WEBVTT - Ep. 1 "Cheaters Never Win, Winners Never Cheat" 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:07.080 We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion. Who 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:14.800 talks back? What game? Hey? This is Tam Bown and 0:00:14.880 --> 0:00:18.919 this is a J and we talk back on the 0:00:18.960 --> 0:00:25.040 Black Effect Podcast Network. It's our very first episode. And 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:30.160 I'm so excited. Like how you feel a J girl? 0:00:30.160 --> 0:00:34.800 I feel great on this custom, Ea goes. So I'm 0:00:35.040 --> 0:00:39.920 a J and I'm originally from Chucktown, Charleston, South Carolina. 0:00:42.840 --> 0:00:48.319 Box your knife, that's invitation boy? You know boy? Hey 0:00:48.440 --> 0:00:53.560 box you a night boy. I am a serial entrepreneur. 0:00:54.480 --> 0:00:57.840 I dibbling dab and a little bit of this and 0:00:57.880 --> 0:01:01.240 a little bit of that. Scammer it up, whatever, bitch. 0:01:01.280 --> 0:01:05.880 I am into white collar crimes. I do like mortgage. Listen, 0:01:05.959 --> 0:01:09.399 she's just playing law enforcement. If you're listening, just keep talking. 0:01:11.440 --> 0:01:14.360 But actually I do own and operate a commercial furniture 0:01:14.480 --> 0:01:17.720 installation company. And I do have a food truck coming 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:21.399 in spring to Charlotte, North Carolina, trapped Veggie, so look 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:24.560 out for that. And I'm a struggle meal connoisseur. And 0:01:24.600 --> 0:01:29.720 I'm just happy to be here as I am excited 0:01:29.840 --> 0:01:32.840 to be doing this podcast. One of my very very 0:01:32.920 --> 0:01:36.240 good friends. I wouldn't want to be doing this ship 0:01:36.280 --> 0:01:38.720 with anybody else. So I just want to tell you 0:01:38.760 --> 0:01:42.880 a little bit about myself. Girl. Buy, I do not 0:01:43.040 --> 0:01:51.160 like oysters, I mean on humans. Oh I'm like what 0:01:51.280 --> 0:01:54.440 you're trying to say about my vagina, bitch. I don't 0:01:54.480 --> 0:01:56.560 like nothing slimy. Okay, that's how I know I can 0:01:56.600 --> 0:02:00.880 never be a lesbian. But why you shocking the moisters 0:02:00.960 --> 0:02:03.680 at your house? I can't believe that. But I stopped 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:07.640 eating when I saw a warm and one those same 0:02:07.720 --> 0:02:18.720 ones we were get word. Okay, everybody, it's me tam Bam, 0:02:18.760 --> 0:02:21.080 and I'm that bitch that you don't want to miss 0:02:21.240 --> 0:02:24.760 every Thursday. Okay. I'm a hair stylust by day and 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:27.840 I'm a fucking superhero at night. I wear a smock 0:02:27.919 --> 0:02:31.720 in a cape. Bitch. I'm originally from the Metro, which 0:02:31.760 --> 0:02:35.400 is Columbia, South Carolina. Stand up South Carolina. I love 0:02:35.480 --> 0:02:38.679 y'all so much. I live in Charlotte, North Carolina now 0:02:38.720 --> 0:02:41.280 where I have my hair salon. It's Tamla Bow and 0:02:41.360 --> 0:02:44.280 Vanity Studio. So check it out, y'all. You gotta pay 0:02:44.360 --> 0:02:46.880 for the hair, but the entertainment is free. And honestly, 0:02:46.960 --> 0:02:51.560 I'm just so grateful because not everybody has the opportunity 0:02:51.720 --> 0:02:55.640 or the confidence to just be their authentic, true self 0:02:55.960 --> 0:02:58.160 because the world around you will stifle you and make 0:02:58.200 --> 0:03:00.760 you afraid to be yourself. But let me tell you 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:04.639 who ain't Tam bam and a j and So we're 0:03:04.639 --> 0:03:07.560 gonna say this ship. You're probably thinking they can't say so. 0:03:07.600 --> 0:03:10.520 The main complaint black men have with black women is 0:03:10.560 --> 0:03:13.399 that we just don't shut the funk up. So while 0:03:13.480 --> 0:03:15.280 we're doing why are you doing your dirt? We're just 0:03:15.360 --> 0:03:19.440 talking all ship, while some ethnicities probably be a little 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:22.280 bit more like not submissive, but what's the word I'm 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:31.040 looking for, white bit? What like, uh, what's the word passive? Okay, 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:34.320 so we don't shut up, Thus we talked back. Overall, 0:03:34.639 --> 0:03:37.440 the premise for this show is to create a safe 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:41.240 space where black women and women of color can come 0:03:41.280 --> 0:03:46.880 together and talk shit and be empowered and feel loved 0:03:46.960 --> 0:03:49.720 and have joy. That's all this is. So we have a 0:03:49.680 --> 0:03:53.160 a lot of great uh segments for the show. Um 0:03:53.360 --> 0:03:55.840 one of them we want to introduce right now is 0:03:55.880 --> 0:04:00.080 our random sex facts. So apparently humans are just a 0:04:00.120 --> 0:04:04.680 sophisticated animal, and the only thing that separates us from animals, 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:08.240 essentially our laws and religion. So I'm a little slew footed. 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:13.960 So apparently I'm related to penguins because the Random Sex 0:04:14.000 --> 0:04:18.760 Fact today it says that female penguins engage in a 0:04:18.920 --> 0:04:23.320 form of prostitution. Not to say I'm a prostitute, but 0:04:23.720 --> 0:04:26.479 you got to have my like a resources cirin so says. 0:04:26.560 --> 0:04:32.880 Researchers have repeatedly observed female penguins exchanging sexual favors with 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:37.240 male pigeons I'm sorry, penguins that aren't their mates, and 0:04:37.400 --> 0:04:40.200 exchange for pebbles they will use to build nests for 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:45.039 their babies. So essentially the pebbles are equivalent or would 0:04:45.040 --> 0:04:48.479 be the same as money. Penguins need stones to build 0:04:48.520 --> 0:04:51.160 their nests, which is where females lay eggs, and if 0:04:51.160 --> 0:04:54.560 a penguin couple finds themselves lacking in stones, the female 0:04:54.680 --> 0:04:57.680 takes it upon herself to provide for her children, which 0:04:57.680 --> 0:05:00.120 we would do because they said, mama's come with a 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:03.239 little for bread. Okay, so when her mate isn't paying attention, 0:05:03.360 --> 0:05:06.039 she'll sneak off and have sex or males that have 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:10.400 a surplus of stones. That's right. Penguins will trade sex 0:05:10.480 --> 0:05:13.920 for stones they need to build a nest, like I 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:19.400 got a pocket full of styles. Yes, yeah, so ship 0:05:19.560 --> 0:05:22.479 basically with that. You gotta take care of your kids, 0:05:22.560 --> 0:05:24.800 you know. You know when men pay ch'll support, they 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:27.960 always concerned about what money the woman is using to 0:05:28.000 --> 0:05:30.960 pay for what. You can't differentiate what money is what money? 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:32.679 And if I need to get money from Joe smoke 0:05:32.760 --> 0:05:35.240 and I need that yo'all support check to support these 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:38.560 kids whose fucking businesses that I don't understand. I agree, 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:40.480 and I'm here for the penguins. Do what you need 0:05:40.520 --> 0:05:45.640 to do. Since hold on, oh that's the ductor, I 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:48.240 don't know what what sounds a penguin, mate, I don't know. 0:05:48.440 --> 0:05:51.640 Obviously they'd be moaning all day because they're going with 0:05:51.680 --> 0:05:54.159 the penguins who got the most sounds? And hold on, 0:05:54.279 --> 0:05:56.919 before we get into anything else, let's pay some bills 0:05:56.920 --> 0:06:02.479 real quick. So today we gotta real good episode lined up. Yes, 0:06:02.839 --> 0:06:06.000 it's so much fun. You're going to hear from some 0:06:06.120 --> 0:06:10.760 gentlemen today that are sharing with us why they cheat 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:14.080 or have cheated. So maybe the one that's cheating on 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:18.120 you is one of these. You know, because my philosophy 0:06:18.279 --> 0:06:22.279 is women need a reason. Men literally only needed time 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:25.839 and a place and the opportunity. Yes, so here's the kicker. 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:29.520 We put that witness protection ship over their voice and 0:06:29.520 --> 0:06:31.680 it got them to be a little bit more honest 0:06:31.720 --> 0:06:34.000 than someone that you could pinpoint who the funk they are. 0:06:34.800 --> 0:06:40.760 So our first guest is your certified hood nigga quintessential 0:06:40.800 --> 0:06:48.400 hood nigga for sure listening. Thank you so much for 0:06:48.480 --> 0:06:52.800 joining us today. How are you app good? Just getting 0:06:52.839 --> 0:06:59.159 up that breath smell like, No, I don't brush my 0:06:59.160 --> 0:07:01.440 teeth for whatever that make sure. I gotta make sure 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:05.039 I keep my diamonds. Wi wait, you have diamonds in 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:10.160 your mouth? Yeah, I gotta father's diamonds, tennant tin you know. Okay, 0:07:10.200 --> 0:07:13.920 well that's like top and bottom diamonds. Yeah, you know. 0:07:14.120 --> 0:07:16.040 You could see you on your on your local. You know, 0:07:16.080 --> 0:07:17.920 I ain't gonna put all that out. I ain'tna say 0:07:18.920 --> 0:07:21.440 you know, I'm not there with it, Okay, Okay, I 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:33.120 see you, Mr marcel Is Brown, so ye okay, So 0:07:33.480 --> 0:07:37.840 tell us a little bit about yourself for Charlotte, North Carolina, 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:42.560 um born and raised, you know, the East Side. Currently 0:07:42.600 --> 0:07:44.760 at this time, I do a little bit of everything. 0:07:46.120 --> 0:07:49.240 When they come out to the freelancing entrepreneurs beat this 0:07:49.400 --> 0:07:53.120 man manager of the music industry. Got a couple of 0:07:53.200 --> 0:07:54.960 artists out there who I work with. I ain't gonna 0:07:54.960 --> 0:07:56.720 put the names out there because they're gonna figure it 0:07:56.720 --> 0:08:00.400 out too easy. But yeah, I'm hot to man. I 0:08:00.400 --> 0:08:06.160 could definitely sham somebody. Okay, after it's called, maybe we 0:08:06.200 --> 0:08:12.280 could talk about some other things. Ship ship, Mr Brown. 0:08:12.760 --> 0:08:16.880 All right, So the conversation at hand is, you know 0:08:16.960 --> 0:08:19.880 why you keep stepping out in a relationship, like why 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:22.920 you can't keep your dick to yourself? So are you 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:26.080 currently in a relationship? Um? I like, I like, I 0:08:26.160 --> 0:08:28.920 like to think, so you like to think? So? Yeah, 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:30.800 I mean I think, I think, I think she thinks that. 0:08:31.120 --> 0:08:34.160 You know, we could say that you wait. Wait, wait, 0:08:34.360 --> 0:08:36.800 so if the woman thinks that y'all in relationship, y'all 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:39.480 in the relationship, it's like this, man, I gotta I 0:08:39.480 --> 0:08:41.840 gotta please my women, you know. So she feels like 0:08:41.960 --> 0:08:45.319 that's what's gonna take to be happy happy, even if 0:08:45.360 --> 0:08:48.480 you're not really in a relationship. You don't know. I 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:50.600 take I take care, I take care of my women. 0:08:50.720 --> 0:08:56.600 So you know I'm in a relationship. But in the situationship. Wait, 0:08:56.640 --> 0:08:58.840 so you have one main relationship and then you have 0:08:58.960 --> 0:09:01.959 little outside with, so I think I think that's the 0:09:02.000 --> 0:09:04.840 way it is right now to do the outside women 0:09:04.960 --> 0:09:08.200 know about your main Oh yeah, for sure they got 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:10.000 to know. But how much do they know? Do you 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:12.360 pillow talk with these women? No, they just need to 0:09:12.360 --> 0:09:14.520 know not to call me unless I can do you 0:09:14.520 --> 0:09:17.679 know what I'm saying. And the biggest thing, yeah, yeah, 0:09:17.679 --> 0:09:19.680 because I take it them as well. Pretty sure they 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:22.280 got their own things going on on trip on the 0:09:22.360 --> 0:09:29.120 too much I keep it playing. Wait a bit, so 0:09:29.200 --> 0:09:31.040 hold on, let me ask you this, Mr. Brown, How 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:36.640 old are you? Kind of okay? Women? How old that? Yes? 0:09:36.679 --> 0:09:39.319 How did these women are? They range? You know my 0:09:39.480 --> 0:09:41.719 old lady? You know that's where I like to call 0:09:41.800 --> 0:09:44.280 my main girl old lady. Reason why I called my 0:09:44.320 --> 0:09:47.280 old ladies. I spent the most time she stayed down 0:09:47.280 --> 0:09:51.080 with what's my old lady? But she liked one. Got 0:09:51.120 --> 0:09:55.120 me up year old keep me she keep you up 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:57.439 to date on the fashion and ship. Everybody played the 0:09:57.480 --> 0:10:02.120 all row. Okay, that's interesting. And you say they know 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:04.840 about each other like they saw each other. They would 0:10:04.840 --> 0:10:09.120 be like my girl, my old lady don't need to 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:12.840 the problem none of that ship. Basically, what I got 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:15.480 going on with her. It is a school you know, 0:10:15.840 --> 0:10:18.400 eventually one day that's gonna be mother and my kids. 0:10:18.840 --> 0:10:22.240 And she she knows what's going on, but we don't 0:10:22.240 --> 0:10:23.640 talk about it, you know what I'm saying, Like it 0:10:23.640 --> 0:10:27.199 ain't nothing to be discussed. Okay, she gives you zero 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:31.360 fuss about your outside activities. She do, but it's like 0:10:31.640 --> 0:10:34.280 she she should have talked. But at the same time, 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:36.320 I know how to handle her, you know what I'm saying, 0:10:36.400 --> 0:10:38.320 or know how to get her back together. Sometimes she 0:10:38.360 --> 0:10:40.160 gets she get a little straight. You got to bring 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:43.640 it back to the stable man. How do you do that? 0:10:44.240 --> 0:10:48.680 Dick and some money? I mean, she had to dicker 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:51.080 with got but you know they came up since then, 0:10:51.120 --> 0:10:53.600 so she seen what kind of lifestyles you're living right now. 0:10:54.000 --> 0:10:56.480 And ship, I ain't saying another nigga can't give it 0:10:56.559 --> 0:10:58.080 to her, but they can't give it to the round. 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:05.000 So you have unprotected sex with twenty four year old 0:11:04.600 --> 0:11:08.240 as she she sucks, she's something like digging ship with 0:11:08.280 --> 0:11:12.839 you know, I ain't I don't think. I think the 0:11:12.920 --> 0:11:17.320 nigga game if you were economically picks up. I don't know, 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:25.200 but I mean, just think about it, like you have 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:28.959 a you have a blue bubble like she sunk around 0:11:28.960 --> 0:11:35.559 and choke herself trying on my companion. That's on my conscience. 0:11:37.600 --> 0:11:40.120 Al Right, Okay, I respect that. Do you ever feel 0:11:40.160 --> 0:11:43.760 any guilt about, you know, going outside of the relationship 0:11:43.840 --> 0:11:47.840 with your main girl? No, not, no guilt. So I 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:50.000 can't because I mean, if if I feel guilt, and 0:11:50.080 --> 0:11:51.680 I mean I feel like I shouldn't be doing it, 0:11:51.840 --> 0:11:54.000 I don't feel like that. I mean I feel like 0:11:54.160 --> 0:11:56.800 my girl she there for what she there for, and 0:11:56.920 --> 0:12:01.360 we just to maintain hold hot hope. But a lot 0:12:01.400 --> 0:12:03.600 of times you don't get what you get in your 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:05.560 old lady that you're gonna get out here in the streets, 0:12:05.760 --> 0:12:08.199 you know what I'm saying. And she's a lot of things, 0:12:08.280 --> 0:12:10.600 you know, I mean, every man got his own you 0:12:10.640 --> 0:12:12.920 know what he's talking what he don't like he personally 0:12:13.120 --> 0:12:15.360 My old lady that she she went to school, you 0:12:15.400 --> 0:12:18.040 know what I'm saying. She had traveling nurse and she 0:12:18.160 --> 0:12:20.400 getting she getting on her day. She's trying to got 0:12:20.440 --> 0:12:22.440 you and go back to school, get her masters, and 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:26.760 better herself. But at the same time, she's born conservative, 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:29.559 so you get you have the fun girl, it's twenty 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:33.360 four year old girl. You know, I ain't even gonna say, 0:12:33.400 --> 0:12:35.280 my girl, I fun, we have fun, we laughed, you 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:37.000 know what I'm saying. We're gonna little pick nicks and 0:12:37.080 --> 0:12:39.640 days and ship that ship cool. But you know, my 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:42.040 twenty four year old she might she might pop up 0:12:42.040 --> 0:12:43.480 on me and tell me about the new James is 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:46.320 coming out and my dad. I don't know ship about 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:47.760 none of that ship. She really trying to get me 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:50.280 stop doing time. Too old to be worried about ship 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:52.640 like that. And I feel like I'm only as olders 0:12:52.640 --> 0:12:53.920 I feel, and I feel like that's the type of 0:12:53.920 --> 0:12:57.080 ship that I liked. But at the same time, I 0:12:57.080 --> 0:13:00.479 wouldn't want to let her go because that little stuff. 0:13:00.600 --> 0:13:02.840 But she don't just have all the qualities. I won't. 0:13:02.840 --> 0:13:05.400 No one, do you ever like talk with the sad 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:10.920 bitch about your relationship only disrespectful. I don't do that 0:13:10.960 --> 0:13:15.600 as disrespects. Don't even know she don't know her name right, 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:21.200 her Instagram, my grandst She don't do none of that, 0:13:21.480 --> 0:13:25.439 No Instagram, social media's she focused on guard She's not like, 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:31.320 she don't do no social media. But what about Facebook? 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:33.640 But on people she follows her opens you know what 0:13:33.679 --> 0:13:37.800 I'm saying. She ain't. What's the reward for being a 0:13:37.880 --> 0:13:41.000 reclusive like that? She don't want for nothing, she don't 0:13:41.040 --> 0:13:43.120 need for Do you think she would trade the things 0:13:43.240 --> 0:13:45.880 and stuff like that for her man to be a 0:13:45.960 --> 0:13:49.000 hundred percent faithful They committed to her alone should be 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:52.520 stupid as him. It's like it's like this, It's like this, 0:13:52.720 --> 0:13:55.920 you would funny, got time you followed, nigga, I've got 0:13:55.920 --> 0:13:59.680 some way, yeah, because I don't got time to funk 0:13:59.679 --> 0:14:02.160 with some to else. You got time in money, my girds. 0:14:02.200 --> 0:14:04.079 She had traveled, nurse, she had the town right now, 0:14:04.240 --> 0:14:10.680 I at my shot right, just want to go do 0:14:10.760 --> 0:14:15.760 her little part of time at the mall watching ship. 0:14:19.240 --> 0:14:21.720 So let me ask you this, um, if you were 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:24.640 to get the twenty four year old pregnant by accident, 0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:27.920 what would that look like for you? Yeah? I said, y'all, 0:14:28.040 --> 0:14:32.280 I disguised my ways right, yes, yes, you totally protected. 0:14:32.720 --> 0:14:38.400 She got she gotta go? Wait what where she gotta go? 0:14:40.200 --> 0:14:43.000 She gotta go like die go? Or are you just 0:14:43.040 --> 0:14:49.640 getting rid of her? Right? I don't know to be 0:14:49.680 --> 0:14:54.840 a fast Wait a minute, I respectfully respect that that's 0:14:54.840 --> 0:14:58.640 your name, right, yes, yes, yeah, something they gotta be said, 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:01.920 she gotta go. Not even give her an opportunity to say, hey, 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:04.760 I'll get rid of rid of it, and she already 0:15:04.760 --> 0:15:07.160 know that. But if she even come talking about anything else, 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:10.120 because this ship, I don't come before what I got 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:12.000 going on the home, you know, this ship fund him. 0:15:12.000 --> 0:15:13.440 I'm gonna take care of and make sure you know 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:20.840 everything taken care of. She good therapy, right. I really 0:15:20.840 --> 0:15:22.800 think I could be that. Really I could be a thing. 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:27.240 Oh God, do you see yourself? Um? Every committee? Yeah? 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:29.480 Like how long? How long will this go on? Is 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:32.840 this just like a lifetime thing for you? Did you like, 0:15:32.920 --> 0:15:35.640 could you be in like a polyamorous relationship where it's 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:38.600 kind of like fully open with both parties that way, 0:15:38.640 --> 0:15:42.960 there's no deceit involved stuff on me? Are you dealing 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:45.920 with a complex type? Now? At myself? Some things that 0:15:46.040 --> 0:15:48.400 my mindkey him, do you keep processed? I don't need 0:15:48.480 --> 0:15:51.560 to be confused, that need to focus. You almost sound 0:15:51.600 --> 0:15:56.520 like you speak like a pimp. Almost. You don't have 0:15:56.600 --> 0:15:59.440 to focus on nothing, baby, follow me and bring me 0:15:59.480 --> 0:16:03.560 the money back. It's not it's not more, I would 0:16:03.600 --> 0:16:08.440 say more a god is counsel. I want to get 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:13.320 to a common goal, so we both to be successful. Guy, 0:16:15.160 --> 0:16:17.040 all right, thank you so much, Mr Brown, you have 0:16:17.080 --> 0:16:23.840 a good day. Did he just boat kiss? That was 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:30.640 a very interesting yeah right now, kind of crazy stuff. Look, 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:37.360 these are random people social media. It's not happening. I'm 0:16:37.400 --> 0:16:40.680 not getting involved in no ship like that. Like he 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:45.400 wanted low polyamorous relationship. That's what he needs. He just needs. 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:47.400 Like I just feel like, if you're someone who wants 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:50.440 a bunch of women, why don't you just be honest 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:52.480 and y'all find women that are down with it? Like, 0:16:52.520 --> 0:16:55.000 why don't we gotta these things? Because, like I believe 0:16:55.600 --> 0:16:57.920 the deceit is a part of the whole ship, you 0:16:57.960 --> 0:17:00.760 know what I'm saying. Yes, I think it makes it 0:17:00.800 --> 0:17:03.440 fun for them. Sneaky Link is like on all time 0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:08.160 high right now. Sneaky Link. Oh yeah, it's like if 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:13.639 Sneaky Link was a stock right now. But sneaky Link, 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:16.480 I'm not. I'm not sneaking to do ship all right. 0:17:17.400 --> 0:17:20.280 One I decided that I'm going to practice safe sex, 0:17:20.400 --> 0:17:23.399 right and I'm not talking about a condom, because I 0:17:23.440 --> 0:17:25.800 mean I am going to do that too. But safe 0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:29.520 is an acronym and it stands for the ass for 0:17:30.040 --> 0:17:33.600 it's not secret. No, the seed is involved, nobody's sneaking around. 0:17:33.880 --> 0:17:37.119 The A is for um, a's for abusive, it's not 0:17:37.160 --> 0:17:41.280 abusive sex uh f is it doesn't alter feelings, So 0:17:41.440 --> 0:17:44.760 like you're fucking to make me feel better over something 0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:47.600 I'm sad about or something like that. And then the 0:17:47.720 --> 0:17:50.919 E it's for it's not empty. So how do you 0:17:51.040 --> 0:17:54.280 have just sex and then not be empty? I don't 0:17:54.400 --> 0:17:56.959 just have sex. That's the thing. I'm not going to 0:17:57.000 --> 0:18:02.280 protect cartake insects that doesn't have a meaningful Sex needs 0:18:02.280 --> 0:18:05.040 to be a reinforcement of feelings that exists with someone. 0:18:05.119 --> 0:18:09.920 That's it. So sorry, guys, No frivulous fucking this year. 0:18:10.960 --> 0:18:16.400 No vacation pussy, none of that. No birthday pussy, No, 0:18:16.800 --> 0:18:21.200 no vacation baby pussy. You know. So, I'm just gonna 0:18:21.400 --> 0:18:25.480 get a very high pedigree dog and that brings to 0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:33.080 our next person. So you'll understand what that means very soon. 0:18:33.800 --> 0:18:41.080 Our next person is our corporate man. Man, I'm struggling. 0:18:41.480 --> 0:18:44.120 That's a shame that I'm struggling. You want to say 0:18:44.200 --> 0:18:49.520 corporate niggas so bad? I just I mean, alright, corporate man, yeah, 0:18:49.600 --> 0:18:53.200 I did. But before we get to our next guest. 0:18:53.320 --> 0:18:57.879 We have a steel words from our sponsors. This is 0:18:57.920 --> 0:19:04.280 gonna be your your more high value grown man, all right, 0:19:04.440 --> 0:19:08.240 and we're gonna hear how he feels about high values, 0:19:08.280 --> 0:19:11.840 more high value, high value, high value to me. Makes 0:19:11.880 --> 0:19:15.840 it to me based on the conversation, he's more responsible 0:19:16.200 --> 0:19:21.360 than a last If I was like this nigga would 0:19:21.400 --> 0:19:26.800 have me right right, But so alright, I want y'all 0:19:26.840 --> 0:19:32.240 then listen to our corporate man and see and see 0:19:32.280 --> 0:19:35.439 what you think in comparison to our street nigga. I 0:19:35.440 --> 0:19:38.080 can say street nigga, but I can't say corporate nigga 0:19:38.160 --> 0:19:44.280 like high value. All right, So y'all listening. Hi, this 0:19:44.400 --> 0:19:46.640 is a J and TAM band from we talked back. 0:19:46.760 --> 0:19:51.840 How are you doing? Good? Good? Thank you for participating 0:19:51.880 --> 0:19:55.440 today in our conversation about keeping your dick to yourself. 0:19:55.840 --> 0:19:58.399 I want to look at so you don't keep all right, 0:19:58.560 --> 0:20:01.000 we'll get into that. Just tell us just a little 0:20:01.000 --> 0:20:04.000 bit about yourself, Nathan, Who are you like? Who are you? 0:20:04.040 --> 0:20:08.000 What do you do? I'm a four year old guy, 0:20:08.640 --> 0:20:11.400 um black, well to do a guy in the middle 0:20:11.440 --> 0:20:13.959 of La Georgia. Okay, And when you say well to do, 0:20:14.080 --> 0:20:16.440 like what do you What kind of work do you do? 0:20:16.600 --> 0:20:20.119 Are you corporate or you you know, like, um, well 0:20:20.160 --> 0:20:23.480 I've been I've been an entrepreneur, meaning I sell for 0:20:23.560 --> 0:20:26.919 companies for most of my career, which allows me to 0:20:26.920 --> 0:20:29.479 create a lot of other revenue strings, which that's kind 0:20:29.480 --> 0:20:32.399 of what I do. So I'm but but I do 0:20:32.480 --> 0:20:35.800 pretty well for myself. Okay, cool, cool. So let me 0:20:35.840 --> 0:20:38.560 ask you this. Are you currently cheating on someone right now? 0:20:38.760 --> 0:20:41.320 Are you currently in a relationship? No? No, So I 0:20:41.359 --> 0:20:44.040 am single now and when I am single, I am 0:20:44.080 --> 0:20:46.880 a whole type of hope and I'm okay with that. 0:20:47.920 --> 0:20:51.440 But when I'm in a relationship, in general, I don't cheat. 0:20:51.480 --> 0:20:54.600 I towards the end of my marriage, she became, uh, 0:20:55.040 --> 0:20:58.800 the edges became a little boggy. But but in general, 0:20:58.960 --> 0:21:01.600 when I'm in a relationship, don't cheat because I just don't. 0:21:01.920 --> 0:21:04.359 My ego won't allow me to get caught cheating. And 0:21:04.400 --> 0:21:07.639 so it's rare that I'm going to to allow myself 0:21:07.640 --> 0:21:09.399 to get caught up in something that I would have 0:21:09.480 --> 0:21:13.639 to admit to or something like that. That's a different way, right, Yeah, 0:21:13.680 --> 0:21:16.760 I like that. I meantime, people will cheat because of right, 0:21:16.880 --> 0:21:19.880 you inazing. You don't cheat because of your ego because 0:21:19.880 --> 0:21:23.560 you don't like to be wrong exactly exactly me. Imagine 0:21:23.600 --> 0:21:25.640 that what you gotta what you gonna do? Someone dead 0:21:25.720 --> 0:21:27.800 as catches you doing something, What are you gonna do? 0:21:27.840 --> 0:21:31.160 Just sit around? You look like an idiot. Now you're 0:21:31.160 --> 0:21:35.080 gonna want to flip it on them and make them? Yeah, 0:21:35.680 --> 0:21:39.080 use it right? Yeah, I think that's I think that's 0:21:39.160 --> 0:21:41.199 a large waste of everybody. I'm not saying that I 0:21:41.200 --> 0:21:43.720 haven't done it before, and I'm not saying that when 0:21:43.760 --> 0:21:46.560 I did it, I felt bad about it, um because 0:21:46.600 --> 0:21:50.360 I felt I was justified in someone by behavior. But um, 0:21:50.520 --> 0:21:54.040 but in general, I'm not a cheating in general. Okay, 0:21:54.119 --> 0:21:56.360 So let me ask you this. You said something earlier, 0:21:56.400 --> 0:21:59.560 you say you're a whole code versus a half a home. 0:21:59.640 --> 0:22:02.840 What does that the whole whole look like? When I'm single, 0:22:03.000 --> 0:22:05.720 I don't have any allegiance to anybody that I don't 0:22:05.720 --> 0:22:08.720 have relationship with, and I don't interpt the relationship without 0:22:08.760 --> 0:22:12.880 some without without a strict conversation, and that that understanding. 0:22:13.000 --> 0:22:16.040 So I'm okay with you know what, um, and I 0:22:16.080 --> 0:22:18.040 do whatever I want to, And you're using condoms a 0:22:18.080 --> 0:22:20.959 lot when you're single, right or no? Do you have 0:22:21.000 --> 0:22:24.919 anybody that you don't use economic to the accidental? I'll 0:22:24.920 --> 0:22:27.400 tell you that. Um. But I certainly we've had drug 0:22:27.520 --> 0:22:29.840 nights where d you know what the fund did I do? 0:22:30.040 --> 0:22:32.800 But I but you know, I wouldn't make sure that 0:22:32.880 --> 0:22:37.040 from a pregnancy standpoint, I've I've handled my side of 0:22:37.080 --> 0:22:40.400 that equation. So I don't know, no, no, no, pull 0:22:40.480 --> 0:22:42.320 up that that's so many half plus are born on 0:22:42.400 --> 0:22:47.160 pullout right, So I wouldn't got to desect me because 0:22:47.160 --> 0:22:52.800 I don't want any more kids more than more than three, 0:22:53.119 --> 0:23:02.160 let's six. Yeah, yes, I'm so. I'm good on kids 0:23:02.400 --> 0:23:05.600 and I don't wish to be a fifty year old 0:23:05.640 --> 0:23:09.080 running behind a ten year old somewhere, and so I 0:23:08.359 --> 0:23:11.359 I'm good and so because of that, I kind of 0:23:11.359 --> 0:23:15.000 take my my choices of of my you know how 0:23:15.040 --> 0:23:17.879 he gets my last name very seriously and I'm and 0:23:17.880 --> 0:23:19.840 I'm good on that right now. So do you want 0:23:19.960 --> 0:23:22.080 I heard you say you were married once before? Do 0:23:22.119 --> 0:23:24.480 you want to be married again? Yeah? I would. I 0:23:24.520 --> 0:23:27.760 would marry a kid. I think that marriage is a 0:23:27.840 --> 0:23:32.000 good thing. Um. Now understand that getting married at Gordy 0:23:32.400 --> 0:23:36.080 um is a different calculation than getting married when I 0:23:36.119 --> 0:23:39.280 did earlier in my in my early twenties, because we 0:23:39.320 --> 0:23:42.600 were married before, you're married for a life. We're building 0:23:42.600 --> 0:23:44.879 a kid to kids, were building children together, a family 0:23:44.880 --> 0:23:49.119 and tribe together, and now largely we're gonna you know, listen, 0:23:49.119 --> 0:23:51.280 just let's go on vacation and buck all the time. 0:23:51.400 --> 0:23:54.320 And it's just a different calculus than that I did 0:23:54.359 --> 0:23:57.320 what I was twenty in my early twenties. Right, So 0:23:58.359 --> 0:24:01.880 basically you're saying you want someone to fucking travel with 0:24:02.080 --> 0:24:05.880 as a wife, and that's about you know. But so yeah, 0:24:05.880 --> 0:24:08.439 I'll have fun with a lot of these, um, you know, 0:24:08.520 --> 0:24:11.280 young women, but in general, the women that I date 0:24:11.320 --> 0:24:13.480 are going to be more age appropriate. They're going to 0:24:13.520 --> 0:24:16.480 be um, you know, mature enough to handle my life, 0:24:16.560 --> 0:24:18.879 meaning that you know, I have the complex life, a 0:24:18.920 --> 0:24:21.320 lot of different people that make me money, and so 0:24:21.480 --> 0:24:23.160 she needs to be able to be with me while 0:24:23.200 --> 0:24:25.640 we're doing that. Um and you know, and that's kind 0:24:25.640 --> 0:24:27.560 of you know, that's that's what that's what that's what 0:24:27.560 --> 0:24:29.439 I have demand now. But you know that's that's not 0:24:29.480 --> 0:24:33.560 I'm not I'm not not sugar daddy, So I'm not 0:24:33.960 --> 0:24:37.760 We like sugar Daddy's over here. I'm sure you think 0:24:37.800 --> 0:24:42.080 you do, but but that's that's just not what we're 0:24:42.080 --> 0:24:46.000 doing over here. You know, are you exclusive to black women? Um? 0:24:46.080 --> 0:24:56.320 During the daylight? You know? No, absolutely, Um, I mean absolutely, 0:24:56.400 --> 0:25:00.520 very much. Publicly, I only date black women. Um. I 0:25:00.119 --> 0:25:02.639 I try to be very loyal to black women. I 0:25:02.680 --> 0:25:06.160 really believe that that's the right. It's very hard sometimes 0:25:06.200 --> 0:25:10.520 because I've been very disappointed with a lot of the 0:25:10.960 --> 0:25:13.960 interactions that I have with with black women. Outside of that, 0:25:14.000 --> 0:25:16.000 I'm not I'm not a get white women. I just 0:25:16.200 --> 0:25:19.000 in jail, don't like the vaginas, and I don't want 0:25:19.040 --> 0:25:21.720 to have sex with them, and I you know, they're 0:25:21.800 --> 0:25:24.879 just you know, they're they're okay. But I just I 0:25:24.920 --> 0:25:28.199 think that that that I's not gonna gonna be, you know, 0:25:28.280 --> 0:25:31.600 waking up to when I'm sixty. Um, probably not. So 0:25:31.800 --> 0:25:34.080 she doesn't quite understand the struggles. She doesn't understand what 0:25:34.160 --> 0:25:35.960 we go through. She doesn't quite get it. And so 0:25:36.080 --> 0:25:38.040 while it could be a lot of fun, it's just 0:25:38.440 --> 0:25:44.679 I it's a cultural difference, and and you know that's 0:25:44.680 --> 0:25:47.199 gonna just kind of limit me from from reaching what 0:25:47.240 --> 0:25:49.840 I want to do. So, UM, when you said, because 0:25:49.840 --> 0:25:53.439 you said you have cheated, but generally you are exclusive. 0:25:53.760 --> 0:25:56.760 When you made that decision to cheat, what what was 0:25:56.800 --> 0:25:59.600 the thought process that allowed you to give yourself permission 0:25:59.640 --> 0:26:06.439 to do Um? It was maker's market. No, I was 0:26:06.520 --> 0:26:09.080 by the time that I started, like honestly cheating, I 0:26:09.119 --> 0:26:12.320 had already moved out of my home. I was sleeping 0:26:12.359 --> 0:26:15.360 in a hotel room. Um, because I was already separated 0:26:15.400 --> 0:26:17.679 from my from my ex wife. I was like on 0:26:18.200 --> 0:26:21.679 months to be living in a hotel and basically a 0:26:21.720 --> 0:26:23.840 girl from work wanted to come over and have drinks 0:26:23.840 --> 0:26:25.960 after work and and just hang out, and we ended 0:26:26.040 --> 0:26:29.440 up taking too much. And so cheating wasn't the reason 0:26:29.560 --> 0:26:33.000 you got divorced. It wasn't because of infidelity. No, No, 0:26:33.200 --> 0:26:35.760 it was it was There's nobody that I went to 0:26:35.840 --> 0:26:38.880 when I left my hope I was in your marriage. 0:26:39.000 --> 0:26:42.239 Did you cheat on your before? No, There's never been 0:26:42.280 --> 0:26:44.560 a day where I'm going over to my happy wife 0:26:44.560 --> 0:26:47.440 when she's you know, we're in a relationship and I'm cheating, 0:26:47.480 --> 0:26:50.560 I just goft another woman. That that never happened. Um. 0:26:50.600 --> 0:26:53.159 Certainly when I was in a hotel room, Um, that 0:26:53.400 --> 0:26:55.320 you know, that kind of started a whole different path, 0:26:55.520 --> 0:26:57.520 was like, yeah, well I'm done with this relationship. Living 0:26:57.520 --> 0:27:00.560 in a hotel gave you the opportunity. Basically, yeah, I 0:27:00.880 --> 0:27:03.600 didn't happen. I was setting there and I'm a jacking 0:27:03.640 --> 0:27:06.160 off on myself for you know. And and it wasn't 0:27:06.240 --> 0:27:08.960 until that, you know, somebody else is a ball. And 0:27:08.960 --> 0:27:11.800 then after that it became, um, it became more of 0:27:11.800 --> 0:27:14.119 a regular current because I was like, you know, so, 0:27:14.240 --> 0:27:17.000 let me ask you this, prior to you moving out 0:27:17.040 --> 0:27:19.520 of the house, when was the last time you sucked 0:27:19.520 --> 0:27:22.760 your wife before you went to that hotel, because obviously 0:27:23.400 --> 0:27:26.840 out yeah, maybe it was some Uh, it's like we 0:27:26.840 --> 0:27:29.680 don't like each other anymore. It starts for us mentally. 0:27:29.840 --> 0:27:33.280 So if I'm unhappy my pussy now I didn't win. Yeah, 0:27:33.320 --> 0:27:37.120 it's not damn that makes me Now, I'm just imagining, 0:27:37.280 --> 0:27:39.800 just thinking about being in a marriage and feeling that way. Yeah, 0:27:40.760 --> 0:27:44.040 how long were we married? Almost two years? Okay, wow, 0:27:44.119 --> 0:27:47.160 so a long marriage. Well, I mean considerably because you're 0:27:47.200 --> 0:27:49.919 only forty so that was a good portion of your 0:27:49.920 --> 0:27:52.320 adult life. So let me ask you this. Do you 0:27:52.359 --> 0:27:54.760 feel like because I heard you said you left, you 0:27:54.800 --> 0:27:57.560 said back home, and now you're saying Atlanta, Um, do 0:27:57.600 --> 0:28:00.760 you feel like dating in Atlanta is a different ball game? Um? 0:28:00.800 --> 0:28:06.960 So I think Atlanta becomes a bad contil of ambition, misinformation, 0:28:07.280 --> 0:28:10.720 and um, toxic feminism. And so we put all those 0:28:10.760 --> 0:28:14.120 things together, that is dating in Atlanta. Um. And it's 0:28:14.160 --> 0:28:17.600 a lot of very inbitious people here. Oh you know, 0:28:17.800 --> 0:28:20.080 and we don't you don't have to be in a relationship. 0:28:20.119 --> 0:28:23.560 And frankly, um, most of us are you know, we 0:28:23.840 --> 0:28:26.960 wouldn't understand it, but we're all kind of polygue here 0:28:27.040 --> 0:28:29.440 and it's and we and it's really uh, it's really 0:28:29.480 --> 0:28:31.440 a thing that we kind of kind of step back 0:28:31.440 --> 0:28:34.720 and look at. So when you say toxic feminism, it's 0:28:34.720 --> 0:28:39.479 fine what that is for me? Um, So what does 0:28:39.480 --> 0:28:42.080 it mean to you? Because to me, like it's like, uh, 0:28:42.160 --> 0:28:45.560 too many alpha females in Atlanta, too many women that 0:28:45.680 --> 0:28:48.160 may have their own So it's like, I don't need 0:28:48.200 --> 0:28:51.320 a man type attitudes or well you want to encapculate 0:28:51.400 --> 0:28:53.080 it that whole I don't need to I don't need 0:28:53.160 --> 0:28:55.520 no man type of statement. That is a statement of 0:28:55.640 --> 0:28:59.200 toxic feminism in my opinion, because you're you're saying, wow, 0:28:59.320 --> 0:29:01.239 look at my last paycheck. That means I don't need 0:29:01.280 --> 0:29:04.479 a man anymore because you've simplified the contribution to I'm 0:29:04.480 --> 0:29:07.800 going to tell you just cry at night. Okay, they do. 0:29:09.080 --> 0:29:13.600 And I'm because I have friends. I have a lot 0:29:13.600 --> 0:29:16.840 of female friends that I fucking we're just female friends, 0:29:16.840 --> 0:29:19.640 and I know that they have to struggle, right, And 0:29:19.640 --> 0:29:22.600 I'm like, dude, you've been like to like, you gotta change. 0:29:22.600 --> 0:29:24.840 You can't just think of men as a resource pool 0:29:24.920 --> 0:29:27.320 for you. These their whole human beings that you're not. 0:29:27.400 --> 0:29:30.400 You're interested in only one test of their life, and 0:29:30.480 --> 0:29:32.440 so it's just the utility of man that wants to 0:29:32.480 --> 0:29:34.760 be exported from them. You see a lot of that 0:29:34.920 --> 0:29:36.760 here in the city, right, you see that, and the 0:29:36.800 --> 0:29:39.000 women in this in this age, raams where they should 0:29:39.040 --> 0:29:41.160 be the Becky's of the world, to figure out how 0:29:41.160 --> 0:29:43.600 do I get married? And a lot of the black 0:29:43.640 --> 0:29:46.480 women like how do I get rich? Right? And so 0:29:46.600 --> 0:29:50.120 those are two different objectives. And so I don't know 0:29:50.160 --> 0:29:53.800 how because all women are attracted to resources like no, no, no, 0:29:54.040 --> 0:29:56.280 I'm talking about the Becky's are not trying to figure 0:29:56.320 --> 0:29:58.040 out how they're going to do. I'm not saying that 0:29:58.080 --> 0:30:00.360 women should not be do whatever they want to. I'm 0:30:00.400 --> 0:30:02.440 not saying that. I'm saying that if you're if you're 0:30:02.480 --> 0:30:06.720 not focused on a partnering at certain points in your life, 0:30:06.760 --> 0:30:08.720 women will run out of what they will be more 0:30:08.760 --> 0:30:11.080 complicated for you later. And I'm saying that there's a 0:30:11.120 --> 0:30:13.800 lot of that happening with with women right now in 0:30:13.840 --> 0:30:16.160 the city. And you know, I just I'm from out 0:30:16.200 --> 0:30:18.680 of town. You've been through four years now, and I 0:30:19.120 --> 0:30:22.120 can just see it's a different thing because you know, 0:30:22.160 --> 0:30:24.720 they will they have their their their money and their 0:30:24.760 --> 0:30:27.280 businesses and stuff like that, but they don't have relationships. 0:30:27.320 --> 0:30:28.960 And it makes me sad. It makes and it's going 0:30:29.040 --> 0:30:31.040 to be that can be good for our people, and 0:30:31.080 --> 0:30:33.280 that is what I'm talking about, and that's what I'm about, 0:30:33.360 --> 0:30:35.680 is how do I be better our people? And I 0:30:35.720 --> 0:30:37.520 don't and I don't think that's good when women have 0:30:37.680 --> 0:30:41.480 chosen to not see men for partners but just resources 0:30:41.480 --> 0:30:43.960 that they can use for occasionally. So when I lived 0:30:43.960 --> 0:30:45.760 in Atlanta, but I lived in Atlanta for some time 0:30:45.880 --> 0:30:48.880 in my late journies, and it was the loneliest time 0:30:48.920 --> 0:30:51.600 in my life, like because I realized there are just 0:30:51.640 --> 0:30:53.840 a couple of different types of men in Atlanta you 0:30:53.920 --> 0:30:57.080 have the hetero sexual bumass niggers and to come live 0:30:57.120 --> 0:30:59.360 at your house. Then you have the hetero sexual guy 0:30:59.360 --> 0:31:01.160 who has its whole shipped together. But then he has 0:31:01.200 --> 0:31:05.480 a choice thirty different women. Um, you got to compete with, 0:31:05.600 --> 0:31:07.880 and then you have the gay men, and then you 0:31:07.920 --> 0:31:10.600 know all these other little people in between. But so 0:31:10.800 --> 0:31:13.720 as a woman, you're getting your own money. I think 0:31:13.760 --> 0:31:17.080 that black men sometimes have a misconception of exactly what 0:31:17.120 --> 0:31:19.920 black women want. Like some Black women just yeah, I 0:31:19.960 --> 0:31:21.320 want somebody to take care of me and I want 0:31:21.320 --> 0:31:22.640 to keep my money. A lot of people do have 0:31:22.680 --> 0:31:24.720 the attitude. They'll well they don't say that, right, but 0:31:24.760 --> 0:31:26.800 they really don't live their lives like that because nine 0:31:26.840 --> 0:31:28.120 times of the time they could be taking care of 0:31:28.160 --> 0:31:32.360 a nigga similar. But um, we want we want a partner, 0:31:32.440 --> 0:31:35.560 that I would want a partner, not just somebody that 0:31:35.720 --> 0:31:39.240 I'm running through the check you know. So why but 0:31:39.320 --> 0:31:42.240 then they're to white women, they are raised and they 0:31:42.280 --> 0:31:45.360 practice hypergamy. But for whatever reason, for Black women, we 0:31:45.400 --> 0:31:53.640 don't have that option. I don't know what that basically Okay, okay, 0:31:53.800 --> 0:31:58.000 someone would say men are naturally polyamorous. Um, some would 0:31:58.000 --> 0:32:01.760 say women are naturally hyper and meaning that men want 0:32:01.760 --> 0:32:04.640 to funk around spread their seeds or in life, women 0:32:04.840 --> 0:32:07.600 because they want to suck as as the highest status 0:32:07.640 --> 0:32:10.680 male as possible. And so that is whatever they can 0:32:10.680 --> 0:32:13.200 get their hands on whenever they can they want, that's 0:32:13.200 --> 0:32:15.800 who they want to be with is the highest drivers man. 0:32:15.920 --> 0:32:18.520 And why is that? Because I can create, you know, 0:32:18.760 --> 0:32:21.080 come twenty times in a day where you used to 0:32:21.120 --> 0:32:24.280 be able to probably can't do it more. But but 0:32:24.360 --> 0:32:27.040 women can't make twenty babies in a day, right, you 0:32:27.120 --> 0:32:29.560 get times you'll be able to make twenty babies in 0:32:29.600 --> 0:32:31.920 this world. So you have to make choices around where 0:32:32.000 --> 0:32:34.200 you put your wound. Do you want to align your 0:32:34.240 --> 0:32:38.240 wound to the highest value mail that can help north 0:32:38.320 --> 0:32:40.800 child the best chances of success in this world? And 0:32:40.880 --> 0:32:43.640 that's all it is. And I'm not mad about hypergnmy 0:32:43.720 --> 0:32:46.160 and I'm not mad about I think more women, based 0:32:46.200 --> 0:32:48.440 on what you're like, I know what a hypergnmy is, 0:32:48.520 --> 0:32:51.600 and more women need to practice hypergumy because if we did, 0:32:51.600 --> 0:32:54.040 because we set the standards right, more men would be 0:32:54.160 --> 0:32:57.480 successful exactly and children would be taken care of. We 0:32:57.520 --> 0:33:00.520 wouldn't be having just just having a baby. Fan anybody. 0:33:00.720 --> 0:33:03.320 I can't even argue with your descriptions the categories of men. 0:33:03.600 --> 0:33:06.840 That's a good roundbout with thinking those couch flovers, you 0:33:06.880 --> 0:33:10.200 know they go for wood counsel with others because is 0:33:10.800 --> 0:33:15.840 you know. And that was so good, Nathan eas thank 0:33:15.920 --> 0:33:18.560 you for joining us, and we'd love to have you back. 0:33:19.040 --> 0:33:23.480 One more thing on your treating cheat. So he didn't 0:33:23.520 --> 0:33:26.640 really cheat, I mean he didn't really talk about cheating 0:33:26.720 --> 0:33:28.840 maybe in another relationship. But he spoke about how he 0:33:28.920 --> 0:33:32.280 was married for teen years and sorry, yeah, so I 0:33:32.280 --> 0:33:34.720 mean that count he was still married, so that means 0:33:34.760 --> 0:33:38.840 he's just cheating, right, And he basically said because he 0:33:39.560 --> 0:33:42.880 basically the relationship was over, even though the paperwork wasn't done, 0:33:43.040 --> 0:33:45.240 the relationship was over and that's how he gave himself 0:33:45.320 --> 0:33:48.760 permission to cheat. Do you think that holds value? Like? 0:33:48.840 --> 0:33:51.760 I guess that makes sense for me. She probably didn't 0:33:51.760 --> 0:33:54.280 give a funk no more either, and neither party is 0:33:54.360 --> 0:33:56.880 in it. Yeah, and especially if a man ain't been 0:33:56.880 --> 0:33:59.320 at home for two months, right, that's not your man. 0:33:59.360 --> 0:34:05.240 He butted to the streets exactly wherever he had. But 0:34:05.560 --> 0:34:08.399 out of the two guys we've heard so far, if 0:34:08.440 --> 0:34:10.640 I had to kill, like funk with one of them. 0:34:10.680 --> 0:34:14.360 It would be corporate bro. I think all right, listen, 0:34:14.400 --> 0:34:17.919 I would funk with the corporate nigga and then oh 0:34:18.000 --> 0:34:23.960 boy would be my side nigga. Shame. I don't want 0:34:23.960 --> 0:34:27.680 no parts to that. I'm jumping street nigga man street niggas. 0:34:28.280 --> 0:34:30.279 I know. But if I was a twenty four year 0:34:30.280 --> 0:34:32.919 old fund girl, Hell yeah, I'm near and I don't 0:34:32.920 --> 0:34:35.360 give a ship about your responsibilities at home. I'm running 0:34:35.360 --> 0:34:39.600 to check up and damn vip like my favorite is 0:34:39.760 --> 0:34:43.319 a corporate street nigga. Yes, I love hood niggas that 0:34:43.400 --> 0:34:47.719 made it. They just treat you so nice that you're 0:34:47.760 --> 0:34:49.760 just so nice. And even if they did, like maybe 0:34:49.760 --> 0:34:53.479 three years in prison also just three now a little 0:34:53.480 --> 0:34:56.839 bit more than that. They kind of need therapy. Ud 0:34:56.920 --> 0:35:00.080 niggas who come home with the plan and yeah, I 0:35:00.160 --> 0:35:04.080 like hooding examine it also my favorite time. But they 0:35:04.360 --> 0:35:07.680 like they like the smoke weed too. They're not too stuffy, 0:35:08.000 --> 0:35:10.000 but they're not like they still want to get up 0:35:10.040 --> 0:35:12.919 and go work the next day. It's great for me. 0:35:14.360 --> 0:35:17.359 So what do you think about are I call him? 0:35:17.360 --> 0:35:20.560 I'm calling him high value? What do you think about him? 0:35:20.920 --> 0:35:24.240 Um in his situation. I don't know why I'm receiving bitter, 0:35:24.600 --> 0:35:30.000 a little little little hard, just a little maybe a 0:35:30.000 --> 0:35:33.600 little jaded perhaps, No, I just I was receiving that 0:35:33.760 --> 0:35:37.960 in the spirit. I didn't get that. I thought he 0:35:38.000 --> 0:35:40.359 was a responsible man. You know what I'm saying. He's 0:35:40.400 --> 0:35:41.920 singles and now he's doing what he want to do. 0:35:42.000 --> 0:35:44.400 And he said he's the super whole. Now as long 0:35:44.440 --> 0:35:48.000 as you know other people feelings involved. But can you 0:35:48.040 --> 0:35:51.680 really be a superhole and nobody's feelings are involved? I 0:35:51.680 --> 0:35:54.319 guess it depends on how you dealing with them, how 0:35:54.440 --> 0:35:56.799 how you sucking them. So that kind of leads us 0:35:56.800 --> 0:36:01.960 to the next conversation. Listen up, hi, this is a 0:36:02.120 --> 0:36:04.360 J and Tamba And when we talked back, thank you 0:36:04.440 --> 0:36:10.440 so much for participating in this experiment with dis experiment 0:36:10.480 --> 0:36:14.279 with these niggers. Right, so we want to ask you 0:36:14.320 --> 0:36:18.000 just like some questions about you, your relationship with your 0:36:18.040 --> 0:36:26.000 dick and others. Okay, all right, so first, uh just 0:36:26.040 --> 0:36:29.080 tell us a little bit about yourself, ezra Um. Well, 0:36:29.640 --> 0:36:33.760 I'm an executive at my company and I graduated college, 0:36:33.800 --> 0:36:35.520 kind of moved around on the dout West and I 0:36:35.600 --> 0:36:38.399 live on the on the East Coast. Now, so I'm 0:36:38.440 --> 0:36:42.040 a black gay male, so I've been in rights for 0:36:42.160 --> 0:36:45.000 females and with and with I'm a guys. I'm a 0:36:45.040 --> 0:36:48.480 little bit diversed in my dating population. Which do you 0:36:48.600 --> 0:36:56.960 prefer guys? For sure? Yeah? Yes, it's my personal favorite. 0:36:57.800 --> 0:37:02.239 Definitely need more. So we're just going to ask you 0:37:02.280 --> 0:37:06.160 like a series of questions. The first one, all right, first, 0:37:06.280 --> 0:37:08.840 I was what was your last When was his last 0:37:09.480 --> 0:37:13.440 serious relationship? I'm currently in a relationship. I'm not currently 0:37:13.480 --> 0:37:16.640 in a relationship. I just got out of a relationship yesterday, 0:37:16.840 --> 0:37:27.120 so congratulations. I don't know middle things to my old 0:37:27.160 --> 0:37:32.480 life before night, it was like, uh like three years ago, 0:37:32.680 --> 0:37:35.399 and that's the last person a couple of years ago. 0:37:35.600 --> 0:37:39.640 So question, have you ever cheated? Yeah, I've cheated them, 0:37:39.680 --> 0:37:43.400 been cheated on, so I know I know boths Okay, facts, 0:37:43.960 --> 0:37:49.520 I've never cheated. I'm innocent. But when when you decided 0:37:49.680 --> 0:37:53.160 to cheat? How did you give yourself permission to do that? Like? 0:37:53.640 --> 0:37:55.480 What was the thought that was, like, you know what, 0:37:55.760 --> 0:37:58.879 I'm about to go do this? Um? For me, I 0:37:58.920 --> 0:38:01.920 was kind of like the provider in that relationship, you know, 0:38:02.000 --> 0:38:03.880 I was taking care of all of this I was like, 0:38:03.920 --> 0:38:05.560 for lotting at the house of staying and I'll pay 0:38:05.640 --> 0:38:07.360 for two cars. Like I had a lot of ships 0:38:07.400 --> 0:38:09.560 that I'm taking care of as a man take care 0:38:09.560 --> 0:38:12.759 of another man especially gets real real quick. And then 0:38:12.760 --> 0:38:14.760 when it came downtime to like, you know, I'm coming 0:38:14.760 --> 0:38:16.600 home from work or I had to work like an 0:38:16.600 --> 0:38:18.319 hour and a half. But where I live, so I'm 0:38:18.320 --> 0:38:20.160 coming home from work, you don't have like ship together. 0:38:20.239 --> 0:38:22.000 You don't have like the house and order, you ain't 0:38:22.040 --> 0:38:25.239 cooking nothing like what value or got into my life. 0:38:25.280 --> 0:38:27.120 So when I'd be at work, you know, and people 0:38:27.120 --> 0:38:30.239 showing me love and attention and affection and like, you know, 0:38:30.480 --> 0:38:32.560 I'm at a place at work where people are like 0:38:32.680 --> 0:38:34.799 spending on me and I feel good. I was like, 0:38:34.800 --> 0:38:36.400 I want to do that. And I ended up like 0:38:36.480 --> 0:38:38.319 working with a guy in the city that I was 0:38:38.320 --> 0:38:41.480 working in just because I like nice stuff too. So 0:38:41.520 --> 0:38:45.000 you basically yeah, so because because I've been in a 0:38:45.040 --> 0:38:47.120 situation like that before and it does kind of put you. 0:38:47.320 --> 0:38:49.239 And I'm a woman head of sexual and I was 0:38:49.280 --> 0:38:51.840 in a relationship with a man at the time and 0:38:51.960 --> 0:38:55.680 he wasn't doing much. I understand that. So if you 0:38:55.840 --> 0:38:58.399 wear the pants. You think you can just go cheat. 0:38:58.520 --> 0:39:00.720 I don't think yes said that you can in goo cheat. 0:39:00.800 --> 0:39:03.040 I think that if you're not if something's not being 0:39:03.080 --> 0:39:05.319 satisfied in your life, like now, I've been through like 0:39:05.520 --> 0:39:07.600 therapy and ship, so I would know to like talk 0:39:07.640 --> 0:39:10.919 about it and say, like be more vocal and say like, Yo, 0:39:11.120 --> 0:39:13.120 this isn't working for me because once to three and 0:39:13.239 --> 0:39:16.160 four vertu like just being upset about it coming home 0:39:16.160 --> 0:39:18.360 and like flipping out and then when I get the 0:39:18.440 --> 0:39:20.560 chance to get what I want getting it elsewhere, Like 0:39:20.600 --> 0:39:22.279 I could have just talked about it. Because the sex 0:39:22.320 --> 0:39:24.800 at home was good, as we had really good sects, 0:39:24.920 --> 0:39:27.399 like every time we did hook up, like that's part 0:39:27.400 --> 0:39:29.640 of the reason why I stayed. It actually good. But 0:39:29.960 --> 0:39:32.000 with everything else, I just wasn't getting a full picture. 0:39:32.080 --> 0:39:34.160 So I just got that from from somebody else who 0:39:34.160 --> 0:39:36.200 could give it to me. So it was just about 0:39:36.239 --> 0:39:39.320 the stuff that made you step out. It wasn't say 0:39:39.560 --> 0:39:43.680 it was material things that was missing from relationship. You 0:39:43.680 --> 0:39:45.799 can't say like material ship because I don't know. I'm 0:39:45.840 --> 0:39:48.319 not the kind of person that needs material things as much. 0:39:48.440 --> 0:39:52.000 It was more so the level of affection and like hustle, 0:39:52.160 --> 0:39:54.520 like that was an attractive traite to me, and I wasn't. 0:39:54.719 --> 0:39:56.960 I was losing that attraction from my partner. So I 0:39:57.040 --> 0:39:59.800 found it in somebody else who was hustling on the 0:40:00.040 --> 0:40:02.200 on and you know that that was attractive to me, 0:40:02.200 --> 0:40:04.040 and I was able to get that versus at home. 0:40:04.320 --> 0:40:06.000 I'm coming home and y'all lady asked me to the 0:40:06.000 --> 0:40:07.919 house all day, like you know, you like, we ain't 0:40:07.920 --> 0:40:09.239 got no kids, how you have to like to stay 0:40:09.239 --> 0:40:13.560 at home mom? But you never had so. Through therapy 0:40:13.600 --> 0:40:16.879 after the situation, you learned how to then communicate your 0:40:17.000 --> 0:40:20.799 feelings better. So then at that time, you didn't communicate 0:40:20.840 --> 0:40:23.480 to the person you were with how you felt and 0:40:23.520 --> 0:40:26.880 how they weren't meeting whatever expectations you had for them. 0:40:26.920 --> 0:40:29.320 You didn't communicate that. You just went out and slept 0:40:29.320 --> 0:40:31.640 with somebody else to complete your happiness. I mean we 0:40:31.760 --> 0:40:35.440 had some conversation, like I would express my frustrations in 0:40:35.520 --> 0:40:38.040 general about like the fact that you're not on your ship, 0:40:38.480 --> 0:40:41.440 and then I would say like, well, you know, I'm 0:40:41.520 --> 0:40:43.279 kind of can be kind of an asshote sometimes, so 0:40:43.320 --> 0:40:45.080 I was like, well, you know, like somebody will make 0:40:45.080 --> 0:40:47.120 sure I'm straight and just laugh it off. Like a 0:40:47.160 --> 0:40:49.560 little joke. So I kind of like alluding to that, 0:40:50.400 --> 0:40:54.879 but it wasn't a joke, right, do what I need 0:40:55.120 --> 0:40:58.719 most to it? They do, and mine definitely packed a 0:40:58.840 --> 0:41:02.480 big punch because I definitely you like, yeah, get my 0:41:02.560 --> 0:41:15.800 dicks up. You ain't right. I feel like that's even trade, 0:41:15.800 --> 0:41:18.480 like if you ain't done for twelve hours whatever I 0:41:18.520 --> 0:41:23.920 want to. Did you possess any guilt? Um? Yeah, I 0:41:23.960 --> 0:41:26.279 felt bad because I had to come home. You know, 0:41:26.320 --> 0:41:31.800 I think it wasn't like out yeah, da, I felt 0:41:31.800 --> 0:41:34.560 bad because I had to come home, like in the 0:41:35.000 --> 0:41:37.759 spence like I just got my di and now I'm 0:41:37.760 --> 0:41:39.319 about to come home to you. It's about to kiss 0:41:39.320 --> 0:41:41.960 me my face, Like that's that's kind of sucked up, Like, 0:41:42.239 --> 0:41:44.520 well let's do that. You You know you possessed the 0:41:44.520 --> 0:41:47.480 guilt because some nig is like sleep peacefully after they 0:41:47.480 --> 0:41:54.680 got come home and you too, right, they ain't even been. Yeah. 0:41:54.760 --> 0:41:56.839 I did some of that too. I got that, like 0:41:58.760 --> 0:42:01.719 when you come home and fitching about like how you 0:42:01.719 --> 0:42:03.560 ain't do nothing all this time? Did you come home 0:42:03.600 --> 0:42:06.000 that one time you're cheated? You come home and then 0:42:06.000 --> 0:42:07.520 and clean the house, put the meal. I got the 0:42:07.520 --> 0:42:10.960 whole situation together and you're like, and they want to 0:42:11.000 --> 0:42:13.520 like funk with you right then, you know, because they're 0:42:13.640 --> 0:42:16.239 working up to it. So it's like, I just you 0:42:16.280 --> 0:42:18.120 gotta be able to get it back up, so it's 0:42:18.120 --> 0:42:23.080 not ideal. Yeah, did you did you build a relationship 0:42:23.120 --> 0:42:26.719 with your outside partner or was it just you know, 0:42:26.800 --> 0:42:28.840 like it is what it is and I see you 0:42:28.920 --> 0:42:30.960 later this ain't that and that ain't this, so don't 0:42:30.960 --> 0:42:33.720 get too caught up. Or was it like y'all started 0:42:33.760 --> 0:42:37.200 building an emotional connection perhaps, I mean bro had a 0:42:37.239 --> 0:42:42.600 whole girlfriend like situation and we both were traveling for 0:42:42.680 --> 0:42:46.400 work in town. It was like that was my niggawn 0:42:46.480 --> 0:42:50.480 something else. So wait, so that makes it all right? 0:42:50.520 --> 0:42:52.720 So maybe this tell me if this term is correct, 0:42:52.840 --> 0:42:55.680 that would make him a trade. A trade. Yes, so 0:42:55.719 --> 0:42:59.000 he wasn't openly bisexual to his girl. No, he wasn't 0:42:59.000 --> 0:43:06.520 open to nobody at all. We actually met the hotel, 0:43:06.680 --> 0:43:09.600 like we were at the hotel, like he was traveling, 0:43:09.600 --> 0:43:11.239 I was traveling, was at the bar and like, so 0:43:11.560 --> 0:43:13.719 I'm aggressive with my shots. I'll just be like, yo, 0:43:13.760 --> 0:43:15.680 would not be cool, like we should hang out? And 0:43:15.840 --> 0:43:17.680 did We just hung out and he started like you 0:43:17.719 --> 0:43:19.760 know he had a better job to need. In general, 0:43:19.800 --> 0:43:21.719 he was just a bean, you know, who was taking 0:43:21.760 --> 0:43:24.120 care of peace and whatever form that was. So that 0:43:24.200 --> 0:43:26.200 was attracted to me that you know. So we're up 0:43:26.200 --> 0:43:27.960 in town, we were working around, and we go back 0:43:28.000 --> 0:43:31.440 to our houses and it is what it is. That's 0:43:31.480 --> 0:43:37.440 so fu scary man trying to figure out okay, because 0:43:37.440 --> 0:43:39.680 this is going into something different. I'm trying to figure 0:43:39.680 --> 0:43:41.720 out the and I guess this is not a question 0:43:41.760 --> 0:43:44.239 for you. We have to find somebody who is a 0:43:44.320 --> 0:43:47.360 trade basically because I want to understand their dot process 0:43:47.400 --> 0:43:50.719 when with the same sex. That's a different episode. Well 0:43:50.800 --> 0:43:54.640 not definitely took you up for the next episode. Please yes, nigger, 0:43:55.120 --> 0:44:00.319 please the real yes, okay, And they're not who you 0:44:00.320 --> 0:44:03.200 think they are. I already know. I already know already 0:44:03.360 --> 0:44:06.080 because everybody like the things like light skinned, green eyes, 0:44:06.120 --> 0:44:13.000 the gay guy know the trade is omar from wire 0:44:13.280 --> 0:44:16.960 or the nigger riding around here with the don't right 0:44:17.000 --> 0:44:20.400 here and I'm about to brown thin muscles like you 0:44:20.520 --> 0:44:22.759 know this stuff, like you know, every girl I know 0:44:22.800 --> 0:44:25.960 was won the interesting What do you think you were 0:44:26.160 --> 0:44:30.240 a different person in the affair to the outside partner, 0:44:30.320 --> 0:44:33.240 like were you the same at home with this person 0:44:33.400 --> 0:44:36.680 or did you display a different side of yourself to him, 0:44:36.680 --> 0:44:40.360 Like were you more the submissive with the trade? I 0:44:40.400 --> 0:44:43.319 mean not really because at the same time like the 0:44:43.400 --> 0:44:45.759 trade to think about them, and they usually want you 0:44:45.840 --> 0:44:47.719 to be like the man when they comes like the 0:44:47.840 --> 0:44:50.920 bedroom stuff, like they really like Yeah, in the city, 0:44:51.040 --> 0:44:53.279 like around town, they're giving off like I'm a man, 0:44:53.320 --> 0:44:56.160 I'm a man. But when they get in that bedroom 0:44:56.200 --> 0:44:59.200 down like they turned into a whole ldy. So you know, 0:45:01.760 --> 0:45:04.200 I was still that I was running it either way sextually, 0:45:04.280 --> 0:45:06.080 but when it came to like when we went out 0:45:06.120 --> 0:45:08.680 to dinner or something like that, he's running now, you know. 0:45:08.800 --> 0:45:11.160 So it's like he was the dude out quote unquote 0:45:11.160 --> 0:45:14.760 to Doude in the in the street, at the hotel 0:45:14.840 --> 0:45:19.520 room he was. He was the girl. Interesting. Interesting. See, 0:45:20.560 --> 0:45:23.120 I'm gonna stay here for everybody. You know, I would 0:45:23.280 --> 0:45:27.160 kill my nigga if I found out that he was 0:45:27.239 --> 0:45:31.840 getting you feel bad if he was doing yes really 0:45:31.880 --> 0:45:34.759 to a woman. Oh either way, I'm mad. It's the 0:45:34.880 --> 0:45:39.120 nigga and not another woman. But to insult the injury, 0:45:39.200 --> 0:45:41.560 not only are you working with another nigga, but you're 0:45:41.600 --> 0:45:48.280 also getting fun. Yeah, it's crazy. We don't talk anymore 0:45:48.320 --> 0:45:50.560 because the way I got caught cheating is that niggating 0:45:50.840 --> 0:45:55.400 stp Wait so wait all right, we got unity the trade. 0:45:55.480 --> 0:45:57.640 The trade gave me st Did you pass it on 0:45:57.719 --> 0:46:01.080 to your partner at home? I did, and that's how 0:46:01.120 --> 0:46:03.480 you got caught. That's how I got caught. And what 0:46:03.600 --> 0:46:07.480 was the conversation that name? Hey, my dick is burning 0:46:07.480 --> 0:46:11.360 a little bit, but I didn't say nothing at first. 0:46:11.400 --> 0:46:14.640 I woke up and I was like, this ain't the thing, right. 0:46:15.239 --> 0:46:17.080 I went to head and went to the urgent care, 0:46:17.160 --> 0:46:19.000 you know, I got checked out and they told me 0:46:19.040 --> 0:46:21.520 I had gone a real I was like, because I 0:46:21.560 --> 0:46:24.120 knew I had just like both of my main like 0:46:24.200 --> 0:46:26.120 my like to do that with me. So I knew 0:46:26.160 --> 0:46:27.719 I had just had sex with him. I was like, dang, 0:46:27.800 --> 0:46:29.920 that means he probably got it. I gotta tell him. 0:46:29.960 --> 0:46:31.799 And O Loki was scheming on like if I was 0:46:31.800 --> 0:46:34.000 gonna just like get extra pills and just like put 0:46:34.080 --> 0:46:35.839 him in a smoothie or something. So I didn't want 0:46:35.840 --> 0:46:42.759 to have that. I was like doing playing bees. Probably right, 0:46:44.719 --> 0:46:49.080 you want another mimosa, Right, I'm gonna make that. I 0:46:49.200 --> 0:46:53.480 think I saw the pizza. Now, yeah, stop babysitting there. 0:46:53.520 --> 0:46:56.640 Drink drink. That ship read seventy two hours, right, and 0:46:56.719 --> 0:47:01.960 we got one more hour before I with daddy, right, 0:47:02.160 --> 0:47:03.759 you know. But then the doctor told me how to 0:47:03.760 --> 0:47:08.040 get like a shot to what I'm shot. We had 0:47:08.080 --> 0:47:14.839 that nigga from the back and stabbing in the button, yeah, 0:47:15.640 --> 0:47:19.440 I said, I just like accused him of cheating. Oh wow, 0:47:20.160 --> 0:47:26.560 I was on the most Yeah, that was what boy behavior. 0:47:26.719 --> 0:47:30.560 And then he probably got it from his bitch who 0:47:30.640 --> 0:47:33.560 was getting some dick on the side too. Yeah. I 0:47:33.600 --> 0:47:36.120 actually did tell him, but he like after that, he 0:47:36.239 --> 0:47:42.720 just ghosted because you're gonna give me leave me along creek. 0:47:44.640 --> 0:47:46.759 That made me feel like he knew he had something, right, 0:47:46.960 --> 0:47:48.600 we knew. I really feel like he knew it. But 0:47:48.640 --> 0:47:50.719 I mean, at the same time, like I did appreciate 0:47:50.719 --> 0:47:53.200 the great sex for that time, for that like conference, 0:47:53.239 --> 0:47:55.400 So I mean the probace you pay for being a 0:47:55.440 --> 0:47:58.840 home no more. I just have one bit of advice. 0:47:59.719 --> 0:48:05.080 No more outside dick, look, because that outside did keep 0:48:05.160 --> 0:48:11.239 them most sick. All right, thank you so much. All Right, 0:48:11.560 --> 0:48:15.640 the man, we definitely have to have him back on 0:48:17.880 --> 0:48:21.360 the trade. I care wait to talk about the trade, 0:48:22.520 --> 0:48:25.839 because that's a whole another ball game, baby girl, I'm 0:48:25.880 --> 0:48:31.960 scared of he's scared of the trade. That was very interesting. 0:48:32.000 --> 0:48:35.480 So basically he said that the person he they had 0:48:35.520 --> 0:48:39.080 bomb sex at home, but this person wasn't doing anything. 0:48:39.239 --> 0:48:41.880 So this person was bringing me resources to the pot. 0:48:42.239 --> 0:48:44.680 So I'm the man in the house, I'm financing your 0:48:44.800 --> 0:48:49.080 entire life. I deserve to cheat. So with his attitude, right, 0:48:49.120 --> 0:48:54.560 and the moral is nobody woman or man wants lazy dick, 0:48:54.960 --> 0:49:00.000 get up yourself. Nobody wants it gay straight, Well, I'm 0:49:00.200 --> 0:49:04.160 nobody wants. I wonder. I wonder if society would say, oh, 0:49:04.320 --> 0:49:08.560 his his standards too high? How they do us? Is that? 0:49:08.719 --> 0:49:10.799 How you do black women? Out stand this too high? 0:49:10.800 --> 0:49:13.480 Because we want you to meet us halfway. I don't 0:49:13.560 --> 0:49:17.839 want my man to also enjoy that. I don't. Yeah, 0:49:17.840 --> 0:49:21.240 and I'm not. I'm not opposed. Like I have gay friends. 0:49:21.280 --> 0:49:22.960 I hate to say it, like that people have white 0:49:22.960 --> 0:49:26.760 people like I have black friends, but I have gay friends. 0:49:26.800 --> 0:49:30.839 But I have gay friends. They're not straddling the fence, right, 0:49:30.920 --> 0:49:33.120 see what I'm saying. So if that's what you like, 0:49:33.320 --> 0:49:35.600 you need to make you need to at some point, 0:49:35.800 --> 0:49:39.319 man you gotta come out the closet because there are 0:49:39.360 --> 0:49:42.640 women out here who are okay with that ship, right, Like, 0:49:42.920 --> 0:49:46.239 it's not a problem. You can do both, and y'all 0:49:46.239 --> 0:49:48.680 can all do it together like a little by little 0:49:49.120 --> 0:49:53.960 sequel type ship. Right, whatever you want, but don't be deceitful, man. 0:49:54.360 --> 0:49:56.320 So let me tell you. Let's tell you all a 0:49:56.360 --> 0:49:59.239 little secret that I do when I'm like getting in 0:49:59.320 --> 0:50:03.759 all man, before we fuck, Like, oh, I'll put on 0:50:03.760 --> 0:50:06.200 a movie with a gay scene in it, and then 0:50:06.280 --> 0:50:08.240 we'll just be chilling. And then when the gay scene 0:50:08.239 --> 0:50:10.520 comes on, when it's good into it, I grab this 0:50:10.640 --> 0:50:16.240 dick just to see if it's hard, because if it's hard, 0:50:16.840 --> 0:50:20.160 baby sending you back to the straights. But that's terrible. 0:50:20.360 --> 0:50:22.320 Why is that terrible? I don't know, because I feel 0:50:22.320 --> 0:50:25.200 like it is there a correlation, Like, Okay, so it's 0:50:25.239 --> 0:50:29.640 a sexual act going on, right, So should the man 0:50:29.760 --> 0:50:35.680 penuts not get hard at all? But two niggers fucking no? Oh? No, man? 0:50:35.760 --> 0:50:39.040 So you I heard porn Hub. Porn Hub said there's 0:50:39.040 --> 0:50:42.520 a lot of gay porn being watched. So guys, honestly, 0:50:42.920 --> 0:50:47.160 are y'all getting hard on during gay scenes with men? 0:50:47.760 --> 0:50:50.160 If you are then you need to explore that. But 0:50:50.239 --> 0:50:52.799 they may not necessarily like a man. Then maybe they're 0:50:52.840 --> 0:50:56.360 aroused by that. Explore that. Because I don't like women, 0:50:56.360 --> 0:50:59.120 but I like orgy sex. I like to watch orgy 0:50:59.200 --> 0:51:01.680 porn or every body fucking and touching and spitting and 0:51:01.760 --> 0:51:07.719 sucking I like, but you don't. You might want to 0:51:07.760 --> 0:51:10.319 explore that. No, I don't. I like a lot of dick, 0:51:10.800 --> 0:51:19.000 not like at one time, right, I like um woman 0:51:19.040 --> 0:51:21.040 on woman porn, and I don't usually watch porn with 0:51:21.040 --> 0:51:24.719 a minute. But you just watched Lesbie important. That's it. 0:51:25.040 --> 0:51:28.520 I don't really watch porn though, I'm more of an imagination. 0:51:28.600 --> 0:51:32.440 I haven't watched porn in a while. I only discovered 0:51:32.440 --> 0:51:36.440 poor in two thousand seventeen. Really, yeah, I always use 0:51:36.520 --> 0:51:40.520 my imagination. That's it. So if you're in a relationship 0:51:40.560 --> 0:51:43.920 and masturbating and then having a thought about somebody else, 0:51:44.120 --> 0:51:49.719 and I've seen that you somebody relationship. If I'm masturbating, 0:51:49.760 --> 0:51:53.880 I think about him. Okay, you're not thinking about somebody else. No, really, 0:51:54.040 --> 0:51:57.319 I think about like past sexual experiences, and usually with 0:51:57.400 --> 0:51:59.440 that person. It's with the nigga that I'm dealing with 0:51:59.480 --> 0:52:03.919 at the time. Okay, So yeah, that's how it goes. 0:52:04.400 --> 0:52:08.080 I don't know. I watched I watched the porn. Yeah 0:52:08.080 --> 0:52:10.080 it's cool, you watched the port of Lot. Who's your 0:52:10.120 --> 0:52:14.719 favorite porn female? Oh? I forgot. You don't like girls. 0:52:15.400 --> 0:52:19.279 I don't even know, Like who's the popping porn guys? Now, Like, 0:52:20.719 --> 0:52:23.719 I don't know, you're not into it, like not. I 0:52:23.840 --> 0:52:28.520 used to like Mr Marcus. Yeah that's the old school, yes, 0:52:28.680 --> 0:52:30.839 but then one day he was like fucking a bit 0:52:30.960 --> 0:52:33.560 in the kitchen on the scene and he had like 0:52:33.680 --> 0:52:36.640 this dent in his bowls, and it turned me off 0:52:38.080 --> 0:52:40.920 from that point, and I did not like Mr Marcus. 0:52:41.360 --> 0:52:43.279 He had like a little dent in his balls. I'm like, 0:52:43.520 --> 0:52:46.680 he does not does not like balls. But it's like 0:52:46.719 --> 0:52:49.200 almost the equivalent to like, like I went, men like 0:52:49.239 --> 0:52:52.880 to talk to about women who have like longer ladies 0:52:53.000 --> 0:52:55.839 or whatever. That's the equivalent, like your dick is ran through? 0:52:55.840 --> 0:53:00.359 Why your balls look like that ran through? Eat up? 0:53:01.040 --> 0:53:03.719 I think I've been beat up, Bob, I can't do it. 0:53:07.000 --> 0:53:09.200 And then you know he'd be ashy down there like 0:53:10.000 --> 0:53:12.680 that's not cute. And then I remember I don't know 0:53:12.680 --> 0:53:15.440 if it was him, Oh, what was other guy's name now. 0:53:15.480 --> 0:53:18.919 I used to like to see this dude. Fuck um 0:53:19.719 --> 0:53:24.080 oh no, Helen, not viroling. I don't have a guy 0:53:24.080 --> 0:53:28.920 could be giving you backrubs while he got the dicking, Like, 0:53:28.960 --> 0:53:32.680 how are you rubbing the damn porn bitch? You're giving 0:53:32.680 --> 0:53:34.560 her a back beside with the dick. It's for the 0:53:34.719 --> 0:53:38.919 entertainment purposes for girls. But man, that sounds really good. 0:53:38.960 --> 0:53:42.000 So trying that with your lady tonight. You're welcome, ladies. 0:53:44.080 --> 0:53:47.000 So what what did we learn today? I don't feel 0:53:47.040 --> 0:53:49.719 like I learned ship maybe either, man, I feel like 0:53:49.760 --> 0:53:52.560 you need to interview some more people. I don't think 0:53:52.560 --> 0:53:55.200 we're gonna learn anything different. These niggas just go are 0:53:55.239 --> 0:53:58.440 we are sorry? These men? We should also do women 0:53:58.600 --> 0:54:00.640 to see why women? Oh yeah, we need to talk. 0:54:00.760 --> 0:54:02.040 I don't want to. I don't want this to be 0:54:02.160 --> 0:54:04.359 one sided. I don't want men to feel like this 0:54:04.440 --> 0:54:07.279 is like a man bash podcast, because it's not. You know, 0:54:07.360 --> 0:54:09.200 it's not because we'd be on some both shoot two. 0:54:09.280 --> 0:54:11.319 There's such thing as a fun girl, right, and we 0:54:11.400 --> 0:54:13.359 just wanted to hear him it's truth, you know, And 0:54:13.400 --> 0:54:15.319 I feel like we got to receive that today, just 0:54:17.200 --> 0:54:23.360 the voice, the recognition like so women. If if there 0:54:23.400 --> 0:54:28.239 are any ladies who would like to participate again, send 0:54:28.280 --> 0:54:31.319 us an email or you can hit us up on 0:54:31.400 --> 0:54:35.239 Instagram or Instagram. Is we talk Back Podcast? So it's 0:54:35.360 --> 0:54:39.359 at We Talked Back Podcast, or you can email us 0:54:39.360 --> 0:54:42.080 and let us know you want to participate at We 0:54:42.160 --> 0:54:45.839 Talk Back p o D at gmail dot com and 0:54:45.880 --> 0:54:50.000 we would much appreciate it. We're gonna be talking some 0:54:50.120 --> 0:54:52.919 real ship on this show. We have like so many 0:54:52.960 --> 0:54:57.080 different segments that we've created. There's gonna be so much 0:54:57.160 --> 0:55:00.080 fun for y'all to participate with us. Um, we're some 0:55:00.120 --> 0:55:03.000 of the segments that we got. One of my favorites 0:55:03.600 --> 0:55:08.120 dumb bitch stories. Yes, we want to hear your dumb 0:55:08.160 --> 0:55:11.000 bitch stories. You know, not necessarily just you know, trying 0:55:11.040 --> 0:55:13.040 to play you, calling you a dumb bitch, but you know, 0:55:13.080 --> 0:55:16.160 it gives us an opportunity to maybe coach you a 0:55:16.200 --> 0:55:18.640 little bit. I like to think of myself as a 0:55:18.680 --> 0:55:24.000 whole coach and um, it also gives us an opportunity 0:55:24.080 --> 0:55:29.759 to laugh at your Yes, we can't laugh at our 0:55:29.840 --> 0:55:31.920 own ship. What can we laugh at? All of us 0:55:31.920 --> 0:55:34.720 have been a dumb bitch before? Because I remember crying 0:55:34.719 --> 0:55:41.120 in my eclipse bit that was no fun and it 0:55:41.200 --> 0:55:46.000 was different. Yeah, I had to level up, but them 0:55:46.000 --> 0:55:48.400 tears and the eclips and clips didn't have no a C. 0:55:49.800 --> 0:55:51.480 I used to ride with the top by, but when 0:55:52.080 --> 0:55:55.000 I remember, it was raining, so I have no a C. 0:55:55.560 --> 0:55:57.560 And I rolled the windows up in the summertime. Bitch 0:55:57.640 --> 0:56:07.279 almost died. Motherfucker. Guy Steve out and I called the 0:56:07.280 --> 0:56:09.480 same nigger that was cheat up. He's like, I can't 0:56:09.600 --> 0:56:14.120 see and he was just like, he said the same 0:56:14.200 --> 0:56:17.799 thing that was cheating on you, and he was just like, 0:56:17.880 --> 0:56:19.440 a bitch, just let me know when you make it 0:56:19.520 --> 0:56:24.440 home safe like you have. Damn, man, women, do not 0:56:24.600 --> 0:56:27.680 be out here using your vagina on someone that you 0:56:27.719 --> 0:56:31.960 cannot depend on. That's our dumb bitch advice for today. Okay, 0:56:32.080 --> 0:56:38.000 along with dumb bitch stories. The first dumb bitch motherfucking show. 0:56:38.239 --> 0:56:42.840 God damn, that's an old dumb bitch story. Know you 0:56:42.920 --> 0:56:45.080 have that, dumb but that was a long time ago. 0:56:45.120 --> 0:56:50.279 We're making new dumb bitch memories now. We're talking to 0:56:50.320 --> 0:56:52.600 any women out here right now who has a quarter 0:56:52.640 --> 0:56:57.600 tank of gas ball tires oil oil oil, change light 0:56:57.680 --> 0:57:01.000 on and you're calling your brother and you inig house 0:57:01.400 --> 0:57:03.880 in those conditions, right, and then when you need to 0:57:03.880 --> 0:57:05.719 help your brother come out to help you instead of 0:57:05.719 --> 0:57:08.439 then you're getting the whole attitude because your brother won't 0:57:08.480 --> 0:57:14.400 come right. Don't be her reevaluate your vagina. Man. So 0:57:14.520 --> 0:57:17.560 that's gonna be a real fun segment. Um, ask a 0:57:17.640 --> 0:57:22.360 Black friend. This is an opportunity for you nine black 0:57:22.400 --> 0:57:26.640 people to call in or email us and ask questions 0:57:26.680 --> 0:57:30.120 to us that you wouldn't normally ask the black people 0:57:30.120 --> 0:57:32.440 who existing around you. 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