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Speaker 1: Advice. Hellolololo Allo. It's Robshooter from the Naughty but Nice Podcast,

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Speaker 1: and we're here today to do a special bonus edition,

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Speaker 1: our weekend edition of our show. So as well as

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Speaker 1: being a columnist, a reporter, a columnist, I'm also a

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Speaker 1: best selling author, and today our show is going to

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Speaker 1: focus on that. Just for ten minutes or so, We're

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Speaker 1: going to jump into a subject that I think we

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Speaker 1: all need to talk about think about much more often,

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Speaker 1: which is who is the most important person in your life?

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Speaker 1: Let me cut to the chase and give you the answer.

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Speaker 1: It's you. It's impossible to treat anyone else like they

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Speaker 1: are important until you believe that you are are important.

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Speaker 1: Only when you value yourself can you understand that your

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Speaker 1: opinions actually do matter the most. Nobody else is yours.

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Speaker 1: Once you know how important your opinions are, you're going

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Speaker 1: to be much more careful sharing them with yourself and others.

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Speaker 1: Start talking to yourself like you are the most important

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Speaker 1: person in your life because you are. I wish this

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Speaker 1: is a gift I could give out or wrapped up

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Speaker 1: in a beautiful red bow, handed out to people on

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Speaker 1: their birthdays and holidays, But that is not how this works.

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Speaker 1: Believing that you are important has to start with you,

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Speaker 1: nobody else. I can't give you this as a gift.

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Speaker 1: I can't give it anybody else as a gift. But

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Speaker 1: I can give it to myself and so you. And

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Speaker 1: this actually is not such a bad thing because it

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Speaker 1: puts the power into your hands rather than anybody else's.

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Speaker 1: You and only you can walk the long, lonely road

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Speaker 1: to success. It is a lonely road because you, my friends,

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Speaker 1: have to do it just like me, by yourself. Beyonce

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Speaker 1: said the following quote. Your self worth is determined by you.

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Speaker 1: You don't have to depend on someone else telling you

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Speaker 1: who you are. Truth. I started this journey feeling about

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Speaker 1: as worthless as anybody possibly could feel, but step after step,

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Speaker 1: reminding myself along the way, somewhat unconvincingly at first that

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Speaker 1: I mattered led me to a better place. I realized

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Speaker 1: that I was running a marathon that would ultimately take

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Speaker 1: a lifetime to finish. Because learning that you are important

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Speaker 1: isn't easy. For years, we've been taught the opposite. I know.

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Speaker 1: I had to the point where most of us feel

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Speaker 1: like it is selfish to put ourselves first. This is

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Speaker 1: a bad habit, that's all. It is a bad habit.

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Speaker 1: It's not the truth. It's a bad habit that we

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Speaker 1: all need to break, because the truth is that each

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Speaker 1: and every one of us is important enough to do

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Speaker 1: whatever it takes to take care of ourselves. The Ola

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Speaker 1: Davis said quote, we are usually caretakers of everyone except

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Speaker 1: for ourselves. If I didn't take care of myself and

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Speaker 1: I'm taking care of my daughters or my husband, then

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Speaker 1: I'm running on fumes. I have nothing left, nothing left

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Speaker 1: to give. But when I take the time to take

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Speaker 1: care of myself, I feel like I can face life

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Speaker 1: with a renewed vigor and nude passion. Here here Veola.

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Speaker 1: When you live your life like you are the most

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Speaker 1: important person in it, guilty pleasures vanish pof you will

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Speaker 1: never feel guilty or embarrassed ever again to do something

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Speaker 1: that you really enjoy. Imagine valuing yourself so much that

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Speaker 1: you never need to apologize for who you are ever again,

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Speaker 1: understanding that you never had anything to be sorry for.

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Speaker 1: Once you believe that you are important, you will be

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Speaker 1: free to do the things that bring you pleasure more often,

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Speaker 1: postponing even the smallest of things that make you happy

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Speaker 1: will be a thing of the past. It is not

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Speaker 1: arrogant and it is not selfish to know that you

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Speaker 1: are the most important person in your life. This does

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Speaker 1: not diminish the importance of all the other people with

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Speaker 1: whom we share our lives, including family, friends, co workers,

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Speaker 1: and even pets. They're important, but you are more important.

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Speaker 1: In order for you to treat others with the care

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Speaker 1: and respect that they deserve, you have to start caring

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Speaker 1: and respecting yourself first. Remember that loving others is a choice, However,

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Speaker 1: it's not an option when it comes to loving yourself.

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Speaker 1: Acknowledging that you are the most important person in your

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Speaker 1: life is the ultimate selfless act. You owe it to

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Speaker 1: yourself to breathe, relax, and take the time to remember

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Speaker 1: that you are important. No one can make you feel

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Speaker 1: unimportant without your consent to stop allowing unimportant people to

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Speaker 1: make you feel unimportant. You are the boss of your life,

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Speaker 1: so be the boss you always is wanted to have.

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Speaker 1: This begins with taking responsibility for each and every decision

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Speaker 1: every day that you make and being the important force

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Speaker 1: of good in your life and the lives of others.

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Speaker 1: You're much further along on this journey than you think,

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Speaker 1: I promise you, and the Finnish line is not as

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Speaker 1: far away as what you might imagine. You can do

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Speaker 1: this because you are important. Harrison Forward said quote, May

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Speaker 1: the Force be with you is charming, but it's not important.

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Speaker 1: What's important is that you become the force for yourself

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Speaker 1: and for other people. The most important person in your

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Speaker 1: life is you. Hey, thank you so much for listening

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Speaker 1: to these little bonus editions of the podcast that we

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Speaker 1: do on the weekends. I've got to say, the numbers

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Speaker 1: are staggering. We do really well during the week and

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Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for it. To be able to bring

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Speaker 1: you celebrity ossip Monday to Friday is one of the

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Speaker 1: joys of my life. However, these special podcasts we've really

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Speaker 1: hid a nerve. I know by the response by the

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Speaker 1: numbers of people that are listening that we're really really

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Speaker 1: onto something here. So I'm going to keep doing them.

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Speaker 1: As long as you keep listening, share it with your friends.

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Speaker 1: Hopefully this will make a difference in their life too,

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Speaker 1: as it has in mine. And remember all sing along.

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Speaker 1: If you're going to be naughty, you've got to be nice.

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Speaker 1: See you Monday. It's not even nice with rah