Speaker 1: Rooking jewels second day. You know, women are so hard
Speaker 1: to read sometimes because girls like a guy who is
Speaker 1: close with his family usually right, And then you end
Speaker 1: up living with your mom when you're twenty five years old,
Speaker 1: and then they judge you for it. You can't get
Speaker 1: that much closer with your family than living with him, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's the problem that Carter is having. Carter is on
Speaker 1: the phone to do a second date update right now.
Speaker 1: He emailed us about a girl named Lily. Carter thinks
Speaker 1: the fact that he lives with his mom might have
Speaker 1: turned literally off. Carter. How you doing, man? I'm doing
Speaker 1: all right? How are you guys? Good? First of all,
Speaker 1: I want to say I support your living situation. I
Speaker 1: lived with my parents when I was twenty five, delivering newspapers,
Speaker 1: killing it and and it was awesome. I had no
Speaker 1: problem with it. But I could see how a girl
Speaker 1: would be turned off by that. So that's why you
Speaker 1: think the girl is not calling you back today? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's my hunch. All right. Where did you meet her?
Speaker 1: First of all? I met her online online? All right?
Speaker 1: Did you tell her right away that you lived with
Speaker 1: her mom? Or did you did she have to come
Speaker 1: pick you up? Because you also don't have a car. No, No,
Speaker 1: I have a car. And I'd like to make it
Speaker 1: clear the only reason I'm living with my mom right
Speaker 1: now is because I'm saving up to my house. That's awesome, Carter,
Speaker 1: It's happening soon. So yes, I just need to save
Speaker 1: up some money. As you know, it's you know, is
Speaker 1: mom coming to live with you at the house when
Speaker 1: you buy it. Mom's making the down payment. He's just
Speaker 1: working up the mortgage. You guys, this day and age,
Speaker 1: lots of people have to move home at some point. Oh,
Speaker 1: I know, it's it's money. It's more common than you think. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but they all always say I'm saving money too. Yeah,
Speaker 1: tell us a little bit about your date. Okay, So well,
Speaker 1: I guess we're just meet at my house. And when
Speaker 1: she got there, like my mom basically opened the door,
Speaker 1: and you could tell she was like a little shot.
Speaker 1: I mean I was kind of standing behind my mom,
Speaker 1: but Lily was a little shocked, like, wow, am I
Speaker 1: at the right place? Who is this person? I'm picturing
Speaker 1: your mom answering the door in her bathrobe? Did she
Speaker 1: have no? No? No, no, she was not in her bathroom?
Speaker 1: All right? Yeah, you know she was just you know,
Speaker 1: normal stuff like whatever moms were, you know, whatever moms
Speaker 1: weans and stuff. But it was definitely awkward. I would
Speaker 1: have preferred to answer the door myself. I'm not trying
Speaker 1: to hide anything, but I just think it made it
Speaker 1: was like right off the bat, that was through like
Speaker 1: first impression of things. You know. But Carter, if you
Speaker 1: live with your mom, you should probably tell somebody that
Speaker 1: before they meet you at the house, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, like at least Warner. Hey, oh, I know,
Speaker 1: I just you know, I mean a part of me
Speaker 1: doesn't want to be judged for that, Like right off
Speaker 1: the bat. If I tell her that, she's gonna be
Speaker 1: like never mind. So your mom answered the door when
Speaker 1: she got to your house. Yeah, And of course my mom,
Speaker 1: you know, asked her a couple of questions, and it
Speaker 1: was kind of awkward. I mean, it wasn't terrible. It
Speaker 1: was just a little awkward because she felt like she
Speaker 1: was sixteen dating in high school all over again, being
Speaker 1: my mom. I mean, it's just like she's awesome, but
Speaker 1: she she just has questions of course. So but the
Speaker 1: date went really well, Like we went to a really
Speaker 1: nice dinner. We had great conversation. So why do you
Speaker 1: think your mom ruined it? If the date continued to
Speaker 1: go find I don't know. I don't think my mom
Speaker 1: ruined it. I think that the fact that I lived
Speaker 1: with my mom probably was for her was like a
Speaker 1: red flag. She probably you know, because there's like a
Speaker 1: stigma attached to it. It's like, Okay, he must be
Speaker 1: some bum who's unemployed, who you know, just never I
Speaker 1: don't know. Does she seem like it bothered her? Not really,
Speaker 1: at least not during dinner. I mean, like I said,
Speaker 1: we had a really great conversation. When we parted ways.
Speaker 1: There was a kiss, I mean or anything like steen
Speaker 1: he or anything, but it was a kiss. And I said,
Speaker 1: I'd like to see you again, and she said, yeah,
Speaker 1: that'd be great. So so you're just assuming the fact
Speaker 1: that you live with your mom was a deal breaker
Speaker 1: for her. Yeah. And I'm assuming that because I had
Speaker 1: texted her last week and she said, oh, I'm really
Speaker 1: busy this week, let's touch base. And then I've tried
Speaker 1: to touch base and I haven't heard back from her.
Speaker 1: Is there any way that you're like frugality spilled over
Speaker 1: into other parts of the date where you were like
Speaker 1: asking her to pay for everything. No, I mean, I
Speaker 1: definitely paid for the meal. Like I'm not a cheap person,
Speaker 1: but like I said, saving up for a house is expensive. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so it's it's taking a couple steps back to make
Speaker 1: a giant steps forward. You didn't have to come live
Speaker 1: with her, did you. I'm getting so tired of my
Speaker 1: mom being on my case. Can I come stay with you?
Speaker 1: All right? So nothing, nothing really strange to happen that
Speaker 1: you can think of. She's just not calling you back,
Speaker 1: and you're assuming that it's the fact that you live
Speaker 1: with your mom. Yeah, And then I guess a part
Speaker 1: of me like wants to let her know that, like
Speaker 1: I'm not just telling her that I'm, you know, looking
Speaker 1: for to buy a place, like I'm buying a place,
Speaker 1: like I'm closing on a place I should be closing for. Speak.
Speaker 1: Oh really, so you have a timeline, yeah, like it's
Speaker 1: happening soon. Okay, okay, okay, all right. You're very insistent
Speaker 1: on telling us that I hope you Yeah, I hope
Speaker 1: you didn't over you know, keep talking about it this
Speaker 1: much on the day, Like I promise I'm buying a place.
Speaker 1: I promise. Yeah, because you guys want copies of the papers,
Speaker 1: let me know. I'll fax them over to you. All right, man,
Speaker 1: well we'll play a song. Come back, call her and
Speaker 1: get your second date update. Okay, okay, all right, hold
Speaker 1: on looking jubil in the morning date. Carter is on
Speaker 1: the phone with us right now. He wants to call
Speaker 1: a girl named Lily. We think we know why she
Speaker 1: isn't calling him back. Carter lives at home with his
Speaker 1: mom for the moment. He's saving up to buy a house,
Speaker 1: but Lily came to meet him. His mom answered the
Speaker 1: door before he had a chance to explain that he
Speaker 1: lives with his mother, So we're thinking that that's probably
Speaker 1: the reason she's turned off. I don't know why it's
Speaker 1: a deal breaker. Like Lydia, the first couple of years
Speaker 1: you were on this show, you used to date a
Speaker 1: lot of guys that were like this that lived at
Speaker 1: home with her mom. Right, are you talking about me?
Speaker 1: Because I lived at home with us? Yeah, I had
Speaker 1: to move back after college. I lived there until I
Speaker 1: turn off for you, not immediately, But I do think
Speaker 1: that maybe you should have told her first, because first
Speaker 1: depressions are everything, especially when you meet people online. So
Speaker 1: it just might have put her off a little bit. Okay, Carter,
Speaker 1: are you about ready to give her a call? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I think so. All right, well I'm gonna give her
Speaker 1: a call right now. See we can get her on
Speaker 1: the phon and then get your second date update. Okay, okay, cool? Hello,
Speaker 1: Hi is Lily there. This is Lily. How are you.
Speaker 1: This is Jewel from Brook and Jewil in the Morning.
Speaker 1: Do you have a second to talk Jewbil from Brook
Speaker 1: and Jewil in the Morning. We're a morning radio program. Okay,
Speaker 1: you should check us out sometime, it'd be cool. Okay, listen.
Speaker 1: The reason that we're calling you, I know it's kind
Speaker 1: of strange, is that you recently went out on a
Speaker 1: date with one of our listeners. His name is Carter.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, Okay. Carter emailed us because he really liked
Speaker 1: you and would love to see you again, but unfortunately
Speaker 1: you haven't been calling him back, so he asked us
Speaker 1: to call and see if we could find out why. Um,
Speaker 1: isn't I think that's a little personal, don't you think? Well?
Speaker 1: I mean it might be, but he's the one that
Speaker 1: wants us to call you. Okay, is there a specific
Speaker 1: reason that you're not calling Carter back, Well, I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't know, So you just don't know. You have
Speaker 1: no idea why you're not calling him back just so
Speaker 1: you'd like to see him again. Wow, So no, you
Speaker 1: wouldn't like to see him again. Well, he's kind of
Speaker 1: a mama's boy. I knew, I know it. Okay, Yeah, Lily,
Speaker 1: we talked to Carter about your date, and he told
Speaker 1: us that he lives with his mom, and he thought
Speaker 1: maybe that was the reason you weren't calling him back.
Speaker 1: Was it shocking to open the door and have his
Speaker 1: mom standing there? Well? Yeah, and he's standing behind her
Speaker 1: like you know, yeah, all right. He admitted that he
Speaker 1: probably should have told you beforehand if you were coming
Speaker 1: over his house that he lives with his mom. Did
Speaker 1: he tell you why he lives with his parents right now?
Speaker 1: He briefly talked about that he was saving money and
Speaker 1: stuff like that. But yeah, he's saving up to buy
Speaker 1: a house. Yeah, but it wasn't just that he lived
Speaker 1: with his mom. Did he talk about her a bunch
Speaker 1: or something? I mean, when you when you say mom's boy,
Speaker 1: that's what that makes me think. He's like, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, we're at his house and I need
Speaker 1: his mother. Okay, awkward first date and we're about to
Speaker 1: leave and Carter's mom goes, honey, can you drop me
Speaker 1: at a friend's house? And he said, and he said, yes,
Speaker 1: it's on the way. And that's are you saying? He
Speaker 1: gave his mom a ride somewhere. Yes, and it was
Speaker 1: even worse than he put me in the backseats? No,
Speaker 1: you didn't even get to ride shot. Well, of course not.
Speaker 1: That's his mom. Come on, so he boundaries there that
Speaker 1: are obviously a problem. Okay, so he actually gave his
Speaker 1: mom a ride somewhere. Yeah, before our dates. So he
Speaker 1: gives his mom a ride and we are dropped her
Speaker 1: off whenever and this is probably the kicker from me
Speaker 1: right here. Mom leaned over and they kissed on the
Speaker 1: mouth when they said good bye, and that I mean tepsis. Well,
Speaker 1: oh I don't gross, no way. Yeah, so all right,
Speaker 1: so he's definitely a mom's boy. Then, wow, all right.
Speaker 1: He didn't mention that he gave his mom a ride.
Speaker 1: He just said that you met his mom and he
Speaker 1: thought that might have been awkward for you. No, I
Speaker 1: think putting me in the backseat on their first date
Speaker 1: and then giving his mom a kiss goodbye on the mouth.
Speaker 1: I mean they's been kidding me. Come on, all right, Lily,
Speaker 1: At this point I should tell you that Carter is
Speaker 1: actually on the phone and has been listening this entire time.
Speaker 1: Hope play not his mom too. I honestly don't understand
Speaker 1: what the big deal is. I'm saving up to buy
Speaker 1: a house for one To give my mom who gave
Speaker 1: birth to me a ride somewhere seems like too much
Speaker 1: to ask. But on a first date, Carter, give me
Speaker 1: a break? Weird? What am I supposed to do is say, hey, mom, listen.
Speaker 1: Oh no, I don't think she feels comfortable with this.
Speaker 1: Can you just call a cab? That's ridiculous. No, But
Speaker 1: I mean I'm sure you told your mother we were
Speaker 1: around it going on a date, a first date? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I did. But I also felt like I was going
Speaker 1: on a date with somebody who might be a little
Speaker 1: bit more understanding than this, because this seems like you're
Speaker 1: coming across as really what would you What would you
Speaker 1: do if your dad or your mom asked for a ride?
Speaker 1: Oh no, Kate, No, I mean that's going on a
Speaker 1: date for the first time with someone. I'm not going
Speaker 1: to be driving my parents around my mother around you
Speaker 1: will you would you would tell your parents who is
Speaker 1: what would happen? I would just tell them, No, I'm
Speaker 1: going on a first date. I'm busy. I can't do
Speaker 1: anything for you. I'm sorry. Well, I guess I'm a
Speaker 1: better son than you are. I find that ridiculous to
Speaker 1: put some of these that I'm going out with once
Speaker 1: out of my mom. That's not going to happen. Hey, Carter,
Speaker 1: you don't think it's a little weird though, to give
Speaker 1: your mom a ride somewhere on your date. Absolutely not.
Speaker 1: But why couldn't like her friend come pick her up? Carter?
Speaker 1: I mean, there's other solutions, right, I just don't think
Speaker 1: it's that to give a deal to give my mom
Speaker 1: a ride. She's letting me live with her. It was
Speaker 1: also on the way to the restaurant. It's not like
Speaker 1: I was driving thirty minutes out of the way. It
Speaker 1: wasn't even an inconvenience. Okay, really, did you at least
Speaker 1: like his mother? You know, I was a little weirded
Speaker 1: out first, and I'm in the back seat. Then he
Speaker 1: kisses his mom on the mouth goodbye. I don't know
Speaker 1: that's date, Listen, that's my mom. Okay, he gave birth
Speaker 1: to me. I'm going to tell her to no. Hey,
Speaker 1: please give me kiss on a cheek. Yeah, I would, Carter.
Speaker 1: If my mom was trying to kiss me on the mouth,
Speaker 1: I'd shove her off me so quick that it's disgusting.
Speaker 1: Who cares, pervert? Don't kiss me on the lips. You're
Speaker 1: you're my mom. Get off of me. Hey, Lily, I
Speaker 1: would love to ask you if you'll go on a
Speaker 1: second date with Carter. We will pay for it. Would
Speaker 1: you like to go out with him again? Just him,
Speaker 1: not his mom? Honestly, at this point, I'm really not interested.
Speaker 1: I thought that she was somebody who she's not, so
Speaker 1: I'm not interested at all. Thank you guys for helping me,
Speaker 1: but I'm not. I don't want to go on Carter.
Speaker 1: You want me to send you out on a date
Speaker 1: with mommy, I'll pay for that. He'd probably be a
Speaker 1: better time than Lily would say. Better kiss her, you
Speaker 1: get more action in the morning.