1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:06,600 Speaker 1: From Hollywood. Thank you for listening to us with a 2 00:00:06,760 --> 00:00:11,480 Speaker 1: Ryan Seacrest. Thanks for listening to us on the I 3 00:00:11,560 --> 00:00:15,880 Speaker 1: Heart Radio apps, streaming on satellite nationwide, wherever you might be. 4 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:19,439 Speaker 1: You know, each morning, the alarm goes off, and I 5 00:00:19,440 --> 00:00:24,120 Speaker 1: brushed my tongue, get in the shower, mm hm, put 6 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 1: the stuff in my hair, throw something on. This time 7 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:32,240 Speaker 1: of year, it's very loose. Yeah, roll in, sit in 8 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:34,920 Speaker 1: front of the microphone, and I often wonder what will 9 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:37,559 Speaker 1: we do today, like what are we gonna talk about? Right? 10 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:41,839 Speaker 1: And it just usually comes together somehow, not always perfect, 11 00:00:41,920 --> 00:00:43,479 Speaker 1: but somehow it comes together right, And all of a 12 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:51,760 Speaker 1: sudden it's ten o'clock. I didn't see this conversation happening today, ever, John, 13 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:54,760 Speaker 1: you just told me that her friend of hers about 14 00:00:54,800 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 1: my age or younger than me. My friend not more 15 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:03,720 Speaker 1: my age, she's too. Okay, So are we that different 16 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 1: in age? You and I? I mean we're like a 17 00:01:06,040 --> 00:01:12,840 Speaker 1: decade apart. I think more your friends thirty two dating 18 00:01:12,840 --> 00:01:16,200 Speaker 1: is seventy year old. Yes, okay. Now, I didn't see 19 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 1: this as a conversation we would have today about one. 20 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:21,600 Speaker 1: So that's not the problem because whatever. He's actually also 21 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:24,280 Speaker 1: very active seventy. You wouldn't guess he was seventy. He 22 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:27,080 Speaker 1: looks great, he you know, and we're in the middle 23 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:30,399 Speaker 1: of a pandemic. Do what you gotta do. You know. 24 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:35,880 Speaker 1: The problem is now they're talking about she's talking about 25 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:42,240 Speaker 1: having a baby with him, and now I'm in a pickle. Well, 26 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:48,840 Speaker 1: what's your pick your issue? It's not my issue, but 27 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:52,600 Speaker 1: I feel as though I should say something, because no, 28 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:57,960 Speaker 1: I shouldn't owe the say something. What I mean, think 29 00:01:58,040 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 1: this through. You're saying he's not going to be around 30 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:05,640 Speaker 1: for all the life of that child growing up. I 31 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 1: just think if you look at statistics, if you look 32 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:10,639 Speaker 1: at statistics, and I also think too a little bit 33 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:13,080 Speaker 1: has to do with we're in this pandemic. And it 34 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:15,000 Speaker 1: was just it's kind of a fun thing. I didn't 35 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:17,239 Speaker 1: think it was anything serious, but now it's turned into 36 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:19,400 Speaker 1: something super serious. Who wants to have the baby? Is 37 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:21,720 Speaker 1: it mutual or is one pushing more than the other? 38 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 1: She wants to have a baby, and she I mean, 39 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 1: as she talked to you about the fact that she 40 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:31,640 Speaker 1: realizes that in fifty years, statistics say he's not gonna 41 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:35,680 Speaker 1: be around. No, I don't think there's anything for you 42 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:38,720 Speaker 1: to do here because I there's not I think about 43 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 1: this all the time. What do you think about I 44 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: think about this all the time. I'm forty seven. I 45 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:49,000 Speaker 1: haven't had a baby different than seven, but I think 46 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 1: about it differently. I think about let's say I have 47 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:55,600 Speaker 1: a kid when I'm fifty five. All right, odds are 48 00:02:56,360 --> 00:03:04,320 Speaker 1: at some point daddy's going nightnight right before at night night, 49 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:07,359 Speaker 1: and the kid may be a teenager, or a kid 50 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:09,400 Speaker 1: may be in college, or the kid may be just dirty. 51 00:03:09,520 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: But I got go night night right. Don't think about 52 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:15,080 Speaker 1: that too. At some point I'm gonna be I'm gonna 53 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:17,120 Speaker 1: be so old to have my first child that I'm 54 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 1: not gonna see their forties birthday. By then, you're gonna 55 00:03:20,040 --> 00:03:24,840 Speaker 1: be sleeping in some chamber and you're going to live here. 56 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 1: I don't know if I am. She's not a wrong. 57 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 1: I don't want to be in a chamber. I don't 58 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:30,280 Speaker 1: even know if I want to lift around in twenty 59 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:39,560 Speaker 1: night needs to be one of our best calendar. It's 60 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:44,800 Speaker 1: what if someone told you not to have kids with 61 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 1: your boyfriend. How would you like that? It's not her boyfriend. 62 00:03:49,040 --> 00:03:54,160 Speaker 1: I thought it was. They're dating, But I mean nothing 63 00:03:54,160 --> 00:03:57,040 Speaker 1: that matters tomato tomato or whatever. But yeah, he's with us. 64 00:03:59,120 --> 00:04:02,240 Speaker 1: It's still conversation that is not for you know those 65 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:04,200 Speaker 1: things that are off limits. This is one of them. 66 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 1: M Yeah, you just that's where I put my nose. 67 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 1: I put my nose where it doesn't belong. You know, No, 68 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:13,800 Speaker 1: we do know that this is your many many with you, Caitlyn. 69 00:04:13,840 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 1: Good morning. How you doing good? Hi, I'm doing good. Good. 70 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:22,679 Speaker 1: So tell me your fiance. What what's going with your fiance? Yeah, 71 00:04:22,960 --> 00:04:25,880 Speaker 1: so you guys have heard about like the great resignation thing, right, 72 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:28,400 Speaker 1: so like everybody's quitting their job. It's like they're not 73 00:04:28,440 --> 00:04:33,360 Speaker 1: being treated for really or if you're not getting paid enough. Well, 74 00:04:33,440 --> 00:04:36,240 Speaker 1: my fiance is talking about quitting his job, and like, 75 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:37,760 Speaker 1: I know, he doesn't make a lot. I make more 76 00:04:37,800 --> 00:04:40,000 Speaker 1: than him, and he says it's not a big deal, 77 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 1: but I know it seems to like bug him sometimes. 78 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:45,919 Speaker 1: Um but and I also know like his boss is 79 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:48,919 Speaker 1: hard on him. But I just think him quitting is 80 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:56,080 Speaker 1: kind of dramatic. Like a lot of these moves are dramatic, 81 00:04:56,120 --> 00:04:59,800 Speaker 1: and I think that's the power in them. Yeah, but 82 00:05:00,200 --> 00:05:02,359 Speaker 1: my problem is like with with him quitting, like he 83 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:04,320 Speaker 1: doesn't have anything else lined up to even go to. 84 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:07,599 Speaker 1: And then the problem is is it like we're getting 85 00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 1: married soon, and I just I'm concerned because, like like 86 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:14,159 Speaker 1: I said, like I'm we're getting married, So what will 87 00:05:14,200 --> 00:05:18,240 Speaker 1: he do if he does resign? I don't know. That's 88 00:05:18,279 --> 00:05:20,440 Speaker 1: the thing, Like that's why I'm concerned. And he doesn't 89 00:05:20,440 --> 00:05:22,919 Speaker 1: have to he doesn't He doesn't have a plan to 90 00:05:23,360 --> 00:05:27,760 Speaker 1: pay the bills. Not really. Yeah, he's like, I'll just 91 00:05:27,880 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 1: find something. You need to set some sort of I 92 00:05:31,480 --> 00:05:33,719 Speaker 1: don't know, like a goal, you know, like okay, fine, 93 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 1: like I want you to be happy if you're miserable 94 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 1: at your job. I don't want you like hating life 95 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:41,440 Speaker 1: every day. So but we also have to be responsible, right, yes, 96 00:05:41,560 --> 00:05:43,440 Speaker 1: but like give him three months, you know, like you 97 00:05:43,480 --> 00:05:45,919 Speaker 1: have to really find a job within two months or 98 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:49,080 Speaker 1: three months because this is our life. I mean, I 99 00:05:49,400 --> 00:05:51,880 Speaker 1: can't just go be an influencer. You know. It's like, hey, 100 00:05:52,279 --> 00:05:54,279 Speaker 1: here I am. And if he wants to do that 101 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:57,840 Speaker 1: and succeed and more, Right, but it doesn't just happen 102 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:01,400 Speaker 1: like that. You need a plan, don't you. Yeah, you do, well, 103 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:04,480 Speaker 1: I think there's no Look, you're you're getting married, You're 104 00:06:04,480 --> 00:06:07,280 Speaker 1: gonna be together. This is a partnership. Then you need 105 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 1: to have an honest conversation about your concern of his 106 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 1: next step and what that responsibility looks like. Right. Yeah, 107 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:18,359 Speaker 1: Like I said, we've just we've He's talked about this 108 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:21,360 Speaker 1: for the past month, but he's now bringing it up 109 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:23,479 Speaker 1: more often. I just keep trying to be like, hey, like, 110 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:25,120 Speaker 1: what are you gonna do though, and he just doesn't 111 00:06:25,120 --> 00:06:27,560 Speaker 1: seem to respond to that. He needs He's like, oh, 112 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:32,800 Speaker 1: I'll just quit and figure it out. Mm hmm. He 113 00:06:32,839 --> 00:06:38,200 Speaker 1: needs to line something up at least. Yeah. Yeah, I 114 00:06:38,240 --> 00:06:40,039 Speaker 1: can talk to him. Sinning will tell him he needs 115 00:06:40,040 --> 00:06:43,839 Speaker 1: a ligne something up before he quit. Yeah, they have 116 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:47,919 Speaker 1: like job recruiters. But if it makes you this uncomfortable, 117 00:06:47,960 --> 00:06:49,840 Speaker 1: maybe you need to postpone getting married. You need to 118 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:52,960 Speaker 1: see this through. Can't relax. You don't have to go 119 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:57,280 Speaker 1: that far. Wow, all right, Well, I'll be over here 120 00:06:57,320 --> 00:07:03,200 Speaker 1: in the corner with my cold call post on the wedding. Yeah, 121 00:07:03,240 --> 00:07:06,839 Speaker 1: I feel like that might be more drastic. Well, I 122 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:09,160 Speaker 1: wouldn't take this lightly. I think you've got to continue 123 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:11,200 Speaker 1: to approach this and look it right in the eye. 124 00:07:11,480 --> 00:07:16,360 Speaker 1: All right, good luck and congratulations. I think I don't 125 00:07:16,440 --> 00:07:19,520 Speaker 1: understand how right if you if you're gonna quit, how 126 00:07:19,560 --> 00:07:24,240 Speaker 1: are you gonna pay your bills? Yeah? You just but 127 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:27,440 Speaker 1: I mean some people can can do that because but 128 00:07:27,520 --> 00:07:30,360 Speaker 1: we're also planners. Like I'm such a planner. I have 129 00:07:32,160 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 1: maybe on air with Ryan Seacrest. Sometimes I will. You're 130 00:07:38,440 --> 00:07:40,720 Speaker 1: gonna get to this story about Instagram and should we 131 00:07:40,720 --> 00:07:45,000 Speaker 1: make it more casual again Secony, But sometimes I will. 132 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:47,400 Speaker 1: And I'm just thinking back to actually New York City. 133 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:49,800 Speaker 1: I was in Times Square for the New Year's Eve 134 00:07:49,880 --> 00:07:54,400 Speaker 1: show and it was the day before New Year's Eve, 135 00:07:55,240 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 1: and I saw an individual like with their legs crossed 136 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:04,720 Speaker 1: and these huge heeled boots and they were rolling their 137 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:08,600 Speaker 1: head around in the air and it looked bizarre. And 138 00:08:08,640 --> 00:08:10,760 Speaker 1: then I realized they were doing a photo shoot for 139 00:08:10,800 --> 00:08:14,680 Speaker 1: themselves for Instagram. Right. It looks like in the wild 140 00:08:14,720 --> 00:08:16,440 Speaker 1: when you see it in isolation, you don't see the 141 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:20,880 Speaker 1: person significant other filming them or shooting them. You're like, 142 00:08:20,960 --> 00:08:23,800 Speaker 1: what are they rolling their head about and why are 143 00:08:23,800 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 1: they doing that with their legs? And it's for the Instagram. 144 00:08:28,320 --> 00:08:32,360 Speaker 1: It's Instagramma Bowlt. So you're saying, there's this new concept, 145 00:08:32,400 --> 00:08:36,480 Speaker 1: should we make it more casual only because it's kind 146 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:39,880 Speaker 1: of naturally already happening at the start of the pandemic. 147 00:08:39,920 --> 00:08:42,360 Speaker 1: I think people were going out weigh less, and so 148 00:08:42,600 --> 00:08:46,400 Speaker 1: it shifted a little bit from these extravagant type of 149 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:50,720 Speaker 1: photos to just more casual ones, just more in the moment. 150 00:08:51,280 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 1: And it actually was a trend that started in TikTok 151 00:08:53,679 --> 00:08:56,200 Speaker 1: because TikTok, when you think about it, people are not 152 00:08:57,000 --> 00:08:59,280 Speaker 1: going above and beyond when they're making these videos. They're 153 00:08:59,280 --> 00:09:02,360 Speaker 1: just kind of like in their normal clothes, making fun 154 00:09:02,400 --> 00:09:06,280 Speaker 1: of themselves almost. It's not like they're a little bit 155 00:09:06,320 --> 00:09:09,360 Speaker 1: you know. So it's kind of spilling into Instagram with 156 00:09:09,440 --> 00:09:12,079 Speaker 1: people now doing like the photo dumps of a vacation 157 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:14,840 Speaker 1: whis don't get we started on the name photo dump 158 00:09:15,160 --> 00:09:17,040 Speaker 1: bug me. I don't know why. I know I can't 159 00:09:17,040 --> 00:09:21,360 Speaker 1: do it either. A photo dump is where like let's 160 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:23,880 Speaker 1: say I went to like arrowhead over, what's a name 161 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:28,000 Speaker 1: photo dump? A name photo dump? Then you say a name, Oh, 162 00:09:28,040 --> 00:09:30,080 Speaker 1: I don't like the name. Yeah, I don't like the name. 163 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:34,200 Speaker 1: For the name photo dump basically is what people have 164 00:09:34,320 --> 00:09:37,400 Speaker 1: dubbed it. And so I just don't like the word 165 00:09:37,480 --> 00:09:40,400 Speaker 1: dump in your caption. Just um, and then people are 166 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:42,720 Speaker 1: posting blurry photos things like that. So I was kind 167 00:09:42,720 --> 00:09:44,200 Speaker 1: of just thinking about this for a second. And you 168 00:09:44,200 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 1: know who really does the perfect balance of this on 169 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:51,960 Speaker 1: their I G. Is you Ryan? Like No, I mean 170 00:09:52,040 --> 00:09:55,560 Speaker 1: balance of of of nice pictures that are like, you 171 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 1: know you look good and you know you're posting it 172 00:09:57,640 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 1: because you feel good and you know you look up. 173 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 1: But then you also put pictures of like you with 174 00:10:01,200 --> 00:10:03,320 Speaker 1: a big old plate of French fries and like a 175 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:05,959 Speaker 1: burger and like fighting into it, and you don't really 176 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:09,960 Speaker 1: care what you look like per se. Well, at some 177 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:12,839 Speaker 1: point you realize you can't care. If you do care, 178 00:10:12,880 --> 00:10:15,240 Speaker 1: you'll never post something. So you kind of just get 179 00:10:15,280 --> 00:10:17,280 Speaker 1: to that, you get to that place in your life. 180 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 1: I will just I'm gonna let you in behind a 181 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:23,760 Speaker 1: curtain here. I think I'm gonna redirect my Instagram a 182 00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:27,600 Speaker 1: little bit more to do and I know that it's oversaturated, 183 00:10:27,640 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 1: but I'm gonna do it because it's what I love. 184 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:33,640 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go more of the provisioning and food route. 185 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:36,319 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go more of when it gets to be spring, 186 00:10:36,320 --> 00:10:38,080 Speaker 1: I'm going to show you the art of the perfect 187 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:42,600 Speaker 1: picnic basket. I started boarding. I don't know if you've 188 00:10:42,600 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 1: seen any of my boards, but I got a big 189 00:10:45,200 --> 00:10:48,920 Speaker 1: which could reboard cheese board for Christmas, and I'm starting 190 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:51,439 Speaker 1: to just serve meals off the board. And it can 191 00:10:51,480 --> 00:10:53,560 Speaker 1: be cheese, it can be cold cuts, it could be 192 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:57,800 Speaker 1: a warm meal. So just a little preview here, you're 193 00:10:57,840 --> 00:10:59,800 Speaker 1: probably gonna start seeing a lot more of these cal 194 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:05,320 Speaker 1: usual shots in the provision the food world tease, uh. 195 00:11:05,360 --> 00:11:07,840 Speaker 1: And also my farming. I'm you know, I'm getting into farming, 196 00:11:07,920 --> 00:11:09,880 Speaker 1: so you'll see a little bit of that. But Casual, 197 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:11,560 Speaker 1: I like it because it means you don't have to 198 00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:14,360 Speaker 1: do anything to set it up and do it, which 199 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:18,600 Speaker 1: is really what I'm about. And it captures your pure joy. 200 00:11:18,720 --> 00:11:20,600 Speaker 1: I think when you post these pictures of you eating, 201 00:11:21,040 --> 00:11:23,800 Speaker 1: that is your true self and you're just so happy 202 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:26,880 Speaker 1: in them, and you see it through the pictures. Like 203 00:11:27,280 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 1: burger You thought I ordered that burger. No, no, no, 204 00:11:29,520 --> 00:11:31,439 Speaker 1: I just posed for the picture with the burger and 205 00:11:31,440 --> 00:11:35,640 Speaker 1: then I had a chicken sandwich. All right, it's fat. 206 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:38,920 Speaker 1: Thank you, though, sister, Casual, I g I'm down. So 207 00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:43,439 Speaker 1: there are apps now that will help you find a 208 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 1: good friend, a new friend, Tony, what's the one bf 209 00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 1: BfN bumble BFF. But I feel like, if you need 210 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:52,480 Speaker 1: new friends, why don't you let I can set you 211 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:54,920 Speaker 1: up on some friends. No, I don't need new friends. 212 00:11:55,559 --> 00:12:01,840 Speaker 1: I was reading something and curious to know what I 213 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:03,400 Speaker 1: thought I was asking about. Hint, did I ask you? 214 00:12:03,440 --> 00:12:07,560 Speaker 1: Does Hine have a friend platform? You asked me? What 215 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:11,280 Speaker 1: is the app people can find friends on? Oh? Well, 216 00:12:11,400 --> 00:12:13,479 Speaker 1: someone was talking about it and it got me curious. 217 00:12:13,760 --> 00:12:18,920 Speaker 1: I am not on that. I'm not opposed to it. 218 00:12:19,160 --> 00:12:24,000 Speaker 1: I actually feel more comfortable looking for friends then girlfriends, 219 00:12:24,040 --> 00:12:26,880 Speaker 1: like a significant others on an app like friends is, 220 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:29,800 Speaker 1: and it's like a lower risk. Yeah. I feel like 221 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 1: even bringing up this like friends search, and so I 222 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:34,640 Speaker 1: just I wanted to offer my services. I do, what 223 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:37,280 Speaker 1: are yours? I do think you and my boyfriend could 224 00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:42,200 Speaker 1: be friends? Oh no, No, we had an immediate connection 225 00:12:43,520 --> 00:12:47,760 Speaker 1: when I saw him, except you pull. It was backstage 226 00:12:47,800 --> 00:12:50,080 Speaker 1: at jingle Ball and as I was just saying, I 227 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:51,600 Speaker 1: was trying to get to know the guy. You know, 228 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:54,440 Speaker 1: tiny want to capture the moment and ran us into 229 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:57,080 Speaker 1: the Entertainment Tonight set, and I thought, well, this is 230 00:12:57,080 --> 00:12:59,160 Speaker 1: not what it's supposed to happen. That's not how it's 231 00:12:59,160 --> 00:13:05,120 Speaker 1: supposed to be. So here are the top three. A 232 00:13:05,320 --> 00:13:11,440 Speaker 1: letto Do you know a letto like Jared a Letto? No, 233 00:13:11,480 --> 00:13:12,920 Speaker 1: I don't know what stands for, but it's if you 234 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:17,600 Speaker 1: want someone to work out with. These are workout buddies, friends, cute, 235 00:13:17,240 --> 00:13:20,120 Speaker 1: a meek. If you're traveling solo, you can meet people 236 00:13:20,160 --> 00:13:23,840 Speaker 1: wherever you go out in a in the world to 237 00:13:23,920 --> 00:13:27,520 Speaker 1: me too, but it happens like when I was younger 238 00:13:27,559 --> 00:13:30,400 Speaker 1: and I backpack to Europe. I met so many people 239 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:35,920 Speaker 1: by staying in hostiles. Kidding me what, you backpacked through 240 00:13:35,960 --> 00:13:39,640 Speaker 1: Europe for a month. Yes, that's like a dream when 241 00:13:39,679 --> 00:13:43,760 Speaker 1: you're a kid. Well, I was like twenty to find 242 00:13:43,800 --> 00:13:45,920 Speaker 1: still a dream. You're out on your own, you're in Europe, 243 00:13:45,920 --> 00:13:48,280 Speaker 1: you have nothing to do, and you don't know where 244 00:13:48,280 --> 00:13:51,400 Speaker 1: you're gonna go in hostiles and backpacks and it's it 245 00:13:51,559 --> 00:13:53,440 Speaker 1: loves a fantasy of mine and all you do is 246 00:13:53,520 --> 00:13:56,000 Speaker 1: meet people like it's you had to write to like 247 00:13:56,200 --> 00:13:58,520 Speaker 1: your friends and like the hostels and then they tell 248 00:13:58,559 --> 00:14:00,160 Speaker 1: you where to go see and like it's just like 249 00:14:00,200 --> 00:14:02,959 Speaker 1: you know, piggybacks. Did you ever think your life is 250 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:07,679 Speaker 1: in danger? Um? Funny you say that looking back. Now, Yes, 251 00:14:07,960 --> 00:14:10,520 Speaker 1: many times I got into random cars with people like 252 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:12,560 Speaker 1: who know what I mean? Like I would never do that. 253 00:14:12,640 --> 00:14:14,680 Speaker 1: Now it just goes to show funny. I say that 254 00:14:14,679 --> 00:14:17,520 Speaker 1: it's the greatest hazard ever of backpacking by yourself through 255 00:14:17,720 --> 00:14:22,000 Speaker 1: another continent. Yeah it was. It was me and a girlfriend. 256 00:14:22,000 --> 00:14:24,960 Speaker 1: But yeah to twenty something year old from America. Hill 257 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:27,360 Speaker 1: then use to cautiously. We should make sure you know 258 00:14:27,400 --> 00:14:29,640 Speaker 1: what you what you want. And then there's another one 259 00:14:29,640 --> 00:14:33,400 Speaker 1: called meet my dog, Tanya meet other dog lovers who 260 00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:35,760 Speaker 1: are down for play dates and walks together. I think 261 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:40,000 Speaker 1: and report. Wait, so that's like my new thing. I'm 262 00:14:40,040 --> 00:14:42,040 Speaker 1: trying to find puppy play dates for Sonny because I 263 00:14:42,080 --> 00:14:46,320 Speaker 1: really want to socialize her. You're welcome. My brother in 264 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:49,600 Speaker 1: Lawge just got a puppy they should meet. He got 265 00:14:49,600 --> 00:14:51,320 Speaker 1: a French bulldog, though, so don't it might be too 266 00:14:51,320 --> 00:14:53,680 Speaker 1: aggressive for Sunny, But no, no, no no, Sunny. She's such 267 00:14:53,720 --> 00:14:56,640 Speaker 1: an independent woman. She will she plays with the biggest 268 00:14:56,640 --> 00:15:00,880 Speaker 1: of them. All. Right, let's set it up. Yeah, today's 269 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:05,360 Speaker 1: quote opportunities are like sunrise. If you wait too long, 270 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:11,320 Speaker 1: you miss them. On air with Ryan Seacrest, Tany is 271 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:14,000 Speaker 1: in for Sisty with the headlines right now. The Biden 272 00:15:14,000 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 1: administration is considering once again extending the freeze on federal 273 00:15:18,080 --> 00:15:21,920 Speaker 1: student loan payments and interest for roughly forty million Americans 274 00:15:21,960 --> 00:15:25,240 Speaker 1: before it expires at the beginning of May. Monthly payments 275 00:15:25,240 --> 00:15:28,440 Speaker 1: and interests have been suspended on most student loans since 276 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:33,400 Speaker 1: March of Now that COVID numbers are spiraling downward, traffic 277 00:15:33,600 --> 00:15:36,960 Speaker 1: is bad again, but experts say that congestion patterns are 278 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 1: different than they used to be. Morning and evening rush 279 00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:42,080 Speaker 1: hours are a little bit lower, but in the middle 280 00:15:42,120 --> 00:15:45,320 Speaker 1: of the day the congestion levels are actually higher. Los 281 00:15:45,400 --> 00:15:48,920 Speaker 1: Angeles commuters spent up to seventy five hours stuck in 282 00:15:49,040 --> 00:15:53,800 Speaker 1: traffic per year. And Pete Davidson is going to space. 283 00:15:54,120 --> 00:15:57,160 Speaker 1: The SNL Star will be among six other people traveling 284 00:15:57,200 --> 00:16:00,000 Speaker 1: in the Blue Origin space capsule created by Jeff Baze 285 00:16:00,040 --> 00:16:03,360 Speaker 1: Those The flight is scheduled to launch next week from 286 00:16:03,600 --> 00:16:11,560 Speaker 1: Texas on air with Ryan Seacres. Hello, who's this? This 287 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:15,560 Speaker 1: is Tony, Tony, how can we help you? A Dolan Ryan. 288 00:16:16,440 --> 00:16:20,480 Speaker 1: Weird situation happened. So my wife and I live in 289 00:16:20,560 --> 00:16:23,480 Speaker 1: a little condo community where the condos are grouped together 290 00:16:23,480 --> 00:16:26,360 Speaker 1: by two, so everyone shares a wall with another condo, 291 00:16:26,640 --> 00:16:30,880 Speaker 1: as any other condo community would be. UM. The other day, 292 00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:33,400 Speaker 1: my neighbor that shares the wall with us came over 293 00:16:33,640 --> 00:16:36,840 Speaker 1: and started talking about how they had to install a 294 00:16:36,880 --> 00:16:40,440 Speaker 1: wall treatment in their bedroom to make the walls soundproof 295 00:16:40,480 --> 00:16:44,640 Speaker 1: because I apparently store too loud You're snoring cuts through 296 00:16:45,040 --> 00:16:50,920 Speaker 1: the peet rock. This is what my neighbor is is saying. UM. 297 00:16:51,000 --> 00:16:54,359 Speaker 1: And she's also saying that it was two thousand dollars 298 00:16:54,440 --> 00:16:57,600 Speaker 1: to do that treatment and asked me not only to 299 00:16:57,680 --> 00:17:02,480 Speaker 1: pay for her soundproofing, but also asking me to install 300 00:17:02,600 --> 00:17:05,879 Speaker 1: the same treatment in my home, which I think is 301 00:17:05,920 --> 00:17:09,399 Speaker 1: absolutely ridiculous. But what do you guys thinking, Do you 302 00:17:09,400 --> 00:17:12,600 Speaker 1: think I should be responsible for this? No, this sounds absurd. 303 00:17:13,119 --> 00:17:16,040 Speaker 1: Are you sure that she has to hear your snoring 304 00:17:16,160 --> 00:17:24,800 Speaker 1: all night? Maybe? My wife? Is it truly? That is 305 00:17:24,800 --> 00:17:30,480 Speaker 1: that legit? Is it that bombastic? I mean, my wife 306 00:17:30,520 --> 00:17:32,640 Speaker 1: says it's a bit of a problem, But I don't 307 00:17:32,640 --> 00:17:34,639 Speaker 1: think it's that bad that it would go through a wall. 308 00:17:36,080 --> 00:17:38,720 Speaker 1: I believe it could. I mean too, I can hear. 309 00:17:38,840 --> 00:17:42,359 Speaker 1: I can hear literally exactly what they're watching next door 310 00:17:42,400 --> 00:17:46,280 Speaker 1: from this room. That's what right now? I can't because 311 00:17:46,280 --> 00:17:48,040 Speaker 1: I have my headphones in and it's morning. It's usually 312 00:17:48,119 --> 00:17:50,200 Speaker 1: nighttime when I hear their t give it away just started. 313 00:17:51,680 --> 00:17:53,399 Speaker 1: You Look, how long are you gonna be there? You 314 00:17:53,600 --> 00:17:58,280 Speaker 1: obviously owned the condo, so then think about that. I mean, yeah, 315 00:17:58,320 --> 00:18:02,000 Speaker 1: it's for this first see noble future. And we're friendliesh 316 00:18:02,160 --> 00:18:05,760 Speaker 1: with her, but you know we're not friends, like we've 317 00:18:05,800 --> 00:18:08,760 Speaker 1: never hung out, so sort of out of line, you 318 00:18:08,800 --> 00:18:12,919 Speaker 1: know what I mean? Bro? What about a nasal strip? 319 00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:15,240 Speaker 1: Tony was just telling me about these earlier, that she 320 00:18:15,359 --> 00:18:20,920 Speaker 1: puts one across her nose and they widen the holes 321 00:18:21,119 --> 00:18:23,919 Speaker 1: of her nostrils so that she creates more air so 322 00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:27,040 Speaker 1: it doesn't make the snoring sound. It's a great idea. 323 00:18:27,800 --> 00:18:29,919 Speaker 1: I need to try that. I've been procrastinating. I mean, 324 00:18:29,920 --> 00:18:32,800 Speaker 1: I would try that before you build a soundproof wall 325 00:18:32,920 --> 00:18:35,400 Speaker 1: in your path. Good point. I think that's a good 326 00:18:36,119 --> 00:18:41,159 Speaker 1: avenue to explore. I agree, I agree. Let's post it 327 00:18:41,200 --> 00:18:45,000 Speaker 1: on that man. All right, there's something. There's always a worker, right, 328 00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:47,240 Speaker 1: thank you, And look like you said, the good news 329 00:18:47,320 --> 00:18:51,119 Speaker 1: is you own property. Ethan is on the line of this, Hey, Ethan, 330 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:53,560 Speaker 1: we are going to get into a second date update 331 00:18:53,600 --> 00:18:56,480 Speaker 1: with you. How are you from? Hey, what's up? I'm 332 00:18:56,520 --> 00:18:59,320 Speaker 1: pretty good? Thanks? How are you guys? Good man? Thank you. 333 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:03,680 Speaker 1: So I'm curious that you went out with this girl 334 00:19:03,720 --> 00:19:07,639 Speaker 1: and her name is Laura and you guys, in your 335 00:19:07,640 --> 00:19:11,440 Speaker 1: mind you hit it off and now she's not responding. Yeah, 336 00:19:11,560 --> 00:19:15,679 Speaker 1: we went out last week. Um been a few days. Uh. 337 00:19:15,720 --> 00:19:18,359 Speaker 1: I felt like the day went great. And are you 338 00:19:18,880 --> 00:19:20,880 Speaker 1: worried about her or are you wanting to go out 339 00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:24,560 Speaker 1: with her? Like what's in your mind? Yeah, a little bit, 340 00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:26,800 Speaker 1: because like I felt like on the day, like I 341 00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:29,359 Speaker 1: don't know, we had like a really good time and 342 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:33,000 Speaker 1: we had actually like planned on going back out. And 343 00:19:33,080 --> 00:19:34,879 Speaker 1: that's like the part that I guess is kind of 344 00:19:34,880 --> 00:19:39,840 Speaker 1: confusing to me. You know, it's interesting, you think, because 345 00:19:39,840 --> 00:19:45,000 Speaker 1: I think we've all been in this situation where someone 346 00:19:45,119 --> 00:19:49,399 Speaker 1: doesn't respond to a text, and then I follow up 347 00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:53,040 Speaker 1: with another one, and then they don't respond to that one, 348 00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:55,199 Speaker 1: and you do one more because you doubt what you 349 00:19:55,240 --> 00:19:58,720 Speaker 1: said in the middle one. Yeah you're one away from 350 00:19:58,720 --> 00:20:03,600 Speaker 1: looking nuts. Yeah, eats you up, And either they never 351 00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:06,000 Speaker 1: respond or finally they do and you feel like an 352 00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:10,760 Speaker 1: idiot for sending too many. So it's a slippery slow, 353 00:20:10,880 --> 00:20:13,960 Speaker 1: but you really want us to call her and try 354 00:20:13,960 --> 00:20:15,960 Speaker 1: and find you. Have you gotten to the point where 355 00:20:15,960 --> 00:20:20,639 Speaker 1: you've sent two or three outgoings with no response? Yeah? 356 00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:24,240 Speaker 1: The last text I sent was the upside down smiley 357 00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:26,399 Speaker 1: faced emoji, which I don't know if you guys know 358 00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:28,040 Speaker 1: what that one is. But I felt like that one 359 00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:30,200 Speaker 1: was kind of like, hey, I'm still here, like what's 360 00:20:30,200 --> 00:20:33,600 Speaker 1: going on? And yeah, I just I don't know what 361 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:37,359 Speaker 1: the difference between a little desperation and interest, right, It's 362 00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:42,840 Speaker 1: kind of like sometimes they're very fine raiser thing. It's 363 00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:45,919 Speaker 1: like she's going to react to this. It's like you 364 00:20:45,960 --> 00:20:49,360 Speaker 1: want to show detail and thoughtfulness and thinking and listening 365 00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:54,480 Speaker 1: and interest, but you don't want to look desperate, right, 366 00:20:56,000 --> 00:20:58,920 Speaker 1: And we've we've screwed that up. We've screwed that up. 367 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:05,479 Speaker 1: I say we because I wanted to. All Right, Ethan, 368 00:21:06,720 --> 00:21:09,320 Speaker 1: you went out with Laura, you all had a good day, 369 00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:13,399 Speaker 1: and then she has stopped texting back. You want to 370 00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:16,359 Speaker 1: go out again. You want to know if anything's okay 371 00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:19,320 Speaker 1: with her. Well, fortunately she agreed to come on. She 372 00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:21,480 Speaker 1: does not know you're with us, So hold on one second, 373 00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:24,400 Speaker 1: be very quiet. I'm gonna talk to her now, Okay, Okay, 374 00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:31,479 Speaker 1: hold on, Hi Laura, Hi, it's right in Seacrest. How 375 00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:36,000 Speaker 1: are you. I'm doing well, doing well, great, Well, it's 376 00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:39,879 Speaker 1: nice to meet you. I've got Sissony and Tan you 377 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:44,960 Speaker 1: with me here. Hi, good morning, Hi, good morning. We're 378 00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:47,080 Speaker 1: calling about I think they told you this on hold. 379 00:21:47,119 --> 00:21:55,600 Speaker 1: We're calling about a guy named Ethan. Did that sound familiar? Yeah? 380 00:21:55,920 --> 00:22:02,879 Speaker 1: Uh yeah, yeah. What happened? And how is that? I 381 00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:05,159 Speaker 1: don't I don't know. We had a happy hour and 382 00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:10,399 Speaker 1: apps and talked and that was it. But um, all right, 383 00:22:10,440 --> 00:22:14,440 Speaker 1: I'm just curious obviously we're trying to understand a little bit. 384 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:20,080 Speaker 1: Uh what why weren't there sparks or why no connection? 385 00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:29,320 Speaker 1: You think she's not for me? I'm really I'm really good. Um. 386 00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:33,240 Speaker 1: I just feel like, yeah, I'm done to it. And 387 00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:37,320 Speaker 1: have you told him that? No? I mean, I don't 388 00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:40,840 Speaker 1: think I can't figure it out. It's not my job. 389 00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:43,919 Speaker 1: I think that's the thing to put myself in the 390 00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:46,760 Speaker 1: situation for a second, Like that's the thing on either side, 391 00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:48,200 Speaker 1: if it or you, or if it or a Tony, 392 00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:51,240 Speaker 1: if or me or Tobb's not hearing and not knowing 393 00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:56,360 Speaker 1: back gives you this anxiety, this anxious feeling of not 394 00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:59,360 Speaker 1: knowing did I do something? Is she okay? All those things. 395 00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:01,919 Speaker 1: It seems like it's just easier, maybe more considerate, I 396 00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:05,760 Speaker 1: think too, to say, hey, man, grateful for the time. Um, 397 00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:08,240 Speaker 1: but I think it's I don't like the words it's 398 00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:10,000 Speaker 1: not gonna work out because I've heard that before and 399 00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:12,160 Speaker 1: they hurt. So there's gotta be a better way to say, 400 00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:15,119 Speaker 1: basically that, yeah, but you don't want a ghost. You know, 401 00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:17,280 Speaker 1: you have to say I don't think you want to 402 00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:21,879 Speaker 1: ghost Laura. It's not my job though to do that. 403 00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:24,080 Speaker 1: And it's also not some type of job in a 404 00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:25,960 Speaker 1: view where I need to follow up with fees that 405 00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:31,520 Speaker 1: we've been out once. You know, it's like I don't karma. 406 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:37,600 Speaker 1: I believe in dating karma too. He's a nice guy's 407 00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:41,240 Speaker 1: get interested. He's on the phone now so I just 408 00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:44,800 Speaker 1: heard his voice. I'm gonna bring him in Ethan. Uh. 409 00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:47,480 Speaker 1: He's been listening Laura to this. Laura, why don't you 410 00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:50,600 Speaker 1: take this opportunity to just say it? Just be transparent 411 00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:57,040 Speaker 1: with him now? I mean, I just I've done the 412 00:23:57,040 --> 00:24:00,720 Speaker 1: whole I'm not feeling it. Textas guys and they all 413 00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:03,800 Speaker 1: generally try to talk me into it and present their 414 00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:06,880 Speaker 1: case like there's some sort of lawyer and it's exhausting 415 00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:09,720 Speaker 1: and I just don't want to go through that again. 416 00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:12,280 Speaker 1: And it's honestly a waste of my time and energy. 417 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:14,680 Speaker 1: And I I don't know what else to tell you. 418 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:19,080 Speaker 1: She's not coming, all right. I mean, I guess, like 419 00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:20,960 Speaker 1: I I know you don't like owe me anything, but 420 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:23,840 Speaker 1: you gotta at least just like text me back, just 421 00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:28,040 Speaker 1: like send something. I guess, but you received the message, 422 00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:31,080 Speaker 1: did you not? You receive a message that okay, she's 423 00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:33,560 Speaker 1: not tax me back. I'm just I should just leave 424 00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:36,720 Speaker 1: it there. I should move on. It was when one 425 00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:40,920 Speaker 1: happy hour and appetizers of a of a date, Yeah 426 00:24:42,119 --> 00:24:45,800 Speaker 1: all right, all right, I guess I'm not interested. I 427 00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:49,080 Speaker 1: thought we had a good time, but I guess whatever. God, 428 00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:52,560 Speaker 1: all right, Laura, thank you for a green to come 429 00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:54,360 Speaker 1: on and your honestly ethan good luck to you, bro, 430 00:24:55,600 --> 00:25:02,720 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you. Now I beat myself up at 431 00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:06,639 Speaker 1: this moment. Why is she not interested? Like? What? What? Right? 432 00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:08,920 Speaker 1: I mean, of course there's a list, but why and 433 00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:11,679 Speaker 1: I self torture and self low and all that, so 434 00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,640 Speaker 1: that I that opened up, like did that help him? 435 00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,359 Speaker 1: Or did that hard. What did it make it worse 436 00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:26,119 Speaker 1: for me? It made everything worse? Helps him? It helped him? Yeah, right, 437 00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:29,040 Speaker 1: how hopefully it helps Laura realized that you should just 438 00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:32,320 Speaker 1: say I don't know what that's true? What are the 439 00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:37,679 Speaker 1: right words to say? Hey, thanks for the apps or 440 00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:41,800 Speaker 1: whatever they did? But but what like I never I don't. 441 00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:43,840 Speaker 1: I don't think this is a match. I don't think 442 00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:49,320 Speaker 1: we're right match. I'm not feeling it. That hurts too expously. 443 00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:53,320 Speaker 1: I don't think the timing. The timing, I think that's 444 00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:56,040 Speaker 1: a good one. Timing is good, Tanya. Timing is not 445 00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:58,280 Speaker 1: right for me right now. I was just giving it 446 00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:00,320 Speaker 1: some thought and the time he's not right. You should 447 00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:05,280 Speaker 1: just say whatever was really going on, that was harsh, 448 00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:09,560 Speaker 1: that's not that opens up wounds for people. Sorry if 449 00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:14,119 Speaker 1: you have to hear that on air with Ryan Seacrest. 450 00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:18,440 Speaker 1: Jenna on the phone on the hold, So, Jenna tell 451 00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:22,240 Speaker 1: me your boyfriend got a tattoo to match yours and 452 00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:28,720 Speaker 1: you're not happy. I am freaked out beyond the freak. Um. Yeah, 453 00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:31,840 Speaker 1: we've allly been dating six months, so we're not talking 454 00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:36,160 Speaker 1: like serious of all seriousness, and I have this little 455 00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:39,680 Speaker 1: tattoo of like an ocean waves. Please don't make fun 456 00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:42,440 Speaker 1: of me, but it's super Callie. I love to surf 457 00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:44,800 Speaker 1: and it's just small and it's like right by my wrist. 458 00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:49,920 Speaker 1: And the guy have been dating uh has always commented 459 00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:52,119 Speaker 1: that he loves it. He thinks it's cute, you know, 460 00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:54,960 Speaker 1: he thinks it's like the perfect size, YadA YadA, like 461 00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:57,639 Speaker 1: he just loves it, and that's great. I'm glad he 462 00:26:57,720 --> 00:26:59,560 Speaker 1: loves it, but he doesn't have to love it enough 463 00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:02,640 Speaker 1: to just a few weeks ago come home. If I'm 464 00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:06,760 Speaker 1: not kidding you, the same tattoo in the same place 465 00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:10,440 Speaker 1: on his wrist. So first of all, I would never 466 00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:13,480 Speaker 1: make fun of an ocean wave. My last name is Seacrest. 467 00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:19,879 Speaker 1: Have do you said? The guy I've been dating, so 468 00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:24,480 Speaker 1: it's not your boyfriend? Well no, yeah, we are boyfriend girlfriends, 469 00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:29,600 Speaker 1: but it's only been like six months. It's not what 470 00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:32,240 Speaker 1: scares you about it the fact that you're not sure 471 00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:36,960 Speaker 1: it's gonna last as long as that tattoo and thank you? Yes, um, 472 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:40,359 Speaker 1: I think just looking back at my dating history, I 473 00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:43,159 Speaker 1: tend to be like six nine months, twelve months, and 474 00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:45,399 Speaker 1: then I kind of like get a little bored. So 475 00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:47,760 Speaker 1: I feel like I don't know that this is a 476 00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:50,520 Speaker 1: forever guy for me. It's only been six months, um, 477 00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:53,800 Speaker 1: and my track record isn't that great in relationships. So yeah, 478 00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:57,439 Speaker 1: the fact that he got a tattoo, I don't know, 479 00:27:57,480 --> 00:27:59,960 Speaker 1: it's just it weirds me out. And now it's a dundee. 480 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:03,479 Speaker 1: You know, he can't get it removed. I don't. It 481 00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:05,760 Speaker 1: doesn't bother me because I think he's got to live 482 00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:10,080 Speaker 1: with him not It's yeah, like, what who cares? Let's 483 00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:13,080 Speaker 1: let's point this out, ride the wave on this guy, 484 00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:18,520 Speaker 1: play it out, let's see. Oh god, let's where he goes. 485 00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:21,280 Speaker 1: And if you don't make it his bad, his issue, 486 00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:24,320 Speaker 1: his body, his problem, his tattoo, nothing on you, not 487 00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:28,640 Speaker 1: your problem. Okay. I kind of like where you're coming from. 488 00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:31,000 Speaker 1: I think I was just also worried like people would 489 00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:36,240 Speaker 1: think that I copied him when here's here's the first 490 00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:39,840 Speaker 1: here's the first problem in that statement. Who cares what 491 00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:44,480 Speaker 1: people think? Oh? Preach, That's why I love you guys. 492 00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:47,760 Speaker 1: Just do what we do right, and who cares? Right? Right? 493 00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:50,360 Speaker 1: Good luck, Jenna. I can say that, but I totally 494 00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:52,800 Speaker 1: care what people think, right, And it's like annoying if 495 00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:55,640 Speaker 1: they think you copied your course. I think I would 496 00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:57,400 Speaker 1: think through all that, but it's good to say that 497 00:28:57,640 --> 00:29:00,000 Speaker 1: because maybe she'll take the good advice, which we can 498 00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:05,320 Speaker 1: actually execute. Let's bring in Erica, who you've heard on 499 00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:09,440 Speaker 1: and off on the show before. She's joining us. Now. 500 00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:12,760 Speaker 1: She's the one that was living during quarantine in her 501 00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:16,160 Speaker 1: parents home, in her parents bedroom, which was smart because 502 00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:17,880 Speaker 1: she could freeload, and now she got her own pad. 503 00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:22,640 Speaker 1: I wasn't in my parents bedroom for the records, my 504 00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:25,640 Speaker 1: bedroom at my parents home. I want to make that clear, 505 00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:29,560 Speaker 1: all right, your grows up bedroom. Yeah, uh so, Erica. 506 00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:32,600 Speaker 1: Before we get to this notion of running a half marathon, 507 00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:37,320 Speaker 1: Mark our producers somehow knows about everyone's social life. He 508 00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:39,640 Speaker 1: told me that you went on a bad date recently, 509 00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:41,920 Speaker 1: and I, as a dater or want to know what 510 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:46,600 Speaker 1: constitutes a bad date? You know what a bad date 511 00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:48,479 Speaker 1: is a really harsh way to put it. It was 512 00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:52,160 Speaker 1: just a date where I literally, you guys felt absolutely 513 00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:55,400 Speaker 1: nothing like it was as if the date was a 514 00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:58,840 Speaker 1: blank piece of paper and I just there was nothing 515 00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:01,880 Speaker 1: to report back on our chemistry or anything. So what 516 00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:03,719 Speaker 1: do you do? How do you do? You have to 517 00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:06,400 Speaker 1: put on a show then and pretend yeah, and that's 518 00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:09,040 Speaker 1: what we're all really good at that. And so I 519 00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:11,360 Speaker 1: bet you he left thinking it was a fine date, 520 00:30:11,480 --> 00:30:14,440 Speaker 1: because this is what we do, we talk to people. 521 00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:18,200 Speaker 1: It's fine. So yeah, and let's do a second date 522 00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:22,240 Speaker 1: update right now with him. No no, no, no no no. 523 00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:25,560 Speaker 1: Believe the poor man alone. He was so nice. There 524 00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:29,520 Speaker 1: was nothing wrong with him. Now to see this begs 525 00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:31,160 Speaker 1: the question, do you ever get bummed that you can't 526 00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:38,160 Speaker 1: be out enjoying these journeys of dating? But through her 527 00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:40,480 Speaker 1: tell me that all that stuff, like, I get enough, 528 00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:42,680 Speaker 1: I get my fixed by hearing her story. Who do 529 00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:46,080 Speaker 1: you think gets more Mark or you? Of the details 530 00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:50,880 Speaker 1: of everyone's social life here? Of everyone, I don't know. 531 00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:53,600 Speaker 1: I feel like Mark is always like, okay, Tanya's got 532 00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:57,760 Speaker 1: a nasal strip, and make sure. I think I think 533 00:30:57,840 --> 00:31:00,200 Speaker 1: Mark does, only because he takes notes on all of 534 00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:03,160 Speaker 1: our lives right right, Marks our producer. So he's just 535 00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:05,920 Speaker 1: looking at fill time and he probably knows more detail. Yes, 536 00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:08,560 Speaker 1: s sneake, it's my juicy like my juicy date details 537 00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:12,560 Speaker 1: for sure, and from everyone in that sense, all right, 538 00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:14,800 Speaker 1: If you see a guy named Mark with a sharpie, 539 00:31:15,240 --> 00:31:17,200 Speaker 1: don't do anying in front of him. He's gonna jot 540 00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:19,920 Speaker 1: it down. He's gonna jot it down. Yeah for a show. 541 00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:23,719 Speaker 1: Bit Um All right, Erica, you're gonna run a half marathon? Well, 542 00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:26,120 Speaker 1: that is what I have decided. You know. I realized 543 00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:28,920 Speaker 1: that I turned I don't turn thirty this year. I 544 00:31:28,960 --> 00:31:32,360 Speaker 1: turned thirty three. So I decided that before I turned thirty, 545 00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:34,840 Speaker 1: I want to run a half marathon. And I'm whore. 546 00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,560 Speaker 1: I'm like, actually very scared of doing this, so I 547 00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:39,760 Speaker 1: don't even know how to start preparing. Okay, I'm having 548 00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:42,040 Speaker 1: deja vu China. Do we have this conversation with you 549 00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:49,320 Speaker 1: when you were turning three? Did this before you rerun? 550 00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:52,880 Speaker 1: I've heard this episode. What happened, sy, Well, I did it. 551 00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:55,240 Speaker 1: I did. I joined Team in Training and so it 552 00:31:55,360 --> 00:31:58,520 Speaker 1: was an organization that you raise money, uh for them, 553 00:31:58,560 --> 00:32:03,280 Speaker 1: Filma Society. And I ran the half marathon in San Francisco. 554 00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:07,239 Speaker 1: Why did I pick that city? But it was of him, 555 00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:12,640 Speaker 1: I don't know. But it was so tough and it 556 00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:15,520 Speaker 1: was raining, and I got huge blisters on the bottom 557 00:32:15,560 --> 00:32:17,720 Speaker 1: of my feet. So that was like and even though 558 00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:20,440 Speaker 1: that was like the experience, it was still an amazing 559 00:32:20,520 --> 00:32:22,320 Speaker 1: experience at the end, and I was telling Erica like, 560 00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:25,240 Speaker 1: when you crossed that finish line, you're gonna get so emotional. 561 00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:28,360 Speaker 1: Like I just burst into tears crying after I crossed 562 00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:31,959 Speaker 1: the finish line. I'm not prepared for emotions, and I 563 00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:34,200 Speaker 1: was gonna it's a build up. Are you doing it 564 00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:37,440 Speaker 1: for a cause? Um? I wasn't. But if I can, 565 00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:40,040 Speaker 1: there's no reason to do it at all. If you 566 00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:41,760 Speaker 1: do it for a cause, then at least there's a 567 00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:46,480 Speaker 1: reason this just for yourself. Come on the blisters crying. 568 00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:49,800 Speaker 1: You know. I was going to do one when the 569 00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:51,960 Speaker 1: before the pandemic hit and then ended up getting I 570 00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:53,440 Speaker 1: was doing with my neighbor Erin. We were going to 571 00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:55,960 Speaker 1: do it together and then we started training, and then 572 00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:57,800 Speaker 1: the pandemic hit and it got canceled and I never 573 00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:01,880 Speaker 1: did it. M I'm going into a phase where I 574 00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:04,800 Speaker 1: hold a little bit of a grudge for distance runners. 575 00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,640 Speaker 1: So you have to just look through that lens when 576 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:11,040 Speaker 1: you hear me. I tore my meniscus, so I really 577 00:33:11,080 --> 00:33:13,480 Speaker 1: after a few minutes, everything starts to hurt on my knee. 578 00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:16,320 Speaker 1: So I kind of like, I don't think that just 579 00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:18,720 Speaker 1: because you can run a long distance makes you, you know, 580 00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:21,320 Speaker 1: human being. You can do like a fast walk, Like 581 00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:24,400 Speaker 1: what are those walkers where they just kind of stride 582 00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,640 Speaker 1: those who are those walkers and they're literally called walker 583 00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:31,920 Speaker 1: fast walker and for the good cause to snee. I 584 00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:34,120 Speaker 1: like Erica, you have no cause. You're doing it force, 585 00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:36,440 Speaker 1: so I would say, don't waste no more time on 586 00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:40,880 Speaker 1: the cause. Is like you know, completing something really cool. 587 00:33:41,040 --> 00:33:43,280 Speaker 1: I guess, Yeah, it's a personal cause, the arts and 588 00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:46,120 Speaker 1: crafts project. That's fun. Yeah, it is really bad for 589 00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:53,960 Speaker 1: your knees. This is finally shown up. The menis guy 590 00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:58,760 Speaker 1: of this show have spoken up. I am only going 591 00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:03,520 Speaker 1: for the from now on. Okay, do I have marathon 592 00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:06,120 Speaker 1: because you're going to tear yours like I did. I 593 00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:09,360 Speaker 1: love to run, and by the way, you can definitely 594 00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:14,000 Speaker 1: be Erica's agents. But I'm run and I love to 595 00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:16,320 Speaker 1: run because I like the endorphin rush. But I'm not 596 00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:19,400 Speaker 1: a distance guy. I just I think it's an a 597 00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:23,560 Speaker 1: boredom thing. Okay, all I heard was I II in 598 00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:28,520 Speaker 1: that sentence. It's not Eric, you guys asked. Okay, well, 599 00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:31,600 Speaker 1: I didn't come on the Erica show. She came on 600 00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:38,239 Speaker 1: this show. What am I supposed to do? What? All right? Well, 601 00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:43,279 Speaker 1: keep us posted on this one for a cause, will donate. Okay, okay, 602 00:34:43,320 --> 00:34:45,839 Speaker 1: I'll try to. I'll try to think about that. Yeah, 603 00:34:45,920 --> 00:34:48,480 Speaker 1: look up to you and training. Okay, let me grab 604 00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:57,399 Speaker 1: let's call on line one. Good morning, how you doing? Morning? Good? 605 00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:01,120 Speaker 1: Thank you good. What's your name? I'm Ryan. My name 606 00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:05,040 Speaker 1: is Ross, Anne, Ross and Anne put together Ross And 607 00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:08,040 Speaker 1: I like that. I don't know that I've ever taken 608 00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:11,680 Speaker 1: a call from a ross An. Oh. Well, that's amazing. 609 00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:15,520 Speaker 1: List of names that are not in the top one 610 00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:18,840 Speaker 1: thousand Social Security I D name numbers. I would have 611 00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:23,000 Speaker 1: to check it. Yeah, and it's a great because my 612 00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:27,120 Speaker 1: mom's maiden name was Ross and her middle name was Anne, 613 00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:32,359 Speaker 1: and so they put it together. And yeah, how can 614 00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:34,799 Speaker 1: you I see now it's on my call screen. You're 615 00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:38,160 Speaker 1: calling because you are using the same nasal strips that 616 00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:41,120 Speaker 1: has decided to use to open up her nasal cavity 617 00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:44,600 Speaker 1: so she can breathe at night. Yes, I had to 618 00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:48,000 Speaker 1: call in because I, first of all, I've never even 619 00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:51,240 Speaker 1: really heard of people using this, like, especially some girls. 620 00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:54,520 Speaker 1: So I thought it was so great to hear that. 621 00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:56,640 Speaker 1: And I've been using them for I don't even know 622 00:35:56,719 --> 00:36:00,000 Speaker 1: a million years. I feel like and I started thinking, 623 00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:03,480 Speaker 1: you know, there's better options out there, but I but 624 00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:05,719 Speaker 1: I it's changed my life, and I just thought I 625 00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:07,040 Speaker 1: had to call a way to talk about it with 626 00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:10,320 Speaker 1: you guys and let you know that absolutely the honeymoon 627 00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:15,560 Speaker 1: definitely not over in that area. Well that's relief. Do 628 00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:20,080 Speaker 1: you feel like the strip is working? Yes? Oh my gosh, 629 00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:23,200 Speaker 1: I use it, oh, Tanya, Yeah, no, no, no, I mean, 630 00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:25,520 Speaker 1: I mean it's all yours. You've been using it for 631 00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:27,359 Speaker 1: a million years. I'm only use it for like three nights. 632 00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:30,560 Speaker 1: But I feel like it's just it's a life changing. 633 00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:33,440 Speaker 1: But I just like hope it doesn't permanently make my 634 00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:36,440 Speaker 1: nose stay like that. Oh my gosh, that's so funny. 635 00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:37,920 Speaker 1: I thought the same thing that it was going to 636 00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:39,719 Speaker 1: happen to me, and I would the next day, and 637 00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:43,399 Speaker 1: I thought, it's like you when you cross your eyes, 638 00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:45,120 Speaker 1: they don't stay stuck like your mom used to tell you. 639 00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:48,040 Speaker 1: I don't know, I think they kind of do. Well, 640 00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:50,040 Speaker 1: Thank you Ross Sam for calling. I just think it's 641 00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:54,560 Speaker 1: it's Disney and Tanya. And when you get into your 642 00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:57,840 Speaker 1: relationship with somebody, the walls you put up so that 643 00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:00,960 Speaker 1: they don't see the real you deteriorate as time goes on. Right, 644 00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:04,200 Speaker 1: First it starts with going to the bathroom. Then it's gas, 645 00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:08,280 Speaker 1: Then it's gas under the sheet. Then it's there's no strip, 646 00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:10,520 Speaker 1: Then it's a retainer. Then it's a teeth whitening tray. 647 00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:14,359 Speaker 1: What else is there? Then it's the first clipping your 648 00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:20,600 Speaker 1: toe nails, chewing them, spitting them out, chewing the cold 649 00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:26,000 Speaker 1: face mask. You chew your toenails, not my toe nails actually, 650 00:37:26,640 --> 00:37:30,160 Speaker 1: but sometimes I've had to hold one to get you know, 651 00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:32,040 Speaker 1: like you clip one the hole in your teeth on clip, 652 00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:33,480 Speaker 1: then you go to the trash can and dumb them 653 00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:37,480 Speaker 1: all out. No, I don't Why would you know? Why 654 00:37:37,560 --> 00:37:39,640 Speaker 1: why is that coming around? If your body, it's your body, 655 00:37:40,080 --> 00:37:43,440 Speaker 1: it's your foot. My foot's very clean. No, it's not. 656 00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:48,480 Speaker 1: There's dirt under there. Yeah, no, I know you have 657 00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:50,839 Speaker 1: beautiful feet. Blah blah, we get that. But it's still 658 00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:56,080 Speaker 1: your toe nail. It's your toe nail in your mouth. 659 00:37:57,800 --> 00:37:59,719 Speaker 1: I don't see much of dirt there. No, I know, 660 00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:03,000 Speaker 1: that's really amazing feet. It's this weird gift that he has. 661 00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:09,000 Speaker 1: We see your foot, we see it. Do we take 662 00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:14,759 Speaker 1: a screenshot of that? Yeah? Oh you could be a 663 00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:18,080 Speaker 1: foot model. Right angle to the top. Oh, that one 664 00:38:18,120 --> 00:38:21,399 Speaker 1: looks dirty. That one looks dirty. Yeah, you're left your 665 00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:26,360 Speaker 1: left big toe. Something's happening on such a demanding camera person. 666 00:38:28,280 --> 00:38:30,680 Speaker 1: This this one is a bruise because I dropped a 667 00:38:30,680 --> 00:38:36,120 Speaker 1: weight on. Oh my, Oh, I can't, I is getting 668 00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:43,439 Speaker 1: too much? Is a terrible angle of your foot? Yeah, 669 00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:49,040 Speaker 1: shows the good foot. That that's a nice foot. Your 670 00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:51,040 Speaker 1: left foot is ruined. Everyone always has a good foot. 671 00:38:51,160 --> 00:38:58,480 Speaker 1: Here's your right. No, it's not very equal. You do yourself. Yes, 672 00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:00,680 Speaker 1: I d this myself. I don't bring in a team 673 00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:14,000 Speaker 1: to do team like getting a pedicure. That the ryad Bella, 674 00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:17,879 Speaker 1: good morning, How are you doing good? How are you good? 675 00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:20,880 Speaker 1: How can we help you? Bella? Um, I was just 676 00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:24,080 Speaker 1: looking for some advice from Tanya and you guys. I 677 00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:26,799 Speaker 1: feel like I might be in a similar situation as her. 678 00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:30,880 Speaker 1: Um with that period that she broke up with her boyfriend. 679 00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:34,800 Speaker 1: How she kind of got through that in trusted the 680 00:39:34,880 --> 00:39:37,640 Speaker 1: process and knew that they were supposed to be together anyway. 681 00:39:38,239 --> 00:39:43,279 Speaker 1: So where are you in the stage of this cycle? Um? 682 00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:46,040 Speaker 1: We have had some ups and downs. I think we 683 00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:48,239 Speaker 1: both know we want to be together, but he has 684 00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:50,880 Speaker 1: a lot of healing from a past relationship to do 685 00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:59,759 Speaker 1: on his own. First, Okay, what's your question specifically when 686 00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:03,240 Speaker 1: that you are in that stage of not being together, 687 00:40:04,560 --> 00:40:07,480 Speaker 1: what should you be doing? Like do you hold out 688 00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:11,160 Speaker 1: some hope or completely do your own thing? Or well, Tonny, 689 00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:15,080 Speaker 1: do you want to talk about your evolution in that moment? 690 00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:18,880 Speaker 1: I mean, I think you know, everybody says just move on, 691 00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:22,680 Speaker 1: move on, like you're broken up, your single and and 692 00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:25,920 Speaker 1: two and a degree. I I agree with that because 693 00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:27,799 Speaker 1: I think you just throw yourself into things that make 694 00:40:27,840 --> 00:40:29,680 Speaker 1: you happy, like I ran a ton like I was 695 00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:31,840 Speaker 1: running eight miles a day, just like to clear my 696 00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:34,719 Speaker 1: head and things like that. But at the same time, 697 00:40:34,760 --> 00:40:36,960 Speaker 1: I think there's nothing more beautiful than a hopeful heart. 698 00:40:37,040 --> 00:40:39,040 Speaker 1: And if you truly believe that this is the person 699 00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:41,759 Speaker 1: that you're meant to be with, hold onto that hope 700 00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:44,360 Speaker 1: and keep that in your heart and kind of navigate 701 00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:48,120 Speaker 1: in that with that space in your heart and just 702 00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:51,000 Speaker 1: kind of lived day by day. You know, Bellett, this 703 00:40:51,200 --> 00:40:54,600 Speaker 1: is so tough because I've been through this situation myself 704 00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:59,279 Speaker 1: multiple times, and one school of thought is, oh, we 705 00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:02,520 Speaker 1: broke up, you broke up, and that's what's meant to be. 706 00:41:02,719 --> 00:41:06,520 Speaker 1: Don't question it, don't think I guess it, don't harp 707 00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:10,960 Speaker 1: on it, don't belabor it. It is and it did 708 00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:13,040 Speaker 1: and it was and it will be what it's going 709 00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:15,120 Speaker 1: to be. Right. That's one school of thought. Then the 710 00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:17,399 Speaker 1: other school of thought is I can't get this person 711 00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:20,080 Speaker 1: out of my mind. You know, I can't get this 712 00:41:20,160 --> 00:41:21,960 Speaker 1: person out of my mind. That must mean something too. 713 00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:25,840 Speaker 1: The question is how does that not confuse you? Do 714 00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:27,640 Speaker 1: you feel like you can't get this person out of 715 00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:32,279 Speaker 1: your mind? Yeah, it's been months and we both kind 716 00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:36,120 Speaker 1: of keep coming back to it. And what's keeping you 717 00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:43,160 Speaker 1: from coming back to it? Uh? I? He just still 718 00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:44,960 Speaker 1: thinks that he needs to do his own thing and 719 00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:48,800 Speaker 1: like grow and heal more before he can fully be 720 00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:51,600 Speaker 1: with me. Well, heal or be with other people more, 721 00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:56,360 Speaker 1: grow more as a person by himself first before he 722 00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:59,440 Speaker 1: could be in any relationship. Yeah, well, I think you 723 00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:03,040 Speaker 1: have to respect that if that's the case, because one 724 00:42:03,120 --> 00:42:08,360 Speaker 1: who is not grown themselves or comfortable with themselves is 725 00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:11,200 Speaker 1: one that won't be able to share themselves with you 726 00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:15,600 Speaker 1: the right way too, So and that may come down 727 00:42:15,640 --> 00:42:18,680 Speaker 1: to maybe this person is not right for you because 728 00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:23,120 Speaker 1: of it. I think you can't. The thing that I 729 00:42:23,280 --> 00:42:29,279 Speaker 1: see here is you can't do anything about it. You 730 00:42:29,400 --> 00:42:32,839 Speaker 1: can't push this person to have their self growth. They've 731 00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:34,560 Speaker 1: got to grow themselves and they've got to do it 732 00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:39,400 Speaker 1: on their own. And if that is something that becomes 733 00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:43,919 Speaker 1: their priority and takes him away from you, then maybe 734 00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:46,799 Speaker 1: it's not meant to be. Yeah, but also don't let 735 00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:48,640 Speaker 1: him have his cake and eat it too. You're saying 736 00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:50,319 Speaker 1: that you guys kind of keep coming back to each other, 737 00:42:50,440 --> 00:42:52,200 Speaker 1: but he's saying he needs his space to grow. So 738 00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:55,359 Speaker 1: give him that space. Cut him off cold turkey, and yeah, 739 00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:57,360 Speaker 1: I think so too. Move on with your life in 740 00:42:57,400 --> 00:42:59,719 Speaker 1: a sense of like keep the door open for other 741 00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:04,120 Speaker 1: possibilities with other people. And if he comes that I 742 00:43:04,160 --> 00:43:06,600 Speaker 1: feel like sometimes that works, you know, if you're in 743 00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:09,919 Speaker 1: these long relationships, make it seem so easy and text. 744 00:43:09,960 --> 00:43:13,200 Speaker 1: But I'm just saying, I know it's not easy. I 745 00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:20,799 Speaker 1: think it works. I know, go on some dates. It's 746 00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:23,840 Speaker 1: not that easy. Since journal a lot. I would journal 747 00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:25,040 Speaker 1: a lot if I wanted it. When I was like 748 00:43:25,120 --> 00:43:26,640 Speaker 1: crying and it was really hard for me not to 749 00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:28,080 Speaker 1: reach out to him and I wanted to text him, 750 00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:30,400 Speaker 1: I would text my friends. I'd give them my phone. 751 00:43:30,440 --> 00:43:34,360 Speaker 1: I would journal take a bath, going to running writing 752 00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:39,680 Speaker 1: down all this heartbreak. That's even all right, Bella, we 753 00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:45,880 Speaker 1: please keep us posted, okay, I will thank you. Torture 754 00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:49,680 Speaker 1: of having to read the heartbreak is bad enough, feeling 755 00:43:49,760 --> 00:43:54,000 Speaker 1: the grossness of it. Just this conversation has me. Oh no, 756 00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:56,000 Speaker 1: when you write things down, you kind of get them out, 757 00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:58,320 Speaker 1: and it's almost like therapeutic in a way for you. 758 00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:03,320 Speaker 1: For me, it's therapeutic to ignore all of my feelings 759 00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:10,480 Speaker 1: and eat. That's sealthy, Okay. That there's the same, right, 760 00:44:10,520 --> 00:44:12,200 Speaker 1: The best way to get over somebody is to get 761 00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:20,000 Speaker 1: up exactly. It's called gastro diplomacy. On air with Ryan Seacrest. 762 00:44:22,400 --> 00:44:27,200 Speaker 1: All right, Chelseament, good morning, Good morning, your fiance and 763 00:44:27,280 --> 00:44:29,440 Speaker 1: you just moved in with your parents. Tell me what's 764 00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:32,680 Speaker 1: going on. So we decided to save the money before 765 00:44:32,719 --> 00:44:35,200 Speaker 1: the wedding so we can buy a house. But when 766 00:44:35,239 --> 00:44:38,320 Speaker 1: we moved in, my parents really stressed us that we can't, 767 00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:42,279 Speaker 1: you know, fool around in their house. I understand where 768 00:44:42,280 --> 00:44:45,040 Speaker 1: they're coming from to a certain extent, but this is 769 00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:48,960 Speaker 1: like my fiance now, and you can't live together and 770 00:44:49,080 --> 00:44:51,720 Speaker 1: not be intimate. So like what we are we supposed 771 00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:54,160 Speaker 1: to do it or you know, get it on and 772 00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:57,239 Speaker 1: I'm down to break the rules. But my fiance he's 773 00:44:57,320 --> 00:44:59,240 Speaker 1: not up for risking it because he wants to respect 774 00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:02,040 Speaker 1: my parents wishes. So that's nice of him, but I 775 00:45:02,080 --> 00:45:07,759 Speaker 1: don't think that's realistic. I am on your team, and yeah, 776 00:45:08,200 --> 00:45:10,279 Speaker 1: I mean, come on, let's all grow up here for 777 00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:16,239 Speaker 1: a second, right, it's my it's and you're grateful to 778 00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:19,680 Speaker 1: be in the home with the parents. But parents just 779 00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:25,600 Speaker 1: don't understand. Sometimes parents just don't sometimes they've done it. Behere, 780 00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:33,320 Speaker 1: Am I wrong? That's how he got there. It's like 781 00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:35,960 Speaker 1: five months from now, So five months will be living 782 00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:39,839 Speaker 1: with my parents. Okay, um, I say tough at out. 783 00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:43,680 Speaker 1: You think we're not going to do it for five months, 784 00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:45,920 Speaker 1: I say, tough a out and build it up for 785 00:45:45,960 --> 00:45:48,399 Speaker 1: the wedding night. I don't just make it that much better. 786 00:45:50,040 --> 00:45:52,960 Speaker 1: Doesn't work. He didn't want to bring it up or 787 00:45:53,000 --> 00:45:54,759 Speaker 1: just wait until your parents are not home one night 788 00:45:55,000 --> 00:45:59,080 Speaker 1: or not home during the day. He won't do it 789 00:45:59,280 --> 00:46:01,640 Speaker 1: at all in the house. He just wants to respect 790 00:46:01,680 --> 00:46:03,360 Speaker 1: my parents. He thinks they're going to find out and 791 00:46:03,440 --> 00:46:07,240 Speaker 1: it's going to ruin everything with you and I respect 792 00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:08,800 Speaker 1: that you should respect and I feel like that's so 793 00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:12,440 Speaker 1: noble of him to care that much about your parents feelings. 794 00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:15,520 Speaker 1: That's a good point. However, I would have a conversation 795 00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:20,160 Speaker 1: with your parents about reality. Okay, And it's to a 796 00:46:20,239 --> 00:46:22,919 Speaker 1: hotel for a night or a car, your car, car 797 00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:32,200 Speaker 1: good your I was like sixteed. There's two choices, three 798 00:46:32,280 --> 00:46:36,600 Speaker 1: choices here. You tell your parents that you know they're 799 00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:38,840 Speaker 1: not going to know, just look the other way, you 800 00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:42,279 Speaker 1: leave the house, or you wait it out. So it's 801 00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:47,440 Speaker 1: one of three doors, good luck, And I don't pick 802 00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:49,919 Speaker 1: one of the three doors, picking one of the three doors, 803 00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:54,600 Speaker 1: pick a door, leave the door open, good luck. You 804 00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:57,080 Speaker 1: know when you said you in the car. I saw 805 00:46:57,120 --> 00:46:59,360 Speaker 1: the story this week that you know, used cars you 806 00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:03,200 Speaker 1: can't like. Used car prices are so high there's no negotiating. 807 00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:06,520 Speaker 1: They're going over asking because there's such a new car shortage, 808 00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:09,360 Speaker 1: because of the lack of shipping parts for new cars. 809 00:47:09,520 --> 00:47:16,520 Speaker 1: It's crazy. On air on Air with Ryan Seacrest, what's 810 00:47:16,520 --> 00:47:17,880 Speaker 1: gonna do it for us? Why don't tw points to 811 00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:19,960 Speaker 1: have a kiss? FM. Have a great day, guys, we'll 812 00:47:19,960 --> 00:47:23,400 Speaker 1: talk soon. Thanks for listening to On Air with Ryan Seacrest, 813 00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:26,160 Speaker 1: make sure to subscribe, and we'll talk to you again tomorrow.