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Speaker 1: Hey, they're folks, and welcome to I Do Part two.

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Speaker 1: This is a one of a kind experiment in love

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Speaker 1: and podcasting. And we are not here to help just

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Speaker 1: any old body fine love. Oh no, we are here

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Speaker 1: to help folks who are maybe fun to find love again,

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Speaker 1: maybe on the second, third, fourth, whatever time around.

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Speaker 2: That's right, And we are some of your hosts, Amy Robot,

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Speaker 2: t J. Holmes, Jenny Garth, and today we're joined by

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Speaker 2: some of our celebrity mentors, you know them from The

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Speaker 2: Golden Bachelor and their podcast Bachelor Happy Hour Golden Hour.

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Speaker 2: We want to welcome Kathy Schwartz and Susan Knowles to

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Speaker 2: the podcast.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, Still looking for love, baby, ladies?

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Speaker 4: Look at how beautiful you are. Well, since we're all

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Speaker 4: here together and see and Francisco, why don't we go

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Speaker 4: around and play a little question game. We can answer

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Speaker 4: some questions from our listeners.

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Speaker 2: We have them at a bowl.

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Speaker 4: You guys, should we go around and just pick one out?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 3: Kathy and I are all good on questions, aren't we.

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Speaker 2: Kathy, I love it. It's actually an ice, you know what.

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Speaker 2: I wish there was ice in that I know, and

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Speaker 2: I wish there was something in the ice loocket. But

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Speaker 2: now we just have your questions listeners. So hey, DJ, do.

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Speaker 1: I have to answer? This is where everybody?

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Speaker 2: Well everyone can answer the bucket. Yeah, you're reading it,

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Speaker 2: and then we'll all chime in.

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Speaker 1: All right, should we all be setting our friends up

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Speaker 1: more instead of letting them search online for love? Wow?

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Speaker 5: She was ready jump ready, Hell on, Kathy, given that

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Speaker 5: looking on our own is not working so well, I

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Speaker 5: will ask a stranger on the street to fix me up.

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Speaker 3: But she's not kidd and I've heard her say it.

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Speaker 2: Do you have any cute friends?

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Speaker 6: Right?

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Speaker 5: She's asked for uncles, fathers, brothers. I meet somebody, you

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Speaker 5: know my daughter's friends? Where's your where's your uncle?

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Speaker 4: Why do you think that's like the way it is?

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 4: Most women would rather just go ahead and be set up.

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Speaker 5: I think in a perfect world people would like to

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Speaker 6: But it's tough in this world. It's tough to meet.

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Speaker 7: And as well as the dating sites, I have no

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Speaker 7: problem with them. I marry a lot of people that

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Speaker 7: met on a dating site. However, I think I've used

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Speaker 7: them all and to go back on them. If they're

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Speaker 7: being on the show, is it's the same people, they're

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Speaker 7: still there.

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Speaker 2: I was a setup.

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Speaker 4: My husband and I were.

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Speaker 6: See does he have a brother?

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Speaker 2: There?

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Speaker 6: You go?

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Speaker 3: What did I tell you?

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Speaker 1: Do you feel pressure? Though? If you get as the friend,

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Speaker 1: don't you feel pressure that? Wow? If it doesn't work out,

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Speaker 1: then I am the one that set those two up.

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Speaker 4: Have you ever had that happen? Have you ever do accidentally?

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Speaker 4: I don't ruin someone's life.

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Speaker 2: Wow, so far I only I just had a recent

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Speaker 2: I would feel personally responsible. I would feel bad about it.

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Speaker 3: I have a question.

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Speaker 7: Did they ask for a photo first or did they

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Speaker 6: See?

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Speaker 3: I would want to see what.

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Speaker 2: It's funny we met Actually we were doing a group

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Speaker 6: They know each other was going to be there.

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Speaker 2: Yes, and so it was a little bit, but there

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Speaker 2: it was. There was not a lot of pressure, and

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Speaker 2: then it took a while. It's I think it took

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Speaker 5: Oh, I don't have time.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So like six minutes later you want to be

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Speaker 2: on a date, not six months later? I got it.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to dig in here. I feel like, oh

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Speaker 2: me try not to. If someone has a bad really

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Speaker 1: And is it different from men and women?

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Speaker 6: You know what?

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Speaker 2: I think it depends on the mom. I would have

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Speaker 4: You'd have to assess the situation.

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Speaker 7: But do you know that old saying if he's good

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Speaker 4: Okay? But is that always true? Because that's my I mean,

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Speaker 2: Too good of a relationship with his mom. That would

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Speaker 5: I think it depends. Like my husband was treated his

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Speaker 5: I did not get along with my natural mother at all,

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Speaker 1: On generally speaking, though, would it be a red flag?

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Speaker 1: I don't know you would would? You would like to think,

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Speaker 2: Me as a woman with the man, if he was

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Speaker 2: That all matters as a woman.

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Speaker 3: And where do you fit in comes first, he comes second.

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Speaker 2: That's not going to work.

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Speaker 4: If he doesn't get along with his mom.

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Speaker 3: I want to know the reason.

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Speaker 4: Why doesn't he like his mom?

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Speaker 5: Maybe he loves her, but maybe they just don't have

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Speaker 5: I think you can't go both places.

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Speaker 3: Like said, we need to meet her.

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Speaker 4: Question, we need more information.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I'm going to be struggling to read this as well, okay.

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Speaker 3: You need some help.

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Speaker 5: When do you have the oh, when do you have

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Speaker 6: With their ex.

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Speaker 2: I don't care about that. I don't either, because there's

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Speaker 5: And I think if you have confidence in who you are,

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 7: I usually have that conversation that comes out one way

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Speaker 5: No, you mean that I was singing about an ex

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Speaker 6: Who cares?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm with you. Yeah, I want them to know

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Speaker 4: up front. I want to know everything front.

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Speaker 1: I only think you have to have the conversation when

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Speaker 1: it's when the ex shows up in our relationship, then

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Speaker 3: I don't want to know. You want to be surprised?

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Speaker 4: Well, heads up right.

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Speaker 1: I don't care about it until it, in some ways

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Speaker 6: Okay, So wait, can I ask a question?

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Speaker 5: This is Roman numeral one, you know part Bif you

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Speaker 5: guys have exests multiple it's it important that you get

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Speaker 1: My answer is two words. The first one is hell.

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Speaker 1: One is no, I don't care the way I should

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Speaker 1: have no relationship. I don't need any relationship with anybody and.

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Speaker 6: With kids and stuff.

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Speaker 1: With her kids are older, our kids are older, so

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Speaker 1: we just don't. It's not necessary necessarily.

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Speaker 2: If it were necessary, if you knew that that person

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Speaker 2: I don't need to know because if I know you

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Speaker 2: and I love you, I don't I don't need to

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Speaker 3: It's like judging somebody because of their past.

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Speaker 6: Correct.

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Speaker 7: You know, I know none of you regret the marriages

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Speaker 7: But do you regret the time wasted between knowing it's

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Speaker 3: Doing it, whether that was months or years.

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Speaker 4: Regrets a big word.

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Speaker 1: That's a tough word.

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Speaker 6: You learn, you learn.

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Speaker 1: But my mom would always tell me when I was

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Speaker 1: it's better than no in five months than in five

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Speaker 1: years if it's not good. I know it hurts right now, son,

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Speaker 1: I know your heartbroken, but you just found out this

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Speaker 1: isn't where you should be. You found out in five

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Speaker 7: but you don't do anything about it, and you try

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Speaker 5: Can I just ask a question, does anybody in this

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Speaker 5: room I'm not divorced, wasn't divorced, my husband passed away,

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Speaker 5: But does anybody think that having staying together in a

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Speaker 3: Absolutely not.

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Speaker 2: I don't think it is either. When it comes to regret, Yes,

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Speaker 2: you know, I think it's a tough word, because you do.

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Speaker 2: I do believe that we all make the best decision

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Speaker 2: So it's hard to look back and say I should

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Speaker 2: you just have to understand where you were and give

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Speaker 5: You said, Jenny, giving yourself at that time.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 5: Well again, Susan, this is why we're single. We're so

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Speaker 4: You gotta walk a mile sometimes you gotta.

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Speaker 3: How about you sin? Do you know immediately like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: It's called chemistry.

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Speaker 1: And then at some point it might be fifteen minutes.

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Speaker 6: But like, but that's a different thing when you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well we were in We were also not available,

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Speaker 2: Neither one of us were options for the Kay, you're cool.

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Speaker 2: So he was like, I like you, I dig you,

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Speaker 3: It happens to me all the time and I find

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Speaker 2: Ye. If they're too fun, yeah, they're too well dressed,

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Speaker 1: Okay, here's a question here. Okay, best advice for someone

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Speaker 6: A story question?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, the best advice for dating somebody's lost spouse. I

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Speaker 5: think the advice I would give them is, don't try

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Speaker 5: for someone who genuinely just makes you feel happy in

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Speaker 3: I would think, try not to replace them.

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Speaker 5: My second bit was exactly that that, don't think that

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Speaker 6: It's like having a child.

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Speaker 5: You have a child, and you think I could never

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Speaker 6: And then when I have.

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Speaker 5: My mother and child, it's just your heart expands. So

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Speaker 5: my husband will always be in my heart way of

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Speaker 6: I have room for love in my heart. So I

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna cry as something. I know you remember this.

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Speaker 1: Patrick Swayze's widow spoke to us about the love she

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Speaker 1: said there was a room in my heart for both,

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Speaker 1: she spoke of it in such in a way that

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Speaker 1: you're speaking of it now that I had really never

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Speaker 3: That's beautiful.

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Speaker 7: People watching Jones seasons, did you hear keep saying with

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Speaker 3: Yeah, of guilt at all. And it's like, okay, move on.

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Speaker 2: Wow, How how long how long since your husband passed?

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Speaker 6: He died? It'll be six years.

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Speaker 2: It's not that long. That's not that long.

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Speaker 5: Feels like so many things have changed in my life.

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Speaker 6: You know, team sports.

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Speaker 5: My husband was a huge sport, so he's missed so

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Speaker 6: And it just seems so long. It seems so long.

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Speaker 6: But you know what I said.

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Speaker 5: I carry him every day in my heart, but I

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Speaker 5: have room for that person that could come and join

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Speaker 2: Oh that's beautiful. Yes, this is coming to us from

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Speaker 2: Chrissy Burns. She's forty three years old, she's a single mom.

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Speaker 2: She asks, how do I attract the right guy that

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Speaker 3: We're twins?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean I get it.

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Speaker 4: Wait, you have a commitment thing.

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Speaker 7: No, the men that I meet I attract the wrong

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I want commitment.

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Speaker 3: We're yelling at me the other day.

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Speaker 6: I'm the same kid. Well, I think, wait, wait, wait,

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Speaker 3: Kind the wrong con?

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Speaker 5: I think Susan doesn't. I'm not sure you're clear on

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Speaker 6: That's just this is true.

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Speaker 4: This is is what happens, you know when you work

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Speaker 1: Where are you like, where are you meeting men? How

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Speaker 7: I am opening and I feel as if and I've

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Speaker 6: You're funny, like you.

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Speaker 2: Make me laugh all day and maybe when you are

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Speaker 6: But men are like, whoa, you're a lot.

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Speaker 2: And it's tough too. I think to go and put

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Speaker 5: I mean, I say I'd like a house on Martha's vineyard.

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Speaker 5: Do you have one that might be off?

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Speaker 2: That might be off?

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Speaker 6: Stop leading with that question.

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Speaker 4: Possibly, I root frustrate to the point when you get

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Speaker 2: It's like, okay, let's let's figure out where you stand,

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Speaker 4: What are you?

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Speaker 3: What are you looking for? Opening? What are you looking?

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Speaker 6: Really? At our age?

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Speaker 5: We've talked about this isn't at our age. You know,

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Speaker 6: And I just think you know why waste time?

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, TG and I talked about this, I

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Speaker 5: But also, you guys have lived and so if have you, Jenny,

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Speaker 5: We all have You've lived life, You've had other spouses.

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Speaker 5: You know, you've learned those lessons that make you strong

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Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, And it's just it's like, again, I don't

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Speaker 3: I'm just a hopeless romantic. I know sick, all right,

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Speaker 6: And then she's like, I think I have a buss

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Speaker 6: to catch him out. O.

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Speaker 4: Wait, okay, so there's something there is there? What let's

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Speaker 4: stick deeper?

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Speaker 5: Oh boy, here we go. She's a therapy again. I

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Speaker 5: got here, all right, here we go. This one's from Britney.

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Speaker 5: It looks like Brittany Dion Cabaccas. I'm sure I'm pitturing

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Speaker 5: the day with authority. And it's it, said Brittany Dion Cabaccas.

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Speaker 5: That's your name. Do Amy and TJ find it hard

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Speaker 5: working together and being together and yet still finding.

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Speaker 6: Time for the date nights.

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Speaker 5: Trying to balance life and love can be so hard

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Speaker 5: as it is detail lol.

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Speaker 2: On the date nights we are together twenty four to seven.

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Speaker 2: I think we have I I can only speak for me.

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Speaker 2: I am blown away at how I can be with

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Speaker 2: one person for so much and still feel like it.

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Speaker 2: Well yeah, and I actually feel like I miss him,

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Speaker 2: Like if we're working, I'm like, wait, I miss us?

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Speaker 3: Can we can we?

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Speaker 2: Actually?

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Speaker 6: You hate us?

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Speaker 7: You said you hate that everything you want that what

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Speaker 7: she said?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, are we understand that we're really annoying and we

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Speaker 2: do have our moments where things aren't hunky dory, but

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Speaker 2: we for the most part, I would say, more so

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Speaker 2: than not. And again I am shocked. I know me,

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Speaker 2: I've lived with myself for fifty plus years, and I

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Speaker 2: have never been this person where I'm like, how am

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Speaker 2: I still happy to be with you and wanting more?

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Speaker 2: If that's even entirely possible? But yeah, I mean we

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Speaker 2: have had to hit more so for me, he's had

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Speaker 2: to say let's go on a date, let's go out,

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Speaker 2: and we can't talk about work. We can't, And I

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Speaker 2: have messed like, oh sorry, no, and that actually was nice.

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Speaker 5: A come on, I'm dying, don't you want.

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Speaker 6: What you have?

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Speaker 1: You know? And what you all are talking about. It

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Speaker 1: is all comes down to a foundation of friendship. We

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Speaker 1: were we built, we were built for eight years on friendship.

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Speaker 1: We are good to go. I know her as well

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Speaker 1: as anybody else on the planet, so that's where we started.

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Speaker 2: But you know me more than anyone else on the planet,

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Speaker 2: exception for your for your daughters and your parents.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to leave, okay, okay, but it works because

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Speaker 1: we don't necessarily do date not. We don't. I hate

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Speaker 1: the idea of date nights. I just hate having to plan.

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Speaker 6: To take work. It's like a Valentine's card.

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Speaker 1: It's in my head. It's okay, other people want to

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Speaker 1: do that. But our date nights are date days and

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Speaker 1: date mornings. We take a walk and go get a bagel.

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Speaker 3: We'll just take quiet time together and get.

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Speaker 1: Lunch and mix cali and look out and the window

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Speaker 1: and have our market enough.

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Speaker 2: We're used to working together, so that was always like

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Speaker 2: the fun. So work stays kind of fun for the

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Speaker 2: most part, and then we actually get to like be together.

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Speaker 5: Do you have time for other Do you have time

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Speaker 5: for other friends to go out with your other friends?

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Speaker 6: Not really?

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Speaker 3: Oh, not a lot.

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Speaker 4: That is what you get busy.

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Speaker 3: You're busy, and you're okay to disagree.

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Speaker 6: You're you agree to friends.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, that's so important friend. That's what I lead.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, And we were we were before like like that's

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Speaker 2: what was happening. Like I was like, this is the guy.

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Speaker 2: I just I tell everything to like what it's crazy?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, continuing to talk about it.

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Speaker 5: I love your relationship, you know, I to you guys

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Speaker 5: That's what I said.

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Speaker 7: When do you need to kiss by to see if

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Speaker 7: there is physical chemistry?

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Speaker 6: How long you have to wait when you kiss.

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Speaker 2: Them, but wait to see if that's the problem right there?

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Speaker 3: Well, you know there's chemistry before you.

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Speaker 2: Get correct either I want to kiss you or I

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Speaker 2: don't need to.

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Speaker 7: And if you're going to stay more them five minutes,

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Speaker 7: it's because I want to kiss you.

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Speaker 6: And you know that if you turn the cheek it's over.

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Speaker 2: Oh. Absolutely. If you're wondering whether or not you want to,

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Speaker 2: that's a red flag. You don't want to and you

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Speaker 2: don't want to exactly, you can't force that.

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Speaker 1: All right, I'm not going to jime me in on

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Speaker 1: the kissing one, but I will jime in. We will

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Speaker 1: all continue to jime me in more. We're going to

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Speaker 1: continue with this fun round of questions from our listeners

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Speaker 1: in part two.

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Speaker 2: Of I Do Part two, Part two and a.

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