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Speaker 1: There's also been so many conversations about just toxic masculinity,

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Speaker 1: that looks like. And a huge part of my healing

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Speaker 1: journey with these topics has been having conversations with men

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Speaker 1: and really walking into what a divine masculine man looks

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Speaker 1: like and then going out and teaching that to other

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Speaker 1: men um That has been so healing for me to see.

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Speaker 1: And I'm just so excited about those conversations, and I

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Speaker 1: So my conversation today is with Jake Woodard. Jake was

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Speaker 1: one of the first men that I had on this

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Speaker 1: is a coach, he is a healer. He really focuses

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Speaker 1: go of some old narratives around the masculine in this conversation.

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Speaker 1: He's also been on the podcast multiple times, including a

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Speaker 1: couple of times with his wife, his now wife Melissa.

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Speaker 1: I've also gone to a conference that they put on

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Speaker 1: so heedless to say, I'm a big fan of their work,

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Speaker 1: but um, this conversation today was so healing for me,

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Speaker 1: and I'm just really hoping that it can bring you, guys,

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Speaker 1: so that same healing nature to your own stories, your

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Speaker 1: Here's Jake. Okay, So I was just telling you that

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Speaker 1: I am completely emotionally exhausted after the election started last night,

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Speaker 1: and you were explaining to me that that is the

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Speaker 1: hook that is intended to happen. So can you tell

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Speaker 1: everyone what you were just telling me? So basically, I

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Speaker 1: mean in our world, in our physical world, there is

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Speaker 1: you're constantly burned out with more work, more emotions, more

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Speaker 1: it's very hard to escape that matrix because you're so

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Speaker 1: had to go through that, you know, I went through

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Speaker 1: the whole. It's almost like you're withdrawing from the matrix

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Speaker 1: and I know, I'm gonna really also paragright now right

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Speaker 1: off the bat. But basically, as your soul starts to

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Speaker 1: and you really go through so many upheavals energetically, and

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Speaker 1: start to spiritually awaken, and I believe it's absolutely necessary

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Speaker 1: to get free in this life. Is that so when

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Speaker 1: You know, it's not about the politicians or the election.

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Speaker 1: So as you start to awaken, you almost become like

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Speaker 1: And it it's not that you're seeing them as separate

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Speaker 1: And through this healing process there is deep, deep surrender,

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Speaker 1: sound very um spiritually awakened, and you sound very peaceful,

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Speaker 1: was easy for you. You've gone through your own struggles, um,

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Speaker 1: young energies exist within nature because look at the true

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Speaker 1: the trunk in the roots that go down into the

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Speaker 1: mother would be like the masculine essence, where the branches

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Speaker 1: and the leaves that flow out in the wind are

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Speaker 1: more of the feminine energy. The wind flowing through the

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Speaker 1: trees is more like the feminine energy. So we can

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Speaker 1: see the examples how basically the things that are structured

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Speaker 1: and still is more of like the masculine energy, where

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Speaker 1: the things that are flowing and moving and constantly changing

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Speaker 1: the direction is the feminine essence. Now, we've also been

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Speaker 1: very imbalanced, and I want to say this as well,

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Speaker 1: we have been extremely imbalanced within this planet of the

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Speaker 1: human emotions and the human energy because we have put

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Speaker 1: masculine energy on a pedestal and which has caused massive

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Speaker 1: amounts of repression within the feminine energy within all of us.

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Speaker 1: So that's why you see a lot of people that

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Speaker 1: are emotionally numb. They can't feel their emotions. They're disconnected

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Speaker 1: from the intuition, they're disconnected from loves, they're disconnected from

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Speaker 1: being able to feel anything because they're hiding out in

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Speaker 1: their logical masculine mind, always working, always doing, always leading

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Speaker 1: and structuring and supporting, and they're burned out energetically because

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Speaker 1: their their energies are imbalanced, and it's creating physical, emotional,

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Speaker 1: and energetic imbalances in that human being. So we Okay,

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Speaker 1: I have so many questions. Sorry, I'm trying to process

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Speaker 1: through what the first one to be. Okay, first, I

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Speaker 1: want to say I took the quiz on your site,

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Speaker 1: and I, which was no surprise to me, got predominantly female.

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Speaker 1: Like I was a thirteen on the scale of zero

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Speaker 1: to fifteen, like scale one one side being masculine, one

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Speaker 1: side being feminine. I was thirteen all the way to feminine.

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Speaker 1: So it is our goal to be in balance with

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Speaker 1: feminine and masculine energy within our own selves. So the

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Speaker 1: thing is with this, and I want to want to

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Speaker 1: be very conscious how I answer this question. To have

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Speaker 1: harmony within your energies, you would be operating from a

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Speaker 1: sense of flow, but you also have structure in your life. Okay.

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Speaker 1: So it's like, let's look at it like a glass

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Speaker 1: of water. Now with the container, which would be we

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Speaker 1: could call the mask on the structure of the container,

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Speaker 1: and the water inside of it, which would be the

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Speaker 1: feminine essence. They have perfect balance. So the cup holds

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Speaker 1: the water, but if that cup breaks, the water goes

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Speaker 1: all over the floor. So there's too much flow, or

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Speaker 1: if there's no water in the cup, then it's very

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Speaker 1: dry and you have nothing to drink, which is too

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Speaker 1: much structure. Okay, So a very simple way in which

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Speaker 1: we can have harmony between our inner mask in feminine

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Speaker 1: energies is creating more flow with a strong set of

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Speaker 1: structure and being grounded so to have harmony and balance

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Speaker 1: between your inner energies. Yes, that is why many people

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Speaker 1: are not happy in this life. Number one, because they're

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Speaker 1: not operating from their natural core essence, meaning that for example,

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Speaker 1: if you are a feminine core woman and you are

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Speaker 1: in your mask wine energy of the day because you

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Speaker 1: work at a high stress corporate job, you're maybe you're

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Speaker 1: a single mother taken care of your kids all day

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Speaker 1: long and leading and adding protecting structuring. You're always in

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Speaker 1: this mass and energy field and you are repressing and

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Speaker 1: neglecting your feminine energy. You are going to have imbalances

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Speaker 1: within your life. This can even manifest as physical pains

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Speaker 1: in your body because your body has a consciousness of

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Speaker 1: its own. Okay, So okay, I'm processing. So if you

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Speaker 1: like Okay, because I'm a thirteen on the feminine scale,

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Speaker 1: I probably do you think I'm repressing some of my

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Speaker 1: masculine energy. I guess my question when you said the

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Speaker 1: thing about like it's where you find your direction, your purpose,

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Speaker 1: you know, all of those things. I have been feeling

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Speaker 1: very lacking in those areas the last year. Probably, So

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Speaker 1: is that like the thing that I would want to

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Speaker 1: tap into here maybe being healing some masculine energy. So

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Speaker 1: there the answer to that could be yes, and I

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Speaker 1: could we could dig more into that. But here's the thing.

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Speaker 1: Because your core is you identify so much with feminine qualities.

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Speaker 1: As long as you're operating from that natural core essence,

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Speaker 1: and you don't, you aren't creating imbalances because you're too

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Speaker 1: in your emotions, your two and your feelings, you're too ungrounded.

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Speaker 1: Then it doesn't it's not necessarily going to be like

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Speaker 1: at like, you're not gonna show up fifty percent of

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Speaker 1: time and your mask on fifty percent of time and

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Speaker 1: you're feminine, You're going to show up from a place

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Speaker 1: that feels natural to your body. Okay, So for example,

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Speaker 1: I'm more of a masculine identified core person I noticed

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Speaker 1: about myself energetically, so I show up most of the

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Speaker 1: time as masculine energy, right, as more leading, guiding, protecting,

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Speaker 1: structuring all those qualities. But I also honor my feminine

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Speaker 1: essence because if I didn't, I would become numb. I

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Speaker 1: would lose flow in my life, I would lose creativity,

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Speaker 1: I would lose expression. All of those things because they are,

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Speaker 1: they compliment each other, they balance each other. And so

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Speaker 1: it's not that you have a fifty perfect balance within

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Speaker 1: your body. It's more about aligning with your natural core

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Speaker 1: essence and bringing in both energies to create harmony within yourself.

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Speaker 1: And that could even look like because if you had,

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Speaker 1: for example, you had a scale in front of you

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Speaker 1: right now, and you put ten marbles on one side

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Speaker 1: that that total the pound, and you put one marble

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Speaker 1: on the other side that weighed a pound, and they

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Speaker 1: leveled each other out perfectly. It's not to say that

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Speaker 1: the ten marbles are better because you have ten of

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Speaker 1: those qualities and only one of the masks. And it's

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Speaker 1: more about like creating the balance within the system that

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Speaker 1: makes that makes total sense actually, And I like what

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Speaker 1: you said about um because I am so strong in

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Speaker 1: the feminine like or I have such a strong feminine energy.

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Speaker 1: It is about the balance, though, and the structure around

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Speaker 1: feeling all that stuff, because I'm such a feeler and

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Speaker 1: so a lot of times when I feel imbalanced is

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Speaker 1: when I'm having these huge reactions to things and it's

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Speaker 1: not like, oh, I need to control myself in those

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Speaker 1: but there isn't structure around it. Or maybe I'm not

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Speaker 1: taking care of myself in a time where I need

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Speaker 1: a little extra self care so that I can process

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Speaker 1: through those emotions in a more calm way or you know,

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Speaker 1: more more um productive way. Does that make? Is that

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Speaker 1: kind of in line with what you're saying. Yes, And

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Speaker 1: that's the thing. Having awareness of your energies is so

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Speaker 1: so important. For example, if I'm sitting or just working

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Speaker 1: all day long and I get really in my head,

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Speaker 1: I know that I need feminine energy in that moment.

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Speaker 1: I need the yin essence to cool down my hot

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00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 1: yawning essence, meaning the yen is very cooling. Okay. You

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Speaker 1: can look at yin like like water and yong energy

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00:32:53,440 --> 00:32:57,560
Speaker 1: to mass and energy is like fire. Okay. And That's

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Speaker 1: why I'm going to get into this as well. Sexually speaking,

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Speaker 1: men with a masculine corps have to understand that the

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Speaker 1: feminine energy is like water. It takes time to boil

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Speaker 1: and heat up, where the young energy is already very hot,

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Speaker 1: ready to go, right, So we have to honor that

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Speaker 1: within the feminine qualities within if if we're engaging in

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Speaker 1: a romantic sense, because sexually speaking, the feminine essence, the

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Speaker 1: feminine feminine woman is so sexually advanced compared to the

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Speaker 1: young masculine man because it's just it's so much more powerful.

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Speaker 1: And that's why men have to be aware of this,

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Speaker 1: because if you want to have harmon in your relationship,

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Speaker 1: you have to understand the yin and the young energies

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Speaker 1: and how they're working in your life. And if you

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Speaker 1: don't understand them, then you will create all kinds of

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Speaker 1: and balances. And eventually what happened a lot of times

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Speaker 1: because both people get into the same energy field, the

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Speaker 1: same type of energy masculine masculine or feminine feminine, and

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Speaker 1: they start to repel each other energetically, because it's just

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Speaker 1: like magnets, positive positive repelling, negative negative repelling, positive negative attract. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that is fascinating to me, So like I'm thinking about

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Speaker 1: it in terms of my my own relationship and I okay,

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Speaker 1: I just said I'm very feminine and from what I

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Speaker 1: know of my boyfriend, he's very masculine energy. So is

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Speaker 1: that what drew us too together initially? That opposite? Okay,

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Speaker 1: can you talk through that a little bit. Yeah, So energetically,

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Speaker 1: you you attract your reciprocal your reciprocal energy. Look at

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Speaker 1: the cells in your body. Every single cell in your

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Speaker 1: body has a positive and negative charge. If the polarity

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Speaker 1: between those cells was to become neutral, meaning positive, positive,

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Speaker 1: negative negative, you would drop dead right now. Polarity, the

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Speaker 1: polarizing charge, is what creates this reality, the shadows right

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Speaker 1: without there there's dark and there's light. There's a sun

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Speaker 1: and there's a moon. There is an opposite, extreme polarizing

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Speaker 1: charge to everything in this universe. So are we in

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Speaker 1: relationship with the opposite? Are we drawn to the opposite? Um?

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Speaker 1: You know how they say you're drawn to certain relationships

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Speaker 1: to heal your own wounds or to you know, maybe

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking in this case, like, if you have an imbalance,

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Speaker 1: would you be drawn to someone that is so strong

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Speaker 1: and that other energy to almost try to heal your

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Speaker 1: own imbalance? Yes, because that's how yin and yang works,

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Speaker 1: That's how mass wine and feminine balance each other. Like

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Speaker 1: for example, my girlfriend and I, Melissa. She is very feminine, okay,

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Speaker 1: she is very cooling to my masculine energy. Okay, So

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Speaker 1: where I lack with the patients the gentleness of softness

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Speaker 1: of feminine qualities, she's very strong in. But I am

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Speaker 1: very strong with direction, structure, clarity like that. Those are

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Speaker 1: my strengths. So we bring that together in that balance,

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Speaker 1: that harmony allows for a beautiful, harmonious relationship to unfold. Okay,

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Speaker 1: but you did mention that if you operate, if you

602
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 1: both start operating in maybe both masculine are both feminine,

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Speaker 1: that it can you can bump up against issues. And

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Speaker 1: so I have two questions regarding that. One one is

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Speaker 1: why does that happen? Like would I are there times

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Speaker 1: because I'm thinking through like you know, when things are

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Speaker 1: we're in a fight, or when we're bumping up against

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Speaker 1: each other, is it because one of us is trying

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Speaker 1: too hard to adjust to the other's energy or living

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Speaker 1: in the other's energy too much. So there's many factors

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00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:05,160
Speaker 1: at play here, Okay, And if you were to give

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Speaker 1: me a specific example, I can speak more intuitively to

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00:37:07,520 --> 00:37:11,800
Speaker 1: it for your situation. Um, Okay, I'm trying to think

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Speaker 1: because if here's the thing, if you don't feel safe

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Speaker 1: yeah with your partner, yeah, you will shut down emotionally

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Speaker 1: and you will put up a mask, going shield, and

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00:37:21,840 --> 00:37:27,960
Speaker 1: you will repel him energetically. Okay, that actually makes total sense.

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Speaker 1: A lot of times, more of the issue is I

619
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Speaker 1: am like, bla, here's all these feelings. Let's talk about feelings.

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Speaker 1: Let's talk about feelings. And because he comes from such

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Speaker 1: a masculine place, sometimes I'm overwhelming him with that. Like

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Speaker 1: it I think, you know, like his energy isn't naturally

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Speaker 1: to that, and so he'll do it for a certain

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Speaker 1: amount of time. But if then I keep pushing and

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00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:55,160
Speaker 1: pushing and pushing, and maybe this is where me not

626
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Speaker 1: having any structure around all of my emotions, can the

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Speaker 1: question that you are pushing because you want to be

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Speaker 1: seen and you want your emotions to be praised. Probably

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Speaker 1: what is that. The feminine wants to be seen and cherished,

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Speaker 1: and there's nothing wrong with that. So if you're not

631
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Speaker 1: feeling seen and appreciated by your partner, you're going to

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Speaker 1: start to become imbalanced. And a wounded feminine energy would

633
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Speaker 1: be very small, would be very shameful of themselves. Remember

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Speaker 1: the feminine essence is inward, where the massunt energy is outward.

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Speaker 1: So that's why mass when people are very outwardly spoken,

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Speaker 1: where the feminine, when it becomes wounded, it could become

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Speaker 1: very shameful of themselves and they become very repressed. So

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Speaker 1: in those moments when you're spewing out all of your

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00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:59,480
Speaker 1: emotions and just kind of emotionally dumping on your partner,

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Speaker 1: that may be because if you look at it deeper

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Speaker 1: route here, why are you what are you lacking in

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Speaker 1: that moment? What do you really need from him in

643
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Speaker 1: that moment? That's interesting. I guess validation validation from what

644
00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:19,120
Speaker 1: I don't know, do not get validation from when you

645
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:21,319
Speaker 1: were a little girl. I mean, my initial, just my

646
00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:24,600
Speaker 1: immediate response was going to be that I was okay,

647
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 1: just like that I was enough as is. And you know,

648
00:39:27,360 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 1: I've always been a deep feeler, and so I have

649
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:36,520
Speaker 1: found um in certain times in my life. And I

650
00:39:36,560 --> 00:39:39,440
Speaker 1: think a lot in my childhood that maybe I felt

651
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:42,880
Speaker 1: overwhelming to my parents or you know, just just like

652
00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:48,520
Speaker 1: a lot that that too much, too much? Maybe? Yeah,

653
00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:51,520
Speaker 1: and who specifically said that to you that really stuck

654
00:39:51,560 --> 00:39:55,799
Speaker 1: with you? I actually don't know that anyone specifically said that.

655
00:39:56,239 --> 00:39:59,439
Speaker 1: I think maybe it was something I picked up one

656
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:02,040
Speaker 1: because of up going on in my parents lives, you know,

657
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:03,440
Speaker 1: Like I don't I don't know that it was like

658
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:07,440
Speaker 1: an intentional uh you, But I do think that there

659
00:40:07,520 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 1: was some high stress situations happening when I was younger

660
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:14,399
Speaker 1: that maybe they couldn't handle it, you know, like if

661
00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 1: that makes sense, And I just picked up on that,

662
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:19,920
Speaker 1: and the message got put in my head that that

663
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 1: was that I was too much. And I keep repeating

664
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:27,719
Speaker 1: that in relationships for sure. So the little girl that

665
00:40:27,760 --> 00:40:32,239
Speaker 1: lives within you, you're in her child, she was like

666
00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:36,480
Speaker 1: she wasn't supported and validated when she was young in

667
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:40,960
Speaker 1: the way that she needed to. What would you say

668
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:42,600
Speaker 1: to her in this moment? What does she need to

669
00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:50,360
Speaker 1: hear I'm gonna cry on this podcast, I mean, and

670
00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:52,319
Speaker 1: you don't need to have it all figured out right now? Yeah,

671
00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 1: I don't know. That's why I would That would probably

672
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:57,720
Speaker 1: be some stuff for me to look into. I think again,

673
00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 1: my immediate response was, you're not too much. You're exactly

674
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:05,239
Speaker 1: as you should be. So am I looking for my

675
00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:08,040
Speaker 1: partner to tell me that and fix that you're telling me?

676
00:41:08,520 --> 00:41:10,600
Speaker 1: If I think so, and that's a heavy load to

677
00:41:10,600 --> 00:41:14,719
Speaker 1: put on your partner constantly. Yeah, because they have their

678
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:17,359
Speaker 1: own stuff that they're working through. We all do, right, Yeah.

679
00:41:17,840 --> 00:41:20,719
Speaker 1: And I would also invite you to fully feel your

680
00:41:20,719 --> 00:41:25,360
Speaker 1: feelings and not turn away from them, because within that

681
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:28,040
Speaker 1: pain that you feel and that discomfort that you feel

682
00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:31,359
Speaker 1: is great healing. And you're not too much in this

683
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:37,160
Speaker 1: moment for me or any listener. Right now, I'm sitting

684
00:41:37,200 --> 00:41:38,919
Speaker 1: here like, oh, you should talk. You have to talk.

685
00:41:38,920 --> 00:41:40,399
Speaker 1: You have to talk, you have to talk. And all

686
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:43,480
Speaker 1: I want to do is cry, which is battling feminine

687
00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:48,080
Speaker 1: and masculine energy to sue, oh why are you? Why

688
00:41:48,080 --> 00:41:51,360
Speaker 1: are you what you feel in this moment? Um? Because

689
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:56,640
Speaker 1: I'm doing a podcast and I keep telling myself, you know,

690
00:41:56,760 --> 00:42:01,120
Speaker 1: I have to to perform. It's in really versus. Just

691
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:06,880
Speaker 1: be in this moment, which is the masculine imprinting on

692
00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:10,440
Speaker 1: you that you need to be productive in this world

693
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:14,400
Speaker 1: in order to be a success, leading by example to

694
00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:17,520
Speaker 1: feel into your feminine emotions. Don't you think that's the

695
00:42:17,560 --> 00:42:21,920
Speaker 1: most inspiring thing that you could ever do for anyone? Um.

696
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 1: I do believe that, yes, because within the feminine there's

697
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:32,960
Speaker 1: great power, and there's also great healing. So where do

698
00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:36,759
Speaker 1: these wounds? These wounds start when we're children, I'm assuming

699
00:42:36,800 --> 00:42:41,160
Speaker 1: because we just dug into my inner child. Um, what

700
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:44,880
Speaker 1: is a masculine wound show up as in people's lives?

701
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:49,400
Speaker 1: I think that you've seen a lot of that, just

702
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:51,880
Speaker 1: like we all have, you know, I mean, that's pretty

703
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:56,160
Speaker 1: pretty obvious, the masculine wounding. I mean it manifests as

704
00:42:56,239 --> 00:43:02,320
Speaker 1: force controlled, dominance, anger m hm. And you know that

705
00:43:02,480 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 1: the big thing with the wounded mask on it is

706
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:08,360
Speaker 1: just trying to control the feminine and repress the feminine

707
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:13,920
Speaker 1: because it's almost like they can't control the wind, Like

708
00:43:13,960 --> 00:43:16,279
Speaker 1: the wounded mascal in mind can't control the wind, so

709
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:19,040
Speaker 1: it tries to control it, tries like repress it. It

710
00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:21,040
Speaker 1: tries to stop the wind from blowing because it doesn't

711
00:43:21,040 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 1: know what to do with it, right, but it's so

712
00:43:23,680 --> 00:43:29,319
Speaker 1: attracted to the wind sexually and energetically. It doesn't know

713
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:30,440
Speaker 1: what to do with this, so it just it just

714
00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:34,480
Speaker 1: tries to control and repress it. And oftentimes masculine people

715
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:38,040
Speaker 1: repress the feminine energy within themselves, and when they do that,

716
00:43:38,080 --> 00:43:40,560
Speaker 1: they also do it in the romantic relationship as well,

717
00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:45,640
Speaker 1: because they shut down emotionally and just cut themselves off

718
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:49,600
Speaker 1: from feeling. So is that what we'll see in relationships

719
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:54,960
Speaker 1: showing up as just the emotional unavailability, just the um

720
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:56,759
Speaker 1: what like, what does that look like, I guess in

721
00:43:56,800 --> 00:44:00,359
Speaker 1: a relationship. Well, it also works the same thing, same

722
00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:03,960
Speaker 1: way with polarity, as we're talking about polarity with wounded polarity.

723
00:44:04,160 --> 00:44:06,280
Speaker 1: And this is something I also speak about and teach about,

724
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:10,480
Speaker 1: which is basically wounded mask and will attract wounded feminine

725
00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:14,080
Speaker 1: vice versa. So the wounded because remember they're being brought

726
00:44:14,120 --> 00:44:16,759
Speaker 1: together to hell and awaken if they choose to and

727
00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 1: not be victims of their relationship, but this they're being

728
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:25,319
Speaker 1: brought together. So like, for example, the wounded femine was

729
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:29,160
Speaker 1: very small and repressed will often attract a wounded masculine man.

730
00:44:29,640 --> 00:44:32,520
Speaker 1: Or if it's it could be it could be same

731
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:36,680
Speaker 1: sex relationship, any type of relationship wounded masculine person that

732
00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:40,880
Speaker 1: is repressive and controlling of the person who feels small

733
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:44,440
Speaker 1: and powerless and shame. Powerless and shame are probably the

734
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:48,040
Speaker 1: two most common things for wounded feminine energy and what

735
00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:53,600
Speaker 1: is it for masculine anger and control? Criticism is another

736
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:58,319
Speaker 1: big thing to being critical, very critical. And here's the

737
00:44:58,360 --> 00:45:01,560
Speaker 1: thing too, is like a lot of feminine women are

738
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:05,880
Speaker 1: already very hard on themselves. So when a man or

739
00:45:06,000 --> 00:45:07,560
Speaker 1: it doesn't once again, doesn't have to be a man,

740
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:11,200
Speaker 1: it could be a woman. A masculine person is hard

741
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:15,759
Speaker 1: on that person that's already beats himself up seven with

742
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:18,759
Speaker 1: their emotions, the way they look, the way they dress,

743
00:45:18,760 --> 00:45:21,399
Speaker 1: how their body looks, and they're picking themselves apart. Now

744
00:45:21,600 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 1: Here comes the masculine person who's very critical. Doesn't understand

745
00:45:26,600 --> 00:45:30,279
Speaker 1: that when you treat a feminine person with your criticism

746
00:45:30,280 --> 00:45:34,840
Speaker 1: and judgment, they close. The feminine closes like a flower

747
00:45:35,600 --> 00:45:40,560
Speaker 1: because if you if you take care and support that flower,

748
00:45:41,480 --> 00:45:46,719
Speaker 1: that flower will open and give you beautiful radiance, beautiful smells,

749
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:51,040
Speaker 1: beautiful colors, beautiful everything. But if you're hard on that flower,

750
00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:53,759
Speaker 1: that flower is going to close its petals because it

751
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:59,160
Speaker 1: doesn't feel safe. So is like, if you're closing the

752
00:45:59,160 --> 00:46:02,440
Speaker 1: flower as you're just scribing it and you are a

753
00:46:02,520 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 1: strong feminine energy, is that leaning too far into the

754
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:11,200
Speaker 1: masculine side for your natural state? I'm not I'm not

755
00:46:11,200 --> 00:46:13,520
Speaker 1: clearing your question here. I think I'm having a hard

756
00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:17,560
Speaker 1: time verbalizing it. It's like like I'm thinking of, Um,

757
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:20,719
Speaker 1: if someone was to criticize me and I'm in my

758
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:25,839
Speaker 1: wounded feminine energy, Um, you say, I think that's right,

759
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:28,120
Speaker 1: Like I would kind of shut down even more because

760
00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 1: I'm already the messages in my head are always usually

761
00:46:31,239 --> 00:46:33,600
Speaker 1: very harsh anyway, Like, that's something I really have to

762
00:46:33,600 --> 00:46:35,760
Speaker 1: be conscious of, is the things I'm saying to myself.

763
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 1: And so if someone else validates that or like says

764
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:43,800
Speaker 1: something in general that I can interpret as one of

765
00:46:43,840 --> 00:46:47,840
Speaker 1: those critical thinking patterns of mine, I do shut down.

766
00:46:48,160 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 1: And what I interpret masculine energy to be is kind

767
00:46:51,280 --> 00:46:55,759
Speaker 1: of shut down from emotion, burying, repressing, all of that

768
00:46:55,840 --> 00:46:58,280
Speaker 1: kind of stuff. Is that accurate or am I getting

769
00:46:58,280 --> 00:47:03,800
Speaker 1: I'm confused? So there, there's definitely truth in what you're saying.

770
00:47:03,840 --> 00:47:07,280
Speaker 1: I feel as if the wounded mask in person shuts

771
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 1: down and puts their shield up emotionally. Now, when the

772
00:47:11,280 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 1: wounded feminine person feels that they actually are going into

773
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:17,640
Speaker 1: their mask when energy because they don't feel safe. Okay,

774
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:20,000
Speaker 1: that's what I was trying to say. So they're withdrawing

775
00:47:20,200 --> 00:47:22,719
Speaker 1: because it's like when a turtle goes into a shell,

776
00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:27,720
Speaker 1: it withdraws, right because it doesn't feel safe, it doesn't

777
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:30,319
Speaker 1: want it doesn't want a predator to hurt it. And

778
00:47:30,360 --> 00:47:32,960
Speaker 1: that's exactly what's happening. And with the feminine in that

779
00:47:33,080 --> 00:47:36,839
Speaker 1: moment is they are withdrawing from being hurt because they

780
00:47:36,920 --> 00:47:41,120
Speaker 1: don't feel safe. So how, for example, we use you

781
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:44,800
Speaker 1: for example, how you would shift that in that moment

782
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:49,280
Speaker 1: is by opening your body back up, standing in your truth,

783
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:53,640
Speaker 1: standing in your light, and speaking from a place of

784
00:47:53,760 --> 00:47:59,440
Speaker 1: clarity and love how you feel in that moment. Okay,

785
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:04,799
Speaker 1: not closing, not repressing, not shutting down. But when you

786
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:08,120
Speaker 1: do this, you have to do it from a place

787
00:48:08,160 --> 00:48:11,320
Speaker 1: of your truth and not your pain, because if you

788
00:48:11,440 --> 00:48:13,439
Speaker 1: do it from your pain, you're only going to create

789
00:48:13,480 --> 00:48:17,319
Speaker 1: more toxicity and the relationship. But if you say from

790
00:48:17,360 --> 00:48:22,000
Speaker 1: a very grounded place, listen, I feel very unsafe in

791
00:48:22,040 --> 00:48:23,920
Speaker 1: this moment, are you not like the way that you

792
00:48:23,960 --> 00:48:33,719
Speaker 1: just criticize me, Actually, go ahead, you you start to

793
00:48:33,760 --> 00:48:37,320
Speaker 1: empower yourself, and if your partner is awake and trying

794
00:48:37,320 --> 00:48:40,360
Speaker 1: to be you know, trying to be awake, they will listen.

795
00:48:41,000 --> 00:48:44,120
Speaker 1: They will respect that and say, wow, like, I'm so sorry,

796
00:48:44,120 --> 00:48:45,960
Speaker 1: I did not mean to hurt you. Because in the

797
00:48:46,040 --> 00:48:49,600
Speaker 1: mask of mind they're thinking, how can how can I

798
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:53,480
Speaker 1: fix this right? How can I make this better? Their

799
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:56,560
Speaker 1: problem solvers. So the femininet has to be willing to

800
00:48:56,640 --> 00:49:03,040
Speaker 1: give the masculine something to fix, you know, like give them,

801
00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:04,800
Speaker 1: give them, give them a problem to come up with

802
00:49:04,840 --> 00:49:11,680
Speaker 1: a solution for. That's a good one. Yeah. Well okay.

803
00:49:11,719 --> 00:49:13,879
Speaker 1: So also because you just said if you're if you're

804
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:15,880
Speaker 1: standing in your truth and you're saying it in this

805
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:18,560
Speaker 1: grounded place, I mean that that to me sounds like

806
00:49:18,560 --> 00:49:22,200
Speaker 1: embodying both your feminine and your masculine energy. And when

807
00:49:22,200 --> 00:49:25,520
Speaker 1: you come from a place of pain, like I know

808
00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:27,439
Speaker 1: for me, you know, this is hard for me to admit.

809
00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:30,279
Speaker 1: I don't like this about myself. But I am a

810
00:49:30,400 --> 00:49:33,000
Speaker 1: very reactive person, you know, Like I said, I have

811
00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:36,840
Speaker 1: feel things so deeply, and a lot of times if

812
00:49:37,120 --> 00:49:40,040
Speaker 1: my wound gets pushed at or pushed at, or you know,

813
00:49:40,080 --> 00:49:42,800
Speaker 1: if there is criticism or anything like that, I react

814
00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:46,840
Speaker 1: from a place of anger. And that doesn't feel you know,

815
00:49:46,960 --> 00:49:49,920
Speaker 1: or to just react period and it's just so big,

816
00:49:49,960 --> 00:49:53,279
Speaker 1: it doesn't feel in line with um even what I'm

817
00:49:53,320 --> 00:49:57,719
Speaker 1: trying to accomplish. But so that's just obviously staying in

818
00:49:57,800 --> 00:50:02,600
Speaker 1: my pain and my wound, right, Yeah, I mean the

819
00:50:02,600 --> 00:50:06,320
Speaker 1: thing is the way that you alcumis that is not

820
00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:11,480
Speaker 1: reacting and giving into your pain, but honoring your pain

821
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:15,960
Speaker 1: by saying the words out loud. I feel very unsafe

822
00:50:16,000 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 1: in this moment. I feel very judged right now. I

823
00:50:19,600 --> 00:50:22,239
Speaker 1: feel that your criticism is causing me to close my

824
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:26,000
Speaker 1: heart now, like you're you're a stupid idiot. You just

825
00:50:26,080 --> 00:50:29,719
Speaker 1: hurt me, right, you know that one doesn't go over that. Well,

826
00:50:30,800 --> 00:50:33,200
Speaker 1: no it doesn't, because now what are you doing. You're

827
00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:38,120
Speaker 1: perpetuating your own pain right now. You're projecting your pain

828
00:50:38,160 --> 00:50:42,680
Speaker 1: back out of that person and creating a toxic cycle. Yes,

829
00:50:44,520 --> 00:50:47,400
Speaker 1: and and it's so interesting because I feel like what

830
00:50:47,480 --> 00:50:52,040
Speaker 1: you just described that dynamic in general, Um, it feels

831
00:50:52,600 --> 00:50:54,640
Speaker 1: like you're both leading from your wounds and then you're

832
00:50:54,640 --> 00:50:59,799
Speaker 1: both attacking the wounds, not the healing aspect. You know,

833
00:51:00,120 --> 00:51:03,040
Speaker 1: this whole entire thing where you could lean into healing

834
00:51:03,080 --> 00:51:07,879
Speaker 1: together or being awakened together and walking through that together. Yeah.

835
00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:09,799
Speaker 1: I mean, really, what you're doing is just stroking each

836
00:51:09,800 --> 00:51:13,680
Speaker 1: other's egos at that point. Yeah, you know, it's like, yeah,

837
00:51:13,920 --> 00:51:21,319
Speaker 1: because going to this exactly, So what what do you say?

838
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:24,040
Speaker 1: I mean, I've read a lot on your Instagram about

839
00:51:24,360 --> 00:51:28,319
Speaker 1: killing the polarity in within relationships, And so what would

840
00:51:28,360 --> 00:51:32,040
Speaker 1: you say to couples if they're listening and they're hearing this, like, oh, yes,

841
00:51:32,200 --> 00:51:34,880
Speaker 1: like that's the dynamic in our relationship, or even like

842
00:51:35,000 --> 00:51:37,080
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be a romantic relationship, because I

843
00:51:37,160 --> 00:51:39,640
Speaker 1: feel like this applies to all aspects of my life,

844
00:51:39,719 --> 00:51:43,360
Speaker 1: like my work, relationships, my friendships. So how do you

845
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 1: kill the polarity and meet somewhere in the middle with

846
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:52,960
Speaker 1: each other? So, I mean, how do you want to

847
00:51:52,960 --> 00:51:56,279
Speaker 1: address this from a romantic relationship standpoint or like a

848
00:51:56,440 --> 00:51:59,240
Speaker 1: neutral grounded I mean, because there's many different angles. Okay,

849
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:02,440
Speaker 1: let's go romance it, because I think that's that thing.

850
00:52:02,640 --> 00:52:08,319
Speaker 1: I do think that we of course I do, obviously,

851
00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:12,360
Speaker 1: but also I do I do find I know in

852
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:14,360
Speaker 1: my life, I tend to pick the people who are

853
00:52:14,360 --> 00:52:16,320
Speaker 1: going to force me to do my work on myself.

854
00:52:16,560 --> 00:52:19,080
Speaker 1: And I found that amongst a lot of my friends too.

855
00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:22,360
Speaker 1: You you find the relationship that's going to push you

856
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:24,400
Speaker 1: into healing. And so I know that's something that I

857
00:52:24,440 --> 00:52:26,200
Speaker 1: want to bring to my relationship. And I think a

858
00:52:26,239 --> 00:52:28,920
Speaker 1: lot of people that I know do too. Yeah, I

859
00:52:29,000 --> 00:52:32,400
Speaker 1: mean so you'll find that you're like best friends that

860
00:52:32,600 --> 00:52:36,000
Speaker 1: you have no clarity with will often be of the

861
00:52:36,120 --> 00:52:39,480
Speaker 1: same energy. You know, you can think about your best girlfriend,

862
00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:43,560
Speaker 1: you're not sexually attracting them the way in which you

863
00:52:43,640 --> 00:52:46,759
Speaker 1: are a masculine man or the opposite, or a masculine woman.

864
00:52:46,960 --> 00:52:50,080
Speaker 1: You know if you're in it. Once again, it's it's energies.

865
00:52:51,040 --> 00:52:54,640
Speaker 1: It's you'll find that in your relationships like my friends,

866
00:52:54,880 --> 00:52:57,800
Speaker 1: like my guy friends are very masculine. There's no sexual

867
00:52:57,840 --> 00:53:02,040
Speaker 1: attraction between me and that other masklin Andy, right, And

868
00:53:02,120 --> 00:53:07,239
Speaker 1: it's the same concept of in romantic relationships. Going back

869
00:53:07,280 --> 00:53:10,880
Speaker 1: to that what you were just talking about, it's romantic

870
00:53:10,960 --> 00:53:16,560
Speaker 1: relationships work best that I've found when you both understand

871
00:53:17,440 --> 00:53:22,320
Speaker 1: what your core energy is and how you want to

872
00:53:22,560 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 1: show up and be treated in that relationship. So if

873
00:53:26,200 --> 00:53:29,719
Speaker 1: you know that your core energy is feminine, you know

874
00:53:29,880 --> 00:53:33,640
Speaker 1: that you identify more with the softness, the gentleness to love,

875
00:53:33,840 --> 00:53:39,000
Speaker 1: the feelings, the emotions, you're going to want a masculine

876
00:53:39,040 --> 00:53:46,839
Speaker 1: person who supportive of all of that. And a lot

877
00:53:46,920 --> 00:53:52,040
Speaker 1: of masculine people do not understand that that component there

878
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:56,480
Speaker 1: because they have to realize that you're not gating another

879
00:53:56,600 --> 00:54:00,920
Speaker 1: mask on person. You're gating a feminine person, and the

880
00:54:01,120 --> 00:54:06,160
Speaker 1: feminine identifies with more of the soft, sensual things, and

881
00:54:06,239 --> 00:54:09,000
Speaker 1: and once again does that doesn't make the feminine weak.

882
00:54:10,239 --> 00:54:12,080
Speaker 1: It's just it's just like the sun in the moon

883
00:54:12,480 --> 00:54:14,440
Speaker 1: is not the sun is greater than the moon, and

884
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:16,080
Speaker 1: the moon is greater than or the moon is greater

885
00:54:16,160 --> 00:54:18,400
Speaker 1: than the sun. It's just that's what it is. This

886
00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:23,840
Speaker 1: is different, it is, it is different exactly. So in

887
00:54:24,040 --> 00:54:27,960
Speaker 1: order for you to have polarity in that relationship, you

888
00:54:28,239 --> 00:54:32,360
Speaker 1: must be conscious of how the energies are working in

889
00:54:32,480 --> 00:54:35,640
Speaker 1: the relationship. And if you notice, for example, if you're

890
00:54:35,680 --> 00:54:39,880
Speaker 1: a masculine man and you notice your partner, your feminine

891
00:54:39,920 --> 00:54:45,000
Speaker 1: partner start to shut down and she's not feeling safe,

892
00:54:45,239 --> 00:54:48,920
Speaker 1: so you're you're watching her body her Oftentimes the feminine

893
00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:51,719
Speaker 1: speaks through their body, They speak through their breath, They

894
00:54:51,800 --> 00:54:54,200
Speaker 1: speak to the tone, they speak to the textures of

895
00:54:54,239 --> 00:54:57,040
Speaker 1: the clothes are wearing, and how they're holding their body,

896
00:54:57,120 --> 00:55:00,359
Speaker 1: and and are they guarding themselves that they crossing the arms?

897
00:55:00,440 --> 00:55:03,200
Speaker 1: Are they you know, all these little subtle things you

898
00:55:03,320 --> 00:55:07,160
Speaker 1: have to become conscious of. Okay, why is she not

899
00:55:07,239 --> 00:55:09,880
Speaker 1: feeling safe in this moment? Now? As a massive person.

900
00:55:10,680 --> 00:55:13,560
Speaker 1: I'm I'm the protector of this relationship. I'm gonna show

901
00:55:13,680 --> 00:55:16,000
Speaker 1: up in a way that's gonna bring more safety and

902
00:55:16,120 --> 00:55:20,200
Speaker 1: more consciousness to this moment. How can I bring back

903
00:55:20,280 --> 00:55:23,400
Speaker 1: to this relationship and just ask her, Hey, what are

904
00:55:23,400 --> 00:55:25,600
Speaker 1: you needing for me in this moment? And she may

905
00:55:25,760 --> 00:55:28,200
Speaker 1: she may push you away, she may say nothing, she

906
00:55:28,320 --> 00:55:31,680
Speaker 1: may try to fight it. But no, the true sacred

907
00:55:31,880 --> 00:55:37,520
Speaker 1: masculine shows up with presence, groundness, open heart, and integrity,

908
00:55:38,200 --> 00:55:42,160
Speaker 1: and he's just there and he just he's present, he's

909
00:55:42,239 --> 00:55:46,120
Speaker 1: crownded and because of that alone, she starts to soften

910
00:55:46,200 --> 00:55:49,440
Speaker 1: back up and feel safe. A lot of times women

911
00:55:50,440 --> 00:55:55,120
Speaker 1: mat feminine women start to react from place of being

912
00:55:55,560 --> 00:55:59,359
Speaker 1: like emotional and where some people would say, oh, she's

913
00:55:59,400 --> 00:56:02,960
Speaker 1: just being crazy easy, but really she just wanting to

914
00:56:03,160 --> 00:56:05,879
Speaker 1: feel safe and to feel seen and to feel heard

915
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:11,120
Speaker 1: in that moment. So then on the flip side, what

916
00:56:11,280 --> 00:56:17,040
Speaker 1: about if, um, the masculine energy in your partner is

917
00:56:17,200 --> 00:56:21,160
Speaker 1: like you see that, uh you see either I don't

918
00:56:21,200 --> 00:56:22,799
Speaker 1: know if you read their body language or what does

919
00:56:22,840 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 1: it look like in a masculine energy? So like, how

920
00:56:26,239 --> 00:56:29,840
Speaker 1: would defeminin do that for the mask? Yes? Right? So

921
00:56:31,239 --> 00:56:33,760
Speaker 1: this is the thing too, and this is the great question.

922
00:56:35,040 --> 00:56:38,480
Speaker 1: Mask On people are great problem solvers. They don't need

923
00:56:38,560 --> 00:56:41,160
Speaker 1: you to step in and lead them in that moment,

924
00:56:42,160 --> 00:56:44,840
Speaker 1: but they are great problem solvers. So a lot of

925
00:56:44,920 --> 00:56:47,640
Speaker 1: times mask on people when they're going through something, they

926
00:56:47,760 --> 00:56:49,399
Speaker 1: really just want to figure it out on their own.

927
00:56:49,520 --> 00:56:53,000
Speaker 1: They may ask for space and they honestly, the thing

928
00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:55,120
Speaker 1: that's really hard for a lot of men, like mascul

929
00:56:55,200 --> 00:56:57,000
Speaker 1: men especially, is to say, hey, I just need some

930
00:56:57,080 --> 00:56:59,800
Speaker 1: space right now, I just gotta process my stuff, like

931
00:57:00,040 --> 00:57:03,400
Speaker 1: because like the mascul energy has like this warrior energy

932
00:57:03,440 --> 00:57:05,600
Speaker 1: where the like they're going to figure it out and

933
00:57:05,719 --> 00:57:09,400
Speaker 1: they're going to like complete the mission. And if the

934
00:57:09,560 --> 00:57:12,920
Speaker 1: woman steps in and tries to lead or guide or

935
00:57:13,120 --> 00:57:17,400
Speaker 1: protect or save him or mother him, she may she

936
00:57:17,680 --> 00:57:21,200
Speaker 1: over a period of time, she may actually emasculate him

937
00:57:21,760 --> 00:57:25,040
Speaker 1: and take almost like start to take away the polarity

938
00:57:25,040 --> 00:57:30,439
Speaker 1: of the relationship. So it's important that when you see

939
00:57:30,520 --> 00:57:35,160
Speaker 1: your masculine partner and whatever he's doing, that you understand

940
00:57:35,320 --> 00:57:40,720
Speaker 1: that your energy alone, your feminine yin essence alone, is

941
00:57:41,000 --> 00:57:46,600
Speaker 1: naturally healing to the masculine. It naturally does it on

942
00:57:46,680 --> 00:57:50,600
Speaker 1: its own. The vibrational essence of your energy is already

943
00:57:50,680 --> 00:57:57,560
Speaker 1: healing to his masculine core. Yes, you are the flower,

944
00:57:57,960 --> 00:58:03,200
Speaker 1: the radiant flower, the vibrancy, the radiance of your feminine

945
00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:07,440
Speaker 1: heart energetically is what's healing to the mask on. So

946
00:58:07,560 --> 00:58:12,439
Speaker 1: your soft touch, your yin essence, your loving voice, every

947
00:58:12,480 --> 00:58:16,640
Speaker 1: single tone and vibration of the feminine is so naturally

948
00:58:16,840 --> 00:58:21,240
Speaker 1: healing to the masculine. That's why when women start to think, well,

949
00:58:21,280 --> 00:58:23,120
Speaker 1: I gotta save him, I gotta protect him, I gotta

950
00:58:23,240 --> 00:58:26,200
Speaker 1: I gotta coach him through this in this moment, that's

951
00:58:26,320 --> 00:58:30,240
Speaker 1: that's where that's where they're they're going wrong because all

952
00:58:30,360 --> 00:58:33,000
Speaker 1: the Masklin really needs is just your feminine essence, your

953
00:58:33,280 --> 00:58:37,280
Speaker 1: your yin essence that is already healing to the mask on.

954
00:58:38,600 --> 00:58:41,840
Speaker 1: They don't need you to coach them. Yeah, that's fascinating

955
00:58:41,920 --> 00:58:44,480
Speaker 1: to me to think about, because I think I always

956
00:58:44,520 --> 00:58:46,840
Speaker 1: interpret like if the people in my life, who I

957
00:58:46,920 --> 00:58:50,880
Speaker 1: can think of that our masculine energies I do. I

958
00:58:50,960 --> 00:58:53,240
Speaker 1: want to jump in and try to help them, And

959
00:58:53,400 --> 00:58:57,000
Speaker 1: that's not necessarily what they need. They need my ability

960
00:58:57,080 --> 00:59:01,880
Speaker 1: to listen, my ability love, Yes, your compassion, your love,

961
00:59:02,400 --> 00:59:06,640
Speaker 1: your gentleness, your softness, everything that you are Kelly is

962
00:59:06,760 --> 00:59:11,960
Speaker 1: exactly what the masculine requires. Well, that's that's all it needs.

963
00:59:13,160 --> 00:59:16,720
Speaker 1: It doesn't need your problem solving abilities, it doesn't need

964
00:59:16,800 --> 00:59:22,200
Speaker 1: your logic. Yes you have it, and you have magic,

965
00:59:23,000 --> 00:59:25,000
Speaker 1: but it's not with the mass wine is needing in

966
00:59:25,080 --> 00:59:26,760
Speaker 1: that moment, because if the mass one is in pain,

967
00:59:27,640 --> 00:59:32,480
Speaker 1: oftentimes it's like the feminine energy is actually what's gonna heal,

968
00:59:32,640 --> 00:59:35,280
Speaker 1: and and not not even necessarily from a woman, but

969
00:59:35,360 --> 00:59:38,440
Speaker 1: within themselves also because men have femine energy to that

970
00:59:38,600 --> 00:59:42,080
Speaker 1: feminine essence is the healing energy. Because how we heal

971
00:59:42,560 --> 00:59:45,800
Speaker 1: is through going into our emotional body, which is the

972
00:59:45,920 --> 00:59:51,520
Speaker 1: feminine energy. And we call upon this feminine essence to

973
00:59:51,800 --> 00:59:55,200
Speaker 1: heal ourselves, to become vulnerable, to surrender into our pain,

974
00:59:55,520 --> 01:00:01,520
Speaker 1: and to cry and release it out. I just find

975
01:00:01,560 --> 01:00:04,480
Speaker 1: this also fascinating because when I hear the word polarity,

976
01:00:04,760 --> 01:00:07,720
Speaker 1: I immediately like to think of that within our relationship.

977
01:00:08,160 --> 01:00:10,200
Speaker 1: I would I would feel like, oh, no, no, no, no,

978
01:00:10,400 --> 01:00:12,560
Speaker 1: you don't want to be on opposite ends. But what

979
01:00:12,720 --> 01:00:15,360
Speaker 1: you're explaining to me is, and what I'm starting to

980
01:00:15,440 --> 01:00:20,680
Speaker 1: understand is those opposite ends or what make it work? Yes, wow,

981
01:00:21,400 --> 01:00:26,400
Speaker 1: because it's it's how polarity works in this realm. If

982
01:00:26,640 --> 01:00:31,040
Speaker 1: if we didn't have polarity, then that's the thing is,

983
01:00:31,080 --> 01:00:34,280
Speaker 1: like we wouldn't have anything in this world because nothing,

984
01:00:34,600 --> 01:00:39,200
Speaker 1: nothing would be polarizing and nothing would be attractive. We

985
01:00:39,640 --> 01:00:42,720
Speaker 1: are vibrational beings, right, And that's the thing is like

986
01:00:43,520 --> 01:00:47,480
Speaker 1: realizing that everything has that polarizing charge in all areas

987
01:00:47,520 --> 01:00:49,560
Speaker 1: of life. If you look at it every it's it's

988
01:00:49,600 --> 01:00:53,040
Speaker 1: shown everywhere. You can look at it, every single thing,

989
01:00:53,880 --> 01:00:57,520
Speaker 1: and there is that that that balancing energy. And the

990
01:00:57,600 --> 01:01:01,600
Speaker 1: reason why it's balancing is because it's nature. We are nature.

991
01:01:03,560 --> 01:01:05,880
Speaker 1: Let's talk about it sexually, because you kind of touched

992
01:01:05,920 --> 01:01:08,480
Speaker 1: on this when you said the masculine energy gets there

993
01:01:08,480 --> 01:01:13,200
Speaker 1: a lot faster. The feminine energy is more of a process,

994
01:01:13,440 --> 01:01:15,880
Speaker 1: which I think a lot of people assume that's how

995
01:01:15,920 --> 01:01:18,280
Speaker 1: men and women work in most cases anyway, right, Like

996
01:01:19,120 --> 01:01:21,240
Speaker 1: I mean, I think like a lot of times it's

997
01:01:21,440 --> 01:01:23,600
Speaker 1: it's talked about with women as like, oh, women have

998
01:01:23,640 --> 01:01:25,840
Speaker 1: a harder time orgasm ng or anything like that. But

999
01:01:25,920 --> 01:01:29,520
Speaker 1: it's the feminine energy in general is a lot slower,

1000
01:01:29,800 --> 01:01:31,640
Speaker 1: is what I heard you say earlier. Can you kind

1001
01:01:31,680 --> 01:01:35,320
Speaker 1: of touch on all of those topics best of course, Yeah,

1002
01:01:35,600 --> 01:01:39,760
Speaker 1: and you're saying it exactly right too. Okay, the thing

1003
01:01:39,960 --> 01:01:44,720
Speaker 1: is we're speaking sexually in the sense. Well, first of all,

1004
01:01:44,920 --> 01:01:47,680
Speaker 1: we have to address a shame around sexuality. Sex is

1005
01:01:47,760 --> 01:01:50,600
Speaker 1: something that is not talked about. We're not taught anything

1006
01:01:50,640 --> 01:01:55,800
Speaker 1: about sacred sexuality. Porn is an all time high, and

1007
01:01:56,680 --> 01:01:58,880
Speaker 1: you know that's the thing is basically when people have sex,

1008
01:01:58,920 --> 01:02:02,680
Speaker 1: are using each other's body is just to masturbate, just

1009
01:02:02,840 --> 01:02:06,520
Speaker 1: to have an ejaculation or maybe an orgasm, right, and

1010
01:02:06,600 --> 01:02:10,080
Speaker 1: then it's very primal, very animalistic. We have sex, and

1011
01:02:10,520 --> 01:02:13,200
Speaker 1: that's the thing, and when we go our separate ways. Yeah,

1012
01:02:14,200 --> 01:02:23,040
Speaker 1: So something that maskeline men have to understand is the

1013
01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:27,840
Speaker 1: feminine does take time to warm up, and she warms

1014
01:02:28,080 --> 01:02:34,480
Speaker 1: up through the quality of your character and your integrity

1015
01:02:34,680 --> 01:02:42,200
Speaker 1: and your presence those things. I'm sorry, but it's so true. Yes,

1016
01:02:42,600 --> 01:02:46,560
Speaker 1: And if those things are not in alignment, she has

1017
01:02:46,600 --> 01:02:50,880
Speaker 1: an antenna that is plugged into the freaking cosmic grid.

1018
01:02:51,400 --> 01:02:54,240
Speaker 1: She can feel everything in your body. So if you're

1019
01:02:54,320 --> 01:02:57,120
Speaker 1: coming to her from a place of lust and horny

1020
01:02:57,200 --> 01:02:59,760
Speaker 1: nous and you're just trying to penetrate her to get

1021
01:02:59,800 --> 01:03:04,080
Speaker 1: your own ego desires off, she's gonna shut down, and

1022
01:03:04,200 --> 01:03:05,960
Speaker 1: she may have sex with you out of your out

1023
01:03:06,000 --> 01:03:08,920
Speaker 1: of her own guilt because she she wants to please you,

1024
01:03:09,480 --> 01:03:12,280
Speaker 1: but she's actually doing herself with disservice because she's taking

1025
01:03:12,400 --> 01:03:17,840
Speaker 1: love or not allowing loves to flow in that moment. Wow. Yes,

1026
01:03:17,960 --> 01:03:20,479
Speaker 1: and that's hard to hear. That's hard to hear this people,

1027
01:03:20,520 --> 01:03:24,920
Speaker 1: because we live in a very uh dog eat dog world.

1028
01:03:25,360 --> 01:03:29,680
Speaker 1: You know, it's like it's everybody's so sexually ramped up,

1029
01:03:30,040 --> 01:03:33,800
Speaker 1: and it's it's everywhere, it's everywhere. We live in such

1030
01:03:33,800 --> 01:03:37,200
Speaker 1: an overly sexualized culture. But no one, not no one.

1031
01:03:37,640 --> 01:03:42,040
Speaker 1: Most people have not even come close to mastering their

1032
01:03:42,120 --> 01:03:48,720
Speaker 1: sexual energy, especially within men. Why is that because you

1033
01:03:48,760 --> 01:03:52,320
Speaker 1: have to be in touch with the emotional aspect of

1034
01:03:52,480 --> 01:03:56,280
Speaker 1: your energy to really master it, as well as a

1035
01:03:56,320 --> 01:04:00,520
Speaker 1: spiritual and energetic compulsion. So basically, if we look at

1036
01:04:00,560 --> 01:04:04,320
Speaker 1: like the Chocolra system for seven chakras, which you know,

1037
01:04:04,440 --> 01:04:07,600
Speaker 1: there's so much we do going through that, most people,

1038
01:04:07,760 --> 01:04:12,360
Speaker 1: most human beings are locked in the first three chocolras. Okay,

1039
01:04:13,200 --> 01:04:15,960
Speaker 1: the first chakra is the route, which is your connection

1040
01:04:16,040 --> 01:04:20,160
Speaker 1: to Earth. Your second is your sacred which is your

1041
01:04:20,200 --> 01:04:24,120
Speaker 1: connection to your sexuality, your expression your creativity. Your third

1042
01:04:24,680 --> 01:04:28,600
Speaker 1: is your place of personal power. Now, most people get

1043
01:04:28,680 --> 01:04:31,200
Speaker 1: locked in those first three chakras and they can't ascend

1044
01:04:31,600 --> 01:04:36,680
Speaker 1: into the higher cosmic energy centers if you will. And

1045
01:04:37,400 --> 01:04:43,160
Speaker 1: because they're still identifying with your ego desires of safety, security, sexuality, lust,

1046
01:04:43,960 --> 01:04:48,240
Speaker 1: and needing power over people, right, which is all like

1047
01:04:48,360 --> 01:04:53,280
Speaker 1: very ego stuff. So because many people have it transcended,

1048
01:04:54,440 --> 01:04:59,240
Speaker 1: they're earthly grabbings, the earthly clings, if you will, they

1049
01:04:59,320 --> 01:05:02,280
Speaker 1: stay trapped in the in that in that vortex of

1050
01:05:03,560 --> 01:05:07,720
Speaker 1: constant just lusting after people, lusting after experiences, left, lusting

1051
01:05:07,760 --> 01:05:14,000
Speaker 1: after the next high. And basically what what people need

1052
01:05:14,080 --> 01:05:20,240
Speaker 1: to understand is that sex is truly sacred. Okay, and

1053
01:05:20,720 --> 01:05:23,560
Speaker 1: I feel something that I've come to realize within myself

1054
01:05:23,640 --> 01:05:26,040
Speaker 1: and that took me many fears. Believe me, I was

1055
01:05:26,120 --> 01:05:28,160
Speaker 1: no saint when it comes to this, but it took

1056
01:05:28,200 --> 01:05:33,000
Speaker 1: me many years to discover that when you engage sexually

1057
01:05:33,040 --> 01:05:38,840
Speaker 1: with another person, there should be an emotional, spiritual, energetic

1058
01:05:38,920 --> 01:05:42,400
Speaker 1: component there and to bring in those qualities of consciousness

1059
01:05:42,560 --> 01:05:46,800
Speaker 1: into that space, because if there is not, you can

1060
01:05:46,960 --> 01:05:51,040
Speaker 1: damage your energetic field. And this is for all human beings.

1061
01:05:51,920 --> 01:05:55,440
Speaker 1: This is for all human beings, because when you engage sexually,

1062
01:05:55,480 --> 01:05:57,680
Speaker 1: that is the most vulnerable role you will ever be

1063
01:05:57,840 --> 01:06:01,880
Speaker 1: with someone's spiritually, energetically, emotionally, every thing. So by opening

1064
01:06:01,920 --> 01:06:06,440
Speaker 1: your body up to another person, to another being, you

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01:06:07,200 --> 01:06:12,200
Speaker 1: create change that happen. Right, So it's first of all,

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01:06:12,200 --> 01:06:15,160
Speaker 1: it's important to be very conscious of who you're having

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Speaker 1: sex with, Okay, and you know that the thing is,

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01:06:18,520 --> 01:06:20,840
Speaker 1: there's no judgment if you want to have you know,

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01:06:21,160 --> 01:06:23,880
Speaker 1: random one night stands, do, do you whatever. But like

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01:06:23,960 --> 01:06:26,040
Speaker 1: I'm saying, if you if you're really wanting to walk

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01:06:26,120 --> 01:06:29,480
Speaker 1: this path of spiritual awakening, you start to really tune

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01:06:29,600 --> 01:06:35,360
Speaker 1: in to the subtle vibrations of everything so interesting and

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01:06:35,840 --> 01:06:40,400
Speaker 1: so much to digest. Honestly, it's like it's like stuff

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01:06:40,440 --> 01:06:44,760
Speaker 1: that I feel a new sort of like like this

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01:06:44,880 --> 01:06:46,560
Speaker 1: all it's you know, it seems like, oh yeah, this

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01:06:46,640 --> 01:06:49,600
Speaker 1: makes sense, like a mask of energy, feminine energy, but

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01:06:49,680 --> 01:06:53,600
Speaker 1: it's so much deeper, and it's like the wounding aspect

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01:06:53,640 --> 01:06:57,840
Speaker 1: of it is just completely fascinating to me because I'm

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01:06:58,040 --> 01:07:00,400
Speaker 1: thinking about my own life in the ways that I

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01:07:00,560 --> 01:07:04,640
Speaker 1: bring my feminine wound to the table, and um, I

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01:07:04,720 --> 01:07:07,200
Speaker 1: don't think that I had any awareness of that you know,

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01:07:07,360 --> 01:07:10,240
Speaker 1: like I think, I think we can easily look at oh,

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01:07:10,360 --> 01:07:11,920
Speaker 1: well that's just like a trigger for me, or that

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01:07:12,160 --> 01:07:14,200
Speaker 1: those are like the therapy terms, right, like oh that's

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01:07:14,240 --> 01:07:16,800
Speaker 1: a trigger or that's a whatever, But it doesn't really

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01:07:16,880 --> 01:07:23,440
Speaker 1: look at healing the energy wound of that. Yeah, I

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01:07:23,480 --> 01:07:28,080
Speaker 1: mean it's because it's those shadows are very deep. The shame,

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01:07:28,400 --> 01:07:33,360
Speaker 1: the shame around sex is extremely deep. So it's much

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01:07:33,400 --> 01:07:37,400
Speaker 1: easier just to go wash some porn and masturbate and

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01:07:37,560 --> 01:07:40,280
Speaker 1: visualize your partner and fantasize about your partner who you

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01:07:40,440 --> 01:07:43,040
Speaker 1: love to have. It's much easier to do that instead

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01:07:43,040 --> 01:07:46,080
Speaker 1: of actually being in a conscious relationship where you have

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01:07:47,400 --> 01:07:55,640
Speaker 1: a deepening with another person. Extremely extremely healing within that sense,

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01:07:56,120 --> 01:07:59,440
Speaker 1: and it can also be very transcendental. So I mean

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Speaker 1: there is there can be great healing through conscious sexuality.

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Speaker 1: Remember we are we are born out of the womb.

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01:08:08,120 --> 01:08:12,840
Speaker 1: That womb can give life force, right, So, like we

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01:08:13,280 --> 01:08:17,439
Speaker 1: have just disregarded that and we have forgotten the beauty

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Speaker 1: of sacred sexuality and and really coming from a place

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01:08:22,560 --> 01:08:27,479
Speaker 1: of deepening ourselves so we can go more deep with

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01:08:27,600 --> 01:08:32,639
Speaker 1: a romantic partner. And it's it's scary for for most

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Speaker 1: people like, I know, I've talked to a lot of

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01:08:34,680 --> 01:08:38,840
Speaker 1: men that have like performance anxiety, right, So, I don't

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01:08:38,840 --> 01:08:41,360
Speaker 1: know if you've ever heard about this before, but basically,

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01:08:42,320 --> 01:08:45,479
Speaker 1: it's when a man feels like he can't perform sexually

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01:08:45,520 --> 01:08:49,040
Speaker 1: to please his woman or or if he's with a woman,

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01:08:49,120 --> 01:08:53,920
Speaker 1: or it could be another man, whatever, But basically that's

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01:08:53,960 --> 01:08:57,679
Speaker 1: because a lot of times he hasn't trained himself sexually

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01:08:58,120 --> 01:09:02,919
Speaker 1: to bring the energy up from his lower energy centers,

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01:09:03,320 --> 01:09:06,040
Speaker 1: the route bringing the energy up all the way through

1111
01:09:06,120 --> 01:09:08,040
Speaker 1: his heart, all the way through the crown of his head,

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01:09:08,640 --> 01:09:14,320
Speaker 1: to bring spiritual healing through him. So most men just

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01:09:14,920 --> 01:09:17,560
Speaker 1: ejaculated three to five minutes, and that's kind of the

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01:09:17,600 --> 01:09:20,840
Speaker 1: whole shebang. And oftentimes they don't do they don't take

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01:09:20,960 --> 01:09:26,040
Speaker 1: care of the feminine woman in the sense where they're like,

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01:09:26,160 --> 01:09:29,200
Speaker 1: oh wow, like, maybe we should do some four play,

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01:09:29,640 --> 01:09:32,519
Speaker 1: you know, Maybe maybe I should set the tempo. Maybe

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01:09:32,560 --> 01:09:34,439
Speaker 1: I should light a candle, Maybe I should put on

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01:09:34,520 --> 01:09:38,160
Speaker 1: some soft music. Maybe I should put some nice leaning down.

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Speaker 1: Maybe I should be nice to her. Forty eight hours before. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm being very serious. What the woman is tuned in emotionally,

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01:09:56,120 --> 01:09:59,280
Speaker 1: She's so emotionally tuned in that if earlier that day

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01:09:59,400 --> 01:10:01,920
Speaker 1: you said some thing nasty to her, just like critical

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01:10:02,080 --> 01:10:04,240
Speaker 1: or even not even doesn't have the messy even something

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01:10:04,320 --> 01:10:06,720
Speaker 1: just a little bit critical. She made close sexually for

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01:10:06,800 --> 01:10:09,519
Speaker 1: an entire week, and you're like, what the hell, man,

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01:10:09,640 --> 01:10:11,160
Speaker 1: she doesn't even she doesn't even want to have sex

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Speaker 1: to me? What the hell am I doing wrong here? Well,

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01:10:13,760 --> 01:10:19,360
Speaker 1: your critical nature is causing her to close, So your

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01:10:19,520 --> 01:10:24,439
Speaker 1: masculine wound is essentially causing her to close. That could

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01:10:24,439 --> 01:10:27,080
Speaker 1: definitely be a part of it going on there. You know,

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01:10:29,000 --> 01:10:32,920
Speaker 1: this thing is the relationships. There's so much going on,

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01:10:33,840 --> 01:10:38,880
Speaker 1: and it's it really comes down to the harmony of

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01:10:39,160 --> 01:10:42,200
Speaker 1: your again and your young energies, first within yourself and

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01:10:42,280 --> 01:10:45,519
Speaker 1: then in the physical manifestation of the relationship, because you

1136
01:10:45,600 --> 01:10:49,799
Speaker 1: can only bring to that relationship what you have healed

1137
01:10:50,080 --> 01:10:52,679
Speaker 1: and gone through within yourself, because you're only gonna offer

1138
01:10:52,720 --> 01:10:55,040
Speaker 1: that same energy to your partner, or you're just gonna

1139
01:10:55,080 --> 01:10:58,519
Speaker 1: project your own wounds onto your partner. What's so interesting

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01:10:58,560 --> 01:11:00,519
Speaker 1: to think about with the masculine inner g two Like

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01:11:00,640 --> 01:11:03,920
Speaker 1: the situation you just described, like the setting, the candles,

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01:11:04,000 --> 01:11:07,600
Speaker 1: the music, all of that stuff. Um, it also is

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01:11:07,800 --> 01:11:11,559
Speaker 1: very vulnerable probably and for someone if in a heavy

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01:11:11,680 --> 01:11:15,920
Speaker 1: masculine energy, like what if they got rejected or any

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01:11:15,960 --> 01:11:18,200
Speaker 1: of those kind of things, Like I would imagine that

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01:11:18,320 --> 01:11:22,639
Speaker 1: that is somewhat difficult. Yeah, well, they have to want

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01:11:22,640 --> 01:11:26,080
Speaker 1: to put the private and egos to be vulnerable, to

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01:11:26,280 --> 01:11:30,360
Speaker 1: feel into the sensations of the feminine to even start

1149
01:11:30,400 --> 01:11:34,599
Speaker 1: to understand them, you know, like you want to engage

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01:11:34,680 --> 01:11:37,640
Speaker 1: sexually with them, but you have to you have to

1151
01:11:37,720 --> 01:11:42,120
Speaker 1: really start to understand them and understand that she closes

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01:11:42,160 --> 01:11:45,840
Speaker 1: when she doesn't feel safe. What does the masculine energy

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01:11:45,920 --> 01:11:50,320
Speaker 1: do when it doesn't feel safe fight? It depends on

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01:11:51,320 --> 01:11:55,400
Speaker 1: how much work they've done on themselves. Yeah, yeah, um.

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Speaker 1: You know what's interesting is there's so many different things

1156
01:12:00,280 --> 01:12:02,080
Speaker 1: that I could say to that, And I feel like

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01:12:02,120 --> 01:12:06,519
Speaker 1: when the mass an energy doesn't feel safe, it's it's

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01:12:06,560 --> 01:12:09,320
Speaker 1: going to put up that shield. And it's it's very

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01:12:09,360 --> 01:12:11,439
Speaker 1: similar to like you know, as it just may not

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01:12:11,520 --> 01:12:14,680
Speaker 1: be as intense like if when a man does it,

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01:12:14,760 --> 01:12:16,920
Speaker 1: it's very intense. Like when a man doesn't feel safe,

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01:12:17,400 --> 01:12:19,439
Speaker 1: you can you can like really feel like his like

1163
01:12:19,560 --> 01:12:22,680
Speaker 1: warrior essence come out and like you can almost like

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01:12:22,800 --> 01:12:25,519
Speaker 1: physically see a shield. It's like, oh ship like he's

1165
01:12:25,560 --> 01:12:29,360
Speaker 1: you know, he's ready for battle almost right. And but

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01:12:29,600 --> 01:12:32,040
Speaker 1: once again, it also depends on how much work he's

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01:12:32,040 --> 01:12:35,519
Speaker 1: done on himself, because if he's in this fighter flight

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01:12:35,680 --> 01:12:40,560
Speaker 1: ego response, it's gonna be very animated, like very like

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01:12:40,920 --> 01:12:44,400
Speaker 1: gorilla pounding on my chest kind of animated. Right now,

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01:12:44,439 --> 01:12:45,960
Speaker 1: If he's done a lot of work on himself and

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01:12:46,040 --> 01:12:47,759
Speaker 1: he's not just putting on a show for a ego,

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01:12:48,560 --> 01:12:50,719
Speaker 1: he will be able to bring himself back to center

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01:12:51,120 --> 01:12:55,000
Speaker 1: and reground himself through his breathing and slow down and

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01:12:55,120 --> 01:12:58,000
Speaker 1: be able to process his emotions before he reacts in

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01:12:58,080 --> 01:13:03,360
Speaker 1: a violent way. Okay, And that's very difficult because you know,

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01:13:03,560 --> 01:13:06,479
Speaker 1: the ego is ego is freaking strong, and ego is

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01:13:06,640 --> 01:13:09,719
Speaker 1: very clever. So like just when you think you've mastered

1178
01:13:09,760 --> 01:13:12,320
Speaker 1: the ego, it slips out of your grips and sneaks

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01:13:12,360 --> 01:13:13,840
Speaker 1: up behind you and punch it in the back of

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01:13:13,880 --> 01:13:19,719
Speaker 1: the head. That's how it happens for me. Well, that's everybody,

1181
01:13:20,520 --> 01:13:24,800
Speaker 1: not just you. Uh, this is fascinating stuff for me.

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01:13:24,920 --> 01:13:28,479
Speaker 1: If you are listening and um, you have more questions

1183
01:13:28,560 --> 01:13:32,200
Speaker 1: for Jake, You do offer an online course for this

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01:13:32,640 --> 01:13:35,439
Speaker 1: healing your masculine and feminine energies, right, Can you tell

1185
01:13:35,520 --> 01:13:38,679
Speaker 1: us a little bit about that. Yeah, basically I built

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01:13:38,720 --> 01:13:40,560
Speaker 1: the course and everything that we just talked about is

1187
01:13:40,880 --> 01:13:45,240
Speaker 1: has training, video training modules, got the meditations, embody networksheets,

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01:13:45,720 --> 01:13:49,840
Speaker 1: really just stuff to help you to deepen your connection

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01:13:50,080 --> 01:13:52,880
Speaker 1: to the sacred energies, to your mask on and feminine energies.

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01:13:52,920 --> 01:13:56,479
Speaker 1: And it's honestly, honestly, Kelly, like, out of all the

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01:13:56,520 --> 01:14:03,040
Speaker 1: healing work I've ever done, learning the bodiment of energies

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01:14:03,080 --> 01:14:06,400
Speaker 1: has changed my entire life. It really has, because it's

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01:14:06,439 --> 01:14:08,600
Speaker 1: like it's a loud structure in my life, but it

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01:14:08,680 --> 01:14:12,680
Speaker 1: also has like the creative flow. So like like a

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01:14:12,760 --> 01:14:15,640
Speaker 1: lot of people, they may be very structured, but they

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01:14:15,680 --> 01:14:19,439
Speaker 1: don't have any flow, like any gentle compassion. Or they

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01:14:19,520 --> 01:14:21,800
Speaker 1: may have a lot of flow, a lot of feminine energy,

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01:14:21,880 --> 01:14:24,040
Speaker 1: but they don't have the structure. So like, when you

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Speaker 1: learn how to embody those energies within yourself, it is

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01:14:27,960 --> 01:14:32,200
Speaker 1: truly a game changer. I love that. And you can

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01:14:32,320 --> 01:14:36,160
Speaker 1: find information about this course um it's on Jake Witterd

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01:14:36,280 --> 01:14:40,640
Speaker 1: dot com. You do offer other workshops and retreats. Um.

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01:14:40,720 --> 01:14:42,680
Speaker 1: I don't know how you're doing that with covid. Is

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01:14:42,760 --> 01:14:46,719
Speaker 1: that still happening right now? Yeah, so we actually went virtual.

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01:14:47,960 --> 01:14:50,920
Speaker 1: We went we went virtual for the last event. It's

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01:14:51,320 --> 01:14:55,280
Speaker 1: called heal Um Harmonized and Body Activate Love and we

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01:14:55,400 --> 01:14:57,240
Speaker 1: have people from all around the world dropping for a

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01:14:57,280 --> 01:14:59,920
Speaker 1: two day live workshop. I would have done it in person,

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01:15:00,360 --> 01:15:02,960
Speaker 1: the retreat in person, but you know, with all this

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01:15:03,000 --> 01:15:08,960
Speaker 1: stuff going on a time, well, where can people find

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01:15:09,000 --> 01:15:11,120
Speaker 1: more information about that? Because I do want to talk

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01:15:11,120 --> 01:15:13,080
Speaker 1: a little bit about the podcast, but I know your

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01:15:13,160 --> 01:15:16,479
Speaker 1: website to me was very informative of the different services

1214
01:15:16,560 --> 01:15:18,920
Speaker 1: you offer. There's these retreats that if you're looking to

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01:15:19,000 --> 01:15:24,519
Speaker 1: even just start exploring a healing journey, you're you're very um.

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01:15:25,560 --> 01:15:27,360
Speaker 1: That is seems like one of your gifts to help

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01:15:27,439 --> 01:15:31,400
Speaker 1: people figure out which direction to start their journey. I

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01:15:31,439 --> 01:15:33,960
Speaker 1: appreciate that. Thank you so much. Yeah, I mean, honestly,

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01:15:34,040 --> 01:15:36,559
Speaker 1: just living in a world of social media, just yeah,

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01:15:37,960 --> 01:15:40,439
Speaker 1: I always always help people. Just you know, first connect

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01:15:40,479 --> 01:15:42,840
Speaker 1: to me, connected with me in your heart and of

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01:15:42,960 --> 01:15:46,280
Speaker 1: what I've said resonates with you. Then you know, follow

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01:15:46,320 --> 01:15:49,839
Speaker 1: me on Instagram, check out my work, and I always,

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01:15:49,960 --> 01:15:52,320
Speaker 1: I always believe that the universe sends the right people

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01:15:52,360 --> 01:15:56,320
Speaker 1: to me. Are ready to be open and heal. Man,

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01:15:56,479 --> 01:16:00,560
Speaker 1: you are spiritually awakened. I need to get to this

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01:16:00,640 --> 01:16:02,920
Speaker 1: place of surrender. I'm still I'm still in the ego

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01:16:03,000 --> 01:16:04,479
Speaker 1: place of like I need to go find the people,

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01:16:04,560 --> 01:16:07,720
Speaker 1: I need to try to control this. But even the

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01:16:07,920 --> 01:16:12,439
Speaker 1: even the thought of needing to get somewhere is a trap.

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01:16:13,680 --> 01:16:17,759
Speaker 1: What do you think because all that matters this private

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01:16:17,840 --> 01:16:21,640
Speaker 1: moment and if you're in this this this thinking of

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01:16:21,720 --> 01:16:24,600
Speaker 1: I gotta get somewhere or happiness exists over there, and

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01:16:25,960 --> 01:16:29,080
Speaker 1: you know, it's like it really is. When you anchor

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01:16:29,160 --> 01:16:33,800
Speaker 1: yourself into this present moment of consciousness, that's where all

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01:16:33,880 --> 01:16:37,120
Speaker 1: of the bliss is. That's where life is happening. It's

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01:16:37,160 --> 01:16:40,240
Speaker 1: not in the future, it's not down the road, it's

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01:16:40,320 --> 01:16:47,879
Speaker 1: here now. So people can find you at Jake Woodard

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01:16:48,080 --> 01:16:53,160
Speaker 1: on social media. Correct, yes, that's just my Instagram is

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01:16:53,240 --> 01:16:58,920
Speaker 1: underscored Jake Woodard's w O D r D. My podcast

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01:16:59,040 --> 01:17:00,760
Speaker 1: is The Awake with Jake's show. We have like two

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01:17:01,200 --> 01:17:03,400
Speaker 1: episodes on there. So tell us a little bit about

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01:17:03,400 --> 01:17:05,560
Speaker 1: the podcast because I've also been listening to that and

1244
01:17:05,640 --> 01:17:08,000
Speaker 1: it helped me. It helped me get a kind of

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01:17:08,080 --> 01:17:11,400
Speaker 1: a good base, especially with this masculine and feminine energy.

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01:17:11,520 --> 01:17:13,919
Speaker 1: But you do a lot of healing work on the podcast,

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01:17:13,960 --> 01:17:17,080
Speaker 1: So tell the people what you talk about kind of

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01:17:17,160 --> 01:17:19,040
Speaker 1: some of the topics and things they'll find if they

1249
01:17:19,120 --> 01:17:22,400
Speaker 1: listen to the Awake with Jake Show. Yeah, basically you

1250
01:17:22,439 --> 01:17:24,599
Speaker 1: know those guide and meditations on there is more talks

1251
01:17:24,600 --> 01:17:28,200
Speaker 1: about mass on, feminine energies, relationships, healing work, shadow work,

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01:17:28,320 --> 01:17:31,799
Speaker 1: breath work, anything, any type of any type of healing

1253
01:17:32,880 --> 01:17:36,400
Speaker 1: modality or healing. You know, I dropped, I dropped energy

1254
01:17:36,520 --> 01:17:38,280
Speaker 1: updates and what I feel is going on with a

1255
01:17:38,320 --> 01:17:40,920
Speaker 1: collective consciousness all that stuff, you know, just just really

1256
01:17:40,960 --> 01:17:44,840
Speaker 1: trying to help with the accession of our species and

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01:17:45,320 --> 01:17:49,360
Speaker 1: raising the vibration of our planet. Okay, well you guys

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01:17:49,400 --> 01:17:51,720
Speaker 1: go check out the Awake with Jake Show. It is

1259
01:17:52,080 --> 01:17:54,760
Speaker 1: a really great listen. Um, Jake, thank you so much

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01:17:54,800 --> 01:17:57,920
Speaker 1: for being here, and thank you for talking through my

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01:17:58,560 --> 01:18:01,439
Speaker 1: emotional stuff today that actually it's I'm gonna re listen

1262
01:18:01,479 --> 01:18:05,519
Speaker 1: to this podcast myself. It's been very helpful for me.

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01:18:06,600 --> 01:18:08,960
Speaker 1: I appreciate that. Thank you so much for having me Kelly.

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01:18:09,160 --> 01:18:11,519
Speaker 1: You truly have a beautiful heart and soul, and I

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01:18:11,600 --> 01:18:15,200
Speaker 1: can feel the love that pours through you. Thank you.

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01:18:15,600 --> 01:18:18,080
Speaker 1: That means a lot well, Thank you guys for listening.

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01:18:18,160 --> 01:18:21,040
Speaker 1: Go check out Jake Woodard and Jake. Thank you again

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01:18:21,160 --> 01:18:24,639
Speaker 1: for being a guest on The Belts podcast. Thank you Kelly,