinking alcohol and quit that, I can certainly quit this.
Speaker 1: And he goes, you ever quit heroin? Before I go no, no,
Speaker 1: and he goes, wow. They're saying it's the equivalent to
Speaker 1: quitting that it's good luck. And I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: really stressed, stressed exactly.
Speaker 2: I need to stress it people.
Speaker 7: I'm telling you there are the sober groups for the
Speaker 7: vapes because they are so bad.
Speaker 3: I'll have to dismiss myself for like six days, no vape. No,
Speaker 3: we know nothing, and I'm just going to be running
Speaker 3: and nobody can be near me because they'll assault anybody
Speaker 3: near me, lovely assault that I'm.
Speaker 5: Going to be just in a house, locked doors, just
Speaker 5: walking around.
Speaker 2: Are going to put him in a pat room.
Speaker 1: Wait, tell me what the she got pressured? She got
Speaker 1: sober after she got pregnant.
Speaker 7: Yes, well, she just said I got pregnant, So I'm
Speaker 7: assuming that because it was share your sobriety journey simple
Speaker 7: as that can.
Speaker 1: I tell you a lot of people say, after I
Speaker 1: got pregnant, I loved the feeling of not drinking and
Speaker 1: waking up and feeling okay.
Speaker 2: And there's so many.
Speaker 1: Like alcohol free replacements yes that they're like, I just
Speaker 1: never drank again.
Speaker 4: Right, So I will share this because she'd be fine
Speaker 4: with it.
Speaker 7: But my sister, she drank, and she had gotten on
Speaker 7: a certain anxiety medication. She got pregnant, she gave up
Speaker 7: the alcohol, and I believe she either lowered the dose or.
Speaker 4: Got on a different medication for anxiety.
Speaker 7: Whatever, she got pregnant, and in a healthy way, she
Speaker 7: started like dropping weight like crazy. Her face slammed, and
Speaker 7: I was like, and she was very much and she
Speaker 7: still is pregnant. But she I was like, do you
Speaker 7: think it was the alcohol the medicine. She's like, I
Speaker 7: don't know, but like I've never felt better.
Speaker 1: This is not me shaming anyone's body, Okay, so please
Speaker 1: don't take it that way. The way that alcohol weight
Speaker 1: attaches itself to you is very fair your face and
Speaker 1: right in your mid section, like you could have the
Speaker 1: skinniest little legs and these cute little arms or whatever
Speaker 1: and toned because you do the shake weight like I do.
Speaker 1: If you drink excessively, it is such a specific type
Speaker 1: of weight that you're carrying, sugarweight, isn't it. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: all sugar.
Speaker 2: Sugars as we know, sugar like grips itself to you.
Speaker 2: It is very hard to lose sugar weight.
Speaker 1: Again, not body shaming, But if you drink a lot
Speaker 1: and you've been trying to lose a few pounds and
Speaker 1: you're wondering why it's not happening, look into the.
Speaker 2: Alcohol of it.
Speaker 5: Well, that's not body shaming. That's like I mean, well, I'm.
Speaker 1: Talking about people's bodies and if i'm I'm just.
Speaker 5: But you can just tell a drinker's body. That's not
Speaker 5: a shaming, that's just it's facts mine.
Speaker 7: Like I literally get like jowls of sorts, Like my
Speaker 7: face starts to get heavy and I get like and
Speaker 7: the eyes.
Speaker 5: It's after I eat like a lot of like soy
Speaker 5: sauce salt.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it looks the same. It's gross.
Speaker 5: And I love soy sauce.
Speaker 1: I love soy sauce too. The best part of being
Speaker 1: pregnant is like have a ton of soy sauce on
Speaker 1: this rice, because if I look puffy, no one's gonna
Speaker 1: be like, she looks like shit, because they're gonna be like, oh,
Speaker 1: she's pregnant.
Speaker 5: You look great, baby, sweetheart.
Speaker 4: Do you know you might not know this? I don't.
Speaker 7: But someone saying, can you touch on the caral from
Speaker 7: Summer House sobriety journey?
Speaker 4: Do you know his journey?
Speaker 2: I don't know his exact journey. I will say that
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 1: He's very open about his addiction being alcohol and cocaine. Okay,
Speaker 1: And I've spoken about this before that I was never
Speaker 1: a drug user. I smoked weed and I liked my weed,
Speaker 1: and I always had a pen at my house. I
Speaker 1: always had joints and blunts, but it wasn't like I
Speaker 1: was obsessive about it. I just enjoyed it. And then
Speaker 1: I did mushrooms one time. But as far as like
Speaker 1: the drugs, I would be wasted and people would be like, why.
Speaker 2: Don't you do it?
Speaker 1: I'm like, I just have a super addictive personality, not.
Speaker 4: Sound all can have another shot?
Speaker 5: Yeah wild right?
Speaker 4: Oh wow.
Speaker 1: I don't know his journey to sobriety. All I know
Speaker 1: is watching Summer House, and again that's such a small
Speaker 1: piece of like his life and what happens in his
Speaker 1: world and friendships and relationships. But I really enjoyed watching
Speaker 1: his perspective on situations coming from a sober place.
Speaker 7: Yeah yeah, this person says sixteen days sober, huge and
Speaker 7: so happy to say, I'm finally the mom I hoped
Speaker 7: to be.
Speaker 2: I hope that you forever. Just keep that in mind.
Speaker 5: Tomorrow's seventeen. The next day is eighteen, day by day.
Speaker 1: Day by day, and remember, if there's a problem, you
Speaker 1: will never conquer the beast. The moment you think you've
Speaker 1: conquered it and you dabble in it again, you just have.
Speaker 2: It's it's woke again.
Speaker 5: You created two beasts.
Speaker 7: It's celebrating four hundred and nineteen days of sobriety today.
Speaker 7: Couldn't be more thankful for you as a role model.
Speaker 2: That's incredible. You have a year over a year journeys.
Speaker 7: I didn't know sobriety was possible for me until you
Speaker 7: appeared on my screen.
Speaker 4: Number three hundred and twenty four. You're almost there. Forty
Speaker 4: days until you've hit a year forty one God, I
Speaker 4: have chills.
Speaker 2: H that's really you have to do something to celebrate
Speaker 2: a year.
Speaker 4: Yeah, what's your like? I know it's dependent on the person.
Speaker 7: Would you say, like an overnight trip or like a
Speaker 7: little party. I guess it also depends on what triggers you.
Speaker 7: What would you say?
Speaker 1: I love to have like people over or I love
Speaker 1: to do like a cute little dinner with all of
Speaker 1: the people who have I I will celebrate my sobriety
Speaker 1: birthday way before I celebrate my like I'm like, everybody
Speaker 1: has a fucking birthday.
Speaker 2: Birthday? No right, Yes, that one's hard to get.
Speaker 4: Yeah, celebrating rare, Oh my god, it's.
Speaker 5: Not just given to you if you have to work
Speaker 5: for it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I think a cute dinner is always so fun.
Speaker 1: Or if if you're still in the place of like
Speaker 1: things trigger you, But you could always pick a super
Speaker 1: cute restaurant that likes not alcohol, or.
Speaker 4: A trip, or buy something or that.
Speaker 2: I'm a huge fan of the buying of something. I
Speaker 2: love a good I have someone else buy it for you.
Speaker 2: Treat yourself if.
Speaker 5: It deserved. Yeah, yeah, people feel bad, don't buy you
Speaker 5: they will. Yeah.
Speaker 4: This person said I drank to fit in. I never
Speaker 4: liked the taste. Quit drinking. Twenty five plus years ago
Speaker 4: and so happy. It's cool.
Speaker 2: It is cool now, well that's a new thing.
Speaker 5: Like in all the bars, like people are you can.
Speaker 3: We went to just a bar on last Sunday, just
Speaker 3: me and four buddies and we were just chilling live music.
Speaker 5: They went to the bar.
Speaker 3: No one at it because everybody's like sobering.
Speaker 7: Yeah, and they have the fully sober bars, the mocktails
Speaker 7: like those are fun.
Speaker 3: But yeah, no, like the bar you used to see
Speaker 3: the ball, I mean I used to remember bars just packed.
Speaker 3: And now you go up hundreds of people you can
Speaker 3: get a drink right away. It looks like, yeah you
Speaker 3: can because everybody's just on that sober train.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's amazing. Twenty five years so great.
Speaker 4: This person said, not me, but my brother.
Speaker 7: I prayed to have him back one day and finally
Speaker 7: two years sober.
Speaker 3: Yay.
Speaker 5: I always relations.
Speaker 1: I always feel so sad for families that are dealing
Speaker 1: with a loved one who's like really strong with addiction,
Speaker 1: because even if you hold an intervention, you know, unless
Speaker 1: the person wants to be sober, Yeah, it's like extremely difficult.
Speaker 5: You can lead a horse to water, but you can't.
Speaker 7: No, and it's so painful too, Like it's you know,
Speaker 7: this is a distant family, but like you do everything,
Speaker 7: you offer to pay fully for the nicest some families.
Speaker 7: If you can the nicest facilities, the whole family gets
Speaker 7: behind you.
Speaker 4: There's there's the tough love.
Speaker 7: Uh try, there's the fucking intervention, try, like it's everything,
Speaker 7: and then they might go into the facility, but then
Speaker 7: they check themselves out, like it's such a painful fucking cycle.
Speaker 7: They truly have to be ready, and then you get
Speaker 7: to a point where you're like you just have to
Speaker 7: kind of accept this is personal experience, but like watching
Speaker 7: them die until they're hopefully ready to change.
Speaker 1: It's so that's that's an uh uh what's it called
Speaker 1: a success story with amazing two years sober?
Speaker 4: It's beautiful? Oh my god. The same person writes in
Speaker 4: every time we want to see Lala's tits? This person
Speaker 4: this person.
Speaker 8: Okay comments on all?
Speaker 4: Does he comment on YouTube to comments on all?
Speaker 7: Please ask Lala if she'll wear a mesh shirt with
Speaker 7: her tits out.
Speaker 2: I want to see La.
Speaker 7: Why hasn't Lala shown her tits?
Speaker 4: Fucking A They're on TV somewhere there.
Speaker 1: I love, I love how big is the check that
Speaker 1: you're writing the moment I received the wire.
Speaker 2: The moment I.
Speaker 1: Receive the wire, family, right, I will be in a
Speaker 1: mesh top.
Speaker 4: See there we have it.
Speaker 5: Okay, Christ, So it's just money.
Speaker 8: Someone show this man of God or Lala every comment.
Speaker 8: I mean at least fifty five comments, Laala, please your
Speaker 8: squeaky wheels, honestly show us your tits for la La,
Speaker 8: I mean, my.
Speaker 2: God, for real.
Speaker 1: Your your check can pay both my mortgages and all
Speaker 1: my bills for the next year.
Speaker 2: I will show you my tits.
Speaker 4: She will show you her. She will sell you a
Speaker 4: photo of her tits or video.
Speaker 5: I love.
Speaker 1: About sobriety and and I'm like, how BIG's shack before.
Speaker 5: I talking about what I know?
Speaker 2: I know?
Speaker 4: I'm like, I love a joint. It's your episode, you
Speaker 4: enormy what are we doing?
Speaker 2: You freaking?
Speaker 7: This is really great because I've I'll just share it.
Speaker 7: I'm a bar owner who has been sober for a
Speaker 7: little over three years now. Bar owners and bartenders. I
Speaker 7: was a bartender.
Speaker 4: I know a lot of.
Speaker 7: People who struggled with balancing working and drinking. Because you
Speaker 7: see your regulars, they go, let me buy you a shot.
Speaker 7: You I for like the first few months of bartending,
Speaker 7: I would take the shots to like you get more tips.
Speaker 4: They'd be like, oh, but.
Speaker 7: Then I started making fake drinks of course, but a
Speaker 7: lot of people become alcoholics that way.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I found out all the people who have
Speaker 3: bars or anything like that, the sober ones are the
Speaker 3: ones that still have them.
Speaker 5: Yeah, because they they're like, no, I'm not drunk. You're
Speaker 5: not getting a drink for free.
Speaker 1: Game like a bar rescue. How much of the time
Speaker 1: they're bankrupt because he's.
Speaker 2: Like, you're drinking your own alcohol.
Speaker 1: Yes, you're taking shots every time that young.
Speaker 9: Yeah, you're handing five out to the patrons and taking
Speaker 9: one with That's two bottles in an hour that you
Speaker 9: gave out, and it's like, wow, once that guy stops drinking,
Speaker 9: those two bottles are now paid for a boy the
Speaker 9: patrons because you're like, I'm not paying.
Speaker 4: For this show, I know, or they have employees like
Speaker 4: me who give them out, and they don't. They give
Speaker 4: it out for free to their friends.
Speaker 2: Not for law, not good no, for real.
Speaker 4: They should have kept track. They did it.
Speaker 7: They allowed me, you know, they didn't keep an eye
Speaker 7: on me because I had my regulars coming up and
Speaker 7: they're like, oh, look at all the people, but the
Speaker 7: amount of alcohol I was giving away should be.
Speaker 5: Good for him to have a bar still have it her.
Speaker 3: I think her apologies good for her to still have
Speaker 3: a bar okay for.
Speaker 5: X amount of years and not having workers like Jess.
Speaker 1: Yes, congratulation because she's she's got the clarity to say
Speaker 1: that's what looks like she's gonna drink my supply. This
Speaker 1: one doesn't. She seems like a stand up gal.
Speaker 7: Stand up gal. Good for you. Congrats. And also that's
Speaker 7: probably the thing with drug dealers. I'm sure drug dealers,
Speaker 7: but for.
Speaker 3: Real drug dealing successful drug off your own supply.
Speaker 2: They say that all the time.
Speaker 4: Don't get high. I'm sure they're like.
Speaker 5: Don't get high in your own supply.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I for a short, short amount of time was
Speaker 7: considering dealing drugs when I went in when I was
Speaker 7: in college, Me and my friend Angela, we had a
Speaker 7: whole like drive through scenario. You guys would have got
Speaker 7: you would have killed every night, every night, probably every night,
Speaker 7: but our scenario we would have been so good.
Speaker 4: We're like we'll do pick up only we'll have And.
Speaker 7: Then quickly our friend was like you don't think anyone's
Speaker 7: going to be shocked at like cars driving through the
Speaker 7: Landlord's not going to say anything.
Speaker 4: And we quickly realized we would get arrested.
Speaker 1: And it was a stupid help you helped you.
Speaker 5: I would have just bought it all and just smoked
Speaker 5: it for you.
Speaker 1: Wow, what a fun sober episode. I doesn't want you
Speaker 1: all to look at the table and look at who
Speaker 1: the boss is.
Speaker 2: At the table and why.
Speaker 1: Get sober and don't do drugs. I'm just kidding, guys,
Speaker 1: I'm just teasing.
Speaker 2: I just don't this episode anyone going off the rails. Okay,
Speaker 2: my god, I.
Speaker 5: Am thank you for my job.
Speaker 2: I'm sober. I was totally kidding.
Speaker 1: But I do love sobriety and it has been tremendously
Speaker 1: helpful in my life. I will never give it up again,
Speaker 1: one day at a time, because every time I say never,
Speaker 1: there's always some score that's like, aren't you not supposed
Speaker 1: to say that in sobriety?
Speaker 4: Your some just like them.
Speaker 1: Guess as sober And I'm sure I'm not supposed to
Speaker 1: say that, but I'm going to say it because I'm
Speaker 1: happy with the life that I have. So if you
Speaker 1: or anybody that you know is struggling with addiction. We
Speaker 1: obviously love to hear from you guys in the DMS,
Speaker 1: but there is an addiction crisis hotline. That number is
Speaker 1: one eight eight eight four zero three seven to one
Speaker 1: zero three. Thank you guys for sharing your sobriety journeys.
Speaker 1: I know that that is not easy. Sobriety bonds us man.
Speaker 1: All my people who slide in the DMS and they're like,
Speaker 1: I've been sober. I'm like, there's just something that happens
Speaker 1: where it's like I see you, you see me. Thank
Speaker 1: you guys, Easton and Jess for asking questions. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: I through a dig in.
Speaker 4: There at the We Love a Day. It's not the
Speaker 4: podcast without a Day.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love y'all.
Speaker 1: Thank y'all for listening to another episode of the Give
Speaker 1: Them All a Podcast and we will catch you next week.