1 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:29,320 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,680 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business. 7 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:37,560 Speaker 1: What are the cases I want to hear from you? 8 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: Remember these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're 9 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:42,599 Speaker 1: suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help 10 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,600 Speaker 1: from a qualified professional. All right, Now, go ahead and 11 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:46,959 Speaker 1: leave your question at the sound. 12 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 2: Of the beat. 13 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:52,800 Speaker 3: Hey, Cheeky's, it's Maria, your favorite tall girl boss wee 14 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 3: that loves you so, so so much and adores you 15 00:00:55,760 --> 00:00:59,320 Speaker 3: and appreciates you and this podcast. You know, I tell 16 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 3: you this every week that you helped me so much, 17 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:07,040 Speaker 3: whether it's my question or somebody else's, uh, with your 18 00:01:07,040 --> 00:01:10,399 Speaker 3: advice on your podcast as a whole, just by being you. 19 00:01:11,720 --> 00:01:14,640 Speaker 3: And I'm hoping you can help me just like you 20 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:19,720 Speaker 3: always have. So I'm sure you know I came out 21 00:01:19,720 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 3: on my story as by about two months ago, and 22 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:26,640 Speaker 3: you know my some members of my family are accepting 23 00:01:26,680 --> 00:01:31,080 Speaker 3: of it, and I'm working slowly with other people and 24 00:01:31,200 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 3: letting them know. Right now, I'm trying to figure out 25 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 3: how to express this to my girlfriends, you know, my 26 00:01:41,760 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 3: friends that I you know, that I'm really close with. 27 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:46,399 Speaker 3: I don't know how they're gonna if they're going to accept, 28 00:01:46,480 --> 00:01:49,440 Speaker 3: how they're going to receive it, especially given you know 29 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 3: the community that we live in. You know, every time we. 30 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 4: Go out, like. 31 00:01:54,640 --> 00:01:58,520 Speaker 3: They always want to set me up with guys, introduce 32 00:01:58,560 --> 00:02:00,760 Speaker 3: me to guys, you know, just to get me to 33 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:03,639 Speaker 3: open up. But it's not just you know men. I 34 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:05,720 Speaker 3: you know, I would like to meet other women too. 35 00:02:06,560 --> 00:02:09,200 Speaker 3: I just I don't know how to tell them. If 36 00:02:09,240 --> 00:02:11,239 Speaker 3: you can give me any advice on how to navigate 37 00:02:11,320 --> 00:02:12,720 Speaker 3: this with them, that would be great. 38 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 2: I love you. 39 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:17,480 Speaker 1: I love you too, Mama Tita, my tall boss by. 40 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:20,360 Speaker 1: I love you and I miss you so much. I 41 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 1: don't know if I missed this because I follow you, 42 00:02:22,280 --> 00:02:23,960 Speaker 1: so I don't know if I missed it, but I 43 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:27,640 Speaker 1: wasn't aware that you came out two months ago. I 44 00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:29,560 Speaker 1: love you, I accept you. I don't care if you're 45 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 1: dating guy or a girl or two at the same time, 46 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:35,239 Speaker 1: as long as they know about each other. But as 47 00:02:35,240 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 1: far as your friends look, anyone that loves you is 48 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:42,480 Speaker 1: going to love and accept you. No matter what, whether 49 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:45,959 Speaker 1: you like men or women or whatever it is that 50 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:48,520 Speaker 1: you're into, people are going to love and accept you. 51 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:52,120 Speaker 1: So I understand that you're afraid or maybe a little 52 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:56,520 Speaker 1: worried or nervous. That's completely normal. But I think just 53 00:02:56,560 --> 00:03:01,800 Speaker 1: definitely taking them out to love unch, to dinner and 54 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 1: you know, maybe a little bit of wine or at 55 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 1: your house a little like movie night, and to say, hey, guys, 56 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:08,079 Speaker 1: I have something to tell you, and I hope this 57 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:10,440 Speaker 1: doesn't make you guys uncomfortable. And no, I don't like 58 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:14,360 Speaker 1: any of you. I'm not into you, but I am 59 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:16,480 Speaker 1: bisexual and I just want to let you guys know that. 60 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:18,919 Speaker 1: And that is it, you know, I think as easy 61 00:03:18,919 --> 00:03:20,399 Speaker 1: as that. I know it sounds a lot easier said 62 00:03:20,440 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 1: than done, but just know, if they love me and 63 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:24,919 Speaker 1: if they're meant to be in my life and in 64 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 1: this new season of my life, then they're going to 65 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:30,520 Speaker 1: accept me and everything's going to be okay. If they 66 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:34,880 Speaker 1: don't and they choose to step away a little bit, 67 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 1: then so be it. Then it's part of what has 68 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 1: to happen. You know what I mean, jellyban. So, I 69 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:45,040 Speaker 1: hope that helps, Bib and congratulations, congratulations on being you fully. 70 00:03:45,120 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 1: I love that. Okay. So next question comes from Abby. 71 00:03:52,240 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 2: Hey, Kiki's I hope this message finds you well. My 72 00:03:56,320 --> 00:04:00,760 Speaker 2: question is to ask for advice. I've been with my 73 00:04:00,840 --> 00:04:05,480 Speaker 2: husband for seven years now. We've had a ups and 74 00:04:05,560 --> 00:04:10,560 Speaker 2: downs like every normal marriage, but he's always complained that 75 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:15,560 Speaker 2: I am ksuabiamidia, which and I know I am, but 76 00:04:15,800 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 2: I feel like I've always put up a wall as 77 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:22,760 Speaker 2: kind of like a protection to not get hurt. But 78 00:04:22,880 --> 00:04:26,279 Speaker 2: at the end, I feel like it's hurting my marriage 79 00:04:26,400 --> 00:04:31,719 Speaker 2: because I'm not loving and affectionate the way he would 80 00:04:31,720 --> 00:04:35,960 Speaker 2: want me to be. So how can I start to 81 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:38,120 Speaker 2: open up to where you know, I can kind of 82 00:04:38,200 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 2: let my guard down and be more lovey debbie, the 83 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:47,600 Speaker 2: way he wants, you know, to receive love. So if 84 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 2: you have any advice, I'd really appreciate it. Hope you 85 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 2: have a great day. Thanks. 86 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:57,599 Speaker 1: Oh Abby, I get it. I understand having guards, been there, 87 00:04:57,839 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 1: done that. I had a lot of guards up when 88 00:04:59,920 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 1: I first started dating a media of my husband, and 89 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:07,440 Speaker 1: it definitely did affect our relationship. A lot. It's just 90 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: it's a way of protecting ourselves. But we're also shutting 91 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:15,000 Speaker 1: out people in our life. We are keeping ourselves from 92 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 1: love and it all. I did it because again, like you, 93 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:20,920 Speaker 1: because I didn't want to get hurt, but I was 94 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: hurting the person that I was, like the person that 95 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:26,599 Speaker 1: I'm in love with, you know. And I think that 96 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:33,920 Speaker 1: you just have to trust him and trust yourself. Literally 97 00:05:34,240 --> 00:05:36,240 Speaker 1: remind yourself, I'm gonna let my guard down, and I 98 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:41,040 Speaker 1: think starting off slow, holding his hand, touching his shoulder 99 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 1: when he's driving, little things like that, like touching his hair, 100 00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 1: like Garisias goes such a long way, Like love is 101 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 1: the moving force of the universe, Like humans cannot live 102 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:54,400 Speaker 1: without love. I truly believe that, Like we need to 103 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:58,360 Speaker 1: feel loved, to feel appreciated, to feel wanted. That just 104 00:05:58,560 --> 00:06:00,720 Speaker 1: makes everything else so much much better. I mean, you've 105 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:03,640 Speaker 1: been with this person for seven years, so there's something there. 106 00:06:03,920 --> 00:06:05,880 Speaker 1: You trust him enough to be with him for seven years, 107 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:07,760 Speaker 1: giving him seven years of your life, Like why not 108 00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: just say boom, I'm gonna give myself completely And if 109 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:14,800 Speaker 1: he doesn't appreciate it, then that's on him. But I 110 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:16,920 Speaker 1: want to make him happy. I want to be happy, 111 00:06:17,480 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 1: like no sense Fria, it's I and I'm telling you 112 00:06:20,720 --> 00:06:25,040 Speaker 1: because it helps in no way at all. Like you 113 00:06:25,120 --> 00:06:28,160 Speaker 1: are probably not even able to get the best out 114 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 1: of this relationship because you haven't been willing and open 115 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:34,719 Speaker 1: to giving and receiving love. Imagine when you do that, 116 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:38,359 Speaker 1: you're gonna open up a whole other door, maybe a 117 00:06:38,360 --> 00:06:41,599 Speaker 1: whole other dimension in this relationship. So look forward to 118 00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 1: that and don't think of what could happen, because it 119 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 1: hasn't even happened. Stop like, we have to stop doing 120 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:51,600 Speaker 1: that like that, don't think of the what ifs. Live 121 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:53,440 Speaker 1: in the moment if you feel it in your heart 122 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:55,440 Speaker 1: in that moment. We're at the movies, I'm gonna touch 123 00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:58,640 Speaker 1: his like I'm gonna like we're at dinner, I'm gonna, 124 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:00,480 Speaker 1: you know, touch I'm under the tape. Will no one 125 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 1: else see? Like cute things like that, you know, like 126 00:07:02,640 --> 00:07:04,560 Speaker 1: that's sexy, you know, just make him feel like, hey, 127 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 1: I think you're hot. Tell them, hey, you look at 128 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:08,680 Speaker 1: them today. Little things like that go a long way. 129 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:08,960 Speaker 5: BB. 130 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 1: So do it, ef it, don't worry, don't worry about it. 131 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:15,640 Speaker 1: The worst that we could do is think about things 132 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:19,360 Speaker 1: that haven't even happened, you know, keep us updated. I 133 00:07:19,440 --> 00:07:21,920 Speaker 1: want to know if those little touchy touchy things, you know, 134 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:32,840 Speaker 1: spice things up. Okay, so next question comes from Vanessa. 135 00:07:33,120 --> 00:07:37,520 Speaker 5: Let's see, hey, cheekys. I hope you're doing well. I 136 00:07:37,640 --> 00:07:39,440 Speaker 5: just want to start off by saying that I've met 137 00:07:39,440 --> 00:07:42,880 Speaker 5: you in person and meeting you with such a beautiful experience. 138 00:07:43,040 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 5: You're so humble, so kind, so patient, and I appreciate 139 00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:50,600 Speaker 5: that you gave me such a beautiful experience and meeting you. 140 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 5: Your hugs are the greatest, and I hope I get 141 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:56,400 Speaker 5: to see you soon. As far as my question, so, 142 00:07:57,280 --> 00:08:01,640 Speaker 5: I wanted to just know how you deal with co workers. 143 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:05,960 Speaker 5: I have a co worker AKA she's the assistant manager, 144 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:08,680 Speaker 5: and I just feel like she does not like me. 145 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:13,400 Speaker 5: I feel like everything's so personal with her just requesting 146 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 5: time off, it's such a headache. She gives me such 147 00:08:16,640 --> 00:08:20,560 Speaker 5: a hard time, and whenever I have questions, she kind 148 00:08:20,560 --> 00:08:23,520 Speaker 5: of like tries to question me back or not answer 149 00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:26,800 Speaker 5: my question and she tries to make me work for 150 00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:32,760 Speaker 5: the answer. And I've seen her treat other people the same, 151 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:36,600 Speaker 5: so I almost feel like that's just how she is. 152 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:39,720 Speaker 5: But there are some people that she treats differently. So 153 00:08:39,760 --> 00:08:42,280 Speaker 5: I just wanted to know how do I bring that 154 00:08:42,360 --> 00:08:45,559 Speaker 5: to my upper management or how do I deal with it, 155 00:08:45,600 --> 00:08:49,000 Speaker 5: because sometimes I just get so frustrated and I just 156 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:50,920 Speaker 5: feel like talking back to her, but I know I 157 00:08:50,920 --> 00:08:53,240 Speaker 5: can't do that, so you can please help me out. 158 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:54,319 Speaker 5: Thank you so much. 159 00:08:55,160 --> 00:08:58,520 Speaker 1: Well, first of all, Vanessa, thank you so much. I'm 160 00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:00,400 Speaker 1: so happy to hear that you had a good experience 161 00:09:00,440 --> 00:09:02,600 Speaker 1: when you met me. That makes me feel very very good. 162 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 1: And in regards to your question, oh, it sounds like 163 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:12,320 Speaker 1: she is a bit condescending and has taken advantage of 164 00:09:12,520 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 1: the position that she has, and she feels very maybe 165 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:17,040 Speaker 1: very powerful. 166 00:09:17,960 --> 00:09:18,360 Speaker 3: And. 167 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:22,160 Speaker 1: She's taking that very seriously. Let's just say it and 168 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:25,440 Speaker 1: keep it that way, which can be very annoying. It 169 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:28,200 Speaker 1: sounds very annoying. I cannot with a person that I'm like, 170 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:31,520 Speaker 1: they're like, oh, well, I don't know when you're asking 171 00:09:31,559 --> 00:09:32,880 Speaker 1: them a question like you said, oh, she makes you 172 00:09:32,920 --> 00:09:35,120 Speaker 1: work for it. Oh my god, I'm just like, I'm 173 00:09:35,120 --> 00:09:38,840 Speaker 1: not a child, first of all. But anyways, I can 174 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:41,480 Speaker 1: understand your frustration. I think if other people are feeling 175 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:44,920 Speaker 1: the same way, maybe speaking to your other coworkers and 176 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:47,960 Speaker 1: coming in as a group going to the upper management. 177 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:51,600 Speaker 1: I think that that's going to help your case a 178 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: little more, that it's not just you, it's a series 179 00:09:54,800 --> 00:09:57,600 Speaker 1: of people feeling this way. And I think that that 180 00:09:57,720 --> 00:10:02,120 Speaker 1: definitely will help because feeling so uncomfortable that work and 181 00:10:02,480 --> 00:10:06,000 Speaker 1: someone like like, it's just you're uncomfortable. No one wants 182 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:08,840 Speaker 1: to work in an uncomfortable setting. So I definitely feel 183 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:11,680 Speaker 1: it's worth She probably will get pissed, but I think 184 00:10:11,720 --> 00:10:15,280 Speaker 1: it's worth talking to the to the upper management and 185 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:18,000 Speaker 1: letting them know. You know, maybe you can be all 186 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:19,920 Speaker 1: of you can be anonymous so she doesn't know where 187 00:10:19,920 --> 00:10:22,760 Speaker 1: it's coming from, so that way it's not further discomfort 188 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:26,280 Speaker 1: and tension in the workplace. If that's an option. But 189 00:10:26,400 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 1: I do think you should. You should say something absolutely. 190 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 1: I mean, especially if it's not just you feeling this, 191 00:10:32,480 --> 00:10:34,440 Speaker 1: there's something going on there and she needs to fix 192 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:37,200 Speaker 1: it because that's not cool. So I hope it gets better. 193 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:43,679 Speaker 1: Let us know, keep us updated. Okay, okay, so oh 194 00:10:43,679 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 1: our next question comes from c C. Let's see, hi, 195 00:10:47,520 --> 00:10:48,280 Speaker 1: I have a question. 196 00:10:49,320 --> 00:10:52,440 Speaker 4: Okay, So I had a boyfriend in the past, and 197 00:10:52,960 --> 00:10:59,080 Speaker 4: that boyfriend has a friend and we broke up, you 198 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:03,120 Speaker 4: know our ways, and so this friend comes from a 199 00:11:03,120 --> 00:11:10,600 Speaker 4: different state and talks to him about me. So I 200 00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:12,960 Speaker 4: ended up meeting him. I didn't know that he knew 201 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:19,200 Speaker 4: about me, and we ended up getting married and I 202 00:11:19,280 --> 00:11:21,520 Speaker 4: ended up bumping After a couple of years, I ended 203 00:11:21,600 --> 00:11:25,840 Speaker 4: up bumping into my ex and he tells me that 204 00:11:26,400 --> 00:11:30,520 Speaker 4: the person I married was his supposedly friend and that 205 00:11:30,640 --> 00:11:33,679 Speaker 4: he possibly has another child. That's what he told me. 206 00:11:33,720 --> 00:11:37,240 Speaker 4: I don't know what to believe it because he's trying 207 00:11:37,240 --> 00:11:40,800 Speaker 4: to get back at him. I don't know, but my 208 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:44,120 Speaker 4: ex wants to get back, but I'm with his friend. Now, 209 00:11:44,880 --> 00:11:48,240 Speaker 4: we've been married, we have three kids, and I have 210 00:11:48,320 --> 00:11:52,080 Speaker 4: a daughter with a heart condition. So what do you 211 00:11:52,160 --> 00:11:53,200 Speaker 4: suggest I should do? 212 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 1: Okay, wait, Ceci hold up, So your ex man wants 213 00:11:59,240 --> 00:12:01,400 Speaker 1: to get back with you, but you're with his friend, 214 00:12:02,480 --> 00:12:04,280 Speaker 1: and you guys have kids and you guys are married. Okay, 215 00:12:04,679 --> 00:12:07,120 Speaker 1: Well you're not thinking about getting back with your ex, right, 216 00:12:07,200 --> 00:12:10,680 Speaker 1: But your question is if you should confront your now 217 00:12:10,880 --> 00:12:14,439 Speaker 1: husband about what your ex said. But you're probably afraid, 218 00:12:15,640 --> 00:12:17,280 Speaker 1: like your husband's gonna be like, well, how did you 219 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:19,040 Speaker 1: talk to him? Or you guys bumped in? Well, just 220 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:22,640 Speaker 1: be honest Honestly, you bumped into him, and you know, 221 00:12:22,760 --> 00:12:24,160 Speaker 1: just say I didn't tell you right away because I 222 00:12:24,160 --> 00:12:25,720 Speaker 1: was sitting on this information and I didn't know what 223 00:12:25,760 --> 00:12:28,000 Speaker 1: to do. But honestly, it's bothering me and he told 224 00:12:28,000 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: me this, and I want to ask you, and I 225 00:12:29,679 --> 00:12:32,080 Speaker 1: hope that you can be honest with me, husband, do 226 00:12:32,160 --> 00:12:34,679 Speaker 1: you have another child? Because if it was before you, 227 00:12:35,960 --> 00:12:39,199 Speaker 1: it really shouldn't matter besides the fact that he didn't 228 00:12:39,960 --> 00:12:46,160 Speaker 1: voluntarily give you this information. But so anything before you 229 00:12:46,200 --> 00:12:48,719 Speaker 1: shouldn't really matter, besides the fact that he kept it 230 00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:50,320 Speaker 1: from you. But if he lies to you, then that's 231 00:12:50,320 --> 00:12:52,880 Speaker 1: a whole other story, you know. But I think definitely 232 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 1: give him the benefit of the doubt and ask him 233 00:12:54,760 --> 00:12:56,440 Speaker 1: straight up. Just say, hey, I bumped into so and 234 00:12:56,480 --> 00:12:58,800 Speaker 1: so he mentioned this, and I didn't tell you before 235 00:12:58,880 --> 00:13:01,360 Speaker 1: because I wasn't. I thought maybe because he wants to 236 00:13:01,360 --> 00:13:05,920 Speaker 1: get back with me or whatever, he's lying. Maybe maybe 237 00:13:05,920 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 1: not say that, and actually don't say that he wants 238 00:13:07,480 --> 00:13:08,679 Speaker 1: to get back to you or whatever. Just just say that 239 00:13:08,720 --> 00:13:11,640 Speaker 1: you bumped into him anyways, and then you know, see 240 00:13:11,679 --> 00:13:15,440 Speaker 1: what he says. Why not ask him? You don't want 241 00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:19,760 Speaker 1: to leave that doubt in your mind, because that doubt 242 00:13:19,800 --> 00:13:21,959 Speaker 1: is going to become a mountain and a mountain and 243 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:23,680 Speaker 1: huge and huge, and it's just going to become a 244 00:13:23,679 --> 00:13:25,160 Speaker 1: big issue and then you're going to be mad about 245 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:27,440 Speaker 1: things and it's like it's just lay it on the 246 00:13:27,440 --> 00:13:31,360 Speaker 1: table like boom, here it is. And maybe he's maybe 247 00:13:31,360 --> 00:13:33,280 Speaker 1: it's all a lie, maybe it's true. Maybe you guys 248 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 1: have to figure this out. But don't communicate with your 249 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 1: X anymore. You're gonna get yourself into problems. Don't cut 250 00:13:39,360 --> 00:13:42,120 Speaker 1: that shit off real quick. You're married, focus on your marriage, 251 00:13:42,160 --> 00:13:45,319 Speaker 1: focus on your kids. You don't need that problem. Bye. 252 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:48,760 Speaker 1: Didn't work out for a reason. Okay, all right, guys, 253 00:13:48,840 --> 00:13:51,800 Speaker 1: So thank you so much for your questions. Maria, I 254 00:13:51,840 --> 00:13:53,559 Speaker 1: love you. I love you all. Actually I love you all. 255 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:57,400 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening and tuning into my podcast. 256 00:13:57,640 --> 00:13:59,680 Speaker 1: Do your cheekys and cheekis in Chill. I am so 257 00:13:59,760 --> 00:14:03,240 Speaker 1: great full And if you have a question, go ahead 258 00:14:03,240 --> 00:14:05,959 Speaker 1: and leave it at speakpipe dot com slash Cheekys and 259 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:09,400 Speaker 1: Chill podcast. It is speakpipe dot com slash Cheekies and 260 00:14:09,440 --> 00:14:11,720 Speaker 1: Chill Podcasts. 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