1 00:00:01,440 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: It is time for the Strawberry Letter. If you need 2 00:00:04,160 --> 00:00:08,399 Speaker 1: some advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more, 3 00:00:08,720 --> 00:00:12,119 Speaker 1: please please please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey 4 00:00:12,160 --> 00:00:17,079 Speaker 1: FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. Okay, buggle up and 5 00:00:17,120 --> 00:00:18,720 Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you. Here. It 6 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:24,480 Speaker 1: is the Strawberry Letter. Subject Thundercat is on the Prowl. 7 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:28,800 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I am a divorced, forty four year 8 00:00:28,840 --> 00:00:33,560 Speaker 1: old single mom. As an attractive, curvy and educated woman, 9 00:00:33,800 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 1: I have no problems meeting men. It's keeping them that's 10 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:41,360 Speaker 1: the issue. The last man that I dated, we were 11 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:45,040 Speaker 1: together for almost three months before we had sex. I 12 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 1: made him wait for a reason, and here's why. When 13 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:53,840 Speaker 1: we had sex for the first time, he passed out afterwards. 14 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 1: He was only out for a short time, and when 15 00:00:56,480 --> 00:00:59,320 Speaker 1: he came to, he said his blood sugar was low 16 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:03,360 Speaker 1: Anthony Barnett. But I think he was lying because this 17 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:07,800 Speaker 1: has happened to me before with another man. The next 18 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: time we made love, I toned down the intensity and 19 00:01:11,040 --> 00:01:13,640 Speaker 1: I cut out the extra stuff that I normally do. 20 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:16,880 Speaker 1: He told me it was too much for him and 21 00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 1: he ended up breaking up with me. My crazy ex 22 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:23,560 Speaker 1: husband was the same way. Whenever I would try to 23 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:26,840 Speaker 1: do something new with him, he got mad and accused 24 00:01:26,840 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 1: me of cheating on him, which was one of the 25 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:33,240 Speaker 1: reasons we got divorced. So lately, I had been dating 26 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:36,760 Speaker 1: a nice Southern gentleman, and two nights ago we had 27 00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: sex for the first time. I warned him that I 28 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 1: was about to put it on him, but he must 29 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:47,480 Speaker 1: have thought I was just playing well Shirley during the act, 30 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 1: see right there, well Shirley during the act, he started 31 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 1: screaming like a little girl, and he was begging me 32 00:01:55,320 --> 00:02:00,880 Speaker 1: to stop, so I did. He just he just stared 33 00:02:00,920 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 1: at me for a while. He just stared at me 34 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:05,760 Speaker 1: for a while, and then he told me that I 35 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:09,480 Speaker 1: was way too much for him. He accused me of 36 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:12,920 Speaker 1: being some kind of loose woman because of my skill set. 37 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 1: I was so offended that I left his house and 38 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:19,640 Speaker 1: we have not communicated since Saturday. I can't help but 39 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 1: think there's a man out there that can handle me, 40 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:26,600 Speaker 1: that can handle me. My friend's nickname me Thundercat, and 41 00:02:26,639 --> 00:02:29,480 Speaker 1: they told me I should teach a sex class for women. 42 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:31,840 Speaker 1: I like to keep it tight and right, and I 43 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:34,800 Speaker 1: really do enjoy sex. So what should I do, Tommy, 44 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:39,960 Speaker 1: you hush. I want to hear from Stephen. Shirley, please advise, 45 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:47,200 Speaker 1: Okay I first, Shirley, I will see I will because 46 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:49,480 Speaker 1: I know you think this letter is about you, right, No, 47 00:02:49,800 --> 00:02:54,720 Speaker 1: but I I just got to ask you. I mean, 48 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:58,080 Speaker 1: what are you doing? Really? Not not what are you 49 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:01,480 Speaker 1: doing to the guys? Just what are you doing? From 50 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 1: a thinking position? Okay, you cannot put all this stuff 51 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 1: that you're doing on someone that you're having sex with 52 00:03:10,639 --> 00:03:13,720 Speaker 1: for the first time, especially a man. You can't do this. 53 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:16,640 Speaker 1: You can't pull all the tricks out of your bag 54 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:20,119 Speaker 1: on the first you can't. All right, You gotta slowly 55 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 1: roll the stuff out, if you know, so they can 56 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 1: get used to it. You gotta spoon feed them, so 57 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:29,560 Speaker 1: to speak. Because I mean you, I mean, and look 58 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:32,240 Speaker 1: at your track records. You got a man who passed out, 59 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 1: a man who is screaming like a girl, a man 60 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:38,560 Speaker 1: who broke up with you, your husband accused you of cheating. 61 00:03:39,160 --> 00:03:41,920 Speaker 1: I mean, you gotta look at what's going on here 62 00:03:42,240 --> 00:03:47,120 Speaker 1: and realize that maybe, just maybe, you know, slow it 63 00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:51,280 Speaker 1: down a little bit. Come on, you just you're forty 64 00:03:51,280 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 1: four years old, you enjoy sex, you like it. Perhaps 65 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:58,800 Speaker 1: you should teach a class. But listen, you gotta take 66 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: it easy. You know, you tell somebody, I'm gonna put 67 00:04:01,480 --> 00:04:06,400 Speaker 1: it on you. I mean, come on, just relax, okay, 68 00:04:06,640 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 1: relax a little bit and and and ease into these 69 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:23,120 Speaker 1: I mean, have you lost your entire mindil Yeah, I'm 70 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:27,840 Speaker 1: just trying to help. Yeah, we're gonna take that out. 71 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:35,719 Speaker 1: Don't even worry. Yeah. But when I first read the letter, 72 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:38,120 Speaker 1: I thought you were saying you you were you waited 73 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 1: for three months to have sex because you know, like 74 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:43,599 Speaker 1: in Steve's book, act like a lady, think like a man. 75 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:46,280 Speaker 1: He's telling you, you know, to wait for ninety days. 76 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:48,880 Speaker 1: So you but that's to get to know the person 77 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 1: and all of that. You know, you waited because what 78 00:04:52,800 --> 00:04:55,880 Speaker 1: you didn't want to kill the man on the first time. 79 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:58,760 Speaker 1: But I just say you, you need to take your time, 80 00:04:58,920 --> 00:05:02,200 Speaker 1: ease into this stuff. Lighting up a little bit. I mean, 81 00:05:02,400 --> 00:05:05,240 Speaker 1: you know, I get you. You like it in your serious. 82 00:05:05,320 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 1: This other man his blood sugar was low. You're gonna 83 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 1: kill somebody. Relax, Steve, it's your turn. Come on, I am. 84 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:21,200 Speaker 1: It's a lot of key stuff in here. I'm gonna 85 00:05:21,240 --> 00:05:23,719 Speaker 1: point it out to you all through the damn letter 86 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:29,120 Speaker 1: opening line, I am a divorce. This means this, this 87 00:05:29,279 --> 00:05:34,120 Speaker 1: has been over with. Somebody said enough farty, four year 88 00:05:34,120 --> 00:05:38,520 Speaker 1: old single woman, good and grown. Yeah, I am an 89 00:05:38,600 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 1: attractive that's what she's said. Curvy that could be anything, 90 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:48,560 Speaker 1: you know, that's what they call him. It's other words 91 00:05:48,600 --> 00:05:53,279 Speaker 1: for heaven, So you could be curvy and educated. I 92 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 1: have no problems meeting me in. It's keeping them that's 93 00:05:57,600 --> 00:06:01,600 Speaker 1: an issue. Last man in our dated we asked. We 94 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:04,280 Speaker 1: used together for three months before we had sex. I 95 00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:06,279 Speaker 1: made him wait for a reason. Here why When we 96 00:06:06,360 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 1: had sex for the first time, he passed out. He 97 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:12,160 Speaker 1: was only out for a short time, and when he 98 00:06:12,240 --> 00:06:17,159 Speaker 1: came to, he said he had his blood sugar was low. 99 00:06:17,320 --> 00:06:20,159 Speaker 1: He't know what the hell happened. Yeah, and you said 100 00:06:20,200 --> 00:06:23,520 Speaker 1: that happened to you. Yeah. But he when he woke up, 101 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:29,000 Speaker 1: he woke up as a dive beatty. She gave him diabeting. 102 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 1: He didn't know what was wrong, so he invented a disease. Yeah, 103 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 1: too much, she told his ass Paul. Yeah, yeah, all right, 104 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:42,080 Speaker 1: we can come back. You're gonna want to hear this. 105 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 1: Hang on, we'll have part two of Steve's response coming 106 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:49,600 Speaker 1: up the letter, the subject ThunderCats on the prow Right 107 00:06:49,640 --> 00:06:56,039 Speaker 1: after this the twenty three after, We'll be back. You're listening, right, Steve. 108 00:06:56,120 --> 00:06:59,040 Speaker 1: Let's go. Let's recap today's strawberry letters. Here a woman 109 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:03,800 Speaker 1: again sleeping with men and can't keep them, and it's 110 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:09,159 Speaker 1: all because of her sexual acts. First man she told 111 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: us about. They had been waiting three months. When she 112 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:16,080 Speaker 1: finally gave him something. He passed out, and when he 113 00:07:16,160 --> 00:07:20,040 Speaker 1: came to, he said his blood sugar was low. He 114 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 1: had never said that before ever in his life. But 115 00:07:24,560 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 1: she gave him diabetes. He woke up with diabetes. He 116 00:07:29,040 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 1: didn't have it for that. It just something happened to 117 00:07:32,160 --> 00:07:34,440 Speaker 1: him and he didn't know what it was. But I 118 00:07:34,480 --> 00:07:37,760 Speaker 1: think he was lying because that happened to me before 119 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:41,560 Speaker 1: with another man. Because next time we made love, I 120 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:46,560 Speaker 1: toned down the intensity and cut out the extra stuff 121 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:50,960 Speaker 1: I normally do. What the hell is you in here doing? 122 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:58,600 Speaker 1: When a woman tells you I tuned down the intensity 123 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:02,800 Speaker 1: and cut out some of the normal stuff I do. 124 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:05,000 Speaker 1: Do you know what the hell happened in the hill? 125 00:08:04,880 --> 00:08:09,560 Speaker 1: What's going on? This happened to the intensity? Is the pherocity? 126 00:08:11,080 --> 00:08:16,520 Speaker 1: The Pherocity? This hell for too much for any damn body. 127 00:08:16,600 --> 00:08:18,280 Speaker 1: Let me tell you what's going on. Let me read 128 00:08:18,280 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 1: a little bit more than lever and she cut out 129 00:08:20,200 --> 00:08:22,840 Speaker 1: the extra stuff she normally do. Okay, let me tell 130 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:25,400 Speaker 1: them if you cut out the extra stuff that you 131 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:29,280 Speaker 1: normal I'm tolled down the intensity and he still fell 132 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:34,200 Speaker 1: out that hell is you do stuff. I'm gonna tell 133 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:36,440 Speaker 1: you what she's doing in a minute, though. He told 134 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:38,920 Speaker 1: me it was too much for him, and he ended 135 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:42,360 Speaker 1: up breaking up with me. Then my crazy ex husband 136 00:08:42,360 --> 00:08:47,800 Speaker 1: now seeing now people crazy now na na now to 137 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:52,360 Speaker 1: me and crazy with her crazy. He was the same way. 138 00:08:52,440 --> 00:08:54,559 Speaker 1: Whenever I would try to do something new with him, 139 00:08:54,760 --> 00:08:57,000 Speaker 1: he got mad, accused me of cheating, which one of 140 00:08:57,040 --> 00:09:00,600 Speaker 1: the reasons we got divorced so late. I've been dating 141 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:03,040 Speaker 1: a nice Southern gentleman. Two nights ago we had sex. 142 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:08,959 Speaker 1: You have a lot of sex. How many men were 143 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:11,160 Speaker 1: already over the three limit? I told y'all to talk 144 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:13,800 Speaker 1: about it. We way over the three limits. I told 145 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 1: y'all your max number three. She way out the three balls. 146 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:19,080 Speaker 1: She just had sex for the first time another night, 147 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 1: a southern gentleman, I warned him, told him before we 148 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:25,640 Speaker 1: went in I'm about to put it on you see 149 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:29,120 Speaker 1: you in here. You your your cage match. You're in 150 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:35,040 Speaker 1: that m m A love it mixed, marshaw Art. You 151 00:09:35,120 --> 00:09:37,959 Speaker 1: must he must have thought I was playing well, Shirley 152 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:50,640 Speaker 1: doing the act. He started screaming, You took a grown 153 00:09:50,679 --> 00:09:56,199 Speaker 1: ass man got him screaming like a white girl. He 154 00:09:56,280 --> 00:09:59,959 Speaker 1: was begging me to stop. I was too much for him. 155 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:02,040 Speaker 1: He accused me of being some kind of a loose 156 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:04,480 Speaker 1: woman because of my skills. Said, I was so offended. 157 00:10:04,559 --> 00:10:06,680 Speaker 1: I left his house and were in communicate. He glanced 158 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:10,320 Speaker 1: you left. Yeah, and you really ain't communicating since sanity 159 00:10:10,360 --> 00:10:13,079 Speaker 1: because he ain't calling your ass. He don't wan't no 160 00:10:13,120 --> 00:10:16,840 Speaker 1: more what you got. It's too damn much. Let me 161 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 1: tell you. First of all, she's doing it way too hot, 162 00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:28,400 Speaker 1: and she making noises, and and she's slamming into men. 163 00:10:28,920 --> 00:10:34,600 Speaker 1: She climbed on me back. She making her voice change, 164 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:50,960 Speaker 1: uh yeah, sounding like a man. Huh man, you're hitting it. 165 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:53,080 Speaker 1: I'm talking about man. It ain't even supposed to be 166 00:10:53,120 --> 00:10:56,160 Speaker 1: doing it right here. It's getting slung around that damn 167 00:10:56,240 --> 00:11:09,120 Speaker 1: but hu choke your part, Shut up, take this, take 168 00:11:09,720 --> 00:11:27,280 Speaker 1: take talking the whole time, voice changing you come up 169 00:11:27,280 --> 00:11:31,280 Speaker 1: and I told you what happen. You thought I would playing, 170 00:11:31,480 --> 00:11:37,520 Speaker 1: but I'm being this bearsons up in here in the park. 171 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:42,960 Speaker 1: You bring up parkam. These men is in here going Yeah, 172 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:47,079 Speaker 1: they're scared. What the hell have I got myself into? 173 00:11:47,280 --> 00:11:49,520 Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you something else to she she won't 174 00:11:49,520 --> 00:11:52,280 Speaker 1: even do the normal stuff she do. It's some apparatus 175 00:11:52,400 --> 00:11:56,320 Speaker 1: is in there. Okay, that's what I wanted. Its swaying, 176 00:11:59,120 --> 00:12:04,520 Speaker 1: she swain cross the bed. Listen to me. She using 177 00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:11,520 Speaker 1: her teeth. There's some teeth involved here, Okay, he said. 178 00:12:11,600 --> 00:12:16,600 Speaker 1: He begged me to stop. It's some teeth. Yeah, yeah, 179 00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:20,920 Speaker 1: it's what I do. This do what I do because 180 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:25,280 Speaker 1: of her skill set. Yeah, but her skill set is painful. Yeah, 181 00:12:25,520 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: her skin. Yeah, she turned me in. Yeah, it's to 182 00:12:29,760 --> 00:12:33,319 Speaker 1: me and walking out there need medical attention. What happened 183 00:12:33,320 --> 00:12:35,439 Speaker 1: to that point where she spent this one dude his 184 00:12:35,600 --> 00:12:41,679 Speaker 1: pockets passed, said he had died. Beat But Steve, is 185 00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:44,559 Speaker 1: it like she's threatening them because she said I warned 186 00:12:44,640 --> 00:12:46,480 Speaker 1: him that I was about to put it on. I'm 187 00:12:46,720 --> 00:12:51,240 Speaker 1: fitting to do something to you ever had done before. 188 00:12:51,840 --> 00:12:53,880 Speaker 1: And in the middle of all of it, I'm gonna 189 00:12:53,880 --> 00:13:00,480 Speaker 1: sucker punch your pocket. She hits, moved like a she 190 00:13:00,720 --> 00:13:03,439 Speaker 1: on top of a man, and she putn't she punched 191 00:13:03,520 --> 00:13:07,640 Speaker 1: him in the soap Listen, we gotta get out of here. 192 00:13:07,640 --> 00:13:09,800 Speaker 1: If you want to, Instagram us or email us your 193 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:13,520 Speaker 1: thoughts on today's crazy Strubberry. This is my favorite one 194 00:13:13,559 --> 00:13:17,000 Speaker 1: though from this year. 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