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Speaker 1: The Jubile Show on demand.

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Speaker 2: First Day follower is on the phone today for our

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Speaker 2: first Day follow up. She's getting ghosted by a dude

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Speaker 2: named Dave that you went on a date with, and

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Speaker 2: she has no idea why. So we're going to see

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Speaker 2: if we can help her out. Sarah, thanks for coming

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Speaker 2: on the show. Before we ask about your dating and stuff,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from Dave?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you guys, It's been a couple of weeks.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, just I just feel really dumb right now

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Speaker 1: because I don't know what's going on.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I know that feeling. Don't feel dumb,

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Speaker 3: but let's try to figure it out. So take us

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Speaker 3: through your date. What happened?

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Speaker 1: Okay? So I mean we literally hit off immediately, like

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Speaker 1: we bonded over you know, our love for nerd stuff,

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Speaker 1: you know, and stuff like that, and the conversation to

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Speaker 1: flowed effortly, like we found ourselves lasting and sharing stories

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Speaker 1: throughout the evening, like total great night. And then like

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Speaker 1: as the night progressed towards the end, Dave lead in

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Speaker 1: for a kiss and.

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Speaker 4: Did you kiss?

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Speaker 1: Kiss?

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Speaker 4: Okay? Okay, so you got so you kissing everything?

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Speaker 1: They had a really good, good time, and you know,

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Speaker 1: I kind of want to pursue things with him, like,

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Speaker 1: you know, see where things would go. And you know,

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Speaker 1: because I'm usually not into people this quickly, but we just,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I just felt like we were in

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Speaker 1: complete alivement. And you know, like I said, I just

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Speaker 1: I just feel like an idiot right now because maybe

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Speaker 1: I misread the size and maybe I can't one too

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Speaker 1: strong I kissing him back?

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I mean, if he leaned into you and he kissed you,

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Speaker 3: that's not your fault for kissing him back.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I guess why was he not calling me back?

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Speaker 4: Is there anything that you can think of that was

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Speaker 4: awkward at all on your date?

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Speaker 1: I mean well, I mean we kind of had like

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Speaker 1: a playful fight. We were talking about this new book

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Speaker 1: and he talking about leadership, and you know, he just

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Speaker 1: kind of day just kind of felt like I was

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Speaker 1: way too into the leadership thing and that things should

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Speaker 1: if you better be a leader, you should be a

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Speaker 1: good leader. I mean, I just didn't think it was

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Speaker 1: but it was a little awkward that he just felt

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Speaker 1: and then not that I don't I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I can't imagine that being a deal breaker, though, I

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Speaker 3: feel like that's kind of fun to have that kind

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Speaker 2: I mean, unless yeah, I mean some people take things

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Speaker 2: too seriously though, right, and you can't even there's some

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Speaker 2: people that literally you can't argue with. They just like

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Speaker 2: even play for argue.

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Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, didn't feel like Dave was getting upset.

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Speaker 1: I just I'm not really upset, but emotional, Like I

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Speaker 1: don't know if I triggered him in some way, if

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Speaker 1: what I was talking about reminded him of someone, but

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Speaker 1: it just seemed.

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Speaker 5: A little awkward.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Well, we'll see if we can figure it out

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Speaker 2: Then we'll play a song, come back and then call

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Speaker 2: him and see if we get him to tell you

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Speaker 2: why he's ghosting you and maybe get you another date

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Speaker 2: if you want another date.

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Speaker 4: After you hear it, okay, okay, cool, all right, we'll.

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Speaker 2: Play a song come back and get your first day

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Speaker 2: follow up next. Right in the middle of your first

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Speaker 2: date follow up if you're just joining us, Sarah is

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Speaker 2: on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a dude

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Speaker 2: named Dave. So we're about to call him and see

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Speaker 2: if we can get him to tell us why he's

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Speaker 2: ghosting her and maybe get her another date Sarah. Before

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Speaker 2: we call him, though, real quick, recap your date for

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Speaker 2: everybody who just joined us.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so, like I said, we hit it off on

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Speaker 1: some true nerd stuff and talks about books, and you know,

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Speaker 1: we had a great date. He even leaned in for

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Speaker 1: a kiss. I kissed him back, and you know, we

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Speaker 1: had a little awkward verbal huggle war nothing serious. He

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Speaker 1: texting me, Like, well, he didn't text me back at all, Like,

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Speaker 1: but you did say at the end of the night

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we did.

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Speaker 1: It was nice.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, that's weird when that happens and then

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Speaker 2: you get ghosted, right if the ending is awkward and

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Speaker 2: there's no hug or kiss or anything like that. Then

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Speaker 2: you can kind of tell that they didn't enjoy it.

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Speaker 2: But you actually kiss someone and then you don't hear

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Speaker 4: It's like mixed messaging. Yeah, it is, so we we're

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Speaker 4: about to call him right now. You ready, Sarah, I'm ready? Okay,

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Speaker 4: here we go. Hello, Hi, Ma, I speak to Dave.

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Speaker 4: Please speaking Dave? What's up? Hoow are you man?

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Speaker 1: Hey? I'm good.

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Speaker 6: Who is this?

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Speaker 4: This is actually Jubile from the Jebel Show. It's a

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Speaker 4: radio show.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and there's more people here too, Dave. Just so

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Speaker 3: you know, I'm Nina, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 2: And we're all from The Jebel Show, which is a

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Speaker 2: radio show, right and I don't know if you've heard

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Speaker 2: of it or not, but.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Hi, Hi, Hi.

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Speaker 6: What do you you guys call them for? I want

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Speaker 6: a prize or something.

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Speaker 2: We do a segment on our show called the First

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Speaker 2: Date follow Up. It's where if you go out on

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Speaker 2: a date with someone and then end up ghosting them,

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Speaker 2: they can email us to get you on the phone

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Speaker 2: and find out why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 4: And we got an email about.

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Speaker 2: You from someone who listens to the show that you're

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Speaker 2: not calling back after a date.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I know exactly what you're talking about.

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Speaker 4: Actually, Okay, who think it is?

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Speaker 6: I know it's Sarah.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, So why is she getting ghosted?

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Speaker 6: And and I feel bad because of the past couple

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Speaker 6: of weeks, I've I've actually been dealing with some personal

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Speaker 6: death in the family, and it just left me completely overwhelmed,

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Speaker 6: and I just it's it's consumed me, and I'm just

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Speaker 6: and I've been I've been meaning to get back to her,

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Speaker 6: and I didn't mean to ghost her, but I feel.

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Speaker 3: Terrible, you know, Dave, I will say, this is probably

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Speaker 3: the most valid reason to ghost anybody. Yeah, because sometimes

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Speaker 3: when you just have to excuse yourself from life, like

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Speaker 3: you get that pass. And I'm sorry about your loss,

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Speaker 3: and I'm sorry about all the emotional stuff that you've

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean I feel bad and I regret not

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Speaker 4: There's certain things that are definitely excusable.

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 2: You don't owe really anybody anything, but definitely someone that

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Speaker 2: you don't really feel free to not feel bad about that.

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Speaker 3: I think, Yeah, you know, I don't know you, but

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Speaker 3: I'm proud of you for prioritizing your needs. I guess

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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, I'm in a touch base and definitely definitely

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Speaker 4: Well why don't you touch base right now?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? I mean I guess I could text her right now.

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Speaker 1: Actually, so that's what I want.

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Speaker 4: No, you don't need to text her.

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Speaker 2: You can actually just talk to her because she's actually

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Speaker 4: And wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 6: Oh wow, okay, Hey Sarah.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, Dave. Like I'm almost in tears. I'm

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Speaker 1: so sorry. I muted myself because I just I'm so

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Speaker 1: emotionally overwhelmed. I'm so so sorry about your loss. Like,

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Speaker 1: And I'm just I'm just so sorry, you know, I

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Speaker 6: I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 6: I will say that, you know, I'm still kind of

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Speaker 6: getting things, but it's it's going to take some time.

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Speaker 6: But I mean, if if I want to spend time

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Speaker 1: Sleep, yes, please take your time. I just I feel

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Speaker 5: No, no, sorry, Well let's let's maybe aim to like

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Speaker 4: And I think I already know. Dave, would you like

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Speaker 5: Yeah, absolutely, yes, yes, it's one as.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I feel like such a geek right now,

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Speaker 3: I mean, I love this. Yeah, it's an example of

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Speaker 6: Yeah, Sarah, All as soon as we hang out, all

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Speaker 6: I'll text you we can set something up for sure,

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm looking forward to it. Thank you, of course,

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Speaker 1: talk to you soon, yeah, Dave, I mean, listen, take

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Speaker 1: I'm so very sorry about what's going on and what's happening.

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Speaker 1: And if you want to talk in between, and we

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Speaker 1: definitely know where you are and you know I may

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Speaker 1: be a good ear, so just let me know.

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Speaker 4: I appreciate that.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, all right, sweet and reach out when you're

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Speaker 2: ready for your date because we'll pay for it. But

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Speaker 2: like with that, make sure you do it like right before,

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Speaker 2: because we're too I'm like too unorganized and I will.

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Speaker 4: Forget about it and you want him to pay to

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Speaker 4: pay for it too, so definitely will all right, take

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Speaker 4: care

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