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Speaker 1: The first year of our relationship, I didn't notice because

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Speaker 1: rolling it ooh. She also ended up moving in with

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Speaker 1: me and my family, and they loved her, my grandma especially.

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Speaker 1: She also was not asked to pay rent or any

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Speaker 1: My grandma liked her a lot and eventually began letting

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Speaker 1: my partner run errands for her, as my grandma doesn't

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Speaker 1: leave the house anymore. But what we always make sure

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Speaker 1: story time where Air Environmental thirteen forty four submitted this story.

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Speaker 1: So in March, for my brother's birthday, my grandma wanted

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Speaker 1: my cousin we'll call her Hayley, to go buy a cake. Cool.

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Speaker 1: My grandma couldn't find her bank card. She thought first

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Speaker 1: that Haley forgot to return it last time. She ran

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Speaker 1: errand's for Grandma, I see you, but I see you

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Speaker 1: in the chat if you see what is coming. This

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Speaker 2: Whoa oh, this is truly one of our very own.

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Speaker 1: Truly one of our very ow They looked everywhere and

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Speaker 1: couldn't find it. Haley checked my grandma's banking app on

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Speaker 1: her phone and we saw that someone had used the

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Speaker 2: How dumb do you have to be? Do you think

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Speaker 2: they're not going to trace it back to you? Insanity?

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Speaker 1: That triggered all of us. Just to my other cousin,

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Speaker 1: we'll call him, George had taken it because he had

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Speaker 1: shown up the day before out of nowhere, and he's

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Speaker 1: a no the thief. My partner ended up calling me

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Speaker 1: from her job while all that was going on, and

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Speaker 1: I explained to her what was happening and that we

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Speaker 1: think George stole grandma's card. My partner got instantly irritate

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Speaker 1: didn't even involve her. I think we know what happened here. Agreed,

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Speaker 1: let's keep going. When she came home that night, things

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Speaker 1: got weirder. She took she got in the shower while

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Speaker 1: my partner said that she was feeling tired and that

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Speaker 1: her and she started acting weird, saying things like what

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Speaker 1: if your cousin wasn't the one that took the card?

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Speaker 1: Why is she telling on herself so hard? Dude? I

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Speaker 1: feel like I feel like she just can't help it.

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Speaker 1: If you're gonna be a thief, at least yeah, she

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Speaker 1: It doesn't look good. My partner heard Haley say that,

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Speaker 1: She has money. The grandma is the one that allowed

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Speaker 1: Oofs, classic of Niesia. I can't be I can't be

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Speaker 1: It took a lot of work between us, but I

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Speaker 2: I mean, like, honestly, why is he still with her?

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Speaker 2: I don't understand it.

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Speaker 1: I think this would be a deal breaker for me, like,

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Speaker 2: The whole the stealing the fallout that came as a

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Speaker 2: I was just like, oh, yeah, so we got together.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, wait, what you wouldn't really pause for a

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Well. I told her that, in all honesty,

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Speaker 1: she said she doesn't know what to do. She told

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Speaker 1: I realized that she really is a lot more mentally

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Speaker 1: to do that I shouldn't have to. But what you

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Speaker 1: but side notes. Literally a day after she broke down

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Speaker 1: or to hear from anyone who has dealt with similar issues.

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Speaker 1: What can I do. Is this a lost cause? Thank

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Speaker 1: I've really been struggling with this and don't seem to

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Speaker 1: it in the first break up? Maybe maybe break up?

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Speaker 2: I don't know, I remind me there, how long do

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Speaker 1: I do not believe that they have kids. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I'm just like, but they have been in a relationship

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Speaker 2: To me, I'm just like, this is clearly Opus seeing

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Speaker 2: all she's still showing signs. There's there's still so many

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Speaker 1: Dude, there's red flag after red flag. At a certain point,

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Speaker 1: uh uh has made that decision because, as Caitlin van

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Speaker 1: Campen says, the head game too strong, too strong, hard

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Speaker 2: There's there's more head in the sea.

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Speaker 1: Slidy Do says, I hate to say it, but if

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Speaker 1: he doesn't want to do that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like like and look, there are ways, like I

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Speaker 2: like it's just I don't know, it just seems too much.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean there's only been together. She rehab honestly

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Speaker 1: for well, she was institutionalized for six months. She she

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Speaker 1: was she was Is that not not free? What what

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Speaker 1: do you think that is?

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Speaker 2: I'm maybe that's not because there's a difference between like,

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Speaker 1: I think rehab often is like like Doe, there's some

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Speaker 2: My boyfriend's cousin stole his credit card and robbed him blind.

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Speaker 2: Backstory, I, twenty seven female, and my boyfriend, thirty four male,

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Speaker 1: What are we talking? Are we talking like, you know,

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Speaker 2: The gutter is I mean probably, I don't think we

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Speaker 2: But there are some activity on the credit card statement

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Speaker 2: This credit card was originally my boyfriend's, but he swears

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Speaker 2: They defaulted on payments in early twenty twenty, but paid

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Speaker 2: These charges were for shopping, news agency, takeaway, food pubs, gambling,

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Speaker 2: Family member has diverted all of the notices to their address.

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Speaker 2: two years. Two years, so Opie says, option number two

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Speaker 2: My boyfriend doesn't like conflict, and so he is going

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Speaker 1: He isn't even.

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Speaker 2: Planning on mentioning anything to this family member. He wants

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Speaker 1: A rough time to that bro, I mean, like, I

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Speaker 2: Literally literally, I want my boyfriend to proceed with the

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Speaker 2: So am I the a hole for pushing my opinion

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Speaker 2: on my boyfriend not the a hole.

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Speaker 1: For pushing your opinion on your boyfriend I think. I mean, like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: But the thing is, like, it's not a rough patch.

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Speaker 2: Like yeah, yeah, come on, bro, but Sam, what job

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Speaker 2: there's n up day. I want to begin by thanking

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Speaker 2: everyone for their advice. There were some really constructive strategies

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Speaker 1: Okay, so that's why he's not wanting to count Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: He was adamant that he didn't know anything about the

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Speaker 1: In the past, I've.

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Speaker 2: Forgiven him for his lies, but I can't keep forgiving

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Speaker 2: I'm talking big lies and even bigger lies to cover

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Speaker 1: Oh, thank you for listening to the science, my darling over.

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Speaker 2: When I spent with my boyfriend about my concerns above,

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Speaker 1: Oh so he had broke up with you? Yikes.

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Speaker 2: That was the last time I've seen him in person.

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Speaker 2: This is how this man dealt with issues in our

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Speaker 2: like all of the previous times. But I've packed up

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Speaker 2: I spoke with my mortgage broker and the housing developers.

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Speaker 2: I can't afford the original townhouse I fell in love with,

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Speaker 2: three days before my birthday. Last month, I have just

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Speaker 1: We love a queen glowing up. Yeah, we love an

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Speaker 1: I'm saying with Lotter and I'm John fro Starters on

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Speaker 2: So Sam, I personally have a strong opinion on this,

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Speaker 1: That strong opinion. Schorartzenegger of Opinions, Say again, Arnold Schwartzenegger

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Speaker 1: of Opinions, because he's so strong.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I actually have to pause now because I do

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Speaker 2: have a story that you made me just think of

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Speaker 2: very quickly. I moved to LA and I wanted to

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Speaker 1: I want to be like I'm getting my coffee exactly

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Speaker 2: I hadn't seen really like a famous person in a

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Speaker 1: Good morning, you know what, dude, Yeah, good morning. Like

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm not, I don't. I don't think I'm

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Speaker 2: So I'm leaving Venice Beach right and then uh, some

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Speaker 1: Give me like Arnold. It was Arnold Szenegger. Bro, I

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Speaker 1: have seen Arnold Schorzenegger on that same bike path. Really,

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Speaker 2: They had a whole like it was this big like

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Speaker 1: And what's it like a documentary? So he was literally shot.

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Speaker 2: He was literally riding a bike, bro, Like there was

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Speaker 1: But we're always being filmed. We locked, we had eye contacts. Hey, Arnold, Look,

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Speaker 1: I was so stunned. I was just like and I

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Speaker 1: there first time. That was my first time. I was

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Speaker 1: so pissed through. Wow, I'm so pissed at it.

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Speaker 2: I basically moved here right before COVID, so it's been

436
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Speaker 2: like two years essentially, and like, yeah, but but.

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Speaker 1: Dude, Arnold start a great one. That's a big one.

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Speaker 1: That's also like a really nice guy too. Oh really yeah,

439
00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:06,000
Speaker 1: like now he is apparently I don't think he was nice,

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Speaker 1: like to his estranged children. Everyone's like, yeah, cool, Well anyways,

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Speaker 1: that completely derailed my my. Oh but I'll quick I'll

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Speaker 1: quickly do it. What's your what's your opinion on splitting

443
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Speaker 1: the bill? Sam? How do we do this? I think

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Speaker 1: unless you're like taking someone out, just split the bill, agreed.

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Speaker 1: I I like, if your girl wants to go to dinner,

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Speaker 1: I'm down to go out to dinner, but let's put

447
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Speaker 1: the bill.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's it's it just makes perfect sense to me,

449
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Speaker 2: Like we split the bill. And I also liked it.

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Speaker 2: Like when I was dating on the second date, I

451
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Speaker 2: would make it clear. I would be like, hey, like

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Speaker 2: I like to split the bill because not because like

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Speaker 2: I mind so much paying every time, but more so

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Speaker 2: like I want to have someone in that mindset It's

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Speaker 2: almost like a like a qualifier essentially, like if someone's

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Speaker 2: just like, oh, okay, like just expecting me to pay,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, it's not hit the road.

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Speaker 1: Hit the road, yeah the road, jack and don't come back.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no mo no ma. But you know what,

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Speaker 2: we do have more of this freaking story. I'm about

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Speaker 2: your aid. Here we go.

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Speaker 1: I will never split the bill with my husband at

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Speaker 1: a restaurant, am I? They hole sounds like it sounds

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Speaker 1: like it sounds like it. But let me withhold judgment.

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Speaker 2: Let's let the people of the internet's decide your fate. Yes,

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Speaker 2: that title sounds bad. Yeah, I know, but I'll let

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Speaker 2: you decide who is in the wrong here, Okay, okay.

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Speaker 2: To begin with, my husband and I do not share finances.

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Speaker 2: It's been like this for three years of our marriage,

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Speaker 2: and so far we're doing pretty well.

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Speaker 1: Though. He'd sometimes try to get me to pay for him,

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Speaker 1: but I do it only when I want to do

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Speaker 1: a nice thing for him, say, invite him to a restaurant.

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Speaker 1: This past week, he got a bonus at work. Oh baby,

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Speaker 1: that money, No baby, that's right.

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Speaker 2: He was overjoyed, and he informed his entire family and

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Speaker 2: planned for them to go out and celebrate with us.

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Speaker 2: He picked the restaurant, meals, drinks, et cetera. I naturally

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Speaker 2: thought he was going to pay for it all.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Bro, that's the point of the money you got.

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Speaker 1: If you're getting a bonus, you better treat your.

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Speaker 2: Fam exactly, like exactly. I mean, it only made sense.

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Speaker 2: This was his happy celebration for his raise.

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Speaker 1: But wait, wait, really really quick story on that. One

485
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Speaker 1: of my friends raised a bunch of money and he's like, yo,

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Speaker 1: let's go out to celebrate and uh and I'm like sure,

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Speaker 1: And it was just us did didn't didn't didn't even

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Speaker 1: pay for one drink. They pay for everything. Huh, you

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Speaker 1: paid for everything. We split the bell and I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna buy me a drink and just raised like

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Speaker 1: twenty million bucks. No, you can't afford seventeen. It's you know,

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Speaker 1: you know, we split the bill. That's what we do.

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Speaker 1: I'm not salty about it. I'm salty. Yeah I would too.

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Speaker 2: I'd be like, damn it, no, you're paying for this, motherfucker.

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Speaker 2: But it turns out I was wrong because when it

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Speaker 2: was time to pay the bill, he told me to

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Speaker 2: quote take care of it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's ridiculous. That's ridiculous. You got the bonus, you

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Speaker 1: got the bonus. You're asking your wife to take care

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Speaker 1: of the ship, and you plan the whole thing.

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Speaker 2: It'll be one thing if like the wife is like,

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Speaker 2: you just got a bonus, I'm organizing an entire party.

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Speaker 2: I'm inviting everyone planning, then it's like a little bit

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Speaker 2: more expected.

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Speaker 1: But nah, dude, you can't plan a whole party and

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Speaker 1: expect people who are invit, like one person who is

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Speaker 1: invited to pay for pay the bill. No, that's not

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Speaker 1: how it. I said, why, yeah, exactly why. It's his

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Speaker 1: sole lebration, not mine. But he insisted I pay for

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Speaker 1: it and he'll explain later. What does that mean that?

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Speaker 1: It sounds like you don't have an explanation, man, that

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Speaker 1: sounds like you're trying to come up desperately.

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Speaker 2: You're buying some time there. You're moving your court day

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Speaker 2: back a little bit. Skia I refused and demanded an explanation.

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Speaker 2: He said that while yes, he is the one who

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Speaker 2: got the bonus, but he'd assumed that I'd want to

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Speaker 2: celebrate that and offer to cover the bill.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't make any sense. My man got money. My

519
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:41,119
Speaker 1: man got money, he got richer. The whole point was

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Speaker 1: you having more money. Yeah, yeah, so we're gonna celebrate

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Speaker 1: you having more money by me spending that money and

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Speaker 1: having less money. Yeah. This isn't your birthday.

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Speaker 2: This isn't like you just accomplished some goal, no other

524
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Speaker 2: than non monetary goal.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, come on, climb a rock or something. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: When I talked about how ridiculous it was of him

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Speaker 2: to assume I'd pay for not just his but his

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Speaker 2: family's meal Hamlely's meal, his family's meals. Dude, that's like

529
00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:16,679
Speaker 2: a thousand bucks, he said that I should be happy

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Speaker 2: for him instead of getting visibly bitter.

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Speaker 1: Bro, pay for your own shit, pay for your food,

532
00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:27,200
Speaker 1: my goud or have everyone pay for their own stuff,

533
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:29,880
Speaker 1: like here we go, that's fine too.

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Speaker 2: Split it just split the bill. It's called venmo buddy,

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00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:40,320
Speaker 2: hashtag venmo sponsorous. He then said he's yet to receive

536
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:44,119
Speaker 2: his bonus and begged that I take care of the

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00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:48,160
Speaker 2: bill now and he might consider paying me back at

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Speaker 2: a later dates.

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Speaker 1: Might also, is this happening at the dinner table? Like

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Speaker 1: like the check coms? Like, baby, you're paying for this right,

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Speaker 1: Dude's like uh, no, it's like, please please pay for.

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00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:02,440
Speaker 2: Its Like, bro, that poor waiter, Like that's way worse

543
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Speaker 2: than the fight to pay for it.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god.

545
00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:11,040
Speaker 2: I refused and only paid for what I consumed. Him

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00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:15,359
Speaker 2: and his family started talking about how inappropriate I was acting.

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00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:19,600
Speaker 1: This baffles me. This baffles me.

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00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 2: Completed, I took my purse and went home afterwards because

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00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:27,600
Speaker 2: there was so much commotion. Oh dude, OP just left,

550
00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:32,439
Speaker 2: just up and the daddled ah, because there was so

551
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:35,480
Speaker 2: much commotion when they started arguing over who's going to

552
00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:38,000
Speaker 2: cover the bill? Oh my god, So now she leaves

553
00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 2: and then everyone else is like, all right, now, who's

554
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:41,040
Speaker 2: going to pay for it?

555
00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:44,040
Speaker 1: Dude? This is so dysfun. Oh my god.

556
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:48,400
Speaker 2: His mom spam called me for hours. He went off

557
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 2: on He went off on me at home, saying that

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Speaker 2: I spoiled his celebration and joy because I'm feeling bitter,

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Speaker 2: especially considering I had enough money to cover the bill

560
00:28:59,160 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 2: right then.

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00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:05,200
Speaker 1: In the hair, Dude, I sent a divorce coming for real.

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00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:08,520
Speaker 2: I said it was not my obligation and he was

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Speaker 2: the one who came up with the celebration idea. He

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00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:13,479
Speaker 2: argued that if the roles were reversed, and I got

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Speaker 2: a bonus. He'd celebrate me and my achievements and pay

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Speaker 2: for the dang meals after taking me and my family out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah right, bro, Yeah, I don't believe that in the

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Speaker 1: slightest not no, no, nothing.

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Speaker 2: It would be like, nice bonus, you have enough money

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Speaker 2: to pay for.

571
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:35,960
Speaker 1: But next time, you cover me when I get money.

572
00:29:35,960 --> 00:29:37,960
Speaker 1: But if you get money, you cover us. That's that's it.

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00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:43,479
Speaker 2: I casually said, well, that's just you, not me. He

574
00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 2: got even more pissed and said that he had had

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Speaker 2: it with my juvenile antics and that he won't ever

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Speaker 2: forget the scene I made at the restaurant in front

577
00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:54,840
Speaker 2: of his family.

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Speaker 1: Juvenile antics? Are you kidding me? You're the one being

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Speaker 1: a child for your own ship. God, I'm gonna buy

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00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:07,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna buy you some diapers. Yeah, don't worry. I'll

581
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:10,400
Speaker 1: cover the diapers. Yeah I will. We don't have to

582
00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 1: split the diapers. I will buy it one hundred for you.

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00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 2: I'm pulling up with it depends. At this point, he's

584
00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:21,320
Speaker 2: been upset with me four days and there is an update.

585
00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 1: Oh, what's the update? Divorce? Divorce? Divorce? Wow?

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00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:28,720
Speaker 2: Too many responses here from you guys and I'm seeing

587
00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 2: a variety of judgments, really, a variety.

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Speaker 1: A variety. I guess some people are on a side.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what.

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Speaker 2: Just so you know, my husband just got home and

591
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Speaker 2: I'm going to show him these responses right now.

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Speaker 1: I'll update with an opinion soon. Oh my god, Wait,

593
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 1: what's the husband? Good is that second updates? Oh? God, surprise,

594
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:50,760
Speaker 1: we just got into an argument. Yeah, no, no surprise there.

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00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 1: I showed him what.

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00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:55,600
Speaker 2: I posted, and he lost it on me. I accept

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00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 2: what everyone said about me, but he will not. He said,

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00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 2: and I quote, these people have no idea and said

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00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:07,480
Speaker 2: that I should have mentioned that I make more money

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Speaker 2: than him, not that much more, and I don't think

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Speaker 2: it justifies it.

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00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 1: It doesn't.

603
00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:15,040
Speaker 2: And that he had paid the bill for me in

604
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:17,920
Speaker 2: the past when I forgot my wallet, but I.

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00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:22,520
Speaker 1: Paid him back. That doesn't count. Bro doesn't count at all.

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00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:24,080
Speaker 1: He's pretty pissed right now.

607
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:28,120
Speaker 2: Though he kept laughing sarcastically when reading some of the comments.

608
00:31:28,480 --> 00:31:30,240
Speaker 2: He just walked out of the kitchen to make a

609
00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:32,720
Speaker 2: phone call and said he'd be right back. I'm still

610
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:35,320
Speaker 2: here with the dog, waiting to see how this goes.

611
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:37,480
Speaker 2: I update if anything else happens.

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Speaker 1: Yo Opie's husband sucks. Yeah, this guy's this guy. This

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Speaker 1: guy's trash, big trash, big trash, big trash. But let

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Speaker 1: us know what you think about these people. And if

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