Speaker 1: From Hollywood. Thank you for listening to us with a
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Speaker 1: You know, each morning, the alarm goes off, and I
Speaker 1: brushed my tongue, get in the shower, mm hm, put
Speaker 1: the stuff in my hair, throw something on. This time
Speaker 1: of year, it's very loose. Yeah, roll in, sit in
Speaker 1: front of the microphone, and I often wonder what will
Speaker 1: we do today, like what are we gonna talk about? Right?
Speaker 1: And it just usually comes together somehow, not always perfect,
Speaker 1: but somehow it comes together right, And all of a
Speaker 1: sudden it's ten o'clock. I didn't see this conversation happening today, ever, John,
Speaker 1: you just told me that her friend of hers about
Speaker 1: my age or younger than me. My friend not more
Speaker 1: my age, she's too. Okay, So are we that different
Speaker 1: in age? You and I? I mean we're like a
Speaker 1: decade apart. I think more your friends thirty two dating
Speaker 1: is seventy year old. Yes, okay. Now, I didn't see
Speaker 1: this as a conversation we would have today about one.
Speaker 1: So that's not the problem because whatever. He's actually also
Speaker 1: very active seventy. You wouldn't guess he was seventy. He
Speaker 1: looks great, he you know, and we're in the middle
Speaker 1: of a pandemic. Do what you gotta do. You know.
Speaker 1: The problem is now they're talking about she's talking about
Speaker 1: having a baby with him, and now I'm in a pickle. Well,
Speaker 1: what's your pick your issue? It's not my issue, but
Speaker 1: I feel as though I should say something, because no,
Speaker 1: I shouldn't owe the say something. What I mean, think
Speaker 1: this through. You're saying he's not going to be around
Speaker 1: for all the life of that child growing up. I
Speaker 1: just think if you look at statistics, if you look
Speaker 1: at statistics, and I also think too a little bit
Speaker 1: has to do with we're in this pandemic. And it
Speaker 1: was just it's kind of a fun thing. I didn't
Speaker 1: think it was anything serious, but now it's turned into
Speaker 1: something super serious. Who wants to have the baby? Is
Speaker 1: it mutual or is one pushing more than the other?
Speaker 1: She wants to have a baby, and she I mean,
Speaker 1: as she talked to you about the fact that she
Speaker 1: realizes that in fifty years, statistics say he's not gonna
Speaker 1: be around. No, I don't think there's anything for you
Speaker 1: to do here because I there's not I think about
Speaker 1: this all the time. What do you think about I
Speaker 1: think about this all the time. I'm forty seven. I
Speaker 1: haven't had a baby different than seven, but I think
Speaker 1: about it differently. I think about let's say I have
Speaker 1: a kid when I'm fifty five. All right, odds are
Speaker 1: at some point daddy's going nightnight right before at night night,
Speaker 1: and the kid may be a teenager, or a kid
Speaker 1: may be in college, or the kid may be just dirty.
Speaker 1: But I got go night night right. Don't think about
Speaker 1: that too. At some point I'm gonna be I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be so old to have my first child that I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna see their forties birthday. By then, you're gonna
Speaker 1: be sleeping in some chamber and you're going to live here.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I am. She's not a wrong.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be in a chamber. I don't
Speaker 1: even know if I want to lift around in twenty
Speaker 1: night needs to be one of our best calendar. It's
Speaker 1: what if someone told you not to have kids with
Speaker 1: your boyfriend. How would you like that? It's not her boyfriend.
Speaker 1: I thought it was. They're dating, But I mean nothing
Speaker 1: that matters tomato tomato or whatever. But yeah, he's with us.
Speaker 1: It's still conversation that is not for you know those
Speaker 1: things that are off limits. This is one of them.
Speaker 1: M Yeah, you just that's where I put my nose.
Speaker 1: I put my nose where it doesn't belong. You know, No,
Speaker 1: we do know that this is your many many with you, Caitlyn.
Speaker 1: Good morning. How you doing good? Hi, I'm doing good. Good.
Speaker 1: So tell me your fiance. What what's going with your fiance? Yeah,
Speaker 1: so you guys have heard about like the great resignation thing, right,
Speaker 1: so like everybody's quitting their job. It's like they're not
Speaker 1: being treated for really or if you're not getting paid enough. Well,
Speaker 1: my fiance is talking about quitting his job, and like,
Speaker 1: I know, he doesn't make a lot. I make more
Speaker 1: than him, and he says it's not a big deal,
Speaker 1: but I know it seems to like bug him sometimes.
Speaker 1: Um but and I also know like his boss is
Speaker 1: hard on him. But I just think him quitting is
Speaker 1: kind of dramatic. Like a lot of these moves are dramatic,
Speaker 1: and I think that's the power in them. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: my problem is like with with him quitting, like he
Speaker 1: doesn't have anything else lined up to even go to.
Speaker 1: And then the problem is is it like we're getting
Speaker 1: married soon, and I just I'm concerned because, like like
Speaker 1: I said, like I'm we're getting married, So what will
Speaker 1: he do if he does resign? I don't know. That's
Speaker 1: the thing, Like that's why I'm concerned. And he doesn't
Speaker 1: have to he doesn't He doesn't have a plan to
Speaker 1: pay the bills. Not really. Yeah, he's like, I'll just
Speaker 1: find something. You need to set some sort of I
Speaker 1: don't know, like a goal, you know, like okay, fine,
Speaker 1: like I want you to be happy if you're miserable
Speaker 1: at your job. I don't want you like hating life
Speaker 1: every day. So but we also have to be responsible, right, yes,
Speaker 1: but like give him three months, you know, like you
Speaker 1: have to really find a job within two months or
Speaker 1: three months because this is our life. I mean, I
Speaker 1: can't just go be an influencer. You know. It's like, hey,
Speaker 1: here I am. And if he wants to do that
Speaker 1: and succeed and more, Right, but it doesn't just happen
Speaker 1: like that. You need a plan, don't you. Yeah, you do, well,
Speaker 1: I think there's no Look, you're you're getting married, You're
Speaker 1: gonna be together. This is a partnership. Then you need
Speaker 1: to have an honest conversation about your concern of his
Speaker 1: next step and what that responsibility looks like. Right. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like I said, we've just we've He's talked about this
Speaker 1: for the past month, but he's now bringing it up
Speaker 1: more often. I just keep trying to be like, hey, like,
Speaker 1: what are you gonna do though, and he just doesn't
Speaker 1: seem to respond to that. He needs He's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'll just quit and figure it out. Mm hmm. He
Speaker 1: needs to line something up at least. Yeah. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: can talk to him. Sinning will tell him he needs
Speaker 1: a ligne something up before he quit. Yeah, they have
Speaker 1: like job recruiters. But if it makes you this uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: maybe you need to postpone getting married. You need to
Speaker 1: see this through. Can't relax. You don't have to go
Speaker 1: that far. Wow, all right, Well, I'll be over here
Speaker 1: in the corner with my cold call post on the wedding. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel like that might be more drastic. Well, I
Speaker 1: wouldn't take this lightly. I think you've got to continue
Speaker 1: to approach this and look it right in the eye.
Speaker 1: All right, good luck and congratulations. I think I don't
Speaker 1: understand how right if you if you're gonna quit, how
Speaker 1: are you gonna pay your bills? Yeah? You just but
Speaker 1: I mean some people can can do that because but
Speaker 1: we're also planners. Like I'm such a planner. I have
Speaker 1: maybe on air with Ryan Seacrest. Sometimes I will. You're
Speaker 1: gonna get to this story about Instagram and should we
Speaker 1: make it more casual again Secony, But sometimes I will.
Speaker 1: And I'm just thinking back to actually New York City.
Speaker 1: I was in Times Square for the New Year's Eve
Speaker 1: show and it was the day before New Year's Eve,
Speaker 1: and I saw an individual like with their legs crossed
Speaker 1: and these huge heeled boots and they were rolling their
Speaker 1: head around in the air and it looked bizarre. And
Speaker 1: then I realized they were doing a photo shoot for
Speaker 1: themselves for Instagram. Right. It looks like in the wild
Speaker 1: when you see it in isolation, you don't see the
Speaker 1: person significant other filming them or shooting them. You're like,
Speaker 1: what are they rolling their head about and why are
Speaker 1: they doing that with their legs? And it's for the Instagram.
Speaker 1: It's Instagramma Bowlt. So you're saying, there's this new concept,
Speaker 1: should we make it more casual only because it's kind
Speaker 1: of naturally already happening at the start of the pandemic.
Speaker 1: I think people were going out weigh less, and so
Speaker 1: it shifted a little bit from these extravagant type of
Speaker 1: photos to just more casual ones, just more in the moment.
Speaker 1: And it actually was a trend that started in TikTok
Speaker 1: because TikTok, when you think about it, people are not
Speaker 1: going above and beyond when they're making these videos. They're
Speaker 1: just kind of like in their normal clothes, making fun
Speaker 1: of themselves almost. It's not like they're a little bit
Speaker 1: you know. So it's kind of spilling into Instagram with
Speaker 1: people now doing like the photo dumps of a vacation
Speaker 1: whis don't get we started on the name photo dump
Speaker 1: bug me. I don't know why. I know I can't
Speaker 1: do it either. A photo dump is where like let's
Speaker 1: say I went to like arrowhead over, what's a name
Speaker 1: photo dump? A name photo dump? Then you say a name, Oh,
Speaker 1: I don't like the name. Yeah, I don't like the name.
Speaker 1: For the name photo dump basically is what people have
Speaker 1: dubbed it. And so I just don't like the word
Speaker 1: dump in your caption. Just um, and then people are
Speaker 1: posting blurry photos things like that. So I was kind
Speaker 1: of just thinking about this for a second. And you
Speaker 1: know who really does the perfect balance of this on
Speaker 1: their I G. Is you Ryan? Like No, I mean
Speaker 1: balance of of of nice pictures that are like, you
Speaker 1: know you look good and you know you're posting it
Speaker 1: because you feel good and you know you look up.
Speaker 1: But then you also put pictures of like you with
Speaker 1: a big old plate of French fries and like a
Speaker 1: burger and like fighting into it, and you don't really
Speaker 1: care what you look like per se. Well, at some
Speaker 1: point you realize you can't care. If you do care,
Speaker 1: you'll never post something. So you kind of just get
Speaker 1: to that, you get to that place in your life.
Speaker 1: I will just I'm gonna let you in behind a
Speaker 1: curtain here. I think I'm gonna redirect my Instagram a
Speaker 1: little bit more to do and I know that it's oversaturated,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna do it because it's what I love.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go more of the provisioning and food route.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go more of when it gets to be spring,
Speaker 1: I'm going to show you the art of the perfect
Speaker 1: picnic basket. I started boarding. I don't know if you've
Speaker 1: seen any of my boards, but I got a big
Speaker 1: which could reboard cheese board for Christmas, and I'm starting
Speaker 1: to just serve meals off the board. And it can
Speaker 1: be cheese, it can be cold cuts, it could be
Speaker 1: a warm meal. So just a little preview here, you're
Speaker 1: probably gonna start seeing a lot more of these cal
Speaker 1: usual shots in the provision the food world tease, uh.
Speaker 1: And also my farming. I'm you know, I'm getting into farming,
Speaker 1: so you'll see a little bit of that. But Casual,
Speaker 1: I like it because it means you don't have to
Speaker 1: do anything to set it up and do it, which
Speaker 1: is really what I'm about. And it captures your pure joy.
Speaker 1: I think when you post these pictures of you eating,
Speaker 1: that is your true self and you're just so happy
Speaker 1: in them, and you see it through the pictures. Like
Speaker 1: burger You thought I ordered that burger. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: I just posed for the picture with the burger and
Speaker 1: then I had a chicken sandwich. All right, it's fat.
Speaker 1: Thank you, though, sister, Casual, I g I'm down. So
Speaker 1: there are apps now that will help you find a
Speaker 1: good friend, a new friend, Tony, what's the one bf
Speaker 1: BfN bumble BFF. But I feel like, if you need
Speaker 1: new friends, why don't you let I can set you
Speaker 1: up on some friends. No, I don't need new friends.
Speaker 1: I was reading something and curious to know what I
Speaker 1: thought I was asking about. Hint, did I ask you?
Speaker 1: Does Hine have a friend platform? You asked me? What
Speaker 1: is the app people can find friends on? Oh? Well,
Speaker 1: someone was talking about it and it got me curious.
Speaker 1: I am not on that. I'm not opposed to it.
Speaker 1: I actually feel more comfortable looking for friends then girlfriends,
Speaker 1: like a significant others on an app like friends is,
Speaker 1: and it's like a lower risk. Yeah. I feel like
Speaker 1: even bringing up this like friends search, and so I
Speaker 1: just I wanted to offer my services. I do, what
Speaker 1: are yours? I do think you and my boyfriend could
Speaker 1: be friends? Oh no, No, we had an immediate connection
Speaker 1: when I saw him, except you pull. It was backstage
Speaker 1: at jingle Ball and as I was just saying, I
Speaker 1: was trying to get to know the guy. You know,
Speaker 1: tiny want to capture the moment and ran us into
Speaker 1: the Entertainment Tonight set, and I thought, well, this is
Speaker 1: not what it's supposed to happen. That's not how it's
Speaker 1: supposed to be. So here are the top three. A
Speaker 1: letto Do you know a letto like Jared a Letto? No,
Speaker 1: I don't know what stands for, but it's if you
Speaker 1: want someone to work out with. These are workout buddies, friends, cute,
Speaker 1: a meek. If you're traveling solo, you can meet people
Speaker 1: wherever you go out in a in the world to
Speaker 1: me too, but it happens like when I was younger
Speaker 1: and I backpack to Europe. I met so many people
Speaker 1: by staying in hostiles. Kidding me what, you backpacked through
Speaker 1: Europe for a month. Yes, that's like a dream when
Speaker 1: you're a kid. Well, I was like twenty to find
Speaker 1: still a dream. You're out on your own, you're in Europe,
Speaker 1: you have nothing to do, and you don't know where
Speaker 1: you're gonna go in hostiles and backpacks and it's it
Speaker 1: loves a fantasy of mine and all you do is
Speaker 1: meet people like it's you had to write to like
Speaker 1: your friends and like the hostels and then they tell
Speaker 1: you where to go see and like it's just like
Speaker 1: you know, piggybacks. Did you ever think your life is
Speaker 1: in danger? Um? Funny you say that looking back. Now, Yes,
Speaker 1: many times I got into random cars with people like
Speaker 1: who know what I mean? Like I would never do that.
Speaker 1: Now it just goes to show funny. I say that
Speaker 1: it's the greatest hazard ever of backpacking by yourself through
Speaker 1: another continent. Yeah it was. It was me and a girlfriend.
Speaker 1: But yeah to twenty something year old from America. Hill
Speaker 1: then use to cautiously. We should make sure you know
Speaker 1: what you what you want. And then there's another one
Speaker 1: called meet my dog, Tanya meet other dog lovers who
Speaker 1: are down for play dates and walks together. I think
Speaker 1: and report. Wait, so that's like my new thing. I'm
Speaker 1: trying to find puppy play dates for Sonny because I
Speaker 1: really want to socialize her. You're welcome. My brother in
Speaker 1: Lawge just got a puppy they should meet. He got
Speaker 1: a French bulldog, though, so don't it might be too
Speaker 1: aggressive for Sunny, But no, no, no no, Sunny. She's such
Speaker 1: an independent woman. She will she plays with the biggest
Speaker 1: of them. All. Right, let's set it up. Yeah, today's
Speaker 1: quote opportunities are like sunrise. If you wait too long,
Speaker 1: you miss them. On air with Ryan Seacrest, Tany is
Speaker 1: in for Sisty with the headlines right now. The Biden
Speaker 1: administration is considering once again extending the freeze on federal
Speaker 1: student loan payments and interest for roughly forty million Americans
Speaker 1: before it expires at the beginning of May. Monthly payments
Speaker 1: and interests have been suspended on most student loans since
Speaker 1: March of Now that COVID numbers are spiraling downward, traffic
Speaker 1: is bad again, but experts say that congestion patterns are
Speaker 1: different than they used to be. Morning and evening rush
Speaker 1: hours are a little bit lower, but in the middle
Speaker 1: of the day the congestion levels are actually higher. Los
Speaker 1: Angeles commuters spent up to seventy five hours stuck in
Speaker 1: traffic per year. And Pete Davidson is going to space.
Speaker 1: The SNL Star will be among six other people traveling
Speaker 1: in the Blue Origin space capsule created by Jeff Baze
Speaker 1: Those The flight is scheduled to launch next week from
Speaker 1: Texas on air with Ryan Seacres. Hello, who's this? This
Speaker 1: is Tony, Tony, how can we help you? A Dolan Ryan.
Speaker 1: Weird situation happened. So my wife and I live in
Speaker 1: a little condo community where the condos are grouped together
Speaker 1: by two, so everyone shares a wall with another condo,
Speaker 1: as any other condo community would be. UM. The other day,
Speaker 1: my neighbor that shares the wall with us came over
Speaker 1: and started talking about how they had to install a
Speaker 1: wall treatment in their bedroom to make the walls soundproof
Speaker 1: because I apparently store too loud You're snoring cuts through
Speaker 1: the peet rock. This is what my neighbor is is saying. UM.
Speaker 1: And she's also saying that it was two thousand dollars
Speaker 1: to do that treatment and asked me not only to
Speaker 1: pay for her soundproofing, but also asking me to install
Speaker 1: the same treatment in my home, which I think is
Speaker 1: absolutely ridiculous. But what do you guys thinking, Do you
Speaker 1: think I should be responsible for this? No, this sounds absurd.
Speaker 1: Are you sure that she has to hear your snoring
Speaker 1: all night? Maybe? My wife? Is it truly? That is
Speaker 1: that legit? Is it that bombastic? I mean, my wife
Speaker 1: says it's a bit of a problem, But I don't
Speaker 1: think it's that bad that it would go through a wall.
Speaker 1: I believe it could. I mean too, I can hear.
Speaker 1: I can hear literally exactly what they're watching next door
Speaker 1: from this room. That's what right now? I can't because
Speaker 1: I have my headphones in and it's morning. It's usually
Speaker 1: nighttime when I hear their t give it away just started.
Speaker 1: You Look, how long are you gonna be there? You
Speaker 1: obviously owned the condo, so then think about that. I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's for this first see noble future. And we're friendliesh
Speaker 1: with her, but you know we're not friends, like we've
Speaker 1: never hung out, so sort of out of line, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Bro? What about a nasal strip?
Speaker 1: Tony was just telling me about these earlier, that she
Speaker 1: puts one across her nose and they widen the holes
Speaker 1: of her nostrils so that she creates more air so
Speaker 1: it doesn't make the snoring sound. It's a great idea.
Speaker 1: I need to try that. I've been procrastinating. I mean,
Speaker 1: I would try that before you build a soundproof wall
Speaker 1: in your path. Good point. I think that's a good
Speaker 1: avenue to explore. I agree, I agree. Let's post it
Speaker 1: on that man. All right, there's something. There's always a worker, right,
Speaker 1: thank you, And look like you said, the good news
Speaker 1: is you own property. Ethan is on the line of this, Hey, Ethan,
Speaker 1: we are going to get into a second date update
Speaker 1: with you. How are you from? Hey, what's up? I'm
Speaker 1: pretty good? Thanks? How are you guys? Good man? Thank you.
Speaker 1: So I'm curious that you went out with this girl
Speaker 1: and her name is Laura and you guys, in your
Speaker 1: mind you hit it off and now she's not responding. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we went out last week. Um been a few days. Uh.
Speaker 1: I felt like the day went great. And are you
Speaker 1: worried about her or are you wanting to go out
Speaker 1: with her? Like what's in your mind? Yeah, a little bit,
Speaker 1: because like I felt like on the day, like I
Speaker 1: don't know, we had like a really good time and
Speaker 1: we had actually like planned on going back out. And
Speaker 1: that's like the part that I guess is kind of
Speaker 1: confusing to me. You know, it's interesting, you think, because
Speaker 1: I think we've all been in this situation where someone
Speaker 1: doesn't respond to a text, and then I follow up
Speaker 1: with another one, and then they don't respond to that one,
Speaker 1: and you do one more because you doubt what you
Speaker 1: said in the middle one. Yeah you're one away from
Speaker 1: looking nuts. Yeah, eats you up, And either they never
Speaker 1: respond or finally they do and you feel like an
Speaker 1: idiot for sending too many. So it's a slippery slow,
Speaker 1: but you really want us to call her and try
Speaker 1: and find you. Have you gotten to the point where
Speaker 1: you've sent two or three outgoings with no response? Yeah?
Speaker 1: The last text I sent was the upside down smiley
Speaker 1: faced emoji, which I don't know if you guys know
Speaker 1: what that one is. But I felt like that one
Speaker 1: was kind of like, hey, I'm still here, like what's
Speaker 1: going on? And yeah, I just I don't know what
Speaker 1: the difference between a little desperation and interest, right, It's
Speaker 1: kind of like sometimes they're very fine raiser thing. It's
Speaker 1: like she's going to react to this. It's like you
Speaker 1: want to show detail and thoughtfulness and thinking and listening
Speaker 1: and interest, but you don't want to look desperate, right,
Speaker 1: And we've we've screwed that up. We've screwed that up.
Speaker 1: I say we because I wanted to. All Right, Ethan,
Speaker 1: you went out with Laura, you all had a good day,
Speaker 1: and then she has stopped texting back. You want to
Speaker 1: go out again. You want to know if anything's okay
Speaker 1: with her. Well, fortunately she agreed to come on. She
Speaker 1: does not know you're with us, So hold on one second,
Speaker 1: be very quiet. I'm gonna talk to her now, Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: hold on, Hi Laura, Hi, it's right in Seacrest. How
Speaker 1: are you. I'm doing well, doing well, great, Well, it's
Speaker 1: nice to meet you. I've got Sissony and Tan you
Speaker 1: with me here. Hi, good morning, Hi, good morning. We're
Speaker 1: calling about I think they told you this on hold.
Speaker 1: We're calling about a guy named Ethan. Did that sound familiar? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, yeah. What happened? And how is that? I
Speaker 1: don't I don't know. We had a happy hour and
Speaker 1: apps and talked and that was it. But um, all right,
Speaker 1: I'm just curious obviously we're trying to understand a little bit.
Speaker 1: Uh what why weren't there sparks or why no connection?
Speaker 1: You think she's not for me? I'm really I'm really good. Um.
Speaker 1: I just feel like, yeah, I'm done to it. And
Speaker 1: have you told him that? No? I mean, I don't
Speaker 1: think I can't figure it out. It's not my job.
Speaker 1: I think that's the thing to put myself in the
Speaker 1: situation for a second, Like that's the thing on either side,
Speaker 1: if it or you, or if it or a Tony,
Speaker 1: if or me or Tobb's not hearing and not knowing
Speaker 1: back gives you this anxiety, this anxious feeling of not
Speaker 1: knowing did I do something? Is she okay? All those things.
Speaker 1: It seems like it's just easier, maybe more considerate, I
Speaker 1: think too, to say, hey, man, grateful for the time. Um,
Speaker 1: but I think it's I don't like the words it's
Speaker 1: not gonna work out because I've heard that before and
Speaker 1: they hurt. So there's gotta be a better way to say,
Speaker 1: basically that, yeah, but you don't want a ghost. You know,
Speaker 1: you have to say I don't think you want to
Speaker 1: ghost Laura. It's not my job though to do that.
Speaker 1: And it's also not some type of job in a
Speaker 1: view where I need to follow up with fees that
Speaker 1: we've been out once. You know, it's like I don't karma.
Speaker 1: I believe in dating karma too. He's a nice guy's
Speaker 1: get interested. He's on the phone now so I just
Speaker 1: heard his voice. I'm gonna bring him in Ethan. Uh.
Speaker 1: He's been listening Laura to this. Laura, why don't you
Speaker 1: take this opportunity to just say it? Just be transparent
Speaker 1: with him now? I mean, I just I've done the
Speaker 1: whole I'm not feeling it. Textas guys and they all
Speaker 1: generally try to talk me into it and present their
Speaker 1: case like there's some sort of lawyer and it's exhausting
Speaker 1: and I just don't want to go through that again.
Speaker 1: And it's honestly a waste of my time and energy.
Speaker 1: And I I don't know what else to tell you.
Speaker 1: She's not coming, all right. I mean, I guess, like
Speaker 1: I I know you don't like owe me anything, but
Speaker 1: you gotta at least just like text me back, just
Speaker 1: like send something. I guess, but you received the message,
Speaker 1: did you not? You receive a message that okay, she's
Speaker 1: not tax me back. I'm just I should just leave
Speaker 1: it there. I should move on. It was when one
Speaker 1: happy hour and appetizers of a of a date, Yeah
Speaker 1: all right, all right, I guess I'm not interested. I
Speaker 1: thought we had a good time, but I guess whatever. God,
Speaker 1: all right, Laura, thank you for a green to come
Speaker 1: on and your honestly ethan good luck to you, bro,
Speaker 1: thank you, thank you. Now I beat myself up at
Speaker 1: this moment. Why is she not interested? Like? What? What? Right?
Speaker 1: I mean, of course there's a list, but why and
Speaker 1: I self torture and self low and all that, so
Speaker 1: that I that opened up, like did that help him?
Speaker 1: Or did that hard. What did it make it worse
Speaker 1: for me? It made everything worse? Helps him? It helped him? Yeah, right,
Speaker 1: how hopefully it helps Laura realized that you should just
Speaker 1: say I don't know what that's true? What are the
Speaker 1: right words to say? Hey, thanks for the apps or
Speaker 1: whatever they did? But but what like I never I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't think this is a match. I don't think
Speaker 1: we're right match. I'm not feeling it. That hurts too expously.
Speaker 1: I don't think the timing. The timing, I think that's
Speaker 1: a good one. Timing is good, Tanya. Timing is not
Speaker 1: right for me right now. I was just giving it
Speaker 1: some thought and the time he's not right. You should
Speaker 1: just say whatever was really going on, that was harsh,
Speaker 1: that's not that opens up wounds for people. Sorry if
Speaker 1: you have to hear that on air with Ryan Seacrest.
Speaker 1: Jenna on the phone on the hold, So, Jenna tell
Speaker 1: me your boyfriend got a tattoo to match yours and
Speaker 1: you're not happy. I am freaked out beyond the freak. Um. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we've allly been dating six months, so we're not talking
Speaker 1: like serious of all seriousness, and I have this little
Speaker 1: tattoo of like an ocean waves. Please don't make fun
Speaker 1: of me, but it's super Callie. I love to surf
Speaker 1: and it's just small and it's like right by my wrist.
Speaker 1: And the guy have been dating uh has always commented
Speaker 1: that he loves it. He thinks it's cute, you know,
Speaker 1: he thinks it's like the perfect size, YadA YadA, like
Speaker 1: he just loves it, and that's great. I'm glad he
Speaker 1: loves it, but he doesn't have to love it enough
Speaker 1: to just a few weeks ago come home. If I'm
Speaker 1: not kidding you, the same tattoo in the same place
Speaker 1: on his wrist. So first of all, I would never
Speaker 1: make fun of an ocean wave. My last name is Seacrest.
Speaker 1: Have do you said? The guy I've been dating, so
Speaker 1: it's not your boyfriend? Well no, yeah, we are boyfriend girlfriends,
Speaker 1: but it's only been like six months. It's not what
Speaker 1: scares you about it the fact that you're not sure
Speaker 1: it's gonna last as long as that tattoo and thank you? Yes, um,
Speaker 1: I think just looking back at my dating history, I
Speaker 1: tend to be like six nine months, twelve months, and
Speaker 1: then I kind of like get a little bored. So
Speaker 1: I feel like I don't know that this is a
Speaker 1: forever guy for me. It's only been six months, um,
Speaker 1: and my track record isn't that great in relationships. So yeah,
Speaker 1: the fact that he got a tattoo, I don't know,
Speaker 1: it's just it weirds me out. And now it's a dundee.
Speaker 1: You know, he can't get it removed. I don't. It
Speaker 1: doesn't bother me because I think he's got to live
Speaker 1: with him not It's yeah, like, what who cares? Let's
Speaker 1: let's point this out, ride the wave on this guy,
Speaker 1: play it out, let's see. Oh god, let's where he goes.
Speaker 1: And if you don't make it his bad, his issue,
Speaker 1: his body, his problem, his tattoo, nothing on you, not
Speaker 1: your problem. Okay. I kind of like where you're coming from.
Speaker 1: I think I was just also worried like people would
Speaker 1: think that I copied him when here's here's the first
Speaker 1: here's the first problem in that statement. Who cares what
Speaker 1: people think? Oh? Preach, That's why I love you guys.
Speaker 1: Just do what we do right, and who cares? Right? Right?
Speaker 1: Good luck, Jenna. I can say that, but I totally
Speaker 1: care what people think, right, And it's like annoying if
Speaker 1: they think you copied your course. I think I would
Speaker 1: think through all that, but it's good to say that
Speaker 1: because maybe she'll take the good advice, which we can
Speaker 1: actually execute. Let's bring in Erica, who you've heard on
Speaker 1: and off on the show before. She's joining us. Now.
Speaker 1: She's the one that was living during quarantine in her
Speaker 1: parents home, in her parents bedroom, which was smart because
Speaker 1: she could freeload, and now she got her own pad.
Speaker 1: I wasn't in my parents bedroom for the records, my
Speaker 1: bedroom at my parents home. I want to make that clear,
Speaker 1: all right, your grows up bedroom. Yeah, uh so, Erica.
Speaker 1: Before we get to this notion of running a half marathon,
Speaker 1: Mark our producers somehow knows about everyone's social life. He
Speaker 1: told me that you went on a bad date recently,
Speaker 1: and I, as a dater or want to know what
Speaker 1: constitutes a bad date? You know what a bad date
Speaker 1: is a really harsh way to put it. It was
Speaker 1: just a date where I literally, you guys felt absolutely
Speaker 1: nothing like it was as if the date was a
Speaker 1: blank piece of paper and I just there was nothing
Speaker 1: to report back on our chemistry or anything. So what
Speaker 1: do you do? How do you do? You have to
Speaker 1: put on a show then and pretend yeah, and that's
Speaker 1: what we're all really good at that. And so I
Speaker 1: bet you he left thinking it was a fine date,
Speaker 1: because this is what we do, we talk to people.
Speaker 1: It's fine. So yeah, and let's do a second date
Speaker 1: update right now with him. No no, no, no no no.
Speaker 1: Believe the poor man alone. He was so nice. There
Speaker 1: was nothing wrong with him. Now to see this begs
Speaker 1: the question, do you ever get bummed that you can't
Speaker 1: be out enjoying these journeys of dating? But through her
Speaker 1: tell me that all that stuff, like, I get enough,
Speaker 1: I get my fixed by hearing her story. Who do
Speaker 1: you think gets more Mark or you? Of the details
Speaker 1: of everyone's social life here? Of everyone, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel like Mark is always like, okay, Tanya's got
Speaker 1: a nasal strip, and make sure. I think I think
Speaker 1: Mark does, only because he takes notes on all of
Speaker 1: our lives right right, Marks our producer. So he's just
Speaker 1: looking at fill time and he probably knows more detail. Yes,
Speaker 1: s sneake, it's my juicy like my juicy date details
Speaker 1: for sure, and from everyone in that sense, all right,
Speaker 1: If you see a guy named Mark with a sharpie,
Speaker 1: don't do anying in front of him. He's gonna jot
Speaker 1: it down. He's gonna jot it down. Yeah for a show.
Speaker 1: Bit Um All right, Erica, you're gonna run a half marathon? Well,
Speaker 1: that is what I have decided. You know. I realized
Speaker 1: that I turned I don't turn thirty this year. I
Speaker 1: turned thirty three. So I decided that before I turned thirty,
Speaker 1: I want to run a half marathon. And I'm whore.
Speaker 1: I'm like, actually very scared of doing this, so I
Speaker 1: don't even know how to start preparing. Okay, I'm having
Speaker 1: deja vu China. Do we have this conversation with you
Speaker 1: when you were turning three? Did this before you rerun?
Speaker 1: I've heard this episode. What happened, sy, Well, I did it.
Speaker 1: I did. I joined Team in Training and so it
Speaker 1: was an organization that you raise money, uh for them,
Speaker 1: Filma Society. And I ran the half marathon in San Francisco.
Speaker 1: Why did I pick that city? But it was of him,
Speaker 1: I don't know. But it was so tough and it
Speaker 1: was raining, and I got huge blisters on the bottom
Speaker 1: of my feet. So that was like and even though
Speaker 1: that was like the experience, it was still an amazing
Speaker 1: experience at the end, and I was telling Erica like,
Speaker 1: when you crossed that finish line, you're gonna get so emotional.
Speaker 1: Like I just burst into tears crying after I crossed
Speaker 1: the finish line. I'm not prepared for emotions, and I
Speaker 1: was gonna it's a build up. Are you doing it
Speaker 1: for a cause? Um? I wasn't. But if I can,
Speaker 1: there's no reason to do it at all. If you
Speaker 1: do it for a cause, then at least there's a
Speaker 1: reason this just for yourself. Come on the blisters crying.
Speaker 1: You know. I was going to do one when the
Speaker 1: before the pandemic hit and then ended up getting I
Speaker 1: was doing with my neighbor Erin. We were going to
Speaker 1: do it together and then we started training, and then
Speaker 1: the pandemic hit and it got canceled and I never
Speaker 1: did it. M I'm going into a phase where I
Speaker 1: hold a little bit of a grudge for distance runners.
Speaker 1: So you have to just look through that lens when
Speaker 1: you hear me. I tore my meniscus, so I really
Speaker 1: after a few minutes, everything starts to hurt on my knee.
Speaker 1: So I kind of like, I don't think that just
Speaker 1: because you can run a long distance makes you, you know,
Speaker 1: human being. You can do like a fast walk, Like
Speaker 1: what are those walkers where they just kind of stride
Speaker 1: those who are those walkers and they're literally called walker
Speaker 1: fast walker and for the good cause to snee. I
Speaker 1: like Erica, you have no cause. You're doing it force,
Speaker 1: so I would say, don't waste no more time on
Speaker 1: the cause. Is like you know, completing something really cool.
Speaker 1: I guess, Yeah, it's a personal cause, the arts and
Speaker 1: crafts project. That's fun. Yeah, it is really bad for
Speaker 1: your knees. This is finally shown up. The menis guy
Speaker 1: of this show have spoken up. I am only going
Speaker 1: for the from now on. Okay, do I have marathon
Speaker 1: because you're going to tear yours like I did. I
Speaker 1: love to run, and by the way, you can definitely
Speaker 1: be Erica's agents. But I'm run and I love to
Speaker 1: run because I like the endorphin rush. But I'm not
Speaker 1: a distance guy. I just I think it's an a
Speaker 1: boredom thing. Okay, all I heard was I II in
Speaker 1: that sentence. It's not Eric, you guys asked. Okay, well,
Speaker 1: I didn't come on the Erica show. She came on
Speaker 1: this show. What am I supposed to do? What? All right? Well,
Speaker 1: keep us posted on this one for a cause, will donate. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: I'll try to. I'll try to think about that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: look up to you and training. Okay, let me grab
Speaker 1: let's call on line one. Good morning, how you doing? Morning? Good?
Speaker 1: Thank you good. What's your name? I'm Ryan. My name
Speaker 1: is Ross, Anne, Ross and Anne put together Ross And
Speaker 1: I like that. I don't know that I've ever taken
Speaker 1: a call from a ross An. Oh. Well, that's amazing.
Speaker 1: List of names that are not in the top one
Speaker 1: thousand Social Security I D name numbers. I would have
Speaker 1: to check it. Yeah, and it's a great because my
Speaker 1: mom's maiden name was Ross and her middle name was Anne,
Speaker 1: and so they put it together. And yeah, how can
Speaker 1: you I see now it's on my call screen. You're
Speaker 1: calling because you are using the same nasal strips that
Speaker 1: has decided to use to open up her nasal cavity
Speaker 1: so she can breathe at night. Yes, I had to
Speaker 1: call in because I, first of all, I've never even
Speaker 1: really heard of people using this, like, especially some girls.
Speaker 1: So I thought it was so great to hear that.
Speaker 1: And I've been using them for I don't even know
Speaker 1: a million years. I feel like and I started thinking,
Speaker 1: you know, there's better options out there, but I but
Speaker 1: I it's changed my life, and I just thought I
Speaker 1: had to call a way to talk about it with
Speaker 1: you guys and let you know that absolutely the honeymoon
Speaker 1: definitely not over in that area. Well that's relief. Do
Speaker 1: you feel like the strip is working? Yes? Oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: I use it, oh, Tanya, Yeah, no, no, no, I mean,
Speaker 1: I mean it's all yours. You've been using it for
Speaker 1: a million years. I'm only use it for like three nights.
Speaker 1: But I feel like it's just it's a life changing.
Speaker 1: But I just like hope it doesn't permanently make my
Speaker 1: nose stay like that. Oh my gosh, that's so funny.
Speaker 1: I thought the same thing that it was going to
Speaker 1: happen to me, and I would the next day, and
Speaker 1: I thought, it's like you when you cross your eyes,
Speaker 1: they don't stay stuck like your mom used to tell you.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I think they kind of do. Well,
Speaker 1: Thank you Ross Sam for calling. I just think it's
Speaker 1: it's Disney and Tanya. And when you get into your
Speaker 1: relationship with somebody, the walls you put up so that
Speaker 1: they don't see the real you deteriorate as time goes on. Right,
Speaker 1: First it starts with going to the bathroom. Then it's gas,
Speaker 1: Then it's gas under the sheet. Then it's there's no strip,
Speaker 1: Then it's a retainer. Then it's a teeth whitening tray.
Speaker 1: What else is there? Then it's the first clipping your
Speaker 1: toe nails, chewing them, spitting them out, chewing the cold
Speaker 1: face mask. You chew your toenails, not my toe nails actually,
Speaker 1: but sometimes I've had to hold one to get you know,
Speaker 1: like you clip one the hole in your teeth on clip,
Speaker 1: then you go to the trash can and dumb them
Speaker 1: all out. No, I don't Why would you know? Why
Speaker 1: why is that coming around? If your body, it's your body,
Speaker 1: it's your foot. My foot's very clean. No, it's not.
Speaker 1: There's dirt under there. Yeah, no, I know you have
Speaker 1: beautiful feet. Blah blah, we get that. But it's still
Speaker 1: your toe nail. It's your toe nail in your mouth.
Speaker 1: I don't see much of dirt there. No, I know,
Speaker 1: that's really amazing feet. It's this weird gift that he has.
Speaker 1: We see your foot, we see it. Do we take
Speaker 1: a screenshot of that? Yeah? Oh you could be a
Speaker 1: foot model. Right angle to the top. Oh, that one
Speaker 1: looks dirty. That one looks dirty. Yeah, you're left your
Speaker 1: left big toe. Something's happening on such a demanding camera person.
Speaker 1: This this one is a bruise because I dropped a
Speaker 1: weight on. Oh my, Oh, I can't, I is getting
Speaker 1: too much? Is a terrible angle of your foot? Yeah,
Speaker 1: shows the good foot. That that's a nice foot. Your
Speaker 1: left foot is ruined. Everyone always has a good foot.
Speaker 1: Here's your right. No, it's not very equal. You do yourself. Yes,
Speaker 1: I d this myself. I don't bring in a team
Speaker 1: to do team like getting a pedicure. That the ryad Bella,
Speaker 1: good morning, How are you doing good? How are you good?
Speaker 1: How can we help you? Bella? Um, I was just
Speaker 1: looking for some advice from Tanya and you guys. I
Speaker 1: feel like I might be in a similar situation as her.
Speaker 1: Um with that period that she broke up with her boyfriend.
Speaker 1: How she kind of got through that in trusted the
Speaker 1: process and knew that they were supposed to be together anyway.
Speaker 1: So where are you in the stage of this cycle? Um?
Speaker 1: We have had some ups and downs. I think we
Speaker 1: both know we want to be together, but he has
Speaker 1: a lot of healing from a past relationship to do
Speaker 1: on his own. First, Okay, what's your question specifically when
Speaker 1: that you are in that stage of not being together,
Speaker 1: what should you be doing? Like do you hold out
Speaker 1: some hope or completely do your own thing? Or well, Tonny,
Speaker 1: do you want to talk about your evolution in that moment?
Speaker 1: I mean, I think you know, everybody says just move on,
Speaker 1: move on, like you're broken up, your single and and
Speaker 1: two and a degree. I I agree with that because
Speaker 1: I think you just throw yourself into things that make
Speaker 1: you happy, like I ran a ton like I was
Speaker 1: running eight miles a day, just like to clear my
Speaker 1: head and things like that. But at the same time,
Speaker 1: I think there's nothing more beautiful than a hopeful heart.
Speaker 1: And if you truly believe that this is the person
Speaker 1: that you're meant to be with, hold onto that hope
Speaker 1: and keep that in your heart and kind of navigate
Speaker 1: in that with that space in your heart and just
Speaker 1: kind of lived day by day. You know, Bellett, this
Speaker 1: is so tough because I've been through this situation myself
Speaker 1: multiple times, and one school of thought is, oh, we
Speaker 1: broke up, you broke up, and that's what's meant to be.
Speaker 1: Don't question it, don't think I guess it, don't harp
Speaker 1: on it, don't belabor it. It is and it did
Speaker 1: and it was and it will be what it's going
Speaker 1: to be. Right. That's one school of thought. Then the
Speaker 1: other school of thought is I can't get this person
Speaker 1: out of my mind. You know, I can't get this
Speaker 1: person out of my mind. That must mean something too.
Speaker 1: The question is how does that not confuse you? Do
Speaker 1: you feel like you can't get this person out of
Speaker 1: your mind? Yeah, it's been months and we both kind
Speaker 1: of keep coming back to it. And what's keeping you
Speaker 1: from coming back to it? Uh? I? He just still
Speaker 1: thinks that he needs to do his own thing and
Speaker 1: like grow and heal more before he can fully be
Speaker 1: with me. Well, heal or be with other people more,
Speaker 1: grow more as a person by himself first before he
Speaker 1: could be in any relationship. Yeah, well, I think you
Speaker 1: have to respect that if that's the case, because one
Speaker 1: who is not grown themselves or comfortable with themselves is
Speaker 1: one that won't be able to share themselves with you
Speaker 1: the right way too, So and that may come down
Speaker 1: to maybe this person is not right for you because
Speaker 1: of it. I think you can't. The thing that I
Speaker 1: see here is you can't do anything about it. You
Speaker 1: can't push this person to have their self growth. They've
Speaker 1: got to grow themselves and they've got to do it
Speaker 1: on their own. And if that is something that becomes
Speaker 1: their priority and takes him away from you, then maybe
Speaker 1: it's not meant to be. Yeah, but also don't let
Speaker 1: him have his cake and eat it too. You're saying
Speaker 1: that you guys kind of keep coming back to each other,
Speaker 1: but he's saying he needs his space to grow. So
Speaker 1: give him that space. Cut him off cold turkey, and yeah,
Speaker 1: I think so too. Move on with your life in
Speaker 1: a sense of like keep the door open for other
Speaker 1: possibilities with other people. And if he comes that I
Speaker 1: feel like sometimes that works, you know, if you're in
Speaker 1: these long relationships, make it seem so easy and text.
Speaker 1: But I'm just saying, I know it's not easy. I
Speaker 1: think it works. I know, go on some dates. It's
Speaker 1: not that easy. Since journal a lot. I would journal
Speaker 1: a lot if I wanted it. When I was like
Speaker 1: crying and it was really hard for me not to
Speaker 1: reach out to him and I wanted to text him,
Speaker 1: I would text my friends. I'd give them my phone.
Speaker 1: I would journal take a bath, going to running writing
Speaker 1: down all this heartbreak. That's even all right, Bella, we
Speaker 1: please keep us posted, okay, I will thank you. Torture
Speaker 1: of having to read the heartbreak is bad enough, feeling
Speaker 1: the grossness of it. Just this conversation has me. Oh no,
Speaker 1: when you write things down, you kind of get them out,
Speaker 1: and it's almost like therapeutic in a way for you.
Speaker 1: For me, it's therapeutic to ignore all of my feelings
Speaker 1: and eat. That's sealthy, Okay. That there's the same, right,
Speaker 1: The best way to get over somebody is to get
Speaker 1: up exactly. It's called gastro diplomacy. On air with Ryan Seacrest.
Speaker 1: All right, Chelseament, good morning, Good morning, your fiance and
Speaker 1: you just moved in with your parents. Tell me what's
Speaker 1: going on. So we decided to save the money before
Speaker 1: the wedding so we can buy a house. But when
Speaker 1: we moved in, my parents really stressed us that we can't,
Speaker 1: you know, fool around in their house. I understand where
Speaker 1: they're coming from to a certain extent, but this is
Speaker 1: like my fiance now, and you can't live together and
Speaker 1: not be intimate. So like what we are we supposed
Speaker 1: to do it or you know, get it on and
Speaker 1: I'm down to break the rules. But my fiance he's
Speaker 1: not up for risking it because he wants to respect
Speaker 1: my parents wishes. So that's nice of him, but I
Speaker 1: don't think that's realistic. I am on your team, and yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, come on, let's all grow up here for
Speaker 1: a second, right, it's my it's and you're grateful to
Speaker 1: be in the home with the parents. But parents just
Speaker 1: don't understand. Sometimes parents just don't sometimes they've done it. Behere,
Speaker 1: Am I wrong? That's how he got there. It's like
Speaker 1: five months from now, So five months will be living
Speaker 1: with my parents. Okay, um, I say tough at out.
Speaker 1: You think we're not going to do it for five months,
Speaker 1: I say, tough a out and build it up for
Speaker 1: the wedding night. I don't just make it that much better.
Speaker 1: Doesn't work. He didn't want to bring it up or
Speaker 1: just wait until your parents are not home one night
Speaker 1: or not home during the day. He won't do it
Speaker 1: at all in the house. He just wants to respect
Speaker 1: my parents. He thinks they're going to find out and
Speaker 1: it's going to ruin everything with you and I respect
Speaker 1: that you should respect and I feel like that's so
Speaker 1: noble of him to care that much about your parents feelings.
Speaker 1: That's a good point. However, I would have a conversation
Speaker 1: with your parents about reality. Okay, And it's to a
Speaker 1: hotel for a night or a car, your car, car
Speaker 1: good your I was like sixteed. There's two choices, three
Speaker 1: choices here. You tell your parents that you know they're
Speaker 1: not going to know, just look the other way, you
Speaker 1: leave the house, or you wait it out. So it's
Speaker 1: one of three doors, good luck, And I don't pick
Speaker 1: one of the three doors, picking one of the three doors,
Speaker 1: pick a door, leave the door open, good luck. You
Speaker 1: know when you said you in the car. I saw
Speaker 1: the story this week that you know, used cars you
Speaker 1: can't like. Used car prices are so high there's no negotiating.
Speaker 1: They're going over asking because there's such a new car shortage,
Speaker 1: because of the lack of shipping parts for new cars.
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