WEBVTT - Make screen-free fun more tempting

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to make screen free time more tempting.

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<v Speaker 1>It is not enough to rely on willpower to put

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<v Speaker 1>down the screens. You want to make sure that the

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<v Speaker 1>playing field is fair. I know from talking with many

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<v Speaker 1>people about how they spend their time that lots of

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<v Speaker 1>people are appalled at how many hours they spend staring

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<v Speaker 1>at screens. There is the stuff we have to do,

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<v Speaker 1>of course, like answering your boss's email, but then there

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<v Speaker 1>are copious minutes spent on social media and headline scrolling.

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<v Speaker 1>We might spend evening streaming various entertainment options. Now I

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<v Speaker 1>will say that there is nothing wrong with any of this,

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<v Speaker 1>per se. The question is more the balance. If you'd

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<v Speaker 1>love to read, or do hobbies or get together with friends,

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<v Speaker 1>and you feel like you never have the time, but

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<v Speaker 1>the screen time function on your phone claims you are

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<v Speaker 1>on optional stuff for hours daily, well that is a

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<v Speaker 1>different matter. What's going on is that screen based entertainment

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<v Speaker 1>is designed to be almost irresistibly alluring. Thousands of brilliant

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<v Speaker 1>people have devoted their professional lives to keeping you hooked,

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<v Speaker 1>checking back for the ninetieth time to see if all

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<v Speaker 1>your friends like that post, or starting the next episode.

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<v Speaker 1>Sheer Will Power alone is not going to combat all

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<v Speaker 1>those brilliant people. Instead, you need to make more strategic

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<v Speaker 1>choices to level the playing field, and that means making

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<v Speaker 1>non screen entertainment more tempting. So think about what you'd

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<v Speaker 1>like to do. Do you like to read, Then you

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<v Speaker 1>need to make sure that you always have a book

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<v Speaker 1>you can't wait to read with you. You want it

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<v Speaker 1>to be ready to be picked up whenever you have

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<v Speaker 1>a spare moment. Buy that new bestseller, go to the

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<v Speaker 1>library and get a stack of two dozen books so

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<v Speaker 1>you have one for any mood. Maybe even some brainless

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<v Speaker 1>stuff like pretty coffee table books. If you are looking

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<v Speaker 1>to replicate that scrolling sensation. Make sure you're fun is

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<v Speaker 1>as accessible as possible. If you like to do puzzles,

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<v Speaker 1>common deer, a central table No, maybe not where you

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<v Speaker 1>eat multiple meals a day, but not somewhere far away

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<v Speaker 1>where you are never going to go. You want to

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<v Speaker 1>see your fun frequently. Same with that lego set or

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<v Speaker 1>crafting supplies. If you have to go hunt down your

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<v Speaker 1>art supplies, you aren't going to use them, so get

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<v Speaker 1>over any worries about a little bit of clutter. Better

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<v Speaker 1>to keep them out and use them, then have them

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<v Speaker 1>nicely put away and have them stay nicely put away.

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<v Speaker 1>You should also think about actively filling your leisure time

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<v Speaker 1>with non screen stuff. There are a lot of hours

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<v Speaker 1>during the week, and so I promise that even people

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<v Speaker 1>with jobs and families can make commitments with their leisure time.

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<v Speaker 1>Join that book club or spiritual small group, start taking

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<v Speaker 1>piano or voice lessons, sign up for the softball league.

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<v Speaker 1>You can swap kid coverage with your partner or a

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<v Speaker 1>neighbor or a friend. Or you can find things you

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<v Speaker 1>can do alongside your kids, or at least at the

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<v Speaker 1>same time. Instead of scrolling while your kid is at

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<v Speaker 1>a piano lesson, you take a martial arts class at

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<v Speaker 1>the studio next door. I have been thinking about this

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<v Speaker 1>with my kids as well. One reason we have decided

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<v Speaker 1>to get a really cool outdoor place set is that

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<v Speaker 1>it will be more competitive with screens than a more

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<v Speaker 1>ho hum version. We parked the bikes and pogo sticks

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<v Speaker 1>right outside on the porch so they are there for playing.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, frankly, we almost trip over them. On the

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<v Speaker 1>way in the door. But that is kind of the

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<v Speaker 1>point you come home from school and think, hey, nice day,

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<v Speaker 1>I could go ride my bike. I have told the

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<v Speaker 1>kids that if they want a particular book, I will

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<v Speaker 1>make sure that they get it. I try to buy

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<v Speaker 1>used books or get books from the library, but I

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<v Speaker 1>am also willing to buy them new. To me, it

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<v Speaker 1>is worth the money because a good book makes non

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<v Speaker 1>screen time a lot more attractive. Screen time fills a

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<v Speaker 1>time vacuu him when we don't think about how we

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<v Speaker 1>want to spend our time, we will spend it on

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<v Speaker 1>whatever is easiest. Since we have our phones with us,

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<v Speaker 1>that tends to be social media and headline scrolling and

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<v Speaker 1>the like. When we make non screen entertainment more tempting,

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<v Speaker 1>though the playing field feels more level. We spend less

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<v Speaker 1>time online, not because we have suddenly gained huge amounts

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<v Speaker 1>of willpower, but just because there's less a morphous time

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<v Speaker 1>that has to be filled with something. It really does

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<v Speaker 1>change the game. If you have taken active steps to

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<v Speaker 1>make screen free time more alluring, I'd love to hear

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<v Speaker 1>what you have done. You can reach me at Laura

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<v Speaker 1>at Laura Vanderkam dot com in the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening and years to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Hey everybody, I'd love to hear from you.

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