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Speaker 6: Just think of all the precious time and energy that
Speaker 6: you waste at the start of dating someone new. Oh yeah,
Speaker 6: the hours of over analyzing every text, the deep dives
Speaker 6: into their social media wondering do they like me?
Speaker 5: Do I like them?
Speaker 6: Is it weird to kiss them now? Or should I
Speaker 6: wait till after her parents leave? There's so much confusion
Speaker 6: and headache. But what if there was a way to
Speaker 6: skip all the awkward parts of early dating. Because one
Speaker 6: of our listeners says he found a revolutionary new way
Speaker 6: to handle a brand new love interest that jumps right
Speaker 6: to the good stuff, and he's about to pitch his
Speaker 6: strategy while we try to help make it happen. Okay,
Speaker 6: it's coming up in a brand new awkward Thursday phone
Speaker 6: call right after.
Speaker 5: This It's awkward, It's Thursday. It's awkward Thursday phone call.
Speaker 6: I know everybody seems to complain about the state of
Speaker 6: modern dating, that it's two competitive standards are unrealistic. Alexis's
Speaker 6: mom is getting all the matches, leaving nothing for anyone else,
Speaker 6: including her, so it's definitely bleak, and what's a person
Speaker 6: to do.
Speaker 5: Well.
Speaker 6: We have a listener named Scott who's identified a person
Speaker 6: of interest for himself. Okay, but as a different idea
Speaker 6: on how the whole dating thing should work.
Speaker 5: In his mind didn't go into a.
Speaker 6: Lot of detail in his email about it, but I'm
Speaker 6: interested to talk to him and hopefully help him with it.
Speaker 5: So Scott, welcome to the show man.
Speaker 7: Hey, how you guys doing.
Speaker 1: I'm so curious this person of interest.
Speaker 2: Is it someone you know in life or is it
Speaker 2: someone you found online?
Speaker 7: Irl in real life? And yes, she's great.
Speaker 6: Okay, all right, we'll get to the new way that
Speaker 6: you think dating should work in just a second, But
Speaker 6: let's start with the girl.
Speaker 5: Who is she tell us about her?
Speaker 7: Yeah, her name is Nicole, She's awesome. Met in a
Speaker 7: like a running club. Yeah, I go to this running
Speaker 7: club on Saturday mornings, and so I brought my dog
Speaker 7: and it was the first time that I ever noticed Nicole.
Speaker 7: But she came up to the dog. If Sally is her.
Speaker 1: Name, Sally's the dogs.
Speaker 7: The dog's name is Sally. Nicole is the actual human
Speaker 7: being and she doesn't have a dog, and so we
Speaker 7: kind of hit it off.
Speaker 2: It's weird that we're doing this in an awkward Thursday
Speaker 2: and not just doing a second date update.
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, well, I mean I haven't had a date
Speaker 7: with her yet.
Speaker 1: That hasn't stopped other people.
Speaker 5: Yes, well, what's holding you back from going out on
Speaker 5: the date?
Speaker 7: Yeah, well, I mean, first off, we haven't had any
Speaker 7: time to schedule anything yet. We're both really busy, okay,
Speaker 7: and so we talked over the phone like three to
Speaker 7: four times.
Speaker 8: Though, oh my.
Speaker 9: God, okay, how long do you talk for that's important?
Speaker 7: Like an hour or so?
Speaker 9: Wow?
Speaker 1: Panic right now, it couldn't be me.
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's really really great, Like we don't want to
Speaker 7: hang up and.
Speaker 1: Oh that's cute.
Speaker 5: That's a good sign.
Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like this is a good start
Speaker 2: to a relationship, and it would be natural for you
Speaker 2: to just ask her.
Speaker 1: Out at this point.
Speaker 7: I mean I have asked her out and she said yes,
Speaker 7: we just haven't had the time yet.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 7: Well, like I kind of want to do it a
Speaker 7: little differently though, I want to frame it in a way,
Speaker 7: and I don't know how to approach that.
Speaker 1: You want to do the date itself differently kind.
Speaker 7: Of, okay, Like we've talked on the phone three or
Speaker 7: four times. I saw in person and we.
Speaker 8: Like each other.
Speaker 7: So when I when I see her in person, I
Speaker 7: kind of want to picture something.
Speaker 6: Okay, on your date, And this is what ties into
Speaker 6: what you said in your email that you have a
Speaker 6: different idea for how the dating process should work exactly.
Speaker 7: I have a friend who's tried something before and he
Speaker 7: said it works great. He says, it's called a trial
Speaker 7: relationship mode.
Speaker 5: Trial relationship.
Speaker 7: Yeah, So you like, you go on a date with
Speaker 7: somebody and you don't hear from them. That sucks, right,
Speaker 7: Or you go on a date with someone and you
Speaker 7: don't know if they're hooking up with someone else, that
Speaker 7: sucks too.
Speaker 5: Okay, that's how normal dating works.
Speaker 7: Right, right, But in a trial relationship mode, if you
Speaker 7: think that you have a good thing going, you can
Speaker 7: try it out for thirty days. I can try out
Speaker 7: the relationship for thirty days.
Speaker 9: Like just focusing on each other, going on other dates kind.
Speaker 7: Of thing, right, So, like I don't have to go
Speaker 7: on multiple dates with other people. No, I can just
Speaker 7: focus on Nicole.
Speaker 6: So you're trying to get her to subscribe for a
Speaker 6: thirty day period to just dating you.
Speaker 1: Alone exclusive membership, Yes, yes.
Speaker 5: And if she can re up the subscription.
Speaker 1: If she forgets about the subscription, and then there's.
Speaker 3: Her auto charging is just one of those things where
Speaker 3: you'll save money if you just commit to.
Speaker 9: The whole year.
Speaker 5: Yeah. Probably so that's what you're thinking.
Speaker 7: I mean, yeah, when you put it that way, it's
Speaker 7: kind of weird. I don't want to waste my time
Speaker 7: if I like her. I like her and I want
Speaker 7: to see if it works. We've had so many, so
Speaker 7: many hours the conversation here that it just feels like
Speaker 7: the natural step. But I don't know how to frame
Speaker 7: it properly.
Speaker 6: I mean, it's definitely unique. I haven't heard that before.
Speaker 6: But I'm curious to ask everyone in the room if
Speaker 6: this idea was pitched to you by someone you were
Speaker 6: interested in, you want to do a thirty day trial,
Speaker 6: SESSH would you be open to it?
Speaker 9: If I really liked him?
Speaker 4: That's a month, so you barely google them three days
Speaker 4: in a month anyways, Probably.
Speaker 6: With the H if you remember you've only met him once,
Speaker 6: you talk to him on the phone a couple of
Speaker 6: times and that's gone okay.
Speaker 4: Well, does she have to agree to hang out him
Speaker 4: like every day this month or it's just like they
Speaker 4: don't hang out four times.
Speaker 7: Look, there's no kind of set rules. If it meshes
Speaker 7: well in mesh as well, it.
Speaker 3: Does I feel like you should tie out for thirty
Speaker 3: days or you don't mess anything up.
Speaker 6: But I do feel like there should be a consequence
Speaker 6: if she breaks her contract to the thirty days, there
Speaker 6: should be a penalty.
Speaker 1: Okay, that makes it weird. That makes it weird.
Speaker 2: Well, then he just wants to be a thirty day boyfriend, right, Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's what we're working.
Speaker 1: With right here.
Speaker 6: Okay, And how do you pitch that to Nicole so
Speaker 6: that she's open to the idea.
Speaker 9: That's what we're doing today.
Speaker 1: I mean, here's the thing.
Speaker 2: You also don't want to make it sound so clinical, yeah, because.
Speaker 9: It doesn't sound like the flirty hard to get staged.
Speaker 7: Yeah, but I think there's a difference between what you're
Speaker 7: talking about and simply commitment uncertainty.
Speaker 10: Okay.
Speaker 1: I mean I don't disagree with you.
Speaker 2: I'm just saying that I feel like you want to
Speaker 2: make sure that she still knows she's going to get
Speaker 2: the fun part, right.
Speaker 6: Yeah, agreed, agreed, Okay, put that in the contract when
Speaker 6: she signs.
Speaker 2: It, must have fun once a week.
Speaker 5: We'll lay up the guidelines for her.
Speaker 9: I've never heard of this before, Like, are you worried?
Speaker 9: Are you with me here?
Speaker 3: If she's like, oh no, I'm more committed to another
Speaker 3: guy or something.
Speaker 7: Already not at all, because then I'll get to know
Speaker 7: all this stuff early.
Speaker 9: Okay, mature, I don't know what that's like.
Speaker 5: Let's try it.
Speaker 6: We'll have some advice for you when we come back
Speaker 6: and get you your thirty day girlfriend.
Speaker 2: Wow, it's really weird, sounds like a TLC show, but.
Speaker 6: It's perfect for your awkward Thursday phone call right after this.
Speaker 5: Hold on, it's awkward. It's Thursday. It's awkward Thursday phone call.
Speaker 6: We've been talking to Scott about his new idea for dating.
Speaker 6: It's very interesting, something we've never really heard of before,
Speaker 6: called trial relationship mode. Instead of taking it just one
Speaker 6: date at a time while also going out with multiple
Speaker 6: other people, engaging your interests with them, just cut out
Speaker 6: all the clutter and all the confusion and lock them
Speaker 6: into a thirty day trial relationship where you agree to
Speaker 6: focus solely on each other for one full month, and
Speaker 6: then if that goes well, just re up. Keep the
Speaker 6: subscription going though, because that's part of the trial is Yeah.
Speaker 5: Okay, sign up?
Speaker 9: Yeah, thank you.
Speaker 6: So Scott wants to pitch this idea to a woman
Speaker 6: he met recently named Nicole. They haven't even been out
Speaker 6: on a first date. Yet they've just talked over the
Speaker 6: phone and had a pretty good connection. But it is
Speaker 6: kind of a big leap to go from zero dates
Speaker 6: to where instant boyfriend girlfriend for a month? So how
Speaker 6: do we get Nicole to be open to that?
Speaker 5: This should be easy? Well, what's your advice?
Speaker 2: I actually kind of like this idea because I think
Speaker 2: that there's just too many options out there for people
Speaker 2: right now, and it just lets you focus. It's a
Speaker 2: good idea, but it can come across, like we talked
Speaker 2: about a little clinical, So I think that my advice
Speaker 2: is just all about your delivery. You need to keep
Speaker 2: the romance alive and keep it sexy, right, you got
Speaker 2: a sexy voice, sexy, you got a sexy voice over there?
Speaker 5: Try will you be my girlfriend in a sexy voice?
Speaker 5: Go for it?
Speaker 9: Come on?
Speaker 8: I mean, like, do we want something.
Speaker 1: Like this that's not bad?
Speaker 7: We're like a little low, a little gravelly better.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think that works.
Speaker 6: Alexis turned on right extremely, So whatever you're doing, it's
Speaker 6: clearly working.
Speaker 8: I don't know they don't do that.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, keep it in the lower volumes.
Speaker 5: But Jose, what's your advice?
Speaker 3: Well, this is like such a unique idea, So I
Speaker 3: think you need to highlight the positive of it, skipping
Speaker 3: the awkward stuff that would usually come up when you
Speaker 3: start dating someone.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 6: Now we're jumping straight into like being like cozy and
Speaker 6: comfortable with each other, then awkward and weird around each other.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And I'm sure if you say it, it becomes reality.
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's called manifesting.
Speaker 9: Is manifesting? Jeff?
Speaker 5: What do you think about that?
Speaker 7: Stop you? Yeah? High like the positives.
Speaker 8: That makes sense to me.
Speaker 1: In a sexy voice?
Speaker 7: Yes right, I mean in a in a sexy voice.
Speaker 5: There you go.
Speaker 9: We don't got to go on any day's girl.
Speaker 5: All right, he's locked into his voice right now. I
Speaker 5: don't want to get him off his game.
Speaker 6: So let's die on the call and we will step
Speaker 6: away and let you make your awkward Thursday phone call
Speaker 6: and then leave here in a relationship for the next
Speaker 6: thirty days.
Speaker 9: All wait, if we're on the phone, we don't need.
Speaker 1: Your sexy voice.
Speaker 7: Now.
Speaker 5: I'm kind of having fun with it and I want
Speaker 5: to play along. But okay, at the energy, I'm step away, Scott.
Speaker 5: Good luck you got this man? Here we go.
Speaker 7: Hello, Hey, Nicole, how you doing.
Speaker 10: Scott?
Speaker 7: Yeah? Hi, Sorry, I'm calling from work, so it's a
Speaker 7: different number.
Speaker 8: Okay, yeah, how you how you do it?
Speaker 10: I'm good. How's your take going?
Speaker 8: Pretty good?
Speaker 7: You know, I did want to like run something by you.
Speaker 10: Okay, what is it?
Speaker 7: Okay? Okay, here it is?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 11: So, like, don't you like hate it when like people
Speaker 11: start to date and it's super awkward in the beginning.
Speaker 11: It doesn't isn't terrible?
Speaker 10: I mean, yeah, it's definitely not the fun part.
Speaker 7: Yeah, totally.
Speaker 8: And so like I don't want it to suck.
Speaker 7: I don't I want it to be good.
Speaker 11: We've already had some great conversations, like we I think
Speaker 11: we click pretty well.
Speaker 8: I mean, you're not the answer that that's okay anyway.
Speaker 7: So I was, I was, I was talking to a
Speaker 7: buddy and he suggested.
Speaker 8: Something and I wanted to run it by you.
Speaker 10: Okay.
Speaker 7: So it's called a trial relationship mode, So it's basically
Speaker 7: instant exclusivity.
Speaker 10: Hold on, hold on, Like I haven't even been on
Speaker 10: a date with you yet.
Speaker 11: I know, but like we've talked for like hours on
Speaker 11: the phone and we've.
Speaker 7: Like hung out.
Speaker 8: I don't know, I thought it might be good to
Speaker 8: try this out.
Speaker 10: So you're asking me to skip all the awkward tough
Speaker 10: and just jump into a relationship with you.
Speaker 8: I don't know, doesn't that doesn't that sound awesome to you?
Speaker 10: I mean it's definitely different. I've never heard of it before.
Speaker 10: But yeah, the awkward stuff, I mean, it's it always sucks,
Speaker 10: So it wouldn't be bad to skip over that.
Speaker 7: Oh okay, Oh wow, you sound like you're interest.
Speaker 10: I mean, like, oh, that sounds really good. But hypothetically,
Speaker 10: what if I was in multiple situationships? Would I have
Speaker 10: to stop the.
Speaker 7: Multiple situationship?
Speaker 6: Yeah, well we'll get to that, Scott. We just first
Speaker 6: need to tell Nicole high.
Speaker 10: Morning.
Speaker 5: You're on the radio right now.
Speaker 3: Hi, Okay, situationships, we're all here.
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know when you think of us
Speaker 2: as like the big romantic gesture part you wanted a.
Speaker 9: Surprise, don't like that?
Speaker 1: So also don't think, yeah, we're.
Speaker 6: Skipping the awkwardness of dating with this segment called the
Speaker 6: Awkward Thursday Phone.
Speaker 7: This is even more awkward than I expected.
Speaker 6: Well, yes, we're getting all the awkwardness out of the
Speaker 6: way so that we could just jump right to the
Speaker 6: good part that thirty day trial relationship.
Speaker 7: I mean, okay, so like back to your situationship stuff
Speaker 7: like what do you what do you mean? Like? How many?
Speaker 7: I'm curious, what do you do?
Speaker 1: You need to know that?
Speaker 5: That's how many situationships does she have to break off
Speaker 5: to make this happen.
Speaker 10: I'm not gonna answer that, but it's probably more than
Speaker 10: you're thinking in your head.
Speaker 2: Okay, no, wonder you haven't had time to damn him?
Speaker 11: Oh yes, so this isn't hypothetical, this is like actual truth.
Speaker 11: You have a couple of situationships, at least a couple.
Speaker 10: Why didn't you were gonna call me and ask to
Speaker 10: be exclusive before first date?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's totally fair. That's totally fair.
Speaker 6: Yeah, but that just shows how strong he feels. The
Speaker 6: connection is right off the bat between you two, Nicole,
Speaker 6: And I'm sure if you reflect on all those other situationships,
Speaker 6: none of them have as sexy of a voice as
Speaker 6: Scott did.
Speaker 8: Oh my god, he does.
Speaker 10: That's a very sexy voice, yeah, said yea.
Speaker 9: The first two words were pretty good though.
Speaker 2: So if you were going away all these situationships out,
Speaker 2: would Scott be top of the list.
Speaker 10: I don't know. I've only met him in a dog one.
Speaker 9: Yeah, she knows these other guys way more than she
Speaker 9: knows him.
Speaker 7: No, I know, but have you had, like, have you
Speaker 7: had hours of conversation over the phone with these other
Speaker 7: people's person I don't know if the answer to this.
Speaker 10: I mean, I left one guy at my house this morning.
Speaker 10: He's still there.
Speaker 1: I mean she really trusts him.
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, yep, that's that's great. So maybe the trial
Speaker 7: relationship thing isn't for you for now. Maybe you got
Speaker 7: to like tighten some screws up and nip some things
Speaker 7: in the bud.
Speaker 1: First trial, free trial trial.
Speaker 7: Look, you know what, I'd even say, let's go on
Speaker 7: the first date, see how it works, and then if
Speaker 7: you're interested.
Speaker 2: No, now he's like coming back on his like original
Speaker 2: thirty day.
Speaker 5: How about we just date like normal.
Speaker 7: I just want to I just want to meet you
Speaker 7: in person and have like a proper date.
Speaker 9: Yeah, I have a new idea. Let's just have one
Speaker 9: meet up.
Speaker 1: Stick to your idea. Okay.
Speaker 2: Just because she has some situationships, I mean, here's the thing, Nicole,
Speaker 2: Obviously that's not working great for you because you haven't
Speaker 2: committed to one of them, so they're not all that wonderful, right,
Speaker 2: And this gives you thirty days to like, I don't know,
Speaker 2: do a cleanse.
Speaker 1: Think of it that way.
Speaker 2: You know, it's like if you try to what you're
Speaker 2: allergic to and you have to remove all the foods
Speaker 2: and tell you Adam back.
Speaker 6: In wait to make it sound sexy.
Speaker 10: Now, Just so funny that all mill are so interested
Speaker 10: in my dating life. Like, I did not expect this today.
Speaker 6: We know it's not something that's traditional that we've ever
Speaker 6: heard of before. It's brand new to us to a
Speaker 6: trial relationship thirty day period, but we thought it was
Speaker 6: interesting enough to bring it to your attention.
Speaker 1: We want you to do it so in thirty days
Speaker 1: we can get an update.
Speaker 5: Yeah, think about us.
Speaker 10: Yeah, that means I have to ditch all these other
Speaker 10: guys I put time into that.
Speaker 9: Well, you're honest, she's not cheating her trial.
Speaker 1: I mean it's just thirty days without him.
Speaker 5: You can always go back if the trial run doesn't
Speaker 5: go well.
Speaker 10: Yeah, I think I'm going to pass.
Speaker 1: Oh, this is why we're not in the sales department.
Speaker 9: Yeah, there's just too much fine print.
Speaker 1: Yeah you think so.
Speaker 3: Well, she can keep up with five guys have a
Speaker 3: good time, or stick to one.
Speaker 5: And just in case one sexy one. Oh yeah, with
Speaker 5: a hot Voice.
Speaker 8: It didn't turn out anywhere I expected.
Speaker 9: Same here. We were all confident.
Speaker 1: We let her think too much about it. That was
Speaker 1: the problem, you know, No.
Speaker 9: No, she's right, bros.
Speaker 2: As soon as you say I'll get back to you
Speaker 2: on it, then you know you're never going to get
Speaker 2: the deal done.
Speaker 6: And something you don't know, Nicole, is Scott ditched all
Speaker 6: of his situation ships just to make this phone call.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I had no situation.
Speaker 12: To help you, Brook and Jeffrey In the morning textan
Speaker 12: to seventy five ninety two, someone said I've heard of this,
Speaker 12: and I tried it myself actually and it worked.
Speaker 2: Oh.
Speaker 6: I had an incredible, drama free relationship with a guy
Speaker 6: for an entire month until his visa expired and had
Speaker 6: to go back to his wife and kids in Portugal.
Speaker 5: Goodness, Okay, but for that month.
Speaker 9: It was bliss.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I met the wife. Actually enjoyed that month too, from
Speaker 1: the sounds of that guy.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 6: But just because it didn't work this time for Scott,
Speaker 6: it doesn't mean a trial relationship wouldn't work for anybody ever.
Speaker 1: I just really want the update thirty days later. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm like disappointed that we're not going to get it
Speaker 1: from these two. Do you want someone else to do it?
Speaker 7: Sure? Yeah?
Speaker 1: First date first maybe, and then do it.
Speaker 6: Yeah, no dates, you're just talking about normal dating.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I like that we tried something new, something unique that
Speaker 6: we've never attempted before. Even if it failed spectacularly.
Speaker 1: Yah, as new things often do.
Speaker 5: It's kind of what we do.
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