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Speaker 1: First date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Nicky is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Josh.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: if his house why is ghostinger and maybe get her

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Speaker 2: another date. But first, Nikki, how long has it been

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Speaker 2: since you heard from Josh.

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Speaker 3: It's been a few days now, Okay?

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Speaker 4: Is that really ghosting? Is that unusual?

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Speaker 5: Well?

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Speaker 6: I think so because he acted like he wanted to

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Speaker 6: see me again. So I texted him and it's been

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Speaker 6: I don't know, maybe like four or five days without

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Speaker 6: any response.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, Nikki, why don't you tell us about

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Speaker 1: how you met Josh and how the date went.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, we met at this really cool cafe with like

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Speaker 6: old books and candles, and it was a really cool vibe,

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Speaker 6: like he seems to know a lot about places like that,

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Speaker 6: and it was a cool idea and behind the book

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Speaker 6: felt there was a.

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Speaker 4: Speakeasy Oh cute, Well that's cool.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, So when I got there, he showed me that,

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Speaker 6: and so we went in there and it was kind

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Speaker 6: of like a dark room kind of romantic and like

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Speaker 6: sort of eerie, but in a sexy kind of way. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: it was fun. It's like I'd never been to a

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Speaker 6: place quite like that. And at one point the lights

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Speaker 6: kind of flickered and Josh kind of leaned in and said,

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Speaker 6: asked if I felt the energy shift?

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Speaker 4: Energy shift? Okay, was that like coach now? You know?

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Speaker 6: Well, he wanted to tell me this story about a

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Speaker 6: ghost that apparently has been haunting that building since prohibition

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Speaker 6: times and only reveals itself to people.

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Speaker 4: Who believe that's kind of cool.

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Speaker 3: A ghost.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it was a ghost, so he like it could

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Speaker 6: have been creepy, but it felt kind of exciting, like

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Speaker 6: he was making an effort and like putting on a

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Speaker 3: I kind of laughed and played along.

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Speaker 6: We had espresso martinis that were really good, and after

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Speaker 6: the day he walked me to an uber and we

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Speaker 6: were hugging and kissing like no tongue but like still

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Speaker 6: a passionate kiss and kind of like you know, touching

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Speaker 6: each other.

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Speaker 4: That's hot.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So I think he's exciting and interesting and.

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Speaker 6: So cute and just like he's different from anyone I've

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Speaker 6: I just want more.

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Speaker 4: So why do you think he's ghosting?

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Speaker 5: Then?

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Speaker 4: If it sounds like you went pretty well.

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Speaker 6: Well, I think that he might be ghosting me because

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Speaker 6: I don't believe in ghosts.

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Speaker 4: So is that real to him?

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Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I.

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Speaker 6: Think, And like sometimes guys get insulted, I guess to

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Speaker 6: be like, he felt like I was laughing.

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Speaker 3: But I told him after we.

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Speaker 6: Kissed that, you know, like that I didn't really believe

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Speaker 6: in ghosts, but that I had had a really fun

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Speaker 6: time and I told him that he was a great storyteller.

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Speaker 3: And then he asked if I.

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Speaker 6: Believed in ghosts, and I said no, and then his

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Speaker 3: But I didn't really think anything of it.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if why that would be worth ghosting

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Speaker 1: somebody over because the date sounded like it went really well,

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Speaker 1: So I don't know that feels that feels weird?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess.

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Speaker 6: I guess it's been more like I don't know, time

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Speaker 3: I guess it's been more like six or seven days,

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Speaker 6: But he told me to text him when I got home,

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Speaker 6: which was really sweet, and I did, but there was

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Speaker 3: And then he hasn't reached out since then?

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Speaker 4: What game is this guy playing? Does the kind of

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Speaker 4: feel like there's something weird going on there? I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Could he just like be busy? That doesn't That doesn't

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Speaker 4: feel right either. What do you think, Nikki?

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Speaker 2: What is there any other things going through your head

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Speaker 2: on why it could be that he's ghosting you?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 3: I really can't think of anything.

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Speaker 6: I mean, I thought that, you know, I just thought

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Speaker 6: that we had a really good time and so you know,

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Speaker 6: that's the That's the only thing I can think of.

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Speaker 4: I mean, the laughing at him might be an issue.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, maybe I wasn't really laughing at him. I was

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Speaker 6: like laughing at the idea because like ghosts. But I

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Speaker 6: mean it's kind of like a kid thing, you know,

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Speaker 6: just being honest, like I don't feel like I'm being haunted.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, well we'll see if we can figure it

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Speaker 4: out for you.

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Speaker 2: We'll plus song come back and then call him and

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Speaker 2: see if hotell us why is ghosting you?

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Speaker 4: Maybe get you another date?

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Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, thank you, Okay, Well plays song, come back

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Speaker 2: and get your first day follow up next run middle

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Speaker 2: of today's first day follow up. If you're just joining us.

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Speaker 2: Nicky is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 2: a guy named Josh, and we're about to call him

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Speaker 2: and see if ho tellus why is ghosting a real?

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Speaker 4: First? NICKI, why don't you catch us up on your situation?

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Speaker 6: Okay, Well, I went out on the state with this

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Speaker 6: guy Josh, like about a week ago, and we had

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Speaker 6: a great time. We had drinks and we went to

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Speaker 6: this kind of speakeasy place and he told me that,

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Speaker 6: you know that it's sort of haunted like by ghosts

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Speaker 6: from the Prohibition era, and I said, I'm We had

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Speaker 6: a great time. But I did reveal later that I

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Speaker 6: don't really believe it goes. And I think that's maybe

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Speaker 6: why he's not reaching out.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, because you kids, and then you said

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Speaker 1: that and then he ghost Did you believe in ghosting?

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Speaker 5: Though? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: All right, are you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, thank you?

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Speaker 4: Yep, all right, here we go. Hello, Hi, I speak

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Speaker 4: to Josh. Please. This is hey Josh. How are you?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called the Jewbel Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Josh.

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Speaker 1: Ar'mina also on the show him Victoria.

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Speaker 4: Hello, how's it going, it's going, greed. Do you listen

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Speaker 4: to the show ever?

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Speaker 3: Josh?

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Speaker 2: Okay, that's okay, that's fine. Well, Josh, we do a

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Speaker 2: Segon went on our show. It's called the first Date

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Speaker 2: follow Up. What that is is if you go out

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Speaker 2: on a date with somebody and end up ghosting them,

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Speaker 2: they can email us to get you on the phone

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Speaker 2: and ask why you're ghosting. So we got an email

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Speaker 2: about you from somebody that you went out with. M

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Speaker 2: yiss okay, any idea who would be?

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Speaker 5: Hm? I maybe a Nikki?

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Speaker 2: It is a Nikki. And Nikki emailed us and told

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Speaker 2: us she had a really good time with you. But

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Speaker 2: she's confused and says you've been ghosting her for about

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Speaker 2: a week now.

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Speaker 5: M yes, I have.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 5: Well, honestly, she doesn't. She doesn't believe believe in she

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Speaker 5: doesn't believe in ghosts.

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Speaker 4: Okay, she doesn't.

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Speaker 5: Believe in ghosts. She doesn't believe in the spiritual world.

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Speaker 5: She's not open. I've been able to speak to ghosts,

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Speaker 5: and honestly, and she just doesn't believe. She doesn't think

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Speaker 4: So well, why is that a problem?

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Speaker 5: For you, because anyone and everyone can speak and hear ghosts.

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Speaker 5: As long as you open yourself, you can.

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Speaker 4: What does that have to do with dating her?

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Speaker 5: Because if how am I supposed to open my soul,

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Speaker 5: my spirits myself to someone who doesn't believe?

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Speaker 1: Okay, so well that makes because it's about your need,

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Speaker 1: yea more well.

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Speaker 5: It's about it's honestly.

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Speaker 4: Never honestly, it's.

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Speaker 5: About I never meant.

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Speaker 6: Like maybe I wouldn't have laughed about it if you

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Speaker 5: How could you not tell it was serious. I've been

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Speaker 5: speaking to ghosts all evening. You didn't think that was you.

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Speaker 6: I didn't really know that. I mean, you know, I'm

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Speaker 6: open minded. It's just I I didn't know that you

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Speaker 5: This is what I am, this is who I am?

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Speaker 4: Does that feel kind of rue?

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Speaker 5: I'm just speaking to a ghost. Is not speaking on

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Speaker 5: the other person who doesn't have the spiritual ability was exciting. Honestly,

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Speaker 5: I have taken so much time training women to interact

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Speaker 5: with ghosts. Yes, and then Honestly, I feel like they

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Speaker 6: Well, I want to try that. I think that sounds exciting.

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Speaker 6: I want to go back to the speak easy and

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Speaker 4: Well, that's a good thing.

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Speaker 3: I'm open, you know.

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Speaker 5: I'd like to why are you willing to open yourself

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Speaker 2: I'll ask Josh, would you like to go on another

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Speaker 2: date with Niki? We'll pay for it, hm will.

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Speaker 5: I think we can as long as you understand. I

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Speaker 5: will guide you only as far you do understand that

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Speaker 5: this is this is a journey with us.

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Speaker 3: I do.

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Speaker 5: I understand this is a journey. Not necessarily, I mean,

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Speaker 5: it is a date, but it's a journey.

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Speaker 4: So I think that was a yes. Yeah? Is that

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Speaker 4: an for another journey?

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Speaker 5: Yes, it is a yes.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, yeah, let us know how that goes. Grat

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Speaker 4: to NICKI you got another date, Nikki.

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Speaker 5: We will have it. We will have a wonderful time.

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Speaker 5: There's there's a graveyard that I've just been. There's so many,

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Speaker 5: so many spirits there. Honestly, it's a great it's a

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Speaker 5: great crowd.

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Speaker 3: I would love to meet them.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I have a great time. Let us know

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Speaker 4: how it goes.

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Speaker 5: Thank you and and and thank you and uh my

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Speaker 5: friend Jefferson, he approves your choices.

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Speaker 4: Well tell him I said, thank you and have a

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Speaker 4: good one, Josh, have a.

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Speaker 3: Wonderful Thank you.

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Speaker 4: Guys, you will first date, follow up