1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,000 Speaker 1: DNA test exposed my dad's affair. Now I met the 2 00:00:03,040 --> 00:00:03,960 Speaker 1: affair baby. 3 00:00:04,760 --> 00:00:07,600 Speaker 2: I wonder what that first meeting is like, and I 4 00:00:07,640 --> 00:00:08,479 Speaker 2: hope we find out. 5 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:09,320 Speaker 3: Uh. 6 00:00:09,360 --> 00:00:12,040 Speaker 1: I think we're about to say goodness before I jump 7 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:13,680 Speaker 1: into conclusions and freak out. 8 00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:14,720 Speaker 3: I need some help. 9 00:00:14,880 --> 00:00:17,239 Speaker 1: Things don't look all that great for my family, and 10 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:20,320 Speaker 1: I'm beginning to get anxious about the results. I am 11 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 1: thirty two, and as far as I know, I only 12 00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:25,720 Speaker 1: have one sister and she is thirty. I got my 13 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:28,520 Speaker 1: results back and looked through my DNA relatives for the 14 00:00:28,560 --> 00:00:31,360 Speaker 1: heck of it. I wasn't expecting to find any really 15 00:00:31,520 --> 00:00:34,560 Speaker 1: close relatives other than my first cousin who took the test, 16 00:00:34,800 --> 00:00:36,640 Speaker 1: but I did. I feel like it's something you have 17 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:38,360 Speaker 1: to expect when you take these tests. 18 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean the whole point of them is to 19 00:00:40,280 --> 00:00:42,879 Speaker 2: find out things that you don't know and things that 20 00:00:42,920 --> 00:00:43,879 Speaker 2: you didn't want to know. 21 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:46,519 Speaker 3: You have to be ready, you have to. 22 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:48,520 Speaker 2: Be emotionally prepared when you take one of these tests. Dyes, 23 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:50,040 Speaker 2: you're playing with your. 24 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:53,199 Speaker 1: Life, that's correct. The very first relative listed was a 25 00:00:53,240 --> 00:00:56,280 Speaker 1: woman who all call a A shared fifty five point 26 00:00:56,360 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 1: eight percent DNA with me and is predicted to be 27 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:04,400 Speaker 1: my full sister, whoa, which is very odd. 28 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:05,800 Speaker 3: Usually all the time. 29 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:08,160 Speaker 1: We'll see half sisters, right the dad runs off, the 30 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:09,319 Speaker 1: mom runs off, and. 31 00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 2: Then full sister. I'm confused. 32 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 1: Very it's a very very I don't know if we've 33 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:15,839 Speaker 1: ever had that on the show. 34 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, it's always half sisters because there's 35 00:01:18,959 --> 00:01:20,959 Speaker 2: like cheating on one side. 36 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 3: Fuck, it's only one way to find out. 37 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:24,320 Speaker 2: Let's go, let's keep going. 38 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 1: She can't be my full sibling, however, because her profile 39 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:31,319 Speaker 1: states she's only eighteen and searching for medical history due 40 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 1: to the fact that she was adopted. 41 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:36,200 Speaker 2: Okay, so she's thinking, can't be my full sister because 42 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 2: of how young she is. 43 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:40,119 Speaker 3: Yes, like that does make sense. Everything does makes sense. 44 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:44,399 Speaker 1: But the one thing with DNA tests, like the science 45 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:44,959 Speaker 1: that's there. 46 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 3: Oh lot. 47 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:49,480 Speaker 1: She states that she has asthma and other minor health 48 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:52,640 Speaker 1: issues and wants to know the extent of hereditary family 49 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 1: health problems she could expect later in life. 50 00:01:55,160 --> 00:01:57,480 Speaker 2: I didn't even realize that was a reason people get them. 51 00:01:57,600 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 1: It makes sense, like, if you're adopted, you you're going 52 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:03,640 Speaker 1: in eight lot, that shit, I know if my parents 53 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:05,760 Speaker 1: had a baby when I was fourteen and gave her 54 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 1: up for adoption obviously, which to me, I mean, it's granted, 55 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,120 Speaker 1: it's a very weird scenario. I don't know if that, 56 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:13,800 Speaker 1: like that seems very possible. 57 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:18,200 Speaker 2: I mean, if there is secrets, all right, if there 58 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:21,120 Speaker 2: are secrets within your family, you're not going to know 59 00:02:21,320 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 2: because they're not going to want to tell you the 60 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 2: secrets because the secrets are usually bad, dark and nasty. 61 00:02:26,320 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 3: Exactly like it. 62 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:30,079 Speaker 1: It's a weird thing to happen, but it's absolutely something 63 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 1: parents could hide from a shot or for sure. 64 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:34,960 Speaker 2: You do not know everything about your parents. Let me 65 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:38,240 Speaker 2: tell you that is correct. My parents recently told me 66 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:41,919 Speaker 2: that they did weed brownies in India what they're soup 67 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 2: like in the eighties. No, in the eighties. 68 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:48,040 Speaker 3: That's I don't know. To me, that's actually pretty big. 69 00:02:48,360 --> 00:02:50,400 Speaker 2: Yeah that's big. Yeah, that's big. 70 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 1: California. I don't know, California. Kids are built different. But 71 00:02:53,720 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 1: like for Riley, right am, I right? 72 00:02:56,440 --> 00:03:00,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, everyone's four twenty in California, but not. 73 00:03:00,360 --> 00:03:03,239 Speaker 1: Everywhere else, not everywhere else, that is correct, not in 74 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:07,360 Speaker 1: a good old mom's dad was the equivalent of the 75 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:09,079 Speaker 1: DA in Australia. 76 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:10,720 Speaker 2: Really, yeah? 77 00:03:11,240 --> 00:03:13,040 Speaker 3: Is there was? There was there a bus down. 78 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:19,200 Speaker 1: Freeze freeze put the bridies on the ground. 79 00:03:19,280 --> 00:03:21,120 Speaker 3: Right where I can see him and taste him. 80 00:03:21,600 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 2: Just kidding. 81 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:25,080 Speaker 1: My mother is fifty four and my father is fifty five. 82 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:28,200 Speaker 1: That would put them at thirty six and thirty seven 83 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:30,560 Speaker 1: at the time she was born, which is when my 84 00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:33,079 Speaker 1: sister was born, so my parents are around that age. 85 00:03:32,919 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 2: As Oh wow, so it can happen. 86 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 3: It can happen. 87 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:38,200 Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out what on earth this relation 88 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:42,040 Speaker 1: to this girl could be. She's completely open sharing. We 89 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:45,120 Speaker 1: share a complete X chromosome because it's all the way 90 00:03:45,160 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 1: across and overlaps in two large areas, so most of 91 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 1: our ex is completely identical. We also have the majority 92 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 1: of DNA relatives in common, but share different percentages. My 93 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 1: known first cousin, who took the test, shares fourteen point 94 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:00,920 Speaker 1: one percent with me, but only six point three percent 95 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: with my apparent sister. That seems like a stretch that 96 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: my first cousin could also be her first cousin, since 97 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 1: I share more than double what she does with my 98 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:10,920 Speaker 1: first cousin. 99 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 2: So these are like a lot of confusing percentages right here, 100 00:04:14,520 --> 00:04:18,880 Speaker 2: which just means like this family tree is the there's 101 00:04:18,960 --> 00:04:21,760 Speaker 2: missing information. We need to solve this puzzle. 102 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:25,160 Speaker 1: All that OP knows now is opis realized that they 103 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:28,279 Speaker 1: don't really understand almost anything of what they know anything. 104 00:04:28,440 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: That's basically where we're at right now. Can someone help 105 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 1: me please? Science side of Reddit needs to come out 106 00:04:35,560 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 1: here and help us. 107 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 3: Oh, one hundred percent, We need the nerds of the 108 00:04:39,080 --> 00:04:40,279 Speaker 3: internet to rise. 109 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:43,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, come over here and help us. Cause like, also, 110 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 2: don't you like share like forty percent of DNA with 111 00:04:45,560 --> 00:04:46,440 Speaker 2: like a banana? 112 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:47,840 Speaker 3: That's what I thought you know? 113 00:04:48,920 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 2: Is it true? 114 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 1: Ley Miles confirmed it. That means it's one hundred percent. 115 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:56,640 Speaker 2: Of fact ninety nine percent with chimps and also forty 116 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 2: percent with lettuce. 117 00:04:57,720 --> 00:05:00,000 Speaker 3: So Op's sister couldn't. 118 00:04:59,680 --> 00:05:01,640 Speaker 2: Be it could be a banana could be. 119 00:05:01,720 --> 00:05:04,159 Speaker 1: Let us we could Maybe the most effective way, the 120 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:06,839 Speaker 1: finest truth is to go to the produce section. Yeah, 121 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:11,080 Speaker 1: is this my sister, Tomato, Wharry the cucumber? 122 00:05:11,160 --> 00:05:12,920 Speaker 3: What are you doing here? Are you my brother? 123 00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 2: As you could tell, we don't know anything about biology. 124 00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:20,280 Speaker 2: So science side of Reddit needs to save us please. 125 00:05:21,400 --> 00:05:23,720 Speaker 2: And there are a few comments, are you sure there's 126 00:05:23,760 --> 00:05:26,240 Speaker 2: no way your mother could have hidden a pregnancy? That 127 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:30,240 Speaker 2: really seems like the most likely scenario. Ope, I'm sure 128 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 2: my mother wasn't in the hospital or anything on the 129 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:36,600 Speaker 2: day that girl says she was born, which again I'm 130 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:40,720 Speaker 2: still like, it seems still plausible to me, highly possible, honestly. Yeah, 131 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 2: I mean, like, are you really keeping track of every 132 00:05:42,960 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 2: day your parents are anywhere. 133 00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:47,080 Speaker 3: On April fourth, nineteen ninety. 134 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:51,240 Speaker 1: Six, especially if OP is like older? Yeah, Like I 135 00:05:51,640 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 1: don't know. I yeah, I was so sure. I wouldn't 136 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:57,880 Speaker 1: be so sure, honestly. Another comment, did someone get pregnant 137 00:05:57,880 --> 00:06:01,279 Speaker 1: when you were thirteen to fourteen? Alternatively, could you have 138 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 1: been adopted? 139 00:06:02,120 --> 00:06:02,360 Speaker 3: Op? 140 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:05,719 Speaker 1: I'm a female, so no, and I don't think I 141 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:08,880 Speaker 1: was adopted. But Sam, we do have an update. 142 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:12,440 Speaker 2: Oh boy, I'm I'm ready to hear the truth. 143 00:06:12,440 --> 00:06:14,800 Speaker 1: Fuckle In. A new match came in this morning. I 144 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,520 Speaker 1: don't know this person, but I recognize a surname they 145 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:20,599 Speaker 1: have listed one on my father's side. She's predicted to 146 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:23,040 Speaker 1: be my second cousin and shares three point three seven 147 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:25,560 Speaker 1: percent with me and five point one four percent with 148 00:06:25,640 --> 00:06:29,479 Speaker 1: A my predicted full sister. Okay, does this help at all? 149 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:31,720 Speaker 1: Or is this another dead end as far as figuring 150 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:34,160 Speaker 1: out who A is? I'd like to have as much 151 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 1: info as possible before I ask my parents about this. 152 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:40,520 Speaker 2: Okay, side side of Reddit, you have enough percentages, let us. 153 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:42,680 Speaker 3: Please step in. There's one more comment. 154 00:06:42,920 --> 00:06:46,479 Speaker 1: The evidence overwhelmingly suggests you share fifteen percent of DNA 155 00:06:46,640 --> 00:06:49,720 Speaker 1: with both her parents. That either means she's a full 156 00:06:49,760 --> 00:06:54,240 Speaker 1: sibling to you, or intermingling in your family is involved. 157 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:59,760 Speaker 2: Intermingling as in like Sweet Home, Alabama. Intermingling like sweet Home, Alabama. 158 00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:02,800 Speaker 1: Make a link, Sam, I'm hoping it's not that I'm 159 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:07,360 Speaker 1: praying it's not that update number two disappointment that one 160 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 1: simple word is how I feel, but it's still an understatement. 161 00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 1: I'm sitting in my car right now trying to get 162 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:15,960 Speaker 1: myself together. I don't think I've ever been as pissed 163 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 1: off and hurt as I am right now. I found 164 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 1: out how A is related to me. Back when my 165 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:23,840 Speaker 1: mom was sixteen and my dad was seventeen, they had 166 00:07:23,880 --> 00:07:27,400 Speaker 1: a daughter they put up for adoption. Okay, they explained 167 00:07:27,440 --> 00:07:30,000 Speaker 1: to me that they didn't have the resources to provide 168 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:32,239 Speaker 1: for a child at the time, and they had even 169 00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:35,080 Speaker 1: considered doing the same with me, even though they were 170 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:36,440 Speaker 1: married when they conceived me. 171 00:07:36,560 --> 00:07:39,600 Speaker 2: Wait, but that means the daughter would be like much older, 172 00:07:39,600 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 2: not eighteen, right, much older, much much older. Wait, I'm confused. 173 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:44,000 Speaker 3: Though they were poor. 174 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 1: As I previously mentioned in a common reply, at this 175 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:49,960 Speaker 1: point I was still really confused. She'd be thirty eight now, 176 00:07:50,080 --> 00:07:52,880 Speaker 1: oh not eighteen, like A stated. 177 00:07:52,680 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 2: Put, I see you in the comments, if you see 178 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:55,480 Speaker 2: where this is going. 179 00:07:55,680 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 1: This is the kicker and why my parents are now divorcing. 180 00:07:59,320 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 2: Oh fuck, I think I know. 181 00:08:01,240 --> 00:08:02,520 Speaker 3: When my older sister. 182 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:04,960 Speaker 1: Who was put up for adoption, turned eighteen, she came 183 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:07,520 Speaker 1: looking for my parents and found them. They had a 184 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:10,280 Speaker 1: good relationship with each other, and then one day she 185 00:08:10,520 --> 00:08:14,480 Speaker 1: randomly disappeared and cut all contact when she was twenty. 186 00:08:14,920 --> 00:08:15,360 Speaker 2: Fuck. 187 00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:18,680 Speaker 3: They had no idea why, or just my mom had 188 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:19,240 Speaker 3: no idea. 189 00:08:19,360 --> 00:08:21,040 Speaker 2: Oh no, it's not good. 190 00:08:22,480 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 1: I told my parents about a match I had on 191 00:08:24,600 --> 00:08:27,440 Speaker 1: twenty three and meters after showing them my ancestry, and 192 00:08:27,480 --> 00:08:31,200 Speaker 1: then the relatives, specifically A and my dad looked as 193 00:08:31,200 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 1: if he had just seen a ghost. 194 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:36,880 Speaker 2: His secret, His secret is coming out into the sun. 195 00:08:37,200 --> 00:08:40,079 Speaker 2: That's correct, And the mom doesn't know about the secret. 196 00:08:40,160 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 3: It doesn't seem like it. 197 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:42,960 Speaker 2: Moly. 198 00:08:43,080 --> 00:08:45,240 Speaker 1: He didn't talk for a minute, but then he told 199 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:47,880 Speaker 1: me the truth, and I almost wish he hadn't. 200 00:08:48,040 --> 00:08:49,000 Speaker 2: Oh, I fuck fuck. 201 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:52,920 Speaker 1: He admitted he screwed it up by sleeping with his 202 00:08:53,160 --> 00:08:54,360 Speaker 1: own daughter. 203 00:08:55,320 --> 00:09:01,480 Speaker 2: I was hoping this was what it was, and it is. Yep, 204 00:09:02,040 --> 00:09:04,560 Speaker 2: it's worse. Like what words can you say? 205 00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:04,640 Speaker 1: Like? 206 00:09:04,720 --> 00:09:06,160 Speaker 3: Yes, the only young. 207 00:09:06,480 --> 00:09:09,880 Speaker 2: That would be worse to realize is that you were 208 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:12,280 Speaker 2: the affair incess baby of that. 209 00:09:12,280 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 3: That's the affair in honestly, the only. 210 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:17,440 Speaker 2: That would be the only thing that would be worse. 211 00:09:17,600 --> 00:09:20,520 Speaker 1: All of those business trips I had mentioned in a comment, 212 00:09:20,679 --> 00:09:23,719 Speaker 1: they weren't effing business trips. He'd go back to visit her, 213 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:27,040 Speaker 1: they would hook up. Even right before my mom's father 214 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:29,679 Speaker 1: passed away, he went to the hospital to be with 215 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:32,360 Speaker 1: my sister so he could support her, and she gave 216 00:09:32,400 --> 00:09:35,120 Speaker 1: the baby up for adoption and claimed she didn't know 217 00:09:35,160 --> 00:09:39,240 Speaker 1: who the father was, thinking my mom wouldn't question anything 218 00:09:39,280 --> 00:09:42,280 Speaker 1: about his whereabouts since she was too worried about her 219 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:43,120 Speaker 1: sickly dad. 220 00:09:43,400 --> 00:09:48,360 Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, this secret could have gone on forever. 221 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:52,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, that's what he was busy doing. I'm disgusted 222 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:55,200 Speaker 1: right now and I want to vomit. I haven't even 223 00:09:55,240 --> 00:09:58,199 Speaker 1: spoken to my cousin or aunt or anyone else, And 224 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:01,240 Speaker 1: quite frankly, I'm not sure I i'd like to knowing 225 00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:01,960 Speaker 1: this information. 226 00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:06,000 Speaker 3: I don't know if I would, I would, I wouldn't 227 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 3: tell anyone. 228 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:08,040 Speaker 2: Oh maybe mom. 229 00:10:08,120 --> 00:10:10,319 Speaker 3: Mom probably deserves to know, But it's. 230 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 2: It's you don't tell your rest of your family. 231 00:10:12,840 --> 00:10:14,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's yeah. 232 00:10:14,960 --> 00:10:17,000 Speaker 1: You have to really sit down and like think about 233 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:18,680 Speaker 1: there's just like what that would. 234 00:10:18,440 --> 00:10:24,679 Speaker 2: Be disseminating this information has a massive repercussion, massive and 235 00:10:24,760 --> 00:10:27,520 Speaker 2: like do we always need to know the truth? 236 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:30,880 Speaker 1: That is the big question. I think of this story, 237 00:10:31,000 --> 00:10:33,760 Speaker 1: and I would don't want to make the truth though. Yeah, 238 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:36,440 Speaker 1: if I was a mom, who all is directed? Maybe 239 00:10:36,480 --> 00:10:38,560 Speaker 1: it's like who all is directly involved? And then who 240 00:10:39,080 --> 00:10:40,120 Speaker 1: isn't directly involved? 241 00:10:40,120 --> 00:10:43,120 Speaker 2: But regardless, let us know in the comments who you 242 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:45,800 Speaker 2: would tell, yeah, or who you wouldn't tell? 243 00:10:46,040 --> 00:10:49,080 Speaker 3: Yeah? The thought process of trying to figure this out. 244 00:10:49,240 --> 00:10:52,640 Speaker 1: I have already messaged A and I told her the 245 00:10:52,720 --> 00:10:55,080 Speaker 1: truth because that's what she deserves. 246 00:10:55,400 --> 00:10:57,160 Speaker 3: Poor girl, Poor girl. 247 00:10:57,360 --> 00:11:00,720 Speaker 1: She's suffering physically from my dad and says, there's terrible 248 00:11:00,800 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 1: choice and probably emotionally and mentally too. Looking at her 249 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:07,560 Speaker 1: profile picture again, she and I look really similar. What 250 00:11:07,640 --> 00:11:10,920 Speaker 1: do I even call her my niece, my half sister both. 251 00:11:11,120 --> 00:11:14,320 Speaker 1: I don't even know what to think right now. Sometimes 252 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:18,160 Speaker 1: things are better left alone. I learned this the hard 253 00:11:18,200 --> 00:11:22,880 Speaker 1: one twenty three and me, what have you done just then? 254 00:11:23,160 --> 00:11:27,200 Speaker 1: The absolute unthinkable? Yeah, but you know what, I think 255 00:11:27,520 --> 00:11:31,480 Speaker 1: OP is keeping a pretty level head about this situation. 256 00:11:31,800 --> 00:11:34,480 Speaker 1: I think the one person who definitely did deserve to 257 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:39,920 Speaker 1: know is A. I mean that's even debatable, but yeah, 258 00:11:40,000 --> 00:11:41,920 Speaker 1: I do think that OP has kind of like. 259 00:11:41,880 --> 00:11:45,600 Speaker 3: Approached this like to know, would you want to know? Maybe? Yeah? 260 00:11:45,640 --> 00:11:49,040 Speaker 1: So maybe honestly I could just immediately possibly take. 261 00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:50,280 Speaker 2: That, But I think I would want to know if 262 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:51,280 Speaker 2: I was an incest baby. 263 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:55,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's hard to say, and you can't ask someone 264 00:11:55,559 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 1: before there's only. 265 00:11:57,320 --> 00:11:58,360 Speaker 3: There's only telling that. 266 00:11:58,400 --> 00:12:00,920 Speaker 2: I don't think let us the guns. 267 00:12:01,200 --> 00:12:04,520 Speaker 1: Would you want to know? I mean, that's that's really 268 00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:08,480 Speaker 1: the question. There's another update. I've reached out to my niece, 269 00:12:08,600 --> 00:12:13,000 Speaker 1: slashed half sister. Oh a hey, she reached out the 270 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 1: a to tell her the truth. I reached out to 271 00:12:16,200 --> 00:12:18,960 Speaker 1: my niece slashed half sister, and the truth horrified her 272 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:23,360 Speaker 1: so much that she tried to unlive her so awful, 273 00:12:23,600 --> 00:12:25,800 Speaker 1: which broke my heart into a thousand pieces. 274 00:12:25,840 --> 00:12:27,880 Speaker 2: Okay, so I think I think you should not tell 275 00:12:28,000 --> 00:12:29,240 Speaker 2: people that information. 276 00:12:29,400 --> 00:12:32,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's yes, that's probably correct. 277 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:35,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's such a like so much to take to 278 00:12:35,240 --> 00:12:36,600 Speaker 2: know of like your existence. 279 00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:40,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, a lot to take is the understatement of the center. 280 00:12:40,520 --> 00:12:44,559 Speaker 2: How many like inter mingling babies I've met in my life? 281 00:12:44,679 --> 00:12:47,280 Speaker 1: I honestly I don't. I don't want to know the 282 00:12:47,320 --> 00:12:50,480 Speaker 1: answer to that, to be honest. That's yeah, this is 283 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:53,679 Speaker 1: this is a hard one, very hard one. She was 284 00:12:53,720 --> 00:12:56,640 Speaker 1: in a psychiatric facility for a while due to the attempt, 285 00:12:56,720 --> 00:13:00,120 Speaker 1: but is now luckily out and after several conversations with myself, 286 00:13:00,200 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 1: her adoptive parents, and a therapist. She's still seeing a 287 00:13:03,040 --> 00:13:04,000 Speaker 1: therapist to this day. 288 00:13:04,240 --> 00:13:05,360 Speaker 2: That is great good. 289 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:09,920 Speaker 1: Her adoptive parents told me that she was diagnosed with schizophrenia, depression, 290 00:13:09,960 --> 00:13:10,680 Speaker 1: and anxiety. 291 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:11,440 Speaker 2: Oh. 292 00:13:11,520 --> 00:13:14,800 Speaker 1: She's now in medication for her mental illness and quite stable. 293 00:13:14,920 --> 00:13:17,640 Speaker 1: She turned nineteen back in February and is planning on 294 00:13:17,679 --> 00:13:23,359 Speaker 1: returning eighteen. Yeah. Ah, very very young to be processing 295 00:13:24,080 --> 00:13:30,800 Speaker 1: this insane amount of information. She's planning on returning to 296 00:13:30,840 --> 00:13:33,280 Speaker 1: school for the fall semester in hopes of becoming a 297 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:36,320 Speaker 1: pediatrician if she can with her mental illness. I have 298 00:13:36,480 --> 00:13:39,520 Speaker 1: since forgiven my parents for hiding such a crucial thing 299 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:42,559 Speaker 1: from everyone, but I'm still not in contact with them. 300 00:13:42,679 --> 00:13:45,920 Speaker 1: Holding a grudge takes far too much energy that I simply. 301 00:13:45,559 --> 00:13:46,160 Speaker 3: Do not have. 302 00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:50,560 Speaker 2: I guess I don't. Especially that's a hard one, especially 303 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:51,800 Speaker 2: the father like. 304 00:13:51,840 --> 00:13:54,440 Speaker 1: It sounds like, but also it almost sounds like the 305 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:58,120 Speaker 1: forgiveness isn't really even, Like I don't know if he said, 306 00:13:58,480 --> 00:14:00,560 Speaker 1: I forgive you, let. 307 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:01,520 Speaker 3: This go out of my life. 308 00:14:01,679 --> 00:14:04,199 Speaker 1: You know, it's best for my sanity if we never 309 00:14:04,240 --> 00:14:07,200 Speaker 1: speak again. However, what they did was awful and I 310 00:14:07,440 --> 00:14:12,320 Speaker 1: just can't condone it. I agree, my children are still upset. 311 00:14:12,520 --> 00:14:14,800 Speaker 1: My children are still upset because they do not get 312 00:14:14,840 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 1: to see my parents. But I have told them that 313 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:20,320 Speaker 1: grown up sometimes get into fights and they need time apart, 314 00:14:20,440 --> 00:14:22,880 Speaker 1: and they will see them again one day if they 315 00:14:22,960 --> 00:14:25,240 Speaker 1: choose to do so. That's another heard like, how can 316 00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:27,960 Speaker 1: you explain that to your children that the reason why 317 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:33,080 Speaker 1: they can't see their grandparents. I don't want to ruin 318 00:14:33,120 --> 00:14:36,440 Speaker 1: their relationship with my parents. That is the best explanation 319 00:14:36,560 --> 00:14:38,000 Speaker 1: I could come up with for them. 320 00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:42,160 Speaker 2: Okay, just I would if this would this happen in 321 00:14:42,200 --> 00:14:46,440 Speaker 2: my family. I would never, yeah, never ever ever put 322 00:14:46,480 --> 00:14:48,440 Speaker 2: my children next to my father again. 323 00:14:48,560 --> 00:14:52,720 Speaker 1: No, I don't think you you owe them him, absolutely 324 00:14:52,720 --> 00:14:54,560 Speaker 1: nothing nothing. 325 00:14:55,280 --> 00:14:58,280 Speaker 2: The that is terrible. 326 00:14:58,480 --> 00:15:02,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, never never again, never never, like without a question, instantaneously. 327 00:15:03,120 --> 00:15:05,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you have to, like you, I mean, no contact. 328 00:15:05,920 --> 00:15:07,920 Speaker 2: And then at some point you probably do need to 329 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:10,440 Speaker 2: tell your kids if they ever want to establish a relationship. 330 00:15:10,480 --> 00:15:13,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's the next the next people where it's 331 00:15:13,000 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 3: like tell them or not. 332 00:15:14,760 --> 00:15:17,400 Speaker 2: Unfuckery you have to do to just move through this 333 00:15:17,520 --> 00:15:20,320 Speaker 2: situation a unfathomable amount. 334 00:15:20,560 --> 00:15:21,880 Speaker 3: I refuse to drag. 335 00:15:21,720 --> 00:15:23,960 Speaker 1: My children through all of this, but will tell them 336 00:15:23,960 --> 00:15:25,920 Speaker 1: the truth later on when they're adults. So it seems 337 00:15:25,960 --> 00:15:28,320 Speaker 1: OP has made that decision sense. A is close with 338 00:15:28,400 --> 00:15:30,760 Speaker 1: my younger sister and now we have developed a great 339 00:15:30,800 --> 00:15:33,720 Speaker 1: relationship with each other. We video chat and text often, 340 00:15:33,920 --> 00:15:35,760 Speaker 1: and A has met all of the kids. 341 00:15:36,560 --> 00:15:38,000 Speaker 2: A now has a support structure. 342 00:15:38,160 --> 00:15:40,720 Speaker 3: Yeah. I think that that's something good. That's something that's good. 343 00:15:41,360 --> 00:15:43,800 Speaker 1: I introduced her to them as a cousin, which she 344 00:15:44,000 --> 00:15:46,320 Speaker 1: is to them as well as their half aunt. I 345 00:15:46,400 --> 00:15:49,320 Speaker 1: was afraid that would trigger A again, though, so I left 346 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:52,840 Speaker 1: that part out, which, yes, that was good to leave out. 347 00:15:52,880 --> 00:15:55,200 Speaker 1: They are too young to be able to comprehend the 348 00:15:55,320 --> 00:15:58,880 Speaker 1: complexity of all it anyways, So cousin will work for 349 00:15:58,920 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 1: the foreseeable future. My nieces and nephews and my own 350 00:16:01,920 --> 00:16:04,920 Speaker 1: children have taken up to her and they love her dearly, 351 00:16:05,160 --> 00:16:08,840 Speaker 1: even my autistic son. They have an unbreakable bond and 352 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:12,640 Speaker 1: it didn't take them any time to warm up to her. Wow. Wow, 353 00:16:13,400 --> 00:16:19,800 Speaker 1: So this was maybe the most minding thing we've we've 354 00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:21,040 Speaker 1: ever seen on this At. 355 00:16:21,080 --> 00:16:23,720 Speaker 2: Least we ended on a happy note. 356 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:28,200 Speaker 1: Yes, I think Op. I feel like Op really put 357 00:16:28,240 --> 00:16:31,720 Speaker 1: in the effort to do the absolute best that she 358 00:16:31,880 --> 00:16:35,000 Speaker 1: could in this. And and you know what, it's how 359 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:37,120 Speaker 1: how hard is it to make the right decision at 360 00:16:37,120 --> 00:16:37,960 Speaker 1: every juncture? 361 00:16:38,040 --> 00:16:38,400 Speaker 3: It's hard? 362 00:16:38,880 --> 00:16:42,840 Speaker 2: It's hard, right, I think Op did did that. But wow, 363 00:16:42,920 --> 00:16:44,840 Speaker 2: I mean, like we asked a bunch of questions there. 364 00:16:44,920 --> 00:16:47,000 Speaker 2: I would love to know the audience has thought like, 365 00:16:47,680 --> 00:16:50,040 Speaker 2: what would you do if you found out this information? 366 00:16:50,120 --> 00:16:53,080 Speaker 2: Do you keep it with you or do you tell everyone? 367 00:16:53,440 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 1: That's and and each person is kind of vastly different. 368 00:16:56,640 --> 00:16:59,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, And how do you talk to your kids about this? 369 00:16:59,720 --> 00:17:01,680 Speaker 2: How do you talk to your parents about this? How 370 00:17:01,680 --> 00:17:06,320 Speaker 2: do you talk to the the you know your sister 371 00:17:06,960 --> 00:17:10,520 Speaker 2: cousin about this, like I don't even know. 372 00:17:11,200 --> 00:17:13,280 Speaker 3: It's so hard to wrap your brain around. 373 00:17:13,359 --> 00:17:15,480 Speaker 2: This is why like things like twenty three and meter 374 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:19,359 Speaker 2: like an ancestry dot com. It's it opens up a 375 00:17:19,480 --> 00:17:22,399 Speaker 2: Pandora's box that you cannot close. So you've got to 376 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:24,439 Speaker 2: be ready to look inside. You have to be, you 377 00:17:24,480 --> 00:17:28,359 Speaker 2: absolutely have to be. But we should also get ready 378 00:17:28,359 --> 00:17:30,040 Speaker 2: to look inside too this next story, because he gets 379 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:33,160 Speaker 2: crazier from here. But if you have a crazy story 380 00:17:33,160 --> 00:17:36,080 Speaker 2: of your own, you should call us and just like 381 00:17:36,200 --> 00:17:38,000 Speaker 2: tell it to us. We have a call in line. 382 00:17:38,080 --> 00:17:41,600 Speaker 2: It's four for zero five zero eight six' five six 383 00:17:41,720 --> 00:17:43,840 Speaker 2: seven call us right. Now if you have a crazy, 384 00:17:43,840 --> 00:17:45,679 Speaker 2: story and let's get into the next, one let's do. 385 00:17:45,720 --> 00:17:50,520 Speaker 1: IT dna test, Says i'm related to my. Wife that's 386 00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:51,040 Speaker 1: never a good. 387 00:17:51,040 --> 00:17:51,200 Speaker 3: Thing. 388 00:17:51,240 --> 00:17:54,920 Speaker 2: Sam, hey maybe you got so much chemistry because he 389 00:17:55,000 --> 00:17:55,560 Speaker 2: got so much in. 390 00:17:55,600 --> 00:17:58,600 Speaker 1: Common, like, man you look so, GOOD i look so, 391 00:17:58,760 --> 00:18:00,800 Speaker 1: Good like we have so much in our. 392 00:18:00,880 --> 00:18:06,360 Speaker 2: Genes must just be, amazing probably different, though but, amazing similarly, 393 00:18:07,000 --> 00:18:11,280 Speaker 2: good similarly. Amazing, yeah OR i also feel like my 394 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:13,520 Speaker 2: dad would get along with your dad really, Well. 395 00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:16,080 Speaker 1: Oh, dude you can almost say they're like this the same. 396 00:18:16,240 --> 00:18:18,760 Speaker 1: Gerson what read the? 397 00:18:18,800 --> 00:18:19,800 Speaker 3: Story all? 398 00:18:19,880 --> 00:18:22,840 Speaker 2: RIGHT i decided to get tested to see IF i 399 00:18:22,840 --> 00:18:25,480 Speaker 2: could donate my kidney to my wife of six. Years 400 00:18:25,600 --> 00:18:28,239 Speaker 2: we have two kids, together four female to, male and 401 00:18:28,320 --> 00:18:30,600 Speaker 2: my wife got sick just after our son was born 402 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:33,119 Speaker 2: and is now in need of a kidney. Transplant we 403 00:18:33,240 --> 00:18:36,000 Speaker 2: checked with their relatives and none were a match or 404 00:18:36,040 --> 00:18:38,920 Speaker 2: a viable. Donor last week got. TESTED i knew it 405 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:40,640 Speaker 2: would be a long, shot SO i decided to get 406 00:18:40,640 --> 00:18:42,320 Speaker 2: tested to see IF i could. DONATE i got a 407 00:18:42,359 --> 00:18:44,760 Speaker 2: call the other day saying THAT i was a. Match, 408 00:18:45,080 --> 00:18:46,760 Speaker 2: amazing amazing to get a. 409 00:18:46,800 --> 00:18:49,280 Speaker 3: Kid out of. Here yeah, Great, wait, wait what kind of? 410 00:18:49,320 --> 00:18:51,440 Speaker 2: Match what kind of? Match? WELL i got a call 411 00:18:51,680 --> 00:18:53,960 Speaker 2: the other day saying it was a. Match the doctor 412 00:18:54,040 --> 00:18:57,520 Speaker 2: then said something about wanting to do additional testing due 413 00:18:57,600 --> 00:19:01,160 Speaker 2: to some information from THE hla tissue you test. RESULTS 414 00:19:01,359 --> 00:19:03,719 Speaker 2: i didn't think much of it and. Agreed then the 415 00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:04,400 Speaker 2: results came. 416 00:19:04,440 --> 00:19:05,119 Speaker 3: In what was? 417 00:19:05,119 --> 00:19:10,840 Speaker 2: IT i was shocked and. Confused oh. No he explained 418 00:19:10,880 --> 00:19:13,440 Speaker 2: that because of HOW dna information has passed down through, 419 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:16,879 Speaker 2: generations apparent to a child could have at least a 420 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:20,480 Speaker 2: fifty percent. Match siblings could have a zero to one 421 00:19:20,560 --> 00:19:23,720 Speaker 2: hundred percent. Match it was rare to have a high 422 00:19:23,800 --> 00:19:27,159 Speaker 2: match as husband and a. WIFE i, asked what do you? 423 00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:29,800 Speaker 2: Mean he said that my wife AND i have an 424 00:19:29,880 --> 00:19:32,920 Speaker 2: abnormally high match percentage abnormally. 425 00:19:33,080 --> 00:19:36,760 Speaker 3: HIGH i don't like. That can? It can it be abnormally? 426 00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:37,080 Speaker 2: Low? 427 00:19:37,520 --> 00:19:38,880 Speaker 1: Long? Please story? 428 00:19:39,240 --> 00:19:43,800 Speaker 2: Shorts, okay we're, Related? John what if you found out 429 00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:45,159 Speaker 2: you and your girlfriend were? 430 00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:50,120 Speaker 1: Sisters you, Know i'm gonna say it's probably pretty. Unlikely 431 00:19:52,680 --> 00:19:56,240 Speaker 1: i'm just gonna freaking roll the dice on that one and, 432 00:19:56,320 --> 00:20:00,800 Speaker 1: say maybe that's pretty probably. 433 00:20:00,880 --> 00:20:05,639 Speaker 2: UNLIKELY i would love the editors to put a picture of. 434 00:20:06,359 --> 00:20:09,920 Speaker 3: Editors you know what to? Do? Riley maybe maybe maybe fine? 435 00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:19,600 Speaker 3: One you got? It you got? IT I, GOD i love. 436 00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:22,919 Speaker 2: It, No i'm not. KIDDING i was put up for 437 00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:26,199 Speaker 2: adoption BEFORE i was, born placed into a family that 438 00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:28,800 Speaker 2: moved across the. COUNTRY i KNEW i was, adopted but 439 00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:32,000 Speaker 2: we didn't have any information about my biological. Family it 440 00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:34,160 Speaker 2: was a closed, adoption which basically means you don't get 441 00:20:34,200 --> 00:20:37,119 Speaker 2: any of the informational, papers. RIGHT i met my wife 442 00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:39,440 Speaker 2: by chance eight years. AGO i was on a trip 443 00:20:39,480 --> 00:20:41,639 Speaker 2: from work and she was working at the. SITE i 444 00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:44,440 Speaker 2: went To we worked together for a. Week we exchanged, 445 00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:47,680 Speaker 2: Numbers Captain. TOUTCH i was sent back there three more 446 00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:50,080 Speaker 2: times that, year and each time we became. 447 00:20:50,119 --> 00:20:52,200 Speaker 3: Closer, oh don't do, that don't do, that. 448 00:20:52,160 --> 00:20:55,280 Speaker 2: Don't get pool. CLOSE i was given the opportunity to 449 00:20:55,280 --> 00:20:58,399 Speaker 2: be transferred out there into a higher paying position in 450 00:20:58,440 --> 00:21:01,800 Speaker 2: a different department as, her and the rest is. HISTORY 451 00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:04,199 Speaker 2: i don't know what to do moving, forward BUT i 452 00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:07,080 Speaker 2: know it may be. Wrong she is my wife and 453 00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:08,240 Speaker 2: the mother of our. 454 00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:11,000 Speaker 3: Kids there it. 455 00:21:11,119 --> 00:21:13,320 Speaker 2: Is this post is probably going to get, removed but 456 00:21:13,400 --> 00:21:16,240 Speaker 2: it is all, true and there is a, juicy juicy. 457 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:19,280 Speaker 1: Update OH i don't Think i'm, Ready, sam but you, 458 00:21:19,320 --> 00:21:21,399 Speaker 1: know let's do it to me, anyway do? 459 00:21:21,440 --> 00:21:23,200 Speaker 2: It but, Okay so there is a little edit just 460 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:26,840 Speaker 2: for more. Clarification so all of my family is from 461 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:30,000 Speaker 2: my adopted. Parents my parents adopted me two minutes AFTER 462 00:21:30,040 --> 00:21:32,359 Speaker 2: i was. Born their name is on my birth. Certificate 463 00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:34,720 Speaker 2: they have not told me anything about my bioparents and 464 00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:37,280 Speaker 2: don't have any. Info her family is not a match 465 00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:40,000 Speaker 2: as stated. Above most of her family has low match 466 00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:43,320 Speaker 2: potential or can't donate due to medical or other. REASONS 467 00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:45,159 Speaker 2: i am two years older than my. WIFE i do 468 00:21:45,240 --> 00:21:47,560 Speaker 2: know that my wife was born when her parents were late. 469 00:21:47,720 --> 00:21:51,680 Speaker 2: Teens so here is the update two weeks. Later oh, Boy, 470 00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:54,720 Speaker 2: YES i Know i'm misspelled. Across, YES i do have 471 00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:57,640 Speaker 2: bad grammar and. Spelling, YES i am stressed and freaking, 472 00:21:57,680 --> 00:22:00,919 Speaker 2: out and YES i play the band jo. Understand, no 473 00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:03,880 Speaker 2: there was no genetic test when we got. Married who 474 00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:07,000 Speaker 2: gets a genetic? Test although ACTUALLY i heard In iceland 475 00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:09,760 Speaker 2: the chances of you being related to someone you meet 476 00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:12,040 Speaker 2: is very, high so they have a genetic matchmaker to 477 00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:13,840 Speaker 2: make sure you can search the database and make sure 478 00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:14,600 Speaker 2: you guys are not like. 479 00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:17,800 Speaker 1: Cousins at this, point is it that bad of an 480 00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:19,720 Speaker 1: idea we have to ask? 481 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:22,920 Speaker 2: Ourselves has happened so many, TIMES i maybe we have to. 482 00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:27,760 Speaker 1: Ourselves MAYBE i better go search up uh oh brothers. 483 00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 1: Lovers our state stopped that in the nineteen. Nineties, OH 484 00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:34,240 Speaker 1: i guess it was something you have to. 485 00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:37,560 Speaker 2: Do oh, no my wife has never been stuck in the, 486 00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:42,320 Speaker 2: dryer but she did it gets stuck under the. Bed oh, 487 00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:45,800 Speaker 2: boy a. Joke the REASON i did not go into 488 00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,159 Speaker 2: too much detail is to try to not be specific 489 00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:50,879 Speaker 2: THAT i or my wife might be. Recognized, well the 490 00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:53,000 Speaker 2: front page Of reddit didn't help with. 491 00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:55,560 Speaker 3: That, ooh thank you for all your. 492 00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:58,040 Speaker 2: Comments. Anyway the reason her family couldn't donate was the 493 00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:01,600 Speaker 2: close relatives had some medical issue that prevent them from 494 00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:05,160 Speaker 2: donating high blood, pressure, diabetes, cancer heavy, drinkers and. More 495 00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:07,399 Speaker 2: the further out we, tested the less percent of a. 496 00:23:07,440 --> 00:23:09,600 Speaker 2: MATCH i wanted to be tested because we need to find. 497 00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:12,080 Speaker 2: Something the doctor said it would be, unlikely but wouldn't 498 00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:14,320 Speaker 2: hurt to. TRY i was freaking out AFTER i got 499 00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:16,520 Speaker 2: the news and had to get outside. Advice when the 500 00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:19,080 Speaker 2: doc said that the percentage was abnormally high and that 501 00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:21,240 Speaker 2: we might be, RELATED i kind of zoned out and 502 00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:23,720 Speaker 2: started to piece things together in my. Mind my parents 503 00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:25,880 Speaker 2: lived a thousand miles. Away they met my in laws 504 00:23:25,920 --> 00:23:28,560 Speaker 2: a few, times once at my wedding and when both 505 00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:31,040 Speaker 2: my children were. Born my children are. Fine my daughter 506 00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:33,919 Speaker 2: is incredibly smart for her. Age my son is a 507 00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:39,600 Speaker 2: handful and healthy. Idiot the way my adoption worked was 508 00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:42,000 Speaker 2: when my biomom gave birth to, ME i was checked 509 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:43,960 Speaker 2: out and put in a different. ROOM i was, there 510 00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:46,760 Speaker 2: but don't know how it officially. Worked from what my parents, 511 00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:49,080 Speaker 2: explained they were in that room. Waiting they never met 512 00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:52,119 Speaker 2: my biomom in. Person my biomom only had a profile 513 00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:54,639 Speaker 2: and picked them out of many. CANDIDATES i called my 514 00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:57,080 Speaker 2: parents and told them THAT i needed to know everything 515 00:23:57,119 --> 00:23:59,720 Speaker 2: they knew about my. Biomom, yep. Yep they told me 516 00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:02,080 Speaker 2: that they had limited. Knowledge they said she was a 517 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:04,960 Speaker 2: single mom that was sixteen years. Old the father was 518 00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:06,840 Speaker 2: not in the. Picture, ALSO i was born in a 519 00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:10,320 Speaker 2: hospital one hour from where my wife was. Born LIKE i, 520 00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:14,080 Speaker 2: said limited. Knowledge growing, UP i didn't want to find 521 00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:17,320 Speaker 2: out about my. Bioparents to, me my parents were always my, 522 00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:19,560 Speaker 2: parents the ones that raised. Them. TOTALLY i KNEW i 523 00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:21,960 Speaker 2: was adopted and that it was a closed. ADOPTION i 524 00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:25,639 Speaker 2: figure it wouldn't matter long. Term oh, boy oh, boy 525 00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:26,160 Speaker 2: were you? 526 00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:28,439 Speaker 3: Rong oh it kind of mattered a little, Bit. 527 00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:31,640 Speaker 2: Opie i'm not going to do an additional at HOME 528 00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:34,760 Speaker 2: dna test through any of the traditional testing sites like 529 00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:38,080 Speaker 2: twenty three or ancestry due to personal reasons like the 530 00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:41,359 Speaker 2: possibility of the family finding, out oh and. 531 00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:44,200 Speaker 3: Just the other myriad of pin doors box things that can. 532 00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:47,080 Speaker 2: Happen the doc said all of this to only, me 533 00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:50,040 Speaker 2: not with my wife. Present some of the additional tests 534 00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:53,560 Speaker 2: were done through the, doctor which was THE cm test question. 535 00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:55,720 Speaker 2: Mark i'm not an expert ON dna. Testing they said 536 00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:58,920 Speaker 2: it was like a nineteen hundred plus cm. Match this 537 00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:02,520 Speaker 2: basically confirmed one of my bioparents is one of. Hers 538 00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:06,600 Speaker 2: it also mean first cousins or aunt. Uncle i'm guessing her. Dad, 539 00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:11,840 Speaker 2: mmmm that's. Tough when my kids were, born my parents 540 00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:14,399 Speaker 2: brought photos of me as a baby and commented THAT 541 00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,160 Speaker 2: i and my son looked a lot like my wife's. 542 00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:20,840 Speaker 2: Dad my son was easily, explainable but all three of 543 00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:24,359 Speaker 2: us we're a different, story a little bit. Different i'm 544 00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:28,840 Speaker 2: not going to bring this up. EVER i might look 545 00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:31,640 Speaker 2: at my father in law, differently but nothing will hopefully. 546 00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:34,000 Speaker 2: CHANGE i hope none of the family goes On reddit 547 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,440 Speaker 2: and connects the. Dots i'm donating my kidney to my. 548 00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:39,480 Speaker 2: Wife we have started the full process that takes time 549 00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:42,320 Speaker 2: and a lot of. Preparation, also this would be really 550 00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:46,160 Speaker 2: easy to figure out if someone was reading, this because 551 00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:50,119 Speaker 2: how often is someone donating a kidney from husband to 552 00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:55,360 Speaker 2: wife in the last couple. Months not, Much not, OFTEN. 553 00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:57,160 Speaker 3: I mean maybe more than we would. 554 00:25:57,200 --> 00:25:59,600 Speaker 2: Think but they said husband to wife is very. Rare 555 00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:03,920 Speaker 2: usually it's like Oh, roger it to Kid oh brother to, 556 00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:07,960 Speaker 2: brother sister to, brother says or to. Sister you know 557 00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:08,840 Speaker 2: of those. 558 00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:11,280 Speaker 3: Husband's husband, wise we gotta step your games have been 559 00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:13,399 Speaker 3: it's because they're not. Related. 560 00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:19,639 Speaker 2: USUALLY i plan on talking to my wife after the 561 00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 2: surgery and after the. Recovery we will decide what to 562 00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:25,040 Speaker 2: do with our. Kids, oh if we, will if we 563 00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:27,159 Speaker 2: are going to get them tested or ever tell. THEM i, 564 00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:30,600 Speaker 2: MEAN i, like like we're gonna leave, them not. FAR 565 00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:33,040 Speaker 2: i will not be leaving my. WIFE i love and 566 00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:35,639 Speaker 2: will always be there for. HER i made vows AND 567 00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:38,040 Speaker 2: i will keep. THEM i love her more THAN i 568 00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:39,040 Speaker 2: would a half. 569 00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:45,800 Speaker 3: Sister, god he said, It he said, It and there 570 00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:46,040 Speaker 3: is an. 571 00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:49,440 Speaker 2: Update oh, Boy. Okay, first my wife AND i did 572 00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:52,520 Speaker 2: go through with the. Transplant we both are. RECOVERING slash 573 00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:55,240 Speaker 2: have recovered well. Now my wife is the healthiest she 574 00:26:55,280 --> 00:26:58,399 Speaker 2: has been since just after our son was. Born my 575 00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:00,680 Speaker 2: profile has all the other, posts but SINCE i posted 576 00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:02,680 Speaker 2: this on my, profile you are most likely up to. 577 00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:05,000 Speaker 2: Date SO i kept to my original. PLAN i did 578 00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:07,800 Speaker 2: not tell my wife about the possibility of us being 579 00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:12,440 Speaker 2: related until after the. Surgery before the, surgery my parents 580 00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:14,280 Speaker 2: came into town as soon as they. Could it really 581 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:16,560 Speaker 2: helps having a big family support system like we. Have 582 00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:19,240 Speaker 2: the days leading up to the surgery seemed like there 583 00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:21,640 Speaker 2: just wasn't enough time the day for. Everything with nine 584 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:25,120 Speaker 2: hundred doctors, appointments getting things prepared for worst case, scenarios, 585 00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:27,919 Speaker 2: researching setting up my parents and other family and our 586 00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:30,639 Speaker 2: house to watch our, kids and just spending time together as, family, 587 00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:32,399 Speaker 2: there's you, know not a lot of. Time, nope the 588 00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:35,520 Speaker 2: doctors were fantastic and laid everything out in a professional 589 00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:38,720 Speaker 2: but relatable. Fashion they answered all the questions and concerns 590 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,520 Speaker 2: we had leading up, to, during and post, op and 591 00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:43,439 Speaker 2: there were a ton of. Questions it was one of 592 00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:46,080 Speaker 2: the best feelings seeing my wife hopeful for the first 593 00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:48,280 Speaker 2: time in a long. TIME i KNEW i wouldn't be 594 00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:50,720 Speaker 2: able to live with myself IF i took that away from. 595 00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:52,639 Speaker 2: Her in the days leading, UP i DECIDED i was 596 00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:55,040 Speaker 2: going to write a letter to my wife if things 597 00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:57,639 Speaker 2: went bad for me but she. SURVIVED i wrote her 598 00:27:57,760 --> 00:28:00,720 Speaker 2: six PAGES i have small handwriting in. IT i told 599 00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:02,520 Speaker 2: her how MUCH i loved, her how much she changed 600 00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:04,080 Speaker 2: me from the moment we, met how she was my, 601 00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:07,600 Speaker 2: universe but also how SORRY i was for keeping a 602 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:09,800 Speaker 2: secret from her and lying to. HER i went into 603 00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:12,639 Speaker 2: details of WHAT i found out over last, week how 604 00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:15,120 Speaker 2: we might be, related and all the. EVIDENCE i gave 605 00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:17,359 Speaker 2: it to my parents to give to her if something 606 00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:20,080 Speaker 2: were to happen to me because of the kidney. Transplant, 607 00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:23,000 Speaker 2: right that makes, sense but if we both didn't make, 608 00:28:23,040 --> 00:28:25,760 Speaker 2: it then to read it with my in. LAWS i 609 00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:28,600 Speaker 2: also made other. Letters the surgery went well for both of. 610 00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:32,320 Speaker 2: Us they said my organs looked my. Difine the transplant 611 00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:35,120 Speaker 2: worked out rather quickly for my wife and her body accepted. 612 00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:37,280 Speaker 2: IT i ended up scratching my eye pretty bad and 613 00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:40,080 Speaker 2: they put an eye patch on. Me oh. Mandam so 614 00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:41,920 Speaker 2: WHEN i saw my wife for the first, time her 615 00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:44,239 Speaker 2: first words to me, were the doctors knew we were 616 00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:49,160 Speaker 2: here for a kidney, right oh, zigger, sir oh Oh. 617 00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:52,640 Speaker 2: God recovery overall. Sucks there was virtually no position that was. 618 00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:55,040 Speaker 2: COMFORTABLE i felt like a baby because my wife never 619 00:28:55,080 --> 00:28:57,600 Speaker 2: complained and was healing well and taking it. Easy, me 620 00:28:57,720 --> 00:28:59,480 Speaker 2: on the other, HAND i am not so smart and 621 00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:01,640 Speaker 2: decided that she go against doctors orders and did not 622 00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:03,400 Speaker 2: take it easy and ended up having to go to 623 00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:06,360 Speaker 2: the er and have a secondary surgery to repair damage 624 00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:10,239 Speaker 2: AS i caused, oh please listen to medical. Professionals and 625 00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:13,840 Speaker 2: here is the juicy updates where he reveals everything to the. 626 00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:18,760 Speaker 2: Wife go now on to what y'all really care About during, 627 00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:22,320 Speaker 2: recovery my wife got into TikTok Slash reddit. Yikes, well 628 00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:25,200 Speaker 2: after a, time she found out a little post that 629 00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:28,800 Speaker 2: made it way bigger THAN i ever. Intended looking, BACK 630 00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:31,840 Speaker 2: i should have been more careful. Whoa during this, time 631 00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,160 Speaker 2: she started to ask more in depth questions about my. 632 00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:36,400 Speaker 2: Adoption my parents were still at the house at this. 633 00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:39,520 Speaker 2: Point parents answered all the. Questions my wife used the 634 00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:42,120 Speaker 2: excuse of wanting to put a memory book together for 635 00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:44,959 Speaker 2: her kids and wanted to include a family history of 636 00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:47,520 Speaker 2: us growing up and including our parents who raised. Us 637 00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:50,000 Speaker 2: she knew most of this, info but wanted more. Details 638 00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:53,640 Speaker 2: she asked her dad about more details of his, childhood 639 00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:55,400 Speaker 2: how he met my mother in, law if my mother 640 00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:57,960 Speaker 2: in law was his first, relationship et. Cetera she knew, 641 00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:01,400 Speaker 2: some BUT i was learning a. Lot also, reminder my 642 00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:04,360 Speaker 2: wife was born when her parents were older. Teens i'm 643 00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:06,680 Speaker 2: older than, her he, Said, no mother in law was 644 00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:09,040 Speaker 2: not his first. Relationship we ended up pulling out his 645 00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:12,160 Speaker 2: old yearbook of his high school and he showed us 646 00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:16,480 Speaker 2: the girl who was his first. RELATIONSHIP i knew she 647 00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:22,320 Speaker 2: was probably my biological mom whoa so biological. Mom just 648 00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:24,480 Speaker 2: REVEALED i could see features THAT i have in. Her 649 00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:26,720 Speaker 2: he told us fond memories he had of. Her he 650 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:29,400 Speaker 2: said the relationship ended because of her, parents and he 651 00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:32,040 Speaker 2: never saw her. Again he tried finding out what happened to, 652 00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:34,760 Speaker 2: her but couldn't before the. Internet shortly after, that he 653 00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:36,800 Speaker 2: asked out my mother in, law and here we. Are 654 00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:39,040 Speaker 2: we got my father in law's. Side then my mother 655 00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:41,560 Speaker 2: in law, said now let me tell you how it 656 00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:49,080 Speaker 2: really happened in law another, side a little. Different she 657 00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:51,640 Speaker 2: proceeded to tell us a different story that was way more. 658 00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:54,720 Speaker 2: Believable nothing about all of this was a red flag 659 00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:57,560 Speaker 2: indicating that my wife knew my. Secret but after that, 660 00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:00,920 Speaker 2: VISIT i felt extremely. Guilty she was healthier than she 661 00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:03,320 Speaker 2: had been in, years out of the major danger, zone 662 00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:05,320 Speaker 2: SO i had no real excuse not to tell. Her 663 00:31:05,440 --> 00:31:07,840 Speaker 2: took me two additional weeks to finally tell, her and 664 00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:10,200 Speaker 2: she NOTICED i was acting off and finally asked me 665 00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:10,600 Speaker 2: IF i was. 666 00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:13,120 Speaker 3: Okay in, fairness it's a hard thing to, SHARE a hard. 667 00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:14,920 Speaker 2: Thing to, SHARE i, SAID i needed to talk to 668 00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:19,000 Speaker 2: her about something, serious possibly life altering and potentially a 669 00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:21,600 Speaker 2: relationship ending, topic but THAT i love her and will 670 00:31:21,640 --> 00:31:24,800 Speaker 2: do absolutely everything she decided from that point. Forward she 671 00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:26,840 Speaker 2: told me that was not a good start to a 672 00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:28,680 Speaker 2: conversation and asked IF i wanted to start. 673 00:31:28,720 --> 00:31:28,960 Speaker 3: Again. 674 00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:32,360 Speaker 2: Wow, OH i gave you the LETTER i had written 675 00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:35,440 Speaker 2: before the. Surgery she went from, curious, happy crying to 676 00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:39,160 Speaker 2: intense concentration. Unreadable in my, HEAD i basically handed her 677 00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:41,800 Speaker 2: divorce papers AND i would never see her or my kids. 678 00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:44,080 Speaker 2: Again our life that we have built got nuked from 679 00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:46,120 Speaker 2: dramatic in my. Head WHEN i get, NERVOUS i paced 680 00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:48,080 Speaker 2: back and. Forth when she finished reading, it she took 681 00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:49,840 Speaker 2: a moment that came over to, me stop me from, 682 00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:53,200 Speaker 2: pacing said to look at, her smile with genuine, smile and, 683 00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:56,080 Speaker 2: said you are the dumbest smart PERSON i, know and 684 00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:59,320 Speaker 2: then kiss. Me this started a long. Conversation she came 685 00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:01,920 Speaker 2: across my first post after the surgery and found it 686 00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:05,760 Speaker 2: oddly specific to her. Situation h even THOUGH i changed 687 00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:09,560 Speaker 2: some facts in, circumstances she connected the. Dots this started 688 00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:11,680 Speaker 2: her trying to find out if it was, true IF 689 00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:14,720 Speaker 2: i would eventually tell her or continue to lie slash 690 00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:17,120 Speaker 2: hide it from. Her she reassured me that it changed 691 00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:20,680 Speaker 2: nothing in a. Relationship she is my, WIFE i am her. 692 00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:23,800 Speaker 2: Husband she will always have a piece of me with 693 00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:28,600 Speaker 2: her at all times like oh dna wise. Oo she 694 00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:31,640 Speaker 2: said that she doesn't view it as wrong because we 695 00:32:31,720 --> 00:32:33,640 Speaker 2: did not grow up. Together we didn't, know and it 696 00:32:33,680 --> 00:32:35,400 Speaker 2: was a bit too late to go. Back. Now we 697 00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,240 Speaker 2: decided to have our kids do genetic testing when the 698 00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:41,720 Speaker 2: age was more, appropriate vainly for the unknown from me being. 699 00:32:41,720 --> 00:32:46,080 Speaker 2: Adopted we are not for now possibly ever telling, anyone 700 00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:48,640 Speaker 2: which probably is a good. Look we also looked up 701 00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:51,720 Speaker 2: who we now suspect is my bio. Mom what we 702 00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:54,360 Speaker 2: found was that she ended up passing away a few 703 00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:57,040 Speaker 2: years ago due to a drunk. Driver BUT i possibly 704 00:32:57,160 --> 00:33:01,479 Speaker 2: have two other half sisters dating options down the road if. 705 00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:09,280 Speaker 2: NEEDED i see, you my wife WHEN i told her. 706 00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:13,080 Speaker 2: This kids are doing really. Well all they know is 707 00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:15,800 Speaker 2: That mommy's doing better and enjoying spending more time with 708 00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:18,960 Speaker 2: her and the extra energy slash playfulness that she hasn't 709 00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:21,960 Speaker 2: had in a. While they are doing really. Well so 710 00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:25,640 Speaker 2: all in, all the best case scenario. Happened the only 711 00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:27,880 Speaker 2: THINGS i would change is if the doctors tell you 712 00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:31,520 Speaker 2: to take it easy and give you proper medical, advice follow. It, 713 00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:34,000 Speaker 2: also if you were keeping a secret from your significant 714 00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:37,520 Speaker 2: other slash, wife don't they probably know already and are 715 00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:40,040 Speaker 2: just letting you keep digging the hole a little. Deeper 716 00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:42,200 Speaker 2: my wife AND i are doing really. Well we probably 717 00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:44,480 Speaker 2: are the closest we have ever been in a long. 718 00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:47,200 Speaker 2: TIME i asked her to marry me. Again she, said 719 00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:49,560 Speaker 2: you would think about, it pause for like five long, 720 00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:51,600 Speaker 2: seconds and of course said, YES i will marry. You 721 00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:55,280 Speaker 2: i'm not as afraid AS i was about family finding 722 00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:58,040 Speaker 2: or seeing this. POST i now have a goddess like 723 00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:01,280 Speaker 2: force to have my back IF, i slash we ever get. 724 00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:04,840 Speaker 2: Questioned we have made contingency. Plans LIKE i, SAID i 725 00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:09,160 Speaker 2: probably won't update. AGAIN i thank you. All. Wow and 726 00:34:09,320 --> 00:34:12,120 Speaker 2: that is a wrap of that. 727 00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:17,839 Speaker 1: Story and that is WHY dna tests are A pandora's. 728 00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:20,840 Speaker 2: Box pndora's. Box they're like a box of. Chocolate's you 729 00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:23,800 Speaker 2: never know what you get against you really freaking you really, 730 00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:27,240 Speaker 2: don't you really, don't but you know what you should 731 00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:27,879 Speaker 2: freaking get? 732 00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:30,120 Speaker 3: Next, John what SHOULD i get? Next? 733 00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:34,480 Speaker 2: Next juicy, crazy even crazier story all, right let's get into. 734 00:34:34,520 --> 00:34:34,680 Speaker 2: It