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Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous as Lala Kent, Welcome back to Get them

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Speaker 1: All a podcast. We are here ready to bump gums

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Speaker 1: evergreen style, because Mama is ready to give hearts and

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Speaker 1: I may that's coming, Baby is coming. So today's episode

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Speaker 1: is going to be about sobriety because we had an

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Speaker 1: overwhelming amount of people right in with their sobriety stories

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Speaker 1: and their journeys experiences to the bonus episode that we

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Speaker 1: did on sobriety, So I just felt the need to

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Speaker 1: talk about it again. And me and my pregnancy brain

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Speaker 1: put this shirt on that is so comfortable and is

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Speaker 1: covered in.

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Speaker 2: Alcoholic Shout out Kent, whose shirt is that?

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Speaker 1: But it is my dad's shirt, and it reminds me

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Speaker 1: of him and in honor of him, because I got

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Speaker 1: sober six months to the day after my dad's passing.

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Speaker 1: So let's try to ignore the alcoholic beverages and focus

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Speaker 1: more on the.

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Speaker 3: Fact that you've said it before. You're you're good. You're

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Speaker 3: the first person to pour somebody else to drink.

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Speaker 2: Enorm me.

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Speaker 1: If there have been people around me where I'm sensing,

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Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm not diagnosing, because alcoholism is a self diagnosed.

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Speaker 2: Diagnosed disease.

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Speaker 1: But there are moments where I'm like, I'm sensing that

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Speaker 1: this could be a problem. So I'm not going to

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Speaker 1: promote drinking with this person. I will offer them all

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Speaker 1: of the sparkling.

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Speaker 2: Beverages alcohol free, right. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But people who are like super normal and they just

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Speaker 1: want to get lit because they are celebrating something, Oh honey.

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Speaker 4: You'll pour? Do you overpour? Sometimes? Like do you have

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Speaker 4: the people?

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Speaker 2: Do you?

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Speaker 3: I remember the last time that drink when I don't drink,

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Speaker 3: since I haven't been drinking. When I'm with people that

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Speaker 3: do drink, I'm the first person to be like, hey,

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Speaker 3: let me pour that for you.

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Speaker 4: Really?

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Speaker 5: Hell yeah, because like the pouring of it is kind

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Speaker 5: of like it's kind of like.

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Speaker 6: Taking it, you know, like like you're like it's like

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Speaker 6: you get the placebo effect of like you pour the

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Speaker 6: shot totally see you take it, You're like, we're fucked.

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Speaker 5: So yeah, I love I love pouring the drinks.

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Speaker 3: I may not be the best one to be pouring

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Speaker 3: them for everybody, right, getting.

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Speaker 2: Everybody turned, But not everyone is like that.

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Speaker 1: I have many friends in sobriety who they can't go

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Speaker 1: out to bars, they can't be around drinking because it

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Speaker 1: triggers them. So again, I always say that, uh sobriety

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Speaker 1: is not one size fits all. Everybody's journey and experience

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Speaker 1: is going to be different. Everybody works the program differently

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Speaker 1: if you are in the program, which is why it

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Speaker 1: kind of takes a minute to find your sponsor, you know,

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Speaker 1: because it's like we're all working the program, but there's

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Speaker 1: not a play by play on how it's not math.

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Speaker 2: Two plus two is not always four.

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Speaker 1: So you and I may be able to pour people drinks,

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Speaker 1: but not everybody is able to do that.

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Speaker 4: So you don't drink?

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Speaker 7: Or is it just like, are you like sober from

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Speaker 7: alcohol or are you like I'll do it sometimes.

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Speaker 5: I'm liquor free. Okay, I'm thinking and.

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Speaker 2: Dude, alcohol free.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, liquor liquor free.

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Speaker 4: So you still drink beer?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 5: He doesn't, Yeah, just liquor free. Do you drink beer? No?

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Speaker 5: Isn't liquor is.

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Speaker 2: Vodka to ke? Yeah? Hard alcohol is liquor.

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Speaker 5: And then beer is not like I thought liquor was

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Speaker 5: in beer.

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Speaker 2: You should never be able to drink because you don't

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Speaker 7: I don't like beer and wine And people say liquor

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Speaker 7: free they're like, oh, I'll.

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Speaker 4: Drink beer and wine.

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Speaker 3: So when Landing was doing his cooking video, he was like,

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Speaker 3: do you want to help me do this? I was

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Speaker 3: like no, do you want me to open your high noon?

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Speaker 3: And he was like yes, And I said, I got

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Speaker 3: you on that one, so I can do that because

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Speaker 3: there it is. It's like the placebo effect of me

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Speaker 3: just like handing it to him.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but you already don't drink.

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Speaker 2: You're dry.

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Speaker 5: I am dry.

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Speaker 3: I am all liquor, beer, wines and spilcohol free. Alcohol free,

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Speaker 3: but I am, and so is Lisa.

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Speaker 8: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Alcohol free marijuana is marijuana, non free marijuana.

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Speaker 5: Over doing that now.

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Speaker 4: Enthusiast that I could be happier.

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Speaker 2: I don't feel like you overdo the weed.

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Speaker 4: I don't feel like you do either. Actually I wouldn't know.

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Speaker 5: I guess here's the thing.

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Speaker 3: Even if I smoke, I know I have to do something.

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Speaker 3: So it's like my relationship with weed is good. I'm smoking,

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Speaker 3: but I know I have to get something done. Most

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Speaker 3: people will smoke and then do nothing, right, So the

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Speaker 3: relationship I.

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Speaker 5: Have with marijuana is a good one.

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Speaker 3: It's like I smoke and now I'm productive, and there's

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Speaker 3: I don't know why.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I get in that month.

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Speaker 4: Do you only smoke a certain time of day?

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Speaker 7: Because I remember an ex boyfriend of mine years and

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Speaker 7: years ago had to start smoking only at night.

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Speaker 2: No to go to bed.

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Speaker 5: No, he just he it was like a reward for him, Yes.

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Speaker 4: A productive day.

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Speaker 7: And he started realizing like he thought he was productive

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Speaker 7: when he smoked, but he wasn't. Actually it would just

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Speaker 7: be a lot of thoughts and ideas. But he's like,

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Speaker 7: I'm not actually getting stuff done.

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Speaker 4: So he would smoke at.

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Speaker 7: Night and it was like a reward. Yeah, like before

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Speaker 7: bed and stuff. Yeah, do you do that or are

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Speaker 7: you like you can do it whenever?

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Speaker 3: No, I smoke, and then I say I need to

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Speaker 3: do something because I smoke.

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Speaker 4: That's really good.

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Speaker 1: So that's my re I feel like you smoke like

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Speaker 1: the pen And then when it's nighttime and it's like

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Speaker 2: He and land and go out and spark the doobies.

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Speaker 7: Really, yeah, do you and watch a movie when I smoke?

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Speaker 7: Those are my favorite. I love a joint or blunt

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Speaker 7: hits a little hard, but a joint is so like nice,

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Speaker 7: not like a face or a spliff.

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Speaker 4: Really, yeah, that's what he said really, Oh yeah, I

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Speaker 4: always loved the feeling of like rolling this, this.

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Speaker 7: Is a sobriety I and I'm like, I love.

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Speaker 4: A good margarita too.

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Speaker 1: Don't worry, No, don't worry about it. I mean we're

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Speaker 1: a well rounded podcast.

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Speaker 7: Okay, I have a question for you, La, do you

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Speaker 7: because I find it interesting you wrote about your sobriety,

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Speaker 7: like why you Got Sober in your book.

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Speaker 4: I do feel like you talk about it a lot

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Speaker 7: However, it's always the number one people or thing when

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Speaker 7: we ask whether or not on Amazon Live or whether

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Speaker 7: or not on in the stories Instagram, what do you

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Speaker 7: want us to talk about? They're like, Lala, we want

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Speaker 7: to hear Lala's sobriety journey. Do you Does that get

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Speaker 7: you frustrated because you're like, I literally talk about it

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Speaker 7: all the time.

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Speaker 4: I've told it many times.

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Speaker 7: Or are you like, okay, yeah, I'll tell it again,

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Speaker 7: Like how do you feel when that happens?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: I feel because there's as I stay in this game

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Speaker 1: longer and longer, more people find out who I am,

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Speaker 1: or more people start watching the show or come in

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Speaker 1: contact with my Instagram, so there's always new people who

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Speaker 1: maybe haven't heard it, don't know that I have a book.

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Speaker 1: It's similar to like, it's not about the pasta. We've

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Speaker 1: explained this that five hundred times, that happened years ago,

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Speaker 1: and I'm still having to talk about it. Right, sobriety

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Speaker 1: is not something that I'll ever get sick of because

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Speaker 1: you're always gonna have people who also are familiar with you,

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Speaker 1: sobriety doesn't necessarily affect them right now, or they're not

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Speaker 1: into it, and then all of a sudden they want

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Speaker 1: to get sober and they're looking for your story because

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Speaker 1: they heard that I'm sober right.

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Speaker 2: So, No, I don't get sick of it the posta question.

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Speaker 2: I get sick of the positive question when I'm done.

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Speaker 7: We did, Yes, do you mind us asking a couple

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Speaker 7: questions on your sobriety before we get into other stories

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Speaker 7: or would you rather get straight into other stories?

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Speaker 2: No, I'm let's ask questions.

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Speaker 7: I know one of the most asked questions, and we've

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Speaker 7: touched on it, but they all always will be like,

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Speaker 7: what was Lalla's rock bottom moment? Was there a moment

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Speaker 7: where you're like, that's it, I'm done, I'm sober.

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Speaker 4: You did have it? In your book. I remember reading

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Speaker 4: about it.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, did you feel like the plane and the coloring

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Speaker 7: were like, that's.

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Speaker 3: It because also there's a story that you told me,

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Speaker 3: and I don't know if it was in that same

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Speaker 3: rock bottom moment, but you were in Vegas. Yeah, at

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Speaker 3: dinner and you tripped upstairs. No, that was the same trip,

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Speaker 3: same trip that was in Florida. Yeah, okay, Disney World

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Speaker 3: there it is.

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Speaker 1: No, there were there were many moments that I would

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Speaker 1: say to myself that I needed to reel it in over,

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Speaker 1: you know, the course of a few years before I

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Speaker 1: got sober in twenty eighteen, where it was like I'm

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Speaker 1: not going to get drunk tonight, and then I would

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Speaker 1: end up drunk again, and then it was like I'm

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Speaker 1: only going to drink beer and wine. And keep in

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Speaker 1: mind in the Big Book they talk about this, it's

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Speaker 1: like literally what I experienced. You try to limit your right.

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Speaker 1: So I was like only beer and wine. And then

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Speaker 1: it was like I can have a cocktail, but let's

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Speaker 1: only have two. And then the cocktails turned into like

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Speaker 1: in big glasses that really equaled maybe six, right, And

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Speaker 1: then I did AA for a while where I was

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Speaker 1: still smoking weed, and then I felt like I was

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Speaker 1: making a mockery of the program.

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Speaker 2: Finally I had just given up. I was like, I

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Speaker 2: like to drink, and everyone's gonna have to just get

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Speaker 2: over it.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 1: So I would say that my rock bottom moment did

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Speaker 1: happen six months after my dad died, because that's when

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Speaker 1: I really leaned into drinking.

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Speaker 2: Drinking for me used to just.

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Speaker 1: Be fun and like we'd go out on the weekends

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Speaker 1: and it would make me loose back in Utide, go

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Speaker 1: out maybe twice a month, you know, and I get

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Speaker 1: a little lit. But it wasn't It wasn't an everyday thing.

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Speaker 1: Once I moved to LA and then once I met

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Speaker 1: my ex, it was really bad, okay, And I don't

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Speaker 1: want to place blame on that situation. I'm just using

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Speaker 1: that as the time marker of when it got bad.

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Speaker 5: He made it easy.

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Speaker 3: Your life was easy for you to drink every day,

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Speaker 3: the responsibilities lowered. I feel like when you met him,

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Speaker 3: it's not like he made you drink or things like that.

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Speaker 5: Afternoons and dinners became nightmares, me.

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Speaker 3: The one thing that I will say, I was like yeah,

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Speaker 4: Were you concerned or were you like no, you know, everyone.

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Speaker 3: But that's where my mother would fly out when she

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Speaker 2: And so we found my sponsor. I started going to meetings.

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Speaker 2: Like someone make it make sense.

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Speaker 1: But then after I got through thirty days, this woman

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Speaker 2: That's the hardest point to reach.

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Speaker 1: Like meetings, Yes, No, I did ninety meetings in ninety days.

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Speaker 7: Wowulation amazing whatever.

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Speaker 2: I walked in and I was like, show me the way.

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Speaker 1: There's no version of me. Tell me what to do,

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Speaker 1: what to do, I'll eat dog shit. That'll get me

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Speaker 7: pink cloud you were talking about or no?

446
00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:37,639
Speaker 2: I think she just saw it in my eyes.

447
00:21:37,680 --> 00:21:40,840
Speaker 1: There was clarity, you know, like I look back on

448
00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:44,720
Speaker 1: pictures like I'm like, you.

449
00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:45,280
Speaker 2: Look like shit.

450
00:21:46,320 --> 00:21:48,600
Speaker 1: How did you possibly walk out into the world and

451
00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:53,000
Speaker 1: feel confident? Your eyes are bloodshot, your puffy is shit,

452
00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:57,480
Speaker 1: your your coloring is off. You look not good, bitch,

453
00:21:58,280 --> 00:22:00,240
Speaker 1: and you're going out into the world thinking that you're

454
00:22:00,520 --> 00:22:01,160
Speaker 1: hitting right.

455
00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:03,119
Speaker 2: That's what alcohol does see you.

456
00:22:04,080 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, you guys don't have your summer bots.

457
00:22:07,359 --> 00:22:10,240
Speaker 4: You body shame people the false confidence.

458
00:22:10,560 --> 00:22:14,840
Speaker 1: Right now, I can go out and have confrontation with people,

459
00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:17,439
Speaker 1: but at least I can own it and be like, yeah,

460
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:19,159
Speaker 1: well there was not a proud moment. But I have

461
00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:21,359
Speaker 1: no one to blame but myself. I was you know,

462
00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:24,320
Speaker 1: I can't blame it on alcohol. I remember everything that happened,

463
00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:27,480
Speaker 1: and although that sounds like a shitty thing, we're like,

464
00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:31,080
Speaker 1: I can't blame something, right, it actually feels very good.

465
00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:33,040
Speaker 4: I was gonna say it probably feels freeing.

466
00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:37,320
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, because to me, it's like embarrassing when I

467
00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:38,320
Speaker 7: have to blame alcohol.

468
00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:43,160
Speaker 4: I feel like, ugh, how gross? How grow up? I

469
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:47,120
Speaker 4: was drunk. Okay, you're thirty two, get.

470
00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:48,000
Speaker 2: It together, get it.

471
00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:50,160
Speaker 1: It's not cute in high school where like you leave

472
00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:53,440
Speaker 1: your friends at the high school party like the rivalry

473
00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:54,840
Speaker 1: team's house or whatever.

474
00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:59,880
Speaker 2: You're like, I was just wasted, Sierra, Sierra, so drunk.

475
00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:02,240
Speaker 2: You know, it's like not cute.

476
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:06,920
Speaker 7: Yes, okay, so happy now because you get to a year,

477
00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:10,359
Speaker 7: You get to a year of sobriety are you? And

478
00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:12,160
Speaker 7: there might have been a moment before a year, who

479
00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:14,680
Speaker 7: knows six months where you're like, holy shit, I can't

480
00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:15,400
Speaker 7: believe I made it.

481
00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:16,600
Speaker 4: Do you get to a year.

482
00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:18,600
Speaker 7: And you're like easy, breezy, like it's not even a

483
00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 7: big deal. How are you feeling when you get to

484
00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:22,240
Speaker 7: a year, your year anniversary?

485
00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:24,960
Speaker 1: You know, it was weird because I remember just randomly

486
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:28,960
Speaker 1: getting on Instagram on my five month sobriety and treating

487
00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:30,160
Speaker 1: it like it was no big deal.

488
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:31,840
Speaker 2: Like, by the way, I'm.

489
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:34,679
Speaker 1: A friend of Bill W's now and then like the

490
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:37,119
Speaker 1: internet blew up was like La La Kent has a

491
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 1: drinking problem and has been sober for five months, which

492
00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:43,880
Speaker 1: is such a random number, right, And I was like, oh,

493
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:45,719
Speaker 1: this is like a kind of a big deal, right

494
00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:48,159
Speaker 1: to be like someone who admits to having a drinking

495
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:50,399
Speaker 1: problem and now you're sober.

496
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:55,880
Speaker 2: So when I hit a year, it was fucking wild.

497
00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:58,119
Speaker 1: When they gave me my one year chip, I was like,

498
00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:01,399
Speaker 1: this is the greatest prize of my life.

499
00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 5: Every year. She's yes, wait for that second third. It's

500
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:07,800
Speaker 5: like the Lord of the Rings.

501
00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:10,440
Speaker 1: You wanted Easton and my mom got me the diamond

502
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 1: five for my five year. I still haven't gotten my

503
00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:14,320
Speaker 1: five year chip.

504
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:18,119
Speaker 5: You have to go get that. I finally Jewelers for

505
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:18,600
Speaker 5: the five.

506
00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:21,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's the only thing I have that represents my

507
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:22,520
Speaker 1: five years.

508
00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:26,760
Speaker 5: We love I see it a lot.

509
00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:29,040
Speaker 4: You have to go get it in person. They won't

510
00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:30,120
Speaker 4: mail it to you or anything.

511
00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:32,439
Speaker 2: No, it's just it's special to get it in person.

512
00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:34,440
Speaker 2: But now I'm you know, we're just.

513
00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:37,800
Speaker 5: This year.

514
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:43,399
Speaker 1: But that's when my sponsor told me that she not

515
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:45,560
Speaker 1: my sponsor, my sober coach. I'm sorry because I was

516
00:24:45,560 --> 00:24:48,639
Speaker 1: still seeing her along with my sponsor in AA meetings,

517
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:49,679
Speaker 1: but she told.

518
00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:51,520
Speaker 2: Me you're my little unicorn.

519
00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:56,240
Speaker 1: Why because she said it's a rare thing to have

520
00:24:56,320 --> 00:25:00,320
Speaker 1: someone come in and want it so badly and not

521
00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:06,480
Speaker 1: ever in the course of a year talk about wanting

522
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:07,760
Speaker 1: to drink less.

523
00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:10,000
Speaker 2: Work through that because I didn't. You didn't.

524
00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:12,160
Speaker 4: No, you were not tempted you.

525
00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:14,880
Speaker 5: Nope, it of your rock bottom.

526
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 3: You thought of that often, because I really I think

527
00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:20,600
Speaker 3: you thinking or anybody thinking of where they were at

528
00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:22,880
Speaker 3: rock bottom is a very good thing to think about.

529
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:24,560
Speaker 5: I know you hated talking.

530
00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:26,960
Speaker 3: About it and thinking about it, but what did that

531
00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:28,880
Speaker 3: do just for you to not drink for the next

532
00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:29,640
Speaker 3: three months?

533
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:30,800
Speaker 4: Yeah? Is that what it was?

534
00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:33,960
Speaker 3: I sitting your rock bottom puts you in a place

535
00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,240
Speaker 3: again of I don't even care to talk about it

536
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:37,280
Speaker 3: because I just revisited.

537
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:39,040
Speaker 4: Or was it people counting on you?

538
00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:41,560
Speaker 7: I remember seeing a clip Was it because you actually

539
00:25:41,600 --> 00:25:43,639
Speaker 7: made a public statement? I remember seeing a clip on

540
00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:45,879
Speaker 7: like watch What Happens Live or something, and You're like,

541
00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:48,679
Speaker 7: I'm never drinking again. Was it that that you're like, well,

542
00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 7: I can't, like, what was it you think that?

543
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:52,399
Speaker 1: I just think for the first time, I was like

544
00:25:52,520 --> 00:25:56,359
Speaker 1: so happy and clear, and I liked the way that

545
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:59,879
Speaker 1: I looked. I liked the way that I felt. It

546
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 1: just was a good I never had to worry about,

547
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 1: like getting in my car, like I'm always gonna get

548
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:11,480
Speaker 1: in my car sober, and if something bad happens, God forbid.

549
00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 2: At least I wasn't.

550
00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:17,560
Speaker 5: Fucked up, you know, But I do feelings.

551
00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 1: Like that made me just want to keep staying sober,

552
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:23,879
Speaker 1: and that feeling has not ended since the day I

553
00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 1: got sober.

554
00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:26,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, And for me, I.

555
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:29,280
Speaker 3: Do, I have a feeling And maybe it's subconscious on

556
00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 3: you of I think the jet and having all of

557
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:35,360
Speaker 3: them writing on you and all of that. You revisiting

558
00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 3: that moment is what will keep you sober throughout. I

559
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:41,719
Speaker 3: think so too, Even though you don't want to revisit it,

560
00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 3: revisiting it is the thing that will give you longevity

561
00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:48,959
Speaker 3: and what you're doing, I think so too. And to everybody, like,

562
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 3: that's the other thing that I'm trying to say, like

563
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:53,600
Speaker 3: for you, for everybody, if you have to revisit that

564
00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:56,879
Speaker 3: thing and get disgusted, however, you have to do it

565
00:26:56,920 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 3: with friends, family, however you do it, revisiting it for

566
00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:03,080
Speaker 3: me because you've brought up those points so many times.

567
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 3: I feel like that is what has kept you sober

568
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:09,639
Speaker 3: as well and not even wanting a drink, right, And

569
00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:10,800
Speaker 3: that's just coming from me.

570
00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:15,080
Speaker 7: Yeah, and what like a simple statement, but like that's

571
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:17,440
Speaker 7: probably so freeing that you said, like I could get

572
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:20,160
Speaker 7: in my car anytime I want. That's like, oh yeah,

573
00:27:20,359 --> 00:27:22,359
Speaker 7: people like you could get in your car anytime you

574
00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:23,960
Speaker 7: want and know you're not going to be fucked up.

575
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:26,640
Speaker 7: That is so simple but so powerful. That's like you're

576
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:30,640
Speaker 7: not trapped anywhere. You literally can leave any time you need,

577
00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:32,440
Speaker 7: which probably.

578
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, and I don't ever want because I was

579
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:40,840
Speaker 1: on a pretty high dose of anti anxiety and antidepressants.

580
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 1: And I don't say to people like, once you get sober,

581
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:47,240
Speaker 1: you don't need meds anymore.

582
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:48,200
Speaker 2: That's not what I'm saying.

583
00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:51,320
Speaker 1: Like, I'm not a doctor, listen to your doctor for

584
00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:56,399
Speaker 1: me personally, After I got sober, I no longer needed

585
00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:59,280
Speaker 1: medication for my anxiety or depression and have not been

586
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:01,199
Speaker 1: on medication and since I got sober.

587
00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:04,360
Speaker 5: Wow, But that's where I can battle you.

588
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, about But that's why I say.

589
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:09,240
Speaker 1: That's why I say, don't listen to me, because this

590
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:10,639
Speaker 1: is just my own person.

591
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 5: Just as much as the next person. I promise.

592
00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 2: Okay, that's meaning let me back. You're not a sober person.

593
00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:21,879
Speaker 3: I smoke weed. You're right, so you're right. Maybe the

594
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:22,800
Speaker 3: weed would kick it.

595
00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:24,520
Speaker 5: I don't know, and I don't know where you could

596
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:25,120
Speaker 5: battle me.

597
00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:28,800
Speaker 1: I'm fully sober.

598
00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:33,639
Speaker 3: But also the only other thing is you've been in

599
00:28:33,680 --> 00:28:37,199
Speaker 3: this world for like a decade of.

600
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 5: Just getting.

601
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 1: They all say that the comments section won't affect that until.

602
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:47,160
Speaker 3: Until you're in that thing, and you're like, you know what,

603
00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:50,560
Speaker 3: I'm a little just stay home for a couple of years.

604
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:52,880
Speaker 5: But no, you're right. You're right.

605
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:55,400
Speaker 2: I'm not sober, so I can't not change anything.

606
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 5: It may not, but i'm not.

607
00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 7: But we all have different it's all relative. We all

608
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:01,280
Speaker 7: have different brains, chemicality, your doctor.

609
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:05,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't listen to me. I'm just coming from

610
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 1: personal experiences, right.

611
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:10,600
Speaker 4: Thank you for sharing that with us, law.

612
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 7: Is there anything else you want to say about your

613
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 7: sobriety story for now in your journey?

614
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:18,160
Speaker 4: I know we have other stories to share, but I.

615
00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:22,000
Speaker 1: Think the biggest thing is that my sobriety has made

616
00:29:22,760 --> 00:29:27,360
Speaker 1: it so that I can be the person that the

617
00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 1: daughter my mom deserves, the sister that Easton deserves.

618
00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 2: And there are.

619
00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 1: Moments where I'm a hot head and I don't want

620
00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:35,800
Speaker 1: to listen, and I always think that my feelings are facts.

621
00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:42,200
Speaker 1: The difference is is once I retreat after battle, I

622
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:45,800
Speaker 1: can understand where the other person is coming.

623
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 5: From, back to where we go for the jugular.

624
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 2: Right, That's just in my nature.

625
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:52,400
Speaker 5: Yes, is what we all do. I do it now too.

626
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 1: We all do it, yes many and my family not

627
00:29:55,720 --> 00:30:00,360
Speaker 1: the world this Yeah, and it's allowed me to be

628
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:04,320
Speaker 1: the parent that Ocean deserves. Yeah, because I would not

629
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:06,760
Speaker 1: be this kind of mom if I was not sober.

630
00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 7: That's really sweet and great. Yeah, thank you for sharing that,

631
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 7: And I'm really glad. I don't even know if we've

632
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 7: done a full on like just you know.

633
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:18,160
Speaker 3: Guests talking about I love you, I love your way more.

634
00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:24,680
Speaker 4: Do you want to get into some shared stories?

635
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:25,080
Speaker 2: I know?

636
00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:28,160
Speaker 7: Okay, So we did a few longer ones the last

637
00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 7: time or whenever the Sober Bonus episode aired. So I'll

638
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 7: do like a few of the short ones that people

639
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:39,600
Speaker 7: wrote in so this person, I'll start with us. My

640
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:42,920
Speaker 7: husband just entered a thirty day program for alcoholism.

641
00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:44,520
Speaker 4: Any words of advice.

642
00:30:45,400 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 1: Ooh, I would suggest going to number one.

643
00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 2: That's incredible, congratulations.

644
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:57,120
Speaker 1: I think alan On is extremely beneficial to people who

645
00:30:57,440 --> 00:31:02,640
Speaker 1: have been on the receiving end of an addict because

646
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:05,600
Speaker 1: as much as it is a disease and the person

647
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:09,600
Speaker 1: is not who they are truly when they're under the influence,

648
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:15,040
Speaker 1: you know, we have deeply affected people, and I think

649
00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:18,680
Speaker 1: that that could be beneficial. And also I would say

650
00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 1: sticking to one day at a time is like the

651
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:23,640
Speaker 1: most important thing, Like do not look at the bigger picture.

652
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 1: Sometimes you have to take it one second at a time.

653
00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 1: And when you can just get through that one second,

654
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:32,840
Speaker 1: one minute at a time, it's like a freaking win.

655
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:35,480
Speaker 1: So that would be my biggest piece of advice.

656
00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:36,200
Speaker 4: Yeah.

657
00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 7: I think one day at a time, one second at

658
00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:41,000
Speaker 7: a time, for me, helps with so much too, not

659
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:44,360
Speaker 7: even sobriety, like just for like, if I'm feeling for me,

660
00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:47,000
Speaker 7: if I'm feeling wildly overwhelmed and I have a list

661
00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:50,080
Speaker 7: of fifty things to do, I go one item at

662
00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:53,520
Speaker 7: a time, right list them out what's most important, and literally,

663
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 7: just if I look at the entire list, I like

664
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:57,800
Speaker 7: almost feel frozen.

665
00:31:57,640 --> 00:31:59,920
Speaker 4: Right, but one item at a time. I don't know,

666
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 4: but that is I.

667
00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 1: Also think if I had a partner who was entering

668
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Speaker 1: a thirty day program, once they got out, you have

669
00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 1: to create a very safe space for them and see

670
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:16,040
Speaker 1: what they need. If they say I don't feel comfortable,

671
00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:19,480
Speaker 1: I wouldn't keep alcohol in the house. People bring alcohol

672
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 1: to my house and leave it and it's there for

673
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:23,480
Speaker 1: them when they return.

674
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 2: But again, everybody's different.

675
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:28,720
Speaker 1: So just like making your person feel safe enough to say, like, hey,

676
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:34,320
Speaker 1: this is how I'm going to best practice my sobriety

677
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 1: and continue on this road.

678
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 2: Please no alcohol in the house. Please.

679
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:43,480
Speaker 1: I can't go here and listen to listen to them,

680
00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:45,880
Speaker 1: and you know, I'm sure it could get difficult. Your

681
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:50,239
Speaker 1: life is going to change tremendously because normies think about it.

682
00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:54,280
Speaker 1: Everywhere you go there's really a bar or someone's offering

683
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 1: you a beverage.

684
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 2: So life is going to change.

685
00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:02,560
Speaker 1: But you have to like incubate that person because this

686
00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:04,840
Speaker 1: is like life or death for an addict.

687
00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 7: Yeah, this person said, I literally hit rock bottom and

688
00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:14,800
Speaker 7: almost ruined my marriage. I've been sober for one year

689
00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:18,400
Speaker 7: and could not be happier. You've been such an inspiration, Lalla.

690
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 2: I love that human in one year is so special?

691
00:33:21,560 --> 00:33:21,960
Speaker 4: Huge.

692
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:22,720
Speaker 2: Yeah.

693
00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:25,320
Speaker 5: Can I tell you for everybody though, well, thank you.

694
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 3: That's what I want you to know that, thank you

695
00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:29,720
Speaker 3: for sharing for all of them, because what you share

696
00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 3: has helped a lot of people.

697
00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 2: Thank you.

698
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:34,360
Speaker 5: Thank you for being strong and doing.

699
00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:35,560
Speaker 2: It one year.

700
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:38,920
Speaker 1: Thank you for that was really sweet tea with the

701
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 1: one year. So, after my relationship ended and I basically

702
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 1: ran away from the house, I took as much as

703
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:51,600
Speaker 1: I could, but I didn't empty out my chores, and

704
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 1: so I had called someone who was still in the

705
00:33:54,840 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 1: house and I said, please go back in there. You

706
00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:03,239
Speaker 1: you have to empty my bedside table. My one year

707
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 1: sobriety chip is in there. She called us back, remember,

708
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:07,800
Speaker 1: and she was like, I don't know how to tell

709
00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:09,640
Speaker 1: you this, but all of your things are gone and

710
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:12,880
Speaker 1: there's like another chick stuff in there. And I was

711
00:34:13,000 --> 00:34:18,200
Speaker 1: totally fine with everything except for where is my one

712
00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:21,239
Speaker 1: year chip? Like that I must get and do you

713
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,719
Speaker 1: remember she delivered it to us. Yeah, she found it

714
00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:27,880
Speaker 1: in some garbage bag that all my shit was in

715
00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:30,799
Speaker 1: and I was like, I don't care about anything else

716
00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:33,000
Speaker 1: in the bag, just the chip.

717
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:36,520
Speaker 7: This person said, well, you brought this up. I got pregnant,

718
00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:38,359
Speaker 7: so maybe it just works for some people. They get

719
00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:41,440
Speaker 7: pregnant and then they never drink again.

720
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:44,319
Speaker 5: I have another question on top of this and being

721
00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:47,320
Speaker 5: sober and that, I want to know on the vape

722
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:50,160
Speaker 5: with this, do you think you'll ever go back to

723
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 5: smoking the vape after not being pregnant one day?

724
00:34:58,760 --> 00:34:59,880
Speaker 4: Guys, I think about it every.

725
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:02,279
Speaker 5: Day, didn't I know? I in front of her and

726
00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:03,080
Speaker 5: I need to stop.

727
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:06,960
Speaker 1: I don't think about it ever until it's in front

728
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 1: of me going into someone's mouth Easton.

729
00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:15,160
Speaker 7: But yours is weed vape, so it's different, right, he says,

730
00:35:15,239 --> 00:35:16,040
Speaker 7: double puffet.

731
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 2: No.

732
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:21,360
Speaker 4: No, I don't see them as much anymore because.

733
00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:24,800
Speaker 2: Probably because you were hanging out with me every day.

734
00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:28,200
Speaker 5: You had him in your purse. I remember, Laura, let

735
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:29,680
Speaker 5: you go. Do you have my vape? And I'd have

736
00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:31,440
Speaker 5: to text you do you have one? Yeah? I have

737
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:32,520
Speaker 5: two extra in my bag.

738
00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:35,840
Speaker 7: Always a backup, always a backup, always a backup.

739
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 4: If I was didn't have a backup, oh my god.

740
00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 5: No.

741
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:41,440
Speaker 1: But that's what's wild is people asking me, how have

742
00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:43,280
Speaker 1: you been doing with the vape since being pregnant.

743
00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:46,799
Speaker 5: I'm like, good, I think I am very good.

744
00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:49,440
Speaker 1: The moment I went through with the I U I

745
00:35:49,560 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 1: the vape was in the trash.

746
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I guess that's the point some people.

747
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:56,920
Speaker 3: If I were you and I was pregnant once that

748
00:35:57,040 --> 00:35:59,880
Speaker 3: kid shot out mbilical cord.

749
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:02,800
Speaker 2: But I can't talk about it.

750
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:06,000
Speaker 4: That's going to be my present for her. It's a

751
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 4: basket of vape.

752
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 1: You can never get me to drink again, but vaping

753
00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:12,600
Speaker 1: I need to go to. Like, I think there is

754
00:36:12,640 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 1: a bow text to me. This was a while ago,

755
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:20,359
Speaker 1: probably a year ago. Vape, vape, vapes and no, there

756
00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:24,760
Speaker 1: is a lot like doing smoking cigarettes vape.

757
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:29,319
Speaker 4: There's a lot of vape groups that are like vape

758
00:36:29,360 --> 00:36:32,520
Speaker 4: help groups. Christian dads who vape, Oh, I've.

759
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:33,440
Speaker 5: Been in the car before.

760
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:34,279
Speaker 2: Really is that a thing?

761
00:36:35,280 --> 00:36:38,839
Speaker 7: Christian dads who vape, dads who are addicted to the vape,

762
00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 7: who are Christian, who want to get off it.

763
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:42,920
Speaker 2: Everyone, It truly is the heart.

764
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:46,399
Speaker 3: I see somebody hitting it in their car and I'm like, oh,

765
00:36:46,400 --> 00:36:48,440
Speaker 3: I have one, and then I hit mine.

766
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 1: When you okay, I have to tell you something about

767
00:36:51,239 --> 00:36:52,800
Speaker 1: this guy at my AA meeting.

768
00:36:53,360 --> 00:36:54,640
Speaker 5: This was a while I have to get back to

769
00:36:54,719 --> 00:36:56,919
Speaker 5: her question. Now. I do feel bad that I which one.

770
00:36:57,400 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 1: We will We will get back to it. But I

771
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:02,640
Speaker 1: was smoking my vabe and he was like, you know,

772
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 1: those are really bad for you. And I was like,

773
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 1: I know, but I figure like if I could stop

774
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 1: drinking alcohol and quit that, I can certainly quit this.

775
00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:14,719
Speaker 1: And he goes, you ever quit heroin? Before I go no, no,

776
00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:17,719
Speaker 1: and he goes, wow. They're saying it's the equivalent to

777
00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:19,719
Speaker 1: quitting that it's good luck. And I was like, oh,

778
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:24,960
Speaker 1: really stressed, stressed exactly.

779
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:27,360
Speaker 2: I need to stress it people.

780
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:29,480
Speaker 7: I'm telling you there are the sober groups for the

781
00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:30,960
Speaker 7: vapes because they are so bad.

782
00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:33,960
Speaker 3: I'll have to dismiss myself for like six days, no vape. No,

783
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:37,360
Speaker 3: we know nothing, and I'm just going to be running

784
00:37:37,680 --> 00:37:41,760
Speaker 3: and nobody can be near me because they'll assault anybody

785
00:37:41,800 --> 00:37:44,080
Speaker 3: near me, lovely assault that I'm.

786
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:45,880
Speaker 5: Going to be just in a house, locked doors, just

787
00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:46,520
Speaker 5: walking around.

788
00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:48,160
Speaker 2: Are going to put him in a pat room.

789
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:52,359
Speaker 1: Wait, tell me what the she got pressured? She got

790
00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:54,320
Speaker 1: sober after she got pregnant.

791
00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:56,279
Speaker 7: Yes, well, she just said I got pregnant, So I'm

792
00:37:56,280 --> 00:38:00,320
Speaker 7: assuming that because it was share your sobriety journey simple

793
00:38:00,320 --> 00:38:01,359
Speaker 7: as that can.

794
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:03,640
Speaker 1: I tell you a lot of people say, after I

795
00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 1: got pregnant, I loved the feeling of not drinking and

796
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 1: waking up and feeling okay.

797
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:09,520
Speaker 2: And there's so many.

798
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:15,400
Speaker 1: Like alcohol free replacements yes that they're like, I just

799
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:17,080
Speaker 1: never drank again.

800
00:38:17,440 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 4: Right, So I will share this because she'd be fine

801
00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 4: with it.

802
00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 7: But my sister, she drank, and she had gotten on

803
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 7: a certain anxiety medication. She got pregnant, she gave up

804
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 7: the alcohol, and I believe she either lowered the dose or.

805
00:38:30,239 --> 00:38:31,920
Speaker 4: Got on a different medication for anxiety.

806
00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:34,719
Speaker 7: Whatever, she got pregnant, and in a healthy way, she

807
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 7: started like dropping weight like crazy. Her face slammed, and

808
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 7: I was like, and she was very much and she

809
00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:42,880
Speaker 7: still is pregnant. But she I was like, do you

810
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:44,719
Speaker 7: think it was the alcohol the medicine. She's like, I

811
00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:47,240
Speaker 7: don't know, but like I've never felt better.

812
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:50,919
Speaker 1: This is not me shaming anyone's body, Okay, so please

813
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:56,000
Speaker 1: don't take it that way. The way that alcohol weight

814
00:38:56,080 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 1: attaches itself to you is very fair your face and

815
00:39:01,680 --> 00:39:03,560
Speaker 1: right in your mid section, like you could have the

816
00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 1: skinniest little legs and these cute little arms or whatever

817
00:39:07,080 --> 00:39:09,400
Speaker 1: and toned because you do the shake weight like I do.

818
00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 1: If you drink excessively, it is such a specific type

819
00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:20,239
Speaker 1: of weight that you're carrying, sugarweight, isn't it. Yeah, it's

820
00:39:20,239 --> 00:39:20,800
Speaker 1: all sugar.

821
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:25,520
Speaker 2: Sugars as we know, sugar like grips itself to you.

822
00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 2: It is very hard to lose sugar weight.

823
00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:30,439
Speaker 1: Again, not body shaming, But if you drink a lot

824
00:39:30,480 --> 00:39:33,560
Speaker 1: and you've been trying to lose a few pounds and

825
00:39:33,560 --> 00:39:37,480
Speaker 1: you're wondering why it's not happening, look into the.

826
00:39:37,480 --> 00:39:38,200
Speaker 2: Alcohol of it.

827
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:41,400
Speaker 5: Well, that's not body shaming. That's like I mean, well, I'm.

828
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 1: Talking about people's bodies and if i'm I'm just.

829
00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 5: But you can just tell a drinker's body. That's not

830
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:55,200
Speaker 5: a shaming, that's just it's facts mine.

831
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:59,040
Speaker 7: Like I literally get like jowls of sorts, Like my

832
00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:02,440
Speaker 7: face starts to get heavy and I get like and

833
00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 7: the eyes.

834
00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:05,399
Speaker 5: It's after I eat like a lot of like soy

835
00:40:05,440 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 5: sauce salt.

836
00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, it looks the same. It's gross.

837
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:09,840
Speaker 5: And I love soy sauce.

838
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:14,080
Speaker 1: I love soy sauce too. The best part of being

839
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:18,160
Speaker 1: pregnant is like have a ton of soy sauce on

840
00:40:18,160 --> 00:40:20,439
Speaker 1: this rice, because if I look puffy, no one's gonna

841
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:22,440
Speaker 1: be like, she looks like shit, because they're gonna be like, oh,

842
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:23,360
Speaker 1: she's pregnant.

843
00:40:24,160 --> 00:40:26,719
Speaker 5: You look great, baby, sweetheart.

844
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:30,680
Speaker 4: Do you know you might not know this? I don't.

845
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:32,960
Speaker 7: But someone saying, can you touch on the caral from

846
00:40:33,120 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 7: Summer House sobriety journey?

847
00:40:34,760 --> 00:40:35,760
Speaker 4: Do you know his journey?

848
00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:38,560
Speaker 2: I don't know his exact journey. I will say that

849
00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:39,279
Speaker 2: I do.

850
00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:43,800
Speaker 1: He's very open about his addiction being alcohol and cocaine. Okay,

851
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:47,240
Speaker 1: And I've spoken about this before that I was never

852
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 1: a drug user. I smoked weed and I liked my weed,

853
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:52,320
Speaker 1: and I always had a pen at my house. I

854
00:40:52,320 --> 00:40:55,239
Speaker 1: always had joints and blunts, but it wasn't like I

855
00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:58,560
Speaker 1: was obsessive about it. I just enjoyed it. And then

856
00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:00,799
Speaker 1: I did mushrooms one time. But as far as like

857
00:41:01,080 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 1: the drugs, I would be wasted and people would be like, why.

858
00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:04,759
Speaker 2: Don't you do it?

859
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 1: I'm like, I just have a super addictive personality, not.

860
00:41:09,600 --> 00:41:11,800
Speaker 4: Sound all can have another shot?

861
00:41:13,440 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 5: Yeah wild right?

862
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:16,520
Speaker 4: Oh wow.

863
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 1: I don't know his journey to sobriety. All I know

864
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:25,320
Speaker 1: is watching Summer House, and again that's such a small

865
00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:29,319
Speaker 1: piece of like his life and what happens in his

866
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 1: world and friendships and relationships. But I really enjoyed watching

867
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:39,440
Speaker 1: his perspective on situations coming from a sober place.

868
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 7: Yeah yeah, this person says sixteen days sober, huge and

869
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:49,200
Speaker 7: so happy to say, I'm finally the mom I hoped

870
00:41:49,320 --> 00:41:49,600
Speaker 7: to be.

871
00:41:50,239 --> 00:41:53,840
Speaker 2: I hope that you forever. Just keep that in mind.

872
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:58,760
Speaker 5: Tomorrow's seventeen. The next day is eighteen, day by day.

873
00:41:58,640 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 1: Day by day, and remember, if there's a problem, you

874
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 1: will never conquer the beast. The moment you think you've

875
00:42:07,640 --> 00:42:10,239
Speaker 1: conquered it and you dabble in it again, you just have.

876
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:12,680
Speaker 2: It's it's woke again.

877
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:14,600
Speaker 5: You created two beasts.

878
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 7: It's celebrating four hundred and nineteen days of sobriety today.

879
00:42:22,120 --> 00:42:25,000
Speaker 7: Couldn't be more thankful for you as a role model.

880
00:42:25,200 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 2: That's incredible. You have a year over a year journeys.

881
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:33,160
Speaker 7: I didn't know sobriety was possible for me until you

882
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:34,240
Speaker 7: appeared on my screen.

883
00:42:34,680 --> 00:42:37,320
Speaker 4: Number three hundred and twenty four. You're almost there. Forty

884
00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:39,360
Speaker 4: days until you've hit a year forty one God, I

885
00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:40,120
Speaker 4: have chills.

886
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:43,839
Speaker 2: H that's really you have to do something to celebrate

887
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:44,600
Speaker 2: a year.

888
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:47,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, what's your like? I know it's dependent on the person.

889
00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:50,400
Speaker 7: Would you say, like an overnight trip or like a

890
00:42:50,440 --> 00:42:53,480
Speaker 7: little party. I guess it also depends on what triggers you.

891
00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:54,239
Speaker 7: What would you say?

892
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:57,399
Speaker 1: I love to have like people over or I love

893
00:42:57,480 --> 00:42:59,840
Speaker 1: to do like a cute little dinner with all of

894
00:42:59,840 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 1: the people who have I I will celebrate my sobriety

895
00:43:04,040 --> 00:43:08,000
Speaker 1: birthday way before I celebrate my like I'm like, everybody

896
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:09,880
Speaker 1: has a fucking birthday.

897
00:43:11,040 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 2: Birthday? No right, Yes, that one's hard to get.

898
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:22,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, celebrating rare, Oh my god, it's.

899
00:43:21,920 --> 00:43:24,160
Speaker 5: Not just given to you if you have to work

900
00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 5: for it.

901
00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:29,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I think a cute dinner is always so fun.

902
00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:31,640
Speaker 1: Or if if you're still in the place of like

903
00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:34,040
Speaker 1: things trigger you, But you could always pick a super

904
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 1: cute restaurant that likes not alcohol, or.

905
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:41,120
Speaker 4: A trip, or buy something or that.

906
00:43:41,680 --> 00:43:44,000
Speaker 2: I'm a huge fan of the buying of something. I

907
00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:46,200
Speaker 2: love a good I have someone else buy it for you.

908
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:47,760
Speaker 2: Treat yourself if.

909
00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:54,279
Speaker 5: It deserved. Yeah, yeah, people feel bad, don't buy you

910
00:43:54,360 --> 00:43:55,840
Speaker 5: they will. Yeah.

911
00:43:56,000 --> 00:43:58,120
Speaker 4: This person said I drank to fit in. I never

912
00:43:58,280 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 4: liked the taste. Quit drinking. Twenty five plus years ago

913
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:02,080
Speaker 4: and so happy. It's cool.

914
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:06,000
Speaker 2: It is cool now, well that's a new thing.

915
00:44:06,080 --> 00:44:08,839
Speaker 5: Like in all the bars, like people are you can.

916
00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:12,279
Speaker 3: We went to just a bar on last Sunday, just

917
00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:15,560
Speaker 3: me and four buddies and we were just chilling live music.

918
00:44:15,640 --> 00:44:16,399
Speaker 5: They went to the bar.

919
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:21,960
Speaker 3: No one at it because everybody's like sobering.

920
00:44:22,440 --> 00:44:25,000
Speaker 7: Yeah, and they have the fully sober bars, the mocktails

921
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:26,000
Speaker 7: like those are fun.

922
00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 3: But yeah, no, like the bar you used to see

923
00:44:28,160 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 3: the ball, I mean I used to remember bars just packed.

924
00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:33,480
Speaker 3: And now you go up hundreds of people you can

925
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:36,120
Speaker 3: get a drink right away. It looks like, yeah you

926
00:44:36,160 --> 00:44:38,040
Speaker 3: can because everybody's just on that sober train.

927
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's amazing. Twenty five years so great.

928
00:44:41,840 --> 00:44:43,800
Speaker 4: This person said, not me, but my brother.

929
00:44:43,880 --> 00:44:46,040
Speaker 7: I prayed to have him back one day and finally

930
00:44:46,120 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 7: two years sober.

931
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Speaker 3: Yay.

932
00:44:51,040 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 5: I always relations.

933
00:44:52,280 --> 00:44:57,720
Speaker 1: I always feel so sad for families that are dealing

934
00:44:57,800 --> 00:45:00,800
Speaker 1: with a loved one who's like really strong with addiction,

935
00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:05,320
Speaker 1: because even if you hold an intervention, you know, unless

936
00:45:05,320 --> 00:45:09,239
Speaker 1: the person wants to be sober, Yeah, it's like extremely difficult.

937
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:12,120
Speaker 5: You can lead a horse to water, but you can't.

938
00:45:13,719 --> 00:45:16,920
Speaker 7: No, and it's so painful too, Like it's you know,

939
00:45:17,560 --> 00:45:20,960
Speaker 7: this is a distant family, but like you do everything,

940
00:45:21,120 --> 00:45:24,680
Speaker 7: you offer to pay fully for the nicest some families.

941
00:45:24,719 --> 00:45:27,279
Speaker 7: If you can the nicest facilities, the whole family gets

942
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 7: behind you.

943
00:45:27,680 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 4: There's there's the tough love.

944
00:45:29,960 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 7: Uh try, there's the fucking intervention, try, like it's everything,

945
00:45:35,360 --> 00:45:37,680
Speaker 7: and then they might go into the facility, but then

946
00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:41,120
Speaker 7: they check themselves out, like it's such a painful fucking cycle.

947
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:44,359
Speaker 7: They truly have to be ready, and then you get

948
00:45:44,360 --> 00:45:46,120
Speaker 7: to a point where you're like you just have to

949
00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:49,440
Speaker 7: kind of accept this is personal experience, but like watching

950
00:45:49,520 --> 00:45:53,880
Speaker 7: them die until they're hopefully ready to change.

951
00:45:53,960 --> 00:45:59,520
Speaker 1: It's so that's that's an uh uh what's it called

952
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:04,360
Speaker 1: a success story with amazing two years sober?

953
00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:07,759
Speaker 4: It's beautiful? Oh my god. The same person writes in

954
00:46:08,480 --> 00:46:13,000
Speaker 4: every time we want to see Lala's tits? This person

955
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 4: this person.

956
00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:18,000
Speaker 8: Okay comments on all?

957
00:46:18,160 --> 00:46:20,120
Speaker 4: Does he comment on YouTube to comments on all?

958
00:46:20,400 --> 00:46:22,799
Speaker 7: Please ask Lala if she'll wear a mesh shirt with

959
00:46:22,840 --> 00:46:23,440
Speaker 7: her tits out.

960
00:46:23,920 --> 00:46:24,680
Speaker 2: I want to see La.

961
00:46:25,560 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 7: Why hasn't Lala shown her tits?

962
00:46:28,760 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 4: Fucking A They're on TV somewhere there.

963
00:46:31,280 --> 00:46:33,799
Speaker 1: I love, I love how big is the check that

964
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:36,200
Speaker 1: you're writing the moment I received the wire.

965
00:46:36,560 --> 00:46:37,479
Speaker 2: The moment I.

966
00:46:37,400 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 1: Receive the wire, family, right, I will be in a

967
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:40,719
Speaker 1: mesh top.

968
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 4: See there we have it.

969
00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:45,840
Speaker 5: Okay, Christ, So it's just money.

970
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:55,280
Speaker 8: Someone show this man of God or Lala every comment.

971
00:46:55,440 --> 00:46:58,879
Speaker 8: I mean at least fifty five comments, Laala, please your

972
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:04,520
Speaker 8: squeaky wheels, honestly show us your tits for la La,

973
00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:05,359
Speaker 8: I mean, my.

974
00:47:05,440 --> 00:47:06,879
Speaker 2: God, for real.

975
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 1: Your your check can pay both my mortgages and all

976
00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:13,000
Speaker 1: my bills for the next year.

977
00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 2: I will show you my tits.

978
00:47:15,120 --> 00:47:16,759
Speaker 4: She will show you her. She will sell you a

979
00:47:16,800 --> 00:47:19,720
Speaker 4: photo of her tits or video.

980
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:21,320
Speaker 5: I love.

981
00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:28,640
Speaker 1: About sobriety and and I'm like, how BIG's shack before.

982
00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:31,080
Speaker 5: I talking about what I know?

983
00:47:31,520 --> 00:47:31,759
Speaker 2: I know?

984
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 4: I'm like, I love a joint. It's your episode, you

985
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:36,839
Speaker 4: enormy what are we doing?

986
00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:37,600
Speaker 2: You freaking?

987
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 7: This is really great because I've I'll just share it.

988
00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:45,160
Speaker 7: I'm a bar owner who has been sober for a

989
00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:49,319
Speaker 7: little over three years now. Bar owners and bartenders. I

990
00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:50,200
Speaker 7: was a bartender.

991
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:51,120
Speaker 4: I know a lot of.

992
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:57,080
Speaker 7: People who struggled with balancing working and drinking. Because you

993
00:47:57,120 --> 00:48:00,200
Speaker 7: see your regulars, they go, let me buy you a shot.

994
00:48:00,280 --> 00:48:04,080
Speaker 7: You I for like the first few months of bartending,

995
00:48:04,239 --> 00:48:07,000
Speaker 7: I would take the shots to like you get more tips.

996
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:08,480
Speaker 4: They'd be like, oh, but.

997
00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:11,239
Speaker 7: Then I started making fake drinks of course, but a

998
00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:12,960
Speaker 7: lot of people become alcoholics that way.

999
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:16,480
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I found out all the people who have

1000
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:20,279
Speaker 3: bars or anything like that, the sober ones are the

1001
00:48:20,280 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 3: ones that still have them.

1002
00:48:21,920 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, because they they're like, no, I'm not drunk. You're

1003
00:48:25,040 --> 00:48:26,120
Speaker 5: not getting a drink for free.

1004
00:48:26,160 --> 00:48:28,640
Speaker 1: Game like a bar rescue. How much of the time

1005
00:48:28,680 --> 00:48:30,560
Speaker 1: they're bankrupt because he's.

1006
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:32,239
Speaker 2: Like, you're drinking your own alcohol.

1007
00:48:32,600 --> 00:48:36,360
Speaker 1: Yes, you're taking shots every time that young.

1008
00:48:36,200 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 9: Yeah, you're handing five out to the patrons and taking

1009
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:42,400
Speaker 9: one with That's two bottles in an hour that you

1010
00:48:42,600 --> 00:48:45,760
Speaker 9: gave out, and it's like, wow, once that guy stops drinking,

1011
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:47,840
Speaker 9: those two bottles are now paid for a boy the

1012
00:48:47,880 --> 00:48:50,000
Speaker 9: patrons because you're like, I'm not paying.

1013
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:52,040
Speaker 4: For this show, I know, or they have employees like

1014
00:48:52,120 --> 00:48:54,160
Speaker 4: me who give them out, and they don't. They give

1015
00:48:54,160 --> 00:48:56,120
Speaker 4: it out for free to their friends.

1016
00:48:56,160 --> 00:48:58,399
Speaker 2: Not for law, not good no, for real.

1017
00:48:58,560 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 4: They should have kept track. They did it.

1018
00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:03,120
Speaker 7: They allowed me, you know, they didn't keep an eye

1019
00:49:03,160 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 7: on me because I had my regulars coming up and

1020
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:06,600
Speaker 7: they're like, oh, look at all the people, but the

1021
00:49:06,600 --> 00:49:08,719
Speaker 7: amount of alcohol I was giving away should be.

1022
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 5: Good for him to have a bar still have it her.

1023
00:49:12,239 --> 00:49:15,600
Speaker 3: I think her apologies good for her to still have

1024
00:49:15,680 --> 00:49:16,920
Speaker 3: a bar okay for.

1025
00:49:17,040 --> 00:49:20,120
Speaker 5: X amount of years and not having workers like Jess.

1026
00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:25,040
Speaker 1: Yes, congratulation because she's she's got the clarity to say

1027
00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:29,440
Speaker 1: that's what looks like she's gonna drink my supply. This

1028
00:49:29,480 --> 00:49:33,080
Speaker 1: one doesn't. She seems like a stand up gal.

1029
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:36,919
Speaker 7: Stand up gal. Good for you. Congrats. And also that's

1030
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:40,040
Speaker 7: probably the thing with drug dealers. I'm sure drug dealers,

1031
00:49:40,239 --> 00:49:40,560
Speaker 7: but for.

1032
00:49:40,520 --> 00:49:44,000
Speaker 3: Real drug dealing successful drug off your own supply.

1033
00:49:44,320 --> 00:49:45,760
Speaker 2: They say that all the time.

1034
00:49:46,280 --> 00:49:47,920
Speaker 4: Don't get high. I'm sure they're like.

1035
00:49:47,920 --> 00:49:49,280
Speaker 5: Don't get high in your own supply.

1036
00:49:49,480 --> 00:49:52,440
Speaker 7: Yeah, I for a short, short amount of time was

1037
00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:54,960
Speaker 7: considering dealing drugs when I went in when I was

1038
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:57,120
Speaker 7: in college, Me and my friend Angela, we had a

1039
00:49:57,120 --> 00:49:59,920
Speaker 7: whole like drive through scenario. You guys would have got

1040
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:02,680
Speaker 7: you would have killed every night, every night, probably every night,

1041
00:50:02,760 --> 00:50:05,239
Speaker 7: but our scenario we would have been so good.

1042
00:50:05,239 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 4: We're like we'll do pick up only we'll have And.

1043
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:10,800
Speaker 7: Then quickly our friend was like you don't think anyone's

1044
00:50:10,840 --> 00:50:14,480
Speaker 7: going to be shocked at like cars driving through the

1045
00:50:14,600 --> 00:50:15,879
Speaker 7: Landlord's not going to say anything.

1046
00:50:15,880 --> 00:50:18,440
Speaker 4: And we quickly realized we would get arrested.

1047
00:50:18,480 --> 00:50:22,759
Speaker 1: And it was a stupid help you helped you.

1048
00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:24,840
Speaker 5: I would have just bought it all and just smoked

1049
00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:25,239
Speaker 5: it for you.

1050
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:31,719
Speaker 1: Wow, what a fun sober episode. I doesn't want you

1051
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 1: all to look at the table and look at who

1052
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:35,040
Speaker 1: the boss is.

1053
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:37,440
Speaker 2: At the table and why.

1054
00:50:39,280 --> 00:50:42,440
Speaker 1: Get sober and don't do drugs. I'm just kidding, guys,

1055
00:50:42,760 --> 00:50:43,680
Speaker 1: I'm just teasing.

1056
00:50:43,920 --> 00:50:49,240
Speaker 2: I just don't this episode anyone going off the rails. Okay,

1057
00:50:49,680 --> 00:50:51,680
Speaker 2: my god, I.

1058
00:50:51,560 --> 00:50:53,680
Speaker 5: Am thank you for my job.

1059
00:50:53,920 --> 00:50:56,160
Speaker 2: I'm sober. I was totally kidding.

1060
00:50:56,920 --> 00:51:01,040
Speaker 1: But I do love sobriety and it has been tremendously

1061
00:51:01,239 --> 00:51:05,080
Speaker 1: helpful in my life. I will never give it up again,

1062
00:51:05,080 --> 00:51:06,719
Speaker 1: one day at a time, because every time I say never,

1063
00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:10,120
Speaker 1: there's always some score that's like, aren't you not supposed

1064
00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:13,400
Speaker 1: to say that in sobriety?

1065
00:51:13,560 --> 00:51:14,720
Speaker 4: Your some just like them.

1066
00:51:15,480 --> 00:51:21,320
Speaker 1: Guess as sober And I'm sure I'm not supposed to

1067
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:23,800
Speaker 1: say that, but I'm going to say it because I'm

1068
00:51:23,840 --> 00:51:26,400
Speaker 1: happy with the life that I have. So if you

1069
00:51:26,680 --> 00:51:29,680
Speaker 1: or anybody that you know is struggling with addiction. We

1070
00:51:29,760 --> 00:51:32,760
Speaker 1: obviously love to hear from you guys in the DMS,

1071
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:36,040
Speaker 1: but there is an addiction crisis hotline. That number is

1072
00:51:36,080 --> 00:51:38,879
Speaker 1: one eight eight eight four zero three seven to one

1073
00:51:39,120 --> 00:51:42,480
Speaker 1: zero three. Thank you guys for sharing your sobriety journeys.

1074
00:51:42,520 --> 00:51:45,839
Speaker 1: I know that that is not easy. Sobriety bonds us man.

1075
00:51:46,840 --> 00:51:48,920
Speaker 1: All my people who slide in the DMS and they're like,

1076
00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:51,000
Speaker 1: I've been sober. I'm like, there's just something that happens

1077
00:51:51,040 --> 00:51:53,759
Speaker 1: where it's like I see you, you see me. Thank

1078
00:51:53,800 --> 00:51:57,560
Speaker 1: you guys, Easton and Jess for asking questions. I'm sorry,

1079
00:51:57,560 --> 00:51:59,480
Speaker 1: I through a dig in.

1080
00:51:59,440 --> 00:52:02,120
Speaker 4: There at the We Love a Day. It's not the

1081
00:52:02,160 --> 00:52:03,279
Speaker 4: podcast without a Day.

1082
00:52:05,360 --> 00:52:06,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love y'all.

1083
00:52:06,480 --> 00:52:08,359
Speaker 1: Thank y'all for listening to another episode of the Give

1084
00:52:08,400 --> 00:52:10,399
Speaker 1: Them All a Podcast and we will catch you next week.