Speaker 1: Hey, we're glad you got the podcast. We got a
Speaker 1: brand new episode today. It's Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning,
Speaker 1: and today is Awkward Tuesday. Yea on your Second Date
Speaker 1: Update podcast. And I just can't wait to see the
Speaker 1: comment section fill up with Bridezilla stories.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it's gonna be so many. This woman was unhinged.
Speaker 2: You're in for a treat. It's starting right now.
Speaker 3: It's awkward.
Speaker 2: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 3: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 3: I heard someone say being a bridesmaid is basically like
Speaker 3: being in a very expensive cult. What matching outfits one
Speaker 3: really strict leader, lots of emotional chanting, and you have
Speaker 3: to financially ruin yourself to prove your loyalty.
Speaker 2: That's a good play.
Speaker 3: I've personally never been one, but Alexis is that description relatively.
Speaker 2: In many cults? Yeah? Yeah, how much red kool aid?
Speaker 2: Did you drink too much?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 2: It was mixed with vodka.
Speaker 5: That's right.
Speaker 3: Okay, Now I'm probably missing a lot of the tears
Speaker 3: and the choreographed dances that come with it too, But
Speaker 3: you do get the general idea, because yes, it is
Speaker 3: an honor, but it can also be a challenge.
Speaker 2: It really depends on where the bride is.
Speaker 3: That's true.
Speaker 1: I mean honestly, because you can all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: now you're signed up all bachelotte party in another state
Speaker 1: or country.
Speaker 5: You don't know.
Speaker 3: It's different for every single person, and that's why our
Speaker 3: listener Shannon says she needs our help today with a
Speaker 3: bridesmaid situation. Shannon, Welcome to the show.
Speaker 2: Hi guys, are you Are you the bridesmaid? Shannon?
Speaker 6: I am one of the bridesmaids? Yeah, okay, okay, yeah,
Speaker 6: you know, I risked. I thought it was an honor,
Speaker 6: but now it's getting a little weird and a little stressful.
Speaker 2: Can we ask before we get into it? How you
Speaker 2: know the bride?
Speaker 6: So we've been friends for like ever, like since kindergarten. Oh.
Speaker 1: That's always one of those where you're like, are you
Speaker 1: still really that close or is it just you know,
Speaker 1: sometimes it can go either way.
Speaker 6: It's one of those we don't have to talk every day,
Speaker 6: we don't live in the same state anymore, but okay,
Speaker 6: we get together. It's like your time has passed.
Speaker 2: Yeah that's awesome.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's cool. So what's going on with the bride?
Speaker 6: So here's the thing. She recently got engaged to her
Speaker 6: boyfriend and she asked me to be a bridesmaid. Of
Speaker 6: course they said yes. So then a few days later
Speaker 6: I get this email and it has an attachment and
Speaker 6: it's a bridemaid contract contract.
Speaker 1: WHOA, that's business like or just like you're going to
Speaker 1: actually follow through and pay for this stuff.
Speaker 6: So it outlines all her expectations of being part of
Speaker 6: the wedding.
Speaker 1: Oh interesting, you know it probably came from somebody told her,
Speaker 1: like some advice somewhere, was like, lay out what your
Speaker 1: expectations are and then you won't have any drama.
Speaker 7: I've been sent a PowerPoint before, have you. Yeah, she's
Speaker 7: a teacher, so it's her thing on like nails and
Speaker 7: outfits and like what we expected.
Speaker 3: Yeah, when I heard that, I thought it was a joke,
Speaker 3: but that that's something that actually maybe a contract is.
Speaker 2: A little different than a powerful it. What did it say?
Speaker 6: So I actually have it in front of me. I'm
Speaker 6: going to read you some of these.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 6: One is attendance mandatory for all pre wedding events including
Speaker 6: dress fitting, bachelor party, bridal shower, and spontaneous gathering.
Speaker 2: Let's spontaneous. I mean that can't. That can't be you.
Speaker 2: You live in another state. There's no way you can.
Speaker 6: Make spontaneous like I can't be spontaneous. I'm I supposed
Speaker 6: to do that well by a.
Speaker 8: Flight last second.
Speaker 3: If you actually cared about her, then you would take it.
Speaker 2: I even think the dress fitting is ridiculous.
Speaker 6: Oh this is a good one too. Weight management must
Speaker 6: fit into dress, as is. No diet accordingly, no ya, no, yeah, okay.
Speaker 3: But that one I can kind of understand, because you
Speaker 3: want to look good in the photos right out of here,
Speaker 3: no one, no one, no one wants to photos.
Speaker 2: There's no way in before a wedding.
Speaker 3: Okay, Like I didn't get in your way in. I
Speaker 3: just must fit in your dress.
Speaker 6: No diet, diet of accordingly?
Speaker 3: Okay, Okay.
Speaker 8: Maybe that they'd crossed triggered me, Jeff, obviously, I'm afraid
Speaker 8: to even continue to ask if there's anything else, guys,
Speaker 8: Oh god, okay.
Speaker 6: Groom proximity, no flirting, joking or standing too close to
Speaker 6: the groom, no exception.
Speaker 3: Okay, you know what, now I have to draw the line.
Speaker 2: That's a weird thing that you would even have to
Speaker 2: say your best.
Speaker 3: Friends has he cheated or something?
Speaker 2: Yeah, is there history. I'm with Jose on that one.
Speaker 6: No, No, not not as far as I know. I
Speaker 6: know she has one of her bridesmaids is a little
Speaker 6: bit of let's say, maybe a trollop.
Speaker 3: So maybe that rule was specifically designed for that particular
Speaker 3: brides maybe.
Speaker 6: But here's the one that really irks me too. Financial commitment.
Speaker 6: You're expected to contribute a minimum of two thousand dollars
Speaker 6: towards the entire events, travels and gifts.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 6: And at the bottom it says to sign it and
Speaker 6: return within twenty four hours or else penalties would occur.
Speaker 1: This is got She's like, ha ha ha, No, I'm
Speaker 1: literally on a group chat with all the girls.
Speaker 6: They think she is out of her mind. So I'm
Speaker 6: reaching out to you guys because they're all like pushing
Speaker 6: me because I've known her the longest to have the
Speaker 6: conversation with her.
Speaker 1: A bridesmaid union, You're going to rise up and fight
Speaker 1: against the man.
Speaker 2: I like it.
Speaker 3: The situation sounds pretty serious, which is great that we're
Speaker 3: putting it in an awkward Tuesday where Jose can contribute
Speaker 3: his knowledge and advice on brides I am so scared
Speaker 3: to talk.
Speaker 8: That's so funny.
Speaker 9: Okay.
Speaker 2: I mean, I think here's the thing.
Speaker 1: This is a really important conversation because the bride is
Speaker 1: a little out of her mind. She's alienating all of
Speaker 1: her closest people, and someone needs to tell her that's
Speaker 1: what's happening.
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe that someone should be brooked because she feels
Speaker 3: the strongest about it. By the way, Shannon, what is
Speaker 3: the bride's name? Oh yeah, para Terah the first part
Speaker 3: of terrible. That's not good. I'm not gonna say.
Speaker 5: Name.
Speaker 3: So let's circle the wagons here, team that we're gonna
Speaker 3: come up with some top notch advice to give Shannon
Speaker 3: before she calls the bride to confront her about the
Speaker 3: bridesmaid contract, Say, you've gone too far.
Speaker 5: Girl.
Speaker 3: We're gonna do it with your awkward Tuesday phone call
Speaker 3: right after this. Hold on, it's awkward.
Speaker 2: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 3: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. We just heard from a bridesmaid.
Speaker 3: Her name is Shannon, who told us about her friend's
Speaker 3: extremely reasonable bridesmaid contract that she sent out to the
Speaker 3: whole bridal party. Some of the clauses in there include
Speaker 3: minimum dollar amounts required in order to participate, weight restriction rules,
Speaker 3: and limits on groom proximity. Now again, I've never been
Speaker 3: a bridesmaid before, but if I was, I would think
Speaker 3: that'd be pretty normal stuff.
Speaker 5: I can.
Speaker 3: Brooks tends to disagree. She has a little bit more
Speaker 3: experience with this stuff than me. For the bottom line is,
Speaker 3: Shannon has been nominated by the entire group to call
Speaker 3: the bride and talk her down from some of the
Speaker 3: expectations laid out in the contract. That's why she needs
Speaker 3: a little bit of advice before she does it. Brooke,
Speaker 3: We're gonna start with you. What advice do you have
Speaker 3: for Shannon?
Speaker 1: Okay, First, Shannon, the most important thing is you need
Speaker 1: to come to her as her friend. Okay, Yeah, this
Speaker 1: call is because you've got her back and she hasn't
Speaker 1: thought all of this through yet. Like, of course, all
Speaker 1: the bridesmaids are gonna sign it. But what if this document,
Speaker 1: this contract got leaked on social media, this bride may become.
Speaker 2: Literally the most hated person on the internet.
Speaker 1: And not only is that not deserved, but like it's
Speaker 1: also like such a distraction from her big day.
Speaker 2: You know, she has this little window right now.
Speaker 3: I see. The advice is to threaten to leak it
Speaker 3: onto the internet. Embarrassed.
Speaker 1: The advice is to tell her you have this little
Speaker 1: window right now, to just tell everybody it's a joke.
Speaker 3: Okay, wait a minute, she has a chance to back out.
Speaker 3: What do you think about that, Shannon, She's not.
Speaker 6: One to back down. But I do think that if
Speaker 6: people found out, I would hope that she would maybe
Speaker 6: see that.
Speaker 1: You got to set it up that way before you
Speaker 1: ask her to tell it.
Speaker 3: Is blowing up right now. So a lot of people
Speaker 3: have opinions. Okay, so there's one piece of advice for
Speaker 3: you now. Jose has already said that he is too
Speaker 3: scared to give any opinion or the other.
Speaker 8: I don't want to be in the room because I
Speaker 8: feel like a lot of drama's about to.
Speaker 3: Happen and it's gonna yell that's fair. So instead we're
Speaker 3: gonna go to Alexis, the bride'smaide experts makes sense.
Speaker 7: I'm away were asking me because I probably would have
Speaker 7: already signed it and just into backs I'm too scared. Yeah,
Speaker 7: but if you are brave enough to confront the bride,
Speaker 7: then be like you are going to be a great bride.
Speaker 7: I love your plans, and then go into like, but
Speaker 7: you're a little psycho.
Speaker 8: But that's what I love about you, you know, But
Speaker 8: that's what I love about it.
Speaker 2: You have a bout.
Speaker 1: You never had a confrontation with any one of your friends.
Speaker 3: I just do back down like that already. Come on. Actually,
Speaker 3: so it sounds like, say some sweet things, compliment her
Speaker 3: a little bit before you bring the criticism.
Speaker 6: Like some compliment sandwiches.
Speaker 2: Nobody ever sees through that.
Speaker 3: Although the compliment sandwiches might be a problem with the
Speaker 3: weight restrictions on the sandwich, Jennery ordered cucumber sandwiches.
Speaker 9: Either way.
Speaker 3: Now, we're going to call the bride tear here and
Speaker 3: we will step back and let you make your call. Oh,
Speaker 3: just keep the advice in mind and know that we
Speaker 3: have your back to We're going to jump in if
Speaker 3: you feel like you need a little help.
Speaker 6: Okay, I'm really nervous. My hands are sweating, But thank
Speaker 6: you for your.
Speaker 3: F Remember this is your friend, so you have the
Speaker 3: benefit of the doubt.
Speaker 10: We go, Hello, Hey, who's the.
Speaker 6: Girl, Shannon? Do you get a new number or something?
Speaker 9: What where are you calling from?
Speaker 6: Yeah? I had to use my phone being funny.
Speaker 5: So it's interesting because Melanie texted me earlier and she
Speaker 5: said that you're gonna call because there's something about the wedding,
Speaker 5: And honestly, I'm starting to feel some type of way
Speaker 5: because none of you guys have signed the contract and
Speaker 5: it's the deadlines ten night at midnight, so what's.
Speaker 6: Going Okay, I didn't know if she'd do that. Of
Speaker 6: course she would. Maybe we just dive in. First of all,
Speaker 6: very excited for the big day.
Speaker 5: We all are, Yeah, you should be, It's gonna be amazing.
Speaker 9: I got yeah. So you sound kind of fullish right now, Well,
Speaker 9: what's no.
Speaker 6: Listen, I love your enthusiasm for your big day, and
Speaker 6: I just kind of wanted to maybe have a little
Speaker 6: conversation about said contract.
Speaker 9: She gets to the point, Okay, you know, I mean
Speaker 9: the most loving and constructive way possible, but it was girl, on,
Speaker 9: don't I don't have time to this with us?
Speaker 6: Okay? Well, like number one the weight management saying, Amber's
Speaker 6: trying to get pregnant, and you've got this girl terrified
Speaker 6: if she's to get pregnant because she's like, I can't
Speaker 6: gain any weight and that's the problem.
Speaker 9: She's not having cleanses.
Speaker 10: She at least no.
Speaker 6: Listen, you your dress is kind of form fitting she's
Speaker 6: never gonna hide. If she by the time your wedding comes,
Speaker 6: she would be pretty pregnant.
Speaker 9: I'm not really liking your phone girl. Let me tell
Speaker 9: you something.
Speaker 4: I went to Shana's wedding in a high pink bridesmaid
Speaker 4: dressed put together with duct tape. So the least yup
Speaker 4: just can do for me is show up sober.
Speaker 6: And you know how like things hit the internet, like
Speaker 6: what if one of these girls talk about it or
Speaker 6: post about it? And then if you're gonna look like
Speaker 6: this crazy bridezilla. First of all, I can't believe that
Speaker 6: you would.
Speaker 10: What are you going to do to me?
Speaker 9: I would? I held your hair back in Vegas.
Speaker 6: Okay, first of all, we weren't going to talk about that.
Speaker 6: We made a pack about it.
Speaker 4: Well, we're not gonna leak anything online.
Speaker 6: Either, Parah. I adore you, I love you, can you.
Speaker 6: I'm coming from a place of love and friendship. Take
Speaker 6: a breath. The groom part, like the no flirting or
Speaker 6: talking or I mean can't even look his direction, Like
Speaker 6: that's that's a little bizarre.
Speaker 9: Listed Listen, listen, listen, listen.
Speaker 5: You and I both know who who has Polish.
Speaker 6: Tendencies and we do not and I both know that is.
Speaker 9: Not directed at you. I'm not gonna listen. There is
Speaker 9: no compromising on that.
Speaker 6: Okay, well that one. That one's fine. Leave that one.
Speaker 9: But like the minimum two thousand dollars in the travel and.
Speaker 6: The no missing event, Like I don't live in the
Speaker 6: same state, so that might be a problem.
Speaker 9: It might be a problem, but it's not my problem.
Speaker 9: But good listen.
Speaker 6: I deserve a perfect day, and by god, I'm gonna
Speaker 6: have it.
Speaker 10: What is going on?
Speaker 2: He told you that was way too castul.
Speaker 3: Shannon, Yeah, Shannon's there, and so is there a radio
Speaker 3: show called Brook and Jeffrey in the morning. You're on
Speaker 3: the radio right now, Tara, Good.
Speaker 6: Morning, Tara.
Speaker 8: All right, Okay, it's okay, everything's okay.
Speaker 1: She was just scared on how to bring this up,
Speaker 1: so she needed some help and that's where we came in.
Speaker 2: Just it was all out of like she said, love
Speaker 2: and friendship. That's where we're coming from.
Speaker 9: Answer my question, who is this?
Speaker 8: That's a good question, Brook is.
Speaker 6: Today?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 6: Okay, okay, hold on, this is a station in my town,
Speaker 6: not yours. You there's no connection. Ohs it so much better?
Speaker 3: All she's asking Tara is if maybe you would consider
Speaker 3: relooking over your contract with the girls, because it's kind
Speaker 3: of intense for some of them.
Speaker 6: All of us want to be in your wedding. We're
Speaker 6: all gonna just sign the contract. But I just I
Speaker 6: feel that if this is kind of how things are
Speaker 6: going to go, we'll just go to Tona a smidget
Speaker 6: And you know, I don't do well with con occasion,
Speaker 6: and I'm very sweaty, palm my armpitllart very sweaty.
Speaker 9: I gets true.
Speaker 5: I'm way you are bright right right, I'm like, I
Speaker 5: know you know, and.
Speaker 6: I'm like, I'm sweating. I'm sweating in all my crevices.
Speaker 3: And that's good for the weight loss part of the
Speaker 3: contract that she set out, So she's trying. What do
Speaker 3: you think, though, Tarah, do you think that maybe you
Speaker 3: would consider I know, I know it's a lot to ask,
Speaker 3: but it would mean a lot to Shannon and to
Speaker 3: all the bridesmaids if you'd sit down with them and
Speaker 3: just go over the rules and maybe make a couple
Speaker 3: amendments so it works better for everybody.
Speaker 9: We'll talk about it, Okay, we can talk about it.
Speaker 4: Okay, I'm gonna tell you right now though the room.
Speaker 1: Is staying okay, yet have a really questionable bed.
Speaker 9: You know, we love her, She's just a little hollish.
Speaker 2: Okay, you have her for the plot.
Speaker 3: I get it. Yeah, yeah, we all got one.
Speaker 2: I don't think I have anyone that will take my man.
Speaker 3: Oh, you're looking at that. That's not what I meant.
Speaker 2: But Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,